I owe so much to this man. He literally pulled me out of a suicidal severe chronic depression with his lectures and self-authoring programme - which became by far the most important thing I've done in my life. One of the biggest things on my bucket that I hope to achieve in my life, is to shake his hand, look him in the eye and say, "Thank you from the bottom of my heart."
I was diagnosed with severe anxiety last year, Ive been suffering from anxiety too but ever since a friend recommended Bromantane from Nextchems I have been feeling much more relaxed and confident. It's amazing what a difference this product has made in my mental health. I highly recommend it to anyone who is struggling with their anxiety.
Don't tell the radical lefties that. They'll call you a weak simp who lives at home in his parents basement. For some reason they seem to think people who follow JP fit this bill. I know successful grown adults with decent jobs and a family who listen to him.
@@NotSure109 Right? I mean his multitude of content is literally readily available to watch on all his channels let alone all over the internet.. Kinda hard to miss.
For those that can’t seem to keep their minds out of the darkness.. you’ve endured and survived so much pain and suffering. We can’t give up. Our younger siblings, cousins, and strangers need us because we are the reminder that people like us endure. We make it through. We eventually see the light and yeah we might end up in the gutter again but we always make it across. We are the frontline to this “war” with overthinking, we stand on that front line and we take the most damage cuz we are the strongest. God sent his strongest soldiers. We might be down and out and hidden in the dark at times but we eventually rise up. We always do. Keep going. I know how much it hurts but you must keep going.
❤ bear the burdens of others. He called us out first. We must be ready to help others even if we didn't have another person helping us. Gods timing is the best timing. Even if we don't recognize it yet.
A treasure that is for sure. It really pisses me off that anyone right ,left, center, binary or non binary would ever try to attack this man. Does any of those critics have over 100,000 lives they have saved? One can look through the annals of time, there has not been another like Jordan. He represents everything we need. His voice and message is blessed by a higher power, way higher than any of us. He touches souls. I just don't get the world we live in, they want him crucified so they dont have to face their own misgivings. Leave him the f alone! Screw you Cathy! She is so full of herself she still believes she didn't get schooled by him.
The part where he says you need to write down your history and come to an understanding. This is what got me out of depression when I was 18. 26 these feelings are back, and I know in my gut that what he’s saying is actually very true. For me, anxiety is caused by slowly starting to have thoughts that counter what you believe in. So slowly, my sense of self gets beaten down and I’m left feeling like a shell. Need to reorientate back to my true self, and come to an understanding that even if I have those thoughts, doesn’t mean it’s true and what I want to believe in. Being Delulu is being happy.
@@solaveritas2he still does. He does N all access live every month, however it is behind the Daily Wire paywall. You can sign up for a membership and get access to all of Jordan’s content as well as be able to ask him questions on his all access shows, every month. It is well worth the subscription.
Such good advice. I needed to hear this today. So.. 1) Be of service to others. This pulls you away from constantly thinking about yourself and your worries/fears 2) Write down your fears then make a move towards dealing with them. This starts to retrain your mind into seeing you as someone who deals with things rather than avoiding them 3) Don't assume your anxiety is psychological. It may be physiological. Try the lion diet and see what happens (my advice 😁)
I so miss the QandAs that you used to do every month. Now it's all professionally done interviews, and they are great, but this is my absolute favourite format. More please!
Could you do these regularly again and use them to compile something like a library of topics? This one would be under A for Anxiety, so that specific topics can be looked up when needed? I'm thinking in terms of very practical help and leaving a legacy for future generations.
This is something my instincts were telling me but media was contradicting. The happiest people are those that live in tight communities where people care deeply about each other.
But how many of us could unanimously agree we live in tight communities if being honest? I would say not many. It has to be taken a step farther, that is caring about others without the expectation it will be reciprocated, or in the obviousness it’s actually not being returned.
@@Blake4625kHz thats a good point. its not an easy thing to, altruism, but ideally if you can master it without burning out or becoming bitter. thats what would make good leaders and good role models. thanks for adding that👍
I agree with you there. I left my hometown to live in a different state to be closer to friends and family. It was a financial sacrifice, but I've enjoyed spending time with relatives over the last few years and also been glad to join a loving and engaging religious community.
Can confirm, i moved from my country to another country because of the war happening there (im from khartoum sudan) ... and i remember the last time where i was really happy was in my poor country where people appreciate each other
The main problem is that most people have zero time and energy to set up or join these kinds of communities. Careers, education, kids, spouses etc take up all your time. And then you are left with tons of anxiety at night because deep down you are living as a lonely slave. Your wife doesn't really love you, she loves what you provide: A relationship, money and kids. The happiest people are those that work hard at something they are passionate about with people they enjoy being around. For example starting a business to get super rich with some fun friends.
1. Self Authoring, figure out meaning of things happened in past. 2. Conscientious, be orderly and industrious. 3. Be at service of other, make surrounding people's life a little better. 4. Detail list of things that are being avoided to do, and make a plan to solve the issue. 5. Diagonose underlying health disease like autoimmune disorder.
Glad this video came up on my home page. It's true that there is misery in looking too much on your narrow self. Thank you for your words and free advices, Dr. Peterson.
I am glad this popped up on my feed today. I have been dealing with a very stressful situation that has been impossible to resolve and my stomach has been flopping around and my heart is racing. I forced myself to eat this morning. God bless you.
Best of luck to you. I never had troubles with anxiety through life but recently it just hit me like a freight train. Like you, I could hardly eat and my heart would race which would in return cause other health effects. My father passed 2 years ago in his late 40’s so that started a cascade of health anxiousness. I don’t mean to push anything on you but looking towards Jesus Christ helped me. I agree with Dr Peterson that anxiety is an issue with the over indulged image of self so being able to off load and trust in God has just made the load so much easier to bare. Being with community also helps. Another thing that helped was me holding “conference meetings” in sunny peaceful spots with my bodily organs and telling them that through Gods will, everything will be fine. Don’t rush your body, accept that it will be strained for a bit and just give it some positive reinforcement to heal up in due time. Sorry if this was TMI. Im not a doctor but being there has just made me so empathetic to anybody going through this. If this message in anyway helps even at the smallest level then it was more than worth it. Take care ❤
@@DanSmith01ave Much better. My situation was a bad tenant at my mother's house who was pretty terrifying and caused me a great deal of financial and psychological harm and it took me forever to evict them. Since then, I sold the house and I invested enough of the money in Nano Nuclear that I made up the money I lost. It's really shocking how close the dollar values are.
Something else that wasn't mentioned is routine exercise. A lot of symptoms that are related to anxiety and depression is attributed to living a sedentary lifestyle. Try to make a habit of doing regular cardio, even just a brisk jog will make a world of difference to your mental state.
A brisk jog would make my anxiety and neuroticism ten times worse. Some people are born with this worm in tjeir mind that nothing can really stop, it is simply how they tick. Tried everything, literally. Nothing has worked.
@@AshMaybeAllen I get heightened anxiety after every workout. I still do it because I know that is is good for me, but working out definitely makes my anxiety worse a lot of the time. Probably because of the adrenaline. I've been to the peak of human fitness. I did long distance running, I have been lifting weights for almost a decade now, I aced every fitness test back in highschool, and broke school records for endurance. If exercise was the cure for anxiety, I would be the calmest person in the world. Oh well, life goes on on. I am hoping one day I will find some sort of peace in this life.
I believe spending a lot of time outside in nature is very helpful for general health and anxiety as well. Finding purpose in life. Having a why to live for. Those who have a why to live for can bear almost any how. Having good friends/ community/ family. Expressing yourself in some art form: music, writing, drawing, dancing, sports, etc. Helping other people feels good too. We have the power to make the world a better place to be with every interaction.
Like you said, don't be fearless. Be courageous. Alcohol makes you fearless because it numbs your amygdala and pre-frontal cortex. Only willingly walking toward and facing danger makes you courageous. Saying "I'm afraid and fearful but I'm still going to face this monster (tax documents)" is true, pure, and unadulterated courage. We're either a warrior in a garden or a gardener in a war.
This is the content we need. Straightforward, focused and logical. Peterson often loses me when he gets into the deep minutia of topics and meanders for days about the dust inside the dust inside the dust and then all of a sudden it was never about the dust, it was about the relationship between the dustpan and brush!
Psilocybin saved my life. I was addicted to heroin for 15 years and after Psilocybin treatment I will be 3 years clean in September. I have zero cravings. This is something that truly needs to be more broadly used in addiction treatment.
Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with mental health issues such as anxiety and depression, I would like to give them a try but haven't found any legit grower to get it.
A lot of people have testified about this and I really want to give it a shot. I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels
The Trips I've been having have really helped me a lot,I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well
And yet people hate him. How can you hate someone who speaks so plainly and clearly with literally thousands of hours of clinical experience with patients. This man should be revered not ridiculed.
Fabulous. I think we need much more of this please❤. There’s so many negative issues going on in the world and sometimes it’s hard to get up in the morning and think, I am here and I can only control certain things. A lot of anxiety.
Thanks for this. It inspired me to make a list of what ive been avoiding doing and listing whats been holding me back. Once i got it on paper, my fears became a lot smaller than they seemed initially. Sometimes, i stand in my own way, and im working to change that.
