Jordan Peterson: STOP LYING TO YOURSELF! How To Turn Your Life Around In 2024!

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  • If you enjoyed this episode, I recommend you check out my first conversation with Jordan Peterson, which you can find here: • Jordan Peterson: How T...
    00:00 Intro
    01:31 Changing People’s Lives
    04:56 How Can People Change & Have Successful Lives
    12:59 The Science of Why the Small Task Method Is So Revolutionary
    20:35 The Most Effective Way To Help People Who Are Suffering
    35:36 The Key To Having A Healthy & Strong Relationship
    42:08 Why Men Don’t Like to Listen & How to Prevent Fights in a Relationship
    54:49 How to Overcome the Toughest Traumas
    58:51 Ordinary People Can Become the Most Dangerous
    01:02:51 Lies Ruin Your Life
    01:08:25 The Greatest Challenge Young People Face
    01:15:13 The Link Between Responsibilities & Your Worth
    01:19:27 Peterson’s Academy
    01:24:11 Last Guest’s Question
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  • @TheDiaryOfACEO
    @TheDiaryOfACEO  5 місяців тому +932

    Welcome back Jordan. If you enjoyed this episode could you do us a massive favour and HIT that like button on the video! Helps us a lot 🙏 share your favourite part of the convo below 👇🏾

    • @user-rz7ix4se9k
      @user-rz7ix4se9k 5 місяців тому +25

      Always do. Appreciate & enjoy the content you produce.

    • @georgewaters6424
      @georgewaters6424 5 місяців тому +1

      unsubscribed, never coming back. Stop talking to kunts!

    • @bpedleyjazzguitarist
      @bpedleyjazzguitarist 5 місяців тому +39

      An avid follower of both yours and Jordans work.
      I drove my car into a tree at 110mph on 28th August.
      I had a 10% chance of living but after 2 weeks on life support in Southampton ICU, I escaped with my life. A vert different life that I had before.
      Your conversations with Jordan and many other inspirational people are a model for a better future.
      Thankyou from the bottom of my heart ❤

    • @EvanKelly-ju1pn
      @EvanKelly-ju1pn 5 місяців тому +66

      I am extremely disappointed that this platform is enabling someone that supports the genocidal acts in Gaza. There was lots of talk of theory, but he misses basic humanity, and was not questioned about it.

    • @DemonSlayerCR
      @DemonSlayerCR 5 місяців тому +1

      You brought this war mongering genocidal maniac on your show to give life advice?
      You are sold out.
      Unsubscribed!

  • @SouLightness
    @SouLightness 5 місяців тому +3958

    Im a 63 yr old woman with parkinsons. Clawing out of a trauma bond...manage to cook very simple food. Walk the old dog in small bits of time. No family...in the middle of nowhere. Reaching out to therapist and couple of friends. Listening to you and to anyone with wisdom. Keeping going in spite of depression and lineliness.

    • @hkslug80
      @hkslug80 5 місяців тому +187

      That sounds really tough. Hope things get better for you.

    • @melbaT2770
      @melbaT2770 5 місяців тому +129

      Keep moving forward and things will improve. I ,too, was trauma bonded and once I worked through it and made it to the other side, the anxiety I had went away. 15 years in a toxic marriage made me ill and depressed. Now I have two good physicians who know how to treat me, and I am back to working out regularly. Being honest with myself set me free. My ex will always be a liar.

    • @emanuelantunes2789
      @emanuelantunes2789 5 місяців тому

      I don't know who you are, or what you believe in, but I believe there is Hope and Joy to be found in your life even in the simplest details. Delight in the little things and seek God, he rewards those who seek Him.
      Life throws tragedy at us when we least expect, but there is assurance that whatever the storm there is hope and joy that can be found if we keep a grateful heart and we look to the beauty that can be found in life.
      One of the hardest lessons in my life was to learn how to do that amidst unfathomable and disconcerting circumstances. I took care of my father who had Alzheimer's for almost 20 years, until he passed away. It wasn't easy and my heart was broken, resentful and bitter through the early years because of the sense of injustice and the rage that caused. God taught me a valuable lesson through humility and gratefulness, and I was able to find joy and peace in each day, even in all the love I could lavish my father in as I served him until his time on this Earth was fulfilled. It was a privilege to love my father and take care of him. May this testimony encourage you and give you strength!
      I pray the Spirit of God, will minister to your soul, peace, healing and wisdom to find beauty and joy each day to have the strength and fortitude to overcome the daily obstacles, in Jesus's name! God bless you! Warm regards from Portugal!

    • @abgb1008
      @abgb1008 5 місяців тому +75

      I am thinking of you and I am truly with you. Also I honestly want to be with you.

    • @random-zd1bs
      @random-zd1bs 5 місяців тому +117

      you are never alone in this world, even when you feel that you are, there is always hope, always good people around the corner to meet. I wish you true happiness and peace

  • @iCarryBoatsAndTheLogs
    @iCarryBoatsAndTheLogs 5 місяців тому +1527

    This year I’ve:
    • Finally opened up about getting sexually assaulted
    • lost 10KG so far in 4 weeks of my diet
    • had compliments on my changes
    • educated myself on psychology in order to strengthen my mind
    • started reading books (before that I had never opened one apart from school books that are required in English class)
    • met new people who are only interested in progression
    All of it is thanks to me and Dr Jordan Peterson. I’m still working on a lot that has broke me, but I’m getting better and mentally stronger thanks to him.
    I pray whoever sees this and makes it to the end finds the peace and healing you deserve.

    • @mattk.9377
      @mattk.9377 5 місяців тому +35

      Who’s gonna carry the boats?!

    • @bluejay5531
      @bluejay5531 5 місяців тому +11

      that is amazing...I have been struggling and falling in the holes Jordan spoke about for forever...too long...not giving up

    • @QuantExp
      @QuantExp 5 місяців тому

      @@mattk.9377 Son!

    • @joena.
      @joena. 5 місяців тому +7

      Thank you for sharing 🙏🏼

    • @chaoticprogress
      @chaoticprogress 5 місяців тому +8

      Great work!

  • @lorettamccaffrey4358
    @lorettamccaffrey4358 3 місяці тому +215

    My husband just died thursay. He collapsed in the kitchen, my son 29, was there, I was upstairs. We, they couldn't revive him! It's all so unreal and is harder than I could ever imagine. We are accepting all the kindness and help from all those who are reaching out to us. It's amazing who those people are and aren't doing that. I am so grateful to those showing us such love. We are just numb at this point. I'm so proud how my son is handling this. And his father would be so proud too.

    • @bobbybands6923
      @bobbybands6923 Місяць тому +14

      It doesn’t get easier. My brother, 4.5 years my senior, died at 25. I’m 31 now, tho I’m the guy who always has a smile and a laugh for someone, I often slip into the bathroom so I can burst into tears and then assure that I emerge with clear eyes and a bright attitude for my next patient at work (I’m in EMS) or for my coworker sitting in the kitchen, after sitting there staining at the floor doing nothing for several minutes, no one knows, no one cares after a while. You’ll be left to fight it alone, you and your son won’t even really go through it together, you’ll go through it alone, while together. It’s a sad truth, but hopefully me saying this bluntly will help nudge you in a direction that you can keep your eyes peeled for circumstances to take advantage of to yield an alternate or better outcome hopefully. The only person I could count on, the person to be there with me after our parents were gone and shit got tough, now I only get to look forward to facing that alone, which will be that much harder and that much more lonely. Sorry to rant, I’d assume losing someone you fell in love with and CHOSE to have a life with is equally as hard just in a slightly different way. Good luck, I mean that.

    • @taweehill
      @taweehill Місяць тому +11

      May God be with you and your loved ones

    • @annawilliams5181
      @annawilliams5181 Місяць тому +4

      🙏🕊

    • @lukedegraaf1186
      @lukedegraaf1186 Місяць тому +2

      Sounds hard but also sounds like you're sticking together and facing life/death. Keep at it, and all the best :)

    • @mariag-nq8zl
      @mariag-nq8zl Місяць тому +10

      I lost my husband last July, sadly to suicide at just 33 and at the time, I really didn't see a way forward. I just literally set the goal of staying alive for one more minute. The minutes turned to hours, then to days, weeks etc. It felt like crawling up a mountain but it DOES get better, I promise you that if you just find things to be grateful for, you will begin the healing journey.
      It's been 8 months (today in fact) and the healing quest has been hard, intense and overall, the worst experience of my life. BUT, it has not broken me, it blew my personality apart and built it back stronger. And to be honest, I'm truly grateful for that. It's taught me a lot, look for the lesson, that's not to sound harsh but for me, I'd built my whole identity around him and him not being here all of a sudden forced me to find out who I actually am. It's been eye opening.
      I truly wish you and your son well and please, just trust in the fact that it will get easier.

  • @gl3bears
    @gl3bears 3 місяці тому +229

    My husband (now passed) and I had rules and they were so much fun. The best was when in fight, Person A would get 2 mins to talk, then the other Person B would get to reply for one minute. Then reverse. We would use his wristwatch and take turns holding it. If Person B interrupted, person A would get two additional more minutes. ----It would turn into laughter after a few turns. And of course, always greet each other when you come home from work. Stop what ever you are doing and just give a quick kiss and hug. It was great!!

