Seasoned divorce lawyer here. Just my two cents. If you get a whiff of narcissistic personality disorder, RUN. DO NOT MARRY. You can’t imagine the destruction I see everyday in divorce court. Stay safe. Trust your gut. Keep strong boundaries. Great video!!
Coach Greg Adams on UA-cam has a book about what to do before considering marriage. Marriage as you know isn't something to take lightly. The financial ramifications are enormous.
The worst part of being raised by a narcissistic parent, is that you grow up believing you are not worthy of respect. Then when you venture into the dating world, you are a target for other narcs... you are used to that kind of abuse and you think it's normal. It took me years to break that cycle. Thank God.
Oh wow, sounds like me. I am nearly 40 and still keep meeting narcs. My late mum was incredibly abusive to me. I was physically abused as a child and then as an adult emotionally.
It’s a lose lose situation. If you give into the narcissist, they think you’re weak & they lose respect. If you put your foot down and not be a doormat they won’t like that either and they’ll try harder to gain control. It’s always 100% about themselves. The only way to be safe is to avoid them as much as possible. When you see crazy coming, cross the street!
Fact! Narcissist know how powerful you are according to what you do, so they are motivated to manipulate to get what they want from you, or if you don't comply they work hard to take what they want. Usually the target has a do whatever it takes type mindset and the narcissist IS the polar opposite---just the motivation is different.
Yes 100%. Constantly trying to Hoover, triangulate me, emotionally unavailable, sound of crickets if you want to address a big concern, ghosting, stonewalling, gaslit, secretive, wore a mask, controlled when, where, how, guarded phone like a dog with a bone and absolutely no remorse or appoligies. With a covert narcissist it is even harder I feel.
Thank you so much Andrew! I am still in the trauma bond and often catch myself trying to please my ex. She treated me like s***, despite this I try to help her out whenever possible. Is she grateful for my deeds? No of course not. I have to take care of me and break that bond to get my self-respecdt back!
They respect no one. Yet, they totally freak out if they feel someone is disrespecting them. They live by such double standards. The narc wants their partner to live by certain morale standards, but those same standards don’t apply to them. It’s so frustrating.
Was in a one sided karmic narcissistic relationship for 45yrs ,too was too stubborn so the Divine flicked the switch and my intuition kicked in ,that was 3yrs ago , been on a spiritual journey, which coincides with my religious believes never looked back ,experienced smear campaining ,but my faith is strong ,I knew the Divine would vindicate me .God Bless lots of your videos I can relate to going through the same experiences as I watch them ,I set my ex free 3 yrs ago ,life's been so much happier and peaceful connecting back with my family ☺️
You truly believe the Divine flicked the switch? Because despite my awakening, I still doubt myself as to whether I am thinking too much of this abusive relationship, in which I have been trapped for 25 years. And with adult kids, ready to start their own lives, I feel selfish for wanting out.😢
@@sadiamufti8890 As sure as the sun come up in the morning . Then I felt the power of the Holy Spirit ,which was easier for me to cope in my situation . I had to leave for my own sanity well being .
@@imbrakingthrough2152 No, I don't mean that! If thats what you are doing...keep looking and reading. The more you learn, the more you will understand! Wishing you all good in your journey!
Hi Andrew, My long time relationship with a Narcissist is over. He never respected me. He was a liar, and a cheat, he talked about me to his friends, I think that bothered me the most, I thought how could you talk about me like that. I asked him, at first he denied it, later he would admit to it. I wish the relationship had ended sooner, than later. Anyway getting away from him is the best thing I could of done.
When your in any type of a relationship and someone is always talking about you to associates, friends, family....there is a hate brewing because of something they thought they were entitled too. No one is always talking about someone in a bad light. Or they are just using you to get attention in any manner thats works for their benefit. I know it sounds sick, but ppl do this to feel important.
Thank you so much for this! I have been abused by narcissists MY ENTIRE LIFE and this last one wasn't even someone I knew! It is very easy after a LIFETIME of being disregarded, disrespected, smeared, dismissed, gaslit, robbed, denied needs, and emotionally eviscerated for the jollies of others to just want to throw your hands up and give up on life itself. These people are MONSTERS AND THEY ARE EVERYWHERE. Your words help me to put a LIFETIME of suffering and loss due to the selfishness of others into a much more positive framework for moving on.
So sorry to hear what you went thru. I had 1 ex narc, and he nearly killed me! I'm nearly 11 years out, and I thank God that I'm over him, however, it's something you'll never forget. God bless you..
thanks, Andrew, yes , this people are very disrespectful , liers, and arrogant , think they know everything. but there is somebody like me, that they can't do whatever they have in mind. thanks again bless you
Respect comes together with mutual love and trust... And The NARCISSIST preys upon that as a weakness.. YOU ARE RIGHT Andrew,They want to " Finish you off".....
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone 53 from New Zealand adopted scapegoat child to narc mother, narc ex huge victimisation in comunity and they don't stop and they target your children, they are truly evil, I've just being educated in the last year, so much depression and confusion, and yes bad crimes and tried to set me up for murder or I would commit suicide my story is so huge, I know now why I have kind heart empath wow I thought I was the only one in whole world, thank you you are helping us and trust me it's so unbelievable and everyone jumps on the bandwagon, God Bless you Monique
Andrew, perfectly and clearly said. The narcissist I encountered walked around like the ‘Emperor With No Clothes’-arrogant, entitled, I was ignored and looked down up most of the time, I was treated like a lowly servant. Just awful. How poor his self-esteem must be to have to stand on my shoulders to feel better about himself. It took a while, and your videos Andrew, to help me see if for what it was-narcissist abuse. Fellow members, keep climbing. Blessings Andrew, and thank you for what you do.
I am laughing! That's how my ex acted after 24 years of not speaking to me....at our sons wedding! Not speaking to me when he was angry was how he would punish me when we were married. Lol. I had told my son before the wedding that I would be cordial. I'm happily married and your Dad is remarried....I have no problem speaking to him. Well, when he walked in our son's house for a night before celebration, I was going to say Hi and he turned his head as he walked in with his wife and sat in the other room with his back to us.🤣 I felt bad for my daughter in law and her family. It was awkward but I was afraid if I went out of my way to speak, he might cause a scene. So, we had a good time with everyone else.
@@livinggood6876 Yes! I'm glad I jumped ship when I did. Lol. I was happy to hear that he did call our son and apologize for not speaking to me....he said he just wasn't ready. Lol
"The narcissist is always late to the event because they want everyone's eyes on them." Mic Drop. I didn't know what that was until you said this. Makes absolute sense.
