Way Too Personal To Talk About | 18 Year Age Gap, Couples Compatibility Q&A

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  • @CHarlotte-ro4yi
    @CHarlotte-ro4yi 3 роки тому +526

    Gary's facial expressions while Valeria talks (comfortably) about sex are everything I needed to see today. I definitely see now where Benny gets his mimic from!

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  3 роки тому +19

      Hahah love that so much! Thank you for watching ❤️

    • @olivia.v.r
      @olivia.v.r 3 роки тому +3

      Hahaha yes! His facial expression progression is everything!

  • @lndmlr6545
    @lndmlr6545 3 роки тому +395

    "these are not our children babe, these are grown ups" 😂😂😂😂

  • @darthbakerr
    @darthbakerr 3 роки тому +280

    Lmao when the camera was slowly zooming in on Gary while Valeria was talking about sex, it reminded me so much and looked so much like Ben 😂😂😂💀

  • @homiekeen23
    @homiekeen23 3 роки тому +158

    Gary: "for men there's just one season"
    Valeria: "we know"
    😂😂😂

  • @Squid893
    @Squid893 3 роки тому +125

    THANK YOU for not playing into the zodiac signs lol. Honestly so refreshing compared to all the influencers who act like it actually means something

    • @Tionaintown876
      @Tionaintown876 3 роки тому +10

      It does but okay go off

    • @mariagabbott
      @mariagabbott 3 роки тому +13

      @@Tionaintown876 really doesn't. I'm a pisces, my BF a sagittarius and we have been together 10 years. The easiest and best relationship ever. So in summary, astrology is bulls***

    • @KaraKdw
      @KaraKdw 3 роки тому

      Can’t like this more..!!!

    • @hiyou948
      @hiyou948 Рік тому

      Yes it is dumb indeed to ONLY pay attention to sunsigns, when in reality one should look at the WHOLE chart lol. Hence why so many disregard astrology and never look further. I feel it's only the truly intelligent who comprehend this. As they say: Millionaires don't believe in astrology, Billionaires DO!

  • @oAlexeee
    @oAlexeee 3 роки тому +32

    I love how open you two are. It creates a relationship that people can relate to, rather than these picture-perfect relationships we see on social media and sometimes compare our own relationships to.

  • @mohdtariq6135
    @mohdtariq6135 3 роки тому +144

    To me the gap is nothing wrong..as long you love each other,that is important..and you choose are right man...

  • @gvancabibiluri855
    @gvancabibiluri855 3 роки тому +26

    I am in awe of how aware you two are about each other. I have nothing but to say that this is amazing and so interesting to watch, I definitely learnt new things and looked relationships from a different perspective. This kind of videos are definitely needed for people.

  • @monikamarazova6613
    @monikamarazova6613 3 роки тому +75

    Love this video, totally agree about having the same core beliefs. Would love to see a more detailed one on parenting - are you always on the same page, how do you each parent, how do you divide responsibilities and tasks

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  3 роки тому +10

      Thank you so much for watching! Such a good idea 🥰

  • @marshakrcmar
    @marshakrcmar 3 роки тому +127

    "have you been on youtube lately?!" LOL! Died. So true V, so true.

  • @BaSomay
    @BaSomay 11 місяців тому +3

    Wow, i'm so impressed how Gary see the world. He is so supportive and wise. Lucky girl having him.

  • @maddie3329
    @maddie3329 3 роки тому +43

    When it comes to religion and culture I 100% agree with what you guys said. It depends on how much of a role you’re religion and culture plays in your everyday life and how similar your partners culture is to yours. I also think what the differences are plays a huge role. If your basic values are different I think that will cause a huge issue, but if the religions have similar basic values even if they’re very different it can work. I hope that makes sense.

