Signs You're Dating the Wrong Guy
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- Опубліковано 1 вер 2019
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In this video, dating coach Ryan Patrick gets deep about the signs you're dating the wrong guy and how he can slide under your radar so you don't see how bad he might actually be for you.
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If you’re researching videos like this , you already know he’s the wrong one
Alyssa Mohammed 😱🤔🤭👍🏼
#truth
True 😔
Yeah now I know...
Well that saves time lol.
My ex made me feel I wasn’t good enough. Now he wants me to take him back. I said No.
I’m happier without him in my life.
Yes!! Same. Glad you moved on! 😄
Did you ever take him back?
@@faithlala8741 nope
Men suck sometimes
Need a psychology degree to get in a relationship now
Me too
I have a Psychology degree and I still got sucked into a narcissistic relationship!
Denise Siddon hahah
😂😂😂
Yeah🤣
Boy do I wish they taught this in school! Your videos cover so many important life lessons ~
Thanks Diana! Yes, I like to think some of this stuff is important lol 😄
I agree on so many levels!!!
It'd have saved me a lot of heartache. My mother was no help!!
I'm thankful Ryan Patrick, for your wisdom. It hurts to know these signs, but your honesty is appreciated 💘
100% I couldn’t agree more
His energy is grumpy and heavy, as if he has problem with the whole world! and you are right I felt drained eventually.
musima41 Exactly.
musima41 I was with a guy like this and never again
I even tried being friends with him. It just doesn’t work
Two years into the relationship and he says he can't afford a ring, yet. I said I don't need a ring, but he insists. Then, he spends hundreds+ on toys for himself.
Yess same here .. just dumped his ass
Is it wrong to watch these videos even though you feel like he is doing his part and you’re doing your part and the both of you are happy? I mean it’s always good to learn this information.
We live in a patriarchal, sexist society. Until we learn to treat each other properly these problems will continue. Knowledge is power. Get out of bad relationships.
Rebecca Jones No we don’t. Women entering the workforce has actually hurt young men. Mothers have a major influence on boys.
@@lars1296 Women were forced to enter the workforce when the men went to war. All women had jobs and places in ancient society and beyond - that didn't change until Christianity came about and began torturing and murdering women. Take a history course sometime, unless you're allergic to facts. Women babying boys, not holding them accountable, or giving them responsibility has turned them into narcissists.
xejelah THIS
@@xejelah There was plenty of women getting tortured before christianity, rape babies were one of the largest sources of slaves for empires back before Christianity was wide spread in any sense, and even before it's creation
He makes me feel neglected and unimportant. He won’t call or text for days but when we’re together, he’s very attentive. I don’t get it.
Veronica Carrasco same. I don’t get that behavior..
NEXT! 😉
I Won't call and text a lot but i love my partner, some guys are different, i have bad experiences in the past being 'too close' and i have 27, maybe i'm getting old
He may not be into phone calls and texts ,I hate them too
I don't like communicating over text 😩🙏
Short: If you meet narcissist just run as fast you can ;)
You can't detect a narcissist in the beginning. Often times it's already too late, bc these fuckers are smart
Victoria Lewis true. Takes me about a month. I do leave once I notice
Used to take me 6 mos- a year
Took me 3 years to realize mine was.. now I’m trying to heal.
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@@nalaa9618 It took me 3 dates to figure it out.. love bombing, wanting to see me every couple of days, sending gifts, huge over the top compliments, grandiose confident personality, bragging/name dropping. Never asked about me, avoided eye contact, made promises about the future within the first meeting. It was SO obvious.
His mood changes very fast, he acts like he loves me one second then it's like his mood changes about me
He makes me feel alone. I feel like I’m unsupported, and when I talk to him about it he doesn’t fix the issues.
Cut him loose, he's not worthy of you!
I used to think he didn’t understand , that if I just said something different, he would have a moment of understanding and things would get better. And he always walked a fine line. He would be kind and even flattering sometimes. But he most often wasn’t there for me, didn’t do things with me. Made me feel alone. And I found out he was cheating. I’m not saying a guy is always cheating, but that when you love someone, it’s hard to admit when they don’t care enough and walk away. They’re not going to change. Once a guy checks out, they don’t care what you say. And they don’t change. Don’t wait around to be treated like that and waste years on being ignored.
Same here
Have you considered that he can't make you feel one way or another? Maybe think about how you are in charge of your feelings. He's not making you feel alone. You feel alone. The reason why he can't fix your issues is because nobody can fix your issues for you. You have to love yourself. You have to fix your own issues and fill your own inner well with self love.
