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For me, it works best if I go in this order: 1.) get up early (at the same time), 2.) do excercise (weightlifting can be included), 3.) large breakfast, 4.) keep to the rest of my daily schedule.
My advice for anyone wanting to get over anxiety/depression: 1. Quit alcohol - there is nothing good about it. It's highly calorific, poisonous to your liver and it makes you do stupid things when you've had too much of it. 2. Avoid smoking and any type of drugs. 3. Eat healthily - breakfast, lunch, dinner, with limited snacking in between. 4. The only drink you ever need is H2O - certainly cut out all soft drinks, energy drinks and fruit smoothies. 5. Go for a run in the park - not on a treadmill in the gym. The fresh air is good and the nature is beautiful. 6. Lift weights - looking good physically will do wonders for your confidence and self-esteem. 7. Go to bed early and wake up early - very rarely is anything productive achieved after 10pm. 8. Take pride in your career and be passionate about your job, no matter how humble it may be. 9. Make somebody smile everyday, either by a kind word or a good deed. Making other people feel better will make you feel better, and it takes the focus off yourself. 10. Stop dwelling on the past and worrying about the future. Live in the present. Remember that the present moment is the only thing that is ever real. Everything else is in your mind. Lastly, get off the f**king internet. Social media is sewage. Limit yourself to half an hour of internet a day. Meet people in real life and have real social interactions. Good luck!
I have the same problem. I had a very underwhelming position at my job, drank all the time, ate like shit and quit hanging out with friends but just this past year I asked my boss for more responsibility and ended up getting two promotions within 4 months, started lifting weights at the gym, eating healthier (intermittent fasting so I don't eat until 5 pm most days), and started playing guitar more instead of indulging in mindless video games during free time...gotta say, setting goals and challenging yourself will heal you more than any pill. Do things that benefit your life and others, quit wasting your gift.
@@mimosa9434 doesnt vhange the fact that its terrible for you and it has really bad longterm consequences. Of course if you dont eat you will lose weight
Here's mine 1.don't drink ,alcohol = more anxiety 2. No caffeine, some small amounts of sugar. 3. Take melaton at night .pop one around 7 or 8pm ,be in bed around 930 or ten. Only take once or twice a week. No distractions like cell phone. Full sleep .GO TO BED EARLY . 4.run ,run ,run, run or lift or any physical work. 5.turn down the sensory overload. ( phones, music, TV,etc) . Silence is good . 6.don't expect so much from yourself and quit thinking about stuff that hasn't even happened or what others think , if you catch yourself doing this, just remind yourself that this is useless thoughts. Talk to your brain
I used to think that overanalysing made me intelligent and is a quality to admire, however, I learned it definitely has very self-destroying aspects as well where you have a hard time letting go of things and finding inner peace in your head. Thanks for the tips Jordan!
I agree, same problem here. I always thought it makes me intelligent and yes it sorta does.. butttt i think I'm over doing it at this point 3 years desire to know information I don't even need, my brain is just overwhelmed and I can't stop it, i lose track of time, myself and i might be little bit too much self aware!!
This man, in a 4 minute video, just summed up the problem that was burdening my life and gave plausible solutions to it. FOR FREE. God bless this man Edit: Not to mention, I started working out because I found out that exercising REMOVES my anxiety and over analytic thoughts and every day I skip a workout, my mind starts to race the whole day.
Dam I had the exact same problem as you. I never exercised or worked out. As soon as I started working out it all went away if I miss days in the gym it comes back. Weird what abit of exercise can do.
Mist Eerie, useless? Playing chess effectively can increase your ability to problem solve, teach creative thinking, teach strategic thinking, and a bunch of other benefits that are going to help you in life. It teaches you how to lose, and that actions have consequences. By the way, why did you assume that because someone plays chess, they don't also have a career in science? It sounds like you could use some critical thinking yourself, I suggest playing chess sometime it helps.
One of the most therapeutic things I’ve found for anxiety is making my bed every morning cause no matter what happens throughout the day when I come home from class or work there is a consistently clean bed for me
Alexander Windh it’s the process of creating a habit and adding consistency to your life, honestly I don’t care about the condition of my bed but when it’s the first thing I do every morning means that no matter what this day starts the way I want it to. Hope that helps
My whole life changed when I started a schedule.of getting up at 4 am every morning and working out. Took a little bit for it to catch on, but it's been years. To this day if I ever take more than a few days off, I start to feel it in my head. Also, being someone who is over analytical and highly anxious by nature, the "eat a big breakfast" is a fanradtic piece of advice. Low blood sugar caused many of my anxiety attacks. I know the media will have you believe that JP is mainly for men, but as a woman I can't stress enough how he, Goggins, and Jocko have helped shape my life. Thank you so very very much.
I am very jelous of you. Whenever i start a day with a workout I get dizzy, nauseous and tired or foggy minded for the rest of the day. Doesnt depend on the training intensity and my diet is healthy. I am saddened that i miss out on that much desired energy boost
I would recommend Martial Arts from my personal experience. At least for some people who are more athletic or find interest in combat sports and such. Not necessarily competition or hard sparring but letting your body learn how to move and work in cooperation with the mind. The training usually includes some weightlifting some cardio as well as eye-hand coordination, timing, mental strategy, etc. I think it's good to know how to use your body not just pick up heavy stuff but nothing wrong with lifting. That's my humble opinion.
Could not agree with you more. Too often we think of the mind and the body as mutually exclusive. Anecdotal I know, but martial arts has really helped me in multiple facets of my life too.
Phillip Adams I clicked on this video instantly and went down to the comments to search for a comment like this, I started jujitsu 3 weeks ago and been a massive fan of the UFC for around two years, it's the best thing to happen to me since I started weightlifting considering I'm over analytical in every aspect of life and dealt with pretty extreme anxiety for a while but that bullshits slowly going away
I've picked up bad injuries in a year and been out of jiu Jitsu for that long as a consequence. I've kept my body strong but I'm the most anxious I've ever been. I need to find something else that has the same effect because it's wrecking my body....but it's incredible for my mood, resilience and mental fortitude.
I've become hyper-analytical in almost every situation I am in outside of the home (for various reasons) to the point that it is exhausting my mental reserves and I experience fogginess and headaches and a debilitating decrease in concentration and focus. Meditation has helped _tremendously_ and continues to do so. Another practice is to reign in your thoughts, instead of being lead around by your thoughts you simply practice getting into the habit of just observing your thoughts from a completely neutral standpoint and watch them disappear just as quickly as they appeared. It is about reclaiming your mental space as your own "house" and seeing your thoughts simply as guests that appear and disappear. Eventually you begin to separate yourself from your thoughts completely or more precisely separate your immediate emotional responses to your thoughts (at least the negative ones anyhow). This is helpful for *EXCESSIVE* thinkers/analyzers whose trait does more harm than good.
I hate to play doctor but sounds like you have Anxiety which has been discussed here in detail. If you don't want to take Pharmaceuticals you can try Ashwagandha root. I know some people will hate me for recommending an herb but the numerous studies don't lie. It as been shown to reduce cortisol levels by 20 percent. Herbs don't work for everyone and you should only try it if you are NOT on medication or have a mild case of Anxiety. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3573577/
I agree, this helped me a lot. I would also recommend the Wim Hoff breathing exercise... just search UA-cam. Your blood will become oxygenated, your heart rate drops very low, and your body turns alkaline. You get a feeling of hyper awareness, and the sensation of waking up from a good sleep. It also seems to help with headaches.
sounds like you are an extreme introvert. Feeling like people rob your energy levels is somewhat a sign. I get like that after an hour indoors with a group of people. Im good for short periods of time but after a while I need to step out. Usually somewhere in the open helps. Well I smoke too so that another reason. But typically I feel like I have to keep people engaged when i'm in close proximity and I hate an awkward silence so I put more effort which either annoys someone or gets me exhausted after 40 mins. You should try engaging people in short periods for a bit. Some of this is practice so that may help ease your social anxiety if you have that.
Well in that case you sound just like me. Except Im a bit older. Did you have periods of Anxiety and depression? I have good and bad days still but its under control. Im very good with new people as well and I can engage most people when I meet them but I get exhausted and lose interest with most. I was never diagnosed with ADHD because I did academically well but I honestly think ADHD is sometimes wrongfully diagnosed and typical lack of interest is normal when you are around topics and people that don't engage you. We have very selective interests. These days i cant be in a club or bar for too long unless Im drunk or doing something else. I get bored way too fast and leave most of the time. Are you good otherwise when doing something you like? I Excel at tasks that I have interest in and usually get good results so I think my personality is just very selective. Also people with higher than average IQ are known to show some of these traits. The boredom is just due to repetitive boring things than your mind is telling you is not worth your effort. Like a date with a girl that has nothing interesting to say....
Magic mushrooms can permanently increase someones Openness ( says Jordan Peterson). This song increases Neuroticism permanently about one standard deviation. Roughly speaken.
Embarassing events start to come up every few hours in my brain.. Whether it would be 3 years ago or a week ago.. It would just haunt me every time a remotely similar situation presents itself. Over the course of 2018 it began to lessen as I had more friends to chat with and a girl to like.. Yet socially, I'm still the anxious mess that I am.. I think so deeply about simple conversations.. Then afterwards contemplate better words to have said. It deeply troubles me how self analytic I am yet it has worked in my favor in being somewhat grounded in what I believe
I completely understand and can relate to that. What really helped me other than Jordan Peterson's very logical advice was to when I would overthink about anything that isn't serving me I say to myself "I'll cross that bridge when I get to it", I would repeat it when my overly analytical brain kicks in and I found it had a tremendous positive affect and it actually became a habit I use, if I ever i have to do any type of public speaking or interaction with anyone, by using those words I'll cross that bridge when I get to it our encounters and circumstances that we would usually overthink we tend to come across more naturally and intuitive. Hope it helps :)
Watched this video last night, made the simple changes this morning, and had one of my best day’s in months. I am nothing but grateful for all of the comments here as well as Dr Peterson. Thank you
I started training with a PT and lifting weights. I've Never been to the gym before and I'm 28 and I was beyond terrified to walk into the building. I'm now far more happy.
The over analyzing bubble: If over-analyzing is a result of rumination and anixety, the person's own attemps to analyze tends to reach limited conclusions, where the inputs used to reach a conclusion lie in the person's limited rumination bubble. What happens mostly is: after a hard time analyzing the rumination cycles as a result of anixety, one of the survival mechanisims during those difficult periods is to adapt certain behaviours as a quick fix to reduce anixety, that might include: a radical shift in a person's attitude toward daily events, or projecting an opossite personality trait than the ones he used to demonstrate to others. The issue with this approach is that the inputs used to reach the final conclusion are limited and not suffiecient enough to make a huge behavioural change, which might cause a real social communication confusion and makes the original anixety rumination even worse after realizing that the behavioural changes did not work.
