When You Just Ain’t Got it All Together
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- Опубліковано 8 лис 2022
- Young people are under so much pressure today to have everything figured out and worked out by a certain age. The truth is we're all learning and growing our entire lives and there are always going to be failures and points in our lives when we don't feel like we have a clue what we are doing. This is natural. I just want to encourage you that in your time of failure do not consider yourself a failure. No one ever has it all figured out. No one. Life is about learning and growing over the course of the entire journey.
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This is the best cutscene from Red Dead Redemption 2 ever.
😂😂😂
Jesus loves you so much and He is waiting for you with open arms, please accept Him in your heart and life while He is near
Lol
He's definitely an honorary member of the Morgan/Marston Gang 👌
RDR2 is a shit game
“A smooth sea has never made a skilled sailor.”
Nice!
I love this
Amazing
A great Franklin D. Roosevelt quote, for sure.
@@troxexlot18lol
"A man with enough wisdom has seen too much pain."
I'm 49, living in probably worst economy in the world (Zimbabwe). It's tough with unemployment at 97%. Our home was taken. Love this video just kept me going through another day, thank you.
We will make it
Keep strong brother!
I'm rooting for you, brother.
May Allah make it easy for you my brother and take you and your family in a safe position
❤
Hearing a stranger on the internet say "It's alright. You're not supposed to have it all together." is one of the most comforting things I've heard since my life took a turn for the worse.
The only way to feel human and connected to anyone in my life is by sharing our vulnerabilities
Exactly!
this is an amazing video and so much respect for this guy doing this video
Same 😭❤
You're supposed to haver it all figured out and all together if you don't then you become self-indulgent, self righteous and self-entitled and you end up being a parasite to the world you live in, to the people around you and eventually to yourself.
Beginning of video: "Now, im not very wise"
Rest of the video: *Pure, unadulterated wisdom for us to learn from*
The more you know, the more aware you are of all the things you don't know...
The beginning of wisdom is "I do not know."
nj
Yes, precisely my friend
The wiser you become you realize just how little you actually know. This man is a blessing to us all. He's sharing his testimony of a cumulative life lessons put in perspective he worried about everything we worry about give a helping hand once in awhile if you see somebody struggling
I’m a 13 year old girl who was just scrolling on youtube to get my mind out of the worries and stumbled upon a cool cowboy philosopher. must be a little weird seeing my age around here but I wanna say thank you.
You have time to figure it all out. But you also don't have forever, it's a balance. Too many people wait for the right conditions and life passes by. If I could go back to being 13 I wish I was more focused. Now I'm focused but don't have the time. It doesn't have to consume your life either, enjoy being a kid and take care knowing you will have many, many lows, but they always pass somehow.
@@overratedprogrammerl
god i needed to hear this as a 17 yo ty @@overratedprogrammer
PLEASE take the time to choose to be an idiot. Now. Call a friend and go do something stupid today or tomorrow. You'll remember it for years.
Jesus loves you so much and He is waiting for you with open arms, please accept Him in your heart and life while He is near
Ppl think failure is bad, but its the best teacher. Failure is necessary for growth. Its a gift.
Jesus loves you so much and He is waiting for you with open arms, please accept Him in your heart and life while He is near
Failure is all fun and games until you end up homeless and starving under a bridge somewhere.
Except grades at school,nobody born with the same brain
@@ninjadeamonI've been there before, and I'm there right now. Failure only breaks those who don't understand it. It broke me when I was studying math and physics at university where I became so anxious I couldn't study anymore. A few years later I found myself homeless for the first time. I was in Minneapolis in the summer. Minneapolis is an astonishingly beautiful city, with parks and lakes everywhere. I was outside for 4 months that summer and it was probably the most blissful period in my life. I spent the days meditating by the lakes, and working in a group home, at night I slept in a hammock in the park. It's all about perspective.
It is, and it doesnt matter how many times you fall and fail as long as you keep getting back up and try one more time....that's how you get it together.
Well Dwayne I'm 75 and I'm here to tell you I don't think you ever get it completely figured out we are all our own worst enemy 🐝
I am 54, twice divorced, father of a 31 year old daughter from the first marriage, and I've been on my own again since the second marriage ended in 2005. I still have no idea what I am doing and I don't think my health will see me through to 75 (45 year heavy smoker and bad emphysema). Not the man I thought would grow into, but I'm more of a man than most guys I know in my peer circle who are still doing ridiculous things and learning lessons I learned long ago by starting early. I still have no idea what I am doing ,and I am totally okay with that at this point. I have some shoulda/coulda/woulda's but those are the most toxic thing I can imagine, so I try not to let them eat me from the inside out like a corrosive. And that's that.
@@HistoricMetals the sad part about 75 is I've seen so many friends go already and many of them come to me telling me they don't want to go I simply look at them and smile and say change your lifestyle you will be here longer it says if we try to destroy ourself with our pleasures I am very basic been married three times divorce since 94 have a grown daughter by first wife we don't talk my mother recently passed my sister's taking all the money but I still have a positive outlook and a smile on my face and try to get others to do the same we're all here for a reason and we'll all leave when it's our time I'm actually working part-time as a security guard which I seem to enjoy meet a lot of nice people but that could be the end of me also 😁😆😉🐝
@@beeamerica5024 I havent talked to my daughters mother since our last day in divorce court either almost 2 decades ago. She cheated. She took everything. I took a long time to recover. I attended my aunt's 90th birthday party yesterday in Nashville. I can't imagine turning 90 and you yourself are still a long way from it too. Here's hoping we both make it, just to be able to say we did that too. Hell sounds like we both already did everything else. I too am very basic. I think going through a lot of tough experiences in relationships, finances, having those ups and downs finally makes you realize, you can even out the bumps by being happier with what you got in the lows of the curves and not being so damn wound up about climbing back up to the peaks that matter less and less over time anyway. The middle, is nice and even and easy. Is it choosing mediocrity? Maybe, or maybe it's just choosing to get off the silly cycle and even things out. Good luck out there, Sir!
@@HistoricMetals you too my friend and you are right
There's no reason to be your own worst enemy. You should always be your greatest supporter. What you mean to say is...Your mind is your own worst enemy. But that's because you never took the time to train it. Like a puppy that's pissing and shitting itself. Well that's our mind too, that is unless we train it. Only then will it do what we want.
Let's not take our selves too seriously and confuse our own psychological drama with existential reality. It's miraculous that we are even alive, not to mention in this day of age where we have so many comforts and conveniences.
Pull out a picture of yourself taken when you were 5 years old. Notice the smile, the joy, the exuberance for just being alive. That's how we should be every moment. We've somehow forgotten this as we got older. This is a reminder~ you are still that kid deep down inside in love with life itself. No need to make an enemy.
I had no idea there was an entire genre of cowboy philosophers on UA-cam. It’s very comforting to hear that it’s okay to not have it all together. Thank you, mysterious cowboy man!
This is actually why people love cowboys
Not the guns or the horses
It's the fact they're all warrior poets
Country folk have more thoughts going on in their heads than a city slicker might fathom... nature has a way of bring it out in all of us...
It’s just a man speaking on life, no genre
COWBOY PHILOSOPHER 💀
@@Gergaloth He seems like a nice enough guy. And the pipe helps. Anytime a dude with gray hair is smoking a pipe you automatically want to listen to him. But even though he seems pleasant and he's trying really hard for the look, all he's really doing is stating the obvious and throwing in some cliches. If you want some real "cowboy" wisdom and advice from a man who isn't quite so domesticated and actually has some rough edges and scars then I'd suggest you listen to anything Billy Joe Shaver ever wrote or sung. That's a real warrior poet. This guy just seems like your average, run of the mill, nice neighbor type. He's neither a warrior nor a poet.
I’m 33 and reading some comments, I realize that everywhere in the world there are people going through difficult times, and it makes me value what I have, no matter how much or little, there are people who are really in a difficult situation.
Jesus loves you so much and He is waiting for you with open arms, please accept Him in your heart and life while He is near
31 here, such valuable advice
30 here. I agree.