Mike Haftel , that’s a bit like saying “sticks and stones can break my bones, but names can never hurt me.” It’s very “in “ right now to say things like “no one can make you feel anything” but I think, if that’s true, you’re dealing with a sociopath. People can cause other people hurt. That’s a fact. Like, when your SO says they love you but makes plans with his friends and tells you that his work makes planning something with you impossible. All the time. Or making empty promises about the future. When you love that person you feel alone. And, yes, it’s at that point it’s up to you to love yourself and leave. But then what about something like narcissistic abuse? Where you’re slowly stripped of that? It just really gets me when someone judges that another person is “letting another person hurt them.” They’re already going through pain. They need to understand that pain and to know that they are stronger than that pain and that they will be ok because losing things that aren’t good for you is a good thing and enjoying life without a partner is a healthy thing, but you can find love again. Not be told they have something wrong in them for feeling pain over how they’re neglected. You may be a great partner and can’t fathom emotional abuse. I didn’t even know what “narcissistic abuse” was until experiencing it first hand. I never would have thought it could happen to me. It’s small manipulations little lies, gradual changes. But there I was, putting my feelings and his behavior in a google search. And it took knowing and understanding what I had been through to help me recover. I would want the same for the OP, for her to know it’s not her fault for being mistreated, but that she can take charge and decide she wants better for herself.
He makes me feel confused. He sends mixed signals. He doesn’t match my energy and seems way less emotionally invested than I am. Our conversations are still in the small talk phase, and we’ve already had like 5 dates.
Lauren, I have the same exact thing going on. It sucks!! ☹️
We were in the same boat. I told him that I'm confused and asked him what his intention was one day because I just got fed up with him texting me only whenever he likes, to which he replied to immediately, but he just said sorry and said that work has been keeping him occupied and that he has been resting on the weekends. Why bother dating when you can't even invest a bit of time in getting to know someone. I have not replied him ever since and it's been about a week now. Not sure if I should've politely said good bye.
So, basically, you already know it should be over and just haven't kicked him to the curb?
Wow, that energy thing really actually hit home.
My boyfriend makes me feel angry. I feel disgusted every time he’s around. I feel like he’s going nowhere in life and like he tricked me into this relationship and turned into a completely different person . I’ve tried breaking up with him many times but each time he acts so pathetic I feel bad and can’t follow through 100%. It’s horrible that I’m not strong enough to stick to it because as unfair as having to suffer through staying in the relationship is to me, it’s unfair to him too.
I feel like everything about him is toxic to me. When you said the “doesn’t mean he’s a terrible person, he’s just terrible for you” that is EXACTLY how I feel.
So leave! the pathetic act is to stir up your womanly compassion, don't let him use you like this! It will only get worse, you are betraying your own wisdom.
I feel you..
Keelz Smith if you want to get taken advantage of by someone dependent and passive, get a dog or a baby. At least they are loyal and loving.
If he is going nowhere in his life, he is also going nowhere in the relationship.
I left my 30 yo boyfriend when he decided to do nothing in his life.
He is a terrible person and he will be that way to any woman he's with I know this because the last guy I dated was the same way history repeats itself.
Your left with the feelings you developed from his fake ass behavior, then blind sided with the feelings of wtf went wrong.
Then to resentment borderline hate for making you apart of his disfunction move on baby.
I was stressed. I know he was younger so I made up my mind to be more patient and understanding, but I felt like I couldn't let my guard down around him, he kept testing my boundaries, he had no ambition/life goals, we
had nothing in common, he told me that my expectations were "unrealistic." Glad that's over.
I was in denial on so many levels.
Ryan, thank you for the kindness in which you deliver this great message. May God bless you always.
Thank you Clara 🙂
He makes me feel anxious...he says on thing and does something else
X2
Sounds like my guy jordan
I use to always ignore my gut. Thinking he can change that it’s fine. BIG mistake😪 and thinking there’s something wrong with me. Thinking maybe I’m just not enough. I’m still lost because I’m in a complicated situation 😞
I shared this video in a couple of divorce FB groups that I’m in. I love the advice you give and how it’s always from a point of view of female empowerment. A lot of us are healing and need the reminders that we should value ourselves. So many of your videos talk about being happy with who we are, but I also appreciate the insight into men’s psyche. It makes it so that we can decode them better which can keep us from changing who we are to make them like us. It’s sooo important for a lot of us women to break the codependent cycle! So THANK TOU!
Wow, mine does all of the above. I guess this is the confirmation I was looking for. THANK YOU!
He is not yours from the start if that's what he does
Ryan, thank you for pointing out so many things in this video that were key points that led to the end of my previous relationship. I know now that I wasn't acting crazy when asking him questions. He just wanted to make me feel that way.
