6 Things Narcissists Do When You Go No Contact
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I would also guess she’s in her early 30’s. My daughter is a Physicians Assistant for a large NYC dermatology group and she too is also quite smart like Rebecca. The one thing I suggest to her and now Rebecca is: please cut back on your use of the word “like”. My daughters use of like is off the charts, more so than Rebecca’s. Nonetheless, and while I know it’s likely a culture thing(?), it’s a bit annoying and unprofessional
It took me 25 years to realize my parents are narcissist users, and energy vampires.
Or your a daughter of a mom & dad. My mom wished she had my cancer
One minute they’re obsessed with you the next they act like you never existed. When I was still trying to work things out(not knowing he was a narc) he would devalue me and discard me, yet as soon as I began to move on and pull away he would come rushing in with the love bombing only to repeat the cycle! Getting out of this by the grace of god! I pray for anyone going though this! Just know that you are strong enough to make it out!!!
Isn't it crazy how they act like you don't exist at all??
@@janay5300 You no longer matter to them. They have washed their hands of you forgetting what you did in the past. Then when folks ask why you're not Friends anymore, they "Lie" and say it was "Your" fault. Also when you tell them to please not to ask for any more favors from you, they hear but they don't "Listen". They call or Text and whine and say "Sorry to bother you" "I know you told me no more Loans" or "I hate to do this to you again" to try and gain your sympathy. They know they are being a leech, freeloader and hanger on and they are a drain but you are their only source of support and safety.
If you feel “push and pull”-leave
@@laminage you never mattered to them. Let them go. Find someone else. Learn the lesson👍🏾
mine ignored me 17 years, .. I never knew joy 24/7 before/ wow life= JOY
I am an old woman now, but I still remember the great advice My dear mother gave me many, many years ago: BE WITH PEOPLE WHO WANT TO BE WITH YOU.
But narscissists want to be with their host. You know, after my first relationship with one I created my antibodies and they consist of any relationship I'm in must meet daily reciprocity on all levels of comitment, esteem, feelings, respect and responsabilities. Ah and of course wait at least 3 years of that constant behavior to have trust roots and accept marriage. Alas this second time I am less of a prey yet this NPD is so much more refined in ways I could not see it coming. The time proofing has been my only bulletproof test. From my personal experience someone with NPD will not endure for many months the chameleon skin they put on to enchant long term the empath butterfly. There will come up situations they cant hide their traits and the alarm will ring in our gut.
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Perfect. Good way to look at life.
These narcissist look for supply or new supply then go back to old supply they do everything to get u back and pretend to be nice but I see through their bulk shytt
@@carlapires2098 true
It’s great advice for normal people- narcissists are really really good at making you feel like they want to be with you and they do, just not for the reasons we usually think.
I suffered 2,5 years from narcissistic abuse. He tried to take everything away from me, I wasn’t allowed to leave the house or have contact with any male even family.. Once I said NO he disappeared. These people will always play the victim and they will never ever admit that they did you wrong. Don’t try to get answers or closure from them. You’ll never get it.
Stay away from them, be happy and live your life to the fullest. ♥️
Xoxo
I’ve seen narcissistic rage from my mother. I confronted her on her behavior and she went crazy yelling and calling me a liar. She tried to turn it back on me & accused me of the very thing she does. Best thing is to cut all communication.
Tough. sane here. Hang in there.
I was married to a covert narcissist for 6 years. I had no clue-just thought his behavior was bizarre. He became more and more difficult to live with-silent treatment, rages, etc. it ended one evening when he went into a rage and strangled me. I truly thought I would die. I couldn’t get out that night but left early the next morning. He pleaded with me to come back. I got an order of protection and went no contact. He called constantly, then cut off my phone and credit cards. When I didn’t respond he started sending me jewelry and clothes-I sent them back. Then he wrote a horrible, nasty email and sent it to his attorney and me, accusing me of horrible things. He threw out all my clothes. He was just awful. It took 2 1/2 years to get divorced-he fought the whole way. Cost me lots of money but I am free of his abuse. I AM A SURVIVOR!
Glad u got free
Narcissist will continue someway and or somehow to continue to try to control you long after no contact and will play mind games.
my boyfriend is one that will physically hurt me and then blame me for him hurting me. I let him stay at my house for under a yr and that will NEVER EVER happen again. LUCKILY i found a way to get him out but that wasnt the end of it cause i let him move ALL his stuff to my house so hes got 1 more load to get outta here then maybe give me my key back. Thats ok if he dont give it back then ill just change my door locks. Its not worth fighting over it since hes a narc that will get abusive even tho he claims hes not a woman beater HA!!!!!!!!! he had a bad childhood which is why he is the way he is so that part is sad but the other part like trying not to be around him to much is the other part of it cause ive been told that just cause they are narrcasists does not give them the right to treat you or someome else like shit. Like most of the time when i take him to a store he has no patience so he could get a big mouth for some reason or get lippy with someone etc he does not do good at all in public so i try not to take him to many places cause he will open his big mouth in my car even which scares me somtimes. I wish there wasnt a thing called narcassism. But im well aware that there is such a thing called it and that he is 1000 1 of them.
@@tommyparkerparker my friend was one and he punched me and after that happend i dont believe i heard from him again. my boyfriend has broken up with me so many times now ive lost track. Hes one to. They must reach a point that they are done with their victim maybe its when they finally physically hurt them? I dont know.
god bless you, you are strong!
If you are suffering because of a narcissist, remember you are loved, beautiful and worthy. Never give up on yourself! 💗
I've been in Long distance relationship with narcissist, he fed me with so many lies, he got another LDR with indonesian girl while we are in a relationship. His other girl message me and fought me and I asked him who is she and he said he doesn't know that girl she's just a crazy bitch trying to ruin him. But I knew the truth. So when he's trying to lie and manipulate me again I told him to leave me alone, I'm f*cking done with him then he got mad and blocked me
Thanks
@@reinalynbumanlag1789 So she won? Or you? Or him?
