i'm so happy that you did that. it's hell of realization. i mean just admitting your deep feelings about yourself and your view of the world is one of the hardest things to do, especially when you've been in this state for a long time
Me too. In the past, I let My anger take everything away from me cuz I lack control and I’m not a bad person. But I became prideful and completely lost my identity
@@redrain-f6pmoment by moment. What can you do? What next action can you take, to see a bigger view, more spacious perspective on your life? Our brains lie sometimes. Not to minimize what you are going through…however to say, that we can make it through extraordinary circumstances. I have. I have come out on the other side many times and some of the worst times, propelled me towards my greatest purpose. You have a purpose…maybe you just can’t see it clearly yet. Can you contact anyone that can help? I wish you well 💫
I’m a 16 year old with dyslexia and dyscalculia I lost my mom to suicide and my step dad left I’m living with my grandparents we’re struggling financially I had dropped out of school cause of stress and they’re was just too much for me to handle I was mentally drained but I’m getting right with god spending more time with family and even tho I’m 2 grades behind im gonna finish school
Man, that is the proof we all need to continue even when we are at the verge of despair. May God guide and bless you, kiddo! ❤ keep seeking the light, wonderful one!
"Forgive yourself." The step I've always struggled so much with. Admitting when I'm wrong, owning it, accepting the consequences. Those are things I can do. But stopping my thoughts on it? Forgiving myself? I don't know how to do that. Thank you for even this little bit of thought and pressure to try and be better about that.
I have a hard time accepting consequences. Maybe because ive always tried talking my way out of punishments instead of dealing with the consequences of my actions.
You struggle with it because it isn't possible. You can't forgive yourself unless you think you're God. It isn't your job to forgive yourself. It's your job to confess, repent, and reconcile with the person you signed against. If it was you, then you reconcile with God. He will forgive you through Christ. You aren't supposed to forget. The memory keeps you from doing it again.
Your statement is not true. It doesn’t even make sense. If you can forgive someone else that did wrong, and not be God, how can you not forgive yourself the same way? Yes, God forgives us but we also forgive ourself.
for people confused, drycreekwrangler is referring to the reply made by @@laurenbatson5918pointing out that they're wrong for saying that one cannot forgive oneself, which i agree with. you can always forgive yourself.
I think when we messed up so bad, one of the consequences is live with it for the rest of our lives, wake up with it on our head and rest with it. Even though we know what we did wrong, we accept the consequences, we fight to change as people, and after all that the guilty will never leave us, and that guilty keep us moving away from the thinks we did, guilty is the worst feeling ever, but sometimes the hardest challenges shows us better
This man probably hurting so bad right now, put all his business aside to heal but still takes the time to send a message to help people who not only aren't going through as much as he is right now but also are going through things that are our own fault. Nothing but respect for you.
@@Mrgolfboy24 you know this isn’t his only source of income right? Original comment still stands. He didn’t need to do this but he did, it’s respectable.
Hey Dewayne, I’m a 21 guy in college, feeling lost. Your videos have been a source of support, guidance, and assurance for me. Thank you for all that you do.
i messed up by being impulsive, by acting on my feelings and being in a relationship (my first) which hurt me mentally. I have broke up couple months back but that person wasn't letting me go, so I had to make the rude decision today to cut them off permanently from every place, seems like a small story, but for me this has given me a lot of lessons. i need to be working on my traumas and needless to say, not get into relationships, even platonic, so impulsively, i need to understand my own self better, so I will be working on that now. thank you for thus video sir!
me too... I would do anything to have him back and show that I'd never hurt him ever again. He was sent to me straight from heaven and I can only hope I'm given one last chance to put things right. It really is the scariest, most anxious, heart-breaking feeling.
@Sykodelik64 I'm so sorry to hear that. I understand the pain of hurting someone you love, it's been 5 months since my breakup and while I have my bad days still where I don't even want to get out of bed it does get better even if at a very slow pace. I still want to change and be a better and more kind person. I know it's hard because some days all you can do is feel guilty and feel like youre a terrible and awful person. Maybe that person will never come back to me to give me a second chance and that's the consequences of my actions I have to bear. Regardless I have to change and believe that life gets better and that I can be better. Anyways sorry for blabbing but I hope that life will be better for you, stay strong.
never knew how precious friendships and relationships were until I lost them. i fucked up real bad and I'm suffering the consequences, this was exactly what I needed to hear rn.
Couldn't agree more; my father stopped visiting 3 years ago, and I missed out on a lot of things I should've learned, but this man has helped me. I still have a long way to go.
Word! My so called father threw me out like garbage when I was quite young. I would have given anything to have a dad like Dewayne. No grandpa or grandma either. Those are huge holes in my life, and another devastating issue that comes along with all this is that my family just doesn’t understand how it has affected my life. It’s extremely hard to talk about so I just bury my feelings and try to learn from folks like Dewayne. Thanks man!
@@joesdocsmaybe thats why he is aware of it. Being convicted of out past can be a good thing but like Duane says. Have the damm funeral and burry it. Thats what Im gonna do. Wanna know what I did? What dint I do….
I’m a parent that has lost a child. Forgiving yourself is one of the most difficult things to do. Even if you had nothing to do with what happened to your child, you feel responsible. It gets easier over time to continue, but your never free from the pain that creeps up on birthdays or other dates significant to your loss. You learn to live with it.
I'm sorry for your loss. I've also lost my child this passed year. I understand that feeling of not being able to forgive yourself despite not being at fault. I know that when something so large effects you the only thing that you can do is make room for it, and I hope you've reached that point. I hope I do too. Us mommas are strong and I hope you never forget that. Again, my endless condolences to you and yours. Stay strong.
Hey Dwayne, needed to hear this more than ever. I've been a alcoholic for 11 years. I ended up slipping in the kitchen and banged my head on the kitchens island and had a seizure. Woke up in the hospital and without hospital treatment my mortality was around 47%. The stories I heard while I was blacked out are just horrible. What it did to my friends and family made me decide to get help. I'm about almost 2 months sober and thankfully my job has been supporting me. I had to stop! It definitely woke my butt up. Everything you mentioned hit close to home and it made me realize even before watching this video a lot of things need to change for the better. One step at a time. Thank you sir
Damn same thing happened to me in front of my dad, I slipped and banged my ear on a kitchen chair, split my ear but my dad saw the whole thing happen, looked at me like in a moron and went to bed..
Hi Dwayne. Sorry for your father. My grandma/mom is in the hospital for heart failure. I’m 27. There is some mistakes I have made that I haven’t moved past. This video was so spot on, and as a female, thank you. We have to face the consequences of the problems we caused. “I did it. I am sorry.” Thank you for your videos, and I send you hugs and comfort.
I broke a girls heart for being stupid and regretting it every day, I broke a promise about drinking and now I’m getting out of my house and I know I fell heartbroken and unwanted but I know now I need to become better thank you Dwayne
If I only was you bro. I'm almost 19 and I never felt how holding hands with a girl feels lol. Idk but no girl ever looked at me only a 1-3 failed talking stages cus idk maybe I'm I'm a fucked up guy with fucked up intentions idk to be honest but bro you are different a girl was-is interested at you and broke her heart man I hope you doin good now bro all the best
I got 3Fs and fucked up my GPA. I still don’t know what I want to do with my life and I’m 21. I’m not school smart or street smart. I don’t have any skills or motivation. I’m just exhausted and trying to survive this mind. I feel like I went the wrong way and I’m hoping I can find a way to feel better soon.
My friend, you are a smart, hard working human being and we all fail, its a pert of the process, take a step back and see what you can improve on even if it means that you need to get help from someone, keep pushing, keep working and pray, everything is gonna be alright ok?, take care!!
im in a similar position, ive been trying to pick up the pieces and ive been doing better but still stumbling every now and then. i dont know exactly your poisition or why youre failing but for me it was lack of motivation constantly going back and forth from staying on top of my schoolwork and studying and overall just trying to put my best effort forward to just doing the absolute bare minimum to get by because it feels like whats the use ive already dug this far into the pit im stuck in theres no way out. some of the things i learned that helped was to stop waiting for things to get better life is inherently suffering and if you just aim to hold out and survive long enough for a miracle itll never happen. all you can really do is focus on doing as much as possible to make life better and easier for you tomorrow. to succeed and continue. and instead of looking at mistakes as just a sign of your own failure as a person its just a mistake yes you mightve messed up or some other factors involved but that doesnt mean youre doomed to be that specific way, all that youre doing is focusing on the one failure out of all the other successes which makes you feel like shit and even less motivated to really try. hope theres something useful in here for you and that your situation gets better.
It’s never to late. I’ve been through some very rough storms in my life as well. But since I gave my life over to Jesus Christ my life totally changed for the better. There’s nothing better than having peace joy and happiness now. Not that I still go through storms but I have Jesus to help me through those storms these storms are defeated because I have Jesus on my side guiding me through each and every one of them. I’ll be praying for you
Cheated on my ex gf and she found out. Broke up with me immediately. It's the worst mistake of my life and it's been the most painful experience I've ever gone through. Fellas believe me when I tell you that if you have a good thing going with someone you love and you're getting a little restless check yourself real f'n quick. YOU WILL REGRET IT AND YOU WILL PAY THE PRICE. Tell your girl you love her and be greatful you have someone who loves you.
