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An avid follower of both yours and Jordans work. I drove my car into a tree at 110mph on 28th August. I had a 10% chance of living but after 2 weeks on life support in Southampton ICU, I escaped with my life. A vert different life that I had before. Your conversations with Jordan and many other inspirational people are a model for a better future. Thankyou from the bottom of my heart ❤
I am extremely disappointed that this platform is enabling someone that supports the genocidal acts in Gaza. There was lots of talk of theory, but he misses basic humanity, and was not questioned about it.
Im a 63 yr old woman with parkinsons. Clawing out of a trauma bond...manage to cook very simple food. Walk the old dog in small bits of time. No family...in the middle of nowhere. Reaching out to therapist and couple of friends. Listening to you and to anyone with wisdom. Keeping going in spite of depression and lineliness.
Keep moving forward and things will improve. I ,too, was trauma bonded and once I worked through it and made it to the other side, the anxiety I had went away. 15 years in a toxic marriage made me ill and depressed. Now I have two good physicians who know how to treat me, and I am back to working out regularly. Being honest with myself set me free. My ex will always be a liar.
I don't know who you are, or what you believe in, but I believe there is Hope and Joy to be found in your life even in the simplest details. Delight in the little things and seek God, he rewards those who seek Him. Life throws tragedy at us when we least expect, but there is assurance that whatever the storm there is hope and joy that can be found if we keep a grateful heart and we look to the beauty that can be found in life. One of the hardest lessons in my life was to learn how to do that amidst unfathomable and disconcerting circumstances. I took care of my father who had Alzheimer's for almost 20 years, until he passed away. It wasn't easy and my heart was broken, resentful and bitter through the early years because of the sense of injustice and the rage that caused. God taught me a valuable lesson through humility and gratefulness, and I was able to find joy and peace in each day, even in all the love I could lavish my father in as I served him until his time on this Earth was fulfilled. It was a privilege to love my father and take care of him. May this testimony encourage you and give you strength! I pray the Spirit of God, will minister to your soul, peace, healing and wisdom to find beauty and joy each day to have the strength and fortitude to overcome the daily obstacles, in Jesus's name! God bless you! Warm regards from Portugal!
you are never alone in this world, even when you feel that you are, there is always hope, always good people around the corner to meet. I wish you true happiness and peace
This year I’ve: • Finally opened up about getting sexually assaulted • lost 10KG so far in 4 weeks of my diet • had compliments on my changes • educated myself on psychology in order to strengthen my mind • started reading books (before that I had never opened one apart from school books that are required in English class) • met new people who are only interested in progression All of it is thanks to me and Dr Jordan Peterson. I’m still working on a lot that has broke me, but I’m getting better and mentally stronger thanks to him. I pray whoever sees this and makes it to the end finds the peace and healing you deserve.
My husband just died thursay. He collapsed in the kitchen, my son 29, was there, I was upstairs. We, they couldn't revive him! It's all so unreal and is harder than I could ever imagine. We are accepting all the kindness and help from all those who are reaching out to us. It's amazing who those people are and aren't doing that. I am so grateful to those showing us such love. We are just numb at this point. I'm so proud how my son is handling this. And his father would be so proud too.
It doesn’t get easier. My brother, 4.5 years my senior, died at 25. I’m 31 now, tho I’m the guy who always has a smile and a laugh for someone, I often slip into the bathroom so I can burst into tears and then assure that I emerge with clear eyes and a bright attitude for my next patient at work (I’m in EMS) or for my coworker sitting in the kitchen, after sitting there staining at the floor doing nothing for several minutes, no one knows, no one cares after a while. You’ll be left to fight it alone, you and your son won’t even really go through it together, you’ll go through it alone, while together. It’s a sad truth, but hopefully me saying this bluntly will help nudge you in a direction that you can keep your eyes peeled for circumstances to take advantage of to yield an alternate or better outcome hopefully. The only person I could count on, the person to be there with me after our parents were gone and shit got tough, now I only get to look forward to facing that alone, which will be that much harder and that much more lonely. Sorry to rant, I’d assume losing someone you fell in love with and CHOSE to have a life with is equally as hard just in a slightly different way. Good luck, I mean that.
I lost my husband last July, sadly to suicide at just 33 and at the time, I really didn't see a way forward. I just literally set the goal of staying alive for one more minute. The minutes turned to hours, then to days, weeks etc. It felt like crawling up a mountain but it DOES get better, I promise you that if you just find things to be grateful for, you will begin the healing journey. It's been 8 months (today in fact) and the healing quest has been hard, intense and overall, the worst experience of my life. BUT, it has not broken me, it blew my personality apart and built it back stronger. And to be honest, I'm truly grateful for that. It's taught me a lot, look for the lesson, that's not to sound harsh but for me, I'd built my whole identity around him and him not being here all of a sudden forced me to find out who I actually am. It's been eye opening. I truly wish you and your son well and please, just trust in the fact that it will get easier.
My husband (now passed) and I had rules and they were so much fun. The best was when in fight, Person A would get 2 mins to talk, then the other Person B would get to reply for one minute. Then reverse. We would use his wristwatch and take turns holding it. If Person B interrupted, person A would get two additional more minutes. ----It would turn into laughter after a few turns. And of course, always greet each other when you come home from work. Stop what ever you are doing and just give a quick kiss and hug. It was great!!
I feel that, sister... As a matter of fact, I've said that very thing regarding Peterson's work in my life! I am a Christ follower myself, and I do therefore recognize that any man with godly character is merely a reflection of the Divine Creator (my Big Daddy - the One who breathed me into being - the ONE who will never let me down!) I hope that all find eternal refuge in the shelter of His wings 💜 (If there's one thing Peterson has greatly encouraged in me, it is to fulfill my dreams by speaking, and to use my story for the good of all 🙏) I will pass this test of time !
Everytime i find i'm struggling in life, or that i can't seem to push forward or that i am alone even when with people, i come back to Jordan Peterson and it feels like someone totally understands and really cares. It always makes me feel emotional and so grateful that he is accessible to so many people. An incredible person with true empathy and compassion for humanity.
Indeed. My pop He does what He does! Without force but out of HIS OWN WILL. Here HE is in front! Love you my Heir without shame but with boldness!!! As my pop Peterson love his Child "i". As the child "i" loves my pop Peterson. As my AM( Father God of the Living) loves the little child "i". As the little child "i" loves HIS AM(Father God of the Living). " i" AM. Remember Thy I AM and thy conversations given just for thee!
Totally agree. Even as a woman, not exactly his target audience. When I feel like no-one else can help or wants to understand me, his words are exactly what I need.
@@RyanRobinson-u9hfatherlessness is the main cause. Failure to develop (psychologist Erickson describes the best) properly at certain stages... because of that psychological development failure it leads to issues that will manifest as challenges and disorders throughout life. God bless, stay safe and prepared.
My best friend had a huge dilemma. He called me because he needed someone to listen and give him advice. I listened and asked the questions. I was thinking about what Jordan Peterson said, and it worked. I asked the right questions, he knew what to do and solved his problem! Steven, thank you for having Jordan Peterson on the podcast. Jordan, thank you for the great advice!
If you are truly working on self-improvement and making yourself a better person may I ask you how you could not take this personally and tried to be part of a group that shares in the same ideas
@@RyanRobinson-u9h I didn't read the comment to be about them. It sounds to me more like he was thankful that he had learned enough to competently help a friend that he cared about who asked for help. We should all be grateful to those who teach us lessons that better help us help those around us.
I have always felt insecure and anxious due to constant scolding , criticisms and failures from when I was a child , so my life have been built on lies. I was also lazy and had no interest or drive to pursue anything in life. I have always been delusional and imaginative , thinking of myself as heroes in movies I have watched. I have always been ashamed of who I am and my family. I have always dealt with fapping and being desperate for women whom I lied to just to get their attention. After watching this video , I now have a step by step guide on how to improve my life and break the wall of lies and problems to reveal my authentic self. Thank you for hosting this interview , really appreciate it so much.
Veteran here. I'm not going to go into it but jordan gave me a new life after my divorce and service. Years lost but I'm able to work and I'm working on myself too.
As a trainee psychologist, the first half of the podcast is more useful than any lecture ive attended. Its truly inspiring to see a master of the craft break down the therapeutic process in leymans terms. Also, this man is truly selfless and is a beacon of understanding and clarity in this very complex existence. Thankyou Dr Peterson.❤
I so hope you have the courage to continue to revere and respect JP. I work in the field as well, and while it confuses me (as therapists, shouldn't we be open and inquisitive?) frankly, admitting you agree with JP seems to be a brave and heretical act!
@@meowy4720 - it's also layman's, not leymans. It was probably not done on purpose. Spell check screws up a lot when posting on YT, so we need to check it.
@@meagiesmuse2334 There's not how autocorrect works. It fixes stupid spelling mistakes; it doesn't create them. Lots of (less than intelligent) people seem to think "thank you" is spelled as one word.
@@meowy4720 - I don't know what the issue is here, but in my case, spell check often changes my typos into totally different words than what I meant to type, so I must proof it. I am giving this person benefit of the doubt. Have a happy Thanksgiving.
I’m a psychologist, have been for decades, started out early at 20, graduated very very early, and I specialised in drug and alcohol, eating disorders, mood disorders, etc etc, because I’D been through them, and without sounding conceited, I am very very good at my job, though I’m now a stay at home Mummah to a precious 20 year old son with severe special needs, and also due to my chronic and severe health issues, such as chronic pain and anxiety and depression and grief after loosing my best friend, my Mother, a year ago. Everyone should have to listen to and watch this episode (and ALL your episodes!!!) because this man is an absolute GEM!!! 💎💎💎💎💎 The struggle with depression and anxiety is all too real, but damn, he’s so right. Zero difference between being miserable and thinking about yourself. That’s just scary. I’ve always thought myself a selfless person, but putting everyone else’s wants and needs ahead of my own, without even knowing what they are, ties in so much with this. It’s a shift of focus on yourself to something that gives you joy.
You are an inspiration. Women like you are actual icons. Not pseudo-feminists and stupid actresses/singers etc. May God bless you and your family with peace, happiness and ease. This moderate muslim will be praying for you. Thank you for sharing your story
I figured this same thing out when I was at university. As I remember, I'm sure it was an original thought. I have had many thoughts and revelations which really hit home and feel like they've touched the ground. Maybe I should start a youtube channel too! It's nice to know that someone else thinks the same. Attention is love. And that same notion fits in to the idea that everything is made out of love... because everything is nothing until our attention is pointed towards it. Or something like that!
i mean they do go hand and hand but sometimes you can lose sight and not give much as much attention anymore, i doubt that means you dont love anymore in all cases, hes a sell out now though
@@joshuarock4631 it doesn't matter how you feel, it matters what the person actually receives. If you love someone in your mind but that doesn't equate to any attention or care, the love may as well not exist. Especially as far as children are concerned. Actions speak much louder than words.
@@kayoss2306 guess writing a card is love too ig , or never really hugging someone or showing physical touch, guess love can mean different things to different people, sadly this man sold out
The part on how to listen brought me to tears. If only, we could show grace and hold a calm space for people we claim to love when they are struggling to articulate, we would all be less lonely, even if its brief. The gift to be heard.
Addressing the idea that being sexually assaulted as an infant/child is the ultimate worst thing that could possibly happen to a person was helpful to hear since there is no one that I can talk to about it. That may be the best closure I could possibly have. Thank you Doctor ❤
It is up to You to want to talk about it, and force Yourself through the reparation, either that, or ask Yourself is it worth keeping that burden and constant inflict of thoughts to Yourself and the consequences of that.
Everyone is saying to talk about it but it's ok if you're also not ready because it's deeply destabilizing and most people need days of recovery from therapy Hang over and they don't have such trauma
It was super interesting to hear this. For me I was so young that at the time I had no idea what my uncle was trying to do to me, it wasn’t until later on in life i remembered and I was just like wow, what a terrible person. I’m trying to learn to forgive and let the past go, but apart of me still wants to confront and tear into him about it, especially since he has children of his own now. But for the most part I’ve healed from it and am the happiest I’ve ever been after years of battling trauma and depression.