@@JohnLloydScharf - It's clear that Reinalyn won!! Hmmm...You're not a narcissist are you?
Wise words.
I HAVE seen it.
I literally laughed when you said they are like 2 year olds in an adult body. I've been saying "He's a 2 year old in a 65 year old body". Very validating. Thank you!
Leesa Adams...you took the words right out of my mouth..Except he has everyone online fooled as well..Sick..!!
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I have one and I'm so broken 💔 😞 but this helps me and I will survive this. He is my husband 24 years such a bully but I'm not scared of him . 🙏🏽
@@tanyapayton5933 Stay strong..x
Totally true they need to get a f....en life! lol
Mine literally use to use baby talk as a communication strategy
Going no contact caused my ex to frame my actions as the narcissistic discard and view herself as the victim. Blink. Next came flying monkey recruitment based on her victim status. Next came the stalking, midnight phone calls, love bomb texts followed by the most vitriolic text/emails I could imagine. I stayed "grey rock" and lost some friends but regained my sanity.
As a single man (a decade now) and after many personal and third party experiences. I’m hoping that women know it’s not just men who are narcissistic👍
Yes, we do realize some women are also narcissistic. Some of us are raised by them.
Here is cheers 🍻 to that !
If the woman that has rolled me over with her Narc Shit - was a man I would knock the C head of her shoulders !
An absolute waste of oxygen !!
There is more female narcissist then there is men. What the layer is telling you, is how a female can get money in a courtroom. She is not telling you how to dial with a narcissist
We know. We have experienced girlfriend's with this nature. Actually, I have experienced more female narcs mostly.
They know since most women who go on to have relationships with narcissistic men have been raised by narcissistic women
They are so passive aggressive with the devaluation… it’s childish & very triggering when you see the disrespect
Right
Absolutely
Yeah
Then they try to sit there until you're too sensitive and stuff like that then they tell their family that you're nuts Oye I'm going through right now look this up for a reason
Tell me about omg
I'm going through this with people very close to me and it is so hard. They make me feel so guilty and charm people around me , making people think I'm the bad one. Sometimes I feel so bad and I want to get back in touch and other times I remind myself of the abuse and try not to feel guilty. It's a hard process :(
I know that feeling. I google abusive relationship on Reddit to see other ppl experience. We do not miss them !!!! We miss the feeling of the illusion at the beginning of the relationship!
They maybe traumatized too but don’t defend them and start taking care of yourself 💗
We don’t deserve that ! It’s relationshit not relationship
I don't care about the ex at all anymore. Once l went no contact years ago, eventually l forgot the good parts, and now l don't bother to recall the bad or good parts. It's over, l'm free and that's that. 😊
My non contact experience felt like spiritual warfare. There seems to be something pretty deep with these people.
Isn't it scary how they get us
Demonic spirit. Pray for the person...its literally a spirit
@@isabellalapobo4758 you can pray all you want for some of these people like my sister who is a self- absorbed narcissist that has to control every situation and to beat it all she's my mom's favorite child I do not really talk to her and I am about to stop talking to my mom cuz she is being just like her a narcissistic self-absorbed self-entitled Karen and I really can't take any more of it I am almost 60 years old , enough is enough, I don't need to speak to any of these people and don't plan to for a short period of time anyways as my sanity is more important then people who don't really value you as a person yourself and don't really care what you have to say anyways I must say I am very disgusted with certain family members, please pray for me though that I keep my focus on Jesus, amen
Ya…
Agree, it feels like being possessed by them. I guess if they see us as their possessions they can possess us. Like demons. But, when the spell breaks you can really feel the potentional of being allowed to love yourself.
They bait you back in to vomit on you!! DON'T FALL FOR THE BAIT!!!!!!!!
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Thank you
FACTS!
Trying to stick it out . I have to call mine to speak with my daughter .. It hurts I am always polite when I ask on the voice mail. My daughter witnessed her 2 aunts force there way into a room .I was Trying to get away from them in my own house. Both of them screamed at me in my face and taunt me to hit them. But I have God in my life
They will punish you for leaving. But you need to realize they have been punishing you the entire time
Omg I’m dealing with this now! You’re videos are slowly showing me the way
I confided in him and the moment he thought he was losing me he would use those secrets against me to try to make my heart bleed.
Its so refreshing to see so many survivors get through this and to know you aren't alone ❤ you guys are amazing
From family, "friends," neighbors... I'm surrounded by narcissists. I recently made a dramatic change in my life - I moved and didn't tell anyone, and completely stopped contact with everyone i knew from that previous residence. My life is 1000% better.
That's so cool. 👍 🙏
Congratulations! That is the best thing to do, and I am so glad that it worked well for you!
That is very strange I believe you but it is so strange to have been surrounded by so many narcissists I may even be one but I don't think so but I don't know that I have known many but I don't know many people so I'm speaking out of turn
@@pn6528 I wish you all the best. I know it's tough, but hang in there.
I've found that technology no longer requires knowing my location in order to stay in touch, so I take advantage of that.
Not sharing my location still causes strife for some people who know me, but it's not negotiable. It's usually the ones who can't believe people (especially family) can be that narcissistic and destructive, or are part of the narcissistic game of control (regardless of whether they are the narcissist or a tool for the narcissist).
What's difficult for me to comprehend is if there's a biological/evolutionary advantage to narcissism. I mean, what's the benefit? Perhaps I'm not willing to accept the answer, or I haven't researched enough, yet. But, I'm working on it.
Stay strong. We few... we targeted few, must not give up.
And, thank you for sharing.
Sounds like you're the problem.
I have seen it, and experienced all 6 stages. "A two year old in an adult body" no truer words have ever been spoken..
Precisely. T-rump is prime example of a two year old in a adult body, My Malignant Narcissist niece is also 62 years old going on 2-1/2. She has not changed since she was a spoiled rotten selfish toddler. Of course she voted for t-rum,p.
