DO NOT Bring Your Natural Hair to My Event - Black Women Should Wear Weaves || Klassically Kept
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- "DO NOT wear your natural hair to my event," she said. Today we are talking about 2 situations that have gone viral dealing with natural hair. Yall know how I feel about natural hair and the hill I am willing to die on. Second, there was a pastor who was telling black women to wear wigs to basically catch a man or to be desirable. Let's talk about it.
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Her saying why would I wear my expensive dress with my natural hair. So babes you telling me that you don't think your own hair matches with expensive garments 😱 that's LOW self-esteem!!!!
Exactly. Absolutely heartbreaking💔
@lebohangdlodlo2178 Spot on girl, I was saying the very same when I first watched the clip on the said womens podcast.... truly heartbreaking & self loathing 🤮
@@JanaeAnnaJohnson96 Black women like her typically have low self-esteem and Eurocentric views. They have internal issues with Blackness
My jaw dropped when I heard her say that. Omg!
When I first saw the first video, I just rolled my hair at the disrespect. Just like you said, she didn't even look presentable, so why would I want to be at her event in the first place?
As for the female preacher, it shows the kind of anointing over her. The hypocrisy she was dishing out, in the guise of advise is old school, that appalled me as a Nigerian.
It's ideals like these that have made me DELIBERATELY not use a wig,, because as a preacher's wife, like it or not, we influence the younger women in our world. Heaven forbid that my daughters think they need to fake it to get a man/husband, or even friends.
I must say the way you have your hair is 1000% more classy and elegant than the wigs they had on
I totally agree!!
Agreed! Her hair looks so classy and fabulous!
Truly. I want to see what she did in the back and will possibly need a tutorial😂
They had some rough ass wigs. I can’t believe they think that’s better than their hair that grows out of their heads. Whatever you choose to have on your head, keep it looking nice. Women have been proving over the years that natural hair can be so beautiful and sexy and even elegant. It is versatile. The picture in my avatar is one of my best of all time.
Please and thank you ❤
Women are at their best when they wear their natural hair. PERIOD!!!
I agree Henry.
Agreed but most blk men don’t like our kinky hair.
@@learningearning8385That's sad you care that much what men think of your hair 😂
@learningearning8385 I don't know why we should care what any man thinks about how we wear our hair if it's not our husband......... I also think that everyone on both sides should honestly just respect what others choose to do with their own hair.
@learningearning8385 LOL, where? Most black men I run into love natural hair from intimate partners, to my family members, to random people I run into on the street. I get asked regularly why don’t women put in the effort to wear their natural hair?
I think it’s just sad… it’s really self-hate and you can’t really be mad at them cause they’re victims. But at the same time they’re part of the problem too
Good morning Maryam.
You have pointed out, unfortunately the problem. More than likely they had a negative experience with nature hair or they were raised like that and the cycle will continue should they have daughters.
Nahhh we can certainly be mad at them. This is 2023 almost 2024. They know and are fully aware what agenda they are pushing and have no issue pushing it. It’s time to start holding people accountable.
@@Stoudem At some point African/Black women have to take responsibility and stop blaming others for their self-hatred. It's still a personal choice. Call it whatever you want, these women with wigs attached to their heads especially the weird looking straight frontals look like clowns. The amount of money spent on these things are ridiculous and quite pathetic, and you wonder why Africans/Blacks are the largest consumers and still the poorest compared to other groups. We are the only groups who alter our looks so much for validation but the other sad part of it is that the people you are seeking validation from still don't care, if anything you are even treated worse. These women who go by "beauty" trends from bbl, frontals, etc only attract certain type of men then expect a different outcome. It's crazy world we live in.
@@Stoudem What's sad is that these are continental African women. I have traveled, lived and/or studied in 12 countries on the continent and the skin bleaching and weave/wig preference was glaring in each and every place.
@@KlassicallyKept Hello, is there a tutorial for the hairstyle you have in the video? If so, where can I find it?
Black Natural hair will always ruffles someone’s feathers … is our hair that powerful ?! 😅
I guess so lol
It is! It's a great work of art!
You better believe it!!!!!
I love that 😂❤❤
I know I responded once and I'm responding again🤦🏽♀️🤣🤣honey our hair is ALL THAT AND MORE!!!!
These are the same women that wear bonnets in public but refuse to rock a TWA or Twisties.
😂😂😂
I worked in an environment where majority of Black women wore wigs. They really believed the wig was their hair! And the wigs were so dramatic and unrealistic. How did we, as Black women, get here where wigs/weaves are the norm?? My daughter has locs. My hair is natural and I wear wash and go, twists, twist outs, head wraps. I can’t imagine throwing on a wig and calling it a day.
The wigs are always crazy looking..the hair looks like plastic 🤷🏾♀️ if someone absolutely must wear a wig please get a natural texture and color anything else just looks clownish
@@samlewis6615
Agreed! It's clear they have no idea how bad it looks.
“How did we, as Black women, get here where wigs/weaves are the norm??”
Yte supremacy in the form of slavery, laws against blk people not been allowed to wear their natural hair (discrimination in employment law in America), BM’s thirst for yte-ness and WW.. In a western world that is anti-blk and the standard of beauty for women has been CHANGED to yte, what do expect? 🤨
@@samlewis6615 I feel the same way. I had my moments where I wanted to try a pixie wig because I didn’t want to cut my real hair. Still haven’t done it but I’d like to maybe one day. 😅idk though.
„They really believe the wig was their hair“ 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
The black women in the 1970s were top tier. They had beautiful soft natural hair, fit lean bodies and soft yet sexy energy. I ADORE 70s black women! The confidence and beauty they had is unmatched🧡 Times have certainly changed..........
Yes my mum was a natural hair, slim stunner
I have worn a TWA since the early 70s. It was a wonderful time. I kept mine until last August when I decided to grow it. I am now 75 and have always accepted my hair. I don't care to cover it up or wear wigs, weaves, or anything that the Lord did not give me. No shade on anyone who feels differently. I did my daughter's hair in a TWA also. I taught her that other ethnicities don't understand Black beauty, so don't accept their assessment of our beauty. My hair is growing nicely. I don't know how long it will get, but I am enjoying the process. Yes, there will always be colorism in the Black community, and I have experienced it, being a dark skinned sister. I still accept what God has given me. He made me exactly the way He wanted me, 4C hair and dark skin!
Even though I was a child back then I LOVED wearing my Afro. I used to have my little hand on my hip and a big smile standing next to my mom rocking her fro too.
A African man once try putting me down by saying, I’m not wearing Brazilian hair so I don’t have money. He was also bleaching his skin as was the woman with him. It didn’t go how he thought because I burst out laughing, it was so stupid to me😂😂😂
The audacity.
