The only people the narcissist keeps long term are other narcissist, even though they butt heads because they're narcissists... they supply eachother and try to remind eachother how perfect they are even though they're terrible people. Misery loves company.
And they’ll share a victim. I can’t speak as an authority but in my experience two narcissists who were good friends had something in common…me. Once a light was shined on them they turned on each other. Amazing stuff.
The weirdest thing is how these "friends" just disappear. If you ask the narc about it, they are vague and evasive. They don't talk about what happened, never mention them again, and express no normal regret that it didn't work out. It's as if they were never there.
I actually invited his so called friend to dinner and actually made a date. The day before he said he wanted to have a quiet evening at home. He ended leaving to see do something. It was like a whirlwind being with him. Once when we were first married I found from his first marriage in the garage in a full box all these gift cards they never used. I called and they were still good. He just said he lost them. I have so many things that I was always thinking whaaaat! Being brought all that back to me ahaa ! Moments and now I know and get it.
Mine drunk when came home was rambling on about how he was talking to this girl. Who was this girl and he said they come and out of life every 2 months. I thought boy was he drunk! Boys night out. Now I know differently. He was telling me the truth. He was cheating with whomever.
People are so blinded by the narcissist! They really do not know what goes-on behind the scenes! What gets to me the most is that they believe the narcissist and not us. I allow no-one in my circle. The trauma of years of living with a narcissist made me this way. I would rather be alone and stay away from the population. A study revealed that 75 percent of people are narcissist. We live in a big percentage of a narcissist generation!
So sad! 75%? WOW that is a lot! It is more than one! Ha! I think my adult children are either narcissists or have a respect issue with me their mother from living with their father. I hope they somehow learn how to treat others better.
@@TheGirlnurse being a loner isn’t so bad dear! Loners are POWERFUL individuals. This is where we find who we are deep-down. I can be around crowds, but if peoples energy begins to drain me. I leave! Now some people can’t be alone. Narcissist can’t be alone, they need others for supply, good or bad! They need to be feeding their ego! I’m glad that I no longer live with a narcissist. I’m free to do what I want. It’s fun! No one telling me what to do. I LOVE my life and my peace.
Thanks man. It sucks because she useing my journals that I write in against me and I’m not allowed to see my kids and she also lied about me being abusive. Which I HAVE NEVER touched a woman like that. Never will. Literally just taught my two boys that same lesson. Which is ironically funny in a way. But yea. This SUCKS!
She’s also calling all my friends and lying to them. Luckily those that know me best tell me, “Corey I know you’re crazy. But not (beat your wife crazy)”. lol. But yea, she’s being really fucking horrible. And already she’s made my life hell for the last 7 yrs out of the 15 together. 10 yrs married.
I would say that the narc can give something... But only to "buy" someone's favor or to play the "generous guy". They can give expensive gifts and pay dinners, but only if it is a good investment
@@bicho.cosmico they only do that for a very small amount of time. Then they take what they put in and take the rest of the time taking and not giving! They may lavish that person at first but what they demand from that person afterwards is astronomical ! Like you’re very soul! Not to mention the abuse!
OMGosh..this is so true...They can be such actors and everyone adores them. it's sickening. it's why I now am suspicious of people who are so adored by what seems like everyone. If you try to call them out, all those people defend them and think you are the devil. Better to run, don't walk.
Yes! Sociopaths, narcissists, the whole lot have to be very gifted at deception which in turn makes them an actor. My former friend was so good at it, she thought she was an actress. In my final phone call with her, I told her that the only thing she acted like was rhymes with trucking grunt. Normally that would have caused her to go into one of her classic narcissistic rage-filled tantrums, but she knew I was done with her and if she had ended the call, I was going to post screenshots exposing her for what she was: a lying, thieving, adulteress, no-talent fraud who didn't care about anyone, not even her own children. She had painted herself into a corner and there was no way out. She wasn't used to not having the upper hand. In fact, she was used to getting her way by throwing a fit that people would just back down to save themselves from having to listen to her entitled banshee screeching. She had the nerve to say “You've changed,” then asked me what happened to me. I told her: “You happened to me.“ When she begged for mercy, I said: “Sorry. Fresh out.“
I kept my father's secret while he was alive but found myself telling people the truth about him (as I saw him) after he died. My neighbor was so disappointed because he really liked my dad. His wife seemed to have caught on to him and I just confirmed what she thought. Interesting!
Why these cluster b's like narcissist, sociopaths, psychopaths are so charming. We can't even realise it at first. They mirrored and show their fake character as if they are the most kind hearted person ever. Deep inside the devil who has no empathy.
@@blessed7927 they do it all the time and if you look at photos,they are mirroring others faces in photos. I can’t stand these demons in these people!!!!
It has taken me till my early 60s to find out I have been surrounded by narcissists most of my life. I consider it a blessing to have found this channel.
I never now I was leaving with a narc for 22yrs as a wife till I recently came across your video, devalued, silent treatment, gas light me, rude, very saucy, mannerless, cheats, goes out at will and comes back at will, she denied access to her mobile phone, once told me I cannot control her, and d most painful shifts blame on me all d time, after watching your video I ran for my dear life, I went no contact so hard that she never taught I could go that length, blocked and deleted her mobile number, whatapp, don't eat what she cooks, infact I don't answer her greetings, stopped buying gas, food stuffs, paying electricity bills, chased her friends out of my house, l moved to another room, eating better and nutritional meals compared to junk shit food she has been given, infact if not for d intervention of my older brother a quantity surveyor I would have seized d car I bought for d mother fucker, I even became more toxic and mean than her out of anger and frustration, when am sick she doesn't care and can be browsing for 4hrs, I almost break d phone, I stopped arguing with her, infact she is confused, really scared of me, am better and more happy, I go to church now every Sunday and I have started savings, I go to GYM, infact am really better, thanks bro
I questioned it constantly...In my mind as well as him and his mother. They worked as a team. They talk behind your back and make you the scapegoat... Meanwhile you're so busy making sure that not even one ball fall's to the ground. They enjoy keeping you very busy and off track. While they are doing something (s) behind your back. If you question them about suspecting that they are being unfaithful... their responses are chillingly cold. How dare you question their integrity. It doesn't exist.
In my experience, the narcissist surrounds themselves with people who are inexperienced at Life, generally younger people. The more experienced (of Life) people will eventually see the narcissist for who/what they are.
WOW! THIS IS SO TRUE AND ITS SO SAD 😥 WHEN ITS YOUR SISTER AND EVERYTHING THAT YOU'VE SAID ABOUT THAT THEY ATTATCH THIERSELVES WITH PEOPLE WHO HAVE ALOT OF MONEY AND SHE ALWAYS HAS TIME FOR THEM AND NEVER ANY FOR HER FAMILY ESPECIALLY ME BECAUSE I'VE CONFRONTED HER ABOUT HERSELF......ITS SO HARD TO WATCH AND SEE HOW SHE TRIES TO CHARM OTHERS AND ITS ACTUALLY SICKINGLY AND WILL MAKE U HAVE TERRIBLE ANXIETY....I HAVE TO STAY AWAY FROM HER BUT I DO STILL HAVE LOVE IN MY HEART ❤ FOR HER.......BE SAFE AND BE BLESSED!!!!!!!
Right. The narcissist I knew would surround himself with people who he deemed was less than him.drug addicts, prostitutes and alcoholic because he did not do these things it made him feel like he was better. He felt stupid around intelligent people.
I had this same experience with my ex. Extremely low vibrational people that he was always "helping". Including a female with mental health issues and occasional meth user. That he later slept with!
My ex narc the alcoholic fireman has many friends who mostly are also firefighters. They are very kind people and naive or turned blind eyes to his character. They drink and do sports together. So he played the Jekyl and Hyde very well. I am sure that they witnessed how he treated women because one of them told me that it was beyond his belief how he treats women as his convenience. I did not notice much deep conversations among them. Superficial partyish relationships with his buddies. He can act. But the mistake he made with me was that I was brave to reach out to his 20 year long buddy who told me to find someone else.
Day 3. No contact. I’m so very grateful I found your channel. I feel like you are speaking to me, saying all the correct things, AND I AM listening! Thank you so very much. I Pray that I remain strong!
Persevere. One day at a time. While you move ahead, start redesigning your life to reflect your own strengths and talents. You have time now, and no one to punish you for being you. Be grateful every day, and strive to be peaceful. Live small. I promise this will work.
Let yourself greive and stay strong. The hoover will come strongly. And if its not directly. It will be through your friends and family The love bombing then the degrading and discarding. Im months out of his home, 4 weeks out of the same town. And he is still doing rinse wash repeat. Ive had to block good friends that think they are helping our love story. Stay Strong 💪
Quintessential Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde…..on a dime. Absolutely ripping you apart on their way out, and then walks out the door and the grimace turns to a smile and “hey, how ya doing, so good to see you,” while you’re breaking down in tears against the door that was just slammed in your face. EVERYONE outside that door is CLUELESS. It’s nauseating to see him gloat over how he is deceiving them all, and then the monster comes out at home when no one else is around, and attempts to wipe the floor with their victim to decompress their rage. Pure evil. Revolving door of supplies is 💯% correct! It’s literally frightening to see how easily he dupes each and every person, but all so superficial. You can’t watch it. It’s nauseating.
Thank you for this comment, because I'm sick of how society pretend like there's less psychos or narcs than there really are. As a rule though, I won't talk about the narcissism topic directly unless someone else has been through it. Because their normies/enables would never understand. As for flying monkeys, they're just narcs in training. In fact, they're more hateful than the narcs themselves sometimes
Dear Julie My name is David I just left a narcissistic relationship. It was hard my narc almost killed me. I did not know these kind of people were sooo cruel. I felt like a atm machine. The abuse. they put us threw will come back to them. I wish my narc the best but I believe she will be killed by somebody thats going to get mad. I glad you and I survived. Sometimes I find myself talking to my cat because hes the only one I trust. Im hoping that you find a good man someday that will really love you and understand what you have been threw I will probly go to my grave with the fact that this person cheated me on all aspects of my life. I feel like a fool but god helped me survive this mess. I hoping god will let me in his kingdom so I can rest. I try to help people out but this made me not trust people as much. The sad part of my ordeal is I would do it again because I know god told me to help my fellow man and women. DONT FORGET THIS GOD LOVES YOU NO MATTER WHAT ! From a fellow survivor. BEST WISHES TO YOU. BECAUSE WE HAVE BEEN TO HELL AND BACK !!!!
