A narcissist thrives on control and validation. When they ghost you after an intense relationship, it’s not because they care or feel anything real; it’s because they’ve extracted all the attention and energy they needed from you. Disappearing without a word is their way of maintaining power, leaving you in confusion and despair, all while they move on to their next source of supply. Their silence is a twisted victory, a final act of manipulation to show you that you never truly mattered. It’s a cruel reminder that their affection was never genuine-it was all just a game to feed their insatiable ego.
Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
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10 reasons a narcissist ghosts you after a super intense relationship 1-they found someone else 2-inability to maintain the mask 3-their fantasy never match reality 4-their toxic pattern 5-their need for novelty 6-you're not playing your role right 7-their lack of emotional investment 8-testing boundaries 9-you become too needy 10-their fear of exposure in my experience, narcs disappear most often because of being discovered and fear of exposure. also if they feel the "return of investment" doesn't far exceed what little they have to put in. cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
Mine disappeared after I saw a pic of her and the ex in a hidden folder on the phone. I confronted her, she put her headphones on then disappeared for a few hours. Came back and spent the night gaslighting and blocking any road to a conversation. I said ‘why is it there?’ No reply it was easier to jeopardise the relationship it seems. The days leading up to this were of her acting extremely strange and emotionally detached. So many red flags that week.
Thanks, Lise Leblanc. 2 y ago I filed divorce. She couldn't believe I had strength enough, afters 8 years. But I did, despite suffering a lot, but there was no way out. And afterwards I found your channel. Such relief! Especially when in one of your videos you had said: get out before your only option be a suicide. Relief because I realized I opted for right.
My narc ex got me pretty good. We met off a dating app and things were super intense since the first date I genuinely thought maybe I found the one. I paid for all the dates, treated her well, gave her fun experiences etc. Things were great for 6 months until she became cold, distant, and disrespectful out of nowhere. She crossed a boundary of mine and once I pulled myself back, she went ghost, blocked me everywhere, and got on dating apps immediately. These people are the worst.
Congratulations on your channel growth! I was here when you had 10’s of thousands. I was in a dark place and your videos were healing. After I healed I stopped watching videos but you are still one of few channels I still tune into. Thank you.
@@LiseLeblanc am really happy for your success also. really appreciate your balance of kindness with that deadpan humor. keep fighting the good fight! -cheers, steven
Wow, 100% spot on! I was in 7 years relationship, and she ghosted me for another man like it's nothing. As usual narcissist's textbook, she smeared campaign me, contacted my mom and relatives saying horrible things about me, my aunt is one of her "flying monkey", my aunt really believes what she said is all true, also she gives my aunt gifts occasionally. At that time I don't know what NPD is, I was in shocked and stressful, glad I can overcome that terrible times, it was scary and traumatic. Since we're broke up 3 years ago, she's still trying to contact my mom to this day.
Exactly my experience too. Like you, I was caring, loving, generous and kind, and she hated me for it. But her ex-boyfriend who treated her like crap? She stayed with him for 12 years. Nothing makes sense with these people.
@@lochnessmunster1189 It’s nothing you did wrong. You just gave it to the wrong person. People get with those who they think they deserve. In her case, someone who treats her like crap. With that in mind, don’t let girls take your kindness for granted and stand up for yourself when it’s appropriate. You need to check people on their behaviour else they’ll eventually walk all over you.
@@OnderHassan Thanks man; that's very good advice. If I do get into a relationship again I will be much more careful and look for the red flags (I ignored them this time). I didn't know anything about Narcissists or Borderline Personality Disorder back then.
One of the red flags is when a narcissist tells you that their exes were narcissists. But it sucks if others think the same about you when you talk about your past narcissist relationship/marriage. There is still a lot of ignorance around narcissism. One hast to have experienced it and gained proper awareness about it in order to judge correctly. It is not nice when a victim is being accused of being the narcissist.
Yup, having had one diagnosed NPD and one suspected ex, I was very careful of talking about it in new relationships. I dated a psychologist for a bit, she was amazing and understood. Then I met a lovely woman that had divorced a narc ex…. the hilariously cathartic discussions we’ve had were amazing. Exes of narcs get it.