I was sitting in a restaurant minding my own business when this black man makes a b-line for me. Walks up to me, looks me up and down, and says: I couldn't date you because you are natural." Sir....sir... who asked you and where did you come from !
@@KlassicallyKept oh my gosh! He sounds like a absolutely terrible human being anyway. Dumbass! Insecure men do that nonsense when they are intimidated by a beautiful woman, that he’s fully aware is way out of this league. It’s this reject her first game that they play, to pacify themselves. Really pathetic
All my life, I've only witnessed other blk people degrade other blk people about being blk. It's very disturbing.
@@nursebrooks3237I’ve seen the same thing. It’s more traumatizing to me than the once in a blue moon racism/microagressions
@@nursebrooks3237I can mentally detach from racists but from people who look like you, it makes me want to throw up. And avoid going to a hbcu bc of the amount of colorism in the race and hatred for our BLACK hair
The self-hate is real! There is something toxic within a person who encourages someone to hide the hair that way it grows from their scalp.
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I'm Nigerian and that's a classic case of someone who's self esteem has taken a beating for the longest time, found a way to get her acceptance from people and decided she needs to hate everything about herself that she's been bullied for and never accepted about herself. I'd wanted to make a video about it but looking through her self esteem issues and the bullying she's been through, I let it slide.
U are dark, you need to wear your real hair
Someone should minister to her. it's a teaching moment. Remember, younger Black women are seeing this stuff, too. She should be called out. For clarity for the younger generation. Your natural you is beautiful.
Definitely she has been bullied 😔 and is psychologically damaged from it
Was she bullied?
@@sylviasworld9397 you don't need to know her life's story to know if she was bullied. The signs are there
They probably don't know how to style their natural hair 🤷🏾♀️ black women spend alot of time and money on wigs & weaves and if we invest half as much into our natural hair the results would be amazing!! Natural hair is so beautiful and elegant we've been brainwashed to think otherwise. Furthermore i don't care how good someone lays a wig you can always always see the screen door part.
When they’re doing the videos online, it has a filter, to blur that screen door. 💯💯😂😂😂😂😂
Yes if we spent as much time learning and taking care of our natural hair it would look a million times better than any weave. We are so beautiful. I wish more of us knew that.
@@Babygirl2986I wish more of you all will let people live! We're not close we don't all have to wear our natural hair 24/7. If you like it that's good for you but there are some women out there that don't it. And I'm saying this as somebody who has not worn away in 14 years and never really wore wigs like that. Y'all trying to shame and get other black in these comments sections is not going to help.
I do not know how to style my natural hair but I am learning. I want to age with grace. I enjoy braids mainly over wigs but my goal is to learn how to wear my natural.
@@tammygarrett8427 Same here! Keep going 💖
Nah I'm not buying it. She is walking that statement back because she's getting dragged for it online. The thing that stood out to me is she admitted that her name is in drama often and she's used to it. Only people who are professionals at being toxic make statements like that. There were no major cuts in that clip that went viral, her statement was her statement and she needs either stand 10 toes down on it or apologize for her ignorance. Blaming it on producers is a cowardice way to absolving yourself from any responsibility.
Exactly. Her sentences seemed uncut and strung together the way she said it. Either way she said what she said and wholeheartedly believes what she said. Don't backtrack now that you see your opinion is unpopular.
Agreed
THIS! All of THIS!!
I’m in agreement, she said what she said so either stand on it or apologize for the ignorance!!!
I don't know which African women she's referring to, speak for yourself and your fake nest on your head.
Right! She said was she said, it’s crazy that she was trying to gaslight us
Her statement was so insulting and embarrassing. I am black and proud of all of me
My cousins wife wore her locs for their wedding she was gorgeous it fit her I love seeing black women embrace their natural hair
Locs are beautiful period.
Every time I go to events I get compliments about my natural hair. I don't know what she's talking about
I do as well!
It is sad that the same type of women from the 90's still exist. I'm 51 next week with my 4c hair, still fly as ever. The same women who mocked my hair, are now buying 'natural hair'. Let us raise up our girls. Not erase their roots.
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I wore my natural hair in the 90’s. The women were brutal!!
I was in high school in the late 90s with natural hair. It was brutal
@@alishafrazier8025My mother with her fine hair which she permed and couldn't maintain was fed up with combing my full natural 4 type hair and constantly accused me of having bad hair and should perm my hair. I refused mainly because she couldn't maintain my sister's permed hair either and they both looked horrible. My father was against it so that's why she was pressuring me to get it permed so he wouldn't be angry at her for perming it if I had agreed. It was basically the only thing I had on me that was directly from him and just adored nature including my hair and natural things.
@@whatsupwhatsupnowA lot of the natural hair I saw was short and dry at that time in high school. No one did that to me bc my comebacks were brutal so they didn't dare be negative. I'm Caribbean and fathers at that time preferred their daughters and women with natural hair so it was the magazines, TV and mothers who were pushing for permed hair.
Us Africans are still very colonised mentally sends us thoughts and prayers. We are a work in progress 😢
We are too in America. It’s very sad all around
So are we
The way 🥚 people laugh behind our backs when we wear these cheap looking wigs doesn’t matter but it’s embarrassing when WE are acting like a wig is more beautiful then our hair. And this is directly related to the skin bleaching issue. At the end of the day it’s a rejection (for whatever reason) of who we are and that’s ok when you know you’ll get treated better at work ect but not when you yourself believe the hype.
She's from Lagos (Nigeria) they currently have an obsession with wigs and its a competition of who is wearing the most expensive hair.
ahhhh, thank you for this. Okay kind of like a status symbol.
So being fake is a competition for them? Got it.
@@ShaynieB it's not the hair perse it's about what the hair signifies (wealth).it's strange I know but it usually changes every year. Last year it was iPhone I think.
Exactly! It’s a status symbol. Nigerians have some of the worst ideas of beauty and the standard are very colonised. Your everyday Nigerian woman is wearing her natural hair or braids. But the ones with more money wanna separate themselves, both by hair and skin tone - they are some of the most colourist people.
@@KlassicallyKeptI was in Nigeria in September and I saw locs on so many women including my friend I was so so proud. In this economy wigs are becoming less sustainable!!!
I find it sad that many Nigerian women feel this way about their natural hair 😢
I know right. I’m just getting to the point where I love my natural grey hair. And to hear that means they there is a serious self image problem.
@@sharoncampbell860 please don’t let this stop the progress you’ve made with loving your hair in all its glory.
I was in a bank hall in Lagos some weeks back. And all the women(customers and workers) there were on corn rows or twist. I was the only one with a wig. I observed same pattern on my way back, many Nigerian women and girls are embracing their natural hair. I work remotely so I hardly go out. I quickly branched at a nearby salon and braided my natural hair.
It's happening. Some women are being classist with their wigs but there is a silent revolution going on. Natural hair seems to be winning!
