How to Deal With Loneliness
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- Опубліковано 22 жов 2022
- It is getting harder for good people to find compatible companionship in this day and age. Especially for young people who are looking for a mate. You cannot always find the match that you were looking for, but you don’t always need to.
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"I used to think the worst thing in life is to end up all alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone." ~ Robin Williams
Yes, as an older woman who recently became alone I can so relate. I worry for today's young people in this modern society.
I'm there right now buddy, just waiting for the day that my partner will tell me she's leaving me.
So true.
@@noname-ye7zj that’s no way to live man
@@noname-ye7zj if I felt that way, I would be the first one to go, and leave now. You will regret not leaving her first if you know that she’s going to leave you.
"You be a strong man, you be a good man, and let the world rage around you." Love this.
Me too. I am living in the world but I am not responsible for saving it. That doesn't mean I won't try to help people (and I'm not even talking from a Christian POV) and be a good person, but it's because I want to and because it makes me happy to be a good person.
First comment already indicates it will be good, it's nice to see others perspectives
Tattoo worthy
almost wanna hang that in a frame right?
@@jt_heili5326 too edgy man. Rather just get a portrait of Jesus .. even tho it says not too in the bible 🤔
"Nobody will destroy you, if you won't let them!" Well said.
Amen!
Sounds like something Donald Trump would say . ❤
Yes, we are in control
A lot of people who are very resolute/spiteful also need to be very calculated and collected in order to be successful.
Nothing is more lonely than having people around you that make you feel that way.
Robin Williams...quote that ...
Yes everyone else saw that instagram meme too. It's not that deep. It's usually what delusional women say as an excuse for cheating.
I am fokin lonely!
friends and family are infamous for that , me personally I got no problems giving anyone a time out , ppl would put their limitations on u
Note though that this is kind of your problem. You are responsible for that and you can change the people you hang out with
As a young man I can listen to this guy forever. Nobody is speaking like this to us no more.
Jordan Peterson & DeWayne that’s bout it 💯
True. The hate for millennials an zoomers by the older generations just beat you down. This is a breath of fresh air.
@@John_Connor556 definitely bro
@@John_Connor556 jordan peterson is a grifter and a christian ideologue. don't listen to him, he has nothing for you.
as a boy scouts group leader i see lots of young people, girls and guys that are confused by our current social political ways of mistreating the truth. they are confused of their roles and their borders. it is frustrating at times and gives lots of headaches, but it's also the reason i do this voluntary work.
True:
Until you get comfortable with being alone, you'll never know if you're choosing someone out of love or loneliness
100% out if lonliness
more or less, as an anti-social person in the majority of time, i can say it would be out of love cuz if u like or get use to loneliness you won't feel lonely...
this hits hard thank you
I very much agree. Great thoughts!
OK thanks! More stuff to hold me back.
Grew up without a father, just got out of a toxic relationship. This helped more than you could ever know, thank you.
Wishing you the best 👌
So refreshing to hear him say these words.
Wherever we’ve been or what we’ve done in the past, it’s okay. We aren’t there anymore, and I’m a totally different person. What I did in the past doesn’t define who I am today. And all of that is okay.
Best attitude to have. We should use the past, maybe, as feedback.
Are mistakes shouldn’t be a life sentence, forgive yourself. I forgive you. Best wishes.
"You're never lonely, if you like who you're alone with." I carry this thought with me every day. A very powerful mindset that I believe every man should cultivate.
Easier said than done my friend, but it’s the goal
I see a flaw on that
A person who hates being alone finds himself in bad company
If you have the ability to choose who you want to be alone with then you are not truly lonely.
This is true! I get more satisfaction trying to make myself happy instead of trying to please someone who thought it was normal to diappear and go no contact whilst working away for days/weeks/months and after years of enduring this, threw a tantrum when I did it back to him. This man had double standards and I could never measure up enough for him despite keeping well groomed, paying all the bills, educating myself, remaining loyal to him. These days, I'm at a point where I would like someone but not necessarily "need" someone in my life. After 4 years I decided I will no longer settle.
A friend of mine once said, “If the person you’re with isn’t lifting you up, they’re dragging you down.” This made me realize that statement applies to how you treat yourself also.
Thats tough, because my wife suffers from depression, and has a hard time controlling that, and the every day emotions are not always controllable. I wouldn't say that statement works for every situation.
@@karlpage9028 I agree but I’d also say,if the person you’re with forces you to confront the ugly parts of yourself even if it’s to meet theirs,so long as it’s based in real selfless love,I think that’s a form of uplifting
well a person could be neutral as well...every person u meet doesnt necessary need to encourage you or lift you.
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Yes, but the more we are actively thinking about ourselves, not how to help others, makes us more miserable. It’s a balance
I needed this very much. I’ve been alone since I was 14 (now 22) and have been brainwashed from social media. Ty for your time in making this video and may God bless you and your family ❤️
At 54, I just went into recovery from substance abuse. Am clean/sober. Also, I left my hometown of over 30 years. Moved over 500 miles away and am starting over. New job. New faces. New surroundings. But God is the same and he is with me. Get my first big paycheck next week. It's nice to be excited and happy again. God bless you brother. Great video.🙏❤️🙂👍
We don't need more people like this man, we need to be like this man.
Thank you for using this the right way
that’s how we help each other out
Yes but it end up in the same way, everything is good.
This advice is just as relevant to good women with bad experiences with problematic men
No, you need to be yourself.
I'm 17 year old boy from Russia and just doesn't know where to put my energy to talk to somebody. After watching this video i cried for a couple minutes and realised how I need to treat and bring myself up. Thank you a lot sir.
Don't give up, make sure to take care of yourself.
Sending you love and encouragement from America.
