Finding Courage To Communicate | Episode 38 | Give It To Me Straight Podcast
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- Опубліковано 7 сер 2024
- Communication within relationships can be challenging, and it requires constant effort to make it work. At times, expressing your thoughts can be particularly tough, especially when you and your partner aren't on the same page. In this episode, Alex and Jon discuss listener questions about an open marriage with unexpected consequences, dealing with a husband’s ultimatum, getting caught faking a pregnancy, and how to support your partner’s success while working through your own jealousy. As a bonus, there’s an update from one of our listeners from episode 36!
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(0:00) Intro
(8:59) Our Listeners Give Their Advice
(13:03) How Old Is Too Old To Be Living At Home?
(17:43) Shoot Your Shot At The Coffee Shop
(20:28) Your Personal Information Isn’t Safe Anywhere
(23:38) You Cheated And You’re Mad He Took You Back
(25:18) Way Too Much Information
(31:32) Do Ultimatums Ever Work In A Marriage?
(34:50) Classic Case Of Who Done It
(40:44) Faking A Pregnancy
(49:36) Is It OK To Be Jealous Of Your Partners Success?
(55:39) Listener Update From Episode 36
(57:41) Icks
(1:02:32) Listener Review
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I worked at the bank for 5 years. Literally we do not care and we shouldn’t be looking into what people are doing. We should only be looking for fraud or signatures to confirm checks are valid. You should never disclose anyone information. That would be a huge lawsuit
Absolutely bang out of order! The employee at the bank shouldn't have needed to ask that question! How unprofessional!
The way John is immediately over the question within the first sentence cracks me up.... I literally listen on Spotify and then watch on youtube just so I can see all the facial expressions....🤣🤣🤣
The facial expressions make it soooo much better 😂😂
Amy is wild lmaooooo - Chad needs to grow his vocab
I don't mind the cliff notes because in a way it goes back to the message and break it down piece by piece instead of one big chunk 😁😁😁😁😁😁
I just got engaged after previously being in a 3+ year long toxic relationship. My fiancé is really everything I’ve wanted without knowing it. We take care of each other and compliment each others’ features and I’m so excited to get married. You two really remind me of our relationship and I love it🥰I hope our relationship has the same longevity and positivity!
I think you definitely need it a bit more cosier! It looks kinda sterile and uncomfortable, but listening to you is like hanging out with friends! Get a sofa and table, some pictures, tea coffee, candles or a lamp! Much Love from Bangladesh, I always look forward to your posts ❤
We definitely need new furniture!
If you want to open your relationship, don’t be in one. 🤷♀️
I’ve been engaged TWICE and I’m only 24 💀 but seeing you guys together , it gives me hope LOL love you guys ! You guys crack me up! I wish I could go tomorrow to your event ! I work 😭
Thank you!!! You will find your special someone for sure! ❤
Austin, TX listener 🙌🏽 I literally live about 15 minutes from Circuit of the Americas, I’m soooo glad yall had a good time here 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼
Austin was so much fun!!!!
Can’t wait for yall to do an AMA over here 🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽 Good luck at today’s! Wish I could be there 🥹
If y’all have a meet and greet/Q&A event in New York, I’ll definitely go. Sincerely, an East Coast listener in MA
You never know!
East coast fan too! I’m in Maryland but hope to see a meet and greet on our side soon
These questions are super wild lol. Iove this episode
Just found the podcast, so pumped. My mom and I love you guys ❤
Y’all are my all time favorite podcast ever js I get so tickled pink when I see a new episode pop up ❤ start those days off right!!
Thank you!!!!❤❤❤❤
from one to another who sits at desk a lot .. get yourself set up like a custom studios/office!
1. one taller table,
2. invest in comfortable chairs. gaming chair style. (most comfort)
3. come together a bit more. face on, chair can swivel.
4. a second screen, hooked up with HDMI cable. Jon can see whats going on and follow along if he likes white Alex you stay in control with laptop. (no more sharing laptop for ads either.
5. 2 camera, 1 on each of you, come edit you can place both on screen or 1
Okay this is my first time watching on UA-cam, usually I listen on Spotify and I am sold. From now on I am going to watch. Alex, John, you guys are hilarious and so real and I love all your moods and sass and funny moments. I wish I was in california, I would go and watch you guys.
❤❤ thank you so much, we love having you around!!!