I was in a bank hall in Lagos some weeks back. And all the women(customers and workers) there were on corn rows or twist. I was the only one with a wig. I observed same pattern on my way back, many Nigerian women and girls are embracing their natural hair. I work remotely so I hardly go out. I quickly branched at a nearby salon and braided my natural hair.
It's happening. Some women are being classist with their wigs but there is a silent revolution going on. Natural hair seems to be winning!
In my tribe in Nigeria most people wear their natural hair everywhere. But immediately you change region of the country, the story changes. A lot of Southerners love to emulate western culture ie Black American culture. So these people don't represent my culture let alone the whole continent.
My daughter is 17, and she has never had her hair processed, she was about 10 years old and I took her to the hair salon and asked the hairdresser to blow dry it bone straight, my daughter kept insisting she do not like it I said well it has to be straight for your wrap, long story short when we got home she accidentally wet her entire head in the shower, Instead of being upset that truly was my wake up moment. She loved her hair in its natural state and I love that she loves her hair. It’s thick beautiful and I wished I could just go out without my wraps and my wigs but due to significant damage I can’t, and I’m in awe of her resilience of not wanting that bone dry silk wrap at 10!
I'm so tired of people speaking as if artifical hair and makeup is what makes a (Black) woman beautiful or put together. I always make a point of being well-dressed and presentable...I also wear my natural hair at all times and do not wear any makeup other than occasional lip gloss. I could have altered my look to appeal to more men, but I would rather be with someone who appreciates me as I am. And guess what? It worked. My partner compliments my hair all the time, and we both like that he can touch my face without having to worry about smudging anything.
When women put these strict standards on other women they really are revealing their own insecurities: the fear that they are undesirable and unlovable without the add-ons. I feel for them to certain extent because I know how painful it is to have that level of self-loathing...but I was also a teenager when I believed those things, and I matured. I also never pushed those ideas onto other people. At some point people need to mature and stop focusing on such superficial things (especially a pastor!).
I love your comment!!! I too prefer very little or no makeup, natural hair. A lot of women don’t realize that men prefer natural beauty. Been happily married for over 26 yrs😜. I’m only concerned about being beautiful for my husband, but at the end of the day it’s how I view myself, I don’t need validation from anyone else, esp. another woman!!!☺️💜💕
no one cares
@@dubudubudahyun ❤
@@kimban5434 You stated that men prefer natural beauty, are you looking good for yourself or for men. That a woman wears makeup doesn't mean she doesn't prefer her natural looks, sometimes it's just a love for the art or desire for a varied look. I wear makeup and wigs, but my best look is my fresh face with my natural beautiful long Afro hair. I feel like the Queen of Africa when I wear my hair out, but I don't do so all the time cos combing my hair can be quite painful and styling is sometimes time consuming. I'm Nigerian by the way.
You’re absolutely right the shaming and self hating behavior is emotionally immature. I wouldn’t dare want to attract another man in that frequency! Horrid
I work for a great company full time I show up 5 days with my natural hair, I will never change my hair, natural all the way up
I love my natural hair as well.
The self-hate is real! Even Asians are curling their hair in tiny rollers to imitate afro hair! We are the bomb, in our natural hair!❤
I saw this trend. It has popped up on my feed a few times.
But that Asian woman will lose that afro real quick if her job has a policy against it. What we really need is for school and corporations to stop making our hair against the rules. Especially schools because children are coming up believing that their hair is not ok. They create rules around what is well put together and not distracting based on how hair grows out of their heads. They need to adjust those rules for how hair grows out of our heads so we aren't against the rules just by existing.
@mikochild2 I agree 100%. Cornrows were a problem until Bo Derrick got em and emerged from the ocean. We have the most versatile hair in the world. I ❤️ my 4 textured hair, but it took almost a lifetime b4 I came to appreciate it. The ONLY reason WS have a problem with it is because it naturally grows from the scalp of Black folks. From the time I was a child (grew up in the 60s), white folks were getting perms w little plastic rods to put some body into their straight hair.
The CROWN ACT obviously didn't prevent racist from continuing to oppose our beautiful locks in schools and on the job. I really believe jealousy is at the root of all of the opposition. A huge fro is one of the most beautiful things on earth.
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Tooo fire
Self hate is real they hate 4c hair! Society also hates 4c hair and we think using European hair type wigs is our salvation but it’s not! We need to embrace god creation! God gave us this hair type for a reason! If you want to protect your natural hair use Afro hair type wigs!
That woman said what she said. We understand her mindset regarding natural hair
We do
To Klassically Kept: I'm a Nigerian man. Both of these ladies are Nigerian, first lady Abiri (KokoByKhloe) is a popular Yoruba content provider and the second by complexion is probably Igbo. You are correct, that mostly there is no external discrimination based on hair, which is why Abiri said what she said comfortably - the "trauma" about "bad hair" is not there. But of course, the viewpoint is still a big issue. So, how did we get here?
(i) erasure of traditional Nigerian values/culture, (ii) western media and (iii) Black American women (sorry). Based on the direction of media dating back some twenty years or so ago, the contemporary look is always influenced by America (WORLDWIDE). However, if you think Black Americans take things from 0-100, Nigerians take it 0-1000000.. and with the social media era, everything is now coming full circle. While most Nigerians are progressing a high-order status quo, some others - particularly Nigerian-Americans - are giving the world "soft life", "Christian BBL" and all types of nonsense. Plus keeping up with the Joneses is real in Nigeria (Lagos)... b/c you have actual, stinking wealthy people (dollar billionaires and millionaires) side by side with many stinking broke people and the latter are always trying to keep up. So we're all black, but there's diff cultural elements at play with this hair stuff as well.
My conclusion: people like you are VERY important to the culture so please stand on your square, which I humbly agree is right. Particularly, in this global age, where trends are springing from each corner. I think if black women everywhere see obviously pretty, classy, trendy, well-to-do smart women (i.e., the "beauty status quo") rocking their well-kept natural hair, it will re-establish this as IDEAL (not just passable). Some Nigerian UA-camrs are pushing the same message as well, such as Maraji's World. you should check her out.
Why do I care? Because I hope to have daughters one day, and swear rn I'm super shooketh!
You may have sons
You'll may need to train them to repair and build, at the start, and take it from there
I find it odd, how many members of the diaspora have jumped on such negativity. Besides she spoke more about natural hair and actually said she'd like to wear it at her wedding! Watch the whole damn thing. They don't like being judged, stop judging others!
Why are Nigerian women being influenced by Black American women? I thought yall culture is so strong. How are they trying to emulate other women, then?