I’ve never had a male figure in my life. I’ve always had to figure stuff out on my own. These videos tug at my heart in ways I can’t describe. Thank you from the bottom of my heart
I want so badly to be a man who can have these kinds of talks with the young men around me so they don't have to live such a confused life like I have. It takes time though. You really gotta work at being humble and knowing yourself to be able to speak like this and not have it sound like you're talking out your ass.
Sometimes I find guys (Like this one) to listen to. One guy's channel I've been listening to months ago collects scrap metal and I found his voice and inner dialog to be of comfort and wisdom.
I needed to hear this. I did something phenomeonally stupid while under the influence of drugs. Its eating at me. Ive been struggling with addiction for over a decade and finally got clean over a year ago. Then I relapsed and did something i would have never, ever done in my sober mind. I know the only way I can potentially get past it is to get and stay sober. I have to do this. Become a better man. It's not the end of the world. Thank you, sir. I needed this. Thank you.
Very sorry for your loss. Your videos (and Momma's) have been a tremendous source of inspiration and comfort for me in recent months. I concur with all of the commenters saying, please take your time to heal and get caught up with your awesome projects, and we'll be patiently waiting for whatever you have coming. Thank you kindly for taking the time to share your Godly wisdom and love with the world. I see what you're doing as a ministry and I pray that it will continue to be as fruitful as ever for you guys.
Hey DeWayne. I lost my father in October at the age of 22. He was 61. It's the hardest thing to lose a parent. Listening to you is like listening to him. Safe, secure, solid and protected, and at ease with himself and with the world. He was a great man and a great dad. The love never dies ❤
Mine died when I was 15. Im 33 now. If I saw him face to face right now, Id beat the shit out of him. His death caused my family so much pain. I hate him for it.
My father just passed, I’m sitting in his home which I guess is technically mine now. It’s hard not thinking about a lifetime of regret growing up. Thanks for the video and some insight.
I’m 26 years old and in grad school. I’ve been negligent towards an assignment, and as a result I’m probably going to fail a class. I’m having a meeting with some of my professors about it this week. I’ve been sick to my stomach and full of anxiety, but your videos have been giving me the courage to face my mistake with integrity. Thank you
I’m a woman from uk 32, and I rely on this dude for life advice. Thank you. Thought u might be interested to know some of the weird corners of your demographic. I recently just managed to blow up my whole life during a massive depression and lose a ten year friendship. Had just finally started (one taster appointment) treatment for mental health but now I have no one in my life. It seems early and chronic life long trauma may have caused a personality disorder and other stuff that I didn’t even know I had, if I do (undiagnosed). I also live in the middle of nowhere with no car or money so your attitude towards country life really helps me accept my unusual situation and ur wisdom appearing today thanks to the algorithm, may have just saved my life today. Thank u.
How’s it going DeWayne! Just want to say you gave me the courage to pursue the ranching life and eventually I will work towards becoming a wrangler. I retired from truck driving and I’m currently earning my keep working as a ranch hand. It’s been tough getting used to physical work again but it feels good at the end of the day. Thank you!
Hey Dewayne, I'm a 16 year old porn addict and I've been that way ever since I was 8 years old. The last couple of months, I've been feeling kind of lost in life. Your videos really help me get into better mental shape, including this one. This video made me realise that I should own my mistake of letting myself get addicted and that I should own the mistake I made in order for me to be able to overcome this addiction. May your father rest easily, for he made you into a great man. I thank you from the bottom of my heart and I am forever grateful for the guidance you give to me.
I really pray that you can find help thru Jesus Christ..porn had me too for a long time as a grown man. It will mentally & physically affect you in a very bad way. Please resist at all times.
wow. that's impressive you're willing to admit that. Hopefully you got the help that you needed. I would imagine you are a leg up on your peers, you will all discover that alcohol and drugs will be around you soon if not already. If you ever start indulging in those things, remember what you've been through to fight addiction. it can hold true against other crutches. Good luck to you young man.
Much respect to you, I know that this is a hard one to acknowledge, even to oneself. I hope you will get new interests, something to pour yourself into, unapologetically. I was from 11 until 20, starting university. In many ways there's another world, that at least I can't blame myself through that for the things I fail, sometimes. But the hardest was to realize how I saw myself, and connect to something more important. You are well on your way, relax man.
wow i actually teared up a lil bit reading this cus ive had the same problem. it helps to know that someone else understands. stay strong my dude. thank you for sharing your experience 🤗
Really needed to hear this, Dewayne. I really messed up bad about 3 months ago. I apologized profusely for it, I owned it from the start, I was honest from the start... But I still can't forgive myself and that's the hardest part. Hurting someone that means the world to you is the absolute worst feeling in the world. There is redemption for sinners, even the worst of us, but damn it's hard to let go of that regret and grief. Knowing you've hurt one of the sweetest people in the world with your own ignorance and sin. I'll try to learn to forgive myself. Thank you for this video and God bless you and yours. And my condolences for your loss.
Thank you Dewayne. I have owned it and forgiven myself was the hardest part. I'm living my life for the lord now and happy as I've ever been. Im truly sorry for your loss.
@AdolfHitler-wo1my It's a bit personal. But I broke the trust of someone I love and it caused irreconcilable damage to the relationship. Satan whispers sweet sounding words into your ear if you let him, and it's best to flee from the temptations that will later cause us much grief and suffering.
@@nightowl6811 I appreciate the wisdom and advice. Honestly you're probably right. As painful as it is. Gotta focus on God and bettering myself and someone else will come into my life. Thank you for the harsh truth. Can only come from someone else who's been through it.
@imover9999 I messed things up pretty badly. He's just to nice I can't let him go and just keep forcing and begging him to not leave me. I know I just can't move on from him, he said God will guide us and time will tell. I just know that he's the one for me and he loved me so much. It's been two months we're still talking, things got better even though he said he don't want to get back together yet, but yesterday the emotions got the best of him and told me that he need to leave to be happy and that even if he stay he won't love me the same, but I know if we just give it time everything will eventually fall into place or I don't know I'm just crazy. I just can't do this anymore Any advice please?
Got my first DWI, Im terrified, ashamed, and cant even begin to forgive myself. It was a terrible mistake and I thank God no one was hurt. I really needed this, thank you.
I’ve made my mistake, a moment of blindness n ignorance in the midst of grief and mess. No excuse I triggered somebody I love into not wanting me - understandably. I don’t know how to release that and move on, and forgive myself. I know it was a gross oversight on my part, I’m trying so hard to be a good person. Idk how to shake this weight. I’ve made my amends, I know I’m changing and I will learn this lesson. Thank you for this video. Thank you
Sorry to hear about your Dad DeWayne. Take your time. My biggest mess up in my 58 years of life was getting caught shoplifting at 17. I went to face my Father to own up to what I did. I got the worst punishment anyone could get. Dad said "I am disappointed in you". That has stuck with me all my life. Those 5 words from my Father changed my life.
Sounds like you broke the first three rules of shoplifting. They call it petty theft, but you got a life lesson out of it so I'd say you more than broke even. Be good or be good at it.
Thank you I needed this, my drinking and drug use cost me my marriage and most of my friends. I've been trying to get better and today I've been 4 months sober 🙏
Watching this from Russia. Kinda tough times we have here. These videos make me feel alive. Thank you, grandpa Keep being strong ,everybody, we all will make it.
I have visited your country only once. I wish you well. People are good but evil exists in the lies of certain neocons in govt. The good news is that more and more of us are starting to figure out the mainstream media as well as many politicians can never be trusted in the USA and other western nations.
I'm struggling so hard to forgive myself. I felt emotionally hurt by my partner and so I emotionally hurt him, not on purpose, but as a result of my being upset-- that hurt him. And he broke up with me because of it. And I can't forgive myself. I wasn't loving enough, I wasn't caring enough, and I didn't realize how much I was lacking until he showed me the door. And I begged for him to let me prove to him how much I really understood now, what I needed to do. But he said it was too late. And I can't forgive myself for losing someone that was so precious to me. He was my entire world. People keep saying that I will meet someone else but I don't want anyone else, I just want him.
I'm going through the same thing. It's very hard for me to find someone that matches my energy but when I met her it was as if we were Adam and Eve. She knew everything I liked without me having to open my mouth and I felt something I could not explain. She was busy all the time and I tried to keep telling myself to let her do her thing but three weeks had past without her finding time to see me and I stupidly allowed my insecurities to shine through and question it in a sarcastic and way that I'm ashamed of acting. I wasn't nasty as such but I let myself down. My contant wanting destroyed me, I'd do anything now just to see her for an hour a month if I could. 😢 Ontop of that it seemed like the universe was throwing everything in my path to cause a reaction or bring out the worst in me, and I failed to deal with those things. I feel like a major failure now and I don't really know how to address it. All I can say is focus on yourself instead of them and by improving yourself for yourself. I'm determined to make myself better, get my own place, get a better job and I pray by that point she's less busy and can find it in her heart to forgive me and find time for me again 🙏
@@ravereviews6853hey !! It’s completely normal human reaction that u felt frustrated because ur gf wasn’t texting for a week. I’m here to tell u that nobody is too busy to send one message that takes a second.
I've been living in financial anguish, health issues and a lot insecurities and regrets at age 25. I'm starting a new job soon and I'm working on turning it around, and hopefully doing so without missing too many bills. God is good to me and I can't stay worried for too long without realizing that it's just a season and it's not my lot in life. Thank you for these talks, Dewayne. And thank you to the rest of you in these comments who share your stories.
Dustin your so guy I hope ya can shake the funk off ..I know it’s not easy … I’m 66 and having start life over again .. with out anger !! But I’ve got a little hope today !!
