That last comment got me. I've spent the last year obsessing about bpd and narcissism, in the hope for discovery of what the heck is going on. I've noticed ive forgotten about my own person, my own healing in this process.
Great video. Ultimately they do it to hurt you. Being ostracised and rejected causes emotional pain. Narcissists are sick, they get pleasure out of inflicting emotional pain.
I was with a Narcissistic female for 2 years. Looking at this video after 5-6 months after our breakup and having landed myself in a healthy relationship recently is extremely eye-opening as to what the hell I was dealing with but so damn blind to. For those of you stuck in the endless and vicious cycle please get out and seek therapy. I did, and I'm thankful for it. Friends, family, co-workers, all walks of life told me I was at insane for staying with someone who could devalue me in an instant. Looking back they were all right, but the person I'm with is tremendous in her efforts to comfort me, take care of me, and be the person my ex could never be or become. It's a breath of fresh air being out of a toxic relationship.
I am so glad you found someone. I really am. I know I don't know you but it's just nice to hear. I can't imagine ever meeting anyone ever again. I'm so traumatised and scarred. It's not ever going to be a thing that happens.
I lived this for over 4 years with my ex. The longer with her the more everything became my fault. Her health, her disability, her mood swings, how she treats others etc. Ive spent over 8 months trying to heal from this. Extremely hard and she left me so fast and made it out as it was all me is the reason etc etc all after a blowup she had on me during a outing which was abrupt and made no sense. Or to anyone else who was around. I had yelled back at her which was not something i did often and she turned red hot mad. Then spent days even after being near me the same night avoiding me all together. Just to eventually attack me and make me feel she was so fragile all while belittling me and making it out i needed to do more. Then days later poof. It got even more wacky after the breakup when i wanted answers and to call her out on switching things up on me that i even have proof of her saying to me.
I've blocked and unblocked them too. I get pushed to the point that i end the relationship out of frustration. Once i calmed down, i would unblock them. It was embarrassing. The hours, days, weeks of constant drama just overwhelmed me to the point that i pushed back hard. I noticed this pattern after i am trauma bonded and my mental health has eroded. I wont be sleeping, feel like i am in a fog and spending hours a day ruminating about the perplexity. I'm vulnerable to being emotionally reactive in this state
#1: They think you are the narcissist #2: Power and control #3: To maintain their victim stance #4: To punish you #5: To provoke an emotional reaction #6: To maintain secrecy and distance #7: To condition you to wait and wonder about their return #8: They don’t have the maturity to break up with you #9: Reputation management #10: Impulsivity
She did break up With me though. Yet she lied the whole time through out our relationship she was sleeping with multiple men and confessed that’s what she wanted when she ended or relationship then told me she only said that to see I wasn’t gay it’s insane. Then I panicked and tried calling her from different numbers and missed her
When someone blocks you or let you down, it's bye bye. [I wish I had this kind of self respect, when I was in this situation. Please learn from my mistakes. Don't let them hurt you more/again.]
Don't stay in such thing Pack your bags and leave Upgrade yourself and don't enable these creatures with such behavior remove yourself so this thing doesn't apply
Yeah if you make any small criticism or find any fault with their horrible self-absorbed communication skills, they punish you by stonewalling. You simply are never allowed to express any dis satisfaction whatsoever or you will be shunned…. Until they realize they need something. Then they pretend as if nothing had ever happened. It’s a really disgusting way to to treat people. But of course they are the victim always… And rationalize everything… always an excuse… and so offended… “I lost my phone, my neck was sore, I hurt my finger, it was Tuesday… “ they say. “How dare you suggest I’m inconsiderate when I stubbed my big toe, so of course I didn’t reply to any of your texts!”
First time she stonewalled me I just laughed it off and kept leveling up and then she low key hoovered me after. I thought it was funny at first (goofy as hell) but after a while it got annoying and then I found myself actively trying to avoid conversation with her
It's very easy to end up showing narcissistic traits after long dealing with these people. I ended up doing the same same things back to her that she did to me...because it was the only way to cope with it. Ya know, sort of give them a taste of their own medicine. But the key is that a mentally healthy person will feel uncomfortable with this "eye for an eye" behavior after a short time. It creates too much of a dissonance to not be our authentic selves, which is empathic and caring...not resorting to childish games. But, the narcissist on the other hand, will delight in sadistically torturing you and not let up and will not feel any guilt or remorse for hurting you.
Specifically for (retaliatory) blocking: very little eye for an eye here for me. Most of it is self preservation. Just seeing the 900 character text roll in knowing it's all about how awful you are hurts even the most callused soul. I am a strong personality and can deal with a lot, but constant nonstop hate will get to anyone. You know it takes them down a peg too when they can no longer spew vitriol nonstop until you beg for mercy. It really does. Do they then plan how to hurt you in other ways? Absolutely. It is a game to them. Short term wins are still wins. Long term find a way to avoid them completely.
Yes. She taught me id say her game of arguing to the end of the earth. It was a game to see who gave in first and believed they was through. I played along and then realized I could win because I was infact serious and was done. She was I think seeing how far she'd pushed me. Its weird now ad a veil is lifted to see yhis
@@BleedThe5th Yes. It's a fact that they push you to abuse them or sabotage the relationship so that they don't have to be accountable and also so they can be a victim and tell people that YOU are the one who is bad and left. Cutting ties is the only way to get back to peace.
And when they do reply to a message, it barely makes any sense… and you have to ask for clarification, which of course they can never be bothered to do…
@@caranoblitt6212 we all send brain farts from time to time… it depends on the broader pattern, I guess, to notice. for the ‘normal’ person a message exists to convey information. But for the narcissist it is so they can have a secret… frustrate… withhold… etc. everything is a big secret! I’m a little triggered about it myself at the moment… lol
@@caranoblitt6212 it’s interesting also to contrast the pseudo brain damage mode they use to answer a simple question with the suddenly precise and more elaborate way they will articulate a text of grievance telling you what an unbalanced person you are for trying to control them with your constant “barrage” of practical questions… If you have ever had to deal with such a one…
When you don’t understand narcissism or never heard of it (which is what usually happens to most), it’s hard to explain this kind of behavior. The block and unblock makes you (mistakenly) believe that the narcissist likes you, but is just immature or too proud to demonstrate it in a healthy manner. Once you lean about narcissism, then you comprehend that it’s just a game of manipulation for them, and that there was never love or caring. Move on. Take the opportunity to learn about yourself, self-correct, and move on.
This is 100% correct. It describes my now ex narcissistic girlfriend exactly as she is. I sent her this video and she responded by again blocking me. 😂
What a video - been waiting for this one for 10 years!! Nice one Lise - keep up this incredible work. Hitting the nail on the head with every statement - just perfect.
Great video thanks for preparing & presenting 👌 I’ve found that the 1st sign of any type of gaslighting / non reciprocal behaviour or just flat out shadiness (for both men & women) - just block & delete their number (in that order). Do the same on WhatsApp / Telegram etc. I don’t have tinder or FB or IG or tiktok or Twitter or any of that crap so don’t have to worry about being stalked on social media.
