Giving you vanilla sex, rude celebrities, and sibling kisses | Episode 47 | Give It To Me Straight
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- Опубліковано 7 сер 2024
- It’s time we normalized kissing your siblings on the lips…(or not, geez). In this week’s episode, Jon and Alex discuss strange sibling relationships, babies at weddings, and rude celebrity encounters. Just remember, if you ever meet Alex and Jon in public, Alex will want to be your best friend and Jon will want to leave immediately. It’s nothing personal, he just doesn't enjoy genuine human interaction.
0:00 - Intro
11:34 - I Won’t Speak Badly About My Husband
13:43 - Our Sex Life is Vanilla
16:43 - Rude Celebrity Encounters
20:30 - Kissing Your Sibling
24:23 - Fading Friendships
28:09 - Grandparents or Grandpains in my Ass?
33:05 - Reaching Out To My Ex’s Mom
35:28 - To Move or Not To Move?
39:44 - Loaning Money To A Sibling
46:13 - Your Baby Can’t Come To My Wedding
52:25 - Reading Your Secrets
55:03 - Listener Review
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John being annoyed as hell and simultaneously helping people out is so stereotypically northeastern of him😂
The real mvp here: the laptop that gains a bandaid each week.
Lol I'm waiting for a give it to me straight sticker for cover up. 😂
As a mom to an 8yr old, usually kids do end up wanting kisses on the lips when they’re little, you stop when they find it weird. You can tell. My son didn’t want kisses anymore around 5-6. Little kids like kisses, they see mom & dad do it so it makes sense!
For the Sicilian caller with the stubborn grandparents- take your control back. Let them know that you want to host a nonna and nonno luncheon 1 a month and that way you can make it all about their snacks and sweets but its limited to that one time a month. It’s a cute tradition in a way
My children are almost grown. My parents are reaching the end of their lives. I think worrying about how they grandparented was a waste of time. I love that my kids got a little bit of spoiling from their grandparents. It didn't ruin what I taught them. And now they have very fond memories of their grandparents. We all serve a purpose/role in people's lives. I was far too strict in my opinion. Glad they had their grandparents. ❤️
I love how this podcast is so open and honest. I look forward to it every week
My family loves to spoil my kid and when they ask what snacks can he have I let them know what I do or do not allow. I’m grateful that they respect my boundaries, BUT of course grandma can say “it’ll be fine” and I’ll let him have a taste but I don’t let him indulge. Every now and then is okay! You just gotta stand your ground on your boundaries or else they’ll keep pushing them. At the end of the day they are your kids and no one else.
Not 2 bandages now!🤣 damn, my man isnt making a smooth recovery🥲
I was 26 when i had super bad back pain several times a year. No exercises helped, and im a pt i would know. And them i went to a manual therapist (myofascial, fascial therapist) and it saved my back. I never thought i would feel this good ever again.
Best way to get my morning started before work 😊
Love you both so much, you're going to be the best parents ❤️
Do husbands look at calendar's? NO, NO THEY DO NOT.
Dont let no one use your credit!! Not even your family lol i learn that the hard wayy😅 love yalls podcast ❤
😊 thank you
Bravo Jon on the wedding solution, just let that person take themselves out of the situation. Emailer gave her boundaries at the beginning, bridal party kids ok, guests not ok, best option is to stick with her word.
Also tbh that ex-bridesmaid is already demonstrating they’re not really that close a friend if they’re not willing to accept some minor inconveniences on one day in order to be there for the friend as part of the bridal party. That’s fine and their prerogative, but then they want special treatment as a regular guest? Agree with Jon, that just opens the bride up to be TA to all the other guests that would’ve wanted the convenience of bringing their kid and the fact that the new mom is willing to just not even attend the wedding as a solution says everything about how little she actually cares about the bride and supposed close friend. Let her stay home.
Wow, I’m usually cleaning or cooking listening to you guys… now I’m going to sleep listening to you guys! Goodnight😂
Good night!