Ive seen coverts having lots of ‘friends’ usually people who are down and out or have a lot of problems, they love this because they get to talk about them but also act like they are helpers and helping all these people in some way or another. Carriers of gossip and news that’s all.
I got divorced from narcissist and now its a different battle. If you agree with them then they will play nice, but if you say no, then the rage, insults and hate starts. Anyways, once she started insulting and manipulating, I just called my lawyer.
I met my covert narcissist online. I met his family and something was so off. When I brought it up he told me it was all in my head. I’ve never met a family so unloving towards me. No one was excited to meet me or wanted to know more about me. I’m off online dating for good.
Welcome Mulania.. thank you for sharing this.. dating sites are a breeding ground for narcissism IMO .. my hope is you are doing great and maintaining your boundaries ☀️🙌🙏
I met mine online dating app also. He charmed me, love bombed me. I noticed that he had no friends. Why? Because he only uses people, then discards them. I later realized after 5 years how l was being used.
@@topkat8268 I'm sorry you experienced that. He didn't have friends either. Just acquaintances and family members. Thankfully, I was out after a year and a half. If covid didn't happen, I probably noticed signs earlier.
I notice my ex narcissist he hung around people that had high paying jobs that had lots of money. He lost a lot of good friends that I liked but didn’t know why but I do now.
My narcissist is so good that she has managed to keep "friends" for years, decades, whom she keeps connected with and visits briefly once in a while. Interestingly, their connection is shallow. She is the greatest con-man.
In my experience the narcissist has long term friends. And these are actually good, nice people. But these people are not subjected to the narcissist on a daily basis as is the people who are closest to him. They see the masked version of him and have no clue what I and others such as exes or even family have seen.
Great comment and yes, I agree with you. I was a long term friend to several narcissists. When we were in our 20s, 30s, and even 40s, they had youth and charisma on their side which yielded ample supply. However, as they aged, their supply dwindled and they showed their true selves. I was left thinking, "How did I not see this person's true core earlier?" Some of these people I had known for 20 or 30 years. But if you only see someone once a month, once every six months, or once a year, it's very easy to have a great conversation and a good time. Plus, I always wanted to believe the best in people. It wasn't until I was older that I saw the truth and let some of these people go.
Truth. Covert narcissist only drop the mask with their immediate family. I have so much more to say but can’t. It’s not me going through this but I’m watching it play out with a friend. It’s exhausting watching let alone for the person going through it.
We moved across country and it was just us and our two children, 19 year marriage. She chose to become friends with her coworkers who were all divorced and or single mothers. She took on their personalities and advice. Kids and I were discarded and she moved in with her new boyfriend from work. I filed for divorce and got full custody of our children. I’m doing my best to heal and provide the most stabile environment for my teenage children.
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone I’m about to head to the gym and then take the kids out to lunch. Not sure what happened two weeks ago but I feel like I’ve slipped back into a dark spot. Guess that dream I had was what triggered it. I won’t quit and eventually I’ll be over this 🤞🏼🙏. I don’t like timelines but my therapist said some take a year for every 5 years of marriage. I’ll be at 2 years next Valentine’s Day. Yep. So if her average timeline is anywhere accurate I’m almost 1/2 way there.
@@mostHigh23 thank you, I did the work and am much better now, it took me a little under 2 years but wow once you recover from a toxic relationship and grow. God Bless all y’all
100% agree with not using dating apps. I let go of those years ago....so many weird people on those dating aps. In fact I met my narcissist on a dating app. Never again. You are 100% right that the narc surrounds themselves with transient 'friends' ---- people who are almost afraid of the narc -- looking for their approval. It's a weird circle of dysfunctional people. Ugg, so happy to be out of this warped phase of my life. Eyes wide open now --- no more narcs.
You are so right and right on point. Narcs surround themselves with transient friends.....a weird circle of dysfunctional people. They get together and psyche out and gang up to scam people out of money, homes, their belongings etc. I no longer feel sorry for these shitbags.
"The narcissist is an insecure coward". "They are bullies". NAILED IT! Mine actually referred to himself as "The Puppetmaster". 🤮 Flying Monkeys are indeed horrible people...just as evil as the narcissist. ENERGY VAMPIRES! PREDATORS! THANK YOU!!!!💜💜💜
The ex narc I was married to was furious when his kids from another relationship called him a coward and he knew it! I didn’t at the time but I know now. They are sneaky and do things behind your back or better still get others to do it for them.
Flying monkeys can actually be worse than the narcissist that are essentially working for. But the great thing about the inevitable smear campaign is I get to see who my secret enemies were all along
Absolutely, living with a narc its a totally different situation, a narc groom their flying monkeys paying for their lunch doing them favors so then later put them all against you in a smear campaign. Even when I was trying to go for a vacation and take a break from the smear campaign, the flying monkeys were send my way to just annoyed me making sure I don't enjoy my time and report back to the narc.
I have been married to him for 25 yr and after during the devaluation period It seem like he was a stranger. He was never loud and now around the new supply during triangulation he was cursing, loud drinking partying. I couldn't believe my eyes. All I know it was a very scary ending.
And he was mirroring whomever he was trying to reel in. I was with my ex husband for 25 years also. It has been 2 1/2 years apart. He started acting like, using the same words, mirroring the new supply. I didn't recognize him at all. Became very hostile, mean & disgusted towards me. It was the hardest thing I ever went through.
The last time I was with my ex narc the day before he discarded me we got in the car and he jacked up the head banging rock! Never had we ever listened to that annoying loud music. He realized how off it was so he told me he’s started liking this type of music recently ??? So ridiculous obviously his groomed replacement supply’s musical taste. He pressed on with the facade. Blowing out the windows with this embarrassing noise as we drove around town.
My wife never tried to meet new people or surround herself around people in front of me. She hid everything on social media accounts and met God knows how behind my back
I remember my x wife inviting a few people (couples) I didn't know over for a BBQ and didn't tell me till 1 hour before they arrived. She didn't go shopping. We were completely unprepared. These people were at our house for the first time and I was left to talk to them. I had no idea who they were. It was so weird. I sat at the table and quietly said..."I apologize, I didn't know about this, no offense taken if you decide to leave." They said thank you and left. They knew they were being played. That was a pivotal moment in looking at my significant other through a completely different lens.
Wow! Did she even have food for them? Ex narc would leave me with his mom when she came to visit and sister even on Thanksgiving, have the meal and then stay gone cuz he didn't like his family but would never admit it. Weird.
Reminds me of my first experience with my ex narcs family... About 30 of them in a room around Christmas time and my narcopath pushed me into the room to introduce myself and then proceeded to leave me for the entire night pretty much on my own. I felt weird and realised immediately that was strange behaviour. No empathy, solidarity or putting me at ease.. ever actually, in the whole relationship. Ugh.
This is one reason why the places of work are overloaded with narcissists. I wonder about what gov programs these companies benefit by juggling human narcissistic resources. Great 👍 video
Gosh you answered a question I always had in my mind. My husband would go to parties with me and leave me sitting alone by myself. I never understood why but I get it now he was searching for a new supply. Thank you for this video!
I had to remember mine was a social butterfly and would leave alone just standing waiting for even after an hour. One I took a Taxi home. He got home hours later. Acted like nothing happened. Didn't even talk about it. I was so steaming mad I came home at midnight for 2 weeks, he was sound asleep and didn't even. Yes. I know now he looks for supply wherever he goes. It something he couldn't live without.
Yep my narcissistic husband does this at our church socializing before the service and in the fellowship hall during lunches. Going around talking to everyone.
Andrew I've been very encouraged by the amount of knowledge and insight you have about the narcissist. You explain their manipulative and conniving behaviors. I remember how when we were at large gathering my ex narc would often walk around and shake peoples hands and introduce himself by name as if he were running for president. He was very outgoing and I was more reserved. I often felt very lonely and ignored at these gatherings. Your explanation for their behaviors in this discussion are so accurate. It's very evident that you were hurt very badly by a narcissist when you only wanted to give your all to another person and to experience true love. I'm sad that your heart was broken because I experienced the same thing. But just like you, I am wiser now and well never allow myself to be tricked again. It was such a painful experience and your videos will hopefully prevent others from having to go through such a heartbreak and tragedy. Thanks again sincerely!!
My ex narc had 700 contacts on her phone. She could get everything from anybody every time she wanted to. One of her statements: I would never cheat on you. But if I wanted do, I could any time any day.”
Man.. this was described perfectly to a T! It’s funny how much more clear things are once you understand the rules of the “game”. The behavior then becomes predictable
My narc of 16 years surrounded herself with people who were generally speaking unattractive. She would always have something bad or degrading to say about them after the encounter, or conversely people who were accomplished and then it would be 'He's a doctor, or 'She's a lawyer', etc. Yet she would still have some denagrating comment about them as well. Everyone gets slandered, nobody is spared. Sick, disgusting people they all are.
My experience with serial secret critics of others is that eventually their version of that comes down on me. ( in the form of passive aggressiveness such as underhanded compliments about women I'm dating, Etc)
Being a odd duck in a cycle of other people's routines feels like they are trying to kill my spirit. Ive noticed my own cycles trapped in this like a figure 8. Im sticking to the side of the figure 8 looking for a way out. One day I turned the 8 sidways and seen these are glasses. I popped in one eye at a time grabbed a pin wheel I found in a haystack and used it as a helicopter to fly out. I have a swiss army knife tool in my pocket. To cut any strings or ropes that might lasso me back in to the narcisitic cycles. The toothpick is a reminder dont loose your tongue on your knew journey 😊 like in Gullivers travels. The journey is long and vast with many twists and turns. The heroes journey. Save yourself. Then the empath can help others up the bean stalk or down it, or plant the seeds of Winsdom. Andrew and the community comments. Helped my journey. Thank you ❤
I got cheated on after 8 years, and behind my back she had arranged an entirely new social group without me finding out in the last 4 months of our relationship. All people I wouldn't associate with, and since then she's done exactly what's being suggested in this video. Everytime I've had the misfortune to bump into her she's surrounded by lots of new people.... and I mean everytime. We're both mid 30s and the new people are early 20s and don't know any better. Thanks for shedding light on this it's stricken me as weird and I had some suspicion it had something to do with this condition
I got reports from people who said he was skiing 2 weeks prior. Asked me if I liked it. I'm thinking I didn't know that because to get there takes 2 hours. Then someone called and I answered his cell it was a woman and she hung up. I didn't get it.
@@rpm3305 So true...and the reason that they will hang out with any age group. I often thought it was weird that he kept befriending all of those much younger people. He would literally bring home very young female clients to our home. In front of my daughter's. Completely inappropriate behavior. It's volatile. It made me and my children very uncomfortable.
