Bridging the Gap: Age Differences and Marital Challenges with Gary Lipovetsky
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- Опубліковано 6 лис 2023
- A harmonious marriage is like a perfectly tuned melody, where two people find joy and comfort in each other's company. It's the beauty of shared laughter, mutual understanding, and a sense of belonging.
In this special episode, Gary joins Valeria for an honest and open conversation about marriage and how their relationship started. From a comical allergy to hair dyes, to their age difference challenges and parenting approach, they share an insightful conversation about life, love, and business.
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My grandfather was 12 years older than my grandmother, guess what, he lived almost 20 after she passed. No one is promised tomorrow so live and love like it’s your last day ❤️
My man is 12 yrs older than me..I love him to the moon n back n we are going to be married soon❤
That's the exception
@@bodhisattva2348what are you saying? 12 years is so much time for you? So if you see a 68 year old woman and an 80 year old man at dinner you are going to think that’s weird? 75 and 30 together is weird. I get it. But 12 years is really nothing in real life.
@@BusterMSC1 ok👀
@@BusterMSC1agreed
I love how empathetic Gary is about how his older age could impact Valeria later in life. This is what the problem with age gap relationships usually is. At 20 and 40 both people are still usually healthy and looking good (even though 20 is still very young and in the finding yourself phase.) The huge differences begin to take place once they're 40 and 60. Either way I wish them both a long happy and healthy life.
Thank you so much ❤
A woman matures or have a change in perspective when she gets to be 45 - 50 years old. You probably will see Gary in a different way. That is when age difference matters
I wish you tons of love and hope she never becomes an issue❤
He looks very old
If that's true then he should be with a 40 yr old woman
I love how much respect Valeria has for her husband and vice versa.
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This woman is blessed to have a partner whom she can learn so much from. You'll never get bored if your husband is wise
So grateful ❤
It easy to learn from someone if they’re 20 years older than you . He’s not wise he’s just old
@Hes NOT old and he IS WISE...Nopi9
i enjoyed this conversation but sometimes i feel like Garry doesn't try to understand Valeria's point of view or her experiences as if his point of view was always right.
I see that, too. It's pretty obvious that his intentions towards her aren't malice, but he corrected her so many times and positioned himself in a center of discussion (it's me, look at everything I've done for you and my opinion is only valid) that it made me a bit uncomfortable. I'm an Aquarius, so is he, and I sometimes do the same. In recent years I became aware of that and I strive to change for my sake and sake of those around me. He's way older than I am so it's easier to change my behavior patterns than it must be for him. That is where being younger is an advantage - with age comes experience and with experience comes wisdom, but with youth comes adaptability and with adaptability an opportunity to learn and grow as an individual.
I find aquarians very hard to relate to emotionally, I'm a virgo I think they can be very aloof
I honestly did not get that vibe at all. What I see in a loving husband that supports his wife 💯 percent.
Yess I did read this comment on the half of the interview and I was like: hmm I don't see it. Because it was truly not rly there or not as heavy in the beginning and half. As soon as the interview got further aspecially to the end he got more and more aggressive in his way of talking and him trying to make a point. I think this feedback is a good opportunity for him to grow and learn and evolve on a emotional level too. Hope this finds him well one day 🙏
I married a man who's 13 years older than me and I think it's amazing. I was in senior college when I met him and everyone was against it --- but I didn't listen to them. We're still together after 15 years of getting together.
They are truly a testament that having the right man behind you will elevate & lift you. They’ve gone to new heights together. Side by side. Always wishing you two the very best in this life & beyond. 💗
Thank you so much 🙏🏻❤️
What an inspiring man. It is so beautiful to see him holding such a powerful vision for his wife. He lives so deeply in service to her- beautiful through and through! Bless you Gary!
It is so incredible to see how he is empathetic about the age gap and recognizing how he may feel if his daughter was with someone older. His comments about him possibly passing and being concerned for Valeria are also really heartfelt. This is a great video!!
I absolutely enjoyed this, it felt like a conversation I needed to hear and it sparked something within myself. The dynamic you have is beautiful, and speaks to internal dynamics and "issues" most relationships experience. We can't always see things from the same lens, but the thing/goal/vision/purpose we are looking at is what helps us get there. Finding someone who allows you to be yourself but also challenges you to grow is so healthy. I don't think this solely applies romantic dynamics, but across the board. I am inspired to get out of my own way, to "Gary" myself into seeing bigger for my own vision but also "Valeria" myself into allowing myself to grow into my own purpose.