Thank you for sharing. As someone who has struggled with severe depression for more than 30 years. Only recently diagnosed with ADHD, finding the right balance of medication has been near impossible. The understanding that I'm not alone, that hope is possible however unlikely it feels, blesses me with a small light in the dark tunnel I've lived more than half my life in has changed me forever. Seek help from anyone and everyone that will listen, don't keep it to yourself!
Please please please do more Q and As in your UA-cam Videos. I LOVE seeing these videos of you close up, watching the gears of how your mind and brain works, how you think and speak. These things have massive massive massive value to a generation worldwide with very few quality male role models.
No longer afraid of anything. The worst has already happened, and a 100x worse. I'm 28, no job, no career, no savings, no family, no friends, no relationships, lost the only person I care about (my mother) to terminal cancer.
I'm sorry for your loss. Have faith and good things things will come in your life. Start with practicing what Dr. Peterson said here and trust in the change no matter how hard it is.
I'm sorry to hear that❤"the suffering you're feeling can't be compared to the joy that's coming" a very wise man said that. Jesus the Lord is with you always, I mean it
I pray for you to find peace 🙏🏻. I know that darkness and doom feeling very well. Have faith and pray. God will give you strength to get through it if you turn to him.
@@pureChem1calz I have yet to ever see anyone make a deep and coherent and on-point counterargument to any of what he points out. What I do see is many adult children all upset because they don't like what he points out and says about their lives though.
Thank you Dr. Peterson. Yes terrible anxiety at the moment, but video’s from you, Dr.Gabor and Ralph Smart from Infinite Waters has been helping me get back on track, and also a wonderful supportive GP too, as I said to him the other day, I need to ensure that before I diagnose myself with anything, I must consider if I am surrounded with arseholes. Namaste 🙏
Dr. P. Sound clinical advice. Giving to others and writing this down. Then setting up a strategic emotional plan in micro positive decisions. Building positive neuro connections. Keep it up.
I was anxious, avoided eye-contact at all costs, even stopped breathing while others walked by. Saw video of Peterson giving advice on anxiousness. His advice to start exposing yourself to situations has no less but changed my life and it's course. Now i scan and enjoy my environment, look EVERYONE into the eyes, and it has given me so much. Moments where stranger casts a smile on you, or the friendly nods, they make me feel connected. It also gave me control, i chose to stare into the abyss, when earlier abyss gazed at me while i looked away. I don't want to make this comment without saying that getting myself to this situation where im comfortable with people and eye contacts required and still requires work and initially extreme anxiety. Point is don't give up if it seems unmanageable, keep on it and you'll quickly notice that the uneasiness of your body and mind are ultimately yours to control. As i have enjoyed smiles, i want to make someone else feel that joy too, so currently im practising to smile to people. It's a work in progress, since now i think i look like i have constipation when im trying to smile to strangers, but i'll get there.
I was diagnosed with GAD (General Anxiety Disorder) a few years ago. It takes a wholistic approach to preemptively manage it. If I was diagnosed today I probably wouldn't have the same diagnosis. Maybe this will help someone...this is what helped me a lot: 1) Learning boundaries (I did about 3 months of therapy to learn how to set boundaries, which I never had. That was a huge help) 2) Mindfulness meditation (Powerful tool. Learning to detach from thoughts for a few moments per day is incredibly beneficial. I used the book "30 Days to Reduce Anxiety" by Harper Daniels to learn some strategies that I liked. Sitting in silence for even 10 minutes a day and learning to observe thoughts is a daily discipline.) 3) Cut out caffeine. (Coffee was way too much caffeine, which sent me into a cycle, overtaxing my nervous system) 4) Journaling daily (Even if for a few minutes, just to throw thoughts and emotions on paper, and throw the paper out). 5) Cold showers (This works for real. It's a challenge, but a good one that trains the body to react to an uncomfortable situation with ease over time, which helps general anxiety levels). 6) Getting into eastern philosophies (I benefited a lot from common spiritual principles shared amongst Taoism, Buddhism, and Hinduism...I'm not religious but I found the mindfulness and meditation principles of such philosophies to be very calming. The other world religions also have awesome principles.) I don't know, thought I'd share, maybe it'll help someone else as well :)
Do you think perhaps the cold shower thing ALSO has something to do with the fact the body and brain is reacting to a REAL, KNOWN discomfort instead of something you can't put your finger on? I've seen that effect with taking very long walks outside. If I am anxious about something I can't control especially if it's a "less natural" type of threat... taking a walk where I need to be aware of the weather (AND human predators too)... helps me focus on what's REAL and things I can see and feel instead of things in my imagination I can't control at the moment. Even though I am focusing on very real "threats" with the walk, overall it actually helps calm me down. I've seen the same thing with taking a DRIVE too (driving is definitely a risky activity but I know that and am familiar with it and ready to deal with those threats).
@@sathvamp1 yes! Exactly. It's essentially the same idea, exposing the self and it's conditioning ("cold water is uncomfortable and bad") to the reality with mindfulness ("the cold water isn't killing me, actually it feels lively and I feel great after being in it"). Our brains are powerful, as are our conditioning, but we can change our conditioning slowly and steadily.
Finally resisting myself to say thankyou to you in comment section becomes unbearable for me😊. Thank you Jordan, thank you so much!! I am experiencing how a dedicated person can change everything and everyone around him. You are changing lives man. How much effort it takes to be so articulate everytime you talk is beyond my imagination. You have proved me that its not always easier said than done sometimes its like it must be done multiple times by yourself before saying and after that saying it is the most valuable thing one person can do for another.
The main thing wrong in my life is my environment, I have anxiety because of my neighbours and their noise levels, and I cannot move out as yet 😭 praying for a miracle, I'm happy when they're not home.
Just hearing him say it might not be psychological put my mind at ease. I can't imagine it'd be good for you to believe that there's something mentally wrong with you. Adds a lot of stress.
This really is one of the most helpful video clips that Jordan has ever done. He’s even multifaceted in what he talks about. Then he also keeps it down to 10 minutes. Great job!
This genuinely almost made me cry because of how good an advice this video. Is it literally tell me exactly what I need to do here? Thank you, Jorden Peterson, you're some. You really are changing the world.
I am diagnosed to have autism (very late diagnosis) but it isn’t obvious to people that I have autism. I have great difficulty with understanding many things. I have to battle through life trying to figure everything out on my own because I seldom understand other peoples explanations. I have the choice to press people to explain it again and again (which they find very annoying) or just take a best guess and give it a go (which is sometimes a train wreck) Sometimes people think I’m capable enough to help them but it often presents me with a real challenge while I’m still trying to figure out 3 or 4 challenges of my own! 😣
Yes! Help others! My kids come home from school with lists of suggestions for self-love/care (self obsession) and the lists never include 'service to others'.
This is exactly what I'm working on right now... I'm avoiding the idea of "solving the problema of anxiety" and approaching the idea of "the world is like it is, my present is temporal, my feet are now in the land of 'I'm moving towards a direction that aims to my objectives'"... and playing more guitar and piano :P Your words are magical, there are so many ideas that others have already put into words, and it is so important to do that yourself too. Thanks!
Is a good solution to anxiety just facing your fears and taking action? I feel more anxiety when I think more than I act. Also positive self-talk has helped.
I hope and pray things go well for you becuz you’re absolutely amazing in articulation and ability to teach and share truth with us that is so incredibly helpful and I have benefitted a great deal by listening to you! God bless you Jordan Peterson! The powers that be hate you becuz you are exactly what this world needs to hear and they can’t stand it! Thx for all you do!!
I just prayed a mighty prayer for you and for your protection! You are a force to be reckoned with alone but with God on your side, he will order all things for your good and HIS glory! God be with you Jordan!! I don’t have many hero’s, but you are one of the very few and it’s becuz you are truthful and Godly. Our world 🌎 sooo needs you!
As much as I believe in the goal of the mental health field, something about it has always rubbed me the wrong way. And I think it's the fact that focusing on self excessively exacerbates anxiety, at least it does for me.
The alleged goals of the mental health field. You have no idea how many psychiatrists, therapists, and counselors just do everything they can to get you on drugs that make you a zombie and them rich. The most harm I’ve ever experienced in my life was at the hands of a bad therapist. There are certainly good ones out there, but be careful in endorsing the field itself, because the field is set up for failure by the way it’s structured. That’s how you know the good ones are outliers and not the bad ones. The field is set up so the bad ones succeed
How can be so amazing He is just brightening up my life It used to be dark and now it is brightening up Thank you Jordan Peterson, u r just mind blowing
Thank you so much! I have been following you for a while now and you are like a miracle. I am tired of therapists who don't help because they need to sugar coat it or wait for you to discover things by yourself or etc. I have been in therapy on and off for over 20 years and I am considered a ''complexe case'' (I am not complexe, just very traumatized). WIth your videos like this, you have managed to help in many ways. I needed the ''no bullshit'' approach. I am so sad that you don't take patients.