In this video I recognize behavior of both me, and 3 of my eyes. It seems I am in a cycle of attracting a certain type of person and that is also reflecting of some of my own behavior. However I do feel it has it's roots in how I was brought up and I do not see myself as a full narcissist, just a wounded person who in some situations acts in ways that are emotionally immature.
I totally agree too with the last comment you gave us. Actually I've realized my ex is a narcissist with you 6 months ago and you were already saying something similar. 6 months after I'm still affected by this toxic relationship, still I managed to take better care of myself: I eat more often, I'm going to the gym, I even gain some weight back. Now last but not least I need to treat the trauma bond thing. It's awful. And though that experience really damaged me in a way on the other it has helped me understand that I'm codependent. I knew I had an issue from my childhood. I don't know if my Mum is a narcissist too but I've experienced some psychological abuse for sure. So thanks to all of you who are doing a great job or there for all of us. If you guys weren't there I don't know if I would still be here and I'm dead serious. Thank you 🙏🙏🙏
This is similar to the constant break up control method she used from the start of our relationship. Any difficulty or disagreement she'd end things, happened so often I lost count. She was in her 40s but acting like a teenager!!Forward 15 yrs she said I'll call you later and didn't, so I left her to whatever she's up to. If she comes back it's a no thank you from me.
My son blocked me and I didn't know. I'd leave msgs all the time with no response. Then when I asked for time with my granddaughters he said no because there had been no contact between us. Crazy-making, petty and deceptive. I am heart-broken over the loss of my relationship with my grandkids because I am now at "no contact". Cruel and absolutely uncalled for.
@@HenkdeVries-h6g If I were the problem, I would do anything in my power to fix it. A Malignant narcissist would never admit it was their fault the family is in tatters. Sounds like you could use some therapy yourself.
Understanding is one thing acceptance for what it is is the key to moving on a narc never change no matter what you do ! Look after number 1 Yourself !
She would go on an insult onslaught, which eventually made ME block HER for a day until she had calmed down. Almost every narcissist video includes blocking, stonewalling and ghosting, which ironically made me the culprit. I then decided to stop doing that and just let her rant herself out on text and voice notes, I just delete it. I figured it was unhealthy from my part to be doing that. She now blocks me occasionally, with the excuse "I learned this from you..." I savior those moments now... 😂
Years ago I had someone block me many times on Facebook. Almost every time when that person would unblock me, that person would send me a friend request. For a while, I would accept. After a while I get annoyed. Why should I continue accepting your friend request if you are going to block me soon after? In a sense, I told that person that. Guess what? That person became displeased. As if I am the one who is doing wrong by not accepting their friend request.
Im going thru a break-up right now. Things were perfect the first 6 months of the relationship, but then changed overnight. I'm dealing with a lot of confusion right now, but thank God for these videos from Lise. I'm now understanding what I've been dealing with. Ps, it's true what they say about not dating someone separated or recently divorced.
The second I find out that these fools unblock me I always block them. I also block people I don’t like but I never unblock them because I don’t want to know what their up too
To live a lie, gotta do some blocking here and there, to remain excusably unavailable when the occasion occurs, remember that song Rico suave? "I juggle three or four" sums it up
She would literally make up things about me and block me. She'd tell me she would find someone that can "give her what she wants" implying that she was going to another guy. Sometimes a guy would be at her house that she used to sleep with (and probably still did whilst we were together). She would tell me that and then block me! That's how disgusting she is. Leaving me panicking about what they were doing. Oh God I feel sick writing this. She once even unblocked me and called me and started shouting his name. She's not allowed to call me. Her number was blocked and in the past, I've changed my number and disabled my email address and she turned up at my house (I live fifty miles away) and there were times when she thought she'd lost me, she'd turn up at my work places... The other day she calls me from her new number. She has a boyfriend and everything. Yet she still kept calling me over and over and over again.
My ex gf physically assaulted me HARD. I called the cops, but didn't stay and didn't wanna press charges, so the police let itvgo, but i called them over. My gf claimed it was my fault because what i said to her was so true, it made her mad and her anger forced her to push me and punch me.
My daughter's mother has attacked me I don't know how many times and is absolutely adamant that I was the one who attacked her All I wanted was a simple happy family life And she's destroyed any ability for that to happen
I dated a distance relationship for one year and she has a rotation system of a few ex boyfriends which she also blocked and now I am blocked I was before almost all 2 days and the unblocked but now she add the other 2 poor guys back. She constantly has to have someone available and banns me. This was such a emotional hell and I find it mentally abuse. Even she claimed I never mentally abused you. From the gaslighting and the accusations and so I dont even wanna start talk about.
I stumbled into and thankfully quickly out of a relationship I believe was with a narcissist. He would seem desperate to not want me upset with him at first. Then he would do the I’m just going to let you go because you don’t know what you want blah blah blah. He would say please just block me and let this die. Ok well yes that’s what I did. Blocked him everywhere and didn’t respond to his last borage of name calling and accusations. I’m pretty sure he had connected with new supply thank goodness. I was able to step back and see the toxicity and have firm resolve to be gone.
I can't believe that I'm right now in kind of narcissistic.relationship...oh..the signs are true.. not all but most of it.. I feel the gut feelings from the first met..I couldn't believe that I'm still talking with them.. like nothing was happened..
My younger sister just did it to me, blocked me after saying that she nearly needed to call an ambulance because I upset her so much for simply telling her my father didn’t want to take her phone call begging for money because it’s my phone, she is sure going to be surprised to find out I have blocked her when she unblocks me to apologise and start the “my life is crap I want to die” cycle again and I won’t relent.
I went no contact but didn't block her. I would never do that to someone i loved. I only do that to people i hate and people that are scumbags. Not wishing for her to come back...but i guess I'm a nice guy and dont have the heart to do that.
My last narc blocked me from messaging but didn’t block me completely. I knew that he’d continue to watch me if I didn’t block him so I blocked him everywhere. I rarely block so when I do, it’s for a good reason.
Oh, you have more power than you'd think. You can train them. Ot she goes no contact for 5 days. When she comes back, tell her "no supply for 10 days and go no contact for 10 days. Meanwhile. Everytime she goes no contsct head to the asian massage parlor, or gentlemans cabaret. Keep the receipts and lay them around the house. Just remember. A narcissist is nothing more than an emotionally damaged child a child. A deranged one 🤷🏻♂️ So, no contact is more God like ,humane effective , and hopefully a more permanent solution.
Fuck yeah Lise! Always with great points. I don't know if the girl who discarded me was narcissist or not. I was thinking that she was a BPD but everything in this video resonates to the point, it is making me angry for what she did to me. Great content and observations, Thank you for your suggestions and inputs.