I'm a 61 year old man, Mentally and pyshically exhausted from looking after my Wife's medical needs and pain for 9 years. I've never had a single day off from it, of course, neither has she. Just don't know where to turn, or what to do. Listening to prof Jordan has been very helpul, thank God for you Sir, and thank you.
what country you from? I live in Saskatchewan Canada. I was once bedridden for many months with rheumatoid arthritis, it affected most of my joints. We had our children small at that time and attending school. My husband was working a full time job. So homecare would come to our place "Do you have homecare where you live?" they would do mostly everything. They taught our children who were all very young ages 4, 5 and 10 yrs old at that time. When my husband came home he would take over, it was a full time job taking care of me. I was totally disabled from head to toes, like I couldn't move, nothing I was in pain the whole time 24/7. Eventually he got respite, do you know what that is? yes, its something you can look into get "Respite" no need to feel ashamed, feeling bad because you do need that time off or you'll go nuts. So I hope this offers a little hope for you. I hope and pray that you look into something like this, take care and God bless you as you look for Respite
@@AthelstanMercia I second this. I didn't go onto Lion diet but did relaxed Carnivore diet (Animal products including dairy). It literally brought me back from death's door to feeling better than I ever have in my entire life. A very long list of my health problems either ceased to exist or went into remission. I am alive and thriving right now because of this dietary change. Even with all the amazing testimony and interviews I watched of people healing from this way of eating, I still had no idea, no previous experience to think that it's even possible for me to feel as well as I do now.. i just wanted to feel better and not die. I got way more than that, my entire life to thrive through. 💖😊
30:59 When I heard, "[Children] will modify their behavior in any way imaginable to get attention. It's because there is no difference between attention and love, by the way. Like, there's no difference," I started crying. Attention = love, and attention is what I did not get from my parents. Now I see why that hurt so much. It made me feel unloved.
Yeah, I can relate. I ask myself sometimes how when I was a kid and went through some of that, how that has affected me through the years. If you ever have kids, just remember that and pay it forward 👍🏻
I’m 39, woman, three small children, scientist. Been listening intently for 6-7 years and never tire of him (except climate change, I love him but he moves out of his area of expertise. So much wisdom and humility thanks jordan
@@cantbendknee Really listen to what Jordan is saying.. I'm a 57 yr old female and mother of two grown up children and have two young grandchildren. Jordan has opened up my eyes to my many imperfections.. but also good points too
Jordan Peterson never will understand his impact a year after me finding him and listening to all I can find and I'm no longer depressed I helped most of my family just using his encouragement my house is spotless I have future goals it was rough in the beginning but it's going so well now and I'm so appreciative of the free advice and realism and vulnerability.
My life was pure hell. I lost my business, my house, my entire family. And then I saw J.Petersons video about cleaning your room & making your bed. Now, after I started dusting the corners of my bedposts, I found the job of my dreams and am making 6 figures again! Thank you Jordan for reminding me that its all about the little things in life which spark change, for me it was the removal / jenn o' cide of dust mites.
yeah i learned somewhere and it might have come from Jordan that if you have chaos around you than you have chaos in your head so if i feel sad or angry i do start cleaning around myself and i feel much better and i hate cleaning haha , i also start feeling annoyed if i see others people have trash or filthy area in their work or home so i either have to turn my head away from it or start cleaning for them as i would need to fix the problem or leave and you cant always leave.
A fantastic host. By allowing your guests the respect of the platform to speak more than you do....after all, you already know what you know....so you listen more than you speak. You have a fantastic skill as a host. Love your podcast.
Dr Peterson listening and thinking about what you share on what life is about…your words, podcasts and lectures always make me feel like I should open a window and allow all the beautiful things inside. “UP” is what everyone needs to acknowledge as the best and most positive action we can ever have. You are so full of wisdom and compassion for helping me to be the best version of myself. You always help me find conviction and strength. Thanks for being an honest and amazing example of a person who wants others to be fulfilled and happy in-spite of the requirements of life !
My grandpa had to learn how to walk 3 times in his life. 1. when he was a baby 2. After having a bad case of Pneumonia (He was born in 1923) He talked about having to sit between two trees that were grown up close together just to use the bathroom because he needed them to get back up because he couldn't do it on his own. 3. When he had infection in his body that was on his brain as well. He had a dixie cup (One of those cups you see at water coolers) of infection they took off of his brain. Compete with yourself folks. There is no reason to look at others who you perceive to be far ahead and cause despair in your life. This is something I wish I would have taken to heart a long time ago and I'm still working on and it's helped me a great deal to get rid of dark thoughts.
Thank goodness there's someone around as intelligent, thoughtful and as knowledgeable as Dr Peterson to help people in such a practical way. I find these types of talks his most uplifting.
I’ve listened to hundreds of hours of Jordan’s lectures and interviews, and I am thrilled to have heard this one, as he not only discussed new information, but also synthesized concepts in a way that facilitated a much deeper understanding. Thank you both so much for bringing this conversation to the world!
Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication, they say. The ability to display such efficiency with such little effort that is easy to understand for the average person, genius. Plain and simple.
I've been a paraplegic and full-time wheelchair user for the past 35 years due to a car accident when I was 18 and am dealing with horrendous chronic pain. I'm a trained counsellor but these days it's getting harder and harder to see a why or a reason to keep going. I guess I'll keep trying🙏.
I can’t imagine the physical pain you’re dealing with today nor the thoughts that have made a home in your head after suffering the accident at the tender age of 18. I’m sure you have helped a great many of your clients. I think many of us feel like you do WITHOUT experiencing your hardship as the world has changed tremendously over the past several years - there is much that makes little sense and so little that makes any sense. Your guidance & empathy is needed at this period in time. I pray you continue to stay strong & not give up. Hang in there, my friend.
I think this is one of the best interviews (lectures) by Jordan Peterson in my opinion. Just solid practical and sincere stuff. Peterson, in his own words, distills the learnings of millennia of analysis by great thinkers and manages to share it with us in a way that we can feel it within us. Paradoxically, he speaks authoritatively yet also humbly. It's a fantastic juxtaposition. He makes it obvious that no matter how far he may have reached, he, like us, is and will always be a work in progress. Who the hell else admits that as a basis?
I found Dr Peterson just after leaving a physically abusive relationship. I was broken beyond anything i could have ever imagined broken to be. He gave me hope and a flicker of light. After months i sat up in my bed and believed that i could try to help myself even if i wasnt worth it. He said try to be 1% better than you were yesterday and keep trying everyday after that. That was my mantra everyday. It worked for me.
How anyone can hate this man is crazy. It doesnt matter what he says about politics or if you agree, hes a good man who tries to put out good advice for people.
He makes them look at themselves and most people can’t do that , so they will pull him down ! Hes straight talking and bloody good 👍🏻 it’s about self reflection most people just can’t look in the mirror let alone inside their head
I cannot praise Jordan enough. I couldn’t get out of bed this morning, and I just needed to hear that, to make the task small enough to do. I keep on getting smaller and slower, as I get crushed and depressed, but even so, if I can do something even if minute, I feel better.
Also, I wanted to mention that I was so riveted and moved by his description of what women need when they are dealing with the problem. Man, he hits the nail on the head there. I can’t speak for anyone else, but I can say for myself it’s really a matter of needing somebody who’s willing to traverse all the scary places with me so I’m not so alone.
@@SuperDfloweras a guy that wants to be a good listener to my wife, can you give me an idea of what that actually means in action? For example, when she's complaining about work and I see the same issues brought up time after time, if I'm not to offer solutions, what does simply listening look like to you? I get that at the most basic, I'm actually supposed to be paying attention, but past that what is it? Am I supposed to simply sit there and nod along? Is it a conversation? Am I supposed to ask questions? As a guy you see the advice that women just want someone to listen, and I don't doubt that, but I never actually hear what that's supposed to look like in the real world. Any advice is appreciated.
@@tracy419 well hello there, I’m very flattered that you would ask me these questions. But beyond that, I really like that you want to be a better listener. I also understand that if she is bringing up the same problems over and over again, that can be very frustrating. Well, I certainly don’t have, any answers to your specific situation this is not my area of expertise. But I have read a book that I really liked called non-defensive communication that was really helpful for figuring out what kind of questions to ask. Sometimes people need to think about things from a different angle in order to be able to find solutions that they haven’t been able to find prior. I would say, though, however, that there’s only so much that you should have to be responsible for if there are patterns that are repeating. Perhaps she would benefit from having a good therapist. But I recommend that you check out that book. It’s called, taking a whore out of our words. It might be a good place to start. Also, this is just my opinion, I don’t think there’s any problem with you being authentic about your feelings in relation to what it is that she’s sharing. So I don’t think that it’s wrong for you to share how you’re feeling as well. If the circumstance that she’s coming to you with, makes you feel stuck, I don’t think there’s any problem with saying, “I really wanna hear what you’re saying, and I understand how challenging it is for you, but I find myself feeling a bit stuck because it seems as if there’s some repetition of this dynamic.” My two cents. I don’t even know if it’s worth two cents. Once again, though, I really want to honor you for wanting to be a better partner. Lucky woman.
Speaking both personally and professionally, after three decades of clinical family practice I can celebrate Jordan's wisdom and compassion and skill. We have never needed these insights more than now. Your interviews in these Podcasts are a real gift to the world. Thank you to both men and the teams that help make this happen.
I completely agree I loved the tears resetting us to "rewire" neurologically hypothesis...delightful idea. Sybil.Francos PhD clinical psychology professor ret.
4:40: 💪 Jordan Peterson discusses the importance of starting small when trying to overcome challenges in life. 10:04: 🔑 Taking small but challenging steps can lead to exponential progress and build confidence in one's capabilities. 15:13: 🔑 The video discusses panic attacks and how to help someone who is experiencing them. 22:46: 👂 The most effective way to help people is to listen and ask questions until you understand their problem. 29:50: 🔑 In this video, Dr. Jordan Peterson discusses the importance of free association in psychotherapy and how it can help uncover unresolved traumas that affect our relationships. 37:08: 💑 Dr. Jordan Peterson discusses the importance of communication and listening in a marriage. 44:22: 💔 In a relationship, both partners need to be truthful and committed to resolving issues, despite their flaws and past traumas. 51:02: 💔 Dr. Jordan Peterson discusses the importance of communication and negotiation in relationships, and the need to address underlying traumas and betrayals. 59:10: 💔 The video discusses the atrocities committed by ordinary people during the Nazi regime and emphasizes the importance of honesty and avoiding lies to prevent such horrors from happening again. 1:08:39: 👥 The biggest challenge for young people in the 18-40 age group is negotiating the transition into adulthood and forming a mature identity. 1:13:11: 🎓 Jordan Peterson discusses the importance of taking on voluntary responsibility and serving others in order to find meaning and purpose in life. 1:22:18: 🎉 Jordan Peterson discusses the launch of Peterson Academy in early 2024 and the importance of truth in life. 1:28:36: 🎙 The speaker discusses the importance of conducting straightforward and honest interviews with successful podcasters who have a wide reach. Recapped using Tammy AI
I have an amazing marriage. My parents were married 4-5 times each and so I just did everything they didn't do, and didn't do the things they did. It 100% equals the advice he gave here and it's the advice I've been giving other men for years.
He is the first psychologist to explain my anxiety to me. I have no words how grateful i am for this... i finally have the chance to deal with it. THANK YOU MR. PETERSON!!
I've come to realize that I've been a part of the problem in my relationships, particularly in how I've approached conversations with the women I care about. Instead of truly listening to their concerns, I've often been quick to offer solutions, seeking validation for my intellect. I appreciate Jordan's wisdom for addressing such issues head-on, and I admire Steve Barlett's approach to active listening, which has resonated with me deeply. I have to change and change right now - active listening leading the way!
It is a fact that my first marriage ended because my wife was a great listener and I was not. She wanted my support and understanding, not my solutions. By the time I figured that out, it was already too late.
