My Boyfriend Still Talks To His Ex... What Do I Do?
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In this video, dating coach Ryan Patrick describes what you should to if you're ever saying "my boyfriend still talks to his ex..." and how to deal with the situation swiftly and succinctly.
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Walk away. You're welcome.
Period
Shut up
@@koreaboo1437 shut up
thank you, I did
@@losersclub3693Update
I was engaged but I found out that my fiancé was talking to his ex and he still tells me that he didn't think it would bother me, what an idiot. I ended our engagement.
arlove all my respect for you!!!!!! A lot of women are aware this is bad but they still love the trash they are dating and feel bad to let go
My bf was talking to his ex too, regularly. I asked him why and he said that am petty, nagging and lack self-confidence. This crushed me because I didn't expect him to say that. To make matters worse, he compares me to her.
Betty Ogato hey l am sorry you are stucked with this trash. Time to dump him
@@bettyogato5760 you deserve better girl!!!
@@alice_in_wonderland9997 thank you!!! when you love yourself you don`t spect less from your partner, sometimes is better being alone just for mental peace
100% agree with you. If there's no children, there's no reason to stay in touch. Doesn't mean you have to be enemies but what is the point of being "close" with each other. Not to mention one party always still has romantic feelings. Just messy and unnecessary in my opinion.
💯 True!
The ex wants the door open so she can jump in the first opportunity. Never allow your guy to have contact the ex can’t be trusted.
I’m leaving my boyfriend & father of my son after I learned he’s been seeing his ex all the time lying to me about where he’s at....
We have same thoughts.
Im agree I experience that and I decide to end up, because my relationship to him is not healthy anymore, that's why I will focus on my self and and waiting for the right one
So many selfish people in this world. No love, no loyalty. What a mess.
Yep! I left 2 days ago and told him to just get back with his ex 😂
Omg I left mine 14 days ago except the different part is he made the choice himself to go crawling back to his ex
@@Blank123. he will regret it don't worry
Girl yes lol I'm moving to a whole other state haha byyyeeeee
Same. Just happen last night
Boys will regret in either way.
Guys never stop [cheating, flirting, etc...], they just find better ways to hide their garbage. Another great video! 🧡
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Right!
Honestly, even when they seem good. Just leave…
I had a boyfriend who met for coffee with a lot of his exes. I was never jealous. So when I broke up with him I said: Well we can at least meet for coffee". His answer: "No, I will not with you". This is because I cut off the relationship. What a NUT.
@@ShanaChow I guess it stroked his ego to know he broke their hearts, yet they still were willing to meet him. He bragged about it a lot.
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OMG, I’m dying 😂 Honestly, dude... you’re going to be such a great dad.
“HONEY, you don’t even want to know!” I love it.
I have this problem also. Forcing him to delete his ex's contact isn't sound right. This makes my love towards him slowly disappeared. 😞 If he cannot keep ex in the past and want to keep in touch with her, I will walk away.
Same
I had a bad breakup over this because he was doing it in secret and lying about it. I was gone for 6 months and he reached out to me continuing to say that it was her that reached out and needed help with a problem she was having (a one off)??
Yet, prior to this he told me he had broken up with her years ago because of drinking and never wanted to have anything to do with her. It was all lies.
Found out he was giving her money, paying closing costs on her property, giving money to her mother, and I also believe they officially never broke up. She simply moved in with her mother to take care of her 5 years prior. Here he was secretly acting like the boyfriend and taking care of her. She didn’t know about us. He kept that hidden. He was playing 2 sides of the coin. I don’t think he was over her.
i can't express how grateful I am for this video. finally someone supporting my view. I've been bashed by my own mother and friends around me for being controlling because I asked my boyfriend to delete his ex on Facebook. they all think I should be okay with that. but why should I be okay about it when I feel extremely uncomfortable and it's something I would never do to him?
