Hey guys thanks for all your support!!! And thanks for the birthday wishes. I addressed concerns down below (for my detractors) 1.) I understand why you are defensive in the comment section. But the truth hurts, I won’t be apologizing or changing my stance 2.) I can tell a lot of yall didn’t watch the full video or heard what you wanted to hear because I said “non- textured weaves” so many times 3. I won’t be responding to your paragraphs in the comment section Wish you the best on this journey!! Thank you for you interest on the topic. Thank you to all my supporters. I will have natural hair representation in all videos and more content to come ❤
Exactly! And it’s a unique style for them! We should celebrate our futures instead of trying to look like someone else’s. This can go for anyone-whatever race. We can acknowledge others beautiful features-but it doesn’t mean we have to cover ours. It’s really hard to find black girl makeup videos that aren’t SUPER glamorous on UA-cam T>T There is like 4 that I could find, and I dont have insta or ticktock
I've been a natural from birth, never relaxed, never wore a buss down. I have self h8ing black women at work, tell me i NEED a, i quote "a 30 inch buss town" while she caresses the hair hat on her head. Im shamed or looked at weird for having natural hair while im drowning in a sea of wigs, constantly telling me i "need" a wig Thank God i grew up with positive reinforcement of my hair from my family and community in my home country, if i didnt have that base, i would of given in. Proud Narural Hair for LIFE!
I grew up the same way, however I’ve tried relaxers for 3 years (huge set back). I’m back to my natural hair and it’s obviously better. I don’t like straight hair on myself because I have lower density & fine hair. I have tried a sew-in weave, I hated it (you don’t have access to your scalp and it’s heavy/bulky feeling). I don’t recommend it at all. Don’t let peoples comments change your views. Covering up our natural beauty only leads to more problems down the road. Be a great example of natural harmonious beauty.
You've been very lucky to have such a positive mindset from the get-go. Black men don't have the same pressure to have straight hair now. But early black male entertainers historically used to try and grease down their hair to look like their white counterparts.
White boomer lady here . I grew up in an integrated school . In grade school the black girls had straightened hair , some natural . In the 60’s , there was a move to going natural with the Black Pride movement . My yearbook is full of photos of the prettiest young black women with natural hair . No disrespect but I have always felt that black women were doing themselves no favors with all of these unnatural wigs . You can’t help but shine in your natural hair .
I graduated in 1974 and we wore natural hair. I've worn it most of my life and never wore wigs or even braids. I've had Sister locks for about 4-5 years now. I think natural hair is most flattering for women in general.
@@pureceeparisI have sisterlocks too, for the last 5 years. Love my hair. I went through the phase of wearing wigs, half wigs, and weaves. When I look back on my pictures from that time, it looks like I had a piece of carpet on me. Looks like something is just sitting on my head. This young lady’s channel is on to something.
Idk why this video came on my feed, but I agree. I've always loved my mixed son's hair. We all have our own unique features & I hate to think of anyone feeling bad about their natural hair or spending ridic amounts of $$$ to cover it up.
@@AminaPhilosophythe phrase is trying to be poignant by using repetition. It doesn’t make sense because both are true; “The kinks we need to remove are in our minds, not our hair” would deliver the point better.
AND it's unique. That alone makes us stand out from the sea of bleach blonde bad built butch bodies sporting Uggs & Stanley cups. We don't look BASIC. Natural hair is one of the easiest cheat codes.
I actually think the natural hair to wig pipeline is more apparent. Relaxed women tend to just rock a ponytail etc. a lot of these ladies that wear wigs are natural underneath but still haven't accepted their natural hair texture and tell themselves it's a 'protective style.'
@@user-dv3kq3rm4h You missed my point. Wigs rose in popularity around the same time women stopped using relaxers. Instead of wearing and embracing their newfound natural hair after their big chops, they opted for wigs. I am confident that most of these women wearing wigs as a 'pRoTeCTiVe sTyLe' are ex-relaxer users.
I agree with your statement. My hair was at the middle of my back when I big-chopped at age 50. It was about 1-2 inches long after the chop. My experience with relaxers had started @age 8, so I was unfamiliar with my hair texture and my hair had never been that short before. I wore a wig as a way to slowly get used to my hair being gone because the change had been so drastic. Today, I rock my little ringlets and I love the attention and compliments I get. No going back!
I recall years ago i work in corporate America and during a meeting a young lady behind me took it upon herself to make fun of my natural hair texture. I could hear her whispering and giggling with her friends. I think she even took a l picture. She was very light skinned with long hair. I am light brown with very tightly coiled hair. Never been, never will be ashamed of being black.
@@Mimi-ht6xr Don't blame her for shutting down. That was probably a trauma response. Many would be mortified if that happened to them and not everyone has the courage to speak up, especially when the other person had her mean girl friends as back up.
@@user-dv3kq3rm4h any type of hair not styled properly or well taken care of looks like trash. I've noticed that most times, when BW complain about these kinds of issues, it's mostly because of the way they choose to present their hair, it's not necessarily a problem with Type 4 hair
You are speaking absolute facts❤ I recently just turned 22 and I have fully embraced my natural hair. I love it, but I wasn't always at that point in my life. I hid my hair in braids, wigs, and weaves for years. It was only when a perm finally broke my hair off that I decided to make a change. I'm so happy we're acknowledging that alot of the self hate is actually developed by us. I can remember my mom asking did I really want to walk outside looking like "that" when I wore my hair naturally. But now, after 3 years, she's gone natural too! If we actively make the change, everyone else will follow!
My mom made those comments as well. At first it used to hurt my feelings, but I realized the generation she's coming from. I don't blame her. But, now that I've learned to style it and it's grown, she's coming around more and being more kind in complimenting me.
Yay!! Experienced this in the airport with my dad 28-odd years ago when I started my locs. 😳 I had worn extension braids for five years previously. As a busy professional - living in an overwhelmingly Anglo-environment at the time - I needed something that matched who I am and what I stand for. It's now been five years next week since I cut the locs and discovered UA-cam U. for its insightful & glorious natural [4C] community. 🎉
Sheraseven, tellsl Black women that dreadlocks, braids, and 4C hair needed to be covered up with a wig. She has whole entire videos about this. I'm so glad there are channels that voice the 4C pretty privilege, because Sheraseven's beauty advice is rooted in a lot of anti-blackness.
I actually commented on that,I don’t know how black women truly watch her,if a “rich” “high value” man wants you he’ll date you regardless how your hair looks,especially if you’re natural 🤷🏾♀️
i remember i was at walmart and i saw the worker had her natural fro out and i complimented it cause she looked cute and she jus laughed 😭😭 “lol thanks” almost like she didn’t believe me
your videos are great help. wearing silky wigs only gave me hair dysmorphia after taking it off. a lot of scalp pain and headaches. i started to feel like a fraud whenever i put it on. but those feelings turned into confidence the more i took care of my natural hair and let it grow. been natural all year long and i can say i'll never go back.
My mom wore a wig for decades. She had perfectly nice normal hair but for some reason she felt like she was ugly without a wig. It was like a disguise or a shield or something. I tried to wear a wig and it felt like a creepy hat. Natural hair is so much prettier, no matter who you are.
The biggest problem is that the people shaming black women and girls about their natural hair are other black people. We are still a lost group of people.
I am a 70 yr old white woman with long, thin hair and I have always admired textured hair. The only style I have been able to wear is super short or very long in a topknot. I never understood how these beautiful women were not happy with their amazing hair. Natural beauty is the best. Love what God gave you.
It really gets me how women throw on a wig and instantly think they've achieved some higher tier beauty. Girl the ends are clumpin together, the lace is lifting, even if it looks fresh it looks phony...and yet think they are "baddies."
As a Korean woman whose hair is so straight even her public hair is straight, I always thought afros are so cool. It has everything.They are sexy, unisex, majestic and powerful. I understand they are super hard to maintain, but still there should be more folks out there with it
I truly don’t find the “they won’t let us wear our hair to work” excuse,simply because black women have done a lot to push wearing colored wigs and and long colored nails to work,push to wear your natural hair like you came in with that pink 60 inch buss down wig,what’s the excuse this time?
