@@RebeccaZungEsq not sure if I mentioned it already but I'm doing lisa romano program, but your advice on words that shut down the narssisist helped when my brother threatened to kill me. Thank you rebecca zung.
Could you make a video about cowardly people who see what narcissist is doing but don’t standup for themselves and don’t help other victims of abuse? People who let bullies act undisturbed
@@freedomrings2830 So sorry to hear that 😢 My health has steadily been declining as well, and I know a lot is from this abuse. Days I’m away from him, it’s so much more peaceful. I just worry about my 12 year old if I tell him to go. Because he’s extremely unstable. No telling if he would hurt our child, to hurt me. That’s what scares me more than him, doing anything to me. And that child loves him more than he even knows. So sad, and so hard at the same time 🤦♀️
I moved, blocked him from my phone/email, then permanently deleted all my social media accounts. I am in therapy focusing on myself, working on the person I want to be. It's really nice.
This gives me hope❤ I did the same, deleted my social media, blocked email etc. I didn't change my number so I do hear from random telephone numbers but still no contact has helped bc my intentions were never understood 🙏🏽
@Gemma Dann Do it. Move to a place where you love the weather most of the year, somewhere that has adventures youll love with in driving walking or biking distances. Make new friends and find a therapist you can feel comfortable opening up to. Build yourself one heck of a support group that you can lean on each other when the road gets a little rough. You are capable of anything! You want it? Go get it!
@Gemma Dann Yes! Go live your life to its fullest be free happy and loved. Shine big and bright like the north star in the sky and take no shit from anyone. I think of narcissistic people like a projector in school and every nasty, negative comment or remark they make is just them laying down their lesson of insecurities for the day and its all about them like most of the time. We are the teach standing out in front of the class with writing or graphs projected all over them. The Narcissist turns the projector off and on all day long when every they feel threatened, scared, fearful and angry.
@@RebeccaZungEsq that's why we need advocates like you who have survived, gone through it, identified it and KNOW how to handle their bull$@:#. Thank you Rebecca- I SEE YOU THRIVING!!and FLOURISHING🌿🌿🌿🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽and it is so refreshing and encouraging and infectious in a good way to the rest of us who too, are growing and coming out of the fuselage of narcissistic abuse.
I first read of this idea in a book about pop culture i forget the name of it. Ever since I read it though I've really struggled with it. Have you never met a couple that seemed so in love that these power dynamics weren't playing out between them? Albeit rare, I do believe it exists and I think those are the marriages that last a lifetime. One could argue, "you don't want to believe in this bc you're the one without power in your relationship and you don't want to see it." Thats a fair argument but I think its possible for the power to shift back and forth depending on the issue and how passionate you are about the issue. If your a good partner and you see your partner is digging their heels in on an issue, maybe their actually right or maybe it's not worth it at the time to argue about it. But if your partner is never willing to do the same for you then yeah, you're probably the one without power.
It all ends when you start to put yourself first and be good to yourself . Loving you is the best way to live. Go no contact. Your best friend is yourself. Enjoy being you and who you really want to be.
Arguing what? What is there to argue? I don’t know about your circumstance but in mind, the argument is insanity. I’m just entering into some insanity and I’m trying to defend myself against pure rage….You’ve entered their delusional rage world. And really, isn’t it supposed to be painful to be in a zero sum game? To be involved in a circumstance where you’re always going to lose? And I’m not talking about winning and losing, I’m talking about losing your soul
I am currently using silence to protect myself against slander, abuse, smearing and control. I am starting to feel good in myself and my life has become very peaceful. My ex is sending indirect messages on social media to say that I should be the one reaching out to contact them. After 3 years of my loyalty kindness and compassion, I have had to endure physiological abuse, my belongings going missing, sentimental photos destroyed, misplacing of my belongings, stealing my money, bank cards, driving license, friends gifts and then finally being devalued and discarded. It is the worst feeling in the world. Trying to get my head around it has been very difficult. But am receiving help from your videos. So thank you for this!!
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No contact/ ghosting your narcissist is the best thing to do. I just left my ex narcissist boyfriend two weeks ago. The best decision I ever done in my life. I am happy I can feel again.
My ex didn't contact me after I went silent. No been two months. He's wouldn't because he has pride and wouldn't stoop to chase someone because he expects me to do it. But no more
Same here He wont go balistic from being blocked But after he realized it was for real He showed up at my house Begged promised I fell for it only to be discarded one last time … But Im no longer going back now
Happily, I have finally been discarded. Instead of ignoring all the calls, I picked up a couple times a day, and gray rocked the conversation. Was surprised at the frantic nature of the calls, after having been treated with contempt for so long. Hoovering, future faking, and other techniques that all narcissists use only achieved more gray rocking. I reacted to nothing at all. It worked!
An apology from a narcissist will not happen after you detach. They will try ploys skirting around an apology but not actually apologize. In there head they can do no wrong. It's a real sickness.
Mine is 85 - and poisoness as a snake. Excluded me from my father's funeral because I wasn't speaking to her. Denigrated me to the relatives. I cut her out permanently about a month ago. The sun came out. She ruined my childhood and left me with a life of issues. Looking forward to burying her, can't happen soon enough.
@@wayneelliott1180 similar thing happened to me. I was excluded from my gramps' funeral and when I brought it up I was told I probably wasn't interested. WHAT? 😑
I fell for it 3 times but I’m not falling for again! He’s ghosted me for 3 months this time because I threw him out for being abusive. He gave me too much time to come out of the trauma and insanity, gave me time to understand what that hell that behavior was! I appreciate you covering this topic and reminding me not to go back or listen to his lies.
@@jcbanbury I went into the topic of mask wearing with a couple men in their twenties while in their kitchen. We were not wearing masks. I told them that I was not vaccinated but would wear one if they were concerned about catching something from me. I am not sick. They told my friend that I was visiting that I got way into details about "a political issue" and it became uncomfortable. I was informing them about a medical topic. They twisted it in their minds to be political. My friend then asked me not to discuss political or religious topics with them because he concerned that they might move out. It gets pretty weird when people twist what you say, but even worse when you think you are trying to be conscientious but people take that the wrong way. 😁 Who are the ones with mental problems?
