1. Buy Nice or Buy Twice 2. If its not a "HELL YES" then its a "No" 3. Declutter before Organization 4. If you don't use it, you lose it 5. Wishlist and Wait 6. A place for everything 7. Don't Buy a Problem 8. Have a "Why" before you Buy 9. The "Spark Joy" Rule 10. If you can't buy it with cash, you can't afford it
I recently saw a post about decluttering that said, "if it had poop on it, would you throw it out or take the time to wash it off?" Best tip I've ever seen.
I’ve heard this one before and was instantly reminded of when someone puked on my heels at a party and I had them sitting in a bag to clean them but never got to it and wound up just having to toss them. They were $40 (which to me was a lot of money, I bought them in hs for homecoming and I distinctly remember being upset bc I didn’t even rly like them and felt bad that my grandma had to spend that much money on shoes I didn’t even really like, lol). So I’ve definitely lived this advice before, really drives the point home 😂
I had a pair of boots that were really worn out and no good, but I couldn't bring myself to throw them away until my cat peed on them. It was easy after that. She was just helping me out. Lol
People may or may not agree with this. I used to work in high-end retail where my employee discount still wasn't good enough... I would try on whatever I wanted, Then if I saw it on ebay months later and it was affordable for me I could reconsider getting it and know what size fit. One benefit of trying on everything you're interested in helps you know what actually looks good and what doesn't so you can stop daydreaming about an item and take it off your list of things. There have been plenty of times where I was so in love with something and then I tried it on and it did not work for me at all and I was so glad that I didn't waste time or money on it.
I had a similar experience working in a shoe store. I'd fall in love with the look of boots that just didn't work for my feet or ankles or calves. But if they did work, and my size was still there when they went to clearance and I still loved them, I knew it was meant to be!
@@JM-rb3wy not only do I completely agree, I have done this for years! And I buy all my clothes on ebay (except underwear🥰). To me it’s a really good way to stay out of the fast fashion trap (which is rampant in retail now) and a great way to reuse clothing so it won’t end up in a landfill somewhere. I know what brands i like and what size I wear in them, so I keep an eye out. Love it.♥️♥️
Has anyone noticed that nowadays sellers on ebay, etc. want to flip everything *including* used clothing, to the point where they expect to even make a profit on top of what they have payed for that dress or coat, etc. And I don't mean vintage (although that is getting out of hand too), but last season's clothes at H&M, etc... This annoys me so much.
Your channel has literally changed my life. This February, I came to terms with the fact that I was not only a shopping addict, but a full blown hoarder. I have worked tirelessly since then selling, rehoming, and donating to my local shelter. (And even throwing things away because honestly a lot of it was literal trash.) I just bought a house and I'll be starting fresh in a new space with only things that I love and need, and it truly feels like I'm walking on air. Never again will I allow "stuff" to control me. I own it, it doesn't own me. Thank you for your vids :)
Number 9 reminds me of the William Morris quote: "Have nothing in your house that you do not know to be useful or believe to be beautiful." I like this philosophy because some sentimental or decor items are not necessarily useful, but they are special and beautiful to me. And that means they are worth having. 💕
I think it also depends what you are buying. My mom bought me a cheap t-shirt for what amounts to a little more than a dollar, closer to about one euro when I was a teenager. I wore that t-shirt regularly (think about 2 times a week regular) for about 8 years before it tore badly enough that I can't wear it as a t-shirt (I plan to turn it into a tank 'cause I love it). You should judge the quality of what you're buying rather than judge by the cost.
I'm a firm believer in functionalism. Everything in my life should serve a function of some sort. That way people have room to be themselves and identify their needs without being too restrictive.
I still have my wedding dress 😁 I do not wear it, but I like to look at it from time to time, it arises sweet memories when I was ten years younger and ten kilos slimmer 😂 Is it still functional to keep it? No, it is not, but it is still there and it is priceless for me
I have this - to a point. Knickknacks are OK. They're not meant to be anything but ornamental (though, most of mine were gifts or a souvinier). But I do not buy things I don't intend to use. And I'm far more likely to buy something ugly that's more useful to me than the pretty option (this comment brought to you by my vacuum in the living rokm).
A rule I lived by this week was Before you buy, use what you have. I needed a notebook for a project, but went through my stationery basket and found a new, pretty good one. My eco bag broke. Instead of buying a cute one I saw in a shop, I looked in my gift pile (fun, small gifts I keep on hand) and found one. And now, I think I want a sleek, small knapsack with a water bottle holder. I might buy one, but for now, I’m using a knapsack that for some reason I never used. So far, it’s working well. Even though there’s no dedicated bottle pocket.
I've been living by this for a while now, especially when it comes to notebooks, stationery, and bags. I haven't stuck to it perfectly, but what has helped me the most is keeping in mind that I have an entire closet full of notebooks, journals, planners, and bags. I also have drawers and boxes full of pens, markers, highlighters, sticky notes, tapes, stickers...oh, and a whole shelf in my notebook closet is dedicated to scrapbook paper! And there are more stashes in another room in my house! So, I *literally do not need* any more stationery items or handbags. Anytime I'm out shopping, I try to picture all the things I already have or at least tell myself "I already have this at home!" It works about 85% of the time, so I call it a win!
If the replica passes certification testing just as good as the original, but is worth only one-tenth of the original...that's the problem. This is why markets exist. The *jklux* 1-1 replica is a real investment package, you get the same quality and the same materials for a tenth of the price, but it passes the test
I do this and if I don't have what I need, I'll ask around. Often friends or family have a brand new or gently used thing that will work for me + they're happy to re-home. My work backpack was finally starting to fall apart after 10 years of heavy use. After not being able to find a replacement I loved, I asked around and was able to find a gently used backpack that works perfectly for my purposes. It's not a color or style I would've picked but I love it because it was an intentional acquisition that was also free :)
I think it also really helps in reducing waste and forced labor. Fast fashion, hauls, and consumerism directly affects humans in the Congo, Palestine, and Kenya. The more intentionality we bring into life, the more intention we give to others too! Love it.
I think that at times the urge to shop comes from a general disatisfaction with yourself or with your life. Going shopping was a quick pick-me -up for me but it usually only lasted till I got home and realised I didn't need what I bought and could have saved the money. I've slowly learnt that I actually get more of a buzz being out in nature so I'm now more likely to head for a forest or park etc than to the noisy shops. Even if you're living inner-city you can go for a walk and take time to notice leaves on trees, the sun behind clouds... I come home feeling refreshed rather than exhausted :-)
I loved shopping, but I find when you spend more time with your hobbies, you’ll get a better release. Your hobby is being with nature, mine is growing it. I love growing my plants, cutting them, growing roots on the cuttings and watching that cutting grow. It always amazes me how you can take a cutting with 1 leaf, put it in water and have an entire plant a year later!
Rich people are not like you or me. They compete with each other in yachts, jewelry, art, travel and homes. Meanwhile, we're on the subway or bus with our precious Louis Vuittons. Why bother? *jklux* More rational
Some of my friends cannot believe my cheap self will buy $70-90 ThirdLove bras...but if I bought $20 Target bras I would not be comfortable or look as good in my (mostly thrifted) wardrobe! Sometimes better quality is so worth the price.
For sure! Also, this might just be bc I’ve pretty much always had big boobs so cheap bras were never an option for me, but I literally didn’t even realize that people spent less than at LEAST $40 on bras until fairly recently. I remember seeing reviews for pepper bras (which is a brand that makes rly well-fitting bras for small boobs/cup sizes) and the only complaint was that they were expensive (I think maybe ~$50), and I was literally boggled, lol. I will always spend money on good bras, there’s literally no point otherwise
I mean, i hear you but the expensive bras are being produced relatively cheaply too. I doubt they are worth anywhere close to 70 dollars, but yeah I get the „cheap bras don’t work“ thing. Same here 😅
Those friends probably have normal or small sized boobs, lol. I buy third love too, very comfortable, but I can’t find my size in store or cheaper if I tried, lol.
I always have Vivienne Westwoods "Buy Less, Choose Well, Make it Last" in my head whenever I find myself wanting anything. It definitely helps control any impulse I have for things that I may not necessarily need, but also, which I might not want for very long! I can't have clutter in my closet or really anywhere in my house because it really distracts me from my work (i'm a poet), and it just helps me a lot to know what i truly WILL wear, and will love for a long time. So happy you have a membership level for your channel now. Hope you get lots!!!!
I remember coming across a saying that was attributed to a Rockefeller. "Buy the best you can afford and use it up". That always stuck with me, even if I don't always follow it.
My rule: if I didn’t already know I needed it when I walked into the store, I can’t buy it. Once I get home, I can sort out if I need it but consistently I won’t even remember it.
This!!! I think it’s the same with online shopping, and you see a SALE and then you start to add things to your cart. Instead I add to Wishlist. I leave things In there, and the amount of times I go back in and end up removing 90% of them is astounding lol
The buy nice or buy twice is a great rule. I think it works best for items that you know you like or use frequently. If it's an item for a new hobby though, I like to buy the most affordable option first just to see if the habit or hobby sticks. Then when the behavioral change I'm trying to make is more permanent, then I start looking at more high end models/brands.