Not always, as someone who got into a 7 yr relationship with a narcissist, who had narcissistic friends (4 of them) and me being an empath who is also autistic, i tend to talk about what happened to me. Its like therapy, because i couldn’t believe these people exist, and how people who said they loved me, HATED ME. I ended up with our dog dying, then our cat, then him refinancing the car behind my back to remove me from the loan, THEN being taken to court and evicted from our home. When i tried to set boundaries, HE HATED ME FOR IT, all of 2023 was heartbreaking and stressful. In the beginning of 2024 in February i had a heart attack from it all… so trust me, some of us talk about our narcissistic exes not cause we are narcissistic, but because we want to tell about what we went through and how it almost killed us. Just figured i would say this, because we all dont say that as a red flag. Some of is talk about because having anyone listen and not think were crazy is the goal.
The complete absence of empathy and pleasure they take in tormenting and abandoning you is truly disturbing. When you finally see in their eyes and actions how disturbed they are when you’re in a heap and devastated is startling. They have zero shame in betraying, belittling and ghosting you. They seem to take pride and joy in dehumanizing. If you value loyalty, honesty, authenticity and resolution you will never have that with a narcissist, unfortunately by the time one typically finds this out it’s too late. You chose to love and give fully and now that very love and trust is being used to hang you by someone who is cold and unrecognizable to the person you thought you loved. It’s a bold faced betrayal, you’ve been had and your life will never be the same.
I am a man. Five years ago, my narcissistic friend traumabonded me with the agenda of making me marry his sister. He ghosted me in order to make the traumabond stronger.
I had one ghost me like this... they were soo sweet and desirable ..i saw them a few days later and they looked soo cold it was a bit scary actually 😐😐
i can relate sir. But it was through text. The coldness in the text response actually horrified me. I'd describe it as the worst emotional shock ive ever felt in my life (and I saw my father go through and pass away from alzheimers. So that take for what its worth).
When I met her she was mid 40s. Had had plenty of exs only a couple had lasted 4 or 5 years max. I stayed for 10 yrs, she's now late 50s and I wonder if she'll ever find what she's looking for. I doubt it.
@liseleblanc definitely looking forward to the upcoming video on why individuals with BPD do this. It’s been so confusing wondering why someone with seemingly so much empathy and kindness could turn into an extremely cold person and cut all contact
Excellent! Thank you! I experienced this but didn't know why. Now, I know more! I appreciate you, and thank you for helping us guys get better and make much better decisions for our lives and for our children (for those of us who have children). :)
I was devastated when my narcissistic girlfriend left me cold-heartedly without any clear explanation, she even told me she didn't think about me and she never loved me truly. It hurts to this day but I appreciate this experience that i will not fall in their way again. Your channel is so helpful, thank you so much!
I think you touched on it but, the big one for me was her going into self preservation mode, in regard to ghosting. I was discarded, even after communicating that I didn’t want to go through with the break up. With someone who was crazy about me! This was shortly after a cycle of the crocodile tears, her desperately trying to mend things between us. Only a couple days later to be followed up with hardcore devaluation. All coupled with reactionary abuse. So I reacted, I regretted, things got heated. Pretty sure someone else was in the mix in the end. Afterwards, I was ghosted, deleted, no contact from her. Denial of all the things she communicated to me, her past trauma. All of the issues with her daughter.. complete and total denial. This is where I made the connection of self preservation. They can’t preserve themselves within the company of someone who has called them out on their behavior. It was only through channels like this that I made the connection with borderline narcissists. The relationship started with a projected, idealized fantasy. Turned into a cycle of devaluation after a couple of months, shortly after the first test with reactionary abuse. It’s a whole case study, I assure you! Generational curse, beginning with her mother and passed down to her daughter. The daughter demonstrated manipulation, antisocial behavior, coupled with childhood narcissistic rage. Rage I tell you! 😅 I’m free and clear! 😮💨🙏🙌
Future faking - learned something new with this vid. It explains everything she ever promised me. And then tried to get criminal charges filed against me. It was a significant battle for my sanity and safety.