The first few things mentioned are true (till 01:35). As someone who feared everything, I don't anymore via confrontation. There is something which he didn't mention, confronting your fears in a safe environment will also help you. This works for me hand in hand with finding the purpose, why to do it in the first place. This is the future which leads you to why and who you are. The last fear is the fear of yourself, who are you if fear does not rule your life. Keep finding out!
Mr. Peterson, I just wanted to take the time and say thank you. Before I found you're content I was very lost in a sea of despair. You've guided me back onto the right path I feel. I still struggle with certain things, but nowhere near what it was. Thank you kind sir, wish I had a figure of you're stature in my youth. You've helped me tremendously.
Thank you, JP. I recently started watching your videos. I am currently struggling with driving alone due to fear of anxiety and panic attacks. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Keep doing what you are doing ❤
So true, thanks for that. I was in poisonous relationship which i had to end because it drived me crazy. Then i tried to give enough time to myself and care for myself, because i didn't have space for myself at all in that relationship. But in fact, i was feeling terrible after breakup. Reason? I suddenly had no one to care for, it felt like i lost the purpose of my life. So this is why you should be with your friends, family, anybody.. after you lost someone. And also it's good to care about yourself but not too much.. If you have all things solved in yourself and you know it, it's better to care for others and live for others. It's the meaning of life for me. Basically now i understand, that if you care about yourself too much and you're anxious that's life telling you that you're doing something wrong. But these situations are great experiences to know and help others. So all in all my life gave me these lessons and Jordan confirmed it. I'm glad for that.
i appreciate all you do, jordan. especially for future generations, as people write books inspired by your words to help others. its a rising tide floats all boats thing. keep going!
0:24: 📝 Dr. Peterson suggests that modifying one's temperament and reducing unresolved issues from the past can help in managing negative emotions. 3:38: 👥 Focusing on the well-being of others can help alleviate negative self-focused emotions. 7:37: 💡 Deep learning can be a solution for severe anxiety and associated depression. Recap by Tammy AI
The 3rd reason for negative emotions JBP mentioned here is the possibility of undiagnosed autoimmune conditions. Then he mentions the emerging literature on carnivore/ ketogenic diet as a potential solution to such autoimmune conditions hence solution for excessive negative emotions. Not deep learning?
Once again, you've spoken directly to me! Thank you so much for all you do! You have helped me and my family tremendously! May God bless you and your family!
Helpful video. Thank you. I like the idea of serving others’ to turn the rumoring off or at least decrease it. I’ve gotten better at not allowing myself to go down the rabbit hole of letting fear of the future take ahold of me. Fear of never finding my ‘person’ and growing old alone. Living more in the moment. I know in my case it’s circumstance and not psychological. I’ve dealt with grief of being 41 and not being a wife (yet) or a mom (yet). But having my faith has helped me through it 🙏🏻
Thank you for the awesome guide, dr. Peterson! It were all things i knew about on subconscious level, but you structured them in words so precisely that it provided useful guidelines instead of vague anxiety those topics caused. Keep doing whatever you are doing, because it is of tremendous value for everyone facing anxiety - in short every living human. God bless you!
I love this video. Thank you Dr. Peterson. I think autoimmune and emotional stress have driven the other issues personally. For the autoimmune portion: Keto and intermittent fasting can help with everything from estrogen dominance, to herpes, to allergies, to infections, to diabetes, to digestion, and joint inflammation. And I’m only scratching the surface.
Whenever keto (or ANY type of diet) is mentioned I always feel the need to ALSO bring up (and, from what I've read, prioritize) the factor of harmful synthetic chemicals. Many harmful synthetic chemicals can CAUSE autoimmune and many other diseases.... but the ONLY food label that does NOT allow synthetic chemicals is "organic." Far too many people either think the label "organic" doesn't mean anything, OR they think it means something it does not. But.. "organic" legally DOES mean NO synthetic chemicals (or GMOs) allowed in the food. But that is ALL it means (it doesn't mean "plant-based" or even "whole food"), BUT the legal exclusion of synthetic chemicals (i.e. not allowing them) is still a VERY big thing when you look at studies showing synthetic chemicals can harm DNA, immune cells etc. (thus cause cancer, AUTOIMMUNE diseases, etc etc). So, to keto I say "SURE... as long as / especially if its ALSO organic." Same with intermittent fasting. To me, there is not much sense in manipulating types or proportions of foods that STILL CONTAIN harmful, synthetic chemicals. Both plants and animals (IF not organic) are allowed to contain such chemicals. But if either is labeled "organic", they are not allowed to. I am well aware that many people have benefitted from JUST the "keto" factor etc... but some have not. And I bet EVEN MORE people will be on the "benefitted" side of the data if they ALSO address the "organic" factor.
I absolutely love listening to you. I hope one day I can see you in person speak and maybe shake your hand. You're a beautiful soul and please keep up all the work you do for us. 🙏
I got the diagnosis that I have Morbus Bechterew when I was 14 and around that time I was struggling with depression. Fast forward I'm 37 now and this is the first time I heard that there is a correlation between an autoimmune disease and depression. Thank you so much. It doesn't make my depression go away but it helps me to understand it a bit better.
Long time anxiety sufferer. Get your diet under control, especially your gut health. Find out what allergies you have. Cut down alcohol and caffeine. Exercise daily. Re-learn how to sleep deeply. Earthing, morning sun, cold showers, breathing. F the meds if you can try this instead.
@lauramantua7398 try foods like broths, yogurt, rice, grains, etc. Big thing is to just avoid agitating foods.. like alcohol, caffeine, spicy foods, fried foods, processed foods, and avoid eating too much or too fast.
Mindful of the children’s book, There’s a Nightmare in My Closet. Child and Nightmare make friends after they both discover they’re each afraid. In a shifted sense, the nightmare is a tangled mess of negative energy that is self perpetuating, and perhaps “it” is not so happy about that, and would rather be well assembled. Then we all would feel better!
I have been listening to Dr. Jordan B. Peterson for 7+ years! ✝️🕊🙏❤️💯 Jordan has been added to my prayer list for 7+ years! ✝️🕊🙏❤️💯 I have been granted the massive opportunity, honour, privilege and blessing to have had the opportunity to be a subscriber on all Jordan’s UA-cam channels and platforms. I have witnessed Dr. Jordan’s outstanding and remarkable growth and therefore as a result, transcendence. I have listened to ALL LECTURES, TEACHINGS, SEMINARS, AND SERIES on GENESIS AND EXODUS AND COUNTLESS INTERVIEWS AND PODCASTS. I have cried countless tears of joy for Jordan’s transformation and transcendence! ✝️🕊🙏 I am so grateful for everything. God bless you and your family. ✝️🕊
This is good info, thanks QUESTION: What can I do as the wife of a seriously negative person? We started on the carnivore diet in August. I’ve seen slight improvement. Still, his 'bad' thought and the expression of them have me worried I should be doing more than positive reinforcement. Mostly, he answers anything I say or suggest with a negative response. I am discouraged. It can be overwhelming. I thank God I have my faith, and prayer.
Love you Dr Peterson. You are a kind, sincere, wise and precious treasure and have helped me enormously. Thank you and God bless you from Wiltshire, England 🏴 🇬🇧
After last year I read '12 rules of life', this year I finished reading 'Beyond order: another 12 rules'. Thank you for the teachings learned by reading your work!
This is all very useful, actual problemsolving strategies! All my therapist does is talk about my past, it's ok to be sad and never really offer any constructive advice on how to move forward
This was a question I had wanted to ask Dr. Peterson himself if I ever had the opportunity, as he has talked about his high neurotisicm before and is something I am struggling with. Very thankful for this video
I am truly appreciative of Dr Jordan for this very incredible message.I really needed to hear this.And for sure I will never be the same again.I promise!
Depression is an action of the body to De-presses so much pressure that our mind has been having for a long time through suffering, injustice, for being ignored for so many people, for being bullied, for trying to make everyone else happy, for laugh so everyone can see that you are not sad and so much more pain in your life, So the body and mind cannot resist any more and become the Depression. Some people can defeat depression and others cannot. God bless everyone with this condition and find real love ❤️ with some pets, they love ❤️ are unconditionally.
in my lifetime (61) I've come to understand that there's no such thing as fear of failure since we fail at everything from the time that we're born. there is fear of success though since success entails our entry into uncharted territory....... although after a few forays there we do tend to find it all less stressful.....
Yes! THIS is what I tell people who want to know, @ 52 yrs. of age, WHY I haven't "made something of myself" yet. I'm artistic and I have won awards here and there in the past for my work. This is what I tell them, my fear of success. Then they look at me like I'm crazy. Oh well, at least someone else gets it.🤷🏻♀️ Part of the "unknown" for me is how will success change me and those around me? -- for better or worse? I'd like to think I can trust myself and others; that it would be for the better, but I don't think I do.😕
@@TheBereangirl trust me when I say this, you cannot trust yourself (in that you could control the changes you enter into) when it comes to succeeding in any endeavor in life. your ego won't allow you to regardless of your past ability to control yourself along your journey. now AFTER you've dealt with yourself (given a level of reflective time) you can readjust yourself within an approximation of your former self. however, you'll always remain 1 step forward further from your past.....
