1. You feel trapped. 2. You are at different stages of life. 3. Your friend betrays your trust. 4. Your friend is living in the past. 5. You are not happy around them. 6. Your friend doesn't make investments. 7. Your friends disrespect your goals. 8. Your friend takes too much of your time.
best not to thing about it... Friendship is good but you just had to choose who you going to spend more time with since when the work life came... you not going see any of them...
Then I guess I’ll die… I don’t want to live, the only thing keeping me alive is the people I know and all the memories and love we had… I’m not sure if this is a good advice 😞 🔫
I'm not sure there are literally *means* regarding social activity. What the *means* are are what the people in the relationship think about the relationship.
Yeah...I have a Friend Idk How I feel about her she can be amazing to me them horrible I feel trapped She’s blocked me twice she never tells me and I do everything For her
@@isla9610 I think you should reconsider your relationship. One of the tactics used in unhealthy relationships is love bombing. When one person behaves badly, to say it lightly, towards the other then shows an excessive display of 'love' to them (love bombing them) so that they don't leave.
Sometimes my friend doesn't spend enough time with me and spends a ridiculous amount of time with others and then I just don't feel like i'm in the group.
I had that "friend" in 7th grade. I decided to cut her out of my life in 8th grade because I felt most of these signs. She was also not a good influence, because she would rarely do her school work and would mostly copy off of me or others, and teachers started hating me because of her. She would also restrict me from hanging out with other friends. After I cut her out, she got expelled from school (I won't say why) which made me relieved that I dodged a bullet.
I haven't felt truly close to a friend in years. I can't share secrets with them, and sometimes I feel like there's nobody i can relate to. This might just be my fault though lol, I guess I've changed too
@bumbleski don't blame yourself. I feel the same. It's not our fault that we give our 100% in any relationship and we get back none. Maybe we should just show them our worth.
I had exactly the same thing for about 2 years, but at a certain moment you will meet people who share the same interests/thoughts. Don't worry, it is just a sign that you are growing as a person!
if there's no openness and trust in any kind of relationship, it's doomed to end soon. Trust is the core of relationships. It goes hand in hand with respect. If you're too cautious to say good things about your day because you're fearful of touching their insecurity, you might be in the wrong relationship.
@@anthonyosullivan3292 I feel you. I used to be with wrong people even when I knew they were not the people I should be with. Until recently. I realized I'm better and stronger by myself. Root for yourself you know. Take care ❤️😊
The thing is, there are things better left off unsaid. You don't have to share every single detail about your past or yourself to be friends with someone. Friendship is about enjoying the company of each other and having each other's backs in the present. The present moment.
Please remember, everyone. If you have a friend like this, ignoring them and blocking them is NOT the way to say goodbye. You will only hurt them and leave them wondering what they did wrong. Please be considerate to the other person if you need to end a friendship. I hope a lot of people will see this comment.
Thx for the information but the problem is my friend doesn't seem to understand what i am saying and she just cries and she just wants my attention and nothing else I feel like ending but i dont wanna hurt her :(
@@twilight3304 that's very sad to hear. I think if you have tried your best to explain it to her then you've done all you can and shouldn't feel guilty for saying goodbye now. My comment was about a personal experience where me and my friend were fine and I was suddenly blocked. He didn't even try to tell me why. The girl you are talking about may just be sad from the raw emotion and may need some time to get her head around it all. I don't know your situation so I can't say if this is the right thing to say. I'm just responding from personal experiences. I hope you will both be okay soon!
Mel G I had to leave a “friend” alone because of this. Telling me another people’s personal business is an absolute no no to me. I immediately pull back from people who do this. They lack integrity.
I had a co-worker tell me that she wanted to end our communication whatsoever if i quit my job and thats exactly what I did because i was not getting what i wanted from that job and i became sick of being jealous of seeing other co-workers have what i cannot have because my mistake has apperantly the destroyed the trust which i was NOT going to get back
Yeah, sensitive ass people in Twitter always call me a homophobic but this lesbian friend of mine is often mistaken as my girlfriend cause that's how close we are. 7 years already and why am I not killing her, hurting her or making fun of her if I was a homophobic?
I was kicked out of a friend group almost a year ago now, luckily I have gotten over it and learned my mistakes and I wish I had seen this video when it happened, it really made me understand what and how I was feeling
Bruh...I felt that. I invest in people who are like that and the good ones I have, a little less. Maybe because I feel secure in them but I can invest more there instead of on people who barely acknowledge my existence.
I just recently got out of a toxic friendship. I had been friends with these three for years, and I thought I was happy when I was around them. The truth is, though, that the relationship was so toxic that I didn't realize how bad it really was. I felt like I couldn't have my own feelings. When I tried to bring up something they did to them, they would tell me I was making myself sound like the victim, and in return told me that I was manipulating them. At the time, I assumed they were right. So I slowly put my own feelings aside, to the point where I would tell myself that my feelings didn't matter at all. I told myself that I was a liar and manipulator. And I believed that. For a short period of time, I began to realize how toxic it was, and decided to talk to one of my other friends about it. I didn't mention any names, and just referred to the three toxic friends as Friend 1, 2, and 3. This friend told me that the relationship was toxic. I laughed it off, as I kinda expected her to take their side. Somehow, the three friends found out and scolded me. They said that I shouldn't be talking about them behind their backs. I truly felt trapped. I couldn't seek support from anyone, as they would get mad at me for talking about my feelings. Soon, they began ignoring me. They would go and do things without me, walk to/from school/class without me, and it even got to the point where they would clearly ignore me when I tried to talk to them about anything at all. So in return, I decided to ignore them as well. I stopped trying. The three of them came and confronted me about this, asking if I was mad at them. I told them that yes, I was. I told them everything. I told them about the way they had been treating me, ignoring me, and keeping me trapped. Instead of admitting what they had done, they told me I was making myself seem like the victim, because I "had [them] worried sick!" They told me that they were crying because of the way that I was treating them. I wanted so badly for so long to never speak to them. I wanted to fade from their lives. But I never did. Why? Because for some reason, I convinced myself I was more afraid of being alone than being trapped in that relationship. The three of them cut ties with me that night. I never spoke to them again, and don't plan on speaking to them again. Although it seems like a good thing I don't talk to them anymore, it still hurts, and I have no idea why. If I wanted so badly to be away from them, why does it hurt to be without them? But there's something that still hurts me about the whole thing. I was friends with each of them individually. I introduced the three of them to each other. I was what brought them together. The fact that I dragged myself into this hurts the most. One of them even said to me "I'm glad you introduced me to Friend 1 and Friend 2. If it weren't for you three, I'd probably be a loner right now." This confession hurts me to even recite. She told me that I brought them together. Although I should be glad that I brought three inseparable friends together, I can't shake the feeling from my head that I did this to myself. I put myself in the position I was in, and I let it happen. They told me I was fanning the flames of the fire I started, and still to this day, I believe them. Than you for coming to my TedTalk-
Let me tell you something. When I went to a new school I had no friends so the teachers introduced me to another person who also didn't have friends. That year we became bestfriends. Next year when we went to school a new girl came and my friend and I wanted to be friends with the new girl. After few weeks they started to get closer to each other and started to ignore me. Anyways a lot of stuff happened and finally, I decided that I don't want to hold on to the friendship. First I was crying every single day. But after I realized how toxic she was after I made new friends that actually cared about me and didn't ignore me. To be honest I am really happy that I made new friends and didn't continue to be friends with her. I hope you also make new friends too and don't worry its okay... you can always make new friends its never too late I wish you the best ! :)
I stopped being friends with a lot of people, basically i figured most of my “friends” where really toxic, now I just need to find a way to get away from my toxic family.
I do want to know how to get away from toxicity too I do have best friends today There is just one friend that she keeps telling we are best friend It makes me uncormftable because She doesn't ever act like one She doesn't even act like a close friend Pretty cold and rude, indiferent or annoyed when we try to talk about our day I still consider her a friend just that absolutely not my best friend She gets really mad when I tell her that she is a friend not my BFF It is the truth
@@nycolleamendez5608 It is a simple guilt trip, she is gaslighting you to keep you on the hook. Keep your boundaries tight if she constatly break your boundaries (after you set them, and told her about), time to move on.
