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@@SMcGrath01 if you are sharing custody with a narcissist you must always use grey rock and never go DEEP [don't Defend, don't Engage, don't Explain, and don't Personalize]. Never show any emotion and never give them any information about your life. They don't get to feel you or know you anymore.
@@truthwarrior122 I have also stopped watching TV and going on social media and dating sites because all of the above are heavily narcissistic. However, I am liberal politically and always have been. And if you are conservative, that's fine. We all actually have more in common than we think. It pays for politicians to keep us fighting against each other.
When you realise narcs are only afraid of what you think of them, that gives you the confidence that your way stronger of a individual. They are cowards.
They ARE cowards! They will do behind but not upfront! Wear many masks but wont show their true selves or true character. Met some of them including neighbour, exes, co-workers, my relatives... All of them are cowards coz they gotta do behind you to go against you. Which is why the only best thing to deal with them is to move on with your life and be happy living your life to the fullest!
And people believe them even when they've known you for a long time. That's heart breaking. They are so convincing. I feel vibes strongly and I'm still a sucker for their bullshit. I wish I knew how to use my abilities. Cause I can tell when some one is fake. But I just hope for the best. I've suffered narc abuse for years from several people. I'm at end of my rope really. And have not gotten any help for me. Wish support group
I got tired of that, finally snapped, got told to leave - which I did. Then came the love bombing, sex, but I noticed that mutuals behaved strangely towards me. It was only when watching a video similar to this one that I've realised I'm traumatised and can barely remember who I was before we married 14 years ago. Now we have the drama stage that she wants me to be involved in (for the sake of the children, of course). Apparently, she's been upsetting other people - women - and I think I know why. I've also had the guilt tripping self harm thing thrown in for food measure. I'm expecting that her last move will be to use the children as a weapon. Thankfully, I'm getting counselling (very soon) aside from picking up ideas from videos such as this. When you finally see it, you cannot unsee it!
@@robertgaida923 We are out there for infinity. Only a Super Empath can take down a narcicist. They love to flip the script with their smear campaigns and manipulative lies. We can slay this angels 🙏🏻😇🤍✨️
I’ve been a victim of narcissistic husband for 25 years. I realize now that he is a narcissist. I’m in the middle of a divorce cause I’ve had enough of this and his porn. He been watching porn for 40 years. I only learn of the porn 12-15 years into my marriage. He been watching porn the whole marriage. I’m glad when I’m free of him. I can SLAY this!!
Usually, by the time you learn the person is a "covert narcissist", you have already 'dealt' with them in one way or another. You cannot and will not recognize the person as a 'covert narcissist' just by looking at them or having casual interactions with them. You have to observe, listen, and understand what you SAW,what you HEARD, and WHY you SAW and HEARD that. Now don't that sound easy. The better question is how do you STOP 'dealing with' a covert narcissist once you understand what you SAW, what you HEARD, and WHY you SAW and HEARD that? The 'best way' to 'deal with a covert narcissist' is to STOP listening, STOP observing, STOP wondering WHY, and STOP having ANY interaction with them. If you MUST have interactions with them, limit the interactions as much as possible. No "hi, how are you doing", no "hi, I wish I had time to talk to you", no "hi, it's nice to see you", just "hi, hope you're doing well, I've got to run" or just "hi" and keep walking. If at all possible avoid ANY setting or situation where the narcissist or a 'flying monkey' can observe you or listen to you. 'Flying monkeys' are the narcissist's 'possessions'. Dealing with or interacting with anything or anybody the narcissist 'owns' is considered the same as 'dealing with' or interacting with the narcissist. The more you 'deal with' a covert narcissist, the more you will have to 'deal with'. Do not 'run' from a covert narcissist unless you can 'run' totally away from them. When you 'run' from a narcissist, it makes them feel powerful and important. They like that and will make a sport out of watching you 'run'. Once you 'learn' the person is a 'covert narcissist', you have to 'learn' to either 'covertly' avoid the hell out of them or 'overtly' have NO CONTACT with them and refuse to 'deal with' them. This all SOUNDS so simple and easy, but ask anybody who has ever "dealt with" one and they'll tell you it's one of hardest things they've ever 'dealt with'. Additionally, If you need to find out about a cheating narcissist; send a request to: Metaspyhub@gmail. com
It's very difficult to deal with these people because you understand that by keeping them and your life it's toxic to you but if you want nothing to do with them they could retaliate
Yes, it has to be carefully considered. A lot depends on how much they know about you - what they've surmised (which will be twisted anyway) and what you have actually shared with them. If they don't know much they will make it all up - and as viciously as they possibly can. My narc is four years in the wilderness and has never stopped with the smear campaigns and attempts to play the poor, broken, limping victim. It's been destructive - but I soon found out who my friends were.
Record them, save their emails and text threats. Make sure your bank accounts and debts are secure and separate from theirs. If they have any keys to any of your things, get those keys back before they know why, even if you have to sneak them. If you can't get the keys, then change your locks. Be prepared to file for a Protective Order. And I moved. My narc had a great job that he couldn't leave, it was easier for him to get a new victim. I'm glad I moved, I made a whole new circle of friends and started my favorite career of my lifetime.
Have had conversations about certain things & then they do the opposite or say the opposite. I document & date & then refer them back to the conversation we originally had & show them my documentation. Trust me - this works & blows them away. They usually won’t mess with you after that.
Oh try the gaslighting where they tell you that you are the one saying the opposite and when you ask them to record it, they decline every time. I am just so done, lol.
The devalue stage moving into the discard stage is the worst experience a human can experience. It takes a piece of your soul and leaves you mentally scarred for life.
I really didn't know what was happening to me but feeling destroyed from the inside out was what it felt like. And I still didn't even know how it was happening because she made it seem like she wasn't doing anything wrong and even made me look like the one at fault. It led me to 6 years of learning narcissistic abuse
The most powerful thing we did was ignore my dad's wife, who was a 100% narc. She made our lives hell and once we decided enough was enough, she lost her s**t and we didn't respond. Give it a try, because this works. 🤔
Hummm you guys had a wicked step mom ...my bro an i did also ...I left home at 17 ..The next year my bro followed in my footsteps ...I suffered physical abuse from my dad because of her to a point i was almost killed , luckly the neighbours next door ran to my rescue ...I couldnt even go to school for 2 months ...I still love him but sometimes am triggered by the way he acts like nothing ever happened ...my satisfaction comes from seeing him in a dark place of resentment an he is also a mere frame of the Man he once was ...I am 38years old now but at that time i was only 9 ....in my country child abuse was something the villagers would hide from the police so there was nothing i could've done about it ....Oh i was beaten for playing with a bag of marbels..Well my brother an i ...he came home drunk that evening from arguing with my step mom .. so i guess it Was'nt about the marbels lolz
That "I'm so concerned " things is exactly what my mother did my whole life. Took me decades to find out why friends/boyfriends, coworkers etc suddenly started to behave strange towards me --- she just got the opportunaty to talk to them about me .
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What if I owe him money and I don’t have money to pay him and that’s why he lend me the money because he knew I wouldn’t be able to pay him back fast. 😢
Going this right now with a narcissist that I’m having my first child with. We have several mutual friends and he’s spreading disgusting vicious lies after I broke up with him. He has threatened to kill me, to beat me and is now saying he is going to set me up. It’s feeling dangerous, I’m glad I discovered your channel Ty for the advice ! I can SLAY THIS ❤
Thank you Rebecca for your expert advice and immense support on my healing journey. It feels so good not to be interested in those narcisists any more. You just do not care. You are done and the relationships are over!