After 20 years of major it was night and day. I had no idea who was standing in front of me. When I went down the rabbit hole of narcissism I literally began to scream because my ex spouse got every characteristic to a tee. The discard was so shocking and her immediate reupping with a completely new partner was so disconcerting it deserves its own category of PTSD. 4 years after the marriage ended I’m still not over the hurt and recovery still seems very far away.
That's happend to me after years marriage. My wife left marriage like she just " turned light off in room" . Without any closure explanation. She blocked me dissappeared for 3 years ( cutting all contact) . Than she claimed divorce. On my questions she meet me in court and she was like: "I got nothing to tell you"😂. What the f...? Mental illness I guess?
For me, its really not about why, but thankful that they disappeared on their own compulsion, ever had to remove a stubborn narcissist from your life? A ticking time bomb is the same thing
my ex-girlfriend was very attentive and kind in the beginning and we had a good life. we even moved into her house together. She got pregnant in January and gave birth a month ago. she literally hid the child from me, so I had to look for state institutions. however, her mother is a grandiose narcissist who always dominates and has this daughter under her control since birth. My daughter started abusing me emotionally for something I wanted to do. that this is not the right procedure, that her mother taught her otherwise. she even isolated me from friends, hobbies just to be in control. I started lying to her that I bought myself peace. abnormal jealousy and possessiveness. when I revealed to her that she was just manipulating, she blocked me. a week before the birth, she even wrote to me that I was not the father, which I did not understand. then she just disappeared and I'm waiting for court.
Pretty much went through all this for over 4 years.. she was invested but it seamed i was so perfect, she knew the truth and as things got bumpy it was constant love bomb, breakup and ignore threats every other week or so and with lots of blocking, flipping all blame on me seldom partial apologies and even taught me about npd somewhat after saying her ex was, then I was. So wild would tell me im perfect, then im not doing what i should and even tell me i saved her and helped her wake up to who she is but then tell me i dont know her and i need to wake up and remember who i am. Alot of mine was spoken of a spiritual nature as she claimed got visits and speaks directly to her. One minute he tells her im her life partner suddenly after a toxic end she says oops she was mistaken. Wtf
Can a narcissist be somewhat self aware, vain, have high anxiety, and then discard you by admitting that they simply were naive and fantasized about a relationship but love wasn’t enough? And then after the discard they become cold and mean and even threatening and tell you they never loved you while trying to hide that they are in another relationship within months after discarding you?
Do you still offer online coach? Your link on your youtube videos to your website dont work. Also, do you have a community on facebook or anything like that? You have been a blessing!
@@MikeMariano-w5g thanks so much for letting me know about the broken link… I’m on it! I do offer online coaching services but I currently have a waitlist. Unfortunately, I don’t yet have any group services, but this is something I’m planning to begin in 2025. For more details, please feel free to email me at info@liseleblanc.com
maybe it was a misunderstanding that led to invocation of 'no contact' after disagreement I often hear you advocating going 'no contact' with an abuser (disagreement?) Please list out what are legitimate reasons to block a person? When is it unfair?
What's wrong with leaving and pretending it didn't happen that's just a defense mechanism but if they're a narcissist for leaving like you claim then what's the problem
Do us a favor. When bringing up BPd which you’re clearly NOT very wise in yet , stop picking on women. 40% of men have it too out of the both . Be kind and favored to both genders . We know ur not perfect nobody is but do better
You've got the lack for self awareness she and others often warn us about. Her channel is low visibility compared the vast networks and institutions that already make the abuse women receive from men highly visible. Current statistics in society show that male suicide rate is skyrocketing, depression is skyrocketing, marriages are collapsing at a higher rate than ever and nuclear families with children is decreasing putting the population growth ratio under 2.0 which is unsustainable biologically and metrically. Both sexes deserve to have the abuse each receives highlighted. Her small channel is in no way derailing the massive cultural stereotype that reinforces that women are the most likely target of abuse. Both my wife and I are victims of such abuse from our past marriages, proving that BOTH sexes can be abused and that BOTH sexes can be the abuser.
