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Well obviously Jordan is trying to sell product. F*** him He's now public domain. Every word he says is open for everyone to repeat even if it's just a minor comment. You know what he should do? Offer his services for free to random people and he can pick whoever you choose is. But he needs to offer for free. Of course she's not smart enough to actually console or provide information to me that I don't already know, but the weaklings that he needs to think about.
Try what@@55fixcom? Not working in free money? Honestly I don't have a choice. I know people will pay Jordan for an interview or two because his controversial. And he probably has books out, I'm sure he does, I just don't know what they are where they are.
His quote seems like a joke, but it is super accurate. I found this stat super interesting. Even though 100% of foster children can go to college for free because it is completely paid for by the state, they are the group least likely to attend or graduate. Solely due to their chance of birth by deadbeats, they are gimped from childhood. Totally stinks.
One of the worst things about growing up in a dysfunctional family is that you are literally trapped with a bunch of horrible people for at least18 years, and by the time you are finally able to leave them all behind you are so exhausted mentally that you end up spending your 20s/30s/40s reliving your childhood which in turn leaves you with zero energy to even make an attempt at leading a less complicated life
@charissecoal eventually you will just feel relief. Forgive them in your own quiet little way, don't let them live rent free in your head, and soon you'll have so much more space to do the things you've always wanted to do :)
I know what you mean. My childhood was basically horrible because of a monster dad. I'm still working on how to lessen the blow of how i was raised. I know i don't live that life because it was a long time ago, but its hard to just forget your past.
@@kylekyle7386 and you never will. But your past doesn't have to define you, either. Over time you will heal. There are nearly 8 billion people in this world, and I'd say at least half of them are great. Having a good support system to help you through the healing is everything.
I can relate a little bit. I'm 20 years old at this moment. In my case "reliving my childhood" was a good thing as I thought that it would take an important part in healing, preventing myself from harming myself or people around and taking the responsibility. Why? This behaviour was occuring before unconsciously, so you can imagine that it was taking place in a chaotic manner which wasn't really good, also an important thing to mention here is that, it was 18/19 years of not damn knowing myself, people around and my own feelings, I still have problem in recognizing, knowing what I feel and why I do, but I learn to do better. I'm kinda alienated emotionally and distrustful because of that, but that's fine and bearable if I make effort.
That’s exactly what happened to me. Got hit with wife getting cancer, teenage daughter running off with boys, colleagues at work being horrible, stopped sleeping properly and boom anxiety and panic through the roof. That was three years ago and I’m still in the process of recovery
This .. Is so fucking accurate.. In middle school i dealt with a sucidal girl that fucked me up sideways . in the mirror i chose to embrace death just force mysef to be ok with it Almost 6 years later ive fully realized what a horible thing that was to do and what even more tragic it would be to continue that way of being. I dont fully fear death still but for fucks sake i definetley dont embrace it. And im happier than ive ever been and willing to do all i need to do to continue and progress my life
I’m a son I have no child but Jordan Peterson has helped our relationship and me and my father to understand his issues and why he is the way he is very understandable. His videos are so wise it causes such deep introspection and completely makes sense with how articulate his wording is for me personally. I’m very glad he’s helped you and your son sir 👍🏻.
@@susanwjoh0re735 Clean environment is actually good to think better in.. But his point in that quote was an euphemism, you W m n take everything too literally and twist it 360 to your liking, totally missed his point..
Yes! I always said “my depression is environmental” and it was. Only being around my family caused the problems. I cut them off and I have never felt hopeless
I had a safe home, loving family, awesome siblings, amazing grandparents, and had a lot of anxiety attacks growing up. And depressions. Think seasonal affective disorder mostly. There was no reason I could see for me developing those problems.
I felt I was depressed before I met my husband. As soon as I did (someone who understood me, spoke my language) my "depression" lifted and I felt saner, more in control of myself and thought I could handle almost anything. It was truly remarkable.
I don't think that's good thing it means your happiness is directly tied to another person your fully dependent on him so what happens if he leaves you
I grew up with a dad who rarely showed love and was quick to lose his temper and give out. I ended growing up quiet shy and afraid to speak because of him. Conversation was never free flowing and I felt/still feel like i can't connect to him. He's very negative too, maybe he's narcisstics, I don't know. His dad is the same way. The environment you grow up in has a huge impact on how you turn out. I was shy, developed social anxiety in my teens and clinical depression. I don't think this was all chance. I had a poor support network at home, felt it hard to make friends, a dad who was negative and felt I could never open up to or be myself around.I started hypontheraphy to clear core beliefs such as im worthless and unlovable since my dad showed me not much love, or it was always conditional. I'll never make the same mistakes if I ever have children. I feel better away from my dad and so will move out on my own soon, once I save up some money to do so. Ps thank you for all the comments gus. They warm ny heart.
I wish you all the best too. Just by reading this, I can tell that you are a thoughtful and kind person. I’m sure you have several other wonderful qualities as well that will bless your and others’ lives as you move on from your father and, unlike him, stop the cycle of toxicity.
Hi Jack. I'm sorry to hear about what you've had to endure. It may not seem that way now, but you will come out of this and develop confidence in yourself to be a stronger person once you're free from all this. You already sound very caring and determined to take action for yourself. May I ask how old you are? I hope you manage to get away soon. Good on you for deciding to remove yourself from this awful environment as soon as possible. Wishing you all the best.
Yes, I've had psychology twice, and the key question that's calmed me both times is, "if a normal person had this happen to them, how do you think they'd feel?" If your answer is, "the same as I feel now", then that's the start of your healing.
And then you realize that if illnesses are normal responses to trauma, there is something that causes that trauma in the first place ... some power or force or will that keeps making people sick and traumatized ... Evil ... People usually don’t want to hear the harsh Truth that Evil exists and is beyond people Good exists. Evil too.
@@Leo-pu5qt This is a channel about science, not ridiculous, uninformed, unscientific, superstitious claims about good and evil. This is the 21st century now.
@@HumansAreShitFactories Peterson also talks about Good, Evil, and religion. What appears ridiculous or uninformed to your mind is not necessarily so. Let me know when science has cured most diseases, seems to me more and more people are sick and more and more treatments do not cure.
@@Leo-pu5qt Indeed he does, but only in a metaphorical way. Science is a method, and has cured more diseases and solved more problems than religion ever has. Science is a solution, religion is a problem and creates m problems, as does your stupid superstitious mindset, an evolutionary relic. I see you erroneously make the argument from qualification. Wrong. Educated your mind then return.
Don't believe him, he's lying. The "complex" is CONFLICT between state dogma and plain reality; and the reason for most mental illness, is cognitive dissonance over living in a "democracy"where the people don't consent to their government, thus creating a covert oligarchy that dictates narrowly-limited TOKEN choices, in the form of state-ultimatums on how the people can and can't change their government. As Johann Wolfgang von Goethe said, "there are none more enslaved, than those who falsely think they're free." But since Peterson is employed licensed and accredited by the state, he won't address that. Psychology is the SCIENCE of validating the state oligarchy by Gaslighting the individual. He is just a political puppet, who engages in Political Abuse of Psychiatry to validate its power, while maintaining the delusion of liberty and democracy under government-dictated ultimatums called "elections."
Ken Burns HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA Translation: ‘Down with the system, man! So we can like, setup...another system!’ While you might think I have nothing to say to you, because I laughed at you, you would be wrong! Thanks for the melodrama though!
@@matthewkane5652Having some type of strong spiritual influence does balance ones life. Almost all suffering a mental illness have a low appreciation of themselves or life in general.
That's why they say, "he has lost his mind". Not that his mind suddenly jumped out of his body and disappear into ether. His mind got so complex he simply lost control over it. I completely agree with Jordan Peterson.
I imagine that could be the case for some autistic ppl that can't filter the reality as they see it so the brain is overloaded with info. I guess that could make you nuts just in itself.
aniekan etim: and thus you fail to comprehend the reality. The "complex" is CONFLICT between state dogma and plain reality; and the reason for most mental illness, is cognitive dissonance over living in a "democracy"where the people don't consent to their government, thus creating a covert oligarchy that dictates narrowly-limited TOKEN choices, in the form of state-ultimatums on how the people can and can't change their government. As Johann Wolfgang von Goethe said, "there are none more enslaved, than those who falsely think they're free." But since Peterson is employed licensed and accredited by the state, he won't address that. Psychology is the SCIENCE of validating the state oligarchy by Gaslighting the individual. He is just a political puppet, who engages in Political Abuse of Psychiatry to validate its power, while maintaining the delusion of liberty and democracy under government-dictated ultimatums called "elections."
"The political system collapses, you lose your job, and you have someone that you love or two people die..." Damn - that's definitely the situation for a lot of people right now
if such a series of shit happen to some people, unless they are sick or physically hurt, They dont want to die. They wish to die, when they are finally happy again.
Definition of prophetic: accurately describing or predicting what will happen in the future. This happens all the time bro? Theres nothing metaphysical about it, if thats your problem? Smart people very often predict occurrences not a crazy concept lol
Good news is that there are very effective psychological treatments for sleep problems. Fixing sleep problems can often be a good way of preventing depression, mania, or psychosis.
He was being treated like crap from his university administrators and bullied . He is so intelligent that they probably were insanely jealous people. Too bad because he does so much for people to make their lives better..... He is really a great speaker.
Simplicity is best for me. My life became very complicated after years of living simply and I immediately went into a depression that lasted years where I just longed for a quiet and simple life again.
also ... it's as if no one is encouraged to live simply either. like no one is going to show you appreciation and support if you want to live simpler. It's just something you have to do for yourself .. or also to be by yourself.. no one typically supports you in that endeavour.. not that anyone should ..but it's something that requires some effort "out of " the conditioning .. like it's fine if my life is simpler.. etc
i like your observation. It feels like i have to drop some strain in order to get my life together and no one is supporting me with that. You only hear things like „okay, i dont understand but do whatever“ or sometimes „dont be such a p*ssy“ if i want to leave out a party. Its my own responsibility to simplify my life i guess
Agree. And this so called modern and technological life is full of ever expanding complexity. It's no wonder the human species seems utterly psychotic at this point.
I have been diagnosed with social anxiety and depression. I think Jordan is spot on. I don't feel mentally ill. I am not deranged or histrionic bi polar. I just want things to be as simple as can be after 65 years of turmoil. I DON'T WANT to talk to people who pressure me to be what I am not. People let me down or pile emotional shit on me. I prefer my dog.
Same with me but I'm 25...for me it was not the gradual buildup for yrs as it happens with many..but for me the reason was I had the happiest life in a normal middle class family and suddenly at 16 shit started happening..I had never faced any problem and has always excelled in studies..so I started losing control on everything I loved doing and most important one was my career and mom..it continued for yrs (relationship with mom became normal in few months) and when the problem ended it took time to hold myself up again...but for now I have done great progress...I have regained many things.. It's never gonna be the same but it'll be good....Life is worth trying...My mom always says that not everyone gets a chance to live (my dad died pretty young) so if u had gotten a life then live and that line kept me going for yrs bcz she herself has seen loads of shit (including death of dad,husband and 1st child at really young age) her whole life and even at 53 she always keeps making effort...she hasn't achieved anything big but still she has achieved a lot..I never undermine my issues but when I start feeling like it's getting tough I remember her journey and think she doesn't deserve to lose another family member..and that has worked for me
As an emotion coach, this is also what I found to be true. Most people don't have a "disorder" that needs medication, but a complex life that feels out of control. Their life may be disordered (or the people around them) but that doesn't mean they have a disorder. It does take a bit of work to muddle through the mess, but that's what I love doing with them!
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As an older man I can attest to the fact that a complicated life is often fraught with stress; and often it's not the unforeseen hardships we face but embracing cultural cancers which make life less enjoyable. Living beyond our means is a huge stress factor; often crippling debt is linked to that behavior. I think many people go through a stage of accumulating stuff they don't need at the cost of running up debt and working excessively to maintain a "lifestyle". But it doesn't matter how nice a house you have if you're never there to enjoy it. In recent years I've started steering my life toward a simpler way of living, and it's made all the difference.
That's quite consistent with my observations. I'm 59 years old now and have seen many people do the same thing, working harder to accumulating a lot of stuff that will be sold cheap or given away when they downsize or die, and to what end? Similarly, I've seen many people rushing their kids around to endless planned activities, and similarly to what end? Hey, I live in the same complex world as everyone else, but that doesn't mean I have to get caught up in it all.
@@Abitibidoug Exactly! I just wish someone had clued me in decades ago to the fact that many "cultural norms" can be, and should be, recognized as unhealthy and even destructive.
I find joy in the simple things in life but could never just live a simple life. I'm just waaaaay too ambitious for that and can take on a shit load of work, and nothing makes me happier. The reason, why I'm kind of depressed these days, is that I haven't achieved valuable goals recently and are stuck in Limbo as a highly educated 35-year-old man who simply can't start at the bottom anymore and not at the top either. I mean, to get feedback from interviewers saying that I'm overqualified is never fun to hear, yet it is the truth and I can't do anything about it. Also, the thing that bothers me the most, is that at this point in life I should have my OWN profitable business. Yet, based on my history, I don't have the experience in the right kind of fields to establish that business and it sucks because I basically have to start all over again if I truly want that. Also, be careful what you wish for because you just might get it. I lived the simpler life once with great work/training/friend/family balance but I can never get that back.
