This is actually a Phillips Brooks quote, famously used by JFK while saying grace before a presidential breakfast: _"Do not pray for easy lives. Pray to be stronger men."_ The rest of the original quote reads, _"Do not pray for tasks equal to your powers. Pray for powers equal to your tasks. Then, the doing of your tasks shall be no miracle, but you shall be the miracle."_
When I was 16 I taught a young boy to swim. None of the adults wanted to teach him as he cried every time. He was afraid of the water on his face. I got in the water with him. I said, 'You get in the bath, right? You wash your face, right?' We got our faces wet. Next, we blew bubbles, putting our mouths in the water, making fart noises. After 3 weeks with me (2 lessons per week) I'd managed to get him to swim his first width. I still remember the look of pride and applause from his parents as they watched. That was 30 years ago. I'm now a primary teacher and I still try to encourage my students and discover the words which will help them understand.
No... U realize you are brave... When the situation calls for being afraid. So the only time you realize u r brave is when others are afraid of the same situation you are in
I recently had a panic attack driving across a bridge. I knew this was not good, becuase my mother is now an elderly woman who’s life is crippled from anxiety and it started when she was my age now. Also driving across a bridge. There was no way, I was going to let that happen to me. So the very next day I forced myself to drive across the bridge. It was tough for me, but I did it. For the next few weeks I jusy kept driving back and foruth across bridges until I was bored with the idea. Oxposure is key to beating anxiety. Avoidance only fuels anxiety.
He claims abortion is morally evil and something someone does after they've made a serious of immoral decisions, he claims 'traditional' marriage is superior to gay and lesbian and single parent marriages. He wont use one set of universal gender neutral pronouns of his choosing and hides behind he doesn't like being forced by government when clearly that legislation is designed exactly for people like him. He advocates church attendance which is classic virtue signalling. He claims hierarchies are natural and useful and that by their very nature result in people at the bottom and at the top while ignoring the game rigging that clearly takes place through the private school system, religious affiliation. He's a rightwing simpleton who profits from excluding others, the only good thing he's said is extreme wealth inequality destabilizes society, well that the consequence of playing the game of exclusion you get excluded as you're not anywhere near the top of the power game.
No one would say abortion is good or desirable. I think it’s a necessary right but each one is a tragedy - no one ENJOYS an abortion. It’s not a positive psychological or moral experience. Necessary? Yes. Moral? I don’t think so. Hierarchy is useful for organising humans into productive systems...and yes some people fail within hierarchical structures because they don’t have the tools to get along - moral? No. Necessary? Yes.
Justin Cramer. the best part was how heartily JP laughed. In a lot of his videos or interviews he's so serious, I feel like it's good and healthy for him to get a genuine laugh in
@@AoLIronmaiden I think he has a very ironic and dark sense of humor, judging by the stuff he genuinely laughs at. It makes sense, he is professionally intimate with some of the worst aspects of humanity.
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new person bro, what's with all the symbols? so clunky to read. are your actual thoughts this messy? you gotta relevant point but it was brutal to get to. it's like a child that keeps pausing to breathe. not trying to be a dick either legit curious. i see this a lot and don't get it lol
Had a tooth pulled with no medication before hand when I was a kid. Dentist was yelling at me. My dad, active duty at the time, came in and handled the situation. Had he not done that I imagine I would have developed a phobia. Crazy world out there.
I'd say prove to yourself that it's an illusion. And the illusion will probably come back again and again from different angles. You will continually have to turn from the target to the hunter. Switch from defense to offense. I love this guy's way of saying that. It's so true. It even controls many MMA fights, who wins in the equities market, business, real estate, etc. It really is just hunters and prey.
Tell that to people who almost crapped their hearts out when people threw spiders at them to cure arachnophobia and instead getting it worse. There's no universal solution to such problems.
manictiger Can you tell me how I have PTSD and Random Anxiety at places with people that don‘t even have the intention of hurting me so I have talked for 6 hours with people everyday for the last 3 days and I‘s the same
If you stand up for yourself, you might get enemies. Maybe even worse, everyone in your group who you associated with, might become your enemy.. But what is worst, to live as a slave under someones control, or fight for yourself, your dreams, your mental health?? You might get lots of enemies, but that is what makes you brave and courageous!
Hell yes. I went up against a Director in my job and it has essentially has got me blackballed. But guess what? They would have done it anyway! Might as well stand up for myself 'The enemy always wins, but you still fight it' GoT quote
women are like us, they are persons, im a little shy at the beggining but try to talk to them as a friend, don't be afraid, they are just persons that can be attracted to you, simple as that, the thing that happens to you is that probably the lack of experience with women would create you an irreal image about them. You can go out and ask a women for example, what time is it, man, don't overthink, just get into the action, im talking from my experience, don't waste more your life and live without fear, just start small if you are too afraid.
@@leanhanleleanah6929 I think that's very good advice. The trick is... to not use any tricks. Many guys are trying too hard and trying 'seduction techniques' or shit like that. Women can see right through them, and they look like weirdos. Just be cool, have a simple conversation like you would have with your friends. It's surprisingly effective sometimes.