My mom is a narcissist and did this exact same thing. Called family members trying to bad-mouth me. She's also done the same to those family members as well...Fast forward to a bunch of years later...She's an alcoholic, got into a car wreck, got arrested, and ended up plastered all over the news for it, and acts like nothing ever happened...I say this to say, people who try to go out of their way to smear your name will eventually sabotage themselves 🤷🏾♀️. You don't even have to get revenge. Just leave them alone.
I won and survived 2 narcs in my life. FIrst was my mother, I had to walk out on her and the second was my husband. I suffered 32 yrs of marriage not knowing why he was treating me this way, just as you are saying it here. He passed away and that naturally ended things. I know now what the narcs do and I refuse to be used again.
I've been abused by my narcisst family in law for almost 10 years and they made me believe that I'm crazy. But from this video now I know that just how they react when they have no control on me
I am currently married to a malignant narc. She is something else. Ive been accused of being a murderer, child molester, gay, and she constantly tells our 4 year old son that i dont give a shit about him. She is extremely evil and I'm fighting back now! It hurts to be vulnerable and to have your past used against you so heavily, mostly things that were out of my control, example: its all my fault that there are humans being trafficked in south korea (i was a soldier in the army stationed at camp casey). I can go on and on about this. Currently, I am giving the silent treatment and not acknowledging her even though she stays with me while i travel for my work. Im hoping she gets the clue now that im standing my ground and ends up leaving.
My mother was a covert narcissist who painted me and my twin very differently. I was the 'bad' twin from as young as 8months old and my soster was the 'perfect' twin. Its been so saddening over the years seeing the absolute damage this has done to my sister. She is so sensitive to any form of criticism that you can't have a voice or close relationship with her. She victimises herself and due to her sensitive ego she has absolutely no capacity to relate to others and empathise. I know she is a good person deep down and for decades I've tried to build her self confidence but it remains fragile. Since my mum passed she's literally become her and due to her sensitivities can't look at herself or get the help she needs. I've had to step away recently because I obviously carry my own baggage of being invalidated and being painted as a bad person my whole life. I guess I had less to lose when looking at myself because I already believed I was evil amd not good enough. I am now on the recieving end of her smearing me across my family and it's hard to remain quiet. I keep telling myself that as long as I wake up every day and stay true to myself and do the right thing, it will work out
Been married to a narcissist for 30 years and now that we're divorcing he's turned the tables and called me the narcissist, along with giving copious amounts of money to our 3 grown children and effectively turning them against me. My head is spinning and I'm amazed he's been so successful. I'm an intelligent woman who's always looked at family as a place of love, understanding, sometimes conflict, but always communication and forgiveness. It only recently dawned on me that he's looked at our family as a chess game! When I finally found out how much he'd deceived me (forging my signature on a huge homeowner's loan) I lost it, screamed at him, and ... he taped me! Even sent it to my children to show how crazy I was. How does one defend against this behavior? Would never dawn on me to tape a family member when angry.
I pray for your peace. I lost my child in my divorce. He drove me literally insane from emotional abuse. He even stole my cat and dog. But this is only a fraction of what you have suffered. You are strong. Keep fighting for your relationships with your children. Have hope for the future. Let go of the past. Don’t hold blame on yourself or regret. My heart is with you.
I hear you. I've had exactly the same. now I just take the piss out of him and honestly when you stop caring and just treat them irrelevant in return they get so freaking angry. I just laugh in his face.. He gets so mad. have to remember. he hates you anyway so you just treat them like naughty kids. ignoring them helps too. they're peices of shite and they have no idea the long lasting damage they inflict and I completely understand how bad it gets. my narc of 20years shattered my soul. even went back to him and he did it all over again. it hurts just as much 2nd time round. I'm not an angry person but wow he actually did make me crazy.. still have to deal with him with young children involved so it is hard and he's extremely nasty and uncooperative regarding information pertaining to raising the kids. I was so hurt I kept letting him hurt then I decided one day no more. now I just laugh in his face. if he accuses me of things I tell him he forgot to ad this this and that. when he says I'm crazy I just say well it took your dumb ass long enough to work that out.. he hates it.. but I never say it angry. always just with a laugh at him at HIS expense like turn the joke back onto them remember they ARE the joke. they're pathetic. anyways I'd tried everything and this is working a treat plus it's so entertaining 😅😅
PS they rely on you being broken. as hard as it is when dealing with them you just can't let the see it. you have to become an actor. pretend your in a movie and just oooze happiness, confidence and strength. this above all fills them with rage. because they see they didn't break you. they actually go and then start the stages of grief. ha ha. it's hilarious. just waiting now for mine to get acceptance and go quietly like the turd he is and never come back. in saying that though. internally I'm a bloody mess and hyper vigilant at all times. so yeah. the whole things is just really unfair at the end of the day. these people should be locked up for public safety 😢
Me too, it's the worst nightmare ever! He slowly tortured me ,even leaving me the night of my cancer surgery 😢 feel your pain. I hope you've healed, I'm just starting me journey.
Yup I learned my lesson the hardway got put in jail due to the lies of a Narcissist and was constantly gaslighted and blamed for my failures and problems and actions when in reality it was there fault 100% they will always blame others and not themselves because they can’t stand being blamed for anything walk away and never walk back no matter what
flying monkey recruits were my sister, my brother, my neighbors, my child's godfather, and many of his colleagues. Luckily, most of the flying monkeys didn't buy his BS. This took place years before he discarded me for his friend's wife.
You are lucky! Corroding the victim's support structure is one of the most devastating things the narc does. Eventually the narc will be exposed but the damage to relationships can be for life.
Dammit man. Talking about sleeping with the enemy & screwing a vampire. Welcome to the club. Lost my home, car inheritance & the thot set my Private parts on fire🔥 with an STD. I allowed myself to be a host for that vampire. And did I mention that the dummy had her brother shoot up my truck while I was in it. Was almost murdered. The Jezebel spirit is indeed real.
I AM SLAYING, married 13 years and didn’t realize what he was for a while but did notice I paid for everything, and he stole in stores. Granted I was raising three kids alone and working. I started understanding his ways and now he is so predictable and I can read his every thought. He has threatened my life on many occasions and the evil that poured out of him was like acid. I need help badly.
Get in a Abused Women’s shelter. Choose another State Call all around until you find help.. leave no trace. Throw away phones in current State. Get prepaid phones. And never look back………….NO CONTACT…
Lol the thing about “caring” is so true. My ex calls all my friends and family telling them he’s so concerned because I’m a crazy alcoholic. So pathetic.
Blind fury that's what happens, whether that's directed at you or simply character annihilation, best to just avoid them permanently like they don't exist
Former narc friends found out last night I am no longer interested. Every year for the Super Bowl they’d ask us to buy the food and alcohol for the party. My husband went over for the 4th quarter, and sent me pics. No party food no nothing, 5 other people there staring at my husband like he’s gonna jump up and go buy food in the last few minutes of the game. A total of 9 adults there with jobs and cars and they expected us to “ play our role.” How pathetic is that!!! My former friend I have not talked to her since July 2022. I’m sure they are all slamming us calling us selfish etc. No contact now from either of us!! We can slay this just like our Chiefs slayed the Eagles in the Super Bowl!! No disrespect Eagle fans, you guys played an awesome game !
Just wow. What ever happened to BYOB and a side [or] appetizer and the hosts provide the protein? (turkey/burgers, dogs, steak, chicken, whatever.) Just email what you're bringing with your RRSP so that there are no doubles? That's a massive expense to download onto just one household for the "privilege" of sitting on their couch and watching the game. Selfish is what selfish does. The audacity.