So don't listen. 🤷♀️✌️
@@VeeDeeDiana girl my comment was not in a bad way 🤦🏻♀️ they literally posted this video at 1am in my time zone
For the person that cosigned the car loan for his sister:
Have a full-disclosure conversation with your sisters husband to take over the loan.
From that conversation, if you sense that they will NOT be responsibly making the payments, sell the car immediately.
It is your legal obligation to take over the loan as the co-signer if your sister cannot make the payments, so at the end of the day, you need to be proactive about what happens to the car, as messed up as it is that they aren’t being responsible for their actions.
Yay! New episode 🙌🏻
Can I just say how fucking REFRESHING it is to hear non-cushioned reactions and feedback especially in this day and age? Case in point: your response to the husband’s sister needing a co-signer for her car then straight up not paying for it and blaming her mental health. Jon is right, there are even free resources to assist with mental health…
Hell Yeah.. love the double band-aids lol
Oh John honey… Blow your back out means something different lol
Love Johns advice and empathy 😁
😂😂 she put bandaids on the dent of her computer 😂
The one about the grandparents! LOL I felt that one, my sister is currently going thru this w/our parents… they help her out a TON w/her kids but they’re old school Italians & it’s their way or the highway so to speak! lol GOOD LUCK trying to get them to understand your stance… we battle them all the time as adults/parents ourselves now! #thestruggleisreal
So I’m a parent with 3 young boys. My in laws (specifically my mil and grandma in law) help watch my boys every once in a while. My husband and I are I guess you could call health and fitness freaks, and we do our best to have our family eat healthy. But my in laws (for years) would bring all the unhealthy snacks for my boys when they come over even though we repeatedly tell them not to. Lollipops, candy, cookies, etc. Soooo, after years of them not listening, I finally posted a video on IG stories of me throwing all the unhealthy crap in our cabinets in a trash bag and the caption said something like “Throwing out all the unhealthy crap in our house. P.S. my husband and I didn’t buy any of this. Please don’t buy my kids stuff like this anymore. Thanks!” My in laws saw it and were both upset with us to see all the unopened packages being thrown away. BUT now they bring over containers of fruit for my boys, so it worked!
Maybe make suggestions for what the grandparents could bring over as a "treat" instead? My kid loves berries and he'll go through a pint a day if we let him, but damn if they aren't expensive! We're not berry-rich so we don't have them in the house all the time, but when we do buy berries it is a bit of a treat for him. And maybe you compromise with the grandparents and let them bring a donut over on a Saturday every now and then, but I would first make suggestions of alternatives.
Speaking as a parent of 2 who grew up in a controlling, strict family I had to set boundaries with my parents. And when it didn’t work, I eventually had to take time apart and keep my kids to myself so they knew I was serious about my boundary and now they respect what my husband and I do as parents.
46:13 If you don’t invite children to your wedding, you have to be okay with people with children not coming.
You guys are too cute.
Maybe the guy who’s friend stopped responding is going through depression. In that case he may need space or just support
You can get referred to a physical therapist from your doctor who will help you figure out where the weakness is. You don’t have to have an injury or surgery to see a Physio. I had hip/pelvic pain, went to a Physio, pain almost gone.
Jon! Try acupuncture for your back pain. Your description is identical to my issue and my back injuries have caused bone spurs that are causing stiffness and more back issues so it’s a vicious cycle. Acupuncture has been helping me a tonne and could help you too!
Acupuncture has not scientific evidence behind it.
@@Hugo97HDeven if it’s just increasing blood flow, it’s scientific. And even if you don’t think that’s solid, there might just be no evidence YET. A lot of things work without specific evidence (sprite or ice / ice water for nausea, why we cry, how general anaesthesia works, why we itch etc), it works for me and a lot of people around me, so I suggest others to give it a go just in case it helps them too!
