Yup. They are stuck in time and no one wants to listen to a 60 year old teenager rehashing why their life sucks for the 200th time. It’s sad but life is just too short to allow yourself to be dragged down by this. The only thing we can do is wish them well and move on.
I find that there are a lot of Euro 60 teenagers. I was a single parent so that I have no more time and energy for people who behave like toddlers hence I am a loner& readers. Need to be solitary
When things don't work out for the narcissist they regress to a two year old throwing tantrums. They can't handle not getting what they want or things not going their way. They have learned how to escape reality & when reality supersedes them....THEY CAN'T HANDLE IT! 🌈 🎀😘
I’m almost 50 and I’m really learning the hard truth that *most people* do not possess empathy…they might have just enough to entice a mate and a social circle, but nothing beyond that.
That "Hard Truth" realization that I learned too, was shocking, sad, scary, discomforting, mind boggling, Earth shaking, etc. Finally stabilized and accepting, I feel I'm good to go.
Yep agree, thats why i dont socialise & meet new people. I find that at least 70% of the people are fake and they dont have empathy at all. Its all about what you can provide to them & once they have got what they wanted, they ignore you and move on. Its a con, happens in work places and from those who you thought were real friends. Disappointment
All is truth in this video. I'm detached & pending divorce. Yes Andrew, they realize exactly what they are doing. Just thankful, I'm alive to witness my life being restored by the Lord.
I stand with you in your journey ! We are no longer supply! I'm also going through divorce and OMG! Everything Andrew has said in this video and others he has blessed us with! Hang in there and keep leaning on the Lord who has all power !!❤ Tara
I pray for every man getting divorced from a female narcissist. He will lose his house, land, savings, children and the dog. He will pay alimony and child support. He will lose his children as she finds your replacement. He will owe her for 18 years and be homeless. Everything done by court order and legal. It will be even worse for him with a female judge. I lived it, i know.
So do I as this is a great fear of mine for young adults. Let’s teach our kids about red flags, people that cross boundaries, narcissitic traits. Am sorry this happened to you, wishing you happiness in each day.
Yes indeed..Im a mother, and had to "pay off" our sons father...Ive tried my best to warn my son of the dangers of marriage..plus here in Ireland, if two people live together for 2 years..and they breakup, the other can put a claim on the property....its scandalous to be honest
These people deserve absolutely no compassion regarding their behaviors. They know exactly what they're doing. Of course, we don't wish ill will upon anyone, but it sure feels good to know that what goes around comes around. Thanks for your wisdom, Andrew!
They certainly don't deserve any compassion. I think about revenge but would never do it....I'm grateful for Andrew's words as knowing what goes around comes around naturally....there is no need for revenge....healing is more important than revenge.
@AJ-ks4lv you are sweet to be concerned. I like that but just make awareness apart of your contribution to society in stopping others from exploitation.
Yes God sees our pain and suffering and through His power is restoring us from all the pain and sorrow we've had to endure. God bless us all....we are now healing. 🙏
I lost my identity in the narcissistic relationship, and now, many years later, I have found my identity. I no longer jump through the hoops of toxic and narcissistic people. I don't wish anyone harm, and I don't tolerate abuse anymore
I didn't even know what a narcissist was until i met this one . I think its very scary and im glad iv seen her for what she is but she has put on the charm for everyone else and the family doesn't seem to see it . I think my son is starting to see it and i hope he starts to see it with his own eyes.
I left my narcissist husband ..going on three months ago. Being away, and with people who love me is good, but I'm still devastated, still cry...still angry.
The narcs looks will fade, HOWEVER, in the short term, massive weight gain will catch them first. I saw my narc after a few years and she gained over 70lbs!!! Its like they think bad food should also treat them special. Unfortunately for them, Diabetes doesn't care.
My ex discarded me for an obese woman that is 21 years younger than him. He found out very quickly like he could not eat like a younger person when he is 60. They were going out to eat all the time. We were still living together until I found a place and he was leaving carry out containers in the fridge from all the restaurants he had been to with her. He over ate himself into a hiatal hernia, which is caused by overeating and obesity. The surgery to correct it took double the normal time because of all the complications. I really feel like he got his karma pretty quickly on that.
I can’t imagine doing all those narc things to one person, let alone multiples. Today is 9 months narc free and believe me, I still have a long way to go healing. Haven’t heard anything for awhile, praise God. God is who I hold onto for His Word is true. “Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.” ~ Romans 12:19 He will do it in a way that is custom designed for them, that they will never forget. Be still and heal.❤️ Thank you for the video, Andrew. Talk to God and Andrew. They both helped me more than words can say. Have a blessed evening wherever you are. ☀️😎🪺🌷🌿🦋🕊️🌳🌲🌎🙏🏻✨💖✨🌸
Amen! 🙏 My discard was done in such an abrupt way last September but I believe God allowed it to be done in such a way so that I might see His truth most clearest. In my grief, heartache and pain asking Lord what's going on, HE slowly revealed the truth I never wanted to hear over course of months to where I could no longer excuse. I believe God knew I'd continue being abused because of my love I had for my husband at time. I'm still in this relationship, waiting for my husband to follow through with his plans to divorce me, he's still treating me as if I don't exist, ghosting, stonewalling, openly flaunting his new supply he has at work, devaluing me, denying he ever loved me, openly admitting he only pretended to be nice guy to get me over 16 years ago. Not going to lie, this still is so surreal, my life I once knew, changed in a moment. While I'm waiting, Holy Spirit helping me bridle my tongue to lessen the abuse, God IS healing me, renewing my mind, strengthening me for where He will be leading me next. My husband reduced me to nothing, no value, no worth but God IS reminding me of who I am, my identity is NOT who my husband says I am but my identity hid in Christ alone, HE says I have value/worth and only HE knows me best. It's true, this is the darkest season to walk through but I know the Lord is holding my hand through it. My husband thinks he got away with how he abused me behind closed doors but God sees and it is God who will deal with my unbelieving husband accordingly and for his sake I pray he believes the gospel before he takes his last breath or his final judgment won't end in celebration like he thinks. God bless you, so encouraged to keep trusting the Lord because of your words. Thankyou...
123poohdee I prayed to God to show me what was really going on with the narc and He did. Shortly after that I found Andrew’s channel and made a phone appointment to speak to him to clear up my mind about what was going on with the narc before I was able to make my final break. I encourage you to make a phone appointment with Andrew. I also encourage you to find a Christian lawyer and start the divorce proceedings yourself. You will be in the driver’s seat then and he won’t be able to jerk you around as much. Have a safe secure plan in place before you implement the divorce. God will help you through this, I can attest to that as a fact. Romans 8:28-29 May God continue to richly bless, comfort and protect you. ✝️🙏🏻🕊️❤️
@@123poohdeeI am so sorry you are going through this. I was once you with a baby in my arms. They are the worst kind of human beings. Please take special care of yourself. The narcissist intends to totally annihilate their victim. The narcissist will unalive their victims through the victim’s central nervous system. Please find a way to get away from him.
I needed to hear this.. my narc hubby left a month ago packed up left myself and our 6 kids for a vampire sex cult.. I had contact for a week but I have gone no contact but it is super hard. He took everything from me spiritual, emotional, financial. I lost everything I was blindsided. He had me replaced before he left he was with a new person in less than a week.. I am in an early healing phase. I feel like I am in freeze mode right now. Much ❤ Andrew.
It won't work out with the other chicks either get ready for hoovering later he will be crawling back begging and lying again that things are better, further from the truth ,Satan is a liar and the truth is not in him
@@Yellow-oc4sl absolutely it’s been a rough month, but I’m moving forward as best as I can, and taking my care of my children in the best way possible.