I love the refresher of Dr. Peterson's older more original content. I don't quite care for all the politics and politically related topics he covers now, but philosophy and psychology is my bread and butter.
I have no issue with the political because they are dragons that need to be confronted and he does so fearlessly! If you like the psychological and the philosophical, try the religious. Mind blowing as a lifelong atheist!
This is probably the best recent discussion with Jordan Peterson. Psychology IS his area of expertise and he shines in this podcast. I am grateful you were focusing exactly on that. I am learning so much from this 1.5 hr conversation.
Met a narcissistic wife, i ended up with two different court situations. Looking back in my life, I have been surrounded nobody but narcissists, I have been taken advantage of, I have been trauma bonded. Because of you, Dr Peterson, I started to take some load on my back. Because of you, I have started again to pray and going to church. Because of you, I realized I was in hell and was able to (or trying to) get out of it. Thank you so much for your existence and the work you do. You have no idea how much it helps a person to straighten out their lives or even to realize what he/she is going through. I can’t emphasize enough to thank you! You truly show the world the right path way to live rightfully.
What a delightful use of my time. Listening to this two unique, smart and grounded men having this conversation is one of the best ways to invest my time
"The truth is the adventure of life"! Wow, 1 hour and 30 minutes perfectly invested. I loved this interview. BRAVO Steven for sharing it with the world.
😂 As a recovering alcoholic who has worked with others the vacuum cleaner story made to laugh. I have literally been on the phone whilst someone made a cup of tea, but people get better and the progress and it has been my greatest joy. For some, life is so, so difficult most people would not believe a human could be so paralyzed. And then society punishes them further. I think what I’m saying is “be kind”. You have no idea what some people are struggling with, but also be encouraging. And yes, I’ve been there. Doing one tiny step at a time, or committing to not taking my life for the next five minutes and after that five minutes not doing it for another five minutes. The fact I even thought like that is so different to how I feel now. I am truly a different person.
Thank you for sharing. I'm so glad you had the ability to hold out 5 minutes at a time. No longer one day at a time huh. It can be rough out there /in here. God bless you my friend. I love you for this.
This episode took me like 4 hours to get through because of all the stopping and thinking and note taking. I have to say that I feel this is one of the most important videos I've watched to date. Thanks so much to you both!
@@Forcomputerclass2 What's the problem? Neither of us knows, we need to find it. So better get listening! Maybe this, maybe that ... can even go circular! Freud's free association ... everything relates around the main theme. Can you see it? There is no difference between attention and love. What's the solution? Start negotiating. What's the strategy? Start with smallest step possible, it will accumulate. What's blocking you: pain, or humiliation, or painful humiliation? *** Tears .. crying.. What was known before is not sufficient, our brains breakdown to start again. Breaking out of coccon. *** Admitting I am upset... Here are the things I am upset about.... Here are the focal things Again, Figure out the problem Maybe I am the problem! (bad parent) *** Coflict delayed is conflict multiplied If I have a problem woth someone: Note it. Get it on the table. Fight it through. Fix it. Move on. *** Got a problem? It must have layers (reference to Dante's inferno) (Also, when going to a boss, also bring a solution.) Ask partner, what do you think the solution could be? Let me try saying that as first lesson *** Betrayal is a blocker of trust. No trust - no love. Lies lead to hell. Truth will have value today, and in the future. Truth remains. *** Atrocities. Aushwitz. > There is no descent place to stand in massacre. Sometimes there is no way out but (white) lie. BUt then you have to look back upstream. Go back, find the mistake. Come back to wrong road, attone, confess, repent, and specify the right road. *** self-consciousness and negative emotions are linked together. focusing on yourself brings misery. it is not about fulfilling needs right now no matter the cost (capitalism). *** Take on responsibility. Stop lying: do not oppose reality. *** And of course, clean your room ;)
@@Forcomputerclass2 Happy Thanksgiving.! Sorry, my notes are personal thoughts pertaining to my own personal life situations. This video just made me think about a lot of ways to perceive the situations newly or differently. They are not notes on the episode per se. Take care 🙂 ❤
I’ve been working with children with special needs for 30 years and one of the most important things I can do for them is to offer them opportunities to succeed. This may mean reducing work into ‘bite sized’ chunks so that the task becomes achievable. The confidence they get from this encourages them to push themselves further. Jordan Peterson is a very wise, kind and honest man.
This may be an OTT comment, but when I picture the type of person doing God's work Jordan Peterson is one of them. Thank you Jordan. Excellent podcast #DiaryofaCEO
I've subscribed to so many podcasts. But this is the one I can't wait to get back to every week. Steven is unique. The way he conducts himself, the questions, the interviews, so unique. I'm a fan for life.
I find that giving people responsibility that matters often sets them right. The ones who get bored or off track often have no responsibility and guidance.
1:42 next 40 seconds made me cry like a kid So thank you Jordan I felt exactly the same 2 years after I started listening to you ❤❤❤ You voice makes me feel like there is always a reasonable explanation for everything And you go deep into things people tend to leave in the air and don’t deal with ❤❤❤
1) Jordan (one of my favorite thinkers, major fan, no hate) talking, uninterrupted, at length, about the importance of listening 😂 2) I’m going to need to listen to this whole thing at least twice.
It is unspeakably moving to watch this conversation and compare and contrast it with the last one. The last time, Dr. Peterson was so fragile, and in pain, and absolutely exhausted emotionally. I remember so keenly “Oh God, tears again” and wanting so badly to put my arms around him and comfort him. How last time he responded “Brilliantly and terribly” to the question, “How are you doing?” To contrast that to his enthusiastic “Good!” given with such alacrity. I’m so sorrowful that he is still in pain but so relieved that the pain is just an irritant now, not devastating. And now his head is so clear and his verbal fluency back, and it’s so good to see. I do think that Steven brought out a lovely side of him that it’s so good to see. ❤
I've heard people saying JP is like a father to a generation. My father died two years ago (he was wonderful), I'm going through a divorce, have three children and a stressful career. On days when it is difficult to function (like today), I watch clips of JP and it is just like having a father's guidance. I find it hard to pin down why his words are so powerful. They always resonate. I think it's the place they come from.
44:58 you broke my heart with this one jordan. Broke me right in half. I revealed my snakes and he ran for the hills, even though I knew about the snakes he didn’t reveal and they were far bigger and more poisonous than mine. I wonder if I will ever find someone who won’t run and worse if I do will I be able to put my guard down? I pray everyday I will. Thanks guys this was amazing.
You'll know the one that doesn't run is a keeper. I'm looking for the same :) Good luck to you on your journey and do your best to temper those snakes in the meantime!
In ref to having a partner that doesn't "run for the hills " when you reveal your snakes:" sometimes we hope that the perfect partner will live us despite all our flaws... but we reveal the too early in the relationship because we're afraid to go too far in with them. The fact is, they have snakes themselvea.. a relationship of trust must be built first, so as those snakes are released a little at a time the relationship can weather it, and as more trust is built over time , the relationship strengthens. It can't be one-sided. That is fear.and one sided selfishness.
If your spouse wants to run, help them pack their bags and never look back! Work on yourself from the inside. Then enjoy good things like exercise, nature, and stay away from drugs & alcohol!
About listening - spot on! If you don't listen to your spouse on a daily basis, you will listen in divorce court. Very well said! People want/need to be heard.
My wife never said a word just left 40 years together.. abusive childhood alcoholic mother if she can’t communicate, she Musta got screamed at when she opened her mouth is a little girl she never complained repressed all emotions…. Felt not loved insecure
That's exactly what happened to me. I was in an abusive relationship for 10 years and I also had abusive parents that would never admit they were abusive. I got to the point where I was isolated in my room. I was terrified to go to the store or go to the mailbox or do anything anymore. After I left I realized all of my anxiety attacks actually stemmed from him. My stomach ulcers... High sentitivity to noise... Chronic pain worse than what I should have with the disorder I have....everything got better In that area. I do still struggle when I hear sudden noises where I'm living now. And I struggle cleaning up because anytime I did, he would rage me. He knew I loved a clean home and I wanted to take care of our home and for some reason it infuriated him.. I just started making my bed every day again. I've been gone seven months and it's taken me this long to start making my bed every day. I don't sleep in the same bed every night. I move around in this place because it's not mine. But I still make the bed every day.
I started changing my entire life by starting to make my bed every day. it took a long time for it to become second nature, but it really is the start of big changes.
it's funny how women will rather take 10 years of abuse rather than actually put their own lives in order. they'd rather have that abuse as long as the "husband" brings that paycheck home...so who's really the abuser here? the wife taking advantage of the male for 10 years, rather than growing a pair and just leaving before the "abuse" starts. i have no sympathy for any woman that would deal with that for a DECADE and then blame the husband for it instead of their own insecurity
This man a bloody mastermind. So much sense, knowledge, insight, truth and much more. A man to who will go down in history as one of the great, together with names like Jung, Nietzsche etc.
@@LepantoLemonade All he's written are some self-help books containing superficial, speciously argued theology and philosophy. It'll take more than that to become a canonical writer.
Thank you so much, my husband has 5 max 10 minutes conversation time and gives solution w/o fully allowing me to get my words out & for the first time I felt like someone understands me
The opening story from a listener Steve mentions sent goosebumps down my spine. Even if these talks only help one soul. It’s reason enough. Thank you Steven for devoting so much of your time to bringing this knowledge from these extraordinary thinkers to the public. Bless you ❤
I’m 65 now and at age 30 I left jail with $48. I make a deal with God that in thanks for letting me survive I would do His will. For 35 years I have been on a mission to find truth. I was always led back to the Bible. I wrote a book about my journey and published it in July. Jordan said the most important words to live by, “The truth is the adventure in life.” It has been my life and it made all the difference.
@@nicolecarnevale3226 I have a degree in Economics and a MBA in quantitative mathematics and after leaving jail started numerous successful businesses and ended up managing Capital Markets at a large bank. The 20 people I managed asked me how to become rich so I told them how to become successful and it turned into a book. I reveal the greatest secret to success. It’s not a religious book however much of my thinking comes from Biblical Truth and God’s wisdom. My mission was to find truth and was always led back to Bible. If you live by truth you will have the world on your side. As Jordan said, “The truth is the adventure in life. Truth will work for you today, tomorrow, and the rest of your life.”
@@susanbeasley723 Study the Bible, join a study group, read the humanities, know your role and why God created you. Everyone has a mission in life. That’s a good place to start. The world will be saved by love and beauty said Fyodor Dostoevsky.
It's a small but very loud minority who can't stand him. Those people are often not very sophisticated in regards to how they observe and analyse things.
@@robertholland7558 you seem interesting Robert Dutchman. I don’t idolise him, I actually just think he’s really cool and smart and stuff as I’m pretty much a dumb pleb as you know…. May I ask what upsets you so much besides holding to high regard? I promise I won’t hold him too too high… 🙃😵💫🤷♂️😘
@@kadirgold you are mistaken, there is a huge silent majority who have come to realise that voicing opinion is just a waste of words on members of his cult, and put their efforts into more valuable things out in the world, knowing that his followers will grow out of him like a dated, old shoe, at their own pace. There is a J.P. phase of adolescence some people go through, never mind their age. These people will inevitably come to realise that there is a whole world beyond that. All gurus will fall. Question everything, keep searching! Empower yourself to think for yourself. Best wishes on your path.
because he's a misogynist, transphobe, homophobic climate change denier who hates the poor and is outspokenly anti-science, the guy is a walking bottle of hate crime man and y'all can't wait to drink that shit up.
Thanks to Jordan and similar voices, I've since gained the courage to finally express myself to the women I find attractive. I found 2 ladies that actually like me and I have a date this Saturday! Thank you x1,000 Jordan! Your work saved my life!
As a podcaster whos starting out Steven is one of the few podcasters I hope to learn from. The way he gives his guests room to speak looks simple, but it's extremely hard to get right. Thank you.
