Husband Seeks Absolution After Killing Wife with Birthday Gift | John Grazioli Case Analysis

Поділитися
Вставка
  • Опубліковано 12 тра 2024
  • Use code DRGRANDE50 to get 50% OFF First Box and free wellness shots for life with any active subscription at bit.ly/3TiKwJP!
    This video answers the question: Can I analyze case of John Grazioli?
    Support Dr. Grande on Patreon: / drgrande
    Subscribe to the Bella Grande Media Podcast: / @bellagrandemedia
    Dr. Grande’s book Harm Reduction:
    www.amazon.com/Harm-Reduction...
    Dr. Grande's book Psychology of Notorious Serial Killers: www.amazon.com/Psychology-Not...
    Check out Dr. Grande’s merchandise at: teespring.com/stores/dr-grand...

КОМЕНТАРІ • 751

  • @Danko31
    @Danko31 2 місяці тому +434

    Being single and safe doesn't sound that bad all of a sudden.

    • @Roc-Righteous
      @Roc-Righteous 2 місяці тому +1

      No, just stay away from material blondes. I have seen way to many of these situations, $ gimme gimme $ gimme, and then they will date or marry you.

    • @marylevin9262
      @marylevin9262 2 місяці тому +12

      😂

    • @adotintheshark4848
      @adotintheshark4848 2 місяці тому +29

      you might be lonely, but at least you're alive.

    • @stellviahohenheim
      @stellviahohenheim 2 місяці тому

      ​@@adotintheshark4848Don't let pessimism dictate your life, there's many good honest people out there, they're just impossible to find online

    • @Danko31
      @Danko31 2 місяці тому +6

      @@adotintheshark4848 very true 💯

  • @SnickasBah
    @SnickasBah 2 місяці тому +444

    So the first wife dodged a bullet.

  • @icturner23
    @icturner23 2 місяці тому +669

    Erica must be thanking her lucky stars that he only divorced her.

    • @arbonneladyTN
      @arbonneladyTN 2 місяці тому +53

      My thoughts as well!!!
      Now I guess the kids all her’s too.
      What a crazy story though, I feel really bad for kids! They have a murdering father.

    • @user-st6nt4ou6f
      @user-st6nt4ou6f 2 місяці тому +5

      FrFr

    • @attilakohbor3360
      @attilakohbor3360 2 місяці тому +5

      obviously

    • @legzfalloffgirl5148
      @legzfalloffgirl5148 2 місяці тому +21

      God it must be so terrifying to realize how close you came to danger

    • @anneflynn9614
      @anneflynn9614 2 місяці тому +6

      Maybe he wouldn't have killed the mother of his children.

  • @aviation11000
    @aviation11000 2 місяці тому +365

    Bringing a hot young woman into the household as a nanny always ends the same way.

    • @sandcrushlove
      @sandcrushlove 2 місяці тому +35

      Young hot women should be banned from working as nannies

    • @chesterfinecat7588
      @chesterfinecat7588 2 місяці тому +9

      We brought ours in as my butler and there's been no problem. The smell of shoe polish.

    • @susiex6669
      @susiex6669 2 місяці тому +70

      I was once the hot young nanny and the last thing on the planet I was going to go after was the kids balding, out of shape, pot bellied, father. Who you kidding? 😂😂

    • @Mousehansen
      @Mousehansen 2 місяці тому +37

      ​@@susiex6669 But this guy doesn't seem to be out of shape like that. Some young women go for older men who are still in shape.

    • @Cinder_311
      @Cinder_311 2 місяці тому +22

      ​@@summrflowers7253 and looks like Mrs. Doubtfire

  • @MrDlt123
    @MrDlt123 2 місяці тому +312

    'I tried to hand the wife that I'm divorcing a handgun in bed, and accidentally shot her in the back of the head" - Cant believe he thought would fly in court.

    • @SecularSpinach
      @SecularSpinach 2 місяці тому +22

      From Dr. G's description here, I don't believe he "thought it would fly" as in getting him off scott free. Rather, his hope was for the conviction to be on a lessor charge than 1st degree murder. With a 2nd or even 3rd degree conviction, he might well have the possibility of being released on parole down the road. (Possibly eligible in what? 25 or 30 yrs or so maybe..) That was the defense strategy I got from this, but I'm thrilled that he got LIFE WITHOUT PAROLE!

    • @justnoted2995
      @justnoted2995 2 місяці тому +7

      That's a defense lawyer narrative... usually some unrealistic BS

    • @7Mushrooms7
      @7Mushrooms7 2 місяці тому +8

      These men will do everything except divorcing.

    • @Vindsvelle
      @Vindsvelle 2 місяці тому

      ​@@7Mushrooms7That's what I always find so incomprehensible about people like Grazioli, and at the furthest extreme of that pathology, the phenomenon of the *family annihilator.* Sure, divorcing one's spouse and absenting oneself from the lives of one's children isn't _great,_ but when the sole "alternative" in these people's fevered imaginings can only be summary execution of their immediate family (John List being a particularly vile case study), taking the deadbeat dad approach is outright NOBLE.
      It takes a profoundly effed-up rat's nest of egotism to think that murder is preferable over simply disengaging from a relationship(s) with dignity - or _leaving one's spouse alive_ at the very least. Even if we credit Grazioli's claim of having been under the influence of booze and coke, *no* amount of drugs (non-Diliriants / non-Dissociatives, at least) would be able to usurp a healthy individual's fundamental moral imperatives -- making it all the more detestable when one considers he probably was sober as a stone when he killed his wife...

