"I used to think the worst thing in life is to end up all alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone." ~ Robin Williams
@@noname-ye7zj if I felt that way, I would be the first one to go, and leave now. You will regret not leaving her first if you know that she’s going to leave you.
Me too. I am living in the world but I am not responsible for saving it. That doesn't mean I won't try to help people (and I'm not even talking from a Christian POV) and be a good person, but it's because I want to and because it makes me happy to be a good person.
as a boy scouts group leader i see lots of young people, girls and guys that are confused by our current social political ways of mistreating the truth. they are confused of their roles and their borders. it is frustrating at times and gives lots of headaches, but it's also the reason i do this voluntary work.
I know im just some random guy on youtube who found your comment, but i hope you found someone to spend christmas with and that you have a good good life.
more or less, as an anti-social person in the majority of time, i can say it would be out of love cuz if u like or get use to loneliness you won't feel lonely...
I turned to alcohol heavily for 3+ years to deal with being lonely. All my family is 2,000 miles away. I'm 5 days sober which isn't a lot, but I'm trying to learn to deal with it in healthier ways. Thanks for your video
A friend of mine once said, “If the person you’re with isn’t lifting you up, they’re dragging you down.” This made me realize that statement applies to how you treat yourself also.
Thats tough, because my wife suffers from depression, and has a hard time controlling that, and the every day emotions are not always controllable. I wouldn't say that statement works for every situation.
@@karlpage9028 I agree but I’d also say,if the person you’re with forces you to confront the ugly parts of yourself even if it’s to meet theirs,so long as it’s based in real selfless love,I think that’s a form of uplifting
Mr. Dwayne thank you so much, I lost my father when I was 16. I'm 28 now and I feel like I just listened heart to heart with him through you. Thank you
I am alone & got a dog, we go hiking and camping & go to parks , I don't feel alone anymore & my dog shows true love & loyalty. So much happier than I ever was .
The only soul that has ever loved me unconditionally was my sweet dog. He was my doggie soulmate. I'm praying he is there waiting when it's my time to cross over. I'm so glad you have found that kind of love, too.
"You're never lonely, if you like who you're alone with." I carry this thought with me every day. A very powerful mindset that I believe every man should cultivate.
This is true! I get more satisfaction trying to make myself happy instead of trying to please someone who thought it was normal to diappear and go no contact whilst working away for days/weeks/months and after years of enduring this, threw a tantrum when I did it back to him. This man had double standards and I could never measure up enough for him despite keeping well groomed, paying all the bills, educating myself, remaining loyal to him. These days, I'm at a point where I would like someone but not necessarily "need" someone in my life. After 4 years I decided I will no longer settle.
Thank you for doing this talk. I'm 50 this year and struggling with the now reality that I'm going to be alone for the first time in my life. So many mistakes and regrets. So I think you may have planted some mustard seeds for me and I'll keep looking down that path. Yah bless brother.
I do the same. It helped when I took a step back to try and realize where all of the negative thoughts came from. I realized it was just all the things my parents had said about me or had believed about me. Which now helps me realize that it probably isn't true and should just be ignored. Not sure if this will help anyone but hopefully it does.
@@gingermuffin4292 Hi, my parents said similar things. The part that made me cry especially is that I was doing this to myself, not because I hated myself, but because it was a learned behavior from our parents. We learned from them our poor qualities, and our self doubt amplified them.
A man can be himself only so long as he is alone; and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free
@@shijagurumayumdeosharma It means don't be pulled into outside issues and controversies. Your life (and the people you love) and sense of purpose should be your focus. The rest is actually a diversion and can even be a form of avoidance of one's own life.
7:19 Im in my early twenties, I left my abusive fathers home. Moved in with my boyfriend found out how toxic he really was two years in. I learnt this the hard way at a young age. I never had a GOOD male figure in my life ever and to this day, but you sir though I never met you, you heal that little piece in me. Thank you.
So sorry that your Father wasn’t around for you. One great thing that you can do someday if you have kids, is to be there for them. I raised two boys , who are grown up now, they were and still are the greatest joy in my life. I spent every free moment with them, and sadly they grew up way too fast. Good luck!
Me neither buddy. I'm 19 and i sometimes feel like i must be missing some kind of secret that having a father around would bring and that the other guys in my school just "knows" maybe not even consciously. Not saying im a total weirdo but sometimes i just feel a bit off beat i guess.
I'm sorry about your parents Ann. I'm 40 and mine are both still healthy and alive even though not together. I try to think of it that EVERYONE must die, but no parent should ever outlive their child, so we are in theory, condemned to watch our parents die at some point. We are lucky to of had loving parents and many don't. Mine will leave me one day and it will be hard but I will never live wreckless on drugs care free and let my mom or dad bury me. I OWE them that much. I'd rather cry for weeks, months, years, instead of letting my mom or dad have to bury me first and suffer the tragedy of seeing me birthed and seeing me dead. God bless
@@annettegenovesi this is why I think you can form loving bonds with people everywhere all the time. Let people inside. Get to know them. Even online. Not because we have to but because we want to. I believe you reap what you sow and if you put kindness and positivity and things like that out into the world and society it will come back to you way more so than putting out negativity.
But he forgets that "being confortable with yourself" requires primarily taking care of your health, and smoking will tend to lead him to hate "himself" like any person who lost the most fundamental part of his well being, which is being in good health
@@kaledon6 He has lived long enough for that to be a problem, also smoking does not cause cancer or any disease for everyone, I have read studies on that and he may be one of the lucky ones who is not prone to cancer.
Good morning. My name is Hannah from North Carolina. Thank you for making this video... For the past 8 months, I have been feeling this unfamiliar feeling that has been uncomfortable. So, this morning i woke up and jumped on the computer looking for ideas that could help me make a start, and I feel that your video has. Thank you very much for making this video.
I’m 66 years old and buried my mother 12/26/22 and week later I lost my wife 01/02/23 to pancreatic cancer at 58 years old. I needed to hear this, this afternoon. Thank you for your time and video.
Stay strong brother. There’s times I feel like that. My wife died of cancer my soul mate but she would want me to be strong and move forward. I’m 44 years old. At the end God will put us together with those we lost.
I'm sorry for your losses. You're a strong person to be able to push through that and keep going. I hope you can take some comfort in knowing you'll see them again.
It's great to see our elders too! I wish we would have more opportunities to speak with them since they lived way longer than us and are wiser than us. They know what we going through.
@Rita I'm really sorry to hear that. I will admit that when I was a little kid, I didn't care much (Tho I still respected them obviously). When I grew up a little, I saw their importance but it was too late. Both my grandparents are dead on my father's side and on my mum my granddad died before I was born. My grandma is too old and has lost her mind a little bit because of the age. I feel sad knowing I lost good moments I could of shared with them, and their knowledge. It was even harder since they lived in Romania and I in Canada. I hope one day your family will learn from their mistakes and come back to you. We never know the luck we have until it's gone. We tend to forget they have been through this and had time to think about it and see it on the long term while we are just experiencing it at the moment. Please excuse any mistakes I made in English (it's my third language). Have a nice day sir/ma'am
I'm a 17 year old guy who's been considering suicide. I've been feeling extremely lonely and afraid of the world and I know that it's time i pick myself back up. This video really inspired me to get my life together and start liking myself again. This is all really good advice and I have a lot of respect for you sir. I hope this video can reach even more people and help them too.
I myself am 17 and i felt the same way! life is pretty hard in these times, but we need to pull ourself together and be the best versions of ourselves! keep looking up brother! it will get better soon, trust me!
@@famousjavis4412 i feel exactly the same man. it's really hard to feel like they want you around but i promise they do. people care a lot more than it usually seems like they do
Im barely 20 and I’ve struggled with crippling lonlieness. I sat back and just listened and it was the best 20 minutes of advice I’ve ever gotten. Thank you so much
I'm 40 and have been in the same position in my 20s. Like someone posted a while back, the Robin Williams quote 'being alone isnt as bad as being around people who make you feel alone' (to paraphrase). Youve always your UA-cam bros if you need a hand. We're always here.
As a 26 year old I feel so much older than I should. I compare my life to all my peers, they all seem to be settling down, getting married, having kids, making 6 figures. I just moved back home to my dads house to take care of him as his health is declining. I’m looking at is as a beautiful thing, spending time with my old man while he’s still here. However, I want to be successful, find love, own a home, have children, but it all seems so impossible. These videos you make really help me get through these hard times, I feel so isolated and alone every single day, but when I watch clips like this, it makes me feel less alone. Thank you.
You have plenty of time. I didn't even start my "career" until 30. Take care of your Dad, there's nothing more important, no matter the sacrifice. Mine's gone, I miss him.
I'm 33 almost 34, living with my parents in the countryside, no friends near, only internet friends that seem far. I couldn't find myself a good job so I am doing many projects, but I find it hard sometimes que loneliness kicks in. You are still young, try your best with what you have right now. Don't look at the past mistakes. Dont overdo easy drugs like sugar, porn, tiktok, etc. They drain out your will to do things. Not every day you will be motivated to do things. Life is hard, those folk who have 8 hour jobs are having a hard time, they are killing themselves slowly. We have the chance to work for ourselves.
I'll just make this point - I spent my 20s working on a 'career' that I just *happily* abandoned at 37. What you do to make money, and how much you make, does *not* define you. Neither does presence or absence of a partner. My father passed a few years back. I hadn't seen him since I was 13, I always wanted to get halfway across the country to visit him but kept telling myself, "There's plenty of time, I'll save for that plane ticket next year." Next year never came. He passed, and no one even bothered to tell me he was in rough shape until 6 months after. That's one regret I'll probably take to my grave. At 40 you'll have forgotten all about feeling like you were lagging behind your peers at 26, you'll have learned there are more important things in life than keeping up with the Joneses. Enjoy your dad while you can.
I'm an 18 year old girl and I'm very glad I came across this video. I know this video wasn't aimed toward people like me but I do think a lot of the things you said can benefit both men and woman. The women who say the things like the things you mentioned in the video are (more often than not) extraordinarily out of touch with life and often dealing with extreme mental health issues (not that it justifies it at all) and I think that this mindset that is so common nowadays is very harmful to both men and women. I remember when I was 14 and I was struggling a lot with loneliness and especially with forming relationships with other people (friends, family, and with men) and I ran to social media and the internet as an alternative (this was also peak pandemic). Everything I was fed was just pure hatred toward men. It was all about "liberating women" through sexual impurity and borderline forcing sex onto young people (like myself) as well as tearing down men to raise women up and it really started to affect the way I saw men. My already complicated relationships with my brothers and dad were affected, I was gay for a short period of time, and overall I thought very lowly of my male classmates and peers. I think back on the mindset I had and it all stemmed from my own insecurities and struggles. Around my junior year of high school I found my way back to Christ and now have a very unique perspective on this. I'm in college now, and I still struggle with loneliness a lot, I won't lie. But the my mindset has changed and that's changed my life as a whole. I feel for those around me who feel like how I used to feel, like being gone was better than being alone, but I promise that there is more to life than being in a relationship or having as many friends as those around you do. I don't have any friends, and I spend all my time studying, but I've come to find that fulfillment won't come with relationships if you don't work on yourself first. In other words, if you're not happy with your life while you're single, you're not going to be happy with your life while you're in a relationship. It might take time, but staying single, not necessarily because you just can't find the perfect person but because you are focusing on self improvement, can be the most peaceful part of the human experience. I really appreciate you posting this! God bless you! Also, these are some verses/quotes from the Bible/Saints/others that I've found that've consoled along my journey! "Because God has made us for Himself, our hearts are restless until they rest in Him." - St. Augustine of Hippo "Acquire inner peace, and thousands around you will be saved. When the Holy Spirit descends upon a person and fills them with the fullness of His presence, their soul overflows with indescribable peace, ineffable joy, and universal love for all. Then even their silence becomes a teaching filled with wisdom, for it enlightens others with the divine light within them." - St. Seraphim of Sarov "So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand" - Isaiah 41:10 "Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God." - Matthew 5:8 "Do not be surprised that you fall everyday; do not give up, but stand your ground courageously. And assuredly, the angel who guards you will honor your patience." - St. John Climacus "In the way of righteousness is life, and in its pathway there is no death." - Proverbs 12:28 "Man, as long as he lives, must always struggle. And his first fight is to defeat himself." St. Ephraim of Katounakia "The more you are in suffering and difficulties and are desperate for God, the more He is going to come to your aid, reveal Who He is, and show you the way to get out" - Fr. Seraphim Rose "When you see any good in yourself attribute it to God, not to self" -St. Benedict of Nursia "If it breaks God's heart, why do you think it will fufill yours?" - I'm not sure ''But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do." - 1 Peter 1:15 "A man who blamed God for not answering his prayers immediately needs to thank God for not punishing him for his sins immediately" - I'm not sure "Our hearts were made for You, O Lord, and they are restless until they rest in you." - St. Augustine "Right is right even if no one is doing it, wrong is wrong even if everyone is doing it." - St. Augustine "Christ is the only exit from this world. All other exits -- sexual rapture, political utopia, economic independence -- are but blind alleys in which rot the corpses of many who tried them." - Fr. Seraphim Rose "The fact that our heart yearns for something earth can't supply is proof that heaven must be our home." - C.S. Lewis "Therefore the Lord will wait, that He may be gracious to you; And therefore He will be exalted, that He may have mercy on you. For the Lord is a God of justice; Blessed are all those who wait for Him." - Isaiah 30:18 God Bless everyone reading this! Christ is Born!