He’s so good at it. And then asks the right questions at appropriate times to show that he has been listening and understands and hasn’t just been waiting for his moment to talk. Good luck to you with your future podcasts. What subject are you going to focus on?
True. His questions are so specific to his deep and thorough ability to listen and let the guest guide the conversation. And his endless vulnerability is so beautiful.
I rarely comment on videos, but since this one is mostly about listening, I wanted to say that you Steve are such a great listener! You're one of the very tiny minority who let their guests talk, really listen to them, and then ask the right questions. That's the main reason I subscribed, so thank you, and please always stay like that! Do we have a deal?
Just someone who has conquered their own battles and became knowledgeable and he’s giving it back. Something we all should be doing. Social media and all of the things of entertainment is a wonderful gift but it has made us weak. Get rid of the monetary things and find center again. We all have the will to choose to do it. Once you do, not giving up and being decent you’ll find you’ll land where you wanna be. The mind paints the picture of what constantly goes on inside of it. We all need to find center again. Many blessings to everyone struggling. There is hope, it’s undeniable that we are fighters so that’s what we will friggin do.
I’ve lived 62 years through many situations in life, and generally like to call a spade a spade! ..I love listening to Jordan’s forthright take on life’s challenges, I also believe truth is crucial and mastering deliverance of the truth kindly is key
I haven't been able to clean my room. Addiction to gambling with virtual coins to get dopamine. It is very difficult to pull away from that. Jordan is right about that because the ease of life cleaning up that room brings to a person and a sense of accomplishment. With a dirty room, the accomplishments are few and far between:)
I concur with your opening testimony. My father passed when I was young. I struggled to replace that space and Jordan stepped in like a virtual hero in the night. I owe my prosperity and recent successes to him. It’s hard to explain but he gets the despair and the why continue feeling and walks you out of it.
I think this might be my fave episode yet. I’m a bit of a Jordan Peterson convert- 1. Because I was very guilty of not listening to anyone who didn’t share the same views as me politically at one point- so glad that changed in me - look at the sort of stuff I was missing out on and 2. Before I wrote him off due to political difference I found some of his stuff hard to follow- this podcast was so straight forward and absolute gold ❤ thanks 🙏
Jordan Peterson is a very complicated character. It's taken me a long time to begin to figure out what's going on with him. And something I've always found to be very true in life Is that when I can never understand what a person is saying, and it's so heavily layered in all this academic, elitist sounding language that more often than not it is BS when you parse through it all. And that's where the problem really lies here, to go through everything he's saying and break it all down and figure out what exactly it is that he's getting at, you just run into a trove of all of these fallacies that he's throwing around. Contradicting himself left and right, just trying desperately to be that smart guy in the room. Which is a real shame, it's a real shame that he was the one who had taken that role for men, so many lost directionless men. He gave them nothing, his message when you break it all down at the end of the day is just pull yourself up your bootstraps,clean your room, And then not much else. The entire period where you went through all those health problems, just taking barbiturates for a long time. The entire saga just screamed hypocritical. He was no example for men, he's just as messed up as the rest of em.... I don't mean for this to demean your viewpoint or you as person in any way. Like I said, it took me a long time to come to this conclusion. If you ever have the time one of the best videos breaking this all down I've ever seen was by the UA-cam channel insert channel name here. He does it 3-hour deep dive on Jordan Peterson, which sounds absurd that sounds like an insane amount of time to spend on him. But it's necessary, that's the exact kind of breakdown that you need to really get to the bare bones what he's saying and the policies that are scattered all across it. My rule of thumb is that if they can't describe it in a way where a 10-year-old could understand it, I don't trust them. Or at least I'm going to be highly skeptical about their intentions or what they're putting out there because... The truth is always going to be simple, easily understood by all, and it will have unity and love at its forefront. With Jordan Peterson, especially his old videos, there's a lot of anger. There's a lot of hurt in him, and he wants to be the smartest man in the room so fucking bad. He just isn't, he's a try hard, and it sucks. He could have been a very time very helpful person in this world but he had nothing to offer these guys whatsoever, telling them to clean their room and kind of got it. People know how to get healthy people know how to get their shit together They just can't They're frozen down fucked up as this world is really fucked up right now and it's a lot to handle.. Anyways, I'll find that link here in a second. Like I said, I hope none of this comes up me being angry at your or anything like that, that couldn't be further from it. Just sucks, I wish we had somebody better than him for men's rights, men aren't doing well and people spit in their face for it.... Much love to you, I hope all is well in your life!
@@RealStonedApeyou have misinterpreted this man completely, no where is he trying to be the smartest man in the room, he tries to speak the truth forthrightly as much as possible. To be emotionally invested is not the same as being angry, try not to attribute your own emotional state unto others. A ten year old can in no way or form understand all that there is to understand, if we should set the bar so low then we can just stop all together in wanting to better ourselves. A good way to get out of your own way is stop assigning malice and your life will be significantly better very rapidly.
when people here Jordan B Peterson they think 'trans hater' 'woman hater' because of his political viewpoints so nobody left leaning is willing to listen to him. Jordan B Peterson is the one person who everyone needs to listen to at some point of their lives. His explanation and his advice on the first 5 years of having children the things he talks about was life changing. Ive taken alot on board of what he says. "I'm not happy with my job" why? How can you change that? "Im not happy with my life" why? How can you change that? "I'm not happy with my financial problems" Why? What went wrong? How can you change that?
...nearly reached the end of this. I've made it through a handful of his conversations and this is by far is the clearest he has been. A pleasure to listen to.
Jordan you often pull me from the depths of despair when my world is the darkest.. I will go as far to say that your teachings and enlightenment of the human dichotomy has saved me from completely giving up. Thank you. Be blessed always and please continue with your teachings
Jordan has the knowledge and experience to tackle these issues with the blunt honesty of someone who has been there. That’s why we love him and trust him, nothing is staged or faked, JP is the real deal.
Jordan's answer to the last question was very pleasant to hear. As i myself am going through a hard time and hearing someone say that his life is incredible - it cheers up, gives joy and instils high hope. Cheers to Jordan and TDOTC team for the fulfilling moment 🌟
Welcome back Jordan. If you enjoyed this episode could you do us a massive favour and HIT that like button on the video! Helps us a lot 🙏 share your favourite part of the convo below 👇🏾
Always do. Appreciate & enjoy the content you produce.
unsubscribed, never coming back. Stop talking to kunts!
An avid follower of both yours and Jordans work.
I drove my car into a tree at 110mph on 28th August.
I had a 10% chance of living but after 2 weeks on life support in Southampton ICU, I escaped with my life. A vert different life that I had before.
Your conversations with Jordan and many other inspirational people are a model for a better future.
Thankyou from the bottom of my heart ❤
I am extremely disappointed that this platform is enabling someone that supports the genocidal acts in Gaza. There was lots of talk of theory, but he misses basic humanity, and was not questioned about it.
You brought this war mongering genocidal maniac on your show to give life advice?
You are sold out.
Unsubscribed!
Im a 63 yr old woman with parkinsons. Clawing out of a trauma bond...manage to cook very simple food. Walk the old dog in small bits of time. No family...in the middle of nowhere. Reaching out to therapist and couple of friends. Listening to you and to anyone with wisdom. Keeping going in spite of depression and lineliness.
That sounds really tough. Hope things get better for you.
Keep moving forward and things will improve. I ,too, was trauma bonded and once I worked through it and made it to the other side, the anxiety I had went away. 15 years in a toxic marriage made me ill and depressed. Now I have two good physicians who know how to treat me, and I am back to working out regularly. Being honest with myself set me free. My ex will always be a liar.
I don't know who you are, or what you believe in, but I believe there is Hope and Joy to be found in your life even in the simplest details. Delight in the little things and seek God, he rewards those who seek Him.
Life throws tragedy at us when we least expect, but there is assurance that whatever the storm there is hope and joy that can be found if we keep a grateful heart and we look to the beauty that can be found in life.
One of the hardest lessons in my life was to learn how to do that amidst unfathomable and disconcerting circumstances. I took care of my father who had Alzheimer's for almost 20 years, until he passed away. It wasn't easy and my heart was broken, resentful and bitter through the early years because of the sense of injustice and the rage that caused. God taught me a valuable lesson through humility and gratefulness, and I was able to find joy and peace in each day, even in all the love I could lavish my father in as I served him until his time on this Earth was fulfilled. It was a privilege to love my father and take care of him. May this testimony encourage you and give you strength!
I pray the Spirit of God, will minister to your soul, peace, healing and wisdom to find beauty and joy each day to have the strength and fortitude to overcome the daily obstacles, in Jesus's name! God bless you! Warm regards from Portugal!
I am thinking of you and I am truly with you. Also I honestly want to be with you.
you are never alone in this world, even when you feel that you are, there is always hope, always good people around the corner to meet. I wish you true happiness and peace
This year I’ve:
• Finally opened up about getting sexually assaulted
• lost 10KG so far in 4 weeks of my diet
• had compliments on my changes
• educated myself on psychology in order to strengthen my mind
• started reading books (before that I had never opened one apart from school books that are required in English class)
• met new people who are only interested in progression
All of it is thanks to me and Dr Jordan Peterson. I’m still working on a lot that has broke me, but I’m getting better and mentally stronger thanks to him.
I pray whoever sees this and makes it to the end finds the peace and healing you deserve.
Who’s gonna carry the boats?!
that is amazing...I have been struggling and falling in the holes Jordan spoke about for forever...too long...not giving up
@@mattk.9377 Son!
Thank you for sharing 🙏🏼
Great work!
My husband just died thursay. He collapsed in the kitchen, my son 29, was there, I was upstairs. We, they couldn't revive him! It's all so unreal and is harder than I could ever imagine. We are accepting all the kindness and help from all those who are reaching out to us. It's amazing who those people are and aren't doing that. I am so grateful to those showing us such love. We are just numb at this point. I'm so proud how my son is handling this. And his father would be so proud too.
It doesn’t get easier. My brother, 4.5 years my senior, died at 25. I’m 31 now, tho I’m the guy who always has a smile and a laugh for someone, I often slip into the bathroom so I can burst into tears and then assure that I emerge with clear eyes and a bright attitude for my next patient at work (I’m in EMS) or for my coworker sitting in the kitchen, after sitting there staining at the floor doing nothing for several minutes, no one knows, no one cares after a while. You’ll be left to fight it alone, you and your son won’t even really go through it together, you’ll go through it alone, while together. It’s a sad truth, but hopefully me saying this bluntly will help nudge you in a direction that you can keep your eyes peeled for circumstances to take advantage of to yield an alternate or better outcome hopefully. The only person I could count on, the person to be there with me after our parents were gone and shit got tough, now I only get to look forward to facing that alone, which will be that much harder and that much more lonely. Sorry to rant, I’d assume losing someone you fell in love with and CHOSE to have a life with is equally as hard just in a slightly different way. Good luck, I mean that.
May God be with you and your loved ones
🙏🕊
Sounds hard but also sounds like you're sticking together and facing life/death. Keep at it, and all the best :)
I lost my husband last July, sadly to suicide at just 33 and at the time, I really didn't see a way forward. I just literally set the goal of staying alive for one more minute. The minutes turned to hours, then to days, weeks etc. It felt like crawling up a mountain but it DOES get better, I promise you that if you just find things to be grateful for, you will begin the healing journey.
It's been 8 months (today in fact) and the healing quest has been hard, intense and overall, the worst experience of my life. BUT, it has not broken me, it blew my personality apart and built it back stronger. And to be honest, I'm truly grateful for that. It's taught me a lot, look for the lesson, that's not to sound harsh but for me, I'd built my whole identity around him and him not being here all of a sudden forced me to find out who I actually am. It's been eye opening.
I truly wish you and your son well and please, just trust in the fact that it will get easier.
"Stop lying, stop doing things you know to be wrong"😫❤️❤️❤️🙏🏽thank you JP
It’s so obvious…yet so true!