I have no one to share my thoughts about, when it comes to the woman I meet online for a long time and soon gonna meet, is a narcissist. She is the only woman except my mom, that give me these vibes, except she doesn't fit every trait as a narcissist 1. She is extremely sensitive to criticism. An example. I forgot to transfer some money, that I promise to help her. When mentioned it, I do it right away. I tell her, she should have mentioned what it costs. She accuses me of blaming her 2. She is very black and white thinking. 3. When we are in an argument, she says don't argue with me, it will give you peace of mind. 4. Just say Yes to me. 5. You talk sooo much, and love your voice so much. 6. She is often depressed and say how awful she are, even I always compliment her. 7. She often talks about death and it would be better if she wasn't here. 8. When sometimes I snap at her, after she has been sarcastic and patronising towards me. She plays the victim, and can say to me. Are you happy now, you got your revenge. (I have never been vengeful) 9. She can flip from being funny to be patronising and passive aggressive. 10. It's like I do most of the work between us, maybe 80/20 11. She's not interested to intro spect and look inwards. When she is suffering it's all my fault. I have done and still do therapy and body work to heal old trauma. She have no interest in it her self. 12. Something she said recently, when we talked about a common friend, that has lost a dear family member, and his girlfriend didn't showed any care totowards him. She said to me on some occasions "see how luckily you are, to have me" because she was supportive when my mother died, at least in the beginning. I would never say something like this. On the other hand. I trust her, she always keeps her appointments, and updates me if anything happens, she honest with money. I don't know if she is narcissist or not. I have never meet a woman I have these deeply feelings for, but at the same time feel I have to walk on eggshells, except back then when my mom was alive
When I found out the narc unblocked me, I blocked her myself, then buried her at the very bottom of the blocked persons list with countless number of spam accounts so I won't even be able to see her. No contact is a life sentence.
If you dealing with a narcissist, give your life to jesus christ. He will help you escape them also forces them to shut up and keep they’re nasty words themselves. I just went through it with my ex and gave my life christ now she hates that God keeps her away from me forces her to watch me win regardless. I love God for this he forces all your enemies to shut up and sit down.
Amen!! It’s the ONLY WAY!!! The enemy will throw these reprobates into our path - & if you sleep with them (like I have, like most of us have) then you really have to ask to be set free from the this ungodly soul tie.
@@hotchocexpresso you really do i highly agree, all the obstacles they put in the way and as you get deeper and more involved with the bible and christ. Their is a side you haven’t seen in people its truly bizarre.
Lise, I have been temporarily blocking and unblocking some of my clients and 1 friend for years. Reason: I am aware they are becoming hyper or emotionally unstable when I tell them something they don’t like. Example: when I tell my client that I won’t be able to complete a certain project due to scheduling conflict. I know from previous experience that I would get 10-15 unpleasant/unhappy messages or many missed overnight phone calls when they are in that state. So I block them for 2-3 hours, sometime for a couple of days so they become more reasonable and manageable. Does it make me having narcissistic traits? I am a bit confused by this video. Please advise. Thanks.
Nobody but a licensed clinician can diagnosed you with NPD and they’d need a lot more than this to go off of.. Get to a psychologist if you’re concerned.
I feel there was a part that was missed in this. For example, not all who block people are narcissistic. This will occur because of violations of boundaries that were set to help promote healthy communication.
I love the content from this brilliant and beautiful mind! Lise Leblanc is my favorite life coach to help me understand myself and others in deeper ways-and as Lise says “in order to understand what your dealing with, and what to do about it”. I trust her opinions and relationship advice, and she helps me self reflect upon my own mental health issues as well. Thank you Lise Leblanc - As above so below 🙏💕
My daughters mother scores 7/10. Lise you didn't mention the text sniping. Send a text and then block. unblock to send another one. In the past when she does this I just block her. When that happens I get the rage and threat emails to every address she knows about including work. Maybe that's more BPD, but I always love getting told I'm a "narc" and my "flying monkeys" know nothing.
My wife who had an affair and did some really horrible things to us and our family did this a lot! Blocked unblocked and as angry I would ever get I noticed I’d never block her bc as good people we think well if they ever need anything or are in trouble etc. I think in her mid 49s got really does as she had her affair and broke up our family and never apologized blamed me and said it was no bid deal if you can believe it
@@ZipZoom-h1h I was keeping it together with Gods help of course but when he moved on and got married she turned it up a notch and made me suffer, and that’s when I got angry and shit down and stopped trying and told her to pack her stuff and leave - after telling that to her a few times she did
I block him so I can have some peace. I don't want to hear him call me a whore or a gold digger or tell me I'm cheating on him. I broke up with him and blocked him.
Well did you end that relationship before you got sexual with a new one,? Did you leave the relationship be ause the new one had more materialistic offerings ? Did you know you would gain in material aspects of you could convince the new part of that your sexually attractive to him and have sex? Be honest with yourself . I don't know if you did or not and I have nothing to compare you with I know it's a 70% chance you cheated because 70,% do cheat. I think it's possible that the new feller may atleast be more financially able to do the things you care to. Or in some instances you simply want security. 80% of women choose the one with security. Now I don't liken to you being a whore. Very low percentage of women in the modern world are such that in trade or closely considered trade sex. Its only 2% at most which make a direct exchange for sex. Yet it happens in the likes of yhe other 2 happenning or that the other 2 occur often with new partners . So you could be a acting out as if that's below you . I agree it is only bottom feeders that behave that way as well as the first two as cheaters and gold diggers. So ask yourself and know that 70% are gold digging cheaters and of those 30% will whore themselves out as a lover in return for goods however agreed and delivered.. so the average chance that your a Cheating Gold digging Whore is 63.3% . Now that's not 100 or an A ad in school. Hows er it would indicate a D-. It does occur that most cheating gold digging whored Are not very intelligent and a D- along with the fact you have ghosted him instead of having the mental capacity to deal and the history of innocence to stand by. Id say its about time you called and apologized because he is right. You owe him big time so id get some knee pads. 😊
It isn’t unclear. She said it’s very easy to focus on overanalysing incidents from the relationship and focusing on what traits aligned with which experience, but you need to put energy into focusing on your own healing.
yeah, topics like this make a lot of so called relationship experts and mental health professionals seem like hypocrites. everyone's well within their right to block others, no matter the intent.
Their 'no contact' only holds for short period of time, as a trick to manipulate and control their supply! Are you paying attention to the video? Or maybe for some people it confuses them because they're never experiencing it.
You and the people thumbing up your comment are missing the point. The intents are different. Narcassists act with malice.That's where the difference lies.