I have a narcissist ex, whom I have not seen or talked to in over three years, and who STILL sends me slightly snippy texts. I have him blocked, but I can see when he calls and sends texts. He sounds like a fifth-grader, which is almost embarrassing to me - how on earth did I ever think of someone highly who is no older than a fifth-grader! It always blows my mind. But he has no effect on me and hasn't for all these years. After I ended it with him, I realized five of my siblings were also narcissists, as was my mother. If it wasn't for the ex that I dated, his weird behavior (we only dated for a short time because he would not respect my boundaries), but he did send me looking for answers on such odd behaviors, like ghosting, silent treatment, thinking he had some secret life, etc. that I came across all the information on narcissism. Then I began to understand I had grown up with it, so I attract it - and need to be careful about anything I do that's narcissistic. So I continue learning. I really appreciate your channel and consistency, God Bless!
Looking back, my biological father is a narc, step father was a narc, and I was married to a narc. Recently, a bf (a narc) dumped me because…..wait for it…..I was TOO STRONG. He figured that he needed to move along and find a new supply. I’m free and loving being single!
I'm a disabled vet and the narc I live with at this time is against me for wanting to fly the "You are not forgotten POW flag. In turn whatever little respect I had for her is out the window. I wish she would have witnessed what I have witnessed to shut her up and down. There is no peace when she's around. So sad. Right on the money Andrew. Thanks bro. I'm glad you've recovered.
Sweetie get away from her!! It hurts, she doesn't deserve you. So many of us good women just like so many of you good men would appreciate just having a kind friend around. I'm 10 months in after 13 year relationship. Also thank you for serving our country. Much love and light to you from Texas.❤❤.
yep they really do spin a sob story when they come back for seconds. i had lost my dad just before i first met him and he ended things very suddenly and cruelly to get with his newest supply. I stupidly met up with him 4 years later in a cafe where he spun his sob story about how his step dad had since died and how it was awful for him. funnily enough there was a slightly unhinged older lady in the cafe who had overheard it all and she butted in and said “is that your excuse of a sob story? be very careful of him young lady, you’re too good for him and he will treat you like crap”. i felt bad for him and gave him the second chance, and sure enough he chewed me up and spat me out again. I should have listened to the old lady!
Yes other people are always right, but the narciccists are master manipulators and make it damn near impossible to see through their lies. It's like they have a degree in acting lol
Don't lose yourself to someone that doesn't respect you; instead, let go of that relationship to allow doors to open from someone that deserves you. 💙UA-camr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
And open doors don't stay open forever. I'm just afraid to walk through a new one because I now have PTSD from a lot of things my narcissist did to me and my young kids at the time.
Thank you for always being gentle in your delivery of these harsh truths. It’s devastating to have lived decades under various narcissistic abusers because I simply did not have this knowledge. As for no respect? The last thing my former faux husband said when caught in a bold set of lies along with sneaking around sexually cheating during the height of the pandemic was, “I’m sorry I couldn’t abide by your wishes.” That was the end. Divorced. No contact. Healing. Ughhhhh. 🙏🏽❤️
They pretend to respect you doing the love bomb , and when the disrespecting starts right in your face out loud you don't even know what hit you . Confused hurt crying . You don't understand what just happened ! That Narc is enjoying every minute of your confusion ! You think you are crazy knowing that you aren't !!!! Run faster than you can run , you better not look back because the narc will get you again !!! Great video again Andrew . Just about 12 months NO CONTACT !!! Safe , I'm safe Andrew ! I'm still in class getting all of this education so I can stay safe !! God bless you 😄. 🙏🕊️🎉💯
I have experienced the things you have mentioned in your videos everything I have experienced. Thank you Andrew I come to your channel everyday to learning and healing.
Will it get better...four wk out. I still wonder of him.....sick...as he called my son a cunt and swore at other one... Then took him back and he was sicker after grovelling and hoover
They are a predator from the beginning. He ignored my boundaries & I told him to start taking me seriously or else. Finally I had to go no contact because his words & actions didn't match up. And I'm gone if there is no respect.
No forgiveness. It ended in DV charges and an order of protection. He will never come near me again. ....and it is surely driving him crazy. He sees himself as the victim. He is whining and complaining that I have tried to ruin his reputation. He doesn't even acknowledge his own behavior and that he has done this to himself!!! Healing sucks! I am so grateful for your channel Andrew! Thank you!!!
The part about emails not replied and left you hanging on for days is so true, the arrogance and disrespect are what i felt about this person, thank you Andrew once again for speaking the truth.
Many Thanks Andrew, my posture has changed, my mind set is balanced. Self care is a priority and I thoroughly enjoy my retirement now! Your reminders of what we have raised ourselves up from help every day. I look forward to your instruction each day, I believe I am caught up on most of your videos!!!
Yet another superb video, Andrew. Thank you. My malignant narcissistic mother would ALWAYS delay responding to a text or email. She's been retired for 20 years, does nothing all day, and she never promptly returned nice, sweet emails or texts. After I didn't travel to see her recently, I was yet again 'ghosted,' even after multiple nice emails. That's when I found your videos, as I was trying to understand why this person, my own mother, was constantly doing this passive aggressive shit against me. Of the nine characteristics (five and you're a definitional "narcissist,") my mother clocks in at a solid seven. Zero compassion; no empathy; manipulative; disloyal; duplicitious. She's probably a sociopath. But I am done with her. It's been about a month since I wrote her off. Honestly, I feel great. I'm sure I have been written out of the will, but I'll take that, rather than be in her orbit any longer. I don't even want to punish her. I just want to go forward without this person in my life at all. Thanks again.
Its been 14 years since i have written off her from myself and i can tell you that made me feel very good. Now i need to complete my write off my ex of 14 years. With Andrew's help i am almost their. So congrats to you. Stay strong and we are never alone.
@@denisguay4315 You stay strong, too. I am somewhat embarrassed it took me 51 years to 'write her off,' but I still have a few years left. I feel better each day. Residual anger and bitterness still crop up occasionally, but, overall, I've felt quite positive and liberated with the freedom from my mother, a truly mean, spiteful, toxic individual. And, yes, the videos do help considerably. I have found it reassuring that I'm not imagining this; that the narcissist is a personality type, with specific characteristics and behaviors. Andrew has described my mother to a 'T' in his videos. Take care and thank you for the thoughts.
I was married to a narcissist over 2 decades and couldn't understand why all his actions and how he treated me a certain way. If I knew what I know now, I would've left a long time ago. I finally understand what/who a narcissist is now and I will never put myself respect & time for someone like that anymore.
Another video that hits my soul!! I finally know my worth because of you and your videos. The lightbulb moments have been coming like crazy. This week since handing it all over to God at the altar , I am feeling the indifference for him that people talk about. There has been grieving but I cant dwell anymore . I went through cancer with this toxic man. 🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻 I pray we all keep on going on our healing journey and grow stronger every day .
The lack of respect or rather the disrespect the narcisists are full of towards other people is absolutely stunning! They are just totally dumb. You can never win with those people so the only way out is to remove yourself from their presence, which in my case, is easier said than done, bur I do hope a day will come when they are all gone. God bless you Andrew ❤
Thank you, Andrew. Anyone who continuously disrespects me(will probably never change), I avoid them as much as it is possible to do so. I go 'no contact.' Life's too short, not worth fighting for.