I'm sure it has been ruff & my heart & prayers go out to you. Good for you that you went no contact. God has your number & sure he has a plan for you. He knows just how to make a mess into a message. Keep tuned in & stay connected to the community. Blessings 🌈 🎀😘
A vampire sex cult! That’s a new one. Geez. Take care of you and your precious children. One day at a time. Healing is a process.Andrew’s videos are a big help. Wishing all the best for you💐
Andrew everything you speak is true it's like dealing with a 2 year old I was married to a narcissist a lot of my family is narcissists really I was surrounded by narcissists his family god moved me away from all of them
I was raised by a narc. Her karma was getting brain cancer so she slowly lost control of herself and needed family to take care of her. She moved into the home of an other narc that she raised. Karma is real
Wow...I often wonder what will happen in years to come after I experienced narcisstic abuse, manipulation and scamming etc etc. I've been thinking about ways to get revenge....I wouldn't go through with any revenge but the anger makes me feel that way. Maybe it will all happen naturally with karma. I'm doing my best to focus on healing...sending healing your way too. 🙏
You're like a professional counselor Andrew and blessed by God's holy Spirit. I learn something new from you. I use and look back at what you've taught us. You both simplify and professionally teach us. Like today you taught me narcs can't be alone, parent issues and more.. I'm very grateful for you. Thank you for all your time and great efforts. May we support you as well. God bless you always. ❤️
Bang on right! My soon-to-be ex abused me, went to jail, lost our marriage, his home, his job, his family, six past marriages (which I wasn't aware of), now wears an ankle monitor because he can't stop stalking me, and is financially broke. He is on all kinds of dating sites, but at 73 not one other supply wants him. Somehow, it does my heart good to witness the heartache he put me through.
Andrew. As hard as it has been for you ( understatement) you are now helping thousands including me ( who had never heard of narcissism). Keep up your videos because its reaching all corners of the earth. Take care all. New Zealand.
He was ...King Subterfuge.......😮 Fake everything, the older he got the more evil he got!!!! Do yourself a huge favor .....Never go back😊 you will respect yourself in the morning
My former manager literally said “we have to recharge our batteries.” Speaking of what we needed to do over the weekend. With the weird SMIRK 😏 on his ugly face. This is so weird…glad I left him in the dust!!!
Andrew, thank you so much, for your input about my narcissist and manipulative ex wife of mine. Your comments are on cue, with my toxic relationship I had. Listening to you has made a strong man out of me.
I love you, it's tough. Let go of the resentment. F*ck 'em. Have a walk in the fields or stroll along a beach. Beautiful. Read a book, paint a picture, some beautiful music and love who you are. One life per person. Give love and don't make money your God. It's all free out there. You need to earn your place in life to let people know this is me. My life, live yours. ❤
I am so sorry. You are spot on. And I see it every day,,, I see it in children’s faces,,, I silently pray for every child. I Pray Gods healing and gentle ministering over your life. And pure discernment going forward. I’m still dealing with it too. At 72. But imma warrior of prayer now.
It’s true. I asked a female I know (who’s a raging narc), why she treats her boyfriends bad. She told me directly that she was testing them to see how much they will do for her. Hideous!!!
Wow....the narcissist I experienced was so proud of her vile behaviour. She has no idea how wrong her behaviour is as her mind is so manipulative and twisted.
I was very empathetic as a child, but by the time my narcissistic dad and ex-wife and kids got done with me all that has changed. Now I have gone no contact and wrote them all off !!!!!!!!!!!!!
You're absolutely correct! My soon to be ex-husband aka covert narcissist, got full temp physical custody of our 6 yr old DAUGHTER who's his new potential victim. He has lawyer, (who's local and was CLEARLY friends with the semi-retired judge who kept making faces towards eachother on my behalf, which I saw out of my perheferial vision.) This is in Ludowici GA, a small town that TIME MAGAZINE WROTE about for being, (for the lack of better terms:) UNFAIR and UNJUST, and CORRUPT, which is how it is TO THIS VERY DAY. He left me penniless with 4 other kids, no definite home, and no lawyer for my defense, and they don't have public defenders down here for that, unless I was lied to, which wouldn't surprise me one bit. But God is not only the God of mercy but also of JUSTICE. They are not going to get away with it, whether we're around to see justice take place on our behalf in this life, or for ETERNITY, which is FOREVER. They will not OUTRUN or OUTSMART GOD. IN THAT, I TAKE REFUGE in the WINGS of Jesus ❤ Thank you ❤ 😊
Ariela-ApostolicA238 Romans 8:28-29 The Lord will take what was meant for your harm and use it for your good. When I divorced not the narc but a Peter Pan mama’s boy, God did this for me. He had a cut throat lawyer, my Pastor, my church and a lawyer from my church backed me and it flipped flopped on him in my favor. Hold onto God and watch it happen. 🙏🏻❤️
I am so sorry. Please. Do not allow what the enemy has done to destroy your capacity to love and care for others. The enemy wants this to isolate and destroy you. Don’t let the enemy win. What you have described is actually more common than people know. My ex also got an attorney who was great buds with a judge. No matter what proof I shared the judge DID. NOT. CARE. Her mind was miraculously made up before our case began. I did not lose custody but I was demeaned in more ways than I could possibly imagine in court. It was like going through the abuse all over again in a court room. I pray that I don’t complain to God when my child goes for a visit with my enemy. Here is what I have learned - we have to have our eyes opened to the true demonic nature of these people. I refused to see it so God showed me in a way that there was no denying it. The second thing I have learned is vengeance belongs to God. Not me. Be encouraged. It will get better. ❤
I can say I wasn't happy when my narcissistic dad passed away, but I was glad to be free of the tactics he used. After dealing with a covert narcissistic boss and older sister, I have narcissistic behavior on my radar now. Thank you Andrew for helping me to heal from the wrath that narcissists shell out. Knowledge is power! ❤❤
I married an empath that escaped from a narc. Oh, they still try to influence their flying monkeys, to some success, but the no contact, no interaction treatment drives him crazy. I'm most impressed with this channel, love the succinct delivery, and wish all the best for you. Please keep delivering this content, you rock!😊
Hey, I am also a partner of a narcissistic abuse survivor… wondering if there are any videos/ sites for how as a partner I can support the healing process… I know the person has to do it himself, but as a partner I would love to know what I can do to assist.
@@annette1101 I would offer that it doesn't require separate strategy. Be your mate's wingman/wingwoman in offering support when the flying monkeys come at them, keep your chin up in the face of a smear campaign, speak for the other when attacks come...it makes it harder for the narc to get traction. Above all, establish as much no contact as you can. When the narc's opposition is doubled by a victim's partner they get less loosh out of it all and begin their ultimate collapse sooner. All the videos out there about this pretty much provide the picture of what you're up against, so run with that!
@@marieeakin8534 Thank you for that . Thanks to Andrew and other channels for the knowledge that I've gained . Stay safe you and happy , healthy healing.
I’m a survivor period I’ve learned so much about narcissists they are cruel actors and actresses period. Unbelievable how selfish & they always have an agenda Thank you for all your support and hard work to educate folks on these demons ❤blessings to you
Yes the ending w Brittany and i left me a trainwreck. She meanwhile has a New boyfriend or Victim in Beaverton Or. Yes and in regards to her showing remorse or apologies ??? ZERO !!! She has No remorse, ZERO REMORSEV AND she told me i have NOTHING to apologize about !! I was like 😳😳 she's Evil. Pure Evil.
You really hit the nail on the head here; the narcissist's mask starts to sag and give way and he's starting to look for the next victim. Nasty like you wouldn't believe it, that the world owes them. Yep, he starts to figure out how he can manipulate the person yet again. It is so hard to make them respect your boundary.
I listened to this one over and over again. So much content that completely educated me. Things go sideways eventually for the narcissist . Can I get an Amen? The cruelty escalated when he had a new supply lined up. I’m turning into the person I was always meant to be. That 32 year gap stifled my growth, my personality ,my spirit and my life. I’m so grateful to have the knowledge I have now. I can age gracefully and be happy knowing I’m a decent, caring, giving person. Healing and continuing to move forward.
Its 9 months still fighting trauma bond. Maybe...... betrayal, recall my self sacrifice to provide EVERYTHING that apparently meant nothing, manipulated, spied on. Never allowed to go do anything with friends. If I did would have to take selfies with a clock etc striking a specific pose.............my first time eating out, after the discard, I was trembling in fear just having a meal to myself
Trauma bonds become less severe when you break the soul ties.... Check them out online but I suggest under a Christian understanding. It needs to be severed spiritually first.
narcs have such low self esteem . the more glue they use to keep their life from falling apart, the less chance that it will keep it bonded. things circle back to its originator make good choices reap good and good will come back to you😊
I’ve been through several narcissists‼️I have go through the process again. A lot of work and tries my soul, but I’ve done it before and I HAVE TO DO IT AGAIN, I must do it to save myself. Thank you!
