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  • @dinavienna
    @dinavienna 2 роки тому +347

    What Gary said at 6.00 - „if you think you‘re getting married and having children with somebody, and then when the marriage doesn’t work out that person should be left with nothing: don’t get married. You don’t understand what marriage means.“
    WORD. I might borrow this quote as a legal counsel.

    • @SuppDiggyDawg
      @SuppDiggyDawg 2 роки тому +6

      Yes!! I was like "I absolutely see why Valeria loves this man" at his words there!

    • @AnimatedBlast
      @AnimatedBlast 2 роки тому +1

      Whatever. This is an old man who married a girl that looks like a child. No one deserves free money. Fair child support, yes. Spousal support for the rest of their lives? Absolutely not.

    • @dinavienna
      @dinavienna 2 роки тому +1

      @@AnimatedBlast the System in most countries foresees a split of asset for the duration of marriage. In case that’s substantial, the spouse would get a handsome sum they can either keep or divest from (which would make them cash you could see as accumulated spousal alimony for 20, 30, 40 years). When the law foresees that as the norm and the wealthier spouse to be wants to find a different regulation, it is only fair to foresee some kind of monthly payment until remarriage. It S not s Gift - it s agreeing to regulate differently than the law would foresee.

  • @whosaidiwasgood
    @whosaidiwasgood 2 роки тому +51

    I remember as a child, I had very little exposure to divorces and broken families. Once I hit my 20s, suddenly so many of my family friends are going through messy divorces and I could see how it impacted the kids, even if they were my age at the time. Years of resentment and unresolved issues can make someone really difficult and even selfish and irresponsible during a divorce. Even then, I realized that what's worse than an angry partner during a divorce is an angry partner who cannot leave due to financial instability and is forced to remain in the marriage. That's just terrible for everyone living under the same roof. Despite being raised with a conservative upbringing, I agree with you and Gary. A prenup is important in modern marriages to safeguard the future of both parties. Even though growing old together through years of marriage is a beautiful idea, the future can be unpredictable.

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  2 роки тому +4

      Thank you so much for sharing! I agree, prenups aren't for everyone but it works for us ❤️

  • @Lilacs95
    @Lilacs95 2 роки тому +17

    This video is bizarrrrroOoo... something about the way Gary reacts doesn't sit well with me. He seems like he's trying to prove something to himself via this video. Doesn't feel like an honest / open Q & A in that sense.

  • @AnniK243
    @AnniK243 2 роки тому +169

    Gary seems very dominant and he doesn't allow you to even think differently. He seems quite argumentative.

    • @JK-cx9rh
      @JK-cx9rh 2 роки тому +12

      That is because she made an ugly tik tok video making him look like an idiot

    • @chelsia9996
      @chelsia9996 2 роки тому +55

      I don't like how he talks to her

    • @chamber1083
      @chamber1083 2 роки тому +27

      Oh look we have a bunch of psychologists here in the comments section who like to assume things about the relationship even though they don't know them 100% lol

    • @greatmoviesrecaps
      @greatmoviesrecaps 2 роки тому

      Mind your own business

    • @Nikki-ks6wi
      @Nikki-ks6wi 2 роки тому +2

      If you know the history of Valeria you would know she comes from a traditional background and would marry someone that is mature such as Gary. She’s a free bird but also admires stability

  • @annauman5270
    @annauman5270 2 роки тому +97

    thank you for sharing this in a such a healthy way! I must say, there are so many young girls watching Valeria and those vids are actually educating. Sending you love

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  2 роки тому +5

      Aw! Thank you so much for watching. Love doing these couples Q&A for you all 🥰

  • @Foreverizzy5
    @Foreverizzy5 2 роки тому +130

    There is something about the tone of this video, can’t put my finger on it. Just because you didn’t have the same memory, doesn’t meant you need to react or speak to your partner that way 🤷🏻‍♀️

    • @AF-vm6xx
      @AF-vm6xx 9 місяців тому +1

      You’re just not a fan of a prenup. And therefore you’re looking for ways to out this man into a negative light. If you’d actually listen to what he says after that, he ACTUALLY makes a big compliment to her.

  • @suckerlovegigner1989
    @suckerlovegigner1989 2 роки тому +38

    Thanks so much guys for this video, it’s very informative, it’s true that for the majority of people that have little legal knowledge a prenup has very negative and “unromantic” connotations, I actually see it now under a different scope

  • @spacebigstar97
    @spacebigstar97 2 роки тому +35

    I really respect prenups and the agreements that are made within this. It is so important for both parts to have like what Gary said a «plan for war», cause you never know what could happen! Especially in the western world, or where I live (Norway) it is so common to get divorced, and all of the «other stuff» that you have to deal with especially when kids are involved, it just makes things even harder if a pair were to split up. And this is just a way to handle it «better».
    Where I live, couples who only live together, not even married, are recommended to document an agreement which states what should happen if they were to split up. Kind of a prenup, or a contract, if you will!
    It is sad tho how prenups are portrayed as something so bad! So nice to hear this! Love it!

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  2 роки тому

      Thank you so much for sharing. I agree! A prenup allows to open up that conversation of what you both value in the relationship 🙏🏻❤️

  • @elisedasvin170
    @elisedasvin170 2 роки тому +41

    "The best way to achieve peace, is to prepare for war" is actually the translation of latin "si vis pacem para bellum", ha ha ! 👌🏻A very wise adage !
    The original sentence was found in a latin text by a military author from the 4th or 5th century A.D.

  • @strawberriesncandii
    @strawberriesncandii 2 роки тому +17

    I think a prenup is very necessary especially if you’re thinking about having children. If one partner dies with debt it can protect you from being responsible by making a clear distinction of what is there’s and what’s yours. It’s like having life insurance. It’s important to have.

  • @SuppDiggyDawg
    @SuppDiggyDawg 2 роки тому +16

    Okay, dang!! Gary had some GREAT stuff to say in this video; I loved this! Especially the emphasis on this being an equitable protection for ALL parties--that if you're committing to the love and respect and partnership of a marriage, you are also using a prenup to commit to the most equitable and respectful resolution of one, too. I've never heard of a man, or anyone, talk about a prenup in that light before. I am really impressed with you both. Wow.

  • @Lara-SM
    @Lara-SM 2 роки тому +19

    My mom always said: A prenup is solid foundation for your marriage.
    Its a really good way of sitting down with your partner and talk about everything the future will hold. Some marriages fail (specially young) because they realize they don't have the same views like for example in children and their education.

    • @acura99nation
      @acura99nation 2 роки тому

      Are your parents still together?

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  2 роки тому

      Love that! Thank you so much for sharing ❤️

    • @msmarya100
      @msmarya100 2 роки тому

      I definitely agree that a lot of people go into marriage or even a long-term relationship without actually discussing their expectations around core life issues like children and finances. I don't think a pre-nup is necessarily the best way to address this, but I do think that more people should seriously look into pre-marital counselling as it's an excellent tool to open up communication and actually think about and discuss these things. People often seem to spend more time planning their wedding which is one day than preparing for their marriage which is a lifetime.

    • @Lara-SM
      @Lara-SM 2 роки тому +1

      @@msmarya100 well not everyone can afford it. Counseling can be more expensive than hiring a lawyer. Moreover this is 2 in one. You talk about it and protect both of you at the same time. But you are so right, if the same effort put into a wedding would be into preparing for marriage a lot would be different, and counseling would be ideal.