Lack of respect was perhaps the most unsettling part of the relationship with the narcissist. It formed the basis for all others negative behaviors exhibited. A relationship is just not sustainable under these circumstances and without this basic tenet (respect). And, they KNOW they’re doing it; don’t EVER doubt that fact. Why subject yourself to such crappy treatment?!? Self-respect & boundaries are the answer. Anyway, happy to be out of the situation. 😰🤯🥺
Everything you said is so true. I was blinded by this for 10 years making me feel i was the problem. He has broken me down drained me. But only recently started doing research and I now know how to deal with this. One step in the right direction I left.. Thank you.
It's always going to be about them , you and your life will ALWAYS be secondary !! Without the education most empaths will be reduced to desperately trying to regain the lovebomb phase by getting the narc's affirmation and approval ! They are unaware that the narc will NEVER be impressed , because they simply don't care ! That is the very definition of disrespect ! 🤨😎🙏
I can testify to this Andrew. Every SINGLE TIME I fell soft to hoovering, my ex (the narc) only got worse and worse. I thought I was crazy when it seemed he was going out of his way to hurt me. I refused to believe it. Even beginning to leave nuggets of his infidelity and doing things I've expressed disdain for not long prior. If you can leave, please do! It's never worth the mental and emotional anguish. Please practice self love and raise your self esteem
Ty. I left mine .two years it was. He was evil ..he text me out blue yesterday after four weeks gone. I blocked him...he tried ringing too.... And saw he then was ignored as I blocked him ( didn't realise he wasn't blocked) watsapp. Then saw his profile blank as I ignored him
Where were these kinds of men in my life? Because that is how I feel, you work things out! Because you don't want to lose the person you decided to live with. You are so right on with everything you said! I wished I would of found your channel before I did it again for a third time!!!
Gemini Dream... Everything happends for a reason and at the right time!! The Universe only throws an obstacle in your path when it knows you are ready to overcome it!! Don t be sorry for nothing...like Andrew says, and very well...it was not your fault...you were loving...but you were being manipulated!! But now you know!! All that!! And know you are back on your path!! It hurts...a lot...and there is more pain ahead!! Finding out that what you tought was love was nothing like that!!it hurts!! I was in a 2 and half years relation with a woman to whom i loved like no one before!! When her mask felt...it all came together!! Tryed everything to make it work!! But i was being discarted for a couple of months!! And nothing i could come up with, would have worked!! I was a tool!! I finally saw it!! And it got mote excruciating... Because after i left...it was 7 long months of crying, reliving backwords every second of the relationship!! So i came across Andrew and a couple more sources of education about narcissists and it started my conscious healing process (that actually had started the moment i had the courage to leave her)...!! And in that process of reliving the relation in my mind, the puzzle pieces got together!! And you know what!? All those discussions and fights we had, that sometimes made me stop and think... Was it me my fault!!?? No...!! I was giving...all my being, my effort, my best!! My time, my love!! And all i was getting back, was a performance!! When i left...going trough all that crying and anguish of loss, i went trough a moment of anger, vengeance even!! And i investigated a bit!! Only to find out, even then, she always had other sources of supply!! Old boyfriends she kept in touch!! Subtile things in social media... Even was able to find out that, over our relation she bedded 2 guys!! And that was the moment for me!! That made me see...she was the problem!! And altough it gave me the strenght to raise myself...it still hurts...because i was really in love!! Still can t take out of my head when we were making love and she asked me, "dared" me to make a baby, knowing it was my biggest dream!! 3 days latter she bedded 1st guy!! Still bleads...last hole in my heart...full of scars!! But enough of me!! Its not a linear thing or the same for us all!! And if the Universe tought you needed 3 times around...it doesn t matter...!! You are here now!! You know now!! You are getting educated about narcissists!! You know better now!! And like Andrew said... You are free...and now its about you...you...and you!! Accept that those scars made in you are there, but to make you stronger!! I lie hurts a thousand times more than the TRUTH!! And you know what they say... You can lie or tell a story to anyone should you want...!! But the truth only the storyteller knows!! So think like this!! YOU OWW THE TRUTH TO YOURSELF!! DO THAT DON T LIE TO YOURSELF, AND YOU WILL BE JUST FINE!! YOU SEE THOSE RED FLAGS...DON T GIVE THE BENEFIT OF DOUBT BECAUSE YOU NEED LOVE!! TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS AND STAY AWAY!! You feel something good...go with the flow!! Trust the Universe to send a real good man to your arms...and be patient!! You need to...!! To heal properly!! To get back...TRUST!! BECAUSE FOR ME...THAT WAS (IS) THE BIGGEST LOSS AND DAMAGE A NARCISSIST DOES TO YOU... THE ABILITY TO TRUST OPENHEARTHLY, WHEN YOU MEET SOMEONE YOU REALLY LIKE!! Be well....trust the Universe...be patient and kind to yourself...its all about you know!! And what s yours to be yet...is traveling to you at the speed of light!! Be patient!! Love yourself...it wasn t you fault!! Love from Portugal... Namaste!!🙏🖤🤍🐺
@@alfredomateus8850 Thank you for you're post, I really needed to hear this. We seem to have had the same thing if you put that girl into a man! All I ever wanted was what she had. Someone who loved me so deeply I could feel it! I didn't care about piles money or fancy houses, cars, all I wanted was love that was as deep as mine is and that cost nothing. Got cheated on by more than 2, from both previous husbands oh an I forgot, my very first love as well. I'm not sure about the one I'm in a marriage with now, but I have my suspicions. I'm trapped now because he got really sick and being the idiot I am, I can't walk out on someone that's ill even though I feel like a roommate, not a wife. The universe has never been kind, never! Had a horrific abusive childhood, jumped straight into a horrible marriage. I had a child when I wasn't ready but he knew it would keep me from chasing after him when he didn't come home all night. These bastards/bitches use children like clubs! She probably thought you were going to leave which is why all of a sudden she wanted a child, to hold you in the relationship! That's also probably why she went bedhopping to make it happen fast. I don't know how anyone could use a child, a gift of love of two or it's supposed to be. And marriage is supposed to be for life in my opinion. Was I ever wrong!
You know what Andrew? I’m gonna watch and learn all of your videos which are exactly so true about my ex. I’m so scared of him now. All the points that you mentioned were more than 100% true.
From what i have experienced the best thing to is, leave them cold and dont look back and take back your power. I had this problem my entire life, basically picked on , now i know, and had no clue that im an empath. Now i set boundaries and say no.