As far as the grandparents, my mom was that way with my son and sometimes it would be too much. I can say that it was something that my son would get so excited about, and I didn’t allow him to sit and eat it all in one sitting of course. Them bringing snacks does not mean you have to allow them to eat all at that moment, and maybe set boundaries and limits. In my situation, my mom passed recently and my son misses grandma and her visits and surprises all the time. The arguments about food and snacks seem so irrelevant now and I would do anything to see that smile on my son’s face while him and my mom eat some chocolate. I think grandparents try to give their grandkids everything they couldn’t give us, but I know it’s hard to make rules for your parents.
In reference to the grandparents not respecting your boundaries when giving your kids processed foods---
Its a never ending battle!! I have 2 boys -4 and 5- and would constantly argue with our family to limit the snacks my boys eat.
Maybe give your family different options on what you're okay with them eating. If old enough- explain to your kids why its important to eat nutritious foods because if they understand they will respect that whether you're present or not!
If you haven't watched thw good place you should. It is all about how good or bad you have to be. It is pretty funny. Love you guys
As a mom I can tell you it’s very normal for men to just be meh about other people’s babies until they have their own . My husband was the same way and so many of my friends husbands felt the about other people’s kids until they had their own. Once we had our kids then he got it but still your own kid will always be your favorite 🥰🥰
My kids only have one active grandparent and she spoils them with all the junk you can think of. She will bring boxes of snacks BUT I always remind her that they don’t need a huge box of snacks. Ultimately I decide if they can actually eat the snacks so that box can last MONTHS! She’ll come over and say “the kids haven’t eaten any of their snacks” and I’ll remind her that they don’t need all that junk and if it goes bad because they’re collecting dust in the pantry it’s all on her. Unfortunately, I can’t fully control the times that the kids are at her house for sleepovers…
With the grandparents situation, I wonder if just setting a limit would help? Like they can bring treats 1x a week? Or some clear boundary like that they could follow?
Am I Jon? I'm always throwing my back out too. I have a miracle chiropractor now.
For the person struggling with the grandparents…
When my parents or in-laws watch my kids I provide the healthy food or snacks I want them to eat. Grandparents want to give them cookies or ice cream, is there a healthy option you approve of that they can give them? Ex. Frozen yogurt pop instead of ice cream. Sometimes I think the older generation doesn’t know of some of the healthier kid alternatives available now or they might not fully understand your specific health preferences.
I’ve also just had to let some things go. Grandparents want to spoil their grandkids. My grandparents gave my sister and I treats and those are some of the memories I still have of them today (the little foil wrapped strawberry candies or flagging down the ice cream truck)
I love you guys and can’t wait to see you guys as mom and dad. You will be great! No doubt. I have been binge listening and watching your podcast since last week. Alex as an Alejandra I also tell people to call be Alex and hubby gets annoyed because he thinks people are thinking he is married to a guy lol. Also grew up in northern NJ so east coast is representing. I also love true crime podcast just like Alex and have the same way of thinking. Jon your replies crack me up all the time. We could be besties! I just heard you did a live one and I hope you do it again. Anyhow always looking forward to tunning in and wishing you best with everything. I will send you an email about a specific question you were asked and think that I can help the couple, so ask to see if you have any email from me..FIVE STAR REVIEW but don't know where to leave it 😊 take care guys!!!!
About the grandparents….you have to let them know what your nutrition guidelines are for your kids and give them ideas of what they could give them. If your parents see them frequently, it’s a problem. If they only saw them on occasion for visits, maybe not such a big deal. Remind them that they don’t have to give them treats every time they see them because it’s too frequent and can lead to bad habits for your kids. Educate them and make sure they know how much you appreciate all they do, but that they need to respect that you are the parents and that means you get to make these decisions.