Hindsight is 20/20. You will never understand unless you can look back. You are attracted to them because they are familiar spirits. The ones you grew up with.
They surround themselves with a ton that'll give them supply. But those who stick around long term are enablers, other narcissists, or people that they like to bully so they can feel better about themselves. Empaths that are codependents that aren't aware so healed yet.
You just described my former friend again. I can name close to 50 people, myself included, that she burned with her obsessive, boundary-trampling, disrespectful behavior. As I said in some of my other comments, I don't hate her anymore because I've moved past it. In another one of your videos you talk about karma. I did wish her ill-will for a long while and I realized I was letting my resentment eat me up inside. It wasn't until I became born again, I realized I spent too much time chasing worldly delights and distractions, in a bid to cover up the pain that I experienced from dealing with my former narcissistic abuser. In tune with this video, my former friend quickly discarded anyone that caused her to pause and take a look within herself. Anyone who caught on to her web of deception or when her con games didn't play out the way she wanted, these people would disappear. Of course, she remain completely silent on why her latest new BFF had suddenly become a ghost. When she did open her mouth, the stories were inconsistent at best and the product of bad lying at worst. I'm sure she's told a few tall tales about me since I cut her off and I really don't care. I did hear from my mutual friend (that I was able to wake up to her toxic ways), that she stuttered and spluttered at the sound of my name. He said she didn't wish me any ill will but she didn't want to have anything to do with me. Just the sound of my name made her tremble with fear. I have to chuckle at that.
My ex didn’t have friends, just work colleagues who he argued with daily, I would feel exhausted listening to him. But no true friends, your spot on not many people liked him, his kids don’t bother with him, they see him for what he is a bully & narcissist. Love your channel ❤️
Your ex might have been my soon to be ex. Brags about how he would treat staff. Family keep their distance and one daughter even warned me to not engage when he became unbearable or was looking for an argument that he could win. Can’t seem to really connect with my friends. The worst was when he didn’t bother even trying to remember some of my family’s names. After 5 years, and learning about narcissism, I’m calling it quits. Finally told him today, hoping he will get out in the next day or two. I know I cannot let him talk me into staying together. Wish me luck.
My ex surrounds himself with boozers and pathetic people who are always trying too hard to be relevant. They're all misfits, and the relationships are all very superficial.
This is so spot on. My ex has to see our kids with monitored visits and he charms the professional monitors. They actually believe the lies. It makes me mad sometimes.
Same happened to me. Mine would tell the staff that I phoned him and told him I had cancelled visits that weekend. I would arrive for change over and the staff would tell me this. I told the staff that they were believing the person that did domestic violence against me and why didn't they phone me to ask. The narc is easily believed it seems. He also tried to give them old custody paperwork as current. I told changeover staff. In future you confirm with me and you do nothing more until you receive the current papers I fax to you first thing Monday. There was no thought for the child.
Yep, the curse of Dereck Egbuniwe. It was all a waste of time and a joke when, in the end, he sgd t even care to see his children - just took me to court to cause me stress and financial hardship. Such an evil creature!
Truer words were never spoken. I was just a paycheck and maid the entire relationship. I gave and gave hoping for a miracle in getting my marriage back to the beginning but nothing worked. I say run as fast as possible and get away. Andrew is such a shinning light in this very dark world. Than you Andrew.
The ex friends were mystery! He avoided introducing to me! I just met few but vaguely not intentionally! I didn’t get then but now I do!!! After he left , I start to understand so many things.
My partner surrounds himself with weak people that make him feel better about himself and he hides his true self from them. And the other people he surrounded himself with have equally low values so he never feels bad.
My ex-Narc used my "so-called" Best Friend to spy on me after the discard. She would come to my home on many occasions pretending that she was concerned about me. But, I noticed her "line of questioning" was very strange...questions I knew he would only ask. How dumb to think I wouldn't notice that. But...then again...Empaths are always under-estimated. She was definitely feeding the narcissist information about me. However, what I don't understand is...What's in it for her? I thought...maybe she's now being recruited to the new supply?......just saying.
Great comment.. I can’t say what is in it for her.. however if she is a flying monkey she is someone who deserves to know nothing about you or your future 🙌☀️🙏
supply , someone they control, someone who would listen , someone who can travel miles to bring them food, etc, they gather secrets ,though some are expired , conspire, and divide
U crack me up .. Andrew! How u always say .. "Think about that for a minute". You're Naturally Funny! Love your .. Sense of Humor! I do think about .. everything .. u say! Your information .. is Very Valuable! A Narcissist is like .. an "In & Out Burger!" .. just passing through. They Eat & Run .. never staying anywhere .. very long. They can't hold down a relationship. They don't know what it's like .. to be stable .. comfortable & secure. Dedication/Loyalty .. isn't in their Vocabulary. It's .. how can I hit that! Or .. run here & there .. as fast as possible. No loyalty .. love .. security .. perseverance .. or stay power. It's who can give me .. what I need .. when I need it! You're right .. they're Vial Creatures! Totally & Undeniably .. Despicable!
Kathleen, Andrew cracks me up too! Not only is he phenomenal with his education on all things narcissist but highly entertaining.. I don’t think he realizes how good and uniquely funny he is! He’s the best.. I am constantly sharing his videos.
BINGO; a lot of what he said I have seen in people! some Narcissist like to suck in younger people,, cause, the younger are apt to. A) look-up to an older person. B) apt to trust and please an older person. C) apt to believe an older person. D) want acceptance from an older person.
Another great and very accurate video! This is my now ex gf! I fell head over heals for her and although I have some temper issues, I gave her my all. She used me, lied, cheated, manipulated, and played the victim. Her family defends her relentlessly and believes her over actual facts of her infidelity, promiscuity, lies. I was so in love with her it hurts so bad.
Oh wow you’ve been describing my sister and I’m not considered someone who will elevate her. Andrew I had low self worth and boundaries raised by narcissistic mother so I married twice to narcs. Sister was golden child. Mom has passed and I’m 61 this year and just finally unravelling it all. Moms abuse still has repercussions from flying monkeys in the family. I’m em brass if a whole new way of looking at this mess.
Remember your life just starts anew with eyes opened, its great! I also regret i was unaware of 2 narc sisters for 47 years that changed my priorities that should be me and my happiness from the beginning. I was a source of. supply now they wish me death.
I’m a 30 year old women an recently married a demonic narcissist last August and I have been spiritually awaken since last year .And I have been doing lots of research 🧐 and I’m so ready to get out! The worst was that I was bullied and manipulated by the “flying monkeys” such as his mother !This was so educational I would always wonder why he was never able to keep a friend an would literally have a group of new people he would prioritize every month like “ the flavor of the month “ lol 😂 what I would say in my head as well ✨ But I’m awake now 🙏🏽 Thank you lord
Narcissist usually surround themselves with other Narcissist. The Narcissist in my life has toxic family and friends and they do believe he's the best person in the world because he's charming and wears a mask. He helps people to get recognition and praise. Those people have no clue about the things I went through with the narcissist and they all came against me. The Narcissist rallied up a group of friends and family to destroy me.. The family does know he's a narcissist but theyre Narcissist too so theyre okay with the narcissist toxic behavior. You are so on point with this description.. the Narcissist told me only people who are useful are valuable. These people created a monster. The biggest issue is the big ego theyre constantly looking to feed. Thank you!
He hung around thugs and low life’s, he didn’t know his worth, that’s why he spent over 1/2 his life in prison... (30yrs) when he met me he actually found a REAL job, spoiled me rotten, and had a lil compassion!! They hate boundaries , accountability, and responsibility!!
Yes, I did recognize that my ex used to rotate friends, most of them he got into arguments with and they disappeared. He used to hold to tons of business cards and phone numbers of people to feel important. When he would call these people they wouldn’t remember who he was and he had to tell them how they meant, and the people would like “oh” then pretend to entertain him, I almost felt sorry for him. I used to envy the people that that stopped associating with him. Now I’m finally gone.
Lol. Holding on to the business cards is hilarious. I am so glad I got out of that vicious cycle. Him and his professional victim mother and children who couldn't keep still.
I AGREE 💯....Knowing my X and only husband a great manipulative COVERT NARCISSISTIC PERSON for about 20 yrs I know this to be true and wish I had learned this earlier... I his ENABLER thought I could change the MONSTER I Loved more then life itself. It took me some years to figure this out, but the signs and what you speak of was all there. Thank God I can never be fooled of a man that wanted me as his arm piece, to juggle treat like a B**** and build his ego...The man I married was an angel even to people that wasn't around long...The man I divorced was a sadistic cheat.... The sex was INCREDIBLE but his ABUSE and MANIPULATION everyone could see but me...He begged for forgiveness and I did forgive but will never forget, then I moved on to freedom and happiness ❣
Andrew, in this video you describe my ex, Chris perfectly. He was the king of charm. One time he picked me up from work to give me a ride. He actually took the time to meet most of my coworkers. I was naive at the time. I thought what a social guy. I see it now thanks to you. It’s about getting more supply. I’m thrilled that I dumped him. The last straw for me is when he deliberately ruined my birthday. Andrew, have you ever done a video why narcissist seem to enjoy other people special days such as birthdays?
What I can’t believe is that so many people can’t see them for what they are. TBH it took me years to finally ‘click’ but always knew something was ‘off’ and in hindsight did everything wrong - public outing and confrontation. Also, some narcs don’t let anyone close
I used to say that mine liked to “pick up strays”. It was not romantic (not to my knowledge anyway) but just PEOPLE, always someone new he was helping or dealing with. I used to think he just had a kind heart and wanted to help. NOW, I know it’s all part of that “I don’t want to be alone with myself and my dark thoughts” pattern that all narcs have.
Explains the back burner babes I discovered. They can have him! I never did. Empty promises...sickening. How could I be so foolish. He had nobody..red flag I missed. Your so soothing at my hour of need. Thanks for all you do!
AMEN, brother!!! I am so glad someone knows! I have had so many people treat me as the problem. I'm seen as ungrateful ! IT'S really disturbing , very hurtful, and lonely. I HAVE NO ONE WHO BELIEVES ME! Ive got to save my breath. Thank you so much for believing!
