Great conversations. You hit a nerve when you were speaking about the stereotypes associated with being “beautiful”. I’m so glad that women have proven that you can be dolled up and still be a good doctor, lawyer, accountant etc. Looks should not be associated with intellect.
The concept of beauty is not as linear as society has been conditioned to believe, a lot of unlearning has to be done and I see you’re fighting the good fight by introducing different perspectives♥️
My grandfather was always so particular about color. He was very jealous of light skinned people. He was not dark skinned so I was confused about that. I found out that his lighter skinned siblings got more attention than him. He treated his light skinned children bad and praised his dark skinned children.
In my opinion, pretty privilege is multifacated. It comes in the form of colorism, featurism, texturism and body shape. This topic heavily leaned into colorism but it would be nice to also explore these others. I enjoyed the discussion and the guest is drop-dead gorgeous btw.
Omg just discovered your channel and really just thanking the algorithm for finally giving me some great content😅🔥🔥🔥 really love what y’all are doing sis✨
Sometimes some people are not even aware that they have pretty privilege. Like this lady she is not aware of herself, she is really pretty. We also need to understand that we are coming from different societies. The dark skinned girls were considered beautiful. I was always compared to my younger cous sister that she looked gorgeous than I did. When I went to the bigger cities from a small town it was different.
I used to be told growing up that I'm beautiful for a dark skinned girl. "o montle shem if ne o se montsho so" I had to consciously make myself look less beautiful to be taken seriously in my IT career because pretty girl were considered stupid or that they sleep their way to the top.
You definitely didn't HAVE to make yourself look less beautiful, that's something that u yourself chose to do. My sister is a very successful scientist, she's black, and her name is Keisha, she had to fight tons of stereotypes but she never once chose to be something that she's not and we were always taught to never dim our shine in order to make others more comfortable. She's beautiful with a perfect figure 8 body and people are always incredibly impressed with the fact that her brain is even more beautiful than her outer appearance. I went the opposite direction and majored in marketing but we're both beautiful and intelligent.
Thanks for sharing your experience. I am sorry to hear that you had to make such a decision. It's okay you didn't know how to deal with it. We definitely all have different types of experiences, there's no one size fits all. I also grew up understanding that dark skins girls were much more beautiful. Then got exposed to other societies, who had a different idea.
Very insightful conversation. I wish you had more time to unpack more of the points that came up during the conversation and expand on the origins of colorism and slavery....because wow...its a lot🤯 Great conversation 💯
My mom she's light in complexion am very dark,when my friends saw my mom's photos they will say your mom she's gorgeous than you just because am dark skin😔
It is really sad that dark skinned African women don’t know how beautiful they are due to society. If Africans don’t embrace dark skin, how can the rest of the world? Maybe this is more in South Africa? I don’t know 🤔. But there are plenty dark skinned women all over the world who ALWAYS thought they were gorgeous, & especially their dark skin--bc they were surrounded by people who made it so. We really need to change this negative self talk for the next generation near us for it to really change. No matter what media or folks outside might have said, dark skin women need to understand and embraced their beauty. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL BEYOND ANY MEASURE!
Commenting on being pretty is a currency. I remember when I was getting my drivers the instructor told me that if I want to pass I need to give the examiner my number. Long story short I did not😊
Oh my hat 2024, I am living with albinism. I am a girl from a household of 4 girls only 1 with albinism and I never thought I am beautiful. Currently, I am married with children and when people look at my children and my husband and are shocked that they are my children.
I love the guest but I don’t think this conversation was up her alley. She didn’t give much, from what she’s shared she has not been a benefactor of pretty privilege and that’s not her fault bandla
Mhm it would have been interesting to have a "conventionally" beautiful woman who fits that typical look lightskin, slim thick body to hear their take on pretty privilege.