Man child👶🍼
My mother and her children sheesh 💯🤞🏿🎯
Yep so did I . The biggest one I saw was rage when I made the move and he also panicked when I said we are going no contact if we aren’t together. He also panicked when I said I am sure when I want to dump someone
Your right on the money! Have left one after 21 years
My husband just disowned his mom 2 months ago and it saved our marriage. It literally is the best thing we have ever done. We had to get restraining orders on her and my BIL and FIL. They are so toxic and abusive. But now we are FREE🌱🌼🌿🌻 Free to live and be happy together. We are having another baby that they will never know about. I am so Happy! Therapy is helping heal the PTSD and toxic wounds from narcissists. Thank you for this video.
I was told many years ago never ever let anyone have power over my own emotions and thoughts. I didn't exactly understand this at first once it took a great deal of patience and thought to actually use this advice. It is by far the best advice I was ever given. Mean people suck, don't let them ruin your happiness.
Narcissists talk at you like you don't know anything.Always a one sided conversation.Interupting a response cause they don't care about your viewpoint.
And they purposely like to change the subject.
Love bomb, humiliate, ignore for months on end. After 20 years of dealing with a number of narcissists, I can finally see light at the end of the tunnel. I need no contact with all of them. I had no idea that the craziness has a name.
Neither did I. Once your eyes are open you can't not see it!
Just ignore the narssisist by not looking into
There eyes, not listening their toddler conversation and not to be around them.
Close the chapter and don't play the game.
Oh my, YES! It was AWFUL!
*Soooo, According to BecKy Kung, I am a Narsist, (a BAD PERSON) cuz I am a CRIMINAL!!!!*
*MY CRIME???? I ALWAYS ( T R Y ) to WORK THINGS OUT!!!! B aaaaaa D!!!!*
*WeLL Stick it Up Yo Ass BeKy Kung!!!!!* 3minutes & 25 - 30 seconds!!!! NEG. VOTE; Bye!!!*
Neither did I. Now that I have learned about these tactics SO many incidents seem to pop up and my eyes have really opened. I always felt like I was f**ked up or must have done something wrong for some reason. Left me angry and confused.
"Saving your soul" isn't dramatic. It's accurate.
I've seen it, I have lived it for the past 3 years. We break up and I say that I am not going back and I always do. Yes a 2yr old child, you hit that nail square on the head. Thank you.
I went no contact with my sister about 4 almost 5 years ago and it’s been great. No drama and no stress.
Eleven years, don't miss them at all
It's coming up to 36 years since I went 'no contact' with my brother. He's VERY angry about it, still.
Same. She's not welcome back either.
So … Lisa… you guys ! Do they just ghost you , block you … turn their kids against you as grandma??? Curious 🤨
Ps… it’s my daughter and I confronted her.
Im so glad I was strong enough to get out. And absolutely..NO CONTACT.
Right On!! Me Too. Lessons learned 👍🏻
Good for you!! Stay strong and DO NOT let him/her come back, please. The retaliation can be really bad….and they do retaliate…..mark my words!
Good luck…..take care…..
You are sooooo spot on!!!!!
I grew up with a narcissist.It’s very painful.
When I first started watching your videos, I was a complete wreck. Thank you for educating us and making everything so crystal clear on the truth and what's really going on. It's all coming together like a beautiful puzzle . I am 57 years old and it took all my life to finally be in a position to grow and change and be a whole person for the first time ever! Thank you Rebecca ! Hugs to you!
How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪
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Doing amazing a year later. I am the happiest I have ever been and it took 58 years and help from you and the good Lord above !!!!
I feel kinda opposite, like instead of them wanting to be me, they want me to become them. Like they sap as much good out of you while stuffing as much bad into you as they can.
Yes!!!... like an energy transference where they take all the good and give you all the bad. 🤢
Positive energy vampires!!
Aweful 🤔
I agree.
i think you might be onto something. i think they may just be a collective of psychos working together to try and corrupt the global population and make them evil. psychos would have a much easier time doing whatever they want if everyone was a psycho. so maybe they arent really narcs... just a calculated strategy by psycho peeps.
My description of a relationship with a narcissist: like wearing a large, heavy fur coat that is wet and you can never take it off. Or, like having someone sitting on your head all the time. A narcissist is either the devil or very good friends with him.
I think they are demon possessed and need deliverance prayer..Jezebel spirit main one.
*Soooo, According to BecKy Kung, I am a Narsist, (a BAD PERSON) cuz I am a CRIMINAL!!!!*
*MY CRIME???? I ALWAYS ( T R Y ) to WORK THINGS OUT!!!! B aaaaaa D!!!!*
*WeLL Stick it Up Yo Ass BeKy Kung!!!!!* 3minutes & 25 - 30 seconds!!!! NEG. VOTE; Bye!!!*
Great description! I got to the point I couldn't breath when my ex narc was around. They are just so heavy while trying to suck your soul out. How entitled to think you can have the very essence of someone.
100% accurate. No matter what you do to appease them, you still can’t take off that wet heavy jacket
The triangulation happened to my daughter. Her boss hired a new secretary who is an extreme narcissist and sociopath. She did all these things to her that you are mentioning. My daughter went from loving her job to being forced to quit in just 4 months. Even crazier- the boss said ‘I can see right through her- don’t worry.’ Come to find out- he too is a narcissist- he and the secretary had their narcissist party every day at my daughter’s expense. They tore her down several time daily until she quit and it happened so fast! Even the patience that go to this office could sense a heaviness and uncomfortable vibes. Thank God my daughter found a much better job and is beginning to heal. She’s always been the fixer/ healer/ run-all-over-me sweet person.
Thank you so much for your videos Rebecca! They’ve helped me learn and grow as well!
True so sad the narcissist and sociopaths stick together, and up for each other.