😆 lol i agree! nothing will give you more uncomfortable questions from white colleagues than when you've got a wig/weave/change your hair up so what is the truth. i think more of us black women are starting to sit with wearing our natural hair in this society and starting the journey to find comfort in our natural beauty
Many(not all) of these wigs look ridiculous and fake. Then comes the arrogance with the fakery. It makes you have 2nd hand embarrassment that many don't have confidence to wear their own hair.
In highschool and in my freshman year of college, I tried wigs and weaves in the early 2010’s. I realized I didn’t like wigs and weaves and I did my big chop in the freshman year of college and I started wearing my natural hair in my sophomore year. Even though I was made fun of, bullied, and even denied jobs I continued to wear my natural hair. Now I have thick long natural hair and I’m so glad I didn’t listen to the people who put me down when I first did my big chop.
Yes unfortunately, due to the history of slavery , it's embedded in society , it takes time for people to change and really embrace who they are after centuries of being told ur not beautiful with ur kinky hair
It's because their perception is warped by pedestalizing European beauty standards. It's the same reason why many people will call a woman with blonde straight hair and blue eyes "pretty" automatically even if she's VERY unattractive. The only people who can see that she's unattractive are the people who broke out of the self hate matrix. I know it sounds crazy, but the BW who thinks she looks best in a straight wig sees with different eyes than the BW who unlearned those European beauty standards as being the "default".
I have NEVER mistaken a wig or weave for real hair in the wild. I’m sure many others would say the same. And I am no expert at wigs and weaves. It’s not comfortable to always worry about lace lifting, hair unblending, edges withering, or a unit getting snatched. I’ve gone out of my way to curate my social media platforms to only show images of bw with hair that looks like mine. It’s helped so much to reshape my perspective of beauty. It never sat right with me that I could be more familiar with handling another races’ hair textures more than my own.
I dont understand why they don't wear wigs that look natural. They could easily wear wigs that look undetectable . But yet they prefer to look like clowns on Halloween!! Honestly, sounds like a serious identity issue!!
I lost my hair due to Lupus about 10 years ago. It was so hard in the beginning to find afro-textured wigs to match my natural texture (I hadn't worn straightened hair since college in the 90s). I still only wore the afro-textured wigs I found, because I think straight-haired wigs look silly on me. But now, there are so many wonderful textured wigs for black women. If you want to or have to wear wigs these days, it does not always have to be straight hair (there are even kinky-straight wigs).
@@vbrown6445Isn't it nice that society has evolved to the point now that if you choose not to wear a wig because of a medical diagnosis, then this, too, is acceptable? 🙂
I have always thought that wigs and weaves make us look older. I told my sisters years ago to stop wearing fake hair, but she was offended. I am 46 and I have never worn weaves, wigs or braids. I haven't had a relaxer in over 15 years. My mother started putting relaxers in my hair at an early age, but 15 years ago, I completely stopped the relaxers and my scalp feels amazing. Far too long we have believed the lie that we have bad hair and that it's difficult to manage. Without that horrible relaxer my hair is full, glossy and beautiful. I have never had permanent color either. I swim several days per week and my hair is still healthy. I am a healthcare clinician and I encounter so may BW in my practice who are suffering with alopecia and irritant contact dermatitis from these weaves and wigs. Also, I dislike seeing BW with all this blonde hair and long extensions to their butt. Stop the blonde and horsetails. We should be comfortable in our own skin, the way God created us. BW, be the original you and let your natural beauty shine. Thank you for this video ❤❤❤
And let me add this, I was a hair model in my youth. Every relaxer box or Black hair product ad you've ever seen, has been modeled by a natural haired person. That is a press & curl on that ORS box. Do not be fooled by marketing!
I think Serena Williams looks gorgeous with textured hair. A long time ago she was on a late night show with a fitted red dress and fluffy dark hair similar to your texture. It was my fave look from her.
As a white girl, what do do I know, but I have very straight, flat hair, and I'm a little jealous. Mine will never have that gorgeous texture and volume. I permed for years to try to get any sort of height or volume, but finally decided to just be okay with what God gave me. Wear your hair like you want to, but in my humble opinion, natural is so very pretty.
I probably have similarly textured hair .. most shampoos and products weigh down our hair too much. Ironically, some (natural) products meant for black hair work best for me.h. Theres no need to be jealous of anyone. Just continue to celebrate your own natural beauty ❤
YES! Black women look a thousand times better with their natural hair. Curls are beautiful and full and feminine. Wigs often look unnatural and can not be good for the scalp.
I like the point about kindly accepting compliments vs the whatever attitude of the “roll eyes it’s just hair it’s nothing “. Recently I was taken aback when I was receiving compliments and pleasant interactions with people because they liked seeing my natural hair and how I had it styled.l In the moment I wasn’t thinking about my hair, I was going about life, but what stood out to me was how genuine and kind and well meaning the compliments were. How could I respond with an attitude? Even though it broke my train of thought or whatever, I could tell that when I responded in kind they were happy and I was happy lol.
i feel like they won’t ever get passed their wig blindness until they deconstruct their internalized white supremacy. i feel like wanting to change your look from time to time by using wigs to avoid heat damage, try new colors or hair styles and to do it effortlessly is fine but some of these wigs just look crazy 😭 like they can’t see how ridiculous it is. for example, the woman who made that whole rant on tiktok saying black women can’t grow long hair literally looked like edna from the incredibles with that light brown bob she was wearing but she said she truly believes she looks better that way like what 😭
Yes! When it’s a compliment about a wig or weave once it’s time to take that hair out it comes with a naked feeling and anxiety of being perceived differently. I never want to feel that again.
I don’t wear wigs/weave but I believe we can’t get enough of straight silky hair. I also believe that’s BM preference as well. I’ve never seen 4c hair pedestalized or regarded as more attractive than silky hair in my almost 50 years. Imagine if wypipo wore 4c wigs en masse like they’re fooling somebody. I almost never see a BW not wearing a straight hair wig. We must look like we have collective mental illness or we’re obsessed with another group and what THEY have. I think we have unfortunately bought fully into euro beauty standards. It would be pretty cool to see a 180 in the black community. I’m here for it.
I always wondered who told BW that a protective style is using hair extension and wearing a wig. In my opinion, a protective style is when I keep my hair in either twist or up off my shoulders to ensure my hair ends are soft and decrease single strand knots. Young lady, I'm so proud of your voice for sharing and teaching young BW to love, embrace, and nurture their hair as the Natural Organic Divine Source Creator and Mother Earth intended. Peace & Prosperity!!!
My hair grew like wildfire once I stopped protective styling with wigs and weaves. It also became so much thicker. I always thought my hair was super thin.
I actually wore my hair out in a fro yesterday, i didn't go out with it tho but i actually felt and looked way prettier in my fro than when i wear hair extensions, it also made my face look prettier? Like my face looked a lot more attractive when i wore my hair out naturally
Yes, our natural hair also makes us look youthful! No doubt if you choose to go out one day, maybe style your fro to match your outfit? I bet you'd look radiant :)
This is true, I always felt like wigs and weaves made me look old sometimes and when I would have my natural hair I would look more soft, beautiful and youthful. Now I just rock my natural hair and it feels so good.