Wow what an incredible video. You've got it exactly. I was with an abusive covert narcassist for years. Little could I have known amongst all the verbal and even physical abuse, that he had gone back to his original girlfriend for 11 years, while still married to me! Why Im writting this is to show others that its absolutely not worth staying with a narcassist under any circumstances whatsover. Believe all the advice, pack a bag and run for your life, because with a narcassist you will never have a life, ever.
It finally ended last week. Something happened and the narc and I have gone our separate ways. I feel relieved and tell myself that this all somehow had to happen so that I can now move on and forward with my life. Thank you Andrew for your guidance. I will heal and re-charge and pay it forward.
This video is so packed with so much Day 42 on the healing journey This video is so important to help me to keep focused on me. As an empath always looking after people and trying to work through challenges is a hard one to redirect to yourself. I’ve listened and learnt from Andrew for over one year . 42 days ago I left - Valentine’s Day . One year planning Andrew helped me. My one on one sessions with Andrew have reassured me all these untangling feelings are normal and healthy. My journey continues. Staying listening whatever stage you are - huge support here You are loved 🥰🌻🌈🙏
They really believe that they are God's gift even when they are old and falling apart. I hope they have to pay the price .....as you say they left me completely desolate. A shell of a person
WOW Andrew, this I think is my favorite video from you. Wow, it's brutally honest and truely explains the debths and the cruelty of a Narc. It really helps to hear these things especially for us coming out of the trauma bond. Soooooooooooo helpful, thank you for sharing.
I am a beautiful bright shining light. My love will not be mocked. The bully who is riding his high horse right now has terrible karma. Thank you Andrew for holding up the guiding light for me as I struggled to heal. I am ready willing and able to carry that light for others now. I will be forever grateful for survivors who used their negative experience as a lesson learned, and shared it with me. You can do it, survivors. Please trust the life force that brought you to this world. It will guide you.
Thank You for helping me & telling it like it is! My mother, almost 90 years old, plays chicken with me in the driveway, before that she threw nails & broken pieces of glass to cause me flat tires. 50 years of her abuse & I then I ended up with a narcissist boyfriend. I wasted 6 years on that creep. I wish I knew then what I know now.
This is spot on! Thank you for spreading truth. 31 yrs with a narc. 1 year and 1 month away,not divorced yet, I found my self just recently. I had a day being the person I was 31 years ago,free and happy, no anxiety. It was beautiful.
O M G Andrew ! You answered all my questions. I shouldn’t care about my aging narcissist but all the hurt I have experienced from him I think it is normal to not want him to thrive. I want his daughter to listen to this podcast. So much of what you said could help her. What father takes money from their daughter or steals/borrows items from her home and not pay back. He takes and takes. ……Thank you !
Co-workers with 2 narcs; a married couple. Both are close to 60. Melanoma was fading and I was doing so good. Now since they've amped up their theft, and other narc qualities, the melanoma is growing again. It is that fast! They take take take take....and even though I've stayed silent, and tried to teach others to do the same, the stress of them being in my realm is wearing on me. I can't quit scratching the bumps, and my energy level has decreased. My other coworker told me she feels like she is falling into depression, she thinks because of the loss of her sister. She doesn't realize how easily narcs affect your health.
Imgosg thats my wife,she brainwashed everybody' at church slowly for 30 years.i had a problem for about 5 years and fixed it ,but shes living in the past and acts like it was yesterday, zero forgiveness zero compassion zero acceptance. I had 4 horrable surgerys and got hooked on the pain pill,i got the help i needed and i am better than i everhave been,my kids love me so mush and i apologized everyday and they forgave me and sayso .i could go on forever.
THE BIGGEST THING IS DONT LET SYMPATHY TAKE YOU DOWN, UNDESERVED NARCCISISTIC SYMPATHY. THANK GOD MY DAD BROUGHT MY SISTERS AND MYSELF TO BE INDEPENDANT AND STRONG WILLED, ABLE TO SEE THROUGH THE GOOD, BAD AND THE UGLY. THE BEST MAN EVER IN OUR LIVES.
Hi Andrew, thank you so much for sharing this video. I am healing from a recent break up in December from a narcissistic person that I lived with for three years. This makes a lot of sense, and I am learning all the new phrases of narcissistic people and their behavior, and I am learning the words, gaslighting monkey, branching, breadcrumbing all the words associated with a narcissist. Thank you for sharing all that information, and I always wondered what will happen with my ex boyfriend, as I have carried on in my life and found peace and serenity, and no longer affiliated or no longer in that toxic relationship he put me through a lot and now I have broken free and I am better without him, I know I’m not supposed to wonder what happens to him. You said it right. I always wonder how they would learn their lesson as I am not a revengeful person, but always wondered how can a person hurt someone like that when all I did was take care of him.
You are no alone in this, I think that was the path that I had to traveled to become a stronger, wiser me. Why can a person hurt someone like that? Because, they can! The narcs only care for themselves, what in it for them. They cannot love! They used and discarded. They twist everything around and never at fault. I stumbled upon Andrew video months ago, I think it was one of the God moment and had that Aha! moment. I learned that I was exposed to a toxic individual, a narcissist. I watch Andrew videos religiously. We are in a peaceful safe place🙏
Thank you guys for the advice. I appreciate it and I’m glad that I am not alone for sure. I wish you the best as well as you continue your journey of healing.
As I get further away from my 9 year relationship, and further into my strong friendship with the woman he was with for 8 years before me!, the more I see how stuck he is in these horrible toxic behaviors. I’m free. He has himself forever.
In my extreme experiences with many family members who are narcissists……..is They don’t care how they have hurt and abused you. Thanks Andrew. I’m so blessed to forgive these weirdos and to move on happily 🐑🥰🕊💕
Absolutely true! I had alot of baggage and to learn the terminology of narcissistic abuse and behavior. He wanted me back tried for years, but it was NO for me ! His new supply became his mommy, servant and caregiver. She spent less and less time with him and he fell asleep in death by himself. 😢😢
went through a rage fit 5 hours ago with one he's 55 years old when I Told him to stop contacting me .. he went into a rage and attempted to have me feel sorry for him . He also tried to hold me hostage ... His text to me as I left was I know your angry and horny then told me I was something else .. I blocked him.. he raged the whole time when he wanted to talk ... I calmly told him to stop contacting me ... .. I'm totally detached from him and his actions..
Good that you blocked him! His reactions to you are predictable & typical of the narc. Sorry you had to go through that & glad you can see through what's going on. Keep safe & Eyes open. Blessings 🌈 🎀😘
“Selfie Filter” 👌looking for supply in the middle of the night while the battery dies. I’m going to choose to not feel guilty about laughing about this 😂❤
I dont know. I was told the abusers in my life are doing really well. Its probably because they hid and stole most of my inheritance. Those types of people ruin do many lives. If you let a toxic relative in, they eill take and make opportunities to drice wedges in your relationships, undermine your parenting, lead your children astray. Never trust one, especially if they are drunks, frequent drinkers, heavy drinkers, on drugs, etc. I bet the ones you think are straight, do have hidden addictions. It takes do long to recover from the abuse. Sometimes you dont.