My “friends” never showed up to support me at a single one of my band concerts or art shows but would always show up to support my other friends events. They ALWAYS say they’re “too busy” to hang out with me that it’s kinda obvious they just don’t care about me even tho they say that they love and care about me
You DO NOT deserve friends who treat you this way. You are much more valuable. Believe me, it's always better to see the truth than believe the white lies your "friends" say. If they don't care for you, they don't deserve a part in your life or your heart. Forgive them, but never forget. Once you separate from them, they may try to lure you back, but they'll most probably go back to not caring anymore. Friendship is a two-way street. Be cautious who you give your heart to, my dude. It's broken easily, but takes much time to heal. Sorry if I made this too long😔. Hope you find better people who value you♥️ *virtually hugs*
CUT THEM OFF. No questions asked. I had this type of situation before. I cut them off and I’ve felt so happy from doing it, don’t let yourself become a dependent on someone’s leverage on you.
To be honest I just don’t wanna be around them anymore, we have been friends for a while now and I just feel really unhappy around them now , I dread going to school and can’t wait to get home , at this point Im trying to cut communication slowly.
please tell us what you did,I'm the same situation. I want to make new friends but idk how especially because I sit with some of my current friends in some lessons.
I recently had to leave behind a friend because i was just getting jealous that they weren’t interacting with me, when i needed support they weren’t there even though they said they would be, and it was taking a toll on my mental health....needless to say, i’m doing much better
@@MikhaelAhava Well, trying to be active close friends with people who are busy generally sucks. It's an unenjoyable experience. It is true that it is a sound excuse for why that person isn't available, but just because it is sound doesn't mean that they deserve for that friend to sit around and wait for them to come back. Got friends, but you're very busy? Oop, your friends are gone, then. You're too busy. You don't have any friends now. :) I agree with the original comment.
Same! I cut a friend out of my life for the same reason and I'm feeling a lot better now. I know they're busy and have other friends etc. and I'm obviously not mad at them for that. But if I don't get what I need out of a friendship, up to a point where it affects my mental health because I'm worrying too much, it's time to let go. It's no one's fault, it just doesn't fit, apparently.
Nobody is rly obligated to talk to you all the time tho so i think getting jealous That they Werent talking to u is a sign of u being a lil needy/clingy. Not everybody is always mentally there to be there for you all the time.Advice and Help should be available but not you ranting about Ur unhappiness and stuff to them bc that can rly put the other Person down and can even damage them.Happiness comes within you and you have to work on it by yourself and then go to other people,trust me i understand you:been there and done that and it never turned out great because of These problems.Nobody is responsible for your happiness and mental health,that all starts within you so work on yourself pls.It can b damagin and mentally frasturating for Them. Be your own bestfriend and become the best version u can be ,you r going to attract the best people too and Ur going to make great (even lifetime) friends😊
Relatable... I used to be part of a group. Ever since pre-school. But six years ago, my family decided to move and since I was still a kid, I had to follow. I lost everything. I lost myself. I got new friends, but one moved away, the others, they were just classmates I tagged along to not be alone. The others I met were because my parents got new friends who had kids. And then there's the first friend I ever made in this place, she's one of the last ones left that I actually feel truly happy around. I can be myself. The part that I know is in me, at least. I'm not really sure who exactly I am.
I totally relate. As I grew up, I realized there's a beauty in being a misfit. For me, its the freedom to not conform to people's expectations which in itself is a power of some sort.
At the moment I kind of feel down when I'm around my friends. I can't exactly explain why but I think both sides have their faults. I'm complicated at times...
I know what you mean. They are all talking about boys and am just the Aro/Ace sitting in the conner reading HTTRD hoping that something anything will happen.
How to tell you're friends with the wrong person: (s)he immediately came to mind when you saw this title of this video. (Not a rule, please think things over)
I just ended a friendship. I always felt like they would talk to me just when they needed someone to hear their problems. I was always wondering if their friendship was worth all the stress it caused. Now I sincerely feel so relieved it came to the end. This video came in a good time.
Saammee and i am about to start University soon and idk if i should be by myself cause i am scared of the Type of friend i might make or if they are going to hurt me
@@charika9690 That's part of growing up... you'll always meet the wrong friends. However, you should cultivate personal principles to guide you to the right people. Good luck!
Oki, so my friends are not toxic. They're really nice and caring and all, but I'm constantly unhappy with them. Like they make me feel insecure or unhappy, without meaning to. But like they don't do it in a toxic way. Is it normal to want to distance yourself from people who are litterally awesome for no reason? Lmao edit: they started being blatantly mean to me so um ✌️
im asking the same thing... they are nice and kind etc. but whenever im with them i feel like alone and unhappy.idk if its wrong to just distant myself from them bcs i feel that way.
I'm with you too!! When ever I'm in my "friend group" I can't help but feel forgotten and part of the dust on the ground, just listening to them talk, and feeling like I shouldn't talk. Don't get me wrong, they're super nice and fun/funny! But, I just can't help but... not want to be around them. I guess it is normal. There are just some people you're gonna feel unhappy around. And that's okay! It's okay and normal to not want to be around certain people. Even if they're awesome!
Everyone acting like this is their friends, meanwhile they are also that friend to others. Maybe we are all bad friends because we are a selfish society. Maybe you are a part of the problem that you hate.
I agree, thats why I love these videos. So if my character matching with the "bad" I can stop doing it. As you mentioned, no everyone knows their bad so these videos are telling us.
Everytime I see my old friend it reminds me of my old self, like me and my other friend matured a bit and moved on with the things we used to do, and every time we chat with him it feels unnatural and awkward, I dont hate him, I just rather be myself right now than a few years ago
I used to have a great friend in primary school. And now I regret everything because I was pressured to stop talking to her because she was "different". I regret giving in to the pressure and wish I had spent more time with her. Never do the same as me people. You may regret it. She was a wonderful person and the only person that felt like a true friend to me.
@@lola63962 we sometimed text each other but we dont even see each other so it's kinda hard maintaining a relationship with her. She has much better friends now and is in a better place so I think it would be best to let go
@@lunatism9714 Assume that your friend saw this and is feeling so happy now.She still loves you,she always will.I am saying this because they think that i am different and there have been instances where i have been left alone. I would like to time travel and think that one of my friends has understood this and is now willing to strengthen a bond.
I'm glad my friends aren't like this. I trust them and they trust me, when i am with them i don't feel trapped and i feel happy. I hope everyone here can find their true friends cause everyone deserves a friend that they can trust and love. Big hugs to everyone ❤
I've always felt like I'm a great friend. I don't feel any actual ounce of insecurity about it because I've had many great & close friendships that were always awesome. They never really ended. We just moved away or something & cherish our memories.
I just feel like everyone around me had something to say while I say the wrong thing. I can't seem to find my voice, so I remain silent and only speak up for the occasional smart ass comment.
I have been depressed since I was eight. I've never felt like I'm normal compared to others. I always exaggerate random stuff and take them to heart. I also often think deeply about just something that relate so little to other things and I've always *hated* being around people that I don't know or haven't seen in a long time. I've never really reached out to someone other than a single therapist when I was 9, when my friend was at church telling the people there that I was depressed. That is the thing that I am the most grateful for in my whole entire life. Your channel though is the new thing I am most grateful for. I watch these videos, and I relate to every if not most of the things on this list. Your channel has helped me through my tears, your soft voice always makes me think there's somebody who actually cares like that one friend and my therapist. Thank you, psych2go. Thank you very much.
I recently just broke off my friendship with my closest friends and I've been worrying if I made the right decision. Watching this made me realize that it is the right decision, tho I rlly do miss some of our old times but this is probably for the best.
I’ve been through a few friendships like that, including one that recently came to a head. It makes me not wanna seek out friendships anymore…I was wondering if you have any advice on how to stop attracting this kind of one-sided relationship?
V` Ven Millora don’t be so hard on yourself, keep your head up high. i can assure you that you will make true friends! people can be toxic..but don’t let that get to you. i wish you the best of luck.
I had to let go of one of my friends because his mentality is more of a child and I think more like a responsible adult. Is that a sign I have to truly let him go?