  • @tootsingtonfabulucy1050
    @tootsingtonfabulucy1050 2 роки тому +106

    My heart goes out to you Valeria. Stay true to youself and ensure you have an equal voice. Your opinions matter and always, always trust your gut.

    • @sssssssssuv
      @sssssssssuv 2 роки тому +17

      Couldn't agree with you more. Sadly, he's so controlling.

    • @anny7408
      @anny7408 2 роки тому +10

      I read the blog before watchinh the video and i just felt that his words/mindset wew very dominant and controlling, i wasnt wrong :(

    • @sssssssssuv
      @sssssssssuv 2 роки тому +7

      @@anny7408 I know. Poor Valeria. She's a such sweet girl.

    • @janecoe9407
      @janecoe9407 2 роки тому +4

      this guy is sarcastic and rude alot of the time. at times he is funny but at times he is rude. He obviously does not trust her. If he trusted her he would not have hr sign a pre nup.

    • @sssssssssuv
      @sssssssssuv 2 роки тому

      @@janecoe9407 I know.

  • @tatiana944
    @tatiana944 2 роки тому +96

    Would love to hear the disadvantages of having a prenup. The video is informative but seems very one sided. I’m sure there are ppl who have gotten prenups and regret them. It’s not always a one size fits all approach.

  • @666Minnix666
    @666Minnix666 2 роки тому +58

    Interesting video, but I'm not sure if a prenup is only a Canadian/US thing. Correct me if I'm wrong. Because in my country a prenup is very unusual and I don't know anyone who has it. I actually didn't know what it meant until you explained it. I personally am not for a prenup, because I would then feel like being in a business relationship instead of a love relationship but I won't judge anyone who has it. My husband and I trust each other enough and can talk reasonably enough no matter the circumstances so I believe that we could figure everything out between us without a contract in case we would split up. So to each their own.

    • @YA-ip7dz
      @YA-ip7dz 2 роки тому +4

      Absolutely not! I’m Egyptian and we all have prenups , its a must , and I think all arabs get prenups and it actually serves females more than it serves males in the case of divorce

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  2 роки тому +1

      Thank you so much for sharing! It's so nice to hear that you are your partner have great communication and trust in each other 🙌🏻

    • @livnyberg2721
      @livnyberg2721 2 роки тому +4

      Yeah and in my country my lawyer told me that barely any prenups stand up in court because it’s easy to prove that circumstances have changed enough in your life from the time you signed it. So judges often rule the couple is no longer bound by it and their divorce will go ahead like they never had one (e.g. the spouse with lower assets/income has since had children and now believes that has changed their opinion on how much they need/deserve post divorce etc.). Prenups can be a really expensive legal exercise to just be eventually thrown out.

    • @Soltopmtz
      @Soltopmtz 2 роки тому +1

      Yes! in Mexico this is veeery uncommon, but I've heard the term from Hollywood movies and american content.

    • @yasmineguemri
      @yasmineguemri 2 роки тому +2

      I’m a young lawyer in Europe and prenups exist. Perhaps, it’s not common, and the couples should be those who start this conversation with their lawyers before marriage, otherwise the marriage contract will be therefore be applied under the principal rules that exist. I sense that many couples don’t actually know it exists.

  • @ginger1011121314
    @ginger1011121314 2 роки тому +9

    Being married is one of the most financially and legally significant decisions a person can make so thank you for talking about this. My partner and I are broke millennials with no financial stake in getting married but even we are both dead set on a prenup. It has everything to do with how you want your relationship to function and the safety of both partners/any children if the relationship dissolves. It’s naive to assume that marriages don’t end. Moreover, questioning the strength and longevity of your relationship shouldn’t be viewed as negative or distrustful. That being said if you have an unfair arrangement that needs to be addressed. Wouldn’t you want to find that out about your relationship beforehand instead of blindly assuming everything will work out in your favour.

  • @deedee20062008
    @deedee20062008 2 роки тому +13

    Am I often impressed with your content? Rarely... am i amazed with this topic and explanations ? YES! Do I feel informed and ready to accept a pre nup yes, was I before? No. Thank you both for educating us. Honestly a marriage is not just love and butterflies is also responsibility, independence and security! ❤🤗

  • @livnyberg2721
    @livnyberg2721 2 роки тому +102

    Another good way to ‘prepare for war’ so to speak, is to get to know your partner for a while before commitment. Watch how they deal with conflict, money etc. In my personal opinion it’s much better to marry someone who you know will act with integrity (and you too) in the event of separation because they’re a good person. Not marrying someone who in the event of divorce has to be forced into things because of a contract. It shows you don’t know them enough to trust they’ll do right by you

    • @mackenzybarry6625
      @mackenzybarry6625 2 роки тому +9

      I agree with this! But I think its still a good idea to have a prenup just so then you are both on the same page - just to have a plan incase things go awry. Kinda like how people plan for their own funeral lol it will just make it easier on everyone if it needs to happen

    • @livnyberg2721
      @livnyberg2721 2 роки тому +18

      @@mackenzybarry6625 if that’s what floats your boat go ahead! But pre-signing documentation about your divorce BEFORE you sign a document stating you’ll be together seems ominous and contradictory. Like if you need lawyers to start your marriage, it feels like you’re planning that lawyers will be how it ends.

    • @ana______6567
      @ana______6567 2 роки тому +4

      @@livnyberg2721 I agree with you completely! Well said!

    • @mackenzybarry6625
      @mackenzybarry6625 2 роки тому +2

      @@livnyberg2721 Yeah, you're right!

    • @khaledabegum5604
      @khaledabegum5604 2 роки тому +15

      The reality is no matter how much of a decent person you marry - people change... and not always for the best. Having a prenup, I don’t think it takes away from the romance and love between two people I think it’s just another decision two people in a relationship make and shows a level of maturity which I think is a better way to start a marriage.

  • @saraaaaah8542
    @saraaaaah8542 2 роки тому +18

    Very educating video! Thank you for your opinion.
    Still I am getting a kind of passive-aggressive vibe from Gary which I hate because I “know” that he is not that kind of person and it’s probably just because he is very confident… but he does not interact with Valeria at all and gets easily offend, he acts like a strict teacher who needs his students to understand the given information because the time is running off. Valeria instead is really relatable and takes her time and is chill. I would really love to see both of you interact more and respond to one another’s opinion. Don’t get me wrong, I am just describing how it seems to me and the feelings I am felling with it because it makes me feel uncomfortable getting something taught in the way Gary is and that is my issue but I just wanted to share it with you. I absolutely admire both of you, am so excited for your podcast and I feel like I can learn a lot from your mindsets.

  • @seaks00
    @seaks00 2 роки тому +10

    Something is off about these two

  • @elky360
    @elky360 2 роки тому +15

    So if the prenup states that you get to keep everything you made before marriage, but everything made after marriage is split 50/50.
    That would put Valeria at an extreme disadvantage because she was so young when she got married she hadn’t had a chance to start making her own money.
    Then when she started her social media empire that’s now making A LOT of money she still has to split that 50/50? Whilst Gary gets to keep his assets from pre marriage.
    Gary has really won the jackpot here; a beautiful wife who has given him 3 boys whilst she started an extremely lucrative business.

