"What If My Boyfriend Still Talks To His Ex?" Q &A | RetroactiveJealousy.com
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- Опубліковано 29 жов 2020
- In today's Q & A video, I respond to a jealousy sufferer who is concerned that her boyfriend still talks to his ex.
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It is extremely difficult to be “just friends” for sure
My bf is still friends with his ex, I saw her leaving his house I'm leaving him
Oh fuck that!
I'd leave too!
I would have
Ex mean ex. I found out the man I was dating was keeping contact with his ex. I cut him out my life. I refuse to be an option or being played with.
@@ahzhane10 ME TOO BRO THAT'S WHAT I DID AND THEY'RE STILL CLAIMING THEY'RE THE VICTIM LIKE...
My ex BF excuse was he didn't have any other friends except his exes. He also said everyone in his life meant the same to him, so I didn't have any priority over them. One of them years later had a fling with him while he was still married. Another had an ex that needed saving ALL THE TIME. On flip side I had an ex contact me again and we together again and he left his wife so I can safely say IF THEY STILL TALKING TO EXES IT LIKELY NOT GOING TO END WELL FOR YOU!
He's a narcissist. Lose him.
Leave the person they don’t respect you
That’s certainly one option.
@@ZacharyStockillthat’s certainly THE opinion!
Logic, understanding, accepting… blah blah blah… look at the mess in the world of love! Loneliness and anxiety rule this century. Congratulation to logic!
@@pigramentebambino7117 What a great attitude. Hope it's working well for you.
Leave him
Sometimes, that’s the right choice.
I got in a relationship with a guy and he called it off after he was the one who made it official. He stated he wasn't truly over his ex. I respected it but he tried to keep me on the side for when she expressed she was truly over him. He's caused issues between us and runs and tells her everything after wanting to continue in a relationship with me. He threw a tantrum and deleted her off social media when I explained since there were no boundaries I'd remove myself. Now he's added her back and they indirectly make fun of me together and flirt. He claims I'm overreacting but trust me I'm far done with he and his ex. She can have em.
Good for you 🙌🏽
@Ms. Tay crazily I'm in a new and healthy relationship and now that same ex is dating his brother and lives in the same house lollll. Why does God want us connected is what I'm wondering smh. 🤔 I'm not even from here and it's a completely different city and she ends up already with the brother before I started dating my dude. So strange
Going through something very similar with my wife and her ex. I'm done.
@@jazeerenee7539i hope when he wants contact with you , yo dont cheat on your current boyriend roo
My man and I are not even friends on Facebook. He won’t allow it.
This kind of situation is toxic enough especially when you are the wife, the men is your husband..and the ex obviously his ex wife. When they still emotionally connected you are f* up. One, two, three red flags just walk away!
Lol mine if friends with every woman he has been with. Lol to the extent of making some his "sisters" so you can't question him about anything.
Exactly same situation like the lady described. My bf was doing this for a year a d the was abusing him for 8 years! They broke up 3 to and texting on Instagram for 2 but we are together for a year now! He told me he was not thinking. Like wtf? She is writing to him like they are friends, advising, the is crying on his shoulder like how come?
I think ur answer to this issue is so much better than a lot others on UA-cam, definitely deserve more likes !
I also have a similar situation, and I am in a dilemma as to what to do... I found out that my husband keeps in touch with his ex through text and when I confronted him he told me that they are just friends. Although I found it weird that he did not tell me about it, I said it was ok as long they are just friends.. but there was another instance where he told another friend that he drinks so that he could miss her sometimes, this changed something in me and now I wonder if I should have told him that I am uncomfortable with him talking to her. :(
Wow. You already have your answer. What more do you need?
No not you
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I dnt block or safe my exes numbers. If they ask me whts up i just reply and thts about it. If im in a relationship i will tell them. And they always wish the best for me. But if they mention they still have feelings for me i ignore them. One ex texted me tht he is coming bck from overseas and i said cool, hope you get here safely. And then he said he hope to see me. I replied "out of respect and love for my bf it is best we dnt" end of convo. Can someone tell me i did something wrong? Did i entertain him? Coz my bf (now ex) said i entertained him.
