What I Learned from 'Tidying Up with Marie Kondo' on Netflix
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- Опубліковано 13 жов 2024
- Have you watched Tidying Up with Marie Kondo yet? I wanted to share my thoughts on this Netflix show & the KonMari wave as someone who's been practicing the KonMari method since 2015.
What do you think about minimalism vs. KonMari? Do you lean more towards one end?
// more on KonMari
→ KonMari Tidying Playlist | bit.ly/2qJSopu
→ KonMari folding videos | bit.ly/2qHVNW0
→ my most recent KonMari declutter | bit.ly/2VgI4mL
// Marie Kondo on Netflix
→ Tidying Up with Marie Kondo | www.netflix.co...
→ Marie Kondo Sparks Joy with Hasan Minhaj | bit.ly/2CQ3O0d
// KonMari books
→ book: The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo | amzn.to/1Kh0yGX
→ also really enjoyed this comic version: The Life-Changing Manga of Tidying Up | amzn.to/2kBFHNl
→ Spark Joy by Marie Kondo | amzn.to/2WtsnZZ
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I love that KonMari is not minimalism. Evaluating what sparks joy makes my life so much brighter!
It is minimalism and anti consumerism. Its great. The minimalists you see on youtube are just crazy extremests.. You dont need to go as far as them but its still minimalism.
Not sure I agree here on the "minimalist" label.
Certainly minimalists can also benefit from the Kon-Mari approach, and the end result typically does results in having less items... * Keep ONLY what brings one Joy* ... and Respect things enough to give them a proper Home, .. but the FOCUS is NOT on "getting RID of" things... but rather DECIDING what we really want to have SURROUNDING us... what is truly important to us. It is a SUBTLE and yet HUGE Difference.
The truth is ... we rarely truly WANT everything in our environment.
I have an old, rusted, too small crock pot... and every time I use it I get frustrated because it is too small for the task. It does NOT 'spark joy' . I am getting rid of it tomorrow. Yes, that does create space... but that is not the initial intention for letting it go... that is simply an added BENEFIT.
The difference between The Kon-Mari method and Minimalism is MINDSET.... Keeping what is valuable to us.... vs ... Getting Rid of ... for the sake of getting rid of.
The former comes from a place of Bounty, while the latter is more about Lack, EVEN if we end up with the same amount of items!
For me, mismatched glass wear, worn out pans, chipped dishes, etc end up creating a chaotic environment. I was holding on to things that were dragging me down. I finally realized that I did not have to feel guilty about letting them go. NOR did I need to feel guilty about keeping things that truly made me happy.
When I first attempted minimalism I thought I had to LET Go of even things I treasured.. . it was difficult to assess ... and so I got bogged down.
Now my criteria is totally different. More Joy... with a home for everything. It has been an amazing shift in ATTITUDE.
Faith Rada thank you for reminding me so vividly of this 🤩
Minimalism is supposed ro be appledied the way Marie Kondo does it, not just for the sake of having less things.
Audrey Nguyen Indeed, I sometimes feel that focus on minimalism and decluttering as much as possible can actually lead to feeling down and deprived. Instead of light-hearted.
agreed, I love how the Netflix show has brought minimalism into the public eye! I just hope it doesn’t start a cycle of buying just to declutter :’)
Or decluttering and then buying everything back...
Gurl you're amazing
studyquill completely agree with this! 🙌🏼
I would hope it wouldn’t go that direction since her method isn’t supposed to be about minimizing to just utility. I think the emphasis on holding onto and highlighting things you love will encourage people to recognize that they don’t have to feel guilty for having things they like. Then again, with all the twitter memes I’ve seen, I think a lot of people misinterpret that
Wow i didn't know you watched lavendaire! Woah
Marie Kondo sparks so much joy herself. I would definitely keep her.
Haha me too
i think its possible to be a minimalist and still have a lot of books... or certain clothes or... 'a lot' of something. i agree konmari and minimalism do share many similar values. i think that's the point... you use all these things and get value from them. people always try to push a 'right way' to do things. there will always be a spectrum imo♡ i think if you push too hard in any specific way, you are missing the point....
I agree, I have a library but it's a designated space so it fits my environment! I love books!!
I totally agree, I think it's actually one of the stereotypes about minimalism. You can have many books or many clothes or many music records, if you value and enjoy each one of them. At the same time if you don't care about makeup for example, you will only have the minimal amount or non at all :)
I think the kon mari method is closer to intentionalism (if that's a thing) and minimalism is closer to zero waste (low impact on the World or/and on your world)
...even if minimizing makes you value what you keep
@@moi379 agree with you.
At first I really thought konmari is about minimizing and just throwing away your stuff but when I watched the show, it became clear that it's actually keeping the things that you value and gives you happiness. If your 50 books spark joy in your life, then by all means, keep them. There was one episode where a couple still kept their christmas stuff and cards collection.