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  3 роки тому +2

      Yess, definitely makes sense. Very well said! 👏🏻

  • @jaklinsmilkova4723
    @jaklinsmilkova4723 3 роки тому +15

    Is it just me or has Valeria been giving this Super strong, comfortable in her own skin and just here to live life to the fullest vibe even more than usual lately 🌟. Girl, you are going places, okay. A true force of nature 🤍

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  3 роки тому +1

      Aw you are so sweet! Thank you so much 🥺❤️

    • @jaklinsmilkova4723
      @jaklinsmilkova4723 3 роки тому

      @@ValeriaLipovetsky and thank you for always being so inspiring ❤

  • @annauman5270
    @annauman5270 3 роки тому +242

    The part where you talk about sex was hilarious 😂. I know V tried her best to explain female part, but Garry’s face just ruined my focus and made me laugh 😂😂😂

    • @mariarosariodeguzman4329
      @mariarosariodeguzman4329 3 роки тому +1

      🤣😂😂🤗 agree

    • @koharkin2555
      @koharkin2555 3 роки тому +12

      Yes 🙌🏼 it would have been nice if he could have elaborated more if he wasn’t so nervously tip toeing around the topic 😬. Yeh guys go through seasons as well for sure just not the same as women.
      Yes men’s primal drive is to just want sex biologically, but sometimes external factors will impact their primal drivers, so it’s not always the case.

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  3 роки тому +7

      Hahah ❤️✨

  • @biannca5650
    @biannca5650 3 роки тому +11

    You guys, this is a really good based talk! It is so powerful to take advice from couples that really support the growth of the significant one but at the same time take the same road together and be respectful at the same time. Top views of point !
    Soooooo good !! Enjoyed it at its fullest!

  • @mesudemalgaz85
    @mesudemalgaz85 3 роки тому +19

    You guys are such an inspiration. You're so real and I love to see such a down to earth, healthy, loving, caring relationship ❤️❤️❤️

  • @КатеринаМасловская-ц8д

    I've been dealing with some anxiety for the past two months and these types of videos where you just sit and talk about life, give some advices really help me calm down, distract and worry a little bit less.
    Thank you a lot ❤️
    Sending love and happiness for everyone who's reading 🌻

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  3 роки тому +5

      Thank you so much for sharing! Sending you all the love from Miami 🥰

  • @elena4332
    @elena4332 3 роки тому +80

    The ‘’have you been on youtube lately’’,really hit me 😂

  • @SageFromSpace
    @SageFromSpace 3 роки тому +10

    My parents had divorced since they had 10 years of marriage. Now I am looking at you and my heart get melting, with - thats how good 10 year marriage look like! Thank you two for being as you are

  • @susie.valmor
    @susie.valmor 3 роки тому +158

    How complex we woman are with sex and being in the mood it reflects so many things. That's just how our brains work...lol

  • @sofitocyn100
    @sofitocyn100 2 роки тому +11

    No, men don't always want sex. It's tiring to hear stuff like that being told all the time. Many men need a lot of things in order to feel like having sex.

  • @annauman5270
    @annauman5270 3 роки тому +17

    Can you please address in you next couples video your opinion regarding before marriage contracts (regarding kids, finances, etc). Absolutely love your family, sending you ♥️♥️♥️

  • @andromedamaxima1543
    @andromedamaxima1543 3 роки тому +35

    this is so smart, they are doing couples therapy in front of a camera, so they must be polite and controlled, and respect each other’s time and opinion - although some times i felt a bit uncomfortable with the “energy” - it got better towards the end of the video.

    • @chlin4600
      @chlin4600 3 роки тому +4

      I understand now.. its seemed way too off for me. I like them either way.

    • @blushying
      @blushying 3 роки тому

      How do you know that it was couples' therapy?

    • @kristenk708
      @kristenk708 3 роки тому

      @@chlin4600 what do you mean?

  • @magdalenao.9309
    @magdalenao.9309 3 роки тому +15

    This is the most entertaining couples talk I’ve ever seen 😁 thank you Valeria ❤️ I love how upfront you are about the whole sex thingy 😊

  • @yberchillix
    @yberchillix 3 роки тому +15

    I love when people see the benefit of having logical and open discussions like that. Unfortunately for me as much as I have seen, this type of thinkig and even more acting out is in the rare side. So it makes even me happy, seeing you guys found eachother. Awesome!❤️

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  3 роки тому +2

      Thank you so much for watching! Will be sharing more discussions like these 🙌🏻❤️

  • @Soltopmtz
    @Soltopmtz 3 роки тому +17

    These are my favorite kind of videos from you guys!! Gary and you are such a bomb of inspiration and wisdom.

