20 Truths a Narcissist Will Hide From You/What a Narcissist Does Not Want You to Know

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  • @elizabethjimenez9729
    @elizabethjimenez9729 Рік тому +29

    They live double lives

    • @spiritualjourney8669
      @spiritualjourney8669 22 дні тому +1

      They live more than just doubled life’s but sometimes five or six different life’s.

  • @kittykat632
    @kittykat632 Рік тому +25

    These narcissist have become so good at lying to THEMSELVES that the struggle with their reality and when the do open up about this past its a control mechanism so that they can 1. Gain sympathy 2. Play the martyr 3. Try to control 4. Project wrong actions on you!

  • @brianwick8040
    @brianwick8040 Рік тому +126

    Success story: Your vids helped me assist someone in a relationship with a narc. Beyond helpful. Narcissism is a cancer on our society.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому +8

      So glad you found them helpful! Don't forget to hit like share and subscribe. Keep SLAYing!
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    • @triciachancey1955
      @triciachancey1955 Рік тому +3

      Rebecca thank you for these life giving videos. You have taught so many of us how to protect ourselves from additional abuse.

    • @WellFitFun
      @WellFitFun 9 місяців тому

      @brianwick8040 You are a 💯 right! Narcissism is a cancer on our society…the week I was forced to get a restraining order on my narcissistic to-be ex, I was diagnosed with cancer…the abuse is real.
      So happy you were able to help someone armed with the tools learned here. Gives me great hope for the future! Stay awesome! 🙌✨
      Huge thank you for the incredible content @rebeccazungesq 🥰🙏💖

  • @emptydog1109
    @emptydog1109 Рік тому +32

    It’s all about them hiding from themselves. That’s it. Everything grows from that.

    • @NehaSharma-wq9yc
      @NehaSharma-wq9yc 10 місяців тому +2

      Running from their trauma and pain wedged into their space since childhood. That's all .

  • @fun-vids6669
    @fun-vids6669 13 днів тому +2

    They will ruin your life completely!

  • @TrustJesus333
    @TrustJesus333 Рік тому +9

    They were not all traumatized as a child. Some just deeply and thoroughly love evil and to murder the souls (mind, will, emotions) of
    specific chosen others, as they project a wonderful facade to most. They LOVE to hurt others.

  • @kristilindley7849
    @kristilindley7849 2 місяці тому +6

    I believe that the reason narcissists never apologize for anything, is because they are enjoying the hurt they gave us, and to apologize would make us not feel as hurt so badly...AND THEY WANT US TO HURT! An apology ruins the whole harm they secretly intended, or even if they didn't actually intend for something negative to happen, and it did, then that's their private little enjoyment they're getting, seeing something negative has occurred to us. They are over there, just laughing up their sleeve, and any apology would ruin that secret satisfaction.

    • @c.j.7226
      @c.j.7226 11 днів тому

      You are exactly right. They enjoy hurting others on purpose, matter of fact, they go out of their way to hurt us for their own enjoyment.
      How would I know this?
      Last summer I was at a narcissistic/toxic/abusive friend's house for a little get together. It was just the two of us and our husbands there. I don't drink alcohol but the said friend does and after about 7 shots, she tells me in the most giddy, fun fun, hilarious manner that she had told her husband earlier in the day that if I did not accept her invitation to come over that evening, that she was going to punish me by giving me the silent treatment for a week. She laughed herself silly during and after telling me this.
      Needless to say, I've been no contact with her after that.

    • @kristilindley7849
      @kristilindley7849 9 днів тому

      @@c.j.7226 Good for you! She doesn't seem like any "friend" to begin with...so you really weren't ending any actual friendship anyway. After we get to know someone and discover how toxic they truly are, it's only healthy to drop these drips. Life it too short, and it's better to make room for those who do meet the description of "friend" than waste time being miserable for no reason other than not knowing how to escape from these poisonous individuals.

  • @deepmaven8773
    @deepmaven8773 Рік тому +24

    If you like to be generous, playful and silly make sure you chose a partner with similar qualities.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому

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  • @Shut-up-Shelly
    @Shut-up-Shelly Рік тому +77

    Yes they are MAJOR FAKERS!!!! Thank you Rebecca!!!! Always great tips and words of knowledge!!! Knowledge is power over these disgusting creatures!!!

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому +4

      So glad you found them helpful! Don't forget to hit like share and subscribe. Keep SLAYing!

  • @janetwestbrook3245
    @janetwestbrook3245 Рік тому +3

    Demons, demons, demons are what i call them!!!