Based on your comment. You are no longer a boy. You are a man. You talk to any of us about anything here. We love you.
Young man...always have a dog (if money allows). Work hard and try to have at least one good older male friend. Mentor. Walk that dog twice a day. Morning and evening. Minimum 10K steps a day. That wards off depression and your dog will love you all the more for that. Even if you don't consider yourself a "religious" person, think about getting connected to a church community. Sure there are some assholes, but then there are assholes everywhere, and if you stand out as a rational and kind young man in a community of assholes, you will attract the attention of (hopefully) some quality people and some of them will be female. Who knows, maybe the Spirit of God will tap you and fill you with authentic joy and peace that will blow you away. Peace and happiness to you, my young friend.
Never give up we're all Gods children we are traveling at the speed of life stay strong live for the God in you
It works both ways. Unfortunately, good men are hard to find as well to I enjoyed your post. Thank you
That’s exactly what I’m trying to say, its a two way street.
@@janpatterson6302sadly some people would try to argue against this statement
NAILED IT!!! Good men are VERY DIFFICULT to find!
I have always said that the men are just as bad for encouraging the 'hookup culture/only fans ect' mindset.
Yup. I like to believe the majority of both sexes are good people who want to raise each other up. Most of the women I've been involved with were great people. We just hear the squeaky wheels, and social media just amplifies them.
Thank God, I’m not lonely yet (late 70’s). Love my Perdomo Maduros and coffee, too. Wife for over 50 years, loyal dog and cat , all pets past and present are rescues. Thanks be to God for our happiness. Sorry for those who are looking for happiness outside of God. He waits patiently and tenderly. Blessings
Damn. You have the perfect life. 50 years with one wife!
"You be a strong man, you be a good man, and you let the world rage around you."
That's wisdom.
Please do explain brother what does this rage around you meant
@@shijagurumayumdeosharma it's from the end of the video. It means whatever is happening in the world around us, we choose to be good men regardless.
@@shijagurumayumdeosharma It means don't be pulled into outside issues and controversies. Your life (and the people you love) and sense of purpose should be your focus. The rest is actually a diversion and can even be a form of avoidance of one's own life.
@@shijagurumayumdeosharma dont contribute to the chaos and mayhem
That made me cry. That's a man's wisdom and it was beautiful so needed.
I turned to alcohol heavily for 3+ years to deal with being lonely. All my family is 2,000 miles away. I'm 5 days sober which isn't a lot, but I'm trying to learn to deal with it in healthier ways. Thanks for your video
Proud of you brother keep it up !
@Hayden Gorman Thank you so much man. It's not easy kicking out cold turkey. But I'm determined! Doing AA has really helped so far
keep goinggg
@escandaloso I lost it on day 6...back to the drawing board...but thank you man. It's brutal
@@brother.teresa I believe in you
I find comfort in my loneliness. A SIMPLE life is better than a sinful life. People forced my to be comfortable in being alone.
I’m still working on that. But you are correct. It is possible to have comfort even in loneliness.
I understand exactly what you mean and I thank-you ❤
When loneliness won't leave you alone you end up being around insufferable people that make you miss it . Just like the messiah said never be anxious about anything for tomorrow brings it's own badness.
@@777dragonborn I would rather be a nobody, that is somebody, than be a somebody that is a nobody.
Yes, I would rather be lonely then miserable.
Thank you for your help.
There's a millions of people that are lonely right now and you have some great wisdom.
Thank you.
"You don't want to be alone with you because you beat yourself" drove me to tears. This realization drove me to tears.
I do the same. It helped when I took a step back to try and realize where all of the negative thoughts came from. I realized it was just all the things my parents had said about me or had believed about me. Which now helps me realize that it probably isn't true and should just be ignored. Not sure if this will help anyone but hopefully it does.
@@gingermuffin4292 Hi, my parents said similar things. The part that made me cry especially is that I was doing this to myself, not because I hated myself, but because it was a learned behavior from our parents. We learned from them our poor qualities, and our self doubt amplified them.
Every single day
A man can be himself only so long as he is alone; and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free
Copium but it’s true in some aspect
I am alone & got a dog, we go hiking and camping & go to parks , I don't feel alone anymore & my dog shows true love & loyalty. So much happier than I ever was .
man i feel that so hard, it’s gonna hurt when he passes
@@mauricio6550 WTF
The only soul that has ever loved me unconditionally was my sweet dog. He was my doggie soulmate. I'm praying he is there waiting when it's my time to cross over.
I'm so glad you have found that kind of love, too.
A dog's love truly is one of the best things that can happen in life.
Cat friends are great, too.
Every time I am surrounded by teens that have their own friends groups make you feel so isolated from them and you feel like you will never fit it
You really did a great job of describing the situation. Thank you for your wisdom. "Consider the source" & " You're You own worst enemy".
Bless you, sir!
I’m 66 years old and buried my mother 12/26/22 and week later I lost my wife 01/02/23 to pancreatic cancer at 58 years old.
I needed to hear this, this afternoon.
Thank you for your time and video.
Stay strong gramps! There are people that need you still!
Stay strong brother. There’s times I feel like that. My wife died of cancer my soul mate but she would want me to be strong and move forward. I’m 44 years old. At the end God will put us together with those we lost.
Prayers for you 🙏🏼 everyone here. Much love ❤ till we see our loved ones again 😇
May Allah make it easy for you, grant you patience and guide you to the truth, may Allah reunite you with your loved ones in Paradise. Ameen
I'm sorry for your losses. You're a strong person to be able to push through that and keep going. I hope you can take some comfort in knowing you'll see them again.