A narcissist thrives on control and validation. When they ghost you after an intense relationship, it’s not because they care or feel anything real; it’s because they’ve extracted all the attention and energy they needed from you. Disappearing without a word is their way of maintaining power, leaving you in confusion and despair, all while they move on to their next source of supply. Their silence is a twisted victory, a final act of manipulation to show you that you never truly mattered. It’s a cruel reminder that their affection was never genuine-it was all just a game to feed their insatiable ego.
@@JamesNGames well said
@@ladyvirgo013 My experience, exactly .
@@rjlacroix3334 mine too
"The mask begins to slip"-the breakdown of how a narcissist’s facade crumbles over time is eye-opening! Thank you for explaining it so clearly. 💡
Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
Number 1 : brutal truth. I like the way you don’t sugar coat anything 👍
Thank you
A narcissist will NEVER get enough 'validation'. They will never change.
10 reasons a narcissist ghosts you after a super intense relationship
1-they found someone else
2-inability to maintain the mask
3-their fantasy never match reality
4-their toxic pattern
5-their need for novelty
6-you're not playing your role right
7-their lack of emotional investment
8-testing boundaries
9-you become too needy
10-their fear of exposure
in my experience, narcs disappear most often because of being discovered and fear of exposure. also if they feel the "return of investment" doesn't far exceed what little they have to put in.
cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
Either way, they no longer messing around is a dodged bullet.
They’ve maxed out your line of credit so they leave you and take the assets you are still paying on
Mine disappeared after I saw a pic of her and the ex in a hidden folder on the phone. I confronted her, she put her headphones on then disappeared for a few hours. Came back and spent the night gaslighting and blocking any road to a conversation. I said ‘why is it there?’ No reply it was easier to jeopardise the relationship it seems. The days leading up to this were of her acting extremely strange and emotionally detached. So many red flags that week.
Thanks, Lise Leblanc. 2 y ago I filed divorce. She couldn't believe I had strength enough, afters 8 years. But I did, despite suffering a lot, but there was no way out. And afterwards I found your channel. Such relief! Especially when in one of your videos you had said: get out before your only option be a suicide. Relief because I realized I opted for right.
My narc ex got me pretty good. We met off a dating app and things were super intense since the first date I genuinely thought maybe I found the one. I paid for all the dates, treated her well, gave her fun experiences etc. Things were great for 6 months until she became cold, distant, and disrespectful out of nowhere.
She crossed a boundary of mine and once I pulled myself back, she went ghost, blocked me everywhere, and got on dating apps immediately.
These people are the worst.
Yes they are like this, and it only would had become worse if you continued the relationship or got married.
You've had a lucky escape. I went 5 years. When I look back I just don't know how I could have been so stupid.
Block and ignore them. Engaging with them provides no good results.
I love how clear, concise, and educational your videos are. I sense that you are a genuinely trying to help people.
Congratulations on your channel growth! I was here when you had 10’s of thousands. I was in a dark place and your videos were healing. After I healed I stopped watching videos but you are still one of few channels I still tune into. Thank you.
@@Seasquares thank you for letting me know how my content helped! I’m happy to hear that you’re out of that dark place :)
@@LiseLeblanc am really happy for your success also.
really appreciate your balance of kindness with that deadpan humor.
keep fighting the good fight!
-cheers, steven
@@LiseLeblanc thanks Lisa :) In the dark I grew lots of new roots.
I love the guy looking at the phone in disbelief,then yelling noooo . Epic truth
Hahahaha actually made me laugh
@@spikestoyou have an Amazing Day, this channel saved me. Blessings
@@duckmann5000 you too man. Check out Sam Vaknin and Richard Grannon if you haven’t but stay grounded
@@spikestoyou Hahaha Ikr.. lol😆🤣
Wow, 100% spot on!
I was in 7 years relationship, and she ghosted me for another man like it's nothing. As usual narcissist's textbook, she smeared campaign me, contacted my mom and relatives saying horrible things about me, my aunt is one of her "flying monkey", my aunt really believes what she said is all true, also she gives my aunt gifts occasionally. At that time I don't know what NPD is, I was in shocked and stressful, glad I can overcome that terrible times, it was scary and traumatic. Since we're broke up 3 years ago, she's still trying to contact my mom to this day.