Ooh yes, that’s what I did for fountain pens. I bought an affordable one first, one that I wouldn’t be afraid to damage or lose, plus one bottle of ink. When I became regular in writing in my journal with the fountain pen, that’s when I bought more pens and ink colours.
I have adhd, so practicing with delaying gratification is always difficult for more, but so good for my mental health when I get better at it! Thank you for the great tips! It also helps me to replace the impulse buy with something else that gives me gratification, like talking to a friend, listening to music I love or playing a silly game that is easy to win :).
Love all of these! I need to think before I buy. I've definitely learned my lesson that if you buy a less expensive substitute for what you really want, you never really enjoy it. Just took a huge carload of donations to charity. Applied the "hell yes" test, which was so rewarding!
Absolutely!!! Even if it’s expensive I only buy what I really want and guess what I never regret it! If I have to, I save and even wait but that itch gets scratched and I feel satisfied
I’ve used the “if it’s not a heck yes” rule a lot while clothing shopping. Also, if I have about 2-3 clothing items in my hands, make myself put one back on the rack before going to a check out. I’ll be forced to put back an item that I feel “meh” about.
I like it too. However, I have to watch myself because I have been known to use it as an excuse in the moment: "Oh, I'll get this now, and when I get home I'll go thru and pick something to get rid of." But by the time I get home, I'm too tired and/or I've forgotten my intentions. I do eventually declutter, but it never goes according to my plans.
@@mrandisg I ask myself when I'm deciding to buy, which of my current things am I willing to get rid of. This often makes me realize I don't need the new thing as I like everything I already have.
If it’s a “Hell yes!” reasonably priced piece of basic clothing, I buy it in two colours. If the cut and fit and comfort are right then I know I’ll wear it often so I may as well have two good things. I’ve done it with jeans, trousers, T-shirts and knitwear in plain, neutral colours. That way you feel good and so you aren’t constantly looking for something new because you enjoy what you have.
I wish I understood the principle of buying the highest quality I could afford when I was first purchasing furniture. I now have a bunch of inexpensive furniture that not only looks cheap, but is substandard quality.
Hey Christina, I know you've mentioned in previous videos that you don't like wearing gold jewelry against your skin because you feel it blends in too much but I just gotta say how you styled your outfit in this video with the multiple gold necklaces looks so good on you, very chic and I love the color combo!
After I decluttered all the synthetics and everything that didn't have a flattering fit, *POOF* I was a minimalist. Buying secondhand pretty much follows all your rules and you can really determine the quality of a piece and its true size.
I love to watch your video to stop myself from buying things on an impulse and remind myself to save money. Your logic resonates with me, so I keep coming back :) Thank you for making these videos.
I'm shooting for minimal-ish as well. I have decluttered easily 80% of what I once owned, and like having empty spaces, but I also like having nice things around me and my rooms to feel cozy instead of bare. I'm a new empty nester and for the first time in my life have a place to myself. I am enjoying clearing out all of the stuff I have been waiting to let go of. My goal is to have a place that I could easily pack up in a weekend if I were to move and I am very close to getting there. =)
Asking myself before buying anything “do I need it or I just want it?” or “will I have a place to put the new thing I buy?” was a gamechanger buying less clutter and keeping my apartment organized.
when I buy every day shoes I buy very good quality. If I buy cheap they lose too much support then my knees start hurting. I buy running shoes from a locally owned running store. The shoes last me almost a year. Spending about $150 for a year free from hip and knee pain is priceless. I also had bad bursitis in my hips that required injections and a lot of physical therapy. Then I read something and discovered a bad mattress and side sleeping can cause the problem. So I bought a good bed and the problem went away! spending $1200 on a bed saved thousands in medical bills
The “HELL YES” and “spark joy” are ones I’ve been leaning more and more into. With clothes especially. I’m someone who spent their childhood into mid-twenties overweight and unhappy and obsessive about it. I hated how I looked. Once I lost weight I suddenly liked how I looked in clothes so I started buying any and everything. Over the last few years I’ve realized that just because it fits me, doesn’t mean I need to buy it. Now I only buy clothes that spark joy and it has made all the difference.
Similar to your wish list, I will put items I want in the (online) cart but then I will leave it. If I’m still thinking about the thing a week later, I will go back and reconsider it. And sometimes the company will email you a coupon to try to get you to come back and check out. So you’ve got to be strong enough to ignore that push until you are ready to buy.
This summer I decided to declutter my summer shirts, my rules were: I would wear everything at least once before repeat wearing, anything that l took out and didn’t wear for whatever reason, ie: didn’t fit, needed repair, no longer was my style, uncomfortable etc… went straight to the donate bin (or trash). I got rid of a lot and feel so much better. I realized I was hanging on to items because I thought I should like it or I paid good money for it or I’ll wear it in a pinch….it’s so freeing to have that stuff gone!
I've been decluttering for years - there's always more! I found a game changer for me was when we needed to clear out our loft space to have work done. There was so much up there which was water damaged and that wasn't worth the effort of saving. In the end I discovered I only wanted a few keepsakes and the Christmas decorations (heavily pared back!) I bought some decent storage containers (a keep sake box for each of us, and x3 for Christmas decorations) which stack nicely. The items were lovingly cleaned up and now live within the house, are easily accessible and the loft is completely empty! My point is, starting with an area which isn't as meaningful to you can help build those decluttering muscles. After all, we often chuck stuff we're not too bothered about up in unseen areas.
Such a great comment. It reminds me that Minimalist - Sibu, when he is helping people declutter their homes, strongly advocates to have your items visible as much as possible (clothes hung up, items in clear drawers or on shelves, etc). I had not thought about this as an important idea to help us to use what we have.
The one thing about clutter is that it stands in your way to do the things you want or need to do. You can't cook with stuff all over your kitchen counters, so you spend time and energy on cleaning before you can cook. In the end you just look at the mess and order take-out instead, adding to the problem. This is why decluttering and actually thinking about why you need the item or if you use it often enough for it to be worth it is so important. Clutter is mentally exhausting even if we don't think about it. Take one drawer at a time, one shelf at a time, it becomes less overwhealming that way.
#10. #10. #10. Credit card debt becomes financial enslavement for too many people. If you don't have the cash, wait until you do. This whole video is a great compilation of things I've learned the hard way(s) over the years that unfortunately is not taught in school or college. Thanks for posting this Christina!
I remember being in university and chatting with the guys at a credit card sign-up table. I told them about my method for tracking what I spent. I had an account book from my credit union (to record purchases, cheques, etc.), and I kept track in there of stuff I spent from my debit account and also on my credit card, with a way to note whether or not I had paid my credit card bill. I treated my credit card like a debit card and never spent what I didn't already have. I learned this from my parents' example.
All great 👍 tips! I try to be aware of the following in order to be more intentional: - My future self: Imagine how I will like or use the item in the future. Will it serve me in different areas or my life? Will I be annoyed by it or forget about it? Do I have something similar already? - What is the cost (beyond financial cost) of the item? Do I have the space at home or will I have to make space? Will this bring peace or annoyance in the future? I try to not get swayed by the merchandising or marketing of item and instead, how it fits in my life (like imaging how my life would be when house hunting and look beyond the home staging). - What is the opportunity cost? Less money for other things? More time, space, and/or money to maintain the item?
I absolutely love the term minimal-ish. I subscribe to the mindset and the way I try to simplify. I think it helps me attempt to find contentment. Also this video came just in time. Patagonia, Everlane, and Reformation all have 50% sales right now which is tempting even though I don't need anything.
Minimal-ish is balanced in my opinion. I love to feel a sense of control over my belongings. But I also feel like so many times, having stuff in the back of my closet works out well in the long run. The "rule" of getting rid of everything you have not worn in a year sounds pretty good to me but in reality? Some years I might travel to a cold climate and need all those heavy sweaters and snow boots. Some years I may drag out the ankle length velvet gown for a Halloween costume. I have a reputation among my friends for being practical and minimalist but I'm definitely just "minimal-ish"!
Instead of minimalism, I leaned into a curated kind of life where only the things I love are what I keep. And it works. It kinda borderline minimalism removing the suppression part. Example: I saw a cute bag. If I really like it so much, I buy it. Then, look at my other bags that I think doesnt make me feel wanting anymore and I replace that with the new cute bag. Either, put the bag on sale, gift to someone or donate. In the end, I get all things cute and fun for myself. Fulfilled of what my items look. Have practiced making smart choices as the buying process was tedious (lots of thinking if its already the best I can get and my unwated items thinking, if they really is worth it to be replaced) Key is not to be attached with things. Not be too sentimental. Challenge is there's always cute items they sell in the market (but again since the buying part of your items needs a lot of consideration, overtime, you'll be practiced to argue whenever you see cute stuff, that what you have already is the cutest) Urrrgggh. Buy what you love, thats the key!! Delay if needed. Or buy with option for returns in case after using it a bit of time you realize you dont like them. Curate. Dont keep what you dont love. You can apply this to people as well 😂
Great video, Christina! I’m going to declutter more right now. 😊 The thing I do is have a separate bank account labeled “your name” or “Shopping/Gifts” and out of every paycheque put in an amount, 50 bucks, 100 bucks…whatever, and when you accumulate enough you can buy something like a Lily Silk blouse that you always wanted. Anyways, it works for me. Thanks for all the tips! 😊
I hear my late father's voice in my ear every time I think of buying something -"If you can't afford it, you can't have it " .Wise words I've always lived by even through tough times. Sandi UK
My dad used to tell me when I was a kid: "you can only spend your dollar once". Making me think if this one cheap children's toy was really worth my one dollar. I still use this way of thinking to this day.