34 here and realizing that gratitude for what we have here, right now, is all you need. The rest is moot
I’m 25 and lost my brother to suicide. I needed to hear this so badly. Thank you❤
So sorry to hear this
Condolence,brother.And don't give up on this life
im sorry brother my condolences dont stop and keep fighting God loves you
I'm so sorry friend. I wish you a steady healing journey. Remember, he is always with you
embrace you man
30 years old, still live with parents, no marriage, no kids, no idea what I want to do career wise and just trying to manage my depression. Feel so lost and behind, and always feel like a loser. But this definitely gave me some comfort, right at the time I needed it. Thank you.
Right in the same boat as a 22 year old...just learning like others who got touched by this video, which is to live life to the fullest and embrace what we have around us.
@@your_boi3365 You are young, trust me you got time. My best advice, have fun but don't lose your twenties completely.
Much love fam..and thank you..hope all is well for you too.
Construction labourer and get a trade maybe. Get your hormone levels checked oestrogen vs testosterone and thyroid.
I believe in you man and ik that might not be much from a 22 year old, but I do. You may be older, but when you find what you want to do, you'll have the experience to back it. All I ask is you believe in you brother
In a world full of people making you feel guilty for not spending every day getting something done, it is refreshing to hear a voice that reminds us it’s okay to take it slow and appreciate life. Thank you man.
Indeed. Decided at 64 to simply get off the treadmill. Been 6 months. My wife and I are happier than ever before. The decision made it impossible to have trinkets desired when younger. Miss them zero.
Look up I’m only sleeping by the Beatles
At 30 you should be able to build a robot replica of a humanoid that can pass off as a real one.
@@lanichilds2825 “Don’t get me wrong. She turns me on, but I’m only sleeping.” Listen to John Lennon’s “Working Class Hero.” All the best to you and yours.
@@nerobaal6655 ah yes , the Elon Musk life gameplay
This is unironically the most manliest man video for men about men having struggles its awesome
Going to leave this here as a reminder for myself. Whenever this gets a like I will get reminded. Sometimes I wonder why God makes me wait. I know his plan is perfect. I know God has me waiting for a reason. It feels like I've been in isolation for a long period now. I'm about to get back into doing what I love. I know God will always be with me. I give my life to Jesus Christ. I know looking back I'll be able to connect the dots. Understanding it had to happen just as it did. All the heartbreaks, setbacks, and nights worrying about if you're on the right path. It will all be lifted once I get there. To anyone out there. God will never abandon you.
I’m 37 and going to college for the first time. I have to remind myself my timeline was different, and being a single mom juggling college is hard but I’m not giving up. Thank you so much
"Never regard your study as a duty but as the enviable opportunity to learn the liberating beauty of the intellect for your own personal joy and for the profit of the community to which your later work will belong."
-Einstein
32 years old back in college as well! Good luck on your education journey!
Best of luck to you! You got this!
Ride the waves. Life's ups and downs
You fine for 37, but I just graduated just this month at 33 😊
1. Your job isn’t your life
2. Find something you love and do it
3. Enjoy time w Friends and family
4. Laugh and live in the moment
5. Find happiness in the small things
I was missing my Grandma today and your video came up. It’s warm to hear your words. Thank you for sharing.
Missing my granny too…first holiday season without her
Eat healthy and move every day
wish late-stage capitalism in the U.S. didn't make these key principals hard to follow (sending wishes of comfort regarding your g-ma though)
I can't do 3. I have no friends or family 😭
The best thing ive ever heard anyone say ....38 and not whinging, just live , love and just be nice , be respectful, and youll recieve the same ... 💚🤙🙌
You’re a good man Arthur Morgan
I’m 51 and starting all over again. Ended a 12 year relationship yesterday to a woman I love dearly because she finally admitted my deteriorating mindset and negativity has turned to bitterness and turned her off. She’s 💯 correct. I feel like a pile of shit. She’s 41 tall very beautiful and stylish with a high paying career surrounded by guys her age who were promoted on the fast easy track. My career has failed while hers flourished at our company. It was painful letting go as I tried to get her desire from acts of service and lived in her frame (this never works by the way). I’ll never do that again and it’s my duty to reframe my mindset to positivity and abundance by putting my needs 1st for the remainder of my days. Gym, I signed up for an Old Boys Rugby tournament in May. Find a new job, invest and study for better style and communication. I’m exhausted but my old DI is screaming in my head from what he always you to say in boot (Get your ass up and move forward, it’s your duty to always march forward no matter the difficulty. It’s your duty to always get back up until the day I die).
I'm 31 years old. I have 60k in student debt, a degree I haven't finished, another degree I'm working on, a failed engagement, no savings, no mortgage, no kids, no partner, and am a barista at the coffee shop across the street. It will get better. It WILL get better. Thank you.
Im right there with you just a personal shopper instead
Same life.
But 29, cooking degree//working on game design now, 40k in debt, I'm a server at a fancy hotel
It will get better 🎉
As it should and so will you.
good luck with your endeavors.
I’m from another angle but feel the same. I’m 35, Married to my best and only friend, 3 beautiful Daughters, been through some health stuff, as has my wife. And I’ve hit a point where my nobly doing physical hard work for jobs might be coming to an end. My body has started to turn on me and I’ve had my first real long term time off sick in my life. So I started uni today actually, today is the first day of my part time Uni course. To pick up my education again that ended in 2009. I’m struggling now to find non physical work, how wild is that, that the physically hardest work is the work I can’t get away from. The real heavy lifting work, I’ve wrecked my body at 35, and now I want to use my mind and I can’t find anything that doesn’t required being a graduate. But like you said, it *WILL* get better. It will get better. Love to you brother, you’re not alone. None of us are truly alone.
You got this man! Keep going brother
"A pine tree Grows and matured very fast
An oak tree Grows and matures very slow
Which one lasts longer?
Which one is stronger?
Which one shelters more critters and birds?
And when it's over and done. Which one is more valuable for the lumber?
People aren't looking to buy pine furniture."
WRANGLER SCHOOL
These words touched me very deeply sir.
Thank you
I must admit it, I liked that analogy too.
Definitely not whichever one I used on my kitchen floor.
Amen! Much wisdom here!!!
Wisdom for the depraved. There is nothing wrong with gaining a lot in a little time, if you can handle it. Even at that stage, the mature pine tree still has an infinite amount left to achieve. However, whether you are the oak or the pine tree. Life stays strong within both, and life appreciates both. Some are just born pine, some are born oak. It's ok to be both. Each has their own path to grow upon.
he is a natural poet!
"you'll not get there if you quit" saved me man. Thank you
Hope you're okay, friend.
I’m 19 and I wanted to say thank you. It’s a lot right now mentally but I know I’m going to be fine and you’re right about me needing to just live. I appreciate you.
im also 19 and it felt like the past two years i was in a coma and after going to therapy i finally woke up. and ever since i dropped out of high school, it felt like as if i put my entire life on pause for several years. i dont feel like i've grown past 16 years, but thats okay. right now i want to start over, and this time im not gonna worry about rushing my life, because im still just a kid. just living as a 19 year old is perfectly fine and it will continue to be fine cuz you're gonna learn even more than you did before
I'm also 19 and I am pretty scared of being 20 because I feel like all my teenage happiness and freedom is going to all go away. I am scared of not being a teenager because I feel like I'm forced to grow up and wish I was 12 again. But seeing a lot of people in their 20's who still enjoys the things I enjoy and acts the same way as I do makes me happy and it slowly makes me looking forward to being 20. Also seeing people saying about being 19 - 20's is still young comforts me a lot.
@@FlowerGriffonI’m 19 too & I remember one day I had a whole breakdown about being 20… it was really hard for me to cope with that I’m growing up but I had to realize growing up isn’t a bad thing as long as god allows me to breathe each day I’m okay!
Bout to be 19 tomorrow, gonna no doubt lose my job soon over a foolish choice I made, I don’t feel myself and want to improve myself despite already coming such a long way but losing the feeling that I improved in the first place, hope you’re okay bud
@@regi5436im 19 too, dropped out at 17 and started college with a GED a couple months ago. For a long time I struggled with growing up and wanting to get where I wanted to be right away. Being this young and feeling like im too old to have wasted years of my life not doing anything used to make me sick. I learned to stop being so hard on myself for taking long to grow up, get a job, and start college. I started to just be patient with myself. Now I worry about how to get a career, where I will go after undergrad. I think the advice in this video is great though. Everything that we worry about is out of our control right now. I hope you came to realize it really is okay. Life has a path for you we all need to give ourselves grace sometimes.