Many of those who overthink/overanalyse drink so to get a break from a *constantly spinning mind*. It's a 'reprieve', but of course it often become habit forming and addictive as I'm sure is not news to yourselves. Even those who would say they do not suffer with overanalysing drink for similar reasons... it's a nice break. You and your thoughts 'lighten up'. Consider meditation, if only to give your mind a f*cking break. Believe me, I know what I'm talking about as have (had) overanalysed more than half of my life away, and there were too many times I overindulged in drinking to 'aneasthetise' my mind. Ah, the brain cells lost (sigh). You can overcome your mind. Its a choice you can make. If interested let me know and I'll give you a very important pointer. Your mind may not like to hear what I'm telling you - as it likes to have ALL the power. Thus you may have switched off already. But I dare you to consider the possibility of a better way. (nope, not religion... that's your mind trying to put you off of considering another way) :O]
@@J94R Probably the first thing I'd say is that you have to realise and have the desire to change. In many/most cases you will have had to have suffered over a longer term as the results from this in effect become your *leverage*. IOW the pain caused from suffering takes you to very dark and frightening places. Thus one needs to *realise that they have no choice but to wholeheartedly reprogram themselves at these DEEP levels*. So aside from considering Jordan Peterson's excellent advice you might take into consideration a spiritual 'tactic'. Again I should mention this is not some highly religious distraction but the method I am suggesting is to consider diving into some of Eckhart Tolles' work. Not knowing your exact situation means I can't direct you to one of his more relative talks that might be more helpful to you specifically so unless you inform me more of your situation all I can say is to perhaps start with some of his 'pain body' related talks. Something as well to consider if you haven't already is that amongst other things alcohol is a depressant so in the case of anaesthetising the mind you are greatly increasing the chances of full blown depression not to mention the punishing hangovers not dissimilar to 'coming down' from drugs people use to get out of their heads from as another temporary but counterproductive measure. I welcome your further thoughts on the matter.
"you find relief when you drink alcohol, that might be that some of what you're overanalyzing isn't so much of excess cognitive power, but an excess of high negative emotion"
Sometimes when I feel like going insane I come back to this video to rewatch. It is incredible how his words help me so much instantly. The mind is our greatest asset and we must take conscious effort to nourish it with the right thoughts. But also right food, enough rest, enough exercise. It is the absolute fundamental to everything in one's life.
I’m anxious, over analytic, neurotic, and I ruminate. Eating exactly how Jordan said to eat absolutely works, and I stumbled upon it by chance several years ago before Jordan talked about it, so I know it’s not all in my mind. It was obvious that my anxiety dropped because of it. I also ate and slept at the same time everyday. My morning food was a big ass bowl of steak tips (about 1 lbs), and a bunch of veggies. 1 large cucumber. One small tub of grape tomatoes. One tub of spring mix salad. 2 or 3 large bell peppers. One small bag of baby carrots. After time I found myself wanting less food, so I ate about half in the morning and then the rest a few hours later. At night I would eat a handful of raw nuts. I needed zero exercise to lose all my extra body fat. Oh, I also severely cut down on my fapping to 2-3 times per week. Those were the best 2-3 months of my life. My mood, skin, body shape, brain function all improved drastically. I was happy and chicks were gawking at me for looking health as fuck. DO NOT THINK ITS OKAY TO EAT SHIT AGAIN. Just one cookie or brownie will give you the most intense cravings and stomach pains. Ask me how I know and how I fell off the wagon.
I'm starting to think i have some kind of severe anxiety since alcohol does make me loose it up but weightlifting never helped me, actually while i was exercising at the gym, i would overanalyse even more if i was doing things correctly or if someone was pointing fingers and laughing or if the nutritionist did not understand my goals.
Lift heavier so you need to focus on the weight not falling down on you. If you're just carelessly curling 2 pounds, you have all the time in the world to overthink things. It needs to be enough to the point where focus is required and you have to pay attention, otherwise you'll do it wrong and you won't produce results. - I'm a decently high trait neuroticism guy, with PDD-NOS (anxiety disorder), and an Introvert to boot -- Weightlifting helped me the most. I really don't think about anything at all besides lifting the weight, especially with something as heavy as benchpresses, because I bench like 2/3rds of my weight, if not 3/4ths. If I even lose attention for a little bit, I can risk dropping 70KG on my throat. That'd be the end of me.
@@The_Dutch_Jaguar Thanks for the tips. Even though, i can't lift too heavy still. I curl up to 9 kg on halters and 20kg on the bench press. Still, it's this uncertainty on the weight i'm lifting that keeps me nervous as i don't know if i'm doing it right and if people are noticing.
Consider Brazilian jiu jitsu. It is basically chess but with submission moves. It is highly cognitive and you can literally think of nothing else in the midst of it.
I've been suffering from anxiety and overanalyzing literally everything that happens to me daily for such a long time and covid hasn't really helped in that at all. This piece of advice is everything I could ask for and I couldn't be more grateful for Dr. Peterson.
overanalyzing is a coping mechanism for me for cptsd, i never learned how to handle severe emotions, i hyperanalyze every problem in life of why and how it is happening and how to fix it, if i dont know why or how something is working i get to the bottom of it. Overanalyzing saved my life and hurted me sometimes
Damn this is exactly what I needed right now. I gotta put my foot down and take control of my life, I’m in this exact position he discussed and everything he said is true, but so hard to do. I have a ton of goals and ambitions for the future in my life but it’s like I’m stuck in a sewer thats my anxiety. Even on sunny days my mind finds its way there :( Every day you have an opportunity to be a better you, so do it, because _you know you can_ or at least for your family (future, past or present). Thank you Jordan for speaking your truth❤️ I’ve spent far too long listening without acting and continuing to hate how I suffer from my lag. It’s time to take what I’ve learned and apply it. Much love y’all wish me luck🙌🏾❤️
They are talking about autophagy not people suffering from anxiety , by the way you can do both by just eating breakfast and a late lunch and no dinner it's the same .
Most of the keto diet videos only tell you to eat during a small window of time like between evening and morning. 1 meal a day keto videos are in the minority. Peterson also recommends a fatty breakfast which is low carb = similar to keto.
I've had a particularly difficult time recently with this exact issue, I find that there's a non stop chatter in my mind over certain things like dating or job prospects and it really gets me in a rut for weeks on end. Going to the gym yesterday after feeling nauseous for 2 weeks after digesting a minor friendship-related trauma I was able to eat again. My low blood pressure became became less low and more normal, I felt an overwhelming confidence which probably is a normal amount but relitively large amount for myself. I believe that the fundamental health and wellness solutions like doing regular exercise and eating well is honestly some of the best advice for people who struggle with this issue. I couldn't thank Dr.Peterson enough, you've completely changed my outlook and way of life for the better, not just for myself but for those around me too. Thank you
Great video. I feel like these tips are so obvious and yet I do none of them. I'm hoping that I can remember to be productive with these few things that he just mentioned for the next few weeks.
I had Generalized anxiety disorder in the past, i struggle with that for 2 years, i overcome that by facing my most deepest fears, now i can do everything like drink a lot of coffee and be in public stressing situations like an emergency room (because im a med student)..! :)
I have GAD to and man it sucks and I’m only 15! It’s a pain to deal with. Being a perfectionist, needing to be comforted and reassured on what you’re doing , making sure everything you’re doing is right, overthinking, etc. One thing that I recommend is meditation. It really helps you should start with 10 minutes or less right when you wake up and before you go to sleep so that you can relax the mind.
Yeah I have avoidant personality disorders, and facing difficulties is the best way to feel better. If you avoid situations it gives you anxiety and rumination and you don't learn how to react during these events, you overanalyse and anticipate etc.
The funny thing is. I just woke up one day and decided to wake up at the same time then a few weeks later out of the blue i snapped and started biking 30 minutes a day then my eating habits changed because I wanted my work to payoff then I started counting calories then I realized protein and fat make me feel better than eating carbs so I went heavier on protein. I happened to learn all of this about myself over a 5.5 month process of actively trying to better my mind and I can tell you he is right and it works.
No matter who I watch and listen to on UA-cam (and there are a lot of informed, intelligent and enlightened speakers out there) I find myself returning to Jordan. He speaks so much sense but with compassion and intellectual understanding. Truth and integrity,, he is a great role model . I am working on simply trying to tell the truth to myself and those around me (or at least not lying) and that is a massive challenge, I am failing badly but I will keep trying and maybe I will get there. Most importantly ‘keep striving’ even if you don’t make every day , don’t give up. Yes life is difficult but this material society that has only been around for a very short time makes it harder than it should be. People are lonely and addicted and sad. The answer is connection to each other and the world but society has done everything to hinder that and encourage “the individual “ so we are individually selfish and yet totally following the group culture. I have always felt that the tribal people of this world are the ones that we should envy! Why do people take drugs? Often to mask pain and connect in real way to others. I remember clubbing on ecstasy in the 90’s and why did it feel so good? Because there was a feeling of love, acceptance and a collective consciousness. I don’t know how we go forward from here. Mindfulness is becoming popular but when you realise its all bullshit its hard to continue the charade. That’s where JP is good because he’s like the bridge between living in this life and being open to the new. Just communicate with people on a real level, even if it’s for 2 minutes, say what you really think and share. Some will think you’re weird and some will be grateful but at least it’s honest ffs,! Earlier tonight I had a guy asking for money for a charity and I stopped and gave him some bs about donating to charities and I will look at his but I’ve got potatoes on the boil and I’m in a rush. I then walked round the store in my nice clothes buying whatever and thought to myself “I bet he thinks I’m a real wanker, and I thought Jesus I am such a wanker! So on my way out of the store I stopped and said exactly what I was thinking to him and hey, we had a real conversation . It felt good. We should start groups in towns and cities around the world and connect.
My problem is I love my friends so much that I always think of a future without and it’s scary. I don’t care how much money our wealth I have because if I don’t have people I can relate to and form memories with than life gets pointless. Good people are hard to come by and when yea have em keep em.