  • @henrystoys
    @henrystoys 3 роки тому +9

    My husband and I are also 18 years apart, so I love this. You guys are amazing together. Lots of love! ❤️

  • @petitejullie
    @petitejullie 3 роки тому +3

    Wow, Valeria!!! You have evolved so much during the past years. I love it 🥰

  • @RPKD88
    @RPKD88 2 роки тому +17

    This is honestly pretty disturbing. It's funny how so many people are glorifying and normalizing it despite knowing she met him when she was 19 and he was 37. That's.... disgusting. Just because someone is a little above 18, doesn't mean it's not predatory. Especially if he was a family friend, it means he was looking at her earlier. Shame on the people in the comments who don't have the guts to call it out as it is and romanticize this as goals and shame on Gary. This ain't cute.

    • @zaram2806
      @zaram2806 Рік тому +1

      @William Braddell That's so far from the truth. Don't know where you got that from.

    • @zaram2806
      @zaram2806 Рік тому +2

      It's truly disgusting.

    • @zaram2806
      @zaram2806 Рік тому +2

      ​@William Braddell That is not true at all. Being a very very young person myself, I can assure you that I'm not jealous of Valeria. I'm far younger than she is. The age gap and the context in how they met is very predatory and you shouldn't be normalizing or defending something so abnormal.

    • @RPKD88
      @RPKD88 Рік тому +3

      @William Braddell lol grooming doesn't mean that they won't be together or not.
      Explain why older men want to seek younger women between the ages of 18-25. If that isn't fucking creepy idk what is.

    • @RPKD88
      @RPKD88 Рік тому +3

      @William Braddell I'm wondering if it's ok with you because you've done it....

  • @AppleKiss96
    @AppleKiss96 3 роки тому +15

    It's so cute how Valeria thought that the "Sex" question refers to gender. ;)

  • @HannaKangMamaKang
    @HannaKangMamaKang 3 роки тому +4

    Great videos always! Love you guys. This is an obvious one but without trust the layers they described are unachievable. It’s hard to find people who value trust and loyalty these days. You guys give us hope! Love you both.

  • @Celinee55533
    @Celinee55533 3 роки тому +2

    This vid was so needed, I miss more personal vids of yours like casual day in a lifes or family vlogs

  • @jennys.2440
    @jennys.2440 3 роки тому +2

    Loved this video, especially when it comes to what you guys said about culture and religion regarding long-term relationships, as it's something I've struggled with in the past. ❤ I really appreciated the subtitles and the question on the upper right corner, it's really helpful when you're trying to watch the video but you're also multitasking.

  • @maryama8998
    @maryama8998 Рік тому

    I hope you guys stay together forever and your relationship gets better day by day

  • @homiekeen23
    @homiekeen23 3 роки тому +5

    Awwwwww, Gary thinking of us as his kidssssss 😂😂😂

  • @1991faithy
    @1991faithy 2 роки тому +2

    Gary's reactions are everything 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @Travelstylechic
    @Travelstylechic 3 роки тому +7

    I can't be only one who thought Valeria is pregnant again on the thumbnail. I was like, wait what did I miss? 🤣

  • @annauman5270
    @annauman5270 3 роки тому +6

    "your mama is a scientist" (c) 😂. 😂. 😂. This video can turn into Lipovetsky memes :D

  • @OO-qt7ec
    @OO-qt7ec 3 роки тому +1

    You guys seem to have such a great bond now! Happy for you both, I could sense the stress before ❤️

  • @friedac2703
    @friedac2703 3 роки тому +1

    thanks for the graphics! especially the ones about the love language and the zodiac sign: helpful & aesthetic, what else could u want more :)

  • @dilsonnovais5006
    @dilsonnovais5006 Рік тому +4

    I tried to watch the video with automatic translation, so I understood some of the things you two said, and I thought it was really cool that you talked about sex. I think that in an age gap relationship this is the biggest taboo, because society judges a young woman having sex with an older man. But it's not always so. once in a hotel pool I met a couple where she was 19 and he was 54, the two were hugging and kissing. I personally admired the scene a lot

    • @Carmina2005
      @Carmina2005 Рік тому +1

      They don't judge the woman, they judge the man and call him a "pedo". The young woman is seen as a child incompetent to make choices, in need of protection.
      That's BS ofcourse

  • @nayavel00
    @nayavel00 3 роки тому

    I love how you guys are matching outfits, I don’t know if it was intentional or not but, it’s so cute!