Thank you for your video Andrew. So true Andrew they are insecure cowards. They will attach themselves onto anything that gives them adoration and countless supply. They are indeed horrible creatures. Looking back I believed in love so much but it was never love. They are the most disgusting miserable toxic degeneratives that ever walked the face of the earth. You so right Andrew No Contact right across the board. It's our only salvation. Lisa
"My" narcissist always tells people that he surrounds himself with people of "loyalty, trust, respect, and integrity". He told me that during one of our first dates long ago. A couple of months ago, I caught him telling my friend the SAME speech. It's his schtick. Blech. So glad he is out of my life.
Spot on! I was married to the biggest bully Narcissist for 13 years. He is still in close contact with my family. I didn't realize how toxic my family is. Thank you!
My ex was a narcissist also a drunk. He refused to own up to anything. And when he did. He would say something like "Princess Kathleen you are so right" You are always right. Making me out to be like I was somehow being a bully !
Yes mine was surrounded by enablers and other useful idiots most of whom were close or extended family tied in for financial reasons. 'Friends' were infrequent ships in the night who were flavour of the month while they offered adoration and dropped quickly when she got bored or the supply drained. Social media was literally a 'fan club' of 1000's ...worth a video in it's own right as I would love to know the experience of others on this Chanel? The maintenance of their 'Street Angel' image to others as you say only something that is sustainable short term and the 'House Devil' that we actually dealt with for to long is who they really are... Take care Andrew and keep up the good work to your calling. DC
What an extremely interesting topic - thank you. It took me years to admit to myself that a close friend was in fact a coercive narcissist. They supposedly had a wide network of friends but crucially none of them met together with the narcissist in a group setting, rather the narcissist construed to met each and every one separately. I was extremely relieved when one friend said what I had been thinking for years namely that they wanted to be everyone's friend, yet they were nobody's friend. I now see it for what it was ie a mechanism to manipulate and control the narrative. They clearly feared that a group setting might expose them. It was only when I took the risk of chatting to a few trusted others within the narcissist network that I received confirmation that we were all being manipulated to varying degrees. I also recall how the narcissist became extremely jealous when I started becoming friendly with another person within the network. I can now see that they were actually defensive and aggressive, probably fearing they might be exposed if we started comparing our experiences. They subsequently set about breaking up the relationship in order to re-exert control. I'm so glad to finally be free from their control.
I can totally relate! And it takes me years of self doubt to finally prove that by talking to mutual friends because what happened to me, happened to them later.
The nearest and dearest pay the ultimate price! It is tragic when they are children. The children do the bidding for the narc. They don’t get over it❣️I have studied this in depth! I had no choice Thanks Andrew
Another great video and message that helps to peel away that mask of theirs like a rotten onion! I can see now, looking back, that even though I allowed that big bright red elephant exist in the "relationshit" for years - I started asking the tough questions AND expecting 'accountability' - she was FORCED to run fast to her "new supply" because she saw *#&@ was about to hit the fan! When "they" run - I'd take THAT as a compliment frankly! Thank you, Rick
At the beginning of a relationship with my ex I asked him if he had a best friend. He replied: “I’m friends with everybody and with no-one.” Yeah. I thought at the time it was an odd response but later came to realize that’s how narcissistic see people around them - whoever is convenient for THEM at the time is their friend. And an example of his charm. After I broke up with him due to how unhappy I was with him not to mention his consistent cheating. My dad told me: “Too bad, he was a NICE man.” I was shocked but wasn’t mad to my dad for I knew he had fell in to his charm.
The true wolves in sheep's clothing. They have different flavor of ppl in their lives that can be used by the Narrcist for different reasons, and that narrcist will come and go in people's lives when the narrcist needs are met. This guy here is so right on! It's really hard to have a relationship with a narcissist when they are a family member, talk about hard, and difficult for me
Thank you for YOU and the wisdom of this type of ppl. My therapist can't even come close to what you share. God sent me YOU in my path, and hard journey. Smoke Prayers from Okla, 🕊️✝️🕊️
Help me with the loss of 6 of my grandkids and 2 of my adult children betrayal they each have 3 children. So my sister got close to them and used them against me. After expressing how important my family is they stole every single joy.
Great video, you are so right! Constantly looking for supply. Scanning all the time. Says he’s just having a laugh but flirting with as many as possibly. Constantly looking and not present with you at all! Took so long to get this. Flying monkeys. They believe every word he says. Thank you.
Andrew, thank you✊🏽 I watched you from my discard to my healing journey to seeing the ex narc face to face and not wanting anything to do with them. That in itself was life saving. Now, I want to watch your videos to continue to educate myself and others. The discard set me free and wouldn’t have known it without you and Anoushka and Zions channels. I’ve been taught in life if you could just save 1 person, 1 soul , you did more than great in life. I humbly say you helped to save mine. Continue what your doing brother, it is the good fight
You are my supply Andrew! I'm feeding on your knowledge your strength the way you touch us all ! I want to heal so much I'm lost now I'm in the angry stage feeling stupid too! So Hurt feel betrayed why I someone I loved gave everything I could for 21 years do this! Now I know why! I still love to slap the crap out of him ! Victims of narcissist would be a great forever couple! I hope one day I find real love! I hope I know it when I find it! I turned 53 today! I know I won't make the same mistakes again! My heart is my weakness ! I am the perfect target for a NARCISSiST! Thanks Andrew! Costa Rica? I'm there ! I'm in Citra florida nice here too
Happy birthday Holly.. enjoy your beautiful day today.. you are doing great.. continue to become educated and empowered.. moving forward everyday.. sending you birthday hugs.. and positive energy 💯🙌☀️🙏😊
You explained my SIL perfectly! Before we went no contact she would come stay a few days and one day would jump up and say I gotta go home! That mask was getting heavy and she was tired of carrying it around! I got to where I would discuss narcissistic characteristics in front of her so she knew, I knew and she discarded us. She moved on to a new found half sibling and a half sibling we all know, but have little interaction with, because they don’t really know her. She has ran off every long term friend as soon as that mask slips! You are 100% correct on everything you said! 🎯💯👀
The narc is the alien lady neighbor. How could I not see this?!? I know full well now since listening to your video. I always see scores of different people, coming and going, giving some sort of service. Who does this? Only the NARC! Thank for better clarifying on this topic, Andrew. There are so many aspects to the narc that it is mind boggling once you put it all in perspective.
This may be an old video but it's spot on...👏🏽🙌🏽💜
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The only people the narcissist keeps long term are other narcissist, even though they butt heads because they're narcissists... they supply eachother and try to remind eachother how perfect they are even though they're terrible people. Misery loves company.
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WOW, love the insight! ❤️🙏❤️
Amen to that! Truth should never be underrated.
Or, the person who hangs out with the narc could be a codependent
And they’ll share a victim. I can’t speak as an authority but in my experience two narcissists who were good friends had something in common…me. Once a light was shined on them they turned on each other. Amazing stuff.
I got a dog -- no more narcs. Dogs are loyal, kind, and loving! Great healers!
Tru dear
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A dog won't force you into arguments or try and play games with your mind.
The best healers. (Dogs)
The weirdest thing is how these "friends" just disappear. If you ask the narc about it, they are vague and evasive. They don't talk about what happened, never mention them again, and express no normal regret that it didn't work out. It's as if they were never there.
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I actually invited his so called friend to dinner and actually made a date. The day before he said he wanted to have a quiet evening at home. He ended leaving to see do something. It was like a whirlwind being with him. Once when we were first married I found from his first marriage in the garage in a full box all these gift cards they never used. I called and they were still good. He just said he lost them. I have so many things that I was always thinking whaaaat! Being brought all that back to me ahaa ! Moments and now I know and get it.
Mine drunk when came home was rambling on about how he was talking to this girl. Who was this girl and he said they come and out of life every 2 months. I thought boy was he drunk! Boys night out. Now I know differently. He was telling me the truth. He was cheating with whomever.
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People are so blinded by the narcissist! They really do not know what goes-on behind the scenes! What gets to me the most is that they believe the narcissist and not us. I allow no-one in my circle. The trauma of years of living with a narcissist made me this way. I would rather be alone and stay away from the population. A study revealed that 75 percent of people are narcissist. We live in a big percentage of a narcissist generation!
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So sad! 75%? WOW that is a lot! It is more than one! Ha! I think my adult children are either narcissists or have a respect issue with me their mother from living with their father. I hope they somehow learn how to treat others better.
I’m the same way as you..I rather keep to myself than “hope” new people have good intentions but experience nonsense
My ex narc turned me into such a loner
@@TheGirlnurse being a loner isn’t so bad dear! Loners are POWERFUL individuals. This is where we find who we are deep-down. I can be around crowds, but if peoples energy begins to drain me. I leave! Now some people can’t be alone. Narcissist can’t be alone, they need others for supply, good or bad! They need to be feeding their ego! I’m glad that I no longer live with a narcissist. I’m free to do what I want. It’s fun! No one telling me what to do. I LOVE my life and my peace.
She has NO REMORSE! And you literally just gave me my aha moment about the friends thing. Damn…😮
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Thanks man. It sucks because she useing my journals that I write in against me and I’m not allowed to see my kids and she also lied about me being abusive. Which I HAVE NEVER touched a woman like that. Never will. Literally just taught my two boys that same lesson. Which is ironically funny in a way. But yea. This SUCKS!
She’s also calling all my friends and lying to them. Luckily those that know me best tell me, “Corey I know you’re crazy. But not (beat your wife crazy)”. lol. But yea, she’s being really fucking horrible. And already she’s made my life hell for the last 7 yrs out of the 15 together. 10 yrs married.
They are like a black hole in space. They just take and never give back .
Completely true ☀️💯
Lmao a walking Abyss
I would say that the narc can give something... But only to "buy" someone's favor or to play the "generous guy". They can give expensive gifts and pay dinners, but only if it is a good investment
@@bicho.cosmico they only do that for a very small amount of time. Then they take what they put in and take the rest of the time taking and not giving! They may lavish that person at first but what they demand from that person afterwards is astronomical ! Like you’re very soul! Not to mention the abuse!
OMGosh..this is so true...They can be such actors and everyone adores them. it's sickening. it's why I now am suspicious of people who are so adored by what seems like everyone. If you try to call them out, all those people defend them and think you are the devil. Better to run, don't walk.