Agreed! The individual traits, such as envy, spite, controlling behavior, manipulation, etc. in combination are the very characteristics we might associate with the spawn of Satan.
I AM slaying this....thanks to you! Taking care of myself and I am so different already.... 😂 A few in my life are already so confused. I've set boundaries annnnd of course it's not going well for them.... they're already in smear mode. It's astounding how many narcs I'm related to or have chosen in my life. Right now, I'm realizing I didn't just grow up in a toxic drunk abusive household, I grew up in a toxic drunk abusive narcissistic household. My father, malignant....my mother, covert. My dad was physically abusive, jaw fractures and all. Then he'd add in how I made him mad. That he did it cause I made him. My mother, covert....I'd confide in her and she would put it away to use against me later. Drank so much she probably doesn't even remember half my childhood and plays the victim while making things up about me. It's been flying at me this way for so long. I never knew which way it was going to come from next. I'd seem to choose friends that were exhibiting the same behaviors....and choosing partners aswell. My current husband is quite a narc....but he's aware and we speak to each other with respect. I research and share with him so we can communicate better. I can explain why he hurt me and vice versa. This journey began about two years ago....I just put some boundaries down and my family and others went batshit! Neither of my parents speak to me, they haven't in a few years. Now cousins uncles aunts etc.....do not talk to me. They are old and playing the "she's ungrateful and a drunk" bit. It astounds me how kids, even grown, seem to be held in the wrong. That it's the child who, for some reason, is responsible for apologizing and being the scapegoat. I just want to thank you for your time, because that's what you give. I appreciate it so much.
The ex played the caring husband. He was also a stalker, desperate and dangerous. He had everyone backing him including my sons. He had everyone believing I was nuts and he was soooo concerned about me. In court I nailed him when my attorney brought up his perverted ways and how he expected me to lie about where he was when a cop came to the door. Nope. I won't lie to cover someone's backside! He couldn't believe I told my attorney, and everyone else he had brought to court to back him. He was shocked, embarrassed, and humiliated. As he should have been. I guess he thought he was going to win everyone over. It took a few years even after divorce to finally be free of him. I don't ever want to see him, or hear that creeps voice ever again.
I'm in the process of dealing with strategic planning of his using our daughter to create a happy family facade with the new supply dragging me to court on false accusations of withholding our daughter from him. These creatures are absolutely vile on every level!
That’s what worries me the most in my situation. What my narc wife told her family about me. And I know did. She sure as hell didn’t tell them she was cheating.
A note to everyone dealing with a Narc…your best bet to protect yourself, always record or note down every rage, abuse, and explosions that happened. I have been Blessed to have worked at law firms and I have so much evidence to prove facts and definitely won’t be, his word against mine. I know what’s coming with his vindictive mode, I’m ready and prepared.
Great video, Rebecca. Maybe some day you could address how the estrange spouse purposely manipulates the process in the hopes that you never get to settle. That's my experience. Three blown mediations and I am bulldozing my way to Court. My lawyer is so surprised that his lawyer doesn't even want to pick up the phone to try to discuss/get us over the finish line. Every response is another two steps backwards. I had to explain to her that his lawyer is on retainer and essentially she is getting paid NOT to settle. In other words, it's all passive income (invoicing) for her. 4.5 years and counting. He is now "panicking" I wisened up to his game. I would hands-down classify him as a malignant narc. Hard to believe, but his cultivated "saint" persona is the polar opposite of what lies beneath. I am telling everyone everything even though I know I sound "crazy" (only when I'm talking about him). Kinda like when Katie H spent as much time in the public eye as possible when separating from her marriage. Safest thing for her to do was call the paps for a pap call. Safest place for her to be was in plain sight as often as possible.
I’m going through the same situation with my wife. She filed two allegations. One with the court and one through my employer. However, I continually prayed despite her delaying tactics. And now my employer is stating to see her inconsistencies and confirmed that she is a narc. She’s retained a lawyer who’s not versed in family law and there coming with childish proposals that’s resulting in concentric spiraling aka toddler tantrum.
Is there any way to build financial incentive into the settlement? Some way to drain more money out of him, while he drags it out? Make him responsible for all the Income Taxes, somehow? Even if you can't really do it, if he THINKS you can do it, he'll fold. No one wants to fight the IRS. Or can you make him think that somehow YOU are the one getting benefit from delaying the settlement? If he thinks that it makes you happy, he'll look for a way to stop it.
Dealing with the false allegations now. Haven't been able to have any contact with my twin daughters in 16 months. She seems to have a mixture of the covert and malignant with parental alienation.
Wow thank you. I listened to you all the time. I'm learning so much. I always thought it was me doing wrong but now I realize that it's okay to be myself I do believe they do have a sickness in their head. How and why can someone do this to another person?
A Narcissist will use you until 0 Is left and leave u in financial ruin..they are also very two faced,will do anything for self interest,and at the end you've gone through..Hell.😢
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Thanks ...my ex now and his new supply are both driving past my place at night every night....I had said to him I am no longer interested I really don't care who your with....he said he felt really bad....do I care nope...not sure why him and the new supply are stalking me...????
My mom, the narcissist, convinced a family friend (who has been a family friend for over 50 years), to stalk me. I was on to him immediately. I told him, yesterday, 4/29/2024, that he is to stop calling me and stop leaving voicemails. I then hung up on him. I don't trust anyone who is a friend of my mom. I've decided that I need to leave the state, so that I put as much distance between us as possible. I'll be honest ... I'm really freaked out by her actions. She has taken all of this to the next level and I don't like this one bit. I'm going to downsize my storage unit, save up my money and get as far from my mother as possible.
Drop your narc about Feb 3rd. They'll go apeshit trying to get you back, because they will think someone else has promised you a romantic Valentine's Date. You'll have the best Valentine's that you ever had out of them. But remember to drop them and keep them dropped. And be prepared, because their retaliation will be over the top. You not only humiliated them and discarded them; you beat them at their own discard game.
if you don't want to be with someone, it is very childish to start putting labels on them and blaming them for all the relationship problems. Why don't you just get out of the relationship and stop trying to bring that person down a notch, I don't see what can be gained by that except some gleeful revenge or other disgusting selfish agenda.
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She said "I am sooooo sorry I hurt you. I NEVER MEANT to hurt you." I stood firm. She meant to hurt me. She cannot admit it. "I accept you are sorry. You cannot admit it was intentional at the moment because of shame and guilt, and because RIGHT NOW you do not want to hurt me. You can tell yourself whatever it takes to get to sleep at night, but you meant to hurt me in that moment, and you are lying to me and to yourself, by saying it was an accident; you were not in control; it was never meant that way." All of these statements absolve a person of responsibility and places guilt in a place it does not belong. I SLAYed it. Edit: She is NOT a narcissist. She has toxic defenses from childhood trauma. They are not the same. I was wrong. Total narcissistic behaviours.
Yes she meant to hurt you and she meant to hurt you again. Glad you stuck up for yourself by not giving in to her manipulation. I know how hard that can be and you deserve much respect for being able to not give in.
Saw her yesterday in the store not once but four times, if her looks could kill.... I refuse to engage and blocked everywhere. The way I see it she wasted a lot of time so I refuse to spend another second.
That's exactly what happened to me her mom acted all concerned and before I knew it the mom's husband, her daughter (wife), her (mom), and my wifes friends turned against me and literally took the kids away while the mom told everyone I was saving my daughter from the monster. Meanwhile I was lost as ever trying to figure out what happened and why is this happening. Then I went it to it's not true mode defending myself and trying to prove that I wasn't a monster but by then my wife was too far gone and I am now without seeing my daughter and it's been almost 4mths. I got a lawyer but I'm now 8k in with her and still no signs of me seeing my daughter.