Hi Andrew ThankYou🙏🏼 My Dad wasn’t a narc before I left home he said to me everyone doesn’t think like you, your too good for this world. I didn’t understand I do now I must be an Empath💜 💫✨💫✨💫✨💫✨💫✨💫✨💫✨💫✨💫✨💫✨💫✨💫 🙏🏼❤️❤️❤️😊
Thank you, Andrew, for always shooting it straight! Your videos are so empowering. I finally deleted the narcissist from Facebook today after more than 6 months separated during the divorce process. We were together for 19 years, and he never could treat me with love and respect. It was sort of sad for a moment, but it's like holding onto a dead rose wishing it could come back, only to realize it wasn't a rose after all, it was a poisonous weed. I should be able to heal now without exposure to the toxic substance. Thanks again for your encouragement. ❤❤❤❤
Well said sweetie. It's not fun to grieve...but that is part of the process to heal. I wish you the very best & know that you WILL GET STRONGER IN TIME. Listening to Andrew's messages & reading the community comments will help you. Like you, we've been through it & understand. Blessings 👍 🌈 🎀😘
During the last several years I have been working on myself and healing from my mother's narccicistic abuse, a lifetime of it. I go 'no contact' with her off and on for many years, over and over. This morning I realized that I am a nicer and more caring person than she ever is or was. The realization came when , after many years of not even going to see her, that when I did, it was like all those years of being abused by her came rushing back. And I couldnt take it. The juxtaposition of my life now compared to my life and my thinking back when she was abusing me, was so obvious. Fortunately she lives literally on the other side of the country. So I have all of those miles between us. She had now discarded me, again. Because I stood up to her, again.
I read a book today next to a river...a duck came up and tried to nibble my shoelaces..he stayed for about 10 minutes and then waddled off... The little things make life worth living.. first of many I hope ...🙏☮️ Master manipulators...mine could go from gaslighting to devaluing to manipulating to triangulating all in a breath and it seemed so normal....Give me the duck any day...
Both my parent's died not only did she not attend the funerals, she never said ONE word about it at all.she was washing dishes, and i said my father died, she shrouded her shoulders and said NOTHING,then the same thing for my mom.took all my sisters and friends from me.
Sad. When my dad was dying, mine screamed at me because I had looked to see what flights might be available while I waited for her to come home. She insisted he wasn’t really dying and I was blowing it out of proportion. She said she was a nurse and knew about such things better than I. My father died 36 hours later as my children and I were driving to see him. She refused to go and stayed home. She has never apologized or shown any compassion. She can’t even acknowledge that he died. She refers to it as the time he got sick. When I told her I was filing for divorce, she filed a false restraining order against me. The evil they are capable of is beyond my comprehension.
Oh boy some of your points are right on. Iam 3 years into healing. Thank goodness you are on facebook!!! I never knew what I was in this nightmare.!!! Until you and others shared the information. I have never worked so hard to heal....
Yep! For my ex narc his plans after discading me really fell apart. He fell flat on his face. Financially bankrupt. When he left he was fourty thousand dollars in debts. He didn't want to work anymore. And his plans to steal his best friend's wife did not work either. I am so glad to be free of him and thriving on my own. Have a wonderful evening Andrew 🤗💜❤️
Same mine is 140k in debt. Expects me to be the “get out of financial ruin free” card. No accountability for their own debt and decisions leading up to it. Would just project on me about how I didn’t have enough money for our future when I have a million+. I never relinquished financial control of my own money and I was punished time and time again for it. Absolutely insane. Finally realized I was a resource. Thank god for this channel and all the others on UA-cam.
In the big thick of a divorce I'm healing and every step I take for me it's away from him.He has another source already .I sure feel for her lol..too bad she has kids bc he isn't good with kids after awhile..thank you Andrew..your pid cast have saved me.
Thanks Andrew for the time and effort you invest in helping others understand narcissism. Personally I have never wanted vengeance for the narc. All I ever wanted was to see genuine sorrow with no excuse for the abuse they perpretated. I do not expect I will ever see that. God Bless!
Oh my God thank you for making these videos you have completely open my eyes I am an empath and recently divorced a narcissist your videos have been very I am so glad to have found your videos
God Bless you Andrew! Thank you! I discovered your videos recently and can't stop watching and listening. You take the words out of my mouth. As someone who is or has been codependent, I have my own dysfunctional patterns, but coming out from relationships, going through a healing program, Freedom Session, finding your truthful and powerful videos is so enlightening! Thank you. Keep up the great work!
My oldest narcisist brother was runned out of town by rummors that he had múltiple partners of young girls from his teaching days in a junion high school, hes now in a different town with new supply
You hit it 100% . They can't sit still ! Wow Andrew 👌 It's like your seeing my life through a crystal 🔮 ball. After discarding me becauseI lost my job, my narc mother went to my sister, the new supply.
Needing someone and treating them like garbage at the same time, really doesn't make sense. It's just not logical. Then again they aren't either. Thanks 🙏
Yup. They are stuck in time and no one wants to listen to a 60 year old teenager rehashing why their life sucks for the 200th time. It’s sad but life is just too short to allow yourself to be dragged down by this. The only thing we can do is wish them well and move on.
Wisest & most decent thing to do.
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How about the childhood being the reason at this age? Good grief.
I love this post. I got a laugh by your post. A 60 year old teenager. LOL So True.
I find that there are a lot of Euro 60 teenagers. I was a single parent so that I have no more time and energy for people who behave like toddlers hence I am a loner& readers.
Need to be solitary
Ok, 200 times? So you were in the relationship for a day? 😁🙏☮️ The 60 yr old teenager ... Soo good!💯
When things don't work out for the narcissist they regress to a two year old throwing tantrums. They can't handle not getting what they want or things not going their way.
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Thank you and you are definitely an Empath💜 We are so lucky to have Andrew 🙏🏼💜💫✨💫✨💫✨💫
Marie, you've paid your dues ( and then some). Reality for you now is--- Freedom!👍☕
I’m almost 50 and I’m really learning the hard truth that *most people* do not possess empathy…they might have just enough to entice a mate and a social circle, but nothing beyond that.
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That "Hard Truth" realization that I learned too, was shocking, sad, scary, discomforting, mind boggling, Earth shaking, etc. Finally stabilized and accepting, I feel I'm good to go.
I also learned this at 60 years old. So sad...
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Yep agree, thats why i dont socialise & meet new people. I find that at least 70% of the people are fake and they dont have empathy at all. Its all about what you can provide to them & once they have got what they wanted, they ignore you and move on. Its a con, happens in work places and from those who you thought were real friends. Disappointment
I think that we are the people that the narcissist wants to ben and are incapable of being.
All is truth in this video. I'm detached & pending divorce. Yes Andrew, they realize exactly what they are doing.
Just thankful, I'm alive to witness my life being restored by the Lord.
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I believe in the forge under fire that this message brings. Good stuff you shining bright light
I stand with you in your journey ! We are no longer supply!
I'm also going through divorce and OMG! Everything Andrew has said in this video and others he has blessed us with!
Hang in there and keep leaning on the Lord who has all power !!❤
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I don't think my wife knows what she's doing,she would never look at herself in a critical or negative way, we suck ,she's perfect 😊
@@jamesdeluca6657 manipulation is the greatest tactic of a narc. She knows what she is doing.
I pray for every man getting divorced from a female narcissist. He will lose his house, land, savings, children and the dog. He will pay alimony and child support. He will lose his children as she finds your replacement. He will owe her for 18 years and be homeless. Everything done by court order and legal. It will be even worse for him with a female judge. I lived it, i know.
So do I as this is a great fear of mine for young adults. Let’s teach our kids about red flags, people that cross boundaries, narcissitic traits. Am sorry this happened to you, wishing you happiness in each day.
Yep I been threw it still going therw it
Brother I liking the way u speak on it, I just subscribe to 😅 channel
Going through it with a male though... this is tough, year 5 in divorce court 😢
Yes indeed..Im a mother, and had to "pay off" our sons father...Ive tried my best to warn my son of the dangers of marriage..plus here in Ireland, if two people live together for 2 years..and they breakup, the other can put a claim on the property....its scandalous to be honest
These people deserve absolutely no compassion regarding their behaviors. They know exactly what they're doing. Of course, we don't wish ill will upon anyone, but it sure feels good to know that what goes around comes around. Thanks for your wisdom, Andrew!
They certainly don't deserve any compassion. I think about revenge but would never do it....I'm grateful for Andrew's words as knowing what goes around comes around naturally....there is no need for revenge....healing is more important than revenge.
I haven’t spoke to my mother for a couple of decades. A survival tactic
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I can relate. I wish, that I had gone no contact decades ago.🙏
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Anyone with lots of empathy is extremely attractive. Don’t give this out to just anyone. Don’t give it out until you really know someone very well
When the narcissist walls come crumbling down they've known that they've done something wrong
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@ZeesArcademe too
I am afraid that they will still blame others. Absent conciousness....