@@SunshineKK99 You sound supremely dense. Everyone is influenced by everyone else. Do you ask Latinos why they borrow heavily from your culture? And they don't even like or respect you. But you're here with this dense take
@@Nethandablack foreigners don't like or respect us either FOH! And black foreigners don't influence me in any way and never have. You're really reaching with that statement
Bad thing about them too is they don’t realize the wigs their wearing look awful. It could at least look real. It’s giving low budget street walker. They don’t look good enough to be at any classy event…smh
It's amazing how you wearing your natural hair right now, looks effortlessly elegant and this blows her theory out the water.💯💯💯
thank you !
Her hair looks beautiful and healthy ❤
It is beautiful 😍
we really are our own worst enemy. the saddest part is always how obviously fake most of those wigs and weaves are. the women wearing them look like Lego people, with removable/interchangeable plastic hairpieces. i cringe whenever they use the term "protective style" on the rare occasion that they go natural... like they need an excuse, or they're apologizing for not being up their own standard of beauty in those moments .
Colonization of the mind!
I’d rather have any type of natural hair over those plastic looking wigs they got on 😂
*also, your hair is absolutely elegant, it’s giving Bridgerton for sure ❤
thank you
I didn't feel this stigma in the '80s OR 90s. Actually, I didn't wear my first wig until 2016.
No you didnt
It's the accumulation of
Gangsta rap..using n word, wanting redbones etc
It went international.
I refuse to listen to it, and listen to certain modern country Male artists, or Motown/Tamla oldies
So sad for this generation
You are so beautiful!! Please continue to represent the natural beauty in black women. I can not believe the bad wig wearing women and the self loathing.
Beauty is natural, not make-up and fur on your head, beauty is being respectful, honest, knowing your value and respecting others. That person that made that statement "don't bring your natural hair to her event" there is nothing beautiful about her. She has a very nasty disposition and that is in her spirit, which those sitting there with her is being horribly influence in a very negative way. That is why these young people are so confused about how to navigate through life. There is so much garbage on this social media just to make money and they don't care who they harm. these young people don't have a clue about what they are talking about.
The selfhate is something else
Reading the comments 😅. It went from the hot comb/Marcel to relaxers/jerry curls and now wigs/weaves. This has been going on for generations. I used to work at a beauty supply store back in 2017. I had women my moms age coming in with locs looking for a straight wig because of their jobs. It never occurred to me that the issue wasn’t based on us not loving our hair but mainly society not allowing us to do so.
It’s not necessarily that cut and dry. Some people utilize these things but not all of the time. My paternal grandmother pressed her hair when felt like it, rocked a fro when she felt like it, put on a wig when she felt like it. Some women in my family do this even now because they like to change their look. I do think your profession and location can impact what you can do without pushback. My mom dyed her hair various colors when I was a kid but she was in a creative field.
Alot of black women think and feel this way about their own hair. She just said it out loud and further perpetuated the stigma.
Agreed !
I get it. It’s a culture and UNFORTUNATELY I think it starts with us. I’m an African American and my family from NJ couldn’t believe that I went natural. I NEVER wore wigs and I don’t like fake hair. It’s not for me. At 52 I am still discovering my natural hair, after using chemical relaxers since I was a child. It is sad that we’re taught to hate our hair and not love, groom, learn and care for it.
African American is an adjective. Make it makes sense
Same. All I've ever wanted is my own hair. The wigs look mad fake.
@@YOUR-WORD-IS-YOUR-BONDNo need to be disrespectful. Many people of African descent in North and South America use the term Afro or African in conjunction with their nationality. If you want to troll, that’s fine. However at least try to be funny.
@carrington2949 Oh, because I'm telling the truth, then I'm trolling and being disrespectful? I can't help that you can't handle the truth... Africans call themselves their tribe name... Make it make sense! The only way they would know their nationality is to do their genealogy paperwork... That's not their true nationality, race, or ethnicity....
@@YOUR-WORD-IS-YOUR-BOND reread the sentence because thats exactly how she used it. Make your comment make sense.
It’s sad that these comments are coming from us and not other races judging us. Self hatred is so sad. I hate those wigs. I would rather style my own hair. That’s led me to this channel.
Blame gangsta Rap..the music AND ESPECIALLY the videos
Exactly💯, this community can’t always blame the white ppl bc self hate starts at home/within the broken community🤦🏽
Misogynoir is deep within our race
We were conditioned to think this way. White ppl wouldn't take you seriously/would see you as a threat for not assimilating and they held the resources to upward mobility, so black ppl bent themselves out of shape to become what they needed to become to survive. White ppl and others are more open to natural hair now but the damage has long been done~
She’s not sorry she is just sorry she got caught and mad she got called out.
This’s so sad other Africans like Moroccan, Eritreans, Somalis and Sudanese are proud of their features they literally feel better looking than other races and always talk about their features I wish our people feel the same
My man was telling me that he doesn't like the idea of wearing someone else hair cause you could carry their bad luck, spirit and so on. I was arguing at first but I realize I never really put the effort to style my hair. And he always praised my natural hair so that was a motivation to start putting the effort in
Love this for you. Many women are not lucky to have a mate who supports them, especially when it comes to hair. My husband loves my hair natural and all.
I am also glad you are putting in the effort towards your hair.
Oh that’s awesome, my husband is the same way. He hates when I wear wigs, he says they look a mess Lol. My natural hair could be awfully styled but he still loves it when I wear it out
You got a real one!
I’m just going to say this, I personally don’t think you could look your best when you look like you are imitating someone one else. Your natural hair or natural looking hair (including braids, natural looking wigs…) cannot be duplicated, because it’s unique to you. It’s unfortunate that this continues to be an issue.
Our hair has history. Before colonization, our hair was used to tell stories (about one's tribe, status, and so forth). Further, afrotextured hair was designed to keep African people cooler in hot climates. Both of the women touting Eurocentric wigs are obviously ashamed of their own heritage. They brought even more shame to black heritage, not just for disparaging afrotextured hair, but doing it while wearing horrendous Eurocentric wigs. This left me speechless. They need to decolonize their minds and STOP dispensing beauty advice.
You are right.. it is so embarrassing to see these black women with these (90%) ugly looking wigs on their head. beautiful skin colors but they don’t see it. I never never saw a black women with a silk wig that made her look better..it always looked cheap. I even see Serena Williams with these expensive wigs and hate it. Hope she raise her children loving their skin color and their natural hair.
I went to the gas station, less than a mile away, I saw the black woman, with a wig, the lace unglued, barely hanging on her head. I wondered to myself, why is she wearing it in the first place. It's just a gas station
She probably didn't want to do her actual hair
Seen a girl today with this bright pink one smh same scenario. Glue lifting and its not cute
Some how an untamned wig is better than even the Black hair equivalent of a messy bun or puff
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@@NoName-sp5dp well a lot of girls to do so even at work, shcool so ..
They rather wear wig, sit on they're heads with no glue than wear their naturals hair ... like my coworkers said to me ...
That's deep and sad !