  • @Fashionplate
    @Fashionplate Рік тому +3

    Fakers, Fakers!

  • @ce9111
    @ce9111 Рік тому +13

    I'm walking away from my covert narcissist wife today after 4 years with your help. Thank you!!!!

    • @rgrateful
      @rgrateful Рік тому +1

      Wooo hoooo🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @calvarado1520
    @calvarado1520 Рік тому +6

    Narcissists are just mentally damaged people who will never be normal…….you must leave a narcissist as soon as you’re able to, you must not be afraid of them, you should document/record everything in case you end up in court, you must expose them for what they really are and you must have no mercy on them whatsoever because they will destroy you in a heartbeat without thinking twice. ✊

  • @pattypohlit7803
    @pattypohlit7803 Рік тому +16

    He has triggered PTSD pretty bad in me!
    A real eye-opener

  • @stacigeenen712
    @stacigeenen712 Рік тому +4

    Well I'm not with this guy anymore.
    I am SO GLAD that he caused me to walk away from him. It was a blessing. Now I'm able to move on with more healthy relationships. Praise God 😇😀❣️

  • @lc4972
    @lc4972 Рік тому +16

    Mine said everyone has secrets. After I caught him cheating. I didn't have secrets. I'm a Scorpio, you better believe after that I definitely had some secrets. I figured that I better get me some. Then I left. I'm in a good relationship now. No need for secrets. So again, don't have secrets. But I can in a heartbeat, if that's the dynamic he brings into it at some point! And you better believe if that happens, I will leave!!!

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому +2

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  • @recoveringsoul755
    @recoveringsoul755 Рік тому +92

    So when I was accused of being homosexual, that was a confession of what they are? Makes so much sense. Explains a lot of past behaviors

    • @reneepierce569
      @reneepierce569 Рік тому +10

      I don’t think she meant that literally. If someone accuses you of being gay doesn’t mean they’re gay! It just means they’re an idiot who trying really hard to anger you! On the other hand, some people, whether narcissistic or not, will often accuse you of cheating on them. Then you find out they’ve been the one cheating! So please don’t misunderstand the meaning and start spreading rumors that the other person is gay because that’s what you think Rebecca was saying. That’s a slippery slope that could land you in a ton of trouble! 🤷‍♀️

    • @elizabethjimenez9729
      @elizabethjimenez9729 Рік тому +16

      @@reneepierce569 dealing with a narcissist is a slippery slope all in its own....yes "projection" is truth they speak about themselves

    • @johnsonjames702
      @johnsonjames702 Рік тому +1

      I want to appreciate those that
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    • @recoveringsoul755
      @recoveringsoul755 Рік тому +1

      @@johnsonjames702 what?

    • @recoveringsoul755
      @recoveringsoul755 Рік тому +1

      @@reneepierce569 he also constantly accused me of cheating, threatened to have me followed!!! And accusing of stealing money. All things he did. Hopefully not the following part. But I did tell him to do a background check on that person and install cameras in the house because nothing was going on.

  • @wendyhebert8022
    @wendyhebert8022 Рік тому +11

    Its all crazy to how many demons they fight daily.. instead of just want to have empathy..I wanna know why they cant just date strippers only...

    • @Anna-ic5pt
      @Anna-ic5pt Рік тому +1

      My ex narc married 3 strippers. I am not a stripper. 😂

  • @cindyneilson3738
    @cindyneilson3738 Рік тому +30

    All of those features are classic symptoms of narcissism. After 15+ years and a divorce I finally see my ex in a different light. For all the hype and bravado, he’s really just a scared little boy. It’s very sad because it’s as though narcissists are forfeiting their true selves for some hologram. It’s also sad because there’s usually little, if anything, that can bring about any change or awareness in their lives so that their fate is sealed. Very sad indeed.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому

      So glad you found them helpful! Keep Slaying!
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    • @hawaiigirl8089
      @hawaiigirl8089 11 місяців тому

      They ARE symptoms of a mental disorder

  • @palapalak.8907
    @palapalak.8907 Рік тому +3

    Boy you are not kidding!!!! 2 selves. Thats it in a nutshell.
    I just ended a relationship with a nutcase narcissist. OMG, what hell. Nothing but LIES. I work out 2 hours daily to get Past this crap. Freedom now!

  • @SindriKr
    @SindriKr Рік тому +10

    I think when they lie about unnecessary things, they are still doing it for a reason though it seems unnecessary. Anything that keeps others away from reality in someway will make them more receptive to their deception in any way. They want others to accept their imaginary world.