Eone will make it so you can't leave them.Ive wanted too for years now.I due to no financial means to escape..I feel like his prisoner. Placed in his sick,mascistic,bondage. I tell him I want out,but I feel that's how he wants it to be.he holds the keys..and I continue to suffer..I just wish someone could help me get out and far,far away from this demon man!!..yet I have no one.the stuff he's done to me ,placed me placed in is far much worse than you or anyone could believe.honestly speaking.and embarrassing to tell .can anybody hear my suffering,feel my tears..I want to escape so bad..silently without his knowledge.the scars I've worn,inside and out I did not deserve to carry for 14yrs.....and I'm sick of my own self pitty...I'm sorry dear lord.
Thank you for all of the work you are doing on putting these videos together. Your messages are helping me understand and heal from an awful, toxic relationship with a narcissist abuser.
Scary thought :"they might want to finish you off!" Exactly! That's why I cannot forgive because it makes me feel like I'd be opening the door to continue as before. It's my boundary which people don't understand.
Great description of what respect is or isn’t. No matter what your age you look for the red flags. Disrespect is one. I allowed many Hoovers after I tried to leave. Only to get treated so much worse when getting back together. Thanks☀️🙏🏼🙌🏼💙❤️
Thank you for all of your videos. My only sibling is a diagnosed narc. After decades of being used abused and losing over $200K that I invested in her and her children; She left me and our Mother for dead literally for dead I gave her two more chances after that. She then destroyed our Mothers Summer home with mold and tossing out valuable antiques. She called the police on me when our Mother wanted the keys to her own Summer home back The sibling Told the Police I was crazy and returned the keys to me in front of the Police. That was the last straw!
absolutely I was just mentoring a younger woman today and this was the exact topic ! 🙏 you are such a Blessing to so many Andrew.So thankful for individuals such as you to assist those on the road to recovery Blessings to all that continue to heal and create a better Life 💪❤️🙏
They come back to finish you off. Tough love Andrew. Thank You! I rewatch your videos periodically to remind myself that I wasn’t imagining anything. They are monsters. Thank God I’m wide awake now. Sun is out, no fog anywhere in sight.
Good morning ☀️ Yes, the disrespect is real! I got a new job yesterday! I feel like I am on a new path finally. God bless! Stay strong 💪 warriors! 🎈🎁🎊💎✅
Respect, part of the human condition……so, no common human decency, disrespectful and devaluing ppl, entitled, and a taker = a Narcissist. No respect in any way, shape or form. Ever. Fantastic pod cast. There was no addressing and there were NO boundaries. Disguising and Frustrating at a very high level!! This was exactly how it was!
Andrew I think we married into the same family because you (out of all the narcissist channels) are so spot on. You are very helpful, honest and it's as if you know ever facet of my story.
Yep he hoovered me many times I don't respond his email goes to spam everything else is blocked totally but he continues to Hoover periodically I don't even look at it delete delete delete
I was in a narcissistic marriage when I was very young and managed to break out of that marriage of 18 years. Now after a lot of soul searching and healing many years later my daughters from that marriage asked me too help my now ex to get to a the hospital for surgery. So I agreed as a favor for my kids. Well, he tried proving he had changed and started schmoozing me but he hadn’t changed. I found that once a narcissist always a narcissist. I kept my distance until he revealed he was still a narcissist so I just turned tail and ran! This video confirmed everything that he was doing. Never never NEVER again will I even be friends with that man again!
I’m just finding your channel and u are 100% correct! It’s sad when one’s entire family are narc’s. Letting your entire family GO, is undoubtedly difficult, but it must be done in order to have a healthy & happy life.
I am learning so much about this and told I am a Narcissist By my oldest? Yet everything you are saying and I see this behavior coming from them and my Ex-husband. I am a survivor of DV from him. I divorced him and stayed married out of fear and the kids. Now he’s deceased and the oldest daughter is angry he’s gone. He was such a manipulative person. I can relate to this video.
Seasoned divorce lawyer here. Just my two cents. If you get a whiff of narcissistic personality disorder, RUN. DO NOT MARRY. You can’t imagine the destruction I see everyday in divorce court. Stay safe. Trust your gut. Keep strong boundaries. Great video!!
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Thank you!!!
Imagine dodging this bullet. Whew
Coach Greg Adams on UA-cam has a book about what to do before considering marriage. Marriage as you know isn't something to take lightly. The financial ramifications are enormous.
@@rwdchannel2901 yes! I was on his channel in April of 2020 for a livestream answering questions. It was a blast!
The worst part of being raised by a narcissistic parent, is that you grow up believing you are not worthy of respect. Then when you venture into the dating world, you are a target for other narcs... you are used to that kind of abuse and you think it's normal. It took me years to break that cycle. Thank God.
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Oh wow, sounds like me. I am nearly 40 and still keep meeting narcs. My late mum was incredibly abusive to me. I was physically abused as a child and then as an adult emotionally.
Same here.
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It’s a lose lose situation. If you give into the narcissist, they think you’re weak & they lose respect.
If you put your foot down and not be a doormat they won’t like that either and they’ll try harder to gain control. It’s always 100% about themselves.
The only way to be safe is to avoid them as much as possible.
When you see crazy coming, cross the street!
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Thank you again.
Fact! Narcissist know how powerful you are according to what you do, so they are motivated to manipulate to get what they want from you, or if you don't comply they work hard to take what they want. Usually the target has a do whatever it takes type mindset and the narcissist IS the polar opposite---just the motivation is different.
Run! ….🏃🏽♀️….🏃🏽♀️….🏃🏽♀️….
They demand respect but won’t give it.
Yes 100%. Constantly trying to Hoover, triangulate me, emotionally unavailable, sound of crickets if you want to address a big concern, ghosting, stonewalling, gaslit, secretive, wore a mask, controlled when, where, how, guarded phone like a dog with a bone and absolutely no remorse or appoligies. With a covert narcissist it is even harder I feel.
We deserve respect which the narcisists will not give us. We must walk away from those evil abusers.
I did..I. have now no confidence
Thank you so much Andrew! I am still in the trauma bond and often catch myself trying to please my ex. She treated me like s***, despite this I try to help her out whenever possible. Is she grateful for my deeds? No of course not. I have to take care of me and break that bond to get my self-respecdt back!
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They respect no one. Yet, they totally freak out if they feel someone is disrespecting them. They live by such double standards. The narc wants their partner to live by certain morale standards, but those same standards don’t apply to them. It’s so frustrating.
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Was in a one sided karmic narcissistic relationship for 45yrs ,too was too stubborn so the Divine flicked the switch and my intuition kicked in ,that was 3yrs ago , been on a spiritual journey, which coincides with my religious believes never looked back ,experienced smear campaining ,but my faith is strong ,I knew the Divine would vindicate me .God Bless lots of your videos I can relate to going through the same experiences as I watch them ,I set my ex free 3 yrs ago ,life's been so much happier and peaceful connecting back with my family ☺️
You truly believe the Divine flicked the switch? Because despite my awakening, I still doubt myself as to whether I am thinking too much of this abusive relationship, in which I have been trapped for 25 years. And with adult kids, ready to start their own lives, I feel selfish for wanting out.😢
@@sadiamufti8890 As sure as the sun come up in the morning . Then I felt the power of the Holy Spirit ,which was easier for me to cope in my situation . I had to leave for my own sanity well being .
letting them do their thing ...stepping back and watching...is brilliant
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This………. They put themselves in the ground……….
