You Messed Up…Now what?

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  • Опубліковано 10 тра 2024
  • What do we do when we’ve made a terrible decision in life? Can we come back from it? Is there hope for a better tomorrow?
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 2,5 тис.

  • @Ty_Rides
    @Ty_Rides Рік тому +5012

    "Do not destroy yourself over a man that no longer exists" Thank you for this.

    • @hwanniggles187
      @hwanniggles187 Рік тому +43

      This could be taken out of context and sounds like we shouldnt grief.

    • @streetx1602
      @streetx1602 Рік тому +123

      @@hwanniggles187 no? it doesnt say that. it says dont ruin yourself because of what you cant control

    • @horniusmaximus7509
      @horniusmaximus7509 Рік тому +56

      @@hwanniggles187 don't take it out of context. It only gets worse if you don't move on.

    • @dougjochims7491
      @dougjochims7491 Рік тому +5

      Huge!

    • @JohnDoe-oj8bd
      @JohnDoe-oj8bd Рік тому +14

      @@hwanniggles187 why would you take it out of context if the context is there?

  • @PD3a11
    @PD3a11 8 місяців тому +844

    As a former police officer and a pastor…I can’t thank you enough for this.
    I messed up. Bad. Forgiving myself is a daily battle.

    • @andrewwabik5125
      @andrewwabik5125 6 місяців тому +58

      Everyone messes up. What you do after identifying it as a mess up is what defines you from that point on.

    • @brunogallego7507
      @brunogallego7507 6 місяців тому +29

      what did you do

    • @joesdocs
      @joesdocs 5 місяців тому +36

      @@brunogallego7507bro that’s what I want to know. Cause he was a pastor

    • @johnnygerard6605
      @johnnygerard6605 5 місяців тому +6

      Likewise but We can do all things thru Him who strengthens us✝️

    • @johnnygerard6605
      @johnnygerard6605 5 місяців тому +5

      @@joesdocsmaybe thats why he is aware of it. Being convicted of out past can be a good thing but like Duane says. Have the damm funeral and burry it. Thats what Im gonna do. Wanna know what I did? What dint I do….

  • @theotherguy1323
    @theotherguy1323 Рік тому +1217

    Your dad raised a real man, I thank him for raising someone I respect more than the people I met in my personal life. Rest in peace.

  • @HeartLockHex
    @HeartLockHex 9 місяців тому +308

    "Forgive yourself." The step I've always struggled so much with. Admitting when I'm wrong, owning it, accepting the consequences. Those are things I can do. But stopping my thoughts on it? Forgiving myself? I don't know how to do that. Thank you for even this little bit of thought and pressure to try and be better about that.

    • @dracodoitbest7890
      @dracodoitbest7890 7 місяців тому +11

      I have a hard time accepting consequences. Maybe because ive always tried talking my way out of punishments instead of dealing with the consequences of my actions.

    • @laurenbatson5918
      @laurenbatson5918 4 місяці тому +5

      You struggle with it because it isn't possible. You can't forgive yourself unless you think you're God. It isn't your job to forgive yourself. It's your job to confess, repent, and reconcile with the person you signed against. If it was you, then you reconcile with God. He will forgive you through Christ. You aren't supposed to forget. The memory keeps you from doing it again.

    • @DryCreekWranglerSchool
      @DryCreekWranglerSchool  4 місяці тому +98

      Your statement is not true. It doesn’t even make sense. If you can forgive someone else that did wrong, and not be God, how can you not forgive yourself the same way? Yes, God forgives us but we also forgive ourself.

    • @regi5436
      @regi5436 3 місяці тому

      ​for people confused, drycreekwrangler is referring to the reply made by ​@@laurenbatson5918pointing out that they're wrong for saying that one cannot forgive oneself, which i agree with. you can always forgive yourself.

    • @felipeveiga5807
      @felipeveiga5807 Місяць тому +4

      I think when we messed up so bad, one of the consequences is live with it for the rest of our lives, wake up with it on our head and rest with it. Even though we know what we did wrong, we accept the consequences, we fight to change as people, and after all that the guilty will never leave us, and that guilty keep us moving away from the thinks we did, guilty is the worst feeling ever, but sometimes the hardest challenges shows us better

  • @nicholaschib3068
    @nicholaschib3068 Рік тому +1476

    Hey Dewayne, I’m a 21 guy in college, feeling lost. Your videos have been a source of support, guidance, and assurance for me. Thank you for all that you do.

    • @xavlionheart
      @xavlionheart Рік тому +49

      Lost how you've got your whole life ahead of you keep your chin up 😉

    • @rolersch7332
      @rolersch7332 Рік тому +26

      time to become a real man. Welcome zo the tribe my son

    • @John_Wood_
      @John_Wood_ Рік тому +25

      College is not for everyone - maybe try something more practical. Try various jobs if necessary, find out what you like.

    • @Clavitz1
      @Clavitz1 Рік тому +6

      go talk to the guidance counselor regarding school issues so you dont waste time getting something that isnt fitting for you

    • @gufbrindleback
      @gufbrindleback Рік тому +23

      I have a feeling you're going to turn out just fine.

  • @mikeknipp8045
    @mikeknipp8045 Рік тому +1091

    This man probably hurting so bad right now, put all his business aside to heal but still takes the time to send a message to help people who not only aren't going through as much as he is right now but also are going through things that are our own fault. Nothing but respect for you.

    • @Mrgolfboy24
      @Mrgolfboy24 Рік тому +4

      You know he makes money on this, right? lol

    • @erikw3105
      @erikw3105 Рік тому +37

      @@Mrgolfboy24so? He could've talked about his own pain. He didn't tho

    • @smilescries5325
      @smilescries5325 Рік тому +36

      @@Mrgolfboy24 you know this isn’t his only source of income right? Original comment still stands. He didn’t need to do this but he did, it’s respectable.

    • @mikeknipp8045
      @mikeknipp8045 Рік тому +1

      @@Mrgolfboy24 bahahahahaha fair point but I stand by what I said

    • @Mrgolfboy24
      @Mrgolfboy24 Рік тому

      @@mikeknipp8045 Hehe, fair enough :)

  • @ShortyySpice
    @ShortyySpice 7 місяців тому +91

    I recently went through a breakup. I messed up, I hurt the person I love more than anything. It scares me to think I lost the love of my life.