Well, for me it means you're in different stages of life. In order for a friend to understand another friend, they both need to be on the same wavelength... Been there too. Even if it hurts like hell, I feel like letting go is the right thing to do
Surprisingly, I’ve just recently experienced something similar. Except only for me, almost all the ‘friends’ I’ve had have been that way. I’m looking for more mature friends who can understand things from my perspective... and hopefully that doesn’t sound too ignorant it’s just in order to be friends, I kind of believe it’s essential to be on similar paths in life. So yes, if that’s what you feel was the best thing for you do to, then it’s totally okay.
That sounds like what the video said about being at different stages of life, and maybe you do need to let go if they are too immature and don’t respect your seriousness. That was one of the many problems with a toxic ex-friend of mine, she was far too childish and couldn’t handle me being serious. Why wouldn’t I be serious, though? I’m an adult with good qualifications and a good job. Seriousness is normal, right? But she couldn’t handle it and mistook it for being sad or depressed!
I lost my only friend some days ago, I am 22 and have no friends I have bipolar disorder and I have a depressive phase for almost a year now. Everyone left. Except one. She supported me. But some days ago I said something and she misunderstood it and now she’s ignoring me. She was the last friend in my life. Now I am on my own
U dont need anyones company to feel loved . U urself is first friend of urs before anyone cuz U can keep ur secrets to urself without spilling the beans U wont judge urself U urself will be the only strength U arent alone u have ur company . be brave and fight the problems !! U can do it girl 😊🤗🤗sending virtual bigass hugs ur way
I feel like the worst type of friends are the ones who are "indifferent" and make you swallow your feelings. They want to maintain indifference for the sole purpose of keeping peace even if someone is in the wrong. One friend mistreats the other friend but everyone makes that other friend swallow their feelings because "they don't want to take sides".
Its either the friends i have or lonelyness i feel like ive gotten to a point that the people who knew me from a while ago will be ok with me but people who are new to me will just rather not bother. Thats the way it feels. I always try to socialise guess im just too awkward.
This year i "got rid" of all the toxic friends I've had (5) and I'm hanging out with my old and good friends i used to be, now I'm happier and more confident than ever. ❤️☺️
when you stop really trying to hang out with your "friend" because they make you feel empty but then they tell you your the worst friend because you never make time for them but you were staying away because they were mean in the first place.
Yes! I wouldn’t call my friends toxic, but it’s obvious to me that I think I’m better off without them, and they’re better off without me. When I tried to distance myself from them I just started to feel like I single-handedly ruined my friendship with everyone. I’m still friends with them though, we’re trying to work things out. Stay strong, I believe in you!
Me too. But i don't wanna end our friend ship i just want my space my introverted heart desires. The less time i have to myself the more i grow restless
@brownies!!! brownies!! I’m starting high school next year also which I hope I make new friends so I can end this friendship I tried early today but failed 😣
Half of this list gave my best friend a realy good reason to stop hanging out with me The other half gave me a really good reason to stop hanging out with him
When I let go of my friend it didn’t feel heartbreaking... it felt more like I was going back to normal life, I didn’t feel happy around her, she called me dumb, and she she took up my time when she was bored, like I said I didn’t want to talk and she said cmon of something like that
YUP I HAVE ONE OF THOSE. the worst part is is that every single fucking time I speak she interrupts me to talk about one of her crushes, like can I talk about whats going on in my life for once?
After watching this, I realized that, I have been doing this to some of my friends lately. I was looking for signs that they might be bad friends, but it turns out it was myself. I'm glad I came to this video though, there's still hope and time to fix it
I’m happy you have a chance to fix your friendship. I’m at the point where I have to end a 3 year friendship and a 7 year friendship. They don’t care that I’m leaving.
"Tell me your friends and I'll tell you who you are" Also: "It's better to be alone than in a bad company" And I've been living with this quote until now... that's why I only have few true friends
This video literally proves that I’ve found the right crowd of friends. Now I just hope I can convince my mom that I actually made friends that aren’t going to drop and leave me when I make a mistake or a problem appears.
My two "best friends" left me out all the time and when i called them out, they told me everything i ever did "wrong"( like being unfunny, or not up to their expectations) i thought i was at fault, so i said sorry. After that i felt trapped. It was only after sometime that common sense hit me like a brick, and i matured and now i know i should only look after me. Thanks. (P.S: they showed all the signs)
Yup,and it hurts when you realize that or when you realize that you could be so easily replaced with a new friend and they just done it Yes,it just happened to me to a friend that I genuinely thought is my best friend... And it hurts, it actually does...I never thought I would be ever sad about a friend but here I am
One thing I do is that when I think someone doesn't like me or what I do I tell them: "You don't have to be my friend" So they know they have a choice.
How to know you have the wrong friends - you’ve been friends with them for years but heard the intro and thought ‘I’ve never done any of that with my friends’
ahah i tell all my friends my bday but none of my friends have EVER remembered except one once. even though i give them $100+ worth of presents every time 😗
To anyone who needs this... If you are in a toxic friendship get out of there! Trust me even if you don’t have friends for awhile it’s the best thing to do for yourself. Right out of high school I realized who my true friends were and weren’t. It’s better to be alone then to surround yourself with people who don’t care. You will find the people you connect with!
My ex boyfriend cheated on me, I told my bestfriend about it. "He said that she is prettier than me" I said, and then my bestfriend replied "Of course she is! She's way prettier than you." Well I thought she was going to comfort me. Well I was wrong. I can't tell whether she is being toxic or it's just the way she acts tbh.
Idk seems kinda toxic to me.. like why would your own best friend say that? I feel like that’s mean and she might have low key been calling you ugly on the low.
I feel the same way. Especially with one specific friend. I'm trying to stay away from their contacts(dms and such) so that way there's some room for them to breathe and to help them focus on anything they're doing.
Funny thing...pre pandemic I considered myself to be quite extroverted, on the louder side, and someone who could not get enough of her friends. Now that I have moved out of state, and gotten used to doing my own thing...I prefer my solitude. Who knew?!
I honestly struggle with friendships so badly. i’ve lost so many really close friends in the last 3 years. they hurt me and betrayed my trust and now i struggle to spread out because i’m scared i’ll go through the same thing again. it’s hard to find the right ppl u know
I’m starting to maybe drop some friends and staying with the friends that care and support me. I am in a so called “ friend group “ that doesn’t include me anymore and they have a big thing about knowing someone longer so I’m mostly leaving and walking away and being with people I actually feel happy around
@@asteryaii you should probably. They might make you doubt yourself and ruin your self esteem like a group of friends did to me. I guess I was so stupid. I feel like it's all my fault. I really can't change the state I am now. Don't let that happen to you.
my friend and i didnt speak for half a year because of something he did but he was the first to speak to me and apologize plus he never told anyone my secrets even though we were both mad at eachother. correct me if im wrong but thats a pretty good friend, right?
I think thats a good friend, I think the reason why he didn't apologize for half a year is because he felt ashamed and embarrassed for the thing he did, so he didn't really wabt to say anything or know what to say. He seems alrigjt tho
Guys don't gossip? Lol, have you met some? They gossip more than women. At this point I do believe the greatest misconception about guys is them not gossiping lol.
@@Martin-hv8io that is true, and I'm surprised. Coming from a male like me, I'll never tell secrets, that's just fucking betrayal. Some people believe I won't hold in a secret because I'm a boy I guess. I don't find that offensive because I'm not a "snowflake" or I guess I was just pushy. I respect their secrets and they get along with me just fine.
I recently ended a 3 year long friendship or it felt more like a one-sided friendship. I felt i only made the effort to be the friend. It was always me who was supporting them, giving them so much of my time as they continuously talked about their problems. Even if they asked me "How are you?" and sometimes I'd say im going through depression all they would say is "aww". it's been a month since i stopped talking to them and not even once they check up on me. I feel like an utter fool but I'm glad i was able to realize the truth. I deserve a good friend.. We all do ;)
@re mi aw i'm sorry to hear. boundaries are important in a friendship. you can be the helpful "therapist friend" at times, but you are so much more than just that. and if he doesn't see that at all, then you have to let them know. you deserve to surround yourself with people that actually care about you, the same way you care about them. 💕
Yes you are beautiful and if I may I think you feel like that because your so called friends don’t make you feel good about yourself. I’ve been there so
I stopped being friends with a old school friend after 35 years. It was in a way the worst 'breakup' I've ever had. However, he was jealous, suspicious of my girlfriends over the years, was constantly negative and would get upset if I didn't call him on time. After a rather spiteful text because I didn't call him back (I was busy planning another friend's wedding), I bit back and said that this was too difficult and that his behaviour was childish. We haven't spoken for 3 years. It was a relief in a way, but I still miss the good parts of him.