I’m 22 and haven’t been able to get a job. Pressure from family and peers is killing me right now. This was nice to hear, it was sort of relaxing.
Update: I just got a job!
congrats on getting a job man!
congrats man im looking for one myself
well done my guy :)
Congratulations man!
Congratulations Brethren!!
My dad passed away in April. Got married in June. Danced with my mom and talked about dad, then my mom passed away unexpectedly the week after the wedding. We were sitting on the tarmac delayed when I got that call. Transitioning out of the military next year and really wish I had my dad to talk to right now. I really needed to hear this today. Thank you for making these videos.
I'm sorry, I lost my Dad a few years ago.
May God keep you and bless you ... pray for your parents.
With you the best my man, in this life we must roll with the punches and never forget we can always make the world a better place through our actions
I’m sorry for your losses. God bless
You will make it... sounds like your parents led you well. Remember... it’s only a temporary departure. We absolutely go on and will reunite one day. Our passed on loved ones just graduated a bit sooner than we will. We still have a mission to accomplish here in this 3D world. Make decisions the best that you can and know that God is absolutely not worried about the final outcome. Your life will go exactly as planned. Be well... and know that ALL IS WELL. ❤
I know this was for the guys but I’m a young lady turning 26 this year and this video has turned me into a whole baby. Life is ghetto & scary. I was told growing up if I don’t get it together I’ll have to deal with everything in my later age and that that is something I shouldn’t want. However I’m trying to get to “a long life well lived”. I need to chill out now. I’m burnout and it feels like everything is one second from ending. Thank you Sir!
I feel you! I’m 18 and I’m freaking out about being alone and buying a house, I feel like I’m so behind, thank you for commenting this
as a 23 year old guy i didnt know i needed to hear this in such a genuine way untill i just started crying out of no where
Think alot of young people need to hear this. I'm 25 and have pushed myself into depression by putting so much pressure on myself because I haven't reached certain standards I wanted to by now. Social media definitely makes the problem worse because it seems like everyone is happy, rich and in love etc
They “seem” to be, but are they really doing that well?
@J doubt it but the perception is enough to make people feel like a fuck up
@@user-ho4ns5te8b Well you’re not so just keep taking steps. 1,000 miles can only be walked one step at a time.
Just turned 25 as well… I hear ya. I put a ton of pressure on myself as well and it’s not good. I’ve got a decent job but haven’t achieved as much as I’ve hoped by 25. I do have insta deleted though and I’ve even feeling better. Also listening to dry creek wrangler school
25 year old man here, man, I feel you. One thing I have tried to do in order to combat these kinds of feelings is to counter any social media content that makes me feel envious or low with content like this channel or something similar, remind yourself there are more people like you than those who are not and look to those who have lived well for reassurance, but mostly, as cliche as this sounds, enjoy the journey! God bless
I’m 25 years old and earlier this week just went through a breakup with my girlfriend of 6 years after she confessed to cheating and loving someone else. This topic could not have come at a better time, and I’m very grateful for you, Duane.
You got your whole life ahead of you. I wouldn’t worry about it.
I’m in a very similar situation brother, wife did the same thing to me after 6 years. “The cavity which suffering carves into our souls will one day also be the receptacle of joy.” I’m a little further down the road than you. Haven’t made it to the light at the end of the tunnel yet but I’m starting to see it, and I promise it’s not a train. Hang in there man
Lots of fish in the sea, birds in the Forrest, and bitches in the world. Be single for a couple years man.
Stay strong man!
I am going to say this, each boy needs a breakup to become a man, live your life man, go to the gym, work in your job harder and start figuring out how you want to live this is the best fuel you could get.
Peace my man.
Physical pain can be eased by placing your hand on the injured site, emotional pain cannot. I'm sorry you went through this, I wish you the best.
I'm 16 turning 17 soon, I often feel really stuck wishing I could feel as carefree and relaxed as I did as a little kid, but we need that feeling of needing to do more in order to have a reason to live in the first place. I'm thankful that I feel that drive, many people I've met don't even have that
Thank you :'( cried watching this. Just moved to a new city, I'm all on my own, no job, no idea what I'm doing. I'm almost 27 and lost, my dad passed when I was 16 and I needed this so much. Thank you
I hope you make it ❤
@@Awesomenes4L ugh thank you🥲❤️
i’m also on my own in a new city and i want to wish you luck and send love and positivity your way 🩷💜 i’m right there with u 💗
@@KATALINAPEARLMANCINI thank you so much🥲💜💜 I'm finding my way slowly, I hope you are too
@@Akanchwua tysm🩷it’s a slow process but i’m trying, we’ve both got this and i’m so proud of you! 💗💗
As you get older, you do realise that so many things you worried about don't matter.
You also learn to appreciate the things that DO matter.
Thankfully, those things are yours for the taking, and are earned with discipline, mindfulness and love - not money, popularity, or possessions.
Screenshotting this comment. Fantastic observation.
One of the most challenging aspects of communicating this to someone and them fully grasp the validity of this simple truth is that; a large percentage of people on't absorb it because it isn't a quick "fix" so it might not instantly make them feel better.
It's sort of an esoteric, philosophical answer that tends to go in one ear and out the other.
douglby out here with the life lessons
Hey Dan! Huge fan. Love your work. Hearts.
What happened to the algorithm that made danbull and I collide on this pipe smoking cowboy I've never heard of?
Turned 29 and tapped into my strength and stopped making excuses. Still a long way to go. Thank you my good man
It took turning 32 and I don't have the energy to do what I need to do all over again like when I was younger. Good luck in your journey
@@dangerouseducation40 I appreciate it but don’t underestimate yourself. Your mind is powerful beyond measure. Good luck to you as well
@@dangerouseducation40stop making excuses just go for it with 32 you are still very young
28, left a toxic relationship that made me feel emasculated. Low self esteem. I am miserable at the moment, but I am free to mold myself. Same with you, and God bless you with all the happiness, health and wealth.
@@prod.din0273 Is 36 still young? Where do we expect a 36 year old to be at in life?
Thanks for this video. I'm 27 and I've felt stuck now for awhile. No degree, no money, nothing saved. I've been living abroad for several years teaching English, something i never really even wanted to do, something that just happened of necessity. It doesn't pay well either, now I am moving back, Seattle specifically, with nothing to support my wife and not really much experience in anything worth while and I want to change careers too. My little brother already owns 2 houses and a baby on the way. Makes me feel like i failed in many ways. Granted I've been abroad making a 3rd world income, but it still sucks.
I’m 27 too and have the exact same experience almost down to a T, except for the being married part. But I live abroad and taught English too, but now just have a dead-end job and am just scraping by, trying to figure out what to do next and how to overcome these mistakes 🥲
Don’t think of it as mistakes, think of it as experience. You’re not restarting from scratch, you’re restarting with that experience you’ve gained from these past few years. On top of that you’ve done and seen more than the vast majority who live in the US ever will in their lifetimes. Just cause someone appears to have their money situation figured out doesn’t mean they have everything figured out or are happy with their lives. We’re supposed to experience life, not just gain materials to play defense against it. Wishing both of y’all nothing but the best moving forward, God bless
Never too late to pick up a trade! I’m 27 and training to become a Gas/Heating Engineer. The world is crying out for skilled labourers, might be an option for you. Keep going there’s light at the end of the tunnel 👍
I'm 24, homeless, facing food insecurity, living in my car with my unemployed felon boyfriend who just got sober a month ago. I'm going to college to be a Firefigher Paramedic. I came across this video looking for the best way to write a cover letter and resume for a medical internship opportunity socialized my way into at work today. Your words reached my heart. You speak like my uncle used to before he gave into bad habits. I honestly cried because this is what I needed to hear. Life has been hard from brith to now for me but I have a plethora of good stories to tell, and I have experience under my belt that makes me feel 45. Thank you, God bless you!