I miss my babies but my older is almost 5 and he likes to kiss my mouth and I'm starting to feel a little awkward
My daughter started to walk at 10 months guys! Lol I would start off by baby proofing the furniture with the soft edge things
Maybe I’m a mean mom but once your kid goes to school or daycare kisses on the lips are out of the question unless you want to contract an illness everyday from your sweet little bio-terrorist. Idk my daughter has had a runny nose since we adopted her which runs down onto to her lips and she’s now 4 and we’ve had her tonsils out and brought her to multiple ent specialists but no one can stop the running nose so it kinda grosses me out lol so maybe I’m biased 😂 but that’s a no from me dawg
I don’t have kids but I’ve seen this happened with my nieces. My dad literally said I’d they don’t like it they can hire help but as he’s not paid he’s not required or willing to follow orders.
That question about the parent giving bad food to the kids is spot on 😂
My friend is on a health kick and her whole little family is vegetarian and her family member straight up told her that she gave a hamburger to the kid and she woofed it down 😂 my friend did not look happy lol I would be mad too if someone’s going against my health choices for my kids!
I have 2 kids and I don’t really LOVE other peoples kids but adore mine. So don’t worry! Once you have your kid things are just different.
I see a chiropractor twice a year bc the same happens to me. It has to be a very reputable one. Mine is a certified and former EMT and now has his certification for chiropractic practice. Highly recommend just don’t go with anyone tho check out the reviews real good they’re a miracle and I’m glad I don’t have to take drugs when I take my back out. Respect the kidneys to not get stones and drink lots of h2o. 😊wish you the best Jon and hope you see one.
Buy snacks that are acceptable and give them to the parents or give them ideas for snacks they can buy for the kids if they insist. I have the same issue. I go the route of making sure what they are giving the kids is approved by buying it and giving it to them. They can have the joy of "spoiling them" without the garbage.
22:30 your bf is a weirdo. LEAVE HIM!!!
I have had 3 kids and nothing compares to hurting your back. It is the worst pain ever and unless you have ever experienced it, you have no idea. I have been on so many different pain meds even morphine and it does nothing. I have injections and a big fat nope on that. Get better Jon
You can talk to your vet and maybe get a sedative so the airplane ride is easier for Colby, he would just be a bit high
In regard to grandparents not following your requests, my mom was having issues buying clothes for my daughters. I have 2 girls and my second is a hand-me-down queen. I talked with my mom about not buying anything for my youngest and to not get any clothes (if she was wanting to buy some, no obligation) for my oldest in her current size because I obv already have everything I need for the season. Right after this she bought both the girls clothes, doing exactly what I asked her NOT to do. I politely advised her, if she did it again I would be donating the clothes without hesitation because we don’t need it. She understood and now asks me what size to get anything if she is wanting to get the girls something. Congrats on the baby! So happy for y’all!
My mother in law calls us to see what our boys need, I have a 3 year old and a 14 month old, and we usually ask for clothes for our oldest since his clothes is getting a second use with our little one. She’ll get clothes for both of them, but she gets them a whole size bigger than what they use or need. So we have a tons of 4t clothes that doesnt fit my 3 year old and we still have buy clothes for him😂
What's up with the bandaid on the laptop?
It’s covering the dent that everyone was “being OCD” about last episode 😂 actually funny how they don’t address it
This grandma could potentially file for partial custody on behalf of her son… I think??? I feel like I’ve heard things like that, it may make things yucky
Do not kiss your siblings on the lips!
I totally agree its is NOT okay to kiss a child/baby on the lips. If they grow up with their parents kissing them on the lips then kissing might not be so special for their partner? Or maybe they grow up thinking is normal to be kissing people they care for? Either way so weird! Not necessary to be kissing your child 🫠😅
Agreed!!!
Most states have something called Grandparent rights, so if you tell her she can seek visitation and do you really want your kid with someone you don't know? IDK i would get more info before pursuing.
Grand parents with the junk food not ok all the time.