Go to another town that is far away.. Where nobody knows you.. Then Tell yourself:"Today i'm going to be a fool and I don't care, because tomorrow i will laugh about it and no one will care." then start talking to random women.. Just say hello first.. After that start asking simple questions.. Like:"Where ist the next supermarket." (even if it's right next to you.. Will be funny 🤣). And if you keep practising like this, you will get confident someday.. And with confidence you will get so many women Bro.. Do it, because it's easy and it will make you happier! You live only once! 😁
I'm a dog behavior trainer and the correlation between the way you approach things and your body language is spot on. You have to be a good leader and help the dog overcome their fears by dealing with their problems directly, same for humans. 👍
Years ago, my little son who was in grade school at the time, came home crying and complaining that he was getting bullied by a bigger boy on the playground at school. I could've hugged him, and told him how much I loved him, and gave him sympathy. But, I didn't. Instead, I took the time to show him how to throw 5 basic punches. After that day, he never ever came home in tears again.
When I was growing up I was mentally and emotionally abused, so I thought I wasn’t allowed to talk back and have my own opinion. I thought I had to run away from my problems and give in to evil people. I’m still young, I’m only 22, and now I don’t back down from anybody. Usually, especially when it comes to bullies, if you get back into their face they back down because they aren’t expecting retaliation. They’re actually emotionally weak, and that’s why they’re going after you to make themselves feel better.
I am never disappointed when JP comes on to talk. Even if I have heard everything he has said already, I never get tired of it. Thank God for the bravery of Jordan Peterson.
"You don't get less afraid, you get braver" is a very true statement.... As a former LEO, there were many occasions where fear set in, but I just had to keep the mindset of making that fear fear me.
These guys have my upmost respect . Do yourself a favor and read their books! 12 rules of life, extreme ownership , leadership , strategy and tactics. Changed my life.
Incredible. Gonna put this on top of my bookmarks. Gonna help me hugely with my own grind. Specifically, "When you're on patrol, we're on offence, we are scanning, we are looking ... to get the mentality of we wanna do this and we are moving towards the target as opposed to we are being chased".
I got a filling without needles because while they're fine in my arm, I get extremely anxious when they're in my mouth. Another nugget of empowering wisdom: "You don't teach them to be less afraid. You teach them to be braver."
Fear usually stems from the fact that people try to predict things and what is gonna happen in the future. Simply, stop thinking about the possibilities of the future and you will stop being afraid.
Sounds good but it's not that simple. The kind of panic under discussion here is not just negative thinking. It is a deep rooted phobic state that often has it's roots in childhood or exposure to trauma. PTSD is similar. The only proven therapy is graded exposure which is what peterson is talking about.
Emotion precedes thought. This is why cognitive therapy cannot work in high anxiety conditions. When a dog runs out in front of your car, fight or flight kicks in before you can think. Thoughts cannot and never will be able to prevent fear responses. It is neurological and physiological fact.
It's easy to forget that he is a Professor of Psychology. aka He REALLY knows what he is talking about. I'm often in awe when he speaks because he speaks about some of my deepest thoughts
I can relate to the fear of needles. I've never overcame my fear of needles but me and my friends made a group agreement to donate plasma for half a year. I never told them but sometimes, having people around doing the same thing sort of like makes you braver. It similar to going to the gym and when you have a friend with you, you push harder because they are there.
I was once part of an apprenticeship that demanded survival of the fittest. They wanted to compete against many training programs in a market recovery move. The first few years were about what you would expect being the low guy on the ladder and handling all the lifting and grunt work even if you aren't an Olympian. After several years of training and into our final year we were given a hype speech and told these are the jobs few have the guts to do to and start acting like we had graduated and pushing back on anyone who would give us any shit on the job. It was time to dish back what was dished out because thin skin had no place on a job site. We were trained to face death every day. Not exactly what I was expecting when I signed up but all the training was supportive and encouraging up to that point. Yet the reaction of some others to your indestructible courage was anger. You would think it would earn you respect but that's not always the case. Some would be determined to break you. Those who were supposed to be leaders were more like competitors. I had my final injury while working that finally broke my body. My core collapsed and so did my legs and back. I went through years of feeling like I had a beating by the end of every day. Back breaking labor was just part of the risks. Maybe the most broken tools with the most difficult method isn't the challenge you should be accepting from the boss. Maybe you need to call out the bullshit when you get given broken tools with broken gear. We were also trained we need to go home alive at the end of the day. You don't want to end up as broken as the poor supplies you were provided by a cheap employer who sees you as a temporary number. Right there I'm getting worked up about it again but part of it was getting put down to test your nerve. Labor disputes are still a thing today and likely always will be. There is a proper tool for the job. There is a proper approach to quality work. This courage and knowledge can be threatening to others though the right team would appreciate your tenacity. Like-ability is also as important as being aggressive. If you can manage both that's another skill. I've heard many talks about leadership and attitude so I humbly appreciate what the experienced have to say about it. I use that as fuel to overcome what facing fears can do to you or your body , mind and integrity while your down and recovering. Surviving something is a different kind of suck. It can alter you but try not to lose yourself in it. You had the guts to get things done.