Hi Dewayne, Just wanted to let you know that your videos and podcasts have really helped me through some dark times recently. I’ve been watching for a little over a year now and have started eating healthier, exercising regularly, reading, breaking bad habits, attending church, and seeking mental health. You remind me of my grandpa who lived in Montana that I didn’t get to spend much time with. Thanks for giving young men advice and the truth that we need to hear. Keep up the good work!
Sorry to hear about your dad Dewayne . He left a hell of a legacy behind in you . Your his will of fire. And you’ve helped me find my will of fire . I grew up without my pops in the picture and I never had any good male role models in my life . until I stumbled onto your channel . Some of your advice has put 20 years ahead of the curb of the guys around me and I don’t gate keep your content i put ‘em on .and I’m only 23 but I feel like I’ve been taught a lot from you.Thanks for being such a father figure to everyone who didn’t have one . Thank you ,Appreciate you , and love you sending prayers yours and mommas way ❤
I’m terribly sorry to hear of your father, Dewayne. You take all the time you need. You don’t have to explain yourself too swiftly. Take care of yourself!
I don't comment very often, no matter the video nor the channel, but in this occasion I felt the need of giving you my deepest condolences. Very sorry for your loss Dwayne. Greetings from Spain.
I’m 21 years old struggling with alcoholism the past several weekends I have gotten drunk and acted a fool and thinking abt it has made me very ashamed. This video really just lifted me up and I appreciate you a lot. God bless you.
Man youre going to realize that alcohol is a poison. Ive almost drank myself to death a few times in the past couple of years. Ive woken up in my own piss and just fallen back asleep. Stay away from Porn and alcohol and you will be way better off.
I'm 50 and did lots of stupid things and lost lots of friends family girlfriends friends etc etc. Believe me it was really bad but now I get to start fresh new beginning at 50. New friends new business partners, new girlfriends! Nobody is innocent not even our parents
Hey man, I'm the same age same problem. About 7 months ago I missed work because I was still drunk and drinking the next morning. Puking. That was my moment for me, on my mom's floor, in my own throwup at 6am calling my boss. Now I tell you this, because 7 months later I don't drink, even when I crack a beer to enjoy with my meal. I can't finish it. Because, now I live on my own. Have a girlfriend who loves me, and a goof job making 8$ an hour more than I was before. I'm in control of my desires. It took a really tough spot to show me that I needed to stop. I hope seeing someone the same age come through it on top shows you that you can do it before a tragedy shows you you have to change. I believe in you brother. You got this
Thank you. This saved me and really cleared my thoughts. Messed up. Admitted and after that she left me. I have been recovering since, it's been 6 months. Hardest times of my life so far. Forgiving myself has been the hardest part. I'm taking it one day at a time. Trying to be a better man. Thanks again. Greetings from Finland.
And how are you doing now? It's been about 10 months at this point, yes? I hope you're healing, and I hope that you get a second chance with her one day.
I’m listening to your videos everyday now, they’ve helped me. I got on my knees and prayed to god to give me guidance , and you were the one he sent to me. Thank you for everything you do.
This video seemed to come up at the best time for me. I’m struggling, losing myself. Wondering where to start or restart. And this has given me some foundation to grip onto. From a man that’s falling down, thank you sir! Thank you!
Start from where you are. Make your bed, tidy your room and take aim at something good in your life. You can be better. Life can be better. This too shall pass. God loves you.
You always inspire me to be a better man with your wisdom and i always feel better after watching your videos. This one arrived on my feed just at the right moment as if it was some kind of intervention. Thank you for everything you do, you're very much loved and appreciated by myself and so many others around the world.
One of the most helpful talks I've heard in my life. I've carried out owning my mistake to become a better, new self. I am never doing what I did again. I changed for me, and for everyone I care for. Forgiving myself and moving forward. God bless you. You've done so many of us a great service with your generous advice.
11:14 Gold! You're hurting and grieving, DeWayne, but you're "manning up" and moving on. I lost my father a bit over a year ago. I'll never be the man he (James "Jim" Lucas) was. He was my hero and I miss him dearly. Your wisdom and good nature is father like to me and much appreciated. I'm an adult but still learning and growing. I wish you and your family peace and all the best in this tough time. Your Dad must have been one awesome cowboy I'll bet!
You helped me sir. I'm going through a very tough time constantly battling bad and dark thoughts about myself and others. It's a cycle of anger, sadness and loneliness catalyzed by a breakup and heartbreak. I messed up, big time. And now i am paying for it by being reminded of how unacceptable i've always been, and how alone i really am especially when relying on my family. You are a light in the dark for me, and one of the only people who can help me cry and work through what i'm feeling. I hope you and your family are OK and my condolences to you regarding your father. He has raised a true man with a heart so big it can touch someone like me, across the planet. Much love, and will keep you in my prayers.
Like the man said,if you mess up,,,,own it,,(and it sounds like you did),, now forgive yourself ,,,, don't be the man today that you were yesterday!😉 Keep your chin up man and know your not alone.🙏
I'm so sorry for your loss. The man he raised tells us a lot about who your father was as a person. Now you can keep his spirit alive by spreading the wisdom he gave to you. You are in my thoughts and prayers as is your family.
My sincere condolences Dwayne, my prayers go out to you and your family. Thank you for being the light in the world for so many people, you don’t know just how much of an impact you made. You’re a blessing to so many struggling individuals, including myself. Thank you!
My father commit suicide in 2020 when I was twenty five years old. I’m glad you got thirty more years of your father’s wisdom and friendship. I know you know he’s resting easy now, but that doesn’t make it any easier necessarily. Appreciate your channel and you sharing this part of your life with us.
Needed to hear this, So sorry to hear about your dad Dewayne praying for you and your family in this time of mourning. My wife and I listen in regularly and your and mamas words have been a been a huge encouragement to our relationship to others and to our marriage. Going through the same thing with you my wife’s younger brother just unexpectedly passed on the 22nd and we buried him on the 27th. Poor kid was only 23. I hate it happened but I’m glad to have grounded was in the words that God gives and the words of encouragement that you speak on. Much love brother, Johnny & Lauren
Dwayne, I had a very distant father growing up and he basically didn’t teach me shit. Thanks for these words every man needs to hear at some point. Very helpful, thanks again
I extend my condolences to you and your family Dewayne. I went through the same scenario with my Dad several years ago. They were trying days all by themselves so cut yourself a little slack and let the grieving process also heal this loss instead of burying it in busyness. I’ll be praying for you brother. This video is a good and an introspective one, as usual!
Hey Dwane. Your videos have made me into a better man and has helped me grow up. I’m sorry for your loss. No matter how strong a man is, the loss of a father brings anyone to tears
Let me start of with my condolences. I lost someone close to me recently as well. Saying goodbye was very hard. Now, on the topic, thank you so much for this video. I needed to hear this. I have made a ton of mistakes and have been struggling with them. The past 10 years (I'll be 33 in December) has been full of very terrible choices. Deliberate or not. Up until about 6 years ago, I made absolutely no effort to "man up" to any of it. I deliberately chose to be that person even if it meant hurting others and myself. Finally, in the last 5 years, I have made it an every day goal to improve and try to move on from all of it. This past week was hard. Losing a loved one reopened some stuff and get me dwelling on it all. I am extremely grateful to have stumbled upon this video because I needed to hear that talk. For what it's worth, I will continue to keep pushing and keep working on making things right because I still have a long road to go before things are right again. Thank you.
Thank you for this. I tried to justify hiding cheating and finally did the right thing and told her. We are no longer together and that is the best thing for both of us. If you're in my situation, I'd recommend owning it and taking it as a sign to be better. I'm working on not dwelling on memories and good times because that's unnecessary pain. Its my fault, but I don't want to make myself suffer further. Time will heal and being honest allowed that process to start. Hope you all are well too.
@@gageparent9189 it's been about 2 weeks now and being secure and focused while feeling alone at times is getting more consistent for me. Handling the feeling and settling back into the groove of truly focusing on myself, my family and friends. Best to you man
@@connorm.6253 honestly bro go get outside, hit up your old friends, go get a haircut, figure out what your goals are bro, and don’t worry about girls right now, times will be tough, sit and cry until you can’t anymore, then pick yourself up and move on, you gotta become a better man to have a chance of getting her back , as long as you’re doing the right things you’ll feel good man, it’s been hard I feel that but journaling, lots of exercise, sleep, and staying off my phone some has been making this a lot better
@@connorm.6253 bro focus on all the stuff you knew in your gut wasn't right about her and the overall situation. Its has helped me to focus on the real negatives. Going no contact and really moving on has been the move
“Apologize to yourself” Damnit Dwayne you got me tearing up. I was an awful drunk and “apologized” so many times. But I had to get sober.. not just booze but my anger issues to. Taken me a long long time to apologize to myself.. it’s a good feeling I won’t lie. These days I really cherish every moment I have with my loved especially, especially my wife and daughter. Thanks again sir.
Thank you, brother. I've been torturing myself for years over the past. I felt like I couldn't move on anymore. I was unforgivable. Your words gave me what I needed. I can't change it, but I CAN move on. That's what'll help me survive to see a better tomorrow. Will it be a better tomorrow? I used to think not, but with the past behind me, all I see is hope in my future, finally. Bless you, my friend. May God watch over you during this really tough time. Stay strong. You're needed in this world, brother 🙏
I'm 21, My wrong actions ended my 8 year relationship and I've broken her trust many times. I feel like a piece of shit i wanna be better so i can take her back someday..