Rodney Dangerfield would be proud of this 😁
Depends. You mean watch your life being destroyed? 🤣
@@imbrakingthrough2152 No, I don't mean that!
If thats what you are doing...keep looking and reading. The more you learn,
the more you will understand! Wishing you all good in your journey!
Your a gift from heaven God bless 🙏
Hi Andrew, My long time relationship with a Narcissist is over. He never respected me. He was a liar, and a cheat, he talked about me to his friends, I think that bothered me the most, I thought how could you talk about me like that. I asked him, at first he denied it, later he would admit to it. I wish the relationship had ended sooner, than later. Anyway getting away from him is the best thing I could of done.
Celebrate u survived, now thrive. 😆
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When your in any type of a relationship and someone is always talking about you to associates, friends, family....there is a hate brewing because of something they thought they were entitled too. No one is always talking about someone in a bad light. Or they are just using you to get attention in any manner thats works for their benefit. I know it sounds sick, but ppl do this to feel important.
In the same boat as you hun. I’m in the process of divorcing right now and I have a 2 year old and am pregnant with baby #2.
@@skemalfam Wishing you the best.
Thank you so much for this! I have been abused by narcissists MY ENTIRE LIFE and this last one wasn't even someone I knew! It is very easy after a LIFETIME of being disregarded, disrespected, smeared, dismissed, gaslit, robbed, denied needs, and emotionally eviscerated for the jollies of others to just want to throw your hands up and give up on life itself. These people are MONSTERS AND THEY ARE EVERYWHERE. Your words help me to put a LIFETIME of suffering and loss due to the selfishness of others into a much more positive framework for moving on.
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So sorry to hear what you went thru. I had 1 ex narc, and he nearly killed me! I'm nearly 11 years out, and I thank God that I'm over him, however, it's something you'll never forget. God bless you..
Building boundaries is most important. You learn not to tolerate abusive toxic people
thanks, Andrew,
yes , this people are very
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w a narcissist you get lies . they lie to you because they disrespect you , think you’re not worthy of truth
god damn, the being late part. they are always late.
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Respect comes together with mutual love and trust...
And The NARCISSIST preys upon that as a weakness..
YOU ARE RIGHT Andrew,They want to " Finish you off".....
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Hate is a weakness to you and Love is a weakness to them.
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone 53 from New Zealand adopted scapegoat child to narc mother, narc ex huge victimisation in comunity and they don't stop and they target your children, they are truly evil, I've just being educated in the last year, so much depression and confusion, and yes bad crimes and tried to set me up for murder or I would commit suicide my story is so huge, I know now why I have kind heart empath wow I thought I was the only one in whole world, thank you you are helping us and trust me it's so unbelievable and everyone jumps on the bandwagon, God Bless you Monique
A malignant narcissist mother is a life sentence..I'm 63 and she still "tries". I get sick to my stomach just to see her name written.
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yes same here ...I only got relief from her abuse when she died 2 yrs ago and I am 69.
Do we like this one:
Show respect even to people who don't deserve it. Respect is a reflection of your character not theirs.
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TRUE! LOVE IT!
Andrew, perfectly and clearly said. The narcissist I encountered walked around like the ‘Emperor With No Clothes’-arrogant, entitled, I was ignored and looked down up most of the time, I was treated like a lowly servant. Just awful. How poor his self-esteem must be to have to stand on my shoulders to feel better about himself. It took a while, and your videos Andrew, to help me see if for what it was-narcissist abuse. Fellow members, keep climbing. Blessings Andrew, and thank you for what you do.
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I always liked the "The Narc Emperor With NO Clothes"!
I am laughing! That's how my ex acted after 24 years of not speaking to me....at our sons wedding! Not speaking to me when he was angry was how he would punish me when we were married. Lol. I had told my son before the wedding that I would be cordial. I'm happily married and your Dad is remarried....I have no problem speaking to him. Well, when he walked in our son's house for a night before celebration, I was going to say Hi and he turned his head as he walked in with his wife and sat in the other room with his back to us.🤣 I felt bad for my daughter in law and her family. It was awkward but I was afraid if I went out of my way to speak, he might cause a scene. So, we had a good time with everyone else.
@@terrimarsh2103 mine alternated between the silent treatment and rage. They are so infantile. Glad I am out of that marriage.
@@livinggood6876 Yes! I'm glad I jumped ship when I did. Lol. I was happy to hear that he did call our son and apologize for not speaking to me....he said he just wasn't ready. Lol
They never respect your wishes, all they give you is excuses, blaming you for having a boundary. BUT move an inch into their boundary! Wow rage fit! 😮
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"The narcissist is always late to the event because they want everyone's eyes on them." Mic Drop. I didn't know what that was until you said this. Makes absolute sense.
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Yes!
I have a narcissist ex, whom I have not seen or talked to in over three years, and who STILL sends me slightly snippy texts. I have him blocked, but I can see when he calls and sends texts. He sounds like a fifth-grader, which is almost embarrassing to me - how on earth did I ever think of someone highly who is no older than a fifth-grader! It always blows my mind. But he has no effect on me and hasn't for all these years. After I ended it with him, I realized five of my siblings were also narcissists, as was my mother. If it wasn't for the ex that I dated, his weird behavior (we only dated for a short time because he would not respect my boundaries), but he did send me looking for answers on such odd behaviors, like ghosting, silent treatment, thinking he had some secret life, etc. that I came across all the information on narcissism. Then I began to understand I had grown up with it, so I attract it - and need to be careful about anything I do that's narcissistic. So I continue learning. I really appreciate your channel and consistency, God Bless!
Samezies!!!
Looking back, my biological father is a narc, step father was a narc, and I was married to a narc. Recently, a bf (a narc) dumped me because…..wait for it…..I was TOO STRONG. He figured that he needed to move along and find a new supply. I’m free and loving being single!
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Yes, I'm watching my own behavior and trying to be my personal best.
I'm a disabled vet and the narc I live with at this time is against me for wanting to fly the "You are not forgotten POW flag. In turn whatever little respect I had for her is out the window. I wish she would have witnessed what I have witnessed to shut her up and down. There is no peace when she's around. So sad. Right on the money Andrew. Thanks bro. I'm glad you've recovered.
Sweetie get away from her!! It hurts, she doesn't deserve you. So many of us good women just like so many of you good men would appreciate just having a kind friend around. I'm 10 months in after 13 year relationship. Also thank you for serving our country. Much love and light to you from Texas.❤❤.