You have body priviledge. MOST of the women who experience pretty priviledge is due to their face. I prefer DARK SKIN women, I always have loved darker girls since the 1990s. How ever i dont believe in colorism. The reason being is because i never seen an attractive dark skin woman really suffering I love love dark skin girls. An i date yellow girls too. But just because your YELLOW dont make you automatically pretty. An just because your dark skin dont make you unattractive. But the key is facial beauty is linked to weight, If your bmi is 20 and under you will look pretty. If your a dress size 12 or 14...NO matter your complexion your face is not attractive. Now there are some pretty dark skin girls. But most are just average and some are below average. Now some women cant help how they look, they may have cleft look or facial deformity which is judged as 1/10. But trying to soup they head up like they pretty is dangerous. Pretty girls have a face that men stare at, if men arent staring at you in public places you not pretty. If your not pretty, Simply focus on your body, Get it fit as possible GET your stomach flat first and do core exercises and cardio Tone your arms and legs. If your skinny or slim with big breast, focus on squats and lunges, Get them really strong and build up your glutes. Men usually look at girls who are bottom heavy or skinny all over. i prefer women who are slim by self, skinny gets me excited. But i do like a woman who is skinny with a big breast. But a woman who has big breast and booty too match is my dream girl. i only dated one in my entire life who had both top and bottom
Great conversations. You hit a nerve when you were speaking about the stereotypes associated with being “beautiful”. I’m so glad that women have proven that you can be dolled up and still be a good doctor, lawyer, accountant etc. Looks should not be associated with intellect.
The concept of beauty is not as linear as society has been conditioned to believe, a lot of unlearning has to be done and I see you’re fighting the good fight by introducing different perspectives♥️
The voice of the guest 👌🏽 clear, smooth🌟
The host resembles Jill Scott. So pretty
My grandfather was always so particular about color. He was very jealous of light skinned people. He was not dark skinned so I was confused about that. I found out that his lighter skinned siblings got more attention than him. He treated his light skinned children bad and praised his dark skinned children.
Wow interesting.
Yoh, that's something else
Deep
In my opinion, pretty privilege is multifacated. It comes in the form of colorism, featurism, texturism and body shape. This topic heavily leaned into colorism but it would be nice to also explore these others. I enjoyed the discussion and the guest is drop-dead gorgeous btw.
I love this. I love that you're having conversations like this. Guys experience pretty privilege too btw
Hey Thami, thank you :-)! And yes! men definitely do experience pretty privilege.
@@theconversationcapital new to the channel but would be nice to hear pretty privilege from men
Omg just discovered your channel and really just thanking the algorithm for finally giving me some great content😅🔥🔥🔥 really love what y’all are doing sis✨
Sometimes some people are not even aware that they have pretty privilege. Like this lady she is not aware of herself, she is really pretty.
We also need to understand that we are coming from different societies. The dark skinned girls were considered beautiful. I was always compared to my younger cous sister that she looked gorgeous than I did. When I went to the bigger cities from a small town it was different.
How does this channel not have more subscribers?
TikTok brought me here 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿
I used to be told growing up that I'm beautiful for a dark skinned girl. "o montle shem if ne o se montsho so"
I had to consciously make myself look less beautiful to be taken seriously in my IT career because pretty girl were considered stupid or that they sleep their way to the top.
You definitely didn't HAVE to make yourself look less beautiful, that's something that u yourself chose to do. My sister is a very successful scientist, she's black, and her name is Keisha, she had to fight tons of stereotypes but she never once chose to be something that she's not and we were always taught to never dim our shine in order to make others more comfortable. She's beautiful with a perfect figure 8 body and people are always incredibly impressed with the fact that her brain is even more beautiful than her outer appearance. I went the opposite direction and majored in marketing but we're both beautiful and intelligent.
Thanks for sharing your experience. I am sorry to hear that you had to make such a decision. It's okay you didn't know how to deal with it. We definitely all have different types of experiences, there's no one size fits all. I also grew up understanding that dark skins girls were much more beautiful. Then got exposed to other societies, who had a different idea.
Very insightful conversation. I wish you had more time to unpack more of the points that came up during the conversation and expand on the origins of colorism and slavery....because wow...its a lot🤯
Great conversation 💯
30 minutes is never enough for some of the layers hey?! Thanks for watching Tshepanni.