I didn’t fall it but took me many other relationships like that to finally understand what I had to do .. no contact and NO RESPONSE! Best feeling ever
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I had no idea what narcissism was till I found myself the target: I'd watched bizzare behavior & constantly put out brushfires they'd created, but didn't have the time to do the necessary research... It was my Dr. who, after I came up out of a cardiac episode, sat me down & leveled w/me on what they'd been watching for years... a psychopathic covert in action!!! I immediately went dark... & I MEAN TOTAL DARK... ZERO ANYTHING. I also CUT OFF EVERY PERSON THAT WAS STILL IN CONTACT WITH THE NARC.... in some cases it was family!!! ...ppl I'd known 30+ YEARS!!! It shattered me to do it but I knew then that it had to be my first stealth move & it turned out to be THE SMARTEST THING I COULD HAVE DONE!!! Unbeknownst to me, the narc had been "staging" their "kill her" GASLIGHTING Campaign for years & ALL of the ones I instantly cut off WERE IN ON IT ALL ALONG!!!!!!!!! A few did try to "reach out" to me, but my intuition told me different & it's a DAMN good thing I listened to it- they were "information diggers" who would've reported right back to the narc!!!!! The legal stand-off took 3 YEARS to play out: first their 11 false criminal charges I had to systematically smack down TWICE... then my Class Action State Supreme Court multi-count LAWSUIT... all the while under Drs care for cardiac & a complete crash of my autonomic central nervous system; my lawyers worked with my Dr., shielding me as best they could. My SILENCE drove the narc COMPLETELY OUT OF THEIR MIND(not a far stretch!!!)... Dispite gaslit police, BANK EMPLOYEES, REAL ESTATE APPRAISERS, & unscrupulous back-door criminal enterprises who specialized in generating "legit-looking" financial documents, my lawyers SLAMMED EVERY BIT OF IT... & PROTECTED MY PROPERTIES & FINANCIAL ASSETS throughout... The only choice the narc had was to get a lawyer & have their lawyer converse with mine... First they completely abused their Public Defender, who couldn't wait to quit!!!... then managed to find one of the most disrespected slimeballs in the region to attempt representation in State Supreme Court... The Law Clerk rejected their stunts & attempts at filing false documents 9 TIMES... & threatened numerous times to "remove them" FROM THE BUILDING for outrageous conduct!!! ALL of it worked in my favor... & even then, I WAS TOTALLY SILENT... NOTHING. ZERO EMOTION. My lawyers were well worth every dime I paid them!!!!!!!!!💜
Hang in there, my ex gf. ( Malignant Narc ) literally tried her best to destroy my life. I went thru HELLLLLL w her. Incarceration for nothing. Had to Hire Attys. My charges were dropped. Later. I went thru HELLLLLL. They are pure Evil
Yeah he told me I was overemotional and controlling lol I am so happy I'm free been 3 months now. I feel like myself again. I did so much for him financially, cleaning, I'd even serve him dinner. Never did the same for me.
I’m so glad you said triggered. That’s exactly it. Things he has done to me trigger me and he refuses to address them or create boundaries with people that are affecting our relationship. The only i option I have is to go completely silent. He has left me no other choice.
I just found your site tonite. Karma. I have a narcissistic sister berate, blame and quilt me in a very long text following my refusal to sign off on mortgage for covering the cost of an addition (not discussed with me) to our shared vacation home. I blocked her immediately (first time) and declined answer phone call. 4 days later I unblocked her. No further communication at this time. I feel empowered and relaxed. Great advice
My husband took 400K and more, many times to invest and didn't feel like discussing it with me and I noticed the house , cars and all of our investments are only in his name and he keeps saying well we have a trust so they are in both names however I don't think it is recorded or registered , whatever that means. Am I protected or do I need a Lawyer ?
He blocked me on everything again so I blocked him back but this time I'm enjoying the space. He can stay away forever because I finally accept and know he is highly narcissistic.
That's pretty childish and hypocritical of you don't you think? And how do you know that he's even reading your nonsense? He's probably not and that's why he's not responding! So, you haven't actually had the last word, in essence, you're just 'talking to yourself!' So YOU are actually the FOOL!
@@michellecreno5929 NOT a fool at all Ohh they read it but the next time they talk to you. You will hear it in their rage because they tried to play the manipulate game and they got beat to the punch on no nonsense... You seem very uneasy on how to understand others and how some or all cope with the healing and peace that comes with how to maneuver a mentally ill person...
They will settle for your one look as supply. Don't give it anything or delay it until you want to look. Remember you are taking back control of you. Thats what another coach Melanie reiterates so much. Control. Narcs have nothing completely zilch to offer anyone. it's empty completely dead inside!.
I've been no contact with a narcissist guy who used to be a great friend for over 3 months now. My smartphone flooded with missed calls and messages at first. It's been happening less and less often. I'm staying firm on my end. I blocked him. It has taken a huge weight off my shoulders.
My ex texted he wanted to reunite, got no response. After a few weeks he "accidentally" texted a flirty message for a woman to the group chat that he and I have with our children! These videos are very helpful. 💜 Not too long ago I would have supplied him with arguing, jealousy, etc.
You are lovable. You are important, capable. Say that to yourself everyday. God loves you. The devil hates humankind and uses these people to hurt you. Don't give them a reaction..same thing on chats if people insult just ignore them . They are not worth your time and energy. Don't explain. Believe in yourself. Ask God for discernment and protection. Treat yourself giving yourself the best. Find yourself . Watch videos in healing from codependency and healing from childhood trauma and triggers.
@@karinam4115 Thank u, I needed to hear this so much right now. You gave me some hope and strength that I’m going to need to do this. Thanks for saying what some of us needed to hear, so we can move forward with our lives and start to heal. 🥰
Absolutely spot on Rebecca, having come out of an 11 year relationship, now 2 & 1/2. I did the no contact, it wasn’t easy but did it. All sorts of horrible tactics by her came but the more I didn’t react the worse it got. Now we’ll on the road to getting back to myself.
Selfcare and safety first - you have all the right to set boundaries always! They don’t like you or your friendship but they still have to be ‘friends’ with you 😂 it doesn’t make sense. The rage and all the tactics (lovebombing or hoovering too is confusing). # not falling for it 🖐🏻
Boundaries are nice, because you can get that break from those pesky Narcissists. I blocked them one time and they called everyone else to get me to respond. I had to tell people to block their number so they could avoid their soap opera.
Not falling for his crap anymore. I am done. No contact. I left the state. I am now 10 hours away from him. I don't care what he does or who he does it with. I don't hate him, I pity him. He is miserable and I am just learning how to be myself again. I am very happy. Very poor. Don't know what the future brings but it ain't bringing no frigging narcissist back into my life. I will never forget this experience. The hate he displayed towards me. The things he did to me. And he thinks he's in the right and has all the moral high ground. He's totally delusional. I am totally going on with my life much more happiness and love in my new life. Thank you for your videos.