No contact saved my mental health! My narc ex husband abused me in every way possible for thirty years of marriage. When my therapist identified him as a malignant, sociopathic narcissist I went no contact. He basically started stalking me. I just kept calling the police & finally got a court order to never come to my house. He’s very angry to this day, thirteen years later. His girlfriend is in prison & he is a broken down old man with heart disease. I feel so free & happy now.
I’ve seen it & continue to see it. He won’t accept I’ve moved on, I show no fear and no interest to talk to him. It aggravates him but I remind him that he left, it’s what he wanted, he gave up on us, and I thank him for leaving.
Wow, same here. I was thrown out like trash, yeah, wants to be friends. No. I'm not interested in any of it. I've moved on as well. He can't take it and the silence is absolutely aggravates him. Oh well.
Thank you.
Continued Blessings and being Narc free.
*Soooo, According to BecKy Kung, I am a Narsist, (a BAD PERSON) cuz I am a CRIMINAL!!!!*
*MY CRIME???? I ALWAYS ( T R Y ) to WORK THINGS OUT!!!! B aaaaaa D!!!!*
*WeLL Stick it Up Yo Ass BeKy Kung!!!!!* 3minutes & 25 - 30 seconds!!!! NEG. VOTE; Bye!!!*
How long did it take for him to come to this realization? What did you say to him? Has he pursued you since?
They hate when u thank them
Moment I move on....hz right there saying no one can love me like him coz apparently am complicated and difficult... Then he actually goes ahead to sabotage my next relationship by making friends with my new boos friends, exes and family and of course bad mouthing me all the way but still expecting me to understand whatever he believes I should understand. Been through a rollercoaster.... Thank you for this. God bless ur soul
No contact was the best thing I ever did! I chose me and never looked back. She came to "apologize" recently. I let her, but am keeping the no contact in place. Thank you!
I sincerely hope mine apologizes so I can just dump out the amount of things he put me through
Melinda it's still a hoover. ❤️
You in a sense broke the no contact. You really took a chance by letting her apologize. Stay strong and vigilante in your no contact. Remember it's for life.
I absolutely felt like an empty carcus when i left him!😢😢😢
Yes, I have definitely seen this and experienced it. The "full-on" rage is demonic! Truly, demonic.
Been with this man for 15 years and this past Sunday I finally said enough is enough. The abuse intensified so much over the years the more I tried to claim my independence, my freedom, and finally start speaking up for myself. This man put a listening device in my car when I went out to hang out with some very close friends of mine for a girls night out. The things we talk about when we have a girls night and all you ladies know what I’m talking about. Lol. His feelings were so hurt that he thought he was gonna put his hands on me and I told him the last time that that would be the last time and I meant it the house is so peaceful now my kids are coming out the room more they want to be around me more, at first I was beating myself up. Why did you stay so long? Why did you do this? Why did you do that but at the end of the day I got out I am free and that’s all that matters.
🙏🩷🙏
I've seen it, I've experienced it, I've finally conquered it..
God must have helped because we live in a fallen world.
*Soooo, According to BecKy Kung, I am a Narsist, (a BAD PERSON) cuz I am a CRIMINAL!!!!*
*MY CRIME???? I ALWAYS ( T R Y ) to WORK THINGS OUT!!!! B aaaaaa D!!!!*
*WeLL Stick it Up Yo Ass BeKy Kung!!!!!* 3minutes & 25 - 30 seconds!!!! NEG. VOTE; Bye!!!*
Same! I just need intense therapy to release my feelings. My first day starts in a few hours
2 years NO CONTACT and happier than ever! Leverage and an attorney he respected was key.
He unto the new supply
Did you get an attorney through yourself search? Who was the narcissist? How did you leave from the narcissist abuse?
@@iamtam9491 Husband of 16 yr was the narc. I left one weekend when he was away after a lot of secret planning. He was clueless, best move I ever made. Picked a top attorney in our town, settled out of court, never had to see him again. Bought a small house in the woods 400 miles away near my son's. Happy, healthy, sleeping and never looking back.
@@finleyscotland That is fantastic!! Wow, bravo to you and your son! Which area did you pick your attorney from and what was the process like getting the narc to court?
Ten years here, but I still wear the scars.
This is 100% spot on my life in my family! Getting out was the hardest thing but the best thing I have ever done for myself.
"I've seen it" I've seen all of this and much worse. Thank you for talking about this and bringing these things to people's attention.
I'm not a victim of narcissism, nor do I know of any narcissist (but I can tell when someone is toxic and will distance myself from such a person); I watch these type of videos on narcissism as a way to evaluate myself as a person to see if I display any of these characteristics in narcissists to make sure I don't gaslight, smear, or take advantage of others, whether intentionally or not. I committed this year and next year to be a better person.
Yes proud of u
I wish I understood this before I got married.
What a comment man …respect….I
I watch these so no one else pulls a me on me. I can’t have that
@@DrunkenSlob off topic: I loved that episode of Southpark. Gerald did stir up the pot.
I am currently on it right now, but on my WAY out for good 💃💃💃💃💃💃💃❤🙏🙏 When you get out of Narc alive rejoice because you are one step closer to heaven; rejoice you just escaped the kings of demons in hell. It might not make sense. But people that knows what I am saying knows...
Every second away from the narc is bliss and should be celebrated! Never go back!
I get it
*Soooo, According to BecKy Kung, I am a Narsist, (a BAD PERSON) cuz I am a CRIMINAL!!!!*
*MY CRIME???? I ALWAYS ( T R Y ) to WORK THINGS OUT!!!! B aaaaaa D!!!!*
*WeLL Stick it Up Yo Ass BeKy Kung!!!!!* 3minutes & 25 - 30 seconds!!!! NEG. VOTE; Bye!!!*
💯 though you so funny how you describe them
stella yes the kings of demons in hell is right i agree amen
You are on spot. After being away from family and parents for long time, I realize how big of narcissist my parents are. It literally messes you up.
One can see how difficult it was for her to talk about this subject. It’s evident to anyone who has suffered at the hands of a tyrant/ narcissistic that she has the same scars as we do.