I was about to comment on my own share of misfortunes. But then I perused the comments and realize how really sad the world is for some people, how difficulties encountered in childhood can haunt us all the way into our adult lives, how terribly difficult it is to overcome, heal and comfort ourselves because everyone is busy trying to mask their pain or insecurities or too occupied with being an evil person. I pray you all get better, especially mentally and spiritually, to finally be free and make space for the wonderful opportunities of present moment.
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As someone who has suffered from depression for a very long time i can honestly say that it's nothing i have personally done myself. It comes from outside influence such as death of friends and family at too young an age.
Agree. Too much loss, grief, and trauma can ruin one's life. We can have a constructive outlook but external forces, and our response to those, will shape our quality of life.
@@mjparham6430 the “brain chemical deficit” theory is actually misleading and a simplification of what professionals believe. It’s more of a politicized slogan. The chemicals are not the cause, but an observable process which is a byproduct of whatever the cause was.
I am blown away by this. For the longest time I wanted to see a psychologist. And the irony is I ended up seeing one of Jordan speeches where he talked about owning and admiting and ultimately facing your fear. I faced mine and all my worry literally evaporated. I also learned that when you have peace around one particular thing you are worried about, you'll be sure fire to find something else to worry about :) For me it was money and retirement. Once I sorted that, I started to have the problem of "well, I need more for retirement" :) Since, I've learned to relax and know when I've won.
Here is the problem with the label Mental Illness, way to many things come under those words, my son was 15 when i noticed he was developing fears of every thing, then he started talking out loud to people who were not there, he didn't do drugs, or alcohol, those where the first things that was tested when i finally got doctors to listen and admit him to hospital, it turned out to be Schizophrenia, and it has been a wild ride ever since, he is now 32, he had two older brothers with no such illness, they all grew up the same in the same house. The brain is very complex, i have been by his side to all his hospital stays and appointments with doctors, so it drives me nuts when people say go for a walk, oh you just need to be happy, or this and that i am sick of it all. No one talks about cancer like that and says oh i told you not to eat red meat, no they except it is an illness with a million reasons why it could have happened. I gave up caring why it happened, now i just support him every way i can.
I know how you must feel. Most people (mentally "sane" ones) are convinced that a mental illness can easily be overcome with motivation and willingness to get better. It's ridiculous. And SO annoying. Really hard not to reply to each one of them..
Keyes M. Man I am so proud to see your actions. I just got dumped by my wife of 35 years because I'm carrying around anxiety for caring for my elderly parents 2 years back. Truly devastating. I wish she could have comforted me.
"I'm depressed" "Well I cheered you up. Surely you can be happy now?" The number of times I have heard that type of statements bout others still annoys me. I can't imagine what you've been through but I can sympathise.
If we find ourselves with a desire that nothing in this world can satisfy, the most probable explanation is that we were made for another world. -C.S Lewis
@@deirdremorris9234 Or made for another time. ^I Just Wasn't Made For These Times^ The Beach Boys Just listened to that and wondered how much psychology is often concentrated in lyrics.
@2:30 Mental illness is almost always a "complexity-related phenomena" - too many stressors - too many challenges to overcome - death of a friend - housing - nutrition - abusive relatives - intrusive boss - transportation ....
I figured out when I was just a child that if I lowered my expectations of life to the fact that I simply have a pulse then nothing could ever disappoint me...30 some odd years later I was right...as long as I'm alive there's always opportunity for me...even in the smallest capacity...
Up to now l still practice not expecting from people and I'm never disappointed as less expectation l became very strong emotionally somebody does something I'm grateful and then u show the gratitude and people are always so surprised when they actually realize that u dont want anything they not prepared to give l have beautiful around me hysband and kids daughter in laws and the rest around so I give with no expectation and l receive so much happiness and trust but I'm also not a fool and a walkover just fine the balance those who understand will stay and some leave figured this out at a very young age
Really interesting. I’ve suffered from depression since my first wife was diagnosed with brain cancer and died four months later. So much happened in such a short space of time,I literally could not cope.
Ironically something very similar happened to Peterson himself about two years after this video was made (his wife got cancer around 2018-9 and he got addicted to benzodiazepines in an attempt to control his anxiety).
I resonate. Honestly. 😓😓😓 The Universe is cruel & 'blind'. Some of us were ordained for WAAAAAAY too much suffering, but... there is no escape. It's just the way it is. Others get to be happy, fulfilled, and have a BALANCED amount of success & suffering. But not *certain* folks. 😓
Professor Jordan Peterson has such complete understanding, empathy, sympathy, and kindness. I'm very impressed. That was a perfect way of putting everything. He truly has something special about him. I appreciate his teaching so much.
@JOY24O7 No he's not "talking nonsense". Sure there are some people with physical damage or chemical/hormonal imbalance, but I agree with him that the majority of what we call mental illness is due to exactly what he explained here. It's the dis-ease of these modern times.
The Chemical Imbalance construct was contrived by Gregory Bateson, husband to Margaret Mead - as a marketing tool. Jeffrey A. Schaler took this on with: "Show me the Chemical Balance Tests!" @CUTTER101
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Don't be jealous. There are many great professors at many universities. Unlike Peterson, most of them contain their egos and do not behave as if they are anointed experts on topics far outside their realm of expertise.
@@zacharywoodruff5321 As far as I've seen he only ever delves very deeply into topics outside of his expertise when other people drag him into it. And even then he's pretty open about stating his theory and then acknowledging that he doesn't have all the information
About 40 years ago I met a young woman on the verge of a nervous breakdown. Her sister asked me to speak to her. We met in a quiet room and I asked her how she was feeling, what was wrong. And then I just listened. She was distraught and jumped from one issue of distress to another. After about 15 minutes I handed her a pen and piece of paper. I said, let's make a list of these terrible problems. She grew quiet and began to write. Soon there was a small list of 6 items. Then I had her number them in order of severity. Next, I had her rewrite this list, leaving space between the issues, prioritized from top to bottom. Now we discussed each one from a perspective of how consequential each was, and pragmatically what could and should be done. After a bit, it turned out that half her list was actually fearful speculation, which she acknowledged. For the real problems she wrote below them her alternatives. By the end of this session she was cured. Melissa has long since passed away but I still have her letter of heartfelt gratitude among my treasured possessions, and I'll never forget the power which decluttering her complications had on her.
That sounds like a great way to approach how you feel, the feelings are a symptom of circumstances that you feel certain ways about. Your method of approach makes that clear and obvious.
I often say just because I can’t adapt to a psychotic society doesn’t mean I’m the one with the problem! Too much crap and you have to take time to dig out and recoup from digging and pray you don’t dig the wrong way! Much love to all!
I totally hate my environment here on Earth. 30+ years and no matter where I go or what I do... the suffering just NEVER, EVER, EVER ENDS. It's ludicrous. Like, seriously, when am I going to have some PEACE? Never. Probably not even when I'm dead. SOMEone will F#@k that up for me. And if there is 'afterdeath', I'm beginning to think it may end up 'more of the same'. No, thank you. ✨
No one star well you have one thing right, you are a star. You are a spark of the creator source energy. You are a beautiful soul that has chosen a challenging soul journey. I can relate... I too have experienced 30+ years of the craziest darkest stupid stuff ever. Guess what it’s all a play and we chose this for soul growth, eternity is forever this is how we learn and hence the main creator learns. The secret is you are a creator and by having hate you in turn pull in more hate energy. As crazy as it seems if you flip how you feel inside by focusing on anything good and what you’re grateful for and imagining all the good coming to you with appreciation you can change what you see outside. It’s a choice you can change how you view things or continue on the same path....don’t listen to others... listen to you and do what makes you happy ...be the love and happiness you want to see and it WILL come back to you. Much love and hugs!
@@gingerl2995 this world just makes me want to destroy everything and everyone. If the universe wants me to suffer, then everything will be forced to suffer
@Rick Eckler Pious people gave me sanity. They spoke with clear, honest solutions. They are the next best people to scientists. Emotions is the reason we cry. So get rid of that shit
Or a criminal. The world can force you to do things you ordinarily wouldn't do. Like be attacked, you fight back and you get arrested too for fighting. Then in city jail a predator decides you're easy. If you're not you bust him up or kill him. Now you're in the Pen for 15 to life. Because while walking down the sidewalk some one came up to you and started swinging.
I think we found the root causes to a lot of it in the 20th century and society attempted to directly combat them with laws, then the people revolted and tore down the systemic safeguards because there is nothing more addictive than being a victim.
“Perhaps it’s that some things are wrong FOR you, rather than that there is something wrong WITH you.” One of the first things my psychotherapist ever said to me.
If you're trying to be a fish out of water, life is intolerable - find water and the correct water; moving, stagnant, salt or fresh - many options - move.
keep in mind that the modern world is totally alien to what humanity has historically experienced. put a caveman in today's world and he would likely go insane.
I was depressed because I was overwhelmed I was overwhelmed because I was confused, I was confused because I had situations partly beyond my control that persisted, and toxic people partly influencing my perspective Time and distance changed my reality, revealing toxic and hindsight worked it out, and with the understanding the mental “illness” problems vanished
Amazing , he summed up mental illness in 2 minutes and it makes complete sense. I find myself and others with mental illness do better with routine and not adding in complexity, changes.
Exactly. I feel like I've never had that much control over my life. Bad things just keep happening, no matter what I do. Almost as if God or something evil has been testing me my whole life and seeing when & where I break. @srvntlilly
And for every simple problem there is an answer that is obscure, complex and wrong. The reason for most mental illness, is cognitive dissonance over living in a "democracy" but the people don't consent to their government, making it a covert oligarchy that dictates narrowly-limited TOKEN choices, in the form of state-ultimatums on how the people can and can't change their government.
Oh no, what happened to him? I am just learning about him and his views. Wow, praying for him. The mind is a source of strength but is also fragile at the same time.
What catastrophes is he facing? I know it’s really none of my business but I’ve learned so much from listening to DR. Peterson and I wasn’t aware that something happened to him.
@@nikkistahr7105 if I recall correctly; his wife was diagnosed with a terminal illness and during all of it he became depressed and then addicted to the anti depressants and he's been battling that addiction for months
@@AikiYoda Oh my goodness, i am so sorry to hear that wow. I lost my mom to cancer, i was 23 and the way it affected our family in such a way..it broke us all down. I am praying for this man and his entire family unit. I pray over his addiction, i pray for his clarity, his safety, guidance, and overall health. May God and time heal his heart and restore his peace. thanks for the reply/ information. Blessings to you XoXo Nikki
Clive Mechanic to clarify, he developed a dependency to anti anxiety drugs not antidepressants (benzodiazepines). They have some of the worst withdrawals of any drug class, can last months, can even kill you. A heroin addict will feel like they’re dying if they cold turkey quit but they won’t. A heavy benzo user can have seizures and die.
@Guy Fredlund Yes this is true Woody Allen said it most recently(considering Woody is still with us)and a lot of people don't realize it was originally George Burns that Said it. good catch.🤗
All the more reason to put our trust and faith in Jesus, who tells us to lay our burdens down to Him, as there is NOTHING too big for Him to handle in our lives.
I can totally relate to this, sometimes when a sequence of disaster events happen one after another in quick time, you feel like someone is chasing you towards depression and eventual death
In those situations I feel like someone is trying to kill me or something and I feel a sense of hopelessness and all sorts of issues, it's not easy going through it
GPL and everything before the 1900s was much less complicated. Life has and will always become more complicated but the problem is we don’t always build the healthy coping mechanisms at the same rate.
Many people make life complicated by lying. A different lie for different person or group of people. If they were only truthful that complexity would be immediately reduced.
No. Lying simplifies things. Truth is almost never beneficial. Truth gives people power over you. And when you do that you are screwed in every way imaginable.
Wow. I never thought about things this way, but he has a very good point. Peoples' brains nowadays can become completely overloaded, especially with all the CRAP going on in the world. Personally, when I get to that point, I completely shut down, because I can't even see where/how to begin to dig myself out of my out of control situation, i.e., job I despised, both parents became ill, had to fly home, parents got better, flew back, then one parent DIED, had to fly back home again, and deal with death and a funeral, plus the other traumatized parent; then flew back again, quit my job, determined I was going to MOVE home, so spent months packing and all of the stuff that goes with that; packed everything up, drove 1,000 miles home by myself. So I know it's going to take me a loooong time to decompress and come to grips with everything that's been going on over the past 6 months. Sometimes I think that just sitting and staring at a wall for a few days is preferable over having to deal with life. But I literally just take one....step....at....a....time. Suicide is NEVER the answer.