My "friends" at my new school are so bad. They make fun of me more than being nice, but they are the only people I can hangout with. Outside of school whenever I have the chance to meet up with someone from the old school I hang on to it and don't let go. I wish I was still with them all all the time 😕
Now i understand why i feel unhappy if i make friends way too fast: because i suspected that he wants to get me in a manipulation trap and i also HATE taking things too fast. Everything needs time, you can't expect to become friend with anybody in 5 minutes
Lmao this described my whole friend group and the funny thing is that I want to drop all of them but I’m trapped (like the reason) because I’m in so many of their classes, on the bus with them, sit next to them, and I have no other friends. Waiting till highschool so that *maybe* I can have a fresh start :’)
1. You feel trapped.
2. You are at different stages of life.
3. Your friend betrays your trust.
4. Your friend is living in the past.
5. You are not happy around them.
6. Your friend doesn't make investments.
7. Your friends disrespect your goals.
8. Your friend takes too much of your time.
You seem to be the actual author of the post🤗🤗🤗
thanks 🙏
Best Username Ever thanks, i was going to do this 😂
Why do some feel the need to write what they just watched or listened to?
Jimini Because a lot of us want to know what the reasons are without watching the whole video
“The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.”
― Bob Marley
I always hated this quote. 😐
@@JukuduB Why?
*b e a u t i f u l .* 👌🏻
best not to thing about it... Friendship is good but you just had to choose who you going to spend more time with since when the work life came... you not going see any of them...
Hell nah
Sometimes it's better to trust yourself more than others.
*Always* better....
I can relate to that statement, and it’s never easy to find real friends, or a significant other nowadays. :(
even your family or people around you
duh
What if. . . you can't even trust yourself? ://
"Stop holding onto people just because you have history together"
Are saying I should end my friend ship who lives in Spain and he keeps ignoring me
Learned
Then I guess I’ll die… I don’t want to live, the only thing keeping me alive is the people I know and all the memories and love we had… I’m not sure if this is a good advice 😞 🔫
i need to stop being friends with my old friends because they've changed a lot and they dont even wanna hang out with me anymore.
Thats what i hear from life/sex Netflix
tbh my friend group is just
"lets be friends so that we don't feel lonely at lunch" or something like that
Jeez I felt that🤦
Sucks when you're an introvert who loves deep and meaningful conversations and you always feel out of place there
i have never related more to smth
My friend grup is don't like me lol they are like 9 person and I am always who are lonely and I am tired of this
@@Ela-ql4vc I feel you there’s like a few people in my “friend” group that always wants me to leave they always insult me and other shit
@@spiritual9574 we are stronger than them 💖
Just because you have history with your friends doesn’t mean you have a future with them
Yup
Thank you for telling me this
I'm not sure there are literally *means* regarding social activity. What the *means* are are what the people in the relationship think about the relationship.
True👍
Ah, thats so true..
Honestly a lot of us already knew that friend was toxic and just needed to hear someone else say it
Yeah...I have a Friend Idk How I feel about her she can be amazing to me them horrible I feel trapped She’s blocked me twice she never tells me and I do everything For her
@@isla9610
I think you should reconsider your relationship.
One of the tactics used in unhealthy relationships is love bombing. When one person behaves badly, to say it lightly, towards the other then shows an excessive display of 'love' to them (love bombing them) so that they don't leave.
Lol but i just discovered one of my closest friends is one of the people I should leave
Yeah
😩💚😕
#9: They only reach out to you when they need something or when no one else is available. 😩
YES ! I LIVED THAT!
I HAVE 3 “FRIENDS” LIKE THAT
I’m glad y’all can relate- I have a friend like that right now that I’m slowly distancing myself from. ✌🏾
@@lalalalaaAa123 Perfect ! Do it ASAP!
When nobody else is available kinda makes sense, like if they wanna hang out with someone they would peobably ask someone last
Sometimes my friend doesn't spend enough time with me and spends a ridiculous amount of time with others and then I just don't feel like i'm in the group.
Then you should find new friends. They’ve found people that make them happy and it’s time for you to find someone that makes you happy.
@@francescaduke I did
@@wafflxs9699 understandable, have a nice day :>
@@francescaduke xd
Same
They left me when I became vulnerable, they left me when I needed them most. So here I am, alone, caring for myself. The situation hardened me.
Self love 💕/ self care is psychologically healthy ! 👏
Theyre not your friends, end of the story
Who else is thinking about that "friend"?
Everyone 😫
You what he/she said 👆🏽🙇🏻♀️
I had that "friend" in 7th grade. I decided to cut her out of my life in 8th grade because I felt most of these signs. She was also not a good influence, because she would rarely do her school work and would mostly copy off of me or others, and teachers started hating me because of her. She would also restrict me from hanging out with other friends.
After I cut her out, she got expelled from school (I won't say why) which made me relieved that I dodged a bullet.
I AM that friend
So I just make no frens
I have two of them 😒
I haven't felt truly close to a friend in years. I can't share secrets with them, and sometimes I feel like there's nobody i can relate to. This might just be my fault though lol, I guess I've changed too
Hopefully, you'll have that kind of friend
@bumbleski don't blame yourself. I feel the same. It's not our fault that we give our 100% in any relationship and we get back none. Maybe we should just show them our worth.
It's not your fault you can't find someone to relate to, and also nice Kakyoin profile pic.
I had exactly the same thing for about 2 years, but at a certain moment you will meet people who share the same interests/thoughts. Don't worry, it is just a sign that you are growing as a person!
Awww 1 like = 1 TRUE friend for u :)
*"I don't need friends. They disappoint me."*
- that girl from that one Vine
if you can’t do it for yourself, do it for the vine.
I can see the Statue of Liberty from here!
*awkward star wars dance move*
Having friends can totally suck. But finding true friends, Real true friends can be worth it.
Hi, my name is Carla Shaw. You can stop at five to six stores, or just one.
I don’t need friends, they disappoint me.
*randomly poses*
You need friends even if they dissapiont you!, Its life, that's how it works.
if there's no openness and trust in any kind of relationship, it's doomed to end soon. Trust is the core of relationships. It goes hand in hand with respect. If you're too cautious to say good things about your day because you're fearful of touching their insecurity, you might be in the wrong relationship.
(;-;) True. That last part, especially.
U literally made me realize who my true people are :).....This is just so relatable
It’s crazy how u can be with a person for so long and they just fade away
Friend too long also get tired.
Yeah thats true because having the same friend for so long starts to get boring
"I'd rather be alone than being with the wrong company."
Yes i had wrong company a few times and a brawl erupted...i agree with you on that one
@@anthonyosullivan3292 I feel you. I used to be with wrong people even when I knew they were not the people I should be with. Until recently. I realized I'm better and stronger by myself.
Root for yourself you know. Take care ❤️😊
Me too. Can we be friends? Don't you sometimes feel like you need a friend to talk. Where are you from?
@@urmilakumari2334 I'd love to be your friend. I'm from Pune, Maharashtra. What about you?
Yeah. I’m better off by myself than be with someone who doesn’t give or respect my space
Since we're all missing people who don't really care, I'm sending a big hug to all of you...It's okay. We'll move on, eventually. Lots of love 💚
Your comment made me laugh but was so raw. Thanks for the virtual hug, I needed it :)
Thank you a lot! *hugs back*
Thx 🙂
❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🖤
*hugs*
“A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.”
― Elbert Hubbard
Like that ever happens 😂
It only happens to a True Friend.
You really out here giving quotes. But thank you. 😂
The thing is, there are things better left off unsaid. You don't have to share every single detail about your past or yourself to be friends with someone. Friendship is about enjoying the company of each other and having each other's backs in the present.
The present moment.
Thank you, I will keep this in mind cause its an act of great kindness and we all should be kind : )
The more people I meet, the more I appreciate my dog.