Much love! And that for the advice. ❤️
They are excellent logical mimics but they can not replicate a person with heart it make them lose their minds as they attempt to mimic a person with a heart.
*Soooo, According to BecKy Kung, I am a Narsist, (a BAD PERSON) cuz I am a CRIMINAL!!!!*
*MY CRIME???? I ALWAYS ( T R Y ) to WORK THINGS OUT!!!! B aaaaaa D!!!!*
*WeLL Stick it Up Yo Ass BeKy Kung!!!!!* 3minutes & 25 - 30 seconds!!!! NEG. VOTE; Bye!!!*
@@Justin.Martyr don’t know if you’re a narcissist but judging from your picture you darn sure seem to be fairly angry. It is not about being a criminal it is about externalizing oneself onto others with no regard their existence. Who sent you to reply this comment BTW? If it is who I think it is, you won’t be able to wash over your past and present deeds since they were done with purposeful intent to harm others for petty reasons.
@@morpheusmirror2857 ........👊🏾🔥🏹🎯💯💯💯💯💯👍🏾
Yep my ex lost his mind trying to Mimic trying to be introverted like me. He started to get bored because it wasn’t really him. And he would tell me “you don’t know the real me” I guess I sure didn’t
I threw everything, including the kitchen sink, at my narcissist sister and mother to get them out of my life, which culminated in their combined attempt to steal my house and keep me under their financial thumb forever. Almost killed me. But I sued them, trounced them in court, then I ghosted them, making them into "unpersons." Worked for me. Didn't change their evil ways one iota, but at least I'm out of their crosshairs.
I had to go no contact some months ago. It is great to no longer have the drain of her manipulations. For years I have tried everything to get along with my older sister. It was like Don Quixote fighting the windmills. She always left me struggling to get along. At our last confrontation, I told her everything I knew about her behavior that I detested. I completely confronted her, but I found the secret: I still love and pray for her, but I refuse to allow her to abuse me. No matter what she says to others, I have no guilt about anything: My conscience is clear and I am now Finally Free.
Pat Melton, You deserve better 🙏
@@oscarwilliamson6163 Thank you.
@@patmelton43 You are always welcome 😊.I will be glad to know you.I am Oscar Williamson from Swansboro,NC.You?
@@patmelton43 Which country are you from?
She's right. They're soulless energy vampires. I never gave the monster I knew the opportunity to discard me because I went no contact and blocked him everywhere. She articulated the experience quite well. Mine came back in the past before I cut him off at the knees and told me he was in love with me. Every interaction leaves you emotionally exhausted and depleted. Drama, conflict, chaos, confusion, extreme highs and lows, worshipping you one day and ignoring you the next, turning every discussion into them being the victim, zero accountability, pathological lying, meltdowns, silent treatment, cheating. What's even more crazy is they also possess some really desirable traits so you're always craving for those really attractive qualities to come out. They will if all is well but if you slight them in any way.... all hell breaks loose. It's psychological warfare. A lot of people who cheat and have long term recurring affairs are high on the narcissistic scale.
Spot on. Leave, run, go no contact and never go back
Yep. They basically hate you, but they keep following you.
My mother once said that if you cannot get along with someone, stay away from them. If you refuse to stay away from someone you hate, you're a narcissistic abuser.
There's no such thing as "hate watching" a program or person.
Basically a narcissistic person's mission is to destroy you. Most of the time they hate you. With that knowledge it is best to go no contact with them if possible. That might be what they want anyways, but even if it is, it's better for both parties to just avoid each other.
My mother was a narcissist. I shudder when I remember how she treated my father. A screaming banshy, a gambleholic, jealous and just plain cruel to a hard working. man. I was too timid to give him a hug because she was always watching and criticising. The poor man had a new pair of shoes for work. She cut them up in a fury of jealousy. I regret my failure to interven.
The worst thing is having them make YOU seem like the aggressor....and making everyone you know believe it
A friend reached out today. Been through the same....the only thing that ever really worked for me was her talking to me, becuase shes been through it. You really dont know what all this truly means and feels like unless you've experienced it. Talking to a fellow survivor was the best thing I've done so far. And might be tje best thing possible
I saw it. I lived it. Never again.
Trying to separate myself from my immediate family. They will always be my family regardless. Just need a break!!
Trust me it's the best thing I ever did.
@@misha2197 no this was they're outcome to try on other's out of jealousy
Yep. No contact with my covert narcissist mother. Best thing I ever did and it literally took her leaving me alone and in debited to a homeless man. He could’ve raped me and or killed me and all she cared about was humiliating and embarrassing me in front of an audience and manipulating me into picking up her tab. I handled the situation without any harm to myself as God told me what to do. She’s done this before throughout my entire life, throwing me under the bus and blaming me for everything that ever went wrong in her life. My advice is RUN AWAY! SLAM THE DOOR IN THEIR FACE and RUN FOR YOU LIFE as YOUR SOUL DEPENDS ON YOU GETTING AWAY! These people are literally demons in the flesh! Sometimes the most loving thing you can do is walk away. Don’t walk-RUN!!! Love to all!!! 💕💕💕💕💕💕😱😱😱😱😱😱❤️❤️❤️🏇🏿
Yeah times I don't answer my phone and most times I don't answer texts I'll just delete the whole thread and never open it and the calls too I'll delete it like they never called.
This is hard, sometimes I go back and said, I can't do it but them I see the abuse continues and then I said I have to!
Oh my goodness!!! I thought I was the only one who felt that an ex wanted to actually BE me, not date me. It’s refreshing to hear someone else say this! It’s validation that I wasn’t crazy and it actually happens. Thank you for shining light on this behavior!
This my boss. Imagine that. Single mom who needs my job. 8 months until she retires... I have panic attacks every Monday morning. Sheer mental terror
Stay strong! ❤
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He's done everything.... Love bombing, devaluing, discarding, smear campaign, isolate and everything else. I really need help in dealing with him. He's driving me crazy
You hit it on the nail! My ex-husband tried to steal my soul and sanity. He felt he was entitled to destroy me.