You are exactly right. They continue to try to get you back to pull you into the web. Every once in a while my step daughter wants to do something nice for me to get me back into control and use me. I don’t fall for it thanks for people like you.
I’ve had to go no contact with both my sociopathic narcisstic parents sadly to save my sanity. I’m healing on my spiritual journey. They are toxic, abusive and refuse to take zero accountability or responsibility for how they’ve treated me.
In the future, expect things from yourself. You don't need others, but sometimes they're nice to be around, and I mean normal people not narcs. In other words, want what you want and work for it, but don't depend on others for emotional rewards.
@@real_hello_kitty Not always. Narcs can form from children who decided early on that they hated life, and wanted others to live it for them while they carp, scheme, name call and do worse in the background. They are cowards.
@@jeanettecook1088 Yeah, but it only happen in broken/dysfunctional homes. There’s no way a little child “decided” to be a narcissist, if one received healthy upbringing, enough love ❤️ both soft and tough love.
Omg I didn’t think it was bad until I shot a text and said it was over and went silent AND YES!! Everything you said is TRUE!! He showed up at my house when I was at work and left this ENORMOUS flower bouquet with my young adult kids! Would Sit in my back alley at night, sat in the FRONT of my house when I was asleep! Would send pictures of the front of my house in the middle Of the night to me. Stalked my snapChat! Sent me songs!! Pretended to be nice! Then when I actually faced him to let him know face to face it was OVER he started to try and gaslight me! When I called him out on that he had the audacity to record me with his phone and told me “wow you really should see yourself when your angry you should see someone you have great insurance don’t you?? Just the craziest shit I ever experienced
When my abusive ex ended the relationship after 9 years you’re damn right I was mad. Destroyed my credit, destroyed my dads credit, abused my daughter, abused me sexually, punished me with money and emotionally withholding, then always helped me drink a lot, when I quit smoking made sure I started again. I wanted kids and a marriage and he gave me hell and debt and picking up the pieces while he walked away quite richer from knowing me. I’m not a narcissist, but I was abused, harassed, and humiliated, damn right I was mad.
I went silent on my wife, and moved out. 150 text messages later, 60 phone calls, all within a hour time span all horrible. Said she will find me, all because I confronted her on her lies. I'm filing for a divorce this week. I'm sad because after 7 years I still think I can work it out. I really need my head examined.
You know exactly what you are talking about! Im glad knowledgeable people are making videos like this! I didn't know what a narcissistic was before i started looking up these videos. Thank You for making this video.
Great information on how to deal with these types of people. After a lifetime of not being aware of these dynamics and no one to talk to about what the heck was going on and what I was dealing with, I'm finally at my non-negotiable peaceful self. Watching these vids is almost like remote commiseration and a relief to understand this craziness. I'm very selective with whom I associate. My roommate described me as having a post doctorate in life's b@##!$^@, LOL! The same way I can spot a narc from the giddyup is probably the same way a narc knows to watch his/her steps with me because I have no problem providing the what for with the necessary intensity with which to administer it. I was raised by serious narcissists. I consider myself an anomaly being that I'm now in a really great, peaceful, creative space in my life. Others would wind up in jail or dead, that's how intense my experiences were.
43 years dealing with my ex...it was never a love relationship but a survival relationship. It was do or die and even after 16 years divorced . Seriously it takes one hell of a powerful human to deal with this one and God made me that "ONE"! Raising awareness to end domestic violence by a psychopath narcissist after alienating me from my three adult kids for revenge. Now 16 years later he brought me back to court. It never ends. Trial in December
NOT FALLIN FOR IT‼️ This is so me & my ex narc of 18 years!! Have been no contact for awhile & he has tried ALL you’ve mentioned & I am SO glad I can now blow him off with no problem!!! Sometimes even lol at his blocked messages that I can still read!! He’ll never change & I’m so glad idc anymore!! DONE‼️👍🏼✨
I am married to a narcissist, and I think I have her under control, but last time I thought so, she surprised me when I for a moment was vulnerable, i.e. I enjoyed life too much. This is exiting!
Mine treated me worse than strangers and insulted me when friends were around. Then behind closed doors, it was apparent all things had to be her way or no way. No boundaries whatsoever! I got 99 problems, and her ass aint one!
Blocked her everything, she was sending me a flower and gift on my birthday. I just put all of them in the bin. No reply, no reaction. She come to my church, just ignored her. Her face looks so scary but so! So happy to kick her out of my life. Thanks God give me a strength to finish this relationship with this horrible person.
No matter how hard I try to not communicate with the narcissist, I seem to always reach out and try to have a conversation. Any semblance of acknowledgement and validation that I'm here and that I matter or that they care. No such validation is forthcoming. I have been discarded, deemed no longer useful. That is, until they get bored and decide to spew some nonsensical garbage that nobody really understands apart from them. I know it's futile and on a concious level I know I'm dealing with a mentally ill and sick individual. However, subconsciously I wish that they would show that they care and that I matter! It's baffling that on one hand you know what you must do ( no contact) logically that needs to be done in order to save ourselves. Because these vile demonic entities have the capability & capacity to do some serious damage. But as empaths we get caught up in our emotions and for some reason we are stuck in time. The 'love bomb' fake period. That was nothing but trickery and manipulation. Our experience in dealing with these individuals counts for so much. We ignored all the red flags at the beginning but after all the knowledge we've acquired and pain we've endured - what excuse do we have to keep these insane people in our lives? I suppose in ways I'm trauma bonded. I recognise this truth. Although , from this day forward I made a promise to myself - No More!
Mine is a neighbour. Haven't acknowledged her in about a year. About two weeks ago she stopped me as I left my flat (she used to burst out whenever I left the flat, monitered everything I did, stalked me) she came out to announce she was having her birthday party (5th in 2 years) that weekend, that it had been a year since we 'talked' (she babbles, you don't get a word in), that there would be artistic people there (mirroring my artistic bent) and that she was inviting me. I said 'No.' She started to give details about it but I had turned and was walking away. She has spent the previous year slandering me to neighbours and I expect that to get worse. I wanted to rip her tongue out for that, give her a piece of my mind - but didn't. It's what she wants. My silent non-response continues. I hate her.
Wowwww! Mine is also someone in my neighborhood and she gossiped so bad about her neighbors but would be sitting and laughing with them daily. I also wanted to rip her to tongue out because before I knew she was this way I told her where I worked and she used my name as a reference to get employed at my job, then she started gossiping about me to our co worker's.