My mother is African. Kenyan in fact. She told me the only reason why she kept chemically straightening her hair was because of my father - African father - liking it more that way. As a young woman she liked to keep it short and natural. Now because of how much relaxing has weakened her strands and she’s getting older (so having a bit more hair fall + the weakening of it chemically) she switched to sister locks. She imposed doubt about my natural hair onto me all because my BM father didn’t prefer natural hair… this is common for black women.
I would like to add, my youngest granddaughter has pretty brown with reddish highlight 4c hair, shoulder length. When she would visit with us I'd wash condition, twist and sometimes blow dry out when she wanted to shake her hair. Then her mother started sending her over with these cheap off colored extensions, 7, 8, 9 years old. I'd snatch that mess out of her hair and remind her how beautiful her hair is. Black mothers please stop slapping up your girls when you have to deal with the 4c hair and they're crying because you yank and pull and complain about they're nappy hair. THIS is where it starts. There are more products and better made brushes and combs then when I was growing up. Stop being lazy and teach them to love their hair!
I always embraced my daughter’s natural hair but I myself wore wigs. My daughter wanted king straight hair like mom’s wigs so I quit wearing wigs. Now they want to wear twist outs like mommy. We gotta practice what we preach coz our babies are watching!!!
@@user-du7qp3qq6dgood job mama! We are our children’s first teacher!
She needs to take a few seats. Her wig is actully attached to that head band too lazy too put on a good one I guess.
.She said what she meant that was not edited , she was upset because it didn't go over the way she thought it would.
Pastor you say, ummm nope.
I do agree it's a shame that mothers are not teaching their childdren they are beautiful just the way they are.
The other thing is that you can get a man with natural hair men like all types of women.
I wonder if some of these women think that having straight hair will get them a better calibre of man.
MERRY CHRISTMAS TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.🎄
Good morning Ann! Lol thank you for clearing that up! I knew there was something going on with the wig.
I would agree about her saying what she meant. I believe the statement followed only after she received so much backlash.
This myth and I do mean myth about not being able to get a man needs to go away expeditiously.
You make a very good point and that could actually be a conversation within itself. Does straight hair attract a high caliber man ?
Merry Christmas to you and yours as well.
I'm sorry, I will have to keep running this back because I can't focus on what you are saying for staring at your beautifully and elegantly coiffed hair...your whole demeanor is taking me back to ladies from the 40's 50's , the women we grew up with.. I love it!!!
Thank you so much. I have been told that is my era lol.
I've had long hair most of my life. I cut it a few yrs ago, short to go natural. Until it grew back, i switched focus to my personal style and wearing my face. I'm a no makeup woman. It was liberating not to focus on hair, and surprisingly, i got a lot more attention. If you need wigs and weaves as self-esteem builders, what does that make you without them?
Same. Force myself to go without makeup. So freeing
Same, I wear mascara, that's it.
Here we go!
All you need sometimes is a good skin care regimen. I found one that works for me and my husband even asked me whether I had make up on but I didn’t 😅
Great reviews, Sis! Both of those ladies look crazy in their wigs. I wouldn’t be caught dead in either one of them. 🤦🏽♀️
Same.
thank you
Right
Yes but u see these hair don't wigs everyday and they think it looks good cuz it's straight and long it's silly!
Facts!!
I don't like when people try to dissuade the conversation or dismiss the conversation by simply saying you shouldn't be checking how other people are looking the reality of it is there's a very specific image that is being pushed right now of what a black girl and woman should look like and it's not normal and therefore it affects me. So, we have to check that. I really appreciate this video because the discourse around black women's hair is such a contentious one and it doesn't need to be and it shouldn't be, we need to be real and honest about this conversation.
Thank goodness I've finally reached a stage in life of loving everything about myself from head to toe unapologetically. That's exactly why I have started rockin locs and will make sure my daughter loves herself and her hair just the way it is, period!!!!! 💅
I choose to change the narrative about my hair as a teenager. I decided that my natural is not only acceptable but it’s beautiful. I taught my daughter to love her hair also. Black woman have to decide to choose self love. It’s a decision that we need to make about ourselves. I know too many black women who choose self hate.
Hello Rhona, I love this for you and it is even better that you were able to change the narrative when you were a teenager. I love that you taught your daughter, as my mother taught me.
Should David and I have a daughter, the same teachings will follow suit.
She said afro hair is NOT good enough... it's not premium. SMH. As far as wearing wigs AIN'T no way my husband (may he RIP) would have gone for me wearing a wig. He didn't like me wearing makeup, he said it didn't do anything for me. All the men I dated didn't care for me to wear makeup. I've always tried to take good care of my skin and hair. I've never worn wigs, worn braids twice, and eye makeup and lip gloss.
Yes agreed. Take care of our hair, skin, teeth and watch our weight, and black women shine right up until our 80s and beyond if God wills. I've been preaching this to my daughter all her life. Take care of the natural and your confidence will shine and draw good people to you.
I think we should look how we want for us first, men second. ❤❤❤
Hello Kelica. My husband was the same way lol. I came home from my pre makesup session for our wedding. I walked in the house, he took one look at me and said " I DONT LIKE IT." Condolences for your husband.
Me as well. I keep my skin care and hair care simple. I wear mascara and that is about it. I may spice it up with some eyeliner for a date or an event.
Self hate is so real🤯 "Don't bring your natural hair to my event" is so ignorant. Pray for the little girl who calls her mom😩
I stopped wearing wigs because I realized they just don’t look good. I wanted to look like my hair but it never did and I wasn’t guna pay someone’s rent check for a real human hair well made wig. I ended up getting sister locs almost 3 years ago now and I’ve really grown love my own hair and it’s texture but also other women’s hair. I see black women with their natural hairstyles that are absolutely stunning. I refused to instill that kind of self hate in my daughter.
Is she saying all of that wearing a headband wig? 💀🫢
Okay so this is a headband wig. lol , I didn't know. Thank you ma'am!
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Translation: "I don't feel my *MOST* beautiful in my natural hair." That's is her "issue" but judging another who is wearing natural hair= *she is fully and completely in the wrong* God bless the person interviews for a job from her as employer.
Judgment is coming from both sides. This issue is much deeper...
I think the keyword here is "her" as in that's her issue. I hear judgement on the look of Black women from mostly other Black women. It's a bizarre thing.
Hello. Seeing you talk about this gives me so much joy. The two videos you reacted to are from Nigerian women and as a Nigerian living in Nigeria, it is really disheartening to see this, there are even hair vendors that sell wigs for toddlers and young children. The most comments I have gotten on my hair are from women and they most times ask or imagine my hair being relaxed. I am so grateful for my mom who taught me how to love and take care of my natural hair even when all my classmates were using relaxers in their hair. At some point I legit felt like the odd one out, I am happy I grew out of that phase. Right now I wear my long full natural hair even to work and events.