I can relate. But I'm not so sure being in control of one's ultimate fate is not an answer. Personally I reserve the right to be in control of my own life and I have no interest in extending that life if the suffering is too great or the quality of life is pointless. I've been on the edge for a long time now and I grow weary of it all.
So true, I thought I was depressed for 7 years. I went on medication, I took myself off cuz I felt like i was weak for taking medication. I developed dependency on weed and smoked all day every day. I’ve always had a goal but I had trouble connecting that goal into my complicated life. Remove complications and focus on your love for others, Find peace in existing. No one will always be happy but peace is always a choice
Peace be with you always🌿Beautiful honest post. I take the time to say Peace&Love as often as I can to others. I end phone calls that way. When approaching total strangers it's used as a greeting to assure acceptance. Try using this phrase to uplift others as well as yourself
But we attract certain people because of our own issues, too. So while yes that person has their own set of issues that creates a toxic environment, when we attract people like that we have to see where our weaknesses lie. Otherwise they wouldn't prey on us.
Most narcissists don't realize they are horrible people. Some even believe they are using their bullying and gaslighting techniques out of love. So, yes, living with a narcissist will definitely bring in problems, but 'evil' implies informed intent and they don't always have that.
Absolutely 100% correct. Moved up the corporate ladder, we bought a new house, we had a son, both of my parents died, I wrecked a car and I lost a high-paying job - ALL IN 2.5 YEARS OF SO. At one point I woke up in the middle of the night and involuntarily jerked upright drenched in sweat and with tears flowing. I had had problems/issues in life before just like everybody else, but those listed here - on top of life's daily struggles - put me over the top. Unfortunately, it wasn't temporary - I inherited this illness from my mother. It took a hospitalization, therapy on and off for a few months and Prozac for a couple of years. It has never gone away 100% though. My mother-in-law had/has a worse case. I just hope it does not get passed down to my son.
Teach your son , and make him believe in some religion because religious beliefs stops us from making bad moves , teach him to be honest and hardworking.. trust me he will be out of problems
If it's just the education, you already have many iterations of his two courses an essay writing guide and a list of great books to read. There is no accreditation at the end, but you can learn quite a lot with what is already out there.
Just be careful though as these are kot really lectures but more like lunch room chats. Proper lectures would cite source materials / studies, explain points points counterpoints and support you in researching your own analysis of the topics being discussed. This is JP outlining what he believes to be the case, rather than how he might present a truly 'academic' lecture.
I could remember several years ago I suffered from severe depression and mental disorder. I was addicted to illicit pills, alcohol, and smoking until I was recommended for psilocybin mushroom treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly I'm 8 years clean now. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against anxiety and depression.
To be honest, mushrooms are one of the most amazing things on the planet and it is natural, they serve in many ways not only for mental related issues.
Can you help me with a reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. It is very hard to get a reliable source here in New Zealand. Really need!
Yes, Sporeville. I had the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and addiction... Mushrooms definitely made a huge difference to why I'm clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He's 59 & has many mental health issues plus probably CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD knows if it is common for an obsession with violence.
best medicine; ignite curiosity in all your circumstances in life-- eg. I wonder what my life would be like if I had a place to turn, or if my childhood had been magical, or if I was the bully at school, and not the one being bullied, or if I knew how to deal with bullies...it's amazing how our minds can concoct a solution that is attainable, and even if not, it's a nice escape living in a fantasy world where one is in control, where bad things can't happen, and where we imagine how we can be strong. Books are a great help, music, videos, Toastmasters, poetry, looking at beauty, befriending a dog/cat/pet...I spent a lot of time at friends' homes where the parents were loving, to escape my unhappy home; I found comfort, temporary relief, and learned by example how these parents' behaviour was beneficial. There is always somewhere to turn. Sad is the person who claims they lack curiosity or imagination.
Purchased your book. Can't wait to read it. People come to us with the idea they have a mental illness because someone, somewhere, at some point, told them they must have one yet, they really are just having trouble with life. When did dealing with life have to be categorized as having a mental illness? Brilliant!
It's not just "having trouble with life." It's when one's inability to cope with loss, grief, adversity or meaninglessness begins to serious affect one's ability to function in daily life, and certainly if it becomes a threat to one's life or the lives of others. I helped treat many very wealthy people--multimillionaires-- who had everything a person could possibly desire, but who lacked even the most basic connection with other people which gives meaning to life. One super-wealthy rancher told me, "I spent Christmas Eve all by myself in my five-million-dollar ranch house snorting cocaine off my coffee table. I had alienated everyone--my wife, my children, my family, my business associates. It was so crushingly sad. The worst thing was that I knew I had done this to myself. I knew that I had to repair my life somehow, or I might as well kill myself, and I had a pistol laying there, right next to my bag of cocaine." For six years I also helped treat mentally ill teenagers from the inner city. One kid was arrested while living in a dumpster. When we got him he had lice, scabies and a horrible skin fungus and had not eaten in two days. We had to throw his clothes away. The staff took up a collection to buy him new shoes. When we found his mother, she refused to come get him, and moved the family out-of-state and left no forwarding address. This is the kind of crushing despair that leads to mental illness.
Basically what he said is that we are a circuit board and we all have a different location of where our capacitators are. And they will blow up if the voltage gets too high
“Not always, but almost always”. Well said. That’s a great insight and it’s very compassionate one. It’s not demeaning and insulting people as the medical profession often does, insinuating people are weak when really, it is that they have been assaulted in some way. The philosopher Alaine de Baton has a UA-cam video titled, “How the modern world makes us mentally ill.” It explains this phenomena also. Getting back to simple living, family, community and supporting not judging one another might help.
Abusive parents, siblings, bullying and racism at school, poor financial family condition and uncertainty about future caused my illness. I am not able to live not able to die i am just living for one beautiful dream that i have.
You have many creative and beautiful ideas inside you. 🌈 Stay attracted to them instead of letting life distract you away from them.🌟 College isn't necessary because you can learn everything online...says one of the richest men in the world! God bless you Sister! 💝
you aren't i'll. that's the point. calling yourself ill makes you the victim, and victims don't champion change. so you will forever be a victim of your 'illness'. take control of your life. learn the skills you need to supersede your 'genetic weak spot'
As he now knows himself, there's only so much shit you can pile on. I hope he can show himself as much empathy, compassion and understanding 💚 speedy recovery Mr. Petetson 🧡
He is very interesting. I find it intriguing that there seems to be this urge of many depressed people to compete really bad, like they want to absolutely dominate anything. But they're inability to achieve anything real makes them depressed. Because it is out of their control.
a lot of what he's been dealing with though was not his doing. Like the health issues. Plus, he seems to be able to handle much more complexity than the avg person.
Wow! That's the truth! I can remember in my early 20's telling my dr. that I felt like I was walking on a wire and just couldn't balance anymore. I also see it as juggling and somebody keeps adding more things to juggle. Sometimes it seemed like they were trying to add a chainsaw in to the juggling scene! That's when I gave in and drank and drugged. Then I realized I didn't want to go out like that so I got in rehab, and learned to "Keep it Simple!" It's not that simple anymore but it's sober!! : )) I've also learned to not sweat the small stuff. Most importantly, I talk to God. . . a lot! (ok, prayer.) He really is a miracle worker!!
That is one of the most useful 2.34 minutes ever. I just love this man. Thank you JP a thousand times. 1:11 . Hv known very capable people whom, like he said, got crushed by life disasters, several big punches within a short period of time. They tried and tried but couldn't bounce back, were crushed under the weight of it all. Fell into the anxiety/depression hole which of course makes things worse and hinders the ability to climb out. Never thought it was mental illness, is a reasonable reaction to devastation in a person's life. Completely overwhelmed, not knowing which way to turn, sinking ship. The ever present fear and loss of hope of being able to regain their former strong and familiar selves can debilitating. Update: human resilience is amazing. It is within you too. Happened to me and lived to tell. Took a couple of years, one foot in front of the other towards the light despite setbacks. Simplify life, push aside the sound of crushed hopes & dreams and surrounding chaos. You don't hv control over it anyway, eventually it subsides.
When i was young i had a teacher who also worked with children at a psychiatric Institution. We always made fun about it until he explained to us that every person hast this Point at which they just cant handle life anymore. And that these children had experienced such bad things that they came to this point. I think this is similar to this explanation in the Video. i will never forget these words...it has been almost 15 years ago. (Sorry for spelling mistakes, i am No native english speaker)
Whenever I feel bad.. I just listen to him, I feel like I'm not alone, people out there are suffering too.. & there are ways to cope because why there are still old people who dont take their lives which we know that life is hard sometimes.. stay strong.. dont worry alone..
Same. His books also helped me a lot. And with him, you know that he damn well knows what he is talking, since he suffers himself and also knows it from his family, too
I had all sorts of stuff happen over many years and I kept trying to deal with it on my own. I went to see a psychiatrist, I was beside myself and asked " Why won't this mental and physical pain go away?" She said " You let this go on for too long and an internal switch has been flicked and now every part of every cell has major depression and can not be undone" That sucked.
@@beztroska I recommend that you do some research on the history of the western medical model, doctor/patient relationships and the growth of the pharmaceuticals industry during the 20th century: there is a wealth of good quality information available. You will then be better informed and you will be able to differentiate between the very valid point that Sonja is making and the "excrementum bovis" to which you refer in your ignorance.
@@RC-ey4gm It is true. Everyone thinks about their own interests, to some degree. You mentioned "narcissists" as if it is a problem everyone deals with, that's your life, some people have much worse people in their lives.
@@RC-ey4gm Okay, but that's where the degree comes in. I'm sure we've all done something malignantly narcissistic at some point in our lives, not that it excuses people that seem stuck in one of the earlier stages of emotional development.
"People come to [psychologist] because their lives are so damn complicated they cannot stay on top of them in any way that doesn't make it look like they're just going to get more complicated."
@@skf2658 this may be true in some cases but, it’s a very simplistic view. Let’s be careful. True psychotic mental illnesses may be influenced by choices or the environment, but take a schizophrenic out of their “complex” world and put them in a simple one, they’re still schizophrenic. Maybe I’m not understanding?
@@maliciousmike8440 What you’re saying makes a lot of sense also. I’m just wondering if schizophrenics experience more chaos in their interior world than the average person which then turns into schizophrenia at its breaking point. I don’t know, it’s just a thought.
@@skf2658 I have an immediate family member who’s schizophrenic and, yes and, yes. Imagine if everyone else’s world was different than yours in ways that make no sense, and people are CONSTANTLY talking to you, some you see, some you don’t. You know some aren’t real, but can’t tell which. And in all the chaos you can’t even think.
That's true, last December I had a disgusting BPD mental crisis and the suffering was too much to bear, I couldnt sleep, was in constant paranoia and extreme mood swings every few hours, wanting to harm myself all the time and holding on as hard as i can to something so I won't do it.. I looked up on google psychologist in my area and the first one I found after 10 mins of reading his website, called him and as soon as he picked up I just said "I need help".
@@reglook1 I agree. Stress, to a certain degree, is good. Without stress we won't be motivated to do things, learn, improve and become better at things. It's too much bad stress that can ruin people and the fact different personalities have different size stress buckets that are more prone to overspill than others unless they have coping stretegies. Thing is, alot of people resort to 'coping' strategies like drugs and alcohol which actually feed the problem
The sky is not the limit. EVERYONE has a limit. Admitting this to your self is not a weakness, it actually will make you stronger. You will become more successful and calm, because you are not over reaching YOUR OWN LIMITS. What someone else does is what they can do, don't fall into the trap of comparing yourself to everyone else.
You're right. I couldn't ride a bike and I was like, "Who needs this anyways?" I admitted my limit and didn't ride my bike. The reality is that your limit is self-imposed and you'll stop where you tell yourself to stop - and you'll go where you tell yourself to go. Society as a whole will often agree with your limited view of limits, and agree that there are just limits we can't touch. Then you have someone that says they won't be limited, and then break those limits, as well as show society that it's no longer a limit. What happens afterward? Everyone else stops being limited by what they previously thought was their limit. Admit you have a limit and be limited by it, or tell yourself that's not your limit and push the limits.
David Allen, Jordan Peterson actually made a video similar to your point. Were people go for too dificult jobs that don't suit their iq and turnout miserable. ua-cam.com/video/pu__97bVyOc/v-deo.html
David Allen What you said relates a lot to what I’ve been thinking about and that being that it’s better to be inspired by someone rather than to idolize someone.
It's remarkable that people go to UA-camrs for this kind of information when you have such a learned and distinguished Professor with all of his material online.
Broken childhood, poor parenting and bad environment. When I was depressed I feel rage, loneliness, fear, anger is driving me crazy. I thought depression is about being lonely boy I was wrong
Use the anger to build yourself up. The old saying "use stones thrown at you to build your castle"..work it out in the gym get a hobby and put your passion there..when I was young I felt as you say, this is the best I know to deal with that time. This will pass. Hugs
My mother ran the family and always commanded us what to do, without question or ever asking what we feel about it. I ended up a happy person, but with a serious self esteem issue: never believed I can change things or understand how others depend on me, or that my feelings matter. I perceive life as "do what you are told to do, quickly and efficiently". Maybe it is not a bad life motto, however notice that there are no people in it, or no self drive. Sometimes I think, if only mother and father asked me how I feel and what my goals are, my self esteem would be x2 . But I am grateful to them, even after their mistakes. It's a pity rhat we spend from 20 to 40 years old, to resolve these issues.