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Yes! Sociopaths, narcissists, the whole lot have to be very gifted at deception which in turn makes them an actor. My former friend was so good at it, she thought she was an actress. In my final phone call with her, I told her that the only thing she acted like was rhymes with trucking grunt. Normally that would have caused her to go into one of her classic narcissistic rage-filled tantrums, but she knew I was done with her and if she had ended the call, I was going to post screenshots exposing her for what she was: a lying, thieving, adulteress, no-talent fraud who didn't care about anyone, not even her own children. She had painted herself into a corner and there was no way out. She wasn't used to not having the upper hand. In fact, she was used to getting her way by throwing a fit that people would just back down to save themselves from having to listen to her entitled banshee screeching. She had the nerve to say “You've changed,” then asked me what happened to me. I told her: “You happened to me.“ When she begged for mercy, I said: “Sorry. Fresh out.“
My soon to be ex wife is perfect at fronting to be so nice and adorable
I kept my father's secret while he was alive but found myself telling people the truth about him (as I saw him) after he died. My neighbor was so disappointed because he really liked my dad. His wife seemed to have caught on to him and I just confirmed what she thought. Interesting!
exactly my experience!
Why these cluster b's like narcissist, sociopaths, psychopaths are so charming. We can't even realise it at first. They mirrored and show their fake character as if they are the most kind hearted person ever. Deep inside the devil who has no empathy.
Completely agree with this.. thank you for sharing 💯💯🙌🙏
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Its interesting about mirroring. I didn’t see it until time away and texts. Texts really made it come out. Chameleon.
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@@blessed7927 they do it all the time and if you look at photos,they are mirroring others faces in photos. I can’t stand these demons in these people!!!!
Healing to all you empaths ❤❤❤still in recovery after many years.
It has taken me till my early 60s to find out I have been surrounded by narcissists most of my life. I consider it a blessing to have found this channel.
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I never now I was leaving with a narc for 22yrs as a wife till I recently came across your video, devalued, silent treatment, gas light me, rude, very saucy, mannerless, cheats, goes out at will and comes back at will, she denied access to her mobile phone, once told me I cannot control her, and d most painful shifts blame on me all d time, after watching your video I ran for my dear life, I went no contact so hard that she never taught I could go that length, blocked and deleted her mobile number, whatapp, don't eat what she cooks, infact I don't answer her greetings, stopped buying gas, food stuffs, paying electricity bills, chased her friends out of my house, l moved to another room, eating better and nutritional meals compared to junk shit food she has been given, infact if not for d intervention of my older brother a quantity surveyor I would have seized d car I bought for d mother fucker, I even became more toxic and mean than her out of anger and frustration, when am sick she doesn't care and can be browsing for 4hrs, I almost break d phone, I stopped arguing with her, infact she is confused, really scared of me, am better and more happy, I go to church now every Sunday and I have started savings, I go to GYM, infact am really better, thanks bro
Same here!
Me too iam 61. 👍🙃
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That's true, narcs like a lot of casual friends.
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You are so right. The flying monkeys are disgusting human beeings. Thank you! You're the first coach who says this.
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Thank you! Your videos are amazing.
No. Dr Carter, Dr Ramani, Melanie Tonia Evans among most experts warn of the flying monkeys and enablers
@@MJ-qb5ph I confirm it. My father was the FM of my narcissistic mother his whole life and now he is much worse than her.
Sometimes the flying monkeys are innocent little children that have no idea how the narcissist is playing them.
As an empath - you do not question or know what is happening ✨ You do not question it because you do not know 🙏
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The ex husband company was the devil.
True. But a super empath will catch on and call them out. This they war with the super empath.
I questioned it constantly...In my mind as well as him and his mother. They worked as a team. They talk behind your back and make you the scapegoat... Meanwhile you're so busy making sure that not even one ball fall's to the ground. They enjoy keeping you very busy and off track. While they are doing something (s) behind your back. If you question them about suspecting that they are being unfaithful... their responses are chillingly cold. How dare you question their integrity. It doesn't exist.
Yes. I think so too. I think the empath has no idea.
In my experience, the narcissist surrounds themselves with people who are inexperienced at Life, generally younger people.
The more experienced (of Life) people will eventually see the narcissist for who/what they are.
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I'm so glad I'm not alone with this , we all need to keep learning, hope you all do as well !
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WOW! THIS IS SO TRUE AND ITS SO SAD 😥 WHEN ITS YOUR SISTER AND EVERYTHING THAT YOU'VE SAID ABOUT THAT THEY ATTATCH THIERSELVES WITH PEOPLE WHO HAVE ALOT OF MONEY AND SHE ALWAYS HAS TIME FOR THEM AND NEVER ANY FOR HER FAMILY ESPECIALLY ME BECAUSE I'VE CONFRONTED HER ABOUT HERSELF......ITS SO HARD TO WATCH AND SEE HOW SHE TRIES TO CHARM OTHERS AND ITS ACTUALLY SICKINGLY AND WILL MAKE U HAVE TERRIBLE ANXIETY....I HAVE TO STAY AWAY FROM HER BUT I DO STILL HAVE LOVE IN MY HEART ❤ FOR HER.......BE SAFE AND BE BLESSED!!!!!!!
My family was like that. I'd hear your aunt anything you leave here is OK. Little did I know it would disappear.
Typo...Aunt would give me something and told we will keep in safe keeping. Never saw it again.
sounds like it could even be a president 😮
Right. The narcissist I knew would surround himself with people who he deemed was less than him.drug addicts, prostitutes and alcoholic because he did not do these things it made him feel like he was better. He felt stupid around intelligent people.
That makes sense and your comment is helpful. Thank you.
I had this same experience with my ex. Extremely low vibrational people that he was always "helping". Including a female with mental health issues and occasional meth user. That he later slept with!
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My ex narc the alcoholic fireman has many friends who mostly are also firefighters. They are very kind people and naive or turned blind eyes to his character. They drink and do sports together. So he played the Jekyl and Hyde very well. I am sure that they witnessed how he treated women because one of them told me that it was beyond his belief how he treats women as his convenience. I did not notice much deep conversations among them. Superficial partyish relationships with his buddies. He can act. But the mistake he made with me was that I was brave to reach out to his 20 year long buddy who told me to find someone else.
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My mother is a professional victim. There is always someone who buys her hard life stories.
Hi Amanda… I can relate completely with this..
Mine as well .. she is still with the same 2 men after 30 yrs!! Her husband and boyfriend
OMGosh, a professional victim, well said well said.
Amen
My lord, this is my soon to be ex husband…. spot on !
Day 3. No contact. I’m so very grateful I found your channel. I feel like you are speaking to me, saying all the correct things, AND I AM listening! Thank you so very much. I Pray that I remain strong!
Continue on the path M Cap.. you are amazing and doing great 💯🙌🙏
YOU WILL HAVE THE STRENGTH. AS WILL I. ❤️🙏❤️
Persevere. One day at a time. While you move ahead, start redesigning your life to reflect your own strengths and talents. You have time now, and no one to punish you for being you. Be grateful every day, and strive to be peaceful. Live small. I promise this will work.
How are doing now? I’m curious it’s 3 months since you wrote this. I hope you are doing amazing!!
Let yourself greive and stay strong.
The hoover will come strongly.
And if its not directly.
It will be through your friends and family
The love bombing then the degrading and discarding.
Im months out of his home, 4 weeks out of the same town.
And he is still doing rinse wash repeat.
Ive had to block good friends that think they are helping our love story.
Stay Strong 💪
Quintessential Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde…..on a dime. Absolutely ripping you apart on their way out, and then walks out the door and the grimace turns to a smile and “hey, how ya doing, so good to see you,” while you’re breaking down in tears against the door that was just slammed in your face. EVERYONE outside that door is CLUELESS. It’s nauseating to see him gloat over how he is deceiving them all, and then the monster comes out at home when no one else is around, and attempts to wipe the floor with their victim to decompress their rage. Pure evil. Revolving door of supplies is 💯% correct! It’s literally frightening to see how easily he dupes each and every person, but all so superficial. You can’t watch it. It’s nauseating.
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I have noticed that the ones that stay are also narcissistic. Birds of a feather flock together xxx
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Thank you for this comment, because I'm sick of how society pretend like there's less psychos or narcs than there really are. As a rule though, I won't talk about the narcissism topic directly unless someone else has been through it. Because their normies/enables would never understand. As for flying monkeys, they're just narcs in training. In fact, they're more hateful than the narcs themselves sometimes
Dear Julie
My name is David I just left a narcissistic relationship. It was hard my narc almost killed me. I did not know these kind of people were sooo cruel. I felt like a atm machine. The abuse. they put us threw will come back to them. I wish my narc the best but I believe she will be killed by somebody thats going to get mad. I glad you and I survived. Sometimes I find myself talking to my cat because hes the only one I trust. Im hoping that you find a good man someday that will really love you and understand what you have been threw I will probly go to my grave with the fact that this person cheated me on all aspects of my life. I feel like a fool but god helped me survive this mess. I hoping god will let me in his kingdom so I can rest. I try to help people out but this made me not trust people as much. The sad part of my ordeal is I would do it again because I know god told me to help my fellow man and women. DONT FORGET THIS GOD LOVES YOU NO MATTER WHAT ! From a fellow survivor. BEST WISHES TO YOU. BECAUSE WE HAVE BEEN TO HELL AND BACK !!!!
Yes. Pathological can Communicate with Pathological only
Very True
Ive seen coverts having lots of ‘friends’ usually people who are down and out or have a lot of problems, they love this because they get to talk about them but also act like they are helpers and helping all these people in some way or another. Carriers of gossip and news that’s all.
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I got divorced from narcissist and now its a different battle. If you agree with them then they will play nice, but if you say no, then the rage, insults and hate starts. Anyways, once she started insulting and manipulating, I just called my lawyer.
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We have the Right Not to be manipulated, abused, or lied to and exploited. Protect yourselves !
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I met my covert narcissist online. I met his family and something was so off. When I brought it up he told me it was all in my head. I’ve never met a family so unloving towards me. No one was excited to meet me or wanted to know more about me. I’m off online dating for good.
Welcome Mulania.. thank you for sharing this.. dating sites are a breeding ground for narcissism IMO .. my hope is you are doing great and maintaining your boundaries ☀️🙌🙏
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone No contact. Blocked from everything. So glad I found your channel. It has been very healing.
Yes. No curiousity is an under mentioned red flag. It is quite freaky when you encounter it
I met mine online dating app also. He charmed me, love bombed me. I noticed that he had no friends. Why? Because he only uses people, then discards them. I later realized after 5 years how l was being used.
@@topkat8268 I'm sorry you experienced that. He didn't have friends either. Just acquaintances and family members. Thankfully, I was out after a year and a half. If covid didn't happen, I probably noticed signs earlier.
I notice my ex narcissist he hung around people that had high paying jobs that had lots of money. He lost a lot of good friends that I liked but didn’t know why but I do now.
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Yes exactly!! And then it's over!! 😍 Praying can fix anything.