After disgard and during devalue she spulf accuse me of veing in dating sites etc etc , i bet she was ! She used to breakup by going mad and blocking me etc so i would have ti run round there ti sort it out, 3 years of push/ pull...We only got engaged 5 werks ago ffs
Re: “It's a game of power to assert dominance in relationships by creating a cycle of confusion and emotional turmoil. This tactic keeps you second guessing, it destabilizes your emotions and keeps you off balance psychologically ensuring that they maintain the upper hand.” Very interesting. I’m not certain if all narcissists do this consciously, but I know for certain that Pickup artists (PUAs) do do this 100% consciously. The PUA wants a variety of women chasing him without having to put in much effort. The way he does this is by creating addiction in each of his targets. The addiction triggers them to chase them. First the PUA triggers primal attraction in his target by flipping a number of well known hard-wired attraction triggers and then he offers a “compliance test”. If she takes the bait by complying, he will reward her with a calibrated amount of affection and then pull away which triggers her to chase. If she doesn’t take the bait, he will punish her but offer her the option to redeem herself by building more attraction and offering another compliance test. This “intermittent reward” creates addiction. Every move the PUA makes is designed to create “addiction” in his target: Offer value. Compliance test. Punishment and reward. If the PUA is smart, he will balance the punishment and reward so that the target does not get either too comfortable or too uncomfortable. These are the same kind of tactics used by the “attention engineers” who design slot machines and the algorithms used by social media companies. The goal is always to take what they want from you and then discard you when you have nothing left to take. Our world is run by people who are both (1) without conscience and (2) skilled at the craft of manipulating others into “learned helplessness + addiction” and they use the addiction to mislead people so that they can gain at their expense. We should, perhaps, consider the benefits of learning how to cure ourselves from this intentional strategy of creating “learned helpless + addiction” in people. If we learn how to do it in, say, the relationship domain, perhaps the same cure can be applied to other domains where innocent people are preyed upon? It is said that we are trapped in suffering by “sin”. A term from archery that means “missing the target”. When we choose to “chase” the “target” of our addiction we are choosing to remain trapped in suffering. Sources: The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed by Mystery A.K.A. Erik Von Markovik How to Talk to Hot Women: The 9 Secrets to Getting and Keeping the Woman (Women) of Your Dreams Kindle Edition by Mehow
@@louisbee7923 The actual topic of this great video is why does a narcissist block you. I am explaining to you DIRECTLY why, amongst the most skilled narcissists, blocking you is part of a deliberate calibrated strategy to make you addicted to them. This is the deliberate creation of the trauma bond for the purpose of enslaving you. Do you understand? PUAs don’t just pick up girls. The best of them maintain harems of beautiful women who are completely addicted to them. They purposefully study how to brainwash you and keep you enslaved. The criminal syndicate that runs the world uses variations on these same techniques to keep you self absorbed in your own addiction while they are openly murdering tens of thousands of innocent children in Gaza, for example. When people are self absorbed in their own trauma, they can be completely indifferent to the suffering of others. This is, in part, how the top narcissists maintain control of their trauma bonded slaves.
@@louisbee7923 The actual topic of this great video is why does a narcissist block you? I am explaining to you that you are not seeing the forest for the trees. There is a tendency amongst the traumatized to become obsessed with individual traumas and not understand that each trauma is simply a part of an intentional well developed plan to make you a slave, trauma bonded and addicted to your master. Do you understand? PUAs don’t just pick up girls. The best of them maintain harems of beautiful women who are completely addicted to them. They purposefully study how to brainwash you and keep you enslaved. The criminal syndicate that runs the world uses variations on these same techniques to keep you trapped in learned helplessness and self absorbed in your own addiction(s) while they are openly murdering tens of thousands of innocent children in Gaza, for example. When people are self absorbed in their own trauma, they can be as completely indifferent to the suffering of others as the most evil narcissist. This is, in part, how the dark lord of this world maintains control of his trauma bonded slaves.
Why is it, that recordings about female personality disorders/‚males as victims’ get less views compared to the other way around? I have my thoughts, but like to hear yours out there in www :).
There are methods to block people who have already blocked you so that they do not have the power to "dip back in to your life" behind the scenes. With Facebook if you ever exchanged a Messenger message with the person you will retain the conversation in history. You can right click on the message and choose to block them from both messanger and Facebook access to your profile even if you can no longer see their profile.
My gf doesn't block me, she just ignores me for a bit. Also, she doesn't always respond to my messages but only says what she wants, pretending It's not there. What I do when I get irritated, I just ignore her for a few more days or a week and then she misses me.
See, now you make me think I'm a narcissist. I blocked someone because I couldn't stand their closed-off attitude and the lack of mutual care and respect and now I feel like I'm the bad guy.
Don't bro I'm the same I hate arguing unfortunately my wife is very argumentive an finds things to argue about instead of trying to show understanding an unreasonable so to stop the arguments I block so I can get through work then I unblock to see if she has calmed down or anything like that if she's still holding resentment I just block becuase it's better then working with bent up feelings I know I'm no narssist I don't need to people to validate me I was happy to be single but I was love bomed into this marriage I don't manipulate I just hate arguing so I can see how blocking can be narssistic but not in my situation
You are probably the best therapist for narcissistic behavior. 10/10 content
That last comment got me. I've spent the last year obsessing about bpd and narcissism, in the hope for discovery of what the heck is going on. I've noticed ive forgotten about my own person, my own healing in this process.
Did you stop obsessing or at least decrease it ? @ricoval49
@@ricoval49 same here.
Yep def been through that
It’s a difficult balance between educating myself about what was done to me, and not obsessing over it.
Great video. Ultimately they do it to hurt you. Being ostracised and rejected causes emotional pain. Narcissists are sick, they get pleasure out of inflicting emotional pain.
This lady is good. Every video I’ve seen from her is spot on.
She's the best.
I was with a Narcissistic female for 2 years. Looking at this video after 5-6 months after our breakup and having landed myself in a healthy relationship recently is extremely eye-opening as to what the hell I was dealing with but so damn blind to.
For those of you stuck in the endless and vicious cycle please get out and seek therapy. I did, and I'm thankful for it. Friends, family, co-workers, all walks of life told me I was at insane for staying with someone who could devalue me in an instant. Looking back they were all right, but the person I'm with is tremendous in her efforts to comfort me, take care of me, and be the person my ex could never be or become.
It's a breath of fresh air being out of a toxic relationship.
Be sure and catch Matt at The33Secrets channel. It's all about narc females and will ensure you never fall into that trap again.
@@Ryuhayabusa.7 thanks for this
I am so glad you found someone. I really am. I know I don't know you but it's just nice to hear.
I can't imagine ever meeting anyone ever again. I'm so traumatised and scarred. It's not ever going to be a thing that happens.
I lived this for over 4 years with my ex. The longer with her the more everything became my fault. Her health, her disability, her mood swings, how she treats others etc. Ive spent over 8 months trying to heal from this. Extremely hard and she left me so fast and made it out as it was all me is the reason etc etc all after a blowup she had on me during a outing which was abrupt and made no sense. Or to anyone else who was around. I had yelled back at her which was not something i did often and she turned red hot mad. Then spent days even after being near me the same night avoiding me all together. Just to eventually attack me and make me feel she was so fragile all while belittling me and making it out i needed to do more. Then days later poof. It got even more wacky after the breakup when i wanted answers and to call her out on switching things up on me that i even have proof of her saying to me.
@@deezgex very common story. To make things worse she will try and come back in your life at some stage.
I've blocked and unblocked them too. I get pushed to the point that i end the relationship out of frustration. Once i calmed down, i would unblock them. It was embarrassing. The hours, days, weeks of constant drama just overwhelmed me to the point that i pushed back hard. I noticed this pattern after i am trauma bonded and my mental health has eroded. I wont be sleeping, feel like i am in a fog and spending hours a day ruminating about the perplexity. I'm vulnerable to being emotionally reactive in this state
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Wow, these videos are so on point its scary!!