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AGREE WITH YOU! 👏🏻
Minimalism is not just about having less, it's about being conscious of what really gives value to your life - and with that I mean joy, use or emotional attachment. There's a scene from the Minimalism documentary in which they state just the same: if you really love your collection of books, hang on to them! Sometimes we forget about the real core of these movements. Of course everyone will use the term they feel the most comfortable using. Just remember that the whole "minimalism aesthetic" and real minimalism don't necessary overlap.
I agree!
Thank you for this comment! So many people seem to mix up the aesthetic with the lifestyle that I was starting to think I was in the wrong. We try to follow a minimalist lifestyle but our home is not white bare walls or scandi style.
I bought her book years ago as well and went through my house. I find it has ripples effects. Every year I've gone a bit deeper with it. It's the gift that keeps on giving. I love her book because it documents her personal journey. I agree she is a spark of joy. She is living proof of her own method:)
she's really a tiny 'little' fairy indeed ❤️❤️❤️
Alliah Rose I’m about to get her Life Changing “Manga” 📖 📚
Does she have fairy wings in the Manga version because that will explain the Magic 💫 🧚♀️
I like how loving and compassionate she is. I was actually really surprised when people kept certain items and Marie never judged what items brought joy though it seem frivoulous to others. The point is we shouldnt keep all these things that dont give us joy takes up space in our lives. Its actually very freeing using our intuition when sensing what gives us joy!
Good point, most people keep a bunch of stuff to simply say they have a bunch of stuff. From now on we shall lead with joy, thanks for sharing.
For sure Marie kondo deserves this attention and fame. In fact she deserves even more...
I love the way you explained the difference between Konmari and minimalism. I think they both serve the same purpose, to make your life happier and easier with stuff.
I think what is minimalist varies a lot between cultures (and people). For example, I'm from Finland and many minimalist videos seem just the general Nordic/Scandinavian style for me. And my minimalism would probably look crazy extremism for many people.
But you do you. Everyone has the right to find the style that best suits them regardless of how some others would call it.
I love your style and videos, keep going your path and encouraging others. :)
You're literally blooming, Aileen!! 😘 💕 My favorite is also episode 3! I love that she doesn't shame people about what they want to keep. Can't wait to see more videos in your 'new' home! 🏡
Right!! I love that too
The way I see it minimalism is about having the things that actually have a meaning in your life and you're actually using them in everyday life. Yes, minimalism refers to owning as little stuff as POSSIBLE, but it doesn't mean you have to have a very little amount of stuff and I think that's where people get confused/mistaken because it's really just having the things that you really use instead of owning things that are just collecting dust at back of the storage and never gets used. In this sense, minimalism is similar to Konmari method because you only have the things that have meaning in your life i.e. 'sparks joy'; people still can have a lot of clothes as long as each item has a meaning and they are actually used. I like minimalism because it has helped me to think what do I really need in my life and how can I make life easier. I've moved a lot in a few years, and owning a lot of stuff was frustrating and I realised that not every item is needed nor it doesn't bring me joy. Thanks to minimalism I only have the things I use and has a meaning in my life, and I really try to think when I have an urge to buy something 'do I really need this? am I gonna use it?'
but i want to thank you too because you are the one who introduce me to her.❤️ thank you, Aileen.
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Same! I knew about the book and the practice because of Aileen 💕
Marie's tweet debunking KonMari = Minimalism was news to me. Because I thought her rule: What sparks JOY... using the word JOY was intentional. It didn't say what sparks happiness? Comfort? It was Joy. And in my interpretation... Joy is very selective in our lives. The strong, explosive yet etherial feeling that comes very rarely means that the selection process is "strict" in a way. In my mind, very little material possessions would spark joy and therefore, the outcome would be minimalism. I actually cleaned out my room KonMari style last year and didn't achieve minimalism which left me feeling a little bit disappointed in myself but after watching her Netflix show and having other people as point of comparisons, I felt quite accomplished with my cleanse haha.
Marie is Japanese and "spark joy" is just a translation. She didn't put too much thought on the word "joy"
but everyone has their own meaning to is and i this Belle's meaning to it is a wonderful way of seeing it. I think Marie would love Belle's interpretation and would probably agree.
@@fluffipups I love that, thank you !
I think it’s because she’s connecting it to _The Minimalists_ version of minimalism. The two runners of the podcast and stars of the minimalism Netflix documentary have also talked about the KonMari method to express that they also think they’re different. I think they both view it more in the sense of the process rather than the outcome.