And just to put this out there, there is a large community of natural hair women in Nigeria who love and appreciate their God given hair.
Also I looooove all your videos. Kudos
Yeah, I've definitely seen a major move to embrace natural black hair in Nigeria over the last few years.
The road is a long one.
Imho, if the men began openly and constantly praising natural hair, it would change the tide quicker.
Many men actually appreciate natural hair, if you have natural hair you'll attract the ones who prefer that.
This is refreshing to read, esp from someone who comes from the green white green nation.
Thank you so much.
Love you sis ❤❤
Hey ladies if you wanna wear wigs for convenience (granted the underneath is taken care of 👀) it’s fine especially if you manipulate your hair often. However, I think opting for more natural wigs are the way to go like 4c fro, kinky straight, kinky blowout, even yaki straight (since it’s your natural texture YOU WONT NEED GLUE). I found that these look the most natural on me and are a real confidence booster while being convenient whilst maintaining a ✨classy✨ look and 3:23 growing your hair out.
This is me. I have coily hair and she doesn't like being comb everyday😅 so i will throw on a kinky/coily wig and no one can tell the difference.
This is me, I wear my natural hair, but if I need a little more pop, I'll wear 4c clip INS or puffs, I can't do the straight wigs, after one day it looks plastic and sad
@@kamjohnson6877 lol I feel the same thing about bone straight wigs too. When I found kinky straight/ blowout texture it was life changing
It's a shame but I believe a lot of African women feel that way. I was watching a documentary and most kids felt that their hair had to be straightened and long to feel beautiful. So perms, braids and wigs would be their solution.
blck women period!!! Just saw a video where a woman thought another woman was a “bad b” unless she had a bbl and was “light skin”
🎯 I felt that way for a long time. Embracing my natural texture instead of fighting it has been so freeing.
Well a lot of black women feel that way. Who are you to speak on African women?
No they don’t it’s West African women Why this people keep saying African women do they know not all African have fake hair in their heads north East even South African women don’t wear them a lot
@@true4585 African women have a big issue with natural hair still. Black American women have been embracing it since the 70s and even began the natural hair movement. We are the ones causing an uproar about her negative comments on natural hair. There are definitely still Black American women who think that way, but it's definitely not majority like in Africa. They also are big on bleaching their skin over in Africa unlike Black Americans.
I did not grow up wearing wigs weaves etc, tbh for me growing up it was the exact opposite. People would think my hair was a weave or people would and still ask annoying questions about my natural hair. The older I get the more I appreciate my hair wether it be naturally styled or if I choose to straighten it. I understand the pressures of being in society, when it comes to wearing our natural hair it’s not easy but, our hair that grows out of our head is apart of who we are individually. We’re all on our own journeys when it comes to self love.
I tried a weave once in 2008 it looked funny but everyone said it looked nice i felt uncomfortable with it on my head!!. Never tried weave again For me natural looks better on ME! To each their own✊🖤👑
I feel the same way that's why I barely wear the one wig I own .
As a GROWN WOMAN you should be able to wear your hair in whatever way you like.. Its no one else business to be monitoring someone else or clothing or hair . Natural Hair to Weave , Everyone trying to be nasty and hateful and one up each other. or feel like they are better in some way. I am very selective with whom i deal with now . Cause its so many petty childish ignorant so called grown people. At The End of the Day worry about You.! Cant Police what another person put on and wear.
This is tough. I have been natural for 12 years my natural hair is BSL. But I have sooo much hair and I am not one for 2 and 3 day processes to have it presentable for my corporate job. I have invested sooo much time, money and energy over 12 years to nail the natural looks but for my day to day life I invested in a custom $1k wig (no glue required) and I love that I can keep my hair protected and feel put together and save my sanity every morning. Lastly I had 2 Christmas parties in 2 different cities and honestly I wore my wig and felt I still represented. Yes, I wash my wig. Oil my scalp and I maintain both well.
My desire would be to wear my own hair all the time but it seems like I may need to go back to relaxing just to get to a place of everyday manageability this is my own internal battle. 🙏🏾
I've worked in corporate all my life and my natural hair has never been an issue. I'm 60 years old.
We totally get that. You do it out of convenience, not hating your natural hair, although it may get on your nerves like mine does. Relaxers gave me scalp issues, so I'll never go back but I get why some women want to.
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What do you define as presentable, because I really don't think it should take 2-3 days (not even 3 hours) to have your hair ready to go and I also have A LOT of hair. I honestly think people are either making natural hair harder than it needs to be or they still have issues accepting how the hair that grows out of their scalp looks. I learned this after seeing many
"wash and go" videos not actually being just washing your hair and going, bur rather having to alter your hair to loosen the curls.
Noo, you said yourself you have thick hair. That’s awesome man. I’d love some thick hair but mine is super fine though I love it so much. Find a nice natural hair salon and wear flat twists. There are thousands of styles to chose from
I was in a bank hall in Lagos some weeks back. And all the women(customers and workers) there were on corn rows or twist. I was the only one with a wig. I observed same pattern on my way back, many Nigerian women and girls are embracing their natural hair. I work remotely so I hardly go out. I quickly branched at a nearby salon and braided my natural hair.
It's happening. Some women are being classist with their wigs but there is a silent revolution going on. Natural hair seems to be winning!
*sigh* there is so much that I could say on this topic, but I will say this first your hair looks beautiful. Second colonialism has really done a number on us. And lastly, it’s so sad to see our learning and unlearning being played out before the world, whether it’s Black women and our issues and concerns, including our hair, gender wars, our family concerns, mental health concerns for Black men, any, and everything that we need to discuss as a family is literally on display for the world and we we don’t have access to that when it comes to other cultures. I appreciate your work as a first time viewer. ❤
I am also a first time viewer and I like it here. ❤
Naw..it wasn't like this in the 80s..
Sis or Mr (not sure what gender you're) but you deserve ALL THE FLOWERS for this comment. I've been saying this VERY SAME THING even within so called "Black rad!cal spaces" and I've been ignored. They also tend to minimise how widespread and sever these problems are. We as a people, are literally showcasing our entire dirty laundry for the ENTIRE world of the internet to laugh at our demise. I don't understand how an avg Black person doesn't have a problem with it. It's beyond alarming.
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Thank you kindly. Well, I'll chalk it up to this: THANK GOD FOR MODERN TECHNOLOGY AND THE FACT THAT WE ARE ALIVE IN THE DIGITAL AGE! IN THE INFORMATION AGE! If this is the best way that we can all have our family meetings then so be it. At least we're meeting. We're fixing, correcting, listening, learning, unlearning, looking at the data and statistics, healing, growing, building, understanding, saying no, no longer working like a mule, making more money, supporting business, giving to go fund mes, filming and calling people out, holding peoples feet to the fire, voting for and against, learning how to chew the meat and spit out the bones, loving and putting ourselves first... and those that don't wanna learn and grow, or contribute, that's on them. There's no reason at this point, collectively, for us to not be building a better community, for us and by us, as a people and for our future generations to come.