You’re one awesome person with great advice. I raised two boys of my own, and they turned out to be really good men. I think it’s great that you’re reaching out to these young men and women who may not have the parental support or parents in their lives. Thank you for what you do. You are a Godsend, in a decaying and moral less society.
Wow, just wow DeWayne! This video is hands down the best and most important one I’ve yet to watch. I am 69 yrs old and I gotta say this one is a huge nugget of truth surrounded by pearls of lost wisdom. From my perspective I can peer back at my life and see the mess ups. While I owned up to them (as you said you have to own them to go forward) quite a few I never forgave myself for. So even I at my age gained wisdom. I lost my 84 yr old dad 9 yrs ago, he passed peacefully in my house surrounded by his family. It was my first death of immediate family and quite surreal. I’m an old Marine and now and then I still cry at the fond memories. DeWayne I hope you continue with these vids, you have no idea how many young, rudderless men are getting helped by your easy delivery of wisdom. I can see where you could eventually be called America’s father, if ever there was a time for you it is NOW sir!
I messed up at work last week, with big consequenses. I did my best to make it as right as I possibly could and take responsibility for my actions. But forgiving myself is hard. Your video helped me a lot. Thank you.
I didn't realize that this video was gonna start out like this, I lost my grandmother at 91 on the 28th. It's crazy how small the world is. Hopefully, I can learn something today when I get to watch this fully, but right now, life is busy, and now I'm missing my Nana. Appreciate all you do.
As someone who’s recently lost his grandfather in the late summer of 2022 I went through the same situation and I love to share story’s and the tales of my grandpa to everyone I know and just as he use to tell tales and share his life’s stories with everyone he met, to me it’s not focusing on them being gone it’s remembering the life they lived and all the memories of things you learned and loved about that person. God bless
So very sorry to hear about your family’s loss Dwayne. I am sure that your father’s heart was overfilled with pride and joy at seeing the truly extraordinary man that you have become. (Couldn’t imagine losing my Dad and doubt I would be as strong as you under similar circumstances.)
So sorry to hear about your Pa, DeWayne. It’s never an easy time for even the most enlightened folks when loved ones move on. Please accept my sincerest prayers for peace and comfort to you and your family. The bits I’ve learned about you leave no doubt that he was a fine man. 👊🏻
I made too many mistakes and I lost her... forever. I then made even more mistakes that pushed her away. I sabotaged a 12-year relationship and although she's moved on, and I've 'moved on' from her as it's been almost 5 months, I am having a hard time forgiving myself. I realize if I do kill myself, the only ones I'm hurting are my family, while she may be sad, she'll move on as she has done. She's no longer her... and it was all my fault, i feel like i 'murdered' my wife. NEVER EVER LISTEN TO FAMILY MEMBERS OR FRIENDS. YOU AND HER ONLY.
Hello from Brazil Dewayne... you have been helping me a lot with your videos. I'm 28 and about to get married and I have a lot of things to improve in order to become a better men. I've never had a strong family to guide me through this thing called "life" as a men. But to my future wife and kids I know that they will need a good men with them so thank you so much! Your advices are the best things to have and it is so easy to understand and only someone with such life experience can pass to generation to generation. Keep in mind that many things that you say here I will pass along to my children in the future. And to prove that you are a blessing for me its that since i've started to follow some of your advices my life keeps getting better and I am more confident with myself. My condolences to you regarding you father's passing. Thank you again!
My mistake was 27 years ago. Its caused me to be excluded from many things i regret not being able to participate in. I regret this daily. I'm finally going to the state to ask for forgiveness to allow me to feel whole again. Ive felt like less of a man and havent been able to forgive myself. I needed to hear this today and will try to move forward with forgiveness.
This is a lesson I needed to hear as a child… I truly am thankful for you sharing this message for those who never had that person to tell them or show them. Thank you ❤️
I am 31 years old and I constantly messed up. I have lied about things I haven’t done to prove that I am a bad ass when I am not. I have done things I am definitely not proud of. I hate myself for being this way. I have tried plenty of times to change and go a different route but I always fall back into the same shti. I pray for forgiveness and guidance but I sometimes feel is not working. Anyways I have deleted all social media. I’m going to give myself 30 days. I’ll continue to work on forgiving myself and just do better. Hope for everyone’s success and happiness.
I know the feeling of what you’re going through. I’m in the same boat with not being honest to be something different or to be afraid of rejection. It’s a daily battle of forgiving yourself and to be a better person for yourself. Will pray for your journey and may God bring you through it. I lost the love of my life due to my lies. So I’m going to make it right with myself and be a better man and hopefully she can forgive me and hopefully we can get back together. If not then I know what I need to do moving forward for now on.
I've only watched a handful of your videos, and I know this might be late in saying this, and I do not know if you'll ever see or read this comment, but I sincerely wanted to say thank you for taking the time out of your day, especially with loss that had experienced to you shortly before making this, of which you have my deep condolences for; because you gave me a lot of perspective on things I have been dealing with. The way you approached it, and how you said it, resonated with me, for that, I truly thank you, and simply wish to express gratitude. By the way, a cigar highly reccomend is Perdomo, if you've never tried one, it's the first cigar I ever tried, and out of all the ones I've tried since then, it's my all time favorite. Keep on truckin', and God bless.
"Do not destroy yourself over a man that no longer exists" Thank you for this.
This could be taken out of context and sounds like we shouldnt grief.
@@hwanniggles187 don't take it out of context. It only gets worse if you don't move on.
Huge!
@@hwanniggles187 why would you take it out of context if the context is there?
@@hwanniggles187 I don't think you understand what he is meaning.
I looked in the mirror and asked myself, Why are you angry all the time?
i'm so happy that you did that. it's hell of realization. i mean just admitting your deep feelings about yourself and your view of the world is one of the hardest things to do, especially when you've been in this state for a long time
Me too. In the past, I let My anger take everything away from me cuz I lack control and I’m not a bad person. But I became prideful and completely lost my identity
Just like myself.....
What did you say back?
What happens when you know why your angry and I have NO control over why it is....
There is no age limits to this advice. I’m 51 and it is exactly what I needed to hear today.
45 and same here. May God bless us all . Thanks for your knowledge and kind words . Very helpful
I’m 19 years old and this man speaks through me. What a beautiful sane soul.
I hope i dont have to live till 51 omg. Im 29 and suffering in poverty. I wish i go to heaven today so god will..
@@redrain-f6pmoment by moment.
What can you do?
What next action can you take, to see a bigger view, more spacious perspective on your life?
Our brains lie sometimes.
Not to minimize what you are going through…however to say, that we can make it through extraordinary circumstances. I have.
I have come out on the other side many times and some of the worst times, propelled me towards my greatest purpose.
You have a purpose…maybe you just can’t see it clearly yet.
Can you contact anyone that can help?
I wish you well 💫
You are right, I am 254 and still needed that
I’m a 16 year old with dyslexia and dyscalculia I lost my mom to suicide and my step dad left I’m living with my grandparents we’re struggling financially I had dropped out of school cause of stress and they’re was just too much for me to handle I was mentally drained but I’m getting right with god spending more time with family and even tho I’m 2 grades behind im gonna finish school
and i thought my life was hard
Proud of you brother i dont even know how are you still continuing everything in yourlife you are strong brother ❤
I believe in you dude. Keep going
Man, that is the proof we all need to continue even when we are at the verge of despair. May God guide and bless you, kiddo! ❤ keep seeking the light, wonderful one!
You got this! You can do it!
"Forgive yourself." The step I've always struggled so much with. Admitting when I'm wrong, owning it, accepting the consequences. Those are things I can do. But stopping my thoughts on it? Forgiving myself? I don't know how to do that. Thank you for even this little bit of thought and pressure to try and be better about that.
I have a hard time accepting consequences. Maybe because ive always tried talking my way out of punishments instead of dealing with the consequences of my actions.
You struggle with it because it isn't possible. You can't forgive yourself unless you think you're God. It isn't your job to forgive yourself. It's your job to confess, repent, and reconcile with the person you signed against. If it was you, then you reconcile with God. He will forgive you through Christ. You aren't supposed to forget. The memory keeps you from doing it again.
Your statement is not true. It doesn’t even make sense. If you can forgive someone else that did wrong, and not be God, how can you not forgive yourself the same way? Yes, God forgives us but we also forgive ourself.
for people confused, drycreekwrangler is referring to the reply made by @@laurenbatson5918pointing out that they're wrong for saying that one cannot forgive oneself, which i agree with. you can always forgive yourself.
I think when we messed up so bad, one of the consequences is live with it for the rest of our lives, wake up with it on our head and rest with it. Even though we know what we did wrong, we accept the consequences, we fight to change as people, and after all that the guilty will never leave us, and that guilty keep us moving away from the thinks we did, guilty is the worst feeling ever, but sometimes the hardest challenges shows us better
This man probably hurting so bad right now, put all his business aside to heal but still takes the time to send a message to help people who not only aren't going through as much as he is right now but also are going through things that are our own fault. Nothing but respect for you.
You know he makes money on this, right? lol
@@Mrgolfboy24so? He could've talked about his own pain. He didn't tho
@@Mrgolfboy24 you know this isn’t his only source of income right? Original comment still stands. He didn’t need to do this but he did, it’s respectable.
@@Mrgolfboy24 bahahahahaha fair point but I stand by what I said
@@mikeknipp8045 Hehe, fair enough :)
Hey Dewayne, I’m a 21 guy in college, feeling lost. Your videos have been a source of support, guidance, and assurance for me. Thank you for all that you do.