I don't buy things that need tailoring/dry cleaning because knowing myself I will never get around to take the item to the tailor/dry cleaner... with a very few exceptions like really fancy dresses for special events
I love "if it's not a hell yes, then it's a no". I have so many things on my wishlist and they sit there for a while before I make a purchase, but actually trying things on and thinking about how it makes you feel wearing it can help with deciding if it's a hell yes. I also learned recently that instead of shopping for your fantasy future self, you reflect on the past season and what you felt you actually needed, what it was that you didn't have that you wished you did.
I’ve really gone through some downsizing (literally I lost 90 pds due to a health issue). Had to replace my wardrobe. Now I only buy quality, no fast fashion and something that can be used through multiple seasons with no or minimal alterations. I get old favourites altered, rather than donating, selling or trashing. I also search wide and low for deals on a specific item and don’t buy if it’s not on sale or discounted. I think about it for awhile before buying. It has to fit into my wardrobe somehow and be able to be used with multiple other looks. Makeup is the same. I never buy viral products and always wait at least 30 days until buying, after some real reviews come in and the viral has died. I’m also mindful of landfills and try to pass on or sell unwanted items. I find I not only save $ now, I have a cohesive wardrobe without a lot of multiples or low quality items. Dressing is easier and much less frustrating.
I love your videos and it makes me laugh because my style is the EXACT opposite where I love flowy, frilly, earthy, soft but your advice is so universal and easy to apply to any style it helps me so much!
As always, your insights are brilliant! I would just add the idea of making sure I'm not buying something for my "fantasy self". This concept has helped me to keep focused & grounded ,,, and out of trouble.
If you have to finance it you can’t afford it - yes! I know Dave also applies this to buying a car. Because why pay interest on a chronically depreciating asset
Used the buy nice or buy twice concept this past month when getting a new bath mat. I splurged and got an Anthropologie bath mat, hoping it would let because I invested. However when I received it, it was extremely damaged. I returned it in store, and the associates told me there was honestly a good chance I’d receive another damaged one. So I saved my money and stress and bought one at target for 1/4 the orice
Journaling about your purchase is absolutely genius. I try to be as intentional as possible when making a purchase. I actually use most of these techniques already so thank you for showing me new techniques.
I feel like minimalism is great up until the point when it actually makes your life more complicated instead of simplifying it. Like, let's say there's a task you need to do regularly but you won't buy the tool that's perfect for doing it quickly and efficiently, because that would mean owning one more object and you already have something you use for other things that could do the task. Sure. Except when this something does it badly and takes a lot more time. Then not getting the better tool defies the purpose of getting a simpler more streamlined life. Best to get that object that makes your life easier then, even if it means getting something with a somewhat overlapping functionality with something you already have.
Wow! I've been like this probably the last 15 years, and no video has to this level of preciseness honed in on this exact mindset. x) I was gonna comment "especially this...", but each point you bring up resonates with me. Buying nice instead of cheap, buying less by wishlisting and letting the time pass instead of buying straight away, being intentional with each space and where things go, I (sometimes to my detriment) shy away from "deals" and sales since I decided a long time ago they should never be the sole reason to purchase something. I've also never bought anything in parts or taken a loan to buy somthing (except my house and my cell phone). Despite this it has happened that I regret a purchase and that sucks, but it definitely keeps it to a minimum. :)
I was an overbuyer in my teens and early adult years, then I went abroad for 6 months in college and I had to live off on a very small budget in a more expensive country. That made me realize I don't need the newest thing on the market. I also can't call myself a minimalist, however, I have regular decluttering sessions every month. One month I would declutter my clothes, the other month my desk area, etc. I agree with especially the HELL, YES rule. I don't buy any article that I have a sliver of doubt about. This minimalism thing is usually discussed in terms of clothing but in my experience, books and technology are the ones that have the potential to make me go broke. I have an excel list that has all the books in my bookcase, because I realized a couple of years ago that I forgot the books I bought and didn't read yet. Now, I check my list to see if I have the book before buying. Also keeping the statistics of the books I read and haven't read yet helps me keep my book buying to minimum. Technology is something I spend a lot of money on, because it is expensive. However, I check before buying an expensive gadget if I can afford it that month, and I prefer to buy quality brands that has the hardware that will last me years. My previous phone, I used for 5 years. My laptop, 8 years. Then I sell the old stuff online and get rid of them while earning some money.
I like keeping things that I actually wear. Are they the Basics? No, they're clothing items I love and that I bought precisely thinking of having them around for a long time.
I used to figure out how long I had to work to pay for an item. Was it worth a days pay? A week? Then I’d add in cost per wear which should always be considered.
Many people would have to add the 20 % interest (per YEAR) until the credit card debt is fully paid down. (if you do not buy the stuff for 10 or 50 or 100 USD - it can go towards those expensive loans). I listen to the Dave Ramsey show - it may give a twisted picture (people with solid finances do not call in). But there are folks that have several ten thousand on the credit cards and always additionally to other loans. And a car loan. (which with their credit score likely is also a high interest loan). It boggles the mind, how someone could have home loans, student loans, plenty of credit card debt (5000 - 9000 is not unusual) and THEN they buy a car. A new one and add 20,000 - 40,000 to their loans. I get investing with gritted teeth 8000 USD if you depend on having at least one reliable vehicle in the family, despite already being in debt. these people do not understand that an ongoing balance at 20 % interest means. for instance that they pay 2000 in interest for 10,000 USD debt every year. Which means if they had been frugal 5 years before they could now get a functional decent used vehicle costing 10,000 "for free" so to speak. Or have a reasonable down payment for a newer one.
I just wanted to say a big thank you for this video! It was so lovely to see the trident on your neck💙💛. There are so many great rules and advice in here - I'm really grateful to you for sharing it!
I decluttered a lot during the Covid-stay-at-home period and used the money I earned by selling my 2nd hand stuff to buy my first road bike. A really cool thing, because my budget for the price of the bike depended on how much I was able to earn by selling other stuff!
Im 37 years and im glad im already living by all the 10 rules that you mentioned in this video. My dad adviced me the first rule to buy one quality product than 10 cheap products.
The habit of keeping a wishlist has made it so much easier for me to be more mindful and international about making new purchases. As the initial attraction passes, I often start to realise that many of the items on my list just don't work for me.
Girl, how did I not find your channel all these years?!! 7 minutes into my first video from your channel and it was feeling like someone had hacked into my brain and laying out all my principles, in a much better articulated way!! I have been always intentional and even passionate about organising my living space, and these are all the rules I had come up with myself after years of observing myself and refining! Now I have a video to go back to neatly lay out the principles of organised living… Wow, Love it!!! Can’t wait to dig more into your channel!!!
Beware: because of age (or pregnancy !) the form of your feet can change. It is quite the bummer, if you are used to having the same size for many years and are used to being able to wear the shoes that are 20 years old ! It would have been better to sell those shoes earlier - or wear the good ones more often.
Great tips I try to follow most of them. Another one is putting money into the things I actually enjoy and not feel guilty about it. So I don’t waste money in clothes or shoes-which for me makes sense my job is primarily wfh. One thing that helped me slow down shopping is to focus on brands or styles that I really enjoy-helps to reduce guess work on something I may not like.
Not quite the same but i recently test drove a vintage truck, it was nice and a lot of fun and I almost bought it. But driving i got that "buying a problem" feeling. That feeling that the price im about to pay is only the beginning... Not that the truck was in bad shape but I just knew this was going to turn into repairs I couldn't make, accessories I could afford, upgrades I couldn't afford. Buying a problem is a very real thing
I have issues with impulse spending and some of these sentences (specially the last one) are so meaningful and will help me out stop the bad decisions on that front...
I try to live a kind of minimalistic life but I try not to take it too far and everything you say here resonates with me. Instead of doing the wishlist sometimes I just let the things in the cart and wait, many times I realize after some days that I don't really want or need the thing in question.
100% yes to everything! I've just tried a "spark joy" on my 5 yo daughter, and it works so pure! She hates to get rid of things. So I turned out full 4 baskets of toys on the floor, and I said to pick up only those toys she likes now and wants to play with now, and she barely picked up a third of ONE basket. Good luck! Glory to Ukraine!
I’ve focused on being really intentional about shopping secondhand anytime I can, wearing things for as long as I can and mending them when I can. I use credit some, but almost exclusively for travel. I never go over 2k of debt, and I make sure I can at least pay over the minimum amount each month. I regularly pay the balance off as well. The if it’s not yes it’s a no has completely changed how I buy everything, and I’m working on declutterring and downsizing so it’s less of a hassle to maintain my things in the future. Thank you for always having great suggestions for how to live more intentionally and responsibly!