Forgiveness is the the ultimate freedom from a person who is as you’ve described. It doesn’t mean you forget, or your feelings are saying otherwise; forgiveness, especially at the onset, is an act of our will. If we don’t forgive, these people still have control of us. And we too, are not forgiven. Forgiveness is hard but not impossible. It’s impossible without God’s help, but it’s possible to do so and eventually, these hurtful people absolutely can’t hurt us any longer and their power over us ends!! I pray you are able to forgive and as you do, even those she’s spreading rumors to, will see the truth! Heck, she may be doing this to others but so far, you’re the brave one who’s stopped this from being a part of your life! I applaud you… 🙏🙏🙏
im not sure, but i think being an introvert myself made me a magnet for narcissists.im just so sensitive that it would take months to recover from talking to them...really terrible. right now I'm being very careful on who to talk to.im afraid people would emotionally drain me again.
You are absolutely spot-on with everything!!! I've been deep diving into your videos .. I just found you and I'm so happy I did !!! You are so intelligent.
Just ended my long distance relationship of almost 2 years... I wrote what I felt, very composed and civil goodbye. After a week’s stonewalling, I finally made up my mind, that he hurt me like this for the last time. And the day after he sent me 2 msg, and when I didn’t go online on the app and read them, he sent me another msg. I haven’t opened them, and I’m sure he is going crazy by now...and as an Empath I want to stay away from him in order not to forgive him and let him pull me back into his web...
Thank you very knowledgeable I have 6 kids with narc married young terrible upbringing 45 years married to him I’m an expert without a diploma but you are so accurate continue helping this community your advice is accurate
My 19 yr old daughter is a nars I have gone through hell the last 7 years , one of the hardest trial I have been through, I finally moved out of state distance myself, it effects the whole family and is utterly heartbreaking when it’s your child 😥
Definitely "Not Falling For It". Been there. Done that way too many times without the understanding I have today. Your the best Rebecca. Sincerely, thank you!
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I began watching your video, I had been with people like this, I didn’t even had any idea how or why they behave like that. I’ll be watching your videos
❤️ You are awesome Rebecca! Thank you so much for being empowering! This needs to be taught in our schools so the signs of narcissism are recognized & people will know how to protect themselves from abuse. Thank you for making an enormous difference in the world! ❤️
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@@RebeccaZungEsq not sure if I mentioned it already but I'm doing lisa romano program, but your advice on words that shut down the narssisist helped when my brother threatened to kill me. Thank you rebecca zung.
@@stanleymaestas5441 oh I am so glad to hear that. Sending you hugs and support as you continue your healing journey!
@@RebeccaZungEsq thank u, please keep doing an awsome service. The world needs more people like you.
Could you make a video about cowardly people who see what narcissist is doing but don’t standup for themselves and don’t help other victims of abuse? People who let bullies act undisturbed
Being with a narc is like doing time for a crime you did,nt commit be your own judge and jury and set yourself free
That’s a great saying
Great analogy
Yes exactly!
Wow what an analogy!! So true
You described it perfectly! It's like "doing time for a crime you didn't commit"....Perfectly ACCURATE!
They claim to have abandonment issues but they sure keep doing things for you to get the hell away from them.
Yep. Self-fulfilling prophecy. They’re afraid you’ll leave then make absolutely sure you will.
Exactly!
I said that to him as the EMT was putting me in the ambulance with a heart attack!
@@freedomrings2830 you poor baby!!! Praying for you!!! 🙏🙏🐎🐎❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️💕💕💕💕😱😱😱😱😰
@@freedomrings2830 So sorry to hear that 😢 My health has steadily been declining as well, and I know a lot is from this abuse. Days I’m away from him, it’s so much more peaceful. I just worry about my 12 year old if I tell him to go. Because he’s extremely unstable. No telling if he would hurt our child, to hurt me. That’s what scares me more than him, doing anything to me. And that child loves him more than he even knows. So sad, and so hard at the same time 🤦♀️
I moved, blocked him from my phone/email, then permanently deleted all my social media accounts. I am in therapy focusing on myself, working on the person I want to be. It's really nice.
This gives me hope❤ I did the same, deleted my social media, blocked email etc. I didn't change my number so I do hear from random telephone numbers but still no contact has helped bc my intentions were never understood 🙏🏽
@@nafeesa14 The peacefulness is my favorite part of all. No more eggshells.
@Gemma Dann Do it. Move to a place where you love the weather most of the year, somewhere that has adventures youll love with in driving walking or biking distances. Make new friends and find a therapist you can feel comfortable opening up to. Build yourself one heck of a support group that you can lean on each other when the road gets a little rough. You are capable of anything! You want it? Go get it!
@Gemma Dann Yes! Go live your life to its fullest be free happy and loved. Shine big and bright like the north star in the sky and take no shit from anyone. I think of narcissistic people like a projector in school and every nasty, negative comment or remark they make is just them laying down their lesson of insecurities for the day and its all about them like most of the time. We are the teach standing out in front of the class with writing or graphs projected all over them. The Narcissist turns the projector off and on all day long when every they feel threatened, scared, fearful and angry.
So happy for you.soon by me amen
Who ever cares less has the power.
People who are being traumatized by narcissists definitely care. Especially in negotiations.
@@RebeccaZungEsq that's why we need advocates like you who have survived, gone through it, identified it and KNOW how to handle their bull$@:#. Thank you Rebecca- I SEE YOU THRIVING!!and FLOURISHING🌿🌿🌿🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽and it is so refreshing and encouraging and infectious in a good way to the rest of us who too, are growing and coming out of the fuselage of narcissistic abuse.
@@RebeccaZungEsq Just stating a fact. Love yourself first.
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I first read of this idea in a book about pop culture i forget the name of it. Ever since I read it though I've really struggled with it. Have you never met a couple that seemed so in love that these power dynamics weren't playing out between them? Albeit rare, I do believe it exists and I think those are the marriages that last a lifetime. One could argue, "you don't want to believe in this bc you're the one without power in your relationship and you don't want to see it." Thats a fair argument but I think its possible for the power to shift back and forth depending on the issue and how passionate you are about the issue. If your a good partner and you see your partner is digging their heels in on an issue, maybe their actually right or maybe it's not worth it at the time to argue about it. But if your partner is never willing to do the same for you then yeah, you're probably the one without power.
It all ends when you start to put yourself first and be good to yourself . Loving you is the best way to live. Go no contact. Your best friend is yourself. Enjoy being you and who you really want to be.
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Not falling for it.