    • @Francis-of8cw
      @Francis-of8cw 6 місяців тому

      Same here...

    • @user-hx1lp6fc9r
      @user-hx1lp6fc9r 5 місяців тому

      @@Francis-of8cw Hey, mind sharing your story?

    • @nataliagalindo4931
      @nataliagalindo4931 5 місяців тому +20

      me too... I would do anything to have him back and show that I'd never hurt him ever again. He was sent to me straight from heaven and I can only hope I'm given one last chance to put things right. It really is the scariest, most anxious, heart-breaking feeling.

    • @Zayuhhhhh
      @Zayuhhhhh 4 місяці тому

      same

    • @ShortyySpice
      @ShortyySpice 4 місяці тому +19

      @Sykodelik64 I'm so sorry to hear that. I understand the pain of hurting someone you love, it's been 5 months since my breakup and while I have my bad days still where I don't even want to get out of bed it does get better even if at a very slow pace. I still want to change and be a better and more kind person. I know it's hard because some days all you can do is feel guilty and feel like youre a terrible and awful person. Maybe that person will never come back to me to give me a second chance and that's the consequences of my actions I have to bear. Regardless I have to change and believe that life gets better and that I can be better. Anyways sorry for blabbing but I hope that life will be better for you, stay strong.

  • @dylantrent8248
    @dylantrent8248 Рік тому +724

    This man must be protected at all costs.

    • @Robyamdam
      @Robyamdam Рік тому +56

      this man does not need protection, this man provides his own protection

    • @deslacooda
      @deslacooda 9 місяців тому +19

      This man is trying to protect all of us.

    • @-Swamp_Donkey-
      @-Swamp_Donkey- 4 місяці тому +1

      Yes, Operation Human Shield is a GO

  • @greypoop1321
    @greypoop1321 Рік тому +1826

    Hey Dewayne, I'm a 16 year old porn addict and I've been that way ever since I was 8 years old. The last couple of months, I've been feeling kind of lost in life. Your videos really help me get into better mental shape, including this one. This video made me realise that I should own my mistake of letting myself get addicted and that I should own the mistake I made in order for me to be able to overcome this addiction. May your father rest easily, for he made you into a great man. I thank you from the bottom of my heart and I am forever grateful for the guidance you give to me.

    • @bradfordrobertw
      @bradfordrobertw Рік тому

      I really pray that you can find help thru Jesus Christ..porn had me too for a long time as a grown man. It will mentally & physically affect you in a very bad way. Please resist at all times.

    • @Original-Juice
      @Original-Juice Рік тому +243

      wow. that's impressive you're willing to admit that. Hopefully you got the help that you needed. I would imagine you are a leg up on your peers, you will all discover that alcohol and drugs will be around you soon if not already. If you ever start indulging in those things, remember what you've been through to fight addiction. it can hold true against other crutches. Good luck to you young man.

    • @alexbalint8718
      @alexbalint8718 Рік тому +76

      Much respect to you, I know that this is a hard one to acknowledge, even to oneself. I hope you will get new interests, something to pour yourself into, unapologetically. I was from 11 until 20, starting university. In many ways there's another world, that at least I can't blame myself through that for the things I fail, sometimes. But the hardest was to realize how I saw myself, and connect to something more important. You are well on your way, relax man.

    • @Original-Juice
      @Original-Juice Рік тому +18

      @@alexbalint8718 well put. Hoping he reads these comments. All the best to you as well

    • @sampsqwantch4612
      @sampsqwantch4612 Рік тому +49

      wow i actually teared up a lil bit reading this cus ive had the same problem. it helps to know that someone else understands. stay strong my dude. thank you for sharing your experience 🤗

  • @KaiMarcad
    @KaiMarcad Рік тому +424

    "Do not destroy yourself over a man that no longer exists". You always speak in a language that hits home to me. Thank you.

  • @yes3174
    @yes3174 4 місяці тому +24

    I’m a 16 year old with dyslexia and dyscalculia I lost my mom to suicide and my step dad left I’m living with my grandparents we’re struggling financially I had dropped out of school cause of stress and they’re was just too much for me to handle I was mentally drained but I’m getting right with god spending more time with family and even tho I’m 2 grades behind im gonna finish school

    • @demli615
      @demli615 3 місяці тому +7

      and i thought my life was hard

    • @demli615
      @demli615 3 місяці тому +8

      Proud of you brother i dont even know how are you still continuing everything in yourlife you are strong brother ❤

    • @xirtam2669
      @xirtam2669 Місяць тому +5

      I believe in you dude. Keep going

  • @onebridge7231
    @onebridge7231 Місяць тому +20

    There is no age limits to this advice. I’m 51 and it is exactly what I needed to hear today.

  • @colin641
    @colin641 Рік тому +731

    Hey Dwayne, needed to hear this more than ever. I've been a alcoholic for 11 years. I ended up slipping in the kitchen and banged my head on the kitchens island and had a seizure. Woke up in the hospital and without hospital treatment my mortality was around 47%. The stories I heard while I was blacked out are just horrible. What it did to my friends and family made me decide to get help. I'm about almost 2 months sober and thankfully my job has been supporting me. I had to stop! It definitely woke my butt up. Everything you mentioned hit close to home and it made me realize even before watching this video a lot of things need to change for the better. One step at a time. Thank you sir

    • @johnwatson9518
      @johnwatson9518 Рік тому +24

      Get yourself a sponsor & work The Steps like your life depended on it. Because it does.

    • @carlh-thehermitwithwi-fi679
      @carlh-thehermitwithwi-fi679 Рік тому +7

      well done sir

    • @tu1469
      @tu1469 Рік тому +5

      Damn same thing happened to me in front of my dad, I slipped and banged my ear on a kitchen chair, split my ear but my dad saw the whole thing happen, looked at me like in a moron and went to bed..

    • @colin641
      @colin641 Рік тому +4

      @t u sorry man. I feel ya. My incident was in front of both my parents. Horrible

    • @Panchoproductions2069
      @Panchoproductions2069 Рік тому +2

      hope things get better

  • @TheCarExp
    @TheCarExp Рік тому +502

    You're like a father some of us never had. Thank you for all you do. Bless you!