Based off what you wrote this seems reasonable
Funny how men are so jealous but they do all kinds of dodgy stuff.
My boyfriends ex messages him most days of the week. He says it's platonic but she's always updating him on her life. I've voiced to him that I'm uncomfortable and that there should be boundaries but I'm finding it hard to see if he does give her boundaries.
Leave. They still have attachment. If you voiced to him how you feel and he hasn’t taken that into consideration, it’s much more then that Ijs 🤷🏽♀️
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In my case it is about the guilt and the ex with mental issues. I don’t like this and he won’t even tell me what is her name, I don’t trust him he says he deletes the conversations with her because he doesn’t want to see the chat there
My situation is kind of difficult. My boyfriend and I got together after he got divorced. His ex is horrible. They got divorced, She cheated on him, got married to that guy and is pregnant now. But my boyfriend would...run to her when she would have an issue in her new relationship and I found him to be more interested in what was happening with them than with us. I started to watch these videos about retroactive jealousy. But if I've explained his actions hurt me and he still talks to her and fawns over her....I don't think the problem is my retroactive jealousy. Right? It's his actions of choosing her over me. Not making me a priority or hearing my feelings how she uses him. They have kids together. And I would never step in between that, but I felt like every excuse was "It's for the kids" even though she knew our relationship business and I would hear all of her drama. I'm trying to look for some guidance. Is it I really have retroactive jealousy or is he not placing the correct boundaries and still in love with her? Please help.
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"Correct boundaries" 100% need but the real problem is they didnt hate each other enough. Sometimes "hate" is a good and wonderful "thing" believe me
Ask him.
Don't worry you guys, we broke up. Lol it was because he wasn't over her...
@@jjc1439update?? cheaters deserve eachother
I tried to get on with his ex she kept bringing up their past sex life which I found so inappropriate and my boyfriend doesn't care and doesn't matter if I get on with her or not
I'm seeing a guy who was with someone for 5 years
and they shared a dog together. And he still sees her sometimes to see the dog. I guess that's reasonable but given their history I'm so uncomfortable with that. Am I wrong for feeling this way?
really good view on the issue. its not always black or white.
The guy im dating is currently on a 10 day holiday with his ex for his birthday. They have a key to eachothers houses, he drops everything to run errands and do diy jobs for her. She cooks food for him and has sleepovers, but 'she sleeps on the couch' of course 😒 He told me all of that with no hesitation. He talks about how great she is all the time.... i dont understand why they even split up. They dont even have any children together. I really like him and he seems to really like me. I cant find a video that relates to my extreme scenario. I feel like i fooling myself but he makes me feel like a fool for feeling this way. I need some advice.
How about taking everyday? Should they talk everyday?
If you’re asking for my personal opinion: I would find that a bit odd/off-putting.
I talk to my ex(ish) everyday if there's questions you would like to ask from my perspective feel free.
What if it's your husband
I decide to broke up to my bf because he still love the ex gf, they blocked her but she had a communication because of the friend, I'm become toxic to my relationship, that's why I decide to broke up to him me the ex and the friends is from philippines the guy is from new york
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my boyfriend has this girl that he was with a while ago on all of his social media and he says that it is just because they are friends and that she sends him tiktoks and stuff but i learned that she cheated on him and thats the reason why they broke up and he told me that he has moved on and forgiven her and that it doesnt matter anyways because she has a bf but like :/ has she not cheated before she would definitely do it again
and when i asked him to remove her he did (not happy about it though) and i guess they had a conversation about it before he did and she said that i was stupid and crazy for making him do it
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@@ashieluvsuupdate
I don't understand why my boyfriend keep texting and going to his ex's house and when I asked him he said he just want to play her because she broke his heart.... But then again his ex want him to make a promise if she should wait for him or not and he said yes...... But why is he not leaving me? I don't understand that 😭😭😭please help me because I am confused I don't know what I should do 😭
Update?