Thank you to both you both for yet another awesome conversation 🙏
I’ve learnt so much and will continue to do so xx
My husband (now passed) and I had rules and they were so much fun. The best was when in fight, Person A would get 2 mins to talk, then the other Person B would get to reply for one minute. Then reverse. We would use his wristwatch and take turns holding it. If Person B interrupted, person A would get two additional more minutes. ----It would turn into laughter after a few turns. And of course, always greet each other when you come home from work. Stop what ever you are doing and just give a quick kiss and hug. It was great!!
This is a great idea😍😀
Okay I think it depends on the severity of the fight.
Thank you for sharing. Sounds like you had a wonderful relationship and still do! I'm sorry for your loss.
Brilliant advice!
Solid advice, I think I'll take it!
"Conflict delayed is conflict multiplied" ❤
My new fav quote!! So true
Facts!
He also said that you could negotiate a time to talk about it. ❤
This is so true.
Absolutely.. it gets just way worse.. not facing the problems head on.. sweeping problems under the rug.. I hate it!!
Jordan Peterson became the proverbial father that I needed when I was a child. He also saved my life. ❤
Turn to our Creator, not man, for saving.
Yeah. Turn to God. But God likes to work through people. It edifies those who do His will on Earth.
@@chrisfleischman3371 100%
I feel that, sister...
As a matter of fact, I've said that very thing regarding Peterson's work in my life!
I am a Christ follower myself, and I do therefore recognize that any man with godly character is merely a reflection of the Divine Creator
(my Big Daddy - the One who breathed me into being - the ONE who will never let me down!)
I hope that all find eternal refuge in the shelter of His wings 💜
(If there's one thing Peterson has greatly encouraged in me, it is to fulfill my dreams by speaking, and to use my story for the good of all 🙏)
I will pass this test of time !
He gave up his career to speak about all this stuff. Such a genious fired for his personal views. Well on the plus side we all get to hear him speak.
”You have to start progressing where you can” so true ☺️
This is why i love peterson, he says things everybody knows but noone actually thinks.
Everytime i find i'm struggling in life, or that i can't seem to push forward or that i am alone even when with people, i come back to Jordan Peterson and it feels like someone totally understands and really cares. It always makes me feel emotional and so grateful that he is accessible to so many people. An incredible person with true empathy and compassion for humanity.
Indeed. My pop He does what He does! Without force but out of HIS OWN WILL. Here HE is in front! Love you my Heir without shame but with boldness!!! As my pop Peterson love his Child "i". As the child "i" loves my pop Peterson. As my AM( Father God of the Living) loves the little child "i". As the little child "i" loves HIS AM(Father God of the Living). " i" AM. Remember Thy I AM and thy conversations given just for thee!
Totally agree. Even as a woman, not exactly his target audience. When I feel like no-one else can help or wants to understand me, his words are exactly what I need.
Why does every u-tube comment always have to pine for attention and make it about them?
@@RyanRobinson-u9hfatherlessness is the main cause. Failure to develop (psychologist Erickson describes the best) properly at certain stages... because of that psychological development failure it leads to issues that will manifest as challenges and disorders throughout life. God bless, stay safe and prepared.
Yep, so true God made him special
.radical dude😂
"There's almost zero difference between being miserable and thinking about yourself." - this statement just changed my life forever. Thank you Jordan.
IDF: How to get red of dark thoughts (Palest 🍉🍉)?
Doctor Jordan Peterson : Send them to hell
In 45 days, 8250 children .
Peterson is a raging banshee with anger issues.
Maybe don't take the advice of the most miserable man alive when it comes to depression.
@@thelawenforcerhd9654if he is what happy looks like I don’t want it lol
@@fayyadseder4334how does it feel to casually spread misinformation on the internet? 🤓
My best friend had a huge dilemma. He called me because he needed someone to listen and give him advice. I listened and asked the questions. I was thinking about what Jordan Peterson said, and it worked. I asked the right questions, he knew what to do and solved his problem!
Steven, thank you for having Jordan Peterson on the podcast.
Jordan, thank you for the great advice!
Why does every u-tube comment always have to pine for attention and make it about them?
because they are the ones commenting? idk@@RyanRobinson-u9h
If you are truly working on self-improvement and making yourself a better person may I ask you how you could not take this personally and tried to be part of a group that shares in the same ideas
@@RyanRobinson-u9h I didn't read the comment to be about them. It sounds to me more like he was thankful that he had learned enough to competently help a friend that he cared about who asked for help. We should all be grateful to those who teach us lessons that better help us help those around us.
@@RyanRobinson-u9h The original comment is saying thank you as JPs advice helped with an anecdote. Did you meant to comment this somewhere else?
I have always felt insecure and anxious due to constant scolding , criticisms and failures from when I was a child , so my life have been built on lies. I was also lazy and had no interest or drive to pursue anything in life. I have always been delusional and imaginative , thinking of myself as heroes in movies I have watched. I have always been ashamed of who I am and my family. I have always dealt with fapping and being desperate for women whom I lied to just to get their attention. After watching this video , I now have a step by step guide on how to improve my life and break the wall of lies and problems to reveal my authentic self. Thank you for hosting this interview , really appreciate it so much.
I could listen to Jordan Peterson 24/7 365 and never get bored and always learn something new every time.
Veteran here. I'm not going to go into it but jordan gave me a new life after my divorce and service. Years lost but I'm able to work and I'm working on myself too.
As a trainee psychologist, the first half of the podcast is more useful than any lecture ive attended. Its truly inspiring to see a master of the craft break down the therapeutic process in leymans terms.
Also, this man is truly selfless and is a beacon of understanding and clarity in this very complex existence. Thankyou Dr Peterson.❤
I so hope you have the courage to continue to revere and respect JP. I work in the field as well, and while it confuses me (as therapists, shouldn't we be open and inquisitive?) frankly, admitting you agree with JP seems to be a brave and heretical act!
"Thank you" is two separate words. You should know that if you actually have any advanced degree.
@@meowy4720 - it's also layman's, not leymans. It was probably not done on purpose. Spell check screws up a lot when posting on YT, so we need to check it.
@@meagiesmuse2334 There's not how autocorrect works. It fixes stupid spelling mistakes; it doesn't create them. Lots of (less than intelligent) people seem to think "thank you" is spelled as one word.
@@meowy4720 - I don't know what the issue is here, but in my case, spell check often changes my typos into totally different words than what I meant to type, so I must proof it. I am giving this person benefit of the doubt. Have a happy Thanksgiving.
I’m a psychologist, have been for decades, started out early at 20, graduated very very early, and I specialised in drug and alcohol, eating disorders, mood disorders, etc etc, because I’D been through them, and without sounding conceited, I am very very good at my job, though I’m now a stay at home Mummah to a precious 20 year old son with severe special needs, and also due to my chronic and severe health issues, such as chronic pain and anxiety and depression and grief after loosing my best friend, my Mother, a year ago.
Everyone should have to listen to and watch this episode (and ALL your episodes!!!) because this man is an absolute GEM!!! 💎💎💎💎💎
The struggle with depression and anxiety is all too real, but damn, he’s so right. Zero difference between being miserable and thinking about yourself.
That’s just scary.
I’ve always thought myself a selfless person, but putting everyone else’s wants and needs ahead of my own, without even knowing what they are, ties in so much with this. It’s a shift of focus on yourself to something that gives you joy.
You are an inspiration. Women like you are actual icons. Not pseudo-feminists and stupid actresses/singers etc. May God bless you and your family with peace, happiness and ease. This moderate muslim will be praying for you. Thank you for sharing your story
“There’s no difference between attention and love.” Amazing insight.
I figured this same thing out when I was at university. As I remember, I'm sure it was an original thought. I have had many thoughts and revelations which really hit home and feel like they've touched the ground. Maybe I should start a youtube channel too! It's nice to know that someone else thinks the same. Attention is love. And that same notion fits in to the idea that everything is made out of love... because everything is nothing until our attention is pointed towards it. Or something like that!
Yes amazing
i mean they do go hand and hand but sometimes you can lose sight and not give much as much attention anymore, i doubt that means you dont love anymore in all cases, hes a sell out now though
@@joshuarock4631 it doesn't matter how you feel, it matters what the person actually receives. If you love someone in your mind but that doesn't equate to any attention or care, the love may as well not exist. Especially as far as children are concerned. Actions speak much louder than words.
@@kayoss2306 guess writing a card is love too ig , or never really hugging someone or showing physical touch, guess love can mean different things to different people, sadly this man sold out
The part on how to listen brought me to tears. If only, we could show grace and hold a calm space for people we claim to love when they are struggling to articulate, we would all be less lonely, even if its brief. The gift to be heard.
Addressing the idea that being sexually assaulted as an infant/child is the ultimate worst thing that could possibly happen to a person was helpful to hear since there is no one that I can talk to about it.
That may be the best closure I could possibly have. Thank you Doctor ❤
Talk therapy can be incredibly helpful if you find the right person. I waited too long to try it, wish I had sooner.
It is up to You to want to talk about it, and force Yourself through the reparation, either that, or ask Yourself is it worth keeping that burden and constant inflict of thoughts to Yourself and the consequences of that.
Everyone is saying to talk about it but it's ok if you're also not ready because it's deeply destabilizing and most people need days of recovery from therapy Hang over and they don't have such trauma
It was super interesting to hear this. For me I was so young that at the time I had no idea what my uncle was trying to do to me, it wasn’t until later on in life i remembered and I was just like wow, what a terrible person. I’m trying to learn to forgive and let the past go, but apart of me still wants to confront and tear into him about it, especially since he has children of his own now. But for the most part I’ve healed from it and am the happiest I’ve ever been after years of battling trauma and depression.
@@OpticPlay_ 🫂
I'm a 61 year old man, Mentally and pyshically exhausted from looking after my Wife's medical needs and pain for 9 years. I've never had a single day off from it, of course, neither has she. Just don't know where to turn, or what to do. Listening to prof Jordan has been very helpul, thank God for you Sir, and thank you.
Stay strong John and so does your wife. My best wishes and all my love friend🙏
what country you from? I live in Saskatchewan Canada. I was once bedridden for many months with rheumatoid arthritis, it affected most of my joints. We had our children small at that time and attending school. My husband was working a full time job. So homecare would come to our place "Do you have homecare where you live?" they would do mostly everything. They taught our children who were all very young ages 4, 5 and 10 yrs old at that time. When my husband came home he would take over, it was a full time job taking care of me. I was totally disabled from head to toes, like I couldn't move, nothing I was in pain the whole time 24/7. Eventually he got respite, do you know what that is? yes, its something you can look into get "Respite" no need to feel ashamed, feeling bad because you do need that time off or you'll go nuts. So I hope this offers a little hope for you. I hope and pray that you look into something like this, take care and God bless you as you look for Respite
Consider seeing a therapist for pain reprocessing, emdr, or somatic therapy.
No joke, try her on the lion diet.
@@AthelstanMercia I second this. I didn't go onto Lion diet but did relaxed Carnivore diet (Animal products including dairy). It literally brought me back from death's door to feeling better than I ever have in my entire life. A very long list of my health problems either ceased to exist or went into remission. I am alive and thriving right now because of this dietary change. Even with all the amazing testimony and interviews I watched of people healing from this way of eating, I still had no idea, no previous experience to think that it's even possible for me to feel as well as I do now.. i just wanted to feel better and not die. I got way more than that, my entire life to thrive through. 💖😊
30:59 When I heard, "[Children] will modify their behavior in any way imaginable to get attention. It's because there is no difference between attention and love, by the way. Like, there's no difference," I started crying. Attention = love, and attention is what I did not get from my parents. Now I see why that hurt so much. It made me feel unloved.
I see and understand . No attention here..m
Yeah, I can relate. I ask myself sometimes how when I was a kid and went through some of that, how that has affected me through the years. If you ever have kids, just remember that and pay it forward 👍🏻
Us too. We all spoke as adults and felt that we were merely a burden , barely tolerated
Neglected even if accidentally ....
I’m 53 year old woman - mum and I think he’s amazing - he’s helped me with life and trying to guide my teenage son in the strange world
How so?