@AJ-ks4lv you are sweet to be concerned. I like that but just make awareness apart of your contribution to society in stopping others from exploitation.
Andrew, Well Said!!
There is a HIGHER POWER ABOVE WHO....
SEES, HEARS, KNOWS!!!!!!!✝️
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Yes God sees our pain and suffering and through His power is restoring us from all the pain and sorrow we've had to endure. God bless us all....we are now healing. 🙏
I lost my identity in the narcissistic relationship, and now, many years later, I have found my identity. I no longer jump through the hoops of toxic and narcissistic people. I don't wish anyone harm, and I don't tolerate abuse anymore
That’s wonderful. Be proud of yourself.
@Ston3808, thank you 😊
God bless you Warrior Mary ❣️
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Same - I had never experienced anyone like it in my life, and I was nearly 50. I kept trying to fix it through communication. What a nightmare.
I didn't even know what a narcissist was until i met this one . I think its very scary and im glad iv seen her for what she is but she has put on the charm for everyone else and the family doesn't seem to see it . I think my son is starting to see it and i hope he starts to see it with his own eyes.
I had never heard of someone being a narcissist. I wish I had! It would have saved my life and sanity!🙏
Same here I don't know about nursissis until I meet one
I left my narcissist husband ..going on three months ago. Being away, and with people who love me is good, but I'm still devastated, still cry...still angry.
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The narcs looks will fade, HOWEVER, in the short term, massive weight gain will catch them first. I saw my narc after a few years and she gained over 70lbs!!! Its like they think bad food should also treat them special. Unfortunately for them, Diabetes doesn't care.
My ex discarded me for an obese woman that is 21 years younger than him. He found out very quickly like he could not eat like a younger person when he is 60. They were going out to eat all the time. We were still living together until I found a place and he was leaving carry out containers in the fridge from all the restaurants he had been to with her. He over ate himself into a hiatal hernia, which is caused by overeating and obesity. The surgery to correct it took double the normal time because of all the complications. I really feel like he got his karma pretty quickly on that.
Hugh hefner never changed. He got really old!
I can’t imagine doing all those narc things to one person, let alone multiples.
Today is 9 months narc free and believe me, I still have a long way to go healing.
Haven’t heard anything for awhile, praise God. God is who I hold onto for His Word is true.
“Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.” ~ Romans 12:19
He will do it in a way that is custom designed for them, that they will never forget.
Be still and heal.❤️
Thank you for the video, Andrew.
Talk to God and Andrew. They both helped me more than words can say.
Have a blessed evening wherever you are. ☀️😎🪺🌷🌿🦋🕊️🌳🌲🌎🙏🏻✨💖✨🌸
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Amen! 🙏 My discard was done in such an abrupt way last September but I believe God allowed it to be done in such a way so that I might see His truth most clearest. In my grief, heartache and pain asking Lord what's going on, HE slowly revealed the truth I never wanted to hear over course of months to where I could no longer excuse. I believe God knew I'd continue being abused because of my love I had for my husband at time. I'm still in this relationship, waiting for my husband to follow through with his plans to divorce me, he's still treating me as if I don't exist, ghosting, stonewalling, openly flaunting his new supply he has at work, devaluing me, denying he ever loved me, openly admitting he only pretended to be nice guy to get me over 16 years ago. Not going to lie, this still is so surreal, my life I once knew, changed in a moment. While I'm waiting, Holy Spirit helping me bridle my tongue to lessen the abuse, God IS healing me, renewing my mind, strengthening me for where He will be leading me next. My husband reduced me to nothing, no value, no worth but God IS reminding me of who I am, my identity is NOT who my husband says I am but my identity hid in Christ alone, HE says I have value/worth and only HE knows me best. It's true, this is the darkest season to walk through but I know the Lord is holding my hand through it. My husband thinks he got away with how he abused me behind closed doors but God sees and it is God who will deal with my unbelieving husband accordingly and for his sake I pray he believes the gospel before he takes his last breath or his final judgment won't end in celebration like he thinks. God bless you, so encouraged to keep trusting the Lord because of your words. Thankyou...
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I prayed to God to show me what was really going on with the narc and He did. Shortly after that I found Andrew’s channel and made a phone appointment to speak to him to clear up my mind about what was going on with the narc before I was able to make my final break. I encourage you to make a phone appointment with Andrew. I also encourage you to find a Christian lawyer and start the divorce proceedings yourself. You will be in the driver’s seat then and he won’t be able to jerk you around as much. Have a safe secure plan in place before you implement the divorce. God will help you through this, I can attest to that as a fact. Romans 8:28-29
May God continue to richly bless, comfort and protect you.
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@@123poohdeeI am so sorry you are going through this. I was once you with a baby in my arms. They are the worst kind of human beings. Please take special care of yourself. The narcissist intends to totally annihilate their victim. The narcissist will unalive their victims through the victim’s central nervous system. Please find a way to get away from him.
I needed to hear this.. my narc hubby left a month ago packed up left myself and our 6 kids for a vampire sex cult.. I had contact for a week but I have gone no contact but it is super hard. He took everything from me spiritual, emotional, financial. I lost everything I was blindsided. He had me replaced before he left he was with a new person in less than a week.. I am in an early healing phase. I feel like I am in freeze mode right now. Much ❤ Andrew.
That's so sad , you got to care of your self and your six kids with out that drama trauma
It won't work out with the other chicks either get ready for hoovering later he will be crawling back begging and lying again that things are better, further from the truth ,Satan is a liar and the truth is not in him
@@Yellow-oc4sl absolutely it’s been a rough month, but I’m moving forward as best as I can, and taking my care of my children in the best way possible.
I'm sure it has been ruff & my heart & prayers go out to you.
Good for you that you went no contact.
God has your number & sure he has a plan for you.
He knows just how to make a mess into a message.
Keep tuned in & stay connected to the community.
Blessings
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A vampire sex cult! That’s a new one. Geez. Take care of you and your precious children. One day at a time. Healing is a process.Andrew’s videos are a big help. Wishing all the best for you💐
Andrew everything you speak is true it's like dealing with a 2 year old I was married to a narcissist a lot of my family is narcissists really I was surrounded by narcissists his family god moved me away from all of them
I was raised by a narc. Her karma was getting brain cancer so she slowly lost control of herself and needed family to take care of her. She moved into the home of an other narc that she raised. Karma is real
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Wow…I’m happy she’s not in your peaceful space. It sounds like she’s exactly where she needs to be. 💅🏽 Blessings to you!🙏🏽
Wow…that is karma paid and compounded with interest!
Wow...I often wonder what will happen in years to come after I experienced narcisstic abuse, manipulation and scamming etc etc. I've been thinking about ways to get revenge....I wouldn't go through with any revenge but the anger makes me feel that way. Maybe it will all happen naturally with karma. I'm doing my best to focus on healing...sending healing your way too. 🙏
I was raised by a narc as well, by a total Fruit Loop. Hope you’re feeling better.
You're like a professional counselor Andrew and blessed by God's holy Spirit. I learn something new from you. I use and look back at what you've taught us. You both simplify and professionally teach us. Like today you taught me narcs can't be alone, parent issues and more..
I'm very grateful for you. Thank you for all your time and great efforts. May we support you as well. God bless you always. ❤️
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Andrew you are on FIRE these days! 🙌🏼Tell it like it is! Out narcissist, OUT!!
Thank you, Andrew, for sharing the truth. I am Free! Free! Free! After 30+ years I am Free! God Bless You All! 😇💞
I understand that freeing excitement after 42 years!
Bang on right! My soon-to-be ex abused me, went to jail, lost our marriage, his home, his job, his family, six past marriages (which I wasn't aware of), now wears an ankle monitor because he can't stop stalking me, and is financially broke. He is on all kinds of dating sites, but at 73 not one other supply wants him. Somehow, it does my heart good to witness the heartache he put me through.
The narcissist constantly moves town instead of moving/changing their behaviour.
Or country or social group or church.They will be like chameleons to get their supply because it is like oxygen.