My boyfriend texts his ex and tela her that he loves her. He denies that he has contact with her and continues to lie about it. I’ve asked him if he still has feelings about her and he says no. He keeps denying it but continues to tell her he loves and misses her. I don’t know why he continues to be with me if he loves and misses her so much. I have been thinking about what to do for weeks. I love him and it’s hard to think of letting him go. The relationship we have is great but it hurts to know he sneaks to text her. He says he hates her but still runs to text her
You're a rebound girl. He ended a relationship where he was in love, didn't give himself enough time, and his head is not in the new relationship with you. Almost guarantee you that when he has sex with you and closes his eyes, he pretends you're his ex and imagines his ex. I know this because I'm a guy and I've been in those shoes 4 years ago. I never did cheat nor communicate with my ex, but I also never had much "relationship energy" and effort to put into the new relationship, because fact is I was not over the previous and it took me about 1.5 years before my head had 100% moved on. I was the breaker of the original relationship btw, due to long term compatibility issues we had
@@celnaz that relationship ended probably the week I wrote this. I’ve actually met someone very nice and we are taking things slow I realized we just weren’t compatible in many different ways and when I looked at everything I didn’t even love him just the idea of him . I let him go and be with the lady he loves and wish him the best
@@Looopita How did he react to your breaking up with him? Wondering if he felt anything for you because I've been broken up with in a relationship where I wasn't in love and dreaded moving forward with the relationship, and when she told me we're breaking up I felt relieved like a heavy backpack was taken off my shoulders...
@@celnaz he could care less...no emotion
Omg! This sounds so much like my X . He couldn’t let go ! Said their were just friend . I found out the hard way . Caught him! Left only to have him jump back into my life couple months later . He tried hooking up with me behind her back. So now I know what they were doing behind mine. He said she’s didn’t care if he hooked up with other female. I said that’s her …not me!
It really hurt to walk away . I trusted him ! But I had to think of myself. I got back into fitnesses! I’m working on me. I don’t need a emotional unavailable guy bring me down.
He tried to contact me last week . First thing he wanted was to hook up. Guess his girls isn’t keeping him happy. I walk away from the solution . I will no longer allow any man treat me like that again
Hi guys, me and my boyfriend we decided to block our ex's on social media but it seems he didn't buy the idea. He is talking to his ex sometimes and now his ex is becoming too much. Heart messages everywhere
Why are you withhim ?
My bf talks with his childhood exes . When he was 14 or 15. And those relationships were last just for 3 or 4 months . Nd they actually didn't have such strong feelings for each other . Apparently those exes were also his friends . So they didn't break their friendship but the relationships were very silly nothing serious . But I have to mention it that my boyfriend talked one of his childhood ex in WhatsApp so that I can't come to know it . He did it behind my back . Is it okay . Should I keep this relationship or should I break this up
Same 😔
I'm Still holding on even it hurts a LOT 😔
@@mokongespina6887 it's really painful
Anything done in a secretive manner is a red flag to me - and very hurtful
Update guys and ladies?
My boyfriend won't stop talking to his ex. They don't have kids together but he still allow her to take his kids out despite me telling him I'm uncomfortable with it. His ex talk I'll about me to his family and i told him to block her since they have no attachment but he fail to do so. I think I'm on the verge of breaking up with him. This has been going on for a year now.
What if it's for work?? They're both musicians. They're having Gig's and it makes me sad but my boyfriend keeps on reassuring me that it's all about the work nothing else serious.
Am dealing with the same issue. They own a salon together. So they work every other day together. I hope you found answers for what you are looking for.
Do u talk to the man give them advice about their ex OR Just give up
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No reason for her to talk to him. That's BS
Could be.
After kid's are grown no reason.
Thanks for your thoughts.