    • @Pozrfb
      @Pozrfb 10 місяців тому +6

      Yeah, he is. Love him.

    • @steveg7242
      @steveg7242 7 місяців тому +6

      Yes I concur. I never had a father that taught me anything or to even talk to. So I thank you sir so much.

    • @cursedliquid2250
      @cursedliquid2250 3 місяці тому +1

      Couldn't agree more; my father stopped visiting 3 years ago, and I missed out on a lot of things I should've learned, but this man has helped me. I still have a long way to go.

  • @kccts44
    @kccts44 8 місяців тому +63

    My father just passed, I’m sitting in his home which I guess is technically mine now. It’s hard not thinking about a lifetime of regret growing up. Thanks for the video and some insight.

    • @brookejodyhayes1360
      @brookejodyhayes1360 8 місяців тому +4

      I lost my mom at 14 and my dad is all I have left. I’m praying for you 🙏 may God bless you & your family abundantly my friend ✌️ 🖤

  • @carloscamarena6050
    @carloscamarena6050 Рік тому +292

    I’ve never had a male figure in my life. I’ve always had to figure stuff out on my own. These videos tug at my heart in ways I can’t describe. Thank you from the bottom of my heart

    • @tnyswrld3671
      @tnyswrld3671 Рік тому +2

      nah fr

    • @Jeebus-un6zz
      @Jeebus-un6zz 10 місяців тому +16

      I want so badly to be a man who can have these kinds of talks with the young men around me so they don't have to live such a confused life like I have. It takes time though. You really gotta work at being humble and knowing yourself to be able to speak like this and not have it sound like you're talking out your ass.

    • @danielschannel701
      @danielschannel701 9 місяців тому +1

      @@Jeebus-un6zz I've heard that being a man of your word makes a big difference in personal development.

    • @danielschannel701
      @danielschannel701 9 місяців тому

      Sometimes I find guys (Like this one) to listen to. One guy's channel I've been listening to months ago collects scrap metal and I found his voice and inner dialog to be of comfort and wisdom.

    • @Davidtheservant1997
      @Davidtheservant1997 8 місяців тому

      same bro same. always feeling not man enough. i got you

  • @raybaker8726
    @raybaker8726 Рік тому +124

    Sorry to hear about your Dad DeWayne. Take your time. My biggest mess up in my 58 years of life was getting caught shoplifting at 17. I went to face my Father to own up to what I did. I got the worst punishment anyone could get. Dad said "I am disappointed in you". That has stuck with me all my life. Those 5 words from my Father changed my life.

    • @chrisbajema8002
      @chrisbajema8002 Рік тому +17

      Those five words left a lasting impression on my life aswell….followed by that dreaded nothing being said any further

    • @wyatt2ss809
      @wyatt2ss809 Рік тому +8

      Same thing happened to me at 17. One of the greatest things to ever happen to me was my dad letting me know I was a loser at that point in my life

    • @Nathan7041
      @Nathan7041 Рік тому +9

      Sounds like you broke the first three rules of shoplifting. They call it petty theft, but you got a life lesson out of it so I'd say you more than broke even. Be good or be good at it.

  • @aleksandrtest8431
    @aleksandrtest8431 9 місяців тому +16

    I broke a girls heart for being stupid and regretting it every day, I broke a promise about drinking and now I’m getting out of my house and I know I fell heartbroken and unwanted but I know now I need to become better thank you Dwayne

  • @sherrypeterson2315
    @sherrypeterson2315 Рік тому +101

    I’m a parent that has lost a child. Forgiving yourself is one of the most difficult things to do. Even if you had nothing to do with what happened to your child, you feel responsible. It gets easier over time to continue, but your never free from the pain that creeps up on birthdays or other dates significant to your loss. You learn to live with it.

    • @MisfitBiscuit218
      @MisfitBiscuit218 Рік тому +17

      I'm sorry for your loss. I've also lost my child this passed year. I understand that feeling of not being able to forgive yourself despite not being at fault.
      I know that when something so large effects you the only thing that you can do is make room for it, and I hope you've reached that point. I hope I do too. Us mommas are strong and I hope you never forget that.
      Again, my endless condolences to you and yours. Stay strong.

    • @splash-qi5kn
      @splash-qi5kn 4 місяці тому +7

      I pray your days are full of joy and grace

  • @ColdPizzuh
    @ColdPizzuh Рік тому +362

    Hi Dwayne. Sorry for your father. My grandma/mom is in the hospital for heart failure. I’m 27. There is some mistakes I have made that I haven’t moved past. This video was so spot on, and as a female, thank you. We have to face the consequences of the problems we caused. “I did it. I am sorry.” Thank you for your videos, and I send you hugs and comfort.

  • @uncleNito
    @uncleNito Рік тому +368

    You helped me sir. I'm going through a very tough time constantly battling bad and dark thoughts about myself and others. It's a cycle of anger, sadness and loneliness catalyzed by a breakup and heartbreak.
    I messed up, big time. And now i am paying for it by being reminded of how unacceptable i've always been, and how alone i really am especially when relying on my family.
    You are a light in the dark for me, and one of the only people who can help me cry and work through what i'm feeling.
    I hope you and your family are OK and my condolences to you regarding your father. He has raised a true man with a heart so big it can touch someone like me, across the planet.
    Much love, and will keep you in my prayers.

    • @adrianwhite358
      @adrianwhite358 Рік тому +12

      Keep the chin up 😉. I've been true it all.

    • @Last_Chance.
      @Last_Chance. Рік тому +7

      God bless you

    • @ervinwengerd4730
      @ervinwengerd4730 Рік тому +12

      Like the man said,if you mess up,,,,own it,,(and it sounds like you did),, now forgive yourself ,,,, don't be the man today that you were yesterday!😉 Keep your chin up man and know your not alone.🙏

    • @josephr.8344
      @josephr.8344 Рік тому +6

      Sounds like you're on the right path

    • @adrianwhite358
      @adrianwhite358 Рік тому +9

      It will be tough. When I said I went through hell. Believe me. People are scared of me..yet my 8 yr old son throughs his arms around me. Never quit.

  • @ODUBlue
    @ODUBlue Рік тому +91

    It's been feeling like it's too late for me on several things in my life. Thanks Dewayne. Sincere condolences for your dad's passing.