What a great piece of advice. Take your time and expose yourself to the things you are afraid of voluntarily and do not give up, with time you will get braver and that will strengthen you to face the challenges of life.
“Take the case of courage. No quality has ever so much addled the brains and tangled the definitions of merely rational sages. Courage is almost a contradiction in terms. It means a strong desire to live taking the form of a readiness to die. 'He that will lose his life, the same shall save it,' is not a piece of mysticism for saints and heroes. It is a piece of everyday advice for sailors or mountaineers. It might be printed in an Alpine guide or a drill book. This paradox is the whole principle of courage; even of quite earthly or brutal courage. A man cut off by the sea may save his life if we will risk it on the precipice. He can only get away from death by continually stepping within an inch of it. A soldier surrounded by enemies, if he is to cut his way out, needs to combine a strong desire for living with a strange carelessness about dying. He must not merely cling to life, for then he will be a coward, and will not escape. He must not merely wait for death, for then he will be a suicide, and will not escape. He must seek his life in a spirit of furious indifference to it; he must desire life like water and yet drink death like wine. No philosopher, I fancy, has ever expressed this romantic riddle with adequate lucidity, and I certainly have not done so. But Christianity has done more: it has marked the limits of it in the awful graves of the suicide and the hero, showing the distance between him who dies for the sake of living and him who dies for the sake of dying.” ~ GK Chesterton
Philosophy Porch Thanks for that! I am practically deaf. There’s so many videos I want to watch and understand but for some reason a lot of videos STILL do not have captions. So, I appreciate you taking the time to write what GK said in a nutshell, which is what I am sure, is the essence of the discussion that transpired on the video. God bless you!
Yep. Your greatest enemy is the person who tries to rob you of your responsibility. Such a person is effectively a vampire, draining the blood of your spirit and identity, making you weak.
I know mate, been there. Try watching Jordan peterson's other videos where he explains the overprotective mom ideology. It helped me understand the process and get out of my home and build myself up!
Shit man, I'm there right now. I'm 21 and she still wants me to not struggle under any circumstance. I love her to death but she can be overbearing. I made a vow to myself that if I didn't get out of the house by 23 that I'd join the military. No ifs, ands, or buts about it.
this offense idea is so key. i was watching a youtuber who taught people how to disarm knives, guns and fight. he blatantly said self defense is crap. u must be on offense in these situations.
The old saying of the best defence being a good offensive is true. At least, it's better than dying a terrified victim, so you may as well go down swinging.
It’s really not this black and white. Most situations where you got a gun to your head the moment you move they are shooting. Having this idea that you always have to make a move is a pretty great way to end up in a ditch.
Excellent discussion beyond the topics of military and war. Very useful in life in general. Love the dynamic between an academic scholarly gentleman and a beast warrior gentleman.
**BEAUTIFUL paragraph you pulled out of all written, very IMPORTANT in these times** 👌JP, a Gemini man GIFTED with a brain for erasing outdated traditions troubleshooting for generations to come and etched out for this moment in time 💚
Shipmate, you are a real gift to me, your listeners, and those who come in contact with you. You are wise, have a faith in mankind, and are a very clear speaker. Bravo Zulu, from a CV-66 black shoe. -DanO-
Peterson advice are just amazing. I have overcomed my fear of falling while skating (which is silly) but your bound to fall anyway so why should I be afraid. Amazing motivation
How do guys develop an ability to oppose each and every sentence? *Only reply if you have a logical answer. I'm not here for debate, I just want to know HOW??
Nenand, you're correct about Fedor or at least, correct about how he was in his prime. He has ability for mental detachment, meaning he doesn't feel nervous or apprehensive but rather, completely relaxed. That also means that his muscle and nervous structures are relaxed which is a big part of why he was so amazing at absorbing and serving huge amounts of damage against very tough opponents in the cage. My second favourite fighter of all time, just behind Mike Tyson.
@@thelobster7673 OK, if you want an actual answer, consider this. When you think logically to evaluate facts, you have to argue against the fact to check it's validity (does the fact stand up to scrutiny), when you are conversing with someone you are sharing perceptions to find what is actually true between you, if this wasn't the case i don't know that men would speak... ever... I don't think it can be put more logically than that.
Embrace your fears. Realize fear is part of you. Scared me the first time I jumped out of an airplane, but over time, repeated jumps taught me to embrace fear.
Jordan Peterson chats with two Gears of War characters.
THIS comment. LOL
I can't stop laughing.
Also Jordan Peterson would be a great Prescott. Don't you guys think?
Well done...
Task Force Bruiser in Fallujah was real life GoW
reminds of the quote: “Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one” from Bruce Lee
practical words
This is actually a Phillips Brooks quote, famously used by JFK while saying grace before a presidential breakfast:
_"Do not pray for easy lives. Pray to be stronger men."_
The rest of the original quote reads, _"Do not pray for tasks equal to your powers. Pray for powers equal to your tasks. Then, the doing of your tasks shall be no miracle, but you shall be the miracle."_
Yeah, I like it, that is a great saying or quote,
Do not ask for a lighter burden. Ask for broader shoulders.