I’ve been watching you since you had 2,000 subscribers. To have followed you on your journey and absorbed all of you and Gary’s wisdom over the past 7 years has been one of the biggest blessings. I always saw that you were a star, just like Gary, and I’m so glad for all of your success! My love to you and the family ❤️
Thank you for still being here 🥹❤️ sending love!!
i see good communication, wise and self-aware two person who has a perfect understanding of each other, the way you appreciate each other and perfect parenting! your kids are so lucky to have you. you are like the relationship goals🤍 and Valeria, you are such a classy, elegant woman, i have so much respect for you and the way you view the life. love you both!!
My boyfriend and I have the same age gap. Sometimes I feel a bit insecure because I'm younger but he's so reassuring and the gentlest soul I know. I can't let others have a say in my relationship. I'm happy, loved, respected and supported and that's all that matters.
Love that! So happy for you ❤️
I wonder y he's so reassuring 🤔
Awwhh happy to hear ❤ especially nice I also date men who are older usually. I can really see the insecurity you're having would have that too. But I'm so so happy to hear you feel loved and good in your relationship ❤❤
You guys inspire such a healthly relationship where both of you complement each other! Listening to you guys makes me aware of what to look for in a partner and relationship itself.
This was a fantastic discussion. You both have a genuine connection. Seeing how supportive Gary is of you and his priorities and values is so endearing and amazing for you to have someone in your life like that. There may be an age gap but Valeria has always struck me as an old soul and wise beyond her years. I love watching your family. Thank you for sharing.
I appreciate you guys sharing your thoughts and explaining the different phases of your relationship together. I value this sort of mentorship so much. My parents were divorced when I was in high school and that shaped my perception of relationships in a negative way at that age. I’ve been divorced twice which further pushed my perception in a negative direction.
At 33, I’ve finally found someone who I have this sort of connection and communication with. I have to be careful because I feel I’m needing to relearn a lot of things so that I don’t sabotage or run away from something that’s actually good.
I’m very thankful for you guys and admire how deeply you both think about everything in your lives. ♥️♥️♥️ Thank you again for this.
If this conversation sparked positivity into your outlook on relationships and marriage I’m so glad to hear it ❤
i didn’t watch your videos for a very long time anymore, i don’t watch youtube videos often in general and i happened to click on this by accident. But i love it. I aspire to have such a stable relationship one day, loved listening to you
Gary looks way younger with his beard darkened. 👌🏻
Need Gary to talk about his glow up this past year! He seems more confident and like he recalibrated a little. He seems more refreshed (including the nice beard change and seeing more of his personal style) ❤️ It could be nice inspo and not just for men! Much love to you and your fam. 💕
Yees! -15 years!
Loooove the darkened beard great choice & beautiful couple
He actually is , he is even glowing
I loveee when i love someone and i dont even know why i love them.. i guess you guys are just soo natural, smart, real, easy to listen
Me and my hubbies age gap is 22 years. We have been together for 23 years. I was 21 I’m now 44. He was 43 now 66. We still love each other very much. Of course all relationships have problems. Age gap or not. It’s just called communication. And not forgetting the reason you fell in love!! And he treats me like a queen. ❤
If their age difference is 18 years and Valeria's mom had her at the age of 19 or 20 (if I remember correctly) that means that Gary and Valeria's mom are almost the same age, early 50s. Hypothetically speaking, they could have been school mates in high school.
This is probably why Gary and Valeria's mom get along well, as they are able to relate to each other. Life works in beautiful ways!
Wow thats true they have the same age
disgusting, poor mother
wow, that is messed up
It highlights that she likely saw him as a father figure in life, more like...
That’s warped.
I love learning about fashion and lifestyle from you, but for me the age gap definitely made me a loyal viewer! Happy to listen to this podcast, especially since I also have an age gap with my partner. Interesting to hear how, even with a similar age gap, there are many differences between different couples!
Seeing and hearing how Gary is devoting himself to Valeria's creative endeavors is beyond beautiful to witness in this world where most couples think only about themselves. Gary & Valery truly make their path about "us and the world beyond us" rather than just "you" and "me".
I absolutely loved this video! The way this family supports and respects each other is truly inspiring. It's incredible how they genuinely listen and hear each other out. I've been following this family for a long time, and there's so much they can teach about fostering meaningful connections and mutual understanding within a family. I see a lot in this family that resonates with my own, and I'm grateful for the shared values. Keep spreading such positive vibes and valuable lessons!