My narcissist is so good that she has managed to keep "friends" for years, decades, whom she keeps connected with and visits briefly once in a while. Interestingly, their connection is shallow. She is the greatest con-man.
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In my experience the narcissist has long term friends. And these are actually good, nice people. But these people are not subjected to the narcissist on a daily basis as is the people who are closest to him. They see the masked version of him and have no clue what I and others such as exes or even family have seen.
Thank you Melissa 🙏🙌💯
Great comment and yes, I agree with you. I was a long term friend to several narcissists. When we were in our 20s, 30s, and even 40s, they had youth and charisma on their side which yielded ample supply. However, as they aged, their supply dwindled and they showed their true selves. I was left thinking, "How did I not see this person's true core earlier?" Some of these people I had known for 20 or 30 years. But if you only see someone once a month, once every six months, or once a year, it's very easy to have a great conversation and a good time. Plus, I always wanted to believe the best in people. It wasn't until I was older that I saw the truth and let some of these people go.
EXACTLY!!
Tru
Truth. Covert narcissist only drop the mask with their immediate family. I have so much more to say but can’t. It’s not me going through this but I’m watching it play out with a friend. It’s exhausting watching let alone for the person going through it.
We moved across country and it was just us and our two children, 19 year marriage. She chose to become friends with her coworkers who were all divorced and or single mothers. She took on their personalities and advice. Kids and I were discarded and she moved in with her new boyfriend from work. I filed for divorce and got full custody of our children. I’m doing my best to heal and provide the most stabile environment for my teenage children.
Continue to become educated and empowered.. my hope is you are improving and healing 🙏☀️
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone I’m about to head to the gym and then take the kids out to lunch. Not sure what happened two weeks ago but I feel like I’ve slipped back into a dark spot. Guess that dream I had was what triggered it. I won’t quit and eventually I’ll be over this 🤞🏼🙏. I don’t like timelines but my therapist said some take a year for every 5 years of marriage. I’ll be at 2 years next Valentine’s Day. Yep. So if her average timeline is anywhere accurate I’m almost 1/2 way there.
God bless you 😉 Hang in there 🙏🙏🙏🙏
@@mostHigh23 thank you, I did the work and am much better now, it took me a little under 2 years but wow once you recover from a toxic relationship and grow. God Bless all y’all
@@AZtoNC hi exit, just checking in to see how things are for you 9months on.
100% agree with not using dating apps. I let go of those years ago....so many weird people on those dating aps. In fact I met my narcissist on a dating app. Never again. You are 100% right that the narc surrounds themselves with transient 'friends' ---- people who are almost afraid of the narc -- looking for their approval. It's a weird circle of dysfunctional people. Ugg, so happy to be out of this warped phase of my life. Eyes wide open now --- no more narcs.
Beautiful empowerment 💯🙏🙌😉
You are so right and right on point. Narcs surround themselves with transient friends.....a weird circle of dysfunctional people. They get together and psyche out and gang up to scam people out of money, homes, their belongings etc. I no longer feel sorry for these shitbags.
Not me. I met a great person on one dating app. Totally worth it!
"The narcissist is an insecure coward". "They are bullies".
NAILED IT!
Mine actually referred to himself as "The Puppetmaster". 🤮
Flying Monkeys are indeed horrible people...just as evil as the narcissist.
ENERGY VAMPIRES! PREDATORS!
THANK YOU!!!!💜💜💜
Welcome Linda.. thank you for sharing ☀️🙌💯🙏
LOL!
The ex narc I was married to was furious when his kids from another relationship called him a coward and he knew it! I didn’t at the time but I know now. They are sneaky and do things behind your back or better still get others to do it for them.
Flying monkeys can actually be worse than the narcissist that are essentially working for. But the great thing about the inevitable smear campaign is I get to see who my secret enemies were all along
@@AZDC99 very true it never ceases to amaze me how quickly some people will jump to the dark side and get fired up about helping take you down.
Absolutely, living with a narc its a totally different situation, a narc groom their flying monkeys paying for their lunch doing them favors so then later put them all against you in a smear campaign. Even when I was trying to go for a vacation and take a break from the smear campaign, the flying monkeys were send my way to just annoyed me making sure I don't enjoy my time and report back to the narc.
I have been married to him for 25 yr and after during the devaluation period It seem like he was a stranger. He was never loud and now around the new supply during triangulation he was cursing, loud drinking partying. I couldn't believe my eyes. All I know it was a very scary ending.
The mask slipped.. he showed you a different version of himself.. one you were not accustomed to seeing 💯🙌
And he was mirroring whomever he was trying to reel in. I was with my ex husband for 25 years also. It has been 2 1/2 years apart. He started acting like, using the same words, mirroring the new supply. I didn't recognize him at all. Became very hostile, mean & disgusted towards me. It was the hardest thing I ever went through.
The last time I was with my ex narc the day before he discarded me we got in the car and he jacked up the head banging rock! Never had we ever listened to that annoying loud music. He realized how off it was so he told me he’s started liking this type of music recently ??? So ridiculous obviously his groomed replacement supply’s musical taste. He pressed on with the facade. Blowing out the windows with this embarrassing noise as we drove around town.
@@pisces_chick2511 i am in exactly the same position as you. Wishing you strength. It is so hard.
My husband became unrecognizable. It was the biggest shock to me. I almost lost my mind
My wife never tried to meet new people or surround herself around people in front of me. She hid everything on social media accounts and met God knows how behind my back
Thank you for sharing this 🙏🙌💯
Yup i did a background and found out she had lots of old emails for so many social media accounts… they all walk the blvd ..
I remember my x wife inviting a few people (couples) I didn't know over for a BBQ and didn't tell me till 1 hour before they arrived. She didn't go shopping. We were completely unprepared. These people were at our house for the first time and I was left to talk to them. I had no idea who they were. It was so weird. I sat at the table and quietly said..."I apologize, I didn't know about this, no offense taken if you decide to leave." They said thank you and left. They knew they were being played. That was a pivotal moment in looking at my significant other through a completely different lens.
Wow.. light bulb moment 💡💡💡
Wow! Did she even have food for them?
Ex narc would leave me with his mom when she came to visit and sister even on Thanksgiving, have the meal and then stay gone cuz he didn't like his family but would never admit it. Weird.
Reminds me of my first experience with my ex narcs family... About 30 of them in a room around Christmas time and my narcopath pushed me into the room to introduce myself and then proceeded to leave me for the entire night pretty much on my own. I felt weird and realised immediately that was strange behaviour. No empathy, solidarity or putting me at ease.. ever actually, in the whole relationship. Ugh.
This is one reason why the places of work are overloaded with narcissists. I wonder about what gov programs these companies benefit by juggling human narcissistic resources. Great 👍 video
Thank you 🙏
Gosh you answered a question I always had in my mind. My husband would go to parties with me and leave me sitting alone by myself. I never understood why but I get it now he was searching for a new supply. Thank you for this video!
Welcome Dot..😉💯🙏🙌
He's done that to me over and over again shit I'm so tired
I had to remember mine was a social butterfly and would leave alone just standing waiting for even after an hour. One I took a Taxi home. He got home hours later. Acted like nothing happened. Didn't even talk about it. I was so steaming mad I came home at midnight for 2 weeks, he was sound asleep and didn't even. Yes. I know now he looks for supply wherever he goes. It something he couldn't live without.
I have had plenty of this! it's true they discard you in little ways and you don't know it.
Yep my narcissistic husband does this at our church socializing before the service and in the fellowship hall during lunches. Going around talking to everyone.
True, new people all the time, nothing lasts very long 🙏❤️🙏
It doesn’t.. the longer something lasts.. the better chance of the narcissist being exposed 💯💯💯
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone yes 🙏
I know one who has friends for more than 10yrs,and i don't have friends oh he discarded me yesterday maybe i am the narc am so confused
Andrew I've been very encouraged by the amount of knowledge and insight you have about the narcissist. You explain their manipulative and conniving behaviors. I remember how when we were at large gathering my ex narc would often walk around and shake peoples hands and introduce himself by name as if he were running for president. He was very outgoing and I was more reserved. I often felt very lonely and ignored at these gatherings. Your explanation for their behaviors in this discussion are so accurate. It's very evident that you were hurt very badly by a narcissist when you only wanted to give your all to another person and to experience true love. I'm sad that your heart was broken because I experienced the same thing. But just like you, I am wiser now and well never allow myself to be tricked again. It was such a painful experience and your videos will hopefully prevent others from having to go through such a heartbreak and tragedy. Thanks again sincerely!!
I appreciate your kindness Julie.. I experienced the same as you mentioned.. now is the time to move forward and grow.. 🙏🙌☀️🙌
I know exactly how you feel he did the same thing to me a lot of years that's a lot of abuse
@@1010QUEEN7 thanks for your kind words!
You are so amazing in the way you explained the character of these monsters.
Please do another video about family knowing who they are
They're all cowards and full of rubbish!!
Saying no to them!! Is paramount
Boundaries are absolutely necessary to deal with
Your definitely right about his family I believe they know him very well but they protect his image
Bingo
In my case one side of the family is a narc ‘cult’
My ex narc had 700 contacts on her phone. She could get everything from anybody every time she wanted to. One of her statements: I would never cheat on you. But if I wanted do, I could any time any day.”
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Man.. this was described perfectly to a T! It’s funny how much more clear things are once you understand the rules of the “game”. The behavior then becomes predictable
Thank you Shawn.. agree.. once you see.. you understand completely 💯💯
Easy
I always say that there is a fine line between charm and manipulation...
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I’m gonna do what you said. Block, no contact and start my new exciting life!
Beautiful 🙏💯☀️
My narc of 16 years surrounded herself with people who were generally speaking unattractive. She would always have something bad or degrading to say about them after the encounter, or conversely people who were accomplished and then it would be 'He's a doctor, or 'She's a lawyer', etc. Yet she would still have some denagrating comment about them as well. Everyone gets slandered, nobody is spared. Sick, disgusting people they all are.