For topic 6 have you ever heard of 5S? It's a manufacturing term that comes from Toyota but applying it to life with a partner/family has helped so much for everything in it's place. I feel like it blends with minimalism so well. Lean manufacturing in general is just a great mindset lol
I keep hobbies down to the 3 most important. It's easy to buy and accumulate stuff for hobbies you might want to do. Anything after the top 3 gets donated for library crafts, the community center, or thrift shop.
Oh absolutely! I knit, crochet, and cross-stitch, and lord, it's sooo easy to fill up my bins of supplies! I also have a small basement suite, so what's kept me accountable is knowing I'm only allowed 3 bins for all the yarn I want to store, and once those are full, find a way to use the yarn, or donate it! Roller skating is in-between hobby and sport for me, but I'm also quickly learning that while there are many things I MIGHT want, I need to prioritize what will ACTUALLY be useful!
Retailer wish lists are the best thing ever - I often find myself deleting most of it once I've waited a week or two and am in a more rational mindset. "that's not going to work through a Canadian winter - delete; that colour never looked good on you before, it's not going to now; you have the exact opposite body shape to that model - it simply ain't gonna be flattering" etc. Unfortunately I suspect retailers are wise to this as I've had two different shops all of a sudden stop offering a favourites option this summer. Too bad for them - without a favourites function I'm even more inclined to forget about that impulse urge.
Ok totally following you! Thank you so much, i really need this in my life. I keeo working on my over-buying, and think im doing better. And then I'll have a gratification feeling, and 💥 🤯
Basic principle is - You actually don't need anything more than 4 good quality, good looking, comfortable, and making you happy (does NOT mean expensive brands) items of each basic type altogether, such that you buy once and last for years to come before you feel the need to buy anything new: 4 Formal shirts, 4 Formal trousers, 4 blazers, 4 Casual bottoms (mix of jeans, trousers, slacks), 4 Casual tops (mix of t-shirts, shirts, kurtas, kurtis), 4 Casual jackets, 4 shoes (2 formal + 2 casual), 4 bags (2 formal + 2 casual), 4 earrings, 4 neckpieces, 2 Watches - AND Done. You are all set for many years to come before having to buy anything new. You can just simply mix and match things according to the occasion.
I adopted this rule a few months ago and it changes everything for the better whether you are thinking about a purchase or deciding on decluttering something.
The soles of unused shoes and boots can disintegrate. This is especially true for rubber soles (often used for quality shoes). The material is very good for the purpose but it has a shelf life. The shoe is meant to be worn, and the act of using it (compressing the sole) prevents the disintigration (or delays it). So if you have bought the good hiking boots and use them after years, they may fall apart (during the hike no less). There is no solution for that. If you have quality shoes that you do not wear for a long time it would be better to sell them off for a good price, at least they will serve another person. Another tip: if the shoes soles CAN be completely replaced that is great. However, that is not often the case. I know a family member with a pair of sturdy leather winter boots. I think he has worn them for ? 15 years. Both soles and one zipper had to be replaced. But cost per wear are very, very good, beats every cheap pair. At current purchasing prices that pair would maybe cost around 300 USD / Euro. It was not a fancy brand, so he paid for quality and for a more labour intense construction (that allows to replace the sole).
A great video, thanks Christina. The one in one out rule works well for me - also thinking of my wardrobe, and what I am prepared to let go of, if I buy that thing is a good leveller. Also, buying secondhand first, and looking for good quality. Also, thinking about how you would get rid of that thing if you no longer needed it, and making sure to thing about sustainable options, such as selling, rather than just donating things, or throwing them away is helpful too.
I agree on lots of your points: The wishlist the "buy the best you can afford, not the cheapest or most expensive" the "it's either a "*ell yes" or a "no" not buying a problem I knew most of them, but it's nice to be reminded and integrate it again
Thanks! I enjoy this more sustainable route to minimalist-ish. One of your points that really resonated with me was the use of wish lists. I have wish lists for any number of things that interest/intrigue me so I pop 'em on the relevant list and wait and wait. During the wait, I question myself as to the "why" and what role it would serve, I check to see what like it I already have and more often than not, I end up deleting it! The "hunt" is fun, "bagging" something less so. I also avoid credit like the plague.
I dont think I can live like a minimalist since I was born to a hoarder mom whose hoarding doesn’t look severe until u pull out everything from storage bins, closets, cabinets, unused rooms. But I do find myself doing a quarterly to annual purge season where I purge any item or clothing that no longer fits me, no longer serves me, or is no longer something I like or am interested in. This includes items and clothes that I haven’t reached out for within the past 6 months. If ever I’m keeping them, there has to be a solid reason why. Most of what I purge are donated to charity, and few high value ones are sold online. I suck at online selling of anything so it does get stuck somewhere in my room, but it’s already in the “let go” pile which I will eventually get to, when I have the energy for that. It never goes back in the “to keep” pile, that’s at least my rule. I didn’t learn this from anyone, I just had the opportunity one day and eventually found myself naturally gravitating to doing every 3-6 or 6-12 months. Hope this helps someone 😊
Lots of great info here! One of the things I do to help with impulse shopping is I’ll open an Instagram ad in an external browser. Usually I’ll forget about the item, or if I really want it then I have to go look for it in a browser tab. One thing I do feel is useful for large item purchases is 12 months interest free or something along those lines. Of course doing research first, but sometimes it takes a long time to save money for a big purchase. I feel like that can be really helpful if used carefully.
I like to add a "wishlist & wait" stage to decluttering, to ensure I'm being mindful at every stage of the process. Sometimes this is more literal: I put things I want to declutter aside, & leave them, until I'm ready to sell/donate them, then go through them & make doubly sure I am happy to part with them. Other times it just means giving them one last use, to ensure I've got all the use out of them I can/want to. - Clothes I make sure to try on again. This doesn't always involve much literal "waiting", since it's pretty easy to see when something no longer fits or suits. However, to ensure I truly give every piece the thought it deserves, I try to only put on a few pieces at a time, in order to avoid the "ugh, not more things to try on" feeling that can happen if I'm getting rid of several things at once. I also try to keep them on for longer than a few minutes (unless they truly don't fit/suit) to make sure I'm not just giving them a surface level assessment. - Books, DVDs, etc, I make sure to re-read/watch. There have been several times I have been planning to pass something on only to rediscover my love for it (& other times I've decided to re-read/watch something I thought I'd keep forever only to find it no longer sparks joy the way it once did). More often than not, I do still end up getting rid of the things I put aside, but making doubly, triply sure, means I don't end up with regrets/plagued by what-ifs. I also sometimes discover that something I put aside because I no longer needed/wanted it for its original purpose, can be used for a different purpose that I have been thinking about buying something new for. Having the seperation of putting it aside, rather than having it stored with a bunch of similar items that I do still use in the original way, can make it easier to make that leap to an alternate use.
1. Buy Nice or Buy Twice
2. If its not a "HELL YES" then its a "No"
3. Declutter before Organization
4. If you don't use it, you lose it
5. Wishlist and Wait
6. A place for everything
7. Don't Buy a Problem
8. Have a "Why" before you Buy
9. The "Spark Joy" Rule
10. If you can't buy it with cash, you can't afford it
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This is PERFECT!! I am an "Over Shopper" and this is ideal to declutter and stop buying things that are not right. Thank you!
Love this, and I practice it.
I recently saw a post about decluttering that said, "if it had poop on it, would you throw it out or take the time to wash it off?"
Best tip I've ever seen.
LMAO this is for real 💩
I’ve heard this one before and was instantly reminded of when someone puked on my heels at a party and I had them sitting in a bag to clean them but never got to it and wound up just having to toss them. They were $40 (which to me was a lot of money, I bought them in hs for homecoming and I distinctly remember being upset bc I didn’t even rly like them and felt bad that my grandma had to spend that much money on shoes I didn’t even really like, lol). So I’ve definitely lived this advice before, really drives the point home 😂
That's a great tip!
I had a pair of boots that were really worn out and no good, but I couldn't bring myself to throw them away until my cat peed on them. It was easy after that. She was just helping me out. Lol
Ohhh that's a good one
People may or may not agree with this. I used to work in high-end retail where my employee discount still wasn't good enough... I would try on whatever I wanted, Then if I saw it on ebay months later and it was affordable for me I could reconsider getting it and know what size fit. One benefit of trying on everything you're interested in helps you know what actually looks good and what doesn't so you can stop daydreaming about an item and take it off your list of things. There have been plenty of times where I was so in love with something and then I tried it on and it did not work for me at all and I was so glad that I didn't waste time or money on it.
I had a similar experience working in a shoe store. I'd fall in love with the look of boots that just didn't work for my feet or ankles or calves. But if they did work, and my size was still there when they went to clearance and I still loved them, I knew it was meant to be!
This is BRILLIANT
@@JM-rb3wy not only do I completely agree, I have done this for years! And I buy all my clothes on ebay (except underwear🥰). To me it’s a really good way to stay out of the fast fashion trap (which is rampant in retail now) and a great way to reuse clothing so it won’t end up in a landfill somewhere. I know what brands i like and what size I wear in them, so I keep an eye out. Love it.♥️♥️
I noticed that, it happens a lot, I obsess over certain things and when I try it on, it doesn't work and I move on.