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This was the key that I figure with anxiety is that it’s a build up of thoughts, lack of schedule and a ton of doing what you know you shouldn’t, easy way is to do the opposite
PRACTICE! When you find yourself focused on the wrong rhing you must practice diverting your thinking to more positive or productive things. We may not be able to stop these thoughts coming to mind (I couldn't) but we can choose to ignore them and focus on something else. At first it is very Hard. Our brain will just go straight back to those thoughts. But like anything, if we practice moving our thoughts to the right things, over time it gets Easier and Easier and eventually you'll often do it without thinking about it.
I myself suffer with anxiety and Over analysing but I believe that is due to my ADHD which is also the reason for many other behavioural or mental issues
Informative video. In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. To feel better reduce negative thoughts. Be careful what you feed your mind. Avoid comparing yourself with others, reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. For a relaxed mind observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 10-15-20 minutes or more. You can sit or lie down, neck straight and eyes closed. Never meditate with expectations but with awareness. Don’t fight your thoughts. With practice the mind will relax. Keep a reminder to observe your breath sensations throughout the day and night --before sleep, when reading, at work, when sitting in the park etc. Like me, make this a lifetime habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.
I am beyond hyper analytic, I can dissect how my mind works, with pictures that dont really exist which lead to other thoughts in my mind which I can think about all the time, I cant expain it at all in words and id really like to be able to, anyone else similar?
I’m the same way, I find the best method is to constantly distract yourself with some reoccurring thought of positive future prospect. Keep your mind distracted always with positive thoughts to fall back on and slowly it will all come together. Then you’re able to use your hyper analytic-ness and call upon it when you need it, all the while being in control of it.
An active mind is both great and troublesome. Something that is typically overlooked is what I might call 'rest theory'. A little like the theory that starving oneself of food *a little* is actually good for you... your intestines get a break, you are far less likely to get fat and it's good for you (there are other benefits as I'm sure most can imagine). I believe the mind is similar in this way. I would challenge 'over thinkers' thus... can you 'not think' for 20 seconds? ... 10? Some call it meditation. Big bonus is, when you 'need' to use your mind for the wonderful tool that it is - your thoughts will be of much higher quality. Remember gents', a constantly spinning mind is far more prone to go off the rails one day. Spend a few moments imagining how nice it might be to quite literally... give it a rest.
I've been trying for so long to find someone who can acknowledge they don't think in words and pictures. It's very paradoxical to do so because you are depending on words for communication so you kinda get stuck being only with you're own brain and even then you're dissecting your own ego. It can be frustrating
@DarConall That's true, there is scientific proof that meditation does indeed work! What I stated is what I believe led JP to not recommend meditation. He's super careful with the stuff he says, and I take it that recommendations are no different...
mason guritz i was on them for 7 years. The withdrawal almost killed me it’s medically documented to be worse then heroin and I believe it. Living hell that lasted well over 18 months. My heart goes out to you! Xx
mason guritz that’s so scary for me- I’ve been on Xanax for 5 yrs, 2mg a day for the last 3. And tolerance is building because sometimes 2mg doesn’t do it for me- unless I take on an empty stomach. I’m so scared of the detox and long term side effects of this drug. I have a specific phobia that I was prescribed it for- but I take it every day. Interdose withdrawal is something I think I’m experiencing. Maybe Jordan Peterson can do a video on benzos....
My grandma used to have panic attacks and was possessive, I always resented her for it. But I have to admit that neuroticism exists in me and it explains many of the problems I have. I'm not clingy I have healthy relationships but it manifests differently, I hate being in settings where people can see me make mistakes, or trying to sit down and work assignments feels like tearing my brain in half so I procrastinate. I gotta try sleep habits big breakfasts. Thanks Peterson! And also, you guys, don't sit and think to yourself all the time. Socialize with people and genuinely listen to them, you're taken out of your mind and you feel your neuroticism/overthinking wash away
I really appreciate your videos. It's been a tremendous experience to attend your classes, I've begun to do the reading assignments as well. I think that this facet of your work is incredibly important to the people who want to live a meaningful life with honesty as the foundational principle! God bless you and keep you as you fight the good fight! Jerry Parks
Yeah, I had this issue as well, downer's were my drug of choice for years. It wasn't until I began channeling this towards studying anything, literally always reading challenging books on history, mathematics, religion, sciences etc. And exercise.Also, I have a steady routine. Ill have to try a large breakfast.
That's basically what I've become... I replaced a very self destructive habit with a literature junky habit. I read constantly, anything I can get my hands on but preferably classical literature, ancient Greek, Latin and Hebrew (translated ofc). I've been clean 6 years this October because I did what Jordan lays out in this video. I did it accidentally though. I hated the idea of AA or NA or any "religious" program to maintain. No, I had to prove to myself I had the strength inherent in me. The only thing I didn't do is large breakfasts... Always hate breakfast, usually eat yogurt. My diet isn't on point though, I'm about 20lbs overweight, have been ever since I got clean. Time to turn up the notch and start actually working out hard. Need to push myself as hard physically as I have mentally.
Jason Williams You got it in you, I think! Go for it! Definitely resonating with you, except maybe just a bit on the religious thing. I'm no fan of religious programs either, but I've found that my faith, naive and not-self-aware as it may sound, has helped give me the persistence which has gotten me through a number of mental overloads. Even then, I hope the best for you!
Faith and religion are two separate things to me. I have faith, in my family, in myself, in the Universe... Even in humanity. I just don't believe in any religions. You can call me an agnostic theist I suppose, even though my idea of god is very loose and amorphous. But thank you, for your kind words! Right back at you.
Overanalysing is a trapping of energy in the head. The key is to practice doing inner bonding/ inner feeling work. So that you can drop energy down into body. Then you move from analysing to awareness
What. Stop with that Buddhist nonsense. This is science. "Inner feeling" work is just an opportunity for my mind to act out much stronger which is what I'm trying to avoid. Bad idea
AirEnderman "inner feeling" isn't referring to your emotions or mental analysis. It means focusing on something like your breathing or feeling the tension in your muscles for example. Essentially switching your brain from Analysis to Awareness. Basically what the physical aspect of meditation is - which is something scientists are learning more about recently and recommending it more and more
Notato My mind's is far too active to focus on a single thing for too long. My mind will only begin to wander and then I lose 5282783 hours of sleep. Glad it works for a lot of others, but my life philosophy of never not-thinking and despising naivety doesn't help. I really wish I didn't have that philosophy, but I fear it's become a part of my psyche. I'll just play a game and eat a hefty breakfast, I think.
Playing videogames just sucks me further into my mind, so I hope that works for you. I have to avoid them if I want to be at all functional in terms of emotional and social awareness.
Here, in a nutshell is the best reason anyone will hear for being over-analytical...and something similar has happen many times since. In 2006 my wife, my three year daughter and i went on holiday to Spain. During the course of that holiday we took our daughter to the hotel paddling pool(i noticed a sign saying NO LIFEGUARDS ON DUTY). My wife starting reading her book. I sat twenty feet away from our three year old and her new-found friend, raising my hand up to the mother and father of the other little girl to give re-assurance. The big pool was only 10 ft away from the small pool(i took note of it..this seemed close to me, especially as the big pool dropped from the point of entry at a very steep angle)...i looked in it and did NOT feel safe. Five minutes later i started to imagine our daughter getting out of the little pool and walking straight into the big pool...and going under. Then SUDDENLY it actually happened in front of me but it was not our daughter but the little girl and her parent's minds were occupied. In that split second i worked out that she was going to get in the pool and disappear under. I screamed to my wife to grab our daughter and ran at full speed, never taking my eye off that little girl because at that moment i realised, she may as well have been my daughter and within five feet of me jumping after bolting at full running pace i watched her head go under and she was gone....SPLASH and i practically ended up on top of her and tore her out from under the water, handing her over to her(by now) screaming mother and father. I lost my glasses and started to go under for them. I found them and a woman nearby helped me wipe them off. I returned to my seat to see my wife and daughter hugging with my wife holding her tight. They laughed at my wet adidas trainers slopping around as i sat down. I dried off and the father came over and shook my wet hand. He was distraught that they could have lost their daughter in that split second and kept repeating "THANK GOD FOR YOU SIR...THANK GOD FOR YOU"(he was German...i am a Brit). He offered us all an ice-cream. I myself declined the ice-cream telling him i was not good with milk.I then walked off in bare feet to attend an archery competition. Now to the interesting bit. Whilst i was firing my last arrow, a woman stepped up beside me and said two things i have never forgotten. The first was "You are the gentleman who saved that little girls life aren't you?". Naturally i was speechless and stuttered a little and said.."i think she would have been ok..i probably over-reacted most likely". Then she seemed to get a little emotional and said.."my husband saw the same thing and went to take his shoes off and watched you fly by him and jump across that pool in, what he swears was at least ten to fifteen feet with no hesitation but we looked back afterwards and realised that you had already run about 20ft before he'd got his shoes off...HOW DID YOU DO THAT?...how did you know and react so quickly?" If i'm honest i couldn't answer her but i do remember her and her husband shaking hands with me in the lift and his face seemed like he was still questioning. The worst part was though, that for six months after in seven separate dreams...THAT LITTLE GIRL DIDN'T SURFACE..and i woke up in sweats without her in my arms to the shrill noise of those same screams. I bet you can read stacks into that Jordan...and then some.
so refreshing to see a psychologist recommending diet as the first point of analysis for a problem rather than pathologizing, diagnosing and either meds or psychoanalysis
Yes, that why he said about finding what's causing his anxiety. He needs to live in the real world, in the present, not inside his head ruminating the past or getting anxious about future events that are probably never going to happen. Living in his head its what's causing him actual pain, not necessarily the external, because the external probably doesn't exist anymore.
He has helped me a lot in understanding myself and seeing where other people are coming from or could possibly be dealing with. I stumbled upon Jordan before the pandemic and i has helped me immensely figure out previous issues and the stress of the last year on top of that. 🙏 He’s always fascinating and thought provoking if you come in with open eyes.
!! I've been called "sensitive" a lot as a kid, and over analytical, or rather I got told that I overthink things too much...or that I am looking too deep into what people are saying... I thought it was just curiosity, but anxiety might play a role too, even though alcohol is not my thing, and I rather enjoy the cognitive boost that marijuana grants me(which is the only reason I ever use it). I do like food(but do not gain weight from it), and when I do eventually get around to it, exercise gives great calm and focus to my mind...
Bin al-Flecki, acuity is raised to the degree of consistency in the flow of attention and awareness, these things being influenced by the degree to which you feel calm, the calmer you feel, the clearer your mind, the sharper your focus and thus, in correlation concentration is augmented. With an appropriate ritual of breath work, marijuana grants a meditative enhancement. Sure it's not the OP condition of cocaine, but it is more natural, and has lasting enhancement to the quality of a user's life. Proving said use is a structured application, structure being key to harnessing the emergent concentration birthed of habitual practice.