THIS is the video I needed. No prevaricating, no superfluous material and words. Cold hard truth and you told us exactly what to say and how to say it. Just told my bf this yesterday. Feels good to advocate for myself and set boundaries. I gave him a week to figure it out. If he’s not willing to respect my boundaries of no longer communicating with his ex and her mom then I’m out. Thank you!
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It’s been a while… how’d it go?
Update needed
thank you very much, I doubted myself a little, because I demand that he stop communicating with the person who left a mark on his heart. But then for a while I realized that I was betraying myself and on his part this is disrespect for me, so I choose myself, it's cool how you know your own worth. I gave him a week to decide that he stopped communicating with her and cut off all ties, otherwise he will lose me once and for all, I want to be desired and the only one, no matter how much I love him, I will choose myself
You tell him but he'll always shut you off
I hold the same view. I believe it is inappropriate to be friends with former exes AND fwbs while in a relationship. I would never do that to my partner because I know it would create unnecessary and unhealthy suspicion. I would never want to do anything that makes my partner feel insecure. Thus, I expect the same from my partner.
I had to end a relationship because of this issue but it was for the best. Some people are okay with their partner being friends with exes and others are not. I am definitely not okay with it. Know what your standards and boundaries are and never settle for less people!
YES KING and I'm glad you include the fwbs anyone someone had sex with is an ex and people use that as an excuse too keep talking too them cause they think they aren't ex
I really like Ryan’s clear coaching. Straight shooter, absolutely no BS. Love it!!!!
Thanks Annie!! 🙂
@@datingcoachryanpatrick and also light hearted. I appreciate that when I'm taking myself way too seriously! Thank you Ryan x
OMG!!! Bang on! I just copied this link to send as extra support. And, then they go back and forth, hide their phones, lie, say they told her, think she knows, didn't tell her, etc.. Thank you for this and the conviction you put into it, Ryan. Wish it had been the first video I had ever seen!
Thank you! This was a huge pain point in my last relationship, I appreciate the honesty.
I had to convince him to unfollow all his exes, he unfollowed almost all of them. He called me a dictator and jealous. Wish he just understood that his behavior is stupid. He also talks to girls which he found through dating apps, but they're just "friends". Then why the f did you swipe each other because you're each other's types! It crushes my heart.
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Please broke up with him, he s trash. I know im a stranger but dont try to be the cool girl, one day he is gonna cheat and you re gonna get a broken heart, he does not respect you if he said that sh*t. Being "cool" with his behavior wont get you far..wishing you the best tho🤗🤗🤗
Man, I REALLY love your videos. So fresh and honest!
What to do? Let him carry on. Why would anyone want that back. Lol
My ex gf begged me to take her back but said she would still have to text her ex who confided in her like no one else... i blocked her from my life.. boom !
Are you a guy or a girl?
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I should've watched this months and months ago he cheated on me and accused me of being jealous saying i got nothing to worry about oh she's just a friend then he left me for her first of all im not jealous of a girl that doesn't love herself
I’m the ex that got contacted and his girlfriend reached out to me asked about the conversation and I told her what happened and told her to leave, I said he did the same thing to me.
I broke up with my boyfriend last Monday. We dated for 10 mons. Our relationship went well, I met his family and all relatives, the thing went smoothly. His Parent honors me as a member of the family... I was getting excited about the future with him. In the last 3 mons. He starts to break our date sometimes, not keep up to see me every Saturday. He said it sound stupid to follow my expectations. Start to have some weird attitude as Irritable, anger, depression, argue, fighting, shouting... Distant me. Many red flags show up. And I found out that be still dating and talking with his Ex never stop from beginning dated me. He admits that. BUT said. He and his Ex only friend. I am very Shock, he as creating me and betray me, after 7 days broke up. He still texting me but very less. And I don't reply to any messages from him. I don't want suffering and worries. What are they doing behind my back? I am in extreme shock. Tell me if I did the right decision?.