    • @estellewadsworth4187
      @estellewadsworth4187 2 місяці тому

      This guy was book smart BUT LACKED INTELLIGENCE. HE WAS SUCH A STUPID NARCISSISTIC BASTARD. RUN ERICA RUN. YOU ARE NEXT

  • @lindawilson4625
    @lindawilson4625 2 місяці тому +379

    "John was upset because he thought no one would believe him" Good call, John. I sure don't.

  • @TheSuperPsychoKiller
    @TheSuperPsychoKiller 2 місяці тому +339

    Imagine your nanny after school is also your teacher. That sounds terrible.

    • @rizzexponential
      @rizzexponential 2 місяці тому +113

      Imagine your nanny after school is also your teacher and also your father’s sugar baby. That’s a nightmare

    • @rizzexponential
      @rizzexponential 2 місяці тому +48

      The dude’s a total creep

    • @crowmedicine3890
      @crowmedicine3890 2 місяці тому +38

      Imagine being the kids teacher, and also their nanny. THAT also sounds like a nightmare.

    • @ktwiri4443
      @ktwiri4443 2 місяці тому +2

      Ikr

    • @whiskeytangofoxtrot1986
      @whiskeytangofoxtrot1986 2 місяці тому +6

      I was thinking the same thing 😅

  • @DigitalNeb
    @DigitalNeb 2 місяці тому +142

    I do not understand why people resort to murder when divorce would solve their problem. It just makes no sense.

    • @SecularSpinach
      @SecularSpinach 2 місяці тому +15

      Right, hard to get... But here, divorce wasn't in the picture because, remember, this guy initially planned on suicide for himself afterwards. As Dr.G. said (something like) his "self preservation instincts' proved to be stronger than he had anticipated...

    • @DigitalNeb
      @DigitalNeb 2 місяці тому +2

      @@SecularSpinach Good point.

    • @allieeverett9017
      @allieeverett9017 2 місяці тому +9

      They are delusional.

    • @SinisterScoundrel6562
      @SinisterScoundrel6562 2 місяці тому

      😅😅😅😅😅

    • @vikiallen9756
      @vikiallen9756 2 місяці тому +22

      I would imagine spousal support and child support to two wives and two children was a bit overwhelming for him.

  • @katarina1852
    @katarina1852 2 місяці тому +84

    Wow, Erica must be thankful she got out of her marriage to John with just a divorce and not a shot to the back of the head.

  • @dorothysullivan9151
    @dorothysullivan9151 2 місяці тому +42

    He went to a bar to eat lunch after “accidentally” shooting his wife? I doubt an innocent person could do that.

  • @enjoystraveling
    @enjoystraveling 2 місяці тому +184

    Oh yeah I believe he Accidentally did that, he was so distraught afterwards that he first went to eat lunch !!!

  • @lornamadden1099
    @lornamadden1099 2 місяці тому +57

    What type of woman would want to be with a guy who left his wife for her when they had a young family too ? Wouldnt you feel any guilt or like disgusted at the guy? I could never its fucked up

    • @justmeagain7
      @justmeagain7 Місяць тому +8

      Plus: she can already see her future.
      How you get them is how you'll lose them.

    • @lornamadden1099
      @lornamadden1099 Місяць тому +2

      @@justmeagain7 yeah defo , but even if he never cheated I'd have the ick just know he cheated on some other woman like so immature and hurtful

    • @weathamorris4251
      @weathamorris4251 Місяць тому +6

      You must not know the mindset of some women out there.

  • @pambennett3390
    @pambennett3390 2 місяці тому +67

    For all the ladies and gents out there..,, cheaters are not good people. Period.

  • @user-st6nt4ou6f
    @user-st6nt4ou6f 2 місяці тому +44

    A man gave me a gun, ostrnsibly for me to orotect myself. I left town one week later. Mu gut told me that that gun would probably be used to kill me

  • @karyannfontaine8757
    @karyannfontaine8757 2 місяці тому +105

    No person chambers a live round, unlodes it while closely pointing the weapon at a partner's head, pulls the trigger without intention. I concur with his guilty verdict and analysis. Narcissism, false presentation, emotional and financial baggage. Thank you for presenting the case.

    • @mikegarippo7815
      @mikegarippo7815 2 місяці тому +5

      You forgot to mention the fact that pot, cocaine, and booze were part of the equation when the gun was chambered.

    • @7Mushrooms7
      @7Mushrooms7 2 місяці тому +3

      Why would he even allegedly give her a gun as a birthday present, specially amidst imminent divorce?

  • @anneflynn9614
    @anneflynn9614 2 місяці тому +47

    Odd that a teacher would work as a nanny for parents of students in the school where she worked.I bet they were together beforehand.

    • @louise2467
      @louise2467 2 місяці тому +5

      My ex, who already had a kid, when he was married, had an affair with his kids teacher, long before he met me. She gave him twins! Haaaaa he didn’t want any of that and so ran away. When I met him he was paying reluctantly for them but little to no contact. I should’ve seen the sad excuse for a man he was then, but I didn’t. I do now, we didn’t have kids, my choice. He now, after our split, has another kid by a polish lady. I hope he manned up and was a better and more consistent father than he’s been up to date. Still, I don’t believe he ever actually killed anyone………..although I might’ve been close as was ill alot when he cooked…………

    • @a.m.9474
      @a.m.9474 2 місяці тому +1

      I was thinking the same

  • @ledzep3692
    @ledzep3692 2 місяці тому +45

    Amanda found out the hard way, that the grass is not always greener on the other side.