Your videos explaing narc abuse are very helpful and much appreciated. However the self promotion is too long on every video, perhaps a quick mention, that the link is in the video to the vorious books, which then opens the door to being straight to the point of the video.
When my ex narc tried to contact me again via messenger I just ignored her and removed the message,I didnt even read her message, and because of that she blocked me,thats the level they are on🤣
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Hi Rebecca I have not long found your channel I’m glad I have I don’t really want to say this cause I usually have more respect for others even though what they have done anyway I was in a relationship with a woman we met in school we have had a on/off relationship we ended up having a child she has anxiety and depression and used to take medication anyway skip to when she found out she was pregnant I was worried and she was completely normal she then decided to say that my mother was abusing her and I’m leaving it’s either u stay or u come with me my family needed me as of health issues my mother said to me go be their for your child I reluctantly accepted I ended up going we had the baby and moved to her mothers until we got our own house her step father decided to kick us out and looked very jealous and I was doing fatherly things with he’s kids and that I has supposedly pushed his kid down the stairs me and my ex had finally got a house and moved in we ended up having our baby we then ended up leaving as she didn’t like what her mother was saying or helping in the way of our daughter so we ended up moving 6weeks after our daughter was born we ended up moving back to my mothers every thing was perfect then suddenly one day she left without me knowing everything seemed normal we never had fights or arguments and I didn’t know what happened she just suddenly left she went back to her parents so i decided to take her to family court to get to see our daughter she accused me of domestic violence and bashing our beautiful daughter she accused me of all this stuff that I can’t stand it took months for me to be able to get to see my daughter once I finally got to see her she wanted to come back I didn’t want her to come back I just wanted our daughter but I knew I wouldn’t get my daughter without her so I decided to let them both come back well we found out she was pregnant to some other guy she had a one night stand with she then proceeded to say he is a drug fked idiot and he doesn’t care about he’s other children so why should he get to see this one I regretfully left it at that and over the months I had seen multiple videos and started thinking about everything she said in general conversation she would blame everyone else for stuff they didn’t do and accuse them for things and say that they had never helped her but I know that’s not the truth she then would change her hair hair colour and appearance and post pictures all over social media platforms well over time she wanted to get back into a relationship but I just couldn’t I was still broken hurt angry at what she had accused me of doing and I still am my family all say I’m a nice person and can’t believe how much of a gentlemen I am and appreciate all the help I give them whenever I can and i appreciate everything they have done for me over time I have started to believe everything that I was accused of and that maybe I am not father material maybe I am just the pos she says I am I’m sorry this was is so long this is hard for me to write this I just want to know because when she doesn’t her her own way or people try to help her she throws it in their face then accuses them for not helping or for being abusive is she a narcissist as u say in most of your videos or is this person something else
That was a truly epic block of text Lincoln, not one misspelling or punctuation. 🤣 this girl might be a narc or a psychopath, sorry you went through that😔
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It took 8 months after I left and decided on no contact. I finally realized the other day, that I have reached “indifference”, it’s when you come out on the other side after much pain and finally know you just don’t care anymore, it no longer effects you, yes finally indifference!!
I’m in a horrifying situation. Been married 14 years to the meanest human I’ve ever met and I want out so bad but it’s like scrapping gum off your shoe. My health has deteriorated and my mind played with.
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It's a GREAT place to be when dealing with a narcissist, becoming indifferent. All of the emotion and attachment is GONE and you are FREE as a bird.
Agreed but hard when you have young children.
Just tune out the lying left. I stopped watching TV many years ago and never felt better.
@@SMcGrath01 if you are sharing custody with a narcissist you must always use grey rock and never go DEEP [don't Defend, don't Engage, don't Explain, and don't Personalize]. Never show any emotion and never give them any information about your life. They don't get to feel you or know you anymore.
@@truthwarrior122 I have also stopped watching TV and going on social media and dating sites because all of the above are heavily narcissistic. However, I am liberal politically and always have been. And if you are conservative, that's fine. We all actually have more in common than we think. It pays for politicians to keep us fighting against each other.
How?
When you realise narcs are only afraid of what you think of them, that gives you the confidence that your way stronger of a individual. They are cowards.
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They ARE cowards! They will do behind but not upfront! Wear many masks but wont show their true selves or true character. Met some of them including neighbour, exes, co-workers, my relatives... All of them are cowards coz they gotta do behind you to go against you. Which is why the only best thing to deal with them is to move on with your life and be happy living your life to the fullest!
They try to make you look bad in front of other people.
Yes, they sure do!!!
And people believe them even when they've known you for a long time. That's heart breaking. They are so convincing. I feel vibes strongly and I'm still a sucker for their bullshit. I wish I knew how to use my abilities. Cause I can tell when some one is fake. But I just hope for the best. I've suffered narc abuse for years from several people. I'm at end of my rope really. And have not gotten any help for me. Wish support group
yes, 100%
Funny how they undermine you and then blame you for your negative reaction to them.
Melony Banks,Hope you are not with a narcissist!!
You’ve just described it so perfectly!!
I go through this every day 😇 if I didn't have Jesus I would be crazy. Thank God for this video.
Yes and then they smear you in front of others.
I got tired of that, finally snapped, got told to leave - which I did. Then came the love bombing, sex, but I noticed that mutuals behaved strangely towards me. It was only when watching a video similar to this one that I've realised I'm traumatised and can barely remember who I was before we married 14 years ago.
Now we have the drama stage that she wants me to be involved in (for the sake of the children, of course). Apparently, she's been upsetting other people - women - and I think I know why. I've also had the guilt tripping self harm thing thrown in for food measure.
I'm expecting that her last move will be to use the children as a weapon.
Thankfully, I'm getting counselling (very soon) aside from picking up ideas from videos such as this. When you finally see it, you cannot unsee it!
Narcissist = your pain is their joy, your joy is their pain.
im worried sometimes, that there wont be any good people left, and that we are getting too old to fight them, its exhausting.
@@robertgaida923 We are out there for infinity. Only a Super Empath can take down a narcicist. They love to flip the script with their smear campaigns and manipulative lies. We can slay this angels
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Hmmm. Last comment. Seriously.
Oh we're here, but I understand. I have the same problem finding kind and genuine people too
Exactly, I have given up and just focus on me.
Kindness, respect and honesty are long gone in this society.
It all makes sense now!! Narcissist free 2 years now🙌🏼 All praises to God
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Exactly
I can Slay this! I’ve been a victim of narcissistic husband for 41 years and finally see him for what he really is. Thank you
@real100talk5why aren’t you planning your exit ??? Get away from them !!
I hope for you !
When I finally wanted to divorce my husband after 29 years of marriage, he hanged himself
50 years here! I’m leaving quietly
I’ve been a victim of narcissistic husband for 25 years. I realize now that he is a narcissist. I’m in the middle of a divorce cause I’ve had enough of this and his porn. He been watching porn for 40 years. I only learn of the porn 12-15 years into my marriage. He been watching porn the whole marriage. I’m glad when I’m free of him.
I can SLAY this!!
Stand firm. It's not easy to leave these situations with these demons. You can slay this! Blessings 💞🙏🏽
They are not concerned about you at all. They are low on fuel.
They will completely run out of fuel.
Usually, by the time you learn the person is a "covert narcissist", you have already 'dealt' with them in one way or another. You cannot and will not recognize the person as a 'covert narcissist' just by looking at them or having casual interactions with them. You have to observe, listen, and understand what you SAW,what you HEARD, and WHY you SAW and HEARD that. Now don't that sound easy.