I'm so happy our story resonates with you. Means the world to be able to build that connection ❤️
I just found this channel and I obsessed in a good way. What an amazing & beautiful couple (marriage) you can honestly see just how much they love each other. Blessings
I've always liked Gary, and I'm so glad he's showing us his incredibly funny side more and more, while always saying something wise to learn from. 😊
Gary is SUUUUUCH an Aquarius and I’m sure reading this he will probably laugh cause he doesn’t seem as someone who follows astrology, but man is he an Aquarius 😄 (I’m using it the kind way, as I’m an Aquarius as well). Love how authentic you both are and showing and talking about the shitty, difficult, gritty things of your relationship but also the real meaning of love, care, interest for the other person. You feed off each other’s successes in a good way, in a way that lifts BOTH of you. The age isn’t easy, the practical difficulties do exist as you say or will come up whenever they do. But there’s more than plain sugar coated love here, there’s substance (not just because you have kids together) but because it’s not being with your other half or finding your other half or adjusting to your other half and compromising all the time….it’s because one whole person found another whole person…and you want to reach your own pinnacle in life, individually and as a unit. Great talk you guys, been with you since 2017 and still going strong 🤗❤️❤️❤️
I have been a viewer for the past 4 years, and I’m closer to Valeria with my age. I was also raised in Soviet mindset in Russia and remember seeing Gary for the first time in your videos and still being shocked about the age gap. But while watching your dynamic the shock was gone after couple of minutes, because your relationship just seemed and does to this day so natural. Now I don’t even remember about the age gap when I see you online until you mention it😅 You guys are really setting a great example for any couples out there. Thank you for your honesty and efforts with sharing it with us. Love watching your videos and hope you are having a good time shooting them! ❤
I am 66 now and my husband 86 and his physical and mental health is fastly degrading and this is really difficult for the both of us 😔😓
27:06 - Valeria imitating Gary is honestly so hillarious and also so typical in a relationship.😂 An saying sorry for that righ after is super sweet!
Thank you for sharing! My husband is 18 and 3/4 years older than me... and when we started dating, before I told my mum how old he was, I asked her how old is too old and she said 20 years, so I said it's less of a difference than that and she said 'ok' and here we are 8 years later.
You are both glowing! Amazing podcast, I hope for another part!
What a delightful, informative conversation. You guys are the best😘😉
Thank you ❤
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@@ValeriaLipovetskyok I won’t
This is so great... "There are things to me that are obvious about life, that I can't explain to you..." Every observation you bring up is so genuine. Thanks for this.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Always love conservation with Gary! It’s so nourishing
He was immature for his age, so it worked. You two grew up together. The way he speaks is that of a much, much younger guy even now, so women his age will not think he's emotionally mature. Also, in the Russian culture, big age gaps are common.
I will just tell my husband to follow Gary. Just WOW his wisdom is beyond! But Valeria you are truly a GEM you talk so eloquently and with so much respect that I think you don’t see even with your age gap you are almost as wise as Gary ❤❤❤
Aw, thank you so much 🙏🏻❤️
I will belive in this whole age doesn’t matter BS when Valeria and (especially) Gary will be ok with one their boys marrying a woman that’s 18 older.
@@Cocoisagordonsetter When he’ll be 20, she’ll be 38 so still fertile.
@@Cocoisagordonsetternot everyone needs to have children. You can be childless, adopt, there are multiple options nowadays. This argument is used only to justify double standrads for men and women. What Valeria and Gary really say is that the age doesn’t matter as long as a woman is 18 years younger than a man…so what picture does it paint for Valeria who literally markets herself as an empowered businesswoman?
Yes exactly, they claim they're in love, right? So if it's love, then it shouldn't matter which gender is older, should it? 🤔. These men would never be happy with their daughter marrying someone 18+ years older, even if they accept it, it's just because they don't want to be seen as a hypocrite. And they would never want their sons marrying an older woman.
Edited: just to say, I don't agree with these age gap relationships no matter which gender is older. No husband/wife should be old enough to be their spouses father/mother, it's not a healthy relationship imo.
Plus in their situation they already talked about, men dying before women as is, so she'll be left on the shelf either way when he dies. Considering women pass their sell by date, when they hit 30 right?
Doesn't make any sense for women to get with men that much older. Then in the majority of cases they're left alone for 20+ years, obviously there are exceptions.
I love seeing you thrive! Keep going!
This was such an informative discussion. Your support system for each other is so beautiful. ❤
Thank you so much!!
Really love your talks !! So real, every time i watch you guys i learn how to be more mature and i really value you guys specifically as UA-cam, really deep conversations. Love u !! xoxo
You guys are meant to be together ❤️, you understand each other very well .ignore the negative words.