Very wise comments. Thank you sir. I am 65 years old and my wife passed away last year. I have never really been alone. But I feel awfully alone now. I am struggling with moving forward with my life. I retired a couple years early to take care of her as her health declined. Now I find myself sitting at home for weeks at a time, only to leave the house to get a few groceries. Your words and Wisdom is encouraging. I only Pray that I can wake up tomorrow and apply those words of Wisdom . Thank You Sir... God Bless .
Hello sir, maybe try getting involved in a community. Share what you’ve learned with others and connect. The world needs your wisdom. And your pain. Start a grieving group to grieve and help guide one another.
You're getting out of the hole one day, one way or another, but however that journey unfolds, promise yourself to take it easy. Take it one day at a time champ!
Thanks for sharing your situation terry. Must be difficult. I also live on my own and it can be tough sometimes dealing with loneliness. Wishing you all the best Keep active and eat healthy :)
Sir, if I might make a suggestion, visit a local church and you just might find friends, community, and maybe a good woman to spend time with. I promise if you seek God he will reveal himself to you and He will change your life in so many ways your bound to like one of em! Ha! God Bless you friend!
I am very sorry to hear about your loss, sir. I truly am. I am not a Christian per se, but blessed are those that mourn for they shall be comforted. And I pray you shall be comforted. **hugs**
"The hell that you go through with these relationships just in order to have someone to sleep with from time to time is not worth the destruction that it is doing to your soul and your spirit, to your life, it's not worth it." Amen to that, brother.
and as i found out even when you find "the one," even after yrs together she can suddenly turn into someone youd never ever have wanted to be with...I wonder sometimes if experiencing a loved one turning into a hated one is more traumatic than if the loved one had died?
You can tell this man had his experiences with women before he was lucky enough to find Momma. And I would even go so far as to say that he needed to make these experiences in order to be able to meet Momma.
I've lost almost everyone and everything in my life recently. Both parents died,lost my job and my wife separated from me. It's really hard to keep hanging on. Thanks for the advice.
Hang on men you can. Hard times pass and good times come you just need to keep going, I know it may seem impossible but you can man just keep on going. You are important to this world and you still have a lot to give. God bless. Greetings from Argentina
It’s hard man, I did not lose my parents. But I lost my job and I was living with my 4 year girlfriend, she separated from me shortly after, it’s weird that when you truly most need certain people the most, they are not there for you! Now I don’t have a place to stay, nor I can pay for myself so I’m going to France to join the foreign legion. Unfortunately that’s the only way out I can see for now, I’m 31
The internet, and especially social media, has absolutely torn the fabric of society asunder. I'm still a young man by most definitions but am old enough to remember back pre-Facebook when you could disagree on politics/policy with someone and still break bread with them or enjoy a beer over a game. Nowadays, forget it, just hate all the way down at the first whiff of disagreement. I used to feel lonely and alienated, but now just learned that doing my own thing away from everyone else is the best path to peace in the modern world. Improvise, adapt, overcome.
I feel the same way and I'm in my late 60's. Young people think everyone is like those on social media. They don't realize they're the minority of our population. Those that have the biggest mouths usually have the least to say, I wish the young ones knew that
My sentiments exactly. I've lost friends on social media I've known for years. Wandering around in solitude now on 20 acres most of the time. Partying like it's 1799.
Love your philosophy discussions. You have to love yourself. Be comfortable with yourself alone. Before you seek another companion. I myself only need a part time companion. I have many hobbies, guitars, pet reptiles, and growing mushrooms and plants. I rode a Harley Fatboy to Tucson at age 59 with very little cash. It all turned out great 10 years latter. Cary in Tucson
Thank you for this. When I was 27, I got out of an engagement with an unfaithful woman. I sold most of my possessions, left my old job behind, threw what I had left in my vehicle, and hit the road. Ended up in the sticks in Oklahoma working as a steelworker with the best quality of life I've ever had, my own small humble home, and the best damn dog a man could ask for. It's like you said, it truly takes courage to leave everything that you know and makes you comfortable behind to go into the unknown. It's unsettling and its uncomfortable sometimes. The loneliness was hard to deal with at first. It would keep me up at night, it was a bad feeling I couldn't chase away. But it turned into peace. Genuine peace. It turned into self-reflection and growing as a man. Everyday, every task is an accomplishment that I achieved. You're a wise man, sir, thank you for sharing your thoughts. It's always good to have more tools for the mental toolkit. Continue to be a good man.
Congratulations on the success of peace and quiet... it's a fabulous learning experience.. I'm right behind you, I'm on similar path...great job, awesome stuff brother man🇺🇸💪💪👍👍😎
One of the best antidotes to loneliness is volunteer work. Eventually you start to make friends with your fellow volunteers, who are frequently good people
Thank you! That’s such a great idea. I’ve thought about volunteering but just don’t do it. I’m committing to get started so I can give back and be around like minded people. ❤
He says this towards the end of his video, I believe what he means is as the world implodes around you sometimes, be strong and hold fast to your truths and strength’s. For me it’s realizing that I can’t always control what’s going on around me, but continue to be a good strong man, and leaning more on faith and God to control the things I cannot. Hope this helps.
@@mattday4661 i absolutely agree with 'holding fast to your truths and strengths' - lotta people get pressured by the environment around them to sacrifice their morals & values for the sake of money or the safety of their family. however, if you stay steadfast in your beliefs, your inspiration can help change the environment around you to one that doesn't require others to sacrifice the values that make them, them!
New sub here. Got married when I was 30 and my wife and I had two boys. In 2006 my wife passed away suddenly from a brain aneurysm at age 40. My two sons were 10 and 7 at the time. I worked full time ( self employed construction) full time and raised my two sons with the help of family on both sides. I spent ALL of my free time with my two boys. They came first, no exceptions. Had absolutely no desire to date or form a relationship while my boys were young. My Dad wasn’t able to spend as much time with me as I wanted so I wasn’t going to make the same mistake. My two sons went to church and belonged to the youth group while growing up. Now my sons are 26 and 23 and are both pursuing their goals and working hard. I have not dated since my wife passed away. Sometimes I feel lonely for companionship but after 16 years of being single I am set in my ways and I enjoy being able to come and go as I please. I retired 2 years ago at age 56 and have found some interests to keep me busy and mostly content. It’s hard to know what to do ( relationship or stay single) because today you don’t know who you can trust and too many people are all about themselves.
Kind words from a real man. Be happy Or move from the u.s.a. it is not the greatest country anymore. I know 100 broke people in half of them are happy I know 20 rich people and all of them are miserable do the math
Thank you for sharing this. I’m a single father of three sons. I haven’t had a relationship in 5 years, for the same reasons you said, and then some. My free time has always been devoted to my boys. My time alone was great for a while, but now it is getting lonely. Since covid, my job has been working from home. My isolation started in 2017 with the split from my son’s mother. Covid just made it worse, and now I find it terribly difficult to form and maintain relationships.
Hey Jim. I lost a lot too. Nothing is stronger than the power of 2 great brothers and a wonderful set of parents. You seem like a stand up guy. The free world is built on the backs of families like ours. Stay strong. Take it easy.
I can't believe I came across your shows just when I needed help the most. My wife of 42 years passed away a year ago. I am so lonely and messed up. Your words have made a lot of sense. You have a gift. Keep up the good work. Thank you.
I am so sorry, and I know what you mean. It was a battle for me but as I came to understand myself and noticed little minutes or seconds I learned to appreciate the simple things- like the leaves blowing across the yard, the light coming through the window in the morning, a child's smile, or the dew on a plant shining. It was hard to come out of my pain and memory's but I finally became silent in my mind and just observed life around me. I pray that for you too-peace, the quiet from the storm. blessings
im 18 years old female, and i would like to thank this man for this great advice, i felt this and it comforted me, and to the hardworking guys out there, be safe, you're doing great and i hope you will never let your handsome power die stay strong
Absolutely spot on Sir. The last decade plus I've said to anyone who would listen: "You have to like the person between your two ears." That's my number one priority. Now I still have horrible days, bouts of despair and lonliness. I do have coping skills and tactics to move beyond those dark times...I have then 'bout 2, 3 times a year? I don't feel any shame for those emotions- for my health (and everyone elses) getting thos emotions out as soon as you have them, if it's possible, is critical for a person's health. Great post, THANK YOU!
@edieltondantas6084this. quitting p0rn was one of fhe best decisions in my life, also i quit drinking but i didnt have a problem with that to begin with i just wanted stronger bones for the sport i practice, i drink every now and then. When i was researching about p0rn addiction i saw so many post of people saying that its normal and ok to do it. I think its not and im an atheist, so im not saying its because of religion, i still think those that want to live watching p0rn then thats ok too.
This is the second video I've watched of this man. In today's society a legend could be considered a celebrity, rapper, or a politician. But this man is a legend in my book. He's like an uncle we all never had but always wanted. Something about this man just seems so heartwarming and delightful to be around with. Thank you for all that you do Mr. Cowboy sir. And apologies for my inappropriate profile.
I was once told that I expect too much of other people. This was a hidden compliment and a resource for me. Acceptance of others selfishness and limitations is the toughest thing I've had a real hard time understanding. Live and like yourself because most others are a mess in the Head! Codependency is self-destructive! Independence is it's own reward!👍
I'm 64, was very happily married for 40 years, she was 14 yrs older than me, we hit it off from day one, I lost her to Alzheimer's 3 years ago, life isn't the same without her, I feel my age and being disabled make me undesirable so I pretty much keep to myself. Such a nice show and very sound advice, you made my day, please keep up the good work !!
Wow, you wonderful man. She must have been a good woman - and you a good man. I'm sorry that she had to pass. That must have left a gaping hole in your life. I'm praying that you find what it is you need to fill that void and wish you well on the rest of your journey through life. Best, K
I’m 26 and am a widower, my wife died 9/9/21. I have two little daughters, which has helped. Loneliness has been rough. Now a days females are hard to even talk to. Thanks for the content!
So sorry for your loss, glad that your girls provide you with solace. Hope that with time someone else will come into your life to be your companion (if that's what you want of course!)
I lost my wife 3 months after my daughter was born. There have been lonely nights but better that than being stuck with someone you don't like. If we keep our heads straight we'll both be fine. Hang in there.
I want you to know that is exactly the confirmation I needed to hear this day. I love you brother and you keep doing what you're doing. My prayers be with you.
I do not have a dad. You are the first person I've ever felt that I can sit and listen to your words of wisdom, as a father figure. Thank you for your time and truth. These are the conversations I've always longed for that I never got.
Me too man. I would kill to have had a dad growing up. I just got out of a rough relationship a month after my birth father passing. He divorced mom when I was 7. Never really saw him after he moved out. I visited him maybe twice (I’m 22 now)… I definitely wanna grow up and have kids just so they have a father figure. Someone with wisdom and knowledge. It makes life a little easier to understand.
Just dealt with my mom's passing at 27 she was my best friend... I feel immensely alone. Feel like she led me here.. I love you ma! Thanks for always looking after me
I'm a man of a few words and articulating the gravity of my situation and the timing of this helpful video is unfathomable Thank you Buddy I'll try to never forget this
I’m 61 years old and have been single now for 10 years, no dating, no one night stands, I haven’t even touched a woman since my divorce and it was and still is hard at times to cope with the loneliness, but it passes. I mean this sincerely, everything he mentioned in this video I have already learned or I’m working on now. What I can say is thanks Dude you nailed it exactly. Sincerely, Oklahoma Cowboy
How come your marriage didn’t last? I am experiencing the same thing too, it’s a possibility that it could go down to divorce and Im trying to be better so it wont happen
Sometimes it got to do with some women often are more keen on developing themselves and their marriage, try new things, keep romance alive, while we men more tend to enjoy status quo when getting older, relax in the sofa infront of the TV and more or less take the wife for granted@@mg_kj
im 34 and have been single for four years, same deal just single no stands or anything, its liberating and those who thrive on companions should try it
One thing to seriously consider is how we see the world through social media. Social media isn’t our life. Deleting most social media and focusing on what’s in front of me, my actual life, has helped me so much. Of course I still feel lonely but at least I don’t have hundreds of people rubbing it in my face how awesome their lives are. We are all on different paths in life, make sure you focus on where your paths going instead of wondering where everyone else is.
Im 20 and im going thru & thinking the same thing. Everybody is on their own narrow path and we need to be happy about it, dont take nothing too serious…
I never have social media account. I never surfed on it. And I know that (you know I always felt that) my life is so much better this way then the others. I have felt that. Now I know that and see. You are on a very good way. Keep it up!
I think it's also important that you introspect about that kinda thing and consider why you have feelings like these too. Like, why do you feel like people are rubbing it in your face on social media? Cause for me, i see people enjoying themselves and I'm happy for them. But as for myself, i rarely make posts or interact with the timeline. I'm comfortable in myself and knowing that I don't need to be slaying I'm Instagram all day, yk? Idk if that's where you're at, but I'd urge you to think about what about what you project onto the internet that you actually value.
@@tigergaj I really love your point of view. I engage with social media pretty consistently, and over the years I've come to the conclusion that it is a soul sucking void of meaningless affirmation. I like to make movies so I still feel a need to engage in order to keep a portfolio for other artists, but even then I fall back into the habit of endless scrolling on the timeline. I've considered many times deleting my social and just keeping a website up.
Society needs speeches like this and men like you more than ever. Thank you for the inspiring words. Forgiving myself and making the tough decisions is what I need to work on.
I'm also 21, working and soon I will also start my studies. I'm trying everything to feel better, hopefully it will. But I also hope you can somehow work out things for yourself.