Where Marie would say you should pursue your ideal life by giving attention to things you absolutely love, Joshua Fields Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus would say you should pursue a simplified life and find joy through that simplicity. There is a question of if you like something but it’s always followed by if it’s useful. They do overlap because a lot of people may find that their ideal life _is_ one that’s incredibly simplified with things that are mainly there for utility with maybe a collection or two of things that don’t feel like they clutter or distract your life but something I think Marie Kondo’s show did a great job of doing was showing that a lot of people’s lives don’t turn into that. Many of the episodes have people that still have what might be considered a lot of clothes, books, decorations, and miscellaneous items all at the same time but she teaches them how to cherish _all_ of it; to give their things attention and a home and placing much more emphasis on the personal connection to your items than western minimalism.
I think it’s probably pretty common for people to be surprised that they haven’t gotten rid of as much as they thought they would but I also think it goes in waves. Like it’s something that can’t necessarily be done once because your vision of your life may change with time so you may actually add to a category or continue to downsize another
Love the 'greeting the home' aspect of it because it really gets you to take a moment and just sit in gratitude. Tidying and decluttering always feels so good. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this!
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First comment!
Since I have a affinity with anything Japanese, I actually started my journey with the KonMari method. when i finished it I stumbled upon minimalism then the debt free movement and started to make my own recipe combining them into my life. Now I am learning about the low impact/zero waste lifestyle and adding that to the recipe.
For me there is no distinction of what lifestyle I have or who I am because I am all of them and I am also not 100% following everything. I am just taking bits and pieces of the pros that fits my life right now and adding immense value while also sparking joy by helping the environment one reusable item at a time and saving money and have financial peace :D
I feel you on getting judged about minimalism in videos. I even get judged for decluttering certain items that other people don't think count. However, I try to keep my focus on the positive and inspire people with my minimalism tips. I also think your older minimalism videos were the reason I got into it lol :)
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What are the items you get judged on for decluttering?
Your folding videos are how I first found you. I had just read the book and was trying to figure out the folding, so your videos were very helpful. Thank you for your insights on the new show. My kids and I have been watching it together, and now they are more motivated to organize and tidy. Like you, I love seeing Marie in action!
I have too many hobbies to be a minimalist, lol. I do love the KonMari method, though. I've been slowly going through my little studio apartment for a year and really starting to love it. My goal is to make it a space that I just absolutely enjoy and will be stress free in, kind of like my own little sanctuary. Before the KonMari method, I would almost say that I was a hoarder, mostly an emotional hoarder, keeping everything that would have a memory to it, but after doing her method, she definitely changed my life and my way of thinking. So I am very thankful for Mari.
That’s a wonderful goal :)
Same! But I was definitely a "guilt hoarder" more than emotional. I couldn't get rid of gifts people gave me or things I felt like I wasted money on. Once I read her book, my mindset completely changed. I can't wait to have a stress free apartment!
GREAT VIDEO! Everything you said around 12 minutes was incredibly insightful!
UA-cam 101: do not label yourself and just simply do what makes you happy!
Thank you for this!
When I read the book I felt the urge to declutter and organize my things, and your videos on folding clothes were the best help for me as I didn’t want to spend much time “inventing” convenient ways for folding different clothing pieces. Thank you for going even further and showing how to tidy up and organize things on the computer. The Konmari method has changed my life, I’m very grateful for your videos helping and navigating me on the way ❤️
Even minimalism is different for each person - what we value and need in our lives differ from person to person. I think the Kon-Mari method helps you see value in what you own and rid yourself of things that do not add value, which also can work with minimalism, which wants you to utilize the things you own and embrace multi-purpose items. I think both concepts can live together peacefully. With anything, there are extremes, so there are people who have a goal of only owning 100 things, so it's more about what works best for the goal vs. what makes you happy.
The only time I think the Kon-Mari method doesn't really work is for people have actual disorders, like hoarding. Thanking items for most people is a way of showing gratitude and understanding the value things can bring to us in our lives, but for others, like my mother, it would encourage her to keep EVERYTHING, because she has an emotional connection to every thing in her house. I could see the method backfiring on people with those thought processes. I'd like to point out that anyone Marie Kondo works with is considered "normal". I've never seen her handle someone with actual hoarding tendencies.
Ahh good point on people who have an emotional connection to everything! That’s like my mom too lol
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You make an excellent point.
The first time I watches a true Hoarders situation it took me a bit to process what I was even seeing.
At one point I looked at the person's eyes... and.. Owww..ok, I finally understood. A true hoarder has a mental disorder... they need deep therapy and will sometimes never fully recover.
Niecy Nash of Clean House fame almost always dealt with 'normal' families with clutter, ... not hoarders... who are mentally challenged. They are two very different issues.