Mine went from being completely into me to totally hating my guts. Pretty bizarre considering I was caring and loving towards her.
Exactly my experience too. Like you, I was caring, loving, generous and kind, and she hated me for it. But her ex-boyfriend who treated her like crap? She stayed with him for 12 years. Nothing makes sense with these people.
@@lochnessmunster1189 It’s nothing you did wrong. You just gave it to the wrong person. People get with those who they think they deserve. In her case, someone who treats her like crap.
With that in mind, don’t let girls take your kindness for granted and stand up for yourself when it’s appropriate. You need to check people on their behaviour else they’ll eventually walk all over you.
@@OnderHassan Thanks man; that's very good advice. If I do get into a relationship again I will be much more careful and look for the red flags (I ignored them this time). I didn't know anything about Narcissists or Borderline Personality Disorder back then.
@@lochnessmunster1189 They seek a trauma bond for a long-term relationship. They need energy intensive situations to vampire some one long-term
@@giliusifrit5595 That's a great way of putting it, thank you.
One of the best channels on this topic. You are really helping a lot of hurt folks out there.
You’re so special! At least until they have maxed your credit out then it’s time for the devaluation stage
One of the red flags is when a narcissist tells you that their exes were narcissists.
But it sucks if others think the same about you when you talk about your past narcissist relationship/marriage. There is still a lot of ignorance around narcissism. One hast to have experienced it and gained proper awareness about it in order to judge correctly.
It is not nice when a victim is being accused of being the narcissist.
Yup, having had one diagnosed NPD and one suspected ex, I was very careful of talking about it in new relationships.
I dated a psychologist for a bit, she was amazing and understood.
Then I met a lovely woman that had divorced a narc ex…. the hilariously cathartic discussions we’ve had were amazing. Exes of narcs get it.
@@aaronsinspirationdaily4896 yes, it takes caution to talk about it
Not always, as someone who got into a 7 yr relationship with a narcissist, who had narcissistic friends (4 of them) and me being an empath who is also autistic, i tend to talk about what happened to me. Its like therapy, because i couldn’t believe these people exist, and how people who said they loved me, HATED ME. I ended up with our dog dying, then our cat, then him refinancing the car behind my back to remove me from the loan, THEN being taken to court and evicted from our home. When i tried to set boundaries, HE HATED ME FOR IT, all of 2023 was heartbreaking and stressful. In the beginning of 2024 in February i had a heart attack from it all… so trust me, some of us talk about our narcissistic exes not cause we are narcissistic, but because we want to tell about what we went through and how it almost killed us. Just figured i would say this, because we all dont say that as a red flag. Some of is talk about because having anyone listen and not think were crazy is the goal.
Thank you, Lise...in 3 months I will be free of her...3 more months...then I can live the rest of my life in peace and get back to who I was.
The complete absence of empathy and pleasure they take in tormenting and abandoning you is truly disturbing. When you finally see in their eyes and actions how disturbed they are when you’re in a heap and devastated is startling. They have zero shame in betraying, belittling and ghosting you. They seem to take pride and joy in dehumanizing. If you value loyalty, honesty, authenticity and resolution you will never have that with a narcissist, unfortunately by the time one typically finds this out it’s too late. You chose to love and give fully and now that very love and trust is being used to hang you by someone who is cold and unrecognizable to the person you thought you loved. It’s a bold faced betrayal, you’ve been had and your life will never be the same.
I am a man. Five years ago, my narcissistic friend traumabonded me with the agenda of making me marry his sister. He ghosted me in order to make the traumabond stronger.
I had one ghost me like this... they were soo sweet and desirable ..i saw them a few days later and they looked soo cold it was a bit scary actually 😐😐
i can relate sir. But it was through text. The coldness in the text response actually horrified me. I'd describe it as the worst emotional shock ive ever felt in my life (and I saw my father go through and pass away from alzheimers. So that take for what its worth).
Everything you said also describes that addict/alcoholic..