Lost how you've got your whole life ahead of you keep your chin up 😉
time to become a real man. Welcome zo the tribe my son
College is not for everyone - maybe try something more practical. Try various jobs if necessary, find out what you like.
go talk to the guidance counselor regarding school issues so you dont waste time getting something that isnt fitting for you
I have a feeling you're going to turn out just fine.
"Do not destroy yourself over a man that no longer exists". You always speak in a language that hits home to me. Thank you.
i messed up by being impulsive, by acting on my feelings and being in a relationship (my first) which hurt me mentally. I have broke up couple months back but that person wasn't letting me go, so I had to make the rude decision today to cut them off permanently from every place, seems like a small story, but for me this has given me a lot of lessons. i need to be working on my traumas and needless to say, not get into relationships, even platonic, so impulsively, i need to understand my own self better, so I will be working on that now. thank you for thus video sir!
I recently went through a breakup. I messed up, I hurt the person I love more than anything. It scares me to think I lost the love of my life.
Same here...
@@Francis-of8cw Hey, mind sharing your story?
me too... I would do anything to have him back and show that I'd never hurt him ever again. He was sent to me straight from heaven and I can only hope I'm given one last chance to put things right. It really is the scariest, most anxious, heart-breaking feeling.
same
@Sykodelik64 I'm so sorry to hear that. I understand the pain of hurting someone you love, it's been 5 months since my breakup and while I have my bad days still where I don't even want to get out of bed it does get better even if at a very slow pace. I still want to change and be a better and more kind person. I know it's hard because some days all you can do is feel guilty and feel like youre a terrible and awful person. Maybe that person will never come back to me to give me a second chance and that's the consequences of my actions I have to bear. Regardless I have to change and believe that life gets better and that I can be better. Anyways sorry for blabbing but I hope that life will be better for you, stay strong.
never knew how precious friendships and relationships were until I lost them. i fucked up real bad and I'm suffering the consequences, this was exactly what I needed to hear rn.
You're like a father some of us never had. Thank you for all you do. Bless you!
Yeah, he is. Love him.
Yes I concur. I never had a father that taught me anything or to even talk to. So I thank you sir so much.
Couldn't agree more; my father stopped visiting 3 years ago, and I missed out on a lot of things I should've learned, but this man has helped me. I still have a long way to go.
Word! My so called father threw me out like garbage when I was quite young. I would have given anything to have a dad like Dewayne. No grandpa or grandma either. Those are huge holes in my life, and another devastating issue that comes along with all this is that my family just doesn’t understand how it has affected my life. It’s extremely hard to talk about so I just bury my feelings and try to learn from folks like Dewayne. Thanks man!
As a former police officer and a pastor…I can’t thank you enough for this.
I messed up. Bad. Forgiving myself is a daily battle.
Everyone messes up. What you do after identifying it as a mess up is what defines you from that point on.
what did you do
@@brunogallego7507bro that’s what I want to know. Cause he was a pastor
Likewise but We can do all things thru Him who strengthens us✝️
@@joesdocsmaybe thats why he is aware of it. Being convicted of out past can be a good thing but like Duane says. Have the damm funeral and burry it. Thats what Im gonna do. Wanna know what I did? What dint I do….
im so grateful ive come across your videos dry creek wrangler, im 17, 18 in two months, thank you for doing what you do pops.
I’m a parent that has lost a child. Forgiving yourself is one of the most difficult things to do. Even if you had nothing to do with what happened to your child, you feel responsible. It gets easier over time to continue, but your never free from the pain that creeps up on birthdays or other dates significant to your loss. You learn to live with it.
I'm sorry for your loss. I've also lost my child this passed year. I understand that feeling of not being able to forgive yourself despite not being at fault.
I know that when something so large effects you the only thing that you can do is make room for it, and I hope you've reached that point. I hope I do too. Us mommas are strong and I hope you never forget that.
Again, my endless condolences to you and yours. Stay strong.
I pray your days are full of joy and grace
Hey Dwayne, needed to hear this more than ever. I've been a alcoholic for 11 years. I ended up slipping in the kitchen and banged my head on the kitchens island and had a seizure. Woke up in the hospital and without hospital treatment my mortality was around 47%. The stories I heard while I was blacked out are just horrible. What it did to my friends and family made me decide to get help. I'm about almost 2 months sober and thankfully my job has been supporting me. I had to stop! It definitely woke my butt up. Everything you mentioned hit close to home and it made me realize even before watching this video a lot of things need to change for the better. One step at a time. Thank you sir
Get yourself a sponsor & work The Steps like your life depended on it. Because it does.
well done sir
Damn same thing happened to me in front of my dad, I slipped and banged my ear on a kitchen chair, split my ear but my dad saw the whole thing happen, looked at me like in a moron and went to bed..
@t u sorry man. I feel ya. My incident was in front of both my parents. Horrible
hope things get better
Hi Dwayne. Sorry for your father. My grandma/mom is in the hospital for heart failure. I’m 27. There is some mistakes I have made that I haven’t moved past. This video was so spot on, and as a female, thank you. We have to face the consequences of the problems we caused. “I did it. I am sorry.” Thank you for your videos, and I send you hugs and comfort.
Hugs to both a y'all 🕊️
@@zanewalsh1812 thank you!!
Man, this feels exactly like sitting down and having a talk about life with my grandpa before he passed. Thank you for letting me relive this feeling.
I broke a girls heart for being stupid and regretting it every day, I broke a promise about drinking and now I’m getting out of my house and I know I fell heartbroken and unwanted but I know now I need to become better thank you Dwayne
I relate
If I only was you bro. I'm almost 19 and I never felt how holding hands with a girl feels lol. Idk but no girl ever looked at me only a 1-3 failed talking stages cus idk maybe I'm I'm a fucked up guy with fucked up intentions idk to be honest but bro you are different a girl was-is interested at you and broke her heart man I hope you doin good now bro all the best
I got 3Fs and fucked up my GPA. I still don’t know what I want to do with my life and I’m 21. I’m not school smart or street smart. I don’t have any skills or motivation. I’m just exhausted and trying to survive this mind. I feel like I went the wrong way and I’m hoping I can find a way to feel better soon.
My friend, you are a smart, hard working human being and we all fail, its a pert of the process, take a step back and see what you can improve on even if it means that you need to get help from someone, keep pushing, keep working and pray, everything is gonna be alright ok?, take care!!
This earth is a laboratory some good some bad. Forgive yourself.
@@JustMe-ki3ce what service?
@@EveryonesUA-cam100 the military
im in a similar position, ive been trying to pick up the pieces and ive been doing better but still stumbling every now and then. i dont know exactly your poisition or why youre failing but for me it was lack of motivation constantly going back and forth from staying on top of my schoolwork and studying and overall just trying to put my best effort forward to just doing the absolute bare minimum to get by because it feels like whats the use ive already dug this far into the pit im stuck in theres no way out. some of the things i learned that helped was to stop waiting for things to get better life is inherently suffering and if you just aim to hold out and survive long enough for a miracle itll never happen. all you can really do is focus on doing as much as possible to make life better and easier for you tomorrow. to succeed and continue. and instead of looking at mistakes as just a sign of your own failure as a person its just a mistake yes you mightve messed up or some other factors involved but that doesnt mean youre doomed to be that specific way, all that youre doing is focusing on the one failure out of all the other successes which makes you feel like shit and even less motivated to really try. hope theres something useful in here for you and that your situation gets better.
This man must be protected at all costs.
this man does not need protection, this man provides his own protection
This man is trying to protect all of us.
Yes, Operation Human Shield is a GO
I'm pretty sure he can handle situations himself 😂 not sure how much his UA-cam subscribers can protect him.
It's been feeling like it's too late for me on several things in my life. Thanks Dewayne. Sincere condolences for your dad's passing.
It’s never to late. I’ve been through some very rough storms in my life as well. But since I gave my life over to Jesus Christ my life totally changed for the better. There’s nothing better than having peace joy and happiness now. Not that I still go through storms but I have Jesus to help me through those storms these storms are defeated because I have Jesus on my side guiding me through each and every one of them. I’ll be praying for you
Its newer to late if you are still breathing. One choice at the time
It might be. It might not be. You’ll never know if you don’t go for it
Cheated on my ex gf and she found out. Broke up with me immediately. It's the worst mistake of my life and it's been the most painful experience I've ever gone through. Fellas believe me when I tell you that if you have a good thing going with someone you love and you're getting a little restless check yourself real f'n quick. YOU WILL REGRET IT AND YOU WILL PAY THE PRICE. Tell your girl you love her and be greatful you have someone who loves you.
I’ve never had a male figure in my life. I’ve always had to figure stuff out on my own. These videos tug at my heart in ways I can’t describe. Thank you from the bottom of my heart
nah fr
I want so badly to be a man who can have these kinds of talks with the young men around me so they don't have to live such a confused life like I have. It takes time though. You really gotta work at being humble and knowing yourself to be able to speak like this and not have it sound like you're talking out your ass.
@@Jeebus-un6zz I've heard that being a man of your word makes a big difference in personal development.
Sometimes I find guys (Like this one) to listen to. One guy's channel I've been listening to months ago collects scrap metal and I found his voice and inner dialog to be of comfort and wisdom.
same bro same. always feeling not man enough. i got you
I needed to hear this. I did something phenomeonally stupid while under the influence of drugs. Its eating at me. Ive been struggling with addiction for over a decade and finally got clean over a year ago. Then I relapsed and did something i would have never, ever done in my sober mind. I know the only way I can potentially get past it is to get and stay sober. I have to do this.