I am sick and tired of being big I am learning to embrace and do my natural hair and I'm really proud. But my weight is something that still bothers me. I am tired of being f@@t I see a lot of black women struggling with our weight and it is a huge problem I am tired of skinny YT girl saying they love lizzo and they love me just the way I am meanwhile they would be totally mortified if they were even HALF my size. They say that and then they go on to enjoy their privilege of being thin AND white. I feel like a joke. I want to be thin/slim and in shape! I'm tired of being a part of the biggest group in America 80% of us is overweight and it's horrible. Our hair can be as beautiful and healthy as we want it to be but our guts/ huge backs and arms are still weighing us down. There is no reason I should be 2 something at 5 ft 5 :( im sick of men saying "you gotta be two something to do something" like no thats not cute. Thank you so much for inspiring me to love my hair but it's also time for me to love my body as well❤ by the way your bod is incredible you inspire me to improve every aspect of my life now❤
Awe I'm so glad I can help! Remember don't push yourself too much on your weight lost journey, so it doesn't come back fast Some Tips 1.) eat 2-3 different types of veggies with your dinner -For example, instead of having Just zucchini do zucchini, mushrooms and Leeks. (don't be afraid to try new veggies, it will make it new and exciting) -steam your veggies instead of pan frying them!! 2.) Try some different cuisines. I don't know your ethnicity, but soul food isn't the healthiest... I would Ethiopian food (for example) Because they use a lot of veggies in their cooking 3.) Precut some carrots and force yourself to eat them lol. I have to force myself to eat carrots lol so I understand 4.) water, water, water If you don't like water buy itself You can add almost all fruits in a jar of water...let it sit overnight and bam Flavored water my favorite combo Cucumber, ginger, lemon grapefruit, cucumber Okra also make sure your digestion system is running properly!! Okra Water Look up watermelon flavored okra water....(Game changer) 5.) Go on your walks and don't be afraid to start small being consistent is the most important 6.) Make your food at home...even if its unhealthy it will be less calories
theyre lying when they say youre fine the way you are and know deep down they wouldnt want to be overweight either. theyre trying to either keep you down so you wont be competition or lying to be nice. being overweight is difficult and feels terrible. im happy you realize this and want to change for the better. i lost 30 pounds myself. its easy to stay the same but harder to change. find out whats making you want to overeat and make changes to get closer to your goal. it doesnt happen overnight but if thats what you want to do i believe you can do it❤️
Don’t look at eating healthier as “ going on a diet”, but rather changing your diet. Change your relationship with food. Eat foods that actually give your body what it needs and you will notice cravings decrease. Also try intermittent fasting, that has helped me ALOT. Be patient with yourself. Find ways to become active. At work, I take the stairs now instead of the elevator. Document and journal. You can get a weight loss/ calorie counter app just to keep track of what your and document your progress. Make it fun. Have variety with what you eat. You can do it!!!!❤
I’m not going to lie, I always tell women who wear their natural hair how much I love it. I make it my job to do so because I know the work that was put into it.
I agree with Peggy. I'm black and have worked in a predominantly white environment for nearly 30 years. I've always maintained my own natural hair. Through many hair style changes. From afro to locs. My white colleagues were always fascinated and complementary. The only negative comments I received were from other black women.
Omg no but why is this so true. Well I’m Hispanic but when I was 20 I wanted a change and I went to a salon to dye my virgin hair blond . It took some getting used to at first but I became obsessed with it I felt like I had to constantly keep up with it and I would get paranoid when I would see my roots start to grow. It got to a point tho that no matter what I tried my hair was just damaged. It went from being long, silky and straight to always looking dry and frizzy and tangled. After I got pregnant I decided to stop dying my hair I hated how the overgrown roots looked until I cut it off once it was long enough. Now my hair looks soft and shiny again. I don’t know why I relied so much on being blond to feel good about how I looked but once I got that haircut I remembered how pretty I felt being a brunette. Definitely made me appreciate my natural hair so much more! ❤
Because black people continue to be excluded from sociologie economic success when they présent as too black Because it scares white people. Black women literally get discipline or fired for wearing braids.
I THANK GOD...I was raised just using perms...no wigs/waves but 12 years ago I wanted to simplify my hair routine and stoped the perms grew my hair out and just run color thru it...naturally curly or straight I love my hair!
Im a white woman and im not from USA, im from Spain in Europe. Here the african spanish community is not as big as the black community in USA, so i dont usually hear these discussions. From my point of view, yeah, you are totally right, black women look gorgeous in their natural hair. In my country a lot of people compliment black women's natural hair when they wear just a simple hairstyle like the one you are wearing right now. And people love the braids too. Thats why many people want to copy them. Its trully pretty, its yours and its UNIQUE. Girls, see your own potential and be confortable in your own skin. Im a brunette and i have had my past trying to look lighter and blonder, but now i think i want a healthy hair and its nothing bad with having brown hair, it can be so pretty too.
*throwing all the glitter I have to this cause I am subscribing!!!!* I live in the Netherlands and I am seeing a change in women leaving the wig at home and they are looking like royalty in the grocery stores. Topmodels everywhere. If you do spot a bonnet, its hairwash day. 😂 They do the braids for vacation but that is it... I ❤ it.
Wonderful video. Ive been wearing my natural hair and have been bullied for it in the past. Some think wearing your natural hair is synonymous to being "broke". I dont get it. I love what youre doing keep up the great work!
When really the real flex is being able to take care of your natural hair and depending the porosity and length,it doesn’t take much so it leaves room to get decent quality hair products. I’d rather have my coconut and monoi scented twists then those burnt flat ironed smelling wigs and weaves they think they’re stunting on me with lmao That dry shampoo/hair perfume can only go so far.
Happy Birthday Month wise, lil’ Sis! Love this message! Yes, we are and have always been a beautiful people. 🥰 Love my natural hair, feel privileged to be blessed with it. I had one wish, for a bit more length, and the Universe answered by providing extensions that perfectly match my natural texture. 🥳 For everyone: Be you, be bold, and know that you are loved.❤
Wow. You just helped me understand my own experience being a curly haired white woman. My whole life as a Gen X person I hated my curls. Christie Brinkley and Heather Locklear had straight long hair. Not wild curly hair. I fought to hide my curls and styled it to be straight almost my whole life. But in the last 15 or so years, curly hair became a thing. Knowledge about how to have nice curls became available, now I love my curls. I’m free now. THAT is why I LOVE seeing my black friends wear their own hair. They can be free too. You’re a smart woman.
I agree 100%! Natural hair balances our strong facial features (full lips and wider nose) and makes our skin appear smoother (as straight hair emphasizes lines in your face) and is an instant face lift because it grows upward. God is the designer, y'all.😊😊
I was fooled until I was about 11 years old. I realized that my first girlfriend was more beautiful when her mom plaited her hair. I hated how wigs smelled anyway. Now I am a man, processed hair is also a turn off for me much less weaves and wigs.
I keep seeing the excuse of having no edges as to why they wear silky straight wigs. Have they ever thought constantly covering your head in a tight wig isn't helping your hairline?
As a white woman with boring fine curly/wavy grey streaked brown hair I have and have always had serious hair envy for the black ladies incredible hair. And I have to thank my black female friends for teaching me how to stop my hair looking like a frizzy mess. You laddie are so lucky to have such wonderful hair.
She is on to something. I have worn wigs and weaves for years because I hatted my hair. Now I can't stand wearing wigs or weaves, and I am accepting my hair as is and now I feel free.
We are all on a journey to perfectly loving ourselves and as black girls and women that includes loving our hair. The sooner you do the freer you will feel.
It makes me so sad to see so many of us with these crazy looking weaves and then seeing folks losing their hair from tight extensions too It hurts me so deep the level of self hate that still exists Slavery ended but our minds are still gone
The most compliments I’ve gotten on my hair in my life is with my natural hair hands down. The hair texture that God gave us is BEAUTIFUL!! Point blank period. Keep sharing this message sis ❤
I get no love from my fellow black ladies when I wear my hair curly. But when I get a silk press they come out the woodwork with compliments. I don’t care though. I love my curls and the versatility I have with wearing natural hair.
Girl, I LOVE your hair! I absolutely agree with this video. It's funny how I only started noticing the beauty of natural hair when I myself went natural and it's also funny that the most compliments I get are from other black women with natural hair. Wigs/weaves age us and really don't do our features ANY justice. I look so young/youthful with my natural hair and it just suits me so much (because duh it's my natural hair). Great video!
I love this because its so freakin true!!! I had wig blindness very bad when i first learned about lacefront after high school. However, I've been completely natural for the last 15 years, and looking back at old pics makes me cringe sooo bad. I am in love with my natural hair and how versatile it is. I'll only do braids if I want "fake" hair.