Literally ghosted after 12 years married. Needless to say,they are VERY immature & impulsive little cowards
It hurts
@chocolatecookie8571 it's very painful & shows the depth of disrespect
@@ladyvirgo013 yes, I know everything about it. it is unbelievable but true
This ghosting thing pisses me off and motivates me a lot
I know two females who fit narcissistic patters…curiously both of them have multiple dogs that they take great care of…the dogs sleep on their beds.
Those dogs have definitely got “narcissistic fleas” then…! 😂
A dog suits them best
Thanks! She discarded me a month ago, your content is really helpful with healing and moving on.
Thank you for your support. I wish you all the best
When I met her she was mid 40s. Had had plenty of exs only a couple had lasted 4 or 5 years max. I stayed for 10 yrs, she's now late 50s and I wonder if she'll ever find what she's looking for. I doubt it.
@liseleblanc definitely looking forward to the upcoming video on why individuals with BPD do this. It’s been so confusing wondering why someone with seemingly so much empathy and kindness could turn into an extremely cold person and cut all contact
Excellent! Thank you! I experienced this but didn't know why. Now, I know more! I appreciate you, and thank you for helping us guys get better and make much better decisions for our lives and for our children (for those of us who have children). :)
@@desiregoodministry you’re welcome! I appreciate your positive feedback and wish you all the best moving forward
@@LiseLeblanc Thank you! :) Your videos are a HUGE blessing!
I was devastated when my narcissistic girlfriend left me cold-heartedly without any clear explanation, she even told me she didn't think about me and she never loved me truly. It hurts to this day but I appreciate this experience that i will not fall in their way again. Your channel is so helpful, thank you so much!
She did you a favor by walking away. It's her loss find someone who values you. You are the prize
I think you touched on it but, the big one for me was her going into self preservation mode, in regard to ghosting.
I was discarded, even after communicating that I didn’t want to go through with the break up. With someone who was crazy about me! This was shortly after a cycle of the crocodile tears, her desperately trying to mend things between us. Only a couple days later to be followed up with hardcore devaluation. All coupled with reactionary abuse. So I reacted, I regretted, things got heated. Pretty sure someone else was in the mix in the end. Afterwards, I was ghosted, deleted, no contact from her. Denial of all the things she communicated to me, her past trauma. All of the issues with her daughter.. complete and total denial. This is where I made the connection of self preservation. They can’t preserve themselves within the company of someone who has called them out on their behavior. It was only through channels like this that I made the connection with borderline narcissists. The relationship started with a projected, idealized fantasy. Turned into a cycle of devaluation after a couple of months, shortly after the first test with reactionary abuse. It’s a whole case study, I assure you! Generational curse, beginning with her mother and passed down to her daughter. The daughter demonstrated manipulation, antisocial behavior, coupled with childhood narcissistic rage. Rage I tell you! 😅
I’m free and clear! 😮💨🙏🙌
Future faking - learned something new with this vid. It explains everything she ever promised me. And then tried to get criminal charges filed against me. It was a significant battle for my sanity and safety.
After 20 years of major it was night and day. I had no idea who was standing in front of me. When I went down the rabbit hole of narcissism I literally began to scream because my ex spouse got every characteristic to a tee. The discard was so shocking and her immediate reupping with a completely new partner was so disconcerting it deserves its own
category of PTSD. 4 years after the marriage ended I’m still not over the hurt and recovery still seems very far away.
#3 sounded like you’ve been watching me and her the past two years…
🎉❤🎉
Thanks so much for making this video!
This video is helpful for all.
Lise, you are a beautiful person inside and out
The reasons described in this video also apply to borderlines. For a borderline, ghosting most likely also involves an extra layer of shame.
This happened to me. And its because i was just a rebound/middle man.
That's happend to me after years marriage. My wife left marriage like she just " turned light off in room" . Without any closure explanation. She blocked me dissappeared for 3 years ( cutting all contact) . Than she claimed divorce. On my questions she meet me in court and she was like: "I got nothing to tell you"😂. What the f...? Mental illness I guess?