  • @oldsoul6696
    @oldsoul6696 3 роки тому +8

    One question: Would Gary consider marrying a lady 12 yrs older than him?
    No offence but I really want yo know a real man's perspective over this. I read things in magazines and stuff but a man's answer in real life would be very helpful. It is normal with eastern values to marry men older sometimes your father's age but it becomes. big issue when a woman is older.

  • @denisewebb5073
    @denisewebb5073 3 роки тому +3

    I love Gary looking straight into the camera during sex talk and the look on his face.

  • @vanillacapricorn8060
    @vanillacapricorn8060 Рік тому +1

    Its all about the maturity for me. Iv been with someone 20 yrs older than me and things were totally fine but there was definitely a couple tweaks 1) i wanted another child and he was already fixed (he was willing to fix that) 2) i was immature and trying to find myself still unfortunately.

  • @Skkinmatics
    @Skkinmatics 3 роки тому +7

    Can we please have more videos with Gary ?
    P.S. love your videos💕

  • @nihalhathaway4089
    @nihalhathaway4089 3 роки тому

    giving space to each other is so important

  • @danam8450
    @danam8450 3 роки тому +27

    Does anyone have tips with “daddy issues” not exactly that but in the realm of parents relationship affecting your own grown adult relationships? It just seems more inclined to naturally run away from the very opportunity of going in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship if that make sense...

    • @poshytro
      @poshytro 3 роки тому +4

      I think it’s a complex issue but you can get good results from therapy!

    • @lisakusmin5337
      @lisakusmin5337 3 роки тому +12

      Im in therapy because of that! It will be different for every person, but for me, i tend to run away from things (people) that make me happy or don't accept it when someone does something nice for me. Internally, my brain thinks i don't deserve good things and if something goes well for a time something bad must be coming up. But this is not true - i deserve good things happening to me just because i exist, the sole existence of me is enough. I am enough. I need to stop sabotaging myself.
      This will be different for everyone but i truly encourage you to go to therapy and discover your own though process - there is nothing more liberating than understanding why you are feeling a certain way and why it might not always be correct. Happy healing!

  • @Nessadita
    @Nessadita 3 роки тому +4

    5:44 Gary's low key proud face 🤣

  • @saltykiss_
    @saltykiss_ 2 роки тому

    The way the camera zoomed in on the hubby when she started talking about sex LOL!! I died!

  • @luckseaD
    @luckseaD 3 роки тому +1

    I love you both so much. Gary is an amazing husband and father and so are you❤️

  • @devilfromheavens549
    @devilfromheavens549 3 роки тому +10

    "No girl goes for a bald guy unless he's a millionaire".
    Amen

  • @Iloveyouworld
    @Iloveyouworld 3 роки тому +4

    “Is water required?” HAHAHAH VALERIA

  • @VBe8888
    @VBe8888 3 роки тому +1

    this was my favourite from all of your couple talks ! 💕

  • @maxstreetracer1592
    @maxstreetracer1592 2 роки тому +8

    Youre with him for his money stop with the lies

    • @ykMMD
      @ykMMD 7 місяців тому

      And he's with her because he's a pedo woops.

  • @mkyoder4179
    @mkyoder4179 3 роки тому

    Parenting styles, communication with children

  • @kavya914
    @kavya914 3 роки тому

    Gary, can u please make a video on business and the things u have learnt throughout ur life ❤️

  • @jessqf9633
    @jessqf9633 3 роки тому

    You guys are so good ❤️❤️ just really natural and organic. Love it

  • @lydiasalerno2320
    @lydiasalerno2320 3 роки тому

    Valeria I love all your videos but I think this could be my favourite- thanks for sharing! 🙏
    Sending positivity to you and your family! 🌟