There's a reason the rear view mirror is so small, and the windshield is so big. Look forward, don't look back.
Awesome...
Woot!! Yes!!
Well said!
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Silence is the only way out for me. Arguing with him is too painful for me.
Right !! Plus they enjoy arguing with you might as well go no contact
Arguing with her really shakes my foundation the only way to get relaxed is go for walks
Arguing what? What is there to argue? I don’t know about your circumstance but in mind, the argument is insanity. I’m just entering into some insanity and I’m trying to defend myself against pure rage….You’ve entered their delusional rage world. And really, isn’t it supposed to be painful to be in a zero sum game? To be involved in a circumstance where you’re always going to lose? And I’m not talking about winning and losing, I’m talking about losing your soul
I am currently using silence to protect myself against slander, abuse, smearing and control. I am starting to feel good in myself and my life has become very peaceful. My ex is sending indirect messages on social media to say that I should be the one reaching out to contact them. After 3 years of my loyalty kindness and compassion, I have had to endure physiological abuse, my belongings going missing, sentimental photos destroyed, misplacing of my belongings, stealing my money, bank cards, driving license, friends gifts and then finally being devalued and discarded. It is the worst feeling in the world. Trying to get my head around it has been very difficult. But am receiving help from your videos. So thank you for this!!
As someone else already said: "being with a narcissist is like doing time.." Indeed it is..and I feel like I just got paroled!
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No contact/ ghosting your narcissist is the best thing to do. I just left my ex narcissist boyfriend two weeks ago. The best decision I ever done in my life. I am happy I can feel again.
My ex didn't contact me after I went silent. No been two months. He's wouldn't because he has pride and wouldn't stoop to chase someone because he expects me to do it. But no more
Yiiipppp
Same here
He wont go balistic from being blocked
But after he realized it was for real
He showed up at my house
Begged promised I fell for it only to be discarded one last time …
But Im no longer going back now
Sounds familiar
I am doing the same thing with so called friend single mom
He will contact you. Just watch lol
Happily, I have finally been discarded. Instead of ignoring all the calls, I picked up a couple times a day, and gray rocked the conversation. Was surprised at the frantic nature of the calls, after having been treated with contempt for so long. Hoovering, future faking, and other techniques that all narcissists use only achieved more gray rocking. I reacted to nothing at all. It worked!
An apology from a narcissist will not happen after you detach. They will try ploys skirting around an apology but not actually apologize. In there head they can do no wrong. It's a real sickness.
NO LONGER FALLING FOR MY MOTHERS GARBAGE!! It is so time to forget her 91 years of lies.
I CAN HEAL!
Yeasss!! You definitely can!
@@RebeccaZungEsq Thank you! Im not gonna lie though I need help with getting her out of my head. Esp at night. Long story ugly and painful.
Mine is 85 - and poisoness as a snake. Excluded me from my father's funeral because I wasn't speaking to her. Denigrated me to the relatives. I cut her out permanently about a month ago. The sun came out. She ruined my childhood and left me with a life of issues. Looking forward to burying her, can't happen soon enough.
This has happened to many. I am one. 🏞
@@wayneelliott1180 similar thing happened to me. I was excluded from my gramps' funeral and when I brought it up I was told I probably wasn't interested. WHAT? 😑
I'm not falling for it!
It has taken me a long time to get to this spot.
Woohoo!! So glad!
Whoo forrealll
8:55 “They’re trolls…they’re vultures” 😅
Sad, but true, and I love that you don’t mince words because that’s exactly what they are.
Even the thought of them makes me sick and ill
Me to, right now my blood pressure is high and sleep is down 😔
Yes me too🙏
I fell for it 3 times but I’m not falling for again! He’s ghosted me for 3 months this time because I threw him out for being abusive. He gave me too much time to come out of the trauma and insanity, gave me time to understand what that hell that behavior was! I appreciate you covering this topic and reminding me not to go back or listen to his lies.
Indy Wood,You look stunning,you don't need a narcissist in your life.....
It's hard but nice when they dnt come back
They treat you like you are the enmy like they didn't even knew you
Yes, they see you as the enemy. You think differently but they see it as a rejection of everything they know., everything they are.
@@carefulcarpenter in my case in my family I am the only one who thinks normally and rationally. They cannot grasp different opinions
@@jcbanbury I went into the topic of mask wearing with a couple men in their twenties while in their kitchen. We were not wearing masks. I told them that I was not vaccinated but would wear one if they were concerned about catching something from me. I am not sick.
They told my friend that I was visiting that I got way into details about "a political issue" and it became uncomfortable.
I was informing them about a medical topic. They twisted it in their minds to be political. My friend then asked me not to discuss political or religious topics with them because he concerned that they might move out.
It gets pretty weird when people twist what you say, but even worse when you think you are trying to be conscientious but people take that the wrong way. 😁
Who are the ones with mental problems?
Yes🙏
Yes
I’ve gone no contact for months and they are beating on my door. Keep beating!💪
I haven’t had them do that to me not yet, however if this person does I’ll be going into my gun safe lock and load.
What do you mean ,beating on your door?
They he, flying monkeys 🐒, in my house while I sleep.. locked..
@Gemma Dann I have, the local police do absolutely NOTHING...GOD HELP THEM..
Please be careful their CRAZY
I didn’t fall it but took me many other relationships like that to finally understand what I had to do .. no contact and NO RESPONSE! Best feeling ever
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I had no idea what narcissism was till I found myself the target: I'd watched bizzare behavior & constantly put out brushfires they'd created, but didn't have the time to do the necessary research... It was my Dr. who, after I came up out of a cardiac episode, sat me down & leveled w/me on what they'd been watching for years... a psychopathic covert in action!!!
I immediately went dark... & I MEAN TOTAL DARK... ZERO ANYTHING. I also CUT OFF EVERY PERSON THAT WAS STILL IN CONTACT WITH THE NARC.... in some cases it was family!!! ...ppl I'd known 30+ YEARS!!! It shattered me to do it but I knew then that it had to be my first stealth move & it turned out to be THE SMARTEST THING I COULD HAVE DONE!!! Unbeknownst to me, the narc had been "staging" their "kill her" GASLIGHTING Campaign for years & ALL of the ones I instantly cut off WERE IN ON IT ALL ALONG!!!!!!!!! A few did try to "reach out" to me, but my intuition told me different & it's a DAMN good thing I listened to it- they were "information diggers" who would've reported right back to the narc!!!!!