  • @gabitrindade4607
    @gabitrindade4607 2 місяці тому +19

    Where I come from we say “the place a woman cries, another can’t smile”. Amanda was the mistress, when she was upgraded to wife, her place became vacant.

  • @jayjablunov4697
    @jayjablunov4697 2 місяці тому +283

    "Amanda told people that she initially rejected John's advances, but then he started buying her expensive jewelry, roses and other gifts..."
    At least she entered the relationship for all the right reasons.

    • @pamelastevens1609
      @pamelastevens1609 2 місяці тому +49

      Yeah, she was obviously a very deep person 🙄

    • @jayjablunov4697
      @jayjablunov4697 2 місяці тому +39

      @@pamelastevens1609 Certainly the role model I'd want for my kid's teacher and and nanny...

    • @sarahholland2600
      @sarahholland2600 2 місяці тому +51

      Love bombing & lots of over grandiose romantic gestures straight away are classic narcissist moves to reel someone in quickly.

    • @LD-qj2te
      @LD-qj2te 2 місяці тому +7

      really how ridiculous

    • @hereitis.2587
      @hereitis.2587 2 місяці тому +27

      @@sarahholland2600yeah ya rite! Narcissists don’t take no for an answer. No just makes them try harder. They want what they want until they don’t want it.

  • @RullXov
    @RullXov 2 місяці тому +92

    The way John explained the [accidental] shooting of his wife...🙄

  • @prideofjudah5767
    @prideofjudah5767 2 місяці тому +126

    Amanda had her own agenda when she became romantically involved with and older, married man. She demonstrated her contempt for Erica and aligned herself with a malignant narcissist. His preference for a younger, attractive Amanda must have given her an ego boost and justification for her own treachery. Incredibly, she couldn't conceive that John would turn his vindictive hostility on her.

    • @2Bad4YOUuu
      @2Bad4YOUuu 2 місяці тому +42

      They never think to themselves, "He's gonna dispose of me someday too."

    • @possumaintdead
      @possumaintdead 2 місяці тому +41

      She was foolish to have an affair, but no one deserves to be murdered.

    • @susiex6669
      @susiex6669 2 місяці тому +15

      ​@@possumaintdeadAgreed. Divorce is better than life in prison.

    • @prideofjudah5767
      @prideofjudah5767 2 місяці тому +7

      @@possumaintdead I agree.

    • @adotintheshark4848
      @adotintheshark4848 2 місяці тому +3

      She basically trapped him then closed her legs.

  • @nounae7409
    @nounae7409 2 місяці тому +83

    What astounds me is how many sick people populate this world and how CAUTIOUS one must be at all times especially those starting a new relationship!

    • @NYCHFAN
      @NYCHFAN 2 місяці тому +10

      I will stay happily single, thanknyou! 😂

    • @windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823
      @windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823 2 місяці тому +5

      2 words: background check.

    • @SinisterScoundrel6562
      @SinisterScoundrel6562 2 місяці тому +2

      Women never take those correct precautions. They are terrible at being empaths. Usually kicking away the decent ambitious guy and settling instantly for the tall buffed 30 year old adolescent boy. Then complain later that all guys are the same after failing to change him, and still sticking with the narcissist.

    • @altaisrs2857
      @altaisrs2857 2 місяці тому

      @@SinisterScoundrel6562 Found the incel

    • @789bigbadswine
      @789bigbadswine 2 місяці тому +4

      Maybe just me but it seems like buying her expensive gifts before they're even dating would be a big red flag.

  • @mbrown5494
    @mbrown5494 2 місяці тому +46

    This man is an incredible coward.

  • @jubi400
    @jubi400 2 місяці тому +74

    Why on earth do people buy deadly weapons for people's birthdays and Christmas?
    SO stupid!

    • @stellviahohenheim
      @stellviahohenheim 2 місяці тому +10

      What's even stupider is that it's not even her birthday

    • @windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823
      @windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823 2 місяці тому +5

      I heard of parents who gave their kid a gun (he wanted a tennis 🎾 ). It was THE gun their OTHER KID killed himself with.
      Wait for it:
      For CHRISTMAS!!
      I DID NOT make this up!
      M. Scot Peck. People of the Lie.

    • @lynncaldwell8345
      @lynncaldwell8345 2 місяці тому

      @@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823 His haircut is regrettable.l call these turd cuts.

    • @kmj782
      @kmj782 2 місяці тому +9

      He bought it to kill her with it. HAPPY BIRTHDAY, honey.. boom. !

    • @FRLN500
      @FRLN500 2 місяці тому +1

      Yeah, do not buy your spouse a car for their birthday!

  • @blk5124
    @blk5124 2 місяці тому +90

    So the first wife almost owes her life to the second wife. I didn't see that coming.

    • @hopeausbyn1734
      @hopeausbyn1734 2 місяці тому +1

      Those children don't have to grow up without both their parents. They will eventually choose as Adults if a active relationship with their Father is what they want.

    • @It-is-me...Melsie
      @It-is-me...Melsie 2 місяці тому

      @@hopeausbyn1734 Pardon? You do realise their 'father' is in prison.

    • @hopeausbyn1734
      @hopeausbyn1734 2 місяці тому

      @@It-is-me...Melsie Children in the USA have interactions with their imprisoned relatives if their Parent allows it. As Adults, they will decide if they want a relationship with their imprisoned parent though letters, phone calls, are visit in the Prison. I'm aware that this does happen frequently. Some Adult Children actually believe in their Parent's innocence after criminal conviction.