Amazing work here
@@runnersluck4390 it’s like you’ve dated the same person it’s than on point
#1: They think you are the narcissist
#2: Power and control
#3: To maintain their victim stance
#4: To punish you
#5: To provoke an emotional reaction
#6: To maintain secrecy and distance
#7: To condition you to wait and wonder about their return
#8: They don’t have the maturity to break up with you
#9: Reputation management
#10: Impulsivity
She did break up
With me though. Yet she lied the whole time through out our relationship she was sleeping with multiple men and confessed that’s what she wanted when she ended or relationship then told me she only said that to see I wasn’t gay it’s insane. Then I panicked and tried calling her from different numbers and missed her
and best of all, when they unblock, the same fight still carries on... and on, I think this fight is lasting 5 months now.
@@geoffreybester7953Trauma bonds can be VERY tough to break. It creates an intense addiction to the bad habit.
@@AlexRyan she changed her number wtf does that mean
@@AlexRyan She tantrum rages for her shopping addiction every day at me, and if she doesn't get it, goes on an alcohol binge with other guys.
When someone blocks you or let you down, it's bye bye.
[I wish I had this kind of self respect, when I was in this situation. Please learn from my mistakes. Don't let them hurt you more/again.]
That’s amazing, because I’ve been blocked and unblocked by this particular lady for four years now.
Don't stay in such thing
Pack your bags and leave
Upgrade yourself and don't enable these creatures with such behavior remove yourself so this thing doesn't apply
Thanks for this video this is exactly what she does and the crazy person lives right next door to me this sucks
Can you please make a video on narcissists/borderline single mothers and how her upbringing affects adult sons?
They become entitled like mom.
I can answer that one, used to have a buddy in that situation, short answer, they turn into manipulative little bastards and it doesnt end well
100% spot on
Yeah if you make any small criticism or find any fault with their horrible self-absorbed communication skills, they punish you by stonewalling. You simply are never allowed to express any dis satisfaction whatsoever or you will be shunned…. Until they realize they need something. Then they pretend as if nothing had ever happened.
It’s a really disgusting way to to treat people. But of course they are the victim always…
And rationalize everything… always an excuse… and so offended…
“I lost my phone, my neck was sore, I hurt my finger, it was Tuesday… “ they say.
“How dare you suggest I’m inconsiderate when I stubbed my big toe, so of course I didn’t reply to any of your texts!”
First time she stonewalled me I just laughed it off and kept leveling up and then she low key hoovered me after. I thought it was funny at first (goofy as hell) but after a while it got annoying and then I found myself actively trying to avoid conversation with her
3 years of pure chaos like Vietnam war…today I’m feeling like a vet with PST 😢 !
It's very easy to end up showing narcissistic traits after long dealing with these people. I ended up doing the same same things back to her that she did to me...because it was the only way to cope with it. Ya know, sort of give them a taste of their own medicine. But the key is that a mentally healthy person will feel uncomfortable with this "eye for an eye" behavior after a short time. It creates too much of a dissonance to not be our authentic selves, which is empathic and caring...not resorting to childish games. But, the narcissist on the other hand, will delight in sadistically torturing you and not let up and will not feel any guilt or remorse for hurting you.
Specifically for (retaliatory) blocking: very little eye for an eye here for me. Most of it is self preservation. Just seeing the 900 character text roll in knowing it's all about how awful you are hurts even the most callused soul. I am a strong personality and can deal with a lot, but constant nonstop hate will get to anyone.
You know it takes them down a peg too when they can no longer spew vitriol nonstop until you beg for mercy. It really does. Do they then plan how to hurt you in other ways? Absolutely. It is a game to them. Short term wins are still wins. Long term find a way to avoid them completely.
Yes. She taught me id say her game of arguing to the end of the earth. It was a game to see who gave in first and believed they was through. I played along and then realized I could win because I was infact serious and was done. She was I think seeing how far she'd pushed me. Its weird now ad a veil is lifted to see yhis
@@BleedThe5th Yes. It's a fact that they push you to abuse them or sabotage the relationship so that they don't have to be accountable and also so they can be a victim and tell people that YOU are the one who is bad and left. Cutting ties is the only way to get back to peace.
And when they do reply to a message, it barely makes any sense… and you have to ask for clarification, which of course they can never be bothered to do…
It’s funny that you say that. Thinking about it he would do that to the point I would read messages and think wth?
@@caranoblitt6212 we all send brain farts from time to time… it depends on the broader pattern, I guess, to notice.
for the ‘normal’ person a message exists to convey information. But for the narcissist it is so they can have a secret… frustrate… withhold… etc.
everything is a big secret!
I’m a little triggered about it myself at the moment… lol
OMGGG THIS IS SO ON POINT LMAO
@@christianrokicki It’s so true nothing is genuine feelings it’s a chess game.
@@caranoblitt6212 it’s interesting also to contrast the pseudo brain damage mode they use to answer a simple question with the suddenly precise and more elaborate way they will articulate a text of grievance telling you what an unbalanced person you are for trying to control them with your constant “barrage” of practical questions…
If you have ever had to deal with such a one…
When you don’t understand narcissism or never heard of it (which is what usually happens to most), it’s hard to explain this kind of behavior. The block and unblock makes you (mistakenly) believe that the narcissist likes you, but is just immature or too proud to demonstrate it in a healthy manner. Once you lean about narcissism, then you comprehend that it’s just a game of manipulation for them, and that there was never love or caring. Move on. Take the opportunity to learn about yourself, self-correct, and move on.
@@licmir3663 you are 100% correct
Thank you Lisa !
Wow! I've been searching for answers to this question for a long time. Thank You
This is 100% correct. It describes my now ex narcissistic girlfriend exactly as she is. I sent her this video and she responded by again blocking me. 😂
It's part of the Devalue phase.
What a video - been waiting for this one for 10 years!!
Nice one Lise - keep up this incredible work. Hitting the nail on the head with every statement - just perfect.
Great video thanks for preparing & presenting 👌
I’ve found that the 1st sign of any type of gaslighting / non reciprocal behaviour or just flat out shadiness (for both men & women) - just block & delete their number (in that order).
Do the same on WhatsApp / Telegram etc.
I don’t have tinder or FB or IG or tiktok or Twitter or any of that crap so don’t have to worry about being stalked on social media.
I'm the same. I don't have any social media and anyine that now says or does anything that reminds me of my Demonic ex, they get blocked and deleted.
In this video I recognize behavior of both me, and 3 of my eyes. It seems I am in a cycle of attracting a certain type of person and that is also reflecting of some of my own behavior. However I do feel it has it's roots in how I was brought up and I do not see myself as a full narcissist, just a wounded person who in some situations acts in ways that are emotionally immature.
You are on point like crazy
I totally agree too with the last comment you gave us.
Actually I've realized my ex is a narcissist with you 6 months ago and you were already saying something similar. 6 months after I'm still affected by this toxic relationship, still I managed to take better care of myself: I eat more often, I'm going to the gym, I even gain some weight back.