The legal stand-off took 3 YEARS to play out: first their 11 false criminal charges I had to systematically smack down TWICE... then my Class Action State Supreme Court multi-count LAWSUIT... all the while under Drs care for cardiac & a complete crash of my autonomic central nervous system; my lawyers worked with my Dr., shielding me as best they could. My SILENCE drove the narc COMPLETELY OUT OF THEIR MIND(not a far stretch!!!)... Dispite gaslit police, BANK EMPLOYEES, REAL ESTATE APPRAISERS, & unscrupulous back-door criminal enterprises who specialized in generating "legit-looking" financial documents, my lawyers SLAMMED EVERY BIT OF IT... & PROTECTED MY PROPERTIES & FINANCIAL ASSETS throughout... The only choice the narc had was to get a lawyer & have their lawyer converse with mine... First they completely abused their Public Defender, who couldn't wait to quit!!!... then managed to find one of the most disrespected slimeballs in the region to attempt representation in State Supreme Court... The Law Clerk rejected their stunts & attempts at filing false documents 9 TIMES... & threatened numerous times to "remove them" FROM THE BUILDING for outrageous conduct!!! ALL of it worked in my favor... & even then, I WAS TOTALLY SILENT... NOTHING. ZERO EMOTION. My lawyers were well worth every dime I paid them!!!!!!!!!💜
Oh my goodness!! You've been through a war, became a warrior & thrived! I'm so glad that you won!
Awesome 👍
What is the name of this great firm of lawers. Would like to use them.
@@maxmaroni7175 What state are you in???
Hang in there, my ex gf. ( Malignant Narc ) literally tried her best to destroy my life. I went thru HELLLLLL w her. Incarceration for nothing. Had to Hire Attys. My charges were dropped. Later. I went thru HELLLLLL. They are pure Evil
Yeah he told me I was overemotional and controlling lol I am so happy I'm free been 3 months now. I feel like myself again. I did so much for him financially, cleaning, I'd even serve him dinner. Never did the same for me.
Never do it again for anyone. It's ok to take care of you and your needs 1st and far most. They should be able to handle their own responsibilities.
I can totally relate to this!
I know that mine will starve when I get free
"Vomiting every kind of emotion." On point.
I’m so glad you said triggered. That’s exactly it. Things he has done to me trigger me and he refuses to address them or create boundaries with people that are affecting our relationship. The only i option I have is to go completely silent. He has left me no other choice.
I just found your site tonite. Karma. I have a narcissistic sister berate, blame and quilt me in a very long text following my refusal to sign off on mortgage for covering the cost of an addition (not discussed with me) to our shared vacation home. I blocked her immediately (first time) and declined answer phone call. 4 days later I unblocked her. No further communication at this time. I feel empowered and relaxed. Great advice
Silent is just beautiful when it’s a narcissist doing it to you.... 😂✌🏾
My husband took 400K and more, many times to invest and didn't feel like discussing it with me and I noticed the house , cars and all of our investments are only in his name and he keeps saying well we have a trust so they are in both names however I don't think it is recorded or registered , whatever that means. Am I protected or do I need a Lawyer ?
Be glad he is also silence on you.
He blocked me on everything again so I blocked him back but this time I'm enjoying the space. He can stay away forever because I finally accept and know he is highly narcissistic.
Do it now being quiet more has brought me a lot of peace amen
They are terrified to face me and answer to their deplorable behaviour
They are more afraid of you than you are of them.
@@RebeccaZungEsq It's hard to tell.
They are such cowards
@@RebeccaZungEsq they hate authentic people right? I am the family normal one
I love when my ex doesn’t respond. In my mind I got the last word and I do t want to hear from him!
Great way to look at it!
Same
That's pretty childish and hypocritical of you don't you think? And how do you know that he's even reading your nonsense?
He's probably not and that's why he's not responding! So, you haven't actually had the last word, in essence, you're just 'talking to yourself!' So YOU are actually the FOOL!
@@michellecreno5929 NOT a fool at all Ohh they read it but the next time they talk to you. You will hear it in their rage because they tried to play the manipulate game and they got beat to the punch on no nonsense... You seem very uneasy on how to understand others and how some or all cope with the healing and peace that comes with how to maneuver a mentally ill person...
You do want to hear from them
Silence tratment blessing from god trust me🙏👍i am enjoying👊
Silent treatment is a manipulative tactic. What you mean is going no-contact.
Not falling for any of his shit who ever wants him they can have him.
They will settle for your one look as supply.
Don't give it anything or delay it until you want to look. Remember you are taking back control of you.
Thats what another coach Melanie reiterates so much. Control.
Narcs have nothing completely zilch to offer anyone. it's empty completely dead inside!.
I've been no contact with a narcissist guy who used to be a great friend for over 3 months now. My smartphone flooded with missed calls and messages at first. It's been happening less and less often. I'm staying firm on my end. I blocked him. It has taken a huge weight off my shoulders.
My narc ex hasn't said a word. He has so many supplies to run to. No abandonment for him. He will make their life aweful.
My ex texted he wanted to reunite, got no response. After a few weeks he "accidentally" texted a flirty message for a woman to the group chat that he and I have with our children! These videos are very helpful. 💜 Not too long ago I would have supplied him with arguing, jealousy, etc.
Sending you light as you continue to heal!
You are lovable. You are important, capable. Say that to yourself everyday. God loves you. The devil hates humankind and uses these people to hurt you. Don't give them a reaction..same thing on chats if people insult just ignore them . They are not worth your time and energy. Don't explain. Believe in yourself. Ask God for discernment and protection. Treat yourself giving yourself the best. Find yourself . Watch videos in healing from codependency and healing from childhood trauma and triggers.
@@karinam4115 I love this. Thank you. God bless 💜
@@karinam4115 Thank u, I needed to hear this so much right now. You gave me some hope and strength that I’m going to need to do this. Thanks for saying what some of us needed to hear, so we can move forward with our lives and start to heal. 🥰
When the do stuff like this it’s a sign of you being in control. Good on you for further proving that by not indulging
Absolutely spot on Rebecca, having come out of an 11 year relationship, now 2 & 1/2. I did the no contact, it wasn’t easy but did it. All sorts of horrible tactics by her came but the more I didn’t react the worse it got. Now we’ll on the road to getting back to myself.
NOT FALLING FOR IT. I found you right after meeting a narcisit, thank God, so I'm just trying my hardest to stay away. TY for all you do.