No they dont i know many narcissists that stayed in their home town all their lives 😂
That's what my narc ex did... moved to New Jersey because he burned all his bridges in New York. What a waste of human life!
@@AlineBondyou know MANY narcissists? Wow... you must be one yourself!
@@AlineBond you know MANY narcissists, huh? Would that be including yourself?
Andrew. As hard as it has been for you ( understatement) you are now helping thousands including me ( who had never heard of narcissism). Keep up your videos because its reaching all corners of the earth. Take care all. New Zealand.
Agree. I never knew. I never thought it could actually destroy so badly. I thought ide done something wrong. Love Andrew’s videos,,, life saving 🥰🥰🥰🥰
He was ...King Subterfuge.......😮 Fake everything, the older he got the more evil he got!!!! Do yourself a huge favor .....Never go back😊 you will respect yourself in the morning
Yes, move on, move on, and move on.
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“…their battery dies…” very good ending and so true. What a blessed community to have this education. Thank you Andrew! Blessings everyone💖🌸🙏
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My former manager literally said “we have to recharge our batteries.” Speaking of what we needed to do over the weekend. With the weird SMIRK 😏 on his ugly face. This is so weird…glad I left him in the dust!!!
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Andrew, thank you so much, for your input about my narcissist and manipulative ex wife of mine. Your comments are on cue, with my toxic relationship I had. Listening to you has made a strong man out of me.
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I love you, it's tough. Let go of the resentment. F*ck 'em. Have a walk in the fields or stroll along a beach. Beautiful. Read a book, paint a picture, some beautiful music and love who you are. One life per person. Give love and don't make money your God. It's all free out there. You need to earn your place in life to let people know this is me. My life, live yours. ❤
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Having parents who are narcissists is the worst sort of lifetime of abuse and being treated like a "plastic doll".
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I am so sorry.
You are spot on. And I see it every day,,, I see it in children’s faces,,, I silently pray for every child.
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Pray Gods healing and gentle ministering over your life. And pure discernment going forward. I’m still dealing with it too. At 72. But imma warrior of prayer now.
It’s true. I asked a female I know (who’s a raging narc), why she treats her boyfriends bad. She told me directly that she was testing them to see how much they will do for her. Hideous!!!
Talking to my ex eh? 😁🙏
@@Thedisgardedoptimist Sorry for you! These types are the pits.
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Wow....the narcissist I experienced was so proud of her vile behaviour. She has no idea how wrong her behaviour is as her mind is so manipulative and twisted.
I was very empathetic as a child, but by the time my narcissistic dad and ex-wife and kids got done with me all that has changed. Now I have gone no contact and wrote them all off !!!!!!!!!!!!!
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You're absolutely correct!
My soon to be ex-husband aka covert narcissist, got full temp physical custody of our 6 yr old DAUGHTER who's his new potential victim.
He has lawyer, (who's local and was CLEARLY friends with the semi-retired judge who kept making faces towards eachother on my behalf, which I saw out of my perheferial vision.)
This is in Ludowici GA, a small town that TIME MAGAZINE WROTE about for being, (for the lack of better terms:) UNFAIR and UNJUST, and CORRUPT, which is how it is TO THIS VERY DAY.
He left me penniless with 4 other kids, no definite home, and no lawyer for my defense, and they don't have public defenders down here for that, unless I was lied to, which wouldn't surprise me one bit.
But God is not only the God of mercy but also of JUSTICE. They are not going to get away with it, whether we're around to see justice take place on our behalf in this life, or for ETERNITY, which is FOREVER.
They will not OUTRUN or OUTSMART GOD.
IN THAT, I TAKE REFUGE in the WINGS of Jesus ❤
Thank you ❤ 😊
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Romans 8:28-29
The Lord will take what was meant for your harm and use it for your good.
When I divorced not the narc but a Peter Pan mama’s boy, God did this for me. He had a cut throat lawyer, my Pastor, my church and a lawyer from my church backed me and it flipped flopped on him in my favor. Hold onto God and watch it happen. 🙏🏻❤️
@BeTheLight624 WOW! What an amazing testimony!
Thank you for the encouragement! 🙏 ❤️
Praying for you and your children to be safe and protected from whatever harms come your ways 🙏😇💜
I am so sorry. Please. Do not allow what the enemy has done to destroy your capacity to love and care for others. The enemy wants this to isolate and destroy you. Don’t let the enemy win. What you have described is actually more common than people know. My ex also got an attorney who was great buds with a judge. No matter what proof I shared the judge DID. NOT. CARE. Her mind was miraculously made up before our case began. I did not lose custody but I was demeaned in more ways than I could possibly imagine in court. It was like going through the abuse all over again in a court room. I pray that I don’t complain to God when my child goes for a visit with my enemy. Here is what I have learned - we have to have our eyes opened to the true demonic nature of these people. I refused to see it so God showed me in a way that there was no denying it. The second thing I have learned is vengeance belongs to God. Not me. Be encouraged. It will get better. ❤
I can say I wasn't happy when my narcissistic dad passed away, but I was glad to be free of the tactics he used. After dealing with a covert narcissistic boss and older sister, I have narcissistic behavior on my radar now. Thank you Andrew for helping me to heal from the wrath that narcissists shell out. Knowledge is power! ❤❤
I know. how. U feel
I married an empath that escaped from a narc. Oh, they still try to influence their flying monkeys, to some success, but the no contact, no interaction treatment drives him crazy. I'm most impressed with this channel, love the succinct delivery, and wish all the best for you. Please keep delivering this content, you rock!😊
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Hey, I am also a partner of a narcissistic abuse survivor… wondering if there are any videos/ sites for how as a partner I can support the healing process… I know the person has to do it himself, but as a partner I would love to know what I can do to assist.
@@annette1101 I would offer that it doesn't require separate strategy. Be your mate's wingman/wingwoman in offering support when the flying monkeys come at them, keep your chin up in the face of a smear campaign, speak for the other when attacks come...it makes it harder for the narc to get traction. Above all, establish as much no contact as you can. When the narc's opposition is doubled by a victim's partner they get less loosh out of it all and begin their ultimate collapse sooner. All the videos out there about this pretty much provide the picture of what you're up against, so run with that!
I was discarded and my ex narc is currently in jail for abusing his new wife. She was the new supply . Their marriage has lasted 5 months .
So glad you are safe & away from him! You know what to do if he tries to return!
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@@marieeakin8534 Thank you for that . Thanks to Andrew and other channels for the knowledge that I've gained .
Stay safe you and happy , healthy healing.
Sorry for her,maybe reach out to her ,or not😊
Had no idea they were so calculating….only for their own greed.
Thanks Andrew!!
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They are so so calculated.....the manipulation is extreme and on so so many different levels.
I’m a survivor period I’ve learned so much about narcissists they are cruel actors and actresses period. Unbelievable how selfish & they always have an agenda
Thank you for all your support and hard work to educate folks on these demons ❤blessings to you
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Yes the ending w Brittany and i left me a trainwreck. She meanwhile has a New boyfriend or Victim in Beaverton Or. Yes and in regards to her showing remorse or apologies ??? ZERO !!! She has No remorse, ZERO REMORSEV AND she told me i have NOTHING to apologize about !! I was like 😳😳 she's Evil. Pure Evil.
You really hit the nail on the head here; the narcissist's mask starts to sag and give way and he's starting to look for the next victim. Nasty like you wouldn't believe it, that the world owes them. Yep, he starts to figure out how he can manipulate the person yet again. It is so hard to make them respect your boundary.
It is sort of like the big bad wolf blowing down houses. They huff and puff. But some houses don't blow down in the end. The wolf meets his fate.
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I listened to this one over and over again. So much content that completely educated me.
Things go sideways eventually for the narcissist . Can I get an Amen?
The cruelty escalated when he had a new supply lined up.
I’m turning into the person I was always meant to be. That 32 year gap stifled my growth, my personality ,my spirit and my life.
I’m so grateful to have the knowledge I have now.
I can age gracefully and be happy knowing I’m a decent, caring, giving person. Healing and continuing to move forward.