Same
womment
Yup, unconditional love and positive regard right there from your dog.
And for fck sake I don't have a pet.
So true. If my dog could talk I wouldn't be watching this vidoe at 1am.
Please remember, everyone. If you have a friend like this, ignoring them and blocking them is NOT the way to say goodbye. You will only hurt them and leave them wondering what they did wrong. Please be considerate to the other person if you need to end a friendship. I hope a lot of people will see this comment.
Thx for the information but the problem is my friend doesn't seem to understand what i am saying and she just cries and she just wants my attention and nothing else I feel like ending but i dont wanna hurt her :(
@@twilight3304 that's very sad to hear. I think if you have tried your best to explain it to her then you've done all you can and shouldn't feel guilty for saying goodbye now. My comment was about a personal experience where me and my friend were fine and I was suddenly blocked. He didn't even try to tell me why. The girl you are talking about may just be sad from the raw emotion and may need some time to get her head around it all. I don't know your situation so I can't say if this is the right thing to say. I'm just responding from personal experiences. I hope you will both be okay soon!
@@dreamannemusic
If they block you it's their problem. Be happy they're not in your life anymore
@@twilight3304 more times than not it's all for show.
@@MrKarlozz someone who can just cut you out of their lives that easily is someone you shouldn't have in your life in the first place
You can’t hang out with the wrong friends if you have no friends :D
Yin *ouch*
Yeah :3
true
How
How this 1day ag
I feel like my "friends" think I'm a good friend since I always try acting nice. But I think they are rude, judgmental, and literally untrustworthy.
Mel G
I had to leave a “friend” alone because of this. Telling me another people’s personal business is an absolute no no to me. I immediately pull back from people who do this. They lack integrity.
And why do you treat nice these people? I couldn't.
ahh omg same
So true
Then leave.
Friends should support you even when they have differing opinions. Real friends are few and far between, but should be cherished like gold ♥️
I had a co-worker tell me that she wanted to end our communication whatsoever if i quit my job and thats exactly what I did because i was not getting what i wanted from that job and i became sick of being jealous of seeing other co-workers have what i cannot have because my mistake has apperantly the destroyed the trust which i was NOT going to get back
Real Friends: One of the most Precious Gift
Yeah, sensitive ass people in Twitter always call me a homophobic but this lesbian friend of mine is often mistaken as my girlfriend cause that's how close we are. 7 years already and why am I not killing her, hurting her or making fun of her if I was a homophobic?
I was kicked out of a friend group almost a year ago now, luckily I have gotten over it and learned my mistakes and I wish I had seen this video when it happened, it really made me understand what and how I was feeling
Hi I'm going through the same thing please guide me too I need help
Sometime its all better to be alone than hanging with the wrong one.
“Don’t walk in front of me… I may not follow
Don’t walk behind me… I may not lead
Walk beside me… just be my friend”
― Albert Camus
I like that!!!!!
I love this song! No hate please but at temple we sing this all the time and I love this song
Aww.
That's sweet
I left a friendship of 15 years. They just quit hanging out and kept canceling plans on me till I gave up.
That sounds awful, the person who you thought you were closest to just, left you. How are you feeling
I get you it's more common then we think
@@serendipityruleslife3615 how in the hell do other people have bffs of many years??
Same! Our friendship lasted 14 years and ended for the same reason. I feel you.
Bruh...I felt that. I invest in people who are like that and the good ones I have, a little less. Maybe because I feel secure in them but I can invest more there instead of on people who barely acknowledge my existence.
I just recently got out of a toxic friendship. I had been friends with these three for years, and I thought I was happy when I was around them. The truth is, though, that the relationship was so toxic that I didn't realize how bad it really was. I felt like I couldn't have my own feelings. When I tried to bring up something they did to them, they would tell me I was making myself sound like the victim, and in return told me that I was manipulating them. At the time, I assumed they were right. So I slowly put my own feelings aside, to the point where I would tell myself that my feelings didn't matter at all. I told myself that I was a liar and manipulator. And I believed that. For a short period of time, I began to realize how toxic it was, and decided to talk to one of my other friends about it. I didn't mention any names, and just referred to the three toxic friends as Friend 1, 2, and 3. This friend told me that the relationship was toxic. I laughed it off, as I kinda expected her to take their side. Somehow, the three friends found out and scolded me. They said that I shouldn't be talking about them behind their backs. I truly felt trapped. I couldn't seek support from anyone, as they would get mad at me for talking about my feelings. Soon, they began ignoring me. They would go and do things without me, walk to/from school/class without me, and it even got to the point where they would clearly ignore me when I tried to talk to them about anything at all. So in return, I decided to ignore them as well. I stopped trying. The three of them came and confronted me about this, asking if I was mad at them. I told them that yes, I was. I told them everything. I told them about the way they had been treating me, ignoring me, and keeping me trapped. Instead of admitting what they had done, they told me I was making myself seem like the victim, because I "had [them] worried sick!" They told me that they were crying because of the way that I was treating them. I wanted so badly for so long to never speak to them. I wanted to fade from their lives. But I never did. Why? Because for some reason, I convinced myself I was more afraid of being alone than being trapped in that relationship. The three of them cut ties with me that night. I never spoke to them again, and don't plan on speaking to them again. Although it seems like a good thing I don't talk to them anymore, it still hurts, and I have no idea why. If I wanted so badly to be away from them, why does it hurt to be without them?
But there's something that still hurts me about the whole thing. I was friends with each of them individually. I introduced the three of them to each other. I was what brought them together. The fact that I dragged myself into this hurts the most. One of them even said to me "I'm glad you introduced me to Friend 1 and Friend 2. If it weren't for you three, I'd probably be a loner right now." This confession hurts me to even recite. She told me that I brought them together. Although I should be glad that I brought three inseparable friends together, I can't shake the feeling from my head that I did this to myself. I put myself in the position I was in, and I let it happen. They told me I was fanning the flames of the fire I started, and still to this day, I believe them.
Than you for coming to my TedTalk-
I read it all, it happened with me too
But i let go of them 2 toxic long ago .🙂
Let me tell you something. When I went to a new school I had no friends so the teachers introduced me to another person who also didn't have friends. That year we became bestfriends. Next year when we went to school a new girl came and my friend and I wanted to be friends with the new girl. After few weeks they started to get closer to each other and started to ignore me. Anyways a lot of stuff happened and finally, I decided that I don't want to hold on to the friendship. First I was crying every single day. But after I realized how toxic she was after I made new friends that actually cared about me and didn't ignore me. To be honest I am really happy that I made new friends and didn't continue to be friends with her. I hope you also make new friends too and don't worry its okay... you can always make new friends its never too late I wish you the best ! :)
@@applepi433 omg it happened with me !!! r u my twin?
@@Mxxnakshiii Maybe (hehe :3)
@@applepi433 haha ^^
I broke with most of my friends seven months ago.
Many people (who don't know them much) think I shouldn't have done that, but I feel so much better.
Bravo 👏
My friends cut me off for no reason a few days ago.For some reason,instead of feeling sad I felt happy.
I stopped being friends with a lot of people, basically i figured most of my “friends” where really toxic, now I just need to find a way to get away from my toxic family.
I do want to know how to get away from toxicity too
I do have best friends today
There is just one friend that she keeps telling we are best friend
It makes me uncormftable because
She doesn't ever act like one
She doesn't even act like a close friend
Pretty cold and rude, indiferent or annoyed when we try to talk about our day
I still consider her a friend just that absolutely not my best friend
She gets really mad when I tell her that she is a friend not my BFF
It is the truth
So everyone in your life is toxic? Ever thought it might be you?
@@nycolleamendez5608 It is a simple guilt trip, she is gaslighting you to keep you on the hook. Keep your boundaries tight if she constatly break your boundaries (after you set them, and told her about), time to move on.
Same same. Best of luck, hope everyone finds people that truly cherish them 🍀
Save up and move!
“I would rather walk with a friend in the dark, than alone in the light.”
― Helen Keller
"Don't forget, I'm with you in the dark"
"In the universe there is more darkness than light"-
Clara Wilson The dark humor is *chefs kiss*
It’s not like Helen Keller could tell the difference
I'd rather walk alone in the dark or light sjdjdjdj
No one:
Everyone in the comments: I have no friends so I can’t get toxic.