Has anyone noticed that nowadays sellers on ebay, etc. want to flip everything *including* used clothing, to the point where they expect to even make a profit on top of what they have payed for that dress or coat, etc. And I don't mean vintage (although that is getting out of hand too), but last season's clothes at H&M, etc... This annoys me so much.
Your channel has literally changed my life. This February, I came to terms with the fact that I was not only a shopping addict, but a full blown hoarder. I have worked tirelessly since then selling, rehoming, and donating to my local shelter. (And even throwing things away because honestly a lot of it was literal trash.) I just bought a house and I'll be starting fresh in a new space with only things that I love and need, and it truly feels like I'm walking on air. Never again will I allow "stuff" to control me. I own it, it doesn't own me. Thank you for your vids :)
I’m so happy for you. I sincerely wish you well in your journey to wholeness.. I hope you can hold on to that high for the rest of your life :)
I have a burgundy *jklux* tabby bag and I love this bag. I actually swapped two straps and put a chain on top and I'm obsessed with it.
What is really messing with me is that I noticed that the more expensive clothing I buy recently is often as cheaply made as any H&M stuff I buy.
Yep!
Expensive doesn’t = quality. Look for quality
sometimes it is better to look for vintage. things from a time where the quality was better.
Yes stuff is not made to last now . We are in such a throw away society. You really have to shop around to find good quality items .
Complete agree, analyze before you buy. Upscale resell shops are awesome. A lot of items are practically new.
Number 9 reminds me of the William Morris quote: "Have nothing in your house that you do not know to be useful or believe to be beautiful." I like this philosophy because some sentimental or decor items are not necessarily useful, but they are special and beautiful to me. And that means they are worth having. 💕
To keep me from impulse buying on Amazon I will read the negative reviews. Works like a charm!
Too bad they don’t have a review section in the stores.
I think it also depends what you are buying. My mom bought me a cheap t-shirt for what amounts to a little more than a dollar, closer to about one euro when I was a teenager. I wore that t-shirt regularly (think about 2 times a week regular) for about 8 years before it tore badly enough that I can't wear it as a t-shirt (I plan to turn it into a tank 'cause I love it). You should judge the quality of what you're buying rather than judge by the cost.
I think bringing in the ‘hell yea’ has just as much value. You’re right… we can absolutely love something that didn’t cost a lot.
This, all the way. I have some 'cheap' clothing that has lasted me yeaaarrrsss and still going strong.
Cheap can be the quality and not necessarily the cost
I'm a firm believer in functionalism. Everything in my life should serve a function of some sort. That way people have room to be themselves and identify their needs without being too restrictive.
Yes to this!!
I still have my wedding dress 😁 I do not wear it, but I like to look at it from time to time, it arises sweet memories when I was ten years younger and ten kilos slimmer 😂 Is it still functional to keep it? No, it is not, but it is still there and it is priceless for me
@@olga.methodologistI kept mine too!
@@olga.methodologist You enjoying looking at it serves a function. It's sentimental to you.
I have this - to a point. Knickknacks are OK. They're not meant to be anything but ornamental (though, most of mine were gifts or a souvinier). But I do not buy things I don't intend to use. And I'm far more likely to buy something ugly that's more useful to me than the pretty option (this comment brought to you by my vacuum in the living rokm).
A rule I lived by this week was Before you buy, use what you have. I needed a notebook for a project, but went through my stationery basket and found a new, pretty good one. My eco bag broke. Instead of buying a cute one I saw in a shop, I looked in my gift pile (fun, small gifts I keep on hand) and found one. And now, I think I want a sleek, small knapsack with a water bottle holder. I might buy one, but for now, I’m using a knapsack that for some reason I never used. So far, it’s working well. Even though there’s no dedicated bottle pocket.
I've been living by this for a while now, especially when it comes to notebooks, stationery, and bags. I haven't stuck to it perfectly, but what has helped me the most is keeping in mind that I have an entire closet full of notebooks, journals, planners, and bags. I also have drawers and boxes full of pens, markers, highlighters, sticky notes, tapes, stickers...oh, and a whole shelf in my notebook closet is dedicated to scrapbook paper! And there are more stashes in another room in my house! So, I *literally do not need* any more stationery items or handbags. Anytime I'm out shopping, I try to picture all the things I already have or at least tell myself "I already have this at home!" It works about 85% of the time, so I call it a win!
There's that old saying, "Use it up, wear it out, make it do, or do without." I love that and try to do it!
@@carnation_cat I love that!
If the replica passes certification testing just as good as the original, but is worth only one-tenth of the original...that's the problem. This is why markets exist. The *jklux* 1-1 replica is a real investment package, you get the same quality and the same materials for a tenth of the price, but it passes the test
I do this and if I don't have what I need, I'll ask around. Often friends or family have a brand new or gently used thing that will work for me + they're happy to re-home. My work backpack was finally starting to fall apart after 10 years of heavy use. After not being able to find a replacement I loved, I asked around and was able to find a gently used backpack that works perfectly for my purposes. It's not a color or style I would've picked but I love it because it was an intentional acquisition that was also free :)
I think it also really helps in reducing waste and forced labor. Fast fashion, hauls, and consumerism directly affects humans in the Congo, Palestine, and Kenya. The more intentionality we bring into life, the more intention we give to others too! Love it.
Yes. Let us all be aware of our actions and how they impact others.
I love the saying if it’s not a hell yes… my partner says I’m so fussy about buying things but I don’t go to work to buy things I don’t love!
Indeed😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
I think that at times the urge to shop comes from a general disatisfaction with yourself or with your life. Going shopping was a quick pick-me -up for me but it usually only lasted till I got home and realised I didn't need what I bought and could have saved the money. I've slowly learnt that I actually get more of a buzz being out in nature so I'm now more likely to head for a forest or park etc than to the noisy shops. Even if you're living inner-city you can go for a walk and take time to notice leaves on trees, the sun behind clouds... I come home feeling refreshed rather than exhausted :-)
Love this! I should start diverting to checking out a garden or trail before going to the store next time.
I loved shopping, but I find when you spend more time with your hobbies, you’ll get a better release. Your hobby is being with nature, mine is growing it. I love growing my plants, cutting them, growing roots on the cuttings and watching that cutting grow. It always amazes me how you can take a cutting with 1 leaf, put it in water and have an entire plant a year later!
Rich people are not like you or me. They compete with each other in yachts, jewelry, art, travel and homes. Meanwhile, we're on the subway or bus with our precious Louis Vuittons. Why bother? *jklux* More rational
I once read a comment that said to treat your own wardrobe like a clothing store, and "go shopping" with your own clothes.
Some of my friends cannot believe my cheap self will buy $70-90 ThirdLove bras...but if I bought $20 Target bras I would not be comfortable or look as good in my (mostly thrifted) wardrobe! Sometimes better quality is so worth the price.
For sure! Also, this might just be bc I’ve pretty much always had big boobs so cheap bras were never an option for me, but I literally didn’t even realize that people spent less than at LEAST $40 on bras until fairly recently. I remember seeing reviews for pepper bras (which is a brand that makes rly well-fitting bras for small boobs/cup sizes) and the only complaint was that they were expensive (I think maybe ~$50), and I was literally boggled, lol. I will always spend money on good bras, there’s literally no point otherwise
I mean, i hear you but the expensive bras are being produced relatively cheaply too. I doubt they are worth anywhere close to 70 dollars, but yeah I get the „cheap bras don’t work“ thing. Same here 😅
Those friends probably have normal or small sized boobs, lol. I buy third love too, very comfortable, but I can’t find my size in store or cheaper if I tried, lol.
@@Carina_Rose nah they just get a 44D with spillage instead of the like, 38J they may need. No judgment just sayin.
I have a pink and a black good quality bra, $50 each. They make me look great, I love them, and they are worth every penny.
I always have Vivienne Westwoods "Buy Less, Choose Well, Make it Last" in my head whenever I find myself wanting anything. It definitely helps control any impulse I have for things that I may not necessarily need, but also, which I might not want for very long! I can't have clutter in my closet or really anywhere in my house because it really distracts me from my work (i'm a poet), and it just helps me a lot to know what i truly WILL wear, and will love for a long time. So happy you have a membership level for your channel now. Hope you get lots!!!!
Thank you so much for being here!! LOVE that quote from Vivienne! It’s such a simple but amazing reminder. And a POET?! Wow! Beautiful!!
@@Christinamychas thank you💕
Taking care of clothes etc is key!
I remember coming across a saying that was attributed to a Rockefeller. "Buy the best you can afford and use it up". That always stuck with me, even if I don't always follow it.
My rule: if I didn’t already know I needed it when I walked into the store, I can’t buy it. Once I get home, I can sort out if I need it but consistently I won’t even remember it.
This is brilliant
This!!! I think it’s the same with online shopping, and you see a SALE and then you start to add things to your cart. Instead I add to Wishlist. I leave things In there, and the amount of times I go back in and end up removing 90% of them is astounding lol
The buy nice or buy twice is a great rule. I think it works best for items that you know you like or use frequently. If it's an item for a new hobby though, I like to buy the most affordable option first just to see if the habit or hobby sticks. Then when the behavioral change I'm trying to make is more permanent, then I start looking at more high end models/brands.