    • @shanenelms9740
      @shanenelms9740 Рік тому +17

      It’s never to late. I’ve been through some very rough storms in my life as well. But since I gave my life over to Jesus Christ my life totally changed for the better. There’s nothing better than having peace joy and happiness now. Not that I still go through storms but I have Jesus to help me through those storms these storms are defeated because I have Jesus on my side guiding me through each and every one of them. I’ll be praying for you

    • @buzas69
      @buzas69 Рік тому +5

      Its newer to late if you are still breathing. One choice at the time

    • @TheSket
      @TheSket Рік тому +6

      It might be. It might not be. You’ll never know if you don’t go for it

  • @Dyle_
    @Dyle_ Рік тому +205

    Man, this feels exactly like sitting down and having a talk about life with my grandpa before he passed. Thank you for letting me relive this feeling.

  • @braxtonagee412
    @braxtonagee412 Рік тому +14

    I needed to hear this. I did something phenomeonally stupid while under the influence of drugs. Its eating at me. Ive been struggling with addiction for over a decade and finally got clean over a year ago. Then I relapsed and did something i would have never, ever done in my sober mind. I know the only way I can potentially get past it is to get and stay sober. I have to do this.
    Become a better man. It's not the end of the world. Thank you, sir. I needed this. Thank you.

  • @nikitakobzar
    @nikitakobzar Рік тому +96

    Watching this from Russia.
    Kinda tough times we have here.
    These videos make me feel alive.
    Thank you, grandpa
    Keep being strong ,everybody, we all will make it.

    • @daveharringbone8512
      @daveharringbone8512 Рік тому +13

      That sucks man. Hope u can survive

    • @RustyStator
      @RustyStator Рік тому +15

      Wishing you well from the States, shame how the world works. Stay safe my friend

    • @Odur0
      @Odur0 Рік тому +11

      we in this together bro, dw, stay strong

    • @jaimhaas5170
      @jaimhaas5170 Рік тому +2

      I have visited your country only once. I wish you well. People are good but evil exists in the lies of certain neocons in govt. The good news is that more and more of us are starting to figure out the mainstream media as well as many politicians can never be trusted in the USA and other western nations.

    • @noneofyourbiz6885
      @noneofyourbiz6885 Рік тому

      When Sam Elliott in “ we where soldiers “ said
      Any of you boys call me grandpa I’ll kill you 😂

  • @aneshaw6964
    @aneshaw6964 Рік тому +149

    Hey DeWayne. I lost my father in October at the age of 22. He was 61. It's the hardest thing to lose a parent. Listening to you is like listening to him. Safe, secure, solid and protected, and at ease with himself and with the world. He was a great man and a great dad. The love never dies ❤

    • @seenonyt2210
      @seenonyt2210 Рік тому +1

      🙏

    • @dustychayeh4878
      @dustychayeh4878 Рік тому +1

      Stay strong. Be encouraged

    • @michaelshawusa1
      @michaelshawusa1 Рік тому

      Mine died when I was 15. Im 33 now. If I saw him face to face right now, Id beat the shit out of him. His death caused my family so much pain. I hate him for it.

  • @Ic.roseee
    @Ic.roseee 8 місяців тому +22

    I got 3Fs and fucked up my GPA. I still don’t know what I want to do with my life and I’m 21. I’m not school smart or street smart. I don’t have any skills or motivation. I’m just exhausted and trying to survive this mind. I feel like I went the wrong way and I’m hoping I can find a way to feel better soon.

    • @Mythic141
      @Mythic141 6 місяців тому +10

      My friend, you are a smart, hard working human being and we all fail, its a pert of the process, take a step back and see what you can improve on even if it means that you need to get help from someone, keep pushing, keep working and pray, everything is gonna be alright ok?, take care!!

    • @imjohnny08musicstation93
      @imjohnny08musicstation93 5 місяців тому +4

      This earth is a laboratory some good some bad. Forgive yourself.

    • @Ic.roseee
      @Ic.roseee 3 місяці тому

      @@JustMe-ki3ce what service?

    • @JustMe-ki3ce
      @JustMe-ki3ce 3 місяці тому

      @@Ic.roseee the military

    • @duran_doran
      @duran_doran 2 місяці тому +1

      im in a similar position, ive been trying to pick up the pieces and ive been doing better but still stumbling every now and then. i dont know exactly your poisition or why youre failing but for me it was lack of motivation constantly going back and forth from staying on top of my schoolwork and studying and overall just trying to put my best effort forward to just doing the absolute bare minimum to get by because it feels like whats the use ive already dug this far into the pit im stuck in theres no way out. some of the things i learned that helped was to stop waiting for things to get better life is inherently suffering and if you just aim to hold out and survive long enough for a miracle itll never happen. all you can really do is focus on doing as much as possible to make life better and easier for you tomorrow. to succeed and continue. and instead of looking at mistakes as just a sign of your own failure as a person its just a mistake yes you mightve messed up or some other factors involved but that doesnt mean youre doomed to be that specific way, all that youre doing is focusing on the one failure out of all the other successes which makes you feel like shit and even less motivated to really try. hope theres something useful in here for you and that your situation gets better.

  • @liftoeslife537
    @liftoeslife537 3 місяці тому +9

    i messed up by being impulsive, by acting on my feelings and being in a relationship (my first) which hurt me mentally. I have broke up couple months back but that person wasn't letting me go, so I had to make the rude decision today to cut them off permanently from every place, seems like a small story, but for me this has given me a lot of lessons. i need to be working on my traumas and needless to say, not get into relationships, even platonic, so impulsively, i need to understand my own self better, so I will be working on that now. thank you for thus video sir!

  • @imover9999
    @imover9999 Рік тому +86

    Really needed to hear this, Dewayne. I really messed up bad about 3 months ago. I apologized profusely for it, I owned it from the start, I was honest from the start... But I still can't forgive myself and that's the hardest part. Hurting someone that means the world to you is the absolute worst feeling in the world. There is redemption for sinners, even the worst of us, but damn it's hard to let go of that regret and grief. Knowing you've hurt one of the sweetest people in the world with your own ignorance and sin. I'll try to learn to forgive myself. Thank you for this video and God bless you and yours. And my condolences for your loss.