Always my favorite podcasts with Gary
Absolutely adorable couple! So much motivated by you guys and your faith in each other! All the best for both of you☺️
Thank you! You too!
You both amazing. So smart, funny, true. You so good as a couple - so much love and respect to each other! You are blessed to find each other. Continue to be happy!❤
There is something so calming to me about you two.
Valeria, more of Gary please. You are married to a beautiful man and I just love hearing him talk about things about you about your family and life! His advice is just so important and genuine. Xx
He is very thoughtful, but I feel sometimes he is projecting that he knows everything. It is just slight things I’m picking up on bcos of my training. Women are attracted to confident men, but as she ages and becomes more confident, him being an authority on everything, may become an area of contention. This is an over generalization, but just a little red flag.
@@carblarson8868all people is a walking red flag unless your perfect. Its just a matter how you Can tolerate and accept each other.
Age is just a number, and when that special
person comes along good luck telling your
heart no! We are so much more than just
flesh and bones and numbers. Spiritually
we are all about love! ❤
Thank you so much for you honesty! Love you Valeria and your work
Lovvveee to hear the two of you speak!!! Gary, if you read this you are incredible and both are a big inspiration. Love to see your dynamic and hear all the stories ❤❤❤
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The stupid hobby comment floored me. Knowing what a true skill it is and how much patience it takes to get good at crafting often one of a kind, elaborate art pieces (garments, accessories, etc). If that was Gary's way of joking ok, but if you are able to recognize the rudeness and often ignorance of other people's comments about your age difference or something else and not be able to recognize the same in yourself then dude... why bother coloring your stupid beard? Just shave it off completely and look your age😅
❤ is ❤ age is just a number... my husband is 15 years younger than me and we’ve been together 16 years strong!
Such a great conversation! Love the chemistry between you both and it’s really great to have a mentor as a husband and a loving, talented wife ❤
Continue with being a huge success!! 🎉
Спасибо за видео! Я посмотрела на отношения с таким age gap совершенно по-другому, in a good way. Вы отличная пара
Me and my partner have 13 years difference and we started dating when I was 18. We have been together for 6 years now. We are very happy together ❤️
Thank You for this interview it was wonderful 🙏🏼
❤So glad you enjoyed it!
Love to hear her making this a topic of conversation! As someone who dates significantly older myself, and runs in my family, only here in the western culture is it demonized, but considered very normal. Unfortunately a lot of men fear the backlash they get from being interested in younger women.
I love how gary OWNS it.
the mutual respect that you have for one another, in all of life, is absolutely inspiring 🥰
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@ValeriaLipovetsky I could only reply to this via another comment so... I'm here. 😊 this was good and
.. I was literally crocheting while watching this 😂❤
Thank you for the conversation! I was surprised a bit you both didn't touch on a question I'm sure numerous others had; if either of your sons chose a female partner in the future with the same age gap as you (meeting their partner at 20 etc) would you be as supportive of their age difference as you are of your own? An older woman dating/marrying a man almost 20 years younger than her is still met today with different backlash than an older man dating another young female. It would have been great to hear your thoughts on this!
They would never accept it, that's why they won't answer it.
I love you two together! Age really is just a number. Two smart cookies and I can see the love. Truly. ❤
Gary's all business "whatever it takes" everyone needs a Gary some place in life 😄
thank you for making this video, really appreciated both your insights about age gap relationships.
Agile Mindset (where needed) love this! And love your podcast!
I think the fact that she got married at 20 to a grown man and did not see anything out of the ordinary says it all. This is almost always a relationship playing out subconscious childhood needs, rather than love for the actual person/individual.
Right? i really don't think they are a great couple. I think they both live in delusion and one day it will shatter
I hope they’ll always be happy 💗🥰
Not just a grown man, a middle aged man full of life experiences. I am a mother of a gorgeous girl who just entered the modeling scene and I would never approve of this. I am happily married to my Canadian man for 15 years. This dude seems like a full blown narcissist constantly pointing out the mother's faults. He ain't fooling me. Sorry not Sorry!
I love when you make conversations you two! So interesting! Love you both ❤
Glad you enjoyed it! sending love!
We are in the same situation like you, my husband is 18 years older than me. I understand everything you are talking about 😊
Ребята,вы шикарно выглядите и очень подходите друг другу. Не понимаю, почему других беспокоит чужая жизнь и чужая разница в возрасте.
overall you guys seem happy and obviously you relationship is working. with that being said i think it's obvious by the mansplaining, telling valeria what she thinks, gary thinks he is dominant and holds the correct opinions in this relationship. he kinda sprinkles in disrespectful comments and cuts here off which is weird.