    • @SindriKr
      @SindriKr Рік тому +3

      And they are always "correcting" others, and judging.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому

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  • @helenwoodward2690
    @helenwoodward2690 Рік тому +8

    I’m trying to deal with an alcoholic narcissist…it’s an enormous challenge.

    • @bikergirl900
      @bikergirl900 Рік тому +1

      Your best bet H.W. is not to "deal" with the alcoholic narcissistic, but to leave and don't look back. TRUST ME (speaking from experience). Yes, leaving will hurt at first BUT trust you will be much happier and stronger without them!

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому

      How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪
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    • @kimberleyi9907
      @kimberleyi9907 11 місяців тому +2

      Yes, it's a double whammy when they are alcoholics too!

  • @mjsinger1944
    @mjsinger1944 Рік тому +7

    Any one else seen the black eyes of the narcissist? Evil incarnate!! That is when I was totally done. He is now an ex.

  • @StephanieBarkley-xc1vc
    @StephanieBarkley-xc1vc Рік тому +2

    Fakers Fakers Fakers. I'm listening to you.

  • @crystalmckinney3151
    @crystalmckinney3151 Рік тому +5

    They are as dangerous as an addict as well. Addicted to their ways and if they get disruption it can become critical and deadly towards you.

  • @Bianca-sw5id
    @Bianca-sw5id Рік тому +16

    Rebecca 🥰 , they struggle to look you in the eyes when speaking the truth because they are busy doing something else when lying to you

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  8 місяців тому

      Stay strong! ❤
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  • @drjovanmusic2892
    @drjovanmusic2892 Рік тому +5

    TRICKSTERS, FAKERS AND DEMONS IN DISGUISE!!!

  • @ernestthompson891
    @ernestthompson891 Рік тому +7

    FAKERS! Amazingly Fake. Thank you again Rebecca. You truly shine a bright light of understanding on what is really happening when dealing with these people.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому

      How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪
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  • @boipelomagdelinemojadife814
    @boipelomagdelinemojadife814 Рік тому +7

    'FAKERS'

  • @carolconlogue3537
    @carolconlogue3537 Рік тому +3

    I get tired of hearing "as a child they were traumatized", blaming parents. I came out of 20 years of therapy in which my doctors deemed "catastrophic child abuse". Why did I not grow up to be a narcissistic person? From my experience I believe people make their own choices because they want to. There is no invisible parent twisting their arm.

    • @TrustJesus333
      @TrustJesus333 Рік тому +1

      I absolutely agree with you.

    • @sovereignsister
      @sovereignsister 11 місяців тому

      I agree. They choose to hide inside themselves but in doing so they are giving themselves over to demonic spirits that direct their actions and words. Their brains are different and if you stay with one long enough your brain will change like theirs too. That's why your health takes a toll from being with them. It's all about the limbic system in the brain - which is the seat of aggression and fear. Empaths beware. Being with them shrinks the part of the brain associated with empathy. They are not fully human.

  • @charlottepembroke5446
    @charlottepembroke5446 Рік тому +11

    The narcissist I knew came from a nice middle class family - but he wanted to create this illusion that he was an aristocrat - so he led everyone to believe he was titled and from a very upper class background, he was unbelievably snobbish and superior - when I think about it now I can see it was all about shame.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому

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  • @ciachef14
    @ciachef14 Рік тому +14

    Demons from Hell 👿

    • @susanmoore8074
      @susanmoore8074 Рік тому

      My husband is dealing with his ex wife who’s definitely a narcissist and we just found out that the son he’s cherished for 11 years isn’t his biological son, we discovered this as we are getting ready to go to court for full custody. I have told my husband I’ll support any decision that he makes, of course being his son’s stepmom I’m attached to him and it broke my heart to see my husband find out that (he doesn’t want to end his relationship with his son regardless of biology). My husband is definitely a empath and he’s definitely a great father and husband. I pray that his ex wife is exposed for all the games and lies. It’s truly sad.

  • @michellemrozinski5893
    @michellemrozinski5893 Рік тому +3

    "...the scared child inside" not "the little self"

  • @T4me69
    @T4me69 Рік тому +50

    Thank you Rebecca, I was in a bad, toxic, nasty relationship for 8 years and you have opened my eyes to all that I seen before but had blinders on. Now I am away from that toxic mess and can see much clearer now. Thank you so much for these videos you have helped me alot.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому +3

      So glad you found them helpful! Don't forget to hit like, share, and subscribe. Keep SLAYing!
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    • @MsSusan1957
      @MsSusan1957 Рік тому +4

      Rebecca is helping so many people !!!!