Now last but not least I need to treat the trauma bond thing. It's awful. And though that experience really damaged me in a way on the other it has helped me understand that I'm codependent. I knew I had an issue from my childhood. I don't know if my Mum is a narcissist too but I've experienced some psychological abuse for sure. So thanks to all of you who are doing a great job or there for all of us. If you guys weren't there I don't know if I would still be here and I'm dead serious. Thank you 🙏🙏🙏
You are the best thank you for what you do and showing us how these people truly are
thank you, Lise
This is similar to the constant break up control method she used from the start of our relationship. Any difficulty or disagreement she'd end things, happened so often I lost count. She was in her 40s but acting like a teenager!!Forward 15 yrs she said I'll call you later and didn't, so I left her to whatever she's up to. If she comes back it's a no thank you from me.
This is so spot on
You couldn’t explain better thank you 🙏
My son blocked me and I didn't know. I'd leave msgs all the time with no response. Then when I asked for time with my granddaughters he said no because there had been no contact between us. Crazy-making, petty and deceptive. I am heart-broken over the loss of my relationship with my grandkids because I am now at "no contact". Cruel and absolutely uncalled for.
Sorry for you. Your son is a sadist.
Maybe you are the problem
@@HenkdeVries-h6g If I were the problem, I would do anything in my power to fix it. A Malignant narcissist would never admit it was their fault the family is in tatters. Sounds like you could use some therapy yourself.
@@philpacella7849 And a masochist because those children are going to do the same thing to him when he gets older.
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Understanding is one thing acceptance for what it is is the key to moving on a narc never change no matter what you do ! Look after number 1 Yourself !
You are spot on correct mam 👈🏻 every word you explain
This has happened to me over and over, dozens of times from my BPD ex.
Great video!
She would go on an insult onslaught, which eventually made ME block HER for a day until she had calmed down.
Almost every narcissist video includes blocking, stonewalling and ghosting, which ironically made me the culprit.
I then decided to stop doing that and just let her rant herself out on text and voice notes, I just delete it. I figured it was unhealthy from my part to be doing that.
She now blocks me occasionally, with the excuse "I learned this from you..."
I savior those moments now... 😂
You are exactly right ❤
Years ago I had someone block me many times on Facebook. Almost every time when that person would unblock me, that person would send me a friend request. For a while, I would accept. After a while I get annoyed. Why should I continue accepting your friend request if you are going to block me soon after? In a sense, I told that person that. Guess what? That person became displeased. As if I am the one who is doing wrong by not accepting their friend request.
Thank you 😊
All the above and did you mention the “you could have called me as anonymous “ manipulation.
Im going thru a break-up right now. Things were perfect the first 6 months of the relationship, but then changed overnight. I'm dealing with a lot of confusion right now, but thank God for these videos from Lise. I'm now understanding what I've been dealing with. Ps, it's true what they say about not dating someone separated or recently divorced.
The second I find out that these fools unblock me I always block them. I also block people I don’t like but I never unblock them because I don’t want to know what their up too
To live a lie, gotta do some blocking here and there, to remain excusably unavailable when the occasion occurs, remember that song Rico suave? "I juggle three or four" sums it up
She would literally make up things about me and block me. She'd tell me she would find someone that can "give her what she wants" implying that she was going to another guy. Sometimes a guy would be at her house that she used to sleep with (and probably still did whilst we were together). She would tell me that and then block me! That's how disgusting she is. Leaving me panicking about what they were doing.
Oh God I feel sick writing this.
She once even unblocked me and called me and started shouting his name.
She's not allowed to call me. Her number was blocked and in the past, I've changed my number and disabled my email address and she turned up at my house (I live fifty miles away) and there were times when she thought she'd lost me, she'd turn up at my work places...
The other day she calls me from her new number. She has a boyfriend and everything. Yet she still kept calling me over and over and over again.
This is not only what narcs do.. manny people do this blocking unblocking..
She literally addressed that in the video. Use your brain.
My ex gf physically assaulted me HARD. I called the cops, but didn't stay and didn't wanna press charges, so the police let itvgo, but i called them over. My gf claimed it was my fault because what i said to her was so true, it made her mad and her anger forced her to push me and punch me.
My daughter's mother has attacked me I don't know how many times and is absolutely adamant that I was the one who attacked her
All I wanted was a simple happy family life
And she's destroyed any ability for that to happen
I dated a distance relationship for one year and she has a rotation system of a few ex boyfriends which she also blocked and now I am blocked I was before almost all 2 days and the unblocked but now she add the other 2 poor guys back. She constantly has to have someone available and banns me. This was such a emotional hell and I find it mentally abuse. Even she claimed I never mentally abused you. From the gaslighting and the accusations and so I dont even wanna start talk about.
I stumbled into and thankfully quickly out of a relationship I believe was with a narcissist. He would seem desperate to not want me upset with him at first. Then he would do the I’m just going to let you go because you don’t know what you want blah blah blah. He would say please just block me and let this die. Ok well yes that’s what I did. Blocked him everywhere and didn’t respond to his last borage of name calling and accusations. I’m pretty sure he had connected with new supply thank goodness. I was able to step back and see the toxicity and have firm resolve to be gone.
I can't believe that I'm right now in kind of narcissistic.relationship...oh..the signs are true.. not all but most of it.. I feel the gut feelings from the first met..I couldn't believe that I'm still talking with them.. like nothing was happened..
My younger sister just did it to me, blocked me after saying that she nearly needed to call an ambulance because I upset her so much for simply telling her my father didn’t want to take her phone call begging for money because it’s my phone, she is sure going to be surprised to find out I have blocked her when she unblocks me to apologise and start the “my life is crap I want to die” cycle again and I won’t relent.
I went no contact but didn't block her. I would never do that to someone i loved. I only do that to people i hate and people that are scumbags. Not wishing for her to come back...but i guess I'm a nice guy and dont have the heart to do that.
My last narc blocked me from messaging but didn’t block me completely. I knew that he’d continue to watch me if I didn’t block him so I blocked him everywhere. I rarely block so when I do, it’s for a good reason.
The only power you have is to block them and keep the block permanently. Walk away.
Oh, you have more power than you'd think. You can train them. Ot she goes no contact for 5 days. When she comes back, tell her "no supply for 10 days and go no contact for 10 days.
Meanwhile. Everytime she goes no contsct head to the asian massage parlor, or gentlemans cabaret. Keep the receipts and lay them around the house.
Just remember. A narcissist is nothing more than an emotionally damaged child a child. A deranged one 🤷🏻♂️
So, no contact is more God like ,humane effective , and hopefully a more permanent solution.
Fuck yeah Lise! Always with great points. I don't know if the girl who discarded me was narcissist or not. I was thinking that she was a BPD but everything in this video resonates to the point, it is making me angry for what she did to me. Great content and observations, Thank you for your suggestions and inputs.
Never invest more in a relationship than she does. It's solid advice all around. She's in it at 70%? You make sure to be less than 60% in.
I gained the privilege of blocking one of them :)
Some real winners we are talking about here.
I have no one to share my thoughts about, when it comes to the woman I meet online for a long time and soon gonna meet, is a narcissist.