    • @It-is-me...Melsie
      @It-is-me...Melsie 2 місяці тому +1

      @@hopeausbyn1734 Oh I see. For some reason I didn't understand your first comment. You're saying they don't have to be without their dad. Which why that is true, it would surely be a lot for his kids to come to terms with. There would be a certain amount of shame at having a parent in prison, particularly for murd3r.

    • @a.m.9474
      @a.m.9474 2 місяці тому +3

      She was out of line in the first place looking for nanny jobs in that way. She could have done that through an agency

  • @mario-qi3yw
    @mario-qi3yw 2 місяці тому +50

    Husbands killing their wives seems to be happening more frequently. These selfish men start an affair and don’t want responsibility of first wife and kids.
    Thank you Dr Grande

    • @nanettevantriesteharder2469
      @nanettevantriesteharder2469 2 місяці тому

      As in this case, selfish, narcissistic, financially predatory, and adulterous girlfriends and wives without functional empathy pathways in their brains toward their victims (e.g., employers, ex-wives, children from former relationships) can and do commit horrible acts also. I think murder is wrong, but the new wife was not a Roman Catholic saint by any means.

    • @SinisterScoundrel6562
      @SinisterScoundrel6562 2 місяці тому +1

      These ladies pick these guys. So it's meant to be when they all of a sudden perish.😂

    • @YurinanAcquiline
      @YurinanAcquiline 2 місяці тому +3

      I think it it is not more frequently. Media tells you more nowadays.

    • @nanettevantriesteharder2469
      @nanettevantriesteharder2469 2 місяці тому +1

      A lack of functional empathy pathways in the brain is problematic for all people in society in general. If a girl's or a boy's brain is not specifically taught to think, communicate, and act upon the Golden Rule, that person can look good on the outside but be a dark tetrad Cluster B personality on the inside.

    • @It-is-me...Melsie
      @It-is-me...Melsie 2 місяці тому +9

      @@SinisterScoundrel6562 That's a very incel way of saying the victims get what they're asking for, and that I definitely don't agree with.

  • @karenmartin7978
    @karenmartin7978 2 місяці тому +81

    That murder was on the local (Erie) news. The priest he confessed to kept being asked if he violated the secrecy of the sacrament of confession by telling the police what John Grazioli told him. He said no, the man just showed up, said he needed to talk to someone, and then stated he murdered his wife. I believe the two were talking in the living room of the priest's residence.

    • @Nurse_Kathy
      @Nurse_Kathy 2 місяці тому +29

      If not communicated to a priest during the Sacrament of Reconciliation, a “confession” is not privileged and the priest is not bound to secrecy.

    • @tortimeese
      @tortimeese 2 місяці тому +22

      @@Nurse_Kathy I thought that a confession of murder, even during the Sacrament of Reconciliation, was grounds to contact the authorities. The Catholic church is not above the rule of law.

    • @catholicconvert2119
      @catholicconvert2119 2 місяці тому +6

      @@tortimeeseyea we are

    • @April-xs9tk
      @April-xs9tk 2 місяці тому +2

      @@tortimeese100% we are above the law

    • @Carolinagirl589
      @Carolinagirl589 2 місяці тому

      Thou shalt not kill - nobody is above God's law. @@catholicconvert2119

  • @blueridgeocean
    @blueridgeocean 2 місяці тому +32

    Why was the magazine loaded with ammunition if it was a gift?
    I've received and gifted firearms. I can't think of any good reasons why it would be loaded....

    • @j3suisd3
      @j3suisd3 2 місяці тому +1

      Hahaha ... it's as puzzling as the minature person on the paving at 2:25 ... what am i seeing ??

    • @a.m.9474
      @a.m.9474 2 місяці тому +2

      Cuz he really was planning to give it to her for her bday. Just not as a gift

    • @deborahblackvideoediting8697
      @deborahblackvideoediting8697 2 місяці тому

      @@j3suisd3- Lol, I hadn't noticed that! At first it seems like a very young child, but then it looks like a miniature young child! That's pretty odd!

    • @AngelaRPierce
      @AngelaRPierce Місяць тому

      ​@@deborahblackvideoediting8697cell phone photos really distort things far off.

  • @elizaleroux9173
    @elizaleroux9173 2 місяці тому +14

    At least he didn't loose his appetite.. went for lunch after the crime. Unbelievable arrogant.

  • @JaneDoe-ip5yl
    @JaneDoe-ip5yl 2 місяці тому +31

    Do not rush relationships. ever

    • @hereitis.2587
      @hereitis.2587 2 місяці тому +4

      Dating is for a reason. Never move in together either.

    • @suzannewhitaker3507
      @suzannewhitaker3507 2 місяці тому

      sign of a narc

    • @SinisterScoundrel6562
      @SinisterScoundrel6562 2 місяці тому

      Stupidity is just doing its deed. Removing itself from society!😅

    • @hereitis.2587
      @hereitis.2587 2 місяці тому +1

      @@SinisterScoundrel6562 some make children first.

  • @francescawilliams8177
    @francescawilliams8177 2 місяці тому +61

    And they always manage to get partners somehow. The worse they are.

    • @livingonhighvibe
      @livingonhighvibe 2 місяці тому +7

      they are looking for damaged goods. Serious boundary issues to begin with.

    • @SinisterScoundrel6562
      @SinisterScoundrel6562 2 місяці тому

      ​@@livingonhighvibeEven women who aren't damaged goods want to become damaged. Cuz they just love the "alpha males" (abusers) more than anything! So let em get what they deserve.😂

  • @Einstormer
    @Einstormer 2 місяці тому +19

    He had the dream trait - money. And she had the dream trait - looks. And they both lived happily ever after.