I’m 58 so have had to make many many trips to Tesco or wherever, it never gets easier. Every single time it is a true battle with myself to actually leave the house. Before that there’s the battle of - well I know I need milk, but what else do I need while I’m there? I don’t want to go and come back then realise I didn’t get this or that thing. So in my experience it doesn’t get easier even after decades of doing it. Same with my work. I’m a self taught seamstress and have run my own small clothing alterations business since 2011 but I still find it really really difficult! I appear not to learn very effectively. I have a very late diagnosis of Autism
I don’t know how many years of depression it took me to realize that when “” I could “”forget myself..( the suffering seemed to subside)) what a relief!!! At University I took a summer art class and lost myself( in a good way) …I became an art major therefore condemning myself in a different way….whatever I did I think I can say( now that I’m over 70) I’m certainly not as depressed as I was. But I do feel sadness for all the lost possibilities,but I continue to paint hoping searching for that elusive,intangible…
This man is a gem to humanity. The concept of telling people to help others as part of a treatment for neurotic and featful anxious behaviour is something i only heard from Krishna in Hinduism. I never heard any psychologist talking about that as treatment. Jordan you are the real deal , a true healer to mankind ❤❤❤
What I have discovered is that the way to get rid of negative emotions is to feel and experience them completely. That means to allow the feelings of fear, anger, grief and shame to flow without blame, judgement or harming others or self. It's about recognizing that these emotions are within us, they entered us through our childhood experiences of which a lot were not loving, and taking personal responsibility to release them. Once we do, we will feel much happier, confident and our health will improve.
I was going to post something like this. I like Dr. Peterson, but his overly psychotherapeutic approach on this topic likely perpetuates these emotions in his viewers who will continue to ruminate endlessly about the past and future. He dumps on mindfulness, but it's really the best framework to feel the negative emotions in their totality to finally "release" them, or transmute them as we say in the practice.
@@chriscroteau931 I also like Jordan and there are many good things that he does for people but I think that the truth about emotions is not well known on the planet or in the medical community. Most people believe that these emotions are a part of their personality and nature, when in fact they are not, those are only emotional injuries that can be released and cleared so that we never have to experience them again. There is a general terror in people about feeling emotions so that is why we spend most of our time avoiding, denying and suppressing our emotions by all kinds addictions and techniques which only make things worse. I feel we need to become like a child again in the way they experience emotions, before they got suppressed, manipulated, threatened or violently abused out of the emotion. It is a difficult thing to do, but it is very much healing. Grief is the healing emotion and when we cry it out, peace and joy comes.
For fear and anxiety, that method doesn't work for me very well. I have been awake at night for hours before just letting the scary potential outcomes run around in my head, and more freely "letting" them do that doesn't seem to decrease the time spent doing that any more. The only thing that usually stops it is when I either CAN finally take action (like calling customer service WHEN they open in the morning) and/or getting too physically exhausted to stay awake any more, etc. But it really seems like I have no control over fear. I CAN relate to letting myself experience sadness and grief as helpful though. And sometimes I'll have discovered that I was unknowingly using anger to "cover those up." I didn't realize before (until ONE particular incident) that letting oneself cry can actually release feel-good brain endorphins. Once I discovered firsthand that was a totally literal and legitimate phenomenon, I even became an enthusiast of tearjerker movies (!) The incident that actually showed me firsthand that phenomenon was when I saw the movie "Inside Out" for the first time, and during one particular scene / line, tried my hardest NOT to cry (I was with my roommates)... then later discovered I was craving more tearjerkers (as if something REALLY WANTED to be "let out", no surprise there lol). I don't cry easily at all (so yes that movie was a huge surprise), and until then, didn't like it at all during the rare times when I did. But after "Inside Out", I was "on the search" lol.
@@sathvamp1 It works for fear and anxiety, but we have to allow the emotions to rise in their full capacity, to shake or tremble, feel the waves of fear wash over us. Most of us try to control and sedate the feeling of fear and that struggle creates tension and that creates pain. I feel we need to learn how to sit with fear and anxiety, be aware of the body as where it manifests and if we do it consistently and as long as it takes, the level of fear will subside. At the beginning far can rise for a bit, but it will go down. Fear is probably the most difficult emotion to feel but it is very relieving to experience and releasing it, so it with grief. Grief comes easier to most of us, and we often would like to jump over fear and go straight into the grief, but most of the time, fear covering over grief, just as you correctly point out, anger covers over fears. It is my experience that every layer has to be experienced, in order to get to the root cause, which is most often grief or shame.
Also for anyone suffering from anxiety, try quitting caffeine. I wish I had done it a long time ago. There may be physiological factors contributing to your anxiety disorder.
I quit coffee last year November... I don't feel less anxious to be honest. However what I did notice is that my happiness level doesn't take as many deep nose-dives anymore... which seems probable because in the Hubermann podcast about dopamine he mentions that caffeine causes a peak in dopamine which then drops below baseline and a lower baseline is associated with depressive disorders.
I scored 91 on conscientious and 91 on neuroticism, on your big five test, Dr. Peterson. I took it a couple years ago during my SS disability claim. During that time I found out I was Autistic, and it was hidden by my parents, who beat me as a behavioral problem. Spare not the rod, drunkards. My anxiety has not improved in the last couple years.
Expose and accept. And eventually it will dessapear (anxiety). Imagine yourself having panick attacks everyday throughout this whole year or your entire life and think: it's okay, i accept it. That acceptation will do the work and you will be great! It's cognitive conductual therapy. In fact, if you don't go to a therapist, go now!
@@fianchettando oh, I've been trying. The difficult thing is my entire family hates me. Everyone knew something was wrong, but nobody cared enough to find out early enough to make a difference. Now my whole life is ruined. God just sat on his hands. 52 year old worthless, homeless, autistic loser.
Thank you Professor Peterson...not one therapist or psych has ever been as candid and helpful as you.......I am so angry at the community of fakes who ruined my life with drugs.......when I needed encouragement as I have a high IQ and the abuse destroyed my opportunities......I was made to believe I was lower than average....
The rapid increase in stress, anxiety and depression is no mistake, especially with the given bad health advice from government officials, endocrine disrupting chemicals being put everywhere including water, and the deliberate suppression of healthy lifestyle habits. This makes me wonder, to what degree is the scientifically quantifiable trait known as neuroticism a consequence of the above mentioned and not a state that occurs naturally at least to the extent that it does in our current time?
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I owe so much to this man. He literally pulled me out of a suicidal severe chronic depression with his lectures and self-authoring programme - which became by far the most important thing I've done in my life. One of the biggest things on my bucket that I hope to achieve in my life, is to shake his hand, look him in the eye and say, "Thank you from the bottom of my heart."
I was diagnosed with severe anxiety last year, Ive been suffering from anxiety too but ever since a friend recommended Bromantane from Nextchems I have been feeling much more relaxed and confident. It's amazing what a difference this product has made in my mental health. I highly recommend it to anyone who is struggling with their anxiety.
Don't tell the radical lefties that. They'll call you a weak simp who lives at home in his parents basement. For some reason they seem to think people who follow JP fit this bill. I know successful grown adults with decent jobs and a family who listen to him.
Thank you for your comment but, surely you mean ‘figuratively’?
Haha I mean "actually"
@@yodaheabebe3756What is the self authoring program? Might I ask?
Would love to see a return to more psychology / self help focused content like this.
Amen
You're literally witnessing him engaged in it. He can't "return to" something he does and is doing right before your very eyes lol.
@@NotSure109 Right? I mean his multitude of content is literally readily available to watch on all his channels let alone all over the internet.. Kinda hard to miss.
this is the reason i love him so much
@@Smurfy10285 Unless one misses it intentionally ;)
For those that can’t seem to keep their minds out of the darkness.. you’ve endured and survived so much pain and suffering. We can’t give up. Our younger siblings, cousins, and strangers need us because we are the reminder that people like us endure. We make it through. We eventually see the light and yeah we might end up in the gutter again but we always make it across. We are the frontline to this “war” with overthinking, we stand on that front line and we take the most damage cuz we are the strongest. God sent his strongest soldiers. We might be down and out and hidden in the dark at times but we eventually rise up. We always do. Keep going. I know how much it hurts but you must keep going.
❤ bear the burdens of others. He called us out first. We must be ready to help others even if we didn't have another person helping us. Gods timing is the best timing. Even if we don't recognize it yet.
Thank you ❤️🩹💜🙏
That's it, dude:/
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This man is an absolute treasure to our world.
yes
Amen and amen!!
Like Eckhart Tolle, Sadhguru, Krishnamurti...
Why do i always cringe when I hear this kind of statement?
A treasure that is for sure. It really pisses me off that anyone right ,left, center, binary or non binary would ever try to attack this man. Does any of those critics have over 100,000 lives they have saved? One can look through the annals of time, there has not been another like Jordan. He represents everything we need. His voice and message is blessed by a higher power, way higher than any of us. He touches souls. I just don't get the world we live in, they want him crucified so they dont have to face their own misgivings. Leave him the f alone! Screw you Cathy! She is so full of herself she still believes she didn't get schooled by him.