    • @AbubakarSeif
      @AbubakarSeif Рік тому +1

      I feel you..

    • @jackilynpyzocha662
      @jackilynpyzocha662 5 місяців тому +1

      My dad claimed he was a great "communicator" when I was 12 1/2. He's a dictator; always has been, will be. I am 59 now.

  • @SuperMoebetta
    @SuperMoebetta 5 днів тому +1

    FAKERS!
    Thank you for the empowerment you're videos have given my life.

  • @CLHS1944
    @CLHS1944 Рік тому +6

    The ex a covert narcissist hid these 12 and more! SMH! NAMAslay!

  • @tinapearson8753
    @tinapearson8753 Рік тому +7

    My mother is a covert narsissist it been the worst that's ever happened to me in my LIFE ! and all these are true !

  • @lindaeskridge9501
    @lindaeskridge9501 Рік тому +20

    Well I’m so glad to learn of narcissism and empaths. I am an empath. I feel other peoples pain to the point that I feel it physically. I also can see into a situation and people and I’m always surprised when other people can’t. I now know that I have attracted narcissists all my life. I don’t like being an empath because it hurts me. My stomach is a wreck. I’ve been called sappy, but I can’t help it. Now I know the situation with narcissists I feel armed and ready to stand tall. Since I attract narcissists my life at 77 years is full of them, but I’ve learned how to handle them. My daughter hasn’t spoken to me since Mother’s Day. I love her dearly, but now that I know what is driving her I can relax. My first husband, my daughter, my grandson, my sister in law and a friend are all narcissist. My best plan is to stay away from them and let my own valuable emotions and my stomach heal. God bless you in your work.

    • @JohnWayne-86ed
      @JohnWayne-86ed Рік тому

      It doesn't really matter how close (family or not) a person is, or if they're even really a narcissist, if they're toxic they have to be cut out of your life for your own well-being, that being said, it seems unlikely that all the people you listed would be actual narcissists, probably just toxic people with some narcissistic traits. I think the word you're thinking of is "sympathy"... its when you experience the emotions of others, "empathy" is the ability to understand and relate to a person's experience without the emotional experience, so you could say you're a "sympath", but I'd just call it being a normal healthy human.

    • @edscot9986
      @edscot9986 Рік тому

      My God!! Me too!! Is it possible we attract them so we can change ourselves or even, be the mirror for them to see themselves in order to change themselves??

    • @JohnWayne-86ed
      @JohnWayne-86ed Рік тому

      @@edscot9986 Its not that deep lol. Narcissists lack insight and self awareness because they don't have a "self", so they can't see themselves or change. They're attracted to people who are codependents... aka an easy mark, both are opposite sides of the same coin... the narcissist is also a codependent personality... a toxic one.

    • @Staranaise
      @Staranaise 11 місяців тому

      Hi! Fellow empath here. You can learn to block. I picture a glass silo around me, ground myself, take a minute and I'm ready. You can Google all about it. How to hone it, embrace it and also your intuition.
      It's a blessing and a curse but with blocking and grounding it's more blessing. Take care ❤

  • @ACA-kb2vf
    @ACA-kb2vf Рік тому +7

    Dr. Jekyll & Mr.Hyde

  • @kristinewinship2065
    @kristinewinship2065 Рік тому +5

    "Fakers!"

  • @hhsg11
    @hhsg11 Рік тому +7

    Secrets…yes. I had to tell a couple of neighbours what was going on as he was starting to scare me and he was raging mad about it. He was having a rant saying no one should have known about HIM…….not that no one should have known about US, that one word said it all. He was ok with telling his harem and his son about what was happening as all his calls were put on speakerphone while he was bad mouthing me (it was over by then but I was still in our house until he had got the money to buy me out, which was 3 months), he just didn’t want people close by to know, of course they would have heard me telling him to get out of my bedroom which he barged into day and night without knocking so he could mouth off or intimidate and harass me. By the time I left 9 weeks ago he had already started the smear campaign saying it was me who was the problem, just like he told me his 3 ex wives and long string of ex girls friends were the problem.