Love this channel conversations I’ve had some not all but so many gems in every episode . Now I miss my friends. 🥰
We look forward to engaging with you Naledi 🌼 Welcome to the family.
This is a very interesting conversation. Loved it.
Great conversation. There are so many sub topics here.
Hey Tebogo. Thank you and yeesssssss! There are layers and layers here.
Ursula is simply gorgeous guys.
My mom she's light in complexion am very dark,when my friends saw my mom's photos they will say your mom she's gorgeous than you just because am dark skin😔
The conversation was flowing 👌 enjoyed this episode.
It is really sad that dark skinned African women don’t know how beautiful they are due to society. If Africans don’t embrace dark skin, how can the rest of the world? Maybe this is more in South Africa? I don’t know 🤔.
But there are plenty dark skinned women all over the world who ALWAYS thought they were gorgeous, & especially their dark skin--bc they were surrounded by people who made it so. We really need to change this negative self talk for the next generation near us for it to really change. No matter what media or folks outside might have said, dark skin women need to understand and embraced their beauty. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL BEYOND ANY MEASURE!
Tsakane Sono is flipping gorgeous! Wow!
Are you sure you're not related to Ava DuVernay? Anyway, great conversation. The host is so beautiful :)
Commenting on being pretty is a currency. I remember when I was getting my drivers the instructor told me that if I want to pass I need to give the examiner my number. Long story short I did not😊
Oh my hat 2024, I am living with albinism. I am a girl from a household of 4 girls only 1 with albinism and I never thought I am beautiful. Currently, I am married with children and when people look at my children and my husband and are shocked that they are my children.
Ngicela Losisi bandla she blesses me a lot iyoh Ursula
To add to this, featurism is also becoming thing.
I was also linked by tiktok and I'm loving it
I love the guest but I don’t think this conversation was up her alley. She didn’t give much, from what she’s shared she has not been a benefactor of pretty privilege and that’s not her fault bandla
Quick help: What is the name of the host? Is she on Instagram?
Ursula Mariani, yes she is. There's a link to her IG in the description
Honestly, Ursula, you're the pretty one to me.
Jill Scott
Is that you?
You should be on radio
I with the camera men , save time and money, clean
Mhm it would have been interesting to have a "conventionally" beautiful woman who fits that typical look lightskin, slim thick body to hear their take on pretty privilege.
I’m slim thick and light brown
All the guys try to be sexual but I don’t like then attention I’m into girls more I would date a darkskin stud or who ever 😘.💯💯
Baba land 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
You have body priviledge. MOST of the women who experience pretty priviledge is due to their face.
I prefer DARK SKIN women, I always have loved darker girls since the 1990s.
How ever i dont believe in colorism. The reason being is because i never seen an attractive dark skin woman really suffering
I love love dark skin girls. An i date yellow girls too.
But just because your YELLOW dont make you automatically pretty.
An just because your dark skin dont make you unattractive.
But the key is facial beauty is linked to weight, If your bmi is 20 and under you will look pretty.
If your a dress size 12 or 14...NO matter your complexion your face is not attractive.
Now there are some pretty dark skin girls.
But most are just average and some are below average.
Now some women cant help how they look, they may have cleft look or facial deformity which is judged as 1/10.
But trying to soup they head up like they pretty is dangerous.
Pretty girls have a face that men stare at, if men arent staring at you in public places you not pretty.
If your not pretty, Simply focus on your body, Get it fit as possible
GET your stomach flat first and do core exercises and cardio
Tone your arms and legs.
If your skinny or slim with big breast, focus on squats and lunges,
Get them really strong and build up your glutes.
Men usually look at girls who are bottom heavy or skinny all over.
i prefer women who are slim by self, skinny gets me excited.
But i do like a woman who is skinny with a big breast.
But a woman who has big breast and booty too match is my dream girl.
i only dated one in my entire life who had both top and bottom
😂😂😂
That “Hello and welcome…” 🥹. Love your content ❤