@@angiebush7810 Thank you kindly!!
yep they really do spin a sob story when they come back for seconds. i had lost my dad just before i first met him and he ended things very suddenly and cruelly to get with his newest supply. I stupidly met up with him 4 years later in a cafe where he spun his sob story about how his step dad had since died and how it was awful for him. funnily enough there was a slightly unhinged older lady in the cafe who had overheard it all and she butted in and said “is that your excuse of a sob story? be very careful of him young lady, you’re too good for him and he will treat you like crap”. i felt bad for him and gave him the second chance, and sure enough he chewed me up and spat me out again. I should have listened to the old lady!
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Yes other people are always right, but the narciccists are master manipulators and make it damn near impossible to see through their lies. It's like they have a degree in acting lol
I am so glad you have a lot of videos bc jeezz here I am getting this knowledge ....
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Don't lose yourself to someone that doesn't respect you; instead, let go of that relationship to allow doors to open from someone that deserves you.
💙UA-camr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
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And open doors don't stay open forever. I'm just afraid to walk through a new one because I now have PTSD from a lot of things my narcissist did to me and my young kids at the time.
They shut you down👍👍👍👍👍
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Thank you for always being gentle in your delivery of these harsh truths.
It’s devastating to have lived decades under various narcissistic abusers because I simply did not have this knowledge.
As for no respect?
The last thing my former faux husband said when caught in a bold set of lies along with sneaking around sexually cheating during the height of the pandemic was,
“I’m sorry I couldn’t abide by your wishes.”
That was the end.
Divorced. No contact. Healing. Ughhhhh. 🙏🏽❤️
Welcome 🙏🙌☀️
Congratulations! I am very happy for you!
Faux husband. That is a perfect way to explain it. I had a faux wife lol thank you
I'm sorry you went through that, I'm praying for your healing
Great job lady!!
They pretend to respect you doing the love bomb , and when the disrespecting starts right in your face out loud you don't even know what hit you . Confused hurt crying . You don't understand what just happened ! That Narc is enjoying every minute of your confusion ! You think you are crazy knowing that you aren't !!!! Run faster than you can run , you better not look back because the narc will get you again !!! Great video again Andrew . Just about 12 months NO CONTACT !!! Safe , I'm safe Andrew ! I'm still in class getting all of this education so I can stay safe !! God bless you 😄. 🙏🕊️🎉💯
Thank you for sharing this beautiful message 🙏💯🙌
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone 🙏🙌🕊️👌😊. So welcome !
You nailed it Andrew. 100 correct in every way. Never let them back into your life, no good can come of it.
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N🚫 Contact is a superpower.
I have experienced the things you have mentioned in your videos everything I have experienced. Thank you Andrew I come to your channel everyday to learning and healing.
God help my child... Lead him my GOD cover up my children my GOD 🙏
I’m with you Eric ❤ I’m praying as well.
It has NEVER been better taking them back. You MUST believe this. 🙏
Will it get better...four wk out. I still wonder of him.....sick...as he called my son a cunt and swore at other one... Then took him back and he was sicker after grovelling and hoover
They are a predator from the beginning. He ignored my boundaries & I told him to start taking me seriously or else. Finally I had to go no contact because his words & actions didn't match up. And I'm gone if there is no respect.
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Andrew, your videos are helping me so much. I have gone from practically begging him to come back to feeling like I have saved my own life.
Do not over share!!
No forgiveness. It ended in DV charges and an order of protection. He will never come near me again. ....and it is surely driving him crazy. He sees himself as the victim. He is whining and complaining that I have tried to ruin his reputation. He doesn't even acknowledge his own behavior and that he has done this to himself!!! Healing sucks! I am so grateful for your channel Andrew! Thank you!!!
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Every word you are speaking is exactly my situation! I am almost in tears, thank you so much for your knowledge and wisdom!!!...💖
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Sooo true! They want to kill, crush, destroy even after it has ended.....I get no respect.
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The part about emails not replied and left you hanging on for days is so true, the arrogance and disrespect are what i felt about this person, thank you Andrew once again for speaking the truth.
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You are so I right.could have written your lesson.No respect in 34 years. Now living by myself, in my own home.
Many Thanks Andrew, my posture has changed, my mind set is balanced. Self care is a priority and I thoroughly enjoy my retirement now! Your reminders of what we have raised ourselves up from help every day. I look forward to your instruction each day, I believe I am caught up on most of your videos!!!
No retirement here. Can’t wait to expose the Narcs & parody their true foolishness ;)
Going to follow
Getting to where you are in life is my goal! Thank you for sharing🥂❤️😎
Agreed ! 💪👍😊
Welcome always 🙏💯🙌
Yet another superb video, Andrew. Thank you. My malignant narcissistic mother would ALWAYS delay responding to a text or email. She's been retired for 20 years, does nothing all day, and she never promptly returned nice, sweet emails or texts. After I didn't travel to see her recently, I was yet again 'ghosted,' even after multiple nice emails. That's when I found your videos, as I was trying to understand why this person, my own mother, was constantly doing this passive aggressive shit against me. Of the nine characteristics (five and you're a definitional "narcissist,") my mother clocks in at a solid seven. Zero compassion; no empathy; manipulative; disloyal; duplicitious. She's probably a sociopath. But I am done with her. It's been about a month since I wrote her off. Honestly, I feel great. I'm sure I have been written out of the will, but I'll take that, rather than be in her orbit any longer. I don't even want to punish her. I just want to go forward without this person in my life at all. Thanks again.
Welcome always 🙏💯🙌
Its been 14 years since i have written off her from myself and i can tell you that made me feel very good. Now i need to complete my write off my ex of 14 years. With Andrew's help i am almost their. So congrats to you. Stay strong and we are never alone.
@@denisguay4315 You stay strong, too. I am somewhat embarrassed it took me 51 years to 'write her off,' but I still have a few years left. I feel better each day. Residual anger and bitterness still crop up occasionally, but, overall, I've felt quite positive and liberated with the freedom from my mother, a truly mean, spiteful, toxic individual. And, yes, the videos do help considerably. I have found it reassuring that I'm not imagining this; that the narcissist is a personality type, with specific characteristics and behaviors. Andrew has described my mother to a 'T' in his videos. Take care and thank you for the thoughts.
Congratulations.
@@burntbacon7995 Thanks, Mr. Bacon.
Narcissists are sprinters, if they’re nice it’s not from long
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It's like Lucy pulling the ball away when Charlie Brown attempts to kick it. Every time.
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Freaking great one!!! Totally on point🤔🦶🏈
I was married to a narcissist over 2 decades and couldn't understand why all his actions and how he treated me a certain way. If I knew what I know now, I would've left a long time ago. I finally understand what/who a narcissist is now and I will never put myself respect & time for someone like that anymore.