Hi I just wanted to thank you for everything you've done for me. I started watching your videos about a year ago and you're the one who inspired me to pick up Marie Kondo's book and implement konmari into my lifestyle (which has been amazing!) Not only that though. You inspire me to be the best version of myself possible. I've been in a bad place for a little while, these past two weeks have especially been pretty terrible what with starting the new semester in college and balancing my classes while thinking about all the expectations i have for myself and the pressure i feel from everyone else around me to be certain things, fill certain roles etc. I crashed hard and was feeling like such a useless person for not persevering and for continuing to stay in that negative space i work so hard to avoid. Finally after watching this video and hearing your voice and seeing your face again after not doing so for a long time I feel reenergized and i'm taken back to the feelings i had when i was in my best mindset and living the best life i possibly could. thank you so much you mean the world to me
Marie Kondo has a beautiful energy 💖 I loved seeing her on screen. Thanks for touching on minimalism vs. Kon Mari method. It’s important that we use whatever works for us and not feel burdened by things 🦋💖🙏
You are so amazing Aileen 💖💖💖💖
If you are looking for organising boxes, muji has the best collection of different sizes of boxes 💕 I use boxes for desk drawers, kitchen, wardrobe, keys, wallets, toilets. I hope the muji in the US has this product range!!
aileen,
your videos really motivate me to create new masterpieces and get my things together. it’s just something about your vibes that really make want to do much more productive things! simply, thank you for sharing such an amazing and helpful media with your followers and fans. good luck!
PLEASE PLEASE show us everything you declutter organize and decorate!! It would be a great series on this channel!
Beautiful! Loved this video... I haven’t seen the show and don’t have Netflix but I’ve enjoyed watching all about her and the Konmari method here on UA-cam. I love your thoughts on the different experiences and “levels” of minimalism and also pointing out the importance Marie emphasizes on sparking joy rather than being minimalistic... 💗🤗💗
I've always imagined her much more older, don't know why haha
Haha yeah she’s so young!
She looks like she is in her late 20´s but she is actually 34, so I wouldn´t call her young, but she looks amazing!!
I agree, the show is amazing and Marie is simply too bubbly & lovely to be true 😍
Also, the twEETS AND MEMES ARE PURE GOLD
Haha yes 😂
yes! shes literally a cleaning fairy
@@GraceLum true & she's just adorable on so many levels ❤️
If she looks too good to be true, she probably is playing a character.
@@dudanunesbleff maybe, maybe not 😂
I know plenty of people that are super bubbly irl, actually :)
I loved hearing your thoughts! This series really inspired me to "KonMari" my own home again, as I didn't have time to do it properly when I first read the book four years ago. I put together a 30 day challenge, and it is kicking my butt. I just posted my Day 10 video, and I had such a hard time letting go of stationary (I kept all my journals, notebooks, etc.). I'm finding that some categories are very difficult, whereas some (like CDs and DVDs) were relatively easy. Now that I'm going through the process myself, I feel like I can relate so much better with the series and how the families felt while tidying. x
This is my reward for keeping myself accountable and accomplishing all my goals all week. SO THANK YOUU!
The folding videos were how I found you in 2016 and I’ve learned so much more from you since. But they are the best out there for KonMari folding... 🙏
I guess it's good also that you acknowledged people's comments online though sometimes they are crazy, that what makes you step up to your game..realizing who you are and what you do. Love your videos💗
After watching your first video on Konmari method, I too decluttered my life. Now I am able to work on my passion with full of enthusiasm . You introduced that book to my life. You have introduced a lot of things in my life. Whenever I feel bad, I watch your video. Then I get an instant energy, joy. You are really filled with positive vibes. This is not an exaggeration. I want to meet you at least once in my life. But I am not sure as I am in India.. But I hope the law of attraction will definitely do a miracle in this case. Love you Aileen.
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Rooting for you as you move back home and tackle the process of tidying as you settle ☺️ I really enjoy your videos about organization; they keep me motivated to get my own things in shape. Thank you!! 💖
I've been loving the KonMari process and decluttering everything with a purpose. it's a weight off my shoulders. It's gave me the motivation I need in 2019 and put things into action. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
You are a genuine person. I love watching your videos. Be yourself, everyone else is taken. As far as minimalism is concerned, I think you are leaning more towards, sparking joy...than the strict rules of a minimalist . Being organized is very freeing. I come from a family of hoarders. While I am not a hoarder, I tend to have too much...stuff. I continually check myself. I only use a closet which is four foot by six foot. That contains every piece of clothing, shoes, boots, handbags, and under garments. To be able to see everything, makes for a quick reminder. If I go shopping, I give away the same amount that I buy. That works for me. Be the beautiful self you are.
Thx , Aileen, you inspired me a lot. I am really grateful that I see you on YT and thank you the Universe leads me here. I just got through a short-down-time . I really like the high energy, frequency you spread out through your words ,tone and your smile !