I’m 39, woman, three small children, scientist. Been listening intently for 6-7 years and never tire of him (except climate change, I love him but he moves out of his area of expertise. So much wisdom and humility thanks jordan
He's a demon pushing catholicism and eugenic's vaccines
@@cantbendknee
Really listen to what Jordan is saying.. I'm a 57 yr old female and mother of two grown up children and have two young grandchildren.
Jordan has opened up my eyes to my many imperfections.. but also good points too
Not trying to be rude but did you alienate your kids from their dad?
Jordan Peterson never will understand his impact a year after me finding him and listening to all I can find and I'm no longer depressed I helped most of my family just using his encouragement my house is spotless I have future goals it was rough in the beginning but it's going so well now and I'm so appreciative of the free advice and realism and vulnerability.
Awesome!
I have also had an incredible turn around year, since I started Really Listening and paying attention to my own behaviour. Cheers!
I love this. Thank you. It almost makes me cry with relief. He truly helps people.
@@Traisaswow!!! That’s quite an insight . I’ll be using that… I hope to my advantage.
I sure wish I could say my house is spotless. G99d for you.!
The clapback towards this beautiful man has been unbelievable. He's a Treasure.
My life was pure hell. I lost my business, my house, my entire family.
And then I saw J.Petersons video about cleaning your room & making your bed. Now, after I started dusting the corners of my bedposts, I found the job of my dreams and am making 6 figures again! Thank you Jordan for reminding me that its all about the little things in life which spark change, for me it was the removal / jenn o' cide of dust mites.
yeah i learned somewhere and it might have come from Jordan that if you have chaos around you than you have chaos in your head so if i feel sad or angry i do start cleaning around myself and i feel much better and i hate cleaning haha , i also start feeling annoyed if i see others people have trash or filthy area in their work or home so i either have to turn my head away from it or start cleaning for them as i would need to fix the problem or leave and you cant always leave.
what if there's a mess in someone's mind?
A messy sock drawer isn't really just a messy sock drawer.
That's why I keep my left socks in my left drawer & my right socks in my right drawer 😊
I just found him I need to find that video
A fantastic host. By allowing your guests the respect of the platform to speak more than you do....after all, you already know what you know....so you listen more than you speak. You have a fantastic skill as a host. Love your podcast.
I second that!💯
@@UGPVlogsLA I third that and second this
Will be great when he stops having fear mongering people and Vegans on!
Dr Peterson listening and thinking about what you share on what life is about…your words, podcasts and lectures always make me feel like I should open a window and allow all the beautiful things inside. “UP” is what everyone needs to acknowledge as the best and most positive action we can ever have. You are so full of wisdom and compassion for helping me to be the best version of myself. You always help me find conviction and strength. Thanks for being an honest and amazing example of a person who wants others to be fulfilled and happy in-spite of the requirements of life !
My grandpa had to learn how to walk 3 times in his life.
1. when he was a baby
2. After having a bad case of Pneumonia (He was born in 1923)
He talked about having to sit between two trees that were grown up close together just to use the bathroom because he needed them to get back up because he couldn't do it on his own.
3. When he had infection in his body that was on his brain as well. He had a dixie cup (One of those cups you see at water coolers) of infection they took off of his brain.
Compete with yourself folks. There is no reason to look at others who you perceive to be far ahead and cause despair in your life. This is something I wish I would have taken to heart a long time ago and I'm still working on and it's helped me a great deal to get rid of dark thoughts.
Thank goodness there's someone around as intelligent, thoughtful and as knowledgeable as Dr Peterson to help people in such a practical way. I find these types of talks his most uplifting.
I’ve listened to hundreds of hours of Jordan’s lectures and interviews, and I am thrilled to have heard this one, as he not only discussed new information, but also synthesized concepts in a way that facilitated a much deeper understanding.
Thank you both so much for bringing this conversation to the world!
If only he were transparent about being a Zionist puppet.
Prime Peterson
@@dauterivevery trivial from my part but I think he's prime Peterson when he grows the legendary grey beard
Ewww
what was your favourite part?
His flow of thoughts is incredible!! So easy to follow even through the most complicated of concepts! Thank you for having him back!!
he doesnt realise that women ar evil so he is a useless liar and no good.
Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication, they say. The ability to display such efficiency with such little effort that is easy to understand for the average person, genius. Plain and simple.
How is the flow of thought of a man who encourages GENOCIDE "incredible"
How is the flow of thought of someone who encourages genocide against innocent people "incredible"
@@user-yf5je1dn1qWhat do you mean? Pls explains!
I've been a paraplegic and full-time wheelchair user for the past 35 years due to a car accident when I was 18 and am dealing with horrendous chronic pain. I'm a trained counsellor but these days it's getting harder and harder to see a why or a reason to keep going. I guess I'll keep trying🙏.
Hang in there. New technologies are coming and when it begins, it’ll be fast.
I can’t imagine the physical pain you’re dealing with today nor the thoughts that have made a home in your head after suffering the accident at the tender age of 18.
I’m sure you have helped a great many of your clients.
I think many of us feel like you do WITHOUT experiencing your hardship as the world has changed tremendously over the past several years - there is much that makes little sense and so little that makes any sense.
Your guidance & empathy is needed at this period in time. I pray you continue to stay strong & not give up.
Hang in there, my friend.
❤ Wish you the best brother!
Keep going ❤️🩹
❤ Stay strong! Respect for you!
I think this is one of the best interviews (lectures) by Jordan Peterson in my opinion. Just solid practical and sincere stuff. Peterson, in his own words, distills the learnings of millennia of analysis by great thinkers and manages to share it with us in a way that we can feel it within us. Paradoxically, he speaks authoritatively yet also humbly. It's a fantastic juxtaposition. He makes it obvious that no matter how far he may have reached, he, like us, is and will always be a work in progress. Who the hell else admits that as a basis?
I found Dr Peterson just after leaving a physically abusive relationship. I was broken beyond anything i could have ever imagined broken to be. He gave me hope and a flicker of light. After months i sat up in my bed and believed that i could try to help myself even if i wasnt worth it. He said try to be 1% better than you were yesterday and keep trying everyday after that. That was my mantra everyday. It worked for me.
The one who isn't worthy is your abuser.. I am glad you're taking back control & loving yourself!
IDF: How to get red of dark thoughts (Palest 🍉🍉)?
Doctor Jordan Peterson : Send them to hell
In 45 days, 8250 children .
@@MyriamRichardsdotterI don't believe you.
@@MyriamRichardsdotterwhat?? Who?? 😮
@@fayyadseder4334Hamas caused it so shut up
Art of communication. This is something we should all work on and improve. 🙂
So true
How anyone can hate this man is crazy. It doesnt matter what he says about politics or if you agree, hes a good man who tries to put out good advice for people.
This is why they hate him because he is good ,
@@AmandaPerks-e9h k
@@AmandaPerks-e9h you sick.
He makes them look at themselves and most people can’t do that , so they will pull him down ! Hes straight talking and bloody good 👍🏻 it’s about self reflection most people just can’t look in the mirror let alone inside their head
I cannot praise Jordan enough. I couldn’t get out of bed this morning, and I just needed to hear that, to make the task small enough to do. I keep on getting smaller and slower, as I get crushed and depressed, but even so, if I can do something even if minute, I feel better.
Same, hugs
Jordan was sent to us , he has a job to do , to be here for us , his words speak volumes to those who listen ,
39:07 "I know that conflict delayed is conflict multiplied."
Such a gem 💎
Also, I wanted to mention that I was so riveted and moved by his description of what women need when they are dealing with the problem. Man, he hits the nail on the head there. I can’t speak for anyone else, but I can say for myself it’s really a matter of needing somebody who’s willing to traverse all the scary places with me so I’m not so alone.
I recognise this is one podcast I’ll need to refer back to again and again
Good,solid,meaty advice that would change anybody’s life!
Please summarize. What do women need?
Well, I certainly can’t speak for all women, but I can’t say that I think in general women need to feel really listened to, really seen, and safe.
@@SuperDfloweras a guy that wants to be a good listener to my wife, can you give me an idea of what that actually means in action?
For example, when she's complaining about work and I see the same issues brought up time after time, if I'm not to offer solutions, what does simply listening look like to you?
I get that at the most basic, I'm actually supposed to be paying attention, but past that what is it?
Am I supposed to simply sit there and nod along? Is it a conversation? Am I supposed to ask questions?
As a guy you see the advice that women just want someone to listen, and I don't doubt that, but I never actually hear what that's supposed to look like in the real world.
Any advice is appreciated.
@@tracy419 well hello there, I’m very flattered that you would ask me these questions. But beyond that, I really like that you want to be a better listener. I also understand that if she is bringing up the same problems over and over again, that can be very frustrating. Well, I certainly don’t have, any answers to your specific situation this is not my area of expertise. But I have read a book that I really liked called non-defensive communication that was really helpful for figuring out what kind of questions to ask. Sometimes people need to think about things from a different angle in order to be able to find solutions that they haven’t been able to find prior. I would say, though, however, that there’s only so much that you should have to be responsible for if there are patterns that are repeating. Perhaps she would benefit from having a good therapist. But I recommend that you check out that book. It’s called, taking a whore out of our words. It might be a good place to start. Also, this is just my opinion, I don’t think there’s any problem with you being authentic about your feelings in relation to what it is that she’s sharing. So I don’t think that it’s wrong for you to share how you’re feeling as well. If the circumstance that she’s coming to you with, makes you feel stuck, I don’t think there’s any problem with saying, “I really wanna hear what you’re saying, and I understand how challenging it is for you, but I find myself feeling a bit stuck because it seems as if there’s some repetition of this dynamic.” My two cents. I don’t even know if it’s worth two cents. Once again, though, I really want to honor you for wanting to be a better partner. Lucky woman.
Wow! There is absolutely no boring moment listening to Jordan Peterson. What a blessing
I feel as if I just got a Masters degree in being a human being ! Thank you Mr. Peterson🙏
Speaking both personally and professionally, after three decades of clinical family practice I can celebrate Jordan's wisdom and compassion and skill. We have never needed these insights more than now. Your interviews in these Podcasts are a real gift to the world. Thank you to both men and the teams that help make this happen.
I completely agree I loved the tears resetting us to "rewire" neurologically hypothesis...delightful idea. Sybil.Francos PhD clinical psychology professor ret.
4:40: 💪 Jordan Peterson discusses the importance of starting small when trying to overcome challenges in life.
10:04: 🔑 Taking small but challenging steps can lead to exponential progress and build confidence in one's capabilities.
15:13: 🔑 The video discusses panic attacks and how to help someone who is experiencing them.
22:46: 👂 The most effective way to help people is to listen and ask questions until you understand their problem.
29:50: 🔑 In this video, Dr. Jordan Peterson discusses the importance of free association in psychotherapy and how it can help uncover unresolved traumas that affect our relationships.
37:08: 💑 Dr. Jordan Peterson discusses the importance of communication and listening in a marriage.
44:22: 💔 In a relationship, both partners need to be truthful and committed to resolving issues, despite their flaws and past traumas.
51:02: 💔 Dr. Jordan Peterson discusses the importance of communication and negotiation in relationships, and the need to address underlying traumas and betrayals.
59:10: 💔 The video discusses the atrocities committed by ordinary people during the Nazi regime and emphasizes the importance of honesty and avoiding lies to prevent such horrors from happening again.
1:08:39: 👥 The biggest challenge for young people in the 18-40 age group is negotiating the transition into adulthood and forming a mature identity.
1:13:11: 🎓 Jordan Peterson discusses the importance of taking on voluntary responsibility and serving others in order to find meaning and purpose in life.
1:22:18: 🎉 Jordan Peterson discusses the launch of Peterson Academy in early 2024 and the importance of truth in life.
1:28:36: 🎙 The speaker discusses the importance of conducting straightforward and honest interviews with successful podcasters who have a wide reach.
Recapped using Tammy AI
This is for people who doesn't know how to find the timestamps?