  • @doreenhelena3714
    @doreenhelena3714 Рік тому +4

    Do these narcs attempt suicide? My mother in law show all these behaviours. Currently she is living with my husband and myself. It's been a year that she is under my roof, she verbally abuses me, then tells my husband (her son) I verbally attacked her, or that I have hit her. She has attempted suicide s few times since I have know her. What really makes me furious is that my husband does not see through all her lies , it's come to a point where I am ready to leave the house and go and stay with my son. She sleeps with a large kitchen knife under her pillow and has told me that she's not done with me. My husband does not take her serious

  • @tims9434
    @tims9434 Рік тому +15

    I met an old narcissist I'd blocked a few months ago last week and he's just like all 20 of these.....so much worse than my ex. Demonstrated a lot of these in the few hours I was with them. Its amazing how someone can have all 20.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому

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  • @deedrathelibra
    @deedrathelibra 3 місяці тому +2

    Your vids have helped me stay no contact with the narcissist.

  • @MsSusan1957
    @MsSusan1957 Рік тому +34

    Everything you have in your videos are SPOT on. I was married to one for 32 long years. I tried so hard to make a marriage successful. But impossible to live with all the lies projecting and reflecting. Thank you so much Rebecca. I would love to make an appointment with you. Sad thing is my son has turned into his same manners of his father. I am heart broken to have divorced both husband and son.

    • @MsSusan1957
      @MsSusan1957 Рік тому

      Exactly. FAKE and FRAUD.

    • @LION-on4gd
      @LION-on4gd Рік тому +3

      So sorry for You❣️Father and oldest brother the same.. to the only daughter sister in the middle..empath lovely Mother passed away...then they hurted me a lot..much more than before! No more protection of my mother...older brother and his wife no siblings parents passed away she is also a narcissist!! Then they manipulated father and he went on their side..anyway he is the first narcissist...
      don't want to see them anymore ..Mother and me the beautiful ones..they can stay in their own mud!!

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому +1

      Sorry to hear what you've been through. You got this! Keep SLAYing!
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    • @earlinesblack1361
      @earlinesblack1361 Рік тому

      Baby GET Your peace,it’s WORTH more than you think,and GOD bless you you deserve so much more Amen 🙏

  • @c.s.s.1723
    @c.s.s.1723 Рік тому +12

    Future faking. That was something I experienced but did not know it was a
    “thing”…..I remember hearing all of these things she said she was going to help me with, and to me, I was just wondering how she was ever going to have the time. It sounded crazy, and at the same time she would tell me about things she wanted help with. So bizarre.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  8 місяців тому +1

      How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪
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    • @c.s.s.1723
      @c.s.s.1723 8 місяців тому

      @@RebeccaZungEsq I am doing pretty well now. After six months of working though and processing what happened, I am able to put the entire experience behind me and move on. It does take time and I do think I am a different person. Thank you for your help and kindness. It really means a lot.⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

  • @suejohnson535
    @suejohnson535 Рік тому +13

    FAKERS !!!! Thank you Rebecca for you being here with all your videos & everyone comments here. I hoped you & everyone here to have a beautiful wonderful blessed 🙏 day.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому +1

      So glad you found them helpful! You got this! Keep SLAYing!

  • @asalmela1533
    @asalmela1533 Рік тому +6

    Will a narc ever discard you before they have another source? I am suddenly out of the blue for no reason getting the silent treatment, it’s been going on 2 weeks today. Not one word. He does contact my next door neighbor and asks her about me. I asked him to watch the dog when I go away he didn’t respond but he asked my neighbor if I really need help with the dog. It’s his dog too.
    I’m just wondering if I’m getting silent treatment because he has a new supply? It’s such low behavior it’s hard to believe a person can be so low. His behavior in so many ways, is exactly like the text books define NPD. It took over 2 years for him to start showing it. I’m so hurt I loved him with all my heart. And I guess this means he never loves me at all.

    • @marinaki806
      @marinaki806 Рік тому +2

      Exactly what happened to me when some of his lies were revealed and I finally woke up. I got the silent treatment,then ghosting and yes he had found another supply. I know it's harsh when all you did was to love them unconditionally. Hold on and be strong, we survived..