Ooh yes, that’s what I did for fountain pens. I bought an affordable one first, one that I wouldn’t be afraid to damage or lose, plus one bottle of ink. When I became regular in writing in my journal with the fountain pen, that’s when I bought more pens and ink colours.
I have adhd, so practicing with delaying gratification is always difficult for more, but so good for my mental health when I get better at it! Thank you for the great tips! It also helps me to replace the impulse buy with something else that gives me gratification, like talking to a friend, listening to music I love or playing a silly game that is easy to win :).
Love all of these! I need to think before I buy. I've definitely learned my lesson that if you buy a less expensive substitute for what you really want, you never really enjoy it. Just took a huge carload of donations to charity. Applied the "hell yes" test, which was so rewarding!
Love it Lisa!
Absolutely!!! Even if it’s expensive I only buy what I really want and guess what I never regret it! If I have to, I save and even wait but that itch gets scratched and I feel satisfied
I’ve used the “if it’s not a heck yes” rule a lot while clothing shopping. Also, if I have about 2-3 clothing items in my hands, make myself put one back on the rack before going to a check out. I’ll be forced to put back an item that I feel “meh” about.
I like the One in,One out to maintain a decluttered home.
I like it too. However, I have to watch myself because I have been known to use it as an excuse in the moment: "Oh, I'll get this now, and when I get home I'll go thru and pick something to get rid of." But by the time I get home, I'm too tired and/or I've forgotten my intentions. I do eventually declutter, but it never goes according to my plans.
@@mrandisg I ask myself when I'm deciding to buy, which of my current things am I willing to get rid of. This often makes me realize I don't need the new thing as I like everything I already have.
If it’s a “Hell yes!” reasonably priced piece of basic clothing, I buy it in two colours. If the cut and fit and comfort are right then I know I’ll wear it often so I may as well have two good things. I’ve done it with jeans, trousers, T-shirts and knitwear in plain, neutral colours. That way you feel good and so you aren’t constantly looking for something new because you enjoy what you have.
I wish I understood the principle of buying the highest quality I could afford when I was first purchasing furniture. I now have a bunch of inexpensive furniture that not only looks cheap, but is substandard quality.
Hey Christina, I know you've mentioned in previous videos that you don't like wearing gold jewelry against your skin because you feel it blends in too much but I just gotta say how you styled your outfit in this video with the multiple gold necklaces looks so good on you, very chic and I love the color combo!
After I decluttered all the synthetics and everything that didn't have a flattering fit, *POOF* I was a minimalist. Buying secondhand pretty much follows all your rules and you can really determine the quality of a piece and its true size.
I love to watch your video to stop myself from buying things on an impulse and remind myself to save money. Your logic resonates with me, so I keep coming back :) Thank you for making these videos.
I'm shooting for minimal-ish as well. I have decluttered easily 80% of what I once owned, and like having empty spaces, but I also like having nice things around me and my rooms to feel cozy instead of bare. I'm a new empty nester and for the first time in my life have a place to myself. I am enjoying clearing out all of the stuff I have been waiting to let go of. My goal is to have a place that I could easily pack up in a weekend if I were to move and I am very close to getting there. =)
that sounds lovely! it's my goal as well :)
Asking myself before buying anything “do I need it or I just want it?” or “will I have a place to put the new thing I buy?” was a gamechanger buying less clutter and keeping my apartment organized.
when I buy every day shoes I buy very good quality. If I buy cheap they lose too much support then my knees start hurting. I buy running shoes from a locally owned running store. The shoes last me almost a year. Spending about $150 for a year free from hip and knee pain is priceless. I also had bad bursitis in my hips that required injections and a lot of physical therapy. Then I read something and discovered a bad mattress and side sleeping can cause the problem. So I bought a good bed and the problem went away! spending $1200 on a bed saved thousands in medical bills
May I ask what bed brand/model you went with? I’ve been on a search for quality myself!
@@margotk5955 your best bet is to go to a running store! What works for my feet may be the wrong shoe for you
A good quote I heard one time is "Don't skimp on things that come between you and the ground." So, shoes, mattresses and tires :).
@@marximus4 I have not heard that rule until now. But it is good.
The “HELL YES” and “spark joy” are ones I’ve been leaning more and more into. With clothes especially. I’m someone who spent their childhood into mid-twenties overweight and unhappy and obsessive about it. I hated how I looked. Once I lost weight I suddenly liked how I looked in clothes so I started buying any and everything. Over the last few years I’ve realized that just because it fits me, doesn’t mean I need to buy it. Now I only buy clothes that spark joy and it has made all the difference.
Similar to your wish list, I will put items I want in the (online) cart but then I will leave it. If I’m still thinking about the thing a week later, I will go back and reconsider it. And sometimes the company will email you a coupon to try to get you to come back and check out. So you’ve got to be strong enough to ignore that push until you are ready to buy.
This summer I decided to declutter my summer shirts, my rules were: I would wear everything at least once before repeat wearing, anything that l took out and didn’t wear for whatever reason, ie: didn’t fit, needed repair, no longer was my style, uncomfortable etc… went straight to the donate bin (or trash). I got rid of a lot and feel so much better. I realized I was hanging on to items because I thought I should like it or I paid good money for it or I’ll wear it in a pinch….it’s so freeing to have that stuff gone!
I've been decluttering for years - there's always more!
I found a game changer for me was when we needed to clear out our loft space to have work done. There was so much up there which was water damaged and that wasn't worth the effort of saving.
In the end I discovered I only wanted a few keepsakes and the Christmas decorations (heavily pared back!)
I bought some decent storage containers (a keep sake box for each of us, and x3 for Christmas decorations) which stack nicely. The items were lovingly cleaned up and now live within the house, are easily accessible and the loft is completely empty!
My point is, starting with an area which isn't as meaningful to you can help build those decluttering muscles. After all, we often chuck stuff we're not too bothered about up in unseen areas.
Such a great comment. It reminds me that Minimalist - Sibu, when he is helping people declutter their homes, strongly advocates to have your items visible as much as possible (clothes hung up, items in clear drawers or on shelves, etc). I had not thought about this as an important idea to help us to use what we have.
The one thing about clutter is that it stands in your way to do the things you want or need to do. You can't cook with stuff all over your kitchen counters, so you spend time and energy on cleaning before you can cook. In the end you just look at the mess and order take-out instead, adding to the problem. This is why decluttering and actually thinking about why you need the item or if you use it often enough for it to be worth it is so important. Clutter is mentally exhausting even if we don't think about it. Take one drawer at a time, one shelf at a time, it becomes less overwhealming that way.
That’s not really clutter. You just need to do those dishes and put them away😊
#10. #10. #10. Credit card debt becomes financial enslavement for too many people. If you don't have the cash, wait until you do. This whole video is a great compilation of things I've learned the hard way(s) over the years that unfortunately is not taught in school or college. Thanks for posting this Christina!
I remember being in university and chatting with the guys at a credit card sign-up table. I told them about my method for tracking what I spent. I had an account book from my credit union (to record purchases, cheques, etc.), and I kept track in there of stuff I spent from my debit account and also on my credit card, with a way to note whether or not I had paid my credit card bill. I treated my credit card like a debit card and never spent what I didn't already have. I learned this from my parents' example.
All great 👍 tips!
I try to be aware of the following in order to be more intentional:
- My future self: Imagine how I will like or use the item in the future. Will it serve me in different areas or my life? Will I be annoyed by it or forget about it? Do I have something similar already?
- What is the cost (beyond financial cost) of the item?
Do I have the space at home or will I have to make space? Will this bring peace or annoyance in the future? I try to not get swayed by the merchandising or marketing of item and instead, how it fits in my life (like imaging how my life would be when house hunting and look beyond the home staging).
- What is the opportunity cost? Less money for other things? More time, space, and/or money to maintain the item?
I absolutely love the term minimal-ish. I subscribe to the mindset and the way I try to simplify. I think it helps me attempt to find contentment. Also this video came just in time. Patagonia, Everlane, and Reformation all have 50% sales right now which is tempting even though I don't need anything.
Me too! It just feels more balanced!
Minimal-ish is balanced in my opinion. I love to feel a sense of control over my belongings. But I also feel like so many times, having stuff in the back of my closet works out well in the long run. The "rule" of getting rid of everything you have not worn in a year sounds pretty good to me but in reality? Some years I might travel to a cold climate and need all those heavy sweaters and snow boots. Some years I may drag out the ankle length velvet gown for a Halloween costume. I have a reputation among my friends for being practical and minimalist but I'm definitely just "minimal-ish"!
Instead of minimalism, I leaned into a curated kind of life where only the things I love are what I keep. And it works. It kinda borderline minimalism removing the suppression part.
Example: I saw a cute bag. If I really like it so much, I buy it. Then, look at my other bags that I think doesnt make me feel wanting anymore and I replace that with the new cute bag. Either, put the bag on sale, gift to someone or donate.
In the end, I get all things cute and fun for myself. Fulfilled of what my items look. Have practiced making smart choices as the buying process was tedious (lots of thinking if its already the best I can get and my unwated items thinking, if they really is worth it to be replaced)
Key is not to be attached with things. Not be too sentimental.