    • @juliaogara8794
      @juliaogara8794 2 місяці тому +6

      This is a great idea😍😀

    • @AILINX
      @AILINX 2 місяці тому +5

      Okay I think it depends on the severity of the fight.

    • @ktajax
      @ktajax 2 місяці тому +8

      Thank you for sharing. Sounds like you had a wonderful relationship and still do! I'm sorry for your loss.

    • @christinsproat7038
      @christinsproat7038 2 місяці тому +2

      Brilliant advice!

    • @adampindell
      @adampindell 2 місяці тому +2

      Solid advice, I think I'll take it!

  • @saritamora
    @saritamora 3 місяці тому +447

    Jordan Peterson became the proverbial father that I needed when I was a child. He also saved my life. ❤

    • @Daniel-ve3sc
      @Daniel-ve3sc 3 місяці тому +4

      Turn to our Creator, not man, for saving.

    • @privateperson2
      @privateperson2 3 місяці тому +11

      ​@@Daniel-ve3scTrue. However, I do think Jordan has saved countless lives. He's saved mine along with Tammy by strengthening my faith and resilience. I couldn't have survived the last 6 years without the armour of God 🙏

    • @chrisfleischman3371
      @chrisfleischman3371 3 місяці тому +16

      Yeah. Turn to God. But God likes to work through people. It edifies those who do His will on Earth.

    • @Daniel-ve3sc
      @Daniel-ve3sc 3 місяці тому +3

      @@chrisfleischman3371 100%

    • @gison8405
      @gison8405 3 місяці тому +3

      I feel that, sister...
      As a matter of fact, I've said that very thing regarding Peterson's work in my life!
      I am a Christ follower myself, and I do therefore recognize that any man with godly character is merely a reflection of the Divine Creator
      (my Big Daddy - the One who breathed me into being - the ONE who will never let me down!)
      I hope that all find eternal refuge in the shelter of His wings 💜
      (If there's one thing Peterson has greatly encouraged in me, it is to fulfill my dreams by speaking, and to use my story for the good of all 🙏)
      I will pass this test of time !

  • @jillstansell7241
    @jillstansell7241 5 місяців тому +379

    "Conflict delayed is conflict multiplied" ❤

    • @caitlin9781
      @caitlin9781 5 місяців тому +6

      My new fav quote!! So true

    • @Coco-og7zw
      @Coco-og7zw 2 місяці тому

      Facts!

    • @winterphilosophy3900
      @winterphilosophy3900 2 місяці тому +1

      He also said that you could negotiate a time to talk about it. ❤

  • @michaelae4341
    @michaelae4341 3 місяці тому +354

    Everytime i find i'm struggling in life, or that i can't seem to push forward or that i am alone even when with people, i come back to Jordan Peterson and it feels like someone totally understands and really cares. It always makes me feel emotional and so grateful that he is accessible to so many people. An incredible person with true empathy and compassion for humanity.

    • @oliverjamito9902
      @oliverjamito9902 3 місяці тому +1

      Indeed. My pop He does what He does! Without force but out of HIS OWN WILL. Here HE is in front! Love you my Heir without shame but with boldness!!! As my pop Peterson love his Child "i". As the child "i" loves my pop Peterson. As my AM( Father God of the Living) loves the little child "i". As the little child "i" loves HIS AM(Father God of the Living). " i" AM. Remember Thy I AM and thy conversations given just for thee!

    • @goblingimp195
      @goblingimp195 3 місяці тому +1

      His reach is incredible, I wouldn't be surprised if he became deified in decades time. I think his words are helpful.

    • @gemmaartner2780
      @gemmaartner2780 3 місяці тому +3

      Totally agree. Even as a woman, not exactly his target audience. When I feel like no-one else can help or wants to understand me, his words are exactly what I need.

    • @user-mz6rr7qk9p
      @user-mz6rr7qk9p 2 місяці тому

      Why does every u-tube comment always have to pine for attention and make it about them?

    • @docequis9796
      @docequis9796 2 місяці тому

      ​@@user-mz6rr7qk9pfatherlessness is the main cause. Failure to develop (psychologist Erickson describes the best) properly at certain stages... because of that psychological development failure it leads to issues that will manifest as challenges and disorders throughout life. God bless, stay safe and prepared.

  • @charlieparis1
    @charlieparis1 3 місяці тому +185

    “There’s no difference between attention and love.” Amazing insight.

    • @tomtazio
      @tomtazio 2 місяці тому +7

      I figured this same thing out when I was at university. As I remember, I'm sure it was an original thought. I have had many thoughts and revelations which really hit home and feel like they've touched the ground. Maybe I should start a youtube channel too! It's nice to know that someone else thinks the same. Attention is love. And that same notion fits in to the idea that everything is made out of love... because everything is nothing until our attention is pointed towards it. Or something like that!

    • @laquannashipp2798
      @laquannashipp2798 Місяць тому

      Yes amazing

    • @joshuarock4631
      @joshuarock4631 Місяць тому +1

      i mean they do go hand and hand but sometimes you can lose sight and not give much as much attention anymore, i doubt that means you dont love anymore in all cases, hes a sell out now though

    • @kayoss2306
      @kayoss2306 Місяць тому

      ​@@joshuarock4631 it doesn't matter how you feel, it matters what the person actually receives. If you love someone in your mind but that doesn't equate to any attention or care, the love may as well not exist. Especially as far as children are concerned. Actions speak much louder than words.

    • @joshuarock4631
      @joshuarock4631 Місяць тому

      @@kayoss2306 guess writing a card is love too ig , or never really hugging someone or showing physical touch, guess love can mean different things to different people, sadly this man sold out

  • @RobboYTQ
    @RobboYTQ 5 місяців тому +938

    "There's almost zero difference between being miserable and thinking about yourself." - this statement just changed my life forever. Thank you Jordan.

    • @fayyadseder4334
      @fayyadseder4334 5 місяців тому +12

      IDF: How to get red of dark thoughts (Palest 🍉🍉)?
      Doctor Jordan Peterson : Send them to hell
      In 45 days, 8250 children .

    • @mabaker
      @mabaker 5 місяців тому

      Peterson is a raging banshee with anger issues.

    • @thelawenforcerhd9654
      @thelawenforcerhd9654 5 місяців тому +36

      Maybe don't take the advice of the most miserable man alive when it comes to depression.

    • @jacobfreeman7427
      @jacobfreeman7427 5 місяців тому +15

      @@thelawenforcerhd9654if he is what happy looks like I don’t want it lol

    • @Alex-ju6hv
      @Alex-ju6hv 5 місяців тому +43

      @@fayyadseder4334how does it feel to casually spread misinformation on the internet? 🤓

  • @rls4072
    @rls4072 2 місяці тому +96

    The clapback towards this beautiful man has been unbelievable. He's a Treasure.

  • @niekuriot906
    @niekuriot906 3 місяці тому +149

    My best friend had a huge dilemma. He called me because he needed someone to listen and give him advice. I listened and asked the questions. I was thinking about what Jordan Peterson said, and it worked. I asked the right questions, he knew what to do and solved his problem!
    Steven, thank you for having Jordan Peterson on the podcast.
    Jordan, thank you for the great advice!

    • @user-mz6rr7qk9p
      @user-mz6rr7qk9p 2 місяці тому

      Why does every u-tube comment always have to pine for attention and make it about them?

    • @masnkorvface13
      @masnkorvface13 2 місяці тому

      because they are the ones commenting? idk@@user-mz6rr7qk9p

    • @chastasteffan6684
      @chastasteffan6684 2 місяці тому +3

      If you are truly working on self-improvement and making yourself a better person may I ask you how you could not take this personally and tried to be part of a group that shares in the same ideas

    • @TheHappyBachelor
      @TheHappyBachelor 8 днів тому

      @@user-mz6rr7qk9p I didn't read the comment to be about them. It sounds to me more like he was thankful that he had learned enough to competently help a friend that he cared about who asked for help. We should all be grateful to those who teach us lessons that better help us help those around us.

  • @lasse4416
    @lasse4416 2 місяці тому +67

    ”You have to start progressing where you can” so true ☺️
    This is why i love peterson, he says things everybody knows but noone actually thinks.

  • @cyberninjasworld
    @cyberninjasworld Місяць тому +8

    Thank you for not interrupting Dr. Peterson. He helps me a lot with severe depression

  • @rethabilenxumalo9742
    @rethabilenxumalo9742 Місяць тому +48

    "Stop lying, stop doing things you know to be wrong"😫❤️❤️❤️🙏🏽thank you JP

  • @voice2skull.
    @voice2skull. 3 місяці тому +71

    My life was pure hell. I lost my business, my house, my entire family.
    And then I saw J.Petersons video about cleaning your room & making your bed. Now, after I started dusting the corners of my bedposts, I found the job of my dreams and am making 6 figures again! Thank you Jordan for reminding me that its all about the little things in life which spark change, for me it was the removal / jenn o' cide of dust mites.

    • @theDavitos
      @theDavitos 2 місяці тому +6

      yeah i learned somewhere and it might have come from Jordan that if you have chaos around you than you have chaos in your head so if i feel sad or angry i do start cleaning around myself and i feel much better and i hate cleaning haha , i also start feeling annoyed if i see others people have trash or filthy area in their work or home so i either have to turn my head away from it or start cleaning for them as i would need to fix the problem or leave and you cant always leave.