"Friendship can be purchased only
by friendship." If you want a friend, say and do kind and friendly things for someone. It usually works!
Seriously. It's sad
But I literally have no friends 😂
@Nevermorn loll that can happen too
Having a Good Friend is something you can Share with Good Memories.
My “friends” never showed up to support me at a single one of my band concerts or art shows but would always show up to support my other friends events. They ALWAYS say they’re “too busy” to hang out with me that it’s kinda obvious they just don’t care about me even tho they say that they love and care about me
You DO NOT deserve friends who treat you this way. You are much more valuable. Believe me, it's always better to see the truth than believe the white lies your "friends" say. If they don't care for you, they don't deserve a part in your life or your heart. Forgive them, but never forget. Once you separate from them, they may try to lure you back, but they'll most probably go back to not caring anymore. Friendship is a two-way street. Be cautious who you give your heart to, my dude. It's broken easily, but takes much time to heal.
Sorry if I made this too long😔. Hope you find better people who value you♥️ *virtually hugs*
Also, armyyyy
Because they are jealous of you
CUT THEM OFF. No questions asked. I had this type of situation before. I cut them off and I’ve felt so happy from doing it, don’t let yourself become a dependent on someone’s leverage on you.
@@onlyhuman5669 well written
To be honest I just don’t wanna be around them anymore, we have been friends for a while now and I just feel really unhappy around them now , I dread going to school and can’t wait to get home , at this point Im trying to cut communication slowly.
Oh god same 😩
hi can you tell me what happend?
please tell us what you did,I'm the same situation. I want to make new friends but idk how especially because I sit with some of my current friends in some lessons.
Me too but the thing is one of them truly cares about me and I don’t know what to do 😭
Same thing im going thru now....any tips buddy?
I recently had to leave behind a friend because i was just getting jealous that they weren’t interacting with me, when i needed support they weren’t there even though they said they would be, and it was taking a toll on my mental health....needless to say, i’m doing much better
Yeah same but I didn't leave my "friend"
Maybe they are just busy with life?
@@MikhaelAhava Well, trying to be active close friends with people who are busy generally sucks. It's an unenjoyable experience. It is true that it is a sound excuse for why that person isn't available, but just because it is sound doesn't mean that they deserve for that friend to sit around and wait for them to come back.
Got friends, but you're very busy? Oop, your friends are gone, then. You're too busy. You don't have any friends now. :)
I agree with the original comment.
Same! I cut a friend out of my life for the same reason and I'm feeling a lot better now.
I know they're busy and have other friends etc. and I'm obviously not mad at them for that. But if I don't get what I need out of a friendship, up to a point where it affects my mental health because I'm worrying too much, it's time to let go.
It's no one's fault, it just doesn't fit, apparently.
Nobody is rly obligated to talk to you all the time tho so i think getting jealous That they Werent talking to u is a sign of u being a lil needy/clingy.
Not everybody is always mentally there to be there for you all the time.Advice and Help should be available but not you ranting about Ur unhappiness and stuff to them bc that can rly put the other Person down and can even damage them.Happiness comes within you and you have to work on it by yourself and then go to other people,trust me i understand you:been there and done that and it never turned out great because of These problems.Nobody is responsible for your happiness and mental health,that all starts within you so work on yourself pls.It can b damagin and mentally frasturating for Them.
Be your own bestfriend and become the best version u can be ,you r going to attract the best people too and Ur going to make great (even lifetime) friends😊
I need to know if anyone watches videos like this because they have doubts but also looks at themselves, and asks if you're truly being a great friend
Me 🤚
Me too. I want to give a quality friendship, I want reciprocation, people who are important for me deserve the best of me and I the best of them.
Heere i am, a confused clown
I actually clicked here just to see if I'm a wrong friend or not...
me, my best friend had such a toxic friendship before, so i don’t wanna be like that.
I dont feel like i belong in any group. Or anywhere for that matter. 😔
I can relate. I always felt like a misfit.
Relatable... I used to be part of a group. Ever since pre-school. But six years ago, my family decided to move and since I was still a kid, I had to follow. I lost everything. I lost myself. I got new friends, but one moved away, the others, they were just classmates I tagged along to not be alone. The others I met were because my parents got new friends who had kids. And then there's the first friend I ever made in this place, she's one of the last ones left that I actually feel truly happy around. I can be myself. The part that I know is in me, at least. I'm not really sure who exactly I am.
@@iclynnx felt that on my childhood but when the right friend came it changed a lot for me I'm sure yours will come soon.
I totally relate. As I grew up, I realized there's a beauty in being a misfit. For me, its the freedom to not conform to people's expectations which in itself is a power of some sort.
I stopped being friends with my peers and classmates. They took advantage of my kindness and used my good nature against me.
At the moment I kind of feel down when I'm around my friends. I can't exactly explain why but I think both sides have their faults. I'm complicated at times...
same thing with me
I feel the same
I know what you mean. They are all talking about boys and am just the Aro/Ace sitting in the conner reading HTTRD hoping that something anything will happen.
How to tell you're friends with the wrong person: (s)he immediately came to mind when you saw this title of this video.
(Not a rule, please think things over)
Probably accurate though
DO IT
I just ended a friendship. I always felt like they would talk to me just when they needed someone to hear their problems. I was always wondering if their friendship was worth all the stress it caused. Now I sincerely feel so relieved it came to the end. This video came in a good time.
I am pushing everyone away and I always make the wrong friend
Saammee and i am about to start University soon and idk if i should be by myself cause i am scared of the Type of friend i might make or if they are going to hurt me
@@charika9690 That's part of growing up... you'll always meet the wrong friends. However, you should cultivate personal principles to guide you to the right people. Good luck!
@@faizashariff608 thanks!
same!
why does your username have psych2go’s logo beside it? Am I tripping lmao
Oki, so my friends are not toxic. They're really nice and caring and all, but I'm constantly unhappy with them. Like they make me feel insecure or unhappy, without meaning to. But like they don't do it in a toxic way. Is it normal to want to distance yourself from people who are litterally awesome for no reason?
Lmao edit: they started being blatantly mean to me so um ✌️
im asking the same thing... they are nice and kind etc. but whenever im with them i feel like alone and unhappy.idk if its wrong to just distant myself from them bcs i feel that way.
@@kymgyu8740 same
yes this happens with me and my friends , my friends are sweet and caring but i cant help feel left out when i am with them
I'm with you too!! When ever I'm in my "friend group" I can't help but feel forgotten and part of the dust on the ground, just listening to them talk, and feeling like I shouldn't talk. Don't get me wrong, they're super nice and fun/funny! But, I just can't help but...
not want to be around them.
I guess it is normal. There are just some people you're gonna feel unhappy around. And that's okay! It's okay and normal to not want to be around certain people. Even if they're awesome!
@@Purplelust I get chu :')
When your friends think u are making excuses when in reality you are tired but whever u try to explain it to them they call u a lair and toxic.
Everyone acting like this is their friends, meanwhile they are also that friend to others. Maybe we are all bad friends because we are a selfish society. Maybe you are a part of the problem that you hate.
I agree, thats why I love these videos. So if my character matching with the "bad" I can stop doing it. As you mentioned, no everyone knows their bad so these videos are telling us.
Honestly, facts. I had people in mind while watching. After the video I thought about how I do the same thing when my toxic relationships are done.
@@Bliss226 Its alright! Its never to late to make a change!
AquaticArrow Hopefully I will learn to be a better person. Thank you!
@@Bliss226 No problem! I love helping people so thanks for listening. Have a good day!
Everytime I see my old friend it reminds me of my old self, like me and my other friend matured a bit and moved on with the things we used to do, and every time we chat with him it feels unnatural and awkward, I dont hate him, I just rather be myself right now than a few years ago
I used to have a great friend in primary school. And now I regret everything because I was pressured to stop talking to her because she was "different". I regret giving in to the pressure and wish I had spent more time with her. Never do the same as me people. You may regret it. She was a wonderful person and the only person that felt like a true friend to me.
The people that society labels as different are usually some of the most genuine people.
^ and on top of they they're usually the ones that make big moves later in life.
Can you reach to her again?