A lot of those things might not be true and they may be just trying to convince you you're reading into things because they don't like the fact that they are being discovered saying or doing something wrong. Google gaslighting.
Also, I'll bet your people don't even have a clear or consistent definition as to what over analyzing is, as opposed to regular amount of analyzing. It's subjective. Also, you may have to read deeper into something because the situation you're in or the type of thing they said to you causes you to. You might be analyzing more than other people simply because you were on the receiving end of your statements more often than the other people are. People who are manipulative love to say that they are simple and that other people are complicated, and the other people read into things.
I'm a chronic over thinker. Continually pulling apart my thoughts in pursuit of often fruitless reasoning. The biggest, most powerful tool I've found to tame the relentless cycle of thoughts is Transactional Analysis. Knowing the function of ego states and understanding what my mind is doing has allowed me to focus my thoughts more than anything. 👍
I would love to nerd out with Mr Peterson! I deal with my anxious tendencies by reading classical literature. Guess I'm not as anxiety ridden as other individuals but the one thing that I have come to realize is that what classical authors do is that they slow the world around us and engage us in a interesting and calming one sided raconteur of a story :)!
there is plenty of wrong with carbs. your body is better off makind ATP from the proteins and fat of the food you just ate and from the fats you've stored over time. if you eat carbs, you're always high on sugar and you just store more fat... i recommend: ua-cam.com/channels/qYPhGiB9tkShZorfgcL2lA.html
I don't think a high (healthy) fats and high protein breakfast are a problem if you're diabetic. Unless you also need a little sugar, in which case have a little...
I am diabetic and that's why I try to avoid many carbs. Despite the older belief that fat has more to do with that, many believe now it's the carbs. But since I know things like too much bread, jam, cereal is something that might contribute negative to my blood sugar, and also I still be hungry and unsatiated despite eating that, I switched to eggs and bacon in the morning. Now I don't know how much it helps, as I might fail to avoid carbs later in the day (a lot of things have carbs, I haven't done the full low-carb ever), but in the morning I can feel satiated and more happy even with less quantity of food than if I went for cereals for example. Now, I find interesting that this might have a correlation with anxiety. I am also overanalyzing and ruminating and being neurotic. So, I might think more about it and look at some research or something. I do believe there are mood swings depending on what you ate, I just haven't found exactly what because the effects might be subtle or hard to predict.
Bibbzter666 I'm anxious and diabetic, too. Since changing to high fat low carb I've seen a DRASTIC drop in my severe anxiety. And I mean it was severe.
All fats are healthy. Sugar is even okay except high fructose corn syrup which is poison to a diabetic in even small doses. Just eat the right amount of calories. In Other Words be sensible.
I needed to find this video. I'm currently an alcoholic due to my anxiety, and I'm anxious due to my over-analytic mind, and my concern is that I've already thought myself into a sort of existential oblivion and there's no way back from what I already know (which, inconveniently enough, is a place wherein I'm incapable of answering the questions I ask myself). I weigh myself down with booze and the certainty that, although I don't/can't understand my existence, I know how it feels to be happy - regardless of what "happy" is - and I take comfort in knowing that I always have that acquirable feeling on the horizon if I work for it, or, alternatively, there's always the option to opt out of the whole deal. Anyway, I'll strive on for a while yet I reckon. Much love peeps.
When he said you might be high on openness and maybe very verbally intelligent..., i shat my pants. How can this man be so true and Astute about me without even knowing me.
I have anxiety. Bad. I worry about everything. I used to smoke weed and it just made it worse. I tried drinking but I don't like it. I'm not sure what to do.
ASLEEKBLACKFEATHER try exercise. preferably in a forest, beach or other relaxing environment. jog, or do a circuit like pushups, sprint , squats etc. repeat 3 times or so. circuit training with weights is also v relaxing . i have a 12kg kettlebell i use. also work of any kind eg kitchenhand, whic forces you to focus .
ASLEEKBLACKFEATHER I have severe anxiety brought upon by trauma and a bad life. There's nothing much you can do other than to seek therapy and to try and make your life better
I also have this issue. I agree with finding a difficult cognitive problem to solve. For example, I've been trying to formulate a superposition wave function for the major chords of the classical guitar scales. It really really helps me keep my mind in ONE PLACE!! Please, find something to CONCENTRATE ON DEEPLY. iT HELPED ME, and I hope it can help you.
ASLEEKBLACKFEATHER I've suffered too from anxiety and over analyzing my life situations. My opinion is that most of it is in our own mind. From repetitive worrying and negative thinking. Research 'the subconscious mind'. It's a very powerful part of the psyche. Try to think more positive and exercise. I noticed that when I had anxiety, my breathing became very shallow. Exercise can help with the breathing and blood flow to the brain. If you cannot exercise then try deep breathing techniques. Try to stay away from pharmaceutical drugs for a treatment. They can make things much worse if you decide to stop taking them. They are designed that way to keep you on them. You can overcome anxiety. Don't be discouraged. Keep telling yourself that you are in control of this. Be positive. You have more power than you realize. I wish you the best. You can overcome and prevail.
I think your fantastic. It’s great to hear you explaining this . I suffer with anxiety bad sweaty palms .under my arms .feet damp . But when I’m on my own it calms down a bit
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pretty cool but I'm okay thanks
1. get up at the same time
2. eat large breakfast
3. weightlifting
4. schedule
rudiratte1 so true.
It works
For me, it works best if I go in this order: 1.) get up early (at the same time), 2.) do excercise (weightlifting can be included), 3.) large breakfast, 4.) keep to the rest of my daily schedule.
I do all but #1...its like my body repels waking up at a similar time😂
I find such a day soooo damn dull. Every day the same boring routine. I love to get surprised by what happens during the day
Dr Peterson: the dad I never had
For real
travelinghermit it's not even fair to dads, this guy is a studied psychologist
You should ask your mom before you jump to that conclusion.
@ Kube... Because someones Mom (in todays society) is sure to give a fair assessment of their Dad....
(*bad* odds/snowballs chance in hell).
More like the parents i never had
over thinking, over analyzing
separates the body from the mind
Tool
Lateralus
Withering my intuition
Good taste.
Toilet paper
I appreciate the cat in the corner. I feel it really adds to the video.
You must be female.
TheEgg185 its the cat from fairy tail called "happy" :)
ok? im still gonna educ8 pplz lel
Where do they have this Anime?
@@Sheryl510 Fairy tail, any anime website
My advice for anyone wanting to get over anxiety/depression:
1. Quit alcohol - there is nothing good about it. It's highly calorific, poisonous to your liver and it makes you do stupid things when you've had too much of it.
2. Avoid smoking and any type of drugs.
3. Eat healthily - breakfast, lunch, dinner, with limited snacking in between.
4. The only drink you ever need is H2O - certainly cut out all soft drinks, energy drinks and fruit smoothies.
5. Go for a run in the park - not on a treadmill in the gym. The fresh air is good and the nature is beautiful.
6. Lift weights - looking good physically will do wonders for your confidence and self-esteem.
7. Go to bed early and wake up early - very rarely is anything productive achieved after 10pm.
8. Take pride in your career and be passionate about your job, no matter how humble it may be.
9. Make somebody smile everyday, either by a kind word or a good deed. Making other people feel better will make you feel better, and it takes the focus off yourself.
10. Stop dwelling on the past and worrying about the future. Live in the present. Remember that the present moment is the only thing that is ever real. Everything else is in your mind.
Lastly, get off the f**king internet. Social media is sewage. Limit yourself to half an hour of internet a day. Meet people in real life and have real social interactions.
Good luck!
Yes but what about the inevitability of death and the pointlessness of human existence? Are there other videos for those?
@@willsanders84 ua-cam.com/video/MoYMEju41Sw/v-deo.html
thank you!! I'll try it :D
That utopia living is only for utopians
Telling someone don't think about past and future is like telling someone who failed in life "stop being a failure, just get a success"
I have the same problem. I had a very underwhelming position at my job, drank all the time, ate like shit and quit hanging out with friends but just this past year I asked my boss for more responsibility and ended up getting two promotions within 4 months, started lifting weights at the gym, eating healthier (intermittent fasting so I don't eat until 5 pm most days), and started playing guitar more instead of indulging in mindless video games during free time...gotta say, setting goals and challenging yourself will heal you more than any pill. Do things that benefit your life and others, quit wasting your gift.
Two promotions in 4 months. Was it 1+1 promotion=2+2 ? Months?
@@imli700 Why eat at 5pm? Why not eat in the morning and then fast? At least that way you have brainfood and get your matabolism going.
@@taylorparrish7638 Not eating until 5pm is insanely bad for you, expeically since he said heès going to the gym
@@jonmacdonald2193 Maybe it just works for him. Not everybody's same
@@mimosa9434 doesnt vhange the fact that its terrible for you and it has really bad longterm consequences.
Of course if you dont eat you will lose weight
Here's mine
1.don't drink ,alcohol = more anxiety
2. No caffeine, some small amounts of sugar.
3. Take melaton at night .pop one around 7 or 8pm ,be in bed around 930 or ten. Only take once or twice a week. No distractions like cell phone. Full sleep .GO TO BED EARLY .
4.run ,run ,run, run or lift or any physical work.
5.turn down the sensory overload. ( phones, music, TV,etc) . Silence is good .
6.don't expect so much from yourself and quit thinking about stuff that hasn't even happened or what others think , if you catch yourself doing this, just remind yourself that this is useless thoughts. Talk to your brain
Ermac 4482 don't expect so much from yourself BUT do expect everything good from God.
Vangelicest what do you mean ?
That the niavity of religion can be soothing?
Thank you man!
I think the pill is quite unnecessary. It's always a go-to solution for americans, I don't want to do it like that.
I’m completely astonished since he literally just explained me in every aspect
I used to think that overanalysing made me intelligent and is a quality to admire, however, I learned it definitely has very self-destroying aspects as well where you have a hard time letting go of things and finding inner peace in your head. Thanks for the tips Jordan!
Watched this video few years ago, didn't paid much attention to it. Now facing the exact same issue!
I agree, same problem here. I always thought it makes me intelligent and yes it sorta does.. butttt i think I'm over doing it at this point 3 years desire to know information I don't even need, my brain is just overwhelmed and I can't stop it, i lose track of time, myself and i might be little bit too much self aware!!