  • @hhsg11
    @hhsg11 Рік тому +8

    Number 14….their true capabilities. During one of his rages when he threatened me, he said that he would be horrible as he’s very good at it and will make me F’ing Suffer. I had started voice recording him 6 weeks or so earlier as he was starting to get nasty and this particular day was when I told him it was over for good, I said that no man had ever threatened me in my life and I wasn’t putting up with him doing it. I saw the red mist come over him and knew for my safety I had to end it and get out. It took him 3 months to raise a mortgage and get the rest of the money to buy me out of a house we had only bought 3 months earlier. He used me to help him up the property ladder to a lovely house with the full intent that he was going to have it for himself without me in it. The last 12 weeks were hell but I’m out now and glad to be rid of him at last.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  8 місяців тому +1

      Stay strong! ❤
      Join me in my free webinar - icanslay.com

  • @michellemybell4606
    @michellemybell4606 Рік тому +5

    This is my mom all day everyday. In the eyes of the public & the few friends she has left, it is top priority for her to make them think that she's "loved by everyone," everyone needs & depends on her friendship, she's delicate & would give the shirt off her back.... which she will, depending on WHO she's trying to impress. But receiving that shirt if hers secretly comes with a hefty price tag..... these same people she's trying to impress have NO IDEA

  • @dk5755
    @dk5755 9 днів тому

    An honest person doesn’t need to tell you they’re honest. A smart person doesn’t need to tell you they’re smart. A rich person doesn’t need to tell you they’re rich. During discard - a lion doesn’t need to tell you it’s a lion.

  • @MENTALHEALTHWITHLUKE
    @MENTALHEALTHWITHLUKE День тому

    You say they want to hide their true self, but my experience tells me different. They do open up with their inner thoughts. I won't go into detail cause it's wrong, but they do at times share with you.
    That's what made it all the more difficult for me to accept.
    The blame game is hard to live with. The projection is painful.
    Hating themselves - again my experience is a liittle difffrrent. My ex did on occasion say that to me.
    After a couple months of going through all the emotions, and now trying to get on with my life, i find it all sad.
    Sad for the unnecessary pain thats been caused. Sad at the mess of the after affects. Sad that someone has the ability to treat someone else like that. Sad that there's another person lying in wait. And most importantly for me, I'm sad that there's not more out there to help them. Yes, i hear loud and clear that they may not deserve it, but, i dont wish them harm or ill health. I wish them to see, recognise, and seek the correct help. 2024, there's so much more available. I know it's down to the individual to want it.
    We get told not to let them know that we know, but that don't wash with me. I'll let you know every time, consequences or not. It's my duty to call you out. What you do with that is down to you. I've done my bit, now do yours.
    Right or wrong, just my opinion.

  • @Soralella71
    @Soralella71 9 місяців тому +2

    I was raised by one and my sibling is one as well. Obviously, I now have mental health issues, but I know everything about them. I could literally write a book. The best thing to do is no contact.

  • @Bianca-sw5id
    @Bianca-sw5id Рік тому +2

    There's no cure for them because they are too stuck occupying themselves with something

  • @hawaiigirl8089
    @hawaiigirl8089 11 місяців тому +1

    Yessss for years my Ex. Narc was Mr. Charming at public places. Church, work events etc. I used to think, that’s the wonderful man I married. But on the way home from a party, event etc he started his pouty brat, hissy fit - he’d pick a fight in the car on the way home 🏡

  • @emptydog1109
    @emptydog1109 Рік тому +3

    All right, Rebecca, four minutes into this I’m making a comment. My ex would like about anything. She never developed conversation skills skills, back to childhood. They lie and they do all these things they do and they’re so good at it because he been doing it since they were five years old. It’s the thing is he practiced in practice, and practiced more than anything in their life, getting their way at all cost and avoiding true interpersonal relationships and everything it takes to make one flourish and be successful, or even divorce with integrity and honesty. It just ain’t gonna happen with these.
    People

  • @Natalie-lf7hb
    @Natalie-lf7hb 10 місяців тому +1

    They hide...
    Lies
    Lies and more
    Lies.
    Does it even matter what about? Or maybe we should look at what "not" about, to get things clear.

  • @pauljones2510
    @pauljones2510 Рік тому +7

    My ex, a brother, a sister, and a son are Narcissists. I didn't realize my ex was a narc until two years after she left. However, about two years before she left, I quit trying to make her happy -- our married headed sharply downhill from there. So very glad she's gone.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому

      How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪
      This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/

  • @fffrfrw
    @fffrfrw Рік тому +5

    My ex narc partner was hiding from me she was Hepatitis-C positive

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому +1

      You got this! Keep SLAYing!
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  • @brandondawson9049
    @brandondawson9049 4 місяці тому +1

    This woman.. is amazing I have never heard a more accurate and easy to understood explanation.. I never could understand I could never get anywhere with these type of people no matter how much I tryed to listen or be there ..

  • @ferdinandmanalac
    @ferdinandmanalac Рік тому +3

    You really dont know how you are saving me.

  • @daynagarrett8392
    @daynagarrett8392 Рік тому +1

    These narcissists call YOU the narcissist!!