  • @MrVevlet
    @MrVevlet 2 роки тому +14

    I have a friend who lives with her sister and before they became housemates she drew up a contract. The contract was a good way to discuss things and make sure they were on the same page before conflict arose. (Her sister is a lawyer).
    I think prenups can function in the same way- making sure both parties on the same page and making sure there’s a contingency plan in case anything happens. Marriage is a legal contract and a pre-nup allows you to tailor that contract to what your relationship needs. That said it’s super important for both parties to have their own lawyers. So I’m glad you raised that. Never sign anything without asking a lawyer that isn’t working for the other party.

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  2 роки тому +4

      Wow! Thank you so much for sharing. Yes, I completely agree having your own legal advisor is so important. Having a prenup allows you to be honest on what you want & need out of the relationship 🙌🏻❤️

    • @MrVevlet
      @MrVevlet 2 роки тому

      @@ValeriaLipovetsky 💖💖💖 totally agree! Really glad you made this video it’s an important topic.💖💖💖

  • @Apothecary2886
    @Apothecary2886 2 роки тому +9

    You guys mostly touched on division of assets but another reason to get a prenup is division of debt. If one partner accumulates a ton of debt during the marriage, in the case of a divorce that debt will be split among both parties, even if only one of them knowingly accumulated the debt. At least it’s that way in the states

    • @joeheller7581
      @joeheller7581 2 роки тому

      That’s stupid

    • @creativesexpression4929
      @creativesexpression4929 9 місяців тому

      In the states, if you get divorced, that debt still belongs to the original borrower - you don’t need a prenup to say that. The law already covers it. And even if one person takes on debt during the marriage, it’s rare that the other person is on the hook for it if it isn’t in their name. In most states, separate debt is separate debt.

  • @margauxdelassus9626
    @margauxdelassus9626 2 роки тому +39

    What I love about prenups is that you write them when you are IN LOVE with your partner. Indeed, there are filled with goodwill. You care about, protect and defend your beloved partner.

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  2 роки тому +7

      Yes! Thank you so much for sharing that because many people have a different view of that side of things as well 🙌🏻

  • @issaemilove5254
    @issaemilove5254 2 роки тому +8

    Very informative. An important topic to discuss since many people take it personally and think it’s thinking about the end before it began but that’s exactly what saves you from lots of headaches if you ever get a divorce. Divorced people always say „the person I divorced isn’t the one I married“ …

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  2 роки тому +4

      Thank you so much for sharing! A Prenup is a reminder of the common ground you came into this marriage with and allows for a more streamlined communication if anything does happening 🙌🏻

    • @DB-jf4hy
      @DB-jf4hy 2 роки тому

      @@ValeriaLipovetsky Nicely said, however, the only people who would discuss a prenup is if there is lots of money to be protected. Most people without money would not pay a lawyer to talk about their future. So again it falls into the trust department. Just feels like you are going into a marriage that needs more trust. In the end, the person who doesn't mind so much will sign. It's not bad, it just means the signer is just easy going. (maybe that's a good thing)

  • @Cleisthenes607
    @Cleisthenes607 2 роки тому +20

    Gary's father ripped that line off from the Romans:
    A wise man in times of peace prepares for war.
    - Horace
    Si vis pacem, para bellum
    If you want peace, prepare for war
    -Vegetius

    • @blkbarbie2671
      @blkbarbie2671 2 роки тому +4

      it’s okay to quote ancient greeks lmao it’s still a good phrase to echo today

  • @xJudelovesyou
    @xJudelovesyou 2 роки тому +27

    I felt weird watching this. I’ve been watching you guys’ videos for years but for some odd reason they don’t appear as much in my yt feed anymore. This is the first vid of yours I’ve watched in a few months and something feels off… hope it’s just in my head xx

  • @whatdafork5148
    @whatdafork5148 2 роки тому +7

    In Mexico this so normal. You have to decide when you are about to get married whether you want to split everything or separate the assets acquired before marriage. We are getting married next year under that separate assets scheme.

  • @kpare1032
    @kpare1032 2 роки тому +25

    When prenups are brought up, it says alot about the relationship. People are free to make up their mind on what relationship they want. But it says alot about it.

    • @janecoe9407
      @janecoe9407 2 роки тому +2

      agree. gary was older and saw his own parents divorce. he obvious;y likes to be in control. HE PROLLY DOESNT TRUT VALERIA DUE TO HER AGE. PLUS HE SAW HIS DAD AND MOM SPLIT S THAT MIGHT MAKE GARY NOT TRUST PEOPLE

  • @daphimarionsaiborne2718
    @daphimarionsaiborne2718 2 роки тому +70

    I don't know what it is but i just feel so disconnected with this channel now. May be it's because my core values of life are different...or something else also... But anyway Wishing you well Valeria

    • @whatdafork5148
      @whatdafork5148 2 роки тому +11

      Same here. I used to relate a lot and now something doesn't feel right.

    • @Katrinka912
      @Katrinka912 2 роки тому

      Same!

  • @ThesselyJuliet
    @ThesselyJuliet 2 роки тому +23

    Omg guys this is perfect timing. My partner and I are getting a partnership contract made up next month. Here in the Netherlands that’s judicial wise equal to a marriage. So these are great tips to make our conversations easier. Love u guys 😘

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  2 роки тому +2

      Love that! Thank you so much for sharing. Sending all the love & support 🥰

  • @isabellebaum5592
    @isabellebaum5592 2 роки тому +18

    Really informative video and I appreciate how open you two talk about everything!
    But to be honest, sometimes I really miss your videos where you just do your makeup and tell us about your thoughts, or your "girls talk" videos.
    I've been following you since 4 or 5 years and these videos were educating me on a different level which made me reflect and also understand me better:)
    Maybe you can do some of these again from time to time 😊
    Love you ❤️

    • @archanaganesh2704
      @archanaganesh2704 2 роки тому +3

      She does that on instagram all the time, I too love the old content Valeria used to put out 🥺

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  2 роки тому +5

      Thank you so much for your feedback! Yess, I share a lot of the girl talk videos on my Instagram 🥰

  • @clarissa7428
    @clarissa7428 2 роки тому +26

    So interesting to contrast this with my Catholic view/background. If one is Catholic, getting a prenup would actually be grounds for annulment/invalidation of the marriage contract. Basically: if you get a prenup before marrying, you didn’t even really get married because you didn’t *actually* promise to be bound (contractually!) until death . Since that’s what a marriage contract *is* for Catholics, a prenup makes contracting marriage literally impossible lol
    (Of course there are civil divorces and merely civil marriages, but once a *valid* marriage contract is signed you will be bound by it in the eyes of the Church/God for your whole life, until at least either you or your spouse dies). Us Catholics take this “one flesh” and “until death do you part” thing prettttty seriously. Marriage is kind of nuts! But wonderful!

    • @msmarya100
      @msmarya100 2 роки тому +3

      Loved your comment, thanks for sharing!

    • @clarissa7428
      @clarissa7428 2 роки тому +3

      @missClaire9087 separation isn’t ideal, but can definitely be necessary for the safety of the members of the family (esp/usually the woman and children). The hope is that the family can ultimately be reunified, but that doesn’t usually happen. In that case though, separation still doesn’t mean the marriage has ended. Each spouse is still obliged to remain faithful to the other, and should hope to reunify, etc. You really are still married forever (despite separation) because of your vows. In sickness and in health… including spiritual/mental sickness and health! That’s the wild commitment of marriage- that is, it’s a real, permanent commitment lol.