I loc'd up in February '24 because I was tired of wigs. I don't miss wigs and haven't worn one since locking up. I do get quite a bit of compliments from men and women. I absolutely love it and wished I'd done it sooner! It is a process I'm learning and enjoying. New sub!
I agree with everything you said and would take it a step further by saying, people who claim to identify with the opposite sex have gender blindness because their clothes and their actual physique is incongruent. So imagine being shocked at your natural hair once removing a wig. They must feel this tenfold or maybe not because they are deluding themselves. Anyway, our scalps and follicles need to breath which they can do with extensions at least but full on wigs and the lace glues etc. not only deprive our heads of much needed oxygen but also excerbate baldness (losing edges) and further, can create infections and stagnation in the area. Even naturals need to remember to massage their scalps, comb & brush something that is neglected when one has coils.
I’m so glad this popped up in my feed. I’ve never considered the term “wig blindness” but it’s true - we would prefer to wear an old wig or a wig that doesn’t sit properly over our natural hair. True beauty is in self-acceptance and confidence. You are beautiful and it shines from within too.✨
Natural hair frames black womens’ features perfectly. It’s looks beautiful 100% of the time. No matter how expensive the wig they always make a woman look cheap.
Ever since I started wearing my hair in its completely natural state (No protective styling, I just wear it how it falls) I BY FAR feel way more confident and get SO many compliments! I never realized how pretty my natural hair was or how much better I looked with it. I have very full features and have always hated that I could never find a protective style that made my face look less square-y but lo and behold I wear my natural hair and it frames my face incredibly well and now I feel way happier with my appearance! The irony of the phrase "What you're looking for is right in front of you" is definitely not lost on me!❤ Thank you for what you're doing, you actually gave me the idea to wear my hair out from your face shape videos!
I absolutely agree!!!! I have been natural for the last 5 years, and what's CRAZY is that when I tried to go back to straightened wigs, I HATED the way it shaped my face! I also LOVE the organic styles I can do with natural and natural-looking hair texture! I will never go back!❤❤❤
Your channel makes me feel beautiful. I’ve always worn my hair natural. I’m slowly getting back to it. I am wearing braids now and I definitely need to stay away from lace fronts. Never used to wear them. I became obsessed. I’m glad that phase is over.
I was just talking about wig blindness to my sister the other day because we had seen this sister with a crazy shiny wig and couldn't believe she thought it looked good. Samantha cooker a UA-camr had the audacity to come online to say our natural hair does not look good on us while sporting a stringy flat wig against her very broad features. We have a major problem. Im in my 30s and was part of the first wave of the natural hair movement in the 2010s and then it turned into wigs which lead to the lace fronts. I believe you are much younger than me and I am extremely proud the younger generation has decided to embrace their hair even after their older sisters told them to hide it. We are beautifully made just as we are and we need to stop hiding it.
Great video! There’s something to be said about the positive impact having an Afro has on kids. I’ve worked in education for years and children NEED to see Black and mixed adults with afros. The amount of little black and mixed girls over the years that have smiled and told me that they like my hair because it looks like theirs is beautiful. Even the little boys giggle when they see we have a similar hairstyle. Us seeing our beauty helps the younger generation of girls and boys recognize their own. It’s so important for all of us to embrace everything God blessed us with. I agree with you, do wigs and weaves if you want but don’t get caught up and let it stop you from seeing your natural beauty. I only ever do braids with weave but I do them once or twice a year so I don’t forget to love on and proudly show my own hair.
As a Hispanic woman with naturally very curly hair I appreciate your video. I grew up feeling embarrassed of my coils bc my mom, sisters and friends had sleek straight hair. At 21i started started straightening my hair now 25 yrs later loosing hair due to lupus, I’m embracing my curls. I should have never straightened my hair.
I love your sweet energy! Happy Birthday sweet cancer babe💖 I subscribed! I just wanted to say I agree with everything you said! The mirror effect! I literally started curating my socials the day I finally went natural because I wanted all the nature black beauty around me. It's so uplifting and having the opposite can put you in a space of lack almost! People compliment my hair even on my bad hair days! Lol, and i'm sure it's the same for anybody wearing their natural hair freely. It was made for us. Point blank!
Hey guys thanks for all your support!!! And thanks for the birthday wishes.
I addressed concerns down below (for my detractors)
1.) I understand why you are defensive in the comment section. But the truth hurts, I won’t be apologizing or changing my stance
2.) I can tell a lot of yall didn’t watch the full video or heard what you wanted to hear because I said “non- textured weaves” so many times
3. I won’t be responding to your paragraphs in the comment section
Wish you the best on this journey!! Thank you for you interest on the topic.
Thank you to all my supporters. I will have natural hair representation in all videos and more content to come ❤
Happy birthday ❤️🫶🏽
Happy birthday!!!
@@JosephineSimmons776 thank you!!
@@Tatianaclicks happy birthday for the day ☺️
@@AFocusedLivingthank you !!
Straight facts. BW look amazing with natural hair, locs and braided styles. Not to mention no other race has our texture of hair. It's so unique!
Very special
Facts!
Exactly! And it’s a unique style for them! We should celebrate our futures instead of trying to look like someone else’s. This can go for anyone-whatever race. We can acknowledge others beautiful features-but it doesn’t mean we have to cover ours. It’s really hard to find black girl makeup videos that aren’t SUPER glamorous on UA-cam T>T There is like 4 that I could find, and I dont have insta or ticktock
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Like our hair texture is literally RARE!!
I've been a natural from birth, never relaxed, never wore a buss down.
I have self h8ing black women at work, tell me i NEED a, i quote "a 30 inch buss town" while she caresses the hair hat on her head.
Im shamed or looked at weird for having natural hair while im drowning in a sea of wigs, constantly telling me i "need" a wig
Thank God i grew up with positive reinforcement of my hair from my family and community in my home country, if i didnt have that base, i would of given in.
Proud Narural Hair for LIFE!
I grew up the same way, however I’ve tried relaxers for 3 years (huge set back). I’m back to my natural hair and it’s obviously better. I don’t like straight hair on myself because I have lower density & fine hair. I have tried a sew-in weave, I hated it (you don’t have access to your scalp and it’s heavy/bulky feeling). I don’t recommend it at all.
Don’t let peoples comments change your views. Covering up our natural beauty only leads to more problems down the road. Be a great example of natural harmonious beauty.
Get out of that toxic work environment as soon as you can. We must surround ourselves with beauty, positivity and LIFE force constantly.
@@ladyd8028exactly
You've been very lucky to have such a positive mindset from the get-go. Black men don't have the same pressure to have straight hair now. But early black male entertainers historically used to try and grease down their hair to look like their white counterparts.
God bless you young lady
White boomer lady here . I grew up in an integrated school . In grade school the black girls had straightened hair , some natural . In the 60’s , there was a move to going natural with the Black Pride movement . My yearbook is full of photos of the prettiest young black women with natural hair . No disrespect but I have always felt that black women were doing themselves no favors with all of these unnatural wigs . You can’t help but shine in your natural hair .
I graduated in 1974 and we wore natural hair. I've worn it most of my life and never wore wigs or even braids. I've had Sister locks for about 4-5 years now. I think natural hair is most flattering for women in general.
We weren't doing it for ourselves. It's called forced assimilation and indoctrination.
@@pureceeparisI have sisterlocks too, for the last 5 years. Love my hair. I went through the phase of wearing wigs, half wigs, and weaves. When I look back on my pictures from that time, it looks like I had a piece of carpet on me. Looks like something is just sitting on my head. This young lady’s channel is on to something.
Well said❤❤❤
Idk why this video came on my feed, but I agree. I've always loved my mixed son's hair. We all have our own unique features & I hate to think of anyone feeling bad about their natural hair or spending ridic amounts of $$$ to cover it up.
Yes, I agree with you that our natural hair looks better on us
Amen
Selah! 🤲🏾
I don't trust women that wear lace fronts. They can't even leave the house without a wig
How could it not❤
It compliments our features!