@@lola63962 we sometimed text each other but we dont even see each other so it's kinda hard maintaining a relationship with her. She has much better friends now and is in a better place so I think it would be best to let go
@@lunatism9714 Assume that your friend saw this and is feeling so happy now.She still loves you,she always will.I am saying this because they think that i am different and there have been instances where i have been left alone. I would like to time travel and think that one of my friends has understood this and is now willing to strengthen a bond.
I'm glad my friends aren't like this. I trust them and they trust me, when i am with them i don't feel trapped and i feel happy. I hope everyone here can find their true friends cause everyone deserves a friend that they can trust and love. Big hugs to everyone ❤
I have anxiety and I always feel that I am the "wrong friend" to everybody
:(
Same on thinking i'm the wrong friend, these kind of videos lowkey make me want to die
I've always felt like I'm a great friend. I don't feel any actual ounce of insecurity about it because I've had many great & close friendships that were always awesome. They never really ended. We just moved away or something & cherish our memories.
I just feel like everyone around me had something to say while I say the wrong thing. I can't seem to find my voice, so I remain silent and only speak up for the occasional smart ass comment.
@@flutey4890 Just because they have something to say doesn't mean they're saying anything of substance. :P
@@flutey4890 You probably just need critical thinking man. Who, what, where, when, why, how.
I have been depressed since I was eight. I've never felt like I'm normal compared to others. I always exaggerate random stuff and take them to heart. I also often think deeply about just something that relate so little to other things and I've always *hated* being around people that I don't know or haven't seen in a long time. I've never really reached out to someone other than a single therapist when I was 9, when my friend was at church telling the people there that I was depressed. That is the thing that I am the most grateful for in my whole entire life.
Your channel though is the new thing I am most grateful for. I watch these videos, and I relate to every if not most of the things on this list. Your channel has helped me through my tears, your soft voice always makes me think there's somebody who actually cares like that one friend and my therapist.
Thank you, psych2go. Thank you very much.
“Trust is the foundation of every friendship”
*Honestly I think it’s for every relationship*
I recently just broke off my friendship with my closest friends and I've been worrying if I made the right decision. Watching this made me realize that it is the right decision, tho I rlly do miss some of our old times but this is probably for the best.
oh my god, samee
The lack of reciprocity is a sign of the wrong friend and it is very consuming when you give and give without getting anything back.
I’ve been through a few friendships like that, including one that recently came to a head. It makes me not wanna seek out friendships anymore…I was wondering if you have any advice on how to stop attracting this kind of one-sided relationship?
How many people here realized how wholesome their friendship is after watching this video.
I did
And I'm proud of my friend !!!
Same ♡
V` Ven Millora don’t be so hard on yourself, keep your head up high. i can assure you that you will make true friends! people can be toxic..but don’t let that get to you. i wish you the best of luck.
Yeah my friendship with a dude online is a little more wholesome than any real friendship I have
@@aliqxia8408 You are a good person , my friend !!
Awww that's cute 🥺
Perfect timing... i am really lonely and worried about my friends and whether they are real or not... thank you 🥺💖
I had to let go of one of my friends because his mentality is more of a child and I think more like a responsible adult. Is that a sign I have to truly let him go?
Well, for me it means you're in different stages of life. In order for a friend to understand another friend, they both need to be on the same wavelength...
Been there too. Even if it hurts like hell, I feel like letting go is the right thing to do
Surprisingly, I’ve just recently experienced something similar. Except only for me, almost all the ‘friends’ I’ve had have been that way. I’m looking for more mature friends who can understand things from my perspective... and hopefully that doesn’t sound too ignorant it’s just in order to be friends, I kind of believe it’s essential to be on similar paths in life. So yes, if that’s what you feel was the best thing for you do to, then it’s totally okay.
That sounds like what the video said about being at different stages of life, and maybe you do need to let go if they are too immature and don’t respect your seriousness. That was one of the many problems with a toxic ex-friend of mine, she was far too childish and couldn’t handle me being serious.
Why wouldn’t I be serious, though? I’m an adult with good qualifications and a good job. Seriousness is normal, right? But she couldn’t handle it and mistook it for being sad or depressed!
LMAOOO I JUST SEARCHED 'HOW TO TELL YOUR FRIEND TO GROW UP' AND THIS IS WHAT SHOWED UP
Bruh
I bet you told them after watching this video. xD fat chance.
@@Shark1103 i couldnt lol maybe its me that needs to grow up
I lost my only friend some days ago, I am 22 and have no friends
I have bipolar disorder and I have a depressive phase for almost a year now. Everyone left. Except one. She supported me. But some days ago I said something and she misunderstood it and now she’s ignoring me. She was the last friend in my life. Now I am on my own
U dont need anyones company to feel loved .
U urself is first friend of urs before anyone cuz
U can keep ur secrets to urself without spilling the beans
U wont judge urself
U urself will be the only strength
U arent alone u have ur company .
be brave and fight the problems !! U can do it girl 😊🤗🤗sending virtual bigass hugs ur way
U got u...
I feel like the worst type of friends are the ones who are "indifferent" and make you swallow your feelings.
They want to maintain indifference for the sole purpose of keeping peace even if someone is in the wrong.
One friend mistreats the other friend but everyone makes that other friend swallow their feelings because "they don't want to take sides".
Its either the friends i have or lonelyness i feel like ive gotten to a point that the people who knew me from a while ago will be ok with me but people who are new to me will just rather not bother. Thats the way it feels. I always try to socialise guess im just too awkward.
This year i "got rid" of all the toxic friends I've had (5) and I'm hanging out with my old and good friends i used to be, now I'm happier and more confident than ever. ❤️☺️
when you stop really trying to hang out with your "friend" because they make you feel empty but then they tell you your the worst friend because you never make time for them but you were staying away because they were mean in the first place.
Yes! I wouldn’t call my friends toxic, but it’s obvious to me that I think I’m better off without them, and they’re better off without me. When I tried to distance myself from them I just started to feel like I single-handedly ruined my friendship with everyone. I’m still friends with them though, we’re trying to work things out. Stay strong, I believe in you!
Lately I’ve been feeling like I have no real friends, and idk what to do
the last one
"Ur friend take too much of ur time"
that's why i ended our friendship/relationship 😌
Hi I'm a real friendless. And I need a true and real person to talk and share feelings. Can we be friends?
Me too. But i don't wanna end our friend ship i just want my space my introverted heart desires. The less time i have to myself the more i grow restless
@brownies!!! brownies!! I’m starting high school next year also which I hope I make new friends so I can end this friendship I tried early today but failed 😣
@@urmilakumari2334 yea sure
Tbh, I don't really feel that I have a real friends 😂
I used to think that too. But I looked more carefully and people that you think aren't friends material, tend to be so.
Sees a friend checks nearly all the boxes: *sweats nervously*
Half of this list gave my best friend a realy good reason to stop hanging out with me
The other half gave me a really good reason to stop hanging out with him
Saw this on my recommended.. might be a sign, especially when I’ve been contemplating on leaving my “friends” for a while now
When I let go of my friend it didn’t feel heartbreaking... it felt more like I was going back to normal life, I didn’t feel happy around her, she called me dumb, and she she took up my time when she was bored, like I said I didn’t want to talk and she said cmon of something like that
Her voice is so gentle and calming, though it has a definite sadness or regret resonating, it's so hopeful.
How about a friend who only talks about herself and her boyfriend 🐸 🤷♀️
Omy my I have been hearing about her crush for 2 yrs
@@deepshikhaa7676 same
@@roselynnwood4657 but I don't know if she is toxic tho
I can feel you !
YUP I HAVE ONE OF THOSE. the worst part is is that every single fucking time I speak she interrupts me to talk about one of her crushes, like can I talk about whats going on in my life for once?
Almost every friend even since birth have left me when I needed them the most but my stupid ass always comes through for them
After watching this, I realized that, I have been doing this to some of my friends lately. I was looking for signs that they might be bad friends, but it turns out it was myself.
I'm glad I came to this video though, there's still hope and time to fix it
I’m happy you have a chance to fix your friendship. I’m at the point where I have to end a 3 year friendship and a 7 year friendship. They don’t care that I’m leaving.
I'm considering that as well but they are both very voilent so I'm kind of scared if one of them wants to slap me or punch me.