    • @rodschmidt8952
      @rodschmidt8952 2 місяці тому +2

      what if there's a mess in someone's mind?

    • @thecorrectoification
      @thecorrectoification 2 місяці тому +3

      A messy sock drawer isn't really just a messy sock drawer.

    • @paulmilwee9940
      @paulmilwee9940 2 місяці тому +4

      That's why I keep my left socks in my left drawer & my right socks in my right drawer 😊

    • @laquannashipp2798
      @laquannashipp2798 Місяць тому +1

      I just found him I need to find that video

  • @johnnipcomedian
    @johnnipcomedian День тому +2

    "you'll feel like a fool.... Because you are!" Love this guy!!!

  • @TheBeautifulHairClub
    @TheBeautifulHairClub 5 місяців тому +382

    Addressing the idea that being sexually assaulted as an infant/child is the ultimate worst thing that could possibly happen to a person was helpful to hear since there is no one that I can talk to about it.
    That may be the best closure I could possibly have. Thank you Doctor ❤

    • @ingridgilbert4917
      @ingridgilbert4917 5 місяців тому +12

      Talk therapy can be incredibly helpful if you find the right person. I waited too long to try it, wish I had sooner.

    • @predajor
      @predajor 5 місяців тому +4

      It is up to You to want to talk about it, and force Yourself through the reparation, either that, or ask Yourself is it worth keeping that burden and constant inflict of thoughts to Yourself and the consequences of that.

    • @catcat9582
      @catcat9582 5 місяців тому +9

      Everyone is saying to talk about it but it's ok if you're also not ready because it's deeply destabilizing and most people need days of recovery from therapy Hang over and they don't have such trauma

    • @OpticPlay_
      @OpticPlay_ 5 місяців тому +10

      It was super interesting to hear this. For me I was so young that at the time I had no idea what my uncle was trying to do to me, it wasn’t until later on in life i remembered and I was just like wow, what a terrible person. I’m trying to learn to forgive and let the past go, but apart of me still wants to confront and tear into him about it, especially since he has children of his own now. But for the most part I’ve healed from it and am the happiest I’ve ever been after years of battling trauma and depression.

    • @LepantoLemonade
      @LepantoLemonade 5 місяців тому

      @@OpticPlay_ 🫂

  • @caitlynedwards4434
    @caitlynedwards4434 5 місяців тому +320

    As a trainee psychologist, the first half of the podcast is more useful than any lecture ive attended. Its truly inspiring to see a master of the craft break down the therapeutic process in leymans terms.
    Also, this man is truly selfless and is a beacon of understanding and clarity in this very complex existence. Thankyou Dr Peterson.❤

    • @kimb234
      @kimb234 5 місяців тому +11

      I so hope you have the courage to continue to revere and respect JP. I work in the field as well, and while it confuses me (as therapists, shouldn't we be open and inquisitive?) frankly, admitting you agree with JP seems to be a brave and heretical act!

    • @meowy4720
      @meowy4720 5 місяців тому

      "Thank you" is two separate words. You should know that if you actually have any advanced degree.

    • @meagiesmuse2334
      @meagiesmuse2334 5 місяців тому +3

      @@meowy4720 - it's also layman's, not leymans. It was probably not done on purpose. Spell check screws up a lot when posting on YT, so we need to check it.

    • @meowy4720
      @meowy4720 5 місяців тому

      @@meagiesmuse2334 There's not how autocorrect works. It fixes stupid spelling mistakes; it doesn't create them. Lots of (less than intelligent) people seem to think "thank you" is spelled as one word.

    • @meagiesmuse2334
      @meagiesmuse2334 5 місяців тому +6

      @@meowy4720 - I don't know what the issue is here, but in my case, spell check often changes my typos into totally different words than what I meant to type, so I must proof it. I am giving this person benefit of the doubt. Have a happy Thanksgiving.

  • @varshajugwanth2109
    @varshajugwanth2109 4 місяці тому +70

    A fantastic host. By allowing your guests the respect of the platform to speak more than you do....after all, you already know what you know....so you listen more than you speak. You have a fantastic skill as a host. Love your podcast.

    • @UGPVlogsLA
      @UGPVlogsLA 3 місяці тому +5

      I second that!💯

    • @im_octa
      @im_octa 2 місяці тому +3

      @@UGPVlogsLA I third that and second this

    • @whiteman2371
      @whiteman2371 2 місяці тому

      Will be great when he stops having fear mongering people and Vegans on!

    • @dianesmith9446
      @dianesmith9446 9 днів тому

      Dr Peterson listening and thinking about what you share on what life is about…your words, podcasts and lectures always make me feel like I should open a window and allow all the beautiful things inside. “UP” is what everyone needs to acknowledge as the best and most positive action we can ever have. You are so full of wisdom and compassion for helping me to be the best version of myself. You always help me find conviction and strength. Thanks for being an honest and amazing example of a person who wants others to be fulfilled and happy in-spite of the requirements of life !

  • @coreysebastian6649
    @coreysebastian6649 4 місяці тому +96

    Jordan Peterson never will understand his impact a year after me finding him and listening to all I can find and I'm no longer depressed I helped most of my family just using his encouragement my house is spotless I have future goals it was rough in the beginning but it's going so well now and I'm so appreciative of the free advice and realism and vulnerability.

    • @arlenefisher1164
      @arlenefisher1164 3 місяці тому +2

      Awesome!

    • @Traisas
      @Traisas 3 місяці тому +4

      I have also had an incredible turn around year, since I started Really Listening and paying attention to my own behaviour. Cheers!

  • @jojolpool
    @jojolpool 5 місяців тому +492

    I’m 53 year old woman - mum and I think he’s amazing - he’s helped me with life and trying to guide my teenage son in the strange world

    • @cantbendknee
      @cantbendknee 5 місяців тому +8

      How so?

    • @mariannepfly1906
      @mariannepfly1906 5 місяців тому +31

      I’m 39, woman, three small children, scientist. Been listening intently for 6-7 years and never tire of him (except climate change, I love him but he moves out of his area of expertise. So much wisdom and humility thanks jordan

    • @anthonyman8008
      @anthonyman8008 5 місяців тому

      He's a demon pushing catholicism and eugenic's vaccines

    • @alisonkirby4398
      @alisonkirby4398 5 місяців тому +22

      ​@@cantbendknee
      Really listen to what Jordan is saying.. I'm a 57 yr old female and mother of two grown up children and have two young grandchildren.
      Jordan has opened up my eyes to my many imperfections.. but also good points too

    • @vinceocratic
      @vinceocratic 5 місяців тому +1

      Not trying to be rude but did you alienate your kids from their dad?

  • @haliec496
    @haliec496 5 місяців тому +67

    I found Dr Peterson just after leaving a physically abusive relationship. I was broken beyond anything i could have ever imagined broken to be. He gave me hope and a flicker of light. After months i sat up in my bed and believed that i could try to help myself even if i wasnt worth it. He said try to be 1% better than you were yesterday and keep trying everyday after that. That was my mantra everyday. It worked for me.

    • @sona7973
      @sona7973 5 місяців тому +3

      The one who isn't worthy is your abuser.. I am glad you're taking back control & loving yourself!

    • @fayyadseder4334
      @fayyadseder4334 5 місяців тому +1

      IDF: How to get red of dark thoughts (Palest 🍉🍉)?
      Doctor Jordan Peterson : Send them to hell
      In 45 days, 8250 children .

    • @Lolipop59
      @Lolipop59 5 місяців тому

      ​@@user-od5fh3gn4dI don't believe you.

    • @Incogneet
      @Incogneet 5 місяців тому

      @@user-od5fh3gn4dwhat?? Who?? 😮

    • @MrBikkyLover
      @MrBikkyLover 5 місяців тому

      @@fayyadseder4334Hamas caused it so shut up

  • @Kris_-yq9xv
    @Kris_-yq9xv 3 місяці тому +45

    Art of communication. This is something we should all work on and improve. 🙂

  • @barbitelek5665
    @barbitelek5665 3 місяці тому +22

    “You may feel like a fool because you are.” 😂❤ oh man, I love Jordan!

  • @jillsauder8340
    @jillsauder8340 5 місяців тому +100

    30:59 When I heard, "[Children] will modify their behavior in any way imaginable to get attention. It's because there is no difference between attention and love, by the way. Like, there's no difference," I started crying. Attention = love, and attention is what I did not get from my parents. Now I see why that hurt so much. It made me feel unloved.

    • @racheltebyani8261
      @racheltebyani8261 2 місяці тому +2

      I see and understand . No attention here..m

    • @TheHappyBachelor
      @TheHappyBachelor 8 днів тому

      Yeah, I can relate. I ask myself sometimes how when I was a kid and went through some of that, how that has affected me through the years. If you ever have kids, just remember that and pay it forward 👍🏻

  • @traceinpaper8606
    @traceinpaper8606 5 місяців тому +79

    I've been a paraplegic and full-time wheelchair user for the past 35 years due to a car accident when I was 18 and am dealing with horrendous chronic pain. I'm a trained counsellor but these days it's getting harder and harder to see a why or a reason to keep going. I guess I'll keep trying🙏.