I’m also assuming that she doesn’t think natural hair is appropriate to wear at work. Which falls in line with the discrimination and work place abuses that black women suffer from at the hands of their white bosses. Wow!
i love my natural hair
I do as well
She has the NERVE to have that bad hairhat on while she is saying that. I'm not bullying, I'm keeping it real.
Edit: I commented before you mentioned it. But you did so in your klassy way as usual.
Sis it’s always the ones with no place to talk, thats got some shit to say 💯💯💯💯💯 tell me I’m wrong.
Hair hat 😂
Hello Ladies Blvd. Thank you.
I am glad yall think I did a good job, lol I was nervous. My goal was not to embarrass, condescend, or disrespect, but she opened the door. I usually do not comment on appearances but in this situation it was warranted.
@@KlassicallyKeptI love u girl
Thank you for breaking this down. She doesn’t like herself or her hair. She needs to stop devaluing the black hair that grows naturally. Black Women have various hair types and we have to learn to care for our hair and value the gift. This woman could have been born bald. Accept the blessing and quit cutting down others-which is her choice.
This hairstyle is beautiful! 😍 You look so elegant
thank you
It’s the ugly cycle of the so-called beauty standards. The “European” look is what most acceptable. Many blk men push, hence their choice in intimate relationships, and the constant ridicule of blk women wearing natural hair, but have scathing remarks when we wear wigs too. There’s no balance for us. Which is why we need to embrace our natural hair, make it look nice, even if the choice is made to relax it. Too, we need to stop ridiculing one another perpetuating the hate projected onto us.
I am loc’d, been so 21 years now. Wouldn’t change it for the world.
This is not surprising to me as a Nigerian-American, black people are the first to hate on my natural hair from both America and Nigeria smh. Unless it's long and flowing down your back (which is still considered rare in our community).
as a woman from the African community, some of these African sisters man... dont even maintain their natural hair correctly, so of course it looks dry and broken. We also deal with the topic of texturism and (long hair desirability) there's a small percentage of African ladies with kinky texture and long hair (past waist length when not stretched), so yeah even if said hair is freshly twisted, they need added hair to make it more... glam like to match this expensive dress and accessories, and it's alot of effort... so if they're going that route might as well put on a stringy hair weave
Texturism is a conversation and issue within its self unfortunately. As black women we have some work to do, we are all beautiful because we were made in His image. I cannot speak on either of their personal experiences but somewhere they were told or taught they were not beautiful with the natural beauty they were given.
@@KlassicallyKept I can speak on my experience, when I was going natural my African church basically turned on me saying that I was doing satanic practices. it got so bad that I actually had to quit the church as I was so traumatized by the mistreatment. Already my hair was long and straight which was kinda seen as a blessing from God, but to cut it so that I could grow out that kunte kente texture somehow was a sin. I was so young and innocent back then, I loved God so much I wanted to honor him by coming to him just as I was.. but apparently that was way too much for the sheeples. I learned alot about how the church manipulates people into thinking cultural practices are biblical like p3d0 indoctrination, Dom&st1c 4buse, r4p3, tax evasion, exploiting the vulnerable (illegal immigrants and incarcerated folks that were released and trying to start a new life). So most likely these women (like the lady pastor making fun of women going natural) have been brainwashed and indoctrinated to reject the African wool from our heads.
@@Ebizzillthat’s horribly insane! I’m a Bible believing Christian, and luckily have not had that experience. I find that regardless of growing up in the faith or not, many black ethnic groups have issues with hatred of their hair and ppl will conjure up any fabricated excuse to hate it for no logical reason. It makes me think of how in the US, under slavery, in order to justify blk women working so hard (when women were supposed to be housewives), they had to not only dehumanize them but strip them of their femininity using propaganda. A lot of African churches are questionable if they stoop as low as to tell you your natural hair is somehow hell inspired. All of that talk is shameful.
Several years ago, my hair was just as kinky and matted like it was no tomorrow. I just looked at myself finally in the mirror and said....'Pamela, you're black'. A point of gentle acceptance of what I agreed to be. From that day forward, I still turn heads, in terms of how I look 🤗🤗🤗
I can't stop laughing at the woman wearing that ridiculous wig. She looks like she's in the witness protection program.
If I ever got married, this is exactly how I would want my hair to look. 🥰
❤ I went natural as a teenager and endured mockery (from people around me and even strangers) for more than a decade until the recent natural hair 'rave'. I'm not sure who told people that some humans were inferior to others.
Happy Holidays! I so appreciate your comments! And yes, you look a thousand percent better than the podcasters with your own thick, healthy, beautiful natural hair!! This is the second year of my own natural hair journey. I was surprised, first to even know what the hair on my head looked like as I had not seen it really in it's natural state since I was 14 years old. I was also surprised as to how easy it was to take care of, once I knew how. It was sad that I didn't know how. That the only information I had been given was to perm my hair vs. taking care of it! The beauty industry is finally catching on--- realizing the goldmine involved with creating effective natural hair products. It is easier, less time consuming and less expensive than the chemical treatments I had been getting for decades. To your point, denying and concealing our natural beauty has been harmful and has obscured the truth about who we are and our value. Truths that we need to celebrate and appreciate!
A lot of natural hair UA-camrs are bringing this to light. I watched the whole “bahd and boujee” interview! She said what she said confidently and wholeheartedly. Nothing seemed to be edited or taken out of context. My bridesmaids and I wore our natural hair to my wedding in our expensive dresses lol and it was beautiful. She also shared other ideas of beauty, and she contradicts herself several times, that I didn’t agree with either. Which is fine but, somewhere she took to heart that she is not good enough and it showed throughout the interview.
I have to watch the 2nd clip you talked about now!
Hello!
I agree, I think she stood 10 toes down when she made the comment and meant it. I just wanted to make sure I presented all information available. As many other people have said in the comments her explanation/apology was a walk back.
That is a Nigerians opinion does not represent all african women, natural hair is a trend in Ghana so much so people actually have natural hair wigs, and there are natural hair salons, people even style their natural hair for weddings. Nigerians love wigs and even rate it above braids doesn't apply to all africans
Exactly! Same in east Africa as well. Nigerians claim to be proud but are quick to wear a wig.
@@user-Mimi622 i didn't say women dont wear wigs in ghana, i said natural is trending, in my workplace for example out of 30 ladies 10 of us ladies have gone natural 2 have locked their hair its quite common. Guess what no Ghanaian women have come out to bash natural hair it is Nigerian women to be specific who are degrading natural hair
Not all Nigerian women operate this way 😑
Are we not tired of talking about hair?
No.