Kim Vo You definitely did the right thing. It’s never healthy to stay in a relationship with someone who doesn’t even care how you would feel about their actions. Let him regret it by ignoring him completely and focusing on your own happiness.
It’s completely right decision from the pain I got with my husband it’s toxic relationship I suffered a lot
You made the right decision ✌
You was right
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We dated almost 2 years and i was caught him that he still connected to his ex . He told me he still cared becuase they been together almost 5 years . I was speechless and i was learned how to accept and contented .
When the ex don’t leave him alone and his moved on ....... the new girl needs to put boundaries. Specially if the ex is also a narcissist.
I love your videos Ryan. I most definitely love this one !! ♥️ I know I wasn’t crazy or jealous when I told my ex exactly what you just said. that it did make me uncomfortable and that he had to choose. I can’t put up with that kind of disrespect. ♥️
And he brings her home, spend days with her . He says that he did not lie to me, he just didn’t tell me, because I will react this way. SHE IS JUST A FRIEND, but I can’t let you my friend ! Awesome!!
Whether it's an ex girlfriend that a guy is hung up on, or hes a cheater, or something else is going on that makes him emotionally unavailable, the result is always the same: heartbreak. It's best to just get out of the relationship. You can tell when a guy is really into you, and when he is not.
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Im a little glad im crazy and hesitant. Sometimes I wish there was sure signs so I could just exit. ...Love hurts 😔. If I saw things like this, he'd make a change in front of my face. What he does behind my back. Idk. But I dont assume it could be much considering his situation. And if its flings, then idk. Shes a heffer getting off on the small things. Im not sure what I won. I just haven't caught sh. ... yet. I remember asking some females would it bother them to screw someone w/ a females name tatted to him. Some replied no. 😵😟 wtf, thatd bother me. I wouldn't even be able to get that persons name out my head. Id be constantly questioning him!!!
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This advice brought tears to my eyes, you just nailed my situation, and I’m going to take your advice and do exactly as you’ve said. Thanks a lot.
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Omg! Spot on. My boyfriend before and his ex lives together on the same house. And They don’t have kids. That’s why he dumped me because he said I’m overly dramatic because of jealousy and he cannot feel connection in me.
sis the delusion 🙄🙄🙄 he don't deserve you period
Lol it isn't jealousy, you are simply protecting your boundaries. And he doesn't understand what boundaries mean.
So much helpful!!! Love your advice ! Thank you!
Effing Right! Amen! Thank You ❣️
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My ex fiancé maintained a close friendship with his ex. They worked together, had lunch together, he confided in her about our relationship, she watched his dog when he visited me (we were long distance.. states away). He insisted we all double date. She had a partner and he was all cool about this friendship. My fiancé’s family invited her to all family events from Thanksgiving to Xmas and weddings. He insisted on inviting her to our wedding too and all of his ex girlfriends including some friends with benefits. He told me that after we married, he would invite them all to our bbqs and parties. It was becoming unbearable. He said I was “crazy” and “unreasonable.” They had no children together. In the end, he broke up with me over the phone because he said that he didn’t want an instant family (I had two small children and he had never been married. We were 48). I don’t know what happened with him and his ex girlfriend but I assume he is still single and this is probably one of the reasons.
LOL you’re so awesome! Great content 🙌🏼👍🏻
Yes, this was happening with my most recent ex and his ex-wife. So much denying, siding with her and disregarding my feelings. Calling me jealous etc. He basically said she is his best friend. What about me? He got very defensive. I finally ended things after feeling taken for granted all this time and I feel relieved that I'm going to have my old stress-free life back. It's not worth it.
Just what I needed. I'm subscribing for this one. 😔👌
I wish someone could tell me the easier way to move on it just hurts like hell
You’ll be fine, it’s hard but it will end at the end of the day. Time heals everything
You explained it perfectly.. that's exactly what I'm talking about.. thank u
This is some hard but necessary truth very much needed feeling emotional.
Great video!!!!!!