Hey things will get better !!! You and your bf put in my prayers 🙏
Im 29 spent 24k in failed investments in the past 3 years living in a car also so your not alone working full time to keep this car and avoiding being really homeless. Im sick and cant even afford a check up at Urgent care credit is ruind mom has a house but is a terrible hoarder. Broken relationships with my God and embarrassed from my sins because the congregation knows o yeah lost my gf overseas because of the failed investments so yeah life is AMAZING
Keep believing in yourself. ❤ if you have access, try to utilize AI programs (like chatGPT) for resume/cover letter building. Once you have the bones, edit a bit to make it sound like you. 🤞🏼🤞🏼 keep trying! Best of luck to you ✨✨
I'm 78 and listening to this young man of 55. Wish I was that age again. But this is probably the happiest time of my life despite the aches. I think you never stop learning even at my age I always thought old people must have it figuered out. Sorry they don't, not if they're honest. Just enjoy each day as it comes because you have less of them no matter what age you are. They're running out. I suggest you act now and stop dreaming of a better life. It's your life so take control. Mistakes are inevitable but you'll learn from them and at least you tried and you'll be a better person because of it. Persistence will get you everywhere. OK....enough.
Wise words. Much respect sir I wish you all the best
Ty
Ive been noticing i have been wasting a lot of my time wishing I was younger because things were better/easier with more of a future. Im losing my future now by being stuck in that mindset instead of living
Thank you for inspirational worlds sir
I am 67 and wholeheartedly agree! Thank you, sir.
Lost my son, my job, home, all in a matter of months, I'm 42, Your words have just managed to lift this elephant off of my chest for a few minutes, thank you.
go to JESUS brother.
@@lunarmist428 I have, love and blessings to you.
I’m so sorry! I’m praying for you!
Blessings and prayer for you my friend! 🙏❤️🕯🕊
Keep it together man. Just know you are being tested for your strength. Be strong and pass the exam of life. Everyone has one or two so you aren't alone at all.
Dad been dead five years now I'm 26, mom died at 16. I am telling you know this peice of wisdom is worth it weight in gold to people in my shoes. Dad tried to teach me as much as a young man would listen to in 21 years, but this is the stuff he left out unintentionally.
Man, so many awesome take aways.
1. Lifes is not a race, so act your age and enjoy life.
2. Life is hard. The hardest thing youve ever been through is gonna feel like a disaster. Later on youll realize it wasnt.
3. Your gonna make mistakes, just make fewer.
4. Setbacks to goals happen. But dont give up.
5. Your not behind in life. The movies are a fantasy. Your ideal life is probably one too.
6. No one expects you to have figured it out.
SAGE wisdom. Thank you brother!
6. *Many expects you to have figured it out. But they can go f_ck themselves!
The main issue with the first one is when you start comparing yourself to others, when people compare to each other they create a big poison to real personal success.
bless up for the notes have a great day
It's OK to make mistakes as long as you learn from them - it's unavoidable! Some things you think are a sure thing can still turn out to be wrong.
You're*
As an almost 27 yr old, hearing "act 26 not 56" really hit me. I worry so much about the future problems or possible problems that I don't focus on the now.
I'm learning my worth and I want to stay open to learning more, always. Imaginary burden and cornering myself to worry about things that aren't mine to worry about (for the most part) are things I've gotta work on. I really needed to hear this, and by what I see in the comments, I'm not alone. You've done a great service for multiple generations here, thank you very much. 💕
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Jesus said "Only those who behave like children shall enter the kingdom of heaven." That's a fact. :)
It's ok that you worry about the future, as long as you also do something about it. Plan ahead, but also leave a little time and energy to enjoy the present.
26 here, I feel like I’m in the same boat. So much pressure from myself to be like those 20 year old millionaires we read about. But they aren’t me. I think the mindset of wanting to improve is the most telling aspect of a persons potential
Same here, check out this booked called “think like a monk” by jay shetty, my wife got it for me and it’s been helping me alot
These comments make my heart feel so full. Thank you so much to everyone here for sharing your experiences and being so vulnerable, as a confused 23 year old recent college graduate, your stories are so comforting to read
As another 23 yr old who's confused and just recently graduated I'm comforted as well😭😭
These are words of wisdom that help me get sorted out.
I'm about to turn 39, no career, no partner, no kids.
For a long time I thought of myself as a loser because I compared myself to people who had all of that and so much more, simultaneously giving in to the pressure from society.
I recently had a break through moment where I realized that my life is unique to me and that I shouldn't compare myself to others unless I want to be miserable.
My life has been anything but typical and hearing the words of @Dry Creek Wrangler School is a helpful reminder of that, as well as to be patient and encourages me to carve my own unique path through life instead of blindly following the heard or letting the opinions of others pull me off my path. Much thanks and gratitude.
I’m 39 and have two teenage children, but divorced a long time ago and struggled along in just about every arena of my life. Career, finances, relationships, I continue to try to improve and continue to fail, but I keep trying and learning. Life has humbled me for sure and it would be very easy to give in to despair if I compare myself to everyone else. But you’re right, we all walk a different path! My children have been my only priority and I’m proud of how I raised them on my own despite everything else being a mess. I dreamed of a healthy marriage and more children which hasn’t happened for me but the future has something in store for me and for you too.
It's true. Comparing yourself to others is a guaranteed path to unhappiness, because however you run the comparison - whatever trait or skill or worldly possession you focus on - there will almost certainly be someone out there who is better at it or has more of it than you do. Hell, even if you are the best in the world at one thing, you certainly aren't the best in the world at two things. There's an upper limit to the rat race; you can only be so much, can only own so much.
The key to happiness is not being the best in the world, or having the most in the world: nor even being the best or having the most in your own little corner of the world. Happiness, or as close as we can get to happiness, is in giving your own gifts to the fullest extent you can, and learning to appreciate the gifts you have, as they are uniquely yours.
Yes, I know it sounds cliche as all hell. As a younger man, I would have dismissed words like this out of hand (and I've seen a few others in this comment section who think like I used to). But the reason I thought that way, in Dwayne's words, is because I didn't yet have the life experience to see the deep wisdom hidden inside such simple truths. If you live long enough and fight hard enough, survive enough bullshit, one day you can come to see their wisdom too. Don't give up and don't expect so much out of yourself. Just get through today, and tomorrow, and the day after that.
Amen brother!@@criticaljohnson
I'm 18 with no car, no jobs getting back to me, and no scholarship's to go to college with. I struggled though highschool during COVID, got low grades, and I've lost near all my friends through school, school changes and rumors. I feel like I'm lower in life than others my age. this video helped me to realize that I need to slow down and keep doing things to help my future. Thank you.
Eventually you just gotta realize that you’re the only one who can save yourself and you gotta grind this shit out
I was in the same boat. I couldn’t change on my own and decided I need the help. That help came in the form of joining the Marine Corps. Find your own legend, make that legacy!
I’m 18 and in the same situation, 3 years ago my dad lost his job, he got diagnosed with dementia, we sold our house, was homeless for 3 months and he passed away last year in January. Then 5 months later I almost had a major heart attack and am lucky to be alive, the doctors said it would take a year to heal. So here I am with a bad education because of the reasons I just listed and on top of that I can’t get a job or move any of my chess pieces on the board because I’m still healing ❤️🩹. It could always be worse even though that really doesn’t help your feelings much but look at it this way, at least we aren’t in Ukraine getting blown up into a million tiny pieces right now. We both feel stuck, my plan is to get a car first, save some money and then go into the military or trade school. Definitely not alone bro and the grass is not always greener on the other side, sometimes there’s no grass at all, so chill and decide what the first step is and slowly move from there. I saw my dad slowly lose his mind, he couldn’t talk, he just screamed, he couldn’t eat, he had to drink shakes, he couldn’t drink hardly at all by the end of it and he was so skinny you could see his ribs, I had to pick him up when he collapsed. I would rather go to war than go through that again. THE ONLY REASON IM TELLING YOU THIS IS BECAUSE IT CAN GET ALOT WORSE THAN YOU CAN EVEN IMAGINE SO JUST CHILL
@@haxor6863 this is my motivation to keep going man I am so sorry that happened to you. You did not deserve that. But it all happened for a reason. God gives his strongest men the hardest tests.