As a Western myself, I think we have a weird perspective on children having to leave the house. Lots of cultures the parents continue to live with the eldest child for example, with that child's family. As parents get older, it would be good to have them living with you as they took care of you all your life, so then once it gets to a certain point the parents are looked after. And if someone doesn't have their own family, why can't the child stay living there, to eventually look after the elderly parents. Of course all parties have to want that. But I don't think it's a necessity that a child should HAVE to leave the home at some point
That is also toxic. Children need to go out there and learn from their own experiences and build their own life. That does not mean that children shouldn't care for their parents at a certain age, not at all.
There should always be a balance.
Keeping the child at home always, regardless if it's the first, second, third, etc... is damaging to their privacy, independence, and their view of life. You're basically imprinting your ideology on that child.
Also, parents should let children come to them. If you were a good parent, children would always be attentive to the parents in their old age.
Now, taking on your scenario. If you have 3 kids and you have only your first child living at home taking care of you most of the time, isn't that unfair for the 1st child, too? Didn't you give birth to three children rather than one?
All children should be caring about their parents equally.
As a Western myself, this is a toxic thought.
And also very toxic how many households leave their elders alone in houses or "in-law" apartments living alone.
Was a big cultural shock to me when I moved to the US.
In my culture, children leave the house until we have a university diploma, and usually, when we get married. But we never EVER leave elders alone. Wr also take turns caring for them, some children even fight for whose the next one to have their mother or father...
It was a huge shock to see elders here in nursing homes, apartments alone, and many other things....
I also find the idea that kids must leave home by some age extremely strange. I would understand if these people were poor, and the sons were refusing to contribute anything, creating more dire financial issues, but this doesn't seem to be the case. The step-father seems to just think it's correct to be "independent" ideologically. It comes off as very capitalist and western to me. Where I live, a lot of people live with their parents their entire lives, along with having their own life, partners, children etc. Most parents actually expect their children to do that, and it's more surpsing if someone purposefully lives alone, especially if they have no partner/children. I do not see the reason one would put themselves in a precarious position of living alone, in presumably a rental property, when they want to and can live with their parent(s) with whom they have a good relationship. I probably also feel strongly about this because I am disabled and can't live alone, so it's very obvious to me how "independence" in the form of living alone is prioritised even when the person doesn't want to do that or cannot.
You guys are listened to in Europe as well, more specifically - Croatia! You're both so real and funny and are such a pleasure to watch and laugh at your jokes and sass. So sad I couldn't come to your live show, hopefully it was all recorded so that we mortals can watch it online
when are we gonna get a podcast with all the updates of the questions?!
6:00 as someone from Florida, we are ENJOYING the shit out of the 80s. This summer was incredibly hot. So hot our beach waters were temping on average at 101F 😅
You guys give surprisingly good advice for social media personalities. (Not meaning to sound rude ) I love you guys! I love your instagram reels and this podcast. But I’m also super impressed that the advice your giving… some of these issues are very real and mentioning mental health, marriage counseling and professional help when the is truly what appropriate. Anyway kudos to you both! Thanks for the entertainment and also thank you for giving folks good advice! Keep up the good work!
Wow thank you so much, we try 😅!
Please keep doing the cliff notes! I like the story but then I forget the premise by the end.
Cliff notes help everyone, not just Jon!! 😂😂😂
Please give Jon a laptop to follow along reading the questions! 🤣 Let's see how it helps him for one episode please! Or a tablet!
It won’t 😂😂
Yay! An upload to help my shift pass!
❤❤ Glad we can help!!
Hello!! From McAllen TX i love you guys it was so funny how alex was saying Amy aww Amy 😂😂😂
Alex your ick is mine too! I just ruined a new top the other day because I forgot to separate my laundry but I also hate separating my laundry 😂
Btw look forward to watching you guys every week ❤
PLEASE come to the East Coast!!
Greetings from Germany ❤ I love you guys 😊
Hello Germany!! ❤❤❤
LOVE ME SOME CLIFF NOTES
I’m so sad that I’m all the way across the country in Asheville, NC. Y’all need to do an East Coast meet and greet. Or more notice next time so I can fly out to see y’all 🤣 Please and thank you.
Love Asheville. Jon use to grave Highlander beer from the brewery there
Haha yeah a round table would probably bring the space together better. You guys look super far apart lol Either way, awesome show! And I really love your guy's Instagrams! 💃🏻❤️
Come to London!!!
I vote for your thoughts first and then read the answers. That way your responses are not influenced by what you read.