Famous quote by the mayor of Suplex City, Mr.Brock Edward Lesnar
Eat
Sleep
Conquer/Suplex
Repeat
Warrior meets with Wizard.
Haha wow! That's brilliant!
Warrior meets Sage haha
I suppose this means that psych school is kinda like hogwarts then 🤔
Result: Mutual respect.
Now they only need 1 healer and 1 range dps
When I was 16 I taught a young boy to swim. None of the adults wanted to teach him as he cried every time. He was afraid of the water on his face.
I got in the water with him. I said, 'You get in the bath, right? You wash your face, right?' We got our faces wet.
Next, we blew bubbles, putting our mouths in the water, making fart noises.
After 3 weeks with me (2 lessons per week) I'd managed to get him to swim his first width.
I still remember the look of pride and applause from his parents as they watched.
That was 30 years ago.
I'm now a primary teacher and I still try to encourage my students and discover the words which will help them understand.
You are doing a precious thing for the lives of these boys, congratulations!
That young boy grew up to be Michael Phelps.
Count
My parents just chucked my ass in the pool.
Count proud of you!
You're a hero to those people
'Can a man be brave even if he's afraid'? 'The only time a man CAN be brave is when he's afraid'- Ned Stark. (A Game of Thrones).
No... U realize you are brave... When the situation calls for being afraid. So the only time you realize u r brave is when others are afraid of the same situation you are in
@@rubangeorge7 wtf was that? You made no sense. Is that English?
Dude... Read it again...
@@Mike-mb1yf... Once u understood... Be a man and stop using "WTF" on open forums.
@@rubangeorge7sorry I don't speak imbecile
I recently had a panic attack driving across a bridge. I knew this was not good, becuase my mother is now an elderly woman who’s life is crippled from anxiety and it started when she was my age now. Also driving across a bridge. There was no way, I was going to let that happen to me. So the very next day I forced myself to drive across the bridge. It was tough for me, but I did it. For the next few weeks I jusy kept driving back and foruth across bridges until I was bored with the idea. Oxposure is key to beating anxiety. Avoidance only fuels anxiety.
Great job pal
Not Zelda thanks bud
Well done, dude. And thank you for sharing!
I share your pain and admire your courage and insight. Well done Jason keep it up.
The problem is recognising your true fear without your ego getting in the way of realising your weakness.
1. Clean Your Lobster
2. Dominate the Dragon Hierarchy
3. Get in the elevator
Then get to the chopper
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I dont have a lobster?
You SON OF A BITCH!!! ^HiGH FIVE^
Greatest comment of all time LMAO
"To stand up straight with your shoulders back, is to accept the terrible responsibility of life with eyes wide open!" Powerful words!!
You don't get less afraid, you get braver. Love Jordan Peterson!!!
He's a coward, like all rightwingers.
he isn't even right wing hahaha
He claims abortion is morally evil and something someone does after they've made a serious of immoral decisions, he claims 'traditional' marriage is superior to gay and lesbian and single parent marriages. He wont use one set of universal gender neutral pronouns of his choosing and hides behind he doesn't like being forced by government when clearly that legislation is designed exactly for people like him. He advocates church attendance which is classic virtue signalling.
He claims hierarchies are natural and useful and that by their very nature result in people at the bottom and at the top while ignoring the game rigging that clearly takes place through the private school system, religious affiliation.
He's a rightwing simpleton who profits from excluding others, the only good thing he's said is extreme wealth inequality destabilizes society, well that the consequence of playing the game of exclusion you get excluded as you're not anywhere near the top of the power game.
lilithchick 👌
No one would say abortion is good or desirable. I think it’s a necessary right but each one is a tragedy - no one ENJOYS an abortion. It’s not a positive psychological or moral experience. Necessary? Yes. Moral? I don’t think so.
Hierarchy is useful for organising humans into productive systems...and yes some people fail within hierarchical structures because they don’t have the tools to get along - moral? No. Necessary? Yes.
Jordan:"We went to watch an embalming" Jocko:"Date night" - priceless
Justin Cramer. the best part was how heartily JP laughed. In a lot of his videos or interviews he's so serious, I feel like it's good and healthy for him to get a genuine laugh in
Finally someone clarified that word "embalming" . I couldn't understand that by myself. Thanks
+Paul Rogers go away
@@AoLIronmaiden I think he has a very ironic and dark sense of humor, judging by the stuff he genuinely laughs at. It makes sense, he is professionally intimate with some of the worst aspects of humanity.
@@flaviovms yeah when I first watched it I was on 2x speed and it sounded like he said "a bombing"
Was like what the fuck Peter?
"You aren't teaching people to be less afraid. You are teaching people to be braver." - Jordan Peterson.
Wow that was such an amazing quote.
FROG MAN + LOBSTER MAN = TRUTH
so what you're saying, is that frogs and lobsters are smarter than humans?
not gonna lie, that comment got me smiling.