I like this little timeline story
0:00 depressed man offers terrible advice on how not to be depressed.
Do captured where the part with the darkest thoughts is? Which is in the thumb and also headline?
@@thelawenforcerhd9654I hope you heal yourself from whatever you’re going through little sheep 🙏
Does anyone else wish Jordan Peterson was their dad?
YES
My father was really wise I lost myself after he died in my 20s jordan petterson has brought me back to wanting life again
I wish all dad's had that wisdom
NO !
All the time 😅
Thank you for not interrupting Dr. Peterson. He helps me a lot with severe depression
Awesome! You so lucky you found him:) Best wishes
Depression is suffering
Keep on fighting
I have an amazing marriage. My parents were married 4-5 times each and so I just did everything they didn't do, and didn't do the things they did. It 100% equals the advice he gave here and it's the advice I've been giving other men for years.
Lol, same. Learned moreso from their mistakes (I keep learning about more of their mistakes even as an adult😅)
Yeaah yeh it isn’t all about you pal
Nah. It's most certainly about all of us. I was just trying to give a testimony that his advice is spot on. @@mendaciousreality8459
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What are the top 5 things to do and 5 things not to??
He is the first psychologist to explain my anxiety to me. I have no words how grateful i am for this... i finally have the chance to deal with it. THANK YOU MR. PETERSON!!
"The definition of humility is that you start progressing where you can start." JB Peterson
I've come to realize that I've been a part of the problem in my relationships, particularly in how I've approached conversations with the women I care about. Instead of truly listening to their concerns, I've often been quick to offer solutions, seeking validation for my intellect. I appreciate Jordan's wisdom for addressing such issues head-on, and I admire Steve Barlett's approach to active listening, which has resonated with me deeply. I have to change and change right now - active listening leading the way!
Loved trying to absorb some of Jordan’s wisdom but also seeing SB listening so intently. One of the key aspects that makes this podcast great.
It is a fact that my first marriage ended because my wife was a great listener and I was not. She wanted my support and understanding, not my solutions. By the time I figured that out, it was already too late.
I love the refresher of Dr. Peterson's older more original content. I don't quite care for all the politics and politically related topics he covers now, but philosophy and psychology is my bread and butter.
Wishe he realized that. But that where the gift is these days.
Yes, his other material is banal. The self-help stuff is useful, though.
🙏🏽 same! Interesting to see I’m not the only one.
I was thinking the same , thanks god im not alone
I have no issue with the political because they are dragons that need to be confronted and he does so fearlessly!
If you like the psychological and the philosophical, try the religious. Mind blowing as a lifelong atheist!
This is probably the best recent discussion with Jordan Peterson. Psychology IS his area of expertise and he shines in this podcast. I am grateful you were focusing exactly on that. I am learning so much from this 1.5 hr conversation.
Met a narcissistic wife, i ended up with two different court situations. Looking back in my life, I have been surrounded nobody but narcissists, I have been taken advantage of, I have been trauma bonded.
Because of you, Dr Peterson, I started to take some load on my back.
Because of you, I have started again to pray and going to church.
Because of you, I realized I was in hell and was able to (or trying to) get out of it.
Thank you so much for your existence and the work you do. You have no idea how much it helps a person to straighten out their lives or even to realize what he/she is going through.
I can’t emphasize enough to thank you!
You truly show the world the right path way to live rightfully.
What a delightful use of my time. Listening to this two unique, smart and grounded men having this conversation is one of the best ways to invest my time
"The truth is the adventure of life"! Wow, 1 hour and 30 minutes perfectly invested. I loved this interview. BRAVO Steven for sharing it with the world.
😂 As a recovering alcoholic who has worked with others the vacuum cleaner story made to laugh. I have literally been on the phone whilst someone made a cup of tea, but people get better and the progress and it has been my greatest joy. For some, life is so, so difficult most people would not believe a human could be so paralyzed. And then society punishes them further. I think what I’m saying is “be kind”. You have no idea what some people are struggling with, but also be encouraging. And yes, I’ve been there. Doing one tiny step at a time, or committing to not taking my life for the next five minutes and after that five minutes not doing it for another five minutes. The fact I even thought like that is so different to how I feel now. I am truly a different person.
Thank you for sharing. I'm so glad you had the ability to hold out 5 minutes at a time. No longer one day at a time huh. It can be rough out there /in here. God bless you my friend. I love you for this.
and all that mush means nothing. "be kind" even to people who don't deserve kindness....nope. not doing that.
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Sincere and lovely, I just cant stop...too broken.
100% . Thanks for voicing this and for who you are. God bless you!
My son was born 6 weeks ago. Can't begin to describe how valuable this is........🎉🎉❤
Dr. Peterson is fully back!!!! I can see it in his eyes and it's amazing to behold. To God be the glory! 🎉
Preach! My sibling in the Spirit! Wonderful to know you exist!
And he s handsome
He sure has. Unbelievable
This episode took me like 4 hours to get through because of all the stopping and thinking and note taking. I have to say that I feel this is one of the most important videos I've watched to date. Thanks so much to you both!
Can you share your notes? Also happy Thanksgiving!
@@Forcomputerclass2
What's the problem? Neither of us knows, we need to find it.
So better get listening! Maybe this, maybe that ... can even go circular!
Freud's free association ... everything relates around the main theme. Can you see it?
There is no difference between attention and love.
What's the solution? Start negotiating.
What's the strategy? Start with smallest step possible, it will accumulate.
What's blocking you: pain, or humiliation, or painful humiliation?
***
Tears .. crying.. What was known before is not sufficient, our brains breakdown to start again. Breaking out of coccon.
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Admitting I am upset...
Here are the things I am upset about....
Here are the focal things
Again, Figure out the problem
Maybe I am the problem! (bad parent)
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Coflict delayed is conflict multiplied
If I have a problem woth someone: Note it. Get it on the table. Fight it through. Fix it. Move on.
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Got a problem? It must have layers (reference to Dante's inferno)
(Also, when going to a boss, also bring a solution.)
Ask partner, what do you think the solution could be?
Let me try saying that as first lesson
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Betrayal is a blocker of trust. No trust - no love.
Lies lead to hell.
Truth will have value today, and in the future. Truth remains.
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Atrocities. Aushwitz.
> There is no descent place to stand in massacre.
Sometimes there is no way out but (white) lie.
BUt then you have to look back upstream.
Go back, find the mistake.
Come back to wrong road, attone, confess, repent, and specify the right road.
***
self-consciousness and negative emotions are linked together.
focusing on yourself brings misery.
it is not about fulfilling needs right now no matter the cost (capitalism).
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Take on responsibility. Stop lying: do not oppose reality.
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And of course, clean your room ;)
@@Forcomputerclass2 Happy Thanksgiving.! Sorry, my notes are personal thoughts pertaining to my own personal life situations. This video just made me think about a lot of ways to perceive the situations newly or differently. They are not notes on the episode per se. Take care 🙂 ❤
We'd still love to read them in a reddist post you "found"@@cmk1626
This is DEFINITELY one I’ll be listening to again.
Really,solid,advice.
I’ve been working with children with special needs for 30 years and one of the most important things I can do for them is to offer them opportunities to succeed. This may mean reducing work into ‘bite sized’ chunks so that the task becomes achievable. The confidence they get from this encourages them to push themselves further. Jordan Peterson is a very wise, kind and honest man.
This may be an OTT comment, but when I picture the type of person doing God's work Jordan Peterson is one of them. Thank you Jordan. Excellent podcast #DiaryofaCEO
I've subscribed to so many podcasts. But this is the one I can't wait to get back to every week. Steven is unique. The way he conducts himself, the questions, the interviews, so unique. I'm a fan for life.
Perhaps it's his honesty and naive nature about so many subjects.
fake comments from Indian farm like the subs
“You may feel like a fool because you are.” 😂❤ oh man, I love Jordan!
Wow. Yep. I guess that pegs me.
I find that giving people responsibility that matters often sets them right. The ones who get bored or off track often have no responsibility and guidance.
@littleripper312
I agree wholeheartedly with your first sentence. Bravo!
1:42 next 40 seconds made me cry like a kid
So thank you Jordan I felt exactly the same 2 years after I started listening to you ❤❤❤
You voice makes me feel like there is always a reasonable explanation for everything
And you go deep into things people tend to leave in the air and don’t deal with ❤❤❤
Thank god for UA-cam and for podcasts because these discussions do not happen elsewhere.
1) Jordan (one of my favorite thinkers, major fan, no hate) talking, uninterrupted, at length, about the importance of listening 😂 2) I’m going to need to listen to this whole thing at least twice.
It is unspeakably moving to watch this conversation and compare and contrast it with the last one. The last time, Dr. Peterson was so fragile, and in pain, and absolutely exhausted emotionally. I remember so keenly “Oh God, tears again” and wanting so badly to put my arms around him and comfort him. How last time he responded “Brilliantly and terribly” to the question, “How are you doing?” To contrast that to his enthusiastic “Good!” given with such alacrity. I’m so sorrowful that he is still in pain but so relieved that the pain is just an irritant now, not devastating. And now his head is so clear and his verbal fluency back, and it’s so good to see. I do think that Steven brought out a lovely side of him that it’s so good to see. ❤
I've heard people saying JP is like a father to a generation. My father died two years ago (he was wonderful), I'm going through a divorce, have three children and a stressful career. On days when it is difficult to function (like today), I watch clips of JP and it is just like having a father's guidance.
I find it hard to pin down why his words are so powerful. They always resonate. I think it's the place they come from.
This is my favourite JP interview! Just uninterrupted JP gems! I will be revisiting this episode for sure
time flew so fast while listening to you.
I love this!! Blessings to you on your journey! 🩷
44:58 you broke my heart with this one jordan. Broke me right in half. I revealed my snakes and he ran for the hills, even though I knew about the snakes he didn’t reveal and they were far bigger and more poisonous than mine. I wonder if I will ever find someone who won’t run and worse if I do will I be able to put my guard down? I pray everyday I will. Thanks guys this was amazing.
You'll know the one that doesn't run is a keeper. I'm looking for the same :) Good luck to you on your journey and do your best to temper those snakes in the meantime!
In ref to having a partner that doesn't "run for the hills " when you reveal your snakes:" sometimes we hope that the perfect partner will live us despite all our flaws... but we reveal the too early in the relationship because we're afraid to go too far in with them. The fact is, they have snakes themselvea.. a relationship of trust must be built first, so as those snakes are released a little at a time the relationship can weather it, and as more trust is built over time , the relationship strengthens. It can't be one-sided. That is fear.and one sided selfishness.
If your spouse wants to run, help them pack their bags and never look back! Work on yourself from the inside. Then enjoy good things like exercise, nature, and stay away from drugs & alcohol!
That closing was everything!!! who else watched the entire interview without break
About listening - spot on! If you don't listen to your spouse on a daily basis, you will listen in divorce court. Very well said! People want/need to be heard.
My wife never said a word just left 40 years together.. abusive childhood alcoholic mother if she can’t communicate, she Musta got screamed at when she opened her mouth is a little girl she never complained repressed all emotions…. Felt not loved insecure
That's exactly what happened to me. I was in an abusive relationship for 10 years and I also had abusive parents that would never admit they were abusive. I got to the point where I was isolated in my room. I was terrified to go to the store or go to the mailbox or do anything anymore.
After I left I realized all of my anxiety attacks actually stemmed from him. My stomach ulcers... High sentitivity to noise... Chronic pain worse than what I should have with the disorder I have....everything got better In that area. I do still struggle when I hear sudden noises where I'm living now. And I struggle cleaning up because anytime I did, he would rage me. He knew I loved a clean home and I wanted to take care of our home and for some reason it infuriated him.. I just started making my bed every day again. I've been gone seven months and it's taken me this long to start making my bed every day. I don't sleep in the same bed every night. I move around in this place because it's not mine. But I still make the bed every day.
Keep going, keep making the bed. It will get better. Be proud of yourself, not everyone has the courage to leave.