    • @sonant888
      @sonant888 5 місяців тому +11

      Hang in there. New technologies are coming and when it begins, it’ll be fast.

    • @margomeave9064
      @margomeave9064 5 місяців тому +10

      I can’t imagine the physical pain you’re dealing with today nor the thoughts that have made a home in your head after suffering the accident at the tender age of 18.
      I’m sure you have helped a great many of your clients.
      I think many of us feel like you do WITHOUT experiencing your hardship as the world has changed tremendously over the past several years - there is much that makes little sense and so little that makes any sense.
      Your guidance & empathy is needed at this period in time. I pray you continue to stay strong & not give up.
      Hang in there, my friend.

    • @TEETHclothing
      @TEETHclothing 5 місяців тому +7

      ❤ Wish you the best brother!

    • @AP-xe6vi
      @AP-xe6vi 5 місяців тому +7

      Keep going ❤️‍🩹

    • @axetrance
      @axetrance 5 місяців тому +5

      ❤ Stay strong! Respect for you!

  • @AdriianMoreira-iq3ih
    @AdriianMoreira-iq3ih 4 місяці тому +47

    Psychedelics saved me from years of uncontrollable depression, anxiety, and illicit pills addiction. Imagine carving heavy chains for over a decade and then all of a sudden that burden is gone. Believe it or not, in a couple of years they'll be all over for treatment of mental health related issues.

    • @halllauren8879
      @halllauren8879 4 місяці тому +3

      To be honest, mushrooms are one of the most amazing things on the planet and it is natural, they serve in many ways not only for mental related issues.

    • @AnteroKinnunen
      @AnteroKinnunen 4 місяці тому +1

      Does anyone know any good source to get them? I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels, would love to try them

    • @AdriianMoreira-iq3ih
      @AdriianMoreira-iq3ih 4 місяці тому +1

      Yes, Sporeville

    • @AnoukHendriks-fq2df
      @AnoukHendriks-fq2df 4 місяці тому +2

      Tripping is not bad but find a good mycologist who will inform you of the right things you need to know

    • @StoneLogan-dq5hr
      @StoneLogan-dq5hr 4 місяці тому +3

      Sporeville is pretty commendable and a very intelligent mycologist I'm glad to be part of his community

  • @davidbodeker6752
    @davidbodeker6752 4 місяці тому +8

    "The definition of humility is that you start progressing where you can start." JB Peterson

  • @cookie_dough_hangover
    @cookie_dough_hangover 5 місяців тому +96

    I am a 47 old mom and wife, Jordan Peterson helped me when I was at lowest point in my life. I am still struggling, but my life looks nothing NOTHING like it did few years ago. I have accomplished things that to others might seem as nothing, but for me they are huge. Thank you, Mr Peterson..

  • @deborahdaviesdd-artist1059
    @deborahdaviesdd-artist1059 5 місяців тому +143

    😂 As a recovering alcoholic who has worked with others the vacuum cleaner story made to laugh. I have literally been on the phone whilst someone made a cup of tea, but people get better and the progress and it has been my greatest joy. For some, life is so, so difficult most people would not believe a human could be so paralyzed. And then society punishes them further. I think what I’m saying is “be kind”. You have no idea what some people are struggling with, but also be encouraging. And yes, I’ve been there. Doing one tiny step at a time, or committing to not taking my life for the next five minutes and after that five minutes not doing it for another five minutes. The fact I even thought like that is so different to how I feel now. I am truly a different person.

    • @court8420
      @court8420 5 місяців тому +14

      Thank you for sharing. I'm so glad you had the ability to hold out 5 minutes at a time. No longer one day at a time huh. It can be rough out there /in here. God bless you my friend. I love you for this.

    • @kantraxoikol6914
      @kantraxoikol6914 5 місяців тому +2

      and all that mush means nothing. "be kind" even to people who don't deserve kindness....nope. not doing that.

    • @naphatsiri8
      @naphatsiri8 5 місяців тому +1

      👍🥰

    • @catatonicable
      @catatonicable 5 місяців тому +1

      Sincere and lovely, I just cant stop...too broken.

    • @lisagrace6471
      @lisagrace6471 5 місяців тому +5

      100% . Thanks for voicing this and for who you are. God bless you!

  • @Freer-fd7dd
    @Freer-fd7dd 2 місяці тому +13

    I cannot praise Jordan enough. I couldn’t get out of bed this morning, and I just needed to hear that, to make the task small enough to do. I keep on getting smaller and slower, as I get crushed and depressed, but even so, if I can do something even if minute, I feel better.

  • @jasonhinsen
    @jasonhinsen 2 місяці тому +3

    At the end, you never revealed how his last conversation's honesty changed your life so profoundly. Can you fill us in please?

  • @annaw7437
    @annaw7437 5 місяців тому +350

    His flow of thoughts is incredible!! So easy to follow even through the most complicated of concepts! Thank you for having him back!!

    • @rgw5991
      @rgw5991 5 місяців тому

      he doesnt realise that women ar evil so he is a useless liar and no good.

    • @Edisius95
      @Edisius95 4 місяці тому +6

      Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication, they say. The ability to display such efficiency with such little effort that is easy to understand for the average person, genius. Plain and simple.

    • @user-yf5je1dn1q
      @user-yf5je1dn1q 3 місяці тому

      How is the flow of thought of a man who encourages GENOCIDE "incredible"

    • @user-yf5je1dn1q
      @user-yf5je1dn1q 3 місяці тому

      How is the flow of thought of someone who encourages genocide against innocent people "incredible"

    • @bonitahamilton5762
      @bonitahamilton5762 Місяць тому

      ​@@user-yf5je1dn1qWhat do you mean? Pls explains!

  • @SuperDflower
    @SuperDflower 5 місяців тому +105

    Also, I wanted to mention that I was so riveted and moved by his description of what women need when they are dealing with the problem. Man, he hits the nail on the head there. I can’t speak for anyone else, but I can say for myself it’s really a matter of needing somebody who’s willing to traverse all the scary places with me so I’m not so alone.

    • @agape843
      @agape843 5 місяців тому +3

      I recognise this is one podcast I’ll need to refer back to again and again
      Good,solid,meaty advice that would change anybody’s life!

    • @CC-xn5xi
      @CC-xn5xi 5 місяців тому

      Please summarize. What do women need?

    • @SuperDflower
      @SuperDflower 5 місяців тому +6

      Well, I certainly can’t speak for all women, but I can’t say that I think in general women need to feel really listened to, really seen, and safe.

    • @tracy419
      @tracy419 4 місяці тому +2

      ​@@SuperDfloweras a guy that wants to be a good listener to my wife, can you give me an idea of what that actually means in action?
      For example, when she's complaining about work and I see the same issues brought up time after time, if I'm not to offer solutions, what does simply listening look like to you?
      I get that at the most basic, I'm actually supposed to be paying attention, but past that what is it?
      Am I supposed to simply sit there and nod along? Is it a conversation? Am I supposed to ask questions?
      As a guy you see the advice that women just want someone to listen, and I don't doubt that, but I never actually hear what that's supposed to look like in the real world.
      Any advice is appreciated.

    • @SuperDflower
      @SuperDflower 4 місяці тому +12

      @@tracy419 well hello there, I’m very flattered that you would ask me these questions. But beyond that, I really like that you want to be a better listener. I also understand that if she is bringing up the same problems over and over again, that can be very frustrating. Well, I certainly don’t have, any answers to your specific situation this is not my area of expertise. But I have read a book that I really liked called non-defensive communication that was really helpful for figuring out what kind of questions to ask. Sometimes people need to think about things from a different angle in order to be able to find solutions that they haven’t been able to find prior. I would say, though, however, that there’s only so much that you should have to be responsible for if there are patterns that are repeating. Perhaps she would benefit from having a good therapist. But I recommend that you check out that book. It’s called, taking a whore out of our words. It might be a good place to start. Also, this is just my opinion, I don’t think there’s any problem with you being authentic about your feelings in relation to what it is that she’s sharing. So I don’t think that it’s wrong for you to share how you’re feeling as well. If the circumstance that she’s coming to you with, makes you feel stuck, I don’t think there’s any problem with saying, “I really wanna hear what you’re saying, and I understand how challenging it is for you, but I find myself feeling a bit stuck because it seems as if there’s some repetition of this dynamic.” My two cents. I don’t even know if it’s worth two cents. Once again, though, I really want to honor you for wanting to be a better partner. Lucky woman.

  • @SowmiyaM-np5fh
    @SowmiyaM-np5fh 3 місяці тому +9

    The part on how to listen brought me to tears. If only, we could show grace and hold a calm space for people we claim to love when they are struggling to articulate, we would all be less lonely, even if its brief. The gift to be heard.

  • @danskdna8550
    @danskdna8550 2 місяці тому +4

    Fast, sharp minded human who has helped countless of us see problems in an easy way. I could listen to him for hours.

  • @dr.sarahazel5634
    @dr.sarahazel5634 5 місяців тому +93

    Speaking both personally and professionally, after three decades of clinical family practice I can celebrate Jordan's wisdom and compassion and skill. We have never needed these insights more than now. Your interviews in these Podcasts are a real gift to the world. Thank you to both men and the teams that help make this happen.