The kinks is not in our hair, the kinks are in our minds.
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What does this mean?
Um I definitely have kinks hun 💁🏾♀️
💯 I hate those F’ing wigs!!!!
@@AminaPhilosophythe phrase is trying to be poignant by using repetition. It doesn’t make sense because both are true; “The kinks we need to remove are in our minds, not our hair” would deliver the point better.
Black women look the best with natural looking hair styles!! I wish more black women would embrace their natural beauty.
Thank you for encouraging us ❤
AND it's unique. That alone makes us stand out from the sea of bleach blonde bad built butch bodies sporting Uggs & Stanley cups. We don't look BASIC. Natural hair is one of the easiest cheat codes.
The relaxer to wig pipeline is real.
And a multi-billion-dollar business, for sure!
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I actually think the natural hair to wig pipeline is more apparent. Relaxed women tend to just rock a ponytail etc. a lot of these ladies that wear wigs are natural underneath but still haven't accepted their natural hair texture and tell themselves it's a 'protective style.'
@@user-dv3kq3rm4h You missed my point. Wigs rose in popularity around the same time women stopped using relaxers. Instead of wearing and embracing their newfound natural hair after their big chops, they opted for wigs. I am confident that most of these women wearing wigs as a 'pRoTeCTiVe sTyLe' are ex-relaxer users.
I agree with your statement. My hair was at the middle of my back when I big-chopped at age 50. It was about 1-2 inches long after the chop.
My experience with relaxers had started @age 8, so I was unfamiliar with my hair texture and my hair had never been that short before. I wore a wig as a way to slowly get used to my hair being gone because the change had been so drastic.
Today, I rock my little ringlets and I love the attention and compliments I get. No going back!
I recall years ago i work in corporate America and during a meeting a young lady behind me took it upon herself to make fun of my natural hair texture. I could hear her whispering and giggling with her friends. I think she even took a l picture. She was very light skinned with long hair. I am light brown with very tightly coiled hair. Never been, never will be ashamed of being black.
True. As long as type 4 hair is styled properly.
@@Mimi-ht6xr Don't blame her for shutting down. That was probably a trauma response. Many would be mortified if that happened to them and not everyone has the courage to speak up, especially when the other person had her mean girl friends as back up.
@@canesugar911 Well what about when type 3 hair isn't styled properly? Or it's just a requirement for type 4?
@@user-dv3kq3rm4h any type of hair not styled properly or well taken care of looks like trash.
I've noticed that most times, when BW complain about these kinds of issues, it's mostly because of the way they choose to present their hair, it's not necessarily a problem with Type 4 hair
Jealousy is cruel to the grave
Wig blindness IS SELF HATE
Pure & simple. Yet masquerading as fun & glamour!
I adore the terms Tatiana is employing/has created to address this.
YEP!
Yes!
It seems that it started as self hatred and then just became cultural after awhile
There are natural hair wearing black women that still carry self hatred within them.
Agree. Natural nails and lashes are also so much better.
I get so many compliments on my natural hair no other style does that for me. Our natural hair is unmatched.
Same!!!!!❤❤❤
You are speaking absolute facts❤ I recently just turned 22 and I have fully embraced my natural hair. I love it, but I wasn't always at that point in my life. I hid my hair in braids, wigs, and weaves for years. It was only when a perm finally broke my hair off that I decided to make a change. I'm so happy we're acknowledging that alot of the self hate is actually developed by us. I can remember my mom asking did I really want to walk outside looking like "that" when I wore my hair naturally. But now, after 3 years, she's gone natural too! If we actively make the change, everyone else will follow!
My mom made those comments as well. At first it used to hurt my feelings, but I realized the generation she's coming from. I don't blame her. But, now that I've learned to style it and it's grown, she's coming around more and being more kind in complimenting me.
Yay!!
Experienced this in the airport with my dad 28-odd years ago when I started my locs. 😳 I had worn extension braids for five years previously. As a busy professional - living in an overwhelmingly Anglo-environment at the time - I needed something that matched who I am and what I stand for. It's now been five years next week since I cut the locs and discovered UA-cam U. for its insightful & glorious natural [4C] community. 🎉
I agree but we only project onto ourselves b/c we were taught to hate ourselves. There’s a lot of unlearning to do
@@DaeDreamerr STILL. 😵💫
@@ladyd8028 I know I hate it still it’s no excuse cause we should love ourselves regardless
Sheraseven, tellsl Black women that dreadlocks, braids, and 4C hair needed to be covered up with a wig. She has whole entire videos about this. I'm so glad there are channels that voice the 4C pretty privilege, because Sheraseven's beauty advice is rooted in a lot of anti-blackness.
I actually commented on that,I don’t know how black women truly watch her,if a “rich” “high value” man wants you he’ll date you regardless how your hair looks,especially if you’re natural 🤷🏾♀️
@@HandleBerriesexactly. There’s high value men out there that actually want ladies with 4c hair, but they can’t because everyone has it covered up
@@arizee5040 facts
@@HandleBerries facts
@@arizee5040 there’s no such thing as a “high value man,” please stop 🤦🏾♀️
You could never go wrong with locs or an afro😭😭😭out here looking like a goddess
Fluffy Afros are the best
I gave up on wigs since January of this year and I’ve never felt more attractive.
I didn’t the same in January of this year. I’m lowkey proud of myself, and my natural hair is growing so much
@@lazygirlfinanceyesss
i remember i was at walmart and i saw the worker had her natural fro out and i complimented it cause she looked cute and she jus laughed 😭😭 “lol thanks” almost like she didn’t believe me
Same goes for hair color. If it's too far off from your natural color, it won't do you any favors.
Red hair looks great on darker tone though
This applies to all women, tbh. Natural tends to look best.
tell that to Beyonce and Niki Minaj.
your videos are great help. wearing silky wigs only gave me hair dysmorphia after taking it off. a lot of scalp pain and headaches. i started to feel like a fraud whenever i put it on. but those feelings turned into confidence the more i took care of my natural hair and let it grow. been natural all year long and i can say i'll never go back.
You're beautiful!! Inside & out
My mom wore a wig for decades. She had perfectly nice normal hair but for some reason she felt like she was ugly without a wig. It was like a disguise or a shield or something. I tried to wear a wig and it felt like a creepy hat. Natural hair is so much prettier, no matter who you are.
The biggest problem is that the people shaming black women and girls about their natural hair are other black people. We are still a lost group of people.
I am a 70 yr old white woman with long, thin hair and I have always admired textured hair. The only style I have been able to wear is super short or very long in a topknot. I never understood how these beautiful women were not happy with their amazing hair. Natural beauty is the best. Love what God gave you.
Deeply engrained and system conditioning to think everything white and European is better.
It really gets me how women throw on a wig and instantly think they've achieved some higher tier beauty. Girl the ends are clumpin together, the lace is lifting, even if it looks fresh it looks phony...and yet think they are "baddies."
It’s SAD 🤦🏾♀️
Baddies are developmentally delayed. They still fight like they're in middle school. The wig glue messes with their brains
THIS!!
Yess I told my sister yesterday that she looks beautiful with her natural hair and she laughed and said “okay Rosa parks”.
Oh brother, lol
As a Korean woman whose hair is so straight even her public hair is straight, I always thought afros are so cool. It has everything.They are sexy, unisex, majestic and powerful. I understand they are super hard to maintain, but still there should be more folks out there with it
@ohjinmyoung7350 LOL! Nothin' wrong with the curtains matching the carpet!😅 And as a wearer of natural, textured hair, I appreciate your comment!
@@ohjinmyoung7350They're not super hard to maintain.
@@ohjinmyoung7350 They're not super hard to maintain, ma'am...
I truly don’t find the “they won’t let us wear our hair to work” excuse,simply because black women have done a lot to push wearing colored wigs and and long colored nails to work,push to wear your natural hair like you came in with that pink 60 inch buss down wig,what’s the excuse this time?