Just wanna say hope you feel better. Although you feel alone, just know that you’re still valuable and loved. May God bless you, and He is your companion too 🤍 Jesus said “Come to Me all who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest” Matthew 11:28
@@sebastiano2508 hey I’m sorry for what you’re going through right now. I get that it’s hard. This world will come with its hardships, Jesus never promised that it wouldn’t. But He is there to support us and help us get through whatever it is. And our sufferings can help us become stronger. You must be going through a lot, but just know that it is possible for you to overcome it by the grace of God. Jesus said “I told you these things so that you can have peace in me. In this world you will have trouble, but be brave! I have defeated the world.” John 16:33 Wishing you nothing but the best
22 year old man, just getting out of a toxic relationship with a girl that was destroying my sense of self and what I valued and had me a shadow of myself scared of her. Stayed with her for the exact reason I was scared of being alone and being by myself, god forbid. Being alone is 10000x better than the hell of being with the wrong person just for touch. This video hit hard, brother. Thanks for sharing some of your wisdom with us. Stay strong men, times are tough but we got this.
I'm more than 20 years your senior. When i was your age I was almost married to a toxic narcissist who almost drove me to ending my life at about 22. When we split up I thought I was done and would never be able to love again. I was wrong. I stayed single for 5 years before I met my wife of 20 years. Hang in there young man. You're gonna be fine.
Thank you for your vulnerability & transparency. 🙏🏾 ua-cam.com/video/08j4dytaju8/v-deo.htmlsi=m1DVyhW16PS-sOLM Here's my video on loneliness.. Have a beautiful day. 💎
I’m 2 years younger and I’ve never been in a relationship, I don’t know if it’s cause I didn’t really try, or if women just don’t like me. I think I know of two people that did somewhat like me and the one girl was like my best friend but she ended up with someone else and the other girl I never had feelings for. I now feel embarrassed about this comment💀
21 years old here, and I totally feel you, been with a girl, not bad, but broken, sometimes some people can drag you down while you are trying to bring them up. Being lonely makes you a better person, but from time to time we feel the need and the hurry of someone good coming to our lives. Let’s do the hard work till the time comes. Let’s become better men till there
Your pain is felt my friend. I spent three years with a woman who destroyed my sense of self. Everything that made me proud of myself was gone, every skill, hobby, hope, and dream was dashed. Friends and family were cut off. I was the punchline of every joke amongst her friends and family. And the yelling, it never stopped, I never realized just how much it messed me up until after the relationship, the fear of conflict that comes from her still persists. But I know this, I know that I'm better for having lived that relationship, and I'm stronger for having left it.
At 61 and divorced and no kids and my entire small family has passed on. My two horses have died recently......I asked the lord to help me.....I literally feel him and hear him talking to me daily on what to do and its over whelming how much he has helped me.
41 Years young man here and have found myself alone quite often. Never married and no kids. Parents been gone for over 10 years now and I have to agree 100 % it's all about learning yourself. I've been in good relationships and bad but in the end never lasted over two years. Have learned to be totally self sufficient. Yes, I do get lonely and occasionally bitter but have to remind myself to be constantly working on myself. Thanks for the episode.
Need more women in ur life. also if you are worried about kids then freeze sperm so when you meet a quality girl you can have a kid professionally and even choose some of the genetics now.
Spot on, Dwayne. I'm 80 now, but back in my forties I learned that I can't be responsible for somebody else being happy, nor they for me. Happiness is a choice we make for ourselves. Likewise, unhappiness is not because of somebody else. It is a choice we make. Oh, people can disappoint us, but that doesn't mean we have to be unhappy as a result. It simply presents us with another choice to make regarding that relationship. As you said, if we are comfortable in our own skin (hopefully because we have done the requisite homework) nobody can penetrate our happiness without our permission. As another commenter said, there is a difference between solitude and loneliness. Great things can be accomplished in solitude, not so much in loneliness. Your videos have given me a lot of pause to reflect on the days when I had a Buckskin quarter horse, and it always puts a smile on my face. Thank you, brother, much appreciated.
@@freezinginhere When I bought my Buck back in 1966, I had just returned from Vietnam and having a horse was one of my youthful bucket list items. He was 9 years old and was an experienced ranch horse, but had been previously owned by a family that bought him for their daughter who wasn't really interested.... so he had been left to pasture for a couple of years and was in really bad shape. Hooves so long that they were curling up, his coat so sunburned by the Florida sun that he looked more white than buck skin, and had a terrible sun cancer spot on his pink nostril. I was naive about caring for a horse, but fortunately I was able to board him at a farm near where I lived and with the help and advice of the farmer, brought him back to peak health and condition. He knew more about being ridden that I did about riding, but he also knew that I was a worthy pupil for having shown him the love and attention that he needed. It was a good time. One of the things I enjoy about Dewayne's chats is finding out that I did at least a few things right while Buck and I were pards.
I'm 40 Yr old man, been single for 7 years and live on my own with my dog. I'm use to being alone most my life and to be honest I've learned to love myself and never been happier. The biggest battles are in your mind once you learn to love oneself no person can harm you, also you can't love others if you don't love yourself.
I'm a 44 YO black woman. I just found your channel, and I am happy I did. Your messages are applicable to a spectrum of ages and lifestyles. Thank you Sir for sharing your wisdom with the world.
Gentlemen, I see a lot of you out there putting out your best. Thank you and I appreciate you, for what it's worth. I'm just a random woman on the internet, but I hope this means something. Keep on keeping on, and much love to everyone.
Just lost my father a few days ago. Feel like this is something he would say to me, the way he would say it to me. Thank you for giving me a piece of him tonight.
I am a 23 year old woman who has lived a lot of life so far. I was trapped in a home fire and escaped, was in a car accident that made my baby 2 months premature, my father passed away suddenly in front of me a few days ago. And more obviously lol. (All Within the past 2 years). I learned a long time ago that you are the only one who will be with you for the rest of your life guaranteed. So make sure you can deal with yourself for that long. And if you can’t then figure out what you don’t like about yourself and change it. Also sometimes we go through terrible things even if you try to be a good person every day. Maybe bad things happen to good people to test if they are going to stay good people strong in their convictions and morals. I’m not sure yet. I hope things get better for me but maybe there is no exchange of good karma or an ultimate reason why I went through these things. But having those beliefs help me cope.
@@Sidney-ov8ws I'm sorry Sidney, that's really unfortunate to hear about your recent times. You are followed by your father, to watch over you and the young ones. The Creator has a plan, even if we don't see eye to eye with said purposeful plan. If you believe in god there is always a friend no matter the darkness. i hope this comment finds you in a peaceful manner
Sidney, I lost my father in late 2020. I'm not a young man but it still hurts. He was the strong man who taught me to ride a bicycle, drive a car, work with wood and tools, sew buttons, and be self-sufficient. He gave me his skills to look after myself. That's his legacy. Your Dad will have left you similar gifts 💪👍
I’m so sorry for your loss. We’re unfortunately in the same situation. I’m sure he meant so much to you. I hate this feeling so much but I know he wouldn’t want me to mope. That’s the only thing keeping me sane. I know he loves me to death and if there was one thing he wants me to know, it’s that he loves his kids more than anything in the world and know time will heal all wounds 🤟🏽
I was about to complete my life tonight (6/1/24) but looked for one last sign not to and I found this video. I've never seen your videos before. I'm grateful I found this one tonight. 🙏
I have 5 daughters under 20 at 51, and a 5 year old boy. I started letting them listen to you at night, and it has helped reinforce a lot of what I’ve been saying. You present it much better! Nevertheless, you are most appreciated in Conway, SC….at least in my home you are!
@@theskyizblue2day431 they do care, mostly because they know that wisdom and Truth are of utmost importance, and most men only put on a facade of strength, while internally possessing nothing but weekends. Truth only hurts, when you live in lies.
This is such a transformational video. An advice that feels thoroughly thought through. It requires a sincere and honest reflection to be able to view the world the way Dwyane does. But it also requires a certain amount of reflection and a heck ton amount of desire to want to be ‘better’ to fully appreciate his message. ‘To become someone that you want to be with’ feels like something we should inherently know, until someone say it and we realize that we aren’t really living our lives aligned to that idea. I know that was the case for me. It truly is a privilege to have seen this video. Hopefully, more people get to see this!
My ex used to “jokingly” tell me “I gotta keep you down to keep you around”. It was all jokes at first until I started developing anxiety and became self conscious of things about myself I never even noticed. After 6+ years I was an empty shell of a man, I had no concept of myself. I broke up with her a year ago and I’m proud to say I’ve never been more confident in myself in my entire life. You said it best, she was a parasite. Finally I’m growing to be the man I know I can be, and I’ll never settle for anything but the absolute best.
Been there too buddy, 4 years of belittling and to end it all found out about 3 other men she had going. Now I'm almost 2 yrs on with a women who would give a organ for me. I hope a good women comes your way and shows you your worth, till then stay strong and find connection in your friends!
Women spend much more time with other women understanding them. They on average understand their psychology more. That can be used as a weapon or a tool. You happened to stumble on a parasite who was missing something- self-confidence, or something- that used it as a weapon against you.
You are 100 percent right. I was homeless in 2015 and I made a choice to change that ,and now I have my own place and a van. It wasn't easy and I worked really hard and I didn't give up.
Keep it up bro proud of you, keep using the job experience to switch to other jobs and negotiate better pay start a side hustle people sell water for millions just gotta find something you like or something to help people or solve problems
76yo, married man for 54 years. A wonderful message about dealing with being alone. One should recognize that neither your wife, your children, your friends or any of your possessions are yours. You only borrow them for a while. You make a good point about beating yourself up and not liking yourself. You have to be kind to yourself. No one wants to live with or be friends with a downer, someone with a cloud over there head.
10:46 "But if you're with yourself, and yourself is always beating you up, you're not gonna want to be with yourself" Exactly my issues. Thanks for the insight.
I have lived my life where loneliness never bothered me but I know it bothers many, it’s saddening to see all the pain in everyone’s hearts and i hope you all heal.
@Miguel Silva thats why you learn to be intelligent and overtly charismatic. if they are impressed with your limited words, they’ll leave you alone or even like you.
Almost 3 years ago I lost my wife, my soulmate. The hole in your chest and the emptiness it leaves is almost unbearable. Losing your other half is a loneliness I would never wish on someone.
Unfortunately, many older couples argue about trifles - and only realize after the loss which angel they have lost. Too late to talk. Nice that you call her soul mate. And that you were better. I'm sorry for your loss.
Here I am struggling to get out of bed on Christmas of 2023, feeling the loneliness crush me. I searched loneliness into UA-cam and clicked on this video. Never heard of this channel before. I felt genuinely counseled and comforted by the words in this video. Some of the things said are things I’ve heard before, but for some reason, it hit a little different when hearing it from this man. I wanted to click off this video, to find something else to give me some mental stimulation. But I stayed through the whole thing. Thank you for this video. And to anyone else feeling alone, there’s always a seat available next to me. As long as you’re a good person to me, I’ll be a good person to you.
Lock in in your life make sure your mature enough I'm probably not struggling as much as you because I'm just grieving my old friends and have people I can talk to but just know your guide is going to have to make sure your mature enough grow with yourself through experience make friends who you know you can chill with who will never judge you then you cam think about girls and then being more of a man and then making the big memories be kind have banter and make sure you get enthusiastic if your not enthusiastic your gonna fail don't know why I'm trying to help you but I just feel like helping you because I'm at a low point too dude and because I've always liked helping others
Its not over til its over. We've got so much to go. Whether it be a day, year, second, minute, month or decade, so much happens and changes. Start seeing the world for the world, people for people, and things for thing. Dont try to predict the future or dwell on the past, live in the moment and focus on "whats my next move" rather than "If i didnt do this it could be different or "If i do this, this will happen" @@jackdoesf1
Its not over til its over. We've got so much to go. Whether it be a day, year, second, minute, month or decade, so much happens and changes. Start seeing the world for the world, people for people, and things for thing. Dont try to predict the future or dwell on the past, live in the moment and focus on "whats my next move" rather than "If i didnt do this it could be different or "If i do this, this will happen" @jackdoessiege
Man, I’m 18 and for the past few days the feeling of loneliness has hit me so hard I just fell into a haze for awhile. Hearing that I’m not the only one struggling gives me some hope that I can relate to others with these problems and feel less alone. I hope you can pull yourself out of it. I hope in the future you can look back and not even recognize the person you used to be compared to the amazingly fulfilled person you become. Thank you for sharing and letting me feel less alone.
"You be a strong man, you be a good man, and just let the world rage around you".....what a freaking quote. I will never forget that. Just found you today on youtube Dwayne and I've watched three of your videos already. I am 22 years old, in the Military for almost 5 years now. In college, kinda losing my way. But trying to be a better man, and leave a hole when I leave this world. God bless ya Dwayne, thank you for all the advice. You make me want to be better and be a good man.
I’m only 19 years old. Had just graduated high school a few months back. I know I’m not old enough to have gone through everything that men older than myself have. But I can still say that this is very helpful for me. I thank God for this showing up in my recommended. I have and always only had two friends. I’ve always questioned myself and if the path I’m taking is wrong because I don’t hang out with people or have a girlfriend. But I’ve always just focused on me and didn’t want to deal with what’s going on with this whole situation with women. As Dwayne states in the video, I do not hate women, but it is hard to find a good one. I alway beat myself up about everything I do and I’m not in a very happy place with myself. But this video helped me understand how to find the path to true peace with myself. Dwayne I thank you for this video. You have certainly helped me with this one message.
im 19 as well brother this video hit hard with me too. all my friends are in college and i chose not to go because in my heart i knew i didn’t im working for myself right now and i have my own apartment. it sure does get lonely but i’ve learned to accept it and move on. i’ve recently started to get into meditation and breath work. it really puts things into perspective. good luck to you
I’m 20 here and in the same thing but it gets a little easier everyday you just need to work on it and realize things can always change if you’re willing. it hurts for a long while ngl it still does but it does get better.