    • @johncorley8930
      @johncorley8930 Рік тому +4

      Thank you Dewayne. I have owned it and forgiven myself was the hardest part. I'm living my life for the lord now and happy as I've ever been. Im truly sorry for your loss.

    • @imover9999
      @imover9999 Рік тому +15

      @@AdolfHitler-wo1my It's a bit personal. But I broke the trust of someone I love and it caused irreconcilable damage to the relationship. Satan whispers sweet sounding words into your ear if you let him, and it's best to flee from the temptations that will later cause us much grief and suffering.

    • @nightowl6811
      @nightowl6811 9 місяців тому +4

      ​@@imover9999my advice is let her go, and break up cuz it's not going to work anymore, move on. I'm 51 and done it before

    • @imover9999
      @imover9999 9 місяців тому +5

      @@nightowl6811 I appreciate the wisdom and advice. Honestly you're probably right. As painful as it is. Gotta focus on God and bettering myself and someone else will come into my life. Thank you for the harsh truth. Can only come from someone else who's been through it.

  • @JesusisTheWay70x7
    @JesusisTheWay70x7 5 місяців тому +14

    I’m a woman from uk 32, and I rely on this dude for life advice. Thank you. Thought u might be interested to know some of the weird corners of your demographic.
    I recently just managed to blow up my whole life during a massive depression and lose a ten year friendship. Had just finally started (one taster appointment) treatment for mental health but now I have no one in my life. It seems early and chronic life long trauma may have caused a personality disorder and other stuff that I didn’t even know I had, if I do (undiagnosed).
    I also live in the middle of nowhere with no car or money so your attitude towards country life really helps me accept my unusual situation and ur wisdom appearing today thanks to the algorithm, may have just saved my life today. Thank u.

    • @peachpie3597
      @peachpie3597 24 дні тому

      Also a woman here, 24 years old, and it always seems like I find his videos when I need them most

  • @cobymcclain2039
    @cobymcclain2039 Рік тому +78

    I’m 21 years old struggling with alcoholism the past several weekends I have gotten drunk and acted a fool and thinking abt it has made me very ashamed. This video really just lifted me up and I appreciate you a lot. God bless you.

    • @lucapoquet8828
      @lucapoquet8828 Рік тому +3

      my brother you are blessed, don't quit we support what you do

    • @LuisHernandez-rn7uw
      @LuisHernandez-rn7uw 10 місяців тому

      Man youre going to realize that alcohol is a poison. Ive almost drank myself to death a few times in the past couple of years. Ive woken up in my own piss and just fallen back asleep. Stay away from Porn and alcohol and you will be way better off.

    • @nightowl6811
      @nightowl6811 9 місяців тому +7

      I'm 50 and did lots of stupid things and lost lots of friends family girlfriends friends etc etc. Believe me it was really bad but now I get to start fresh new beginning at 50. New friends new business partners, new girlfriends! Nobody is innocent not even our parents

    • @fordakacar
      @fordakacar 7 місяців тому +4

      the hardest part is thinking “how am i even gonna have fun if i can’t drink” i’m still trying to get past this

  • @dustinpeking2977
    @dustinpeking2977 9 місяців тому +31

    I've been living in financial anguish, health issues and a lot insecurities and regrets at age 25. I'm starting a new job soon and I'm working on turning it around, and hopefully doing so without missing too many bills. God is good to me and I can't stay worried for too long without realizing that it's just a season and it's not my lot in life. Thank you for these talks, Dewayne. And thank you to the rest of you in these comments who share your stories.

    • @kevinmulvey8759
      @kevinmulvey8759 9 місяців тому +1

      Dustin your so guy I hope ya can shake the funk off ..I know it’s not easy … I’m 66 and having start life over again .. with out anger !! But I’ve got a little hope today !!

    • @jasonclever4592
      @jasonclever4592 5 місяців тому

      Start bodybuilding

    • @pro4xtrdpro376
      @pro4xtrdpro376 3 місяці тому

      Look up dr Garrett smith the nutrition detective.

  • @janegray7881
    @janegray7881 Рік тому +89

    Very sorry for your loss. Your videos (and Momma's) have been a tremendous source of inspiration and comfort for me in recent months. I concur with all of the commenters saying, please take your time to heal and get caught up with your awesome projects, and we'll be patiently waiting for whatever you have coming. Thank you kindly for taking the time to share your Godly wisdom and love with the world. I see what you're doing as a ministry and I pray that it will continue to be as fruitful as ever for you guys.

  • @robertvilain1920
    @robertvilain1920 Рік тому +90

    How’s it going DeWayne! Just want to say you gave me the courage to pursue the ranching life and eventually I will work towards becoming a wrangler. I retired from truck driving and I’m currently earning my keep working as a ranch hand. It’s been tough getting used to physical work again but it feels good at the end of the day. Thank you!

  • @PaulBrizlinger
    @PaulBrizlinger 5 місяців тому +20

    I looked in the mirror and asked myself, Why are you angry all the time?

    • @archer7500
      @archer7500 Місяць тому +3

      i'm so happy that you did that. it's hell of realization. i mean just admitting your deep feelings about yourself and your view of the world is one of the hardest things to do, especially when you've been in this state for a long time

  • @grutt82
    @grutt82 Рік тому +11

    Thank you I needed this, my drinking and drug use cost me my marriage and most of my friends. I've been trying to get better and today I've been 4 months sober 🙏

  • @peacefuljalapeno
    @peacefuljalapeno Рік тому +31

    Sorry to hear about your dad Dewayne . He left a hell of a legacy behind in you . Your his will of fire. And you’ve helped me find my will of fire . I grew up without my pops in the picture and I never had any good male role models in my life . until I stumbled onto your channel . Some of your advice has put 20 years ahead of the curb of the guys around me and I don’t gate keep your content i put ‘em on .and I’m only 23 but I feel like I’ve been taught a lot from you.Thanks for being such a father figure to everyone who didn’t have one . Thank you ,Appreciate you , and love you sending prayers yours and mommas way ❤

  • @DarkRevan36
    @DarkRevan36 Рік тому +2

    I’m grateful I found your channel. I fell harder than I ever imagined and I needed this video and a few others you’ve posted. Thank you for these types of videos 🙏🏼

  • @u.e.s.2982
    @u.e.s.2982 Рік тому +16

    This video seemed to come up at the best time for me. I’m struggling, losing myself. Wondering where to start or restart. And this has given me some foundation to grip onto. From a man that’s falling down, thank you sir! Thank you!