    • @justmeagain7
      @justmeagain7 Місяць тому

      He didn't. He faked to be rich. She refused to have sex with him after she realized he wasn't rich.

  • @joanneandrews7707
    @joanneandrews7707 2 місяці тому +12

    As soon as I heard “she became the nanny” I knew where this was headed. I don’t believe a word he said about how that poor young lady died. Also, on a lighter note, can I just say that I very much appreciate (and actively look for) one of your puppies popping up in the paid promotions. They are adorable ☺️

  • @littlerichie874
    @littlerichie874 2 місяці тому +62

    Never hire a young, attractive nanny.

    • @ken131
      @ken131 2 місяці тому +12

      Or maybe just don't have an affair with your young, attractive nanny? Is that an option?

    • @justmeagain7
      @justmeagain7 Місяць тому +7

      ​@@ken131both, just to be doubly safe.

  • @calendarpage
    @calendarpage 2 місяці тому +43

    The rabbits told me they would like to stay on the table, not in the cabinet. Thought you'd like to know.

    • @babbittdawabbitt3716
      @babbittdawabbitt3716 2 місяці тому +4

      There’s teapots and rabbits…where’s the mad hatter ?

    • @susanivy3619
      @susanivy3619 2 місяці тому +4

      @@babbittdawabbitt3716 He's narrating the video.

    • @hopeausbyn1734
      @hopeausbyn1734 2 місяці тому +2

      Perhaps Mrs. G, (Grande) who does Seasonal themes, might spoil us with a Magically delightful presentation.

  • @ricktandron3669
    @ricktandron3669 2 місяці тому +52

    As a single dad for two teenage girls, I applaud the courts for granting the divorce expeditiously. Kudos.

  • @DemonaLlama
    @DemonaLlama 2 місяці тому +31

    4.45 Dr Grande, your dog is plotting against you.

  • @user-od3be8ny4o
    @user-od3be8ny4o 2 місяці тому +22

    I love it when I stay up late enough (UK) to watch Dr Grande at 23.17pm whilst applying my fake tan and questioning my life choices 😅

    • @TXforever
      @TXforever 2 місяці тому +3

      😂😂😂

  • @aliciagriggs8531
    @aliciagriggs8531 2 місяці тому +89

    John was guilty of first-degree murder! He shot his wife in the head and then went out to lunch.😢

  • @Will-Parr
    @Will-Parr 2 місяці тому +31

    Let’s see, he shot his wife then went to a bar and had lunch?

  • @ASlightlyTwistedFemale
    @ASlightlyTwistedFemale 2 місяці тому +45

    It’s so sad to see how such a promising life can be destroyed with such malice. Rest in peace beautiful.

    • @HumanimalChannel
      @HumanimalChannel 2 місяці тому +5

      Was she having an affair with him when he was married to Erica???
      Everyine needs to be more responsible and accountable . Of course she didnt deserve the Bullet.

    • @ASlightlyTwistedFemale
      @ASlightlyTwistedFemale 2 місяці тому

      @@HumanimalChannel what tf does that have to do with anything?? Erica didn’t shoot her, this weirdo did. He’s the one who can’t take responsibility.

    • @j3suisd3
      @j3suisd3 2 місяці тому +3

      Don't know about promising ... she broke up a marriage pretty quick & exposed 2 children (her students) to a life of sad chaos ... then stopped having sex when she found out he had 2 mortgages as well 🙄

    • @ASlightlyTwistedFemale
      @ASlightlyTwistedFemale 2 місяці тому +1

      @@j3suisd3 no outsider can break up a marriage, only people within that marriage can break up their marriage. but then again men are allergic to accountability so there’s that

    • @KaraLey98
      @KaraLey98 2 місяці тому

      @@j3suisd3
      No she didn’t stop-he was just insatiable, so complained about her which caused him to be less attractive to her, which made her less interested in doing anything at all with him-probably she preferred to be with someone cooler at that point.

  • @PrissyHippie
    @PrissyHippie 2 місяці тому +27

    How did he expect the outcome to turn out well? How stupid! He was a miserable old cuss!

    • @aisoconcranberriesu2as
      @aisoconcranberriesu2as 2 місяці тому +1

      Yes how did he think he would benefit from her murder. It was clear he did it. He was never going to get away with it.

  • @adotintheshark4848
    @adotintheshark4848 2 місяці тому +17

    "Ok babe, I'm going to unload the weapon..what does this button do?" BLAM!. Right. The defense should have rounded up OJ's jury. They might have believed his cockamamee explanation. He'd be a free man now!

    • @SecularSpinach
      @SecularSpinach 2 місяці тому +7

      Not quite. This guy is white....

  • @ELvis348
    @ELvis348 Місяць тому +3

    No need to watch the news or 20/20 anymore…It’s the Dr.Grande show that provides news updates with mental health substance. Thank you Dr. Grande🌹

  • @sharonhoyt2133
    @sharonhoyt2133 2 місяці тому +9

    "Permanent fiery subterranean vacation" This has to be the best description of hell.

  • @zenawarrior7442
    @zenawarrior7442 2 місяці тому +25

    Love bombing & gifts are one tactic of a narcissist to get their hooks in. Great points again on another sad, strange case. Meals look yummy 🍱🧂& hi to Bella🐶Thanks Dr G😊🧡🧡

    • @LadyAngelaYaYa1966
      @LadyAngelaYaYa1966 2 місяці тому

      I am living proof that you’re right. I am a slow learner. I married and divorced three men, all of whom love bombed me. I was obviously easy to seduce. My “picker” is obviously broken 😢

    • @zenawarrior7442
      @zenawarrior7442 2 місяці тому

      @@LadyAngelaYaYa1966 Awww don't feel that way but I understand. The most sensitive & kind women are usually the ones who believe their bs. We deserve better💜Just recognize the signs then get out quicker.