Thank you for sharing this .. I understand ☀️🙌
My experience with serial secret critics of others is that eventually their version of that comes down on me. ( in the form of passive aggressiveness such as underhanded compliments about women I'm dating, Etc)
Exactly💯
If they can't use you they WILL abuse you
Being a odd duck in a cycle of other people's routines feels like they are trying to kill my spirit. Ive noticed my own cycles trapped in this like a figure 8. Im sticking to the side of the figure 8 looking for a way out. One day I turned the 8 sidways and seen these are glasses. I popped in one eye at a time grabbed a pin wheel I found in a haystack and used it as a helicopter to fly out. I have a swiss army knife tool in my pocket. To cut any strings or ropes that might lasso me back in to the narcisitic cycles. The toothpick is a reminder dont loose your tongue on your knew journey 😊 like in Gullivers travels. The journey is long and vast with many twists and turns. The heroes journey. Save yourself. Then the empath can help others up the bean stalk or down it, or plant the seeds of Winsdom. Andrew and the community comments. Helped my journey. Thank you ❤
Welcome 😌💯🙏
I got cheated on after 8 years, and behind my back she had arranged an entirely new social group without me finding out in the last 4 months of our relationship. All people I wouldn't associate with, and since then she's done exactly what's being suggested in this video. Everytime I've had the misfortune to bump into her she's surrounded by lots of new people.... and I mean everytime. We're both mid 30s and the new people are early 20s and don't know any better. Thanks for shedding light on this it's stricken me as weird and I had some suspicion it had something to do with this condition
Welcome Shaun.. continue to become educated and maintain your boundaries 💯☀️🙏🙌
I got reports from people who said he was skiing 2 weeks prior. Asked me if I liked it. I'm thinking I didn't know that because to get there takes 2 hours. Then someone called and I answered his cell it was a woman and she hung up. I didn't get it.
A narcissist usually have one or more separate lives. This multi-life deception is needed to keep the false-self alive.
@@rpm3305 So true...and the reason that they will hang out with any age group. I often thought it was weird that he kept befriending all of those much younger people. He would literally bring home very young female clients to our home. In front of my daughter's. Completely inappropriate behavior. It's volatile. It made me and my children very uncomfortable.
Hindsight is 20/20. You will never understand unless you can look back. You are attracted to them because they are familiar spirits. The ones you grew up with.
PREACH! 🙏
They surround themselves with a ton that'll give them supply. But those who stick around long term are enablers, other narcissists, or people that they like to bully so they can feel better about themselves. Empaths that are codependents that aren't aware so healed yet.
Thank you for sharing this 🙏💯🙌
You just described my former friend again. I can name close to 50 people, myself included, that she burned with her obsessive, boundary-trampling, disrespectful behavior. As I said in some of my other comments, I don't hate her anymore because I've moved past it. In another one of your videos you talk about karma. I did wish her ill-will for a long while and I realized I was letting my resentment eat me up inside. It wasn't until I became born again, I realized I spent too much time chasing worldly delights and distractions, in a bid to cover up the pain that I experienced from dealing with my former narcissistic abuser.
In tune with this video, my former friend quickly discarded anyone that caused her to pause and take a look within herself. Anyone who caught on to her web of deception or when her con games didn't play out the way she wanted, these people would disappear. Of course, she remain completely silent on why her latest new BFF had suddenly become a ghost. When she did open her mouth, the stories were inconsistent at best and the product of bad lying at worst. I'm sure she's told a few tall tales about me since I cut her off and I really don't care.
I did hear from my mutual friend (that I was able to wake up to her toxic ways), that she stuttered and spluttered at the sound of my name. He said she didn't wish me any ill will but she didn't want to have anything to do with me. Just the sound of my name made her tremble with fear. I have to chuckle at that.
Thank you for sharing this 🙏🙌💯
My ex didn’t have friends, just work colleagues who he argued with daily, I would feel exhausted listening to him. But no true friends, your spot on not many people liked him, his kids don’t bother with him, they see him for what he is a bully & narcissist. Love your channel ❤️
Thank you for sharing this Julie 🙌💯🙏
Yea same..I can relate.
Your ex might have been my soon to be ex. Brags about how he would treat staff. Family keep their distance and one daughter even warned me to not engage when he became unbearable or was looking for an argument that he could win. Can’t seem to really connect with my friends. The worst was when he didn’t bother even trying to remember some of my family’s names. After 5 years, and learning about narcissism, I’m calling it quits. Finally told him today, hoping he will get out in the next day or two. I know I cannot let him talk me into staying together. Wish me luck.
@@arleenchenoll5094 Good luck and stay strong 🥰
My ex surrounds himself with boozers and pathetic people who are always trying too hard to be relevant. They're all misfits, and the relationships are all very superficial.
Thank you for sharing this Nancy 🙌🙏💯🙏
This is so spot on. My ex has to see our kids with monitored visits and he charms the professional monitors. They actually believe the lies. It makes me mad sometimes.
Thank you 🙏
Same happened to me. Mine would tell the staff that I phoned him and told him I had cancelled visits that weekend. I would arrive for change over and the staff would tell me this. I told the staff that they were believing the person that did domestic violence against me and why didn't they phone me to ask. The narc is easily believed it seems. He also tried to give them old custody paperwork as current. I told changeover staff. In future you confirm with me and you do nothing more until you receive the current papers I fax to you first thing Monday. There was no thought for the child.
Yep, the curse of Dereck Egbuniwe. It was all a waste of time and a joke when, in the end, he sgd t even care to see his children - just took me to court to cause me stress and financial hardship. Such an evil creature!
Truer words were never spoken. I was just a paycheck and maid the entire relationship. I gave and gave hoping for a miracle in getting my marriage back to the beginning but nothing worked. I say run as fast as possible and get away. Andrew is such a shinning light in this very dark world. Than you Andrew.
The ex friends were mystery! He avoided introducing to me! I just met few but vaguely not intentionally! I didn’t get then but now I do!!! After he left , I start to understand so many things.
One the relationship ends and the fog lifts we see and understand so much..
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone yes that's true bro I find out something pure evil after saperation its been horrible to digest and understand 😢
My partner surrounds himself with weak people that make him feel better about himself and he hides his true self from them. And the other people he surrounded himself with have equally low values so he never feels bad.
My ex-Narc used my "so-called" Best Friend to spy on me after the discard. She would come to my home on many occasions pretending that she was concerned about me. But, I noticed her "line of questioning" was very strange...questions I knew he would only ask. How dumb to think I wouldn't notice that. But...then again...Empaths are always under-estimated. She was definitely feeding the narcissist information about me. However, what I don't understand is...What's in it for her? I thought...maybe she's now being recruited to the new supply?......just saying.
Great comment.. I can’t say what is in it for her.. however if she is a flying monkey she is someone who deserves to know nothing about you or your future 🙌☀️🙏
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Thank You Andrew so much for your response! I really appreciate it! You really are the BEST! ☺
supply , someone they control, someone who would listen , someone who can travel miles to bring them food, etc, they gather secrets ,though some are expired , conspire, and divide
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Insecure coward & bully. Wear a mask. Surround themselves with interchangeable people. All so true!
Yes 🙌
U crack me up .. Andrew! How u always say .. "Think about that for a minute". You're Naturally Funny! Love your .. Sense of Humor! I do think about .. everything .. u say! Your information .. is Very Valuable! A Narcissist is like .. an "In & Out Burger!" .. just passing through. They Eat & Run .. never staying anywhere .. very long. They can't hold down a relationship. They don't know what it's like .. to be stable .. comfortable & secure. Dedication/Loyalty .. isn't in their Vocabulary. It's .. how can I hit that! Or .. run here & there .. as fast as possible. No loyalty .. love .. security .. perseverance .. or stay power. It's who can give me .. what I need .. when I need it! You're right .. they're Vial Creatures! Totally & Undeniably .. Despicable!
Thank you Kathleen 🤩🤩
Mask
Having a sence of humour helps . In my case it did.
Kathleen, Andrew cracks me up too! Not only is he phenomenal with his education on all things narcissist but highly entertaining.. I don’t think he realizes how good and uniquely funny he is! He’s the best.. I am constantly sharing his videos.
BINGO; a lot of what he said I have seen in people!
some Narcissist like to suck in younger people,, cause, the younger are apt to.
A) look-up to an older person.
B) apt to trust and please an older person.
C) apt to believe an older person.
D) want acceptance from an older person.
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
thank you!
Another great and very accurate video! This is my now ex gf! I fell head over heals for her and although I have some temper issues, I gave her my all. She used me, lied, cheated, manipulated, and played the victim. Her family defends her relentlessly and believes her over actual facts of her infidelity, promiscuity, lies. I was so in love with her it hurts so bad.
Thank you Michael 🙌🙏💯
Dude same
You’ll forget her . She wasn’t real . please sleep at night mate.
I feel this man. Mine is almost exactly like this to a T.
It's the WORST, when a Jezebel plays the real victim and sufferer
Oh wow you’ve been describing my sister and I’m not considered someone who will elevate her. Andrew I had low self worth and boundaries raised by narcissistic mother so I married twice to narcs. Sister was golden child. Mom has passed and I’m 61 this year and just finally unravelling it all. Moms abuse still has repercussions from flying monkeys in the family. I’m em brass if a whole new way of looking at this mess.
Thank you for sharing this 🙌💯🙏
Remember your life just starts anew with eyes opened, its great!
I also regret i was unaware of 2 narc sisters for 47 years that changed my priorities that should be me and my happiness from the beginning. I was a source of. supply now they wish me death.
sorry for the double post. I don't know what I did!
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I’m a 30 year old women an recently married a demonic narcissist last August and I have been spiritually awaken since last year .And I have been doing lots of research 🧐 and I’m so ready to get out! The worst was that I was bullied and manipulated by the “flying monkeys” such as his mother !This was so educational I would always wonder why he was never able to keep a friend an would literally have a group of new people he would prioritize every month like “ the flavor of the month “ lol 😂 what I would say in my head as well ✨ But I’m awake now 🙏🏽 Thank you lord
Amen 🙏 LuxLex..💯🙌🙏
demonic narcissist....made me belly laugh, its a bang on description
I'm 39 and I'm in the middle of a divorce with my narcissistic estranged husband. He's never been able to keep a job or friends.
How long it takes for healing
Narcissist usually surround themselves with other Narcissist. The Narcissist in my life has toxic family and friends and they do believe he's the best person in the world because he's charming and wears a mask. He helps people to get recognition and praise. Those people have no clue about the things I went through with the narcissist and they all came against me.
The Narcissist rallied up a group of friends and family to destroy me..
The family does know he's a narcissist but theyre Narcissist too so theyre okay with the narcissist toxic behavior. You are so on point with this description.. the Narcissist told me only people who are useful are valuable. These people created a monster. The biggest issue is the big ego theyre constantly looking to feed. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing this insight 🙏🙌💯
He hung around thugs and low life’s, he didn’t know his worth, that’s why he spent over 1/2 his life in prison... (30yrs) when he met me he actually found a REAL job, spoiled me rotten, and had a lil compassion!! They hate boundaries , accountability, and responsibility!!