The better question is how do you STOP 'dealing with' a covert narcissist once you understand what you SAW, what you HEARD, and WHY you SAW and HEARD that? The 'best way' to 'deal with a covert narcissist' is to STOP listening, STOP observing, STOP wondering WHY, and STOP having ANY interaction with them. If you MUST have interactions with them, limit the interactions as much as possible. No "hi, how are you doing", no "hi, I wish I had time to talk to you", no "hi, it's nice to see you", just "hi, hope you're doing well, I've got to run" or just "hi" and keep walking. If at all possible avoid ANY setting or situation where the narcissist or a 'flying monkey' can observe you or listen to you. 'Flying monkeys' are the narcissist's 'possessions'. Dealing with or interacting with anything or anybody the narcissist 'owns' is considered the same as 'dealing with' or interacting with the narcissist.
The more you 'deal with' a covert narcissist, the more you will have to 'deal with'. Do not 'run' from a covert narcissist unless you can 'run' totally away from them. When you 'run' from a narcissist, it makes them feel powerful and important. They like that and will make a sport out of watching you 'run'. Once you 'learn' the person is a 'covert narcissist', you have to 'learn' to either 'covertly' avoid the hell out of them or 'overtly' have NO CONTACT with them and refuse to 'deal with' them. This all SOUNDS so simple and easy, but ask anybody who has ever "dealt with" one and they'll tell you it's one of hardest things they've ever 'dealt with'.
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NO NARC in your life means, freedom, happiness, peace, and financially stable like the way you were before meeting them. Lol
True indeed
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I sure as Hell hope so
yes, true
It's very difficult to deal with these people because you understand that by keeping them and your life it's toxic to you but if you want nothing to do with them they could retaliate
Yes, it has to be carefully considered. A lot depends on how much they know about you - what they've surmised (which will be twisted anyway) and what you have actually shared with them. If they don't know much they will make it all up - and as viciously as they possibly can. My narc is four years in the wilderness and has never stopped with the smear campaigns and attempts to play the poor, broken, limping victim. It's been destructive - but I soon found out who my friends were.
I experienced this first hand. And after dealing with their full retaliation, I am finally free.
Yes and a malignant narcissist may try to kill you if you decide to report their crimes to the police.
Record them, save their emails and text threats. Make sure your bank accounts and debts are secure and separate from theirs. If they have any keys to any of your things, get those keys back before they know why, even if you have to sneak them. If you can't get the keys, then change your locks. Be prepared to file for a Protective Order.
And I moved.
My narc had a great job that he couldn't leave, it was easier for him to get a new victim. I'm glad I moved, I made a whole new circle of friends and started my favorite career of my lifetime.
The only way out is through. The smear campaign is still easier to deal with than on going communication wit them.
Have had conversations about certain things & then they do the opposite or say the opposite. I document & date & then refer them back to the conversation we originally had & show them my documentation. Trust me - this works & blows them away. They usually won’t mess with you after that.
Oh try the gaslighting where they tell you that you are the one saying the opposite and when you ask them to record it, they decline every time. I am just so done, lol.
Sad you gotta keep tabs or notes on our conversations smh. That’s really pitiful when you think about it
😮 well bine hippy Jones we have found the nerve in the core of the bottomless pit
The devalue stage moving into the discard stage is the worst experience a human can experience. It takes a piece of your soul and leaves you mentally scarred for life.
I really didn't know what was happening to me but feeling destroyed from the inside out was what it felt like. And I still didn't even know how it was happening because she made it seem like she wasn't doing anything wrong and even made me look like the one at fault. It led me to 6 years of learning narcissistic abuse
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Yep. The loneliness, confusion, fog and complete lack of empathy is soul crushing.
@@snowcoconuts8660same here!
Yes it is
I can slay this!!! I can slay this!!! I can slay this!!!!
YES you can! ♥
The most powerful thing we did was ignore my dad's wife, who was a 100% narc. She made our lives hell and once we decided enough was enough, she lost her s**t and we didn't respond. Give it a try, because this works. 🤔
Ignore them is the best revenge
Hummm you guys had a wicked step mom ...my bro an i did also ...I left home at 17 ..The next year my bro followed in my footsteps ...I suffered physical abuse from my dad because of her to a point i was almost killed , luckly the neighbours next door ran to my rescue ...I couldnt even go to school for 2 months ...I still love him but sometimes am triggered by the way he acts like nothing ever happened ...my satisfaction comes from seeing him in a dark place of resentment an he is also a mere frame of the Man he once was ...I am 38years old now but at that time i was only 9 ....in my country child abuse was something the villagers would hide from the police so there was nothing i could've done about it ....Oh i was beaten for playing with a bag of marbels..Well my brother an i ...he came home drunk that evening from arguing with my step mom .. so i guess it Was'nt about the marbels lolz
@@earniewaterman6511 What country is that? I don't wanna go there, I've never been in an English country
@@earniewaterman6511 Sorry to hear that... You don't deserve that poo, you deserve the better for you in your life 🤗
@@sergiothespanishnightmare6727 Trinidad and Tobago west indies
That "I'm so concerned " things is exactly what my mother did my whole life. Took me decades to find out why friends/boyfriends, coworkers etc suddenly started to behave strange towards me --- she just got the opportunaty to talk to them about me .
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I’m so grateful for you and the channel you created to help the victims of Narcissistic Abuse thrive
Thank you for your kind words! 💖
What if I owe him money and I don’t have money to pay him and that’s why he lend me the money because he knew I wouldn’t be able to pay him back fast. 😢
Going this right now with a narcissist that I’m having my first child with. We have several mutual friends and he’s spreading disgusting vicious lies after I broke up with him.
He has threatened to kill me, to beat me and is now saying he is going to set me up. It’s feeling dangerous, I’m glad I discovered your channel Ty for the advice !
I can SLAY THIS ❤
Run
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Please get licensed to carry. Be safe 🙏🏾 and get cameras around your house. Don’t take him lightly.
I can SLAY this !
Thank you so much for the hope, the help, and the support in these past 4 or 5 years !
Thank you. Glad I can help!
Thank you Rebecca for your expert advice and immense support on my healing journey. It feels so good not to be interested in those narcisists any more. You just do not care. You are done and the relationships are over!
I'm glad that you're taking steps towards healing. Sending you light and virtual hugs. Stay strong😊
Wow she replied that's really cool 😎👍
@@RebeccaZungEsq Thank you so much. Your help and support are invaluable.
My mom is a narcissist and did this exact same thing. Called family members trying to bad-mouth me. She's also done the same to those family members as well...Fast forward to a bunch of years later...She's an alcoholic, got into a car wreck, got arrested, and ended up plastered all over the news for it, and acts like nothing ever happened...I say this to say, people who try to go out of their way to smear your name will eventually sabotage themselves 🤷🏾♀️. You don't even have to get revenge. Just leave them alone.
I won and survived 2 narcs in my life. FIrst was my mother, I had to walk out on her and the second was my husband. I suffered 32 yrs of marriage not knowing why he was treating me this way, just as you are saying it here. He passed away and that naturally ended things. I know now what the narcs do and I refuse to be used again.
I hide in the woods from all the people.
🤣 Good plan!
May the forest be with you.
If you see me, shhhhhhh.....
Lol I understand
SURVIVORS don't HIDE WE THRIVE!!! U CAN SLAY THEM
I already end it with the narc dec 25
You got this! 💪
Christmas Special.
I hope you are okay.