I'm 19 as well brother I know how you feel. I've had many nights feeling lonely as hell and wondering why I am even here. But I promise it gets better. Find a distraction and a way to keep yourself busy.. something positive like a job or a hobby, something you're passionate about and run with it. Keep a positive attitude the best you can and keep going day by day.
19 as well, the year following highschool was the hardest of my life so far. Struggling with making new friends at college and leaving pretty much everyone behind who I had grown up with (minus my parents and siblings) was pretty foreign to me. If there’s one thing I’ve learned it’s that all good things take time. Trust in the Lord, you will be okay man.
I'm turning 19 this month on November 26th and I am in community college pursing Electrical Engineering. I had previously failed 1 semester due to not attending class and the same thing is happening to me this semester. I don't feel satisfied with myself at all and I feel like I'm always alone. This video helped me see that there is hope for me to change myself for the better and to be comfortable with what I like to do. I always followed in the footsteps of my friends and I never became my own person. I'm just starting to now and I wish I had this perception when I was younger like at 15 years old so I had more time to explore my passions and interests. Now I feel like it is too late and that these are my "grinding" years where I have to work a job for money to save up so I can move out and become independent. It is mentally taxing on me and I'm just now starting to realize that I should be comfortable with myself and being lonely. It's just that some people shame you for things like not having a girlfriend, never kissed, or still being a virgin at 18 and I just feel like it doesn't have value. It's more of modern social approval and it's this toxic environment that makes me depressed. This guy really opened my eyes to see that it is okay to be alone and how you can become your own man without needing others.
I am a 53-year-old currently sitting in my garage smoking a cigar and having a bourbon buy myself as a normally do and came across your video. All I can say is your Insight is spot on. Amen brother, you are a blessing so you young guys listen to the wisdom man this man offers!
I read your comment and had a good chuckle. I'm 52 sitting in my garage watching this video having a beer and smoking a winston. I had to divorce my ex 10 years ago because she was just unbearable. I haven't dated since. I'm just not interested. I dated a lot and got married when I was older. I was in between 10 years of combat deployments and saw everyone around me married with kids and I though ok I should too. I was wrong. I don't think I've ever dated or met a good woman. They were ok but not good for me. The games and fighting just isn't me. I've see how marriage is for my brothers and sisters and comrades and friends and I just shake my head and wonder where is the woman for me? And I'm pretty well off. Retired from the feds and a law enforcement officer with a great pension and 100% disabled Veteran. I've built and sold a few business a farm and two construction companies. I have no debt and the best healthcare in the world. I have a great family and life long friends. I just can't seem to find the woman I believed was out there. So for now I'm just going it alone. Hope your doing well brother.
So refreshing to hear him say these words. Wherever we’ve been or what we’ve done in the past, it’s okay. We aren’t there anymore, and I’m a totally different person. What I did in the past doesn’t define who I am today. And all of that is okay.
As a 27 year old male who never had any relationship of any kind with women and as someone who has crippling anxiety, depression and loneliness for most of my life I needed this so much. The fact is I never had a father who could tell me this. I feel so alone and so lost, I'm not only not feeling like a man, I feel like I ain't human at all. I don't know how it feels to be loved by a woman outside my mother. I don't know how to be a man. I know the day I die will be by my own doing, but do I deserve it? I just want someone I can love and loves me back and have a family, but maybe I am just too egotistical.
While you are in the "between season" in your life, I highly recommend the book "Love yourself like your life depends on it" It will help you to feel whole and make good choices for yourself. There was an audio book on you tube or audible has the audio book. The author wrote it after a devastating break up. Check into it!!! Love yourself and then you will be better able to love others!
I hope you find a woman, I hope a woman finds you! I really hope you get the opportunity to experience love in your life. That’s such a pure thing to desire and love is a gift and I believe love is helpful and I really hope you are able to find someone
Sir, what is lacking in this world for most men is having an older man with Godly wisdom who walks with a true “father spirit,” speak into their lives. Well I see you!! Hope you keep encouraging these young guys on many topics. They need you. ❤
YES!!! This right here!!! People are seeking physical pleasure to cure loneliness but what they need is wisdom and strength. a guide. even women are lacking in that area. i was blessed to have my mom and both grandmothers and great grandmothers in my life. the grandfathers were only there sometimes, except for two. one was a scoundrel and the other actually took the time to talk to me and teach me useful skills. my sons, sadly, were ignored by their paternal grandad. by MY dad is trying to take time with them. he never bothered to do much with me and my brother but i am thankful he's there for my sons - since their dad can't be bothered. sad state of affairs in this world. we need more MEN to guide these boys. but my goodness, who can you trust anymore?? so many weirdos out there preying on the kids because there's no one around to protect them.
He sure does encourage us! It's not about disliking or resenting women, it's about working to be better men, and being comfortable with who we are. Men need that!
Yes Ma'am! I have my 13 yo son watch some of his videos and other men like him. His own Daddy, while he loves his son and we love his Daddy, he's struggling hard at the moment and is just not available for our son and our marriage and our family. Not like he needs. Not like this. So, while my husband, who I love with my whole self, is struggling and being hammered into the sword he's meant to be, I'm so grateful to God for these men who are taking their time to encourage our young men because as much as I can try to teach my son all the things my Daddy taught me, I'm not a man and I just can't guide him as well as a real, true and honest man can. 💙 Praise the Lord!
This is the best video ive ever clicked on and it hits it on the nail of how i feel thank you so much for posting this because what i lack in my life is positive support I would never have someone sit me down and actually talk to me respectfully. Thank you so much im hoping to watch more of your videos and learn more from a kind hearted soul
"I used to think the worst thing in life is to end up all alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone." ~ Robin Williams
Yes, as an older woman who recently became alone I can so relate. I worry for today's young people in this modern society.
I'm there right now buddy, just waiting for the day that my partner will tell me she's leaving me.
So true.
@@noname-ye7zj that’s no way to live man
@@noname-ye7zj if I felt that way, I would be the first one to go, and leave now. You will regret not leaving her first if you know that she’s going to leave you.
"You be a strong man, you be a good man, and let the world rage around you." Love this.
Me too. I am living in the world but I am not responsible for saving it. That doesn't mean I won't try to help people (and I'm not even talking from a Christian POV) and be a good person, but it's because I want to and because it makes me happy to be a good person.
First comment already indicates it will be good, it's nice to see others perspectives
Tattoo worthy
almost wanna hang that in a frame right?
@@jt_heili5326 too edgy man. Rather just get a portrait of Jesus .. even tho it says not too in the bible 🤔
As a young man I can listen to this guy forever. Nobody is speaking like this to us no more.
Jordan Peterson & DeWayne that’s bout it 💯
True. The hate for millennials an zoomers by the older generations just beat you down. This is a breath of fresh air.
@@John_Connor556 definitely bro
@@John_Connor556 jordan peterson is a grifter and a christian ideologue. don't listen to him, he has nothing for you.
as a boy scouts group leader i see lots of young people, girls and guys that are confused by our current social political ways of mistreating the truth. they are confused of their roles and their borders. it is frustrating at times and gives lots of headaches, but it's also the reason i do this voluntary work.
Feeling really incredibly alone tonight on Christmas Eve and came to you for comfort, Mr Noel. Thank you.
@ thank you for your perspective and that great quote. Merry Christmas to you, friend.
I know im just some random guy on youtube who found your comment, but i hope you found someone to spend christmas with and that you have a good good life.
Lonely here too my friend,at least we have youtube
@@nintendogamer343 thank you gamer that means a lot to me
@@PeteHoss-pg3sf merry Christmas Pete
True:
Until you get comfortable with being alone, you'll never know if you're choosing someone out of love or loneliness
100% out if lonliness
more or less, as an anti-social person in the majority of time, i can say it would be out of love cuz if u like or get use to loneliness you won't feel lonely...
this hits hard thank you
I very much agree. Great thoughts!
OK thanks! More stuff to hold me back.
I turned to alcohol heavily for 3+ years to deal with being lonely. All my family is 2,000 miles away. I'm 5 days sober which isn't a lot, but I'm trying to learn to deal with it in healthier ways. Thanks for your video
Proud of you brother keep it up !
@Hayden Gorman Thank you so much man. It's not easy kicking out cold turkey. But I'm determined! Doing AA has really helped so far
keep goinggg
@escandaloso I lost it on day 6...back to the drawing board...but thank you man. It's brutal
@@Secretary.of.Education I believe in you
A friend of mine once said, “If the person you’re with isn’t lifting you up, they’re dragging you down.” This made me realize that statement applies to how you treat yourself also.
Thats tough, because my wife suffers from depression, and has a hard time controlling that, and the every day emotions are not always controllable. I wouldn't say that statement works for every situation.
@@karlpage9028 I agree but I’d also say,if the person you’re with forces you to confront the ugly parts of yourself even if it’s to meet theirs,so long as it’s based in real selfless love,I think that’s a form of uplifting
well a person could be neutral as well...every person u meet doesnt necessary need to encourage you or lift you.
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Yes, but the more we are actively thinking about ourselves, not how to help others, makes us more miserable. It’s a balance
Mr. Dwayne thank you so much, I lost my father when I was 16. I'm 28 now and I feel like I just listened heart to heart with him through you. Thank you
Same I lost my father too when I was 16 it’s really hard for me to get over as I’m kinda over sensitive person.
We don't need more people like this man, we need to be like this man.
that’s how we help each other out
Yes but it end up in the same way, everything is good.
This advice is just as relevant to good women with bad experiences with problematic men
No, you need to be yourself.
@DorothyPotterSnyder Its starts with listening and understanding. What he trying to get you to understand.
I am alone & got a dog, we go hiking and camping & go to parks , I don't feel alone anymore & my dog shows true love & loyalty. So much happier than I ever was .
man i feel that so hard, it’s gonna hurt when he passes
@@Mabisyoo WTF
The only soul that has ever loved me unconditionally was my sweet dog. He was my doggie soulmate. I'm praying he is there waiting when it's my time to cross over.
I'm so glad you have found that kind of love, too.
A dog's love truly is one of the best things that can happen in life.
Cat friends are great, too.
"You're never lonely, if you like who you're alone with." I carry this thought with me every day. A very powerful mindset that I believe every man should cultivate.
Easier said than done my friend, but it’s the goal
I see a flaw on that
A person who hates being alone finds himself in bad company
If you have the ability to choose who you want to be alone with then you are not truly lonely.
This is true! I get more satisfaction trying to make myself happy instead of trying to please someone who thought it was normal to diappear and go no contact whilst working away for days/weeks/months and after years of enduring this, threw a tantrum when I did it back to him. This man had double standards and I could never measure up enough for him despite keeping well groomed, paying all the bills, educating myself, remaining loyal to him. These days, I'm at a point where I would like someone but not necessarily "need" someone in my life. After 4 years I decided I will no longer settle.
Thank you for doing this talk. I'm 50 this year and struggling with the now reality that I'm going to be alone for the first time in my life. So many mistakes and regrets. So I think you may have planted some mustard seeds for me and I'll keep looking down that path. Yah bless brother.
"You don't want to be alone with you because you beat yourself" drove me to tears. This realization drove me to tears.
I do the same. It helped when I took a step back to try and realize where all of the negative thoughts came from. I realized it was just all the things my parents had said about me or had believed about me. Which now helps me realize that it probably isn't true and should just be ignored. Not sure if this will help anyone but hopefully it does.
@@gingermuffin4292 Hi, my parents said similar things. The part that made me cry especially is that I was doing this to myself, not because I hated myself, but because it was a learned behavior from our parents. We learned from them our poor qualities, and our self doubt amplified them.
Every single day
A man can be himself only so long as he is alone; and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free
Copium but it’s true in some aspect
"Nobody will destroy you, if you won't let them!" Well said.
Amen!
Sounds like something Donald Trump would say . ❤
Yes, we are in control
A lot of people who are very resolute/spiteful also need to be very calculated and collected in order to be successful.
16:35
"You be a strong man, you be a good man, and you let the world rage around you."
That's wisdom.
Please do explain brother what does this rage around you meant
@@shijagurumayumdeosharma it's from the end of the video. It means whatever is happening in the world around us, we choose to be good men regardless.
@@shijagurumayumdeosharma It means don't be pulled into outside issues and controversies. Your life (and the people you love) and sense of purpose should be your focus. The rest is actually a diversion and can even be a form of avoidance of one's own life.
@@shijagurumayumdeosharma dont contribute to the chaos and mayhem
That made me cry. That's a man's wisdom and it was beautiful so needed.
7:19 Im in my early twenties, I left my abusive fathers home. Moved in with my boyfriend found out how toxic he really was two years in. I learnt this the hard way at a young age. I never had a GOOD male figure in my life ever and to this day, but you sir though I never met you, you heal that little piece in me. Thank you.
I relate to you a lot. Hope you have a good life.
I’m 21 and never really had a father, so thank you much sir for this talk, felt needed and I appreciate these words…
That's hard you must believe in yourself at all cost. Do what you want and need to do!
So sorry that your Father wasn’t around for you. One great thing that you can do someday if you have kids, is to be there for them. I raised two boys , who are grown up now, they were and still are the greatest joy in my life. I spent every free moment with them, and sadly they grew up way too fast. Good luck!
Me neither buddy. I'm 19 and i sometimes feel like i must be missing some kind of secret that having a father around would bring and that the other guys in my school just "knows" maybe not even consciously. Not saying im a total weirdo but sometimes i just feel a bit off beat i guess.
Read the first 27 pages of the Bible.