  • @hawaiigirl8089
    @hawaiigirl8089 11 місяців тому +1

    Yup 👍 the CRAZY INSIDE THEM, is definitely a lot to hide 🙈

  • @lori3978
    @lori3978 Рік тому +6

    Thank you for this information you share. Really it is helpful.
    I have a small business and got my first charge back. This guy is a pice of work. I’m being charged for trust passing and theft.
    I was there by his request to bring him another set of signs. He didn’t know that I knew what he did. When I got there not only was he using the signs he said was sub standard but he cut the set of magnets but they were in his trailer.
    I got out of the vehicle and walked up to the trailer and took the magnets and said you can’t have it both ways. You can’t use the signs cut them up and use them as well as do a charge back. I paid the charge back I was on the property by request and I got charged with the crime.
    So far it has cost me a thousand dollars to obtain an attorney,court is coming up and I will not go down as a the charges read.
    Nope! Not having it.
    Faker, fakers fakers

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому +1

      So glad you found them helpful! Keep Slaying!
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    • @lori3978
      @lori3978 Рік тому

      @@RebeccaZungEsq How could I not? Keeping me focused and informed.
      Thank you for sharing your skills.
      Lori

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому +1

      So glad you found them helpful! Don't forget to hit like,share, and subscribe. Keep SLAYing!
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  • @MrJoebn3
    @MrJoebn3 Рік тому +1

    Fakers gonna fake.

  • @sweetie8207
    @sweetie8207 Рік тому +2

    How i wish there'd been t'internet years ago... too late for me after a toxic 40yr marriage when I was led to believe problems were my fault...😕

  • @truebeliever3948
    @truebeliever3948 Рік тому +1

    It's my daughter in law, I'm her food, she feeds on me , my husband and my son( her hubby)
    I was very nice to her coz I didn't know she was a narc.
    After having her 1st baby boy she changed and made my son against me.
    Ppl tell me let her go but my husband wants his son to be withhim😢

  • @AugustusTiberius-tq1gw
    @AugustusTiberius-tq1gw 22 дні тому

    After a few years together, my X left me for a rebound guy. My X posted her new supply guy on Facebook together. I was told by a good friend. That she said, "He is a nice guy." LOL. After my reset. I never felt better. Her family member said to me. She will never find another caring and committed person like me.

  • @JohnHunter-kg8et
    @JohnHunter-kg8et 10 місяців тому +1

    Perfect descriptions of these vile monsters.

  • @rllght
    @rllght Рік тому +25

    Happy Lunar New Year Ms. Zung if you celebrate this occasion. After 2 years of learning about everything narcissism on your channel, I feel like 2023 is going to be a lot at ease and less confined by grudge and resentment for me personally. I still have a lot to learn till I reach the state of not reacting when hearing the names of my toxic abusers, and even more to cover if I want to keep my cool in the case of meeting them again. It surely is a very very slow healing process of tons of baby steps. But I definitely feel that a positive result is coming near.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому

      Sorry to hear what you've been through. You got this! Keep SLAYing!
      Please check this out for extra support - icanslay.com/

  • @triptripity1587
    @triptripity1587 Рік тому +8

    I write down notes and put it everywhere to keep me safe and sane. And for the FAKERS!! as a extra pointer i have added *my gut feeling cant lie, I feel it and dont allow my past gaslight my present truth* thank you Rebecca, you saved me and many others 💐

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  Рік тому +2

      So glad you found them helpful! Don't forget to hit like,share, and subscribe. Keep SLAYing!

    • @philipzanoni
      @philipzanoni Рік тому +2

      I ignored my intuition for years. Til i was almost destriyed. My self image, my seld esteem, my ability to give or receive love again.
      My wallet. I mean i hate him.

  • @vincentluna5266
    @vincentluna5266 Рік тому

    Thank you 🙏🏼 Rebecca

  • @sueschaecher727
    @sueschaecher727 8 місяців тому

    💯!!! I’m finally understanding this! 🙌🏻

  • @traceyjones9049
    @traceyjones9049 Рік тому

    Thank you this helps me a lot

  • @candidavasser4399
    @candidavasser4399 9 місяців тому

    This is spot on

  • @sueschaecher727
    @sueschaecher727 8 місяців тому

    THANK YOU! 🎉

  • @rebeccablakey2637
    @rebeccablakey2637 Рік тому +11

    Thank you Rebecca for helping me to educate myself about Narcissist personality Disorder. Unfortunately my family meet a man who was a narcissist who abuses his position and authority. I listened very carefully to you in regards to going to court, how to document proof and what to expect when you do go to court with a narcissist. Very soon my family will be in a civil court case with a narcissist who has ran for the hills hence his employer will be in court. I documented all contact and have written proof which according to our lawyer is amazing evidence for the case . We will more than likely win this civil case because of these written words. I honestly feel very prepared and ready to deal with this mess. I greatly appreciate your words of wisdom and expertise.