One of the best antidotes to loneliness is volunteer work. Eventually you start to make friends with your fellow volunteers, who are frequently good people
Yeah but then life takes you separate ways and your on your own again
Thank you! That’s such a great idea. I’ve thought about volunteering but just don’t do it. I’m committing to get started so I can give back and be around like minded people. ❤
@@davidnorman2134 But then there's always an opportunity to meet new people right?
Fantastic advice.
Having a dog is also a great help imho.
I found I loved being alone early in my life before I watched this video and gave it a listen anyway and my man You sayin “the person who’s always gunna be with you is yourself” is a great way to put it. Being alone rocks but it’s good to find people who you can be “alone” with.
I love this. The set up makes it feel like a personal conversation but motivational and overall positive. Thank you sir ! Definitely needed !
Sir, I am in Asia, and You have saved me from suicide tonight. Thank you and God bless you always!
Hey man hope you're doing well now
hope ur doing well
Hang in there bro, find hobbies stay healthy, and make money it'll get better bro ❤
عليك ان تبحث عن الغايه من وجودك
و دين الاسلام فقط يجيب لك عن هذا السؤال
Hang in there is not the best advice for a guy who wants to end his life 😂😂😂😂
I'm a 17 year old guy who's been considering suicide. I've been feeling extremely lonely and afraid of the world and I know that it's time i pick myself back up. This video really inspired me to get my life together and start liking myself again. This is all really good advice and I have a lot of respect for you sir. I hope this video can reach even more people and help them too.
Hang in there man. Life sucks sometimes but there's things worth living for
same bro, i don’t have anyone to connect to, sure i have friends, but i’m always the one to ask how they are, it’s never my turn. idk what to do
I myself am 17 and i felt the same way! life is pretty hard in these times, but we need to pull ourself together and be the best versions of ourselves! keep looking up brother! it will get better soon, trust me!
@@famousjavis4412 i feel exactly the same man. it's really hard to feel like they want you around but i promise they do. people care a lot more than it usually seems like they do
@@hunroodoesart we got it!!
Thank you so much, I originally planned to just watch another video. I am scared.
I am 18 years old and I am about to graduate high school, I am starting to get scared of taking my first step into this world. I want to chase after my dreams, but scared that I might fail. You see the reason why I would want to watch another video, but this addressed the problem I was facing. My friend left for the army a few days and now I am alone. I didn’t understand myself enough to see what I was feeling. I don’t have a lot of people who is like another me. I will go and love myself now. Thank you so much for making this video for me. God bless your soul sir.
This video is able to open the eyes of those who watch it! Thank you for this opportunity!
We must protect this man at all costs
I don't think this man needs our protection, my friend.
@@theronpeavey232 193 people agree with him
This man has enough guns to protect us.
@Theron Peavey definitely
Agreed
Honestly, I'm just glad to hear an elder man say some kind words instead of telling me how worthless I am for not wanting to work 16-hour work days for the rest of my life.
aka Andrew Tate
This comment caught my eye! I'm nobody. A little older then some. But young and dumb for sure. When we give grief to young people like that it's not that young kids don't "want" to work 16 hours days for the rest of their life it's more that they aren't willing to if that's what it takes. It's an eye opener and encouragement!
Yeah and several other disparities ...
>you're spoiled. Your generation was given everything and y'all still aren't happy.
>you don't need sympathy. You think this is hard? When i was younger....
>you can do anything you put your mind to. If you didn't achieve your goal it's because you didn't want it bad enough. No excuses.
>your generation is so entitled and thinks the world owes them something. Let me tell you the world doesn't owe you a thing.
Very encouraging and helpful ... s/
@@L2PlayRunescapeit’s so funny to say that meanwhile hunger is still a problem, corruption is at the most it’s ever been, all the markets are all fucked up can’t even buy anything. Your lucky if you grew up back in that generation I rather get sent to war and die a hero than work all my life and be used like a toilet paper
@@Ez-lk2hlso true man. I would rather live back then and go through those problems. Modern times are so fast and overwhelming
A friend of Bob is a friend of mine. I'm struggling but it helps to see your videos. Thank you brother. I just try to keep coming back. God bless. ✌😎.
What a great video! Just found this and it helped to clarify who I am! Thank you! My wife of 40 yrs passed 8 yrs ago and I am very lonely. I need to accept myself for who I am and not who I thought we would be at this time together! Thank you again!
this doesn't feel like a video, this feels like a conversation
"The hell that you go through with these relationships just in order to have someone to sleep with from time to time is not worth the destruction that it is doing to your soul and your spirit, to your life, it's not worth it." Amen to that, brother.
and as i found out even when you find "the one," even after yrs together she can suddenly turn into someone youd never ever have wanted to be with...I wonder sometimes if experiencing a loved one turning into a hated one is more traumatic than if the loved one had died?
@@joejones9520 I've been through this...yes, it would be less worse and less painful if the person had passed away.
"It is better to dwell alone in the wilderness than with a quarrelsome and vexatious woman." - Proverbs 21:19
Got that one right....
You can tell this man had his experiences with women before he was lucky enough to find Momma. And I would even go so far as to say that he needed to make these experiences in order to be able to meet Momma.
I needed this today I literally looked up how to get over loneliness. But you actually explained it well enough for me to understand.
You are a better man than most sir. Thank you for speaking so bravely and truly.
Never felt alone ever in my life, until I lost the 2 people who loved me most, my Mom and Dad. God Bless you sir and all you folks
It's true that when you lose your parents you lose those who will always know you best, leaving you feeling like you're now in slippery waters.
I know exactly where you are coming from. I recently lost both of my parents...they died only 10 months apart. Suddenly the world is different, the future is changed.
My condolences, not try to sound insensitive but treasure that feeling they gave you I could only dream my parents saw me!