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new person bro, what's with all the symbols? so clunky to read. are your actual thoughts this messy? you gotta relevant point but it was brutal to get to. it's like a child that keeps pausing to breathe. not trying to be a dick either legit curious. i see this a lot and don't get it lol
Cory Lahey - Whoosh
Courage is not the absence of fear, it is the conquest of it. There is no courage without fear.
Having six people hold you down as kid to give you a needle does sound like a traumatizing experience
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@@savagebitch1673 nej, Finland :P
Had a tooth pulled with no medication before hand when I was a kid. Dentist was yelling at me. My dad, active duty at the time, came in and handled the situation. Had he not done that I imagine I would have developed a phobia. Crazy world out there.
That's why I'm afraid of priests...
Expose yourself to the fear until you don't fear it anymore! Scary as hell but it works.
I'd say prove to yourself that it's an illusion. And the illusion will probably come back again and again from different angles. You will continually have to turn from the target to the hunter. Switch from defense to offense. I love this guy's way of saying that. It's so true. It even controls many MMA fights, who wins in the equities market, business, real estate, etc. It really is just hunters and prey.
Tell that to people who almost crapped their hearts out when people threw spiders at them to cure arachnophobia and instead getting it worse. There's no universal solution to such problems.
manictiger Can you tell me how I have PTSD and Random Anxiety at places with people that don‘t even have the intention of hurting me so I have talked for 6 hours with people everyday for the last 3 days and I‘s the same
Exactly
can I make an instagram profile? I am so fucking scared of judgement
If you stand up for yourself, you might get enemies. Maybe even worse, everyone in your group who you associated with, might become your enemy.. But what is worst, to live as a slave under someones control, or fight for yourself, your dreams, your mental health??
You might get lots of enemies, but that is what makes you brave and courageous!
Inconvenient Consequences Best advice ever!
If a social relationship is not based upon truth, it's not actually a relationship.
Friendship, rivalry, love, enmity... it applies to all of them.
Hell yes. I went up against a Director in my job and it has essentially has got me blackballed. But guess what? They would have done it anyway! Might as well stand up for myself 'The enemy always wins, but you still fight it' GoT quote
mediacenter man
Also:
Not ALL enemies are necessarily winners;
By opposing them, you MIGHT win.
Since I stopped being anxious, depressed and introverted, I don't have any friends from my previous social circle and only kept close relationships
The wisdom of Jordan Peterson can be used in almost every aspect of life.
Yes, it seems like everything will become better by adding an Jordan Peterson to it.
Not in real life
How to develop Bravery. Embrace the pain. Embrace the fear. This goes for everything that pains you. It will teach you about yourself.
"Don't get less afraid. Get more brave."
JBP appeals to men of all stripes.
He's an academic
Jocko is a military hardhead
And they agree and learn from one another. That's manhood.
Indeed, well put!
Mr Clifton sir I totally agree, special forces are very very bright men.
Jocko is a SEAL tactician... not a standard operator
Jocko is far more intelligent than "military hardhead" gives him credit for though
I'm an academic and I think Jordan Peterson is a hack who markets himself to the uninformed
Well I'm afraid of women.
So I started to look at pictures of women.
Stuck there for 13 years now.
@@adilbendouro1543 At whom? They are framed pretty solid.
And now motion pictures of women ?
women are like us, they are persons, im a little shy at the beggining but try to talk to them as a friend, don't be afraid, they are just persons that can be attracted to you, simple as that, the thing that happens to you is that probably the lack of experience with women would create you an irreal image about them. You can go out and ask a women for example, what time is it, man, don't overthink, just get into the action, im talking from my experience, don't waste more your life and live without fear, just start small if you are too afraid.
@@leanhanleleanah6929 I think that's very good advice. The trick is... to not use any tricks.
Many guys are trying too hard and trying 'seduction techniques' or shit like that.
Women can see right through them, and they look like weirdos.
Just be cool, have a simple conversation like you would have with your friends.
It's surprisingly effective sometimes.
Go to another town that is far away.. Where nobody knows you.. Then Tell yourself:"Today i'm going to be a fool and I don't care, because tomorrow i will laugh about it and no one will care." then start talking to random women.. Just say hello first.. After that start asking simple questions.. Like:"Where ist the next supermarket." (even if it's right next to you.. Will be funny 🤣). And if you keep practising like this, you will get confident someday.. And with confidence you will get so many women Bro.. Do it, because it's easy and it will make you happier! You live only once! 😁
The technique is called "Progressive exposure" by the way.
Is it much different from systematic desensitization?
This is one thing that the
progressives got right...
xD just kissing.
Edit: kidding* wtf, I ain't kissing anyone.
Viktor Frolov yes, or desensitization.
Brian! BRAIN! BRIAN!!!
@Taylor TheSailor And here's the random twat ladies and gentlemen. Congrats Taylor, you should be very proud.
I'm a dog behavior trainer and the correlation between the way you approach things and your body language is spot on. You have to be a good leader and help the dog overcome their fears by dealing with their problems directly, same for humans. 👍
Years ago, my little son who was in grade school at the time, came home crying and complaining that he was getting bullied by a bigger boy on the playground at school. I could've hugged him, and told him how much I loved him, and gave him sympathy. But, I didn't. Instead, I took the time to show him how to throw 5 basic punches. After that day, he never ever came home in tears again.