    • @anahallstrom7843
      @anahallstrom7843 2 роки тому

      Interesting, my 16 mth marriage in the Catholic church is still recognized38 years later since I could not afford an annulment through the dioceses of Los Angeles?! Well I guess my subsequent happy marriage after, to a Lutheran is illegal? Well I don't consider myself Catholic anymore for some serious reasons anyway...

    • @AnimatedBlast
      @AnimatedBlast 2 роки тому

      Interesting, reminds me of Maria Shriver said. ‘I didn’t believe in divorce until I needed one’.

    • @janecoe9407
      @janecoe9407 Рік тому

      @@anahallstrom7843 IF U LEGALLY MARRIED AND LEGALLY DIVORCED U ARE FREE TO REMARRY.

  • @GmaMom
    @GmaMom 2 роки тому +87

    Is her money protected from Gary? Because….surprise…the 20 year old who had nothing…now has her own money!

    • @daniellehopkins6584
      @daniellehopkins6584 2 роки тому +11

      Her money and business were created during the marriage, so it would be considered a marital asset and therefore split 50/50. Although they may have a shareholder agreement as I’m sure Gary helped with start-up funds. So her business may be protected through that instead of the marriage….

    • @estherolalere1138
      @estherolalere1138 2 роки тому +14

      @@daniellehopkins6584 start -up funds for what though? All she had at first was a camera and herself which is when I first fell in love with her. Now he’s made her content into something really inorganic

    • @AlexNarra
      @AlexNarra 2 роки тому +1

      @@estherolalere1138 Well maybe for her youtube videos she only needed a camera but she did hire a videographer later, when she started the business you need money to invest to produce all those products before you start selling. They had a team before they even sold a piece of jewellery, So yes, you do need funds because there were a lot of fixed costs there for the office, for the employees which you need to pay even if you don't have a lot incoming.

  • @mairipappa
    @mairipappa 2 роки тому +84

    As a follower from the early days I feel that the content is not my cup of tea anymore.. so sorry to say that 🙂

    • @sN-ng8gl
      @sN-ng8gl 2 роки тому +18

      Same

    • @acargeinu1989
      @acargeinu1989 2 роки тому +2

      can i ask why?

    • @archanaganesh2704
      @archanaganesh2704 2 роки тому +1

      Can you please explain your opinion

    • @mairipappa
      @mairipappa 2 роки тому +35

      @@acargeinu1989 the content became more “luxurious” let’s say, Gary is more on the videos while the content was more about valeria herself and her life as a young women trying to make it out in fashion/beauty/lifestyle industry let’s say.. hard to explain better😅 no bad feeling thought maybe it’s just her development on the content

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  2 роки тому +7

      Thank you so much for your feedback!

  • @kittyZd
    @kittyZd 2 роки тому +14

    too much cold calculation involved (too much of a mathematical approach)when it comes to entering a marriage with prenup (i have to STRESS in my opinion )because you marry someone when you LOVE them so much you do not care about anything especially about the business or money , you marry someone when you BELIEVE you truly know the other person so much that you are proving you are ready to take the leap of faith and risk everything, nothing else matters, that's why you say the vow (in my eyes) . if you need a contract - you need reassurance , you are not ready, you predict a failure in your head, you do not believe enough, don't marry if you're have doubts and 'what ifs'.. or that you even THINK that the other person expects!? anything from you in terms of money- BUT its how (I STRESS )-- I -- was raised - that vow and true love and marriage raise above the money , that true faith (im Christian and i understand not everyone is and i respect that) does not need contract - that would be contradiction .Well done for sharing a piece of your life though and if you happy - you do you:)

  • @KaiulaniKimbrell
    @KaiulaniKimbrell 2 роки тому +12

    I think discussing how the prenup has possibly changed over time as Valeria became extremely successful and potentially the larger bread winner.

  • @user-lc4sg3tv1k
    @user-lc4sg3tv1k 2 роки тому +9

    Why is a prenup "fair" for the poorer one? Without a prenup the poorer one gets 50%. No? What are you trying to sell us here? Confused.

  • @daniellehenry1988
    @daniellehenry1988 2 роки тому +98

    I feel like this video is very biased towards having and obtaining a prenup. I mean yes, I’m sure there are benefits to having one (like you’ve repeatedly mentioned) and that it’s a great approach for some couples. Buuuuut to make the statement that all couples should have one is just very one sided. It’s good to be open minded and realize that there are pros and cons to both. And there’s no one size fits all approach to anything in life. For instance, my husband has a great career and makes a higher salary than most. However, we did not get a prenup prior to getting married because we discussed our finances, knew where each other stood, and have always trusted that if things were to go south in our relationship that we would be fair and want what’s best for the both of us when it comes to our finances. We didn’t feel the need, or have any distrust whatsoever in the other person, to have a signed legal document.
    Bottom line: You don’t need a prenup to have an adult conversation and handle divorce in a respectful, fair way.

    • @dariaplevako7780
      @dariaplevako7780 2 роки тому +45

      I understand your point, however have to add that a looooot of people behave very differently when they’re in an early stage of their relationship as opposed to when things go down in pieces, especially if it involves offense, cheating or else. They often start being disrespectful and just want to hurt, and it’s very difficult to reach an agreement at this stage.

    • @daniellehenry1988
      @daniellehenry1988 2 роки тому +3

      @@dariaplevako7780 totally agree! I’m definitely agree that people behave differently when put in those situations, however, that doesn’t mean a prenup is the answer for everyone. The only people that know your relationship and yourselves best is you and your partner. Having faith that the your partner will be respectful and fair, despite what causes the divorce, is important and is enough for some couples. Making a prenup unnecessary for some.

    • @JK-cx9rh
      @JK-cx9rh 2 роки тому +1

      Pre nups are definitely not for everyone. It will cost you 100k + dollars for the law fees either way, even with a pre-nup. So no point in losing money on the lawyers to protect only 100k or a only a small condo, you won't win the 100k in assets when that is how much you lose on the lawyer fees. Love is worth more than a small condo but unfortunately love is not worth more than 5 giant estates and 12 yachts. Who cares, you can't win either way: no matter what, guys are POS.

    • @salemalisalee
      @salemalisalee 2 роки тому +1

      Everyone should have one . You get one from the government weather you realize or not . So because as you say , it’s not a one size fits all , everyone should make their own . Breakups are rarely pretty , even if you know it’s best to divorce , it still stings your ego , and before entering a marriage , where there are two people involved and emotions involved and all sorts of ups and downs and end and flows of life together and with yourself happen , you make a deal , that if things should go the other way , this is what will happen .
      So simple .

    • @isabellitss
      @isabellitss 2 роки тому +1

      The thing is most likely you won’t choose what happens in case of divorce the state does

  • @94mandarina
    @94mandarina 2 роки тому +17

    Then why did you say there is no prenup in your ticktock?

    • @KatyaVasilivna
      @KatyaVasilivna 2 роки тому +3

      She was being sarcastic, hence the sarcastic look on her face.

  • @rusianprincezz
    @rusianprincezz 2 роки тому +63

    My honest opinion: This video made me feel very uncomfortable. You can read a lot between the lines. Gary does seem very overpowering and a bit controlling. But that could just be how I interpreted the video. I get marriage being “like a business” but at the same time it’s not a business. A prenup just (in my opinion) ruins the sacredness. This is were trust should come in. I am glad that it works for you both though. That is all that really matters I guess. I also appreciate the honesty and rawness of the video.