I'm sorry about your parents Ann. I'm 40 and mine are both still healthy and alive even though not together. I try to think of it that EVERYONE must die, but no parent should ever outlive their child, so we are in theory, condemned to watch our parents die at some point. We are lucky to of had loving parents and many don't. Mine will leave me one day and it will be hard but I will never live wreckless on drugs care free and let my mom or dad bury me. I OWE them that much. I'd rather cry for weeks, months, years, instead of letting my mom or dad have to bury me first and suffer the tragedy of seeing me birthed and seeing me dead. God bless
@@annettegenovesi this is why I think you can form loving bonds with people everywhere all the time. Let people inside. Get to know them. Even online. Not because we have to but because we want to. I believe you reap what you sow and if you put kindness and positivity and things like that out into the world and society it will come back to you way more so than putting out negativity.
I've lost almost everyone and everything in my life recently.
Both parents died,lost my job and my wife separated from me. It's really hard to keep hanging on.
Thanks for the advice.
I lost both parents and my sister only thinks about herself, also I'm divorced so I get it. I'm not alone though because I have God. I'm not religious but I'm very spiritual. I learned to have fun being alone and getting into all sorts of activities from painting to hiking to cooking and much more. It's a journey of discovery and I'm so much happier not being in a toxic relationship. You'll come across another job. Just focus on you, like he said. You'll be fine. Good luck!
Hang on men you can. Hard times pass and good times come you just need to keep going, I know it may seem impossible but you can man just keep on going. You are important to this world and you still have a lot to give. God bless. Greetings from Argentina
@@sunshinyday I hope you truly find God.
@@Aimothewizard I have truly found God but thanks for the concern. Blessings.
@jaxandree Hang in there Jax 💕
Im a female 17 and this spoke to me as a person who has always been pushed around by my home life and never felt seen. I felt like the world was ending because I was beating myself up, but changing my mindset and having these videos means the world, he feels like a grandfather who just wants the best for the world I'm grateful I found this channel on accident
Thank you so much for your time and knowledge! As a 28 year man dealing with himself. Theres things i needed to hear! Appreciate you!
First step to beat loneliness is to accept that you are lonely. Second step is to allow yourself to feel all thousand colours of loneliness. Third step is to refocus on something that you are putting value in(running with dog, painting, making music, meditation, breath work, etc.) Dont forget that no one can save you from this feelings, only yourself. It will pass...
I respect that, thanks for this
saying no one can save me from this feeling is a joke. literally anyone can if they wanted to
@@mf_yopey1467 Hard truth is when someone saves you first time, you expect again, again and again. Sure someone can mend your mind but if you have felt real loneliness you know that nobody can be with you 24/7. My point is get out from victim frame and make vaule that is bigger then feeling of loneliness. And this is only your own job and long process. Fuck it there's no shourtcuts. Stay strong.
@@mf_yopey1467 there will always be a time when no matter who chooses to help when they won't be able to because of uncontrollable events in the universe. And when that time comes, if you can't stand on your own for however long the universe asks you to. Nobody else will be able to pick up the pieces.
And don’t EVER give a damn what other people think. Do what makes you happy.
At 61 and divorced and no kids and my entire small family has passed on. My two horses have died recently......I asked the lord to help me.....I literally feel him and hear him talking to me daily on what to do and its over whelming how much he has helped me.
I’m an equestrian. Can you rescue an older horse to keep you busy?? It will help both of you ❤
Amen ❤✝️
God bless
You've been talking to yourself, because you are your own best coach.
That's called schizophrenia.
You are a good man. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with all of us.
I feel lonely at times living by myself @ age 66. My dog is a comfort to me. I used to cry a lot before I adopted this dog from a shelter. I think that has made all the difference for me. Good gospel music helps too. I hope this helps others out there.
I’m 21 and never really had a father, so thank you much sir for this talk, felt needed and I appreciate these words…
That's hard you must believe in yourself at all cost. Do what you want and need to do!
So sorry that your Father wasn’t around for you. One great thing that you can do someday if you have kids, is to be there for them. I raised two boys , who are grown up now, they were and still are the greatest joy in my life. I spent every free moment with them, and sadly they grew up way too fast. Good luck!
Me neither buddy. I'm 19 and i sometimes feel like i must be missing some kind of secret that having a father around would bring and that the other guys in my school just "knows" maybe not even consciously. Not saying im a total weirdo but sometimes i just feel a bit off beat i guess.
Read the first 27 pages of the Bible.
@@MagnusMonsted be impeccable with your word. Don't make assumptions. Always do your best and don't take shit personally.
I'm 76 years old and still learning. This is some of the best advise that I have ever heard. Thank you sir.
Such is life living in this city it's hard to find a good man
It's great to see our elders too! I wish we would have more opportunities to speak with them since they lived way longer than us and are wiser than us. They know what we going through.
@@mars4105 you're very smart to want to listen to us older people. My kids, grands, great-grandson think I'm stupid & treat me as such.
@Rita I'm really sorry to hear that. I will admit that when I was a little kid, I didn't care much (Tho I still respected them obviously). When I grew up a little, I saw their importance but it was too late. Both my grandparents are dead on my father's side and on my mum my granddad died before I was born. My grandma is too old and has lost her mind a little bit because of the age. I feel sad knowing I lost good moments I could of shared with them, and their knowledge. It was even harder since they lived in Romania and I in Canada.
I hope one day your family will learn from their mistakes and come back to you. We never know the luck we have until it's gone. We tend to forget they have been through this and had time to think about it and see it on the long term while we are just experiencing it at the moment.
Please excuse any mistakes I made in English (it's my third language).