Challenge is there's always cute items they sell in the market (but again since the buying part of your items needs a lot of consideration, overtime, you'll be practiced to argue whenever you see cute stuff, that what you have already is the cutest)
Urrrgggh. Buy what you love, thats the key!! Delay if needed. Or buy with option for returns in case after using it a bit of time you realize you dont like them.
Curate. Dont keep what you dont love. You can apply this to people as well 😂
Yes! This! Being intention is more comfortable for me too. I’m never going to be a minimalist but I can be intentional
Great video, Christina! I’m going to declutter more right now. 😊 The thing I do is have a separate bank account labeled “your name” or “Shopping/Gifts” and out of every paycheque put in an amount, 50 bucks, 100 bucks…whatever, and when you accumulate enough you can buy something like a Lily Silk blouse that you always wanted. Anyways, it works for me. Thanks for all the tips! 😊
I hear my late father's voice in my ear every time I think of buying something -"If you can't afford it, you can't have it " .Wise words I've always lived by even through tough times. Sandi UK
My dad used to tell me when I was a kid: "you can only spend your dollar once". Making me think if this one cheap children's toy was really worth my one dollar. I still use this way of thinking to this day.
I don't buy things that need tailoring/dry cleaning because knowing myself I will never get around to take the item to the tailor/dry cleaner... with a very few exceptions like really fancy dresses for special events
I love "if it's not a hell yes, then it's a no". I have so many things on my wishlist and they sit there for a while before I make a purchase, but actually trying things on and thinking about how it makes you feel wearing it can help with deciding if it's a hell yes. I also learned recently that instead of shopping for your fantasy future self, you reflect on the past season and what you felt you actually needed, what it was that you didn't have that you wished you did.
If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no! Saving this to my phone so I can remind myself. So simple yet so effective!
Don’t buy a problem! I needed to hear this ❤
I’ve really gone through some downsizing (literally I lost 90 pds due to a health issue). Had to replace my wardrobe. Now I only buy quality, no fast fashion and something that can be used through multiple seasons with no or minimal alterations. I get old favourites altered, rather than donating, selling or trashing. I also search wide and low for deals on a specific item and don’t buy if it’s not on sale or discounted. I think about it for awhile before buying. It has to fit into my wardrobe somehow and be able to be used with multiple other looks. Makeup is the same. I never buy viral products and always wait at least 30 days until buying, after some real reviews come in and the viral has died. I’m also mindful of landfills and try to pass on or sell unwanted items. I find I not only save $ now, I have a cohesive wardrobe without a lot of multiples or low quality items. Dressing is easier and much less frustrating.
That green shaggy, thrift store jacket was sooooo edgy! It looked great on you!
Love this. I avoid haul vlogs, so tired of overconsumption and these tips are great.
I love your videos and it makes me laugh because my style is the EXACT opposite where I love flowy, frilly, earthy, soft but your advice is so universal and easy to apply to any style it helps me so much!
As always, your insights are brilliant! I would just add the idea of making sure I'm not buying something for my "fantasy self". This concept has helped me to keep focused & grounded ,,, and out of trouble.
Absolutely love your “fern/sage/moss” blazer! You look great in it!
If you have to finance it you can’t afford it - yes! I know Dave also applies this to buying a car. Because why pay interest on a chronically depreciating asset
Used the buy nice or buy twice concept this past month when getting a new bath mat. I splurged and got an Anthropologie bath mat, hoping it would let because I invested. However when I received it, it was extremely damaged. I returned it in store, and the associates told me there was honestly a good chance I’d receive another damaged one. So I saved my money and stress and bought one at target for 1/4 the orice
Good on them for letting you know lol
Journaling about your purchase is absolutely genius. I try to be as intentional as possible when making a purchase. I actually use most of these techniques already so thank you for showing me new techniques.
I feel like minimalism is great up until the point when it actually makes your life more complicated instead of simplifying it. Like, let's say there's a task you need to do regularly but you won't buy the tool that's perfect for doing it quickly and efficiently, because that would mean owning one more object and you already have something you use for other things that could do the task. Sure. Except when this something does it badly and takes a lot more time. Then not getting the better tool defies the purpose of getting a simpler more streamlined life. Best to get that object that makes your life easier then, even if it means getting something with a somewhat overlapping functionality with something you already have.
Thank you for your wise words. I am becoming more intentional in my spending, but still working on it!
Wow! I've been like this probably the last 15 years, and no video has to this level of preciseness honed in on this exact mindset. x) I was gonna comment "especially this...", but each point you bring up resonates with me. Buying nice instead of cheap, buying less by wishlisting and letting the time pass instead of buying straight away, being intentional with each space and where things go, I (sometimes to my detriment) shy away from "deals" and sales since I decided a long time ago they should never be the sole reason to purchase something. I've also never bought anything in parts or taken a loan to buy somthing (except my house and my cell phone).
Despite this it has happened that I regret a purchase and that sucks, but it definitely keeps it to a minimum. :)
I was an overbuyer in my teens and early adult years, then I went abroad for 6 months in college and I had to live off on a very small budget in a more expensive country. That made me realize I don't need the newest thing on the market. I also can't call myself a minimalist, however, I have regular decluttering sessions every month. One month I would declutter my clothes, the other month my desk area, etc. I agree with especially the HELL, YES rule. I don't buy any article that I have a sliver of doubt about. This minimalism thing is usually discussed in terms of clothing but in my experience, books and technology are the ones that have the potential to make me go broke. I have an excel list that has all the books in my bookcase, because I realized a couple of years ago that I forgot the books I bought and didn't read yet. Now, I check my list to see if I have the book before buying. Also keeping the statistics of the books I read and haven't read yet helps me keep my book buying to minimum. Technology is something I spend a lot of money on, because it is expensive. However, I check before buying an expensive gadget if I can afford it that month, and I prefer to buy quality brands that has the hardware that will last me years. My previous phone, I used for 5 years. My laptop, 8 years. Then I sell the old stuff online and get rid of them while earning some money.
I started doing the wish list thing and it really feels satisfying without actually buying something!
I like keeping things that I actually wear. Are they the Basics? No, they're clothing items I love and that I bought precisely thinking of having them around for a long time.
I used to figure out how long I had to work to pay for an item. Was it worth a days pay? A week? Then I’d add in cost per wear which should always be considered.
Love this idea, but I'd get overwhelmed by the math. That might either work in my favor or against me, depending on my mood and energy levels!
Many people would have to add the 20 % interest (per YEAR) until the credit card debt is fully paid down. (if you do not buy the stuff for 10 or 50 or 100 USD - it can go towards those expensive loans). I listen to the Dave Ramsey show - it may give a twisted picture (people with solid finances do not call in). But there are folks that have several ten thousand on the credit cards and always additionally to other loans. And a car loan. (which with their credit score likely is also a high interest loan).
It boggles the mind, how someone could have home loans, student loans, plenty of credit card debt (5000 - 9000 is not unusual) and THEN they buy a car. A new one and add 20,000 - 40,000 to their loans. I get investing with gritted teeth 8000 USD if you depend on having at least one reliable vehicle in the family, despite already being in debt.
these people do not understand that an ongoing balance at 20 % interest means. for instance that they pay 2000 in interest for 10,000 USD debt every year. Which means if they had been frugal 5 years before they could now get a functional decent used vehicle costing 10,000 "for free" so to speak. Or have a reasonable down payment for a newer one.
Love the if it’s not a hell yes, walk away, it is as simple as that, great video
I just wanted to say a big thank you for this video! It was so lovely to see the trident on your neck💙💛. There are so many great rules and advice in here - I'm really grateful to you for sharing it!
I decluttered a lot during the Covid-stay-at-home period and used the money I earned by selling my 2nd hand stuff to buy my first road bike. A really cool thing, because my budget for the price of the bike depended on how much I was able to earn by selling other stuff!
Im 37 years and im glad im already living by all the 10 rules that you mentioned in this video.
My dad adviced me the first rule to buy one quality product than 10 cheap products.
I love the blazer that you are wearing in this video. It looks so nice on you!
The habit of keeping a wishlist has made it so much easier for me to be more mindful and international about making new purchases. As the initial attraction passes, I often start to realise that many of the items on my list just don't work for me.
Girl, how did I not find your channel all these years?!! 7 minutes into my first video from your channel and it was feeling like someone had hacked into my brain and laying out all my principles, in a much better articulated way!! I have been always intentional and even passionate about organising my living space, and these are all the rules I had come up with myself after years of observing myself and refining! Now I have a video to go back to neatly lay out the principles of organised living… Wow, Love it!!! Can’t wait to dig more into your channel!!!
All of this is brilliant. Thank you for an insightful and concise post! Love your show!
Beware: because of age (or pregnancy !) the form of your feet can change. It is quite the bummer, if you are used to having the same size for many years and are used to being able to wear the shoes that are 20 years old ! It would have been better to sell those shoes earlier - or wear the good ones more often.
Thanks Christina. I like the moderation in your ideas. Understanding the why we buy goes a long way to financial freedom.
Great tips I try to follow most of them. Another one is putting money into the things I actually enjoy and not feel guilty about it. So I don’t waste money in clothes or shoes-which for me makes sense my job is primarily wfh. One thing that helped me slow down shopping is to focus on brands or styles that I really enjoy-helps to reduce guess work on something I may not like.