*violent
"Tell me your friends and I'll tell you who you are"
Also: "It's better to be alone than in a bad company"
And I've been living with this quote until now... that's why I only have few true friends
Better to have a few true friends than loads of fake ones, though! Quality is more important than quantity.
This video literally proves that I’ve found the right crowd of friends. Now I just hope I can convince my mom that I actually made friends that aren’t going to drop and leave me when I make a mistake or a problem appears.
My two "best friends" left me out all the time and when i called them out, they told me everything i ever did "wrong"( like being unfunny, or not up to their expectations) i thought i was at fault, so i said sorry. After that i felt trapped. It was only after sometime that common sense hit me like a brick, and i matured and now i know i should only look after me. Thanks.
(P.S: they showed all the signs)
i said “i don’t need anyone in my life” but the truth is “no one’s need me”.
Yup,and it hurts when you realize that or when you realize that you could be so easily replaced with a new friend and they just done it
Yes,it just happened to me to a friend that I genuinely thought is my best friend...
And it hurts, it actually does...I never thought I would be ever sad about a friend but here I am
One thing I do is that when I think someone doesn't like me or what I do I tell them: "You don't have to be my friend" So they know they have a choice.
How to know you have the wrong friends - you’ve been friends with them for years but heard the intro and thought ‘I’ve never done any of that with my friends’
Why did I get this as soon as I opened a text from my friend
me, who constantly apologizes to and forgives my friends who’ve forgotten my birthday for two years in a row: my friends could never be the problem!
Birthday doesn’t matter, at least for me, no one does know mine outside for family and relatives.
Haven't celebrated my B-day in so long I had to get out my license the other day at the tobacco shop! ;o)
ahah i tell all my friends my bday but none of my friends have EVER remembered except one once. even though i give them $100+ worth of presents every time 😗
@zella $100+, well you must have money, and they can be milking you for it. Maybe, but I’m no person to judge, I don’t even know them.
@@hunnypie5790 hmmm for me I remember the memories with friends more than what kind of presents they gave 😁😁😅
To anyone who needs this... If you are in a toxic friendship get out of there! Trust me even if you don’t have friends for awhile it’s the best thing to do for yourself. Right out of high school I realized who my true friends were and weren’t. It’s better to be alone then to surround yourself with people who don’t care. You will find the people you connect with!
But I've already left so many people in my life. Yes they were toxic but I don't want to be known as someone who's left so many friends
*when you've never been friends with anyone for more than a year*
Well I only have one friend ONE and I'm not sure if Im to boring or like ...
My ex boyfriend cheated on me, I told my bestfriend about it. "He said that she is prettier than me" I said, and then my bestfriend replied "Of course she is! She's way prettier than you." Well I thought she was going to comfort me. Well I was wrong. I can't tell whether she is being toxic or it's just the way she acts tbh.
maybe she is just honest why would you want a fake one now you know what you need to work on.
Idk seems kinda toxic to me.. like why would your own best friend say that? I feel like that’s mean and she might have low key been calling you ugly on the low.
I don't think your friend has good intent in saying that to be honest
Me: **watching this video hoping I'm a good friend**
[VIDEO: **shows #8**]
Me: **g u i l t y**
Sameeee
Me
I feel the same way. Especially with one specific friend. I'm trying to stay away from their contacts(dms and such) so that way there's some room for them to breathe and to help them focus on anything they're doing.
Meeee
Me:**being the only one without friends**
I'm ur friend now
Dont worry your not the only one...im just here to help others
@@sugawarasricebowl7886 yay
Me: *having internet friends and this recommend for me*
Also me: *cries*
You,re not the only one
Funny thing...pre pandemic I considered myself to be quite extroverted, on the louder side, and someone who could not get enough of her friends. Now that I have moved out of state, and gotten used to doing my own thing...I prefer my solitude. Who knew?!
I honestly struggle with friendships so badly. i’ve lost so many really close friends in the last 3 years. they hurt me and betrayed my trust and now i struggle to spread out because i’m scared i’ll go through the same thing again. it’s hard to find the right ppl u know
Me who already left all my toxic friends:
I dropped two recently. My anxiety is so much better
I’m starting to maybe drop some friends and staying with the friends that care and support me. I am in a so called “ friend group “ that doesn’t include me anymore and they have a big thing about knowing someone longer so I’m mostly leaving and walking away and being with people I actually feel happy around
I left two recently and i finally feel like i can do something again without worrying about them all the time😒
Trying to break free from the very last one who is sticking to me like glue 24/7 atm 😩😩😩
Hi5
nobody:
me: *crying while watching*
Mr WestSide ☹️awh dude 💜
It's okay just cry, moonchild 🌚🌠
@@dddila *manchild
@@asteryaii you should probably. They might make you doubt yourself and ruin your self esteem like a group of friends did to me. I guess I was so stupid. I feel like it's all my fault. I really can't change the state I am now. Don't let that happen to you.
@@asteryaii you don't deserve a person who disturbs your peace♥️
my friend and i didnt speak for half a year because of something he did but he was the first to speak to me and apologize plus he never told anyone my secrets even though we were both mad at eachother.
correct me if im wrong but thats a pretty good friend, right?
That is the way we all should be.
I think thats a good friend, I think the reason why he didn't apologize for half a year is because he felt ashamed and embarrassed for the thing he did, so he didn't really wabt to say anything or know what to say. He seems alrigjt tho
@Julya Flyer- Why "girly" women? Just some women. Liking feminine things doesnt make you a gossip.
Guys don't gossip? Lol, have you met some? They gossip more than women.
At this point I do believe the greatest misconception about guys is them not gossiping lol.
@@Martin-hv8io that is true, and I'm surprised. Coming from a male like me, I'll never tell secrets, that's just fucking betrayal. Some people believe I won't hold in a secret because I'm a boy I guess. I don't find that offensive because I'm not a "snowflake" or I guess I was just pushy. I respect their secrets and they get along with me just fine.
I recently ended a 3 year long friendship or it felt more like a one-sided friendship. I felt i only made the effort to be the friend. It was always me who was supporting them, giving them so much of my time as they continuously talked about their problems. Even if they asked me "How are you?" and sometimes I'd say im going through depression all they would say is "aww". it's been a month since i stopped talking to them and not even once they check up on me. I feel like an utter fool but I'm glad i was able to realize the truth. I deserve a good friend.. We all do ;)
get you a friend who's happy to hear from you no matter how long it's been since the last you've talked
@re mi aw i'm sorry to hear. boundaries are important in a friendship. you can be the helpful "therapist friend" at times, but you are so much more than just that. and if he doesn't see that at all, then you have to let them know. you deserve to surround yourself with people that actually care about you, the same way you care about them. 💕
This just makes me feel like I made the right choice with my ex friends-
Me: My Sarah and I are not friends anymore
My mom: it’s because of the damn phone
Me: I-
same
Hahah same
I feel like im the wrong friend my friends are so goddamn precious and cute i don’t deserve them I don’t even know how to invest
that sounds like a low-self esteem issue. you are underestimating your own value.
Yes you are beautiful and if I may I think you feel like that because your so called friends don’t make you feel good about yourself. I’ve been there so
I stopped being friends with a old school friend after 35 years. It was in a way the worst 'breakup' I've ever had. However, he was jealous, suspicious of my girlfriends over the years, was constantly negative and would get upset if I didn't call him on time. After a rather spiteful text because I didn't call him back (I was busy planning another friend's wedding), I bit back and said that this was too difficult and that his behaviour was childish. We haven't spoken for 3 years. It was a relief in a way, but I still miss the good parts of him.
My "friends" at my new school are so bad. They make fun of me more than being nice, but they are the only people I can hangout with. Outside of school whenever I have the chance to meet up with someone from the old school I hang on to it and don't let go. I wish I was still with them all all the time 😕
Now i understand why i feel unhappy if i make friends way too fast: because i suspected that he wants to get me in a manipulation trap and i also HATE taking things too fast. Everything needs time, you can't expect to become friend with anybody in 5 minutes
Lmao this described my whole friend group and the funny thing is that I want to drop all of them but I’m trapped (like the reason) because I’m in so many of their classes, on the bus with them, sit next to them, and I have no other friends. Waiting till highschool so that *maybe* I can have a fresh start :’)