    • @latinaalma1947
      @latinaalma1947 5 місяців тому +6

      I completely agree I loved the tears resetting us to "rewire" neurologically hypothesis...delightful idea. Sybil.Francos PhD clinical psychology professor ret.

  • @littleripper312
    @littleripper312 5 місяців тому +68

    I find that giving people responsibility that matters often sets them right. The ones who get bored or off track often have no responsibility and guidance.

    • @keymeter1917
      @keymeter1917 5 місяців тому +2

      @littleripper312
      I agree wholeheartedly with your first sentence. Bravo!

  • @pat4733
    @pat4733 Місяць тому +3

    Wow! There is absolutely no boring moment listening to Jordan Peterson. What a blessing

  • @pj42690
    @pj42690 17 годин тому

    Met a narcissistic wife, i ended up with two different court situations. Looking back in my life, I have been surrounded nobody but narcissists, I have been taken advantage of, I have been trauma bonded.
    Because of you, Dr Peterson, I started to take some load on my back.
    Because of you, I have started again to pray and going to church.
    Because of you, I realized I was in hell and was able to (or trying to) get out of it.
    Thank you so much for your existence and the work you do. You have no idea how much it helps a person to straighten out their lives or even to realize what he/she is going through.
    I can’t emphasize enough to thank you!
    You truly show the world the right path way to live rightfully.

  • @lemunbalm3731
    @lemunbalm3731 5 місяців тому +151

    I’ve listened to hundreds of hours of Jordan’s lectures and interviews, and I am thrilled to have heard this one, as he not only discussed new information, but also synthesized concepts in a way that facilitated a much deeper understanding.
    Thank you both so much for bringing this conversation to the world!

    • @beedebawng2556
      @beedebawng2556 5 місяців тому

      If only he were transparent about being a Zionist puppet.

    • @dauterive
      @dauterive 5 місяців тому +5

      Prime Peterson

    • @lefajoseph3752
      @lefajoseph3752 5 місяців тому +1

      ​@@dauterivevery trivial from my part but I think he's prime Peterson when he grows the legendary grey beard

    • @user-pf5xq3lq8i
      @user-pf5xq3lq8i 5 місяців тому

      Ewww

    • @cryptokingz615
      @cryptokingz615 5 місяців тому

      what was your favourite part?

  • @James-qz6vi
    @James-qz6vi 5 місяців тому +29

    I’m 65 now and at age 30 I left jail with $48. I make a deal with God that in thanks for letting me survive I would do His will. For 35 years I have been on a mission to find truth. I was always led back to the Bible. I wrote a book about my journey and published it in July. Jordan said the most important words to live by, “The truth is the adventure in life.” It has been my life and it made all the difference.

    • @julieelle1682
      @julieelle1682 5 місяців тому +2

      Amazing strengh and character to find your path, much respect

    • @nicolecarnevale3226
      @nicolecarnevale3226 5 місяців тому

      James,
      I’ve never read the book but do you have a favorite meaningful passage to share with us?
      I’m not religious but I’m open to learning.

    • @James-qz6vi
      @James-qz6vi 5 місяців тому

      @@nicolecarnevale3226 I have a degree in Economics and a MBA in quantitative mathematics and after leaving jail started numerous successful businesses and ended up managing Capital Markets at a large bank. The 20 people I managed asked me how to become rich so I told them how to become successful and it turned into a book. I reveal the greatest secret to success. It’s not a religious book however much of my thinking comes from Biblical Truth and God’s wisdom. My mission was to find truth and was always led back to Bible. If you live by truth you will have the world on your side. As Jordan said, “The truth is the adventure in life. Truth will work for you today, tomorrow, and the rest of your life.”

    • @susanbeasley723
      @susanbeasley723 4 місяці тому

      How do you find truth in these crazy times?

    • @James-qz6vi
      @James-qz6vi 4 місяці тому +1

      @@susanbeasley723 Study the Bible, join a study group, read the humanities, know your role and why God created you. Everyone has a mission in life. That’s a good place to start. The world will be saved by love and beauty said Fyodor Dostoevsky.

  • @beaualexander4608
    @beaualexander4608 Місяць тому +85

    Does anyone else wish Jordan Peterson was their dad?

  • @SomeThing-ud2nm
    @SomeThing-ud2nm 2 дні тому

    Peterson is the Internet dad to an entire fatherless generation. #grateful🙏

  • @happyrebbel8737
    @happyrebbel8737 5 місяців тому +43

    The day I was made aware of Dr Petersons existence was the 1st day of my new, improved life. I am still working on myself and always will but I will be forever grateful to him for showing me a way out from darkness and into the light. I took small steps just as he tells us to do, I cleaned my room, stood up straight, looked after myself like I look after others, and for the 1st time in my life I no longer feel like a victim! Even though he aims his advice at men his words and guidance helped me heal from the pain of fatherless childhood and crippling "duddy issues" and I am a better woman, better daughter, better sister, better human! For ever grateful! Thank you ❤

    • @jac3271
      @jac3271 6 днів тому

      No,!he’s speaking to people: men and women!

  • @rickthomas422
    @rickthomas422 5 місяців тому +96

    I have an amazing marriage. My parents were married 4-5 times each and so I just did everything they didn't do, and didn't do the things they did. It 100% equals the advice he gave here and it's the advice I've been giving other men for years.

    • @Torpax_
      @Torpax_ 5 місяців тому +7

      Lol, same. Learned moreso from their mistakes (I keep learning about more of their mistakes even as an adult😅)

    • @mendaciousreality8459
      @mendaciousreality8459 5 місяців тому +2

      Yeaah yeh it isn’t all about you pal

    • @rickthomas422
      @rickthomas422 5 місяців тому

      Nah. It's most certainly about all of us. I was just trying to give a testimony that his advice is spot on. @@mendaciousreality8459

    • @LepantoLemonade
      @LepantoLemonade 5 місяців тому +1

      💯

    • @pcharm3711
      @pcharm3711 4 місяці тому

      What are the top 5 things to do and 5 things not to??

  • @kimberlyshaver5015
    @kimberlyshaver5015 3 місяці тому +17

    That was so enlightening. I cried, I learned so much about myself 😢

  • @MarronChaplin
    @MarronChaplin 4 місяці тому +6

    1) Jordan (one of my favorite thinkers, major fan, no hate) talking, uninterrupted, at length, about the importance of listening 😂 2) I’m going to need to listen to this whole thing at least twice.

  • @MusclyBoi777
    @MusclyBoi777 5 місяців тому +16

    My grandpa had to learn how to walk 3 times in his life.
    1. when he was a baby
    2. After having a bad case of Pneumonia (He was born in 1923)
    He talked about having to sit between two trees that were grown up close together just to use the bathroom because he needed them to get back up because he couldn't do it on his own.
    3. When he had infection in his body that was on his brain as well. He had a dixie cup (One of those cups you see at water coolers) of infection they took off of his brain.
    Compete with yourself folks. There is no reason to look at others who you perceive to be far ahead and cause despair in your life. This is something I wish I would have taken to heart a long time ago and I'm still working on and it's helped me a great deal to get rid of dark thoughts.

  • @alicebenard5713
    @alicebenard5713 5 місяців тому +153

    Managing money is different from accumulating wealth, and the lack of investment education in schools may explain why people struggle to maintain their financial gains. The examples you provided are relevant, and I personally benefited from the market crisis, as I embrace challenging times while others tend to avoid them. Well, at least my advisor does too, jokingly.

    • @blessingpaul5484
      @blessingpaul5484 5 місяців тому +1

      Investors should exercise caution with their exposure and exercise caution when considering new investments, particularly during periods of inflation. It is advisable to seek guidance from a professional or trusted advisor in order to navigate this recession and achieve potential high yields.

    • @SophiaBint-wj8wn
      @SophiaBint-wj8wn 5 місяців тому

      This is superb! Information, as a noob it gets quite difficult to handle all of this and staying informed is a major cause, how do you go about this are you a pro investor?

    • @alicebenard5713
      @alicebenard5713 5 місяців тому

      Through closely monitoring the performance of my portfolio, I have witnessed a remarkable growth of $483k in just the past two quarters. This experience has shed light on why experienced traders are able to generate substantial returns even in lesser-known markets. It is safe to say that this bold decision has been one of the most impactful choices I have made recently.

    • @user-cr8nd1sy8e
      @user-cr8nd1sy8e 5 місяців тому

      Wow, that’s stirring! Do you mind connecting me to your advisor please. I desperately need one to diversified my portfolio.

    • @RyanContreras72
      @RyanContreras72 5 місяців тому

      I’ve actually been looking into advisors lately, the news I’ve been seeing in the market hasn’t been so encouraging. who’s the person guiding you?

  • @elizabeathgniatczyk445
    @elizabeathgniatczyk445 6 днів тому +1

    The neurological pain is coming from the love that you have inside, it hurts tremendously, because of today’s social ignorance and you are sharing the truth of the today world’s life modern immortality. God is good !❤ Love and Peace ✌️

  • @younghokim1994
    @younghokim1994 8 днів тому +1

    Listening to this interview during one of the darkest points in my life, hearing Dr. Peterson's voice at this point in time make me feel relieved and at peace.