Same with my now X husband, ghosted like he never spent 12 years🤷♀️ Such cowards and so very immature
For me, its really not about why, but thankful that they disappeared on their own compulsion, ever had to remove a stubborn narcissist from your life? A ticking time bomb is the same thing
Some block. Some never block
Don’t text them they love it
@@mariabrennan72 really, do they? She loved doing silent treatment/ignoring messages
The dilemma here is you have to use their tactics to actually get rid of them.
my ex-girlfriend was very attentive and kind in the beginning and we had a good life. we even moved into her house together. She got pregnant in January and gave birth a month ago. she literally hid the child from me, so I had to look for state institutions. however, her mother is a grandiose narcissist who always dominates and has this daughter under her control since birth. My daughter started abusing me emotionally for something I wanted to do. that this is not the right procedure, that her mother taught her otherwise. she even isolated me from friends, hobbies just to be in control. I started lying to her that I bought myself peace. abnormal jealousy and possessiveness. when I revealed to her that she was just manipulating, she blocked me. a week before the birth, she even wrote to me that I was not the father, which I did not understand. then she just disappeared and I'm waiting for court.
Pretty much went through all this for over 4 years.. she was invested but it seamed i was so perfect, she knew the truth and as things got bumpy it was constant love bomb, breakup and ignore threats every other week or so and with lots of blocking, flipping all blame on me seldom partial apologies and even taught me about npd somewhat after saying her ex was, then I was. So wild would tell me im perfect, then im not doing what i should and even tell me i saved her and helped her wake up to who she is but then tell me i dont know her and i need to wake up and remember who i am. Alot of mine was spoken of a spiritual nature as she claimed got visits and speaks directly to her. One minute he tells her im her life partner suddenly after a toxic end she says oops she was mistaken. Wtf
how about after a 20+ year mariage?
Been there..I hear you....head spinning stuff..
Can a narcissist be somewhat self aware, vain, have high anxiety, and then discard you by admitting that they simply were naive and fantasized about a relationship but love wasn’t enough? And then after the discard they become cold and mean and even threatening and tell you they never loved you while trying to hide that they are in another relationship within months after discarding you?
Can’t some of these actions and qualities be attributed to someone with commitment issues and not necessarily a narcissist?
Yep. Could be fear, conflicted emotions, a taboo element or other concern for social/familial disapproval, &c., ...
Do you still offer online coach? Your link on your youtube videos to your website dont work. Also, do you have a community on facebook or anything like that? You have been a blessing!
@@MikeMariano-w5g thanks so much for letting me know about the broken link… I’m on it! I do offer online coaching services but I currently have a waitlist. Unfortunately, I don’t yet have any group services, but this is something I’m planning to begin in 2025. For more details, please feel free to email me at info@liseleblanc.com
You mean why “you wish” a narc would ghost you?
Big mistake letting them get klose to your family, I’ll be damned letting 1 bad mouth me to my family….😮💨
maybe it was a misunderstanding that led to invocation of 'no contact' after disagreement
I often hear you advocating going 'no contact' with an abuser (disagreement?)
Please list out what are legitimate reasons to block a person? When is it unfair?
What is the difference between a narcissist and someone with Borderline Personality Disorder?
usually the intentions
The theme song for being in a relationship with a narc!
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Why narcissist has to be bad
lol
Anai Soto
What's wrong with leaving and pretending it didn't happen that's just a defense mechanism but if they're a narcissist for leaving like you claim then what's the problem
Do us a favor. When bringing up BPd which you’re clearly NOT very wise in yet , stop picking on women. 40% of men have it too out of the both . Be kind and favored to both genders . We know ur not perfect nobody is but do better
You've got the lack for self awareness she and others often warn us about.
Her channel is low visibility compared the vast networks and institutions that already make the abuse women receive from men highly visible.
Current statistics in society show that male suicide rate is skyrocketing, depression is skyrocketing, marriages are collapsing at a higher rate than ever and nuclear families with children is decreasing putting the population growth ratio under 2.0 which is unsustainable biologically and metrically.
Both sexes deserve to have the abuse each receives highlighted. Her small channel is in no way derailing the massive cultural stereotype that reinforces that women are the most likely target of abuse.
Both my wife and I are victims of such abuse from our past marriages, proving that BOTH sexes can be abused and that BOTH sexes can be the abuser.
This was so good