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Amen! Good for you! 👏🏆
Another video that hits my soul!! I finally know my worth because of you and your videos. The lightbulb moments have been coming like crazy. This week since handing it all over to God at the altar , I am feeling the indifference for him that people talk about. There has been grieving but I cant dwell anymore . I went through cancer with this toxic man.
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I pray we all keep on going on our healing journey and grow stronger every day .
Truth, Andrew. Thanks for sharing. No respect, just devalued.
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Truth! No respect just devalued.
The lack of respect or rather the disrespect the narcisists are full of towards other people is absolutely stunning! They are just totally dumb. You can never win with those people so the only way out is to remove yourself from their presence, which in my case, is easier said than done, bur I do hope a day will come when they are all gone. God bless you Andrew ❤
You are so smart 🤓. Respect is beautiful ❤️🥰
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Thank you, Andrew. Anyone who continuously disrespects me(will probably never change), I avoid them as much as it is possible to do so.
I go 'no contact.'
Life's too short, not worth fighting for.
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Lack of respect was perhaps the most unsettling part of the relationship with the narcissist. It formed the basis for all others negative behaviors exhibited. A relationship is just not sustainable under these circumstances and without this basic tenet (respect). And, they KNOW they’re doing it; don’t EVER doubt that fact. Why subject yourself to such crappy treatment?!? Self-respect & boundaries are the answer. Anyway, happy to be out of the situation. 😰🤯🥺
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Everything you said is so true. I was blinded by this for 10 years making me feel i was the problem. He has broken me down drained me. But only recently started doing research and I now know how to deal with this. One step in the right direction I left.. Thank you.
It's always going to be about them , you and your life will ALWAYS be secondary !! Without the education most empaths will be reduced to desperately trying to regain the lovebomb phase by getting the narc's affirmation and approval ! They are unaware that the narc will NEVER be impressed , because they simply don't care ! That is the very definition of disrespect ! 🤨😎🙏
I went through this cycle constantly.
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@@brianlane9534 same
Yes, it's ALWAYS about them!
I can testify to this Andrew. Every SINGLE TIME I fell soft to hoovering, my ex (the narc) only got worse and worse. I thought I was crazy when it seemed he was going out of his way to hurt me. I refused to believe it. Even beginning to leave nuggets of his infidelity and doing things I've expressed disdain for not long prior. If you can leave, please do! It's never worth the mental and emotional anguish. Please practice self love and raise your self esteem
Ty. I left mine .two years it was. He was evil ..he text me out blue yesterday after four weeks gone. I blocked him...he tried ringing too.... And saw he then was ignored as I blocked him ( didn't realise he wasn't blocked) watsapp. Then saw his profile blank as I ignored him
Where were these kinds of men in my life? Because that is how I feel, you work things out! Because you don't want to lose the person you decided to live with. You are so right on with everything you said! I wished I would of found your channel before I did it again for a third time!!!
Gemini Dream...
Everything happends for a reason and at the right time!!
The Universe only throws an obstacle in your path when it knows you are ready to overcome it!!
Don t be sorry for nothing...like Andrew says, and very well...it was not your fault...you were loving...but you were being manipulated!!
But now you know!!
All that!!
And know you are back on your path!!
It hurts...a lot...and there is more pain ahead!!
Finding out that what you tought was love was nothing like that!!it hurts!!
I was in a 2 and half years relation with a woman to whom i loved like no one before!!
When her mask felt...it all came together!! Tryed everything to make it work!! But i was being discarted for a couple of months!!
And nothing i could come up with, would have worked!!
I was a tool!! I finally saw it!!
And it got mote excruciating...
Because after i left...it was 7 long months of crying, reliving backwords every second of the relationship!!
So i came across Andrew and a couple more sources of education about narcissists and it started my conscious healing process (that actually had started the moment i had the courage to leave her)...!!
And in that process of reliving the relation in my mind, the puzzle pieces got together!!
And you know what!?
All those discussions and fights we had, that sometimes made me stop and think...
Was it me my fault!!??
No...!!
I was giving...all my being, my effort, my best!! My time, my love!!
And all i was getting back, was a performance!!
When i left...going trough all that crying and anguish of loss, i went trough a moment of anger, vengeance even!!
And i investigated a bit!!
Only to find out, even then, she always had other sources of supply!!
Old boyfriends she kept in touch!!
Subtile things in social media...
Even was able to find out that, over our relation she bedded 2 guys!!
And that was the moment for me!!
That made me see...she was the problem!!
And altough it gave me the strenght to raise myself...it still hurts...because i was really in love!!
Still can t take out of my head when we were making love and she asked me, "dared" me to make a baby, knowing it was my biggest dream!!
3 days latter she bedded 1st guy!!
Still bleads...last hole in my heart...full of scars!!
But enough of me!!
Its not a linear thing or the same for us all!!
And if the Universe tought you needed 3 times around...it doesn t matter...!!
You are here now!!
You know now!!
You are getting educated about narcissists!!
You know better now!!
And like Andrew said...
You are free...and now its about you...you...and you!!
Accept that those scars made in you are there, but to make you stronger!!
I lie hurts a thousand times more than the TRUTH!!
And you know what they say...
You can lie or tell a story to anyone should you want...!!
But the truth only the storyteller knows!!
So think like this!!
YOU OWW THE TRUTH TO YOURSELF!!
DO THAT DON T LIE TO YOURSELF, AND YOU WILL BE JUST FINE!!
YOU SEE THOSE RED FLAGS...DON T GIVE THE BENEFIT OF DOUBT BECAUSE YOU NEED LOVE!!
TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS AND STAY AWAY!!
You feel something good...go with the flow!! Trust the Universe to send a real good man to your arms...and be patient!!
You need to...!! To heal properly!!
To get back...TRUST!!
BECAUSE FOR ME...THAT WAS (IS) THE BIGGEST LOSS AND DAMAGE A NARCISSIST DOES TO YOU...
THE ABILITY TO TRUST OPENHEARTHLY, WHEN YOU MEET SOMEONE YOU REALLY LIKE!!
Be well....trust the Universe...be patient and kind to yourself...its all about you know!!
And what s yours to be yet...is traveling to you at the speed of light!!
Be patient!! Love yourself...it wasn t you fault!!
Love from Portugal...
Namaste!!🙏🖤🤍🐺
@@alfredomateus8850 Thank you for you're post, I really needed to hear this. We seem to have had the same thing if you put that girl into a man! All I ever wanted was what she had. Someone who loved me so deeply I could feel it! I didn't care about piles money or fancy houses, cars, all I wanted was love that was as deep as mine is and that cost nothing.
Got cheated on by more than 2, from both previous husbands oh an I forgot, my very first love as well. I'm not sure about the one I'm in a marriage with now, but I have my suspicions.