  • @theimmoralcookie6344
    @theimmoralcookie6344 5 місяців тому +81

    I love the refresher of Dr. Peterson's older more original content. I don't quite care for all the politics and politically related topics he covers now, but philosophy and psychology is my bread and butter.

    • @beewest5704
      @beewest5704 5 місяців тому +3

      Wishe he realized that. But that where the gift is these days.

    • @AM_o2000
      @AM_o2000 5 місяців тому +1

      Yes, his other material is banal. The self-help stuff is useful, though.

    • @HowDidIGet3700Subs
      @HowDidIGet3700Subs 5 місяців тому

      you mean steak & tallow?

    • @The3xmama
      @The3xmama 5 місяців тому

      🙏🏽 same! Interesting to see I’m not the only one.

    • @samar7767
      @samar7767 4 місяці тому

      I was thinking the same , thanks god im not alone

  • @BeRightBack131
    @BeRightBack131 День тому

    I have never cried for over an hour and 30 minutes while watching a video about self help. I think I do indeed have one or several of those bottomless black pits, with lots of betrayals all along the way. But you know what? JP has helped validate so many things I've thought and believed in my 62 years. Thank you! This video has been added to my favorites, and I hope to come back time and again until I can get some of those holes filled in.

  • @alexbonito3719
    @alexbonito3719 3 години тому

    Jordan just described at the beggining of the talk the perfect divine creation he is. Thanks God for this person sharing his gifts.

  • @luismunoz995
    @luismunoz995 5 місяців тому +29

    What a delightful use of my time. Listening to this two unique, smart and grounded men having this conversation is one of the best ways to invest my time

  • @tahirisaid2693
    @tahirisaid2693 5 місяців тому +149

    Building wealth involves developing good habits like regularly putting money away in intervals for solid investments. Instead of trying to predict and prognosticate the stability of the market and precisely when the change is going to happen, a better strategy is simply having a portfolio that’s well prepared for any eventually, that’s how some folks' been averaging 150K every 7week these past 4months according to Bloomberg.

    • @georgestone0123
      @georgestone0123 5 місяців тому

      The professionals presently control the market since they not only have the essential business strategy but also have access to inside information that the general public is not aware of..

    • @chriswalter92
      @chriswalter92 5 місяців тому

      Glad to have stumbled on this comment, Please who is the consultant that assist you?`

    • @chriswalter92
      @chriswalter92 5 місяців тому

      thanks you for sharing . It was easy to find her on internet, seems very proficient and flexible. I booked a call session with her.

  • @dariadobrynina3674
    @dariadobrynina3674 3 місяці тому +17

    time flew so fast while listening to you.

    • @couragechick
      @couragechick 3 місяці тому

      I love this!! Blessings to you on your journey! 🩷

  • @Nickol110
    @Nickol110 4 місяці тому +12

    This felt like a therapy session on a whole nother level. So wise and well said👏🏼

  • @stevecollman2435
    @stevecollman2435 5 місяців тому +99

    Loved trying to absorb some of Jordan’s wisdom but also seeing SB listening so intently. One of the key aspects that makes this podcast great.

    • @surferdude4487
      @surferdude4487 4 місяці тому +5

      It is a fact that my first marriage ended because my wife was a great listener and I was not. She wanted my support and understanding, not my solutions. By the time I figured that out, it was already too late.

  • @tanjapavlovic5624
    @tanjapavlovic5624 5 місяців тому +31

    About listening - spot on! If you don't listen to your spouse on a daily basis, you will listen in divorce court. Very well said! People want/need to be heard.

    • @michaelohara7454
      @michaelohara7454 4 місяці тому

      My wife never said a word just left 40 years together.. abusive childhood alcoholic mother if she can’t communicate, she Musta got screamed at when she opened her mouth is a little girl she never complained repressed all emotions…. Felt not loved insecure

  • @BABS644
    @BABS644 11 годин тому

    You are a genius Jordan. Thank you for saying all this. I needed this so fucking bad. Getting out of the worst toxic relationship. My ex cheated on me w her therapist while I left the state to visit my little brother while he was suicidal and got placed in an inpatient care center for 2 days. I walked around the center and prayed for him the whole time. Came back to my ex and she lied to me for 1+ yrs about cheating until I saw evidence and called her out. She punched me cops got called and they took me to jail. I didn't touch her/never touched a woman except to love or help. I called her out and spoke the truth and didn't back down she couldn't handle it. I got probation for 2 years and domestic violence classes. Truly traumatizing and beyond hurtful. Barely made it out if it. Thank you Jordan. This is so much more helpful than anything I've heard in months. 🙏❤✝

  • @Punkrock.Chrysalis
    @Punkrock.Chrysalis 5 місяців тому +40

    44:58 you broke my heart with this one jordan. Broke me right in half. I revealed my snakes and he ran for the hills, even though I knew about the snakes he didn’t reveal and they were far bigger and more poisonous than mine. I wonder if I will ever find someone who won’t run and worse if I do will I be able to put my guard down? I pray everyday I will. Thanks guys this was amazing.

    • @zarbins
      @zarbins 5 місяців тому +4

      You'll know the one that doesn't run is a keeper. I'm looking for the same :) Good luck to you on your journey and do your best to temper those snakes in the meantime!

    • @lindamoore1108
      @lindamoore1108 2 місяці тому

      In ref to having a partner that doesn't "run for the hills " when you reveal your snakes:" sometimes we hope that the perfect partner will live us despite all our flaws... but we reveal the too early in the relationship because we're afraid to go too far in with them. The fact is, they have snakes themselvea.. a relationship of trust must be built first, so as those snakes are released a little at a time the relationship can weather it, and as more trust is built over time , the relationship strengthens. It can't be one-sided. That is fear.and one sided selfishness.

  • @octoberdawn1087
    @octoberdawn1087 5 місяців тому +101

    That's exactly what happened to me. I was in an abusive relationship for 10 years and I also had abusive parents that would never admit they were abusive. I got to the point where I was isolated in my room. I was terrified to go to the store or go to the mailbox or do anything anymore.
    After I left I realized all of my anxiety attacks actually stemmed from him. My stomach ulcers... High sentitivity to noise... Chronic pain worse than what I should have with the disorder I have....everything got better In that area. I do still struggle when I hear sudden noises where I'm living now. And I struggle cleaning up because anytime I did, he would rage me. He knew I loved a clean home and I wanted to take care of our home and for some reason it infuriated him.. I just started making my bed every day again. I've been gone seven months and it's taken me this long to start making my bed every day. I don't sleep in the same bed every night. I move around in this place because it's not mine. But I still make the bed every day.

    • @SummerLuvinAlai
      @SummerLuvinAlai 5 місяців тому +25

      Keep going, keep making the bed. It will get better. Be proud of yourself, not everyone has the courage to leave.

    • @apskis
      @apskis 5 місяців тому +6

      I started changing my entire life by starting to make my bed every day. it took a long time for it to become second nature, but it really is the start of big changes.

    • @Alice-pk9yc
      @Alice-pk9yc 4 місяці тому +6

      Can totally relate! Celebrate every win and please know the abusive that happened to you was not your fault xx

    • @brisingr9115
      @brisingr9115 4 місяці тому +4

      More and more power to you, friend. ❤

    • @kantraxoikol6914
      @kantraxoikol6914 3 місяці тому

      it's funny how women will rather take 10 years of abuse rather than actually put their own lives in order. they'd rather have that abuse as long as the "husband" brings that paycheck home...so who's really the abuser here? the wife taking advantage of the male for 10 years, rather than growing a pair and just leaving before the "abuse" starts. i have no sympathy for any woman that would deal with that for a DECADE and then blame the husband for it instead of their own insecurity

  • @oliviapos3397
    @oliviapos3397 3 місяці тому +7

    The opening story from a listener Steve mentions sent goosebumps down my spine. Even if these talks only help one soul. It’s reason enough. Thank you Steven for devoting so much of your time to bringing this knowledge from these extraordinary thinkers to the public. Bless you ❤

  • @CarlosAugS
    @CarlosAugS 16 днів тому +1

    God bless this man... thanks for this awesome interview... much success to you, CEO

  • @mrsbluesky9750
    @mrsbluesky9750 5 місяців тому +40

    I’ve been working with children with special needs for 30 years and one of the most important things I can do for them is to offer them opportunities to succeed. This may mean reducing work into ‘bite sized’ chunks so that the task becomes achievable. The confidence they get from this encourages them to push themselves further. Jordan Peterson is a very wise, kind and honest man.

  • @divinebunch8645
    @divinebunch8645 16 днів тому +1

    Nearly every episode I watch, I have pages of notes. THIS is the one I think everyone should watch. I really needed this tonight, thank you.

  • @AnaliliB
    @AnaliliB 11 днів тому +2

    Thank you, JBP!

  • @withwilk7473
    @withwilk7473 5 місяців тому +43

    "You start progressing where you can start" is such a powerful message. There is hope! I personally have had the worst 2 years of my life, two herniated discs, unable to walk at times, chronic pain and difficulties keeping a job and a roof over my head. But little by little I have worked on myself, my physical health, my weight, my mental strength, small little steps towards greatness. In some ways my injury has ignited something in my, I didn't know I had. I am actually a completely different person from 2 years ago to now. Thank you Jordan for being a light, I know I've needed it desperately at times.