    • @stariytwitch3960
      @stariytwitch3960 Рік тому

      Same here

    • @BottlegardenUK
      @BottlegardenUK Рік тому +1

      Start from where you are. Make your bed, tidy your room and take aim at something good in your life.
      You can be better. Life can be better. This too shall pass.
      God loves you.

    • @maddawgzzzz
      @maddawgzzzz 5 місяців тому

      Sameeee bro

  • @CassFilms
    @CassFilms Рік тому +49

    Hi Dewayne,
    Just wanted to let you know that your videos and podcasts have really helped me through some dark times recently. I’ve been watching for a little over a year now and have started eating healthier, exercising regularly, reading, breaking bad habits, attending church, and seeking mental health. You remind me of my grandpa who lived in Montana that I didn’t get to spend much time with. Thanks for giving young men advice and the truth that we need to hear. Keep up the good work!

  • @heyron3554
    @heyron3554 Рік тому +38

    I’m terribly sorry to hear of your father, Dewayne. You take all the time you need. You don’t have to explain yourself too swiftly. Take care of yourself!

  • @ogearbox6132
    @ogearbox6132 7 місяців тому +1

    Wow, just wow DeWayne! This video is hands down the best and most important one I’ve yet to watch. I am 69 yrs old and I gotta say this one is a huge nugget of truth surrounded by pearls of lost wisdom. From my perspective I can peer back at my life and see the mess ups. While I owned up to them (as you said you have to own them to go forward) quite a few I never forgave myself for. So even I at my age gained wisdom.
    I lost my 84 yr old dad 9 yrs ago, he passed peacefully in my house surrounded by his family. It was my first death of immediate family and quite surreal. I’m an old Marine and now and then I still cry at the fond memories.
    DeWayne I hope you continue with these vids, you have no idea how many young, rudderless men are getting helped by your easy delivery of wisdom. I can see where you could eventually be called America’s father, if ever there was a time for you it is NOW sir!

  • @soraomega3088
    @soraomega3088 10 місяців тому +21

    Just lost my dad on the fourth and did something regrettable this helped a lot thank you for your words

  • @fernandoprado686
    @fernandoprado686 Рік тому +22

    I don't comment very often, no matter the video nor the channel, but in this occasion I felt the need of giving you my deepest condolences. Very sorry for your loss Dwayne. Greetings from Spain.

  • @jt9989
    @jt9989 Рік тому +40

    I just stumbled on this channel, this is the first video I've seen. I needed this SO badly today, what a gift from the universe 😭

  • @briankraklau2432
    @briankraklau2432 8 місяців тому +10

    Let me start of with my condolences. I lost someone close to me recently as well. Saying goodbye was very hard. Now, on the topic, thank you so much for this video. I needed to hear this. I have made a ton of mistakes and have been struggling with them. The past 10 years (I'll be 33 in December) has been full of very terrible choices. Deliberate or not. Up until about 6 years ago, I made absolutely no effort to "man up" to any of it. I deliberately chose to be that person even if it meant hurting others and myself. Finally, in the last 5 years, I have made it an every day goal to improve and try to move on from all of it. This past week was hard. Losing a loved one reopened some stuff and get me dwelling on it all. I am extremely grateful to have stumbled upon this video because I needed to hear that talk. For what it's worth, I will continue to keep pushing and keep working on making things right because I still have a long road to go before things are right again. Thank you.

  • @angustate1829
    @angustate1829 8 місяців тому +29

    "We're not Clinton's we don't deal in situational ethics."
    That was so beautiful!

  • @Coxeyjohn
    @Coxeyjohn Рік тому +7

    Needed to hear this, So sorry to hear about your dad Dewayne praying for you and your family in this time of mourning. My wife and I listen in regularly and your and mamas words have been a been a huge encouragement to our relationship to others and to our marriage. Going through the same thing with you my wife’s younger brother just unexpectedly passed on the 22nd and we buried him on the 27th. Poor kid was only 23. I hate it happened but I’m glad to have grounded was in the words that God gives and the words of encouragement that you speak on.
    Much love brother,
    Johnny & Lauren

  • @PrairieChickenCO
    @PrairieChickenCO Рік тому +16

    I'm so sorry for your loss. The man he raised tells us a lot about who your father was as a person. Now you can keep his spirit alive by spreading the wisdom he gave to you. You are in my thoughts and prayers as is your family.

  • @Britishwolf89
    @Britishwolf89 8 місяців тому +9

    You always inspire me to be a better man with your wisdom and i always feel better after watching your videos. This one arrived on my feed just at the right moment as if it was some kind of intervention. Thank you for everything you do, you're very much loved and appreciated by myself and so many others around the world.

  • @mel.xnx._
    @mel.xnx._ Рік тому

    I love these videos of yours, so inspirational. Thank you for sharing, sending much love 💜

  • @JoshuaMedina181
    @JoshuaMedina181 Рік тому +10

    My sincere condolences Dwayne, my prayers go out to you and your family. Thank you for being the light in the world for so many people, you don’t know just how much of an impact you made. You’re a blessing to so many struggling individuals, including myself. Thank you!

  • @kruppert54
    @kruppert54 Рік тому +11

    I extend my condolences to you and your family Dewayne. I went through the same scenario with my Dad several years ago. They were trying days all by themselves so cut yourself a little slack and let the grieving process also heal this loss instead of burying it in busyness. I’ll be praying for you brother. This video is a good and an introspective one, as usual!

  • @franciscotrevino1412
    @franciscotrevino1412 Рік тому +11

    Your advice eases my struggles with self-forgiveness. Thank you.

  • @derekwilliams8905
    @derekwilliams8905 10 місяців тому +15

    I’m listening to your videos everyday now, they’ve helped me. I got on my knees and prayed to god to give me guidance , and you were the one he sent to me. Thank you for everything you do.