28 year old here, I can absolutely promise you, that if you keep your chin up and press on, it will blow over. You'll look back on this period as one of those times you had to "go into the forge to get stronger". All these difficult times count for something, it's just not always apparent when you're going through the thick of it. Press on.
My gosh, I'm a 47 yr old woman starting over from scratch and I needed this so much I'll probably replay once a day for a while. Thank you.
How are you holding up?
39 and starting from scratch but already feel like I’ve achieved more this time then I did in last 38
I hope you are well Leah.
I’m sorry for whatever circumstances led to you starting from scratch, but the fact that you are here means you’ve got a good head on your shoulders and you’ll be alright. Stay strong Leah.
I hope you find success and happiness, Leah. Good luck!
I totally agree on still learning at 66 soon to be 67 yr old woman. Always learning throughout our life. Thx for your kind words of wisdom 🙏 ✝️😊
I’m 28 and I just wanted to thank you for this video made me feel better about my life, been going through a lot of shit that I haven’t had to contend with before and it’s been getting on top of me lately, hearing this has helped me realise I will get through it and was just what I needed to hear thanks again
"A blade does not become strong, It does not become tempered until it's been through the fire" I'll treasure that for the rest of my life.
"A gem can't be polished without friction"
"Diamonds can't be formed in the absence of pressure"
"An arrow can't reach its destination without being pulled back"
70+ and still learning. You never stop learning till your gone. "Keep on keepin on" is one phrase that gets me thru.🤔👍🇺🇸💯
48 and I still have a ways to go
47 and just starting to see the light
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Wisdom!
From the books you read and the people you talk to!
Thank you
Anytime I think I have it bad, I just look around
I´m 26, got married 4 years ago.. I have a 2 years old daughter, I have a college degree, I have an awesome remote job that pays well enough and let me stay at home and have more time with my family, I drive a nice car but 3 years ago I remember that I was not making enough for me and my wife... I remember telling her on a 14th February when I had no money to give her any gift because I was getting paid the next day that better times would come, we had been married for months and things didn´t get better. Some days I wanted to give up and quit what I was doing but my wife encouraged me, now I can say that better times did came I feel stress free living my life to the fullest.
I'm 22 and I lost my dad 4 months ago and my 16 year old brother 2 months ago, it's honestly been a big struggle and a friend's mom sent me this video, it's honestly what I needed to hear.
I'm 23 and lost my younger sister 11 months ago. Loss is incredibly hard. And it's alienating to experience it at our age I think.
Remembering this videos message helps me. You only get stronger from climbing uphill. Things will get better eventually. Be patient and go easy on yourself!
Much love ❤. Stay strong. You’ve got this bro
How did your brother pass? Sorry for your loss btw. Stay strong!
@@jacks910 he was robbed and shot in the head over $40.
@@Justchillin429 Oh my god, that’s horrible. I’m so sorry to hear about that. It’s so saddening and disgusting to realize what kind of savages are out there in this world, who have no regard or remorse for human life when it comes to getting something they want. I hope they caught the SOB, if not which hopefully isn’t the case, I’m praying for the guilt to devour and eat up the perp. It genuinely upset me to hear about that, so I can’t even imagine in the slightest, what you are going through. Please stay strong brother, and never give up! God rest your brother’s soul, and let karma come strike down the sad excuse of a human who committed the act.
This is real relevant to me. I’m 35, going through a divorce with the woman I thought was the love of my life, seems like I’ve lost everything in the last year. I was feeling like it was too late to start over, feeling like I was ashamed with where I was at. Living in the back of my $1000 truck working as a laborer on a construction site. Your video brought a little positive energy to me, I’m grateful
Sound like a hard working individual.
There with you brotha, just take it one day at a time I had a good size tire shop lost everything due to an ex but now working day to day. Im tired but we gots to keep going.
living in the back of your truck? what a chad.
Divorced at 31… had to pay out 30k in alimony plus half of everything. Now at 47 yea of age, got it all together. But still so much to learn
Hang in there friend… you got this
@@jledesma1175 any advice while going through it.
I really appreciate you for making this video and everyone commenting. Im 20 years old and am currently in nursing school. I struggle with the thought of not getting the job I want and essentially “wasting” my time. Watching this helped me realize that all I can do is take it one day at a time and embrace the journey.
Same age as you, just different education. Good luck in life bro!
same boys i’m 20 getting a accounting degree
I'm 20 as well and l have lost my parents, grew up in a dysfunctional "accidentally' trauma home, lost friends, jobs , loves ... I am now facing my honestly biggest or at least a major learning point and experience in my life. I have been learning the horrible new ups and downs that come with drug addiction. I look back at my short life and can't even begin to recall all the monumental changes that happened to who I am
@@TerryTheSnoop Just think about "what if i make it through this" and imagine how strong and wise you will be for it bro... ofc ur life wasnt fair but try to make best of it :)
There's always something comforting about an old man letting you know it's gonna be alright. Shit is wack rn and it never seems to slow. Really needed this
Yep
Lol....he's 53, that's not an old man. I'm 53 now and don't consider myself an old man by any means...more like a wise soul. You'll see when you're 53....God willing.
@@DaveSchnare he’s 55 he said it in the video
@@DaveSchnare At 53 you're over halfway to dead. You are getting old. You don't have to *feel* old though. That's the secret. Some of the youngest souls I've met have been in creaky old bodies.
@@DaveSchnare 53 is old, nothing wrong with being that way
"Stop being so hard to yourself."
This, for some reason, hit so hard coming from him than any other person I've ever heard it from.
fr right!?
Dude is the living Arthur morgan
Straight up mate…..😣
Probably because he truly meant it. Came straight from his soul.
Didn’t thought I need advice from cowboy, but it was most helpful thing I found on UA-cam in the last few years
I’m a 63 year old black man who stumbled across your channel. I agree with everything you had to say because I have lived it. Your past , present and future I realize that I’m not the same man I was in the past, and I will be a different man in the future. I am now retired and I realize at this age that I don’t know everything and I’m not trying to pretend that I do. I tell my wife that we have made it this far in our journey. God has truly blessed us , we find ourselves without any wants or needs, just enjoy the ride.
bless you, sir
When?
Your comment is beautiful.
I'm a 61 year old white man....share the same feelings and experiences. Don't know what race has to do with it. A man is a man and their journey is their own.
Nice one William. I’m glad I found this channel too. (I am a 60 year old, not too wise, white woman.)
The way he pauses and say, "but they ain't got cool stories to tell," gives me chills! Heres to failure, heres to never giving up, and heres to having a damn good time doing it! Love and strength to you all.
Yup, I'm the one with no stories to tell for fear of failure. At 30 it is beginning to crush me. I'm glad for this video.
Me too. One time I was in a cab ride to work, running late. We got stuck in traffic and got talking. He told me all hiking trails he’d completed. I told him about this one I’d tried and failed disastrously in hilarious circumstances (weren’t funny at the time I can tell you). We both laughed so much. Then he told me what I assume was his best hiking story, and it was that his wife almost fell over because her pack was so heavy. It occurred to me then that this guy may have meticulously planned and completed his trips, but I’d just went for it, messed up, but ended up with all these funny stories that I’ll remember for the rest of my life.
You are so right it's better to loved and lost then have done nothing at all
Very well said Nathan :)
Cheers :)
This was the first video of yours that showed up on my feed, in one of the darkest times of my life. This video made me cry because it was just what I needed to hear. Dewayne, thank you. I just saw your podcast and all you have done and accomplished is so appreciated. Your words to the disaffected youth are so incredibly valuable. You are right that young people are waking up that things are right. People like you guide us right. Thank you.
I have to admit in the past I once made a negative comment about one of your vids and I apologise as I didn't know who you were and it is clear you are a man full of wisdom, this almost brought me to tears as it's so relevant and I really learnt a lot from this video, I subscribed, respect from the UK!