32yrs here too!! They do a number on us don't they? I'm 56 and ready to take ME back!! I'm so sick of this azzhole!!
Amen ,thank Jesus your out of it.
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Its 9 months still fighting trauma bond. Maybe...... betrayal, recall my self sacrifice to provide EVERYTHING that apparently meant nothing, manipulated, spied on. Never allowed to go do anything with friends. If I did would have to take selfies with a clock etc striking a specific pose.............my first time eating out, after the discard, I was trembling in fear just having a meal to myself
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Trauma bonds become less severe when you break the soul ties.... Check them out online but I suggest under a Christian understanding. It needs to be severed spiritually first.
👀No matter how long you've been with them, or how many others you've known, THEY STILL COME OUT OF LEFT FIELD WITH THEIR THOUGHT PROCESS!
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narcs have such low self esteem . the more glue they use to keep their life from falling apart, the less chance that it will keep it bonded. things circle back to its originator make good choices reap good and good will come back to you😊
I’ve been through several narcissists‼️I have go through the process again. A lot of work and tries my soul, but I’ve done it before and I HAVE TO DO IT AGAIN, I must do it to save myself. Thank you!
Wow what an incredible video. You've got it exactly. I was with an abusive covert narcassist for years. Little could I have known amongst all the verbal and even physical abuse, that he had gone back to his original girlfriend for 11 years, while still married to me! Why Im writting this is to show others that its absolutely not worth staying with a narcassist under any circumstances whatsover. Believe all the advice, pack a bag and run for your life, because with a narcassist you will never have a life, ever.
It finally ended last week. Something happened and the narc and I have gone our separate ways. I feel relieved and tell myself that this all somehow had to happen so that I can now move on and forward with my life. Thank you Andrew for your guidance. I will heal and re-charge and pay it forward.
Stay strong! You can do this!
Good evening Andrew and friends! ☀️🌺😇❤️💜❤️💜
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Good evening beautiful 🌹
It’s my Andrew and Ruby!!! 🙌🙌😇🤗💜🤗💜🤗💜🤗
Thank you I can see you are an Empath by the way you write 🙏🏼💜💫✨💫✨💫
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Day 42 on the healing journey
This video is so important to help me to keep focused on me. As an empath always looking after people and trying to work through challenges is a hard one to redirect to yourself. I’ve listened and learnt from Andrew for over one year . 42 days ago I left - Valentine’s Day . One year planning
Andrew helped me. My one on one sessions with Andrew have reassured me all these untangling feelings are normal and healthy. My journey continues. Staying listening whatever stage you are - huge support here
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Four year's strong without all that drama in my life..Thank you Andrew for helping me understand what I went through.
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Well done you.🙏 Narcissist drama is quite something...all planned of course in their manipulative twisted minds.
They really believe that they are God's gift even when they are old and falling apart. I hope they have to pay the price .....as you say they left me completely desolate. A shell of a person
WOW Andrew, this I think is my favorite video from you. Wow, it's brutally honest and truely explains the debths and the cruelty of a Narc. It really helps to hear these things especially for us coming out of the trauma bond. Soooooooooooo helpful, thank you for sharing.
I am a beautiful bright shining light. My love will not be mocked. The bully who is riding his high horse right now has terrible karma. Thank you Andrew for holding up the guiding light for me as I struggled to heal. I am ready willing and able to carry that light for others now. I will be forever grateful for survivors who used their negative experience as a lesson learned, and shared it with me. You can do it, survivors. Please trust the life force that brought you to this world. It will guide you.
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Thank You for helping me & telling it like it is! My mother, almost 90 years old, plays chicken with me in the driveway, before that she threw nails & broken pieces of glass to cause me flat tires. 50 years of her abuse & I then I ended up with a narcissist boyfriend. I wasted 6 years on that creep. I wish I knew then what I know now.
Twisting the truth all the time!!!’
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Thank you for your words of wisdom & inspiration listening from the Philippines. 🇵🇭❤️
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Yes, true. The narcissists eventually reap what they sow. Thank you 🙏 Andrew. God bless you ❤
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This is spot on! Thank you for spreading truth. 31 yrs with a narc. 1 year and 1 month away,not divorced yet, I found my self just recently. I had a day being the person I was 31 years ago,free and happy, no anxiety. It was beautiful.
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Well done you. Getting away isn't easy. Hope your life is peaceful, calm and full of contented moments. 🙏
I have learned so much from you Andrew and the other viewers of your channel. ❣️🙏☀️🌼
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Me too!
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O M G Andrew ! You answered all my questions. I shouldn’t care about my aging narcissist but all the hurt I have experienced from him I think it is normal to not want him to thrive. I want his daughter to listen to this podcast. So much of what you said could help her. What father takes money from their daughter or steals/borrows items from her home and not pay back. He takes and takes. ……Thank you !
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Drug addict?
Co-workers with 2 narcs; a married couple. Both are close to 60. Melanoma was fading and I was doing so good. Now since they've amped up their theft, and other narc qualities, the melanoma is growing again. It is that fast! They take take take take....and even though I've stayed silent, and tried to teach others to do the same, the stress of them being in my realm is wearing on me. I can't quit scratching the bumps, and my energy level has decreased. My other coworker told me she feels like she is falling into depression, she thinks because of the loss of her sister. She doesn't realize how easily narcs affect your health.
Get a new job
Imgosg thats my wife,she brainwashed everybody' at church slowly for 30 years.i had a problem for about 5 years and fixed it ,but shes living in the past and acts like it was yesterday, zero forgiveness zero compassion zero acceptance. I had 4 horrable surgerys and got hooked on the pain pill,i got the help i needed and i am better than i everhave been,my kids love me so mush and i apologized everyday and they forgave me and sayso .i could go on forever.
It's been 4 years sober and 24 four from alcohol.
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THE BIGGEST THING IS DONT LET SYMPATHY TAKE YOU DOWN, UNDESERVED NARCCISISTIC SYMPATHY. THANK GOD MY DAD BROUGHT MY SISTERS AND MYSELF TO BE INDEPENDANT AND STRONG WILLED, ABLE TO SEE THROUGH THE GOOD, BAD AND THE UGLY. THE BEST MAN EVER IN OUR LIVES.
Hi Andrew, thank you so much for sharing this video. I am healing from a recent break up in December from a narcissistic person that I lived with for three years. This makes a lot of sense, and I am learning all the new phrases of narcissistic people and their behavior, and I am learning the words, gaslighting monkey, branching, breadcrumbing all the words associated with a narcissist. Thank you for sharing all that information, and I always wondered what will happen with my ex boyfriend, as I have carried on in my life and found peace and serenity, and no longer affiliated or no longer in that toxic relationship he put me through a lot and now I have broken free and I am better without him, I know I’m not supposed to wonder what happens to him. You said it right. I always wonder how they would learn their lesson as I am not a revengeful person, but always wondered how can a person hurt someone like that when all I did was take care of him.
Think of him as a leech. If you don't watch out. It will latch onto you where you can't see it and start sucking your vitality again
You are no alone in this, I think that was the path that I had to traveled to become a stronger, wiser me. Why can a person hurt someone like that? Because, they can! The narcs only care for themselves, what in it for them. They cannot love! They used and discarded. They twist everything around and never at fault. I stumbled upon Andrew video months ago, I think it was one of the God moment and had that Aha! moment. I learned that I was exposed to a toxic individual, a narcissist. I watch Andrew videos religiously. We are in a peaceful safe place🙏
Well, you're not his mother,so let him suck on a sow's ear..
Thank you guys for the advice. I appreciate it and I’m glad that I am not alone for sure. I wish you the best as well as you continue your journey of healing.
As I get further away from my 9 year relationship, and further into my strong friendship with the woman he was with for 8 years before me!, the more I see how stuck he is in these horrible toxic behaviors. I’m free. He has himself forever.
In my extreme experiences with many family members who are narcissists……..is They don’t care how they have hurt and abused you. Thanks Andrew. I’m so blessed to forgive these weirdos and to move on happily 🐑🥰🕊💕
I'm an empath too, Andrew. I'm amazed how many people don't pick up on what I pick up on in the day to day of life.