This January I have binge watched almost all of your videos and they have helped me so so much, I don't feel lost anymore and thanks to you I know I'll have a great year, and a great life. Thank you, Marie kondo will be so proud of me for finding your channel because it brings me so much joy. I'm sharing you with all my friends and they love you too! Thanks for being such an awesome person ❤️
Aw thank u ❤️
I love the way you explained how putting a label on yourself makes you vulnerable to criticism. I never thought of it like that but I have experienced it. Thanks for that explanation.
Hi, Aileen! I wanted to share, that it really was the video of how to fold KonMarie style, that brought me to your channel like a year ago. And I gratefully stick with both now! :) I keep only the ‘joy spark’ things, even though it’s far from being minimalist. Thank you for pointing out the difference, it’s crucial for finding your happy way in organizing!
Loved the video! I started "konmari-ing" over a year ago, but got interrupted by , well, life, and now that I'm fit to continue it's so cool to have this massive media support in this huge endeavor.
The down side of it is that everyone and the grandma is making konmari videos, and in such multitude there is a lot of repetition and lesser quality videos; I start watching, but some just spark rage!
This, however, was a lovely refresher. I started again soon after New Year and I can already see the tidying impacting my life and the way I think. Btw, I am tackling kitchen today - all the cooking- and foodware.
Thanks again for your thoughts, I can relate to so much of what you say. And I'm subscribing.
Here's to keeping it real! Rock on girl!
Good morning... I just want to let you know that you are a channel has really changed my life listening to your voice is just so calm and relaxing and all your chips have utilized of their amazing they have literally changed my life... I suffer from anxiety and panic attacks and having everything organized having everything look fresh and lovely has really made me feel so much better so I thank you!!
Thank you, I’m so happy for you!! 💓
It’s my first time on your channel and I do like how you share the information here. I myself read KonMarie methods last year but for some reason, I wasn’t able to put myself down to clean up my room (I live with my Mother). And after a traumatic experience with people late last year/early this year, something in me sparked, that I sat down in my room everyday in the evening till 2am, just sorting things slowly, asking myself if those items sparked joy or not, this gave me inner peace, that I forgotten how it felt internally.
Even though I would be cleaning a section of my room after work till past midnight, I didn’t feel tired, or felt like it was a chore. It felt great. I threw out almost 50 bags of items, I organised my items, my book, my cosmetics, my wardrobe. Even managed to get some drawers and compartments from local stores and Taobao to help me keep it neat.
My room now looks way much better than before, and yes there is still a bit of mess. I wouldn’t foresee myself to be a minimalist person but I want to keep things that makes me happy in my room, in the house I share with my mum. It has granted me a little more mental strength while going through PTSD and anxiety, that many people who care for me, realised the light in me.
I hope more people would have a chance to KonMarie and also to watch your videos too, to spark a change in their life. :)
Sorry if I sounded Long winded..
Your point about the difference between konmari and minimalism is so good and I hope more people would realise that difference.
I totally LOVED the inclusiveness. Homosexual and heterosexual couples, all ages and backgrounds, without making it a big deal at all. I also noticed how (cis het) men are socialized SO differently as opposed to women. It's really sad, thinking of the fact that it is 2019 now, and all the old-fashioned gender roles are still engrained in the succeeding generations... I hope this will soon be a thing of the past.
KonMari is not equal to Minimalism, I guess, since the art of storing, folding etc. is not "like a rulebook" for the latter, but for the first :) That is why one is a METHOD and the other is a LIFESTYLE. They have touchpoints for sure, and they don't exclude eachother.
3rd edit instead of spamming: GOSH you are so pretty and radiating, great lipstick color on you, too. Keep up the amazing content and the soothing voices (but no ASMR pls).
I loved the inclusiveness too!! And totally, the gender roles in the home is a whole other topic to get into
vegan feminist hey, I thought your comment was interesting because in my interpretation anyway, I think Marie Kondo kind of split the tasks that way. Like there was a part I think the partner was a woman and Marie told her let’s work in the kitchen and she looked like she wasn’t sure at first that it was the section she wanted to work on. I did notice she always worked with the ladies in the kitchen and men in the garage but idk if that is how they would necessarily have done it without her guidance. (If that makes sense).
@@savannahcoleman5672 I get what you mean! It seemed like they tidied what's important to them, e.g. hobbies, maybe? And let's be real, noone wants to do the kitchen alone :D or ok, some might.
@@lavendaire Oh, and I loved how Marie treated the woman who suffered a terrible loss and I am sure it was so hard for her to discard/donate the things her husband owned. Liked the theme "after a loved one has left" a lot.
I am so grateful that I found your channel years ago through a Marie Kondo video, the technique has changed my life and I love your channel too. I also really liked episode 3 in particular :-).