    • @janecoe9407
      @janecoe9407 2 роки тому +1

      YES HE COMES OFF AS CONTROLLING AND OVERPOWERING. HE COMES OFF AS MISTRUSTING AND AGGRESSIVE. I COULD NOT BE MARRIED TO HIM LOL.

  • @mackenzybarry6625
    @mackenzybarry6625 2 роки тому +182

    I feel a disconnect from you and your videos now. I recognize that as your channel grows, your content will change... But it feels like theres no passion or personal creativity in your videos anymore! It feels very cooperate. I'll support you no matter what, but I would love to see some more 'Valeria' in your videos if its something youre interested in! Lots of love ❤

    • @alexandrasmith7430
      @alexandrasmith7430 2 роки тому +26

      Could not agree more! I miss the old, authentic, "valeria" content.

    • @EK-qp6wf
      @EK-qp6wf 2 роки тому +7

      I was thinking the same thought for quite a while already. Still hoping it may change one day🤞

    • @miha6373
      @miha6373 2 роки тому +2

      I feel like you see that more in her Insta Stories these days with her bathroom chat sessions

    • @dezirae1619
      @dezirae1619 2 роки тому +1

      @@miha6373 I was just going to suggest her fb shorts or IG page. It has her goofiness and behind the scenes Valeria we love. But this content is mature and growing at my pace. I'm enjoying the evolution.

  • @kokoweltal369
    @kokoweltal369 2 роки тому +4

    So much mis information in this video plus their body language is so hard to watch..

  • @SaintOrCinema
    @SaintOrCinema 2 роки тому +3

    It was the Roman General Vegetius who originally said “if you want peace, you must prepare for war”. And it’s one of the original paradoxes given in an episode of The Simpsons too, lol. Interesting vid.

  • @dorisw2507
    @dorisw2507 2 роки тому +4

    I find it hard to have a baby face and my partner is 20 years older. It feels like he is the only one aging. Does that ever bother you? You are so youthful, but so confident, would love your advice to get over this stupid insecurity!

    • @janecoe9407
      @janecoe9407 2 роки тому +1

      she is happpy because he pay the bill and keeps her living in luxury.

  • @DB-jf4hy
    @DB-jf4hy 2 роки тому +51

    Sorry but don't agree. Would not enter a marriage that has provisions from the beginning talking about the end. Not good juju. I think there is a trust issue. Therefore, pick a guy that is not so protective of "his" money and make it seem like he is protecting you. Just my opinion.

  • @tute5189
    @tute5189 2 роки тому +13

    This has been my favorite video of yours of ALL TIME!
    I am single, but having this knowledge and awareness is so important going into a relationship and marriage. You both did such a wonderful job not only in breaking down what a prenup is but also what a strong, loving and healthy relationship / marriage should be. Thank you! 🙌🙏
    PS I love you Valeria but Garry shined bright light a diamond in this video and I am here for it!!! 👏👏👏 phenomenal insight 🙌 feel free to get as specific as you like in the future. It’s so appreciated. ❤️ Love you both.

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  2 роки тому +1

      Aw! Thank you so much for your kind words. Your love and support means the world 🙌🏻❤️

  • @IJUSTNEEDASTUPIDUSERNAME
    @IJUSTNEEDASTUPIDUSERNAME 2 роки тому +4

    Who edited this? Did you even review it before posting? There are several audio editing mistakes.

  • @els6187
    @els6187 2 роки тому +25

    Contracts and couples therapy before moving in. Set out what you want in advance and have that third party involvement so nothing is misunderstood.
    Communication is power!

  • @angievalful
    @angievalful 2 роки тому +14

    I think is a matter of culture and personal beliefs is about how do you understamd marridge and life... there isn't a "right" or "wrong" choice, there is the right or wrong choice for each kind of cuople. What you are describing is what is know in Spain a " separación de bienes" ("separated properties") witch means what you create while during the marrige is split between both partners. And not having a prenup is not bad, If you and your partner have the same way of looking at at marrige... that is , if you truly believe in the bows " whats yours is mine and whats mine is yours".... the same goes with " in sickness and health"... Again, is not about what you have (money, properties etc) is about what you believe in and what kind of marridge you want . I would never marry a person that wouldnt want to risk everything for me, because I expect from my partner the same im willing to give, RICH OR POOR

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  2 роки тому +1

      Wow! Thank you so much for sharing. This is such an amazing insight on what a "prenup" looks like for different cultures and beliefs. I completely agree that there is no right or wrong, it works for us which may not work for everyone else. 🙌🏻

    • @angievalful
      @angievalful 2 роки тому

      @@ValeriaLipovetsky exactly!love your content Valeria❤❤ is ok to desagree sometimes ;)

    • @angievalful
      @angievalful 2 роки тому

      @prezadanere sii! Te entiendo

  • @ihartsnowyo
    @ihartsnowyo 2 роки тому +19

    When I got married my husband had much more wealth than I, but I insisted on a prenup because he was retired and I still had some working years ahead of me. He also had children and I did not. There is no question what we will have if our marriage fails. A good lawyer will make sure you are protected and it's fair.

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  2 роки тому +1

      Thank you so much for sharing! I completely agree, getting your own legal advice is so important even just to gain more information ❤️

  • @InnaDanceUA
    @InnaDanceUA 2 місяці тому

    That's such a great topic. I would like to see a follow-up on the specific clauses that can be considered for the agreement.
    What are typical questions to cover there?
    Fire example, my friends got divorced and as they had issues with unexpected things. For example:
    - The family of a girl gave her an apartment as a present. They were using it to rent out and she was supporting her parents with that money. The guy was never involved in managing or using it. So to me it seems fair to not split it
    - Company gives stocks as part of a compensation plan to one of partners. After the divorce another partner wants to get it. It looks bizarre
    - Both partners are individually investing into stocks, ETFs, crypto etc. One partner is making wrong decisions and ends up in a negative balance. Another partner is not that risky and is saving money for retirement. I don't think they should split one partner's money between two just because the first partner was stupid.
    I'm sure there are many interesting scenarios partners should discuss. What are the other scenarios you advise to bring on a table?

  • @marybabameto1195
    @marybabameto1195 2 роки тому +9

    Si vis pacem, para bellum is a Latin adage translated as, “If you want peace, prepare for war” . Gary's father is more well read than Gary gave him credit for!

  • @aiymmyia4594
    @aiymmyia4594 2 роки тому +25

    I respect this video and the conversation had between the two of you. It was solid good advice, and I agree, pre-nups aren’t bad. Do I believe everyone one should get one, no but hey, good job painting it in a better light guys!

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  2 роки тому +6

      Yess! Thank you so much for sharing. It is not for everyone but it works for us 😊

  • @annjay2581
    @annjay2581 2 роки тому +12

    These videos are honestly so educational! My parents never talk about stuff like this, its very taboo in my culture to talk about money in general.
    I don't understand people who think youre relationshio is weird, you seem like a very balanced healthy couple and a great rolemodel. You're kids are very lucky! :)

  • @JK-cx9rh
    @JK-cx9rh 2 роки тому +8

    Great video, Great details on the topic by Gary! Very much appreciated. Although I wish Gary was allowed to dive more into the technical aspects. The specific details are very helpful. Valeria! Your audience is now 30 year old women!!! We now have money, not like it was 5 to 10 years ago and we were in our 20's. This day and age, our 40 year old men have no stable jobs and have been living on their mommy and daddys money! We need this advice for our own sake. The tables have turned and the *detailed* pre-nup information is important to YOUR audience, we are not 20 year old babies anymore!!!!!