"I'm 55 yrs old, and I'm just starting to get a little figured out" I'm 56, that sounds about right. Your doing a good job sharing, and your using that gift that He gave you -the gift of encouragement. The world needs this right now, bravo for running your race and doing it well. cheers from New England
Amen. Exhortation
Very well put
58, figured out I always have new things to figure out. I have figured out I will be able to figure it out.
as a 21 year old who has been freaking out about "not doing enough" since my teenage years, watching this genuinely made me cry. and reading the comments section made feel so safe. it's weird but i'm actually so happy to know that there are people my age and even older than me who feel the same way. i feel like as a girl, i have to prove myself a lot and over and over again or else i won't be seen as "important" or "valuable" to my family. i know it sounds very immature and weird to consider yourself "valuable" or not but i really do feel that pressure to be the best of the best or else my education and my upbringing has been completely useless and i'm a failure. thank you very much for lifting some weight off my shoulders ❤
You are a human BEING. Just be!
Ah man, we love ya. I hear so many kids on VRChat who have these same fears. You *should* be afraid. Gen Z is looking pretty solid. Millennials were pretty hard on ourselves too. Half the Boomers see us as entitled and they don't understand why we can't buy or build homes as they draw another social security check from my children's future. Many boomers think we're not having children because children are inconvenient. Children are a blessing, but I'm not bringing more kids into a world without the time and finances to give them the best future I can give them. I waited until 34 to start having kids. That's not unusual for my generation. We're scared. The more I understand legislation, the more I see that we *should* be scared. Our parents excessively borrowed from our future and that payment is coming due. Don't think of life as inherited from your parents. It's also borrowed from your kids. This man has some sweet words, but they're sweet poison. We need to act. Don't just lean back and say "we didn't start the fire." The average age of first-time mothers in America is now up from 21 to 26, while for fathers, it's increased from 27 to 31. Children aren't inconvenient, Boomers are. They sucked off their parent's blood and then spun around and drained their daughters.
Im 27 and i still have this heavy anxiety and pressure that i MUST be buying a house, be earning x amount a year. But even in my mind i imagine having all of it together but I question myself "would that make me happy? Really? Would having all that just make my problems go away? I dont think it would. Whats wrong with me. What will make me happy-im lost. I panic. I shut down and dont want to do anything. I dont want to smalltalk people (or especially customers) i couldn't care for them as they make 0 difference to my life nor I do theirs. Then i think everythings meaningless. Then I blame myself for being so negative and thus worry about bringing others around me down with me and i hate myself for not being happy. Im stuck in a loop.
@@MrShazaamable I'm 30 y/o and will change my work because of bad work environment and adhd and depression related problems and doing a reha measurement and such. And I really start feeling happy and content although there is still so much to do and to think about. Try to take a deep breath, take your time and try not to judge your feelings, they are completely valid if you feel them, they have a reason. The world we live in is very complex and absurd and full of problems. So it's normal for every human to feel sometimes lost and every person takes their own time, some take longer and that's okay too :) don't stress yourself over what will make you happy, just feel your feelings and you will figure out what you don't want and what you clearly want... But most of it will be a maybe. So try to do some things and if they make you happy, try to do more of it :) you don't have to know what you want and how to get it, you don't have to be happy and perfect, the journey is what's counting. Be kind to yourself, that's the most important part.
Dude who cares you are young
34F here. I lost my twenties completely because I'd been a caretaker of my mom, who passed away 6 years ago and has left this great void in my heart since. Now I am stuck with a father who fell ill a lot as well. It's really difficult for me to balance life, finance, works, and relationships under this kind of pressure, and sometimes I feel so isolated and somewhat a loser for not being able to make everything work like I'm supposed to... thanks for your video, it resonates and helps a ton :)
You're not alone and you're not a loser, you've done what no one can imagine. You've stayed and took care of your parents through sickness and health. God has blessed you with resilience and strength like no other, pushing foward through life and the obstacles it has thrown your way. You are where you are for a reason. Those who honor their fathers will be made happy by their own children, and they will be heard when they pray. - Sirach 3: 5-15 - take care of yourself and know that God loves you with every ounce in his heart. 🤍🙏🏼🙌🏼
Such a peak video. This is one of those videos that will be timeless and people can always come back to. You're a hero for this one. I'm in my late 20s getting close to 30... As you said, I think what really hits for most people is not being where you thought you would be and that we should be somebody or somewhere by a certain age. But you're right. There really is no time limit to these things. I think that's what weighs people down a lot. Wanting to make their loved ones, parents and more important themselves proud. But it's difficult. It's cool to see a lot of people are in the same boat regardless of age. By the comments some have really gone through a lot losing their jobs, homes and loved ones...the courage it takes to pick yourself up is truly commendable and you should be proud of that. Every year that NY or a birthday passes, a part of me is just glad I'm still alive. Especially when I know a few who have taken their own life and considered it myself on many occasions. But even if I get depressed or stressed there are still very few moments of happiness to be had now and in the future.
I'm 49... This is the first year I've ACTUALLY had stuff figured out. I live on 5 acres in a 5th wheel off grid. At one point I owned a 3200 sq ft home.... Yet here with near nothing, I'm more stable, more focused, more centered, and yes wiser. I have a CLEAR vision of what I NEED to do... I've healed from my childhood trama and I'm finally figuring out WHO I am and what I WANT.... And what I NEED... this man is telling extream truths
So happy for you! Good luck!
I'm rooting for you ❤❤❤❤
Needed to see this comment. 44 and see the same change coming.
The sooner you realize that you’ll never have it all together the better imo. Not at 16, 26, 36…66…never, and that’s ok.
@@scotiacrumpler2824 agreed....
I'm 25 and going through the roughest year of my life so far. I lost my Papa in August, and I only realized it after he passed but that man had all the wisdom and knowledge I needed to get me through this tough time. I was sitting here missing him wishing I could just ask him for some advice and then I open up UA-cam and this video just randomly pops up. My Papa was the biggest cowboy I ever met. And one of the greatest men to ever walk this planet. And everything said in this video is exactly what I think he would tell me right now if he could. Thank you for this.
I lost my parent in August also. My mother was an alcoholic for as long as I can remember. I thought that since she was once in Hospital and was diagnosed with a liver cancer she will open her eyes. But she didn't, and 3 hours before she died I spoke to her on a phone (I am 19 years old and moved to Netherlands in June, didn't even had a chance to say goodbye to her in person).
I am scared to death what will happen with me after my dad will pass away, and the fact that he is suffering from Parkinson's is a fuel for my anxiety.
I wish you all the best, a lot of strenght.
After some time we will surely get through this. :)
Yessir!..keep your head up young man..there's greatness inside of you!
Stay blessed my friend.
Your dad sounds like a total legend and I hope you can take solace from all the wonderful times you had together. I bet you've got some great cowboy stories! Sending you a big hug☺️💝 glad you getting some comfort from this video too x
@@alu697 dear alicia, I'm so sorry that you are suffering so much pain right now. I hope you can see your dad as much as possible but I know how scary it is - my father is 74 and I have anxiety about his health.
I found polyvagal exercises are good for calming anxiety. There are books and videos on how to calm vague nerve. Also deep breathing, immersing face into ice water, mindfulness all help me to survive PTSD for the last 12 years. I wish you well, you are stronger than you think💐🌿☺️
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This is exactly what I needed to hear right now. Thank you.
What a great person you are. So much wisdom. Encouraging people to not get down. Chill, adapt and do not give up.
I'm 83 and couldn't be more supportive of what you have just shared. Words that are important to all of us to absorb - even regardless of age. I would feel proud if I could do what you have just done here.
thanks for your comment Bob, for me this felt so important. young men like me are yearning for connection with the elder folks, seems like it is wiped out in our society. to much loneliness, to little interaction.
my respect sir
Do you have any advice for me at 28 years old?
@@joeybutts13 I wanted to think about your request for any advice a while before I responded. So here goes. I never give advice because I don't live your world. But what I will do is suggest you think about this - from birth on forward we are all indoctrinated with the following belief which is as American as Apple pie, yet it drives most of our feelings and behaviors in a way totally unknown to us. That belief is:
"You're not good enough, yet." Think about what that means, how that affects youvwhen you are silently and unknowingly believing it of yourself.
@@marinusvanvliet5135 See what I wrote to Joseph.
I'm a 30 y/o combat vet with really bad PTSD. I'm terrified to leave the apartment to take the trash out these days. I've been right on the ledge lately and I'm not sure why, but 5:57 brought me to tears. "You keep going" in that gentle tone. Not a demand, not an order, not begging someone to stay...just the words from someone who did keep going. You say you're not wise, but you are.