Become a better man. It's not the end of the world. Thank you, sir. I needed this. Thank you.
Hi man how are things
Hope things are better man
Very sorry for your loss. Your videos (and Momma's) have been a tremendous source of inspiration and comfort for me in recent months. I concur with all of the commenters saying, please take your time to heal and get caught up with your awesome projects, and we'll be patiently waiting for whatever you have coming. Thank you kindly for taking the time to share your Godly wisdom and love with the world. I see what you're doing as a ministry and I pray that it will continue to be as fruitful as ever for you guys.
Hey DeWayne. I lost my father in October at the age of 22. He was 61. It's the hardest thing to lose a parent. Listening to you is like listening to him. Safe, secure, solid and protected, and at ease with himself and with the world. He was a great man and a great dad. The love never dies ❤
🙏
Stay strong. Be encouraged
Mine died when I was 15. Im 33 now. If I saw him face to face right now, Id beat the shit out of him. His death caused my family so much pain. I hate him for it.
My father just passed, I’m sitting in his home which I guess is technically mine now. It’s hard not thinking about a lifetime of regret growing up. Thanks for the video and some insight.
I lost my mom at 14 and my dad is all I have left. I’m praying for you 🙏 may God bless you & your family abundantly my friend ✌️ 🖤
I’m 26 years old and in grad school. I’ve been negligent towards an assignment, and as a result I’m probably going to fail a class. I’m having a meeting with some of my professors about it this week. I’ve been sick to my stomach and full of anxiety, but your videos have been giving me the courage to face my mistake with integrity. Thank you
That's really impressive nonetheless. Good luck with your exams
I’m a woman from uk 32, and I rely on this dude for life advice. Thank you. Thought u might be interested to know some of the weird corners of your demographic.
I recently just managed to blow up my whole life during a massive depression and lose a ten year friendship. Had just finally started (one taster appointment) treatment for mental health but now I have no one in my life. It seems early and chronic life long trauma may have caused a personality disorder and other stuff that I didn’t even know I had, if I do (undiagnosed).
I also live in the middle of nowhere with no car or money so your attitude towards country life really helps me accept my unusual situation and ur wisdom appearing today thanks to the algorithm, may have just saved my life today. Thank u.
Also a woman here, 24 years old, and it always seems like I find his videos when I need them most
I also just started therapy and everything went topside! Wishing you the best and hope things are looking up for you. Love and light ☀️
Hope you are doing better now, I'm 32 and in the UK a well but in Manchester, would love to live in the country.
How’s it going DeWayne! Just want to say you gave me the courage to pursue the ranching life and eventually I will work towards becoming a wrangler. I retired from truck driving and I’m currently earning my keep working as a ranch hand. It’s been tough getting used to physical work again but it feels good at the end of the day. Thank you!
Hey Dewayne, I'm a 16 year old porn addict and I've been that way ever since I was 8 years old. The last couple of months, I've been feeling kind of lost in life. Your videos really help me get into better mental shape, including this one. This video made me realise that I should own my mistake of letting myself get addicted and that I should own the mistake I made in order for me to be able to overcome this addiction. May your father rest easily, for he made you into a great man. I thank you from the bottom of my heart and I am forever grateful for the guidance you give to me.
I really pray that you can find help thru Jesus Christ..porn had me too for a long time as a grown man. It will mentally & physically affect you in a very bad way. Please resist at all times.
wow. that's impressive you're willing to admit that. Hopefully you got the help that you needed. I would imagine you are a leg up on your peers, you will all discover that alcohol and drugs will be around you soon if not already. If you ever start indulging in those things, remember what you've been through to fight addiction. it can hold true against other crutches. Good luck to you young man.
Much respect to you, I know that this is a hard one to acknowledge, even to oneself. I hope you will get new interests, something to pour yourself into, unapologetically. I was from 11 until 20, starting university. In many ways there's another world, that at least I can't blame myself through that for the things I fail, sometimes. But the hardest was to realize how I saw myself, and connect to something more important. You are well on your way, relax man.
@@alexbalint8718 well put. Hoping he reads these comments. All the best to you as well
wow i actually teared up a lil bit reading this cus ive had the same problem. it helps to know that someone else understands. stay strong my dude. thank you for sharing your experience 🤗
Really needed to hear this, Dewayne. I really messed up bad about 3 months ago. I apologized profusely for it, I owned it from the start, I was honest from the start... But I still can't forgive myself and that's the hardest part. Hurting someone that means the world to you is the absolute worst feeling in the world. There is redemption for sinners, even the worst of us, but damn it's hard to let go of that regret and grief. Knowing you've hurt one of the sweetest people in the world with your own ignorance and sin. I'll try to learn to forgive myself. Thank you for this video and God bless you and yours. And my condolences for your loss.
Thank you Dewayne. I have owned it and forgiven myself was the hardest part. I'm living my life for the lord now and happy as I've ever been. Im truly sorry for your loss.
@AdolfHitler-wo1my It's a bit personal. But I broke the trust of someone I love and it caused irreconcilable damage to the relationship. Satan whispers sweet sounding words into your ear if you let him, and it's best to flee from the temptations that will later cause us much grief and suffering.
@@imover9999my advice is let her go, and break up cuz it's not going to work anymore, move on. I'm 51 and done it before
@@nightowl6811 I appreciate the wisdom and advice. Honestly you're probably right. As painful as it is. Gotta focus on God and bettering myself and someone else will come into my life. Thank you for the harsh truth. Can only come from someone else who's been through it.
@imover9999 I messed things up pretty badly. He's just to nice I can't let him go and just keep forcing and begging him to not leave me. I know I just can't move on from him, he said God will guide us and time will tell. I just know that he's the one for me and he loved me so much. It's been two months we're still talking, things got better even though he said he don't want to get back together yet, but yesterday the emotions got the best of him and told me that he need to leave to be happy and that even if he stay he won't love me the same, but I know if we just give it time everything will eventually fall into place or I don't know I'm just crazy. I just can't do this anymore
Any advice please?
Got my first DWI, Im terrified, ashamed, and cant even begin to forgive myself. It was a terrible mistake and I thank God no one was hurt. I really needed this, thank you.
I’ve made my mistake, a moment of blindness n ignorance in the midst of grief and mess. No excuse I triggered somebody I love into not wanting me - understandably. I don’t know how to release that and move on, and forgive myself. I know it was a gross oversight on my part, I’m trying so hard to be a good person. Idk how to shake this weight. I’ve made my amends, I know I’m changing and I will learn this lesson. Thank you for this video. Thank you
Sorry to hear about your Dad DeWayne. Take your time. My biggest mess up in my 58 years of life was getting caught shoplifting at 17. I went to face my Father to own up to what I did. I got the worst punishment anyone could get. Dad said "I am disappointed in you". That has stuck with me all my life. Those 5 words from my Father changed my life.
Those five words left a lasting impression on my life aswell….followed by that dreaded nothing being said any further
Same thing happened to me at 17. One of the greatest things to ever happen to me was my dad letting me know I was a loser at that point in my life
Sounds like you broke the first three rules of shoplifting. They call it petty theft, but you got a life lesson out of it so I'd say you more than broke even. Be good or be good at it.
Thank you I needed this, my drinking and drug use cost me my marriage and most of my friends. I've been trying to get better and today I've been 4 months sober 🙏
Congrats!!!
Stick with the winners.
One day at a time brother, stay strong.
Same here. We can do it.😮
Watching this from Russia.
Kinda tough times we have here.
These videos make me feel alive.
Thank you, grandpa
Keep being strong ,everybody, we all will make it.
That sucks man. Hope u can survive
Wishing you well from the States, shame how the world works. Stay safe my friend
we in this together bro, dw, stay strong
I have visited your country only once. I wish you well. People are good but evil exists in the lies of certain neocons in govt. The good news is that more and more of us are starting to figure out the mainstream media as well as many politicians can never be trusted in the USA and other western nations.
When Sam Elliott in “ we where soldiers “ said
Any of you boys call me grandpa I’ll kill you 😂
I'm struggling so hard to forgive myself. I felt emotionally hurt by my partner and so I emotionally hurt him, not on purpose, but as a result of my being upset-- that hurt him. And he broke up with me because of it. And I can't forgive myself. I wasn't loving enough, I wasn't caring enough, and I didn't realize how much I was lacking until he showed me the door. And I begged for him to let me prove to him how much I really understood now, what I needed to do. But he said it was too late. And I can't forgive myself for losing someone that was so precious to me. He was my entire world. People keep saying that I will meet someone else but I don't want anyone else, I just want him.
I'm going through the same thing. It's very hard for me to find someone that matches my energy but when I met her it was as if we were Adam and Eve. She knew everything I liked without me having to open my mouth and I felt something I could not explain. She was busy all the time and I tried to keep telling myself to let her do her thing but three weeks had past without her finding time to see me and I stupidly allowed my insecurities to shine through and question it in a sarcastic and way that I'm ashamed of acting. I wasn't nasty as such but I let myself down. My contant wanting destroyed me, I'd do anything now just to see her for an hour a month if I could. 😢 Ontop of that it seemed like the universe was throwing everything in my path to cause a reaction or bring out the worst in me, and I failed to deal with those things. I feel like a major failure now and I don't really know how to address it. All I can say is focus on yourself instead of them and by improving yourself for yourself. I'm determined to make myself better, get my own place, get a better job and I pray by that point she's less busy and can find it in her heart to forgive me and find time for me again 🙏
@@ravereviews6853hey !! It’s completely normal human reaction that u felt frustrated because ur gf wasn’t texting for a week. I’m here to tell u that nobody is too busy to send one message that takes a second.