Decluttering, home for everything, organizing and keeping everything in order gives such a sense of accomplishment.. its relaxing
I love the way you explained everything. So kind and thoughtful. I tell my friends I am Marie Kondo's grandmother because I have been doing her (my) methods for years, but I never did the "spark joy" part. That's my new addition to my well organized, deliberate and minimal ownership of "stuff". :-)
Marie so cute! *I watched one episode and I'm inspired to apply some of her tactics into my life.*
She is "Contagious"... in a VERY Good Way! 😆
@@faithrada have you watched the full series?
Love your hair :D
Also yeah, boxes.... shallow boxes can be hard to find.
P.s. I Also call her Mari-eh Kondo, and have followed the method for a long time, as well as your channel; and when I started watching her on Netflix my bf was like, she has the exact same name and spelling as you, why would you say her name different? and like you, I explained that it's the difference of the pronunciation from language to language... like if I went to Japan, I'd say my name like Mari-eh vs muh-reee.
I saw that IG comment too about her thoughts on minimalism and I actually agree entirely. I love the aesthetic, idea, and look of minimalism, but I also find that I collect a lot of things (random stationery/ stickers, Funko Pop figurines, hats) that actually do spark joy and that’s why I never considered myself a minimalist.
That said, because I’ve just moved into my new place this month, the whole process has just been KonMari. I still have a third of unpacking left to do, and I’ve honestly been avoiding it because most of that stuff I feel like I have to discard it all out for not sparking joy. More on that later!
Thanks Aileen for this video and being brave enough to share your thoughts and finding on KonMari 😘❤️✨
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When I first started researching how to declutter about two years ago, I was lucky enough to stumble upon one of her books. And then when I jumped onto UA-cam for inspiration, I found your channel. So Marie did lead me to you and I'm so very glad!!! 💗 Love your content.
I did the whole Konmari process two years ago but having binged watched her whole series I have stared again, so inspired. You’re right you do acquire items that have no designated home but starting it all again it’s become quite easy to find places as I rearrange things. Personally I don’t see this as minimalism, to me it’s more of a gratitude journey and the results make everything seem fresh. Good luck with your Konmari process in your new home and wishing you every happiness there x
I feel somewhere in between Konmari and minimalism. I love the idea of only owning things that spark joy but I also feel like only owning what you really need is healthy for me. I’m a “victim” of retail therapy, and being able to ask myself “Do I really need this, even if it sparks joy?” has helped me a lot. Personally, retail therapy items are very dangerous cause all of them spark joy... except it’s only in the moment I hold them and I feel in need of them. Then once I get them, I don’t use them or even regret getting them.
So I think the grey area between Konmari and minimalism is what works best for me. I try to only buy and own what I truly need, and only if it sparks joy and I want the item with me “from this moment going forward”.
P. S. I got my AoL workbook yesterday and I love it to bits. I also haven’t thrown away the box because I thought it would be perfect to organize drawers, so weird to know that’s what you meant it for!
Yes! Keep the box & reuse it ✨
I love konmari so much! We really need a second season! 😂 Loved hearing your thoughts on it!
Hi if you could make an expanding box/organising system that could fit any drawer that would be great.
that would be challenging and creative😮😮 love it
Ikea do lots of things like this - I own a few different things. A set of fabric boxed, a divider system that slots together and you can cut to fit any drawer (great for my scarf collection)
I struggle to find the right boxes for everything I have to store. All boxes are too high or too wide.
I love how much more confident you became! I don't know you but you made such an impact on my life Aileen!
I've started to watch your videos a long time ago and they've made me achieve my own version of dream life path.
Love you lots!
Aww thank you! Happy for you ✨
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This video is right on time. I am decluttering my entire house. As I sort things it is very helpful to have your videos playing in the background for inspiration. Also I am thankful for your videos and podcasts both of which helped calm, relax and motive me through stressful times in my life.
Glad I can help you 🙏🏼✨
I have watched all the shows and I loved it. I was already on a declutter journey and this just helped me to be more inspired. I have already started and along with watching you, it’s been a great motivator.
I love that you brought up minimalism in the video. I actually heard about the KonMari method from your videos and got inspired about 2 years ago to fold my clothes that way. And then some time after that, I wanted to downsize and then change my wardrobe to be that of a minimalist. So I kind of went back and forth between what sparks joy and asking myself, "Do I really need this? When was the last time I wore this?"
Looking forward to seeing your new and improved organized home!
your channel is SO amazing! It's peaceful, inspiring and super helpful, thank you so much for sharing your amazing self with the world!