When I was growing up I was mentally and emotionally abused, so I thought I wasn’t allowed to talk back and have my own opinion. I thought I had to run away from my problems and give in to evil people. I’m still young, I’m only 22, and now I don’t back down from anybody. Usually, especially when it comes to bullies, if you get back into their face they back down because they aren’t expecting retaliation. They’re actually emotionally weak, and that’s why they’re going after you to make themselves feel better.
I am never disappointed when JP comes on to talk. Even if I have heard everything he has said already, I never get tired of it. Thank God for the bravery of Jordan Peterson.
"You don't get less afraid, you get braver" is a very true statement.... As a former LEO, there were many occasions where fear set in, but I just had to keep the mindset of making that fear fear me.
These guys have my upmost respect . Do yourself a favor and read their books! 12 rules of life, extreme ownership , leadership , strategy and tactics. Changed my life.
he needs to be on the show at least twice a month!
Navy seals in an intellectual round with a scholar. There is good in the world.
There are very few stupid SEALs; you need to be a pretty agile thinker to excel in that arena.
@@MikeRoberts1964 And they are generally honest.
Enduring the seal training without mental toughness is close to impossible
Jordan Peterson led me to your channel. Thank you for serving as a soldier. Thank you for continuing to teach.
Arnold Schwarzenegger on overcoming fear:
1. Crush Your Enemies.
2. Eat Green Berets for Breakfast.
3. Get to da Choppah.
4.Crom!
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Don’t forget the pump
Best comment ever.
The best thing is to hear the lamentations of your enemy
Being in combative sports and USMC really taught me to overcome my depression through aggression.
i learnt about aggression too and how beneficial it is when used correctly
7:16 makes me so happy. I've never seen him laugh so genuinely.
what is the joke? DIDNT get it
Abused as a child and overcame my fear of fear by just doing everything in life.
Jordan is SPOT on listen people out there suffering.
Peace.
André Lewis I was abused, too, and am confronting my fears, also.
André Lewis yes! I can relate to the abuse bit... totally wipes your trust and esteem especially at age 7.
I hate that you were abused. What do you mean, "by doing everything in life?"
🙏✊
I feel ya. I used it as metal plating for my mind.
Incredible. Gonna put this on top of my bookmarks. Gonna help me hugely with my own grind.
Specifically, "When you're on patrol, we're on offence, we are scanning, we are looking ... to get the mentality of we wanna do this and we are moving towards the target as opposed to we are being chased".
I got a filling without needles because while they're fine in my arm, I get extremely anxious when they're in my mouth.
Another nugget of empowering wisdom: "You don't teach them to be less afraid. You teach them to be braver."
Fear usually stems from the fact that people try to predict things and what is gonna happen in the future. Simply, stop thinking about the possibilities of the future and you will stop being afraid.
so simple bro
Sounds good but it's not that simple. The kind of panic under discussion here is not just negative thinking. It is a deep rooted phobic state that often has it's roots in childhood or exposure to trauma. PTSD is similar. The only proven therapy is graded exposure which is what peterson is talking about.
Emotion precedes thought. This is why cognitive therapy cannot work in high anxiety conditions. When a dog runs out in front of your car, fight or flight kicks in before you can think. Thoughts cannot and never will be able to prevent fear responses. It is neurological and physiological fact.
@@travisn346 Yes but the quality of your thoughts dictates your emotions... haven't you heard of auto-suggestion?
Thank you.
All you need in life are the 3 J’s:
Joe
Jordan
Jocko
4 J's, the last one being Jameson, or Jesus.
And D , David goggin
Agree. My go to mentors on my journey becoming the übermensch
Lambert Shanborlang david Joggins
And Jeff
Literally just finished marathoning Peterson's videos, I had no idea there was a Jocko cast with him friggin sweet
This man is pure gold. His words are those words what we young men needed/wanted to hear from a long time ago.
I feel alpha just listening to Jocko.
I really love it when Mr. Willink and Doctor Peterson do these podcasts. I hope theres more
Thank you very much! God bless you all! #StayStrong
After having watched some interviews where Jordan was all but sent out of the room, I am really happy to see him laugh out loud.
It's easy to forget that he is a Professor of Psychology. aka He REALLY knows what he is talking about. I'm often in awe when he speaks because he speaks about some of my deepest thoughts
Facts
Wonderful chat with two warriors. I appreciate these moments.
Love how pure, logical and sensible his perspective is.
Watching jordan laughing after a long time. It was dope.
Absolutely!
I can relate to the fear of needles. I've never overcame my fear of needles but me and my friends made a group agreement to donate plasma for half a year. I never told them but sometimes, having people around doing the same thing sort of like makes you braver. It similar to going to the gym and when you have a friend with you, you push harder because they are there.
I just found your UA-cam channel and I have been watching and listening to you all day. Life changing.