I've been abused by my narcisst family in law for almost 10 years and they made me believe that I'm crazy. But from this video now I know that just how they react when they have no control on me
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I've slayed them ! No engaging with them and I have sooo moved on ! ...and your Wonderful Thank you 💖
Good decision to move away! Stay strong!
I am currently married to a malignant narc. She is something else. Ive been accused of being a murderer, child molester, gay, and she constantly tells our 4 year old son that i dont give a shit about him. She is extremely evil and I'm fighting back now! It hurts to be vulnerable and to have your past used against you so heavily, mostly things that were out of my control, example: its all my fault that there are humans being trafficked in south korea (i was a soldier in the army stationed at camp casey). I can go on and on about this. Currently, I am giving the silent treatment and not acknowledging her even though she stays with me while i travel for my work. Im hoping she gets the clue now that im standing my ground and ends up leaving.
I hope you escaped and are in a better place ,it takes time but be kind to yourself.
@@leonasweny1525 I did with my son! we are doing MUCH better.
My mother was a covert narcissist who painted me and my twin very differently. I was the 'bad' twin from as young as 8months old and my soster was the 'perfect' twin. Its been so saddening over the years seeing the absolute damage this has done to my sister. She is so sensitive to any form of criticism that you can't have a voice or close relationship with her. She victimises herself and due to her sensitive ego she has absolutely no capacity to relate to others and empathise. I know she is a good person deep down and for decades I've tried to build her self confidence but it remains fragile. Since my mum passed she's literally become her and due to her sensitivities can't look at herself or get the help she needs.
I've had to step away recently because I obviously carry my own baggage of being invalidated and being painted as a bad person my whole life. I guess I had less to lose when looking at myself because I already believed I was evil amd not good enough.
I am now on the recieving end of her smearing me across my family and it's hard to remain quiet.
I keep telling myself that as long as I wake up every day and stay true to myself and do the right thing, it will work out
Hey man this doesn't read as your sister is sensitive to criticism, it reads like she's become a vulnerable narcissist herself.
Been married to a narcissist for 30 years and now that we're divorcing he's turned the tables and called me the narcissist, along with giving copious amounts of money to our 3 grown children and effectively turning them against me. My head is spinning and I'm amazed he's been so successful. I'm an intelligent woman who's always looked at family as a place of love, understanding, sometimes conflict, but always communication and forgiveness. It only recently dawned on me that he's looked at our family as a chess game! When I finally found out how much he'd deceived me (forging my signature on a huge homeowner's loan) I lost it, screamed at him, and ... he taped me!
Even sent it to my children to show how crazy I was. How does one defend against this behavior? Would never dawn on me to tape a family member when angry.
I pray for your peace. I lost my child in my divorce. He drove me literally insane from emotional abuse. He even stole my cat and dog. But this is only a fraction of what you have suffered. You are strong. Keep fighting for your relationships with your children. Have hope for the future. Let go of the past. Don’t hold blame on yourself or regret. My heart is with you.
I hear you. I've had exactly the same. now I just take the piss out of him and honestly when you stop caring and just treat them irrelevant in return they get so freaking angry. I just laugh in his face.. He gets so mad. have to remember. he hates you anyway so you just treat them like naughty kids. ignoring them helps too. they're peices of shite and they have no idea the long lasting damage they inflict and I completely understand how bad it gets. my narc of 20years shattered my soul. even went back to him and he did it all over again. it hurts just as much 2nd time round. I'm not an angry person but wow he actually did make me crazy.. still have to deal with him with young children involved so it is hard and he's extremely nasty and uncooperative regarding information pertaining to raising the kids. I was so hurt I kept letting him hurt then I decided one day no more. now I just laugh in his face. if he accuses me of things I tell him he forgot to ad this this and that. when he says I'm crazy I just say well it took your dumb ass long enough to work that out.. he hates it.. but I never say it angry. always just with a laugh at him at HIS expense like turn the joke back onto them remember they ARE the joke. they're pathetic. anyways I'd tried everything and this is working a treat plus it's so entertaining 😅😅
PS they rely on you being broken. as hard as it is when dealing with them you just can't let the see it. you have to become an actor. pretend your in a movie and just oooze happiness, confidence and strength. this above all fills them with rage. because they see they didn't break you. they actually go and then start the stages of grief. ha ha. it's hilarious. just waiting now for mine to get acceptance and go quietly like the turd he is and never come back. in saying that though. internally I'm a bloody mess and hyper vigilant at all times. so yeah. the whole things is just really unfair at the end of the day. these people should be locked up for public safety 😢
I’m 50 and just realizing that I am a victim
When you figure it out, it hits you like a ton of bricks.
Awareness and taking action from victim to Victor.
When I realized it give me answers,why the narc treated me so,now I can emotionally detach,feeling good and brave and calm
Me too, it's the worst nightmare ever! He slowly tortured me ,even leaving me the night of my cancer surgery 😢 feel your pain. I hope you've healed, I'm just starting me journey.
same here, Iam' 47
Yup I learned my lesson the hardway got put in jail due to the lies of a Narcissist and was constantly gaslighted and blamed for my failures and problems and actions when in reality it was there fault 100% they will always blame others and not themselves because they can’t stand being blamed for anything walk away and never walk back no matter what
flying monkey recruits were my sister, my brother, my neighbors, my child's godfather, and many of his colleagues. Luckily, most of the flying monkeys didn't buy his BS. This took place years before he discarded me for his friend's wife.
You are lucky! Corroding the victim's support structure is one of the most devastating things the narc does. Eventually the narc will be exposed but the damage to relationships can be for life.
Dammit man. Talking about sleeping with the enemy & screwing a vampire. Welcome to the club. Lost my home, car inheritance & the thot set my Private parts on fire🔥 with an STD. I allowed myself to be a host for that vampire. And did I mention that the dummy had her brother shoot up my truck while I was in it. Was almost murdered. The Jezebel spirit is indeed real.
I can slay this
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I AM SLAYING, married 13 years and didn’t realize what he was for a while but did notice I paid for everything, and he stole in stores. Granted I was raising three kids alone and working. I started understanding his ways and now he is so predictable and I can read his every thought. He has threatened my life on many occasions and the evil that poured out of him was like acid. I need help badly.
Get in a Abused Women’s shelter. Choose another State Call all around until you find help.. leave no trace. Throw away phones in current State. Get prepaid phones. And never look back………….NO CONTACT…
Lol the thing about “caring” is so true. My ex calls all my friends and family telling them he’s so concerned because I’m a crazy alcoholic. So pathetic.
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Maybe your ex IS caring and you’re the narcissist!🤔
They know when it's over...
Omgsh this one girl that is a narcissist to my daughter. Literally threw on the floor tantrums as a young child
I will not be defeated by a demon bully ~ Evil will not win in God's house, ever. Thanks RZ
I CAN SLAY THIS I REALLY CAN SLAY THIS. NOTHING HE SAYS OR DOES WILL CHANGE MY MIND
Proud of you! You got this ❤
Blind fury that's what happens, whether that's directed at you or simply character annihilation, best to just avoid them permanently like they don't exist
Doing my happy dance everytime she leaves....
Former narc friends found out last night I am no longer interested. Every year for the Super Bowl they’d ask us to buy the food and alcohol for the party. My husband went over for the 4th quarter, and sent me pics. No party food no nothing, 5 other people there staring at my husband like he’s gonna jump up and go buy food in the last few minutes of the game. A total of 9 adults there with jobs and cars and they expected us to “ play our role.” How pathetic is that!!! My former friend I have not talked to her since July 2022. I’m sure they are all slamming us calling us selfish etc. No contact now from either of us!! We can slay this just like our Chiefs slayed the Eagles in the Super Bowl!! No disrespect Eagle fans, you guys played an awesome game !