He was, I didn’t like it. He’s showing loyalty to her and not you. Ultimate disrespect. I tried not to let it bother me. They ended up doing something. Maybe they always were. Now I’m his ex. It’s never ok. Never allow it.
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I have so much respect for you 🔥
I just broke up with my boyfriend he told me he wasn't ready to let her go so i let him go lol. Its bye forever on to the next guy . thank you ryan Patrick for saving me
Love your vid
This is spot on! Going through this right now!
Same! I’m going through this right now too! Can’t believe it. He said it feels controlling to him. I said to him he of course can still talk with his ex, but I’m sorry I will have to leave. He said I’m giving him ultimatum.
@N J I don't think it's an ultimatum, it's a boundary. People will only do what you let them do
Good idea on this video.
Love love love!!!
Thank you for this video !!! I’m encountering this with my boyfriend .. she moved across country but they are on Snapchat and friends in Facebook .. .. she lived with him for 6 years and he says that he’s over her and doesn’t want me her young children to move in snd that was the problem .. ugh
10000000 thank you!!! ❤️
Excellent video. Shockingly there are numerous psychologists on youtube rationalizing keeping the ex's around when there are no kids. What a mind game huh?
You nailed it.
Thank you for this
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Thank you
Omg i was just cracking up. I love you. I said oh hell no. What about fb? Baby's mama? I dated another narcissist for 8 years...im now playing now. If they don't treat me right next!!!!
Haha I laughed so hard. Your facial expressions pretending to be the girl 😂.
Tnx a lot
I am in love with this guy!!!!.😂
Love this. Thank you, Ryan ❤️
i spoke to my boyfriend that i didn’t like him talking to his ex but he still does it and i broke up with him for it because it was consistently. Now he’s apologizing for it one part i wanna go back other i dont. i dont know what to do
khadsinthecut been down this road. There’s a reason he keeping contact. If your thinking of getting back with him . You need to find out if he’s in love with her.
Depending how long ago they broke is also key . To why he feels the need to talk to her.
It’s really disrespectful to you. If he living the pass . He can’t build a future with you.
My X couldn’t stop talking to his X . I told him it was disrespectful and make me uncomfortable. The reason I was uncomfortable. Was because my gut feeling was right. He was seeing her behind my back.
To this day he wants back. But he’s still around her. I’m not being someone back up plan.
khadsinthecut RUN, he will repeat bad situation again and over again, you don't need to stay at an unhealthy relationship, love yourself you deserve to have a great life and happy with your pure love.
Kim I totally agree! My x took years away from me. I even lost the chance to date a great guy. They will string you along and monkey branch back and forth.
Most time their emotional unavailable! Find someone who’s a 100% into you.
A K literally what im going through
Have you ever met her or talked to her.
I ask my X if I could meet or talk to his X .since she’s a important part of his life. He asked why!
So I can become friends with this other important women in his life.
You know what his answer was!? I can’t do that ! I asked why . He ignored me and switch subject. He is very protective of her. His best friend not even allowed to talk to her unless he’s around . Funny thing is they went to school together. But his best friend can’t have her number. I even talk to his best friend in private. He has no problem with that.
So there’s definitely something he’s not telling me. I no longer trust him.
I would leave him alone ! Work on yourself! Don’t waste time on someone who’s confused! I lost a good man by trying with my X . Invest in someone who’s 100% into you
when u tell him that u don't like his conversation with his ex en he start shouting, saying when u keep on talking about his ex then I want him to got back to her
Fortunate Namara They’re not worth keeping. Let them get back to their ex and focus on yourself. He’ll wonder why you aren’t chasing.
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Hi Ryan! A question regarding this situation (obviously mine): I can't really seem to find a reasonable advice for excactly this anywhere? Here goes: If a man used to be with a woman who had kids (not his kids), they broke up, he now has a new girlfriend (me). He still wants to have contact with the kids (whos mother are dating a new man). Do you think the kids would be better off still having this ex(man) in their future life, plus their mothers new boyfriend, and do you think the man's current relationship (mine) would be better with or without him having contact with his ex's kids (not his kids) in the future? Would you look at this situation the same way as if this man and his ex did have kids to raise together (as you mentioned as the only reason for a man to still be in contact with his ex), or is this situation different, with them both having new partners in their lives?