Have a nice day sir/ma'am
JESUS LOVES U AND IS COMING BACK
JESUS AMA VOCÊS E ESTÁ VOLTANDO
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You definitely dropped gems in this🤝. I truly appreciate it
Listening to your video was extremely uplifting for me. Many times I’ve gotten too down on myself but I have been working on this lately. It was me who chose to be alone about 20 years ago due to making too many mistakes with men. I don’t blame the men because it takes two to tango.
Your video has given me a some much needed encouragement and motivation to try and focus more on my blessings and increasing my peace of mind during these trying times. Thank you.
There's only one thing worse then feeling lonely and alone and that's feeling lonely and alone with the wrong person.
Spent eleven years doing that and now that I am alone on my little farm I feel less lonely and anxious.
Or surrounded by people who you deem friends but move on with the wind when it pleases. Loyalty in good and bad is rare.
@@commancheheart420 Have you been stocking up on food, ammo, water, etc?
I’m 26 and am a widower, my wife died 9/9/21. I have two little daughters, which has helped. Loneliness has been rough. Now a days females are hard to even talk to.
Thanks for the content!
My condolences for your loss, I’m sure she is watching over the 3 of you. Stay strong for those girls of yours 💙 all the best
So sorry for your loss, glad that your girls provide you with solace. Hope that with time someone else will come into your life to be your companion (if that's what you want of course!)
I lost my wife 3 months after my daughter was born. There have been lonely nights but better that than being stuck with someone you don't like. If we keep our heads straight we'll both be fine. Hang in there.
Stay strong and care the best you can for your daughters.
Thanks for the support, it means a lot
As a 21 year old this helped me so much. As much as that former kickboxer has helped me in many ways, I agree that his pendulum has swung too far. Being with your masculinity as a man is being a rock. Like you said at the end, be a good man, let the world rage around you. Thank you sir.
Thank you for the words. It helped a lot. God bless your soul and your heart and your mind.
Almost 3 years ago I lost my wife, my soulmate. The hole in your chest and the emptiness it leaves is almost unbearable. Losing your other half is a loneliness I would never wish on someone.
It feels indescribable losing someone so important in your life, i cant express how much i connect with your words here
Hope you’re keeping well man
At least you had someone my guy.. better to have and lost
I wish you all the best and hope you're doing well man...
Unfortunately, many older couples argue about trifles - and only realize after the loss which angel they have lost. Too late to talk. Nice that you call her soul mate. And that you were better. I'm sorry for your loss.
Thank you for this. When I was 27, I got out of an engagement with an unfaithful woman. I sold most of my possessions, left my old job behind, threw what I had left in my vehicle, and hit the road. Ended up in the sticks in Oklahoma working as a steelworker with the best quality of life I've ever had, my own small humble home, and the best damn dog a man could ask for. It's like you said, it truly takes courage to leave everything that you know and makes you comfortable behind to go into the unknown. It's unsettling and its uncomfortable sometimes. The loneliness was hard to deal with at first. It would keep me up at night, it was a bad feeling I couldn't chase away.
But it turned into peace. Genuine peace. It turned into self-reflection and growing as a man. Everyday, every task is an accomplishment that I achieved. You're a wise man, sir, thank you for sharing your thoughts. It's always good to have more tools for the mental toolkit. Continue to be a good man.
being a steelworker is my dream job
Good job brother! Greetings from Kansas! 🤘
Congratulations on the success of peace and quiet... it's a fabulous learning experience..
I'm right behind you, I'm on similar path...great job, awesome stuff brother man🇺🇸💪💪👍👍😎
Thanks fer sharing that brother really
"Everyday, every task is an accomplishment that I achieved."
Wow that was beautiful, brother, I will remember that
"My heart is with you guys, anything I can do for you, I will be happy to do" - It's so assuring...Thank you I needed that sir❤
Less than two minutes in, you hit it right on the head. Basic respect in culture is disappearing. Men are suffering in SILENCE. This is a huge social issue that stems from many different things. Work environments, social pressures, lack of morals etc. Men are killing themselves. I'm JUST fine being alone - doesn't bother me one bit. The key is self improvement guys. Work on yourselfs'. Maintain your lane and goals, and if a woman is in your plan, she will reveal herself in time. Be okay working on yourself and achieving personal goals, even if they are simple. Start by making your bed every morning- That's a good first step for you.
- Practice being where your feet are. - Don't live in the past, you are YOU right now. LET'S GO MEN!
Very wise comments. Thank you sir. I am 65 years old and my wife passed away last year. I have never really been alone. But I feel awfully alone now. I am struggling with moving forward with my life. I retired a couple years early to take care of her as her health declined. Now I find myself sitting at home for weeks at a time, only to leave the house to get a few groceries. Your words and Wisdom is encouraging. I only Pray that I can wake up tomorrow and apply those words of Wisdom . Thank You Sir... God Bless .
Hello sir, maybe try getting involved in a community. Share what you’ve learned with others and connect. The world needs your wisdom. And your pain. Start a grieving group to grieve and help guide one another.
You're getting out of the hole one day, one way or another, but however that journey unfolds, promise yourself to take it easy. Take it one day at a time champ!
Thanks for sharing your situation terry. Must be difficult. I also live on my own and it can be tough sometimes dealing with loneliness. Wishing you all the best
Keep active and eat healthy :)
She was lucky to have had you! I’m 67 and alone-divorced from a serial cheater. I’m just like you.
Hard to find good people. I’m alone for years now. I’m my own best friend, next to God.