  • @derrick6848
    @derrick6848 Рік тому +9

    Dewayne…I needed this today. Thank you. My condolences for the lost of your father. You and your family will be in my prayers. Thank you for the encouraging words. This video was right on time.

  • @lewa444141
    @lewa444141 Рік тому +4

    Thank you for this video Sir, I didn't think I needed to hear it quite as much as I ended up actually needing to hear it. Sorry for your loss brother.

  • @RoanokeGaming
    @RoanokeGaming Рік тому +2

    As always fantastic and grounded advice for a younger generation that needs it. My condolences on your father as well

  • @tamiz8895
    @tamiz8895 Рік тому +1

    Thank you, your words are very wise and helpful. You are a gift and I am glad you are sharing your wisdom with us.

  • @tenlmao
    @tenlmao Рік тому +13

    You always upload at the perfect time Mr. Dewayne. Sorry to hear about your father, may he Rest in Power.

  • @JMerwede
    @JMerwede Рік тому +7

    So very sorry to hear about your family’s loss Dwayne. I am sure that your father’s heart was overfilled with pride and joy at seeing the truly extraordinary man that you have become. (Couldn’t imagine losing my Dad and doubt I would be as strong as you under similar circumstances.)

  • @bear-wolfandmscathy626
    @bear-wolfandmscathy626 Рік тому +1

    So sorry for the loss of your father. Will send up prayers for you and your family. Love the message of this video.

  • @mtd1089
    @mtd1089 Рік тому +7

    So sorry for your loss, Dwayne. My condolences to you and your family

  • @jeters9620
    @jeters9620 Рік тому +5

    As someone who’s recently lost his grandfather in the late summer of 2022 I went through the same situation and I love to share story’s and the tales of my grandpa to everyone I know and just as he use to tell tales and share his life’s stories with everyone he met, to me it’s not focusing on them being gone it’s remembering the life they lived and all the memories of things you learned and loved about that person. God bless

  • @shortty05
    @shortty05 Рік тому +13

    Dwayne, I had a very distant father growing up and he basically didn’t teach me shit. Thanks for these words every man needs to hear at some point. Very helpful, thanks again

  • @LaidbackAF
    @LaidbackAF 7 місяців тому +2

    I messed up this past weekend, went on a binge and I really want to get help and change.
    Thanks for this sir.

  • @shlxng1787
    @shlxng1787 10 місяців тому +1

    Sorry for your father🙏
    And thank you for your speaking from out of your heart❤
    Very helpful

  • @TheAride133
    @TheAride133 Рік тому +30

    Dewayne, it means the world to have you back. I sure did miss these chats which enlighten, strengthen, and embolden me and probably many other viewers. You’re a much needed voice in this crazy world. Since I’ve starting watching your videos two years ago I’ve really undergone a great change in my morals, values and beliefs, making me prouder of the man I am today. But there’s room for improvement, pieces to be mended. Thanks for being the catalyst for this journey. I’ll keep you forever in my prayers. Nonetheless, as much as you help out us and others, always know that we’ll be waiting whenever you need to take some time off. I hope that as this channel grows, a feeling of “responsibility” for your viewers won’t overwhelm nor overshadow the importance of your very own life. Wishing you the best Dwayne! Cheers!

  • @CiciHylo
    @CiciHylo Рік тому +3

    Very sorry for your loss Dwayne. No need to explain. Thank you for your grace and empathy❤️

  • @negrosuave9315
    @negrosuave9315 9 місяців тому

    Sorry for your loss and thank you for the message!

  • @Poppomatic64
    @Poppomatic64 Рік тому

    Thanks for posting this. So sorry for your loss… same thing happened to my father… ❤️❤️ it was years ago. Time is our friend with these kinds of problems.
    Oh, and yes I’ve also messed up a bunch, really needed this ahaha

  • @85gjw
    @85gjw Рік тому +3

    Just wanted to say thank you from Canada. Condolences to you and your family. Some of your father's wisdom passed along to you and reached us. 🙌

  • @odinsonthered9226
    @odinsonthered9226 Рік тому +86

    I really needed this right now… I think I ruined my marriage. My wife and I are talking about it later today. She’s my wife, my best friend, my everything and I hurt her. I hope we can settle it and move forward, but I’ll find out soon.. wish us luck everyone…

    • @dragonblaze3419
      @dragonblaze3419 Рік тому +12

      Hope everything went well with the talk man ❤️💪

    • @ggbooliano
      @ggbooliano Рік тому +35

      Hey man. I lost my girl of 5+ years last month because of hurtful things I’ve done in the distant past along with my refusal to change and improve my communication skills and listening. it’s been a lot of guilt, remorse, and sadness on my end. I feel as if I lost my soulmate and my best friend as well. I hope that conversation went well with your wife. Praying you guys figure it out

    • @tatoriety
      @tatoriety Рік тому +13

      @@ggbooliano I'm on the same wave as you my friend, i'm praying for yous all! just know this isn't the end brothers, what's meant to be will be. GodBless

    • @anthonyrivera7915
      @anthonyrivera7915 8 місяців тому +6

      Hope everything went well brother.

    • @snhn_20
      @snhn_20 8 місяців тому

      ​@@ggboolianoI'm 21, My wrong actions ended my 8 year relationship and I've broken her trust many times. I feel like a piece of shit i wanna be better so i can take her back someday..

  • @hamiltonhomestead9650
    @hamiltonhomestead9650 Рік тому +3

    Dewayne, our condolences to you and all your family on the loss of your father. Great message today.

  • @haliec4713
    @haliec4713 Рік тому

    Just found your channel and I like your tone of voice it’s very soothing and your wisdom comforting. My mother died in 2018 and only today I had a real moment of heartbreak of missing her. It hasn’t happened for awhile. I send you so many hugs in your loss. After my mother passed I chose a really bad relationship, I wanted to escape my grief so I jumped straight in. I was weak, numbed by grief and when I became stronger I left him a year later. He was a very abusive man. That’s a huge mistake that nearly cost me my life, I trying to come to terms with that awful decision, your words have helped me feel stronger and I hope everyone’s words here will help you feel stronger at this time.

  • @thecapone45
    @thecapone45 Рік тому

    Very good video sir. I am so sorry for your loss, your father and mother raised a good man. Thanks for sharing that with us and still teaching us about being a better person.