To make things even more confusing: We both have kids from earlier relationships, who naturally are getting to know eachother.
I would love to hear your thoughts about this. Maybe things will be more clear, as I don't know what to think or how to deal with this situation.
Xoxo MissM.
Everyone is going to tell you to walk away, but their opinion is nowhere near as important as how you CHOOSE to think and feel.
I don't care if a million people all tell you the same thing. You draw the border and decide the boundary, and empower yourself!
And then he speaks with her behind your back. It never works so leave full stop
Ok so I’ve been dating this boy for a while and I love him, he loves me, it’s been like a year and a half since his ex and him broke up. But today I was in his room looking at the notes of mine he has pinned up on my wall, and somehow I never noticed but there’s one from his ex next to them. It’s a Christmas note that says I love you and shit and it has to be a good 2 or 3 years old. Is this a bad sign? It’s still on his wall! Next to mine ! I don’t know what to do.
So true
Yes sir!
I've been struggling with this for more than 3 years wherein my husband keeps talking to his ex-wife secretly almost everyday when he goes to work and even sending money to her, they don't even have children, they have been divorced for more than 15 years despite of the previous relationships he had after his divorced. I found out when I got curious with my dreams for 7 days that my husband is talking to woman, so I got curious what my dreams is telling me, when he got home from work I tried to see his phone and I found 1 hr 5 min. talked, its a long conversation isnt it? he deleted but he did not know I saw it already and copied and the worst thing he said he has OT. I feel frustrated and totally disrespectful. He promised but the following they talked again 3x a day. I can't imagine.
Set him free
Set him free
mine has been “finalizing his divorce” and they have to talk etc and it still bugs me it should’ve been done over a year ago
What about dogs? My bf and his ex have been doing shared custody of their 3 dogs since they split. It seemed very odd to me. I feel at some point they will need to figure who will get the dogs 🤷♀️
Wtf??? Lmao
@@eveningowl9443 😂
After 15 months of dating someone with kids and getting close to them, my now ex boyfriend informed me he was going on a vacation with his mom, his kids, his ex girlfriend, his ex's husband and their kid ... they do not share kids. I can't figure out the weirdness to save my life. Is she an ex, a sister, BOTH? 🤢
Ryan! I only just recently discovered your videos and I’m so happy with all the content you’re delivering. I wish I’d found them sooner! Whether I’m looking for a relationship or not, I love your energy.
This video made me think of a situation I was in with a past relationship, so I’m curious to hear your thoughts on it.
My boyfriend had a FWB thing going on with his best friend’s sister some time before we got together. I found out about it a couple months into the relationship. Even though he said it was over, for a long time, I couldn’t help but feel super uncomfortable whenever she was around. But what could I do? She was his best friend’s sister! ...so she was around a lot. In a lot of ways it made me feel like I couldn’t trust him, not just with other women, but with the way he handled his social situations in general.
Going forward, what’s the best way to deal with feelings of jealousy or distrust in future relationships?
My best friend is a guy I used to sleep with years ago we never dated just slept together. So what are your thoughts on this?
My boyfriend keeps talking about how he and his ex are best friends and how they hang out..😬
@pinkandlavender i agree
Oh noooooooooooooo
Don't let that ruin a relationship, instead meet his ex and join the friendship. Just because their friends doesn't mean there doing anything wrong. Respect his right to friendship, and love him anyways. Trust him and allow him to make some of his own choices. That is apart of what true love is.