I will keep going and find that card to play. You saved a life sir. Thank you.
I hope things improve for you
So sorry it's been so hard. The VA has help for this. It's called CBT, or cognitive behavioral therapy. There are other therapy methods that can help overcome the severity of PTSD too. EMDR, and more.
I haven't gone through anything nearly as traumatizing, but I went through a really bad breakup. Everyday I remind myself of how much I been through & that I'll get through this one too and it'll only make me stronger and then I would be unstoppable 😂. But there's some truth to it I feel. The more you go through, the tougher skin you develop and it becomes harder to take you down. Listen to, "There will be days like these", by Miles Carter. Every line is beautiful, but one he says, "your past is not who you are, but rather the context for who you will be. Your flaws do not make up your being, but serve as reminders that you are human broken in a way that is beautiful leaving no room for normalcy you... are special". "Realize there is power... in your perspective... the world is yours". Things will get better because your the narrative of your own story ✨️
May God bless you and keep you safe! Greetings from Romania, bro!
Your not alone sir. We are here for you.
Thank you for, thank you very much for showing up in my life. I am going through a period of realizing how much hurt I have caused to myself and to others and your words are what I wanted to hear from them as I choose to grow every day. Again, thank you for being here with and for us.
They way I long for a conversation with this man about life thank you for the wise words to keep us going
Might sound kind of cheesy, but I really needed to hear this today. I'm a young woman in my mid-twenties, and I'm only just now realizing that I'm not a failure because I don't have everything together. The last two years were so full of problems and stress, and in the last few months, I was completely broke and had to move across the country to a new job with only my sister helping, which up to then was one of the hardest problems I had encountered. I was terrified of driving big vehicles, almost to the point of anxiety attacks, but the only option I had was a U-haul, so I steeled myself up, said a prayer, and made it happen. And it turned out fine and I'm not as afraid of moving anymore.
I tried to take those months of crisis, depression, and paycheck-to-paycheck one day at a time, and the good Lord helped out and everything ended up fine; now my job is going well, I'm ahead on bills, I've paid one of my debts off already, and I'm on the way to finish paying off the last two in less than a year. Sometimes things go up and down but the most important thing I've learned is that pain is inevitable and suffering is optional. When you face the pain and inconvenience and pointless difficulties in life head on and treat them more as learning and humbling experiences, you get a lot more out of it and aren't so afraid anymore.
I'm a stranger on the Internet. Reading this filled me with genuine, strong pride. I'm adude in his Mid 20's, England, and I can relate to your issues so much, especially when it comes to dealing with Anxiety attacks head on. You may not believe it but you're inspirational. As much as you needed this wonderful video, I needed this comment.
Bless you, Bless your family and bless your future. You got this
Way to go girl 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 you need to be really proud of yourself. You are making great strides.
Good on you! Proud of how far you've come! It all turns out as it should in the end, despite the pain at any given moment.
Kudos to you for persisting! All obstacles can be overcome
Enjoy your 20s. You got time. God is good, and Rome wasn't built in a day. "Slow down u crazy child, your so ambitious for a juvenile, there's only so many hours in a day." Billy Joel
29 year old black female and this video came out of nowhere. It is very helpful as this is new years day and I am approaching 30 feeling behind in life sometimes. Thank you sir for wisdom 🙏🏾
Wow sis me too I'm literally exhausted and sick of this I'm working hard I'm not even enjoying my life just by trying to keep a roof over my head it's depressing to keep up a facade when I'm not okay
SAME!!! 2023 time to just DO no overthinking just do it!!! We got this!
@@queenofthedancehall5669 it is ok to not be ok. I'm 27 with severe mental illness and just now getting some results with a few supplements I'm on. I finally was able to clean the kitchen and fridge. It was horrible and miserable, but my lithium orotate got me through it. One day at a time. One new supplement at a time, for me at least.
Happy new years, let's hope our 2023 is better than 2022.
God bless
God bless you and your family ❣️🙏
This is one of the best uses for UA-cam. Learning and sharing with peers is what this platform needs more of, thank you for sharing experiences and advice.
I've listened to this a dozen times and each time it hits hard. It's sometimes what I need to hear
I’m now 27 and my life hasn’t changed since I was 23. Not married, no relationship, no kids, I moved back in with my parents. I went back to college and got a 2nd BA degree because my GPA was so low I couldn’t get into a Masters program. I got my dream job worked it 5 weeks and quit because my boss was verbally abusing me on the daily. Now I’m working at an elementary school and learned the importance we leave on people’s lives. “They may be a little part of your life, but you are a big part of theirs.” Knowing that has brought me more happiness than anything else. Find what makes you happy and focus on that, the rest will come in due time.
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Aye man I’m in a similar situation from 23 unitl now I’m 25 things have been the same live by myself I am a licensed barber but the gig isn’t doing it for me financially anymore I want to go back to school to try and pursue my dream career thinking about moving back with my parents im not sure if being 25 is already to late to go to school
@@sixstrz8310 I’ll tell you this, I went back for my second BA at 24. Covid hit and I didn’t finish till I was 26. It was worth every second. It was a better experience and I did better in class. We place too much stress on high schoolers to go straight to college, but they need more exposure to the real world and time to grow up some more.
@@kloveda5 thanks for the words of wisdom and I do agree sometimes we need to get into the real work world to gain some life knowledge school is always there for you in case you wanna go back to it exactly what I’m going to
Keep going man and I am so happy to hear that you are sharing your experience with young minds at school who need it most. Stay blessed.
As a 23 y/o political science dropout who comes from a family of criminality, mental illness, addiction and unemployment, your words meant so much to me.. ty sir, subscriber earned.
bro don't let your family affect your personality. you are born free. go to hubermanlab youtube channel and grab some tools for self improvement
@@wasifkareem6441 farts
@@jonny_codphilo7809 facts?*
I wish you well Darth. You'll be fine.
I have had my dark days. I would say become a plumber or other such trade. Two years of effort and I promise your world will change. I promise you with work it will get better.
Man you described so much that I have been through and I am so appreciative of your wisdom and even more so of you sharing it with us. I hope most people got the message “it’s not time which brings us the most wisdom, it’s experience.” Going out and doing things that require us to learn skills and everything that can go wrong. We don’t learn if we don’t fail. I very rarely put videos in my ‘Videos that Changed my Life’ playlist but this is undoubtedly going in it.
Thank you sir.
I've saved this, cuz I didn't think I was "old enough" the first time I watched it's. Been only a year, but it's been a year that teached me a lot. Teached me how to be a man, teached me how life isn't simple. We're always learning.
Eternal babies, cause no one can tell you how to be you, how to "fix" everything.
I didn't wish you were my dad, but I wish, you were a friend that I knew sooner.
You speak truth, simple and direct. No one knows shit, we gotta live n' learn, always.
He needs to have a podcast. He has such a beautiful voice and what he is saying is phenomenal.
You can find the podcast on Spotify as Dry Creek Podcast
@@DryCreekWranglerSchool OMG you replied thank you so much I love your work!! I hope you have a wonderful day xxx
A podcast with Joe Rogan would be sick
Always good when young adults have their heads on strait and have some amount of good sense.
💌, "🎁" TRUE UPLIFT...
I MOST DEFINITELY CONCUR..."THIS SIR❣"
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Damn this shit made me cry man. Being a man is so hard, especially when you have to grow up so fast from a young age. No one understands you and the world tries whatever it can to kill you. Thank you for making these videos. Sometimes its nice to just let it all go.
The main thing is to get in a group which supports you and propels you to better circustances.
HONESTLY I JUST TURNED 18 I had to grow up so fast
Everyone is in the same boat & they ALL understand !
truth ... W
@@AM-es4mp Not everyone, the people at the top get to coast by on "easy mode" while the poor suffer.
This is some of the best, most wholesome advice I’ve ever heard. Thank you.
I love the analogy of the infant struggling to walk and how that's the biggest disaster of their life. That's a great way of remembering that there will always be new tests and trials in life, and thus new life lessons and opportunities to grow beyond. Thanks!