Same with my ex. He was trying to destroy me, my values and my personal opinions
My ex-husband labors under the delusion we will get back together. After he cheated on me with a teenager and was arrested? No way am I taking him back.
Living it now 🤬
@@leighcarlson87 that’s awful.
Yikes
Stay strong !!!
So many people couldn't believe what they've said about me! It's appalling!
Yep I screenshot our break up texts and everyone was shocked that I stood there being loving and civil and he is the one that raged
i've seen it!! thank u sm this is facts it's a spiritual fight literally
I know this all too well. My relationship with someone with NPD spanned over 20 yrs. He was my college boyfriend and would show up when he needed a "fix". EVERYTHING in this video is spot on. And, incredibly refreshing to know that I, FINALLY, caught on and shut the door. This video absolutely validated my experience and decisions. It's especially hard for us empaths to do it sooner. Trust your Gut. Thank you!!
Hi my relationship is fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together, l got help from a great man who brought us back together.
Whatz'app him for help....
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"Invasion of the body snatchers" is the title of the movie.
When my narc realized I was on to him he told me he's going to take me on a trip. He knew I love to travel. I told him I would never ever be seen nowhere with him again in public.
*Soooo, According to BecKy Kung, I am a Narsist, (a BAD PERSON) cuz I am a CRIMINAL!!!!*
*MY CRIME???? I ALWAYS ( T R Y ) to WORK THINGS OUT!!!! B aaaaaa D!!!!*
*WeLL Stick it Up Yo Ass BeKy Kung!!!!!* 3minutes & 25 - 30 seconds!!!! NEG. VOTE; Bye!!!*
Don't THEY hate it, when you're on to them🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂💪💪💪💪👍
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They are in this competition with you that they secretly started. They never want to see you succeed. They make promises they never keep. They in reality show so much hate towards you, that ain't love seriously. They never accept They are wrong when they are called out.
@@marthaherrera1671 *Sod O Mites have ( "" CALLED ME OUT """ ) for My Hatred*
*of SOD O Mites!!! But I StiLL HATE SOD O Mites, & I am NOT WRONG!!!!*
When i cut contact with a narcisstic cousin.. her mother called me and forced me to get in touch with her.. and then bragged about her daughter & continued to pester me to contact her.. i said I will & i never did.. 😂 I've been happy ever since .. ❤️
I’ve been there, everything you said is totally in line with my situation. Every leech needs a host, not me.
my parents were both narcissists and they made me feel terrible when I was a teenager - when I left home they cried for me to come back to them , and turned my siblings against me when I refused. I kept my distance because to me, I did not want to wind up on the 6 o'clock news due to their provocations. Thanks for the information.
Sorry you had to go through that. My parents were both narcissists too
It's intrresting how they are so good at turning others against you.
Have nothing to do with them for they are toxic get on with your life & move on
AMEN
Yup keep away don't get manipulated by mad people, don't lose your sanity
I know how it is, my mother is a narcissist, no contact is so liberating 💃🦜
I've seen it. With my ex. He still have anger issues because I better myself and moved in my own place.
How have you "bettered" yourself when you have left SEVERAL comments talking negatively about him.....???
I smell b.s 🤣🤷
They do that ..they hate to see u succeed
@@graniteying8888 can you please not be on this channel attacking victims. This kind of abuse is no joke.
Thank you Rebecca for your platform in educating me and allowing me to share my experiences. The person I was very briefly connected to in a social group was so abusive and toxic as a leader. He was so enraged that I challenged his abusive behaviour towards others. He began his smear campaign and used gaslighting to punish me and ostracize me. I guess to try and bring me in line. What amazed me the most was the absolute pleasure he got from trying to hurt me.. it was palatable. I was so done with all of it I left. Now I’m being stalked, followed around by flying monkeys phone hacked with year long messages and pictures being deleted. Computer hacked. Calls from various numbers including FaceTime 😜. I have made it VERY clear I have moved on and have ZERO interest in speaking with him or anyone from the group. I wish them well but I’m happy healed and moved on. I Will NEVER go back. The smearing of my reputation is ongoing but it’s to be expected along with all the other narcissistic traits. I stay focused on all the amazing people and things I have in my life and feel blessed with gratitude 💕🙏Once again thank you for sharing you experience and knowledge ❤
Me too 💯💯💯
This is happening to me right now. You talked the whole situation down to the T. Literally is like you are a fly on the wall watching it happen. I feel it's still in the 3 way cycle, never ending. As my character bashing continues, I remain careless as the empaths are of no status to me. There are innocent empaths that have become encumbered and it is just out of hand toxic to everyone in the situation. Except the narcissist, of course
Wash.Rinse.Repeat.
1. Go back to what worked before ie love bombing, idealisation, attempt to charm, hoovering etc
2. Escalate their tactics ie show up everywhere, call and text persistently
3. Start the triangulation ie smear campaign, lining up flying monkeys to isolate you
4 . Narcisstic injury could be triggered - full on rage to punish, super angry
5. Narcisstic collapse-
6. Go find narcisstic supply elsewhere
I have showed up to her job and have called and text persistently because she ignores me after completely devaluing me lying to me when I have the proof to show her the paperwork the evidence and I'm trying to make things work out for here I forgive her for all her wrongdoings and then I only show up it's your job and try to call her because I'm trying to get my point across that I care about her and I love her and I want to work things out with her but when I see that it scares me like am I a narcissist too I'm not any of the other things at all whatsoever on that list of six
@@dylansean8279 so you've done the first two. That doesn't alone make someone a narcisst but as a rule that kind of pursuing when faced with rejection doesn't work in the long run. Nobody likes desparate.
Finally the message I was looking for
Musarrat19: Thanks.