Yup they over play their hands. Karma never misses their address
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Reminds me of BOY GEORGE S 🎵 SONG KARMA,Karma ,Karma ,Karma Chameleon 😅They Come and Go ,Come and Go
I had no ideal I was an empath until I watched your videos.
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Absolutely true! I had alot of baggage and to learn the terminology of narcissistic abuse and behavior. He wanted me back tried for years, but it was NO for me ! His new supply became his mommy, servant and caregiver. She spent less and less time with him and he fell asleep in death by himself. 😢😢
Sad!!
went through a rage fit 5 hours ago with one he's 55 years old when I Told him to stop contacting me .. he went into a rage and attempted to have me feel sorry for him . He also tried to hold me hostage ... His text to me as I left was I know your angry and horny then told me I was something else .. I blocked him.. he raged the whole time when he wanted to talk ... I calmly told him to stop contacting me ... .. I'm totally detached from him and his actions..
Good that you blocked him!
His reactions to you are predictable & typical of the narc.
Sorry you had to go through that & glad you can see through what's going on.
Keep safe & Eyes open.
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“Selfie Filter” 👌looking for supply in the middle of the night while the battery dies. I’m going to choose to not feel guilty about laughing about this 😂❤
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I dont know. I was told the abusers in my life are doing really well. Its probably because they hid and stole most of my inheritance. Those types of people ruin do many lives. If you let a toxic relative in, they eill take and make opportunities to drice wedges in your relationships, undermine your parenting, lead your children astray. Never trust one, especially if they are drunks, frequent drinkers, heavy drinkers, on drugs, etc. I bet the ones you think are straight, do have hidden addictions. It takes do long to recover from the abuse. Sometimes you dont.
Thank you Andrew!!!!! ❤️😊
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Hi Andrew ThankYou🙏🏼 My Dad wasn’t a narc before I left home he said to me everyone doesn’t think like you, your too good for this world. I didn’t understand I do now I must be an Empath💜
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Thank you, Andrew, for always shooting it straight! Your videos are so empowering. I finally deleted the narcissist from Facebook today after more than 6 months separated during the divorce process. We were together for 19 years, and he never could treat me with love and respect. It was sort of sad for a moment, but it's like holding onto a dead rose wishing it could come back, only to realize it wasn't a rose after all, it was a poisonous weed. I should be able to heal now without exposure to the toxic substance. Thanks again for your encouragement. ❤❤❤❤
Well said sweetie. It's not fun to grieve...but that is part of the process to heal.
I wish you the very best & know that you WILL GET STRONGER IN TIME.
Listening to Andrew's messages & reading the community comments
will help you. Like you, we've been through it & understand.
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@@marieeakin8534 Thank you so much! I appreciate your encouragement.
During the last several years I have been working on myself and healing from my mother's narccicistic abuse, a lifetime of it. I go 'no contact' with her off and on for many years, over and over. This morning I realized that I am a nicer and more caring person than she ever is or was. The realization came when , after many years of not even going to see her, that when I did, it was like all those years of being abused by her came rushing back. And I couldnt take it. The juxtaposition of my life now compared to my life and my thinking back when she was abusing me, was so obvious. Fortunately she lives literally on the other side of the country. So I have all of those miles between us. She had now discarded me, again. Because I stood up to her, again.
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I read a book today next to a river...a duck came up and tried to nibble my shoelaces..he stayed for about 10 minutes and then waddled off... The little things make life worth living.. first of many I hope ...🙏☮️ Master manipulators...mine could go from gaslighting to devaluing to manipulating to triangulating all in a breath and it seemed so normal....Give me the duck any day...
I enjoyed your share...thanks! 👍
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Marie, Thanks right back 🦆 🦆🙏☮️
Yes! Animals and nature very healing to be around.
My narcissist coworker finally got called out,partly because of me, and now she's giving me the silent treatment while being nice to everyone else.
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@hongtruong4576 I know. I reported her bad,abusive, and childish behavior to the manager, and she's pissed.
Oh, well. I'm not speaking to her either.
Find another job,it's not worth your piece of mind,soon her flying monkeys will be coming after you.If you are a nurse,get another job
@cozy46 you sound lije a nurse Jobs are in abundance don't live with that...
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Both my parent's died not only did she not attend the funerals, she never said ONE word about it at all.she was washing dishes, and i said my father died, she shrouded her shoulders and said NOTHING,then the same thing for my mom.took all my sisters and friends from me.
Sad. When my dad was dying, mine screamed at me because I had looked to see what flights might be available while I waited for her to come home. She insisted he wasn’t really dying and I was blowing it out of proportion. She said she was a nurse and knew about such things better than I. My father died 36 hours later as my children and I were driving to see him. She refused to go and stayed home. She has never apologized or shown any compassion. She can’t even acknowledge that he died. She refers to it as the time he got sick. When I told her I was filing for divorce, she filed a false restraining order against me. The evil they are capable of is beyond my comprehension.
Oh boy some of your points are right on. Iam 3 years into healing. Thank goodness you are on facebook!!! I never knew what I was in this nightmare.!!! Until you and others shared the information. I have never worked so hard to heal....
Yep! For my ex narc his plans after discading me really fell apart. He fell flat on his face. Financially bankrupt. When he left he was fourty thousand dollars in debts. He didn't want to work anymore. And his plans to steal his best friend's wife did not work either. I am so glad to be free of him and thriving on my own. Have a wonderful evening Andrew 🤗💜❤️
Oh my! You can't make this stuff up .....
Same mine is 140k in debt. Expects me to be the “get out of financial ruin free” card. No accountability for their own debt and decisions leading up to it. Would just project on me about how I didn’t have enough money for our future when I have a million+. I never relinquished financial control of my own money and I was punished time and time again for it. Absolutely insane. Finally realized I was a resource. Thank god for this channel and all the others on UA-cam.
@@Ston3808 Good that you retained control! Stay safe
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"Thank you so much!"I really appreciate it. Is the truly true. Great advice.. Thank you. God bless you.
Very good videó ! God bless you ! After 20 years I’m free !🙏❤️
In the big thick of a divorce I'm healing and every step I take for me it's away from him.He has another source already .I sure feel for her lol..too bad she has kids bc he isn't good with kids after awhile..thank you Andrew..your pid cast have saved me.
That won't last long with the other chicks when they wake up their game is done with he won't get away with what he is doing
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Thanks Andrew for the time and effort you invest in helping others understand narcissism.
Personally I have never wanted vengeance for the narc. All I ever wanted was to see genuine sorrow with no excuse for the abuse they perpretated. I do not expect I will ever see that. God Bless!
They never apologize.❣️
Oh my God thank you for making these videos you have completely open my eyes I am an empath and recently divorced a narcissist your videos have been very I am so glad to have found your videos
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Amazingly well said dear Andrew. People need to hear this video 3 times or more! Thanks with all sincerity 💕⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Love, Mary 🐑
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God Bless you Andrew! Thank you! I discovered your videos recently and can't stop watching and listening. You take the words out of my mouth. As someone who is or has been codependent, I have my own dysfunctional patterns, but coming out from relationships, going through a healing program, Freedom Session, finding your truthful and powerful videos is so enlightening! Thank you. Keep up the great work!
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Being an empath is difficult unless you surround yourself with others who are the same. God did not make mistakes when we were created.
Jh, Hi, newbie here too, you're in good company here! Stay tuned stay safe ☮️🙏
My oldest narcisist brother was runned out of town by rummors that he had múltiple partners of young girls from his teaching days in a junion high school, hes now in a different town with new supply
Beautiful, Bright Shining Lights 🕯️Abundant people 😊- these words did my heart so good
The best part is knowing yr worth investing in you each day . Freedom 🎉
You hit it 100% . They can't sit still ! Wow Andrew 👌 It's like your seeing my life through a crystal 🔮 ball. After discarding me becauseI lost my job, my narc mother went to my sister, the new supply.
Needing someone and treating them like garbage at the same time, really doesn't make sense.
It's just not logical. Then again they aren't either.
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That's when it's done !
Of course it makes no sense - foolishness does not make sense to normal people
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That's why is called.. a personality disorder... If you understood it, you would be like them. Be happy you don't understand.