    • @jasmine0354
      @jasmine0354 Місяць тому

      Love little Bella during the commercial ! ❤❤🐶

    • @zenawarrior7442
      @zenawarrior7442 Місяць тому

      @@jasmine0354 Me too. She's adorable!! 🐾💞

  • @vidkidz83
    @vidkidz83 2 місяці тому +8

    The fact that he stopped for lunch.

  • @vivianaBalbuena-Kuras-lt2pm
    @vivianaBalbuena-Kuras-lt2pm 2 місяці тому +64

    People always pay attention to these narcissist after is too late.

    • @arbonneladyTN
      @arbonneladyTN 2 місяці тому +6

      Yes indeed.

    • @griftospherequalitycontrol4179
      @griftospherequalitycontrol4179 2 місяці тому +9

      A. Neurotypical guy that makes 80k a year
      B. Narcissist that makes 200k a year.
      She will pick B 9 out of 10 times. 😂

    • @CyeOutsider
      @CyeOutsider 2 місяці тому

      ​@griftospherequalitycontrol4179 Yeah, let's not talk about how often men dump their wives after they have kids for a young piece tail, not caring that these affair partners are known to their wives and in their lives.
      No, let's just talk about how shallow and terrible WOMEN are.

    • @CyeOutsider
      @CyeOutsider 2 місяці тому

      Because narcissists are very good at hiding who they really are. It can take a long time for the mask to drop.

  • @livingonhighvibe
    @livingonhighvibe 2 місяці тому +13

    YEP, when I took self defense shooting lessons, various Glocks were my training pistols. I had to get on a training program for hand muscles because I was not able to even press the trigger while holding the gun properly. Sure, men's hands are stronger but, generally speaking, pistols are manufactured in a way where you need to be intending and determined to pull the trigger; it's not an effortless process.
    Let's assume for a moment that this was an accident. Being impaired by any substance is not an excuse. Also, if you handle a gun and it discharges, you can be charged with negligent discharge even if you didn't injure or kill anyone. Not sure about every state, but in AZ that's what they told us at concealed carry course. It is a big No-No. Also, don't have the gun pointed at anyone. Even when at a range training. Even when there are no rounds at all. And don't put your finger on a trigger while handling the gun. The hand is on the trigger only when you need to discharge your firearm.

  • @amandawilkinsontarot7096
    @amandawilkinsontarot7096 2 місяці тому +27

    Hello Dr Grande and Everyone from Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada 🇨🇦

  • @abigailstars2013
    @abigailstars2013 2 місяці тому +27

    I love to see Dr. Grande pictures on his house with a meal and a smile. If I see those commercials, it is just so see his picture at the end 😂😂🥰

    • @bthomson
      @bthomson 2 місяці тому +6

      And bunny s&p and Bella 🐾

  • @nuclearmedicineman6270
    @nuclearmedicineman6270 2 місяці тому +29

    Birthday party really went off with a bang.

    • @SecularSpinach
      @SecularSpinach 2 місяці тому

      That's stupid AND crude! Why don't you Have a little respect for Amanda, who did not deserve to die by this A_sholes hand...

  • @Renee1110
    @Renee1110 2 місяці тому +8

    I miss so much about my husband and our life together. But those stupid little petty fights..? I love that those are out of my life! I’m an old lady and I thank God for the peace He is currently allowing me to have. I just want to go quietly to God (and fast) from my apartment 😊

    • @j3suisd3
      @j3suisd3 2 місяці тому

      ⭐😊⭐

  • @theresekirkpatrick3337
    @theresekirkpatrick3337 2 місяці тому +12

    Geeze 🤔🙄 definitely fishy,
    as if it happened that way she would’ve been facing him not facing away like a coward. He definitely premeditated it

  • @bunberrier
    @bunberrier 2 місяці тому +5

    He probably should have blamed their house elf for the accidental discharge. That would have been more believeable.

  • @WobblesandBean
    @WobblesandBean 2 місяці тому +4

    *_"And yet, when women say they are afraid of men, the men still ask why."_*

    • @eadweard.
      @eadweard. 2 місяці тому +1

      Sanctimonious drivel.

  • @ebudae
    @ebudae 2 місяці тому +4

    I know of a woman, a friend of a friend. Her partner and herself got drunk one night and supposedly were wrestling around on their bed with a loaded rifle (wt...?) and he 'accidentally' shot her through the head. She lived although she lost an eye because of it and has some slight brain damage. I met this woman briefly and I think she is very lucky to be alive. He went to jail for some years and is still in jail but gets released next year. And.... wait for it... She wants to take him back! Seriously! I thought it was a strange story to begin with but she wants to take him back?! Some people never learn.

  • @amandamills6181
    @amandamills6181 2 місяці тому +11

    Sounds like John & Amanda were well matched in their maturity level.

  • @siouxd799
    @siouxd799 2 місяці тому +9

    Watching the Factor Advert to see Dr Grande’s cute doggo!!!

  • @emimon2351
    @emimon2351 2 місяці тому +4

    John wrote letters and went out to eat lunch after killing his wife... I can't 🤦

  • @lisachrist6256
    @lisachrist6256 2 місяці тому +10

    I enjoy seeing your pups in the sponsor ads.