Majority of employers don’t even care about wearing your natural hair to work. It’s a lie they’re still using to excuse the wigs they wear
😆 lol i agree! nothing will give you more uncomfortable questions from white colleagues than when you've got a wig/weave/change your hair up so what is the truth. i think more of us black women are starting to sit with wearing our natural hair in this society and starting the journey to find comfort in our natural beauty
Right! I’ve never had an issue getting and keeping a job because of my Afro.
Many(not all) of these wigs look ridiculous and fake. Then comes the arrogance with the fakery. It makes you have 2nd hand embarrassment that many don't have confidence to wear their own hair.
My gawd! Finally someone said it! Thank you!
In highschool and in my freshman year of college, I tried wigs and weaves in the early 2010’s. I realized I didn’t like wigs and weaves and I did my big chop in the freshman year of college and I started wearing my natural hair in my sophomore year. Even though I was made fun of, bullied, and even denied jobs I continued to wear my natural hair. Now I have thick long natural hair and I’m so glad I didn’t listen to the people who put me down when I first did my big chop.
Too many black womenfolk have forgotten that we are made in the image of The Most High God as well. He doesn’t make mistakes or poor decisions
Yes god never made a poor decision
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Yes unfortunately, due to the history of slavery , it's embedded in society , it takes time for people to change and really embrace who they are after centuries of being told ur not beautiful with ur kinky hair
I tell my boys this too! I totally agree! Black people are beautiful too!
Amen!
I've always wondered why black women don't see that these non textured wigs look ridiculous.
It's because their perception is warped by pedestalizing European beauty standards. It's the same reason why many people will call a woman with blonde straight hair and blue eyes "pretty" automatically even if she's VERY unattractive. The only people who can see that she's unattractive are the people who broke out of the self hate matrix. I know it sounds crazy, but the BW who thinks she looks best in a straight wig sees with different eyes than the BW who unlearned those European beauty standards as being the "default".
So ridiculous that they might as well wear mops on their heads
I have NEVER mistaken a wig or weave for real hair in the wild. I’m sure many others would say the same. And I am no expert at wigs and weaves.
It’s not comfortable to always worry about lace lifting, hair unblending, edges withering, or a unit getting snatched.
I’ve gone out of my way to curate my social media platforms to only show images of bw with hair that looks like mine. It’s helped so much to reshape my perspective of beauty.
It never sat right with me that I could be more familiar with handling another races’ hair textures more than my own.
I dont understand why they don't wear wigs that look natural. They could easily wear wigs that look undetectable . But yet they prefer to look like clowns on Halloween!! Honestly, sounds like a serious identity issue!!
I lost my hair due to Lupus about 10 years ago. It was so hard in the beginning to find afro-textured wigs to match my natural texture (I hadn't worn straightened hair since college in the 90s). I still only wore the afro-textured wigs I found, because I think straight-haired wigs look silly on me. But now, there are so many wonderful textured wigs for black women. If you want to or have to wear wigs these days, it does not always have to be straight hair (there are even kinky-straight wigs).
Time, convenience, fashion, money to squander? 🤔
@@vbrown6445Isn't it nice that society has evolved to the point now that if you choose not to wear a wig because of a medical diagnosis, then this, too, is acceptable? 🙂
I have always thought that wigs and weaves make us look older. I told my sisters years ago to stop wearing fake hair, but she was offended. I am 46 and I have never worn weaves, wigs or braids. I haven't had a relaxer in over 15 years. My mother started putting relaxers in my hair at an early age, but 15 years ago, I completely stopped the relaxers and my scalp feels amazing. Far too long we have believed the lie that we have bad hair and that it's difficult to manage. Without that horrible relaxer my hair is full, glossy and beautiful. I have never had permanent color either. I swim several days per week and my hair is still healthy. I am a healthcare clinician and I encounter so may BW in my practice who are suffering with alopecia and irritant contact dermatitis from these weaves and wigs. Also, I dislike seeing BW with all this blonde hair and long extensions to their butt. Stop the blonde and horsetails. We should be comfortable in our own skin, the way God created us.
BW, be the original you and let your natural beauty shine.
Thank you for this video ❤❤❤
My hair is locked and I have never felt more beautiful
And let me add this, I was a hair model in my youth. Every relaxer box or Black hair product ad you've ever seen, has been modeled by a natural haired person. That is a press & curl on that ORS box. Do not be fooled by marketing!
I’ve had my locs for 8 years now. I get compliments on my hair every day.
I think Serena Williams looks gorgeous with textured hair. A long time ago she was on a late night show with a fitted red dress and fluffy dark hair similar to your texture. It was my fave look from her.
She looked better before she started bleaching and having plastic surgery in her face. Now she looks trans. Self h8 is real.
Please let her know this because, imo the straight blonde wigs make her look like a clown. Her features are calling out for natural textured hair!
I think what damaged her is when people kept saying she look like a man. So she think wearing a wig is gonna make her feminine
@@kpopisawesome9343 I can definitely see that and I sympathize. I just wish she realized how amazing she looks with a natural texture. Oh well...
As a white girl, what do do I know, but I have very straight, flat hair, and I'm a little jealous. Mine will never have that gorgeous texture and volume. I permed for years to try to get any sort of height or volume, but finally decided to just be okay with what God gave me. Wear your hair like you want to, but in my humble opinion, natural is so very pretty.
I probably have similarly textured hair .. most shampoos and products weigh down our hair too much. Ironically, some (natural) products meant for black hair work best for me.h. Theres no need to be jealous of anyone. Just continue to celebrate your own natural beauty ❤
Thanks my sister
YES! Black women look a thousand times better with their natural hair. Curls are beautiful and full and feminine. Wigs often look unnatural and can not be good for the scalp.
I like the point about kindly accepting compliments vs the whatever attitude of the “roll eyes it’s just hair it’s nothing “. Recently I was taken aback when I was receiving compliments and pleasant interactions with people because they liked seeing my natural hair and how I had it styled.l In the moment I wasn’t thinking about my hair, I was going about life, but what stood out to me was how genuine and kind and well meaning the compliments were. How could I respond with an attitude? Even though it broke my train of thought or whatever, I could tell that when I responded in kind they were happy and I was happy lol.
i feel like they won’t ever get passed their wig blindness until they deconstruct their internalized white supremacy.
i feel like wanting to change your look from time to time by using wigs to avoid heat damage, try new colors or hair styles and to do it effortlessly is fine but some of these wigs just look crazy 😭 like they can’t see how ridiculous it is. for example, the woman who made that whole rant on tiktok saying black women can’t grow long hair literally looked like edna from the incredibles with that light brown bob she was wearing but she said she truly believes she looks better that way like what 😭
lol that lady did look a mess haha
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 “white supremacy” y’all always blaming others get up yo azz
I sure hope black women listen to this! Thank you for this.
The compliments really do give a boost of confidence because it’s the realest version of you.
Yes! When it’s a compliment about a wig or weave once it’s time to take that hair out it comes with a naked feeling and anxiety of being perceived differently. I never want to feel that again.
i absolutely love your passion for this topic!! and those men were right, your hair does look beautiful!! 😍😍
Thank you so much!!
Tyler Perry’s wigs in his movies are my favorite bad wigs! 😂
BRAVO,BRAVO,BRAVO…..
I love you for saying what you SAID about the lies that’s been told to our women.
I don’t wear wigs/weave but I believe we can’t get enough of straight silky hair. I also believe that’s BM preference as well. I’ve never seen 4c hair pedestalized or regarded as more attractive than silky hair in my almost 50 years.
Imagine if wypipo wore 4c wigs en masse like they’re fooling somebody. I almost never see a BW not wearing a straight hair wig. We must look like we have collective mental illness or we’re obsessed with another group and what THEY have. I think we have unfortunately bought fully into euro beauty standards. It would be pretty cool to see a 180 in the black community. I’m here for it.
I always wondered who told BW that a protective style is using hair extension and wearing a wig. In my opinion, a protective style is when I keep my hair in either twist or up off my shoulders to ensure my hair ends are soft and decrease single strand knots. Young lady, I'm so proud of your voice for sharing and teaching young BW to love, embrace, and nurture their hair as the Natural Organic Divine Source Creator and Mother Earth intended. Peace & Prosperity!!!