Having a narc parent, which means living with this craziness since birth, the best thing I learned that helped me the the most is... what other people think or say about me is truly none of my business. I can't control anyone on this planet but myself. Which gives me lots of peace. And since I don't give a fig what the narc thinks, they move on because they can't obtain any supply from me. People who may have believed the narc's lies, or become their flying monkeys, some will eventually see the truth. Others won't. That is their problem. The ones who don't are people I don't want around me anyway. The key to this is learning to use DISCERNMENT. People very rarely actually become best friends or fall in love at first sight. But narcs always try to be your everything within minutes of meeting someone they think they can feed from. Take your time getting to know who people are and discern if they are people who truly will enhance your life. Stable, emotionally and psychologically healthy people wint be put off by relationships slowly unfolding and building. Narcs ALWAYS try to artificially accelerate, always try to engulf and overwhelm. Learn to discern.
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I can totally relate. Having a narc mother and the flying monkeys are my two sisters.
True. Very true. Many if not most have the ability to hide this about themselves. I recently cut off a "friend of 20 years after she inadvertently stated that she was just using me to call and talk about HER problems. Then she told her mother who I don't know a medical diagnosis I shared with her. I cut her ass completely off. What vile disrespect.
Speaking of DISCERNMENT I remember 20 years ago I became uneasy and wanted to end the "friendship then. All I knew was she just made me uneasy but I couldn't put my finger on it. I travelled a lot then and was often overseas so very little contact.
When pandemic hit she had a captive audience and hoovered me back in. Once she violated the medical boundary enough was enough.
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@RebeccaZungEsq I am. I educated myself on what I was dealing with, found a great therapist years ago and am on a great place psychologically and emotionally. While I used to be a narc magnet, I am now a narc repeller because my boundaries are in place and super strong. These days, if I meet a narcissist, they end up exposing themselves pretty quickly and I move on. I have no interest in or time for these people and their games. 🙂👍
I have seen this! I'm actually living with this right now. My narcissistic roommate is in the middle of a smear campaign. He keeps triangulating the emotional issues he has with me and my other roommate to our landlord. He's now taken the authority upon himself to evict our roommate (whom he has serially abused before we all moved in). We are surviving through videos like these, educational books, and regular check ins with our landlord (who couldn't be more happy that myself and my not narcissistic roommate are living here).
Please keep making these videos, they have been so helpful and enlightening. Thank you.
When I went "no contact" my narcissist started putting out missing persons reports. The domestic violence shelter I had ran to, secretly took me to 4 different sheriff's stations. To prove me and my children were not missing.
Wow..I believe it. Their ego won't let them believe that you ran away from them at full speed and barefoot and only looked back to see if they were gaining on you so you could turn into an Olympic Gold medalist in track!!!🥇🏃♀️👩🦽🏃♀️⛷🏇 Congratulations on your freedom. Never go back or your narc will finish the job. GUARANTEED!!!
Seen it: one of my old friends actually said, “I want your life”.
Thats so creepy. I think jealous "friends " are the worst. Get rid of them.
What the hell? They would be happy if u died or what?
Run!!
That’s Creepy 💀🤮😡⁉️
Get Your Own Life U sad Person or Which Part Exactly?? or Hide The Knives??Anything Sharp??
Absolute perfect description of a man I've been seeing. What a nightmare!
To go no contact, was the most important decision that I´ve done for myself.
The mirroring and mimicry are coping mechanisms they’ve developed since childhood because they literally do not know how to live, how to be. They get bored very easily and they become infatuated with the next new friend or love interest. Of course, the rage (to control the situation) can be out of control because of the vulnerability and wounding they feel. It’s a near impossible situation that takes more patience than I am willing to give. Maybe there is someone out there who has compassion and friendship and love for cluster B/high functioning aspbergers autistic/antisocial people, I discovered after 27 years that I do not. I wish them well, but the peace I have in my life without personality disordered people is too priceless to ever interact with any more of them again.
AGREED ✍🏻To many people watched a beautiful mind 🎥and don’t know the darkness to these brilliant/bruised/Tortured creatures... ☠️Let the professionals handle them 👋🏻👋🏻💥
I need to borrow some of your strength
@@jbreeze404 consider it done! I want to encourage you to be strong and realize all that you’re worth!!! You can do this!!!!!!!
Wow, that's GOOD!
*Soooo, According to BecKy Kung, I am a Narsist, (a BAD PERSON) cuz I am a CRIMINAL!!!!*
*MY CRIME???? I ALWAYS ( T R Y ) to WORK THINGS OUT!!!! B aaaaaa D!!!!*
*WeLL Stick it Up Yo Ass BeKy Kung!!!!!* 3minutes & 25 - 30 seconds!!!! NEG. VOTE; Bye!!!*
They will gossip, gossip, gossip, gossip, gossip, gossip about you to your employer, friends, or anyone to make you look like the problem child to keep you isolated, alone & ostracized.
Simply ignore them and keep your nose to a grind stone. What's done in the dark will eventually be brought to the light in God's timing. God is just.
Yes! Mother, sister and Ex. I’ve been able to go nc with my sister, and mostly with my Ex, but can’t go nc with my mother due to circumstances. My mother and sister are huge gossipers. It’s nauseating! Narcissists play the victim, gaslight, lie like heck, make you the scapegoat, and to be raised this way is so damaging! The Ex went on a huge campaign smear and entangled my sister as a flying monkey. They’re horrible people! God bless anyone who survives these relationships!
That gossip can ruin people!
Thank you experiencing this, I just sit and watch. Crazy narrasist thinks I need people in my life to be happy, I enjoy my own company 🙂.
Yep, I experienced exactly what you said too. Did same thing to me.
She hit the nail right on the head. They try to be you at the same time trying to make themselves seem better than you.
This happened to me today, but thanks to what I learned online about narcissism, I was able to stay calm at least on the outside and not be drawn in to this woman's attack. I chose to walk away. Thank you for your helpful advice and insights..💜🙏🏻🥀
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My sister and I were shunned at the funerals of our mother and father because of the lies my brother covinced family and friends were true. It was heartbreaking and devastating. We had no support from friends or family during a time we needed it most.