The part where he says you need to write down your history and come to an understanding. This is what got me out of depression when I was 18. 26 these feelings are back, and I know in my gut that what he’s saying is actually very true. For me, anxiety is caused by slowly starting to have thoughts that counter what you believe in. So slowly, my sense of self gets beaten down and I’m left feeling like a shell. Need to reorientate back to my true self, and come to an understanding that even if I have those thoughts, doesn’t mean it’s true and what I want to believe in. Being Delulu is being happy.
Same its so hard to think +ve
No cant write it down :(
So thankful for this video. Reminds me of his 2016-17 videos of him speaking directly to online questions. Thanks JP!
Yes! I wish there was more of this. These used to be my favourite videos, he did one every month.
@@solaveritas2he still does. He does N all access live every month, however it is behind the Daily Wire paywall. You can sign up for a membership and get access to all of Jordan’s content as well as be able to ask him questions on his all access shows, every month. It is well worth the subscription.
@@solaveritas2 True. And also his college lectures were so addicting.
Such good advice. I needed to hear this today. So..
1) Be of service to others. This pulls you away from constantly thinking about yourself and your worries/fears
2) Write down your fears then make a move towards dealing with them. This starts to retrain your mind into seeing you as someone who deals with things rather than avoiding them
3) Don't assume your anxiety is psychological. It may be physiological. Try the lion diet and see what happens (my advice 😁)
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I so miss the QandAs that you used to do every month. Now it's all professionally done interviews, and they are great, but this is my absolute favourite format. More please!
Could you do these regularly again and use them to compile something like a library of topics? This one would be under A for Anxiety, so that specific topics can be looked up when needed? I'm thinking in terms of very practical help and leaving a legacy for future generations.
THAT and t he bouncing camera gets crazy at times ha be careful people
This is something my instincts were telling me but media was contradicting. The happiest people are those that live in tight communities where people care deeply about each other.
But how many of us could unanimously agree we live in tight communities if being honest? I would say not many. It has to be taken a step farther, that is caring about others without the expectation it will be reciprocated, or in the obviousness it’s actually not being returned.
@@Blake4625kHz thats a good point. its not an easy thing to, altruism, but ideally if you can master it without burning out or becoming bitter. thats what would make good leaders and good role models. thanks for adding that👍
I agree with you there. I left my hometown to live in a different state to be closer to friends and family. It was a financial sacrifice, but I've enjoyed spending time with relatives over the last few years and also been glad to join a loving and engaging religious community.
Can confirm, i moved from my country to another country because of the war happening there (im from khartoum sudan) ... and i remember the last time where i was really happy was in my poor country where people appreciate each other
The main problem is that most people have zero time and energy to set up or join these kinds of communities. Careers, education, kids, spouses etc take up all your time. And then you are left with tons of anxiety at night because deep down you are living as a lonely slave. Your wife doesn't really love you, she loves what you provide: A relationship, money and kids.
The happiest people are those that work hard at something they are passionate about with people they enjoy being around. For example starting a business to get super rich with some fun friends.
1. Self Authoring, figure out meaning of things happened in past.
2. Conscientious, be orderly and industrious.
3. Be at service of other, make surrounding people's life a little better.
4. Detail list of things that are being avoided to do, and make a plan to solve the issue.
5. Diagonose underlying health disease like autoimmune disorder.
Thanks, king
Thanks, man. I appreciate this. ❤
I do 3 but the people are still bullying me and putting me down
Thanks man.
How can I be of service if I'm in a Business School?
Glad this video came up on my home page. It's true that there is misery in looking too much on your narrow self. Thank you for your words and free advices, Dr. Peterson.
Thank you for taking the time to give detailed answers like this and taking people’s questions seriously. It really helps. ❤
I am glad this popped up on my feed today. I have been dealing with a very stressful situation that has been impossible to resolve and my stomach has been flopping around and my heart is racing. I forced myself to eat this morning. God bless you.
Best of luck to you. I never had troubles with anxiety through life but recently it just hit me like a freight train. Like you, I could hardly eat and my heart would race which would in return cause other health effects. My father passed 2 years ago in his late 40’s so that started a cascade of health anxiousness.
I don’t mean to push anything on you but looking towards Jesus Christ helped me. I agree with Dr Peterson that anxiety is an issue with the over indulged image of self so being able to off load and trust in God has just made the load so much easier to bare. Being with community also helps. Another thing that helped was me holding “conference meetings” in sunny peaceful spots with my bodily organs and telling them that through Gods will, everything will be fine. Don’t rush your body, accept that it will be strained for a bit and just give it some positive reinforcement to heal up in due time.
Sorry if this was TMI. Im not a doctor but being there has just made me so empathetic to anybody going through this. If this message in anyway helps even at the smallest level then it was more than worth it. Take care ❤
how are you doing now?
@@DanSmith01ave Much better. My situation was a bad tenant at my mother's house who was pretty terrifying and caused me a great deal of financial and psychological harm and it took me forever to evict them. Since then, I sold the house and I invested enough of the money in Nano Nuclear that I made up the money I lost. It's really shocking how close the dollar values are.
Some troglodytes might try and strip you of your titles, but the people will always respect you. Thanks for all you do
Something else that wasn't mentioned is routine exercise. A lot of symptoms that are related to anxiety and depression is attributed to living a sedentary lifestyle. Try to make a habit of doing regular cardio, even just a brisk jog will make a world of difference to your mental state.
Adding on to that, eat balanced meals so that you get proper nutrients in your body.
A brisk jog would make my anxiety and neuroticism ten times worse. Some people are born with this worm in tjeir mind that nothing can really stop, it is simply how they tick.
Tried everything, literally. Nothing has worked.
@@AshMaybeAllen I get heightened anxiety after every workout. I still do it because I know that is is good for me, but working out definitely makes my anxiety worse a lot of the time. Probably because of the adrenaline.
I've been to the peak of human fitness. I did long distance running, I have been lifting weights for almost a decade now, I aced every fitness test back in highschool, and broke school records for endurance.
If exercise was the cure for anxiety, I would be the calmest person in the world. Oh well, life goes on on. I am hoping one day I will find some sort of peace in this life.
Look at all the doctors here. Absolutely astounding.
I believe spending a lot of time outside in nature is very helpful for general health and anxiety as well.
Finding purpose in life. Having a why to live for. Those who have a why to live for can bear almost any how.
Having good friends/ community/ family.
Expressing yourself in some art form: music, writing, drawing, dancing, sports, etc.
Helping other people feels good too. We have the power to make the world a better place to be with every interaction.
Like you said, don't be fearless. Be courageous.
Alcohol makes you fearless because it numbs your amygdala and pre-frontal cortex.
Only willingly walking toward and facing danger makes you courageous.
Saying "I'm afraid and fearful but I'm still going to face this monster (tax documents)" is true, pure, and unadulterated courage.
We're either a warrior in a garden or a gardener in a war.
Avoid using negative worded language with I... like I am afraid say instead i am I am learning after all its a learning experience
God them tax docs are a good example hah. They're the devil.
Woke up and saw this video, and it was exactly what I had been needing to hear without even knowing it. Thank you.
This is the content we need. Straightforward, focused and logical. Peterson often loses me when he gets into the deep minutia of topics and meanders for days about the dust inside the dust inside the dust and then all of a sudden it was never about the dust, it was about the relationship between the dustpan and brush!
You're the man Jordan. Thank you for all the help you have given us all these years. God bless
Psilocybin saved my life. I was addicted to heroin for 15 years and after Psilocybin treatment I will be 3 years clean in September. I have zero cravings. This is something that truly needs to be more broadly used in addiction treatment.
Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with mental health issues such as anxiety and depression, I would like to give them a try but haven't found any legit grower to get it.
@@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEUI got mine from dr.sporesss
A lot of people have testified about this and I really want to give it a shot. I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels
@@eddiejohn8506Is he on instagram?
The Trips I've been having have really helped me a lot,I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well
And yet people hate him. How can you hate someone who speaks so plainly and clearly with literally thousands of hours of clinical experience with patients. This man should be revered not ridiculed.
not people . the Matrix people
not people correct, soulless losers comes to mind😊
Fabulous. I think we need much more of this please❤. There’s so many negative issues going on in the world and sometimes it’s hard to get up in the morning and think, I am here and I can only control certain things. A lot of anxiety.
Thanks for this. It inspired me to make a list of what ive been avoiding doing and listing whats been holding me back. Once i got it on paper, my fears became a lot smaller than they seemed initially. Sometimes, i stand in my own way, and im working to change that.
Thank you for sharing. As someone who has struggled with severe depression for more than 30 years. Only recently diagnosed with ADHD, finding the right balance of medication has been near impossible. The understanding that I'm not alone, that hope is possible however unlikely it feels, blesses me with a small light in the dark tunnel I've lived more than half my life in has changed me forever. Seek help from anyone and everyone that will listen, don't keep it to yourself!
Please please please do more Q and As in your UA-cam Videos. I LOVE seeing these videos of you close up, watching the gears of how your mind and brain works, how you think and speak. These things have massive massive massive value to a generation worldwide with very few quality male role models.
Thanks!
No longer afraid of anything. The worst has already happened, and a 100x worse.
I'm 28, no job, no career, no savings, no family, no friends, no relationships, lost the only person I care about (my mother) to terminal cancer.