  • @tinakampouroglou4479
    @tinakampouroglou4479 3 роки тому

    Bless you guys... Love these Q and A... especially from a young growing family like you guys... In these modern but weird circumstances we are living in... Showing us how calm and wisely things can be dealt with RESPECTING each other's needs... WE 💖U🙋‍♀️🇬🇷

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  3 роки тому +1

      So sweet thank you so much! We appreciate all your love and support 🥰

  • @homiekeen23
    @homiekeen23 3 роки тому

    I'm totally like Gary on not labelling stuff 😁

  • @littlelulu52093
    @littlelulu52093 3 роки тому +2

    Aquarius for sure! Intellectual but cool/unique

  • @thaisass6024
    @thaisass6024 3 роки тому +1

    hahaha it's almost frustrating because I thought what Valeria was saying about sex was actually really beautiful and I've never heard it vocalised in that way but Gary was just so sincere in his reaction 😂

  • @NoName-zb1gm
    @NoName-zb1gm 11 місяців тому +1

    I don't think an age gap relationship is something you look for it just happens. I've known someone from work for a few years and over the past few months we've become more friendly and have formed a little bond and it's so refreshing at least for me. Btw there's a 30 year age difference.

    • @ykMMD
      @ykMMD 7 місяців тому +2

      I'm not sure stats about predators agree on that one with you. Are there healthy, loving and non-abusive age gaps relationships? Absolutely. However, age gap relationships where the man is over 30 and dating someone who is just out of their 20s can be a sign of abusive behavior to come. Younger people tend to be in more vulnerable positions and easier to control in these cases. I think I'm more comfortable with relationships with big age gaps relationship when both partners are above 30.

  • @AnNguyen-ex8pm
    @AnNguyen-ex8pm 3 роки тому

    This video made me think a lot. Thank you Gary and Valeria.

  • @meriin821
    @meriin821 3 роки тому +1

    Thanks for keeping it real guys 💘

  • @-laurel
    @-laurel 3 роки тому

    These are my favorite videos to watch! Thank you for sharing your experience and knowledge.

  • @vuigaworld
    @vuigaworld 3 роки тому +7

    Valeria your husband is 🔥🔥🔥👍👍👍

  • @vaambond2570
    @vaambond2570 3 роки тому

    Best couple ever!! You are guys so wise and supporting💖🌹❤

  • @bakeandbake1740
    @bakeandbake1740 3 роки тому +1

    Gary’s face during the sex talk 😂😂😂😂

  • @analuisa5s2002
    @analuisa5s2002 3 роки тому +1

    This is an amazing video, i love you guys. Definitely saving it to watch an answer with my boyfriend later :D

  • @eylemakyldz5526
    @eylemakyldz5526 3 роки тому

    It was a good talk! Thanks for sharing everything openly. I also really liked ‘is water required’ duh 🙄😂

  • @mimitho6037
    @mimitho6037 3 роки тому +2

    You are giving me hope in relationship!

  • @RapunzelASMR
    @RapunzelASMR 3 роки тому +120

    I thougth she had a pregnant belly in the thumbnail XD

  • @iamwhoiamp103
    @iamwhoiamp103 Рік тому

    Hope you sweet couple much much happier life❤
    Nice to see such age gap goes very well

  • @larrywatson3479
    @larrywatson3479 3 роки тому +1

    Hello Valeria! You and Gary have a wonderful marriage and are very blessed and loved to have each other. Many blessings and much happiness to you both always! Love 💘you Valeria! Love, Janice and Larry Watson Pittsburgh PA USA

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  3 роки тому

      So sweet! Thank you so much for watching. Sending love from Miami 🥰

  • @n1h1L1s7ka
    @n1h1L1s7ka 3 роки тому

    I just found you now and that was a really good video and a really good explanation of everything. I think the same way about every of your answers. And it was a real joy to watch the video, because alongside, you two were pretty funny (together). I like the chemistry between you two.
    Greetings from Bulgaria, Europe