My dear my mother was awful when I just given birth within a few weeks my mum was telling everybody she thought I was mental health she wasn’t saying it to my face she was saying it behind my back and we had three children and I left my husband because he made me work after giving birth to the first one the day after he didn’t see why he should be the only one that worked is what he told me and I cleaned up my own after birth on my third child so basically it had enough he snatched the kids and I had a breakdown so when you start spreading rumours about people‘s mental illness you have to be really careful because schools and gossip they can get acted on I am proof of that unfortunately but I now have a solicitor through meditating I’ve been told there’s nothing wrong with me at all so therefore lies those people that did me wrong can effectively be accused of creating a mental illness so have a look at purple hearts love and light meditation is the key
Well I was adopted and they were vile to me my husband was vile to me and making me clean up my own after birth make me go back to work the day after giving birth because didn’t see why he should be the one that had to be the only one that worked and then he took our children off me so I’ve had to meditate myself back to good health and it works and within a year of meditating I’ve got a solicitor and I’ve got evidence and I’m ready to roll I keep meditating I tell you now the universe will help you I’m sorry for all the bad stuff you’ve had to go through but I’ve been through bad as well and I can tell you now there is spirit out there that will guide you love and light from purple hearts medium
Awe boo hoo. You gonna cry about it or are you gonna pick yourself up and get on with life? We do not choose to have bad parents but that does not make us entitled to good ones
we’ve all been raised on television to believe that one day we’d all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars. but we won’t. and we’re slowly learning that fact.
It has certainly been a problem of at least the last 30 years that parents (adults in general) tell kids "you can be anything you want to be if you put your mind to it". Like anything? Even changing gender? Or being on equal pay to the CEO? This spoilt generation is so entitled they think all the world's woes are their parents fault, rather that accepting the challenge to help improve matters. Be anything you want? How about responsible? In fairness, there are plenty of good youngsters and the pandemic is a bitch.
i thought i was depressed. then i thought i was an alcoholic. then i thought everyone hated me. then i thought - nobody actually knows me. and now i am learning not to care what others think. i didn’t even know what gaslighting was 18 mos ago. and now i know why its so effective on people. and so insidious. the power we give people to hurt us is the same power we have to move on.
Interesting perspective. I agree about the complexity problem. So what I did as a master problem solver is reduced the complexities, designated the responsibilities to different people, and simplified my existence. It helped a lot.
I am an engineer and I agree. The more complex the code gets, the harder it is to debug when an error occurs. Actually it's easy to fix the error but if you want to trace the root cause of the error to prevent cascading or similar errors, it just takes a lot of time and effort. That's why most engineers keep code as simple and as modular as possible to make it more manageable. If only life was as structured and as easy to understand and manage.
I've always been a big fan of engineers and logical thinking. My degree was in statistics and I like to break up the problem and try to solve the parts. It's not always easy, as we're emotional animals, but I try my best to think logically. My stress trigger is illogical people and people who refuse to consider solutions. My mother likes the attention of constantly having problems, and it took me many years to figure out I was wasting my time listening to her and devising solutions for her when she just wanted the attention, not to actually solve the problem. She would just get angrier because I was solving the problem which meant she wasn't getting attention for it. My advice to young people is to not waste your precious youth on that nonsense. Spend time with productive people.
@@annaravenhand5536 Maybe they have an engineering degree and a professional engineering license? I am a consultant for industrial air pollution control, which is mostly being familiar with regulations and doing paperwork. Nothing with engines lol. But I do have two engineering degrees and a professional engineering license.
@@kencurtis2403 But having a job that's different from your degree isn't the same as having a job that's different from your job title. Why would licensing for programmers be the same as for people who work w/engines?
Somewhere on YT is a video of a soul who, when told to return to earth and do their job asked "What's my job?" _Be a channel for the light_ I was as baffled by that as she was; what does _that_ mean? Lame. But said 'Ok Universe, I'll be a channel for the light too" ~ and it turns out to be one of "those things" that u know it when u see it, but u can't explain it to anyone else. _Try before u die G.M._
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I don't care..If I don't care I will stay sane
Well obviously Jordan is trying to sell product. F*** him He's now public domain. Every word he says is open for everyone to repeat even if it's just a minor comment. You know what he should do? Offer his services for free to random people and he can pick whoever you choose is. But he needs to offer for free.
Of course she's not smart enough to actually console or provide information to me that I don't already know, but the weaklings that he needs to think about.
@@johnston.scott64 For all the good he has done,
don't you agree that he deserves an income ?
Do you work for free ?
Perhaps you should try it.
Try what@@55fixcom? Not working in free money?
Honestly I don't have a choice. I know people will pay Jordan for an interview or two because his controversial. And he probably has books out, I'm sure he does, I just don't know what they are where they are.
But that's not the point of my post..
"Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure you are not, in fact, just surrounded by assholes."
- William Gibson
Narcissistic parents or significant others can drive any empath to insanity quickly
😄😄😄
His quote seems like a joke, but it is super accurate. I found this stat super interesting. Even though 100% of foster children can go to college for free because it is completely paid for by the state, they are the group least likely to attend or graduate.
Solely due to their chance of birth by deadbeats, they are gimped from childhood. Totally stinks.
@@roberthiggins2252 Well, more so because the shame and guilt associated with their lack of forgiveness manifests in a multitude of hellish ways
define assholes.
Kindness goes a long way in the mind of someone who is overwhelmed.
it does 🥺
Wish my ex thought of kindness when my dad died then she decided to find our daughter a new daddy. It got complex lol.
Kindness works on many levels
Very true
Yes.
One of the worst things about growing up in a dysfunctional family is that you are literally trapped with a bunch of horrible people for at least18 years, and by the time you are finally able to leave them all behind you are so exhausted mentally that you end up spending your 20s/30s/40s reliving your childhood which in turn leaves you with zero energy to even make an attempt at leading a less complicated life
@charissecoal eventually you will just feel relief. Forgive them in your own quiet little way, don't let them live rent free in your head, and soon you'll have so much more space to do the things you've always wanted to do :)
I know what you mean. My childhood was basically horrible because of a monster dad. I'm still working on how to lessen the blow of how i was raised. I know i don't live that life because it was a long time ago, but its hard to just forget your past.
@@kylekyle7386 and you never will. But your past doesn't have to define you, either. Over time you will heal.
There are nearly 8 billion people in this world, and I'd say at least half of them are great. Having a good support system to help you through the healing is everything.
I can relate a little bit. I'm 20 years old at this moment. In my case "reliving my childhood" was a good thing as I thought that it would take an important part in healing, preventing myself from harming myself or people around and taking the responsibility. Why? This behaviour was occuring before unconsciously, so you can imagine that it was taking place in a chaotic manner which wasn't really good, also an important thing to mention here is that, it was 18/19 years of not damn knowing myself, people around and my own feelings, I still have problem in recognizing, knowing what I feel and why I do, but I learn to do better. I'm kinda alienated emotionally and distrustful because of that, but that's fine and bearable if I make effort.
@@xKateshi you're massively bright at 20. You'll be fine :)
That’s exactly what happened to me. Got hit with wife getting cancer, teenage daughter running off with boys, colleagues at work being horrible, stopped sleeping properly and boom anxiety and panic through the roof. That was three years ago and I’m still in the process of recovery
I hope you are doing better man. That’s a lot to deal with.
@@kalobadams7803 thanks brother. I’m trying to get through this one day at a time
Good. You got this. One day at a time. God bless you and yours
@@FLOATERSEL thanks 🙏🏻
@@jpage99999 absolutely. And pat yourself on the back for how far you’ve made it and what you’ve made it through.
“It is not death that a man should fear, but he should fear never beginning to live.”
― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations
the biggest mistake you could make was to think you're alive when actually you're asleep in life's waiting room - waking life.
"I've always been afraid to die but I think I'm more afraid to live"
― Smashing Pumpkins - The Aeroplane Flies High
This .. Is so fucking accurate.. In middle school i dealt with a sucidal girl that fucked me up sideways . in the mirror i chose to embrace death just force mysef to be ok with it Almost 6 years later ive fully realized what a horible thing that was to do and what even more tragic it would be to continue that way of being. I dont fully fear death still but for fucks sake i definetley dont embrace it. And im happier than ive ever been and willing to do all i need to do to continue and progress my life
Meditations should accompany any ethical man. It is my #1 go to out of hundreds, if not thousands of books.
I Stanley where did you get the phrase waking life?
I'm not disagreeing I would like to know.
This guy saved my life and helped my son move forward with our lives - he deserves the highest praise and recognition . Thank you sir
Jordan peterson sux
Regardless if Colonel Quickshifter was legit or not, this is the kind of garbage you post....me thinks you sux!
I’m a son I have no child but Jordan Peterson has helped our relationship and me and my father to understand his issues and why he is the way he is very understandable. His videos are so wise it causes such deep introspection and completely makes sense with how articulate his wording is for me personally.
I’m very glad he’s helped you and your son sir 👍🏻.
how. ?you finally cleaned your room ?what an accomplishment.
@@susanwjoh0re735 Clean environment is actually good to think better in..
But his point in that quote was an euphemism, you W m n take everything too literally and twist it 360 to your liking, totally missed his point..
Yes! I always said “my depression is environmental” and it was. Only being around my family caused the problems. I cut them off and I have never felt hopeless
I’m miserable with them, miserable without them.
I can live neither with you nor without you.
It's ur psychological reaction to ur environment above all
Me too. I was stuck with evil venomous miserable monsters who tried to destroy my child's soul.
I had a safe home, loving family, awesome siblings, amazing grandparents, and had a lot of anxiety attacks growing up. And depressions. Think seasonal affective disorder mostly.
There was no reason I could see for me developing those problems.
I felt I was depressed before I met my husband. As soon as I did (someone who understood me, spoke my language) my "depression" lifted and I felt saner, more in control of myself and thought I could handle almost anything. It was truly remarkable.
I don't think that's good thing it means your happiness is directly tied to another person your fully dependent on him so what happens if he leaves you
I’m actually very independent but it is just a fact that when you resonate with someone it’s a beautiful thing!
@@lindacezanne1576thats beautiful to hear and very relatable
@@cleazy______5624we are deeply social beings. Of course our happiness depends on others around us
You are accepted and loved. What a relief.
I grew up with a dad who rarely showed love and was quick to lose his temper and give out. I ended growing up quiet shy and afraid to speak because of him. Conversation was never free flowing and I felt/still feel like i can't connect to him. He's very negative too, maybe he's narcisstics, I don't know. His dad is the same way. The environment you grow up in has a huge impact on how you turn out. I was shy, developed social anxiety in my teens and clinical depression. I don't think this was all chance. I had a poor support network at home, felt it hard to make friends, a dad who was negative and felt I could never open up to or be myself around.I started hypontheraphy to clear core beliefs such as im worthless and unlovable since my dad showed me not much love, or it was always conditional. I'll never make the same mistakes if I ever have children. I feel better away from my dad and so will move out on my own soon, once I save up some money to do so.
Ps thank you for all the comments gus. They warm ny heart.
I wish you the best man. Glad to see you are taking the initiative to not pass that down.
I wish you all the best too. Just by reading this, I can tell that you are a thoughtful and kind person. I’m sure you have several other wonderful qualities as well that will bless your and others’ lives as you move on from your father and, unlike him, stop the cycle of toxicity.
I feel for you. It's so unfair that some people seem to suffer and there is no let up. The more you try, the more you drown
Hi Jack. I'm sorry to hear about what you've had to endure. It may not seem that way now, but you will come out of this and develop confidence in yourself to be a stronger person once you're free from all this. You already sound very caring and determined to take action for yourself. May I ask how old you are? I hope you manage to get away soon. Good on you for deciding to remove yourself from this awful environment as soon as possible. Wishing you all the best.
Jack you hit the nail on the head with this one. We are products of our environments, however we can overcome them. God Bless you son!
I couldn't agree more. Most "mental illnesses" are completely normal responses to unaddressed trauma. Thanks for everything, JP 🌺
Yes, I've had psychology twice, and the key question that's calmed me both times is, "if a normal person had this happen to them, how do you think they'd feel?"
If your answer is, "the same as I feel now", then that's the start of your healing.
And then you realize that if illnesses are normal responses to trauma, there is something that causes that trauma in the first place ... some power or force or will that keeps making people sick and traumatized ... Evil ...
People usually don’t want to hear the harsh Truth that Evil exists and is beyond people
Good exists. Evil too.
@@Leo-pu5qt This is a channel about science, not ridiculous, uninformed, unscientific, superstitious claims about good and evil. This is the 21st century now.