The man says that he envisaged going to work and her doing whatever she wants to do. Their relationship is a little bit like he will always be the wise one and she will always be his baby girl. And I think they do so in a very loving way, and this works for them. It’s not for everyone. A lot of people want to be equals 50-50. But this is a little bit like a father figure/ protector situation where he’s looking after her as his wife/ baby girl.
He’s an “actually…” guy haha
I have so much love for you two. Stunning partners in life and business!!
Btw, practical means ‘getting shit done’, and does not mean you’re not adventurous Gary :)
Sending love!
Interesting; on the roles of male and female. I too always had traditional views on who made the money etc. I think that’s so old fashioned now.
I remember when Valeria went to see a tarot reader who asked her “what is it you are afraid of (in relation to her career) look how far she has come!
A beautiful, stable marriage. God bless you both!
Thank you ❤
I LOOVVEEE LOVE LOVE Valeria's outfit in this video 😍😍😍😍😍 she looks like a princess
Love you guys, just so inspired by your couple and vision! 😍
ngl but I got the impression that Gary is a bit condescending and manspains a lot of things to seem smarter than he is…
Love you Valeria!
This is so wholesome. Thank you ❤️
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I think everyone should mind their own business ,. It is their life their choice and they seems happy couple . Wishing them all the best!
Wow I love this, I love you guys. I’m new here and you found a way into my heart❤
This was the most positive description of abrasive people. Eastern European born I often find people shocked by my abrasiveness... might start saying look it was bloody eye for an eye growing up in 90s!
I dunno where you are from, but what you said ...it is so true.
Im eastern european and my family and i are NOT abrasive.
I think it depends on your cultural background.
I dont think most people think its an attractive quality
Hello Valeria! You and Gary at so beautiful together. You have so much love and respect for each other. You are perfect soulmates. Wishing you many more beautiful years together. Love you so much Valeria! Love, Janice and Larry Watson Pittsburgh PA USA
Thank you so much! Sending so much love ❤️
Really enjoyed this episode
Definitely learnt something🌺
I think you guys are a great couple and hope you continue to have a beautiful married life. Having said that, I do think that in your 20s and younger, you really, really have to think about large age gaps- most people are still young and naive and can easily be taken advantage of. I was very mature all my life- but even now, I can recognize my naivety towards the world in my early and even mid- twenties.
I love how Valeria laughs at Gary but she still let him be
Its so sad how garys WINNING mentality will ruin valerias path. You can really see that in her content
what do you mean??
You know, it crossed my mind too. But I believe it's just the matter of us women not being used to our partners cheering and rooting for us in all aspects - including career - and not showing interest and being distant is perceived as a normal behavior, whereas hyping and cheering your woman up is looked frowned upon and is perceived as pushy and goal-getter behaviour.
Hi Valeria! I’ve been following you for quite some time 😁 I love your couple, it’s really a great example of healthy, supportive and loving relationship to me, and I think to many other people too 🥰 could you touch upon sensitive subjects of infidelity in your next podcast/Q&A with Gary, please? Really interesting to hear your perspective on this topic.
2:30 minutes in and im already crying about how he said he is not gonna be around :(((((
Loved it! ❤
i have a 23 age gap relationship (21-44) and this podcast is so comforting to listen!!
So glad it resonated with you ❤️
Gary always tries to push such a contrived and uninspiring point while ignoring Valeria’s actually interesting comments and hypotheses
Timestamp?
I think you are a beautiful couple with lots of love, gorgeous children with lots of mutual respect. God Bless ❤
Thank you so much 🙏🏻❤️
Love you guys!
Gary seems condescending
Honestly. You are absolutely match. I don't know what people talk about😅🙏❤️❤
Very appreciate this podcast and points of views. Love the perspectives. Helped with mine❤
thank you! So glad to hear its helped ❤️
wow both of you were so powerful couple! im really praying i would met someone with the same values to enriched with so much richness…I adore a couple whose a teamplayer, supports each other, hugs and make love thats it! ooohhhh this gives me grit!
I’d have preferred to hear her opinions more. I mean most people follow for her. Maybe that’s why he wanted a teenager 😂
I also have 18 years differance and thank you for talking about it
Couldn’t stop listening 😍
Being young in your mind is priceless 🤷🏻♀️👍👏🏻
That friend! And him - worrying about her being alone x good people .
I have so much respect for both of you ❤
🫶🏻 sending love
Te quiero mucho Valeria! Sos la mejor ❤
I love these two 🤍
i dont think i've ever heard your engagement story 😍🤗❤