  • @vanessalambert4286
    @vanessalambert4286 3 роки тому

    Acuario is the sign that matches with everyone

  • @leenywanda2867
    @leenywanda2867 3 роки тому +7

    I hope you people take care of yourselves. I was subscribed, then I unsubscribed, and now I’m subscribed again but I don’t follow you people too closely. I know when I mentioned in a comment before about your marriage about subtly bringing up a stereotype, you quickly deleted it, and I’m sure you might/will delete this one. The comments constantly tearing you down must be too much, and I know you delete a lot of them since your views to comments ratio is incredibly outnumbered. These comments could and will eat you alive, and I don’t think it’s healthy. So therefore, I hope you find peace in this world- beauty and money are great, but life without these things as a center makes a person reach the highest state of being and distilled happiness. Take care Valeria and Gary- I’m certain you won’t listen, and I don’t know you personally, but I have a strong intuition that you aren’t complete people, and I hope I’m wrong about it.

  • @miramira9883
    @miramira9883 3 роки тому +1

    A man wanting to see his partner angry jealous😹😹 Valeria you rock, you put your energy in constructive beautiful things♥️

  • @stefanie320
    @stefanie320 2 роки тому

    Ok Gary needs his own UA-cam channel lol. You guys are hilarious.

  • @luzgodinez2925
    @luzgodinez2925 3 роки тому

    Im aquarius too, I understand now why i love Gary, God Bless for both 🥰✨❤️

  • @yoanakrusteva3819
    @yoanakrusteva3819 3 роки тому

    I love you guys!! You are so wise, you give amazing perspective and great advices. I hope me and my partner can reach your level of connection, understanding and wisdom! ❤️😍😍

  • @heyyyhailey
    @heyyyhailey 3 роки тому

    I love a lot if points you made especially gary saying he’s so attentive / solutions guy. Thats me! And my bf needs the space and less reactive. Definitely watching this with him later ❤️

  • @stephybartholomae6207
    @stephybartholomae6207 3 роки тому

    this was so fun! thanks for sharing

  • @suhanisinha9262
    @suhanisinha9262 3 роки тому +1

    Loving the new set from Verie ❤️❤️❤️

  • @Jam3s27
    @Jam3s27 2 роки тому

    Atleast she didn’t cut him off at all happy to see

  • @Tionaintown876
    @Tionaintown876 3 роки тому

    You guys work together so well

  • @devilfromheavens549
    @devilfromheavens549 3 роки тому +7

    He must have millions of dollars.

  • @wind10miko
    @wind10miko 3 роки тому +3

    Gary has a good point with the love language part, it seems to be women obsessed with it but like Gary, good point, he does not want to put labels

    • @livelovely4681
      @livelovely4681 2 роки тому

      It's a good template. Never putting labels on things do not make them anymore organized.

  • @thiresia
    @thiresia 3 роки тому

    Guys i loved it ❤️

  • @Milycabrera92
    @Milycabrera92 3 роки тому +1

    Love you both!! Best couple advices ever!!!! ❤️ 🥰😇

  • @Snehakatharpi
    @Snehakatharpi 3 роки тому +4

    The sex part ☕ 😄 100% relatable

  • @wendyrs1087
    @wendyrs1087 2 роки тому

    wow ... I respect you both ... I agree with most things you guys said ...

  • @ivanapetrovic5228
    @ivanapetrovic5228 3 роки тому

    💚 Love is everything that matters.

  • @sensean2129
    @sensean2129 3 роки тому

    Have you been on youtube lately? Love Valeria tone.hahaha. Authentically cute.

  • @Popularsitcoms
    @Popularsitcoms 3 роки тому +2

    Valeria looking cute as usual ❤😆
    But honestly in the thumbnail i thought ur knee is ur belly, i actually thought ur pregnant with baby no 4🤣🤣🤣

  • @passthatcouture
    @passthatcouture 3 роки тому +2

    I love listening to your chats. You both always offer gems of wisdom! also in an age gap relationship. we align on outlook and family values

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  3 роки тому

      Aw you're the sweetest! Thank you so much for watching 😊❤️

  • @FashionChaletNET
    @FashionChaletNET 3 роки тому +1

    VIRGO HERE (9/17) and my husband is AQUARIUS lol awesome!!
    xx

  • @jordynsophiamakeup
    @jordynsophiamakeup 3 роки тому

    Marriage goals! If my marriage isn’t like this than I’m not settling!!