Jon I so feel you - I was listening to most of the episode while I was driving and noticed I had to rewind a couple times because I just zoned out into the question 😂 If you’re a dumbass I am also a dumbass homie lmao
Dumbasses for life ✊✊
God.. I love Jon can’t believe he so cute”DO I LOOK GOOD LIKE THIS” 😍all his comments 😂😂totally I agree with most 😍😍
1) There is no such thing as a happy open relationship. Anyone suggesting otherwise is living in denial.
2) We have to move past the idea of “I don’t want to judge”. We all judge, and we do it constantly. Bad, toxic ideas like open relationships should be judged and mocked to save people from their own selfishness.
All of this!
59:50 THANK YOU JON
🎉🎉🎉🎉 Woohoo it’s Tuesday!!🎉🎉🎉🎉
Best day of the week!!🎉🎉🎉
I bet the cop husband is doing EXACTLY what he is worried she will do that's why he's so unwilling. Red flags
My first thought
Regarding the update: The wedding is 20th Nov in Brazil, I'm not going because I live in Portugal. They may just be doing the wedding "party" in Brazil since he doesn't have the document to prove he isn't already married.. 👀 For me it's looking more and more like he has a secret family! (Jon's first thought)
I bet John was shit at popcorn reading during his school days. Bless Alex for her patience with the questions 😂
Hahaha the best 😂
"the moustache helps" LOL
I must say, a lot of social media couples give me ick 😆 they are cringey and try so hard..
I like you guys. You seem genuine and actually cool. I feel like I could easily be friends with you two.
"Pound town" 🤣🤣✋️
I live in Austin and was at the F1 race too! Trust me, I was not a fan of the heat either 😂
🙅🙅🙅 no heat!
@@giveittomestraight but seriously, I love y’all’s content! I look forward to every Tuesday now ❤️😁
Definitely get a sofa or like comfy chairs!! And add some mood lighting idk something kind of like Bramptys podcast or the lautners podcast!!!
Lol the condom thing!!! My friends and I used to buy condoms all the time in middle school to fill them with water and drop them on each others heads😐
I wish i had Amy's attitude 😂😂😂 I wouldn't be single still at 26 hahaha
I’m dying haha 😂
As a former bank teller they only go through transactions to make sure there is no fraudulent activity.
DO A LIVE SHOW IN CLEVELAND BOYZ
I need updates 😵💫
We all need the updates!!!
literally could not agree with jon more re: airplane sprinters
Today was the first time I disagreed Jon.
The lady that found the condom in her hallway…I can see kids in middle school or high school playing with condoms, but she mentioned she was running around trying to get the kids ready for school, this tells me her kids are young enough to still need help getting ready. I am going to assume kids are most likely under 8. Also, the kids are walking the hallway trying to get ready so IF they WERE playing with the condom they would have seen it as well, and most likely would’ve picked it up before their mom saw it. Kids never want to get in trouble.
Again, I’m assuming but that’s a red flag to me…girl trust your gut!
🎉🎉
40:14 I need follow up on who put the condom there 😂
Okay what is John thinking about when “listening” to the questions ? 🙄
Anything else but the question
People are so nosy dude! Maybe that couple has an OF together, people are into pregnant women too. Or maybe they watch it together, hello 👋🏼 it’s called porn. Mind yo business.
Also - next question - “he took me back and part of me wishes he didn’t.” These people are the worst 😅 keep giving it to them straight pleeeeease.
Also also, Alex you’re right, I rewind to re-listen all the time. If I were Jon I would get distracted by a fly or Kobe and I’d miss the whole question if I wasn’t following along.
I’m a rock in a hard place
I think you should do nice recliners 🥴
40:47 theory unopened condom falls out of husbands pocket and kid finds it and opens it
My company sells custom chairs and tables I’ll help 👋🏻
What if this mystery fiancé is in witness protection and everyone's putting him in danger by trying to out him
Are they a couple?
We need to get him a laptop it will be easier.
On the woman who wants to be police, I think she should get divorced. Her partner thinks she is going to sleep with people to advance her career. This guy doesn't trust her and seems to believe that being police is just one big fuck fest to rise up the ladder.
Cheating GF question, I wonder if she did it so he would find out and he would break up with her. She should just end it.
The man that complains about grownups sons from the wife, he should be providing HOME for her !!! Not move in with them to their house BUT be a man a provide house n pay for it only for him n the wife!!!!! So stop complaining like a baby cause your are worse than the wife’s children grownups 😅
I'm new here & I'm already enjoying everything🫶🏾 I would like to ask; Would you let him finish his sentences when he is about to answer a question?
I know you do not do it on purpose 😭 I can be that way too. I feel like we're missing out on some of his sides of the conclusions.
Thank youu