  • @ellisabraham9095
    @ellisabraham9095 7 місяців тому +9

    “We are not Clinton’s” 🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @jonschlegel2961
    @jonschlegel2961 Рік тому +5

    RIP to your father.
    This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear today.
    Love from CA

  • @Gump1224
    @Gump1224 Рік тому

    Very fortunate to have your videos come into my life at this time. I've had many struggles in my life lately, many changes come my way and with them came a great deal of pain, it helps to have a different perspective in times like these.
    Much Love Dwane

  • @iluxa-4000
    @iluxa-4000 11 місяців тому +1

    I really enjoy the way you speak about things. You're a true man, inspiring and wise

  • @kirkprospector4958
    @kirkprospector4958 11 місяців тому +12

    My father commit suicide in 2020 when I was twenty five years old. I’m glad you got thirty more years of your father’s wisdom and friendship. I know you know he’s resting easy now, but that doesn’t make it any easier necessarily. Appreciate your channel and you sharing this part of your life with us.

    • @mycool_p6483
      @mycool_p6483 9 місяців тому +1

      I’m sorry man

    • @BigOlBoof
      @BigOlBoof 8 місяців тому

      Lost my father the same way in June last year when I was 22 years old, I know how you feel.

  • @itsajeepthing82
    @itsajeepthing82 Рік тому +8

    So sorry to hear about your dad Dewayne , lost my dad a couple years back its not easy. All my best to you and your family

  • @tischbrannon7948
    @tischbrannon7948 Рік тому

    My deepest condolences for you and your family. Thank you for such a beautiful message during your period of grief. Timing was perfect with what I'm struggling with right now. Thank you Thank you thank you 🙏🙏🙏❤️ And AMEN to "Your Channel" absolutely. Couldn't of said it all better. Love. Strength and healing to you and your family. 🤗

  • @aliciakorn
    @aliciakorn 5 місяців тому

    Just found this channel and really needed this video. Thank you so much for putting out the content that you do.

  • @valkyrie3631
    @valkyrie3631 Рік тому +9

    Hey Dwane. Your videos have made me into a better man and has helped me grow up. I’m sorry for your loss. No matter how strong a man is, the loss of a father brings anyone to tears

  • @jacksonian1723
    @jacksonian1723 8 місяців тому +5

    Thank you, brother. I've been torturing myself for years over the past. I felt like I couldn't move on anymore. I was unforgivable. Your words gave me what I needed. I can't change it, but I CAN move on. That's what'll help me survive to see a better tomorrow. Will it be a better tomorrow? I used to think not, but with the past behind me, all I see is hope in my future, finally. Bless you, my friend. May God watch over you during this really tough time. Stay strong. You're needed in this world, brother 🙏

    • @snhn_20
      @snhn_20 8 місяців тому

      I'm 21, My wrong actions ended my 8 year relationship and I've broken her trust many times. I feel like a piece of shit i wanna be better so i can take her back someday..

  • @kylegreen6545
    @kylegreen6545 Рік тому +1

    I need this. Seriously this was very helpful and I can't thank you enough.

  • @Aquaflow_
    @Aquaflow_ 4 місяці тому +1

    This is a lesson I needed to hear as a child… I truly am thankful for you sharing this message for those who never had that person to tell them or show them. Thank you ❤️

  • @natew5593
    @natew5593 Рік тому +3

    My deepest condolences for your father, sir, he sounds like a great man.
    Also I’m really enjoying your videos. Even though we may come down differently on politics or religion, I always see your good intentions behind your messages and I get a lot out of listening to these talks. I’m in my 30’s and feel like I’m finally starting to put the pieces of my life together in a way that will last. Thanks for making positive content like this. You’re like that cool and wise uncle a lot of people never had 😂

  • @letsgobrandon5334
    @letsgobrandon5334 8 місяців тому +5

    My mistake was 27 years ago. Its caused me to be excluded from many things i regret not being able to participate in. I regret this daily. I'm finally going to the state to ask for forgiveness to allow me to feel whole again. Ive felt like less of a man and havent been able to forgive myself. I needed to hear this today and will try to move forward with forgiveness.

  • @lischa3573
    @lischa3573 8 місяців тому +1

    Your so comforting to listen to. I appreciate you big time

  • @onlythereal6067
    @onlythereal6067 6 місяців тому

    Needed this, thanks for all the words of wisdom on every video.

  • @KKelly1
    @KKelly1 5 місяців тому +7

    You are literally, quite literally, Arthur Morgan.

  • @mjsta4d
    @mjsta4d Рік тому +5

    So sorry to hear about your Pa, DeWayne. It’s never an easy time for even the most enlightened folks when loved ones move on. Please accept my sincerest prayers for peace and comfort to you and your family. The bits I’ve learned about you leave no doubt that he was a fine man. 👊🏻

  • @CbanTheMan
    @CbanTheMan Рік тому +1

    Thank you for this message. The video I really needed tonight.

  • @wjjam4416
    @wjjam4416 6 місяців тому +2

    I’ve made my mistake, a moment of blindness n ignorance in the midst of grief and mess. No excuse I triggered somebody I love into not wanting me - understandably. I don’t know how to release that and move on, and forgive myself. I know it was a gross oversight on my part, I’m trying so hard to be a good person. Idk how to shake this weight. I’ve made my amends, I know I’m changing and I will learn this lesson. Thank you for this video. Thank you

  • @Satsui_No_Hado
    @Satsui_No_Hado Рік тому +3

    Needed this , thank you Dwane 🙏 may your father rest in peace 🕊️

  • @douglasrock9414
    @douglasrock9414 Рік тому +3

    Hey Dwayne. Just saw your video here pop up. Any one who has lost a loving father, had a strong and sincere moment of sorrow and reflection. Your Dad must have been a wonderful man because you are one. You are a chip off a mighty old oak tree and we are all grateful. GOD bless you and your family.

  • @magmasamurai3598
    @magmasamurai3598 Рік тому +1

    I always see your videos on my recommended when I need them the most, wish you the best old man and thank you for your wisdom.

  • @KenoSNeal
    @KenoSNeal Рік тому

    Easily one of your best videos Dwayne 💯🙏 thank you. I'm sorry for your loss. I send my condolences to you and your family.