She is the only woman except my mom, that give me these vibes, except she doesn't fit every trait as a narcissist
1. She is extremely sensitive to criticism. An example. I forgot to transfer some money, that I promise to help her. When mentioned it, I do it right away. I tell her, she should have mentioned what it costs. She accuses me of blaming her
2. She is very black and white thinking.
3. When we are in an argument, she says don't argue with me, it will give you peace of mind.
4. Just say Yes to me.
5. You talk sooo much, and love your voice so much.
6. She is often depressed and say how awful she are, even I always compliment her.
7. She often talks about death and it would be better if she wasn't here.
8. When sometimes I snap at her, after she has been sarcastic and patronising towards me. She plays the victim, and can say to me. Are you happy now, you got your revenge. (I have never been vengeful)
9. She can flip from being funny to be patronising and passive aggressive.
10. It's like I do most of the work between us, maybe 80/20
11. She's not interested to intro spect and look inwards. When she is suffering it's all my fault.
I have done and still do therapy and body work to heal old trauma. She have no interest in it her self.
12. Something she said recently, when we talked about a common friend, that has lost a dear family member, and his girlfriend didn't showed any care totowards him. She said to me on some occasions "see how luckily you are, to have me" because she was supportive when my mother died, at least in the beginning. I would never say something like this.
On the other hand.
I trust her, she always keeps her appointments, and updates me if anything happens, she honest with money.
I don't know if she is narcissist or not. I have never meet a woman I have these deeply feelings for, but at the same time feel I have to walk on eggshells, except back then when my mom was alive
I do that in times of desperation, but I never have a control of eny situation
When I found out the narc unblocked me, I blocked her myself, then buried her at the very bottom of the blocked persons list with countless number of spam accounts so I won't even be able to see her. No contact is a life sentence.
If you dealing with a narcissist, give your life to jesus christ. He will help you escape them also forces them to shut up and keep they’re nasty words themselves. I just went through it with my ex and gave my life christ now she hates that God keeps her away from me forces her to watch me win regardless. I love God for this he forces all your enemies to shut up and sit down.
Amen!! It’s the ONLY WAY!!! The enemy will throw these reprobates into our path - & if you sleep with them (like I have, like most of us have) then you really have to ask to be set free from the this ungodly soul tie.
@@hotchocexpresso you really do i highly agree, all the obstacles they put in the way and as you get deeper and more involved with the bible and christ. Their is a side you haven’t seen in people its truly bizarre.
Lise, I have been temporarily blocking and unblocking some of my clients and 1 friend for years. Reason: I am aware they are becoming hyper or emotionally unstable when I tell them something they don’t like. Example: when I tell my client that I won’t be able to complete a certain project due to scheduling conflict. I know from previous experience that I would get 10-15 unpleasant/unhappy messages or many missed overnight phone calls when they are in that state. So I block them for 2-3 hours, sometime for a couple of days so they become more reasonable and manageable. Does it make me having narcissistic traits? I am a bit confused by this video. Please advise. Thanks.
Nobody but a licensed clinician can diagnosed you with NPD and they’d need a lot more than this to go off of.. Get to a psychologist if you’re concerned.
This was my ex 3 yrs ago. She hits all the bullet points.
When the co-parenting narc goes NC
Peaceful
Surprisingly but not surprised, this is only usually performed on me by women...
Is this on purpose on blocking and or unblocking? Part of the disorder?
What is it you are even asking?
What about her changing her number
I feel there was a part that was missed in this. For example, not all who block people are narcissistic. This will occur because of violations of boundaries that were set to help promote healthy communication.
@@ianstroup9507 that is true, only this video is about someone who has a pattern of blocking and unblocking
I love the content from this brilliant and beautiful mind! Lise Leblanc is my favorite life coach to help me understand myself and others in deeper ways-and as Lise says “in order to understand what your dealing with, and what to do about it”. I trust her opinions and relationship advice, and she helps me self reflect upon my own mental health issues as well. Thank you Lise Leblanc - As above so below 🙏💕
@@Reid.Anderson thanks so much for your positive feedback! I appreciate your kind words🙏
@@LiseLeblanc I shared your channel with my nephew hope u can help him understand behaviors better, like u helped me! Thanks again Lise!
My bpd/narc exes suggested to block each other but never actually did that...
I just got blocked for asking for a phone call... haha
My daughters mother scores 7/10. Lise you didn't mention the text sniping. Send a text and then block. unblock to send another one. In the past when she does this I just block her. When that happens I get the rage and threat emails to every address she knows about including work. Maybe that's more BPD, but I always love getting told I'm a "narc" and my "flying monkeys" know nothing.
She didn’t do that maybe she isn’t a narcissist yet she does everything else
My wife who had an affair and did some really horrible things to us and our family did this a lot! Blocked unblocked and as angry I would ever get I noticed I’d never block her bc as good people we think well if they ever need anything or are in trouble etc. I think in her mid 49s got really does as she had her affair and broke up our family and never apologized blamed me and said it was no bid deal if you can believe it
Pretty much the same thing with my ex wife.
They always have to get new supply.
They always screw up with whoever the new victim is
@@ZipZoom-h1h I was keeping it together with Gods help of course but when he moved on and got married she turned it up a notch and made me suffer, and that’s when I got angry and shit down and stopped trying and told her to pack her stuff and leave - after telling that to her a few times she did
Block them... Lol.
I block him so I can have some peace. I don't want to hear him call me a whore or a gold digger or tell me I'm cheating on him. I broke up with him and blocked him.
Well did you end that relationship before you got sexual with a new one,? Did you leave the relationship be ause the new one had more materialistic offerings ? Did you know you would gain in material aspects of you could convince the new part of that your sexually attractive to him and have sex? Be honest with yourself . I don't know if you did or not and I have nothing to compare you with
I know it's a 70% chance you cheated because 70,% do cheat. I think it's possible that the new feller may atleast be more financially able to do the things you care to. Or in some instances you simply want security. 80% of women choose the one with security. Now I don't liken to you being a whore. Very low percentage of women in the modern world are such that in trade or closely considered trade sex. Its only 2% at most which make a direct exchange for sex. Yet it happens in the likes of yhe other 2 happenning or that the other 2 occur often with new partners . So you could be a acting out as if that's below you . I agree it is only bottom feeders that behave that way as well as the first two as cheaters and gold diggers. So ask yourself and know that 70% are gold digging cheaters and of those 30% will whore themselves out as a lover in return for goods however agreed and delivered.. so the average chance that your a Cheating Gold digging Whore is 63.3% . Now that's not 100 or an A ad in school. Hows er it would indicate a D-. It does occur that most cheating gold digging whored Are not very intelligent and a D- along with the fact you have ghosted him instead of having the mental capacity to deal and the history of innocence to stand by. Id say its about time you called and apologized because he is right. You owe him big time so id get some knee pads. 😊
You do not want a narcissist to hoover you back. Should you block them or worry sick that you might hear from the silent treaters again?
I blocked my ex for closure.
I'm really unclear on what is meant by "forgetting your own healing"?