@@MagnusMonsted be impeccable with your word. Don't make assumptions. Always do your best and don't take shit personally.
Never felt alone ever in my life, until I lost the 2 people who loved me most, my Mom and Dad. God Bless you sir and all you folks
It's true that when you lose your parents you lose those who will always know you best, leaving you feeling like you're now in slippery waters.
My condolences, not try to sound insensitive but treasure that feeling they gave you I could only dream my parents saw me!
I'm sorry about your parents Ann. I'm 40 and mine are both still healthy and alive even though not together. I try to think of it that EVERYONE must die, but no parent should ever outlive their child, so we are in theory, condemned to watch our parents die at some point. We are lucky to of had loving parents and many don't. Mine will leave me one day and it will be hard but I will never live wreckless on drugs care free and let my mom or dad bury me. I OWE them that much. I'd rather cry for weeks, months, years, instead of letting my mom or dad have to bury me first and suffer the tragedy of seeing me birthed and seeing me dead. God bless
@@annettegenovesi this is why I think you can form loving bonds with people everywhere all the time. Let people inside. Get to know them. Even online. Not because we have to but because we want to. I believe you reap what you sow and if you put kindness and positivity and things like that out into the world and society it will come back to you way more so than putting out negativity.
@@flightofthebumblebee9529 Thank you polyanna
The “being comfortable with yourself like a friend” part is beautiful
True
I am working hard to become someone I enjoy spending time with.
But he forgets that "being confortable with yourself" requires primarily taking care of your health, and smoking will tend to lead him to hate "himself" like any person who lost the most fundamental part of his well being, which is being in good health
@@kaledon6 He has lived long enough for that to be a problem, also smoking does not cause cancer or any disease for everyone, I have read studies on that and he may be one of the lucky ones who is not prone to cancer.
Real bro.
Good morning. My name is Hannah from North Carolina. Thank you for making this video... For the past 8 months, I have been feeling this unfamiliar feeling that has been uncomfortable. So, this morning i woke up and jumped on the computer looking for ideas that could help me make a start, and I feel that your video has. Thank you very much for making this video.
I’m 66 years old and buried my mother 12/26/22 and week later I lost my wife 01/02/23 to pancreatic cancer at 58 years old.
I needed to hear this, this afternoon.
Thank you for your time and video.
Stay strong gramps! There are people that need you still!
Stay strong brother. There’s times I feel like that. My wife died of cancer my soul mate but she would want me to be strong and move forward. I’m 44 years old. At the end God will put us together with those we lost.
Prayers for you 🙏🏼 everyone here. Much love ❤ till we see our loved ones again 😇
May Allah make it easy for you, grant you patience and guide you to the truth, may Allah reunite you with your loved ones in Paradise. Ameen
I'm sorry for your losses. You're a strong person to be able to push through that and keep going. I hope you can take some comfort in knowing you'll see them again.
I'm 76 years old and still learning. This is some of the best advise that I have ever heard. Thank you sir.
Such is life living in this city it's hard to find a good man
It's great to see our elders too! I wish we would have more opportunities to speak with them since they lived way longer than us and are wiser than us. They know what we going through.
@@mars4105 you're very smart to want to listen to us older people. My kids, grands, great-grandson think I'm stupid & treat me as such.
@Rita I'm really sorry to hear that. I will admit that when I was a little kid, I didn't care much (Tho I still respected them obviously). When I grew up a little, I saw their importance but it was too late. Both my grandparents are dead on my father's side and on my mum my granddad died before I was born. My grandma is too old and has lost her mind a little bit because of the age. I feel sad knowing I lost good moments I could of shared with them, and their knowledge. It was even harder since they lived in Romania and I in Canada.
I hope one day your family will learn from their mistakes and come back to you. We never know the luck we have until it's gone. We tend to forget they have been through this and had time to think about it and see it on the long term while we are just experiencing it at the moment.
Please excuse any mistakes I made in English (it's my third language).
Have a nice day sir/ma'am
JESUS LOVES U AND IS COMING BACK
JESUS AMA VOCÊS E ESTÁ VOLTANDO
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this doesn't feel like a video, this feels like a conversation
that's when you know you found yourself a real teacher eh
It was
This genuinely made me realize where I was going wrong in my life. Thank you.
I'm a 17 year old guy who's been considering suicide. I've been feeling extremely lonely and afraid of the world and I know that it's time i pick myself back up. This video really inspired me to get my life together and start liking myself again. This is all really good advice and I have a lot of respect for you sir. I hope this video can reach even more people and help them too.
Hang in there man. Life sucks sometimes but there's things worth living for
same bro, i don’t have anyone to connect to, sure i have friends, but i’m always the one to ask how they are, it’s never my turn. idk what to do
I myself am 17 and i felt the same way! life is pretty hard in these times, but we need to pull ourself together and be the best versions of ourselves! keep looking up brother! it will get better soon, trust me!
@@famousjavis4412 i feel exactly the same man. it's really hard to feel like they want you around but i promise they do. people care a lot more than it usually seems like they do
@@hunroodoesart we got it!!
Im barely 20 and I’ve struggled with crippling lonlieness. I sat back and just listened and it was the best 20 minutes of advice I’ve ever gotten. Thank you so much
God Bless you!
@@mickey6244 Same for you too, may god bless everyone growing up
What are you going to do differently from now on?
I know how you feel. I'm the same age and I feel the same way...
I'm 40 and have been in the same position in my 20s. Like someone posted a while back, the Robin Williams quote 'being alone isnt as bad as being around people who make you feel alone' (to paraphrase). Youve always your UA-cam bros if you need a hand. We're always here.
As a 26 year old I feel so much older than I should. I compare my life to all my peers, they all seem to be settling down, getting married, having kids, making 6 figures. I just moved back home to my dads house to take care of him as his health is declining. I’m looking at is as a beautiful thing, spending time with my old man while he’s still here. However, I want to be successful, find love, own a home, have children, but it all seems so impossible. These videos you make really help me get through these hard times, I feel so isolated and alone every single day, but when I watch clips like this, it makes me feel less alone. Thank you.
You have plenty of time. I didn't even start my "career" until 30. Take care of your Dad, there's nothing more important, no matter the sacrifice. Mine's gone, I miss him.
You'll get everything u want, is already there.
I wish the best for you old man.
I'm 33 almost 34, living with my parents in the countryside, no friends near, only internet friends that seem far. I couldn't find myself a good job so I am doing many projects, but I find it hard sometimes que loneliness kicks in. You are still young, try your best with what you have right now. Don't look at the past mistakes. Dont overdo easy drugs like sugar, porn, tiktok, etc. They drain out your will to do things. Not every day you will be motivated to do things. Life is hard, those folk who have 8 hour jobs are having a hard time, they are killing themselves slowly. We have the chance to work for ourselves.
Damn i feel you im 25, i dont have a job, i feel that im way behind y peers shit, lonrliness is a bitch
I'll just make this point - I spent my 20s working on a 'career' that I just *happily* abandoned at 37. What you do to make money, and how much you make, does *not* define you. Neither does presence or absence of a partner. My father passed a few years back. I hadn't seen him since I was 13, I always wanted to get halfway across the country to visit him but kept telling myself, "There's plenty of time, I'll save for that plane ticket next year." Next year never came. He passed, and no one even bothered to tell me he was in rough shape until 6 months after. That's one regret I'll probably take to my grave. At 40 you'll have forgotten all about feeling like you were lagging behind your peers at 26, you'll have learned there are more important things in life than keeping up with the Joneses. Enjoy your dad while you can.
I'm an 18 year old girl and I'm very glad I came across this video. I know this video wasn't aimed toward people like me but I do think a lot of the things you said can benefit both men and woman. The women who say the things like the things you mentioned in the video are (more often than not) extraordinarily out of touch with life and often dealing with extreme mental health issues (not that it justifies it at all) and I think that this mindset that is so common nowadays is very harmful to both men and women. I remember when I was 14 and I was struggling a lot with loneliness and especially with forming relationships with other people (friends, family, and with men) and I ran to social media and the internet as an alternative (this was also peak pandemic). Everything I was fed was just pure hatred toward men. It was all about "liberating women" through sexual impurity and borderline forcing sex onto young people (like myself) as well as tearing down men to raise women up and it really started to affect the way I saw men. My already complicated relationships with my brothers and dad were affected, I was gay for a short period of time, and overall I thought very lowly of my male classmates and peers. I think back on the mindset I had and it all stemmed from my own insecurities and struggles. Around my junior year of high school I found my way back to Christ and now have a very unique perspective on this. I'm in college now, and I still struggle with loneliness a lot, I won't lie. But the my mindset has changed and that's changed my life as a whole. I feel for those around me who feel like how I used to feel, like being gone was better than being alone, but I promise that there is more to life than being in a relationship or having as many friends as those around you do. I don't have any friends, and I spend all my time studying, but I've come to find that fulfillment won't come with relationships if you don't work on yourself first. In other words, if you're not happy with your life while you're single, you're not going to be happy with your life while you're in a relationship. It might take time, but staying single, not necessarily because you just can't find the perfect person but because you are focusing on self improvement, can be the most peaceful part of the human experience. I really appreciate you posting this! God bless you!
Also, these are some verses/quotes from the Bible/Saints/others that I've found that've consoled along my journey!
"Because God has made us for Himself, our hearts are restless until they rest in Him."
- St. Augustine of Hippo
"Acquire inner peace, and thousands around you will be saved. When the Holy Spirit descends upon a person and fills them with the fullness of His presence, their soul overflows with indescribable peace, ineffable joy, and universal love for all. Then even their silence becomes a teaching filled with wisdom, for it enlightens others with the divine light within them."
- St. Seraphim of Sarov
"So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand"
- Isaiah 41:10
"Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God."
- Matthew 5:8
"Do not be surprised that you fall everyday; do not give up, but stand your ground courageously. And assuredly, the angel who guards you will honor your patience."
- St. John Climacus
"In the way of righteousness is life, and in its pathway there is no death."
- Proverbs 12:28
"Man, as long as he lives, must always struggle. And his first fight is to defeat himself."
St. Ephraim of Katounakia
"The more you are in suffering and difficulties and are desperate for God, the more He is going to come to your aid, reveal Who He is, and show you the way to get out"
- Fr. Seraphim Rose
"When you see any good in yourself attribute it to God, not to self"
-St. Benedict of Nursia
"If it breaks God's heart, why do you think it will fufill yours?"
- I'm not sure
''But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do."
- 1 Peter 1:15
"A man who blamed God for not answering his prayers immediately needs to thank God for not punishing him for his sins immediately"
- I'm not sure
"Our hearts were made for You, O Lord, and they are restless until they rest in you."
- St. Augustine
"Right is right even if no one is doing it, wrong is wrong even if everyone is doing it."
- St. Augustine
"Christ is the only exit from this world. All other exits -- sexual rapture, political utopia, economic independence -- are but blind alleys in which rot the corpses of many who tried them."
- Fr. Seraphim Rose
"The fact that our heart yearns for something earth can't supply is proof that heaven must be our home."
- C.S. Lewis
"Therefore the Lord will wait, that He may be gracious to you; And therefore He will be exalted, that He may have mercy on you. For the Lord is a God of justice; Blessed are all those who wait for Him."
- Isaiah 30:18
God Bless everyone reading this! Christ is Born!
Very wise comments. Thank you sir. I am 65 years old and my wife passed away last year. I have never really been alone. But I feel awfully alone now. I am struggling with moving forward with my life. I retired a couple years early to take care of her as her health declined. Now I find myself sitting at home for weeks at a time, only to leave the house to get a few groceries. Your words and Wisdom is encouraging. I only Pray that I can wake up tomorrow and apply those words of Wisdom . Thank You Sir... God Bless .
Hello sir, maybe try getting involved in a community. Share what you’ve learned with others and connect. The world needs your wisdom. And your pain. Start a grieving group to grieve and help guide one another.
You're getting out of the hole one day, one way or another, but however that journey unfolds, promise yourself to take it easy. Take it one day at a time champ!
Thanks for sharing your situation terry. Must be difficult. I also live on my own and it can be tough sometimes dealing with loneliness. Wishing you all the best
Keep active and eat healthy :)
Sir, if I might make a suggestion, visit a local church and you just might find friends, community, and maybe a good woman to spend time with. I promise if you seek God he will reveal himself to you and He will change your life in so many ways your bound to like one of em! Ha! God Bless you friend!
I am very sorry to hear about your loss, sir. I truly am. I am not a Christian per se, but blessed are those that mourn for they shall be comforted. And I pray you shall be comforted. **hugs**
"The hell that you go through with these relationships just in order to have someone to sleep with from time to time is not worth the destruction that it is doing to your soul and your spirit, to your life, it's not worth it." Amen to that, brother.
and as i found out even when you find "the one," even after yrs together she can suddenly turn into someone youd never ever have wanted to be with...I wonder sometimes if experiencing a loved one turning into a hated one is more traumatic than if the loved one had died?
@@joejones9520 I've been through this...yes, it would be less worse and less painful if the person had passed away.
"It is better to dwell alone in the wilderness than with a quarrelsome and vexatious woman." - Proverbs 21:19
Got that one right....
You can tell this man had his experiences with women before he was lucky enough to find Momma. And I would even go so far as to say that he needed to make these experiences in order to be able to meet Momma.
Nothing is more lonely than having people around you that make you feel that way.
Robin Williams...quote that ...
Yes everyone else saw that instagram meme too. It's not that deep. It's usually what delusional women say as an excuse for cheating.
I am fokin lonely!
friends and family are infamous for that , me personally I got no problems giving anyone a time out , ppl would put their limitations on u
Note though that this is kind of your problem. You are responsible for that and you can change the people you hang out with
The father I never had but always wanted. Thank you for your wisdom and understanding.