Thank you! I have never dyed my hair. 😌
My natural hair is priceless! No expensive clothes come close to the value of my natural hair. How people project their insecurities on others is amazing.
It's not a custom. It's self-hate. Africans are the original people so we had many important events with our natural hair. Yes, many times it was always in braids or twists but we didn't have relaxers until after colonization.
Plenty of AA women and especially AA men feel the same way. I was googling nature hairstyles for weddings and there are nowhere near as many natural dos as wig dos when it comes to black women. The wig isn't even kinky straight or kinky curly.
(All of this association with natural hair being undone hair is also related to hypergamy in Nigeria. All the women trying to secure a wealthy African man will not get them unless their 4c is to their butt or they buy a 30-inch wig. I went back to my country (Nigeria) and the way my cousins forced me to lay my edges was ridiculous. I have the same problems in America with black people. Either they hate natural hair or they want natural hair in a specific way (laid edges, gel-ed up, extremely long, etc). It is absurd. So y'all but wigs to do a messy bun in but I can't walk around with my edges untouched and moisturized? 🙄)
Literally
@@rutho.6282Mind your own business 🤦🏿♀️
I ligitamently followed after seeing your hair. You exclude such elegance and class, I know I'll need to catch up on the rest of your videos now.👏🏾
Thank you so much and welcome to the community.
Hair tutorial if you are interested: ua-cam.com/video/ABf90OfP-NI/v-deo.html
The level of SUCCESS that the colonizers had in making people of African descent feel unacceptable is actually shocking, and it's time that we of African descent fight back against that narrative. It's really insane how deep it runs.
Oh man........hair is such a trigger for me.......I don't want to go into a full tirade about stereotypes, Caucasian stands of beauty, etc etc....but I will say as a black woman who has done everything to my hair over the last 35 years.......and now has waist length locs......it brings me joy to go into schools as a teacher and have black children, boys and girls talk about their hair to me.
I love when they relay their experiences of Mummy washing and pulling their hair when combing and how much it hurts. I can laugh with them and tell them my Mummy did the same! I have children telling me about their family members who have locs and I giggle at exasperated Mum's who have been instructed to style their daughters hair just like "Miss Johnson's". I even have white children commenting on my hair and I sometimes hear little white girls asking their Mother's to do their hair like mine 🤭
If I can bring joy, a sense of pride and a love of our natural hair to as many little/young black girls as I can......then I feel I've had a good day at work......forget English & Maths! 😂
Well said. That being said, my issue with the hair typing system is that the more coils, curls, or texture the hair has, the lower it is classified on the scale. Why does everything about our being have to be considered bottom caste?
The sad reality is that African women grow up being reminded constantly that their natural hair is undesirable.
That Eurocentric beauty standards are ideal . That's why colourism and in extension bleaching is a big issue in most parts of Africa especially West African.
Some workplaces still don't allow people to show up in their natural hair....watch primetime TV especially News you will never/rarely see natural hair which is sad considering how powerful media can be in setting agenda and changing attitudes.
The podcaster should have been more responsible than that.
Luckily,the natural hair movement has revived and people are actually very proud of their natural hair.
Personally,I started doing curly kit then perm just like my Mom at 13 until I hit 30 and I just didn't want to do it anymore.My Mom went natural first and our hair being fine meant all those years of chemicals had really done a number on our hair.
I still see young girls hair being plaited or manipulated way too early and I don't get it...
There's a lot of miseducation about natural hair but beneath most people 's wigs&weaves is a head of hair they love.
Wigs&weaves should remain just a protective style,not your entire personality or identity.
When it comes to Black women,our struggles are eeringly similar.
She should really watch the documentary #GoodHair and read the book #PoliticsofBlackHair
Not surprised at all this happened in Nigeria but it's sad coz most Nigerian women I know have thick and beautiful set of coils.
I'm Nigerian and all you've said is foreign to me.
In Nigeria, nobody stops you from wearing your natural hair.
From the day I was born, I've never seen that happen.
It's more of a class separation. Wigs are not adored. EXPENSIVE wigs are adored because it shows you're wealthy.
The entire time you’re talking, I’m staring at your hair style knowing full well it’s beautiful in ANY elegant event!!
Thank you so much!
Even when I was relaxed I never did the wigs or weave thing. I've been natural since 2015 and only rocked my Type 4 natural hair since, never flat ironed. My wedding hair was a wash and go with a flower crown and I felt beautiful. Wigs and weaves can be nice but you don't need to straighten your hair or hide your hair with wigs or weaves to feel or be beautiful or elegant. The most beautiful thing you can rock is confidence be it in your skin (size, skin tone) or hair type. Confidence is attractive and will draw people to you.
First, you are so stunningly gorgeous in ANY and EVERY arena!. Second, God created man in His own image and anyone who does not accept that gift is saying that they know better than God what is beautiful. Third. …EVERYONE needs to groom, wash, dress, and learn to present themselves in a decent way that they feel comfortable with and can be confident in. Fourth…and finally…I 100% believe that natural solutions to beauty are not only the most Beautiful, but they are also the healthiest and don’t destroy our natural gifts …how many have destroyed their hair with these chemicals and glues etc….and while waiting for it to grow back learned how special their own hair was?…also way better environmentally….all these chemicals, and plastics and tools that use energy…for what? To DESTROY what God gave. Thank you for your channel and your poise! 🙂❤⭐🙏🏼🎄
This is classic self hatred it’s so sad, because they don’t realize how crazy those wigs look.
Idk, maybe it's just me but the journey of not just wearing but accepting your natural hair heals a part of you😊
I do not want to say that anyone is not beautiful, but I look at the hair that these women are trying to mimic and I am so grateful that I do not have that hair. And women of all hair types compliment my hair everyday because it is beautiful. I remember my uncle died when I was 12-years-old. My dad said I could go to the funeral only if I changed my hair. I burned one whole side of my hair off trying to straighten it with a hot comb. I said forget it, but I never felt unworthy. I want girls of all ages to feel worthy inside themselves. Thank you for bringing this to the attention of natural women and girls.
Don’t bring that tacky wig to my event😂😂😂😂🎉🎉
If you are able, try to get your hands on "Style and Status: Selling Beauty to African American Women, 1920-1975." It's a VERY well researched book and explains SO much of the feelings baked into the AA community around hair.
I just subscribed. I love what you’re saying so far. It is so true about the way we look at black hair and elegance. When you look at the history of black hair, it is so amazing that our hair is so versatile and to diminish the versatility and beauty of our hair is so criminal.Her statement speaks to the level of self-hate and internalized racism that many of us have taken on. I remember growing up and having to have everything be pressed or straight for an event and how our natural hair was never considered pretty enough. It was not until I started college and left home that I could get connected with my own natural hair because my mother was not having it in her house. Thank you for speaking up on this.
Wig is not my hair. I will not come to the event..period