About Siblings kissing on the mouth. Hard no absolutely not, that’s disgusting what’s happening there esp they never did it before. Wtf
Guys! The kissing-your-baby-on-the-lips topic. I really need a debate about this. I have a 3yo toddler. Ever since he was born I have kissed him on the cheeks, on the lips, on the forehead. And a few weeks ago, a psychologist made a comment online about how bad it is and I got scared that me kissing my son on the lips may have ruined his mind and future. I went online to research the topic, looked for studies, and found out there are no studies linking kissing your children on the lips to bad outcomes, it also mentioned in different cultures it is completely normal. But I have been slightly conscious about this ever since. What do you all think?
Literally jus saw a lil article where parents asked the grampa to stop bringing sweets and candy everytime he came over and so he started bring fruit. Perfect solution
Just warm up really good and don’t do weird stretches lol
Jon, go to a chiropractor. Get it straightened out and then go for maintenance once a month or so.
Sleeping under a running car?... that's next level dumb.
What type of back exercises have you been doing Jhon?
Dead bugs, plank, glute squeezes
@@giveittomestraight how’s your breathing? It could be a pelvic stability issue and lack of breathing with your diaphragm - I’m going through that with my SI joint
@@giveittomestraightadd Jefferson curls to pain tolerance
Hell no! Grandparents are not not giving my kids food that I don’t approve of. Boundaries are necessary
Along the same lines of grandparents, I think the person who was questioning whether or not to talk to her child's grandmother, when Dad didn't want to be a dad. I think she's probably a better choice to the connection to that side of the child's family than the father. And kids need to know both sides.
And if the dad didn't want anything to do with being a father, he should have slapped a rubber on it
Parent here, for the Sicilian caller you definitely need to establish a boundary and be firm but you are also opening the door for their insight given that they care for your kids and I’m assuming you’re not paying them since you said you can’t afford childcare. If they don’t want to follow your rules going need to be ready for the backlash. It’s petty but they could totally decide not help with the children anymore because you don’t respect their wishes and you need to be willing to step up with the care or pay for childcare. If you can’t do that, it might be worth realistically thinking about whether this is worth potentially losing your childcare or not. It’s not an ideal scenario I get it, but you have to be realistic.
I kiss my baby on the lips… but not my oldest son whose 10. I love it but he doesn’t so thats that
You guys are def having a boy! John said he would not kiss the baby on the lips so makes me feel it may be a boy 😂
If you eat your pizza with a fork, you probably also kiss your sister on the lips.
Omg what the ffffffff he kisses his sister?! GIRLLLL if you are in the comments please leave the relationship something deff happened on that trip!!!😮
Is she REALLY his sister is my question 👀 lol
But like WHAT HAPPENED?? Need to know!
Paying for siblings car payment absolutely not. No of those problems are his to be footing the bill esp with no thank you or communication! Calling the bank immediately I would have said no to begin with!
No definitely don’t kiss the baby on the lips just sweet chubby cheek kisses! The adult mouth has so much bacteria! Not it!
My concern with the grandparents giving the kids junk food, is that the stuff they got given as kids was probably homemade. Junk food now is full of trans fats, cancer causing, chemicals that causes a huge amount of damage, I would seriously educate them about what is actually in the food they are giving these grand kids they love so much. Sit them down and go through the back of the pack and the full ingredients list, and shock them! The tell them if they want to spoil he kids, give them fresh mango's, make fresh smoothies, whatever healthy stuff that is yummy.
The story of the Colorado influencers
I feel its always the girl that is bitchy or jealous
Once i ran into a singer and he was with a Girl
And i was surprised to see him and said his name out loud
And she gave me ugly looks the whole time
It will take up to a year before it’s all gone, and every time you wash him, it will smell stronger
Do not fix a muscle issue with a bone surgery 👏👏👏
Grandparents are NOT your babysitters. If you are paying them than they should do everything to your liking. They are bending over backwards to help you and leaning into the fun part of being Grandparents. It's fine to have healthy snacks at home and keep encouraging the Grandparents but you cant get pissed at people doing you every day favors.
Sorry, but no parent should want to bring a 1 year old to a wedding to begin with. Use it as an 'excuse' to get a date night / parent's night out in and leave the damn kid at home!
I feel like ur having a boy💙