I've lost almost everyone and everything in my life recently.
Both parents died,lost my job and my wife separated from me. It's really hard to keep hanging on.
Thanks for the advice.
Hang on men you can. Hard times pass and good times come you just need to keep going, I know it may seem impossible but you can man just keep on going. You are important to this world and you still have a lot to give. God bless. Greetings from Argentina
@sunshinyday I hope you truly find God.
@jaxandree Hang in there Jax 💕
It’s hard man, I did not lose my parents. But I lost my job and I was living with my 4 year girlfriend, she separated from me shortly after, it’s weird that when you truly most need certain people the most, they are not there for you! Now I don’t have a place to stay, nor I can pay for myself so I’m going to France to join the foreign legion. Unfortunately that’s the only way out I can see for now, I’m 31
@@anjosdomar269 Wishing you good luck. Hang in there!
The internet, and especially social media, has absolutely torn the fabric of society asunder. I'm still a young man by most definitions but am old enough to remember back pre-Facebook when you could disagree on politics/policy with someone and still break bread with them or enjoy a beer over a game. Nowadays, forget it, just hate all the way down at the first whiff of disagreement. I used to feel lonely and alienated, but now just learned that doing my own thing away from everyone else is the best path to peace in the modern world. Improvise, adapt, overcome.
#Truth
Amen!
Well Said
I feel the same way and I'm in my late 60's. Young people think everyone is like those on social media. They don't realize they're the minority of our population. Those that have the biggest mouths usually have the least to say, I wish the young ones knew that
My sentiments exactly. I've lost friends on social media I've known for years. Wandering around in solitude now on 20 acres most of the time. Partying like it's 1799.
We must protect this man at all costs
I don't think this man needs our protection, my friend.
@@theronpeavey232 193 people agree with him
This man has enough guns to protect us.
@Theron Peavey definitely
Agreed
Love your philosophy discussions. You have to love yourself. Be comfortable with yourself alone. Before you seek another companion. I myself only need a part time companion. I have many hobbies, guitars, pet reptiles, and growing mushrooms and plants. I rode a Harley Fatboy to Tucson at age 59 with very little cash. It all turned out great 10 years latter. Cary in Tucson
Thank you for this. When I was 27, I got out of an engagement with an unfaithful woman. I sold most of my possessions, left my old job behind, threw what I had left in my vehicle, and hit the road. Ended up in the sticks in Oklahoma working as a steelworker with the best quality of life I've ever had, my own small humble home, and the best damn dog a man could ask for. It's like you said, it truly takes courage to leave everything that you know and makes you comfortable behind to go into the unknown. It's unsettling and its uncomfortable sometimes. The loneliness was hard to deal with at first. It would keep me up at night, it was a bad feeling I couldn't chase away.
But it turned into peace. Genuine peace. It turned into self-reflection and growing as a man. Everyday, every task is an accomplishment that I achieved. You're a wise man, sir, thank you for sharing your thoughts. It's always good to have more tools for the mental toolkit. Continue to be a good man.
being a steelworker is my dream job
Good job brother! Greetings from Kansas! 🤘
Congratulations on the success of peace and quiet... it's a fabulous learning experience..
I'm right behind you, I'm on similar path...great job, awesome stuff brother man🇺🇸💪💪👍👍😎
Thanks fer sharing that brother really
"Everyday, every task is an accomplishment that I achieved."
Wow that was beautiful, brother, I will remember that
One of the best antidotes to loneliness is volunteer work. Eventually you start to make friends with your fellow volunteers, who are frequently good people
Yeah but then life takes you separate ways and your on your own again
Thank you! That’s such a great idea. I’ve thought about volunteering but just don’t do it. I’m committing to get started so I can give back and be around like minded people. ❤
@@davidnorman2134 But then there's always an opportunity to meet new people right?
Fantastic advice.
Having a dog is also a great help imho.
“Be a good, strong man and let the world rage around you.” Great life advise. Love your cool, calm and collected videos, thank you !
How what does that mean
Can you please explain it brother
He says this towards the end of his video, I believe what he means is as the world implodes around you sometimes, be strong and hold fast to your truths and strength’s. For me it’s realizing that I can’t always control what’s going on around me, but continue to be a good strong man, and leaning more on faith and God to control the things I cannot. Hope this helps.
Rage against the dying of the light
@@mattday4661 i absolutely agree with 'holding fast to your truths and strengths' - lotta people get pressured by the environment around them to sacrifice their morals & values for the sake of money or the safety of their family. however, if you stay steadfast in your beliefs, your inspiration can help change the environment around you to one that doesn't require others to sacrifice the values that make them, them!
That little seed within me is starting to grow. Thank you.
New sub here. Got married when I was 30 and my wife and I had two boys. In 2006 my wife passed away suddenly from a brain aneurysm at age 40. My two sons were 10 and 7 at the time. I worked full time ( self employed construction) full time and raised my two sons with the help of family on both sides. I spent ALL of my free time with my two boys. They came first, no exceptions. Had absolutely no desire to date or form a relationship while my boys were young. My Dad wasn’t able to spend as much time with me as I wanted so I wasn’t going to make the same mistake. My two sons went to church and belonged to the youth group while growing up. Now my sons are 26 and 23 and are both pursuing their goals and working hard. I have not dated since my wife passed away. Sometimes I feel lonely for companionship but after 16 years of being single I am set in my ways and I enjoy being able to come and go as I please. I retired 2 years ago at age 56 and have found some interests to keep me busy and mostly content. It’s hard to know what to do ( relationship or stay single) because today you don’t know who you can trust and too many people are all about themselves.
Sorry for you loss sir , may god bless you and your family!, you’re a good father and man
May God bless you always ✝️❤
Kind words from a real man. Be happy Or move from the u.s.a. it is not the greatest country anymore. I know 100 broke people in half of them are happy I know 20 rich people and all of them are miserable do the math
Thank you for sharing this. I’m a single father of three sons. I haven’t had a relationship in 5 years, for the same reasons you said, and then some. My free time has always been devoted to my boys. My time alone was great for a while, but now it is getting lonely. Since covid, my job has been working from home. My isolation started in 2017 with the split from my son’s mother. Covid just made it worse, and now I find it terribly difficult to form and maintain relationships.
Hey Jim. I lost a lot too. Nothing is stronger than the power of 2 great brothers and a wonderful set of parents. You seem like a stand up guy. The free world is built on the backs of families like ours. Stay strong. Take it easy.
I can't believe I came across your shows just when I needed help the most. My wife of 42 years passed away a year ago. I am so lonely and messed up. Your words have made a lot of sense. You have a gift. Keep up the good work. Thank you.
I am so sorry, and I know what you mean. It was a battle for me but as I came to understand myself and noticed little minutes or seconds I learned to appreciate the simple things- like the leaves blowing across the yard, the light coming through the window in the morning, a child's smile, or the dew on a plant shining. It was hard to come out of my pain and memory's but I finally became silent in my mind and just observed life around me. I pray that for you too-peace, the quiet from the storm. blessings
Sympathies and prayers. Never forget that Jesus Loves You!
Best of luck to you sir
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My deepest condolences
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im 18 years old female, and i would like to thank this man for this great advice, i felt this and it comforted me, and to the hardworking guys out there, be safe, you're doing great and i hope you will never let your handsome power die
stay strong
thanks, and thank you for dealing with the BS that comes with being a women
So nice of you to say. Thank you!
youre wonderful
very sweet of you
Did you forget he called women a parasite?
Absolutely spot on Sir. The last decade plus I've said to anyone who would listen: "You have to like the person between your two ears." That's my number one priority. Now I still have horrible days, bouts of despair and lonliness. I do have coping skills and tactics to move beyond those dark times...I have then 'bout 2, 3 times a year? I don't feel any shame for those emotions- for my health (and everyone elses) getting thos emotions out as soon as you have them, if it's possible, is critical for a person's health. Great post, THANK YOU!
Sir, I am in Asia, and You have saved me from suicide tonight. Thank you and God bless you always!
Hey man hope you're doing well now
hope ur doing well
Hang in there bro, find hobbies stay healthy, and make money it'll get better bro ❤
عليك ان تبحث عن الغايه من وجودك
و دين الاسلام فقط يجيب لك عن هذا السؤال
Hang in there is not the best advice for a guy who wants to end his life 😂😂😂😂
There are some days where I just feel unwanted, forgotten and alone but then I go back to this video to brighten my day up. Goodluck gents
Your transparency moves me. 💎
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Here's my video on loneliness.. Have a beautiful day. 💎
Same
@edieltondantas6084this. quitting p0rn was one of fhe best decisions in my life, also i quit drinking but i didnt have a problem with that to begin with i just wanted stronger bones for the sport i practice, i drink every now and then. When i was researching about p0rn addiction i saw so many post of people saying that its normal and ok to do it. I think its not and im an atheist, so im not saying its because of religion, i still think those that want to live watching p0rn then thats ok too.
This is the second video I've watched of this man. In today's society a legend could be considered a celebrity, rapper, or a politician. But this man is a legend in my book. He's like an uncle we all never had but always wanted. Something about this man just seems so heartwarming and delightful to be around with. Thank you for all that you do Mr. Cowboy sir. And apologies for my inappropriate profile.
I appreciate your username
I feel he is the elder we young people need
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I was once told that I expect too much of other people. This was a hidden compliment and a resource for me. Acceptance of others selfishness and limitations is the toughest thing I've had a real hard time understanding. Live and like yourself because most others are a mess in the Head! Codependency is self-destructive!
Independence is it's own reward!👍
24 year old male who really needed to hear this. Appreciate the honesty and reinforcement, Dwayne.
You got this. The Lord has good plans for you.
bruh 🤟💪
Same age same situation
Take care bro
@@Aqueox what’s even the point of commenting this? Such surface level understanding
@@Aqueox thats why he said "you got this". Idiot.
I'm 64, was very happily married for 40 years, she was 14 yrs older than me, we hit it off from day one, I lost her to Alzheimer's 3 years ago, life isn't the same without her, I feel my age and being disabled make me undesirable so I pretty much keep to myself. Such a nice show and very sound advice, you made my day, please keep up the good work !!
Sorry to hear. God bless you
,an it will get better i promise
I feel you brother u have people here who understand your loneliness wish I could have sit and have a beer with u
Wow, you wonderful man. She must have been a good woman - and you a good man. I'm sorry that she had to pass. That must have left a gaping hole in your life. I'm praying that you find what it is you need to fill that void and wish you well on the rest of your journey through life. Best, K
@@CamperVan-K Thanks for such a nice reply, it's much different without my wife being with me
I’m 26 and am a widower, my wife died 9/9/21. I have two little daughters, which has helped. Loneliness has been rough. Now a days females are hard to even talk to.
Thanks for the content!
My condolences for your loss, I’m sure she is watching over the 3 of you. Stay strong for those girls of yours 💙 all the best
So sorry for your loss, glad that your girls provide you with solace. Hope that with time someone else will come into your life to be your companion (if that's what you want of course!)
I lost my wife 3 months after my daughter was born. There have been lonely nights but better that than being stuck with someone you don't like. If we keep our heads straight we'll both be fine. Hang in there.
Stay strong and care the best you can for your daughters.
Thanks for the support, it means a lot
I want you to know that is exactly the confirmation I needed to hear this day. I love you brother and you keep doing what you're doing. My prayers be with you.
I do not have a dad. You are the first person I've ever felt that I can sit and listen to your words of wisdom, as a father figure. Thank you for your time and truth. These are the conversations I've always longed for that I never got.
Why don’t u have a dad
My father was like him. But kept to himself...he's been gone 10 years now...
I have a dad, but I do not get this type of wisdom from him. I think this guy would be an exceptional father.
@@myquickjab2098 let him be not really your business dude
Why would you ask that? Read the room.
Grew up without a father, just got out of a toxic relationship. This helped more than you could ever know, thank you.
Stand up for yourself, stay strong
Same here man same here
Me too man. I would kill to have had a dad growing up. I just got out of a rough relationship a month after my birth father passing. He divorced mom when I was 7. Never really saw him after he moved out. I visited him maybe twice (I’m 22 now)… I definitely wanna grow up and have kids just so they have a father figure. Someone with wisdom and knowledge. It makes life a little easier to understand.
Just dealt with my mom's passing at 27 she was my best friend... I feel immensely alone. Feel like she led me here.. I love you ma! Thanks for always looking after me
Stay strong bro!
Going through the same thing with my dad, he passed back in the end of May. It really sucks not having that close relationship anymore.
My mum passed away last year and she was my best friend too..
I miss her every day❤️
Stay strong brothers, they all want you to stay safe and they love you! ❤️❤️❤️
Dude I'm so sorry I can't imagine that feels
I'm a man of a few words and articulating the gravity of my situation and the timing of this helpful video is unfathomable Thank you Buddy I'll try to never forget this
I’m 61 years old and have been single now for 10 years, no dating, no one night stands, I haven’t even touched a woman since my divorce and it was and still is hard at times to cope with the loneliness, but it passes. I mean this sincerely, everything he mentioned in this video I have already learned or I’m working on now. What I can say is thanks Dude you nailed it exactly. Sincerely, Oklahoma Cowboy
How come your marriage didn’t last? I am experiencing the same thing too, it’s a possibility that it could go down to divorce and Im trying to be better so it wont happen
Your Shelly West is out there somewhere 🤍
@@mg_kjseek counseling brother
Sometimes it got to do with some women often are more keen on developing themselves and their marriage, try new things, keep romance alive, while we men more tend to enjoy status quo when getting older, relax in the sofa infront of the TV and more or less take the wife for granted@@mg_kj
im 34 and have been single for four years, same deal just single no stands or anything, its liberating and those who thrive on companions should try it
We need to spread this guy around some more. I feel comforted and inspired.