@@HumansAreShitFactories Peterson also talks about Good, Evil, and religion. What appears ridiculous or uninformed to your mind is not necessarily so. Let me know when science has cured most diseases, seems to me more and more people are sick and more and more treatments do not cure.
@@Leo-pu5qt Indeed he does, but only in a metaphorical way. Science is a method, and has cured more diseases and solved more problems than religion ever has. Science is a solution, religion is a problem and creates m problems, as does your stupid superstitious mindset, an evolutionary relic. I see you erroneously make the argument from qualification. Wrong. Educated your mind then return.
As a person that has had many "complex" things happen to him in a few years I can totally relate to this explanation.
Don't believe him, he's lying. The "complex" is CONFLICT between state dogma and plain reality; and the reason for most mental illness, is cognitive dissonance over living in a "democracy"where the people don't consent to their government, thus creating a covert oligarchy that dictates narrowly-limited TOKEN choices, in the form of state-ultimatums on how the people can and can't change their government.
As Johann Wolfgang von Goethe said, "there are none more enslaved, than those who falsely think they're free."
But since Peterson is employed licensed and accredited by the state, he won't address that. Psychology is the SCIENCE of validating the state oligarchy by Gaslighting the individual. He is just a political puppet, who engages in Political Abuse of Psychiatry to validate its power, while maintaining the delusion of liberty and democracy under government-dictated ultimatums called "elections."
Ken Burns HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Translation: ‘Down with the system, man! So we can like, setup...another system!’
While you might think I have nothing to say to you, because I laughed at you, you would be wrong! Thanks for the melodrama though!
Ken Burns because this is what you think about if you’re diagnosed with cancer? Hypothetically?
Ken Burns did you see his video he did on Trudeau? 🇨🇦 I do not believe he's a political puppet.
@@kenburns4547 that explanation comes from a mental illness in itself.
So true, I feel those with the least complex lives who live the simple life with a warm supporting family live the best longest lives.
Actually having faith in Christ helps you live the longest . Mental balance and nutrition does , and don’t do jobs that h affect you well being
Truth.
Faith is believing in fairy tales. Stop pushing your delusion on others.
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You're delusional and a cult 😂
@@matthewkane5652Having some type of strong spiritual influence does balance ones life. Almost all suffering a mental illness have a low appreciation of themselves or life in general.
That's why they say, "he has lost his mind". Not that his mind suddenly jumped out of his body and disappear into ether. His mind got so complex he simply lost control over it. I completely agree with Jordan Peterson.
that is a very interesting way to look at it
Not his mind, his life such that his mind could not cope.
I imagine that could be the case for some autistic ppl that can't filter the reality as they see it so the brain is overloaded with info. I guess that could make you nuts just in itself.
aniekan etim: and thus you fail to comprehend the reality. The "complex" is CONFLICT between state dogma and plain reality; and the reason for most mental illness, is cognitive dissonance over living in a "democracy"where the people don't consent to their government, thus creating a covert oligarchy that dictates narrowly-limited TOKEN choices, in the form of state-ultimatums on how the people can and can't change their government.
As Johann Wolfgang von Goethe said, "there are none more enslaved, than those who falsely think they're free."
But since Peterson is employed licensed and accredited by the state, he won't address that. Psychology is the SCIENCE of validating the state oligarchy by Gaslighting the individual. He is just a political puppet, who engages in Political Abuse of Psychiatry to validate its power, while maintaining the delusion of liberty and democracy under government-dictated ultimatums called "elections."
@@kenburns4547 I love the depth of your clarification. Thank you.
"The political system collapses, you lose your job, and you have someone that you love or two people die..."
Damn - that's definitely the situation for a lot of people right now
Prophet Peterson predicted the coronavirus pandemic
They too were prophetic by their circumstantial knowledge
@TheBrabon1 Whoosh
if such a series of shit happen to some people, unless they are sick or physically hurt, They dont want to die. They wish to die, when they are finally happy again.
Definition of prophetic: accurately describing or predicting what will happen in the future. This happens all the time bro? Theres nothing metaphysical about it, if thats your problem? Smart people very often predict occurrences not a crazy concept lol
Ongoing sleep deprivation can cause a variety of mental illnesses too.
I agree. Everytime I don't get enough sleep I'm grumpy and snappy and generally feel down and depressed
Amen to that, I have been struggling with that personally for decades, a true living nightmare, I pray I wake from it soon.
Good news is that there are very effective psychological treatments for sleep problems. Fixing sleep problems can often be a good way of preventing depression, mania, or psychosis.
I must be fucked to all hell then
Perimenopause and menopause symptoms too linked to lack of sleep.
I can tell this guy has the kindest heart and has the most empathy I wish I could talk to him
Wish we could say that of him now. Fox purchased him and all he does is rants and raves
idk , i've heard him speak recently and he sounds like a misogynist.
@@herchelleonwood7463He was a liberal but liberalism died, infected fatally by the left. He had no where else to go to keep his integrity and sanity.
simp harder
He was being treated like crap from his university administrators and bullied . He is so intelligent that they probably were insanely jealous people. Too bad because he does so much for people to make their lives better..... He is really a great speaker.
Simplicity is best for me. My life became very complicated after years of living simply and I immediately went into a depression that lasted years where I just longed for a quiet and simple life again.
also ... it's as if no one is encouraged to live simply either. like no one is going to show you appreciation and support if you want to live simpler. It's just something you have to do for yourself .. or also to be by yourself.. no one typically supports you in that endeavour.. not that anyone should ..but it's something that requires some effort "out of " the conditioning .. like it's fine if my life is simpler.. etc
i like your observation. It feels like i have to drop some strain in order to get my life together and no one is supporting me with that. You only hear things like „okay, i dont understand but do whatever“ or sometimes „dont be such a p*ssy“ if i want to leave out a party.
Its my own responsibility to simplify my life i guess
Agree. And this so called modern and technological life is full of ever expanding complexity. It's no wonder the human species seems utterly psychotic at this point.
@MarcDufresneosorusrex Well said and I find this to be true 👍
I have been diagnosed with social anxiety and depression. I think Jordan is spot on. I don't feel mentally ill. I am not deranged or histrionic bi polar. I just want things to be as simple as can be after 65 years of turmoil. I DON'T WANT to talk to people who pressure me to be what I am not. People let me down or pile emotional shit on me. I prefer my dog.
"I prefer my dog". Truer words have never been spoken.
Same with me but I'm 25...for me it was not the gradual buildup for yrs as it happens with many..but for me the reason was I had the happiest life in a normal middle class family and suddenly at 16 shit started happening..I had never faced any problem and has always excelled in studies..so I started losing control on everything I loved doing and most important one was my career and mom..it continued for yrs (relationship with mom became normal in few months) and when the problem ended it took time to hold myself up again...but for now I have done great progress...I have regained many things.. It's never gonna be the same but it'll be good....Life is worth trying...My mom always says that not everyone gets a chance to live (my dad died pretty young) so if u had gotten a life then live and that line kept me going for yrs bcz she herself has seen loads of shit (including death of dad,husband and 1st child at really young age) her whole life and even at 53 she always keeps making effort...she hasn't achieved anything big but still she has achieved a lot..I never undermine my issues but when I start feeling like it's getting tough I remember her journey and think she doesn't deserve to lose another family member..and that has worked for me
today's news " Turkmenistan’s President Gives His Favorite Dog a Golden Treat "
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Well of course your not “histrionic” bipolar. You are anxious and depressed 🙄
Two minutes and this man will teach you more than many people can in two generations
Real people / real friends can and will, grifters / a-holes also could, but won't.
Either way, Jordan's a treasure, obviously.
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Exaggeration. Settle down.
@@hipsonsogbo yeah! It was an "intentional" exaggeration spoken to make an obvious point! Obvious for most people....but lost on a "few"...geez
As an emotion coach, this is also what I found to be true. Most people don't have a "disorder" that needs medication, but a complex life that feels out of control. Their life may be disordered (or the people around them) but that doesn't mean they have a disorder.
It does take a bit of work to muddle through the mess, but that's what I love doing with them!
an emotion coach? Is that the same as a life coach?
Emotion coach???? What kind of shit is that? Your brain is not enough prepared to get a psychology degree
@@FriendofDorothy yes but even less of a real thing
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Daniel how can i contact you 😢
“I’m not perfect, you’re not perfect, and this is perfect”. We need to accept each other without being arrogant
Psychology Channel Unless they're trans.
Haggy Waggy I was being ironic, you hateful pig.
I think we need to stay out of each other's way and enjoy being alone.
@Orchestrated Apocalypse You nailed it! LMAO
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As an older man I can attest to the fact that a complicated life is often fraught with stress; and often it's not the unforeseen hardships we face but embracing cultural cancers which make life less enjoyable. Living beyond our means is a huge stress factor; often crippling debt is linked to that behavior. I think many people go through a stage of accumulating stuff they don't need at the cost of running up debt and working excessively to maintain a "lifestyle". But it doesn't matter how nice a house you have if you're never there to enjoy it. In recent years I've started steering my life toward a simpler way of living, and it's made all the difference.
That's quite consistent with my observations. I'm 59 years old now and have seen many people do the same thing, working harder to accumulating a lot of stuff that will be sold cheap or given away when they downsize or die, and to what end? Similarly, I've seen many people rushing their kids around to endless planned activities, and similarly to what end? Hey, I live in the same complex world as everyone else, but that doesn't mean I have to get caught up in it all.
@@Abitibidoug Exactly! I just wish someone had clued me in decades ago to the fact that many "cultural norms" can be, and should be, recognized as unhealthy and even destructive.
I find joy in the simple things in life but could never just live a simple life. I'm just waaaaay too ambitious for that and can take on a shit load of work, and nothing makes me happier. The reason, why I'm kind of depressed these days, is that I haven't achieved valuable goals recently and are stuck in Limbo as a highly educated 35-year-old man who simply can't start at the bottom anymore and not at the top either.
I mean, to get feedback from interviewers saying that I'm overqualified is never fun to hear, yet it is the truth and I can't do anything about it. Also, the thing that bothers me the most, is that at this point in life I should have my OWN profitable business. Yet, based on my history, I don't have the experience in the right kind of fields to establish that business and it sucks because I basically have to start all over again if I truly want that.
Also, be careful what you wish for because you just might get it. I lived the simpler life once with great work/training/friend/family balance but I can never get that back.
Mike Revendale you probably would have dismissed that advice when you were younger. The wisdom comes with age!
Abitibi_Doug I couldn’t agree more. You don’t realize this when you’re young which is really a shame.
Glad Dr.Jordan Peterson is back and recovered. Hopeful for his continues recovery.
he’s back??
@@benquidlat8396 he made podcast episode with his daughter
FahdQ what happened to him?
Uhm...What happened to him? 🤔
did he do 10 grams?
I was about to comment on my own share of misfortunes. But then I perused the comments and realize how really sad the world is for some people, how difficulties encountered in childhood can haunt us all the way into our adult lives, how terribly difficult it is to overcome, heal and comfort ourselves because everyone is busy trying to mask their pain or insecurities or too occupied with being an evil person. I pray you all get better, especially mentally and spiritually, to finally be free and make space for the wonderful opportunities of present moment.
Well said 🙏
This is such an accurate description of how mental breakdown occurs, so well put into words and so easy to understand, thanks so much.
Agree. I've never heard it explained this way before and it's true because I'm living it unfortunately.
YO where’s the part where he conjures the neon multi-colored fractal? Clickbait
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@@victorprassel5378 It was sarcasm. You just have a stroke dude? Or you got one of them Stephen-Hawking kinda talking/typing diddie machines and it just absolutely shit the fucking bed for ya and pressed every autocomplete after the word "man" LOL XD
Also Chosen: Conformed Frozen sounds like a Disney title. If I ever make a movie ill be sure to name it that and pop your username there in the credits :P
@@nagsterthegangster 😅😂 indeed alien script .
@@cosmic2096 I joke but I hope this person realizes their psychosis and at least perhaps looks up some of the symptoms and be knowledgeable of them.
As someone who has suffered from depression for a very long time i can honestly say that it's nothing i have personally done myself. It comes from outside influence such as death of friends and family at too young an age.
I Agree I Don't Believe it Comes From Trauma.I Believe it's A Brain Chemical Deficit and Trauma could Make It Worse!
Agree. Too much loss, grief, and trauma can ruin one's life. We can have a constructive outlook but external forces, and our response to those, will shape our quality of life.
@@mjparham6430 the “brain chemical deficit” theory is actually misleading and a simplification of what professionals believe. It’s more of a politicized slogan. The chemicals are not the cause, but an observable process which is a byproduct of whatever the cause was.
I am blown away by this. For the longest time I wanted to see a psychologist. And the irony is I ended up seeing one of Jordan speeches where he talked about owning and admiting and ultimately facing your fear. I faced mine and all my worry literally evaporated. I also learned that when you have peace around one particular thing you are worried about, you'll be sure fire to find something else to worry about :) For me it was money and retirement. Once I sorted that, I started to have the problem of "well, I need more for retirement" :) Since, I've learned to relax and know when I've won.