  • @FlyingJustToFall
    @FlyingJustToFall 5 місяців тому +30

    This man a bloody mastermind. So much sense, knowledge, insight, truth and much more.
    A man to who will go down in history as one of the great, together with names like Jung, Nietzsche etc.

    • @AM_o2000
      @AM_o2000 5 місяців тому +3

      You're kidding, right? Jung and Nietzsche came up with original insights. Peterson just packages existing knowledge and insight for the mass market.

    • @bobbobbins4877
      @bobbobbins4877 5 місяців тому +10

      ​@@AM_o2000 , you shouldn't diminish the ability to take complex ideas and make them accessible to a wider audience. It's a very underrated skill.

    • @AM_o2000
      @AM_o2000 5 місяців тому +2

      @@bobbobbins4877 A very underrated skill indeed, but the OP's point was that Peterson should go down in history as a canonical thinker.

    • @LepantoLemonade
      @LepantoLemonade 5 місяців тому

      @@AM_o2000 perhaps a Hilaire Belloc of our Times ... If he continues going up; G.K. Chesterton 😉

    • @AM_o2000
      @AM_o2000 5 місяців тому +1

      @@LepantoLemonade All he's written are some self-help books containing superficial, speciously argued theology and philosophy. It'll take more than that to become a canonical writer.

  • @lauraprietomunoz9691
    @lauraprietomunoz9691 5 місяців тому +7

    I worked for researchers all my life and yes, talking to them is the most interesting thing. The quality that I admire the most about my friends is that they are all intelligent in the sense they have something to teach me. I really love to listen to them :)Dr. Jordan Peterson, thanks a lot for this video.

  • @teresalewis4374
    @teresalewis4374 22 дні тому +1

    just love that first line.. wish I had a dad like you.. Love and more love

  • @Eltonscruggs
    @Eltonscruggs 5 місяців тому +100

    Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

    • @josephregland
      @josephregland 5 місяців тому +2

      its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldn't just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring her back

    • @Eltonscruggs
      @Eltonscruggs 5 місяців тому

      Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counsellor, and how do i reach her?

    • @josephregland
      @josephregland 5 місяців тому

      Her name is *Shelly renee white* , and she is a great spiritual counsellor who can bring back your ex.

    • @Eltonscruggs
      @Eltonscruggs 5 місяців тому

      Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.

    • @kingsway731
      @kingsway731 4 місяці тому +4

      What ever you do, don't fall victim to scam bots

  • @cmk1626
    @cmk1626 5 місяців тому +75

    This episode took me like 4 hours to get through because of all the stopping and thinking and note taking. I have to say that I feel this is one of the most important videos I've watched to date. Thanks so much to you both!

    • @Forcomputerclass2
      @Forcomputerclass2 5 місяців тому +1

      Can you share your notes? Also happy Thanksgiving!

    • @accadia1983
      @accadia1983 5 місяців тому

      ​@@Forcomputerclass2
      What's the problem? Neither of us knows, we need to find it.
      So better get listening! Maybe this, maybe that ... can even go circular!
      Freud's free association ... everything relates around the main theme. Can you see it?
      There is no difference between attention and love.
      What's the solution? Start negotiating.
      What's the strategy? Start with smallest step possible, it will accumulate.
      What's blocking you: pain, or humiliation, or painful humiliation?
      ***
      Tears .. crying.. What was known before is not sufficient, our brains breakdown to start again. Breaking out of coccon.
      ***
      Admitting I am upset...
      Here are the things I am upset about....
      Here are the focal things
      Again, Figure out the problem
      Maybe I am the problem! (bad parent)
      ***
      Coflict delayed is conflict multiplied
      If I have a problem woth someone: Note it. Get it on the table. Fight it through. Fix it. Move on.
      ***
      Got a problem? It must have layers (reference to Dante's inferno)
      (Also, when going to a boss, also bring a solution.)
      Ask partner, what do you think the solution could be?
      Let me try saying that as first lesson
      ***
      Betrayal is a blocker of trust. No trust - no love.
      Lies lead to hell.
      Truth will have value today, and in the future. Truth remains.
      ***
      Atrocities. Aushwitz.
      > There is no descent place to stand in massacre.
      Sometimes there is no way out but (white) lie.
      BUt then you have to look back upstream.
      Go back, find the mistake.
      Come back to wrong road, attone, confess, repent, and specify the right road.
      ***
      self-consciousness and negative emotions are linked together.
      focusing on yourself brings misery.
      it is not about fulfilling needs right now no matter the cost (capitalism).
      ***
      Take on responsibility. Stop lying: do not oppose reality.
      ***
      And of course, clean your room ;)

    • @cmk1626
      @cmk1626 5 місяців тому +1

      @@Forcomputerclass2 Happy Thanksgiving.! Sorry, my notes are personal thoughts pertaining to my own personal life situations. This video just made me think about a lot of ways to perceive the situations newly or differently. They are not notes on the episode per se. Take care 🙂 ❤

    • @shubhvachher4833
      @shubhvachher4833 5 місяців тому

      We'd still love to read them in a reddist post you "found"@@cmk1626

    • @agape843
      @agape843 5 місяців тому +1

      This is DEFINITELY one I’ll be listening to again.
      Really,solid,advice.

  • @filo1864
    @filo1864 3 місяці тому +20

    I think this might be my fave episode yet. I’m a bit of a Jordan Peterson convert- 1. Because I was very guilty of not listening to anyone who didn’t share the same views as me politically at one point- so glad that changed in me - look at the sort of stuff I was missing out on and 2. Before I wrote him off due to political difference I found some of his stuff hard to follow- this podcast was so straight forward and absolute gold ❤ thanks 🙏

    • @RealStonedApe
      @RealStonedApe 3 місяці тому +1

      Jordan Peterson is a very complicated character. It's taken me a long time to begin to figure out what's going on with him. And something I've always found to be very true in life Is that when I can never understand what a person is saying, and it's so heavily layered in all this academic, elitist sounding language that more often than not it is BS when you parse through it all. And that's where the problem really lies here, to go through everything he's saying and break it all down and figure out what exactly it is that he's getting at, you just run into a trove of all of these fallacies that he's throwing around. Contradicting himself left and right, just trying desperately to be that smart guy in the room.
      Which is a real shame, it's a real shame that he was the one who had taken that role for men, so many lost directionless men. He gave them nothing, his message when you break it all down at the end of the day is just pull yourself up your bootstraps,clean your room, And then not much else. The entire period where you went through all those health problems, just taking barbiturates for a long time. The entire saga just screamed hypocritical. He was no example for men, he's just as messed up as the rest of em....
      I don't mean for this to demean your viewpoint or you as person in any way. Like I said, it took me a long time to come to this conclusion. If you ever have the time one of the best videos breaking this all down I've ever seen was by the UA-cam channel insert channel name here. He does it 3-hour deep dive on Jordan Peterson, which sounds absurd that sounds like an insane amount of time to spend on him. But it's necessary, that's the exact kind of breakdown that you need to really get to the bare bones what he's saying and the policies that are scattered all across it.
      My rule of thumb is that if they can't describe it in a way where a 10-year-old could understand it, I don't trust them. Or at least I'm going to be highly skeptical about their intentions or what they're putting out there because... The truth is always going to be simple, easily understood by all, and it will have unity and love at its forefront.
      With Jordan Peterson, especially his old videos, there's a lot of anger. There's a lot of hurt in him, and he wants to be the smartest man in the room so fucking bad. He just isn't, he's a try hard, and it sucks. He could have been a very time very helpful person in this world but he had nothing to offer these guys whatsoever, telling them to clean their room and kind of got it. People know how to get healthy people know how to get their shit together They just can't They're frozen down fucked up as this world is really fucked up right now and it's a lot to handle..
      Anyways, I'll find that link here in a second. Like I said, I hope none of this comes up me being angry at your or anything like that, that couldn't be further from it. Just sucks, I wish we had somebody better than him for men's rights, men aren't doing well and people spit in their face for it....
      Much love to you, I hope all is well in your life!

    • @lnyourface1
      @lnyourface1 3 місяці тому +2

      ​@@RealStonedApeyou have misinterpreted this man completely, no where is he trying to be the smartest man in the room, he tries to speak the truth forthrightly as much as possible.
      To be emotionally invested is not the same as being angry, try not to attribute your own emotional state unto others.
      A ten year old can in no way or form understand all that there is to understand, if we should set the bar so low then we can just stop all together in wanting to better ourselves.
      A good way to get out of your own way is stop assigning malice and your life will be significantly better very rapidly.

    • @RyanB571
      @RyanB571 3 місяці тому +1

      when people here Jordan B Peterson they think 'trans hater' 'woman hater' because of his political viewpoints so nobody left leaning is willing to listen to him. Jordan B Peterson is the one person who everyone needs to listen to at some point of their lives. His explanation and his advice on the first 5 years of having children the things he talks about was life changing. Ive taken alot on board of what he says.
      "I'm not happy with my job" why? How can you change that?
      "Im not happy with my life" why? How can you change that?
      "I'm not happy with my financial problems" Why? What went wrong? How can you change that?