Two years PFA, girl! Not falling for it! It is over for good. Thank God for you and others on UA-cam , that are helping us to heal ❤
Not falling for it! Thank u Rebecca Zung
Selfcare and safety first - you have all the right to set boundaries always! They don’t like you or your friendship but they still have to be ‘friends’ with you 😂 it doesn’t make sense. The rage and all the tactics (lovebombing or hoovering too is confusing). # not falling for it 🖐🏻
They couldn't care less about boundaries. And prove it asap.
@@theresefournier3269 still not falling for it 😉
Not falling for it no more mental abuse or bs
Boundaries are nice, because you can get that break from those pesky Narcissists.
I blocked them one time and they called everyone else to get me to respond. I
had to tell people to block their number so they could avoid their soap opera.
Listen!!!! This method has been the best no contact and been getting hovers from her son witch is her behind the phone, out of site of of mind
“Move away and keep going!”
Thank you Rebecca for sharing this video.
When I get the silence treatment- OMG - it feels like God sent me to heaven for a visit .
Not falling for it. (Create chaos, ghost, Love bomb, then criticize, repeat...)
Not falling for his crap anymore. I am done. No contact. I left the state. I am now 10 hours away from him. I don't care what he does or who he does it with. I don't hate him, I pity him. He is miserable and I am just learning how to be myself again. I am very happy. Very poor. Don't know what the future brings but it ain't bringing no frigging narcissist back into my life. I will never forget this experience. The hate he displayed towards me. The things he did to me. And he thinks he's in the right and has all the moral high ground. He's totally delusional. I am totally going on with my life much more happiness and love in my new life. Thank you for your videos.
You are exactly right. They continue to try to get you back to pull you into the web. Every once in a while my step daughter wants to do something nice for me to get me back into control and use me. I don’t fall for it thanks for people like you.
Thank you for your support.
I’ve had to go no contact with both my sociopathic narcisstic parents sadly to save my sanity. I’m healing on my spiritual journey. They are toxic, abusive and refuse to take zero accountability or responsibility for how they’ve treated me.
It’s because their parents did the same to them.
In the future, expect things from yourself. You don't need others, but sometimes they're nice to be around, and I mean normal people not narcs. In other words, want what you want and work for it, but don't depend on others for emotional rewards.
@@real_hello_kitty Not always. Narcs can form from children who decided early on that they hated life, and wanted others to live it for them while they carp, scheme, name call and do worse in the background. They are cowards.
@@jeanettecook1088 Yeah, but it only happen in broken/dysfunctional homes. There’s no way a little child “decided” to be a narcissist, if one received healthy upbringing, enough love ❤️ both soft and tough love.
@@jeanettecook1088 I mean the parents refuse to take accountability.
Not falling for it EVER again!
Amazingly, it ALL happened in this exact order. ALL OF IT. Witnessing the narcissistic collapse now. Spot on Rebecca!
Absolutely not falling for it.
Omg I didn’t think it was bad until I shot a text and said it was over and went silent AND YES!! Everything you said is TRUE!! He showed up at my house when I was at work and left this ENORMOUS flower bouquet with my young adult kids! Would Sit in my back alley at night, sat in the FRONT of my house when I was asleep! Would send pictures of the front of my house in the middle Of the night to me. Stalked my snapChat! Sent me songs!! Pretended to be nice! Then when I actually faced him to let him know face to face it was OVER he started to try and gaslight me! When I called him out on that he had the audacity to record me with his phone and told me “wow you really should see yourself when your angry you should see someone you have great insurance don’t you??
Just the craziest shit I ever experienced
That same thing happened to me. Scary.
When my abusive ex ended the relationship after 9 years you’re damn right I was mad. Destroyed my credit, destroyed my dads credit, abused my daughter, abused me sexually, punished me with money and emotionally withholding, then always helped me drink a lot, when I quit smoking made sure I started again. I wanted kids and a marriage and he gave me hell and debt and picking up the pieces while he walked away quite richer from knowing me. I’m not a narcissist, but I was abused, harassed, and humiliated, damn right I was mad.
God Bless you and your family
@12:36
"Just Namaste 🙏 and walk away, keep going!
The best thing you can ever do is just wipe them from the CPU of your life!"
💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
💞
Namaste and walk away, love that! 🙌
I went silent on my wife, and moved out. 150 text messages later, 60 phone calls, all within a hour time span all horrible. Said she will find me, all because I confronted her on her lies. I'm filing for a divorce this week. I'm sad because after 7 years I still think I can work it out. I really need my head examined.
Same situation I'm in.. been together 9years... Her mask slipped ALL THE WAY OFF 1 year into the marriage... planning my escape now
They will cry out in pain as they strike you.
You know exactly what you are talking about! Im glad knowledgeable people are making videos like this! I didn't know what a narcissistic was before i started looking up these videos. Thank You for making this video.
Great information on how to deal with these types of people. After a lifetime of not being aware of these dynamics and no one to talk to about what the heck was going on and what I was dealing with, I'm finally at my non-negotiable peaceful self. Watching these vids is almost like remote commiseration and a relief to understand this craziness. I'm very selective with whom I associate. My roommate described me as having a post doctorate in life's b@##!$^@, LOL! The same way I can spot a narc from the giddyup is probably the same way a narc knows to watch his/her steps with me because I have no problem providing the what for with the necessary intensity with which to administer it. I was raised by serious narcissists. I consider myself an anomaly being that I'm now in a really great, peaceful, creative space in my life. Others would wind up in jail or dead, that's how intense my experiences were.
Not falling for it!!!🙌🙌🙌
Not falling for it...haha!! Its part of the game & I can see how they are trying to act "nice" to get you to like them.
Not falling for it !
43 years dealing with my ex...it was never a love relationship but a survival relationship. It was do or die and even after 16 years divorced . Seriously it takes one hell of a powerful human to deal with this one and God made me that "ONE"!
Raising awareness to end domestic violence by a psychopath narcissist after alienating me from my three adult kids for revenge. Now 16 years later he brought me back to court. It never ends. Trial in December
Back to court for what after 16 years?
Done falling for it!!!
Yes, “The Undoing” was fascinating to watch.
Not falling for it!!!! Never ever ever ever again! Im done! I have learned my lesson finally!
NOT FALLIN FOR IT‼️ This is so me & my ex narc of 18 years!! Have been no contact for awhile & he has tried ALL you’ve mentioned & I am SO glad I can now blow him off with no problem!!! Sometimes even lol at his blocked messages that I can still read!!
He’ll never change & I’m so glad idc anymore!! DONE‼️👍🏼✨
NOT falling for it!
I am married to a narcissist, and I think I have her under control, but last time I thought so, she surprised me when I for a moment was vulnerable, i.e. I enjoyed life too much.