Man when you said stop being so hard on yourself..
I broke down in tears..
Thanks for the encouragement
He's right. Best of luck to you
Thank you buddy. I wish you all the best too..
I hope you have been well brother¡
Man I can’t explain how badly I needed this, currently pouring tears because I can’t possibly imagine a future where I actually get off these drugs, but here I am 48 hours in and I’m gonna push these next few minutes thanks to you
I feel you on that. I cannot see myself sober. Although I know that I'm ready to be. But bad things keep happening and I cannot control my life anymore so I have been turning to drugs to cope. It's so stupid because the problems are still there. I hope we both can stay strong. One day at a time right? ❤
@@heatherowen830 one day at a time! Please don’t lose hope, the drugs aren’t the problem, it’s our minds. Like you basically said. We can improve and we must. We deserve the best❤️ we are worth it.
@@heatherowen830 be kind to yourself. You've been in a lot of pain and you're getting through it. There's a deep seated reason for you to be self medicating. God knows that. Its the same for me... I have family history from my early childhood that I'm only just now realizing how much it's impacted me. Look back at those old wounds, even though its hard. bring them into the light. If you can find and treat the root cause you have a much better chance of quitting.
God is very patient with people struggling with addiction. He wants us to be healed. God does not want us to hurt anyone else or ourselves, by getting too far into a bad habit. But his aim isn't to condemn us, its to save us through Jesus Christ. Jesus can and will save us, and forgive us. We just have to put our trust in him.
"But for you who revere my name, the sun of righteousness will rise with healing in its wings."
Malachi 4:2a ❤
If you slip down the ladder a rung or two, just don't let go. As your body overcomes the addiction by staying clean as long as you can, as many times as you can, eventually you will have the physical part whipped. Don't let a "cheat day" become a surrender. See yourself as drug free and eventually you will become. ✊
do yoga. eat right. get sunshine. walk and listen to books. research psilocybin. smile with friends. find a spiritual ally. travel. explore. do expressive writing, a lot. exercise intensely with a support group. play sport. love your family. take care of people when you feel good. that's how i recovered from and flourished after a very dark year of amphetamine use. that was more than 10 years ago. now i am totally a different person. actually thankful for that drug addicted year. it pushed me to explore natural healing and different perspectives on living.
Thank you for this. I happened across this right when I needed to, and the day ahead doesn't look as scary as it did 20 minutes ago. Forward, always. 🙏
Got diagnosed with a rare brain tumor, vestibular schwannoma at 26. Turned 27 and had surgery a week later. I graduated college with my computer network engineering degree right before my surgery. I’m 28 now. Been in recovery since July 2021 when I had the surgery. Lots of therapies and moments of weakness with feelings of hopelessness as I learned to maneuver my new norm of the loss of balance, chronic dizziness, migraines, hearing lost on surgery side, memory issues, severe dry eye.. this video brought me a great amount of peace, and I want to thank you personally for putting this video out there to others. It was very introspective and helped put my life more into perspective. Take care!
I'm right there with you. 27 when I was diagnosed with a brain tumor (anaplastic astrocytoma), had the surgery (awake craniotomy, Sept. 2021), just finished up 15 months of chemo. I've had a lot of the same issues, I was about halfway done my degree when the diagnosis happened, ended up dropping out. Prognosis could be better, so school's off the table for now. But definitely felt the loss of normalcy and trying to readjust to everything again. Videos like this really help.
I’m 38, a survivor of Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia, just a little over a year in remission and actually just had my port removed today. I keep talking about getting a degree in computer or mechanical engineering but haven’t put fourth the effort to enroll. I have 10yrs in machining but nothing else other than a ton of excuses . But this video and y’all comments are very eye opening and thank you all for that.
You guys stay strong, you made it so far and I hope all the best and health for you. I don't know you but I am proud of you, stay strong kings🔥
This might help, it might not, but maybe look into getting Daith piercings.
Sounds stupid, but they do actually help with migraine and dizziness. I was suffering with both thanks to inheriting a susceptibility to them. Got the piercings and a month on, I've had maybe one dizzy spell since.
Hope things keep on getting better for you.
God bless you ! I’m turning 27 this year, you make my situation feel like child’s play.. but we’re bith going to figure this out! God bless you! I hope to get my degree in computer science
I'm 67 and when I saw you in that rocket chair with that hat I had to listen. Then I know this was a clip that my son of 26 and my older son at 35 needs to hear. I hope all young people will hear this. These young people are growing up with so much stress in their life. I pray that they all end up reading the word of God bc there is no other way. God bless you sir!
I turned 27 yesterday and have finally realized that in my own life. Praise god
I’d have these talks when my grandfather all the time it’s been almost two years since he’s passed and watching your vids bought me back all the memories I couldn’t tap into
As a 24 yr old man, after college and the military didn't work out, I lived for years telling myself I'm a failure in life. I needed to hear this sir, thank you.
25 year old. I struggled years in college only to find out I failed desperately trying to think this was what was expected of me. Never worked a day in my life, and I usually ask people for advice on where I can start. Not easy to do, and people are so judgemental calling people lazy or have some learning disorder.
Dude, I’m in the same boat getting out of the military makes you feel like your whole world is changing.
❤Life isn’t about how you pay the bills. It’s about how you emotionally discipline yourself to meet challenges and choices you make can either help and make life better or provide more to overcome and help you grow up. Love is the icing of living well.
David Goggins
Just keep swimming!
A 10 mile journey gets completed one step at a time.
Slow and steady is better than no movement.
Anyways.. don’t give up, follow what you love to do and you’ll be guided into the right direction.
And if you don’t know what you love doing, start trying out random activities.
Be patient with yourself. You’re are amazing and you will push through! ❤️💯🔥
It’s so sad that most of us don’t enjoy the “gift” of life because of stress, life problems, feelings of thinking you haven’t done enough. Sometimes I wish life was simple and we could just live and love the fact we are alive because one day we won’t be. I hope we all find peace and comfort in our lifetime 🙏🏿
I hope you find that peace too brother . Life is hectic sometimes . Life gets us down sometimes . Wish peace and happiness to you and everyone else who sees this
@@craigwilson6429 thank you brother peace and love to you and everyone else
Stess and problems are one with life, though. There is no such thing as complete peace and complete comfort. Without sadness, there can not be happiness. Without chaos, there can not be peace. Without death, there can not be life.
58 and still learning life's lessons. I very much enjoy listening to this wisdom.
i’m 20 years old and you give me such peace of mind. never stop doing what you’re doing ❤️
Protect this man at all costs
I think he’s doing fine man. Sitting outside smoking his pipe. He doesn’t need protecting.
@@RolandKoller90 for real, I hate when people say this shit lmao
You’re really not supposed to have it together in your 20s or even 30s. 40s is still a growing phase… Jung was right “life starts at 50”. Middle age is maligned and dreaded but it is a phenomenal phase of life because you’ve finally realized there is no having it all together.
How you treat others and yourself is all there is. It’s never too late to become who you were meant to be.
Gem of a talk, glad I stumbled upon it.
Not to be rude, but Life does not start at 50. It is a constant set of every changing problems. As Churchill said, "Life is just one darned thing after another." Most of us stumble through life and hope that what we are doing will turn out well.
@@cstephenson3749 not rude at all! There really is an existing stream of wisdom you can only access later in life. Most don’t but some do. We did not evolve to become feeble, weak, dependent and bitter but our way of life creates all that. You can participate in it and not get lost in it (eating right is a huge help).
@@cstephenson3749 i mainly go by Bruce Lee's quote.
"Don't pray for an easy Life Pray for the strength to endure a difficult one" - Bruce Lee
For me i wish i had a wife or girlfriend to be by my side but for now i have to let go of my sins and look to jesus hoping he gives me strength to be a better man
Lets not get carried away here...
By your 30s you should have a path and some things figured out. Dont kid yourself.
If it takes you to getting to your 50s to have it together you need to kys and hope to god for reincarnation.
So humble. And so motivational. Thank you!
Could listen to you talk for hours. Thank you so much for sharing.
Just turned 23 today and have been feeling lost in life. I really needed this. Thank you
23 is young
23 is so young. I just turned 25 and I have no idea where the time went.