Yes, I did recognize that my ex used to rotate friends, most of them he got into arguments with and they disappeared. He used to hold to tons of business cards and phone numbers of people to feel important. When he would call these people they wouldn’t remember who he was and he had to tell them how they meant, and the people would like “oh” then pretend to entertain him, I almost felt sorry for him. I used to envy the people that that stopped associating with him. Now I’m finally gone.
Moving forward and away from the toxic relationship is the path ☀️💯
Lol. Holding on to the business cards is hilarious. I am so glad I got out of that vicious cycle. Him and his professional victim mother and children who couldn't keep still.
I AGREE 💯....Knowing my X and only husband a great manipulative COVERT NARCISSISTIC PERSON for about 20 yrs I know this to be true and wish I had learned this earlier... I his ENABLER thought I could change the MONSTER I Loved more then life itself. It took me some years to figure this out, but the signs and what you speak of was all there.
Thank God I can never be fooled of a man that wanted me as his arm piece, to juggle treat like a B**** and build his ego...The man I married was an angel even to people that wasn't around long...The man I divorced was a sadistic cheat....
The sex was INCREDIBLE but his ABUSE and MANIPULATION everyone could see but me...He begged for forgiveness and I did forgive but will never forget, then I moved on to freedom and happiness ❣
Thank you for sharing this insight APRIL..🙏🙌🙌
Andrew, in this video you describe my ex, Chris perfectly. He was the king of charm. One time he picked me up from work to give me a ride. He actually took the time to meet most of my coworkers. I was naive at the time. I thought what a social guy. I see it now thanks to you. It’s about getting more supply.
I’m thrilled that I dumped him.
The last straw for me is when he deliberately ruined my birthday.
Andrew, have you ever done a video why narcissist seem to enjoy other people special days such as birthdays?
What I can’t believe is that so many people can’t see them for what they are. TBH it took me years to finally ‘click’ but always knew something was ‘off’ and in hindsight did everything wrong - public outing and confrontation. Also, some narcs don’t let anyone close
Completely correct 💯💯
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Happy new year from
New zealand
I used to say that mine liked to “pick up strays”. It was not romantic (not to my knowledge anyway) but just PEOPLE, always someone new he was helping or dealing with. I used to think he just had a kind heart and wanted to help. NOW, I know it’s all part of that “I don’t want to be alone with myself and my dark thoughts” pattern that all narcs have.
Exactly, anything to distract themselves from themselves. Just like a desperate vampire trolling rats for their blood fix.
Explains the back burner babes I discovered. They can have him! I never did. Empty promises...sickening. How could I be so foolish. He had nobody..red flag I missed. Your so soothing at my hour of need. Thanks for all you do!
Welcome 🙏
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AMEN, brother!!! I am so glad someone knows! I have had so many people treat me as the problem. I'm seen as ungrateful ! IT'S really disturbing , very hurtful, and lonely. I HAVE NO ONE WHO BELIEVES ME! Ive got to save my breath. Thank you so much for believing!
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Thank you for your video Andrew. So true Andrew they are insecure cowards. They will attach themselves onto anything that gives them adoration and countless supply. They are indeed horrible creatures. Looking back I believed in love so much but it was never love. They are the most disgusting miserable toxic degeneratives that ever walked the face of the earth. You so right Andrew No Contact right across the board. It's our only salvation. Lisa
It is the path.. no contact is the way ☀️💯🙌
"My" narcissist always tells people that he surrounds himself with people of "loyalty, trust, respect, and integrity". He told me that during one of our first dates long ago. A couple of months ago, I caught him telling my friend the SAME speech. It's his schtick. Blech. So glad he is out of my life.
Spot on! I was married to the biggest bully Narcissist for 13 years. He is still in close contact with my family. I didn't realize how toxic my family is. Thank you!
Welcome Tammie..🙌💯🙏
My ex was a narcissist also a drunk. He refused to own up to anything. And when he did. He would say something like "Princess Kathleen you are so right" You are always right. Making me out to be like I was somehow being a bully !
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Yes mine was surrounded by enablers and other useful idiots most of whom were close or extended family tied in for financial reasons.
'Friends' were infrequent ships in the night who were flavour of the month while they offered adoration and dropped quickly when she got bored or the supply drained.
Social media was literally a 'fan club' of 1000's ...worth a video in it's own right as I would love to know the experience of others on this Chanel?
The maintenance of their 'Street Angel' image to others as you say only something that is sustainable short term and the 'House Devil' that we actually dealt with for to long is who they really are...
Take care Andrew and keep up the good work to your calling.
DC
My experiences are very similar here DC.. thank you for sharing your insight ☀️🙏🙌💯💯
Social media/smart phones/online phukery ⚜🖤🗡👎🤮🤢🥺💔
Yes! So true! Always new friends that are shallow relationships. I always wondered why the ex narc had no real long term friends he kept in touch with
Yes it’s true 💯
The Carnage trail.
What an extremely interesting topic - thank you. It took me years to admit to myself that a close friend was in fact a coercive narcissist. They supposedly had a wide network of friends but crucially none of them met together with the narcissist in a group setting, rather the narcissist construed to met each and every one separately. I was extremely relieved when one friend said what I had been thinking for years namely that they wanted to be everyone's friend, yet they were nobody's friend. I now see it for what it was ie a mechanism to manipulate and control the narrative. They clearly feared that a group setting might expose them. It was only when I took the risk of chatting to a few trusted others within the narcissist network that I received confirmation that we were all being manipulated to varying degrees. I also recall how the narcissist became extremely jealous when I started becoming friendly with another person within the network. I can now see that they were actually defensive and aggressive, probably fearing they might be exposed if we started comparing our experiences. They subsequently set about breaking up the relationship in order to re-exert control. I'm so glad to finally be free from their control.
I can totally relate! And it takes me years of self doubt to finally prove that by talking to mutual friends because what happened to me, happened to them later.
The nearest and dearest pay the ultimate price! It is tragic when they are children. The children do the bidding for the narc. They don’t get over it❣️I have studied this in depth! I had no choice Thanks Andrew
Thank you Donna 💯🙏🙌
Another great video and message that helps to peel away that mask of theirs like a rotten onion!
I can see now, looking back, that even though I allowed that big bright red elephant exist in the "relationshit" for years - I started asking the tough questions AND expecting 'accountability' - she was FORCED to run fast to her "new supply" because she saw *#&@ was about to hit the fan!
When "they" run - I'd take THAT as a compliment frankly!
Thank you, Rick
Welcome Rick.. it’s remarkable how similar the narcissist behaves… 🙏🙌
Lord please let him run away from me
Yup exactly what they are. You nailed it. 👏 they are so destructive and manipulative.
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At the beginning of a relationship with my ex I asked him if he had a best friend. He replied: “I’m friends with everybody and with no-one.” Yeah. I thought at the time it was an odd response but later came to realize that’s how narcissistic see people around them - whoever is convenient for THEM at the time is their friend.
And an example of his charm. After I broke up with him due to how unhappy I was with him not to mention his consistent cheating. My dad told me: “Too bad, he was a NICE man.” I was shocked but wasn’t mad to my dad for I knew he had fell in to his charm.
Charlie Sheen syndrome
The true wolves in sheep's clothing. They have different flavor of ppl in their lives that can be used by the Narrcist for different reasons, and that narrcist will come and go in people's lives when the narrcist needs are met. This guy here is so right on! It's really hard to have a relationship with a narcissist when they are a family member, talk about hard, and difficult for me
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Thank you for YOU and the wisdom of this type of ppl. My therapist can't even come close to what you share. God sent me YOU in my path, and hard journey. Smoke Prayers from Okla, 🕊️✝️🕊️
Double "thank you" Andrew - it is a great reminder you cannot hear or say too many times..."NO CONTACT"!
Thank you Andrew!
Rick
Rick you are absolutely correct 💯💯💯💯
Help me with the loss of 6 of my grandkids and 2 of my adult children betrayal they each have 3 children. So my sister got close to them and used them against me. After expressing how important my family is they stole every single joy.
Great video, you are so right! Constantly looking for supply. Scanning all the time. Says he’s just having a laugh but flirting with as many as possibly. Constantly looking and not present with you at all! Took so long to get this. Flying monkeys. They believe every word he says. Thank you.
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Andrew, thank you✊🏽 I watched you from my discard to my healing journey to seeing the ex narc face to face and not wanting anything to do with them. That in itself was life saving.
Now, I want to watch your videos to continue to educate myself and others. The discard set me free and wouldn’t have known it without you and Anoushka and Zions channels.
I’ve been taught in life if you could just save 1 person, 1 soul , you did more than great in life. I humbly say you helped to save mine.
Continue what your doing brother, it is the good fight
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You are my supply Andrew! I'm feeding on your knowledge your strength the way you touch us all ! I want to heal so much I'm lost now I'm in the angry stage feeling stupid too! So Hurt feel betrayed why I someone I loved gave everything I could for 21 years do this! Now I know why! I still love to slap the crap out of him ! Victims of narcissist would be a great forever couple! I hope one day I find real love! I hope I know it when I find it! I turned 53 today! I know I won't make the same mistakes again! My heart is my weakness ! I am the perfect target for a NARCISSiST! Thanks Andrew! Costa Rica? I'm there ! I'm in Citra florida nice here too
Happy birthday Holly.. enjoy your beautiful day today.. you are doing great.. continue to become educated and empowered.. moving forward everyday.. sending you birthday hugs.. and positive energy 💯🙌☀️🙏😊
older people. True, no longterm friends. You are so accurate.
Thank you Patrick 💯🙌🙏
I remember one woman calling from Australia in the middle of the night going on about some deal… while he slept. So incredible.
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agree. he loved to surround himself with all types of people that really don't know his true colors!
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You explained my SIL perfectly! Before we went no contact she would come stay a few days and one day would jump up and say I gotta go home! That mask was getting heavy and she was tired of carrying it around! I got to where I would discuss narcissistic characteristics in front of her so she knew, I knew and she discarded us. She moved on to a new found half sibling and a half sibling we all know, but have little interaction with, because they don’t really know her. She has ran off every long term friend as soon as that mask slips! You are 100% correct on everything you said! 🎯💯👀
The narc is the alien lady neighbor. How could I not see this?!? I know full well now since listening to your video. I always see scores of different people, coming and going, giving some sort of service. Who does this? Only the NARC! Thank for better clarifying on this topic, Andrew. There are so many aspects to the narc that it is mind boggling once you put it all in perspective.