I'm trapped now because he got really sick and being the idiot I am, I can't walk out on someone that's ill even though I feel like a roommate, not a wife. The universe has never been kind, never! Had a horrific abusive childhood, jumped straight into a horrible marriage. I had a child when I wasn't ready but he knew it would keep me from chasing after him when he didn't come home all night. These bastards/bitches use children like clubs! She probably thought you were going to leave which is why all of a sudden she wanted a child, to hold you in the relationship! That's also probably why she went bedhopping to make it happen fast. I don't know how anyone could use a child, a gift of love of two or it's supposed to be. And marriage is supposed to be for life in my opinion. Was I ever wrong!
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You know what Andrew? I’m gonna watch and learn all of your videos which are exactly so true about my ex. I’m so scared of him now. All the points that you mentioned were more than 100% true.
From what i have experienced the best thing to is, leave them cold and dont look back and take back your power. I had this problem my entire life, basically picked on , now i know, and had no clue that im an empath. Now i set boundaries and say no.
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Eone will make it so you can't leave them.Ive wanted too for years now.I due to no financial means to escape..I feel like his prisoner. Placed in his sick,mascistic,bondage. I tell him I want out,but I feel that's how he wants it to be.he holds the keys..and I continue to suffer..I just wish someone could help me get out and far,far away from this demon man!!..yet I have no one.the stuff he's done to me ,placed me placed in is far much worse than you or anyone could believe.honestly speaking.and embarrassing to tell .can anybody hear my suffering,feel my tears..I want to escape so bad..silently without his knowledge.the scars I've worn,inside and out I did not deserve to carry for 14yrs.....and I'm sick of my own self pitty...I'm sorry dear lord.
Hoovering took place in the form of yes - “i will CRUSH you”
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We as humans are really unique. But these mentally ill narcissists are not unique in any way. How do we rationalize that into our critical thinking 🤔?
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Thank you for all of the work you are doing on putting these videos together. Your messages are helping me understand and heal from an awful, toxic relationship with a narcissist abuser.
Perfect description...an appendage.
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Respect has to be earned. I give people a level of civility. Low, medium, or high. Once people have earned my respect well they get it.
Scary thought :"they might want to finish you off!"
Exactly! That's why I cannot forgive because it makes me feel like I'd be opening the door to continue as before. It's my boundary which people don't understand.
No respect ever,if fact it's now worse than it ever was! So on it goes,thanks Andrew for "highlighting" this,so it continues!!! For now.
Great description of what respect is or isn’t. No matter what your age you look for the red flags. Disrespect is one.
I allowed many Hoovers after I tried to leave. Only to get treated so much worse when getting back together.
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Welcome 🙏
Happened to me
.worse back second time..lasted three wk. Two years relationship
Thank you for all of your videos. My only sibling is a diagnosed narc. After decades of being used abused and losing over $200K that I invested in her and her children; She left me and our Mother for dead literally for dead I gave her two more chances after that. She then destroyed our Mothers Summer home with mold and tossing out valuable antiques. She called the police on me when our Mother wanted the keys to her own Summer home back The sibling Told the Police I was crazy and returned the keys to me in front of the Police. That was the last straw!
absolutely I was just mentoring a younger woman today and this was the exact topic ! 🙏 you are such a Blessing to so many Andrew.So thankful for individuals such as you to assist those on the road to recovery Blessings to all that continue to heal and create a better Life 💪❤️🙏
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They come back to finish you off. Tough love Andrew. Thank You! I rewatch your videos periodically to remind myself that I wasn’t imagining anything. They are monsters. Thank God I’m wide awake now. Sun is out, no fog anywhere in sight.
Good morning ☀️ Yes, the disrespect is real! I got a new job yesterday! I feel like I am on a new path finally. God bless! Stay strong 💪 warriors! 🎈🎁🎊💎✅
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Respect is my #1 top priority from now on
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Respect, part of the human condition……so, no common human decency, disrespectful and devaluing ppl, entitled, and a taker = a Narcissist. No respect in any way, shape or form. Ever. Fantastic pod cast. There was no addressing and there were NO boundaries. Disguising and Frustrating at a very high level!! This was exactly how it was!
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NO!!!!! That was a major reason for leaving.
Thank you for your great teaching. I have learned that accepting the Narc's hoovering is equivalent to death by a thousand cuts.
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What makes the narcissist think you ever respected them. Respect is earned.
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Yup! What you said Andrew, respect back brother! 💙✌🤗
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RESPECT- I remember the day Aretha Franklin passed- beautiful soul. And I deeply appreciate your podcast. Very respectfully, Leila
Self respect is key. No compromises. We certainly find out where our sell out of self is !
This is so true, first meeting the conversation is all about them. No boundaries as well, regarding sexual touching in public.
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So true❤💯🙏Thank you, strength, love, peace. Namaste💫🌠🌟🌟🌟
Namaste 🙏
The more I watch the more I learn
Love the way you explain this 💖
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They have no respect for anybody or anything in their environment. You are 100%correct, Andrew!
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Yes, and yes again. Thank you.
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This video could not have come at a better time. I know it's old, but it showed up on my timeline just in time.
Once again you are spot on. Thanks Andrew.
Respect is knowing your boundaries and using them!
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I went back after a Hoover and the abuse was worse than ever before! Biggest mistake of my life! Never again!
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Andrew I think we married into the same family because you (out of all the narcissist channels) are so spot on. You are very helpful, honest and it's as if you know ever facet of my story.
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Yep he hoovered me many times I don't respond his email goes to spam everything else is blocked totally but he continues to Hoover periodically I don't even look at it delete delete delete
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I was in a narcissistic marriage when I was very young and managed to break out of that marriage of 18 years. Now after a lot of soul searching and healing many years later my daughters from that marriage asked me too help my now ex to get to a the hospital for surgery.
So I agreed as a favor for my kids. Well, he tried proving he had changed and started schmoozing me but he hadn’t changed. I found that once a narcissist always a narcissist. I kept my distance until he revealed he was still a narcissist so I just turned tail and ran! This video confirmed everything that he was doing. Never never NEVER again will I even be friends with that man again!
They don’t respect you because you don’t love and respect yourself. Once you do the inner work (have a dark night of the soul), they leave you alone.
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Exactly, they come back to take more resources, take all the good out of you, 6 months or even a year passes by the narcissist comes back again
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Much love and respect to all!
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True. My friend ignored and did not respect me since the day we met
I’m just finding your channel and u are 100% correct! It’s sad when one’s entire family are narc’s. Letting your entire family GO, is undoubtedly difficult, but it must be done in order to have a healthy & happy life.
And I am so sorry that you have had to experience all this horrible treatment.
God bless you 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
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The DISRESPECT comes early and easy from them, time to let them go …. expeditiously!
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I am learning so much about this and told I am a Narcissist By my oldest? Yet everything you are saying and I see this behavior coming from them and my Ex-husband. I am a survivor of DV from him. I divorced him and stayed married out of fear and the kids. Now he’s deceased and the oldest daughter is angry he’s gone. He was such a manipulative person. I can relate to this video.
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Thank you for this 🙏🙏🙏