Jesus heals 💗
@@KaylaMarieHartYou don't need religion to heal or forgive yourself
I've been living in financial anguish, health issues and a lot insecurities and regrets at age 25. I'm starting a new job soon and I'm working on turning it around, and hopefully doing so without missing too many bills. God is good to me and I can't stay worried for too long without realizing that it's just a season and it's not my lot in life. Thank you for these talks, Dewayne. And thank you to the rest of you in these comments who share your stories.
Dustin your so guy I hope ya can shake the funk off ..I know it’s not easy … I’m 66 and having start life over again .. with out anger !! But I’ve got a little hope today !!
Start bodybuilding
@@jasonclever4592shut up my god that’s the only ape advice y’all give
Hi Dewayne,
Just wanted to let you know that your videos and podcasts have really helped me through some dark times recently. I’ve been watching for a little over a year now and have started eating healthier, exercising regularly, reading, breaking bad habits, attending church, and seeking mental health. You remind me of my grandpa who lived in Montana that I didn’t get to spend much time with. Thanks for giving young men advice and the truth that we need to hear. Keep up the good work!
I just stumbled on this channel, this is the first video I've seen. I needed this SO badly today, what a gift from the universe 😭
Sorry to hear about your dad Dewayne . He left a hell of a legacy behind in you . Your his will of fire. And you’ve helped me find my will of fire . I grew up without my pops in the picture and I never had any good male role models in my life . until I stumbled onto your channel . Some of your advice has put 20 years ahead of the curb of the guys around me and I don’t gate keep your content i put ‘em on .and I’m only 23 but I feel like I’ve been taught a lot from you.Thanks for being such a father figure to everyone who didn’t have one . Thank you ,Appreciate you , and love you sending prayers yours and mommas way ❤
Chariot of fire
Forgiving myself is something I don't understand how to do.
I hope that you'll have some peace with yourself.
Just lost my dad on the fourth and did something regrettable this helped a lot thank you for your words
I’m terribly sorry to hear of your father, Dewayne. You take all the time you need. You don’t have to explain yourself too swiftly. Take care of yourself!
I don't comment very often, no matter the video nor the channel, but in this occasion I felt the need of giving you my deepest condolences. Very sorry for your loss Dwayne. Greetings from Spain.
I’m 21 years old struggling with alcoholism the past several weekends I have gotten drunk and acted a fool and thinking abt it has made me very ashamed. This video really just lifted me up and I appreciate you a lot. God bless you.
my brother you are blessed, don't quit we support what you do
Man youre going to realize that alcohol is a poison. Ive almost drank myself to death a few times in the past couple of years. Ive woken up in my own piss and just fallen back asleep. Stay away from Porn and alcohol and you will be way better off.
I'm 50 and did lots of stupid things and lost lots of friends family girlfriends friends etc etc. Believe me it was really bad but now I get to start fresh new beginning at 50. New friends new business partners, new girlfriends! Nobody is innocent not even our parents
the hardest part is thinking “how am i even gonna have fun if i can’t drink” i’m still trying to get past this
Hey man, I'm the same age same problem. About 7 months ago I missed work because I was still drunk and drinking the next morning. Puking. That was my moment for me, on my mom's floor, in my own throwup at 6am calling my boss. Now I tell you this, because 7 months later I don't drink, even when I crack a beer to enjoy with my meal. I can't finish it. Because, now I live on my own. Have a girlfriend who loves me, and a goof job making 8$ an hour more than I was before. I'm in control of my desires. It took a really tough spot to show me that I needed to stop.
I hope seeing someone the same age come through it on top shows you that you can do it before a tragedy shows you you have to change. I believe in you brother. You got this
Thank you. This saved me and really cleared my thoughts. Messed up. Admitted and after that she left me. I have been recovering since, it's been 6 months. Hardest times of my life so far. Forgiving myself has been the hardest part. I'm taking it one day at a time. Trying to be a better man. Thanks again. Greetings from Finland.
And how are you doing now? It's been about 10 months at this point, yes?
I hope you're healing, and I hope that you get a second chance with her one day.
I’m listening to your videos everyday now, they’ve helped me. I got on my knees and prayed to god to give me guidance , and you were the one he sent to me. Thank you for everything you do.
As always fantastic and grounded advice for a younger generation that needs it. My condolences on your father as well
This video seemed to come up at the best time for me. I’m struggling, losing myself. Wondering where to start or restart. And this has given me some foundation to grip onto. From a man that’s falling down, thank you sir! Thank you!
Same here
Start from where you are. Make your bed, tidy your room and take aim at something good in your life.
You can be better. Life can be better. This too shall pass.
God loves you.
Sameeee bro
You always inspire me to be a better man with your wisdom and i always feel better after watching your videos. This one arrived on my feed just at the right moment as if it was some kind of intervention. Thank you for everything you do, you're very much loved and appreciated by myself and so many others around the world.
One of the most helpful talks I've heard in my life. I've carried out owning my mistake to become a better, new self. I am never doing what I did again. I changed for me, and for everyone I care for. Forgiving myself and moving forward. God bless you. You've done so many of us a great service with your generous advice.
11:14 Gold! You're hurting and grieving, DeWayne, but you're "manning up" and moving on. I lost my father a bit over a year ago. I'll never be the man he (James "Jim" Lucas) was. He was my hero and I miss him dearly. Your wisdom and good nature is father like to me and much appreciated. I'm an adult but still learning and growing. I wish you and your family peace and all the best in this tough time. Your Dad must have been one awesome cowboy I'll bet!
You helped me sir. I'm going through a very tough time constantly battling bad and dark thoughts about myself and others. It's a cycle of anger, sadness and loneliness catalyzed by a breakup and heartbreak.
I messed up, big time. And now i am paying for it by being reminded of how unacceptable i've always been, and how alone i really am especially when relying on my family.
You are a light in the dark for me, and one of the only people who can help me cry and work through what i'm feeling.
I hope you and your family are OK and my condolences to you regarding your father. He has raised a true man with a heart so big it can touch someone like me, across the planet.
Much love, and will keep you in my prayers.
Keep the chin up 😉. I've been true it all.
God bless you
Like the man said,if you mess up,,,,own it,,(and it sounds like you did),, now forgive yourself ,,,, don't be the man today that you were yesterday!😉 Keep your chin up man and know your not alone.🙏
Sounds like you're on the right path
It will be tough. When I said I went through hell. Believe me. People are scared of me..yet my 8 yr old son throughs his arms around me. Never quit.
You always upload at the perfect time Mr. Dewayne. Sorry to hear about your father, may he Rest in Power.
I just lost 1000 days of sobriety to drug abuse. Now recovering at home, doing my best to not end myself. This helped. Thanks man.
Thank you sir for the way you’re helping. Love from india 🇮🇳
I'm so sorry for your loss. The man he raised tells us a lot about who your father was as a person. Now you can keep his spirit alive by spreading the wisdom he gave to you. You are in my thoughts and prayers as is your family.
My sincere condolences Dwayne, my prayers go out to you and your family. Thank you for being the light in the world for so many people, you don’t know just how much of an impact you made. You’re a blessing to so many struggling individuals, including myself. Thank you!
Your advice eases my struggles with self-forgiveness. Thank you.
My father commit suicide in 2020 when I was twenty five years old. I’m glad you got thirty more years of your father’s wisdom and friendship. I know you know he’s resting easy now, but that doesn’t make it any easier necessarily. Appreciate your channel and you sharing this part of your life with us.
I’m sorry man
Lost my father the same way in June last year when I was 22 years old, I know how you feel.
Needed to hear this, So sorry to hear about your dad Dewayne praying for you and your family in this time of mourning. My wife and I listen in regularly and your and mamas words have been a been a huge encouragement to our relationship to others and to our marriage. Going through the same thing with you my wife’s younger brother just unexpectedly passed on the 22nd and we buried him on the 27th. Poor kid was only 23. I hate it happened but I’m glad to have grounded was in the words that God gives and the words of encouragement that you speak on.
Much love brother,
Johnny & Lauren
So sorry to hear about your dad Dewayne , lost my dad a couple years back its not easy. All my best to you and your family
Wo-man here, thank you for your time when you are going through a tough time.
Your encouragement is a blessing, thank you 🙏🇦🇺
“Nothing will destroy you more than not forgiving yourself” I appreciate these precious words, Thank you
Dwayne, I had a very distant father growing up and he basically didn’t teach me shit. Thanks for these words every man needs to hear at some point. Very helpful, thanks again
I extend my condolences to you and your family Dewayne. I went through the same scenario with my Dad several years ago. They were trying days all by themselves so cut yourself a little slack and let the grieving process also heal this loss instead of burying it in busyness. I’ll be praying for you brother. This video is a good and an introspective one, as usual!