I feel you. I also hate when people comment mean things. But I think the universe gave us these people to grow. Maybe it’s our task to overcome our personal neediness of being understood and accepted and in addition try to let negative people be negative if they don’t ask for help. I wish you a wonderful day 🍀
My sister had this show on the other day and was like "have you heard of this show before? It's supposed to be really inspiring!" And I was like... sis... *I watch Lavendaire!* 😅💖
Love that shade of lip colour on you! It brings us joy to see you radiate in your videos
This is THE best explanation with regards to minimalism and konmari method, Thank you so much for showing me a clearer view of those concepts 🤗🤗🤗
The family in episode 3 reminded me of my own family. We moved to a new part of our country to a much smaller home and seeing how they struggled with storage is the same problem that we had, just at a greater scale.
I adopted the minimalist lifestyle just before we moved so had much less to work with. But once we arrived I realised I could get rid of more and I did. I am convinced it is what made last year so good for us, we could focus on the important things in our life instead of items in our life.
Hey there Lavendaire! I just want to say that you are the only lifestyle UA-camr that I watch (I occasionally look at a video from someone else, but their content doesn't keep me coming back)! You are so peaceful and encouraging when sharing any information, be it observations or opinions. I think that the way your videography flows honestly calms any anxiousness that I have down. The color palettes you choose from are beautiful and soothing yet energizing! I have been a fan of your channel for just about a year and did part of your artist of life series (I didn't stick with it - one of my habits that I would like to change about myself). I have yet to write to you with any input as a viewer, so I thought that it was high time that I did! I would say that watching your videos while making breakfast and getting ready for my day is one of my favorite morning routines - it puts me in such a positive mood for the rest of my day! ✨
I did also find The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying up through you, and it was nice to have someone to look to for their progress and how it affected their life ☺️ I can't wait to watch this Netflix series!!!
Thank you for being so authentically you, and for encouraging others to be just that, too. You share yourself exactly as you are and you are always honest with us. That's inspiring! And thank you for putting out beautiful content so consistently! 💜💮
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I appreciate you soo much. Thanks for this very kind comment ❤️
@@lavendaire 🙏 You are very welcome! ❤️
I love your explaination about labeling yourself. People are judging so quickly when it’s only making others feel bad. It’s the same for vegans who like to eat cheese once in a while or vegetarians who eat meat one time a year or something. Trying to live zero waste but you buy one item in plastic, because it’s your favourit food. People judge other people who are trying to do something good. Let them try and let them fail. Compliment others on what they are doing great instead of taking them down, let’s make this world a better place, we are the onces that can do this!
I actually was just telling my mom how its funny everything came full circle with Marie Kondo being on netflix now. I literally discovered your channel through the konmari method videos you posted which I shared them with my family and now with this show I thought it was funny how everyone is talking about it but me and my fam already started implementing it in our lives way before thanks to your videos!😄
My personal goal for 2019 is organization! I started late last year purging items I dont want anymore to goodwill(they will take anything no questions asked) which gave me more relief to be honest. Watching her on Netflix just really helped me with her folding methods and narrowing the rest of my house down to what we love.
Love the show, bought the book but I'm in the middle of finishing another book before I crack it open.
Between your videos, Netflix, and everything I've learned so far, I almost want to call the KonMari method a healthy approach to minimalism. Minimalism, at least online, seems to have gone over the deep end, almost to an extreme. KonMari is a healthy, practical, and efficient approach to reducing consumerism, clutter, and focusing on what you enjoy, need, and getting rid of waste. You could also call it a practical approach to consumerism because it gives you permission to buy and own things, without delving into the realm of excess. What I love most about it is that it's a balanced approach. You don't need to own hoards and hoards of items but you also don't need to get rid of all your worldly possessions. In a world (well internet) that seems to operate in absolutes, Marie Kondo says, "no, let's be practical, realistic, and efficient about it while acknowledging your human emotional needs as well." And I think that's why this method sparks me joy ;)
Yes yes! Agreed
When you talked about label, that really hits me. I don't like labels as well because its very limiting and just makes you more prone towards unnecessary negativity. Thank you for sharing this aileen 💜
I'm so glad you touched on the pronunciation. As coming from a Japanese American family I totally understand where you're coming from, but I know a lot of other people are confused about it. thanks for clearing that up!
I remember watching your videos a few years back and going through the process! I've made a couple of videos on how to fold shirts and pants! I also took the concepts and applied it to cleaning up my classroom. I'm a high school Spanish teacher and her concepts have really helped me so much!!
I just watched tidying up on Netflix and open UA-cam to see this video you made it.
I am so agree with you on describing the different and the same thing between Minimalism and Marie Kondo' method. There are quite important idea in both of them ,and we can learn it to make better life as well. And thank you for sharing the good viewpoints from your own experience.
I like your reminder about containers- I need more to keep items tidier on shelves particularly. It ‘s the idea of everything having a space but on shelves and in drawers it is like micro managing those spaces, so that things don’t merge and jumble xx
Thanks for the tutorial on her name pronunciation. As an avid linguist, I wondered how the pronounced [Kon] Mari came from Marie... But hadn't taken the time to research it, because what you did is actually orthoepy-the study of pronunciation.