This is exiting!
I have lost all contact with him. And that will always hurt me and he knows who loves him more than anything and he did it anyways!
Mine treated me worse than strangers and insulted me when friends were around. Then behind closed doors, it was apparent all things had to be her way or no way. No boundaries whatsoever! I got 99 problems, and her ass aint one!
you are a wonderful teacher!
Blocked her everything, she was sending me a flower and gift on my birthday. I just put all of them in the bin. No reply, no reaction. She come to my church, just ignored her. Her face looks so scary but so! So happy to kick her out of my life. Thanks God give me a strength to finish this relationship with this horrible person.
No matter how hard I try to not communicate with the narcissist, I seem to always reach out and try to have a conversation. Any semblance of acknowledgement and validation that I'm here and that I matter or that they care. No such validation is forthcoming. I have been discarded, deemed no longer useful. That is, until they get bored and decide to spew some nonsensical garbage that nobody really understands apart from them.
I know it's futile and on a concious level I know I'm dealing with a mentally ill and sick individual.
However, subconsciously I wish that they would show that they care and that I matter!
It's baffling that on one hand you know what you must do ( no contact) logically that needs to be done in order to save ourselves. Because these vile demonic entities have the capability & capacity to do some serious damage. But as empaths we get caught up in our emotions and for some reason we are stuck in time. The 'love bomb' fake period. That was nothing but trickery and manipulation.
Our experience in dealing with these individuals counts for so much. We ignored all the red flags at the beginning but after all the knowledge we've acquired and pain we've endured - what excuse do we have to keep these insane people in our lives?
I suppose in ways I'm trauma bonded. I recognise this truth. Although , from this day forward I made a promise to myself - No More!
Well said :)
@@devinmustardseeds8614 Thank You :)
Yes they do been thru the silent treatment many times and it sucks
Mine is a neighbour. Haven't acknowledged her in about a year. About two weeks ago she stopped me as I left my flat (she used to burst out whenever I left the flat, monitered everything I did, stalked me) she came out to announce she was having her birthday party (5th in 2 years) that weekend, that it had been a year since we 'talked' (she babbles, you don't get a word in), that there would be artistic people there (mirroring my artistic bent) and that she was inviting me. I said 'No.' She started to give details about it but I had turned and was walking away. She has spent the previous year slandering me to neighbours and I expect that to get worse. I wanted to rip her tongue out for that, give her a piece of my mind - but didn't. It's what she wants. My silent non-response continues. I hate her.
Understand your situation completly.. Forgive her. Walk the path my friend, you got this . blessings to you 🙏🙏🙏
Wowwww! Mine is also someone in my neighborhood and she gossiped so bad about her neighbors but would be sitting and laughing with them daily. I also wanted to rip her to tongue out because before I knew she was this way I told her where I worked and she used my name as a reference to get employed at my job, then she started gossiping about me to our co worker's.
Forgiveness is the the ultimate freedom from a person who is as you’ve described. It doesn’t mean you forget, or your feelings are saying otherwise; forgiveness, especially at the onset, is an act of our will. If we don’t forgive, these people still have control of us. And we too, are not forgiven. Forgiveness is hard but not impossible.
It’s impossible without God’s help, but it’s possible to do so and eventually, these hurtful people absolutely can’t hurt us any longer and their power over us ends!!
I pray you are able to forgive and as you do, even those she’s spreading rumors to, will see the truth! Heck, she may be doing this to others but so far, you’re the brave one who’s stopped this from being a part of your life! I applaud you… 🙏🙏🙏
@@denisemeagher9875 well said, thanks for that input. 🙏🙏🙏
Not falling for it 😂
im not sure, but i think being an introvert myself made me a magnet for narcissists.im just so sensitive that it would take months to recover from talking to them...really terrible. right now I'm being very careful on who to talk to.im afraid people would emotionally drain me again.
You are absolutely spot-on with everything!!! I've been deep diving into your videos .. I just found you and I'm so happy I did !!! You are so intelligent.
I wish I could speak face to face with you. You are wise beyond your years.
Not falling for it for 3 years now !
Just ended my long distance relationship of almost 2 years...
I wrote what I felt, very composed and civil goodbye. After a week’s stonewalling, I finally made up my mind, that he hurt me like this for the last time.
And the day after he sent me 2 msg, and when I didn’t go online on the app and read them, he sent me another msg.
I haven’t opened them, and I’m sure he is going crazy by now...and as an Empath I want to stay away from him in order not to forgive him and let him pull me back into his web...
I definitely know what you mean about the smeare campaign. My ex was a grandiose narcissist
Did he Hoover?how did you cope ?
Thank you very knowledgeable I have 6 kids with narc married young terrible upbringing 45 years married to him I’m an expert without a diploma but you are so accurate continue helping this community your advice is accurate
Thank you for sharing your knowledge and strength with us...
They suck the life out of me
He taugh me my lesson in life love hurts and it always will hurt. Love means hate. The love we had turned into hate. And that hurts.
My 19 yr old daughter is a nars I have gone through hell the last 7 years , one of the hardest trial I have been through, I finally moved out of state distance myself, it effects the whole family and is utterly heartbreaking when it’s your child 😥
Stacey Cook,You deserve better 🙏🙏🙏
@@christianpulisic7784 thanks
@@staceycook6404 You are welcome dear.I am Christian from the States.You?
@@staceycook6404 Which country are you from?
Yes it sad🙏
Definitely "Not Falling For It". Been there. Done that way too many times without the understanding I have today. Your the best Rebecca. Sincerely, thank you!
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I began watching your video, I had been with people like this, I didn’t even had any idea how or why they behave like that. I’ll be watching your videos
Not falling for it... anymore!!!
Mary Hoo,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🌷,you don't need a narc 😈 in your life!!
This sounds exactly like what I have to deal with.
So sorry to hear that. Glad you’re here and getting the education you need.
💗 Hopefully You Can One Day Soon... Leave All The Narcissists Behind You. I Love You! 💛
No contact and not interested in anything to do with them and they know it
No contact but none of this has happened yet...but this is so helpful and informative to be aware 🙏🏽
“Namaste and walk away” love that!
SelectTravelVacations,You look beautiful 🌹,Hope you are not with a narcissist!
Not falling for it and not dropping the no contact order
Not falling for it!!!!
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You are awesome Rebecca! Thank you so much for being empowering! This needs to be taught in our schools so the signs of narcissism are recognized & people will know how to protect themselves from abuse. Thank you for making an enormous difference in the world! ❤️