This man, in a 4 minute video, just summed up the problem that was burdening my life and gave plausible solutions to it. FOR FREE. God bless this man
Edit: Not to mention, I started working out because I found out that exercising REMOVES my anxiety and over analytic thoughts and every day I skip a workout, my mind starts to race the whole day.
Just figured out the exact same thing recently, I was shocked to see what 20mins of exercise can do
Dam I had the exact same problem as you. I never exercised or worked out. As soon as I started working out it all went away if I miss days in the gym it comes back. Weird what abit of exercise can do.
Amazing you guys! I'm moving to heal and have certain clarity now as well.🙏💕
Yes excercise can really help.
Same- i am an obsessive analyzer, and exercise forces me out of my head and into what my muscles are doing, and its profoundly cathartic
Omg I love Jordan. I play chess cause I find this is a nice outlet for my overanalysis dilemma
same here.
Wow, I guess this is where I belong too.
You could have used your gift for something more useful than useless games, for example for science
Mist Eerie, useless? Playing chess effectively can increase your ability to problem solve, teach creative thinking, teach strategic thinking, and a bunch of other benefits that are going to help you in life. It teaches you how to lose, and that actions have consequences. By the way, why did you assume that because someone plays chess, they don't also have a career in science? It sounds like you could use some critical thinking yourself, I suggest playing chess sometime it helps.
TheSlash994 yeah I’m a chemical engineer lmao
diagnosed in 4 minutes
One of the most therapeutic things I’ve found for anxiety is making my bed every morning cause no matter what happens throughout the day when I come home from class or work there is a consistently clean bed for me
If you don't care about that? I don't care if my bed is messy so what good will that be?
Alexander Windh it’s the process of creating a habit and adding consistency to your life, honestly I don’t care about the condition of my bed but when it’s the first thing I do every morning means that no matter what this day starts the way I want it to. Hope that helps
Too much effort next
@@alexanderwindh4830 then it gives you something to do
It's all about creating a layer of consistency from which you can stand to go higher and higher.
i missed the last 30 seconds, i was thinking of as many words as i could that started with 'S'
Hahaha
Sausages
you have adhd?
Sandwiches
Shit , me too
My whole life changed when I started a schedule.of getting up at 4 am every morning and working out. Took a little bit for it to catch on, but it's been years. To this day if I ever take more than a few days off, I start to feel it in my head. Also, being someone who is over analytical and highly anxious by nature, the "eat a big breakfast" is a fanradtic piece of advice. Low blood sugar caused many of my anxiety attacks. I know the media will have you believe that JP is mainly for men, but as a woman I can't stress enough how he, Goggins, and Jocko have helped shape my life. Thank you so very very much.
I am very jelous of you. Whenever i start a day with a workout I get dizzy, nauseous and tired or foggy minded for the rest of the day. Doesnt depend on the training intensity and my diet is healthy. I am saddened that i miss out on that much desired energy boost
@@Szpulenso Workout in the evening
I would recommend Martial Arts from my personal experience. At least for some people who are more athletic or find interest in combat sports and such. Not necessarily competition or hard sparring but letting your body learn how to move and work in cooperation with the mind. The training usually includes some weightlifting some cardio as well as eye-hand coordination, timing, mental strategy, etc. I think it's good to know how to use your body not just pick up heavy stuff but nothing wrong with lifting. That's my humble opinion.
Could not agree with you more. Too often we think of the mind and the body as mutually exclusive. Anecdotal I know, but martial arts has really helped me in multiple facets of my life too.
And the discipline is extremely helpful as well
Phillip Adams I clicked on this video instantly and went down to the comments to search for a comment like this, I started jujitsu 3 weeks ago and been a massive fan of the UFC for around two years, it's the best thing to happen to me since I started weightlifting considering I'm over analytical in every aspect of life and dealt with pretty extreme anxiety for a while but that bullshits slowly going away
Absolutely agree! Spot on. I've done taekwondo for almost 9 years, has helped me so much in this aspect.
I've picked up bad injuries in a year and been out of jiu Jitsu for that long as a consequence. I've kept my body strong but I'm the most anxious I've ever been. I need to find something else that has the same effect because it's wrecking my body....but it's incredible for my mood, resilience and mental fortitude.
Going to say a quick prayer for all of you guys struggling with something similar to what I am. We can get through this guys!
I've become hyper-analytical in almost every situation I am in outside of the home (for various reasons) to the point that it is exhausting my mental reserves and I experience fogginess and headaches and a debilitating decrease in concentration and focus.
Meditation has helped _tremendously_ and continues to do so. Another practice is to reign in your thoughts, instead of being lead around by your thoughts you simply practice getting into the habit of just observing your thoughts from a completely neutral standpoint and watch them disappear just as quickly as they appeared. It is about reclaiming your mental space as your own "house" and seeing your thoughts simply as guests that appear and disappear. Eventually you begin to separate yourself from your thoughts completely or more precisely separate your immediate emotional responses to your thoughts (at least the negative ones anyhow).
This is helpful for *EXCESSIVE* thinkers/analyzers whose trait does more harm than good.
Thank you, I hope it helped you. ✌️😄
I hate to play doctor but sounds like you have Anxiety which has been discussed here in detail. If you don't want to take Pharmaceuticals you can try Ashwagandha root. I know some people will hate me for recommending an herb but the numerous studies don't lie. It as been shown to reduce cortisol levels by 20 percent. Herbs don't work for everyone and you should only try it if you are NOT on medication or have a mild case of Anxiety.
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3573577/
I agree, this helped me a lot. I would also recommend the Wim Hoff breathing exercise... just search UA-cam. Your blood will become oxygenated, your heart rate drops very low, and your body turns alkaline. You get a feeling of hyper awareness, and the sensation of waking up from a good sleep. It also seems to help with headaches.
sounds like you are an extreme introvert. Feeling like people rob your energy levels is somewhat a sign. I get like that after an hour indoors with a group of people. Im good for short periods of time but after a while I need to step out. Usually somewhere in the open helps. Well I smoke too so that another reason. But typically I feel like I have to keep people engaged when i'm in close proximity and I hate an awkward silence so I put more effort which either annoys someone or gets me exhausted after 40 mins. You should try engaging people in short periods for a bit. Some of this is practice so that may help ease your social anxiety if you have that.
Well in that case you sound just like me. Except Im a bit older. Did you have periods of Anxiety and depression? I have good and bad days still but its under control. Im very good with new people as well and I can engage most people when I meet them but I get exhausted and lose interest with most. I was never diagnosed with ADHD because I did academically well but I honestly think ADHD is sometimes wrongfully diagnosed and typical lack of interest is normal when you are around topics and people that don't engage you. We have very selective interests. These days i cant be in a club or bar for too long unless Im drunk or doing something else. I get bored way too fast and leave most of the time. Are you good otherwise when doing something you like? I Excel at tasks that I have interest in and usually get good results so I think my personality is just very selective. Also people with higher than average IQ are known to show some of these traits. The boredom is just due to repetitive boring things than your mind is telling you is not worth your effort. Like a date with a girl that has nothing interesting to say....
lol that fucking outro music is enough to give anyone anxiety
Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha......love it.
So did i...and i tend to think about the anxiety of the creator of every song...what a tribe to be part of.
Magic mushrooms can permanently increase someones Openness ( says Jordan Peterson).
This song increases Neuroticism permanently about one standard deviation. Roughly speaken.
@@rokosbasilisk5376 He learned that from Carl Jung....
Embarassing events start to come up every few hours in my brain.. Whether it would be 3 years ago or a week ago.. It would just haunt me every time a remotely similar situation presents itself. Over the course of 2018 it began to lessen as I had more friends to chat with and a girl to like.. Yet socially, I'm still the anxious mess that I am.. I think so deeply about simple conversations.. Then afterwards contemplate better words to have said. It deeply troubles me how self analytic I am yet it has worked in my favor in being somewhat grounded in what I believe
I feel ya
Brother from another mother.
The cringe would be unbearable
same how do i overcome this
I completely understand and can relate to that. What really helped me other than Jordan Peterson's very logical advice was to when I would overthink about anything that isn't serving me I say to myself "I'll cross that bridge when I get to it", I would repeat it when my overly analytical brain kicks in and I found it had a tremendous positive affect and it actually became a habit I use, if I ever i have to do any type of public speaking or interaction with anyone, by using those words I'll cross that bridge when I get to it our encounters and circumstances that we would usually overthink we tend to come across more naturally and intuitive. Hope it helps :)
Watched this video last night, made the simple changes this morning, and had one of my best day’s in months. I am nothing but grateful for all of the comments here as well as Dr Peterson. Thank you
This is the first time I've ever experienced another person analyzing over analyzation. This hit very hard, thank you.
This man has become the most interesting person in my world. 👌
2:10 "It's good to do what everyone else does,unless you have a good reason not to"
Oh man..
I started training with a PT and lifting weights. I've Never been to the gym before and I'm 28 and I was beyond terrified to walk into the building. I'm now far more happy.
Jordan Peterson just gave me better advice in three minutes than my therapist has in almost two years.
This advice helped "do something to work your cognition". If I can't sleep due to too many thoughts I play a puzzle game and that calms my mind.
I am literally driving myself crazy being in this exact same situation. I love Dr Peterson.
"Sometimes, i talk to myself, about me, talking to myself, sometimes."
~Chip.chop
"Hey guys, instead of playing Xbox, you want to write down as many words as you can beginning with the letter S in three minutes?"
33 (and not proud of it)
😂😂😂
Sucxsexsss
Only 27. The clock makes me nervous.
61. Oh boy .. 😖
The over analyzing bubble:
If over-analyzing is a result of rumination and anixety, the person's own attemps to analyze tends to reach limited conclusions, where the inputs used to reach a conclusion lie in the person's limited rumination bubble.
What happens mostly is: after a hard time analyzing the rumination cycles as a result of anixety, one of the survival mechanisims during those difficult periods is to adapt certain behaviours as a quick fix to reduce anixety, that might include: a radical shift in a person's attitude toward daily events, or projecting an opossite personality trait than the ones he used to demonstrate to others.
The issue with this approach is that the inputs used to reach the final conclusion are limited and not suffiecient enough to make a huge behavioural change, which might cause a real social communication confusion and makes the original anixety rumination even worse after realizing that the behavioural changes did not work.
That happens to me a lot admittedly. Thank you for describing it so well.
Should it worry me that I'm drunk right now and yet still watching a video trying to figure out why I overanalyze?