@@etsap1236 Thats why your still single
@@karmaisreal9094 Im not single. I have a boyfreind i have been with for over a year. Im completly ok with him being freinds with his exs, heck im freinds with his exs. I know it seems suspicious but you cant blame them for your lack of trust. I would never just throw everything away over that. Instead of just leaving someone the moment theres one hicup, will leave you with no one. Real love take work, and requires an effort to fix things you may not be comfertable with. so if you are uncomfetable with a spouse talking to an ex, either talk to them about it or learn to accept the fact people have the right to freindship.
Very true
My fiancé of 5 years Nd we have 3 kids I just found out he talked to his ex 3 times this summer ... she was going around asking his friends how he was so he reached out and I looked threw his call records and saw it smhhh I reached out her too and she said it was meanless convo .... but I gave him his ring back and I can’t get over it I’ve been crying for days idk want to do help
I'm 51. The guy I was dating does this. Made his teenaged kids and her dinner every night, went on week long vacations together, every holiday...etc. He called it co-parenting I call it being divorced husband. Finally he said hes not capable of giving me what I want...but added he still wanted a sexual relationship. Um no boy...grow up! Theres no room for anyone else in a situation like that.
Could be triangulation as part of manipulation and control tactics.
...what if they work together in the same office, being friends before couple and have the same group of friends..? 😔
What about if he still talks to his female friends that he slept with but didn’t have a relationship with?
I’ve been dating my bf for a year and a half. He lives with two grown women. I just found out from one of his roommates that he was FWB with the other roomate. He lied to me about it. I’m not even sure how to bring this up. I was felt like something was weird about that situation. She flashed him, he talked about buying her things, he would buy me something and buy her some thing as well. Now I’m neglected.
Do yourself a favor and walk away its not worth it my recent bf still talks to his ex
But I know someone who talks about his ex and he is over her.
Thank you. This distinction needs to be raised.
@@keithmurray5791 two dumb asses
What about if it was a past crush? They didn’t date but he used to have feelings for her. He blocked her to move on but since they’re in the same friend group he couldn’t avoid her so he unblocked. But now they’re just close friends (talk and hangout), should I be concerned?
yeah
And they actually chart 24/7 when he wakes up until when he sleeps at night and i told him to stop chatting with her and all he says is no i can't because she understands me more than you do what do you you have to do then instead of just watching
Hello noo what are you still waiting for. Girl run
Update???hhh
My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and a half and at the beginning of our relationship he was still catching up with his ex girlfriend (his ex and I know each other) and I felt really insecure. Since he met her, she had been opening up to him a lot about her family problems and that's mainly why they kept on talking to each other every now and then after they broke up. The problem was that he didn't tell me about her in the first place and I found out by accidentally looking at his phone when she texted him. Then, we talked about it and he told me that he wanted to help her feel better since he knew she was going through a tough time. I stepped back as I felt sorry for her. Three months later, her brother texted me and asked me to go out with him and his sister. Assuming that we hardly knew each other, his texting me was so weird. Also, he started telling me about his sister and how well she was doing with her studies and dance lessons. I started feeling so awkward and then I decided to have an honest conversation with my boyfriend, which evolved into a huge fight. He showed me their messages and I found out that he was too emotionally supportive towards her (I mean they didn't communicate like normal friends do) and the most frustrating of all.. he hadn't told her that he was in a relationship with another girl! Since then, he stopped catching up with her because he realized that he was wrong and he didn't want me to feel insecure and jealous. Even though this happened a long time ago, sometimes I still think about it and compare myself to her... Can you help me?
He stopped while u r the luckiest girl ever.mine is still talking to her ex and I went through his phone and his ex is telling him that he is not over him and she is struggling to move on and he is not even telling her about me he just said we have to talk and he is still putting it like he is alone but have no time now but busy with work.dont compare yourself with her is not easy just let it go otherwise it wl ruin what you have now.
@@challotmolf I hope you get through the "ex problem" as well and have a healthy relationship with your partner... I guess you will have to talk to him about it without referring that you went through his phone because he will feel that you don't trust him. Start a general coversation about your past and see how he reacts.