Same here 🥰
Hello Dr. Freeman, Its good to see you. They're expecting you down in the anomalous materials lab.
Dont worry. G-man will hook you up.
One thing to seriously consider is how we see the world through social media. Social media isn’t our life. Deleting most social media and focusing on what’s in front of me, my actual life, has helped me so much. Of course I still feel lonely but at least I don’t have hundreds of people rubbing it in my face how awesome their lives are. We are all on different paths in life, make sure you focus on where your paths going instead of wondering where everyone else is.
Im 20 and im going thru & thinking the same thing. Everybody is on their own narrow path and we need to be happy about it, dont take nothing too serious…
Thank you so much for this comment. I need to keep reminding myself about this. Social media is the most destructive illusion in our modern society.
I never have social media account. I never surfed on it.
And I know that (you know I always felt that) my life is so much better this way then the others.
I have felt that. Now I know that and see.
You are on a very good way.
Keep it up!
I think it's also important that you introspect about that kinda thing and consider why you have feelings like these too. Like, why do you feel like people are rubbing it in your face on social media? Cause for me, i see people enjoying themselves and I'm happy for them. But as for myself, i rarely make posts or interact with the timeline. I'm comfortable in myself and knowing that I don't need to be slaying I'm Instagram all day, yk? Idk if that's where you're at, but I'd urge you to think about what about what you project onto the internet that you actually value.
@@tigergaj I really love your point of view. I engage with social media pretty consistently, and over the years I've come to the conclusion that it is a soul sucking void of meaningless affirmation. I like to make movies so I still feel a need to engage in order to keep a portfolio for other artists, but even then I fall back into the habit of endless scrolling on the timeline. I've considered many times deleting my social and just keeping a website up.
Society needs speeches like this and men like you more than ever. Thank you for the inspiring words. Forgiving myself and making the tough decisions is what I need to work on.
"Make the unpopular decisions." really can't stress how important that one is. Trust your self and do what you know is right.
I am 21 I am exhausted every day. I don’t have many friends I work, these 20 minutes have given me so much advice thank you.
wait till you get 30
I'm also 21, working and soon I will also start my studies. I'm trying everything to feel better, hopefully it will. But I also hope you can somehow work out things for yourself.
Just wanna say hope you feel better. Although you feel alone, just know that you’re still valuable and loved. May God bless you, and He is your companion too 🤍
Jesus said “Come to Me all who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest” Matthew 11:28
@@discipleofjesus719 Jesus wouldn't want us to suffer like this.
@@sebastiano2508 hey I’m sorry for what you’re going through right now. I get that it’s hard. This world will come with its hardships, Jesus never promised that it wouldn’t. But He is there to support us and help us get through whatever it is. And our sufferings can help us become stronger. You must be going through a lot, but just know that it is possible for you to overcome it by the grace of God.
Jesus said “I told you these things so that you can have peace in me. In this world you will have trouble, but be brave! I have defeated the world.”
John 16:33
Wishing you nothing but the best
There's only one thing worse then feeling lonely and alone and that's feeling lonely and alone with the wrong person.
Spent eleven years doing that and now that I am alone on my little farm I feel less lonely and anxious.
Or surrounded by people who you deem friends but move on with the wind when it pleases. Loyalty in good and bad is rare.
@@commancheheart420 Have you been stocking up on food, ammo, water, etc?
This was what I needed to hear as I teetered on the edge. Thank you.
22 year old man, just getting out of a toxic relationship with a girl that was destroying my sense of self and what I valued and had me a shadow of myself scared of her. Stayed with her for the exact reason I was scared of being alone and being by myself, god forbid.
Being alone is 10000x better than the hell of being with the wrong person just for touch.
This video hit hard, brother. Thanks for sharing some of your wisdom with us.
Stay strong men, times are tough but we got this.
I'm more than 20 years your senior. When i was your age I was almost married to a toxic narcissist who almost drove me to ending my life at about 22. When we split up I thought I was done and would never be able to love again. I was wrong. I stayed single for 5 years before I met my wife of 20 years. Hang in there young man. You're gonna be fine.
Thank you for your vulnerability & transparency. 🙏🏾
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Here's my video on loneliness.. Have a beautiful day. 💎
I’m 2 years younger and I’ve never been in a relationship, I don’t know if it’s cause I didn’t really try, or if women just don’t like me. I think I know of two people that did somewhat like me and the one girl was like my best friend but she ended up with someone else and the other girl I never had feelings for. I now feel embarrassed about this comment💀
21 years old here, and I totally feel you, been with a girl, not bad, but broken, sometimes some people can drag you down while you are trying to bring them up. Being lonely makes you a better person, but from time to time we feel the need and the hurry of someone good coming to our lives. Let’s do the hard work till the time comes. Let’s become better men till there
Your pain is felt my friend. I spent three years with a woman who destroyed my sense of self.
Everything that made me proud of myself was gone, every skill, hobby, hope, and dream was dashed. Friends and family were cut off.
I was the punchline of every joke amongst her friends and family.
And the yelling, it never stopped, I never realized just how much it messed me up until after the relationship, the fear of conflict that comes from her still persists.
But I know this, I know that I'm better for having lived that relationship, and I'm stronger for having left it.
At 61 and divorced and no kids and my entire small family has passed on. My two horses have died recently......I asked the lord to help me.....I literally feel him and hear him talking to me daily on what to do and its over whelming how much he has helped me.
I’m an equestrian. Can you rescue an older horse to keep you busy?? It will help both of you ❤
Amen ❤✝️
God bless
You've been talking to yourself, because you are your own best coach.
That's called schizophrenia.
41 Years young man here and have found myself alone quite often. Never married and no kids. Parents been gone for over 10 years now and I have to agree 100 % it's all about learning yourself. I've been in good relationships and bad but in the end never lasted over two years. Have learned to be totally self sufficient. Yes, I do get lonely and occasionally bitter but have to remind myself to be constantly working on myself. Thanks for the episode.
Need more women in ur life.
also if you are worried about kids then freeze sperm so when you meet a quality girl you can have a kid professionally and even choose some of the genetics now.
a young man who has never been married or never had kids isn't a man by definition.
Who’s definition?
@@DryCreekWranglerSchool rural western balkan, 21st century!
Wish this had been around before I lost my brother. He needed this.
Thank you for posting.
This man is the reason i pulled through a difficult year and came out of a storm unscathed and gave me the strength to carry on
Protect this man at all costs. That's all I can say.
If we don’t this world will fail!
I don't think this man needs protection, he seems to have that covered already ^^
As if a man like this needs protected. I think he’s quite capable all on his own.
@@LilPeeper420 Wow how original and fresh...
@@deathbunny3048 wow someone had the same thought as you... clearly the right course of action is to go after them with petty sarcasm, great job buddy
Spot on, Dwayne. I'm 80 now, but back in my forties I learned that I can't be responsible for somebody else being happy, nor they for me. Happiness is a choice we make for ourselves. Likewise, unhappiness is not because of somebody else. It is a choice we make. Oh, people can disappoint us, but that doesn't mean we have to be unhappy as a result. It simply presents us with another choice to make regarding that relationship. As you said, if we are comfortable in our own skin (hopefully because we have done the requisite homework) nobody can penetrate our happiness without our permission. As another commenter said, there is a difference between solitude and loneliness. Great things can be accomplished in solitude, not so much in loneliness. Your videos have given me a lot of pause to reflect on the days when I had a Buckskin quarter horse, and it always puts a smile on my face. Thank you, brother, much appreciated.
Wisdom
@@Roger-tv7sf I have nothing but the highest regard for Dewayne and his videos. Your sniping at my typo, well, that's another matter.
There's a buckskin quarter horse in my life. He makes everything better that's for sure.
@@freezinginhere When I bought my Buck back in 1966, I had just returned from Vietnam and having a horse was one of my youthful bucket list items. He was 9 years old and was an experienced ranch horse, but had been previously owned by a family that bought him for their daughter who wasn't really interested.... so he had been left to pasture for a couple of years and was in really bad shape. Hooves so long that they were curling up, his coat so sunburned by the Florida sun that he looked more white than buck skin, and had a terrible sun cancer spot on his pink nostril. I was naive about caring for a horse, but fortunately I was able to board him at a farm near where I lived and with the help and advice of the farmer, brought him back to peak health and condition. He knew more about being ridden that I did about riding, but he also knew that I was a worthy pupil for having shown him the love and attention that he needed. It was a good time.
One of the things I enjoy about Dewayne's chats is finding out that I did at least a few things right while Buck and I were pards.
@@tomfolkes4997 thanks for sharing your story. And thank you for your service. Where in Florida did y'all live?
I'm 40 Yr old man, been single for 7 years and live on my own with my dog. I'm use to being alone most my life and to be honest I've learned to love myself and never been happier. The biggest battles are in your mind once you learn to love oneself no person can harm you, also you can't love others if you don't love yourself.
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I'm 47 and live the same way. I got sick of games liars heartbreak disappointment etc etc etc. I'm happier alone
You are right about loving yourself. It gets me through everything. We need to love our selves so we can love someone else. You are so right.
@@lizwebster1521 ❤️❤️😁
Absolutely right man spot on
Thank you man this is exactly what I needed to heard to day
When I get really lonely I'll go out & hang around with people & it almost always reminds me why I spend so much time alone
Here here! 💪🏻
I get it hahahah
Aint that the truth
Ain’t it !
Same …
I'm a 44 YO black woman. I just found your channel, and I am happy I did. Your messages are applicable to a spectrum of ages and lifestyles. Thank you Sir for sharing your wisdom with the world.
i agree as a 39 yr old Puerto Rican , i can relate to this video and comment so much , blessings
Yay welcome
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Why did you mention your colour? That's racist.
@@Benstormcrow you're ignorant
Dwayne is like the father some never had or he can be the man that’s truthful with everyone and tells you things your daddy was afraid to teach you
Good ol’ telling it like it is, never goes out of style. My hat’s off to Mr. Dwayne, once again.
So true
Man his talk and voice calming in a very crazy world!
So true
@@EricCampbellUAV This ladies and gentlemen, is a textbook example of how some people will hate on everything.
This is really something special. I feel like you just said everything ive been needing to hear for so long. Thank you
Yep , I'm 65 and this gentleman speaks from the heart.
He speaks the truth.
Im not even that lonely, I just like listening to this guy. He's so chill about everything he's chatting about in this video
You are right
I like this person
Same
😂
He´s my real life Arthur Morgan.
Gentlemen, I see a lot of you out there putting out your best. Thank you and I appreciate you, for what it's worth. I'm just a random woman on the internet, but I hope this means something. Keep on keeping on, and much love to everyone.
Thank you :)
@@9to5Drone no, thank you. 😊
Myself as well.
This means a lot to hear. Thank you.
@@timholt9991 no sir, thank YOU. 😊
you make so much sense, i have been a LONEWOLF 4 yrs and I love it.
Just lost my father a few days ago. Feel like this is something he would say to me, the way he would say it to me. Thank you for giving me a piece of him tonight.
I am a 23 year old woman who has lived a lot of life so far. I was trapped in a home fire and escaped, was in a car accident that made my baby 2 months premature, my father passed away suddenly in front of me a few days ago. And more obviously lol. (All Within the past 2 years). I learned a long time ago that you are the only one who will be with you for the rest of your life guaranteed. So make sure you can deal with yourself for that long. And if you can’t then figure out what you don’t like about yourself and change it. Also sometimes we go through terrible things even if you try to be a good person every day. Maybe bad things happen to good people to test if they are going to stay good people strong in their convictions and morals. I’m not sure yet. I hope things get better for me but maybe there is no exchange of good karma or an ultimate reason why I went through these things. But having those beliefs help me cope.
@@Sidney-ov8ws I'm sorry Sidney, that's really unfortunate to hear about your recent times. You are followed by your father, to watch over you and the young ones. The Creator has a plan, even if we don't see eye to eye with said purposeful plan. If you believe in god there is always a friend no matter the darkness. i hope this comment finds you in a peaceful manner
Sidney, I lost my father in late 2020. I'm not a young man but it still hurts. He was the strong man who taught me to ride a bicycle, drive a car, work with wood and tools, sew buttons, and be self-sufficient. He gave me his skills to look after myself. That's his legacy. Your Dad will have left you similar gifts 💪👍
I’m so sorry for your loss. We’re unfortunately in the same situation. I’m sure he meant so much to you. I hate this feeling so much but I know he wouldn’t want me to mope. That’s the only thing keeping me sane. I know he loves me to death and if there was one thing he wants me to know, it’s that he loves his kids more than anything in the world and know time will heal all wounds 🤟🏽
Take care.
I was about to complete my life tonight (6/1/24) but looked for one last sign not to and I found this video. I've never seen your videos before. I'm grateful I found this one tonight. 🙏
how are you doing now? sending you so much love 💗
Sending love brother
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🙏🏽🙏🏽 hope ur ok. Please don’t give up!!
Stay safe brother
I have 5 daughters under 20 at 51, and a 5 year old boy. I started letting them listen to you at night, and it has helped reinforce a lot of what I’ve been saying. You present it much better! Nevertheless, you are most appreciated in Conway, SC….at least in my home you are!
Well said....Anderson, SC here
Seneca, SC here
Winston Salem north Carolina here 🇺🇸🤘
@@theskyizblue2day431 all about how you raise your kid bud, youre what labels them so if that what you want to raise them as, so be it
@@theskyizblue2day431 they do care, mostly because they know that wisdom and Truth are of utmost importance, and most men only put on a facade of strength, while internally possessing nothing but weekends. Truth only hurts, when you live in lies.