I'm sorry for your loss. Have faith and good things things will come in your life. Start with practicing what Dr. Peterson said here and trust in the change no matter how hard it is.
I'm sorry to hear that❤"the suffering you're feeling can't be compared to the joy that's coming" a very wise man said that.
Jesus the Lord is with you always, I mean it
I hope you can find peace 🙏🏻
I pray for you to find peace 🙏🏻. I know that darkness and doom feeling very well. Have faith and pray. God will give you strength to get through it if you turn to him.
Take all the love you have for her… and give it freely to all that you meet. Your mom will look down upon you, happy and proud.
-Norm Macdonald
GREAT!!! thanks as a psychotherapist and as a person overcoming childhood trauma!!! God bless you, your family and your projects!
How could anybody not respect or appreciate this guy is beyond me?
Simply because difference in ideas and beliefs. Many disagreed with Freud too, I am on the other hand, quite intrigued with him.
I respect you 😀
@@pureChem1calz I have yet to ever see anyone make a deep and coherent and on-point counterargument to any of what he points out.
What I do see is many adult children all upset because they don't like what he points out and says about their lives though.
I respect and appreciate him. But I’m also perpetually frustrated by his engagements in philosophy of religion
@@TheProdigalMeowMeowMeowReturns Interesting. That is what I enjoy. Well, each to his own.
This man has helped so many people. Me being one of them. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. May God bless and protect this man.
Thank you Dr. Peterson. Yes terrible anxiety at the moment, but video’s from you, Dr.Gabor and Ralph Smart from Infinite Waters has been helping me get back on track, and also a wonderful supportive GP too, as I said to him the other day, I need to ensure that before I diagnose myself with anything, I must consider if I am surrounded with arseholes. Namaste 🙏
So very thankful for this brilliant, insightful, and incredibly compassionate man. May God continue to bless him and protect him and guide him.
Dr. P. Sound clinical advice. Giving to others and writing this down. Then setting up a strategic emotional plan in micro positive decisions. Building positive neuro connections. Keep it up.
I was anxious, avoided eye-contact at all costs, even stopped breathing while others walked by. Saw video of Peterson giving advice on anxiousness. His advice to start exposing yourself to situations has no less but changed my life and it's course. Now i scan and enjoy my environment, look EVERYONE into the eyes, and it has given me so much. Moments where stranger casts a smile on you, or the friendly nods, they make me feel connected. It also gave me control, i chose to stare into the abyss, when earlier abyss gazed at me while i looked away.
I don't want to make this comment without saying that getting myself to this situation where im comfortable with people and eye contacts required and still requires work and initially extreme anxiety. Point is don't give up if it seems unmanageable, keep on it and you'll quickly notice that the uneasiness of your body and mind are ultimately yours to control.
As i have enjoyed smiles, i want to make someone else feel that joy too, so currently im practising to smile to people. It's a work in progress, since now i think i look like i have constipation when im trying to smile to strangers, but i'll get there.
You find yourself when you lose yourself in the service of others ! Amen...
🙏 Amen
I was diagnosed with GAD (General Anxiety Disorder) a few years ago. It takes a wholistic approach to preemptively manage it. If I was diagnosed today I probably wouldn't have the same diagnosis. Maybe this will help someone...this is what helped me a lot:
1) Learning boundaries (I did about 3 months of therapy to learn how to set boundaries, which I never had. That was a huge help)
2) Mindfulness meditation (Powerful tool. Learning to detach from thoughts for a few moments per day is incredibly beneficial. I used the book "30 Days to Reduce Anxiety" by Harper Daniels to learn some strategies that I liked. Sitting in silence for even 10 minutes a day and learning to observe thoughts is a daily discipline.)
3) Cut out caffeine. (Coffee was way too much caffeine, which sent me into a cycle, overtaxing my nervous system)
4) Journaling daily (Even if for a few minutes, just to throw thoughts and emotions on paper, and throw the paper out).
5) Cold showers (This works for real. It's a challenge, but a good one that trains the body to react to an uncomfortable situation with ease over time, which helps general anxiety levels).
6) Getting into eastern philosophies (I benefited a lot from common spiritual principles shared amongst Taoism, Buddhism, and Hinduism...I'm not religious but I found the mindfulness and meditation principles of such philosophies to be very calming. The other world religions also have awesome principles.)
I don't know, thought I'd share, maybe it'll help someone else as well :)
Do you think perhaps the cold shower thing ALSO has something to do with the fact the body and brain is reacting to a REAL, KNOWN discomfort instead of something you can't put your finger on? I've seen that effect with taking very long walks outside. If I am anxious about something I can't control especially if it's a "less natural" type of threat... taking a walk where I need to be aware of the weather (AND human predators too)... helps me focus on what's REAL and things I can see and feel instead of things in my imagination I can't control at the moment. Even though I am focusing on very real "threats" with the walk, overall it actually helps calm me down. I've seen the same thing with taking a DRIVE too (driving is definitely a risky activity but I know that and am familiar with it and ready to deal with those threats).
@@sathvamp1 yes! Exactly. It's essentially the same idea, exposing the self and it's conditioning ("cold water is uncomfortable and bad") to the reality with mindfulness ("the cold water isn't killing me, actually it feels lively and I feel great after being in it"). Our brains are powerful, as are our conditioning, but we can change our conditioning slowly and steadily.
Tack!
Finally resisting myself to say thankyou to you in comment section becomes unbearable for me😊. Thank you Jordan, thank you so much!! I am experiencing how a dedicated person can change everything and everyone around him. You are changing lives man. How much effort it takes to be so articulate everytime you talk is beyond my imagination. You have proved me that its not always easier said than done sometimes its like it must be done multiple times by yourself before saying and after that saying it is the most valuable thing one person can do for another.
Thank you so very much, Jordan Peterson. This spoke to me in specific detail. Thank you. You are needed and appreciated on a big important scale.
This is where Dr. Peterson is at his best.
The main thing wrong in my life is my environment, I have anxiety because of my neighbours and their noise levels, and I cannot move out as yet 😭 praying for a miracle, I'm happy when they're not home.
You are the miracle!
Move out, I bet there is another option for you.
All the best.
Be courageous.
Just hearing him say it might not be psychological put my mind at ease. I can't imagine it'd be good for you to believe that there's something mentally wrong with you. Adds a lot of stress.
This really is one of the most helpful video clips that Jordan has ever done. He’s even multifaceted in what he talks about. Then he also keeps it down to 10 minutes. Great job!
This genuinely almost made me cry because of how good an advice this video. Is it literally tell me exactly what I need to do here? Thank you, Jorden Peterson, you're some. You really are changing the world.
I am diagnosed to have autism (very late diagnosis) but it isn’t obvious to people that I have autism. I have great difficulty with understanding many things. I have to battle through life trying to figure everything out on my own because I seldom understand other peoples explanations. I have the choice to press people to explain it again and again (which they find very annoying) or just take a best guess and give it a go (which is sometimes a train wreck) Sometimes people think I’m capable enough to help them but it often presents me with a real challenge while I’m still trying to figure out 3 or 4 challenges of my own! 😣
Yes! Help others! My kids come home from school with lists of suggestions for self-love/care (self obsession) and the lists never include 'service to others'.
Dear Jordan, I would like to say a big thank you! Keep up the good work!
This is exactly what I'm working on right now... I'm avoiding the idea of "solving the problema of anxiety" and approaching the idea of "the world is like it is, my present is temporal, my feet are now in the land of 'I'm moving towards a direction that aims to my objectives'"... and playing more guitar and piano :P
Your words are magical, there are so many ideas that others have already put into words, and it is so important to do that yourself too.
Thanks!
You’re a Genius! Great love and respect for your bravery in saying what’s true!!!!
Is a good solution to anxiety just facing your fears and taking action? I feel more anxiety when I think more than I act. Also positive self-talk has helped.
I personally do the "action" thing yes. I think of it as "making that scary thing go away" haha.
Thank you Dr Peterson. I love your Q and A videos.
I hope and pray things go well for you becuz you’re absolutely amazing in articulation and ability to teach and share truth with us that is so incredibly helpful and I have benefitted a great deal by listening to you! God bless you Jordan Peterson! The powers that be hate you becuz you are exactly what this world needs to hear and they can’t stand it! Thx for all you do!!
I just prayed a mighty prayer for you and for your protection! You are a force to be reckoned with alone but with God on your side, he will order all things for your good and HIS glory! God be with you Jordan!! I don’t have many hero’s, but you are one of the very few and it’s becuz you are truthful and Godly. Our world 🌎 sooo needs you!
As much as I believe in the goal of the mental health field, something about it has always rubbed me the wrong way. And I think it's the fact that focusing on self excessively exacerbates anxiety, at least it does for me.
The alleged goals of the mental health field. You have no idea how many psychiatrists, therapists, and counselors just do everything they can to get you on drugs that make you a zombie and them rich. The most harm I’ve ever experienced in my life was at the hands of a bad therapist. There are certainly good ones out there, but be careful in endorsing the field itself, because the field is set up for failure by the way it’s structured. That’s how you know the good ones are outliers and not the bad ones. The field is set up so the bad ones succeed
Agree. We focus way to much on ourselves.