    • @RealStonedApe
      @RealStonedApe 2 місяці тому

      @@lnyourface1 No u

    • @geegstar
      @geegstar Місяць тому +1

      ❤❤❤❤

  • @mib910
    @mib910 3 місяці тому +6

    I have been watching this for 26 mins and can't figure out why Peterson is a big bad dragon to some people. All he says and suggests makes 100% sense to me.
    Great information :)
    UPDATE: same feeling after 1.5hrs

    • @bbsoldiertwitch
      @bbsoldiertwitch Місяць тому

      He has some interesting political ideas that are more aligned with conservative ideas.
      In my experience, liberals have a hard time differentiating his politics from his psychological expertise.
      He got in hot waters mostly because of his ideas surrounding trangenderism, which catapulted him into the political-right. And (again, in my own experience) liberals throw out all wisdom he has because he says *some* things they don't like.
      I'm liberal-leaning but absolutely adore Peterson when he talks about the 'self'.

  • @elenah9015
    @elenah9015 5 місяців тому +44

    This is probably the best recent discussion with Jordan Peterson. Psychology IS his area of expertise and he shines in this podcast. I am grateful you were focusing exactly on that. I am learning so much from this 1.5 hr conversation.

  • @hazem8491
    @hazem8491 5 місяців тому +38

    I rarely comment on videos, but since this one is mostly about listening, I wanted to say that you Steve are such a great listener! You're one of the very tiny minority who let their guests talk, really listen to them, and then ask the right questions. That's the main reason I subscribed, so thank you, and please always stay like that! Do we have a deal?

    • @SummerLuvinAlai
      @SummerLuvinAlai 5 місяців тому +5

      He really is just a great listener!

  • @gear_zero6222
    @gear_zero6222 12 днів тому +2

    This episode is gold .

  • @ruthcalsada1440
    @ruthcalsada1440 Місяць тому +1

    I wish I’d found Jordan Peterson like 25 years ago. I suffered so long in a marriage that I ended up leaving because I was so desperate and depressed and didn’t know how to fix the problems as I’m a fixer not my husband, so I finally gave up and left.
    Now, I’m re-married to a wonderful husband in so many ways but the longer we are together the more different I find we are.
    I’m struggling to accomplish my goals as a homesteader because I have no help from him. He doesn’t want to homestead and doesn’t want me to I believe because he thinks it will make him look bad that he isn’t helping.
    He got very upset because he found out I was talking to my cousin about my homesteading ideas, not that he wouldn’t help me but she sees that anyways. So does everyone else in my family.
    Idk what to do.
    I don’t want to give up on the marriage or the goals. However, I fear one will have to be prioritized and the other will suffer greatly. 😢
    What do I do?

  • @HouseofHypnosis1
    @HouseofHypnosis1 5 місяців тому +112

    I love everything about this episode. The pace, the exchanges, the intellectual exploration with truth at the core. It stimulates my thinking as I grapple with some issues and the insights here are gold. Thank you 🙏

    • @nightmareTomek
      @nightmareTomek 3 місяці тому +1

      What do you think about when JPeterson took all accountability off of women and put it on men, at around 42:00? Nice, isn't it?

  • @builtasf
    @builtasf 5 місяців тому +32

    Thanks to Jordan and similar voices, I've since gained the courage to finally express myself to the women I find attractive. I found 2 ladies that actually like me and I have a date this Saturday! Thank you x1,000 Jordan! Your work saved my life!

  • @DanielSchultz01
    @DanielSchultz01 4 місяці тому +6

    I may not be in the major demographic listening to this (I am 55) but I simply love your podcast. I love you you bring on, the intellectually stimulating and informative conversations and what I learn. You are simply doing amazing. Thank you for what you bring to the world. Oh yes - I wish Whoop was in the USA!

  • @ThorMaximus
    @ThorMaximus 3 місяці тому +1

    Jordan Peterson was the first person to make me understand why making my bed was important
    5:07 - I climbed “Mt. Everest”
    I had built my physique so big & strong that I looked like I played in NFL.
    Got Bachelors Degree in Finance, 5 professional licenses including Series 7, won sales awards when I was in Banking, yet my life fell apart a little at a time.
    I was sloppy, unorganized, and I underachieved. My room was always a disaster, & my car was even worse.
    This man made me understand the importance of making my bed, and it trumped all my previous accomplishments.
    And it wasn’t making my bed, it was why I made it. I’ve become far more successful than I ever have before and I still listen to him to understand how I can go higher.

  • @refreshingtwist
    @refreshingtwist 5 місяців тому +27

    I love how this conversation so simply and unapologetically shows the differences between men and women in relationships. Everything Peterson says is so true.

  • @MariaRose360
    @MariaRose360 5 місяців тому +16

    This is my favourite JP interview! Just uninterrupted JP gems! I will be revisiting this episode for sure

  • @AndreaSchillingBohme
    @AndreaSchillingBohme 3 місяці тому +3

    "The truth is the adventure of life"! Wow, 1 hour and 30 minutes perfectly invested. I loved this interview. BRAVO Steven for sharing it with the world.

  • @ShelliFickes
    @ShelliFickes 3 місяці тому +3

    I've listened to a lot of Pattersons discussions, but this is absolutely 1 of his best !! Thank you !!

  • @Bamm09
    @Bamm09 5 місяців тому +33

    39:07 "I know that conflict delayed is conflict multiplied."
    Such a gem 💎

  • @adandeker
    @adandeker 5 місяців тому +78

    I've subscribed to so many podcasts. But this is the one I can't wait to get back to every week. Steven is unique. The way he conducts himself, the questions, the interviews, so unique. I'm a fan for life.

    • @DaSexeB_a_PartOme
      @DaSexeB_a_PartOme 5 місяців тому +3

      Perhaps it's his honesty and naive nature about so many subjects.

    • @evidence7343
      @evidence7343 5 місяців тому +1

      fake comments from Indian farm like the subs

  • @alexandrasavtchenko1962
    @alexandrasavtchenko1962 2 дні тому

    the comments about tears around 33-34min in are wonderfully enlightening. thank you!

  • @violettat7613
    @violettat7613 4 місяці тому +1

    Thank you for inviting Jordan Peterson again! This man is just full of knowledge, wisdom, humbleness…so happy I have a chance to listen to him and implement something into my own life.
    JP has a unique ability to explain complicated philosophical or existential topics with such simplicity and always answers directly to the question of the interviewer with such profoundness, not just tries to push the info he wants to push.

  • @cole_mcconnell
    @cole_mcconnell 5 місяців тому +50

    The knowledge and advice packed into this podcast is insanely valuable

  • @k.silberberg5137
    @k.silberberg5137 5 місяців тому +16

    I enjoy these conversations a lot. So calm and effortless. No noise inbetween... Like ads. High value content. Thank you so so much! 🍀❤️🦋🙏

  • @elisabethseaton6521
    @elisabethseaton6521 5 місяців тому +3

    77 and female, don't fit either of your demographics and extremely grateful for both of your bodies of work. I hope Peterson academy thrives. It is definitely a giant step towards the Good. I'm going to recommend it to my 21-year-old granddaughter who is enrolled at SFU. And I'll be checking it out myself. Dr Peterson has renewed my faith in humanity 🙏 Bless you both. ❤

  • @mehrangerami187
    @mehrangerami187 3 місяці тому +1

    Thank you for having Dr. Peterson on your show. Best. 01/11/2024

  • @carlovincetti4538
    @carlovincetti4538 5 місяців тому +21

    I haven't been able to clean my room. Addiction to gambling with virtual coins to get dopamine. It is very difficult to pull away from that.
    Jordan is right about that because the ease of life cleaning up that room brings to a person and a sense of accomplishment.
    With a dirty room, the accomplishments are few and far between:)

    • @theresamcgallicher
      @theresamcgallicher 5 місяців тому +3

      Have you tried 12 step meetings?

    • @user-uf9xw6bu6e
      @user-uf9xw6bu6e 5 місяців тому +3

      Gambling addiction is so misunderstood by so many. I hope you can find someone or a group of people who understand what you are going through.

  • @JackRoycroftSherry
    @JackRoycroftSherry 5 місяців тому +108

    As a podcaster whos starting out Steven is one of the few podcasters I hope to learn from. The way he gives his guests room to speak looks simple, but it's extremely hard to get right. Thank you.

    • @goodcatfilms4276
      @goodcatfilms4276 5 місяців тому +5

      So you want us to subscribe ?

    • @eldante4139
      @eldante4139 5 місяців тому +4

      He’s so good at it. And then asks the right questions at appropriate times to show that he has been listening and understands and hasn’t just been waiting for his moment to talk. Good luck to you with your future podcasts. What subject are you going to focus on?

    • @JackRoycroftSherry
      @JackRoycroftSherry 5 місяців тому +4

      @eldante4139 My podcasts are on cognitive science, economics and philopshy - thanks for asking !

    • @kp2011kp
      @kp2011kp 5 місяців тому +4

      All the best with your podcast Jack! Your idea sounds great :) @@JackRoycroftSherry

    • @ameliahamilton8637
      @ameliahamilton8637 5 місяців тому +5

      True. His questions are so specific to his deep and thorough ability to listen and let the guest guide the conversation. And his endless vulnerability is so beautiful.