Thank you for videos. You helped me figure out why my last relationships failed especially one that was mentally abusive. Please continue making your videos!
I really love your advice and the way you explain things thank you so much! 😊
Reunited with ex, my greatest love from over 20 years ago. Dillusionally! He was a figment of my imagination. He calls two & three times a day but has nothing much to say. Implies he wants more with me when he’s drunk, but never really speaks seriously. You’re basically describing us. He said all great things about me- cooking, home decor, great lover, etc. Two months in he’s insulting me.
We’re not in a committed relationship so I AM going out (seeking a gentleman better suited for me.) My GUT is screaming!
I Am Done! Thanks
U go!!! 👏
Ryan, thank you so much, i am so blessed to find you as one of the best coach on dating and life in general, keep up the good work man!!
It's a deal-breaker for me what a guy guy won't ask questions about me.
I was with a Narcissist. Abusive physically and emotionally. It then became an on n off thing which I just put a stop to. Lies, gaslighting, emotional abuse. Once he gets what he wants he ghosts leaving me feeling used and discarded until the next time he decides to contact me. Great video. Truly Ryan I love your videos. Great content. Btw Merry Christmas. ❤️
I'm sorry you went through that.Hope you find the right one.
Pretty reassuring cause this means I'm right to be trusting my gut, feels amazing 😅
YES, YOU ARE! that's why it feels so good! your body knows what's good for you, trust your gut. Never believe anyone who puts your gut feelings down.
When he "flakes" on you because he's married to the bottle.
This basically discussed Narcissistic Abuse, if you’re currently going through in, run as fast as you can!!!!! It’s emotionally and psychologically draining.
Gosh!!! Experienced it for 13 months, it was horroble!!!
My longest period was 6 months
That I experienced it
My bf is really odd. He has no friends and an extreme introvert. Yes at the beginning he was communicating everyday asking great questions, interested etc After 6 months that stopped and I felt he was pushing me away. I tried to break up twice, he cried and begged me to stay. He said he is very happy in our relationship and it just shifted from honeymoon to normal relationship. The thing is nothin flows with this guy, communication doesn’t flow and his energy makes me uncomfortable as he’s quite moody and I never feel I’m good enough. Bottom line is..he doesn’t have much of a personality, but Sex is great!!! I don’t think sex should be the reason for me to stay
Exactly. Can you imagine a lifetime of this?
Delicia Darby Run, girl, run! He is not going to change
WOW I think I'm in the same situation. My bf (maybe I can call him an ex now) is oddly similar to what you described your bf above. One good thing is he moved to LA last month and I'm still here in Northern California. We still communicate through texts and phone calls but attitude and personality wise, he is still the same.
Well, he's happy but you're not. Has to be mutual happy, or it's not on.
Let him go. Never mind crying, that's just desperation, not love. Be gentle, but start planning your exit.
Mine is an introvert and has literally no time for me bc of his video games! He gets to moody but like the first few months he texted me all day but now I try texting him like paragraphs and he replies with K, Ok, or Kool. And he keeps accusing me of cheating and wouldn’t let me have ANY guy friends!!! I even feel the need that I have to ask him if I can hang out with people!!! It’s soooo stressing!! I tried breaking up with him but he kept begging and begging for me to stay but I don’t think it’s the right thing to be with him! 😒😒😒😔😔😔😣😖😤
I didn't feel heard or supported. He never supported me emotionally. I lost 3 family members suddenly in the course of a year, and every time I reached out he was never there for me. He was always awkward about my emotional moments, and never wanted to deal with it. In moments when I was super vulnerable he would negate my feelings, and often didn't seem to realize it.
I thought I was going insane with his lies. I questioned my own sanity. I finally caught him in a lie. I actually saw what he was doing and he lied!! Crazy! He lies about things he doesn't need to lie about. Grrr. I'm looking for my own place and live in peace.
Can you give out some examples of wat you mean?
Ryan, you are the best! Thank you for sharing your personal and professional insights.
He makes me feel like he wants me only when someone else notices me. Like he knows I'm a prize, but only wants to make an effort if he sees someone else eyeing his prize. Otherwise, I belong on a dusty shelf somewhere for him to feel safe that he won me.
Hahaha I loved when you said “adios “ 😂💕 thank you !
Denial sucks once it's over...😒 I'm just glad I gave myself the time to work through it. This video came out around the time my breakup happened. Totally different place now, but I'm so thankful to have these videos that help me reflect and know that I'm on the right track. Thanks Ryan! ❤❤❤
Ex: made me feel worthless, confused, not good enough. He lied and cheated on me.