HELL YEAH! some of my two favorite men talking together, couldn't get better
I was once part of an apprenticeship that demanded survival of the fittest. They wanted to compete against many training programs in a market recovery move. The first few years were about what you would expect being the low guy on the ladder and handling all the lifting and grunt work even if you aren't an Olympian. After several years of training and into our final year we were given a hype speech and told these are the jobs few have the guts to do to and start acting like we had graduated and pushing back on anyone who would give us any shit on the job. It was time to dish back what was dished out because thin skin had no place on a job site. We were trained to face death every day. Not exactly what I was expecting when I signed up but all the training was supportive and encouraging up to that point. Yet the reaction of some others to your indestructible courage was anger. You would think it would earn you respect but that's not always the case. Some would be determined to break you. Those who were supposed to be leaders were more like competitors. I had my final injury while working that finally broke my body. My core collapsed and so did my legs and back. I went through years of feeling like I had a beating by the end of every day. Back breaking labor was just part of the risks. Maybe the most broken tools with the most difficult method isn't the challenge you should be accepting from the boss. Maybe you need to call out the bullshit when you get given broken tools with broken gear. We were also trained we need to go home alive at the end of the day. You don't want to end up as broken as the poor supplies you were provided by a cheap employer who sees you as a temporary number. Right there I'm getting worked up about it again but part of it was getting put down to test your nerve. Labor disputes are still a thing today and likely always will be. There is a proper tool for the job. There is a proper approach to quality work. This courage and knowledge can be threatening to others though the right team would appreciate your tenacity. Like-ability is also as important as being aggressive. If you can manage both that's another skill. I've heard many talks about leadership and attitude so I humbly appreciate what the experienced have to say about it. I use that as fuel to overcome what facing fears can do to you or your body , mind and integrity while your down and recovering. Surviving something is a different kind of suck. It can alter you but try not to lose yourself in it. You had the guts to get things done.
I feel better equipped for reality after reading this, thank you and thank you for sharing your knowledge. Be well & may Fortune favor you
This guy looks like a more masculine and older Matt Damon.
ok
However Jocko is *younger* than Matt Damon.
@bob hobby imagine calling someone a more masculine version of someone and then someone else calls you gay for it
Dbol Damon
bob hobby I jizzed
Two legends here, total respect for them both!
That title "Being Aggressive Overcomes Fear" is the best framing of the psychology of approach that I've heard yet. Great interview !
This video made a beast and now am conquering everything!
I love listening to this man he’s a psychological hero
Seeing Jordan laugh like that brightened my day.
you know in your bones when you hear something so true its beyond question.."You don't get less afraid, you get braver."
Heartiest laugh I've ever heard from jbp
Good to hear him laughing, since so much of his conversations with others are quite serious or grim.
Can't call illiteracy serious, laughable is the word I'd use.
Watch him on Theo Von's podcast, he laughed plenty on there
What was the joke
Yeah can someone explain the joke or atleast tell what the guy said?
JP: "you don't get less afraid. You get braver."
Jocko: "good"
Two great minds here!
Jordan is fantastic. Jocko is fantastic. The two together are amazing. Great combination of 2 Great minds and 2 social Lions
What a great piece of advice. Take your time and expose yourself to the things you are afraid of voluntarily and do not give up, with time you will get braver and that will strengthen you to face the challenges of life.
I don't know why I love watching Jordan Peterson laugh out loud like that. :)
3:45. You know somethings brutal when Jocko winces.
The level of respect these men give each other is hope inducing
Jocko and Jordan... my two favorites.
“Take the case of courage. No quality has ever so much addled the brains and tangled the definitions of merely rational sages. Courage is almost a contradiction in terms. It means a strong desire to live taking the form of a readiness to die. 'He that will lose his life, the same shall save it,' is not a piece of mysticism for saints and heroes. It is a piece of everyday advice for sailors or mountaineers. It might be printed in an Alpine guide or a drill book. This paradox is the whole principle of courage; even of quite earthly or brutal courage. A man cut off by the sea may save his life if we will risk it on the precipice.
He can only get away from death by continually stepping within an inch of it. A soldier surrounded by enemies, if he is to cut his way out, needs to combine a strong desire for living with a strange carelessness about dying. He must not merely cling to life, for then he will be a coward, and will not escape. He must not merely wait for death, for then he will be a suicide, and will not escape. He must seek his life in a spirit of furious indifference to it; he must desire life like water and yet drink death like wine. No philosopher, I fancy, has ever expressed this romantic riddle with adequate lucidity, and I certainly have not done so. But Christianity has done more: it has marked the limits of it in the awful graves of the suicide and the hero, showing the distance between him who dies for the sake of living and him who dies for the sake of dying.” ~ GK Chesterton
Philosophy Porch Thanks for that! I am practically deaf. There’s so many videos I want to watch and understand but for some reason a lot of videos STILL do not have captions. So, I appreciate you taking the time to write what GK said in a nutshell, which is what I am sure, is the essence of the discussion that transpired on the video. God bless you!
Batman never stopped being afraid of bats. He just got braver.
Exactly! Good example 👍
He’s also a ninja, so…
Yes he did. He embraced fear and made it a weapon. That was the whole point of his costume.
That's how Hell's Angels operate.
He learned to handicap people, we should take notes😎
jocko and jordan is a golden duo.