Yes, I have seen it first hand, experienced it first hand and lived it for many years. But....
YES!!!
I CONQUERED IT! I SURVIVED!!
Getting away from the narcissist was extraordinarily difficult at times, but is possible to find your way out.
If I can do it, trust me, all of you can do the same!!
Oh my goodness ! I have seen it. Thank you so much for expressing so elegantly what we deal with .
I really, REALLY needed to hear this. I can't thank you enough for sharing your wisdom with us!
Becca Vry,Hope you are not with a narcissist 😈!
Stay strong! ❤
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God I wish my ex narc could find new supply. It's been over a year. Stop trying to Hoover me you nutcase. Great video 👍
I have felt like they are trying to steal my life or my life force. Describing them as pods in Invasion of the Body snatchers is exactly how I feel. Thank you for validating that feeling for me.
Energy vampires
Yes Just broke with one.
I love how you delete all comments that disagree with you! It speaks wonders about you!!!
This is very familiar stuff that makes sense! This video will reach people just in time to start the repair process when they're upset from negative criticism.
I have to disagree with you when it comes to negotiating with a narcissist. You can't. There is no negotiating with them, because they will not agree or adhere to it unless they have an advantage. So why go there? I spent 30 years in the Army and your only option is, or at the time, to me more knowledgeable in the regs and refuse to negotiate, hold them to a standard, and give them no room for maneuver. In a civilian environment, it's a no go. You just have to break contact, ignore them, ghost them and pretend they don't exists. Don't look at them, don't speak to them, walk past them. Don't even give them a greeting of the day. They are a sick group of people and not worth your time. And at times with the serious narc, they do this things in their mind to run you off. For them it is a victory in their mind. But we, as sound individuals, want to stand our ground and rob them of that victory. Once you go there, the narc has you trapped. Just walk off, and go elsewhere. Life is too short. You can not win with a narc. So it's either you leave or they go to the morgue. Best that you just leave.
You can't even talk to some. It's like talking to a brick wall. It's best you just 🏃 as fast as you can from them.
Yep walk away and don’t look back. Block, delete, remove. Don’t waste your breath or your time.
exactly
You must have wintnesses and you have to have a calm and rational mind through the process and hold them over the fire until they are a crying quivering mass on the floor with cold hard unemotional logic. They absolutely cannot handle failing to get you to react, and as long as you can maintain a "superior theatre" performance they have NOTHING. It is honestly having the mask stripped in front of witnesses that break them.
From that moment, its hard zero contact.
Well said...there is no winning other than to go ignore them and go NO CONTACT! It's a constant neber ending game with them. No point even taking part
I had a narcissist say she was “traumatized “ by being no contact. I won’t back down.
After going no contact with my narc sister, I had to be around her at a wedding. She thought she'd mock and confront me by coming over and saying, "So, do you still hate me?" I said, "Nonsense. You're not important enough to hate." Then I walked away. She was so thrown off, her mask slipped when she imploded over the fact that I wasn't scared or intimidated.by her, anymore.
I was Married to a Sociopath leaning more towards a Psychopath. I got Out by the Skin of my teeth. Everything you said, about them trying to step into your shoes/Soul. I've chosen to be single 12yrs since that experience. Nightmare over and I'm terrified I'd meet another one. The Blessing was he was from England and I sent him back. No contact in 12yrs. 👍
You are brilliant! I’ve seen this many times and their anger really intimidates me. But that’s when you keep going. Wow. I will no longer be intimidated by these soul suckers.
I had a phychotic break after going no contact with my brother and sister. It was so heartbreakingn and my cognitive dissonance was so all-encompassing that I had a split. It's still heartbreaking and I'm still recovering, but I'm able to see now the gas-lighting that was going on, and that they really are as cold-hearted as they seemed then. Thank you, Rebecca. I love what you are doing,.
I hope you are better and know it is very hard..take you're time to heal and put yourself first..
I feel like this is going to happen to me as well. I have therapy in a few hours and I truly hope my therapy journey helps me from having a mental breakdown
The levels of stress they dole out is off the scale, they make many people physically ill, people develop all sorts of illnesses through years of abuse. Like auto immune, neurological and even cancer, the body and soul trying to get rid of the parasites they are.
I AM GOING THROUGH THIS .. FAMILY & FRIENDS TOO
What I adore in your presentation is the sharpness of your points. Your eyes say 'shark', your mouth says 'I've beent there. I know all of the pain'. Living in a calm town my narcistic wife is much in her war. She sent me away seven months ago. All of her anger goes to our daughter now who really wants my wife out of her life. It's my 2nd time. Thank you for your clarity.
I've *definitely* seen it! Coming by the house, trying to get other people to ask questions on their behalf, ... I had to laugh out loud at your term 'Flying Monkeys' *so appropriate!* I told anyone who tried to act as a go-between or to get information to pass back, "You will respect my decision that there will be no contact whatsoever with them and no information. This is your last warning. I can walk away from *you* as easily as I walked away from *them*." Added a few to my 'no contact' list, but most respected my decision.
I knew a woman like that. She would ask me, and or others about other people till they found out what their pathetic self wanted to know. I would just tell her , I don't know ask them, she would say I'm not going to ask them. I'm like fine, and I'm not going to tell you either.
So true! My narcissistic brother has done all of these to not just me, but everyone else. He blames me for everything that goes wrong in his life. For 45+ years, he has gone out of his way to make me look like I am the evil sibling and that I am the bad person. Everything narcissistic that he has ever done, he says I’m the one doing these things. He wants total control over my life and I won’t let him have it. He thinks that my world should revolve around him and nothing makes him madder because I disagree! I finally had to cut him out of my life and I have never been happier.
I can relate to this! Sick puppies!
Omg. Rebecca. This is my brother to a tee!!! I am in recovery for all the destruction he did to my life. Thank you for this video