TheLotharx same
Many of those who overthink/overanalyse drink so to get a break from a *constantly spinning mind*. It's a 'reprieve', but of course it often become habit forming and addictive as I'm sure is not news to yourselves. Even those who would say they do not suffer with overanalysing drink for similar reasons... it's a nice break. You and your thoughts 'lighten up'. Consider meditation, if only to give your mind a f*cking break. Believe me, I know what I'm talking about as have (had) overanalysed more than half of my life away, and there were too many times I overindulged in drinking to 'aneasthetise' my mind. Ah, the brain cells lost (sigh). You can overcome your mind. Its a choice you can make.
If interested let me know and I'll give you a very important pointer. Your mind may not like to hear what I'm telling you - as it likes to have ALL the power. Thus you may have switched off already. But I dare you to consider the possibility of a better way. (nope, not religion... that's your mind trying to put you off of considering another way) :O]
Try spending a whole year off and away from drink...it can be mind-blowing.
@@TheOmnipresent12 so? what are those pointers you were talking about?
@@J94R Probably the first thing I'd say is that you have to realise and have the desire to change. In many/most cases you will have had to have suffered over a longer term as the results from this in effect become your *leverage*. IOW the pain caused from suffering takes you to very dark and frightening places. Thus one needs to *realise that they have no choice but to wholeheartedly reprogram themselves at these DEEP levels*. So aside from considering Jordan Peterson's excellent advice you might take into consideration a spiritual 'tactic'. Again I should mention this is not some highly religious distraction but the method I am suggesting is to consider diving into some of Eckhart Tolles' work.
Not knowing your exact situation means I can't direct you to one of his more relative talks that might be more helpful to you specifically so unless you inform me more of your situation all I can say is to perhaps start with some of his 'pain body' related talks. Something as well to consider if you haven't already is that amongst other things alcohol is a depressant so in the case of anaesthetising the mind you are greatly increasing the chances of full blown depression not to mention the punishing hangovers not dissimilar to 'coming down' from drugs people use to get out of their heads from as another temporary but counterproductive measure. I welcome your further thoughts on the matter.
"you find relief when you drink alcohol, that might be that some of what you're overanalyzing isn't so much of excess cognitive power, but an excess of high negative emotion"
Incredible. I can't believe all of this man's wisdom is on UA-cam for free for everyone to watch.
Sometimes when I feel like going insane I come back to this video to rewatch. It is incredible how his words help me so much instantly. The mind is our greatest asset and we must take conscious effort to nourish it with the right thoughts. But also right food, enough rest, enough exercise. It is the absolute fundamental to everything in one's life.
omg this is therapy for me
I’m anxious, over analytic, neurotic, and I ruminate. Eating exactly how Jordan said to eat absolutely works, and I stumbled upon it by chance several years ago before Jordan talked about it, so I know it’s not all in my mind. It was obvious that my anxiety dropped because of it. I also ate and slept at the same time everyday. My morning food was a big ass bowl of steak tips (about 1 lbs), and a bunch of veggies. 1 large cucumber. One small tub of grape tomatoes. One tub of spring mix salad. 2 or 3 large bell peppers. One small bag of baby carrots.
After time I found myself wanting less food, so I ate about half in the morning and then the rest a few hours later. At night I would eat a handful of raw nuts.
I needed zero exercise to lose all my extra body fat.
Oh, I also severely cut down on my fapping to 2-3 times per week.
Those were the best 2-3 months of my life. My mood, skin, body shape, brain function all improved drastically. I was happy and chicks were gawking at me for looking health as fuck.
DO NOT THINK ITS OKAY TO EAT SHIT AGAIN. Just one cookie or brownie will give you the most intense cravings and stomach pains. Ask me how I know and how I fell off the wagon.
Amazing bro
How you know and how you fell off the wagon?
You only ate one big breakfast and then nuts at night nothing else
I can't tell if this guy's joking or not. "1 Large cucumber" 😂
@@taylorparrish7638A cucumber a day keeps the..
I'm starting to think i have some kind of severe anxiety since alcohol does make me loose it up but weightlifting never helped me, actually while i was exercising at the gym, i would overanalyse even more if i was doing things correctly or if someone was pointing fingers and laughing or if the nutritionist did not understand my goals.
The physical task of weightlifting itself helps me out. But with zero expectations or goals other than that it feels good to workout.
Lift heavier so you need to focus on the weight not falling down on you.
If you're just carelessly curling 2 pounds, you have all the time in the world to overthink things.
It needs to be enough to the point where focus is required and you have to pay attention, otherwise you'll do it wrong and you won't produce results.
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I'm a decently high trait neuroticism guy, with PDD-NOS (anxiety disorder), and an Introvert to boot -- Weightlifting helped me the most.
I really don't think about anything at all besides lifting the weight, especially with something as heavy as benchpresses, because I bench like 2/3rds of my weight, if not 3/4ths.
If I even lose attention for a little bit, I can risk dropping 70KG on my throat. That'd be the end of me.
@@The_Dutch_Jaguar Thanks for the tips. Even though, i can't lift too heavy still. I curl up to 9 kg on halters and 20kg on the bench press. Still, it's this uncertainty on the weight i'm lifting that keeps me nervous as i don't know if i'm doing it right and if people are noticing.
@@The_Dutch_Jaguar idk why but I read this in Jordan Peterson’s voice
Consider Brazilian jiu jitsu. It is basically chess but with submission moves. It is highly cognitive and you can literally think of nothing else in the midst of it.
So relatable, i literally have a shirt that says "hold on, let me overthink that"
I've been suffering from anxiety and overanalyzing literally everything that happens to me daily for such a long time and covid hasn't really helped in that at all. This piece of advice is everything I could ask for and I couldn't be more grateful for Dr. Peterson.
overanalyzing is a coping mechanism for me for cptsd, i never learned how to handle severe emotions, i hyperanalyze every problem in life of why and how it is happening and how to fix it, if i dont know why or how something is working i get to the bottom of it. Overanalyzing saved my life and hurted me sometimes
what kind of things do u usually overanalyze?
Me too i relate
Damn this is exactly what I needed right now.
I gotta put my foot down and take control of my life, I’m in this exact position he discussed and everything he said is true, but so hard to do. I have a ton of goals and ambitions for the future in my life but it’s like I’m stuck in a sewer thats my anxiety. Even on sunny days my mind finds its way there :(
Every day you have an opportunity to be a better you, so do it, because _you know you can_ or at least for your family (future, past or present). Thank you Jordan for speaking your truth❤️ I’ve spent far too long listening without acting and continuing to hate how I suffer from my lag. It’s time to take what I’ve learned and apply it. Much love y’all wish me luck🙌🏾❤️
entire youtube: skip breakfast for autophagy and ketosis.
Jordan Peterson: eat a motherfuckin massive breakfast
fight!
They are talking about autophagy not people suffering from anxiety , by the way you can do both by just eating breakfast and a late lunch and no dinner it's the same .
There's no fight against this guy!
Most of the keto diet videos only tell you to eat during a small window of time like between evening and morning. 1 meal a day keto videos are in the minority. Peterson also recommends a fatty breakfast which is low carb = similar to keto.
Autophagy happens when you sleep Proverb goes eat like a king in morning, knight in afternon and beggar in the evening.
I hear ya!! Flipping hilarious comment, bravo!!
I've had a particularly difficult time recently with this exact issue, I find that there's a non stop chatter in my mind over certain things like dating or job prospects and it really gets me in a rut for weeks on end. Going to the gym yesterday after feeling nauseous for 2 weeks after digesting a minor friendship-related trauma I was able to eat again. My low blood pressure became became less low and more normal, I felt an overwhelming confidence which probably is a normal amount but relitively large amount for myself. I believe that the fundamental health and wellness solutions like doing regular exercise and eating well is honestly some of the best advice for people who struggle with this issue. I couldn't thank Dr.Peterson enough, you've completely changed my outlook and way of life for the better, not just for myself but for those around me too. Thank you
I took my over-analytic nature and applied it to a career as a Statistical Analyst. Now I essentially get paid to be myself.
LIER
Data scientist here too. I agree but you can’t do your job or learn if you’re feeling depressed and anxious. Double age sword
Here I am overanalyzing a situation after watching 27 JP vids
Great clip. Music at the end is over the top.
Maybe you're under the bottom
Sounds like music in PES 06
what is it? plz
doobeedoobeedooo lmao
Juhász-B. Kincső it's from one piece lol it's one of the battle themes I don't know what it's called
I found that meditation helps alot, i do 10 minutes every day on headspace app
Thanks for the love Jordan!
God Bless! Stay strong, stay safe and take care of yourselves! Wishing everyone the best!
He says exactly what you need to hear every time he speaks
Great video. I feel like these tips are so obvious and yet I do none of them. I'm hoping that I can remember to be productive with these few things that he just mentioned for the next few weeks.
AzzDogZ Yeah most of Jordans advice is like that. Omg so obvious but then you realize you havent actually done it ;)
I had Generalized anxiety disorder in the past, i struggle with that for 2 years, i overcome that by facing my most deepest fears, now i can do everything like drink a lot of coffee and be in public stressing situations like an emergency room (because im a med student)..! :)
I have GAD to and man it sucks and I’m only 15! It’s a pain to deal with. Being a perfectionist, needing to be comforted and reassured on what you’re doing , making sure everything you’re doing is right, overthinking, etc. One thing that I recommend is meditation. It really helps you should start with 10 minutes or less right when you wake up and before you go to sleep so that you can relax the mind.
@@raymondgarcia909 i feel you bro, keep going you are fucking awesome!!
Yeah I have avoidant personality disorders, and facing difficulties is the best way to feel better. If you avoid situations it gives you anxiety and rumination and you don't learn how to react during these events, you overanalyse and anticipate etc.
The funny thing is. I just woke up one day and decided to wake up at the same time then a few weeks later out of the blue i snapped and started biking 30 minutes a day then my eating habits changed because I wanted my work to payoff then I started counting calories then I realized protein and fat make me feel better than eating carbs so I went heavier on protein. I happened to learn all of this about myself over a 5.5 month process of actively trying to better my mind and I can tell you he is right and it works.
We need more of this, but definitely appreciate the start.