It isn’t unclear. She said it’s very easy to focus on overanalysing incidents from the relationship and focusing on what traits aligned with which experience, but you need to put energy into focusing on your own healing.
Wouldn't you block somebody to go no contact or grey Rock what's the difference
I block and unblock because she gets just plain nasty. Then we have to communicate, and I end up unblocking. What is a solution?
Blocking
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I blocked my narc
I guess I am too 😂😂😂😂😂
Lady I remember a video of yours on how important it is to go no contact. Well a narcissus can go no contact too.
yeah, topics like this make a lot of so called relationship experts and mental health professionals seem like hypocrites. everyone's well within their right to block others, no matter the intent.
Their 'no contact' only holds for short period of time, as a trick to manipulate and control their supply!
Are you paying attention to the video?
Or maybe for some people it confuses them because they're never experiencing it.
@@Skylinez999 it's all a form of power and control when you're blocking somebody, narcissist or no narcissist.
They will crack first during NC bc whatever they were getting from you they'll want it back
You and the people thumbing up your comment are missing the point. The intents are different. Narcassists act with malice.That's where the difference lies.
It all sounds confusing.. I think if I am confused by someone's behavior that is probably a good red flag..
I’ll never date again ..or trust
After disgard and during devalue she spulf accuse me of veing in dating sites etc etc , i bet she was ! She used to breakup by going mad and blocking me etc so i would have ti run round there ti sort it out, 3 years of push/ pull...We only got engaged 5 werks ago ffs
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Re: “It's a game of power to assert dominance in relationships by creating a cycle of confusion and emotional turmoil. This tactic keeps you second guessing, it destabilizes your emotions and keeps you off balance psychologically ensuring that they maintain the upper hand.”
Very interesting.
I’m not certain if all narcissists do this consciously, but I know for certain that Pickup artists (PUAs) do do this 100% consciously.
The PUA wants a variety of women chasing him without having to put in much effort.
The way he does this is by creating addiction in each of his targets. The addiction triggers them to chase them.
First the PUA triggers primal attraction in his target by flipping a number of well known hard-wired attraction triggers and then he offers a “compliance test”. If she takes the bait by complying, he will reward her with a calibrated amount of affection and then pull away which triggers her to chase. If she doesn’t take the bait, he will punish her but offer her the option to redeem herself by building more attraction and offering another compliance test.
This “intermittent reward” creates addiction. Every move the PUA makes is designed to create “addiction” in his target: Offer value. Compliance test. Punishment and reward. If the PUA is smart, he will balance the punishment and reward so that the target does not get either too comfortable or too uncomfortable.
These are the same kind of tactics used by the “attention engineers” who design slot machines and the algorithms used by social media companies. The goal is always to take what they want from you and then discard you when you have nothing left to take.
Our world is run by people who are both (1) without conscience and (2) skilled at the craft of manipulating others into “learned helplessness + addiction” and they use the addiction to mislead people so that they can gain at their expense.
We should, perhaps, consider the benefits of learning how to cure ourselves from this intentional strategy of creating “learned helpless + addiction” in people. If we learn how to do it in, say, the relationship domain, perhaps the same cure can be applied to other domains where innocent people are preyed upon?
It is said that we are trapped in suffering by “sin”. A term from archery that means “missing the target”. When we choose to “chase” the “target” of our addiction we are choosing to remain trapped in suffering.
Sources:
The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed by Mystery A.K.A. Erik Von Markovik
How to Talk to Hot Women: The 9 Secrets to Getting and Keeping the Woman (Women) of Your Dreams Kindle Edition
by Mehow
Seriously dude, who cares what PUAs do? Why not focus on the actual topic of this great video?
@@louisbee7923PUAs are narcissists, dude.
@@louisbee7923 The actual topic of this great video is why does a narcissist block you. I am explaining to you DIRECTLY why, amongst the most skilled narcissists, blocking you is part of a deliberate calibrated strategy to make you addicted to them. This is the deliberate creation of the trauma bond for the purpose of enslaving you. Do you understand?
PUAs don’t just pick up girls. The best of them maintain harems of beautiful women who are completely addicted to them. They purposefully study how to brainwash you and keep you enslaved.
The criminal syndicate that runs the world uses variations on these same techniques to keep you self absorbed in your own addiction while they are openly murdering tens of thousands of innocent children in Gaza, for example.
When people are self absorbed in their own trauma, they can be completely indifferent to the suffering of others. This is, in part, how the top narcissists maintain control of their trauma bonded slaves.
@@louisbee7923 The actual topic of this great video is why does a narcissist block you? I am explaining to you that you are not seeing the forest for the trees.
There is a tendency amongst the traumatized to become obsessed with individual traumas and not understand that each trauma is simply a part of an intentional well developed plan to make you a slave, trauma bonded and addicted to your master.
Do you understand?
PUAs don’t just pick up girls. The best of them maintain harems of beautiful women who are completely addicted to them. They purposefully study how to brainwash you and keep you enslaved.
The criminal syndicate that runs the world uses variations on these same techniques to keep you trapped in learned helplessness and self absorbed in your own addiction(s) while they are openly murdering tens of thousands of innocent children in Gaza, for example.
When people are self absorbed in their own trauma, they can be as completely indifferent to the suffering of others as the most evil narcissist. This is, in part, how the dark lord of this world maintains control of his trauma bonded slaves.
@@AlexRyan My friend, seems you suffer from keyboard diarrhea. Might want to have it checked out.
She still got our pics on fb has a new guy and I’m blocked 😂🤡
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Why is it, that recordings about female personality disorders/‚males as victims’ get less views compared to the other way around? I have my thoughts, but like to hear yours out there in www :).
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Watching this makes me laugh. They really think they have power 😂 love it.
My ex girlfriend
There are methods to block people who have already blocked you so that they do not have the power to "dip back in to your life" behind the scenes. With Facebook if you ever exchanged a Messenger message with the person you will retain the conversation in history. You can right click on the message and choose to block them from both messanger and Facebook access to your profile even if you can no longer see their profile.
My gf doesn't block me, she just ignores me for a bit. Also, she doesn't always respond to my messages but only says what she wants, pretending It's not there.
What I do when I get irritated, I just ignore her for a few more days or a week and then she misses me.
I don’t blame for what you’re doing to cope. But your gf is a pain in the butt.
why is a narcissist like Donald Trump Jr sponsoring this channel?!?
this is a serious concern
See, now you make me think I'm a narcissist. I blocked someone because I couldn't stand their closed-off attitude and the lack of mutual care and respect and now I feel like I'm the bad guy.
Don't bro I'm the same I hate arguing unfortunately my wife is very argumentive an finds things to argue about instead of trying to show understanding an unreasonable so to stop the arguments I block so I can get through work then I unblock to see if she has calmed down or anything like that if she's still holding resentment I just block becuase it's better then working with bent up feelings I know I'm no narssist I don't need to people to validate me I was happy to be single but I was love bomed into this marriage I don't manipulate I just hate arguing so I can see how blocking can be narssistic but not in my situation
She literally stated in the video that blocking someone doesn’t make you a narcissist.