I finally gave this man a go about 5 weeks ago. Brilliant thinker. Special stuff x
Thank you for this. I have been racked with fear and had a hard time dealing with them. Thank you Jocko. Thank you Echo. Thank you Jordan Peterson
What the worst is, that an overprotective Mum, keep attacking you, for standing up yourself.. Anyone knows how that feels?
Yep. Your greatest enemy is the person who tries to rob you of your responsibility.
Such a person is effectively a vampire, draining the blood of your spirit and identity, making you weak.
I know mate, been there.
Try watching Jordan peterson's other videos where he explains the overprotective mom ideology. It helped me understand the process and get out of my home and build myself up!
Yes. Always telling me to ease up and never really stick out anything that's the slightest bit difficult. Yes, I have.
Shit man, I'm there right now. I'm 21 and she still wants me to not struggle under any circumstance. I love her to death but she can be overbearing. I made a vow to myself that if I didn't get out of the house by 23 that I'd join the military. No ifs, ands, or buts about it.
Marquise Williams Besides Mom, what's keeping you in the house?
This is so freaggin epic!!! As a business owner I absolutely love all of this!!!
"you dont get less afraid. you get braver"
this offense idea is so key. i was watching a youtuber who taught people how to disarm knives, guns and fight. he blatantly said self defense is crap. u must be on offense in these situations.
spikeboy101 SMDFTB
lmaooooo
The old saying of the best defence being a good offensive is true. At least, it's better than dying a terrified victim, so you may as well go down swinging.
It’s really not this black and white. Most situations where you got a gun to your head the moment you move they are shooting. Having this idea that you always have to make a move is a pretty great way to end up in a ditch.
JP conveniently uses a needle phobia comparison in front of Echo.
Echo chuckles, knowing full well he has needles every day for lunch.
Thank you for posting.
Excellent discussion beyond the topics of military and war. Very useful in life in general. Love the dynamic between an academic scholarly gentleman and a beast warrior gentleman.
“I taught him how to not be afraid of needles”
Now a heroine addict
😂😂
You did amazing. He achieved his goal.
well shit happens, at least now he has a great "overcame my fear" story to tell to his dealer
Lmao
LMAO
This is so true! This is how I get over my anxiety and introvert tendencies on a day to day basis.
**BEAUTIFUL paragraph you pulled out of all written, very IMPORTANT in these times** 👌JP, a Gemini man GIFTED with a brain for erasing outdated traditions troubleshooting for generations to come and etched out for this moment in time 💚
Thank you for this upload
Just found Jocko on Prager. Combining with JBP?? SUBBED
Finally, a man who speaks my language. Hooah
Every young man in the Country needs to hear this!!! - Two amazing role models
Discivering 2 of my favorite people together! Wow!!
Jordan “I had a client once” peterson
Jordan "Roughly Speaking" Peterson
Jordan "Lobster" Peterson
@@shawntco jordan “something like” peterson
Jordan "That's really something, eh" Peterson
😆😆
"Date Night" 😂😂😂
Shipmate, you are a real gift to me, your listeners, and those who come in contact with you. You are wise, have a faith in mankind, and are a very clear speaker. Bravo Zulu, from a CV-66 black shoe. -DanO-
Peterson advice are just amazing. I have overcomed my fear of falling while skating (which is silly) but your bound to fall anyway so why should I be afraid. Amazing motivation
Jocko and David Goggins should do a show together.
I think Goggins would be too intense even for Jocko.
“You have to look yourself in fucking mirror and tell that fat son of a bitch how useless he is”
“....check..”
Agree
Would they get along?
Goggins needs to take cocaine just to calm down a bit.
Being over agressive showes that you fear. Just look at Fedor.
How do guys develop an ability to oppose each and every sentence?
*Only reply if you have a logical answer. I'm not here for debate, I just want to know HOW??
I know; it's like "...boner boner penis boner..."
Nenad IC XC Shuput then be just agressive.
Nenand, you're correct about Fedor or at least, correct about how he was in his prime. He has ability for mental detachment, meaning he doesn't feel nervous or apprehensive but rather, completely relaxed. That also means that his muscle and nervous structures are relaxed which is a big part of why he was so amazing at absorbing and serving huge amounts of damage against very tough opponents in the cage. My second favourite fighter of all time, just behind Mike Tyson.
@@thelobster7673 OK, if you want an actual answer, consider this. When you think logically to evaluate facts, you have to argue against the fact to check it's validity (does the fact stand up to scrutiny), when you are conversing with someone you are sharing perceptions to find what is actually true between you, if this wasn't the case i don't know that men would speak... ever...
I don't think it can be put more logically than that.
Suscribed bro. First video reeled me in. 2nd video kept me in. Good work. Let's get it
This level of awesomeness has my computer smoking.
cant believe Jordan Peterson managed to make me look forward to standing in an elevator
Embrace your fears. Realize fear is part of you. Scared me the first time I jumped out of an airplane, but over time, repeated jumps taught me to embrace fear.
thank you subconscious, Jordan, and Jocko for bringing this to me. I will remember this
Just discovered this channel but I think it's going to benefit me a lot