And the freedom I'm experiencing to find homes for the things I love...(instead of the guilt to minimalize)?
Exhilarating!!! Thanks for the encouragement.
I discovered minimalism almost 9 years ago and I have been practising it in different ways since. I read Marie Kondos books a couple of years ago and quickly going throug all our things helped me reach the "sweet spot" she talks about in her books. I also fold most things and have a home for everything. But I don't want to own everything that sparks joy. I don't want to own a lot of things and I suppose that sparks joy for me. I loved the Netflix series and have done some extra organisation since :)
I love this method and have used it for years and it makes life so much simpler! Biggest change was the wardrobe. I didn't get the same feeling from the show as I did from the book, but it was amazing to see the action. I love her tips on giving everything love and care, it has made me appreciate everything so much.
You have such a soothing presence! I absolutely love Tidying Up on Netflix but I saw a viral video a good few years ago on how to fold clothes upright like that and never realised it's Marie Kondo's way until the show came out!
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This feels like fate, I was just watching videos about the KonMari method yesterday.. I started decluttering my room yesterday late at night, and I think it's going to take me two weeks until I'm completely done :')
I'm not a minimalist at all, the KonMari method speaks more to me. I love collecting books, and having lots of clothes but I'm definitely getting rid of stuff that doesn't spark joy for me anymore. Thank you for the lovely video, Aileen! ♡
I love the idea of selling just the boxes! I would buy them 😅
I have been reading the book, and watched the show. It is inspiring. Thank you for letting us know of her correct pronunciation! I like how you broke down specific points from Kon Marie method. It made me want to really use it in my home. Thank you!!
I actually started watching your videos, when you made those decluttering and Konmari videos. my first decluttering took me half a year and I have gone through my stuff a second time up until now but I feel like I am not fully finished yet. I share the thought that minimalsim and Konmari are not 100% connected but they do overlap sometimes. last year I finally read both books (and enjoyed them a lot!) and I am excited to watch this series with my bf who first helped me to declutter my home and I helped him to declutter his stuff when we moved in together. :D it helped us grow as a couple as well!
Really love our explanation on meeting someone's minimalism-labels it's impossible. I like the idea of owning less but have definitely more than 3 pair of shoes 😊 love from Vienna Austria
I love her method and have been going through the process after watching the series. This sparked more in me than the idea of minimalism. I forgot to do the thanking part to, but I have been able to go through my things easier with the spark joy process and how she organizes.
Lovely world map in the background. I have found folding clothes more enjoyable as I'm now only keeping items that I wear and spark joy to me.
I completely agree! When you put a label on yourself people start judging you and I personally become more strict and jugdmental with myself while trying to fit into this label.
Unnecessary drama ❤️❤️💓 great great video! Thank you
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. This is rather motivating for me who had stopped half-way through my de-cluttering. I truly hope to be able to find the energy to restart again. In my personal opinion, minimalism and KonMari method are not the same. Because the number of things that spark joy normally differs from what people expect of minimalism.
Thank you again. Best wishes.
People can be so rude. Your content is great. Thanks! I’m so motivated with the Kon Mari method. I’ve cleared so many clothes from my closet that I haven’t worn in some cases 10 years.
Thank you for your channel. I found your videos for folding and stuck around for everything else. Your videos are well done and very helpful!
I absolutely love the Kon Mari method! The next category I have to go through is sentimental. It’s so nice surrounding yourself with only things you love. Thanks for sharing!!💜
I LOVE THIS VIDEO SOO MUCH 💖
Im so inspired and obsessed that I cannot put it in words! Also, im so happy with her show on Netflix! “EVERYTHING IN YOUR HOME NEEDS A HOME” makes so much sense to me now!
I totally agree with the book collecting part. One of the things I don’t like about moving (especially to a new city) is that I’d have to get rid of all my books and notebooks and just knick knacks that have a lot of sentimental value but very little practical value.
I’ve always thought of minimalism (and the minimalists themselves say) to advocate keeping whatever makes you happy, even before I heard about the Konmari method and sparking joy
Totally agree with your thought about Konmarie and minimalism. For me, spark joy brings a better life for me and control we buying excessive stuff that we don't need and do not spark joy us because we just wanna buy it.
💜Loved the book Tidying up! I have always perceived minimalism as a way of life living simply. Having things that you either loved or needed, not a specific number of things. We should have things that serve us to keep them and not the other way around.
Thanking our things before letting them go is a great way of releasing ourselves any guilt we may carry for items. It frees us to live!
It is sad that so many people are tied down to the large amount of things that actual own them. Storage units shouldn’t be need because your house is too full. They should only be used as a transition.
Thanks Aileen for introducing me to Marie Kondo! It’s been freeing 🦋