Just wow. What ever happened to BYOB and a side [or] appetizer and the hosts provide the protein? (turkey/burgers, dogs, steak, chicken, whatever.) Just email what you're bringing with your RRSP so that there are no doubles? That's a massive expense to download onto just one household for the "privilege" of sitting on their couch and watching the game. Selfish is what selfish does. The audacity.
You don’t need these folks - drop them like a bad habit
Wow I bet they were HANGRY 😂 😂
@@janeydoe1403 what is RRSP?
@@GrapheneOxideIsInCVVax Should have been RSVP, RRSP is registered retirement savings plan (Cdn equivalent of US 401k). Can you tell it's tax season?
Most people don't know that they are demons, LITERALLY, not joking, in the real meaning of the word.
Facts….
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Agreed! The individual traits, such as envy, spite, controlling behavior, manipulation, etc. in combination are the very characteristics we might associate with the spawn of Satan.
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I AM slaying this....thanks to you! Taking care of myself and I am so different already.... 😂 A few in my life are already so confused. I've set boundaries annnnd of course it's not going well for them.... they're already in smear mode. It's astounding how many narcs I'm related to or have chosen in my life. Right now, I'm realizing I didn't just grow up in a toxic drunk abusive household, I grew up in a toxic drunk abusive narcissistic household. My father, malignant....my mother, covert. My dad was physically abusive, jaw fractures and all. Then he'd add in how I made him mad. That he did it cause I made him. My mother, covert....I'd confide in her and she would put it away to use against me later. Drank so much she probably doesn't even remember half my childhood and plays the victim while making things up about me. It's been flying at me this way for so long. I never knew which way it was going to come from next. I'd seem to choose friends that were exhibiting the same behaviors....and choosing partners aswell. My current husband is quite a narc....but he's aware and we speak to each other with respect. I research and share with him so we can communicate better. I can explain why he hurt me and vice versa. This journey began about two years ago....I just put some boundaries down and my family and others went batshit! Neither of my parents speak to me, they haven't in a few years. Now cousins uncles aunts etc.....do not talk to me. They are old and playing the "she's ungrateful and a drunk" bit. It astounds me how kids, even grown, seem to be held in the wrong. That it's the child who, for some reason, is responsible for apologizing and being the scapegoat. I just want to thank you for your time, because that's what you give. I appreciate it so much.
Totally get it
Stay strong! ❤
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Stay No Contact. You are winning. Live a beautiful life..
“I CAN SLAY THIS!”!!!
The ex played the caring husband. He was also a stalker, desperate and dangerous. He had everyone backing him including my sons. He had everyone believing I was nuts and he was soooo concerned about me. In court I nailed him when my attorney brought up his perverted ways and how he expected me to lie about where he was when a cop came to the door. Nope. I won't lie to cover someone's backside! He couldn't believe I told my attorney, and everyone else he had brought to court to back him. He was shocked, embarrassed, and humiliated. As he should have been. I guess he thought he was going to win everyone over. It took a few years even after divorce to finally be free of him. I don't ever want to see him, or hear that creeps voice ever again.
THE GREAT PRETENDERS
What do you mean by his perverted way and what makes you call him a creep? Lol
Nobody knows a man until you live with him
@@GrapheneOxideIsInCVVax
It doesn't matter. If I wanted to tell everyone, I would have said what it was. It's no one's business.
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I'm in the process of dealing with strategic planning of his using our daughter to create a happy family facade with the new supply dragging me to court on false accusations of withholding our daughter from him. These creatures are absolutely vile on every level!
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Not looking to hurt the nar. "No and goodbye" is enough to cause them fear to ask , "who walks next?" 👍 on the covert nar's skill.
I needed this video. Thank you so much!
Smear campaign,slander used to sabotage your efforts 🆘
You are so welcome! sending you love! ❤
That’s what worries me the most in my situation. What my narc wife told her family about me. And I know did. She sure as hell didn’t tell them she was cheating.
My husband was a narcissist...i left him with his family...he never apologized...they all living happily together.
A note to everyone dealing with a Narc…your best bet to protect yourself, always record or note down every rage, abuse, and explosions that happened. I have been Blessed to have worked at law firms and I have so much evidence to prove facts and definitely won’t be, his word against mine. I know what’s coming with his vindictive mode, I’m ready and prepared.
Great video, Rebecca. Maybe some day you could address how the estrange spouse purposely manipulates the process in the hopes that you never get to settle. That's my experience. Three blown mediations and I am bulldozing my way to Court. My lawyer is so surprised that his lawyer doesn't even want to pick up the phone to try to discuss/get us over the finish line. Every response is another two steps backwards. I had to explain to her that his lawyer is on retainer and essentially she is getting paid NOT to settle. In other words, it's all passive income (invoicing) for her. 4.5 years and counting. He is now "panicking" I wisened up to his game. I would hands-down classify him as a malignant narc. Hard to believe, but his cultivated "saint" persona is the polar opposite of what lies beneath. I am telling everyone everything even though I know I sound "crazy" (only when I'm talking about him). Kinda like when Katie H spent as much time in the public eye as possible when separating from her marriage. Safest thing for her to do was call the paps for a pap call. Safest place for her to be was in plain sight as often as possible.
I’m going through the same situation with my wife. She filed two allegations. One with the court and one through my employer. However, I continually prayed despite her delaying tactics. And now my employer is stating to see her inconsistencies and confirmed that she is a narc. She’s retained a lawyer who’s not versed in family law and there coming with childish proposals that’s resulting in concentric spiraling aka toddler tantrum.
Is there any way to build financial incentive into the settlement? Some way to drain more money out of him, while he drags it out? Make him responsible for all the Income Taxes, somehow? Even if you can't really do it, if he THINKS you can do it, he'll fold. No one wants to fight the IRS.
Or can you make him think that somehow YOU are the one getting benefit from delaying the settlement? If he thinks that it makes you happy, he'll look for a way to stop it.
We have 2 beautiful children together but indeed I CAN SLAY THIS !
Dealing with the false allegations now. Haven't been able to have any contact with my twin daughters in 16 months. She seems to have a mixture of the covert and malignant with parental alienation.
I can Slay this... but I do need strength and the power. I don't want to live in fear anymore
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Went no contact when she left for 3 weeks I got tired of her mistreatment. Now everything is getting better for me
Wow thank you. I listened to you all the time. I'm learning so much. I always thought it was me doing wrong but now I realize that it's okay to be myself I do believe they do have a sickness in their head. How and why can someone do this to another person?
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A Narcissist will use you until 0 Is left and leave u in financial ruin..they are also very two faced,will do anything for self interest,and at the end you've gone through..Hell.😢
I can SLAY THEM!
I'm glad to be helping! What is one point that you want to start using today?
thats what I am doing is busting free its been 3 day now I am teary eyed today but giddy up girl :)
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I hope you are recovering and looking after your mental health,give yourself a big hug and be thankful you’ve escaped.❤❤❤
I realized I'm not a narcissist from watching her content....in fact it would be impossible because I don't even get supplied I get ignored 😂🤣
😂 Same bro
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Same, but well said by her I always focus on winning them lol, by ignoring their gaslight!
Same 😂
I can skat this … strategy, leverage, anticipate, focus on you !
Thanks ...my ex now and his new supply are both driving past my place at night every night....I had said to him I am no longer interested I really don't care who your with....he said he felt really bad....do I care nope...not sure why him and the new supply are stalking me...????