No matter who I watch and listen to on UA-cam (and there are a lot of informed, intelligent and enlightened speakers out there) I find myself returning to Jordan. He speaks so much sense but with compassion and intellectual understanding. Truth and integrity,, he is a great role model . I am working on simply trying to tell the truth to myself and those around me (or at least not lying) and that is a massive challenge, I am failing badly but I will keep trying and maybe I will get there. Most importantly ‘keep striving’ even if you don’t make every day , don’t give up. Yes life is difficult but this material society that has only been around for a very short time makes it harder than it should be. People are lonely and addicted and sad. The answer is connection to each other and the world but society has done everything to hinder that and encourage “the individual “ so we are individually selfish and yet totally following the group culture. I have always felt that the tribal people of this world are the ones that we should envy! Why do people take drugs? Often to mask pain and connect in real way to others. I remember clubbing on ecstasy in the 90’s and why did it feel so good? Because there was a feeling of love, acceptance and a collective consciousness. I don’t know how we go forward from here. Mindfulness is becoming popular but when you realise its all bullshit its hard to continue the charade. That’s where JP is good because he’s like the bridge between living in this life and being open to the new. Just communicate with people on a real level, even if it’s for 2 minutes, say what you really think and share. Some will think you’re weird and some will be grateful but at least it’s honest ffs,! Earlier tonight I had a guy asking for money for a charity and I stopped and gave him some bs about donating to charities and I will look at his but I’ve got potatoes on the boil and I’m in a rush. I then walked round the store in my nice clothes buying whatever and thought to myself “I bet he thinks I’m a real wanker, and I thought Jesus I am such a wanker! So on my way out of the store I stopped and said exactly what I was thinking to him and hey, we had a real conversation . It felt good. We should start groups in towns and cities around the world and connect.
My problem is I love my friends so much that I always think of a future without and it’s scary. I don’t care how much money our wealth I have because if I don’t have people I can relate to and form memories with than life gets pointless. Good people are hard to come by and when yea have em keep em.
Jordan Peterson: the man who knows you even when he doesn't.
Protip: Have a black screen at the end of the video, so you can have thumbnails to other videos without having to cover your avatar or written messages.
This was the first video that introduced me to Jordan Peterson. I’m glad I stumbled on this last year!
JD ...A friend , Philosopher , a Guide that we all need.
I suffer from anxiety and what he says is spot on.
Sit with your friends and write down words. That made me laugh.
It did seem rather an unlikely situation. But didn't you wish you could? I did.
Leah Hunter i could kill people at speed scrabble: even as the youngest of a seven person family(:
If you don't have friends seek strangers online to help with this experiment. You may end up with a bigger sample pool too
@@Evanrholloway I got 45..haha
Leah Hunter You friends are probably just stupid.
Nice late 90s arcade game music. I feel like I'm in Metal Slug
This was the key that I figure with anxiety is that it’s a build up of thoughts, lack of schedule and a ton of doing what you know you shouldn’t, easy way is to do the opposite
His words are really mind opening and at the same time calming.
PRACTICE!
When you find yourself focused on the wrong rhing you must practice diverting your thinking to more positive or productive things. We may not be able to stop these thoughts coming to mind (I couldn't) but we can choose to ignore them and focus on something else.
At first it is very Hard. Our brain will just go straight back to those thoughts. But like anything, if we practice moving our thoughts to the right things, over time it gets Easier and Easier and eventually you'll often do it without thinking about it.
Could you elaborate. I suffer from the very thing Dr Peterson talks about
I myself suffer with anxiety and Over analysing but I believe that is due to my ADHD which is also the reason for many other behavioural or mental issues
I know Peterson is not really fond of mindfulness, but meditation can do wonders in such a case
Um Nachtet mediatation is actually bad for you.
How bizarre UA-cam recommended this. So needed to hear this. Love this guy
Informative video. In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. To feel better reduce negative thoughts. Be careful what you feed your mind. Avoid comparing yourself with others, reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. For a relaxed mind observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 10-15-20 minutes or more. You can sit or lie down, neck straight and eyes closed. Never meditate with expectations but with awareness. Don’t fight your thoughts. With practice the mind will relax. Keep a reminder to observe your breath sensations throughout the day and night --before sleep, when reading, at work, when sitting in the park etc. Like me, make this a lifetime habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.
I am beyond hyper analytic, I can dissect how my mind works, with pictures that dont really exist which lead to other thoughts in my mind which I can think about all the time, I cant expain it at all in words and id really like to be able to, anyone else similar?
Oculus_Official yeah and it’s fucking awesome, I’m always 2 steps ahead of the game and rarely fuck up
I’m the same way, I find the best method is to constantly distract yourself with some reoccurring thought of positive future prospect. Keep your mind distracted always with positive thoughts to fall back on and slowly it will all come together. Then you’re able to use your hyper analytic-ness and call upon it when you need it, all the while being in control of it.
I believe everyone with higher than average IQ think like that.
An active mind is both great and troublesome. Something that is typically overlooked is what I might call 'rest theory'. A little like the theory that starving oneself of food *a little* is actually good for you... your intestines get a break, you are far less likely to get fat and it's good for you (there are other benefits as I'm sure most can imagine). I believe the mind is similar in this way. I would challenge 'over thinkers' thus... can you 'not think' for 20 seconds? ... 10? Some call it meditation. Big bonus is, when you 'need' to use your mind for the wonderful tool that it is - your thoughts will be of much higher quality. Remember gents', a constantly spinning mind is far more prone to go off the rails one day.
Spend a few moments imagining how nice it might be to quite literally... give it a rest.
I've been trying for so long to find someone who can acknowledge they don't think in words and pictures. It's very paradoxical to do so because you are depending on words for communication so you kinda get stuck being only with you're own brain and even then you're dissecting your own ego. It can be frustrating
I wish JP would recommend meditation because it's an incredibly powerful tool
I think he has to be very careful what what he says to the public you know what I mean? My guess is he probably meditates himself.
Rosie Lily99 why would suggesting meditation be controversial?
@@rockymckay1705 Because it could come across as unscientific, "spiritual nonsense" to some.
@DarConall That's true, there is scientific proof that meditation does indeed work!
What I stated is what I believe led JP to not recommend meditation. He's super careful with the stuff he says, and I take it that recommendations are no different...
meditation might be a strong self-suggestion technique
Don't use benzodiazepines. I'm going though Benzo W/D. Which is a living hell that can last years
mason guritz i was on them for 7 years. The withdrawal almost killed me it’s medically documented to be worse then heroin and I believe it. Living hell that lasted well over 18 months. My heart goes out to you! Xx
alcohol and benzos are the worst drugs to be addicted to in terms of withdrawal
One day or one second at a time man :)
mason guritz that’s so scary for me- I’ve been on Xanax for 5 yrs, 2mg a day for the last 3. And tolerance is building because sometimes 2mg doesn’t do it for me- unless I take on an empty stomach. I’m so scared of the detox and long term side effects of this drug. I have a specific phobia that I was prescribed it for- but I take it every day. Interdose withdrawal is something I think I’m experiencing. Maybe Jordan Peterson can do a video on benzos....
Pretty scary that benzos are used to treat alcohol withdrawal
My grandma used to have panic attacks and was possessive, I always resented her for it. But I have to admit that neuroticism exists in me and it explains many of the problems I have. I'm not clingy I have healthy relationships but it manifests differently, I hate being in settings where people can see me make mistakes, or trying to sit down and work assignments feels like tearing my brain in half so I procrastinate.
I gotta try sleep habits big breakfasts. Thanks Peterson! And also, you guys, don't sit and think to yourself all the time. Socialize with people and genuinely listen to them, you're taken out of your mind and you feel your neuroticism/overthinking wash away
I really appreciate your videos. It's been a tremendous experience to attend your classes, I've begun to do the reading assignments as well. I think that this facet of your work is incredibly important to the people who want to live a meaningful life with honesty as the foundational principle! God bless you and keep you as you fight the good fight! Jerry Parks
Yeah, I had this issue as well, downer's were my drug of choice for years. It wasn't until I began channeling this towards studying anything, literally always reading challenging books on history, mathematics, religion, sciences etc. And exercise.Also, I have a steady routine. Ill have to try a large breakfast.
I need to get my hands on some books like that. Your routine is an info-junkie's dream!
That's basically what I've become... I replaced a very self destructive habit with a literature junky habit. I read constantly, anything I can get my hands on but preferably classical literature, ancient Greek, Latin and Hebrew (translated ofc). I've been clean 6 years this October because I did what Jordan lays out in this video. I did it accidentally though. I hated the idea of AA or NA or any "religious" program to maintain. No, I had to prove to myself I had the strength inherent in me.
The only thing I didn't do is large breakfasts... Always hate breakfast, usually eat yogurt. My diet isn't on point though, I'm about 20lbs overweight, have been ever since I got clean. Time to turn up the notch and start actually working out hard. Need to push myself as hard physically as I have mentally.
Jason Williams You got it in you, I think! Go for it! Definitely resonating with you, except maybe just a bit on the religious thing. I'm no fan of religious programs either, but I've found that my faith, naive and not-self-aware as it may sound, has helped give me the persistence which has gotten me through a number of mental overloads.
Even then, I hope the best for you!
Faith and religion are two separate things to me. I have faith, in my family, in myself, in the Universe... Even in humanity. I just don't believe in any religions. You can call me an agnostic theist I suppose, even though my idea of god is very loose and amorphous.
But thank you, for your kind words! Right back at you.
Jason Williams My saying is "I'm spiritual, not religious". Stamped it.
Overanalysing is a trapping of energy in the head. The key is to practice doing inner bonding/ inner feeling work. So that you can drop energy down into body. Then you move from analysing to awareness
John Cooper this is the best comment here
What. Stop with that Buddhist nonsense. This is science. "Inner feeling" work is just an opportunity for my mind to act out much stronger which is what I'm trying to avoid. Bad idea
AirEnderman "inner feeling" isn't referring to your emotions or mental analysis. It means focusing on something like your breathing or feeling the tension in your muscles for example. Essentially switching your brain from Analysis to Awareness. Basically what the physical aspect of meditation is - which is something scientists are learning more about recently and recommending it more and more
Notato My mind's is far too active to focus on a single thing for too long. My mind will only begin to wander and then I lose 5282783 hours of sleep. Glad it works for a lot of others, but my life philosophy of never not-thinking and despising naivety doesn't help. I really wish I didn't have that philosophy, but I fear it's become a part of my psyche. I'll just play a game and eat a hefty breakfast, I think.
Playing videogames just sucks me further into my mind, so I hope that works for you. I have to avoid them if I want to be at all functional in terms of emotional and social awareness.
Here, in a nutshell is the best reason anyone will hear for being over-analytical...and something similar has happen many times since.
In 2006 my wife, my three year daughter and i went on holiday to Spain. During the course of that holiday we took our daughter to the hotel paddling pool(i noticed a sign saying NO LIFEGUARDS ON DUTY).
My wife starting reading her book. I sat twenty feet away from our three year old and her new-found friend, raising my hand up to the mother and father of the other little girl to give re-assurance. The big pool was only 10 ft away from the small pool(i took note of it..this seemed close to me, especially as the big pool dropped from the point of entry at a very steep angle)...i looked in it and did NOT feel safe.