Sir, if I might make a suggestion, visit a local church and you just might find friends, community, and maybe a good woman to spend time with. I promise if you seek God he will reveal himself to you and He will change your life in so many ways your bound to like one of em! Ha! God Bless you friend!
im 18 years old female, and i would like to thank this man for this great advice, i felt this and it comforted me, and to the hardworking guys out there, be safe, you're doing great and i hope you will never let your handsome power die
stay strong
thanks, and thank you for dealing with the BS that comes with being a women
So nice of you to say. Thank you!
youre wonderful
very sweet of you
Did you forget he called women a parasite?
So refreshing to hear someone talk about this! There is unfortunately a lot of stigmatism in society about being alone. Humans today have lost so much autonomy and an important sense of self security I believe because we do not learn to be alone, get to know ourselves, and become our own best friends. Growing up remote in AK and living much of my adult life alone has taught me this valuable lesson. It is not familiar to many of of us to be alone so we are afraid of it. If we make this familiar, we can actually truly start to experience life for ourselves.
Thank you Duane, I appreciate the message. You made me realize again that I do need to be right with myself and I haven't been for a long time. I'm on my way.
As a 26 year old I feel so much older than I should. I compare my life to all my peers, they all seem to be settling down, getting married, having kids, making 6 figures. I just moved back home to my dads house to take care of him as his health is declining. I’m looking at is as a beautiful thing, spending time with my old man while he’s still here. However, I want to be successful, find love, own a home, have children, but it all seems so impossible. These videos you make really help me get through these hard times, I feel so isolated and alone every single day, but when I watch clips like this, it makes me feel less alone. Thank you.
You have plenty of time. I didn't even start my "career" until 30. Take care of your Dad, there's nothing more important, no matter the sacrifice. Mine's gone, I miss him.
You'll get everything u want, is already there.
I wish the best for you old man.
I'm 33 almost 34, living with my parents in the countryside, no friends near, only internet friends that seem far. I couldn't find myself a good job so I am doing many projects, but I find it hard sometimes que loneliness kicks in. You are still young, try your best with what you have right now. Don't look at the past mistakes. Dont overdo easy drugs like sugar, porn, tiktok, etc. They drain out your will to do things. Not every day you will be motivated to do things. Life is hard, those folk who have 8 hour jobs are having a hard time, they are killing themselves slowly. We have the chance to work for ourselves.
Damn i feel you im 25, i dont have a job, i feel that im way behind y peers shit, lonrliness is a bitch
I'll just make this point - I spent my 20s working on a 'career' that I just *happily* abandoned at 37. What you do to make money, and how much you make, does *not* define you. Neither does presence or absence of a partner. My father passed a few years back. I hadn't seen him since I was 13, I always wanted to get halfway across the country to visit him but kept telling myself, "There's plenty of time, I'll save for that plane ticket next year." Next year never came. He passed, and no one even bothered to tell me he was in rough shape until 6 months after. That's one regret I'll probably take to my grave. At 40 you'll have forgotten all about feeling like you were lagging behind your peers at 26, you'll have learned there are more important things in life than keeping up with the Joneses. Enjoy your dad while you can.
"If tearing people down to your level is the only way to achieve equality - that's not equality."
This is the message millions of people - young men and women - needed to hear at a younger age.
This is what women do, it's their evolutionary tendency to attack people's reputación un other to rise Up on the hierarchy
The terrible truth as I see it feminism us not only taking men down but especially women too! IT IS making Nobody happy
To me that's not what feminism is and was meant for. It's about fighting for the equal rights we all deserve, women or men. Too bad nowadays it's viewed as something negative.
Thank you Sir I'm turning 30 this year I lost my father 2 years ago and he didn't get the chance to teach me as much as I know he wished he could and watching your videos makes me think of him and I try to learn from you as much as possible
Love your thoughts. It's nice to see another man talk about these things and make sense. Thanks.
I'm 64, was very happily married for 40 years, she was 14 yrs older than me, we hit it off from day one, I lost her to Alzheimer's 3 years ago, life isn't the same without her, I feel my age and being disabled make me undesirable so I pretty much keep to myself. Such a nice show and very sound advice, you made my day, please keep up the good work !!
Sorry to hear. God bless you
,an it will get better i promise
I feel you brother u have people here who understand your loneliness wish I could have sit and have a beer with u
Wow, you wonderful man. She must have been a good woman - and you a good man. I'm sorry that she had to pass. That must have left a gaping hole in your life. I'm praying that you find what it is you need to fill that void and wish you well on the rest of your journey through life. Best, K
@@CamperVan-K Thanks for such a nice reply, it's much different without my wife being with me
Protect this man at all costs. That's all I can say.
If we don’t this world will fail!
I don't think this man needs protection, he seems to have that covered already ^^
As if a man like this needs protected. I think he’s quite capable all on his own.
@@LilPeeper420 Wow how original and fresh...
@@deathbunny3048 wow someone had the same thought as you... clearly the right course of action is to go after them with petty sarcasm, great job buddy
Love your thought process and presentation. Keep doing what you’re doing.
I think this has helped me feel a little better and somewhat see new way to go about things.
I thank you for your words of wisdom and your time making this video.
The internet, and especially social media, has absolutely torn the fabric of society asunder. I'm still a young man by most definitions but am old enough to remember back pre-Facebook when you could disagree on politics/policy with someone and still break bread with them or enjoy a beer over a game. Nowadays, forget it, just hate all the way down at the first whiff of disagreement. I used to feel lonely and alienated, but now just learned that doing my own thing away from everyone else is the best path to peace in the modern world. Improvise, adapt, overcome.
#Truth
Amen!
Well Said
you read my mind!