To the point - Excellent points. Makes sense whether you are a minimalist or not.
All the junk I collected over the years is getting on my nerves lately, so it’s really time to implement this 😂
Buy nice or buy twice - I always say buy once cry once! Love both
Not quite the same but i recently test drove a vintage truck, it was nice and a lot of fun and I almost bought it. But driving i got that "buying a problem" feeling. That feeling that the price im about to pay is only the beginning... Not that the truck was in bad shape but I just knew this was going to turn into repairs I couldn't make, accessories I could afford, upgrades I couldn't afford. Buying a problem is a very real thing
You make even the tough stuff look easy!
I have issues with impulse spending and some of these sentences (specially the last one) are so meaningful and will help me out stop the bad decisions on that front...
I try to live a kind of minimalistic life but I try not to take it too far and everything you say here resonates with me. Instead of doing the wishlist sometimes I just let the things in the cart and wait, many times I realize after some days that I don't really want or need the thing in question.
💞Love this post - thank you for taking the time to put it together❣️
100% yes to everything! I've just tried a "spark joy" on my 5 yo daughter, and it works so pure! She hates to get rid of things. So I turned out full 4 baskets of toys on the floor, and I said to pick up only those toys she likes now and wants to play with now, and she barely picked up a third of ONE basket. Good luck! Glory to Ukraine!
Героям слава! Казахи за Украину
I love your saying ... If it is not a "HELL YES" then its a no 😊 👍🏻❤❤❤
I’ve focused on being really intentional about shopping secondhand anytime I can, wearing things for as long as I can and mending them when I can. I use credit some, but almost exclusively for travel. I never go over 2k of debt, and I make sure I can at least pay over the minimum amount each month. I regularly pay the balance off as well. The if it’s not yes it’s a no has completely changed how I buy everything, and I’m working on declutterring and downsizing so it’s less of a hassle to maintain my things in the future. Thank you for always having great suggestions for how to live more intentionally and responsibly!
For topic 6 have you ever heard of 5S?
It's a manufacturing term that comes from Toyota but applying it to life with a partner/family has helped so much for everything in it's place. I feel like it blends with minimalism so well. Lean manufacturing in general is just a great mindset lol
great analogy!
This is really concise and helpful, thank you.
I keep hobbies down to the 3 most important. It's easy to buy and accumulate stuff for hobbies you might want to do. Anything after the top 3 gets donated for library crafts, the community center, or thrift shop.
Oh absolutely! I knit, crochet, and cross-stitch, and lord, it's sooo easy to fill up my bins of supplies! I also have a small basement suite, so what's kept me accountable is knowing I'm only allowed 3 bins for all the yarn I want to store, and once those are full, find a way to use the yarn, or donate it! Roller skating is in-between hobby and sport for me, but I'm also quickly learning that while there are many things I MIGHT want, I need to prioritize what will ACTUALLY be useful!
Retailer wish lists are the best thing ever - I often find myself deleting most of it once I've waited a week or two and am in a more rational mindset. "that's not going to work through a Canadian winter - delete; that colour never looked good on you before, it's not going to now; you have the exact opposite body shape to that model - it simply ain't gonna be flattering" etc. Unfortunately I suspect retailers are wise to this as I've had two different shops all of a sudden stop offering a favourites option this summer. Too bad for them - without a favourites function I'm even more inclined to forget about that impulse urge.
Ok totally following you! Thank you so much, i really need this in my life. I keeo working on my over-buying, and think im doing better. And then I'll have a gratification feeling, and 💥 🤯
Basic principle is - You actually don't need anything more than 4 good quality, good looking, comfortable, and making you happy (does NOT mean expensive brands) items of each basic type altogether, such that you buy once and last for years to come before you feel the need to buy anything new: 4 Formal shirts, 4 Formal trousers, 4 blazers, 4 Casual bottoms (mix of jeans, trousers, slacks), 4 Casual tops (mix of t-shirts, shirts, kurtas, kurtis), 4 Casual jackets, 4 shoes (2 formal + 2 casual), 4 bags (2 formal + 2 casual), 4 earrings, 4 neckpieces, 2 Watches - AND Done. You are all set for many years to come before having to buy anything new. You can just simply mix and match things according to the occasion.
Love this! Great words to so many things I’ve started to realize myself. Thank you!!
Totally adopting the HELL YES rule!
I adopted this rule a few months ago and it changes everything for the better whether you are thinking about a purchase or deciding on decluttering something.
The soles of unused shoes and boots can disintegrate. This is especially true for rubber soles (often used for quality shoes). The material is very good for the purpose but it has a shelf life. The shoe is meant to be worn, and the act of using it (compressing the sole) prevents the disintigration (or delays it). So if you have bought the good hiking boots and use them after years, they may fall apart (during the hike no less).
There is no solution for that. If you have quality shoes that you do not wear for a long time it would be better to sell them off for a good price, at least they will serve another person. Another tip: if the shoes soles CAN be completely replaced that is great. However, that is not often the case. I know a family member with a pair of sturdy leather winter boots. I think he has worn them for ? 15 years. Both soles and one zipper had to be replaced. But cost per wear are very, very good, beats every cheap pair.
At current purchasing prices that pair would maybe cost around 300 USD / Euro. It was not a fancy brand, so he paid for quality and for a more labour intense construction (that allows to replace the sole).
A great video, thanks Christina. The one in one out rule works well for me - also thinking of my wardrobe, and what I am prepared to let go of, if I buy that thing is a good leveller. Also, buying secondhand first, and looking for good quality. Also, thinking about how you would get rid of that thing if you no longer needed it, and making sure to thing about sustainable options, such as selling, rather than just donating things, or throwing them away is helpful too.
I agree on lots of your points:
The wishlist
the "buy the best you can afford, not the cheapest or most expensive"
the "it's either a "*ell yes" or a "no"
not buying a problem
I knew most of them, but it's nice to be reminded and integrate it again
Thanks! I enjoy this more sustainable route to minimalist-ish. One of your points that really resonated with me was the use of wish lists. I have wish lists for any number of things that interest/intrigue me so I pop 'em on the relevant list and wait and wait. During the wait, I question myself as to the "why" and what role it would serve, I check to see what like it I already have and more often than not, I end up deleting it! The "hunt" is fun, "bagging" something less so. I also avoid credit like the plague.
I agree all 10 rules of this video. Makes absolute sense and I've been doing quite a few of them already in my decluttering and minimalism habits.
I dont think I can live like a minimalist since I was born to a hoarder mom whose hoarding doesn’t look severe until u pull out everything from storage bins, closets, cabinets, unused rooms. But I do find myself doing a quarterly to annual purge season where I purge any item or clothing that no longer fits me, no longer serves me, or is no longer something I like or am interested in. This includes items and clothes that I haven’t reached out for within the past 6 months. If ever I’m keeping them, there has to be a solid reason why.
Most of what I purge are donated to charity, and few high value ones are sold online. I suck at online selling of anything so it does get stuck somewhere in my room, but it’s already in the “let go” pile which I will eventually get to, when I have the energy for that. It never goes back in the “to keep” pile, that’s at least my rule.
I didn’t learn this from anyone, I just had the opportunity one day and eventually found myself naturally gravitating to doing every 3-6 or 6-12 months. Hope this helps someone 😊
Lots of great info here! One of the things I do to help with impulse shopping is I’ll open an Instagram ad in an external browser. Usually I’ll forget about the item, or if I really want it then I have to go look for it in a browser tab.
One thing I do feel is useful for large item purchases is 12 months interest free or something along those lines. Of course doing research first, but sometimes it takes a long time to save money for a big purchase. I feel like that can be really helpful if used carefully.
I like to add a "wishlist & wait" stage to decluttering, to ensure I'm being mindful at every stage of the process.
Sometimes this is more literal: I put things I want to declutter aside, & leave them, until I'm ready to sell/donate them, then go through them & make doubly sure I am happy to part with them.
Other times it just means giving them one last use, to ensure I've got all the use out of them I can/want to.
- Clothes I make sure to try on again. This doesn't always involve much literal "waiting", since it's pretty easy to see when something no longer fits or suits. However, to ensure I truly give every piece the thought it deserves, I try to only put on a few pieces at a time, in order to avoid the "ugh, not more things to try on" feeling that can happen if I'm getting rid of several things at once. I also try to keep them on for longer than a few minutes (unless they truly don't fit/suit) to make sure I'm not just giving them a surface level assessment.
- Books, DVDs, etc, I make sure to re-read/watch. There have been several times I have been planning to pass something on only to rediscover my love for it (& other times I've decided to re-read/watch something I thought I'd keep forever only to find it no longer sparks joy the way it once did).
More often than not, I do still end up getting rid of the things I put aside, but making doubly, triply sure, means I don't end up with regrets/plagued by what-ifs.
I also sometimes discover that something I put aside because I no longer needed/wanted it for its original purpose, can be used for a different purpose that I have been thinking about buying something new for. Having the seperation of putting it aside, rather than having it stored with a bunch of similar items that I do still use in the original way, can make it easier to make that leap to an alternate use.
This is such a great idea!