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  2 роки тому

      Thank you for sharing! I agree, communication is key for the longevity of your relationship ❤️

  • @cecilytrowbridge
    @cecilytrowbridge 2 роки тому +70

    This video makes me uncomfortable. In California, when you divorce, you split everything 50/50. That’s what seems the most “equal” and “fair.” The person bringing the prenup to their partner is inevitably going to be the one who wins, b/c the contract was designed *for them.* In many cases, that person will end up with the “power” in the relationship and an unhealthy dynamic will develop. Very glad everything has worked out in this case but I can’t with men trying to justify protecting their own butts in the name of “equality” and “fairness.”

    • @sophiahaxton8369
      @sophiahaxton8369 2 роки тому +4

      I’m trying to understand.. what do you find unfair or uncomfortable about having a prenup?

    • @Hlovesbeauty11
      @Hlovesbeauty11 2 роки тому +13

      The other person is supposed to get a lawyer too and they NEGOTIATE the final contract. That’s fair. If someone signs the first contract presented that’s, frankly, stupid

    • @sonnylovesfreddy340
      @sonnylovesfreddy340 2 роки тому +11

      this assumes that you actually know what is in a prenup in every instance for every couple, and also that the only thing that will give one person in a relationship "power" is a piece of paper. both assumptions are wrong. If a woman had built a multi-million dollar business and then got married, does her husband deserve half of that multi-million business if they get divorced? How is 50/50 fair in this scenario? If you worked for 20 years, like Gary did. Built a business, sold it, built another one, invested....why would Valeria be entitled to half of it if they broke up? What if she left him? What if she fell in love with someone else, and abandoned the family? Men DO deserve equality. And they DO deserve fairness. They are human beings and no less, or more, than women.

    • @cecilytrowbridge
      @cecilytrowbridge 2 роки тому +3

      @@sonnylovesfreddy340 lol k thnks for the men’s rights lecture that no one asked for 👍

    • @JemimaDoesASMR
      @JemimaDoesASMR 2 роки тому +1

      50/50 is an extremely unfair outcome in many cases and grossly oversimplifies the entire process from drafting to divorce.

  • @quantacipher
    @quantacipher 2 роки тому +5

    She's looking like his daughter 😂😂

  • @cupcakes63125
    @cupcakes63125 2 роки тому +3

    I really need your advice on how to set boundaries without being rude and at what point is it too many boundaries that it’s closing you off from any opportunities

  • @pandamomjen
    @pandamomjen 2 роки тому +60

    Me and my partner have basically nothing but I still want a prenup because it’s the most logical thing to do… 😂

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  2 роки тому +10

      Thank you so much for sharing! As a logical person it was something that I thought would provide good communication for both myself & Gary ❤️

  • @annasnitsarenko1868
    @annasnitsarenko1868 2 роки тому +5

    The moral of this video is that by the end of the day if the marriage fails you have to regret the lost money not the broken relationship. And if you think other way you are not ready to get married 🤷🏼‍♀

  • @ana______6567
    @ana______6567 2 роки тому +59

    I understand your point of view but just.... Eh I don't know... I think he made sure he gets his cake and eat it too. You are young and beautiful + he is getting a 'fair' prenup. I don't know. I wonder why he married you because it doesn't seem to me that he entered it with his heart but his head. And with one foot out. If I was your sister I wouldn't let you marry him sorry :)

    • @acura99nation
      @acura99nation 2 роки тому +12

      Agreed

    • @lo645
      @lo645 2 роки тому +10

      You said it! I am sure this crossed many ladies mind while watching his explanation!

    • @amber0517
      @amber0517 2 роки тому +6

      I mean flip this and think of the woman entering with more; you'd applaud her for her decision to get a prenup.

    • @ana______6567
      @ana______6567 2 роки тому +4

      it's not even the age difference, I have seen their videos they definitely have chemistry and connection. Even if he was her age or any other age I think it would be an indicative of certain insecurity of his that he might get 'used'... which is not good.
      Val I wish you the best and do your thing and if you are happy we all support you

    • @chlin4600
      @chlin4600 2 роки тому +14

      I agree.. There vibes seemed to have changed a lot. And he just seem to be a know it all and talk way too much.

  • @athena6694
    @athena6694 2 роки тому +49

    I stand with Valeria's opinion more than Gary's: Gary Is brute rationalism and pragmatism, whereas Valeria is less dogmatic and more open as she mixes rationality with a bit of the emotional/romantic side

    • @janecoe9407
      @janecoe9407 2 роки тому +5

      gary is blunt but almost rude and aggressive. he didnt get married until he was almost 40. that says a lot.

    • @anananitanana9617
      @anananitanana9617 2 роки тому +4

      @@janecoe9407 why is it bad not getting married before or even after 40s? I don't sympathise with him that much but your argument is quite poor; adults have the right to get married even if they're 80 or more.

    • @juliaserento9928
      @juliaserento9928 Рік тому

      @@anananitanana9617Because that means he wasn't successful in relationships for over 20 years and that's a red flag

  • @MadebytheMasteroftyeEarth
    @MadebytheMasteroftyeEarth 2 роки тому +3

    Very beneficial talk. Is it only on my end or some weird audio sneaks in in every bit of the video?

  • @Camivillaran
    @Camivillaran 2 роки тому +10

    Also, if you are sooo in love that you don’t think you’d ever split. Then the prenup would never come into action😂 so why not

  • @Ivy285
    @Ivy285 Рік тому +5

    Gary seems very controlling, aggressive, and way too old for you.

  • @lakeboww
    @lakeboww 2 роки тому +111

    Why is Gary agitated and passively aggressive?

    • @archanaganesh2704
      @archanaganesh2704 2 роки тому +15

      He's 48 years old,what do you expect him to behave like a silly and giggly 20 year old boy

    • @JK-cx9rh
      @JK-cx9rh 2 роки тому +18

      @@archanaganesh2704 Yes agree, He is not agitated, he is just direct because they are talking of technical contract/ business issues.

    • @kaylasunnyday
      @kaylasunnyday 2 роки тому +2

      @@archanaganesh2704 Haha amen, he's not a little boy 😂 Being direct isn't rude 🤠

  • @nixfox1672
    @nixfox1672 2 роки тому +13

    It hilarious cuz I just whatch that reel this morning 🤣 btw I really miss the family vlogs especially maxiboo :(

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  2 роки тому +4

      Hahah thank you so much for watching! Will be bringing the vlogs back soon 🙌🏻

  • @alessiaa198
    @alessiaa198 2 роки тому +17

    Interesting video but Gary's pespective it's way too strong, I get it that it's his area of expertise ecc but I wanted Valeria to share her experience more, if that makes sense. She's the "weaker" side, ofc Gary knows what he's doing given his knowledge so I wanted to hear from her

    • @s.i.5167
      @s.i.5167 2 роки тому

      She is not "weak" anymore, so what would happen with her money in case they would get divorce? 50:50, because she made it in the marriage? Oh, wow... I would love to hear from her about that.