What’s the name of the speech?
Here is the problem with the label Mental Illness, way to many things come under those words, my son was 15 when i noticed he was developing fears of every thing, then he started talking out loud to people who were not there, he didn't do drugs, or alcohol, those where the first things that was tested when i finally got doctors to listen and admit him to hospital, it turned out to be Schizophrenia, and it has been a wild ride ever since, he is now 32, he had two older brothers with no such illness, they all grew up the same in the same house. The brain is very complex, i have been by his side to all his hospital stays and appointments with doctors, so it drives me nuts when people say go for a walk, oh you just need to be happy, or this and that i am sick of it all. No one talks about cancer like that and says oh i told you not to eat red meat, no they except it is an illness with a million reasons why it could have happened. I gave up caring why it happened, now i just support him every way i can.
I know how you must feel.
Most people (mentally "sane" ones) are convinced that a mental illness can easily be overcome with motivation and willingness to get better.
It's ridiculous.
And SO annoying.
Really hard not to reply to each one of them..
my daughter exactly
Keyes , I understand you, I am in the same situation with my son
Keyes M. Man I am so proud to see your actions. I just got dumped by my wife of 35 years because I'm carrying around anxiety for caring for my elderly parents 2 years back. Truly devastating. I wish she could have comforted me.
"I'm depressed"
"Well I cheered you up. Surely you can be happy now?"
The number of times I have heard that type of statements bout others still annoys me. I can't imagine what you've been through but I can sympathise.
People are like bridges .....they all have a load limit .
Build strong bridges from childhood onwards - not by abuse but by intelligent guidance on How to Deal, How to Choose a Path with ❤️
...sometimes you just better burn them.
Or an elevator
People are like buildings, they are fat
Yes, we all have a breaking point
If we find ourselves with a desire that nothing in this world can satisfy, the most probable explanation is that we were made for another world.
-C.S Lewis
Correct
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Or made for another time.
^I Just Wasn't Made For These Times^
The Beach Boys
Just listened to that and wondered how much psychology is often concentrated in lyrics.
@@martinried5450 A lot!!! Bob Marley: "free yourself from mental slavery."
@@deirdremorris9234 Good point ! Talking about reduction of complexity.
Only God can satisfy. Just saying.
@2:30 Mental illness is almost always a "complexity-related phenomena" - too many stressors - too many challenges to overcome - death of a friend - housing - nutrition - abusive relatives - intrusive boss - transportation ....
"yes we can"
-Bob the Builder
Obama sure did get his quotes from esteemed scholars such as Dr. Robert van Builder.
Salute
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I figured out when I was just a child that if I lowered my expectations of life to the fact that I simply have a pulse then nothing could ever disappoint me...30 some odd years later I was right...as long as I'm alive there's always opportunity for me...even in the smallest capacity...
Better than being bitter
Up to now l still practice not expecting from people and I'm never disappointed as less expectation l became very strong emotionally somebody does something I'm grateful and then u show the gratitude and people are always so surprised when they actually realize that u dont want anything they not prepared to give l have beautiful around me hysband and kids daughter in laws and the rest around so I give with no expectation and l receive so much happiness and trust but I'm also not a fool and a walkover just fine the balance those who understand will stay and some leave figured this out at a very young age
Really interesting. I’ve suffered from depression since my first wife was diagnosed with brain cancer and died four months later.
So much happened in such a short space of time,I literally could not cope.
Sorry to hear that. His talk explains a lot though- sometimes we are pushed beyond our breaking poknt
Ironically something very similar happened to Peterson himself about two years after this video was made (his wife got cancer around 2018-9 and he got addicted to benzodiazepines in an attempt to control his anxiety).
So much happened in such a short space of time,I literally could not cope.
THIS.
Sorry for your loss...
I resonate. Honestly. 😓😓😓
The Universe is cruel & 'blind'. Some of us were ordained for WAAAAAAY too much suffering, but... there is no escape. It's just the way it is.
Others get to be happy, fulfilled, and have a BALANCED amount of success & suffering.
But not *certain* folks. 😓
Professor Jordan Peterson has such complete understanding, empathy, sympathy, and kindness. I'm very impressed. That was a perfect way of putting everything. He truly has something special about him. I appreciate his teaching so much.
@JOY24O7 No he's not "talking nonsense". Sure there are some people with physical damage or chemical/hormonal imbalance, but I agree with him that the majority of what we call mental illness is due to exactly what he explained here. It's the dis-ease of these modern times.
The Chemical Imbalance construct was contrived by Gregory Bateson, husband to Margaret Mead - as a marketing tool. Jeffrey A. Schaler took this on with: "Show me the Chemical Balance Tests!" @CUTTER101
When sorrows come, they come not as single spies but in battalions.
William Shakespeare
wow true
@K Gray I love Yogi Berra's quips! Another good one, "it's like deja vu all over again". 😄
@K Gray 👍
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@Orchestrated Apocalypse
Do you have a goal here? He had withdrawal. He took them because of extreme anxiety, depression. He's better.
Nothing better than a free lecture about a subject you are interested in, with helpful information, a good teacher who delivers it well. Here when the internet feels like the best human invention.
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forever jealous of those who had him as a professor
We've all got him in this way :)
Envious not Jealous. 👍
@@guilouaitisc3268 Good contribution! one point for you!
Don't be jealous. There are many great professors at many universities. Unlike Peterson, most of them contain their egos and do not behave as if they are anointed experts on topics far outside their realm of expertise.
@@zacharywoodruff5321 As far as I've seen he only ever delves very deeply into topics outside of his expertise when other people drag him into it. And even then he's pretty open about stating his theory and then acknowledging that he doesn't have all the information
About 40 years ago I met a young woman on the verge of a nervous breakdown. Her sister asked me to speak to her. We met in a quiet room and I asked her how she was feeling, what was wrong. And then I just listened. She was distraught and jumped from one issue of distress to another. After about 15 minutes I handed her a pen and piece of paper. I said, let's make a list of these terrible problems. She grew quiet and began to write. Soon there was a small list of 6 items. Then I had her number them in order of severity. Next, I had her rewrite this list, leaving space between the issues, prioritized from top to bottom. Now we discussed each one from a perspective of how consequential each was, and pragmatically what could and should be done. After a bit, it turned out that half her list was actually fearful speculation, which she acknowledged. For the real problems she wrote below them her alternatives. By the end of this session she was cured. Melissa has long since passed away but I still have her letter of heartfelt gratitude among my treasured possessions, and I'll never forget the power which decluttering her complications had on her.
That sounds like a great way to approach how you feel, the feelings are a symptom of circumstances that you feel certain ways about. Your method of approach makes that clear and obvious.
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I often say just because I can’t adapt to a psychotic society doesn’t mean I’m the one with the problem! Too much crap and you have to take time to dig out and recoup from digging and pray you don’t dig the wrong way! Much love to all!
You re not the problem, but jerks just suck the whole energy out of you...
I totally hate my environment here on Earth.
30+ years and no matter where I go or what I do... the suffering just NEVER, EVER, EVER ENDS.
It's ludicrous. Like, seriously, when am I going to have some PEACE?
Never. Probably not even when I'm dead. SOMEone will F#@k that up for me. And if there is 'afterdeath', I'm beginning to think it may end up 'more of the same'.
No, thank you. ✨
No one star well you have one thing right, you are a star. You are a spark of the creator source energy. You are a beautiful soul that has chosen a challenging soul journey. I can relate... I too have experienced 30+ years of the craziest darkest stupid stuff ever. Guess what it’s all a play and we chose this for soul growth, eternity is forever this is how we learn and hence the main creator learns. The secret is you are a creator and by having hate you in turn pull in more hate energy. As crazy as it seems if you flip how you feel inside by focusing on anything good and what you’re grateful for and imagining all the good coming to you with appreciation you can change what you see outside. It’s a choice you can change how you view things or continue on the same path....don’t listen to others... listen to you and do what makes you happy ...be the love and happiness you want to see and it WILL come back to you. Much love and hugs!
@@gingerl2995 this world just makes me want to destroy everything and everyone. If the universe wants me to suffer, then everything will be forced to suffer
@Rick Eckler Pious people gave me sanity. They spoke with clear, honest solutions. They are the next best people to scientists. Emotions is the reason we cry. So get rid of that shit
Genius! It's about time we looked at root causes and circumstances, before calling someone mentally ill! Let's look at what drove them there!
That would take too much compassion and morality, somethings our society is bankrupt of these days.
Or a criminal. The world can force you to do things you ordinarily wouldn't do. Like be attacked, you fight back and you get arrested too for fighting. Then in city jail a predator decides you're easy. If you're not you bust him up or kill him. Now you're in the Pen for 15 to life. Because while walking down the sidewalk some one came up to you and started swinging.
I think we found the root causes to a lot of it in the 20th century and society attempted to directly combat them with laws, then the people revolted and tore down the systemic safeguards because there is nothing more addictive than being a victim.
I know this was two years ago but look into Jesse Lee Peterson. Another great Son of Peter (Peterson).
@@SuperEgo19 What now?
“Perhaps it’s that some things are wrong FOR you, rather than that there is something wrong WITH you.”
One of the first things my psychotherapist ever said to me.
yes thats 100% true. allways look if the new things are good for you, otherwise strongly reconcider and leave it
If you're trying to be a fish out of water, life is intolerable - find water and the correct water; moving, stagnant, salt or fresh - many options - move.
keep in mind that the modern world is totally alien to what humanity has historically experienced. put a caveman in today's world and he would likely go insane.
That is a good way of looking at things.
true. depression is often just a symptom
I was depressed because I was overwhelmed I was overwhelmed because I was confused, I was confused because I had situations partly beyond my control that persisted, and toxic people partly influencing my perspective Time and distance changed my reality, revealing toxic and hindsight worked it out, and with the understanding the mental “illness” problems vanished
Amazing , he summed up mental illness in 2 minutes and it makes complete sense. I find myself and others with mental illness do better with routine and not adding in complexity, changes.
Absolutely. Complexity, life out of control, was the catalyst for both of my breakdowns. Not my mental illness being the catalyst for the complexity.
Agree. I've never heard it explained like this before. Just feels like the truth.
Exactly. I feel like I've never had that much control over my life. Bad things just keep happening, no matter what I do. Almost as if God or something evil has been testing me my whole life and seeing when & where I break. @srvntlilly
"Spamming quotes under JP's youtube videos can get you tons of likes" ~ Confucius
I be confused too.
underrated
@@reglook1 "You are"-Hitler
@@vintagerock547 you are
@@reglook1 "You are"-reglook
“For every complex problem there is an answer that is clear, simple, and wrong.”
HL Mencken
And for every simple problem there is an answer that is obscure, complex and wrong.
The reason for most mental illness, is cognitive dissonance over living in a "democracy" but the people don't consent to their government, making it a covert oligarchy that dictates narrowly-limited TOKEN choices, in the form of state-ultimatums on how the people can and can't change their government.
Ken Burns schizophrenia? Bipolar 1? Axis I disorders? Any clinical experience?
@@kenburns4547 Do you really believe that all of people's suffering comes from faults in the system of government? Really?
Religious ideology and extreme moralizing cause mental health issues.
@@MM-dv9hp CAUSE OR SYMPTOM? explain and provide evidence.
He made a profound observation. Complexity can push most of us to a breaking point.
Interesting seeing him say this years before he had his own set of catastrophes... wishing him all the best and hope to see you soo JP
Oh no, what happened to him? I am just learning about him and his views. Wow, praying for him.
The mind is a source of strength but is also fragile at the same time.
What catastrophes is he facing? I know it’s really none of my business but I’ve learned so much from listening to DR. Peterson and I wasn’t aware that something happened to him.
@@nikkistahr7105 if I recall correctly; his wife was diagnosed with a terminal illness and during all of it he became depressed and then addicted to the anti depressants and he's been battling that addiction for months
@@AikiYoda Oh my goodness, i am so sorry to hear that wow.
I lost my mom to cancer, i was 23 and the way it affected our family in such a way..it broke us all down. I am praying for this man and his entire family unit. I pray over his addiction, i pray for his clarity, his safety, guidance, and overall health. May God and time heal his heart and restore his peace.
thanks for the reply/ information.
Blessings to you
XoXo
Nikki
Clive Mechanic to clarify, he developed a dependency to anti anxiety drugs not antidepressants (benzodiazepines). They have some of the worst withdrawals of any drug class, can last months, can even kill you. A heroin addict will feel like they’re dying if they cold turkey quit but they won’t. A heavy benzo user can have seizures and die.
"I'm not afraid of death,.... I just don't wanna be there when it happens."
George Burns
I'm going to live forever, or die trying!
@@NFawc I love that one!!!👍
@Guy Fredlund Yes this is true Woody Allen said it most recently(considering Woody is still with us)and a lot of people don't realize it was originally George Burns that Said it.
good catch.🤗
@William Burr The greatest way to live longer is to stop worrying about how long you're going to live.