Same here elly everyday 24/7. I'm not jealous. I want nothing to do with narcs.
My mom, the narcissist, convinced a family friend (who has been a family friend for over 50 years), to stalk me. I was on to him immediately. I told him, yesterday, 4/29/2024, that he is to stop calling me and stop leaving voicemails. I then hung up on him. I don't trust anyone who is a friend of my mom. I've decided that I need to leave the state, so that I put as much distance between us as possible. I'll be honest ... I'm really freaked out by her actions. She has taken all of this to the next level and I don't like this one bit. I'm going to downsize my storage unit, save up my money and get as far from my mother as possible.
Drop your narc about Feb 3rd. They'll go apeshit trying to get you back, because they will think someone else has promised you a romantic Valentine's Date. You'll have the best Valentine's that you ever had out of them. But remember to drop them and keep them dropped.
And be prepared, because their retaliation will be over the top. You not only humiliated them and discarded them; you beat them at their own discard game.
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I am having an issue with a narcissist now but I Can Slay This!
You sure can!
if you don't want to be with someone, it is very childish to start putting labels on them and blaming them for all the relationship problems. Why don't you just get out of the relationship and stop trying to bring that person down a notch, I don't see what can be gained by that except some gleeful revenge or other disgusting selfish agenda.
Narcissist brought me down in life 🧬 that's only because I was comparing myself to them thinking there were great realizing they ain't nothing
I Can Slay This!🙌🏻💪🏻👍🏻
DEFINITELY 💯
Thank you, Rebecca! Very grateful to you!
Love that video. Thank you from germany !
You are so welcome! So what is something that brings you joy? ❤
I can play this. I can do this.
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LOOKING FORWARD TO READING SLAY THE BULLY
My God you had me laughing at "what attorney is giving out free advice?" hilarious video intro. Good on ya!
I can slay this! Thanks Rebecca ❤
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She said "I am sooooo sorry I hurt you. I NEVER MEANT to hurt you."
I stood firm. She meant to hurt me. She cannot admit it. "I accept you are sorry. You cannot admit it was intentional at the moment because of shame and guilt, and because RIGHT NOW you do not want to hurt me. You can tell yourself whatever it takes to get to sleep at night, but you meant to hurt me in that moment, and you are lying to me and to yourself, by saying it was an accident; you were not in control; it was never meant that way."
All of these statements absolve a person of responsibility and places guilt in a place it does not belong.
I SLAYed it.
Edit: She is NOT a narcissist. She has toxic defenses from childhood trauma. They are not the same.
I was wrong. Total narcissistic behaviours.
Yes she meant to hurt you and she meant to hurt you again. Glad you stuck up for yourself by not giving in to her manipulation. I know how hard that can be and you deserve much respect for being able to not give in.
Move on!THIS will shave years off your life..physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually!Leave them, they are their own karma!
I CANNNNN SLAY THIS!!!
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Saw her yesterday in the store not once but four times, if her looks could kill.... I refuse to engage and blocked everywhere. The way I see it she wasted a lot of time so I refuse to spend another second.
I can SLAY this!!
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I CAN SLAY THIS!!
TOTALLY! 💯
And you will slay this.
That's exactly what happened to me her mom acted all concerned and before I knew it the mom's husband, her daughter (wife), her (mom), and my wifes friends turned against me and literally took the kids away while the mom told everyone I was saving my daughter from the monster. Meanwhile I was lost as ever trying to figure out what happened and why is this happening. Then I went it to it's not true mode defending myself and trying to prove that I wasn't a monster but by then my wife was too far gone and I am now without seeing my daughter and it's been almost 4mths. I got a lawyer but I'm now 8k in with her and still no signs of me seeing my daughter.
I can slay this ❤💪🏼
Definitely! 💯 What is something you're grateful for?
I struggle with finding effective boundaries he won’t obliterate.
Your videos explaing narc abuse are very helpful and much appreciated. However the self promotion is too long on every video, perhaps a quick mention, that the link is in the video to the vorious books, which then opens the door to being straight to the point of the video.
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When my ex narc tried to contact me again via messenger I just ignored her and removed the message,I didnt even read her message, and because of that she blocked me,thats the level they are on🤣
They’re always blocking people like we care lol
Sounds like you are winning here to me. Good for you. She thinks she blocking you was her. Actually it was you. Boom. You win.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom and expertise!
✌❤🌎
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Hi Rebecca I have not long found your channel I’m glad I have I don’t really want to say this cause I usually have more respect for others even though what they have done anyway I was in a relationship with a woman we met in school we have had a on/off relationship we ended up having a child she has anxiety and depression and used to take medication anyway skip to when she found out she was pregnant I was worried and she was completely normal she then decided to say that my mother was abusing her and I’m leaving it’s either u stay or u come with me my family needed me as of health issues my mother said to me go be their for your child I reluctantly accepted I ended up going we had the baby and moved to her mothers until we got our own house her step father decided to kick us out and looked very jealous and I was doing fatherly things with he’s kids and that I has supposedly pushed his kid down the stairs me and my ex had finally got a house and moved in we ended up having our baby we then ended up leaving as she didn’t like what her mother was saying or helping in the way of our daughter so we ended up moving 6weeks after our daughter was born we ended up moving back to my mothers every thing was perfect then suddenly one day she left without me knowing everything seemed normal we never had fights or arguments and I didn’t know what happened she just suddenly left she went back to her parents so i decided to take her to family court to get to see our daughter she accused me of domestic violence and bashing our beautiful daughter she accused me of all this stuff that I can’t stand it took months for me to be able to get to see my daughter once I finally got to see her she wanted to come back I didn’t want her to come back I just wanted our daughter but I knew I wouldn’t get my daughter without her so I decided to let them both come back well we found out she was pregnant to some other guy she had a one night stand with she then proceeded to say he is a drug fked idiot and he doesn’t care about he’s other children so why should he get to see this one I regretfully left it at that and over the months I had seen multiple videos and started thinking about everything she said in general conversation she would blame everyone else for stuff they didn’t do and accuse them for things and say that they had never helped her but I know that’s not the truth she then would change her hair hair colour and appearance and post pictures all over social media platforms well over time she wanted to get back into a relationship but I just couldn’t I was still broken hurt angry at what she had accused me of doing and I still am my family all say I’m a nice person and can’t believe how much of a gentlemen I am and appreciate all the help I give them whenever I can and i appreciate everything they have done for me over time I have started to believe everything that I was accused of and that maybe I am not father material maybe I am just the pos she says I am I’m sorry this was is so long this is hard for me to write this I just want to know because when she doesn’t her her own way or people try to help her she throws it in their face then accuses them for not helping or for being abusive is she a narcissist as u say in most of your videos or is this person something else
That was a truly epic block of text Lincoln, not one misspelling or punctuation. 🤣 this girl might be a narc or a psychopath, sorry you went through that😔
she sounds toxic
She is a vampire
That's good idea to defeat the negative people only in this temporary world actually 💯
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"I CAN SLAY THIS!". Can you please explain when it feels like I always seem to always attract narcissistic people?
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We so appreciate you! Thank you. Xoxo
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And I have exposed my ex already
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"I CAN SLAY THIS"
It took 8 months after I left and decided on no contact. I finally realized the other day, that I have reached “indifference”, it’s when you come out on the other side after much pain and finally know you just don’t care anymore, it no longer effects you, yes finally indifference!!
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I’m in a horrifying situation. Been married 14 years to the meanest human I’ve ever met and I want out so bad but it’s like scrapping gum off your shoe. My health has deteriorated and my mind played with.
Always !!