    • @NehaSharma-wq9yc
      @NehaSharma-wq9yc 10 місяців тому

      Doing great with the details , precision and accuracy. Logic and rationality is best defence against narcissists

  • @markshaver3138
    @markshaver3138 Місяць тому

    I asked my narc what does she do for me? She said.."i give you my time."😂😂😂😂

  • @reginaldharris5961
    @reginaldharris5961 9 місяців тому

    A lot of great information

  • @joejagatic9629
    @joejagatic9629 9 місяців тому

    Always awesome.

  • @spikebloodworth1
    @spikebloodworth1 Рік тому

    on target. thank you!

  • @morningglory3681
    @morningglory3681 Рік тому

    I have zero to offer them. Absolutely nothing that they could imagine I have to offer.

  • @denispavlovic8911
    @denispavlovic8911 11 місяців тому +1

    Very accurate and educational! Love it.👌❤️

  • @lesterstone8595
    @lesterstone8595 Рік тому +2

    Great message! I will re-watch and re-watch this. Thanks. 🙏

  • @ElizzzaB
    @ElizzzaB Рік тому

    Very good points and explanation.

  • @ferdinandmanalac
    @ferdinandmanalac Рік тому +1

    Thank you so muchhhhh. For opening my eyes

  • @donnahallback3636
    @donnahallback3636 10 місяців тому +1

    Great information.. Thanks for sharing.

  • @user-rd3me1dc3i
    @user-rd3me1dc3i 7 місяців тому

    5 years 4 years of researching psychopathy, sociology, narcissism I figured her out and I can't leave her I gave her my word. I need help saving us 5th discard.

  • @erniescheil3502
    @erniescheil3502 Рік тому +3

    Thank you for all you do! Damn! What I just experienced for the past 6 1/2 years. No connection to her. Except that she is the manager of the building I live in and is right below me. The kicker is that she conned the owner of a small 15 unit apt. building to the extent that he has become one of her 'flying monkeys"'! And now for my own sanity I have to move, and being on a fixed income , having the best unit, the best view, no winter heat bill, with cable and internet included has got me into my first ever
    panic attack last week.

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  8 місяців тому

      How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪
      This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/

  • @robinhowell2130
    @robinhowell2130 Рік тому +1

    Fakers, Fakers, Fakers

  • @mariomallet1824
    @mariomallet1824 Рік тому

    Soooooo valuable.
    Thank you 💖

  • @DidiyogasalsastudioTM
    @DidiyogasalsastudioTM Рік тому +2

    Awesome Rebecca ❤

  • @vivenciogeorgetorres1720
    @vivenciogeorgetorres1720 Рік тому +2

    YOU NAILED IT! 👍

  • @laripope7660
    @laripope7660 Рік тому +5

    I have a descriptive term for the narcissist whom I'm involved with..".Angler"
    Everything that this person does is angled to how he can benefit. If he does something "for me", there's always something , SOMETHING" in it for him. Or he's feigning interest in me, wanting to know about my past or whatever, that's also a ruse, it's information gathering to be used at some later date

  • @treytucker5619
    @treytucker5619 Рік тому +1

    Spot on 😢

  • @jackilynpyzocha662
    @jackilynpyzocha662 4 місяці тому

    I will paraphrase the "take this job and shove it" to narcissist's insistence that everything be their way or the highway.

  • @bradstewart2206
    @bradstewart2206 11 місяців тому

    Thank You for sharing ! Very very educational and I find this to factually correct ! Thank You !

    • @RebeccaZungEsq
      @RebeccaZungEsq  8 місяців тому

      How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪
      This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/

  • @user-hs7zx1oy3q
    @user-hs7zx1oy3q 4 місяці тому

    I accept your knowledge

  • @isabelolsson1890
    @isabelolsson1890 Рік тому

    ❤❤❤ thanks so much for the excellent video 😊

  • @beatpeace451
    @beatpeace451 8 місяців тому

    I wanted to have a conversation about how I was being treated and requiring proper communication, turned into a word salad backed with a tantrum on how I don't care. First time I saw some rage included and I realize it could get bad.