No that was Woody Allen.
Basically, it's fear based. When you're overwhelmed and things feel out of your control or more than you can manage.
All the more reason to put our trust and faith in Jesus, who tells us to lay our burdens down to Him, as there is NOTHING too big for Him to handle in our lives.
@@joshuawaddell6640 🤢 you believe in a ghost
@@crazeeycc2928 History books aside from the Bible tell me otherwise. Not to mention he's personally done things for me.
@@joshuawaddell6640 is just luck
@@crazeeycc2928 Sorry, but you don't know a single thing about me or what I've been through to tell me its luck.
I can totally relate to this, sometimes when a sequence of disaster events happen one after another in quick time, you feel like someone is chasing you towards depression and eventual death
In those situations I feel like someone is trying to kill me or something and I feel a sense of hopelessness and all sorts of issues, it's not easy going through it
Our world has become exponentially more complex over the last two decades
Everything before 2001 was so much simpler.
GPL and everything before the 1900s was much less complicated. Life has and will always become more complicated but the problem is we don’t always build the healthy coping mechanisms at the same rate.
No, that’s just your subjective experience. Chaos fluctuates. Every generation seems to have a big event that has happened to them.
Yep
Subversion tactics
This is the plain truth right here. Some people have so much going on at once that it is only a matter of time before they break.
Many people make life complicated by lying. A different lie for different person or group of people. If they were only truthful that complexity would be immediately reduced.
David 135 self induced
Oftentimes truthfulness is punished in a society that expects us to lie
David 135 you are deluded if you think there is truth in this world. Facts are objective but truth is objective.
No. Lying simplifies things. Truth is almost never beneficial. Truth gives people power over you. And when you do that you are screwed in every way imaginable.
Parenting. Or lack of. Almost all of the damage is done by parenting.
Wow. I never thought about things this way, but he has a very good point. Peoples' brains nowadays can become completely overloaded, especially with all the CRAP going on in the world. Personally, when I get to that point, I completely shut down, because I can't even see where/how to begin to dig myself out of my out of control situation, i.e., job I despised, both parents became ill, had to fly home, parents got better, flew back, then one parent DIED, had to fly back home again, and deal with death and a funeral, plus the other traumatized parent; then flew back again, quit my job, determined I was going to MOVE home, so spent months packing and all of the stuff that goes with that; packed everything up, drove 1,000 miles home by myself. So I know it's going to take me a loooong time to decompress and come to grips with everything that's been going on over the past 6 months. Sometimes I think that just sitting and staring at a wall for a few days is preferable over having to deal with life. But I literally just take one....step....at....a....time. Suicide is NEVER the answer.
Exactly. One step at a time. One day, one hour, one minute at a time if that's what it takes. Every step is a victory. ❤️
I can relate. But I'm not so sure being in control of one's ultimate fate is not an answer. Personally I reserve the right to be in control of my own life and I have no interest in extending that life if the suffering is too great or the quality of life is pointless. I've been on the edge for a long time now and I grow weary of it all.
So true, I thought I was depressed for 7 years. I went on medication, I took myself off cuz I felt like i was weak for taking medication. I developed dependency on weed and smoked all day every day. I’ve always had a goal but I had trouble connecting that goal into my complicated life. Remove complications and focus on your love for others, Find peace in existing. No one will always be happy but peace is always a choice
Well said
Peace be with you always🌿Beautiful honest post. I take the time to say Peace&Love as often as I can to others. I end phone calls that way. When approaching total strangers it's used as a greeting to assure acceptance. Try using this phrase to uplift others as well as yourself
@Youn6J * Excellent advice. Thank you. 👍☘️🙏
Living with a toxic narcissist will definitely bring on mental problems and it's all deliberate on their Part. They are evil
Narcissism is a mental illness though
But we attract certain people because of our own issues, too. So while yes that person has their own set of issues that creates a toxic environment, when we attract people like that we have to see where our weaknesses lie. Otherwise they wouldn't prey on us.
Most narcissists don't realize they are horrible people. Some even believe they are using their bullying and gaslighting techniques out of love.
So, yes, living with a narcissist will definitely bring in problems, but 'evil' implies informed intent and they don't always have that.
@@yamimayonnaise5378 can you blame a grade A narcissist for being a narcissist?
@@kylebrattan471 if they have a disorder then no. If they dont then they're just an asshole
This was so validating I didn’t realize how much I needed to hear this
Same 👍
Absolutely 100% correct. Moved up the corporate ladder, we bought a new house, we had a son, both of my parents died, I wrecked a car and I lost a high-paying job - ALL IN 2.5 YEARS OF SO. At one point I woke up in the middle of the night and involuntarily jerked upright drenched in sweat and with tears flowing. I had had problems/issues in life before just like everybody else, but those listed here - on top of life's daily struggles - put me over the top. Unfortunately, it wasn't temporary - I inherited this illness from my mother. It took a hospitalization, therapy on and off for a few months and Prozac for a couple of years. It has never gone away 100% though. My mother-in-law had/has a worse case. I just hope it does not get passed down to my son.
inform your son when he is old/mature enough to handle well.
he should know to watch out for what you describe.
Teach your son , and make him believe in some religion because religious beliefs stops us from making bad moves , teach him to be honest and hardworking.. trust me he will be out of problems
You never know what someone is really going through. I try to remember this and be kind to others.
This lecture is reminding me of what professor Peterson went through in the last couple years....he is a man of his word. Grateful student here.
@Michael Hayes your hatred is the cause of your own suffering
@Michael Hayes I doubt you would fare any better that he if you went through all that he did. Your sad little sh!tposts simply affirms it.
- Professor JP is a modern-day philosopher. Thank God for providing this man in our times. He is our own Socrates.
@@mayaozen487 He's a grifter, but that doesn't mean he's always wrong. It's complicated, but also important to not take to heart everything he says.
He needs to start an online university. I would join it.
If it's just the education, you already have many iterations of his two courses an essay writing guide and a list of great books to read. There is no accreditation at the end, but you can learn quite a lot with what is already out there.
@@petardraganov3716 Since I have watched a lot of his materials already, I feel like a certification could be useful ....😄
Just be careful though as these are kot really lectures but more like lunch room chats. Proper lectures would cite source materials / studies, explain points points counterpoints and support you in researching your own analysis of the topics being discussed. This is JP outlining what he believes to be the case, rather than how he might present a truly 'academic' lecture.
If he taught a class online I would take it.
Its so hard not to shit on dumb hoes.
I could remember several years ago I suffered from severe depression and mental disorder. I was addicted to illicit pills, alcohol, and smoking until I was recommended for psilocybin mushroom treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly I'm 8 years clean now. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against anxiety and depression.
To be honest, mushrooms are one of the most amazing things on the planet and it is natural, they serve in many ways not only for mental related issues.
Can you help me with a reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. It is very hard to get a reliable source here in New Zealand. Really need!
Yes, Sporeville. I had the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and addiction... Mushrooms definitely made a huge difference to why I'm clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He's 59 & has many mental health issues plus probably CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD knows if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on Instagram?
Abusive childhood, nowhere in society to turn, bullying at school, no hope or any kind of clear paths out.....
Sometimes Karma happens
It gets carried over,from past life.
Stay strong
EVERYTHING IN LIFE IS A TEST.
best medicine; ignite curiosity in all your circumstances in life-- eg. I wonder what my life would be like if I had a place to turn, or if my childhood had been magical, or if I was the bully at school, and not the one being bullied, or if I knew how to deal with bullies...it's amazing how our minds can concoct a solution that is attainable, and even if not, it's a nice escape living in a fantasy world where one is in control, where bad things can't happen, and where we imagine how we can be strong. Books are a great help, music, videos, Toastmasters, poetry, looking at beauty, befriending a dog/cat/pet...I spent a lot of time at friends' homes where the parents were loving, to escape my unhappy home; I found comfort, temporary relief, and learned by example how these parents' behaviour was beneficial. There is always somewhere to turn. Sad is the person who claims they lack curiosity or imagination.
At least you have the welfare checks ))
Being a Survivor is infinitely more rewarding than a Victim. Choose strong.💪
Wait, are you a pop artist? I think I've heard that song
Purchased your book. Can't wait to read it. People come to us with the idea they have a mental illness because someone, somewhere, at some point, told them they must have one yet, they really are just having trouble with life. When did dealing with life have to be categorized as having a mental illness? Brilliant!
It's not just "having trouble with life." It's when one's inability to cope with loss, grief, adversity or meaninglessness begins to serious affect one's ability to function in daily life, and certainly if it becomes a threat to one's life or the lives of others. I helped treat many very wealthy people--multimillionaires-- who had everything a person could possibly desire, but who lacked even the most basic connection with other people which gives meaning to life. One super-wealthy rancher told me, "I spent Christmas Eve all by myself in my five-million-dollar ranch house snorting cocaine off my coffee table. I had alienated everyone--my wife, my children, my family, my business associates. It was so crushingly sad. The worst thing was that I knew I had done this to myself. I knew that I had to repair my life somehow, or I might as well kill myself, and I had a pistol laying there, right next to my bag of cocaine." For six years I also helped treat mentally ill teenagers from the inner city. One kid was arrested while living in a dumpster. When we got him he had lice, scabies and a horrible skin fungus and had not eaten in two days. We had to throw his clothes away. The staff took up a collection to buy him new shoes. When we found his mother, she refused to come get him, and moved the family out-of-state and left no forwarding address. This is the kind of crushing despair that leads to mental illness.
@@LowProfileTexas How incredibly sad.
Basically what he said is that we are a circuit board and we all have a different location of where our capacitators are.
And they will blow up if the voltage gets too high
“Not always, but almost always”. Well said. That’s a great insight and it’s very compassionate one. It’s not demeaning and insulting people as the medical profession often does, insinuating people are weak when really, it is that they have been assaulted in some way.
The philosopher Alaine de Baton has a UA-cam video titled, “How the modern world makes us mentally ill.” It explains this phenomena also. Getting back to simple living, family, community and supporting not judging one another might help.
Abusive parents, siblings, bullying and racism at school, poor financial family condition and uncertainty about future caused my illness. I am not able to live not able to die i am just living for one beautiful dream that i have.
You have many creative and beautiful ideas inside you. 🌈 Stay attracted to them instead of letting life distract you away from them.🌟 College isn't necessary because you can learn everything online...says one of the richest men in the world! God bless you Sister! 💝
Good luck
❤️
you aren't i'll. that's the point. calling yourself ill makes you the victim, and victims don't champion change. so you will forever be a victim of your 'illness'. take control of your life. learn the skills you need to supersede your 'genetic weak spot'
At least you have a dream ,, there is still hope 👍🏼
As he now knows himself, there's only so much shit you can pile on. I hope he can show himself as much empathy, compassion and understanding 💚 speedy recovery Mr. Petetson 🧡
He did an interview with his daughter just the other day
He is very interesting. I find it intriguing that there seems to be this urge of many depressed people to compete really bad, like they want to absolutely dominate anything. But they're inability to achieve anything real makes them depressed.
Because it is out of their control.
a lot of what he's been dealing with though was not his doing. Like the health issues.
Plus, he seems to be able to handle much more complexity than the avg person.
@Michael Hayes He grew up with health ailments that he was trying to fix.
Wow! That's the truth! I can remember in my early 20's telling my dr. that I felt like I was walking on a wire and just couldn't balance anymore. I also see it as juggling and somebody keeps adding more things to juggle. Sometimes it seemed like they were trying to add a chainsaw in to the juggling scene! That's when I gave in and drank and drugged. Then I realized I didn't want to go out like that so I got in rehab, and learned to "Keep it Simple!" It's not that simple anymore but it's sober!! : ))
I've also learned to not sweat the small stuff. Most importantly, I talk to God. . . a lot! (ok, prayer.) He really is a miracle worker!!
[not sweat the small stuff] What some combat veterans of WW2 in the Pacific noticed when they got home was people getting upset for trivial reasons.
What a great and compassionate man.
That is one of the most useful 2.34 minutes ever. I just love this man. Thank you JP a thousand times. 1:11 .
Hv known very capable people whom, like he said, got crushed by life disasters, several big punches within a short period of time. They tried and tried but couldn't bounce back, were crushed under the weight of it all. Fell into the anxiety/depression hole which of course makes things worse and hinders the ability to climb out.
Never thought it was mental illness, is a reasonable reaction to devastation in a person's life. Completely overwhelmed, not knowing which way to turn, sinking ship. The ever present fear and loss of hope of being able to regain their former strong and familiar selves can debilitating.
Update: human resilience is amazing. It is within you too. Happened to me and lived to tell. Took a couple of years, one foot in front of the other towards the light despite setbacks. Simplify life, push aside the sound of crushed hopes & dreams and surrounding chaos. You don't hv control over it anyway, eventually it subsides.
Agree and I've never heard it explained like this until now. I'm currently dealing with this in my life. Too much loss & trauma. It's a real bitch.