How can be so amazing
He is just brightening up my life
It used to be dark and now it is brightening up
Thank you Jordan Peterson, u r just mind blowing
The food and diet connection is valid and real, I am a walking testament to this.
Could you explain?
Thank you so much! I have been following you for a while now and you are like a miracle. I am tired of therapists who don't help because they need to sugar coat it or wait for you to discover things by yourself or etc. I have been in therapy on and off for over 20 years and I am considered a ''complexe case'' (I am not complexe, just very traumatized). WIth your videos like this, you have managed to help in many ways. I needed the ''no bullshit'' approach. I am so sad that you don't take patients.
The first few things mentioned are true (till 01:35). As someone who feared everything, I don't anymore via confrontation. There is something which he didn't mention, confronting your fears in a safe environment will also help you. This works for me hand in hand with finding the purpose, why to do it in the first place. This is the future which leads you to why and who you are. The last fear is the fear of yourself, who are you if fear does not rule your life. Keep finding out!
Mr. Peterson, I just wanted to take the time and say thank you. Before I found you're content I was very lost in a sea of despair. You've guided me back onto the right path I feel. I still struggle with certain things, but nowhere near what it was. Thank you kind sir, wish I had a figure of you're stature in my youth. You've helped me tremendously.
Am afraid of losing you.. you're like a dad i never had.. SO TAKE CARE OF YOUR HEALTH FOR ME,DAD!! 😘😘
lol find a wife
Does my memory serve me correctly that kintsugi is the Japanese art of Golden Repair?
Yeah. I agree. He is the internet’s dad. He’s a good man.
@@gregorywitcher5618 yes, your memory is perfect. 😊
Thank you, JP. I recently started watching your videos. I am currently struggling with driving alone due to fear of anxiety and panic attacks. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Keep doing what you are doing ❤
So true, thanks for that. I was in poisonous relationship which i had to end because it drived me crazy. Then i tried to give enough time to myself and care for myself, because i didn't have space for myself at all in that relationship. But in fact, i was feeling terrible after breakup. Reason? I suddenly had no one to care for, it felt like i lost the purpose of my life. So this is why you should be with your friends, family, anybody.. after you lost someone. And also it's good to care about yourself but not too much.. If you have all things solved in yourself and you know it, it's better to care for others and live for others. It's the meaning of life for me. Basically now i understand, that if you care about yourself too much and you're anxious that's life telling you that you're doing something wrong. But these situations are great experiences to know and help others. So all in all my life gave me these lessons and Jordan confirmed it. I'm glad for that.
You are right 😊😊
i appreciate all you do, jordan. especially for future generations, as people write books inspired by your words to help others. its a rising tide floats all boats thing. keep going!
0:24: 📝 Dr. Peterson suggests that modifying one's temperament and reducing unresolved issues from the past can help in managing negative emotions.
3:38: 👥 Focusing on the well-being of others can help alleviate negative self-focused emotions.
7:37: 💡 Deep learning can be a solution for severe anxiety and associated depression.
Recap by Tammy AI
The 3rd reason for negative emotions JBP mentioned here is the possibility of undiagnosed autoimmune conditions. Then he mentions the emerging literature on carnivore/ ketogenic diet as a potential solution to such autoimmune conditions hence solution for excessive negative emotions. Not deep learning?
@@Sleeplessstarsit's a bot. Uncle Ted was right about everything. 😅
Once again, you've spoken directly to me! Thank you so much for all you do! You have helped me and my family tremendously! May God bless you and your family!
Thank you so much JP i dont know how to put into words how important you are to my life right now .
How well Jordan Peterson knows about people is amazing. He has always been a great help for me in very different difficult situations. THANK YOU ❤
Helpful video. Thank you. I like the idea of serving others’ to turn the rumoring off or at least decrease it. I’ve gotten better at not allowing myself to go down the rabbit hole of letting fear of the future take ahold of me. Fear of never finding my ‘person’ and growing old alone. Living more in the moment. I know in my case it’s circumstance and not psychological. I’ve dealt with grief of being 41 and not being a wife (yet) or a mom (yet). But having my faith has helped me through it 🙏🏻
Good luck! You're pretty I'm sure you'll be just fine ;)
I would also urge you to read the bhagavad gita, the bible
This is such a no nonsense look into negative emotion. I really appreciate the last part about inflammation and diet
something clicked in my brain just now! great information Jordan!
Thank you for the awesome guide, dr. Peterson! It were all things i knew about on subconscious level, but you structured them in words so precisely that it provided useful guidelines instead of vague anxiety those topics caused. Keep doing whatever you are doing, because it is of tremendous value for everyone facing anxiety - in short every living human. God bless you!
I love this video. Thank you Dr. Peterson. I think autoimmune and emotional stress have driven the other issues personally.
For the autoimmune portion: Keto and intermittent fasting can help with everything from estrogen dominance, to herpes, to allergies, to infections, to diabetes, to digestion, and joint inflammation. And I’m only scratching the surface.
Whenever keto (or ANY type of diet) is mentioned I always feel the need to ALSO bring up (and, from what I've read, prioritize) the factor of harmful synthetic chemicals. Many harmful synthetic chemicals can CAUSE autoimmune and many other diseases.... but the ONLY food label that does NOT allow synthetic chemicals is "organic." Far too many people either think the label "organic" doesn't mean anything, OR they think it means something it does not. But.. "organic" legally DOES mean NO synthetic chemicals (or GMOs) allowed in the food. But that is ALL it means (it doesn't mean "plant-based" or even "whole food"), BUT the legal exclusion of synthetic chemicals (i.e. not allowing them) is still a VERY big thing when you look at studies showing synthetic chemicals can harm DNA, immune cells etc. (thus cause cancer, AUTOIMMUNE diseases, etc etc).
So, to keto I say "SURE... as long as / especially if its ALSO organic." Same with intermittent fasting. To me, there is not much sense in manipulating types or proportions of foods that STILL CONTAIN harmful, synthetic chemicals. Both plants and animals (IF not organic) are allowed to contain such chemicals. But if either is labeled "organic", they are not allowed to.
I am well aware that many people have benefitted from JUST the "keto" factor etc... but some have not. And I bet EVEN MORE people will be on the "benefitted" side of the data if they ALSO address the "organic" factor.
I absolutely love listening to you. I hope one day I can see you in person speak and maybe shake your hand. You're a beautiful soul and please keep up all the work you do for us. 🙏
Thank you Dr Peterson, you're brilliant. Thank you.
I got the diagnosis that I have Morbus Bechterew when I was 14 and around that time I was struggling with depression. Fast forward I'm 37 now and this is the first time I heard that there is a correlation between an autoimmune disease and depression. Thank you so much. It doesn't make my depression go away but it helps me to understand it a bit better.
Long time anxiety sufferer. Get your diet under control, especially your gut health. Find out what allergies you have. Cut down alcohol and caffeine. Exercise daily. Re-learn how to sleep deeply. Earthing, morning sun, cold showers, breathing. F the meds if you can try this instead.
Perfect start point right there! Yes.
I wouldn't know how to start with gut health. Could you make some recommendation? Thanks in advance.
@lauramantua7398 try foods like broths, yogurt, rice, grains, etc. Big thing is to just avoid agitating foods.. like alcohol, caffeine, spicy foods, fried foods, processed foods, and avoid eating too much or too fast.
@@Barkeroni Thanks!
Thanks on this unfortunately depression has creeped up no drinking or alcohol for six weeks. Tough last few weeks but seeing some light.
Thanks for acknowledging this fact, communicating this to others is a struggle.
Mindful of the children’s book,
There’s a Nightmare in My Closet.
Child and Nightmare make friends after they both discover they’re each afraid.
In a shifted sense, the nightmare is a tangled mess of negative energy that is self perpetuating, and perhaps “it” is not so happy about that, and would rather be well assembled.
Then we all would feel better!
I have been listening to Dr. Jordan B. Peterson for 7+ years! ✝️🕊🙏❤️💯 Jordan has been added to my prayer list for 7+ years! ✝️🕊🙏❤️💯 I have been granted the massive opportunity, honour, privilege and blessing to have had the opportunity to be a subscriber on all Jordan’s UA-cam channels and platforms. I have witnessed Dr. Jordan’s outstanding and remarkable growth and therefore as a result, transcendence. I have listened to ALL LECTURES, TEACHINGS, SEMINARS, AND SERIES on GENESIS AND EXODUS AND COUNTLESS INTERVIEWS AND PODCASTS. I have cried countless tears of joy for Jordan’s transformation and transcendence! ✝️🕊🙏 I am so grateful for everything. God bless you and your family. ✝️🕊
Amen.
This is good info, thanks
QUESTION: What can I do as the wife of a seriously negative person? We started on the carnivore diet in August. I’ve seen slight improvement. Still, his 'bad' thought and the expression of them have me worried I should be doing more than positive reinforcement. Mostly, he answers anything I say or suggest with a negative response. I am discouraged. It can be overwhelming. I thank God I have my faith, and prayer.
Love you Dr Peterson. You are a kind, sincere, wise and precious treasure and have helped me enormously. Thank you and God bless you from Wiltshire, England 🏴 🇬🇧
Thank you💯...