Hey Dwane. Your videos have made me into a better man and has helped me grow up. I’m sorry for your loss. No matter how strong a man is, the loss of a father brings anyone to tears
Let me start of with my condolences. I lost someone close to me recently as well. Saying goodbye was very hard. Now, on the topic, thank you so much for this video. I needed to hear this. I have made a ton of mistakes and have been struggling with them. The past 10 years (I'll be 33 in December) has been full of very terrible choices. Deliberate or not. Up until about 6 years ago, I made absolutely no effort to "man up" to any of it. I deliberately chose to be that person even if it meant hurting others and myself. Finally, in the last 5 years, I have made it an every day goal to improve and try to move on from all of it. This past week was hard. Losing a loved one reopened some stuff and get me dwelling on it all. I am extremely grateful to have stumbled upon this video because I needed to hear that talk. For what it's worth, I will continue to keep pushing and keep working on making things right because I still have a long road to go before things are right again. Thank you.
I messed up this past weekend, went on a binge and I really want to get help and change.
Thanks for this sir.
I have failed myself in last 4 years of my life. Gonna be better, I believe. Must be better.
Thank you for this video!
Thank you for this video Sir, I didn't think I needed to hear it quite as much as I ended up actually needing to hear it. Sorry for your loss brother.
Thank you for this. I tried to justify hiding cheating and finally did the right thing and told her. We are no longer together and that is the best thing for both of us. If you're in my situation, I'd recommend owning it and taking it as a sign to be better. I'm working on not dwelling on memories and good times because that's unnecessary pain. Its my fault, but I don't want to make myself suffer further. Time will heal and being honest allowed that process to start. Hope you all are well too.
In the same boat brother, feeling alone but it helps other men are going through it
@@gageparent9189 it's been about 2 weeks now and being secure and focused while feeling alone at times is getting more consistent for me. Handling the feeling and settling back into the groove of truly focusing on myself, my family and friends. Best to you man
Me too guys it happened last week same exact situation. It’s so hard sometimes I think it’s long gone at this point.
@@connorm.6253 honestly bro go get outside, hit up your old friends, go get a haircut, figure out what your goals are bro, and don’t worry about girls right now, times will be tough, sit and cry until you can’t anymore, then pick yourself up and move on, you gotta become a better man to have a chance of getting her back , as long as you’re doing the right things you’ll feel good man, it’s been hard I feel that but journaling, lots of exercise, sleep, and staying off my phone some has been making this a lot better
@@connorm.6253 bro focus on all the stuff you knew in your gut wasn't right about her and the overall situation. Its has helped me to focus on the real negatives. Going no contact and really moving on has been the move
I’m sorry for your loss, Dwayne. May your dad rest in peace. God bless.
Thank you! I got home from rehab yesterday, and I find your words very helpful and encouraging. My guy!
“Apologize to yourself”
Damnit Dwayne you got me tearing up. I was an awful drunk and “apologized” so many times. But I had to get sober.. not just booze but my anger issues to.
Taken me a long long time to apologize to myself.. it’s a good feeling I won’t lie. These days I really cherish every moment I have with my loved especially, especially my wife and daughter.
Thanks again sir.
Thank you, brother. I've been torturing myself for years over the past. I felt like I couldn't move on anymore. I was unforgivable. Your words gave me what I needed. I can't change it, but I CAN move on. That's what'll help me survive to see a better tomorrow. Will it be a better tomorrow? I used to think not, but with the past behind me, all I see is hope in my future, finally. Bless you, my friend. May God watch over you during this really tough time. Stay strong. You're needed in this world, brother 🙏
I'm 21, My wrong actions ended my 8 year relationship and I've broken her trust many times. I feel like a piece of shit i wanna be better so i can take her back someday..
You’re one awesome person with great advice. I raised two boys of my own, and they turned out to be really good men. I think it’s great that you’re reaching out to these young men and women who may not have the parental support or parents in their lives. Thank you for what you do. You are a Godsend, in a decaying and moral less society.
What do you know about morals?
This Man is like a dad I never had (mine died when I was 11 years old and now I'm 20).
Wow, just wow DeWayne! This video is hands down the best and most important one I’ve yet to watch. I am 69 yrs old and I gotta say this one is a huge nugget of truth surrounded by pearls of lost wisdom. From my perspective I can peer back at my life and see the mess ups. While I owned up to them (as you said you have to own them to go forward) quite a few I never forgave myself for. So even I at my age gained wisdom.
I lost my 84 yr old dad 9 yrs ago, he passed peacefully in my house surrounded by his family. It was my first death of immediate family and quite surreal. I’m an old Marine and now and then I still cry at the fond memories.
DeWayne I hope you continue with these vids, you have no idea how many young, rudderless men are getting helped by your easy delivery of wisdom. I can see where you could eventually be called America’s father, if ever there was a time for you it is NOW sir!
Hi Dwayne!! Just saying thanks!! You and your wife are a huge help keep it going we love you!! God bless your family…❤❤❤ 🌖 and back Jess…
I messed up at work last week, with big consequenses. I did my best to make it as right as I possibly could and take responsibility for my actions. But forgiving myself is hard. Your video helped me a lot. Thank you.
Omg I know the feeling..😩😩😩😩
I didn't realize that this video was gonna start out like this, I lost my grandmother at 91 on the 28th. It's crazy how small the world is. Hopefully, I can learn something today when I get to watch this fully, but right now, life is busy, and now I'm missing my Nana. Appreciate all you do.
I lost my when I was 18. We was very close
As someone who’s recently lost his grandfather in the late summer of 2022 I went through the same situation and I love to share story’s and the tales of my grandpa to everyone I know and just as he use to tell tales and share his life’s stories with everyone he met, to me it’s not focusing on them being gone it’s remembering the life they lived and all the memories of things you learned and loved about that person. God bless
I did wrong and there is no making it right. There is only moving on, and not making those mistakes again. This was useful.
In a world wrought with absent fathers you’ve been a blessing for me and I’m sure many others. Thank you ❤
So very sorry to hear about your family’s loss Dwayne. I am sure that your father’s heart was overfilled with pride and joy at seeing the truly extraordinary man that you have become. (Couldn’t imagine losing my Dad and doubt I would be as strong as you under similar circumstances.)
So sorry to hear about your Pa, DeWayne. It’s never an easy time for even the most enlightened folks when loved ones move on. Please accept my sincerest prayers for peace and comfort to you and your family. The bits I’ve learned about you leave no doubt that he was a fine man. 👊🏻
I made too many mistakes and I lost her... forever. I then made even more mistakes that pushed her away. I sabotaged a 12-year relationship and although she's moved on, and I've 'moved on' from her as it's been almost 5 months, I am having a hard time forgiving myself. I realize if I do kill myself, the only ones I'm hurting are my family, while she may be sad, she'll move on as she has done. She's no longer her... and it was all my fault, i feel like i 'murdered' my wife. NEVER EVER LISTEN TO FAMILY MEMBERS OR FRIENDS. YOU AND HER ONLY.
So sorry to hear about your dad. Much love prayers and respect to you and your family. Thanks for everything you do.🙏
I prayed this morning for help and this video appeared on my channel. You have no idea how much i needed this. Thank you.
Hello from Brazil Dewayne... you have been helping me a lot with your videos. I'm 28 and about to get married and I have a lot of things to improve in order to become a better men. I've never had a strong family to guide me through this thing called "life" as a men. But to my future wife and kids I know that they will need a good men with them so thank you so much! Your advices are the best things to have and it is so easy to understand and only someone with such life experience can pass to generation to generation. Keep in mind that many things that you say here I will pass along to my children in the future. And to prove that you are a blessing for me its that since i've started to follow some of your advices my life keeps getting better and I am more confident with myself. My condolences to you regarding you father's passing. Thank you again!
You got this bruno
RIP to your father.
This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear today.
Love from CA
My mistake was 27 years ago. Its caused me to be excluded from many things i regret not being able to participate in. I regret this daily. I'm finally going to the state to ask for forgiveness to allow me to feel whole again. Ive felt like less of a man and havent been able to forgive myself. I needed to hear this today and will try to move forward with forgiveness.
This is a lesson I needed to hear as a child… I truly am thankful for you sharing this message for those who never had that person to tell them or show them. Thank you ❤️
So sorry for your loss, Dwayne. My condolences to you and your family
I am 31 years old and I constantly messed up. I have lied about things I haven’t done to prove that I am a bad ass when I am not. I have done things I am definitely not proud of. I hate myself for being this way. I have tried plenty of times to change and go a different route but I always fall back into the same shti. I pray for forgiveness and guidance but I sometimes feel is not working. Anyways I have deleted all social media. I’m going to give myself 30 days. I’ll continue to work on forgiving myself and just do better. Hope for everyone’s success and happiness.
I know the feeling of what you’re going through. I’m in the same boat with not being honest to be something different or to be afraid of rejection. It’s a daily battle of forgiving yourself and to be a better person for yourself. Will pray for your journey and may God bring you through it. I lost the love of my life due to my lies. So I’m going to make it right with myself and be a better man and hopefully she can forgive me and hopefully we can get back together. If not then I know what I need to do moving forward for now on.
@@trev8280thank you brother I’ll be praying for your journey as well. God bless you.
I've only watched a handful of your videos, and I know this might be late in saying this, and I do not know if you'll ever see or read this comment, but I sincerely wanted to say thank you for taking the time out of your day, especially with loss that had experienced to you shortly before making this, of which you have my deep condolences for; because you gave me a lot of perspective on things I have been dealing with.
The way you approached it, and how you said it, resonated with me, for that, I truly thank you, and simply wish to express gratitude.
By the way, a cigar highly reccomend is Perdomo, if you've never tried one, it's the first cigar I ever tried, and out of all the ones I've tried since then, it's my all time favorite.
Keep on truckin', and God bless.