My hair grew like wildfire once I stopped protective styling with wigs and weaves. It also became so much thicker. I always thought my hair was super thin.
So well spoken and kind. You hit the nail on the head.
Ive recently realized that our natural black hair is our pretty privilege. Our hair texture is so unique and beautiful.
I actually wore my hair out in a fro yesterday, i didn't go out with it tho but i actually felt and looked way prettier in my fro than when i wear hair extensions, it also made my face look prettier? Like my face looked a lot more attractive when i wore my hair out naturally
Yes, our natural hair also makes us look youthful! No doubt if you choose to go out one day, maybe style your fro to match your outfit? I bet you'd look radiant :)
@@LI8A__noir thank you so much 💖
Yessss girl I’m sure you looked so pretty
@@Tatianaclicks tysm x
“It’s your winning strategy sister” “it’s winning it’s elegant it’s charming “ yes come with the hair love affirming
This is true, I always felt like wigs and weaves made me look old sometimes and when I would have my natural hair I would look more soft, beautiful and youthful. Now I just rock my natural hair and it feels so good.
I am sick and tired of being big
I am learning to embrace and do my natural hair and I'm really proud. But my weight is something that still bothers me. I am tired of being f@@t
I see a lot of black women struggling with our weight and it is a huge problem I am tired of skinny YT girl saying they love lizzo and they love me just the way I am meanwhile they would be totally mortified if they were even HALF my size. They say that and then they go on to enjoy their privilege of being thin AND white. I feel like a joke.
I want to be thin/slim and in shape! I'm tired of being a part of the biggest group in America 80% of us is overweight and it's horrible. Our hair can be as beautiful and healthy as we want it to be but our guts/ huge backs and arms are still weighing us down. There is no reason I should be 2 something at 5 ft 5 :( im sick of men saying "you gotta be two something to do something" like no thats not cute.
Thank you so much for inspiring me to love my hair but it's also time for me to love my body as well❤ by the way your bod is incredible you inspire me to improve every aspect of my life now❤
Awe I'm so glad I can help! Remember don't push yourself too much on your weight lost journey, so it doesn't come back fast
Some Tips
1.) eat 2-3 different types of veggies with your dinner
-For example, instead of having Just zucchini do zucchini, mushrooms and Leeks. (don't be afraid to try new veggies, it will make it new and exciting)
-steam your veggies instead of pan frying them!!
2.) Try some different cuisines. I don't know your ethnicity, but soul food isn't the healthiest... I would Ethiopian food (for example) Because they use a lot of veggies in their cooking
3.) Precut some carrots and force yourself to eat them lol. I have to force myself to eat carrots lol so I understand
4.) water, water, water
If you don't like water buy itself
You can add almost all fruits in a jar of water...let it sit overnight and bam Flavored water
my favorite combo
Cucumber, ginger, lemon
grapefruit, cucumber
Okra
also make sure your digestion system is running properly!!
Okra Water
Look up watermelon flavored okra water....(Game changer)
5.) Go on your walks and don't be afraid to start small being consistent is the most important
6.) Make your food at home...even if its unhealthy it will be less calories
@Tatianaclicks Wow These are amazing tips!!! Thank you so much!!!! Definitely going to try this out you have been a huge help!!!!!💙💙💙
@@ClareBillyBob np girly!
theyre lying when they say youre fine the way you are and know deep down they wouldnt want to be overweight either. theyre trying to either keep you down so you wont be competition or lying to be nice. being overweight is difficult and feels terrible. im happy you realize this and want to change for the better. i lost 30 pounds myself. its easy to stay the same but harder to change. find out whats making you want to overeat and make changes to get closer to your goal. it doesnt happen overnight but if thats what you want to do i believe you can do it❤️
Don’t look at eating healthier as “ going on a diet”, but rather changing your diet. Change your relationship with food. Eat foods that actually give your body what it needs and you will notice cravings decrease. Also try intermittent fasting, that has helped me ALOT. Be patient with yourself. Find ways to become active. At work, I take the stairs now instead of the elevator. Document and journal. You can get a weight loss/ calorie counter app just to keep track of what your and document your progress. Make it fun. Have variety with what you eat. You can do it!!!!❤
I’m not going to lie, I always tell women who wear their natural hair how much I love it. I make it my job to do so because I know the work that was put into it.
I agree with Peggy. I'm black and have worked in a predominantly white environment for nearly 30 years. I've always maintained my own natural hair. Through many hair style changes. From afro to locs. My white colleagues were always fascinated and complementary. The only negative comments I received were from other black women.
A lot of people are going to be mad that you said this, BUT YOU'RE RIGHT!! Great video.
I am a firm believer that black women look better with their own natural hair then a straight wig, even a silk press on natural hair is better.
Black women are so beautiful with their own hair.
Happy birthday season! Be encouraged!
♌️🎂🎈🎂🎉🎊🍾
Thank you!!!
🎶 This wig blindness killin’ y’all 🎶 and the leave out don’t match🎶well well well
Most of them don't have a leave out, they love those helmet looking lacefronts.
😂😂😂
Omg no but why is this so true. Well I’m Hispanic but when I was 20 I wanted a change and I went to a salon to dye my virgin hair blond . It took some getting used to at first but I became obsessed with it I felt like I had to constantly keep up with it and I would get paranoid when I would see my roots start to grow. It got to a point tho that no matter what I tried my hair was just damaged. It went from being long, silky and straight to always looking dry and frizzy and tangled. After I got pregnant I decided to stop dying my hair I hated how the overgrown roots looked until I cut it off once it was long enough. Now my hair looks soft and shiny again. I don’t know why I relied so much on being blond to feel good about how I looked but once I got that haircut I remembered how pretty I felt being a brunette. Definitely made me appreciate my natural hair so much more! ❤
I'm white and i agree with this lady. I think African hair is beautiful and I've never understood why people don't love what you've got naturally.
Because black people continue to be excluded from sociologie economic success when they présent as too black Because it scares white people. Black women literally get discipline or fired for wearing braids.
I THANK GOD...I was raised just using perms...no wigs/waves but 12 years ago I wanted to simplify my hair routine and stoped the perms grew my hair out and just run color thru it...naturally curly or straight I love my hair!
I rock with the buzz cut myself. Best decision I made for me.
Im a white woman and im not from USA, im from Spain in Europe. Here the african spanish community is not as big as the black community in USA, so i dont usually hear these discussions. From my point of view, yeah, you are totally right, black women look gorgeous in their natural hair. In my country a lot of people compliment black women's natural hair when they wear just a simple hairstyle like the one you are wearing right now. And people love the braids too. Thats why many people want to copy them.
Its trully pretty, its yours and its UNIQUE.
Girls, see your own potential and be confortable in your own skin.
Im a brunette and i have had my past trying to look lighter and blonder, but now i think i want a healthy hair and its nothing bad with having brown hair, it can be so pretty too.
*throwing all the glitter I have to this cause I am subscribing!!!!* I live in the Netherlands and I am seeing a change in women leaving the wig at home and they are looking like royalty in the grocery stores. Topmodels everywhere. If you do spot a bonnet, its hairwash day. 😂
They do the braids for vacation but that is it... I ❤ it.
Wonderful video. Ive been wearing my natural hair and have been bullied for it in the past. Some think wearing your natural hair is synonymous to being "broke". I dont get it. I love what youre doing keep up the great work!
“Broke or low-maintenance” 😂
When really the real flex is being able to take care of your natural hair and depending the porosity and length,it doesn’t take much so it leaves room to get decent quality hair products. I’d rather have my coconut and monoi scented twists then those burnt flat ironed smelling wigs and weaves they think they’re stunting on me with lmao
That dry shampoo/hair perfume can only go so far.
I think the natural look is beautiful. Wigs & weaves are so common, it's always nice to so eye catching for me to see natural!