I feel the same way and I'm in my late 60's. Young people think everyone is like those on social media. They don't realize they're the minority of our population. Those that have the biggest mouths usually have the least to say, I wish the young ones knew that
My ex used to “jokingly” tell me “I gotta keep you down to keep you around”. It was all jokes at first until I started developing anxiety and became self conscious of things about myself I never even noticed. After 6+ years I was an empty shell of a man, I had no concept of myself. I broke up with her a year ago and I’m proud to say I’ve never been more confident in myself in my entire life. You said it best, she was a parasite. Finally I’m growing to be the man I know I can be, and I’ll never settle for anything but the absolute best.
God, that's awful. People often reveal who they really are in the form of jokes it seems like. Sorry you went through that.
Wow I've had someone similar tell me the exact same words
Good for you man! Keep it up
Been there too buddy, 4 years of belittling and to end it all found out about 3 other men she had going. Now I'm almost 2 yrs on with a women who would give a organ for me.
I hope a good women comes your way and shows you your worth, till then stay strong and find connection in your friends!
Women spend much more time with other women understanding them. They on average understand their psychology more.
That can be used as a weapon or a tool.
You happened to stumble on a parasite who was missing something- self-confidence, or something- that used it as a weapon against you.
Thank you, bud.
I took out some important lines that I needed.
Y'all stay safe
Thank you Dwayne (and mama). I needed to hear these things.
Im barely 20 and I’ve struggled with crippling lonlieness. I sat back and just listened and it was the best 20 minutes of advice I’ve ever gotten. Thank you so much
God Bless you!
@@mickey6244 Same for you too, may god bless everyone growing up
What are you going to do differently from now on?
I know how you feel. I'm the same age and I feel the same way...
I'm 40 and have been in the same position in my 20s. Like someone posted a while back, the Robin Williams quote 'being alone isnt as bad as being around people who make you feel alone' (to paraphrase). Youve always your UA-cam bros if you need a hand. We're always here.
New sub here. Got married when I was 30 and my wife and I had two boys. In 2006 my wife passed away suddenly from a brain aneurysm at age 40. My two sons were 10 and 7 at the time. I worked full time ( self employed construction) full time and raised my two sons with the help of family on both sides. I spent ALL of my free time with my two boys. They came first, no exceptions. Had absolutely no desire to date or form a relationship while my boys were young. My Dad wasn’t able to spend as much time with me as I wanted so I wasn’t going to make the same mistake. My two sons went to church and belonged to the youth group while growing up. Now my sons are 26 and 23 and are both pursuing their goals and working hard. I have not dated since my wife passed away. Sometimes I feel lonely for companionship but after 16 years of being single I am set in my ways and I enjoy being able to come and go as I please. I retired 2 years ago at age 56 and have found some interests to keep me busy and mostly content. It’s hard to know what to do ( relationship or stay single) because today you don’t know who you can trust and too many people are all about themselves.
Sorry for you loss sir , may god bless you and your family!, you’re a good father and man
May God bless you always ✝️❤
Kind words from a real man. Be happy Or move from the u.s.a. it is not the greatest country anymore. I know 100 broke people in half of them are happy I know 20 rich people and all of them are miserable do the math
Thank you for sharing this. I’m a single father of three sons. I haven’t had a relationship in 5 years, for the same reasons you said, and then some. My free time has always been devoted to my boys. My time alone was great for a while, but now it is getting lonely. Since covid, my job has been working from home. My isolation started in 2017 with the split from my son’s mother. Covid just made it worse, and now I find it terribly difficult to form and maintain relationships.
Hey Jim. I lost a lot too. Nothing is stronger than the power of 2 great brothers and a wonderful set of parents. You seem like a stand up guy. The free world is built on the backs of families like ours. Stay strong. Take it easy.
Thankyou for saying this and putting it on youtube. Im gratefull because of it. 😊
This video was in my recommended and i use youtube to watch gaming videos but i just turned 21 last month and besides the point tonight out of all nights in my entire life of pushing myself forward was the time i needed to hear this. The video found me, i did not search anything nor do i watch videos of this nature but this is randomly and conicidentally the best youtube video ive ever watched and the timing genuinely could not be more perfect. I dont mean to sound cliche when i say all of this because if i could explain i would but it wouldnt matter all that i need to say now is Thank You🙏🏽
There are some days where I just feel unwanted, forgotten and alone but then I go back to this video to brighten my day up. Goodluck gents
Take care, friend. This too shall pass :)
one thing that helped me see things clearly was to quit drinking and pornography. After that, I was able to observe my emotions and, in most cases, find solace on my own
Your transparency moves me. 💎
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Here's my video on loneliness.. Have a beautiful day. 💎
Same
@@edieltondantas6084this. quitting p0rn was one of fhe best decisions in my life, also i quit drinking but i didnt have a problem with that to begin with i just wanted stronger bones for the sport i practice, i drink every now and then. When i was researching about p0rn addiction i saw so many post of people saying that its normal and ok to do it. I think its not and im an atheist, so im not saying its because of religion, i still think those that want to live watching p0rn then thats ok too.
"Make the unpopular decisions." really can't stress how important that one is. Trust your self and do what you know is right.
I just started checking out some of your videos within the past two weeks. I am really enjoying listening to you talk on my way to and from work. I love wisdom. Thanks for sharing some.
Hello sir, thank you for this message. I really needed to hear it😢. Thank you
When I get really lonely I'll go out & hang around with people & it almost always reminds me why I spend so much time alone
Here here! 💪🏻
I get it hahahah
Aint that the truth
Ain’t it !