  • @amg8497
    @amg8497 2 місяці тому +8

    Sounds like the ex knew something about it ?!… telling her he will have it all done by Friday .. wouldn’t she ask what 😊he means IF she didn’t already know ?!

    • @AngelaRPierce
      @AngelaRPierce Місяць тому

      I also took that to mean that he intended on getting back together with her.

  • @ludwigvanzappa9548
    @ludwigvanzappa9548 2 місяці тому +15

    Dr.Grande is the great speculator!

  • @josiek5989
    @josiek5989 2 місяці тому +29

    "Permanent and fiery subterranean vacation" lol

  • @user-pm5bp1np8l
    @user-pm5bp1np8l 2 місяці тому +20

    His lawyer could have used his gun fantasy as proof he was delusional.

  • @therese6447
    @therese6447 2 місяці тому +19

    Clarification he didn't seek absolution. I read a few reports that stated Roman Catholic law forbids priests contacting authorities over confessions, Rev Polinek made the decision to call police after Grazioli hadn't asked to receive the sacrament of confession. Catholic priests uphold the seal of confession. Because he did not receive the sacrament the priest used his judgement to call authorities. Upholding the seal of confession is important because if it was not upheld why would anyone go to have an encounter with a priest to hear one's sins to confess and hear the words of absolution when repenting. From the reports he did not want to ask forgiveness he did not want to partake of the graces of the sacrament ...he just wanted to tell someone this priest what he did and nothing else...this is why the priest did what he did...he did not break the seal because the guy didn't go to have a formal sacaramental confession. Another point in general yes the Church believes if you commit suicide you objectively would go to hell since it is a grave matter. However, for it to be grave one must have free will, know what they are doing is gravely wrong and do it anyway...so it is possible if someone had a mental illness and committed suicide they may not have gone to hell because they did not really have free will. Not excusing what he did but providing insight to Catholic beliefs.

    • @marymonroe7042
      @marymonroe7042 2 місяці тому +4

      Thank you. As a Catholic myself, I knew John must have not gone to the Sacrament of Confession, but had told the Priest outside of Confession.

    • @jacquelinewilliams5661
      @jacquelinewilliams5661 2 місяці тому

      Also he told his ex wife what he'd done. If someone commits suicide they are mentally tormented. Our Heavenly Father knows this, so no he will not forever be tortured, but will be mercifully forgiven. God is higher than we are and so are his thoughts.

  • @a.m.9474
    @a.m.9474 2 місяці тому +2

    I believe he said “here’s your present” before he shot her. I believe he meant it very sarcastically.

  • @Ellliieeeeee
    @Ellliieeeeee 2 місяці тому +24

    Bella by your elbow at the table 🥹

  • @srsusansummers3070
    @srsusansummers3070 2 місяці тому +23

    What woman would want a gun for a gift?

    • @KayBacci
      @KayBacci 2 місяці тому +1

      He drew Amanda into his clutches with expensive jewellery! Now he's got her, he gives her a gun for a present? Really?

  • @kuroneko7022
    @kuroneko7022 2 місяці тому +50

    This is one of the most ridiculous things I’ve heard lately. Why not just leave Amanda, divorce her. Why do so many men use violence to solve a problem? It’s really disturbing. Glad I’m single - you never know what psychopath you’ll meet who appears normal.

    • @ioanaanaoi8232
      @ioanaanaoi8232 2 місяці тому +12

      I guess they were both psychopaths. She was a home wrecker

    • @Koozomec
      @Koozomec 2 місяці тому +6

      The excuse to not date because some people are dangerous is like refusing to take a bath because sharks lives in water.

    • @hereitis.2587
      @hereitis.2587 2 місяці тому

      @@Koozomecyou must be a man with this reply. Ask your friends how many are ready to get married to a woman their own age.

    • @DrDeuteron
      @DrDeuteron 2 місяці тому

      @@hereitis.2587 I would never marry a woman my own age.

    • @livingonhighvibe
      @livingonhighvibe 2 місяці тому +3

      except with this yo-yo, it was clear as day from the start that he's a psycho. And she was knowingly a home wrecker.

  • @Tsathogguah
    @Tsathogguah Місяць тому +3

    "Romantic rejections are often based on physical appearance." Truthbomb.

  • @Flamsterette
    @Flamsterette 2 місяці тому +41

    Thanks for the upload, Dr. Grande! Your true fans love your humor and sarcasm. March 10 is Daylight Savings Time 2024, International Lime Day (gotta have some Kettle Brand habanero-lime chips later!), National Mario Day (MAR 10), 10 March - Tibetan National Uprising Day, National Blueberry Popover Day, National Salvation Army Day, Harriet Tubman Day, National Skirt Day, International Day Of Awesomeness (Chuck Norris's Birthday), Landline Telephone Day, International Find a Pay Phone Booth Day, International Bagpipe Day, National Dry Shampoo Day, Pack Your Lunch Day, and Ranch Dressing Day.

    • @catherinelincoln9830
      @catherinelincoln9830 2 місяці тому +10

      Also today is Mothering Sunday, celebrated in the UK and other English-speaking countries, except the USA.

    • @Flamsterette
      @Flamsterette 2 місяці тому +4

      @@catherinelincoln9830 PSA for NORTH AMERICANS: This is NOT Mother's Day! Mother's Day is in May here!

    • @user-tm9qb2jk4o
      @user-tm9qb2jk4o 2 місяці тому +6

      @@Flamsterette catherinelincoln9830 indicated Mothering Sunday was not celebrated today in the USA. And today begins Daylight SAVING Time, not SAVINGS.