Happy Birthday Month wise, lil’ Sis! Love this message! Yes, we are and have always been a beautiful people. 🥰
Love my natural hair, feel privileged to be blessed with it. I had one wish, for a bit more length, and the Universe answered by providing extensions that perfectly match my natural texture. 🥳
For everyone: Be you, be bold, and know that you are loved.❤
Girl you're going crazy with the uploads ! Don't tire yourself. Nice message
Wow. You just helped me understand my own experience being a curly haired white woman. My whole life as a Gen X person I hated my curls. Christie Brinkley and Heather Locklear had straight long hair. Not wild curly hair. I fought to hide my curls and styled it to be straight almost my whole life. But in the last 15 or so years, curly hair became a thing. Knowledge about how to have nice curls became available, now I love my curls. I’m free now. THAT is why I LOVE seeing my black friends wear their own hair. They can be free too. You’re a smart woman.
Glad I could help!! Thanks for your support
I agree 100%! Natural hair balances our strong facial features (full lips and wider nose) and makes our skin appear smoother (as straight hair emphasizes lines in your face) and is an instant face lift because it grows upward. God is the designer, y'all.😊😊
And cheers to the 20K, bc peridot. Happy Birthday Month 🎉
@@ShaniceSpencer888 thank you!!
I was fooled until I was about 11 years old. I realized that my first girlfriend was more beautiful when her mom plaited her hair.
I hated how wigs smelled anyway. Now I am a man, processed hair is also a turn off for me much less weaves and wigs.
I keep seeing the excuse of having no edges as to why they wear silky straight wigs. Have they ever thought constantly covering your head in a tight wig isn't helping your hairline?
As a white woman with boring fine curly/wavy grey streaked brown hair I have and have always had serious hair envy for the black ladies incredible hair. And I have to thank my black female friends for teaching me how to stop my hair looking like a frizzy mess. You laddie are so lucky to have such wonderful hair.
She is on to something. I have worn wigs and weaves for years because I hatted my hair. Now I can't stand wearing wigs or weaves, and I am accepting my hair as is and now I feel free.
Natrual hair always looks better. Absolutely love it.
We are all on a journey to perfectly loving ourselves and as black girls and women that includes loving our hair. The sooner you do the freer you will feel.
It’s so refreshing to hear someone finally speaking the truth. We need to wear our natural hair and love it wholeheartedly.
It makes me so sad to see so many of us with these crazy looking weaves and then seeing folks losing their hair from tight extensions too
It hurts me so deep the level of self hate that still exists
Slavery ended but our minds are still gone
Wigs are the chains on our brains!
The most compliments I’ve gotten on my hair in my life is with my natural hair hands down. The hair texture that God gave us is BEAUTIFUL!! Point blank period. Keep sharing this message sis ❤
I get no love from my fellow black ladies when I wear my hair curly. But when I get a silk press they come out the woodwork with compliments. I don’t care though. I love my curls and the versatility I have with wearing natural hair.
Yep it’s said. You have to ignore them!!
Girl, I LOVE your hair! I absolutely agree with this video. It's funny how I only started noticing the beauty of natural hair when I myself went natural and it's also funny that the most compliments I get are from other black women with natural hair. Wigs/weaves age us and really don't do our features ANY justice. I look so young/youthful with my natural hair and it just suits me so much (because duh it's my natural hair). Great video!
I love this because its so freakin true!!! I had wig blindness very bad when i first learned about lacefront after high school. However, I've been completely natural for the last 15 years, and looking back at old pics makes me cringe sooo bad. I am in love with my natural hair and how versatile it is. I'll only do braids if I want "fake" hair.
I loc'd up in February '24 because I was tired of wigs. I don't miss wigs and haven't worn one since locking up. I do get quite a bit of compliments from men and women. I absolutely love it and wished I'd done it sooner! It is a process I'm learning and enjoying. New sub!
I agree with everything you said and would take it a step further by saying, people who claim to identify with the opposite sex have gender blindness because their clothes and their actual physique is incongruent. So imagine being shocked at your natural hair once removing a wig. They must feel this tenfold or maybe not because they are deluding themselves. Anyway, our scalps and follicles need to breath which they can do with extensions at least but full on wigs and the lace glues etc. not only deprive our heads of much needed oxygen but also excerbate baldness (losing edges) and further, can create infections and stagnation in the area. Even naturals need to remember to massage their scalps, comb & brush something that is neglected when one has coils.
I’m so glad this popped up in my feed. I’ve never considered the term “wig blindness” but it’s true - we would prefer to wear an old wig or a wig that doesn’t sit properly over our natural hair. True beauty is in self-acceptance and confidence.
You are beautiful and it shines from within too.✨
You are a diamond for our community. As a black man who worships black women, what a breath of fresh air it is to listen to you. ❤
@900kilometers I believe I said what I said and you need to back up. Thanks.
Natural hair frames black womens’ features perfectly. It’s looks beautiful 100% of the time. No matter how expensive the wig they always make a woman look cheap.
Speak the truth, sis!
Ever since I started wearing my hair in its completely natural state (No protective styling, I just wear it how it falls) I BY FAR feel way more confident and get SO many compliments! I never realized how pretty my natural hair was or how much better I looked with it. I have very full features and have always hated that I could never find a protective style that made my face look less square-y but lo and behold I wear my natural hair and it frames my face incredibly well and now I feel way happier with my appearance! The irony of the phrase "What you're looking for is right in front of you" is definitely not lost on me!❤ Thank you for what you're doing, you actually gave me the idea to wear my hair out from your face shape videos!
I absolutely agree!!!! I have been natural for the last 5 years, and what's CRAZY is that when I tried to go back to straightened wigs, I HATED the way it shaped my face! I also LOVE the organic styles I can do with natural and natural-looking hair texture! I will never go back!❤❤❤
Interestingly just this morning I had this same conversation with my wife.. I am happy to subscribe.
Your channel makes me feel beautiful. I’ve always worn my hair natural. I’m slowly getting back to it. I am wearing braids now and I definitely need to stay away from lace fronts. Never used to wear them. I became obsessed. I’m glad that phase is over.
I'm so glad!
@@Tatianaclicks Thank you 😊
I was just talking about wig blindness to my sister the other day because we had seen this sister with a crazy shiny wig and couldn't believe she thought it looked good. Samantha cooker a UA-camr had the audacity to come online to say our natural hair does not look good on us while sporting a stringy flat wig against her very broad features. We have a major problem. Im in my 30s and was part of the first wave of the natural hair movement in the 2010s and then it turned into wigs which lead to the lace fronts. I believe you are much younger than me and I am extremely proud the younger generation has decided to embrace their hair even after their older sisters told them to hide it. We are beautifully made just as we are and we need to stop hiding it.
Great video! There’s something to be said about the positive impact having an Afro has on kids. I’ve worked in education for years and children NEED to see Black and mixed adults with afros. The amount of little black and mixed girls over the years that have smiled and told me that they like my hair because it looks like theirs is beautiful. Even the little boys giggle when they see we have a similar hairstyle. Us seeing our beauty helps the younger generation of girls and boys recognize their own. It’s so important for all of us to embrace everything God blessed us with. I agree with you, do wigs and weaves if you want but don’t get caught up and let it stop you from seeing your natural beauty. I only ever do braids with weave but I do them once or twice a year so I don’t forget to love on and proudly show my own hair.
Everything you’ve said 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾. I call them self hate hats.
As a Hispanic woman with naturally very curly hair I appreciate your video. I grew up feeling embarrassed of my coils bc my mom, sisters and friends had sleek straight hair. At 21i started started straightening my hair now 25 yrs later loosing hair due to lupus, I’m embracing my curls. I should have never straightened my hair.
I love your sweet energy! Happy Birthday sweet cancer babe💖 I subscribed! I just wanted to say I agree with everything you said! The mirror effect! I literally started curating my socials the day I finally went natural because I wanted all the nature black beauty around me. It's so uplifting and having the opposite can put you in a space of lack almost! People compliment my hair even on my bad hair days! Lol, and i'm sure it's the same for anybody wearing their natural hair freely. It was made for us. Point blank!
Thank you! Thanks for your support