Thank you for this invaluable information Dr. Peterson!
After last year I read '12 rules of life', this year I finished reading 'Beyond order: another 12 rules'.
Thank you for the teachings learned by reading your work!
This is all very useful, actual problemsolving strategies! All my therapist does is talk about my past, it's ok to be sad and never really offer any constructive advice on how to move forward
This was a question I had wanted to ask Dr. Peterson himself if I ever had the opportunity, as he has talked about his high neurotisicm before and is something I am struggling with. Very thankful for this video
I am truly appreciative of Dr Jordan for this very incredible message.I really needed to hear this.And for sure I will never be the same again.I promise!
Depression is an action of the body to De-presses so much pressure that our mind has been having for a long time through suffering, injustice, for being ignored for so many people, for being bullied, for trying to make everyone else happy, for laugh so everyone can see that you are not sad and so much more pain in your life, So the body and mind cannot resist any more and become the Depression. Some people can defeat depression and others cannot. God bless everyone with this condition and find real love ❤️ with some pets, they love ❤️ are unconditionally.
Thank you for this video, Dr. Peterson. Thank you for being generous with your knowledge and time.
in my lifetime (61) I've come to understand that there's no such thing as fear of failure since we fail at everything from the time that we're born. there is fear of success though since success entails our entry into uncharted territory....... although after a few forays there we do tend to find it all less stressful.....
Yes! THIS is what I tell people who want to know, @ 52 yrs. of age, WHY I haven't "made something of myself" yet.
I'm artistic and I have won awards here and there in the past for my work. This is what I tell them, my fear of success. Then they look at me like I'm crazy. Oh well, at least someone else gets it.🤷🏻♀️
Part of the "unknown" for me is how will success change me and those around me? -- for better or worse? I'd like to think I can trust myself and others; that it would be for the better, but I don't think I do.😕
@@TheBereangirl trust me when I say this, you cannot trust yourself (in that you could control the changes you enter into) when it comes to succeeding in any endeavor in life. your ego won't allow you to regardless of your past ability to control yourself along your journey. now AFTER you've dealt with yourself (given a level of reflective time) you can readjust yourself within an approximation of your former self. however, you'll always remain 1 step forward further from your past.....
I’m 58 so have had to make many many trips to Tesco or wherever, it never gets easier. Every single time it is a true battle with myself to actually leave the house. Before that there’s the battle of - well I know I need milk, but what else do I need while I’m there? I don’t want to go and come back then realise I didn’t get this or that thing. So in my experience it doesn’t get easier even after decades of doing it. Same with my work. I’m a self taught seamstress and have run my own small clothing alterations business since 2011 but I still find it really really difficult! I appear not to learn very effectively. I have a very late diagnosis of Autism
I don’t know how many years of depression it took me to realize that when “” I could “”forget myself..( the suffering seemed to subside)) what a relief!!! At University I took a summer art class and lost myself( in a good way) …I became an art major therefore condemning myself in a different way….whatever I did I think I can say( now that I’m over 70) I’m certainly not as depressed as I was. But I do feel sadness for all the lost possibilities,but I continue to paint hoping searching for that elusive,intangible…
Thank you for this!
This man is a gem to humanity. The concept of telling people to help others as part of a treatment for neurotic and featful anxious behaviour is something i only heard from Krishna in Hinduism. I never heard any psychologist talking about that as treatment. Jordan you are the real deal , a true healer to mankind ❤❤❤
What I have discovered is that the way to get rid of negative emotions is to feel and experience them completely. That means to allow the feelings of fear, anger, grief and shame to flow without blame, judgement or harming others or self. It's about recognizing that these emotions are within us, they entered us through our childhood experiences of which a lot were not loving, and taking personal responsibility to release them. Once we do, we will feel much happier, confident and our health will improve.
I was going to post something like this. I like Dr. Peterson, but his overly psychotherapeutic approach on this topic likely perpetuates these emotions in his viewers who will continue to ruminate endlessly about the past and future. He dumps on mindfulness, but it's really the best framework to feel the negative emotions in their totality to finally "release" them, or transmute them as we say in the practice.
@@chriscroteau931 I also like Jordan and there are many good things that he does for people but I think that the truth about emotions is not well known on the planet or in the medical community. Most people believe that these emotions are a part of their personality and nature, when in fact they are not, those are only emotional injuries that can be released and cleared so that we never have to experience them again. There is a general terror in people about feeling emotions so that is why we spend most of our time avoiding, denying and suppressing our emotions by all kinds addictions and techniques which only make things worse. I feel we need to become like a child again in the way they experience emotions, before they got suppressed, manipulated, threatened or violently abused out of the emotion. It is a difficult thing to do, but it is very much healing. Grief is the healing emotion and when we cry it out, peace and joy comes.
For fear and anxiety, that method doesn't work for me very well. I have been awake at night for hours before just letting the scary potential outcomes run around in my head, and more freely "letting" them do that doesn't seem to decrease the time spent doing that any more. The only thing that usually stops it is when I either CAN finally take action (like calling customer service WHEN they open in the morning) and/or getting too physically exhausted to stay awake any more, etc. But it really seems like I have no control over fear.
I CAN relate to letting myself experience sadness and grief as helpful though. And sometimes I'll have discovered that I was unknowingly using anger to "cover those up." I didn't realize before (until ONE particular incident) that letting oneself cry can actually release feel-good brain endorphins. Once I discovered firsthand that was a totally literal and legitimate phenomenon, I even became an enthusiast of tearjerker movies (!) The incident that actually showed me firsthand that phenomenon was when I saw the movie "Inside Out" for the first time, and during one particular scene / line, tried my hardest NOT to cry (I was with my roommates)... then later discovered I was craving more tearjerkers (as if something REALLY WANTED to be "let out", no surprise there lol). I don't cry easily at all (so yes that movie was a huge surprise), and until then, didn't like it at all during the rare times when I did. But after "Inside Out", I was "on the search" lol.
@@sathvamp1 It works for fear and anxiety, but we have to allow the emotions to rise in their full capacity, to shake or tremble, feel the waves of fear wash over us. Most of us try to control and sedate the feeling of fear and that struggle creates tension and that creates pain. I feel we need to learn how to sit with fear and anxiety, be aware of the body as where it manifests and if we do it consistently and as long as it takes, the level of fear will subside. At the beginning far can rise for a bit, but it will go down. Fear is probably the most difficult emotion to feel but it is very relieving to experience and releasing it, so it with grief. Grief comes easier to most of us, and we often would like to jump over fear and go straight into the grief, but most of the time, fear covering over grief, just as you correctly point out, anger covers over fears. It is my experience that every layer has to be experienced, in order to get to the root cause, which is most often grief or shame.
@@kristijanpavlovic8605 You do make a convincing argument, so thanks- I am definitely going to keep that in mind :)
Thanks for mentioning the physical aspect of depression.
Also for anyone suffering from anxiety, try quitting caffeine. I wish I had done it a long time ago. There may be physiological factors contributing to your anxiety disorder.
Strongly agree with this,
I quit coffee last year November...
I don't feel less anxious to be honest.
However what I did notice is that my happiness level doesn't take as many deep nose-dives anymore... which seems probable because in the Hubermann podcast about dopamine he mentions that caffeine causes a peak in dopamine which then drops below baseline and a lower baseline is associated with depressive disorders.
Absolute legend. I've sent this to my miss, thanks man. Means alot. There is not alot of this kind of info, from a professional. Chris from the uk
I scored 91 on conscientious and 91 on neuroticism, on your big five test, Dr. Peterson. I took it a couple years ago during my SS disability claim. During that time I found out I was Autistic, and it was hidden by my parents, who beat me as a behavioral problem. Spare not the rod, drunkards. My anxiety has not improved in the last couple years.
Expose and accept. And eventually it will dessapear (anxiety). Imagine yourself having panick attacks everyday throughout this whole year or your entire life and think: it's okay, i accept it. That acceptation will do the work and you will be great! It's cognitive conductual therapy. In fact, if you don't go to a therapist, go now!
Where can I find this test?
@@fianchettando oh, I've been trying. The difficult thing is my entire family hates me. Everyone knew something was wrong, but nobody cared enough to find out early enough to make a difference. Now my whole life is ruined. God just sat on his hands. 52 year old worthless, homeless, autistic loser.
@@GK-qc5ry understand myself. C o m
@@GK-qc5ry its available online and for free, just search for Big 5 personality test(ing)
Thank you Professor Peterson...not one therapist or psych has ever been as candid and helpful as you.......I am so angry at the community of fakes who ruined my life with drugs.......when I
needed encouragement as I have a high IQ and the abuse destroyed my opportunities......I was made to believe I was lower than average....
The rapid increase in stress, anxiety and depression is no mistake, especially with the given bad health advice from government officials, endocrine disrupting chemicals being put everywhere including water, and the deliberate suppression of healthy lifestyle habits. This makes me wonder, to what degree is the scientifically quantifiable trait known as neuroticism a consequence of the above mentioned and not a state that occurs naturally at least to the extent that it does in our current time?
I’m going to try all of this stuff. Thanks Jordan