    • @Flamsterette
      @Flamsterette 2 місяці тому +1

      @@user-tm9qb2jk4o I don't care WHAT she indicated. I was CLARIFYING for the dumbfucks who don't know that Mother's Day is not in March.

    • @nancyjensen6409
      @nancyjensen6409 2 місяці тому +1

      Did you all watch the Academy Awards? The British winners wished their mothers’ a happy Mothering Day.

  • @josepherickson6056
    @josepherickson6056 Місяць тому +2

    I just started watching Dr Grande recently and I'm absolutely shocked to see someone I once knew featured in a video. I'm from the Erie, PA area originally, though I've mostly lived in AK since 2010.
    As a newly licensed Commercial Pilot and Flight Instructor in 2005, John was my very first flight student. I had no idea this even happened, and couldn't believe it when I saw his name. Though I didn't know him outside of the student/teacher training environment, I remember him as a sharp student pilot and at that time in 2005/2006, he seemed like a generally nice guy, we spent a significant amount of time training together over the course of a year or so. He never struck me as the type to have such despicable moral character.
    Its disturbing what may lie just below the surface of someone who you interact with. My very sincere thoughts and condolences go out to everyone in both families who were tragically affected by this horrific event.

  • @stevemorris270
    @stevemorris270 2 місяці тому +10

    Why bother with that defense?

  • @cherjohnson6808
    @cherjohnson6808 2 місяці тому +7

    John was crazy

  • @user-eu6hf2ug1u
    @user-eu6hf2ug1u 2 місяці тому +9

    Your hard work is appreciated.

  • @mrparlanejxtra
    @mrparlanejxtra 2 місяці тому +6

    looking for love? More like looking for another victim.

  • @3beanmachine126
    @3beanmachine126 2 місяці тому +3

    4:40 Dr. Grande your dog 🐶 is adorable! 😊

  • @cassandraotroy6325
    @cassandraotroy6325 2 місяці тому +9

    Well, he may have been correct about many not believing his story. Sorry, John

  • @LaiaBertran
    @LaiaBertran 2 місяці тому +1

    Hi Dr. Grande, I've been enjoying your videos. Thank you!

  • @maryrichardson6029
    @maryrichardson6029 2 місяці тому +6

    Always interesting
    Thank you❤

  • @meFatuations
    @meFatuations 2 місяці тому +5

    Scary. Absolutely no warning that I could see.

  • @manewland1
    @manewland1 2 місяці тому

    Glad to catch up on this past weekend's videos with my morning coffee (and glad to catch your little dog's cameo, as always, when you plugged Factor once again). Thanks, again as always, Dr. Grande!)

  • @Johnson-Sequoia
    @Johnson-Sequoia 2 місяці тому +6

    Hello Dr Grande , please review the Danny Casolaro case. Love your commentary!

  • @dews3340
    @dews3340 2 місяці тому +1

    Thanks for sharing today

  • @Anne-ot8gq
    @Anne-ot8gq 2 місяці тому +2

    Eyyy i was just watching your videos and you uploaded

  • @victoria2050nin
    @victoria2050nin 2 місяці тому +1

    Dr Grande, I love your advertising sponsor spots. They are more interesting than the regular ads!.

  • @joshuatealeaves
    @joshuatealeaves 2 місяці тому +3

    It’s always your own people. I love my wife & kids without question but I’m always in survival mode because you truly never know

  • @marytague6268
    @marytague6268 2 місяці тому +1

    I loved the “subterranean” analogy for Hell! Brilliant analysis as per usual!👍

  • @devonteforeman
    @devonteforeman Місяць тому +3

    He went to a bar to eat lunch just after doing this? The dude is a psychopath.

  • @raymondpetrovits2336
    @raymondpetrovits2336 2 місяці тому +2

    The mark of a true coward. Running to a church like it would absolve him of murder. Premeditation is obvious.

  • @guntherandthisby
    @guntherandthisby 2 місяці тому

    I was waiting for this testimony God bless you!! thank you for the prayer too haha

  • @susanivy3619
    @susanivy3619 2 місяці тому +2

    haha That doggie in the shot of Mr. Grande at his kitchen table was adorable...and I'm a cat person.

  • @ryanhaley9407
    @ryanhaley9407 2 місяці тому +1

    4:43 omg he smiled!! ive never seen him smile! just takes a sponsor to see him look happy lol

  • @oldcollegecoed
    @oldcollegecoed Місяць тому +1

    Dr. Grande, another fascinating story! Just an FYI. The Catholic Church officially changed its stance on suicide being a mortal sin back in the early 80’s. While the Church still believes suicide is wrong, it has become more enlightened about the psychological reasons for suicide, cause someone to take their lives, and has become much empathetic over the intense mental anguish victims endure.

  • @Milz
    @Milz 2 місяці тому +1

    1:55 its amazing how many different ways there are to describe bedroom action.

  • @elizabethwarman9028
    @elizabethwarman9028 2 місяці тому +2

    Hi Dr Grande,
    If I was Erika, I would be jumping for joy I am still alive.
    As always I learn something new from your videos.

  • @texasrefugee7888
    @texasrefugee7888 2 місяці тому +11

    Always my favorite stories Doctor Grande ❤️ Love your sense of humor. You're even very good with your sponsors advertising & marketing.

  • @trumpialightning1691
    @trumpialightning1691 Місяць тому +1

    Dr. Grande, could you please do the Michelle Troconis case? Thank You!

  • @tmcurly
    @tmcurly 2 місяці тому +4

    These killers must think that the smartest person in the room😏.
    Why not plead Guilty then if he is not denying that he pulled the trigger.