Five minutes later i started to imagine our daughter getting out of the little pool and walking straight into the big pool...and going under. Then SUDDENLY it actually happened in front of me but it was not our daughter but the little girl and her parent's minds were occupied. In that split second i worked out that she was going to get in the pool and disappear under. I screamed to my wife to grab our daughter and ran at full speed, never taking my eye off that little girl because at that moment i realised, she may as well have been my daughter and within five feet of me jumping after bolting at full running pace i watched her head go under and she was gone....SPLASH and i practically ended up on top of her and tore her out from under the water, handing her over to her(by now) screaming mother and father. I lost my glasses and started to go under for them. I found them and a woman nearby helped me wipe them off. I returned to my seat to see my wife and daughter hugging with my wife holding her tight. They laughed at my wet adidas trainers slopping around as i sat down. I dried off and the father came over and shook my wet hand. He was distraught that they could have lost their daughter in that split second and kept repeating "THANK GOD FOR YOU SIR...THANK GOD FOR YOU"(he was German...i am a Brit). He offered us all an ice-cream. I myself declined the ice-cream telling him i was not good with milk.I then walked off in bare feet to attend an archery competition.
Now to the interesting bit. Whilst i was firing my last arrow, a woman stepped up beside me and said two things i have never forgotten. The first was "You are the gentleman who saved that little girls life aren't you?". Naturally i was speechless and stuttered a little and said.."i think she would have been ok..i probably over-reacted most likely".
Then she seemed to get a little emotional and said.."my husband saw the same thing and went to take his shoes off and watched you fly by him and jump across that pool in, what he swears was at least ten to fifteen feet with no hesitation but we looked back afterwards and realised that you had already run about 20ft before he'd got his shoes off...HOW DID YOU DO THAT?...how did you know and react so quickly?"
If i'm honest i couldn't answer her but i do remember her and her husband shaking hands with me in the lift and his face seemed like he was still questioning.
The worst part was though, that for six months after in seven separate dreams...THAT LITTLE GIRL DIDN'T SURFACE..and i woke up in sweats without her in my arms to the shrill noise of those same screams.
I bet you can read stacks into that Jordan...and then some.
This video literally felt like it tore my heart open. As he literally is describing me.
so refreshing to see a psychologist recommending diet as the first point of analysis for a problem rather than pathologizing, diagnosing and either meds or psychoanalysis
PROTEIN BREAKFAST YES This saved my life!
Routine, YES! Protein AND FAT, yes! Sleep, yes! Exercise and weightlifting, YES
Thank you for this
PS those cats are cute af homie
Maybe he dosnt want to feel his feeling, so he goes into his head
Right on the nose, well said my friend
Yes, that why he said about finding what's causing his anxiety. He needs to live in the real world, in the present, not inside his head ruminating the past or getting anxious about future events that are probably never going to happen.
Living in his head its what's causing him actual pain, not necessarily the external, because the external probably doesn't exist anymore.
Thank you dear Peterson
He has helped me a lot in understanding myself and seeing where other people are coming from or could possibly be dealing with. I stumbled upon Jordan before the pandemic and i has helped me immensely figure out previous issues and the stress of the last year on top of that. 🙏 He’s always fascinating and thought provoking if you come in with open eyes.
Me every 2 minutes of this video: "I"m gonna like this video. Wait, I've already liked this video? Hmm.."
Thanks Dad.
oh sonya, that's so you
!! I've been called "sensitive" a lot as a kid, and over analytical, or rather I got told that I overthink things too much...or that I am looking too deep into what people are saying... I thought it was just curiosity, but anxiety might play a role too, even though alcohol is not my thing, and I rather enjoy the cognitive boost that marijuana grants me(which is the only reason I ever use it).
I do like food(but do not gain weight from it), and when I do eventually get around to it, exercise gives great calm and focus to my mind...
Lin Yen Chin exercise ic where its at... and work that focuses you, a few friends who accept you as you are.
>cognitive boost that marijuana grants me
sure bro. i'll stick to cocaine as my stimulant.
Bin al-Flecki, acuity is raised to the degree of consistency in the flow of attention and awareness, these things being influenced by the degree to which you feel calm, the calmer you feel, the clearer your mind, the sharper your focus and thus, in correlation concentration is augmented.
With an appropriate ritual of breath work, marijuana grants a meditative enhancement. Sure it's not the OP condition of cocaine, but it is more natural, and has lasting enhancement to the quality of a user's life.
Proving said use is a structured application, structure being key to harnessing the emergent concentration birthed of habitual practice.
A lot of those things might not be true and they may be just trying to convince you you're reading into things because they don't like the fact that they are being discovered saying or doing something wrong.
Google gaslighting.
Also, I'll bet your people don't even have a clear or consistent definition as to what over analyzing is, as opposed to regular amount of analyzing. It's subjective.
Also, you may have to read deeper into something because the situation you're in or the type of thing they said to you causes you to. You might be analyzing more than other people simply because you were on the receiving end of your statements more often than the other people are.
People who are manipulative love to say that they are simple and that other people are complicated, and the other people read into things.
I'm a chronic over thinker. Continually pulling apart my thoughts in pursuit of often fruitless reasoning. The biggest, most powerful tool I've found to tame the relentless cycle of thoughts is Transactional Analysis. Knowing the function of ego states and understanding what my mind is doing has allowed me to focus my thoughts more than anything. 👍
I would love to nerd out with Mr Peterson! I deal with my anxious tendencies by reading classical literature. Guess I'm not as anxiety ridden as other individuals but the one thing that I have come to realize is that what classical authors do is that they slow the world around us and engage us in a interesting and calming one sided raconteur of a story :)!
Get up the same time everyday...
I suggest in the morning "cause that's generally when people get up", hahahaha that killed me 🤣🤣
Protein and Fat? Eggs are the perfect breakfast
Porridge, eggs, one piece of toast - perfect.
porridge and toast are high in carbohydrates so that's a no no. better get some ham and/or bacon with the egg.
There is nothing wrong with carbs. Just stay away from junk food.
there is plenty of wrong with carbs. your body is better off makind ATP from the proteins and fat of the food you just ate and from the fats you've stored over time. if you eat carbs, you're always high on sugar and you just store more fat...
i recommend: ua-cam.com/channels/qYPhGiB9tkShZorfgcL2lA.html
The brain requires carbs, there is nothing wrong with having porridge or toast, but you should stay away from refined carbs.
So what if you've got high anxiety and are diabetic?
I don't think a high (healthy) fats and high protein breakfast are a problem if you're diabetic. Unless you also need a little sugar, in which case have a little...
I am diabetic and that's why I try to avoid many carbs. Despite the older belief that fat has more to do with that, many believe now it's the carbs.
But since I know things like too much bread, jam, cereal is something that might contribute negative to my blood sugar, and also I still be hungry and unsatiated despite eating that, I switched to eggs and bacon in the morning. Now I don't know how much it helps, as I might fail to avoid carbs later in the day (a lot of things have carbs, I haven't done the full low-carb ever), but in the morning I can feel satiated and more happy even with less quantity of food than if I went for cereals for example.
Now, I find interesting that this might have a correlation with anxiety. I am also overanalyzing and ruminating and being neurotic. So, I might think more about it and look at some research or something. I do believe there are mood swings depending on what you ate, I just haven't found exactly what because the effects might be subtle or hard to predict.
Bibbzter666 I'm anxious and diabetic, too. Since changing to high fat low carb I've seen a DRASTIC drop in my severe anxiety. And I mean it was severe.
CAREFULLY ad cinnamon to your diet. It keeps my sugar low, too much and you'll drop out, so no mega doses bub.
All fats are healthy. Sugar is even okay except high fructose corn syrup which is poison to a diabetic in even small doses. Just eat the right amount of calories. In Other Words be sensible.
I needed to find this video. I'm currently an alcoholic due to my anxiety, and I'm anxious due to my over-analytic mind, and my concern is that I've already thought myself into a sort of existential oblivion and there's no way back from what I already know (which, inconveniently enough, is a place wherein I'm incapable of answering the questions I ask myself).
I weigh myself down with booze and the certainty that, although I don't/can't understand my existence, I know how it feels to be happy - regardless of what "happy" is - and I take comfort in knowing that I always have that acquirable feeling on the horizon if I work for it, or, alternatively, there's always the option to opt out of the whole deal.
Anyway, I'll strive on for a while yet I reckon. Much love peeps.
When he said you might be high on openness and maybe very verbally intelligent..., i shat my pants. How can this man be so true and Astute about me without even knowing me.
I have anxiety. Bad. I worry about everything. I used to smoke weed and it just made it worse. I tried drinking but I don't like it. I'm not sure what to do.
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try exercise. preferably in a forest, beach or other relaxing environment. jog, or do a circuit like pushups, sprint , squats etc. repeat 3 times or so. circuit training with weights is also v relaxing . i have a 12kg kettlebell i use. also work of any kind eg kitchenhand, whic forces you to focus .
ASLEEKBLACKFEATHER I have severe anxiety brought upon by trauma and a bad life. There's nothing much you can do other than to seek therapy and to try and make your life better
I also have this issue. I agree with finding a difficult cognitive problem to solve. For example, I've been trying to formulate a superposition wave function for the major chords of the classical guitar scales. It really really helps me keep my mind in ONE PLACE!! Please, find something to CONCENTRATE ON DEEPLY. iT HELPED ME, and I hope it can help you.
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ASLEEKBLACKFEATHER I've suffered too from anxiety and over analyzing my life situations. My opinion is that most of it is in our own mind. From repetitive worrying and negative thinking.
Research 'the subconscious mind'. It's a very powerful part of the psyche. Try to think more positive and exercise. I noticed that when I had anxiety, my breathing became very shallow. Exercise can help with the breathing and blood flow to the brain. If you cannot exercise then try deep breathing techniques.
Try to stay away from pharmaceutical drugs for a treatment. They can make things much worse if you decide to stop taking them. They are designed that way to keep you on them. You can overcome anxiety. Don't be discouraged. Keep telling yourself that you are in control of this. Be positive. You have more power than you realize. I wish you the best. You can overcome and prevail.
Try the Wim Hoff breathing technique, just discovered it, works pretty well.
Anxiety is fear of the future, Depression is fear of the past.
more like regreting the past..not fear
I think your fantastic. It’s great to hear you explaining this . I suffer with anxiety bad sweaty palms .under my arms .feet damp . But when I’m on my own it calms down a bit