This is such a transformational video. An advice that feels thoroughly thought through. It requires a sincere and honest reflection to be able to view the world the way Dwyane does. But it also requires a certain amount of reflection and a heck ton amount of desire to want to be ‘better’ to fully appreciate his message.
‘To become someone that you want to be with’ feels like something we should inherently know, until someone say it and we realize that we aren’t really living our lives aligned to that idea. I know that was the case for me.
It truly is a privilege to have seen this video. Hopefully, more people get to see this!
My ex used to “jokingly” tell me “I gotta keep you down to keep you around”. It was all jokes at first until I started developing anxiety and became self conscious of things about myself I never even noticed. After 6+ years I was an empty shell of a man, I had no concept of myself. I broke up with her a year ago and I’m proud to say I’ve never been more confident in myself in my entire life. You said it best, she was a parasite. Finally I’m growing to be the man I know I can be, and I’ll never settle for anything but the absolute best.
God, that's awful. People often reveal who they really are in the form of jokes it seems like. Sorry you went through that.
Wow I've had someone similar tell me the exact same words
Good for you man! Keep it up
Been there too buddy, 4 years of belittling and to end it all found out about 3 other men she had going. Now I'm almost 2 yrs on with a women who would give a organ for me.
I hope a good women comes your way and shows you your worth, till then stay strong and find connection in your friends!
Women spend much more time with other women understanding them. They on average understand their psychology more.
That can be used as a weapon or a tool.
You happened to stumble on a parasite who was missing something- self-confidence, or something- that used it as a weapon against you.
You are 100 percent right. I was homeless in 2015 and I made a choice to change that ,and now I have my own place and a van. It wasn't easy and I worked really hard and I didn't give up.
Keep it up bro proud of you, keep using the job experience to switch to other jobs and negotiate better pay start a side hustle people sell water for millions just gotta find something you like or something to help people or solve problems
imagine your house was in gaza
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Be your own best friend, you will never be alone…do mindfulness…self-love and self-care are important keys for this life journey…Good luck…
Happy for you. 🙌🏾
76yo, married man for 54 years. A wonderful message about dealing with being alone. One should recognize that neither your wife, your children, your friends or any of your possessions are yours. You only borrow them for a while. You make a good point about beating yourself up and not liking yourself. You have to be kind to yourself. No one wants to live with or be friends with a downer, someone with a cloud over there head.
Wise words my friend.
10:46 "But if you're with yourself, and yourself is always beating you up, you're not gonna want to be with yourself" Exactly my issues. Thanks for the insight.
I have lived my life where loneliness never bothered me but I know it bothers many, it’s saddening to see all the pain in everyone’s hearts and i hope you all heal.
This is so me😂 i get shocked when i hear peoples stories about being lonely. Since its never bother me
i'm a loner i feel most comfortable alone i hate being around people, both marriages i had went the same way F getting married
@@shorty808100 Thats not the right way to think, we all have beauty and we can all learn from each other.
@@gg-kr8ws i see what youre saying. personally i had to learn to not let my loneliness discourage or hurt me
@Miguel Silva thats why you learn to be intelligent and overtly charismatic. if they are impressed with your limited words, they’ll leave you alone or even like you.
Almost 3 years ago I lost my wife, my soulmate. The hole in your chest and the emptiness it leaves is almost unbearable. Losing your other half is a loneliness I would never wish on someone.
It feels indescribable losing someone so important in your life, i cant express how much i connect with your words here
Hope you’re keeping well man
At least you had someone my guy.. better to have and lost
I wish you all the best and hope you're doing well man...
Unfortunately, many older couples argue about trifles - and only realize after the loss which angel they have lost. Too late to talk. Nice that you call her soul mate. And that you were better. I'm sorry for your loss.
Here I am struggling to get out of bed on Christmas of 2023, feeling the loneliness crush me. I searched loneliness into UA-cam and clicked on this video. Never heard of this channel before. I felt genuinely counseled and comforted by the words in this video. Some of the things said are things I’ve heard before, but for some reason, it hit a little different when hearing it from this man. I wanted to click off this video, to find something else to give me some mental stimulation. But I stayed through the whole thing. Thank you for this video. And to anyone else feeling alone, there’s always a seat available next to me. As long as you’re a good person to me, I’ll be a good person to you.
Lock in in your life make sure your mature enough I'm probably not struggling as much as you because I'm just grieving my old friends and have people I can talk to but just know your guide is going to have to make sure your mature enough grow with yourself through experience make friends who you know you can chill with who will never judge you then you cam think about girls and then being more of a man and then making the big memories be kind have banter and make sure you get enthusiastic if your not enthusiastic your gonna fail don't know why I'm trying to help you but I just feel like helping you because I'm at a low point too dude and because I've always liked helping others
Its not over til its over. We've got so much to go. Whether it be a day, year, second, minute, month or decade, so much happens and changes. Start seeing the world for the world, people for people, and things for thing. Dont try to predict the future or dwell on the past, live in the moment and focus on "whats my next move" rather than "If i didnt do this it could be different or "If i do this, this will happen" @@jackdoesf1
Its not over til its over. We've got so much to go. Whether it be a day, year, second, minute, month or decade, so much happens and changes. Start seeing the world for the world, people for people, and things for thing. Dont try to predict the future or dwell on the past, live in the moment and focus on "whats my next move" rather than "If i didnt do this it could be different or "If i do this, this will happen" @jackdoessiege
@@logandozzzog3131 True that you have to find your own way in life and how life works our for you
Man, I’m 18 and for the past few days the feeling of loneliness has hit me so hard I just fell into a haze for awhile. Hearing that I’m not the only one struggling gives me some hope that I can relate to others with these problems and feel less alone. I hope you can pull yourself out of it. I hope in the future you can look back and not even recognize the person you used to be compared to the amazingly fulfilled person you become. Thank you for sharing and letting me feel less alone.
This video is suddenly pop out and i tried watch it and seriously, this is really really worth to watch. Thanks a lot sir
"You be a strong man, you be a good man, and just let the world rage around you".....what a freaking quote. I will never forget that. Just found you today on youtube Dwayne and I've watched three of your videos already. I am 22 years old, in the Military for almost 5 years now. In college, kinda losing my way. But trying to be a better man, and leave a hole when I leave this world. God bless ya Dwayne, thank you for all the advice. You make me want to be better and be a good man.
I’m only 19 years old. Had just graduated high school a few months back. I know I’m not old enough to have gone through everything that men older than myself have. But I can still say that this is very helpful for me. I thank God for this showing up in my recommended. I have and always only had two friends. I’ve always questioned myself and if the path I’m taking is wrong because I don’t hang out with people or have a girlfriend. But I’ve always just focused on me and didn’t want to deal with what’s going on with this whole situation with women. As Dwayne states in the video, I do not hate women, but it is hard to find a good one. I alway beat myself up about everything I do and I’m not in a very happy place with myself. But this video helped me understand how to find the path to true peace with myself. Dwayne I thank you for this video. You have certainly helped me with this one message.
im 19 as well brother this video hit hard with me too. all my friends are in college and i chose not to go because in my heart i knew i didn’t im working for myself right now and i have my own apartment. it sure does get lonely but i’ve learned to accept it and move on. i’ve recently started to get into meditation and breath work. it really puts things into perspective. good luck to you
I’m 20 here and in the same thing but it gets a little easier everyday you just need to work on it and realize things can always change if you’re willing. it hurts for a long while ngl it still does but it does get better.
I'm 19 as well brother I know how you feel. I've had many nights feeling lonely as hell and wondering why I am even here. But I promise it gets better. Find a distraction and a way to keep yourself busy.. something positive like a job or a hobby, something you're passionate about and run with it. Keep a positive attitude the best you can and keep going day by day.
19 as well, the year following highschool was the hardest of my life so far. Struggling with making new friends at college and leaving pretty much everyone behind who I had grown up with (minus my parents and siblings) was pretty foreign to me. If there’s one thing I’ve learned it’s that all good things take time. Trust in the Lord, you will be okay man.
I'm turning 19 this month on November 26th and I am in community college pursing Electrical Engineering. I had previously failed 1 semester due to not attending class and the same thing is happening to me this semester. I don't feel satisfied with myself at all and I feel like I'm always alone. This video helped me see that there is hope for me to change myself for the better and to be comfortable with what I like to do. I always followed in the footsteps of my friends and I never became my own person. I'm just starting to now and I wish I had this perception when I was younger like at 15 years old so I had more time to explore my passions and interests. Now I feel like it is too late and that these are my "grinding" years where I have to work a job for money to save up so I can move out and become independent. It is mentally taxing on me and I'm just now starting to realize that I should be comfortable with myself and being lonely. It's just that some people shame you for things like not having a girlfriend, never kissed, or still being a virgin at 18 and I just feel like it doesn't have value. It's more of modern social approval and it's this toxic environment that makes me depressed. This guy really opened my eyes to see that it is okay to be alone and how you can become your own man without needing others.
I am a 53-year-old currently sitting in my garage smoking a cigar and having a bourbon buy myself as a normally do and came across your video. All I can say is your Insight is spot on. Amen brother, you are a blessing so you young guys listen to the wisdom man this man offers!
I read your comment and had a good chuckle. I'm 52 sitting in my garage watching this video having a beer and smoking a winston. I had to divorce my ex 10 years ago because she was just unbearable. I haven't dated since. I'm just not interested. I dated a lot and got married when I was older. I was in between 10 years of combat deployments and saw everyone around me married with kids and I though ok I should too. I was wrong. I don't think I've ever dated or met a good woman. They were ok but not good for me. The games and fighting just isn't me. I've see how marriage is for my brothers and sisters and comrades and friends and I just shake my head and wonder where is the woman for me? And I'm pretty well off. Retired from the feds and a law enforcement officer with a great pension and 100% disabled Veteran. I've built and sold a few business a farm and two construction companies. I have no debt and the best healthcare in the world. I have a great family and life long friends. I just can't seem to find the woman I believed was out there. So for now I'm just going it alone. Hope your doing well brother.
There are good woman out there in the world 😊 i do wish you well ❤ NZ
Thank you again. You are very humble. This isnt no little advice this MODERN DAY WISDOM. The message received and truly respect the messager.
So refreshing to hear him say these words.
Wherever we’ve been or what we’ve done in the past, it’s okay. We aren’t there anymore, and I’m a totally different person. What I did in the past doesn’t define who I am today. And all of that is okay.
Best attitude to have. We should use the past, maybe, as feedback.
Are mistakes shouldn’t be a life sentence, forgive yourself. I forgive you. Best wishes.
As a 27 year old male who never had any relationship of any kind with women and as someone who has crippling anxiety, depression and loneliness for most of my life I needed this so much. The fact is I never had a father who could tell me this. I feel so alone and so lost, I'm not only not feeling like a man, I feel like I ain't human at all. I don't know how it feels to be loved by a woman outside my mother. I don't know how to be a man. I know the day I die will be by my own doing, but do I deserve it? I just want someone I can love and loves me back and have a family, but maybe I am just too egotistical.
Also 27, also single my whole life up to this point. Our desire for a companion is natural. I just know the loneliness sucks!!!
While you are in the "between season" in your life, I highly recommend the book "Love yourself like your life depends on it" It will help you to feel whole and make good choices for yourself. There was an audio book on you tube or audible has the audio book. The author wrote it after a devastating break up. Check into it!!! Love yourself and then you will be better able to love others!
@@jameschasemaddox3037 hold on brother, we will find her eventually.
I'm also a 27 year old man and I also struggle with finding that companion for myself. Your not alone.
I hope you find a woman, I hope a woman finds you! I really hope you get the opportunity to experience love in your life. That’s such a pure thing to desire and love is a gift and I believe love is helpful and I really hope you are able to find someone
Sir, what is lacking in this world for most men is having an older man with Godly wisdom who walks with a true “father spirit,” speak into their lives. Well I see you!! Hope you keep encouraging these young guys on many topics. They need you. ❤
YES!!! This right here!!! People are seeking physical pleasure to cure loneliness but what they need is wisdom and strength. a guide. even women are lacking in that area. i was blessed to have my mom and both grandmothers and great grandmothers in my life. the grandfathers were only there sometimes, except for two. one was a scoundrel and the other actually took the time to talk to me and teach me useful skills.
my sons, sadly, were ignored by their paternal grandad. by MY dad is trying to take time with them. he never bothered to do much with me and my brother but i am thankful he's there for my sons - since their dad can't be bothered.
sad state of affairs in this world. we need more MEN to guide these boys. but my goodness, who can you trust anymore?? so many weirdos out there preying on the kids because there's no one around to protect them.
He sure does encourage us! It's not about disliking or resenting women, it's about working to be better men, and being comfortable with who we are. Men need that!
Yes Ma'am! I have my 13 yo son watch some of his videos and other men like him. His own Daddy, while he loves his son and we love his Daddy, he's struggling hard at the moment and is just not available for our son and our marriage and our family. Not like he needs. Not like this. So, while my husband, who I love with my whole self, is struggling and being hammered into the sword he's meant to be, I'm so grateful to God for these men who are taking their time to encourage our young men because as much as I can try to teach my son all the things my Daddy taught me, I'm not a man and I just can't guide him as well as a real, true and honest man can. 💙 Praise the Lord!
This is the best video ive ever clicked on and it hits it on the nail of how i feel thank you so much for posting this because what i lack in my life is positive support I would never have someone sit me down and actually talk to me respectfully. Thank you so much im hoping to watch more of your videos and learn more from a kind hearted soul