I started changing my entire life by starting to make my bed every day. it took a long time for it to become second nature, but it really is the start of big changes.
Can totally relate! Celebrate every win and please know the abusive that happened to you was not your fault xx
More and more power to you, friend. ❤
it's funny how women will rather take 10 years of abuse rather than actually put their own lives in order. they'd rather have that abuse as long as the "husband" brings that paycheck home...so who's really the abuser here? the wife taking advantage of the male for 10 years, rather than growing a pair and just leaving before the "abuse" starts. i have no sympathy for any woman that would deal with that for a DECADE and then blame the husband for it instead of their own insecurity
This man a bloody mastermind. So much sense, knowledge, insight, truth and much more.
A man to who will go down in history as one of the great, together with names like Jung, Nietzsche etc.
You're kidding, right? Jung and Nietzsche came up with original insights. Peterson just packages existing knowledge and insight for the mass market.
@@AM_o2000 , you shouldn't diminish the ability to take complex ideas and make them accessible to a wider audience. It's a very underrated skill.
@@bobbobbins4877 A very underrated skill indeed, but the OP's point was that Peterson should go down in history as a canonical thinker.
@@AM_o2000 perhaps a Hilaire Belloc of our Times ... If he continues going up; G.K. Chesterton 😉
@@LepantoLemonade All he's written are some self-help books containing superficial, speciously argued theology and philosophy. It'll take more than that to become a canonical writer.
Thank you so much, my husband has 5 max 10 minutes conversation time and gives solution w/o fully allowing me to get my words out & for the first time I felt like someone understands me
The opening story from a listener Steve mentions sent goosebumps down my spine. Even if these talks only help one soul. It’s reason enough. Thank you Steven for devoting so much of your time to bringing this knowledge from these extraordinary thinkers to the public. Bless you ❤
That was so enlightening. I cried, I learned so much about myself 😢
I’m 65 now and at age 30 I left jail with $48. I make a deal with God that in thanks for letting me survive I would do His will. For 35 years I have been on a mission to find truth. I was always led back to the Bible. I wrote a book about my journey and published it in July. Jordan said the most important words to live by, “The truth is the adventure in life.” It has been my life and it made all the difference.
Amazing strengh and character to find your path, much respect
James,
I’ve never read the book but do you have a favorite meaningful passage to share with us?
I’m not religious but I’m open to learning.
@@nicolecarnevale3226 I have a degree in Economics and a MBA in quantitative mathematics and after leaving jail started numerous successful businesses and ended up managing Capital Markets at a large bank. The 20 people I managed asked me how to become rich so I told them how to become successful and it turned into a book. I reveal the greatest secret to success. It’s not a religious book however much of my thinking comes from Biblical Truth and God’s wisdom. My mission was to find truth and was always led back to Bible. If you live by truth you will have the world on your side. As Jordan said, “The truth is the adventure in life. Truth will work for you today, tomorrow, and the rest of your life.”
How do you find truth in these crazy times?
@@susanbeasley723 Study the Bible, join a study group, read the humanities, know your role and why God created you. Everyone has a mission in life. That’s a good place to start. The world will be saved by love and beauty said Fyodor Dostoevsky.
One of the greatest men of this century
not really
I can’t understand why people can’t stand JP. We must revere and protect this man at all cost. A voice of sanity! ❤
Disagree, vehemently.
And if you don’t understand is because you lack the mental capacity!
DO NOT IDOLISE PEOPLE!
It's a small but very loud minority who can't stand him. Those people are often not very sophisticated in regards to how they observe and analyse things.
@@robertholland7558 you seem interesting Robert Dutchman. I don’t idolise him, I actually just think he’s really cool and smart and stuff as I’m pretty much a dumb pleb as you know…. May I ask what upsets you so much besides holding to high regard? I promise I won’t hold him too too high… 🙃😵💫🤷♂️😘
@@kadirgold you are mistaken, there is a huge silent majority who have come to realise that voicing opinion is just a waste of words on members of his cult, and put their efforts into more valuable things out in the world, knowing that his followers will grow out of him like a dated, old shoe, at their own pace. There is a J.P. phase of adolescence some people go through, never mind their age. These people will inevitably come to realise that there is a whole world beyond that. All gurus will fall. Question everything, keep searching! Empower yourself to think for yourself. Best wishes on your path.
because he's a misogynist, transphobe, homophobic climate change denier who hates the poor and is outspokenly anti-science, the guy is a walking bottle of hate crime man and y'all can't wait to drink that shit up.
Thanks to Jordan and similar voices, I've since gained the courage to finally express myself to the women I find attractive. I found 2 ladies that actually like me and I have a date this Saturday! Thank you x1,000 Jordan! Your work saved my life!
Good luck on your date!
I agree man. Be yourself, no shame !
Jordan at his best. Thank you for sharing this interview. Very helpful
Man, the end when he explains why he's here, is so powerful, true and honest, I love it. This is some golden stuff for us to enjoy for free
As a podcaster whos starting out Steven is one of the few podcasters I hope to learn from. The way he gives his guests room to speak looks simple, but it's extremely hard to get right. Thank you.
So you want us to subscribe ?
He’s so good at it. And then asks the right questions at appropriate times to show that he has been listening and understands and hasn’t just been waiting for his moment to talk. Good luck to you with your future podcasts. What subject are you going to focus on?
@eldante4139 My podcasts are on cognitive science, economics and philopshy - thanks for asking !
All the best with your podcast Jack! Your idea sounds great :) @@JackRoycroftSherry
True. His questions are so specific to his deep and thorough ability to listen and let the guest guide the conversation. And his endless vulnerability is so beautiful.
I enjoy these conversations a lot. So calm and effortless. No noise inbetween... Like ads. High value content. Thank you so so much! 🍀❤️🦋🙏
I rarely comment on videos, but since this one is mostly about listening, I wanted to say that you Steve are such a great listener! You're one of the very tiny minority who let their guests talk, really listen to them, and then ask the right questions. That's the main reason I subscribed, so thank you, and please always stay like that! Do we have a deal?
He really is just a great listener!
this guy is a blessing to mankind
Amen ❤
Just someone who has conquered their own battles and became knowledgeable and he’s giving it back. Something we all should be doing.
Social media and all of the things of entertainment is a wonderful gift but it has made us weak. Get rid of the monetary things and find center again. We all have the will to choose to do it. Once you do, not giving up and being decent you’ll find you’ll land where you wanna be.
The mind paints the picture of what constantly goes on inside of it. We all need to find center again.
Many blessings to everyone struggling. There is hope, it’s undeniable that we are fighters so that’s what we will friggin do.
I’ve lived 62 years through many situations in life, and generally like to call a spade a spade! ..I love listening to Jordan’s forthright take on life’s challenges, I also believe truth is crucial and mastering deliverance of the truth kindly is key
"truth is crucial and mastering deliverance of the truth kindly is key" - that's a great nugget, thank you!
I haven't been able to clean my room. Addiction to gambling with virtual coins to get dopamine. It is very difficult to pull away from that.
Jordan is right about that because the ease of life cleaning up that room brings to a person and a sense of accomplishment.
With a dirty room, the accomplishments are few and far between:)
Have you tried 12 step meetings?
Gambling addiction is so misunderstood by so many. I hope you can find someone or a group of people who understand what you are going through.
This felt like a therapy session on a whole nother level. So wise and well said👏🏼
I concur with your opening testimony. My father passed when I was young. I struggled to replace that space and Jordan stepped in like a virtual hero in the night. I owe my prosperity and recent successes to him. It’s hard to explain but he gets the despair and the why continue feeling and walks you out of it.
I think this might be my fave episode yet. I’m a bit of a Jordan Peterson convert- 1. Because I was very guilty of not listening to anyone who didn’t share the same views as me politically at one point- so glad that changed in me - look at the sort of stuff I was missing out on and 2. Before I wrote him off due to political difference I found some of his stuff hard to follow- this podcast was so straight forward and absolute gold ❤ thanks 🙏
Jordan Peterson is a very complicated character. It's taken me a long time to begin to figure out what's going on with him. And something I've always found to be very true in life Is that when I can never understand what a person is saying, and it's so heavily layered in all this academic, elitist sounding language that more often than not it is BS when you parse through it all. And that's where the problem really lies here, to go through everything he's saying and break it all down and figure out what exactly it is that he's getting at, you just run into a trove of all of these fallacies that he's throwing around. Contradicting himself left and right, just trying desperately to be that smart guy in the room.
Which is a real shame, it's a real shame that he was the one who had taken that role for men, so many lost directionless men. He gave them nothing, his message when you break it all down at the end of the day is just pull yourself up your bootstraps,clean your room, And then not much else. The entire period where you went through all those health problems, just taking barbiturates for a long time. The entire saga just screamed hypocritical. He was no example for men, he's just as messed up as the rest of em....
I don't mean for this to demean your viewpoint or you as person in any way. Like I said, it took me a long time to come to this conclusion. If you ever have the time one of the best videos breaking this all down I've ever seen was by the UA-cam channel insert channel name here. He does it 3-hour deep dive on Jordan Peterson, which sounds absurd that sounds like an insane amount of time to spend on him. But it's necessary, that's the exact kind of breakdown that you need to really get to the bare bones what he's saying and the policies that are scattered all across it.
My rule of thumb is that if they can't describe it in a way where a 10-year-old could understand it, I don't trust them. Or at least I'm going to be highly skeptical about their intentions or what they're putting out there because... The truth is always going to be simple, easily understood by all, and it will have unity and love at its forefront.
With Jordan Peterson, especially his old videos, there's a lot of anger. There's a lot of hurt in him, and he wants to be the smartest man in the room so fucking bad. He just isn't, he's a try hard, and it sucks. He could have been a very time very helpful person in this world but he had nothing to offer these guys whatsoever, telling them to clean their room and kind of got it. People know how to get healthy people know how to get their shit together They just can't They're frozen down fucked up as this world is really fucked up right now and it's a lot to handle..
Anyways, I'll find that link here in a second. Like I said, I hope none of this comes up me being angry at your or anything like that, that couldn't be further from it. Just sucks, I wish we had somebody better than him for men's rights, men aren't doing well and people spit in their face for it....
Much love to you, I hope all is well in your life!
@@RealStonedApeyou have misinterpreted this man completely, no where is he trying to be the smartest man in the room, he tries to speak the truth forthrightly as much as possible.
To be emotionally invested is not the same as being angry, try not to attribute your own emotional state unto others.
A ten year old can in no way or form understand all that there is to understand, if we should set the bar so low then we can just stop all together in wanting to better ourselves.
A good way to get out of your own way is stop assigning malice and your life will be significantly better very rapidly.
when people here Jordan B Peterson they think 'trans hater' 'woman hater' because of his political viewpoints so nobody left leaning is willing to listen to him. Jordan B Peterson is the one person who everyone needs to listen to at some point of their lives. His explanation and his advice on the first 5 years of having children the things he talks about was life changing. Ive taken alot on board of what he says.
"I'm not happy with my job" why? How can you change that?
"Im not happy with my life" why? How can you change that?
"I'm not happy with my financial problems" Why? What went wrong? How can you change that?
@@lnyourface1 No u
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The knowledge and advice packed into this podcast is insanely valuable
I agree.
Indeed! ☝️
...nearly reached the end of this. I've made it through a handful of his conversations and this is by far is the clearest he has been. A pleasure to listen to.
Jordan you often pull me from the depths of despair when my world is the darkest.. I will go as far to say that your teachings and enlightenment of the human dichotomy has saved me from completely giving up.
Thank you. Be blessed always and please continue with your teachings
Jordan has the knowledge and experience to tackle these issues with the blunt honesty of someone who has been there. That’s why we love him and trust him, nothing is staged or faked, JP is the real deal.
Jordan's answer to the last question was very pleasant to hear.
As i myself am going through a hard time and hearing someone say that his life is incredible - it cheers up, gives joy and instils high hope.
Cheers to Jordan and TDOTC team for the fulfilling moment 🌟
What an awesome and well deserved compliment JP gave you, Steven! I love it. ❤️