  • @chlin4600
    @chlin4600 2 роки тому +25

    There only focus is about Money and not Love and Respect. Like who cares if you have more money than your partner? When you get married I believe that everything is rightfully shared. Y'all make it seem as though your just doing business with each other rather than actually being married couple. Who are you to say Gary that a person must Sign a Pernup in order to get married or to be happy? It's selfish thinking.

  • @anaisabelappff
    @anaisabelappff 2 роки тому +61

    I feel like if the guy is asking for a prenup its because he knows the marriage will not work out

    • @jordynsophiamakeup
      @jordynsophiamakeup 2 роки тому +2

      They’ve been married about 10 years now I think

    • @t4health527
      @t4health527 2 роки тому +7

      50% of marriages end in divorce. Some people go into marriage 100% certain and without any feeling that the marriage wouldn’t work and those can still end in divorce. If you were told the next time you leave your house and there was a 50% chance a bowling ball was going to drop on your head, you might go out with a helmet. same with a prenup.

    • @chlin4600
      @chlin4600 2 роки тому +1

      I agree and it's so sad..

    • @chlin4600
      @chlin4600 2 роки тому +7

      He talks pure bullshit also

    • @kcreagan9799
      @kcreagan9799 2 роки тому +2

      He's probably insecure about the age difference so he's covering himself just in case...

  • @olivia.v.r
    @olivia.v.r 2 роки тому +7

    Oh, I wish Gary had continued his explanation, I was invested. Lol (11:53) 😍🤩👏🙏

  • @susie.valmor
    @susie.valmor 2 роки тому +21

    Prenups only exist when people have money. Which ever way to be explained that's how it is...and yes, the person without money could benefit hugely if they are smart about it. I worked for someone that that said she was set for life because she had boys in the marriage and was getting a big amount for each kid.

    • @janecoe9407
      @janecoe9407 2 роки тому

      valeria can always contest the pre nup if she feels it isnt equal.

    • @susie.valmor
      @susie.valmor 2 роки тому

      @@janecoe9407 huh? All I said was that prenups only exist when their is money. Shes a smart person, I'm sure shes not cutting herself short.

  • @user-lr8en4xs1m
    @user-lr8en4xs1m 2 роки тому +11

    Val. You're such a wise person. I was confused with all the thoughts
    with my wedding coming up soon. But your video helped me a lot. Thank you for sharing sensitive stories.

  • @ferf4059
    @ferf4059 2 роки тому +1

    Totally logic.. when the gap is big If you see it from the other side its a way to be sure that the person is not marrying you because of money this goes for both genders whether is the guy or the girl who has more net worth

  • @dandelion_.
    @dandelion_. 2 роки тому +23

    With English being my fourth language, i really thought y'all were talking about prenut untill you gave the definition lmao I'm so embarrassed of myself 😭😂

  • @ingridaampiah
    @ingridaampiah 2 роки тому +1

    Me and my husband don’t have a prenup but having a prenup does not equate to them believing or thinking that in the future, their marriage may not work after all. This is not something you foresee when you enter marriage. If yes, then why marry? Do I believe in it? NO but I respect you couple for agreeing to have one. Again, every partnership is different so do whatever works for you! 😊

  • @leenywanda2867
    @leenywanda2867 2 роки тому +5

    It's very interesting- you people. I hope you're both happy, this lifestyle just is not for me. I know that a lot of women are attracted to older men, but I feel as if this marriage is as simple as husband makes a lot of money, wife is very good looking. This doesn't mean you are doing bad things, there's no substance, or anything like that. I have no idea what happens when the cameras are off, and it's not my business to know. We choose to present ourselves however we want, and we choose our lifestyles. If we're wrong, we're wrong, and also, if you do go through something that's life-altering, even if it might be the "right thing to do", you- as in your family, will probably not be doing well mentally. That happened to me when I went through something life-altering. It changed everything around me for the better, but I had to take care of my mental health and I wasn't doing well since I was raised to believe certain things and I found out that they are wrong- to me. To someone else, they might be right. Anyways, take care both of you, and whatever the truth is, I hope it's better then what I believe it to be.

  • @yanetfernandez7541
    @yanetfernandez7541 9 місяців тому

    I really enjoy watching your videos together about marriage, business etc. I'm glad you guys are tackling the stigma around prenups and educating people about them. ❤

  • @yulshelest7838
    @yulshelest7838 2 роки тому +1

    С другой стороны, мне кажется когда Гари сказал что к браку нужно подходить как к бизнесу - тоже не совсем корректно.

  • @alisesirante740
    @alisesirante740 2 роки тому +18

    Hey. This is the second video in the youtube-universe I have ever commented on, so it is probably going to be a big one. Skip if desired. Interesting video! I was very curious to see the comments. A lot of people get angry (also in this case) about talking in a business like tone about "this romantic event of love". Sure, most people get married because they love each other but the getting married part is on it's own only the biggest contract of your life (well, if you do it once). The fact that this contract is so over-romanticized makes a lot of people get very emotional about prenups. But why? Getting married myself very soon, I noticed how a lot of people flipped out about the idea and compare it to not having trust, lack of love etc. But if you really really think about it, it is actually a very nice thing to do for your spouse if you have good intentions. Having a prenup means that you make non selfish decisions for the future at possibly the most loving point of your relationship. And not only for yourself, also for your children. So what is the harm? I compare it to having full car insurance (living in Europe, not obligated). Is my fiance accusing me of being a bad driver for suggesting I have one? No. Will I get in a car crash soon? Not planing on in. Could it still happen? Yeah. I think most people would not take a suggestion to have a full car insurance personally, because buying a car is obviously in no way a romantic event. So yeah, it is just a cultural stigma, that unfortunately leads to broken families be more broken after a long process of who gets the grandmas toaster. Just get the "marriage insurance" guys. Ok, rant over. P.S. Before anyone starts with assumptions, my parents are divorced, my spouses parents are still married, he suggested the prenup, I gladly accepted. Also English is not my 1st language. Try not to be nasty I have a cold. On a different note - Valeria and Gary, you seem very smart and considerate, have a beautiful family and seem to have a good base for not needing to use your prenup; wishing you all the best in the future. xo

    • @pluiedemiel
      @pluiedemiel 2 роки тому

      This is great!! Thank you for sharing 👏👏 I couldn’t have said it better, it does seem like a lot of people in the comments took it personally and things got so heated 😅

  • @berenkayali9566
    @berenkayali9566 2 роки тому +119

    I really respect you Val and love your energy. Thank you for the video BUT Gary is so opinionated in a really bad way. Isn't it so tiring? Because you are coming from divorced families pre-nup makes sense but it is so businessmen of Gary to say true love is prenup. Like whaaaat?

    • @AnniK243
      @AnniK243 2 роки тому +45

      Absolutely agree with you! Also when he compared marriage and a prenup with business and contracts made me cringe.

    • @berenkayali9566
      @berenkayali9566 2 роки тому +3

      @missClaire9087 I am not opposed to prenup, however just because you are getting a prenup Gary didn't need to make prenup like God's book or sth. love is prenup? Really? Don't get me wrong, Valeria gave me new perspective on prenup but Gary also cringed me.

    • @bronzeblues7795
      @bronzeblues7795 2 роки тому +2

      @@AnniK243 just another sign he wanted a marriage of convinience more than love so to speak. He gets a young model wife and she gets financial stability.

  • @nixfox1672
    @nixfox1672 2 роки тому +29

    Gary's last few words were amazing, I hope to see/read a biography about him.
    He is so inspiring in every aspect we have seen him in!