When i was young i had a teacher who also worked with children at a psychiatric Institution. We always made fun about it until he explained to us that every person hast this Point at which they just cant handle life anymore. And that these children had experienced such bad things that they came to this point. I think this is similar to this explanation in the Video. i will never forget these words...it has been almost 15 years ago. (Sorry for spelling mistakes, i am No native english speaker)
you found that funny???
@@xdaydreamerx note the word "until" in the original answer. Note also the words 'When I was young".
Most folks will have several things and times they find hard to get past. Persevere, Betty....i hope you are well.
@@terywetherlow7970Some don't make it through. I'm right on the edge....
@@deadreckoning6288 Hold on as best we can.
Whenever I feel bad.. I just listen to him, I feel like I'm not alone, people out there are suffering too.. & there are ways to cope because why there are still old people who dont take their lives which we know that life is hard sometimes.. stay strong.. dont worry alone..
Same. His books also helped me a lot. And with him, you know that he damn well knows what he is talking, since he suffers himself and also knows it from his family, too
I had all sorts of stuff happen over many years and I kept trying to deal with it on my own.
I went to see a psychiatrist, I was beside myself and asked " Why won't this mental and physical pain go away?"
She said " You let this go on for too long and an internal switch has been flicked and now every part of every cell has major depression and can not be undone"
That sucked.
I had my first mental brakedown when I was 11 year old, I am 64 now and still struggling, I found out I have Autism AD HD OCD, in my late 40s.
Breakdown*
Praying for you 🙏👍
@@sonjak8265 keep the bullshit for yourself
@@sonjak8265 True, those lables don't help anyone, least of all the labelled.
@@beztroska I recommend that you do some research on the history of the western medical model, doctor/patient relationships and the growth of the pharmaceuticals industry during the 20th century: there is a wealth of good quality information available. You will then be better informed and you will be able to differentiate between the very valid point that Sonja is making and the "excrementum bovis" to which you refer in your ignorance.
Being forced to deal with narcissists is also a major risk factor.
Everyone is a narcissist the question is to what degree
Anna Mikulin. Not true.
@@RC-ey4gm It is true. Everyone thinks about their own interests, to some degree. You mentioned "narcissists" as if it is a problem everyone deals with, that's your life, some people have much worse people in their lives.
Skully I’m talking about malignant narcissists. The one’s who abuse people just because they can.
@@RC-ey4gm Okay, but that's where the degree comes in. I'm sure we've all done something malignantly narcissistic at some point in our lives, not that it excuses people that seem stuck in one of the earlier stages of emotional development.
"People come to [psychologist] because their lives are so damn complicated they cannot stay on top of them in any way that doesn't make it look like they're just going to get more complicated."
It's amazing how he can explain all of mental illness in one succinct sentence!
@@skf2658 this may be true in some cases but, it’s a very simplistic view. Let’s be careful. True psychotic mental illnesses may be influenced by choices or the environment, but take a schizophrenic out of their “complex” world and put them in a simple one, they’re still schizophrenic. Maybe I’m not understanding?
@@maliciousmike8440 What you’re saying makes a lot of sense also. I’m just wondering if schizophrenics experience more chaos in their interior world than the average person which then turns into schizophrenia at its breaking point. I don’t know, it’s just a thought.
@@skf2658 I have an immediate family member who’s schizophrenic and, yes and, yes. Imagine if everyone else’s world was different than yours in ways that make no sense, and people are CONSTANTLY talking to you, some you see, some you don’t. You know some aren’t real, but can’t tell which. And in all the chaos you can’t even think.
That's true, last December I had a disgusting BPD mental crisis and the suffering was too much to bear, I couldnt sleep, was in constant paranoia and extreme mood swings every few hours, wanting to harm myself all the time and holding on as hard as i can to something so I won't do it..
I looked up on google psychologist in my area and the first one I found after 10 mins of reading his website, called him and as soon as he picked up I just said "I need help".
It's alarming that there are so few people amongst us with his level of intelligence and foresight.
“Man who drop watch in toilet have shit time” - Confucius
Confusius say....
"Boy in car, with girl in lap, have very hot rod." 😉
I'm watching this while sitting on the toilet 😳
omg this is so profound!
You are hilarious 😂😆
"Man who runs in front of car gets tired. Man who runs behind car gets exhausted."
In a word: stress.
I mean, exactly. The title alludes to something completely different to what he is talking about.
Oversimplification
CAPITALISM
@@santajayclause1768 Excuse
@@reglook1 I agree. Stress, to a certain degree, is good. Without stress we won't be motivated to do things, learn, improve and become better at things. It's too much bad stress that can ruin people and the fact different personalities have different size stress buckets that are more prone to overspill than others unless they have coping stretegies. Thing is, alot of people resort to 'coping' strategies like drugs and alcohol which actually feed the problem
The sky is not the limit.
EVERYONE has a limit.
Admitting this to your self is not a weakness, it actually will make you stronger.
You will become more successful and calm, because you are not over reaching YOUR OWN LIMITS.
What someone else does is what they can do, don't fall into the trap of comparing yourself to everyone else.
MusicIs l0v
Indeed !
You're right. I couldn't ride a bike and I was like, "Who needs this anyways?" I admitted my limit and didn't ride my bike. The reality is that your limit is self-imposed and you'll stop where you tell yourself to stop - and you'll go where you tell yourself to go. Society as a whole will often agree with your limited view of limits, and agree that there are just limits we can't touch. Then you have someone that says they won't be limited, and then break those limits, as well as show society that it's no longer a limit. What happens afterward? Everyone else stops being limited by what they previously thought was their limit. Admit you have a limit and be limited by it, or tell yourself that's not your limit and push the limits.
David Allen, Jordan Peterson actually made a video similar to your point. Were people go for too dificult jobs that don't suit their iq and turnout miserable. ua-cam.com/video/pu__97bVyOc/v-deo.html
David Allen What you said relates a lot to what I’ve been thinking about and that being that it’s better to be inspired by someone rather than to idolize someone.
why does literature and humanities always come up in psychology related videos
It's remarkable that people go to UA-camrs for this kind of information when you have such a learned and distinguished Professor with all of his material online.
Broken childhood, poor parenting and bad environment. When I was depressed I feel rage, loneliness, fear, anger is driving me crazy. I thought depression is about being lonely boy I was wrong
how did u get rid of the depression?
@@tristazmista try a rebounder you can't feel sad jumping on a trampoline...
Praying for you IJN ❤️🙏✝️
I need prayer I'm going through a dark depression. I lost the will to live yet I keep on living. I am so tired! Jesus please help me
Use the anger to build yourself up. The old saying "use stones thrown at you to build your castle"..work it out in the gym get a hobby and put your passion there..when I was young I felt as you say, this is the best I know to deal with that time. This will pass. Hugs
They call it breakdown, but really it is a build up!
that sound reasonable
whoa now that you mention it...
You can't break something down until it's been built up. That's the balloon analogy.
Yes that’s right
My mother ran the family and always commanded us what to do, without question or ever asking what we feel about it. I ended up a happy person, but with a serious self esteem issue: never believed I can change things or understand how others depend on me, or that my feelings matter. I perceive life as "do what you are told to do, quickly and efficiently". Maybe it is not a bad life motto, however notice that there are no people in it, or no self drive. Sometimes I think, if only mother and father asked me how I feel and what my goals are, my self esteem would be x2 . But I am grateful to them, even after their mistakes. It's a pity rhat we spend from 20 to 40 years old, to resolve these issues.
Im 47yrs old, lived a hugely varied life...and this 2.34sec video blew me away!
"What is madness, but nobility of soul at odds with circumstance" Roethke
Jeffrey dahmer, hes saved by chr1sts bl00d now
"People's lives dont end when they die, it ends when they lose faith"
- Itachi
Then I died a long long time ago
@Foodie Pootie faith IS not REAL just like hope & belief ALLL not REAL recognise what’s REAL
Lmao kid
👀
Naruto fan what a legend
My goodness I wish my parents gave me away when I was born they were horrible to me and were awful to my mental health
My dear my mother was awful when I just given birth within a few weeks my mum was telling everybody she thought I was mental health she wasn’t saying it to my face she was saying it behind my back and we had three children and I left my husband because he made me work after giving birth to the first one the day after he didn’t see why he should be the only one that worked is what he told me and I cleaned up my own after birth on my third child so basically it had enough he snatched the kids and I had a breakdown so when you start spreading rumours about people‘s mental illness you have to be really careful because schools and gossip they can get acted on I am proof of that unfortunately but I now have a solicitor through meditating I’ve been told there’s nothing wrong with me at all so therefore lies those people that did me wrong can effectively be accused of creating a mental illness so have a look at purple hearts love and light meditation is the key
I’m so sorry, I hope things will get better :)
Well I was adopted and they were vile to me my husband was vile to me and making me clean up my own after birth make me go back to work the day after giving birth because didn’t see why he should be the one that had to be the only one that worked and then he took our children off me so I’ve had to meditate myself back to good health and it works and within a year of meditating I’ve got a solicitor and I’ve got evidence and I’m ready to roll I keep meditating I tell you now the universe will help you I’m sorry for all the bad stuff you’ve had to go through but I’ve been through bad as well and I can tell you now there is spirit out there that will guide you love and light from purple hearts medium
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Awe boo hoo. You gonna cry about it or are you gonna pick yourself up and get on with life? We do not choose to have bad parents but that does not make us entitled to good ones
I just love the Lectures of Jordan Petersen a real Psycotherapist
we’ve all been raised on television to believe that one day we’d all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars. but we won’t. and we’re slowly learning that fact.
That's pretty obvious.
I had watched this movie. I forgot which one it is. I wanna watch it again please tell me the name.
@Joan Sanliryo thanks
It has certainly been a problem of at least the last 30 years that parents (adults in general) tell kids "you can be anything you want to be if you put your mind to it". Like anything? Even changing gender? Or being on equal pay to the CEO?
This spoilt generation is so entitled they think all the world's woes are their parents fault, rather that accepting the challenge to help improve matters.
Be anything you want? How about responsible?
In fairness, there are plenty of good youngsters and the pandemic is a bitch.
@Night Watch someone already answered that. But thankyou nonetheless.
i thought i was depressed. then i thought i was an alcoholic. then i thought everyone hated me. then i thought - nobody actually knows me. and now i am learning not to care what others think.
i didn’t even know what gaslighting was 18 mos ago. and now i know why its so effective on people. and so insidious.
the power we give people to hurt us is the same power we have to move on.
Not caring what others think is really a power
I can relate to this. I love those days where I don't have to make one single decision and there are no things that need to be done.
That sounds boring
Live you are alive untill you are not , each day a gift to be all you can be or not
Me too
@@Ragnarok540 not when your busy and suffer from anxiety it’s over whelming and to have a user day is awesome
Interesting perspective. I agree about the complexity problem. So what I did as a master problem solver is reduced the complexities, designated the responsibilities to different people, and simplified my existence. It helped a lot.
I am an engineer and I agree. The more complex the code gets, the harder it is to debug when an error occurs. Actually it's easy to fix the error but if you want to trace the root cause of the error to prevent cascading or similar errors, it just takes a lot of time and effort. That's why most engineers keep code as simple and as modular as possible to make it more manageable. If only life was as structured and as easy to understand and manage.
William of Ockham was on to it. Interesting that he was a monk - member of a community attuned to simplification from complexity.
I've always been a big fan of engineers and logical thinking. My degree was in statistics and I like to break up the problem and try to solve the parts. It's not always easy, as we're emotional animals, but I try my best to think logically. My stress trigger is illogical people and people who refuse to consider solutions. My mother likes the attention of constantly having problems, and it took me many years to figure out I was wasting my time listening to her and devising solutions for her when she just wanted the attention, not to actually solve the problem. She would just get angrier because I was solving the problem which meant she wasn't getting attention for it. My advice to young people is to not waste your precious youth on that nonsense. Spend time with productive people.
How do programmers get away w/calling themselves "engineers"?
Lol remember when engineering was about engines?
@@annaravenhand5536 Maybe they have an engineering degree and a professional engineering license? I am a consultant for industrial air pollution control, which is mostly being familiar with regulations and doing paperwork. Nothing with engines lol. But I do have two engineering degrees and a professional engineering license.
@@kencurtis2403 But having a job that's different from your degree isn't the same as having a job that's different from your job title.
Why would licensing for programmers be the same as for people who work w/engines?
I had an extremely traumatic childhood and I fell this lead to developing my mental illness.
Agree
Life is unfair and harsh you must strengthen your body and mind to survive
Life is also full of love and light and we must remember to access them every day, to thrive
_To be or not to be, that is the question_
Somewhere on YT is a video of a soul who, when told to return to earth and do their job asked "What's my job?" _Be a channel for the light_ I was as baffled by that as she was; what does _that_ mean? Lame. But said 'Ok Universe, I'll be a channel for the light too" ~ and it turns out to be one of "those things" that u know it when u see it, but u can't explain it to anyone else. _Try before u die G.M._
Joseph Porter and we can choose to be the type of people to make the world better
this made me want to kill myself