Don’t put up with disrespect. Always know your self worth. Never Downgrade yourself for someone else.
My boyfriend has 2 exes, both for 1 month and ldr so they never met in person. We're 7 months now and ldr too. He still cares for his exes, and he admits he still loves his last ex. We fought about it a lot and he just tells me its a different kind of love. He hasnt moved on yet . But he said he loves me and he wants to be with me. Its so hard, i have to understand him. I dont want this but i cant just tell him to stop feeling what he feels as he too doesnt have control with it. What should i do?
@@ogbidisylvester5582 im not gonna make someone a rebound. Im not gonna be like him. Nobody deserves to be a rebound.
You deserve better don’t put up with disrespect
I just want add an alternate point of view. While it's true that most people in contact their exes for sketchy reasons, I've had some relationships where a partner is still friends with an ex, and they they have become good friends of mine, even after my initial contact with the guy has drifted off. The key is, i think, is when the ex is not hidden from you and you even get to meet them in a positive context it's less likely to be harmful. People approach things differently and when a guy is respectful of his ex, i feel that he will be respectful to me. I am close friends with a guy i used to date, and tbh we should only ever have stayed friends as there was no physical compatibility. All i want for him now is to meet a good woman, and when he does, depending on how she feels about it, i am fully prepared to keep a respectful distance because i want them both to be happy. Just my take on it.
My boyfriend of almost 2 years now, talks to exwife occasionally, they were together for 14 years, so i feel like i dont have a say whether i like it or not…
Of course you have a say, you always have a say. Speak now or regret not doing it sooner!
Update???
I will do this tonight
He was secretly meeting his ex. As I realized it, I left him immediately
Well for me it’s very difficult to say if it’s okay or not, he has a child with her but they had a history of abuse and mostly her to my partner (example: keeping the kids away from him, spreading lies), now suddenly she’s hitting him up making small talk and asking personal questions.. I don’t know, if you have advice, feel free to comment on this
My boyfriend had been talking to his ex girlfriend for years. She's not over him. He says they're not friends. But she'll still message him and tell him she loves and misses him. He and I have been dating 4.5 years. They broke up a little over 5 years ago. She finally got a new boyfriend about a year ago and told my boyfriend a few months ago "we can't talk anymore." I said clearly she had bad intentions the whole time! Even when she seemed "ok" and he was trying to give her another chance. She told him she missed his d--- for crying out loud! How was that not an instant block? He finally blocked her this past July...after I insisted on it. 😒
He said he was afraid she'd kill her kids if he stopped talking to her. I said, no she's not going to kill her kids. He said then maybe she'd kill herself. I just gave him a look.
Yes shes not over him
Alright, so we’re just hooking up but I think we like each other a bit more than we should. He still talks to his exes and he’s also shown them to me and they’re these absolute godlike women. He’s also super into sending nudes etc. and I’ve always been more into the real thing, it’s not doing much for me. But he said he’s done this with his ex as well and honestly idk what to think… Makes me feel uncomfortable and pressured to do something I don’t really like but I think he’s into it regardless of his ex. But it makes it weird that he’s done that with his ex too. Just invites comparison… Also, I’ve been struggling with EDs and body dysmorphia for about a decade so I’m not super into this randomly taking sexy pics thing cause I don’t feel attractive all the time…
I’d like some input from some kind strangers.
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My boyfriend talks to his ex constantly, sends her pictures all the time and sometimes they send eachother selfies. He' s tried to (or has) facetime with her when im not around. He still has small gifts from her and letters from when he was in jail. I was okay with them talking, they were friends since childhood and dated a long time. I try to be understanding but some of it makes me uncomfortable. When i asked if he still had feelings, he was adament about them being better friends than dating (it was an abusive relationship). Its been almost three years and she still seems too important to him in my opinion, am i being blind? I really don't know how to or who to talk to about thia. Its my first relationship, so I'm not familiar with how far these ex friendships should go and whats appropriate.