My best friend: makes me feel loved, honored, we are understanding, we have a bond. The only thing is I don’t want a label or a relationship. Mainly because I want to work on myself first but also because I don’t want commitment with this guy.
OMG I did not know that entrainment was a thing. Explains a lot! Eye opening. Thanks!!
I literally just ran across your page and I absolutely love the information your giving. I find this helpful in my current relationship 👍
Very good points!!! Thank you
Thank you Ryan for all the amazing information. It has helped me sooooo much !
Great video. So articulate too!
He was saying rude stuff and even talking about a woman at the end of the bar...just super in appropriate. I ended up sobbing in my car and told him I need to break up. He really hurt my heart, because I thought so highly of him. I did end up giving him more time and chances but now have pulled way back. And considering putting myself out there for new opportunities. He needs to bring more love, attention and respect to this woman in order to be my man.
The flip side of this is that I doubt he knows how he is making me feel... I don't think it is on purpose...I mean I would hate to think he is a mean guy. I also feel like this relationship isn't a priority when he doesn't make plans on a regular basis? It's difficult because there's a lot of good... FTMP he is an amazing person...Just some stuff we needed to talk over...but we text more than talk in person. And that doesn't work for me. When we only spend one day a week together...i get lonely... Makes me vulnerable to the advances of men... I'm not looking for them but if I am always doing things alone...or with friends...well guys know when a woman is vulnerable and their man isn't around.
I have just watched this video.
Practically everything you mentioned happened to me.
I am 44 years old now. Shame I didn't know about this in my 20's and 30's
I have subscribed to your channel.
Hopefully at some point I might try dating again 🤔
Entrainment. Learned something new! Thank you!
Ryan! Thank you so so much for this video ❤️💚 These tips are truly valuable and useful
Really enjoy your videos, although am not dating (been in a long term relationship ) I find this very Interesting and informative, ty
great advice, thanks Ryan. :)
I had to walk away. I found out he's dependent on his Mom financially. He's almost 50. He's not motivated to get another job. He claims he was laid off. I started feeling like I was putting in too much energy. I also felt like he was starting to test boundaries to see what I'll let him get away with. The first time he left me hanging, we talked, he claimed it was a misunderstanding and he would do better. This past Sunday, he called, I wasn't available, I called him back, he never called me or texted me back. I don't need that drama. My 19 year old son has more motivation. I definitely don't want to support an overgrown Mama's boy. Like Beyonce, " to the left, to the left".
@musima41 I cut my losses!! Thanks for your feedback.
Jesus, ripping off his retired mother is just heartless and pathetic :(
Sound like a pisces man
He sounds like he is depressed but you need to run🏃♀️
Anxious. I knew the whole time something was off & I think he played on my vulnerability after losing my mom.
Tired, Negative, Uncomfortable and uneasy is how he made me feel. He's just a downer. Not trying for this guy. I don't respect him. He was just was a draining person.
This video is very helpful even if you feel your relationship is fine! I've been in an amazing relationship and these signs have comforted me in just how great my relationship is.
Where was this video when I was dating my ex? Thanks for this! Will take note of this for my future boo 😊
Communication, compassion, commitment, common values. These are the four big C's that I noticed make for a good relationship. If any of that is missing, things go sour.
Ugh, this is so lit.. 💯
Thank you for this! ..my bf puts me down in private a lot.. weather calling me a name or something else.. but then he will try to justify it by saying, "oh it's normal for couples to fight and call each other names" when I don't even call him names...or even think about it cuz I care too much.. I knew deep down inside he wasn't the guy for me.. but It is hard to leave someone when you're into deep with them.
I know I love him, he makes me happy, there are sometimes where I feel upset by him. But there’s this part of me that wants to let go and idk why
Thankyou ! These videos are so helpful
I’m so bad at love and good at attracting toxic partners - I want to do/be different to get diferente. I want to be in my power 💫✨
Deeeeamn! Finally! I want to throw this video into my friends face because he tells me that I am to fussy! And well, all I did was listening to my intuition🤷♀️
Such a great video ❤️!
you sound so calm in thia video...love it!
I think it's great that you offer this valuable information.
I personally made the decision to remain single i.e no dating or marriage over 10 years ago.
Listening to this video let's me know I made the right decision.
Omg thank you Ryan, I just realized the guy I so called liked is toxic. He just never ever gave me any attention but he just always wanted me around sort of like a lap dog. Idk why I allowed it for so long. I think I realized that just cause I care about that person doesn’t mean I put myself in the back burner. Why? I’ve learned that that’s not healthy and I deserve more
Very helpful .....keep up the great 👍 work !!!!