Same …
I’m 61 years old and have been single now for 10 years, no dating, no one night stands, I haven’t even touched a woman since my divorce and it was and still is hard at times to cope with the loneliness, but it passes. I mean this sincerely, everything he mentioned in this video I have already learned or I’m working on now. What I can say is thanks Dude you nailed it exactly. Sincerely, Oklahoma Cowboy
How come your marriage didn’t last? I am experiencing the same thing too, it’s a possibility that it could go down to divorce and Im trying to be better so it wont happen
Your Shelly West is out there somewhere 🤍
@@mg_kjseek counseling brother
Sometimes it got to do with some women often are more keen on developing themselves and their marriage, try new things, keep romance alive, while we men more tend to enjoy status quo when getting older, relax in the sofa infront of the TV and more or less take the wife for granted@@mg_kj
im 34 and have been single for four years, same deal just single no stands or anything, its liberating and those who thrive on companions should try it
Very glad to hear that talk you just gave. Thank you!
Never heard this video but swear I was answering all your questions with you. You speaking what everybody knows on the inside but came to you to hear what they already know like some sort of validation. That’s why I stopped watching self help videos and started to help self. All by opening my mouth and speaking and opening myself to reality and new experiences. Love life yall open up, being closed off and conceited ain’t being strong it’s being weak and sick, shi I get sick of people too that’s life, just be open and like he said speak your heart and trust what’s in you is for you, you just gotta walk the path you see boyz. Love and peace is my wishes for you all
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I'm a 44 YO black woman. I just found your channel, and I am happy I did. Your messages are applicable to a spectrum of ages and lifestyles. Thank you Sir for sharing your wisdom with the world.
i agree as a 39 yr old Puerto Rican , i can relate to this video and comment so much , blessings
Yay welcome
Bot.
Why did you mention your colour? That's racist.
@@Benstormcrow you're ignorant
I'm 40 Yr old man, been single for 7 years and live on my own with my dog. I'm use to being alone most my life and to be honest I've learned to love myself and never been happier. The biggest battles are in your mind once you learn to love oneself no person can harm you, also you can't love others if you don't love yourself.
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I'm 47 and live the same way. I got sick of games liars heartbreak disappointment etc etc etc. I'm happier alone
You are right about loving yourself. It gets me through everything. We need to love our selves so we can love someone else. You are so right.
@@lizwebster1521 ❤️❤️😁
Absolutely right man spot on
Thank you for this video. It is what I need to hear at this point in my life at 50.
Amen... amen... you spoke my thoughts on this issue much better than I ever could. Thank you.
“Be a good, strong man and let the world rage around you.” Great life advise. Love your cool, calm and collected videos, thank you !
How what does that mean
Can you please explain it brother
He says this towards the end of his video, I believe what he means is as the world implodes around you sometimes, be strong and hold fast to your truths and strength’s. For me it’s realizing that I can’t always control what’s going on around me, but continue to be a good strong man, and leaning more on faith and God to control the things I cannot. Hope this helps.
Rage against the dying of the light
@@mattday4661 i absolutely agree with 'holding fast to your truths and strengths' - lotta people get pressured by the environment around them to sacrifice their morals & values for the sake of money or the safety of their family. however, if you stay steadfast in your beliefs, your inspiration can help change the environment around you to one that doesn't require others to sacrifice the values that make them, them!
As a woman in her 30s, my heart goes out to you guys. Please know that there are women out there who notice the hard work you do and appreciate you. I say a prayer of gratitude everytime I see a group of hardworking men working on the roads and sacrificing their bodies. 🙏
Thanks Lisa, makes me feel better after working the nights out in the endless cold and rain...👍
thank you Lisa
Women will make comments about men and our challenges on UA-cam, but will never risk talking about it where it matters - with their female friends.
🙏🙌💛
Thanks , Lisa 💚
I have to say Dwayne this was the most intellectual and intelligent video I have seen for a long time. Definitely I take the advice of... to like yourself and like to be in your own company and better yourself no matter what. Big up for the cigar... Thank you for making this video. God bless
Glad to watch this at the right time. Thanks for your insights. I am feeling extremely painful due to loneliness. But I learning & trying to embrace it and move on. ❤ from India.
I'm a 65 year old widow and am alone alot, but rarely lonely. I enjoy my own company not only because I like myself but because I've been around enough people to know I'd rather be alone than sorry. I feel for young men in this current world and pray for them. My message to them is don't settle for any woman who berates you, be comfortable with yourself and let the Lord lead you to the right partner.
Amen brother
Well said my lovely. Amen, totally agree!.....😊
I am 61 years old and recently divorced. I'm happier alone than alone in a marriage.
Amen. Well spoken ✝️
Mary I totally agree
Just dealt with my mom's passing at 27 she was my best friend... I feel immensely alone. Feel like she led me here.. I love you ma! Thanks for always looking after me
Stay strong bro!
Going through the same thing with my dad, he passed back in the end of May. It really sucks not having that close relationship anymore.
My mum passed away last year and she was my best friend too..
I miss her every day❤️
Stay strong brothers, they all want you to stay safe and they love you! ❤️❤️❤️
Dude I'm so sorry I can't imagine that feels
This video hit home for me, i'm almost 19 being my birthday is coming up and I agree with you on every point. I will say that growing up at the end of highschool with the rise of Woke and feminisum culture that tried to take men down to their level was very aweful to many of us men. I have persisted and got used to being alone and working on being a good man in my head and knowing my faith towards god which made me the happiest and best state of mind I have ever felt.
I work hard and hope to have a little plot of land that I can call myself my home and continue to enjoy life and one day hope to find a women that is kind and just.
Thank you Dry Creek Wrangler School,
it means a lot to us young and old men in America, god bless
24 year old male who really needed to hear this. Appreciate the honesty and reinforcement, Dwayne.
You got this. The Lord has good plans for you.
bruh 🤟💪
Same age same situation
Take care bro
@@Aqueox what’s even the point of commenting this? Such surface level understanding
@@Aqueox thats why he said "you got this". Idiot.