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  2 роки тому +1

      Aw thank you so much! He has taught me so much 🙌🏻

    • @sharonbrown6327
      @sharonbrown6327 Рік тому

      Feel u. 💯. I'm sorry. I can feel it. So strongly. Children.

  • @peteksenyuz2484
    @peteksenyuz2484 2 роки тому +10

    I really miss your vlog i want to see all family😭❤️

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  2 роки тому +2

      Aw thank you love! Will bringing back the vlogs very soon 🥰

  • @Knownonamexo
    @Knownonamexo 2 роки тому +3

    Prenup is an act of love because with one you will take care of each other and make sure you're both going to walk away with something. To me it's also an act of respect towards the other for acknowledging their hard work and devotion from before and during the marriage.

  • @genovevapekanova5796
    @genovevapekanova5796 Рік тому +1

    I absolutely love Gary and the way he explains things so easily 👌

  • @sonnylovesfreddy340
    @sonnylovesfreddy340 2 роки тому +3

    A prenup can be a very useful way for the partner who has less to protect themselves. Not all states have the same laws and people should not just assume that the courts will give them 50% of everything. Especially if the other person can claim that they got the bulk of their wealth prior to the marriage. If you marry someone who is a lot wealthier and they offer you (and your children) a certain lifestyle then a prenup can really protect you if things go bad. I would get really specific around the level of income and assets you would expect if you separate. Without a prenup the wealthier person can really lawyer up and/or hide assets, or god knows what else. Its really nice to believe that the person you are in love with today will always have your back, but statistics say otherwise. Protect yourself and don't naively believe that yours is the perfect relationship that will stay perfect forever.

    • @janecoe9407
      @janecoe9407 Рік тому

      VALERIA M IGHT BE WORTH MORE THAN GARY. SHE DOES THE MODELING, SHE DOES THE YOU TUBE.

  • @skromnosc
    @skromnosc 2 роки тому +27

    would you advise teenage girls to date and marry midle aged men like you did? would you let your son start a family with a woman twice his age once he's barely legal?
    no hate, i'm just curious what you think :)

    • @fleuramolly6169
      @fleuramolly6169 2 роки тому +11

      he obviously groomed her and I would be scared to date a guy like that

    • @sonnylovesfreddy340
      @sonnylovesfreddy340 2 роки тому +2

      @@fleuramolly6169 seriously? she was 20 and she and her mother had fought for everything they had. she had a modeling career and was on her own since she was 16, traveling and making a living. they got engaged after 2 months, and married within a year? how much "grooming" was being done? have you watched her vlogs...does not look like she has anything to be scared about. Are 20 year old women so pathetic and gullible that AT 20 we can't make our own minds up and can be "groomed". She wasn't 12.

    • @fleuramolly6169
      @fleuramolly6169 2 роки тому +3

      @@sonnylovesfreddy340 she was 16-17 when they met ffssssssssss and got MARRIED by 18!

    • @estherolalere1138
      @estherolalere1138 2 роки тому +5

      Ikr. Their whole relationship is icky and I feel sorry for Val who was likely groomed

    • @estherolalere1138
      @estherolalere1138 2 роки тому +5

      @@sonnylovesfreddy340 do you seriously believe that a 20 yo has the same life experience/maturity as a literal 38 yo?!?! No matter how “mature” she thought she was the power dynamics were greatly in his favour not just in terms of age, but as seen here, by money as well.

  • @jackycollins9861
    @jackycollins9861 2 роки тому +2

    Love these videos ♥️ I think it’s good when Gary gets into the nitty gritty in these types of videos, cause the more info the better

  • @annaguillen1631
    @annaguillen1631 2 роки тому +30

    I don't agree with prenups but it is nice to hear your perspective.
    Love your videos! Xo

  • @poojadesai3270
    @poojadesai3270 2 роки тому +7

    Less or no romance.
    Sounded like a Bussiness talk

  • @maabmohamed1107
    @maabmohamed1107 2 роки тому +15

    That phrase that “Gary’s father said” is a very common Latin adage “si vis pacem, para bellum.” It has been used by the us government to defend their hyperfixation on the military and such. Anyways definitely not something Gary’s father came up with, no offence. Also, idk if it’s just me but Gary pisses me off for some reason, don’t get good vibes from him

    • @henninggirl261
      @henninggirl261 2 роки тому +8

      He talks over her and comes off a tad belligerent and bored.

  • @gaiac1979
    @gaiac1979 2 роки тому +11

    The audio around 15:11 is weird/ poorly edited

  • @carolinabrown8336
    @carolinabrown8336 2 роки тому +4

    My husband and I were both 20 when we got married so we don't have a prenup but now that our sons are teenagers and we built wealth together for them, I'm wondering if prenup is a good idea for their future marriages. 🤔

    • @NatalyF17
      @NatalyF17 2 роки тому +1

      Yes!

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  2 роки тому +1

      Thank you so much for sharing! It would definitely something I would look into

  • @mihoiimuro
    @mihoiimuro 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you so much for this video! I’m Japanese and my fiancé is American, so I just knew the prenup is the negative thing because of movies. But I think it is better to have it in case of the breakup so that I can expect what will happen.

    • @ValeriaLipovetsky
      @ValeriaLipovetsky  2 роки тому +1

      Thank you so much for sharing! I hope this video helps a giving a little more insight 🙌🏻

    • @mihoiimuro
      @mihoiimuro 2 роки тому

      @@ValeriaLipovetsky omg thank you for the reply! Love you ❤️

  • @daniellemclean8171
    @daniellemclean8171 2 роки тому

    wow, I am obsessed with you two. THESE CONVERSATIONS ARE NEEDED

  • @pigeonwizard
    @pigeonwizard 2 роки тому +5

    There are many audio editing mistakes in this video, just letting you know :)

  • @valeriaherrera7560
    @valeriaherrera7560 2 роки тому

    Me encanta que ustedes se refieren a su matrimonio no solo como una pareja, si no tambien como compañeros de vida y trabajo, un equipo con una meta clara. Bravo 👏

  • @RebelRhiannon
    @RebelRhiannon 2 роки тому +5

    I really like this video! I have also planned to get a prenup. Just because there is love doesn’t mean you shouldn’t protect yourself as well. I really love this style of video.

  • @acechadwick
    @acechadwick 2 роки тому +55

    Strange content in these vids now. Do they still have the large production staff? If so it's money for old rope. Val in some clothes. Her and Gary talking about their relationship. That's it and has been for the last few months. Understand if they don't want to parade their kids around, but it all seems to have gone very odd and the viewing figures reflect this.

    • @archanaganesh2704
      @archanaganesh2704 2 роки тому +12

      Exactly, Valeria says she's very driven and work oriented although she's hardly been posting...also wonder how verie is doing

    • @mairipappa
      @mairipappa 2 роки тому +9

      I agree! Also the content on Instagram is pre filmed.. like videos for Halloween everyday, I feel a bit bad judging like this but her content was unique even during the quarantine but know is all about Garys business schedule 😔

    • @mairipappa
      @mairipappa 2 роки тому +6

      @@Fivetimesthree yes totally but the authentic valeria was the true content !!!

    • @isabelladasiak8065
      @isabelladasiak8065 2 роки тому +4

      i think that they are now more focused on content for IG or tiktok and less on youtube