Hi Ryan! I love your contents! You vids are very interesting and enjoyable to watch... Thank you for making and sharing all these videos... More power to you!
AWESOME 💜👍👍👍 I’m newly dating and welcome the insight. 2 months and 3 dates in. Leaning back 😉
So this guy makes me feel special, valued and accepted. 😊 my parent's like him even though, cause of quaranteen we haven't met in person nor my parent's just on video.
I watch alot of your videos. Very educational. Thank you 😊
He makes me feel attractive, smart and pretty while I’m with him. When I’m not with him I feel unsure and always kind of scared he’s flirting with other girls. I’m also unsure about our connection, again when we’re together it’s all good but when separated it feels somewhat off.
Same!!
Same
So you need to work on your self. Not his fault you’re insecure
This was great thanks
You're dope! thank you for all the info!
Ryan, I would love if you made a podcast! I know you must be pretty busy, but you have such good information and it would be cool to listen to these tips while working out or driving 😃
Every girl or guy wanting to date boys need to watch this channel from age 13 to 90 😄😃🙏 thanks for the tips. I just found it and subscribed!
This is awesome! Thanks, Valentina! 😄
I wish I saw this years ago. So much time wasted..These videos are very on point and validate my intuition even more...Thank you.
I wish I listened to you 2 years ago! My ex was terrible for me. I was blind to so much. I wish more females and males would realize the red flags first. You are very helpful. I encourage others to watch you too.
Thank you for giving me the sign its time to go!
Wish you sat me down and told me all this when I was 30 year old!!! Girls need to hear this.
My husband used to put me down in front of others and I would say that is inappropriate for you to do. He would say oh I was just "teasing you", you are too sensitive. Many times he would make me feel bad about myself, After a while I realized he was a narcissist. Never knew what gas lighting was,, but learned the hard way. All the lies I discover OMG ...I finally got rid of him and am so much happier in my life. Bless you. 🥰💛
Hey, Ryan! Just wanted to comment on your nice hair cut and the color looks great! Haha! Also, you’ve been entertaining me and enlightening me on getting rid of all the noise, and into getting through to The Winner! Haha🏆💝✅
New subbie. Love your content and delivery!! You seem very emotionally affected in this video. I wonder what was going on in your personal life at that time. Thank you for being so dedicated to your viewers.
Thank you so much for this video and all the others. You are helping me a lot to understand what is going on with a pervert narcissist. God bless you!
Great video, your video made me realize he isn’t the one. Please do a video on how to break up!
Boy this is good stuff…
I’m dumped my parter this week and a lot of the things you said my partner did
Thank you you hit every point. I keep telling him I don't want to be with him and he. All's from different numbers. Guess I'll have to change that too.😊
Omg!!! I was going through your video and came to this one. Parallel parking!!!! Came home, late night from work. Bf of 15 years and my daughter ( not his) was in the home. We live in the Midwest so messy snow every where. I have to be careful on how I park on the street. Soon as I get in the door he talks smack about it and says he was laugh g and always does when I parallel park. No hello , or nothing. He is toxic, we can’t communicate.... gotta end it
great video......good info..listening
Thank you for explaining about Entrainment. I am in the middle of a divorce right now and a big part of it is my husband is sooo low energy and depressed. He's always been that way to a greater or lesser degree. He's on medication now but it's only done so much. I've always felt like I had to carry the load of the relationship. My natural upbeat and energetic outlook just gets sucked away when I'm with him for any length of time It's exhausting. It is very hard to be going through this but I know that it's the right thing
I was feeling I wasn't good enough for him . But there was a connection between the two of us .
Very helpful thank u
You have just described my last 2 relationships and the current relationship. WOW...
Adios, Later, Bounce ...
Omg so on point👍
Thanks yes had that vibe with his friends left that one, at the time I could not believe it was happening. No respect for me when with his friends. I feel embarrassed that I went out with him.
I have yet to find one guy who communicates in a timely manner, they're mostly all terrible!
I used to have the reversed problem lol
You deserve a Million Subs already!!! best coach I have seen!!! keep it up
Thanks so much, BETZY! 🙂
❤💥❤ YAAAAAASSSSSSS!!! ❤💥❤
YOUR EMOTIONS & FEELINGS ARE YOUR COMPASS TO LIVE YOUR LIFE AUTHENTICALLY!! 💪
TRUST YOURSELF! 😍 You know faaaaaar more than you think you do ✌
Great content 🔥Thank you for telling hard truths.
Happy 1 year (ish) on the video 🎂
Muchas gracias for your advice!!!!!!
Thank you so much
My pleasure 😉