1. Buy Nice or Buy Twice 2. If its not a "HELL YES" then its a "No" 3. Declutter before Organization 4. If you don't use it, you lose it 5. Wishlist and Wait 6. A place for everything 7. Don't Buy a Problem 8. Have a "Why" before you Buy 9. The "Spark Joy" Rule 10. If you can't buy it with cash, you can't afford it
I recently saw a post about decluttering that said, "if it had poop on it, would you throw it out or take the time to wash it off?" Best tip I've ever seen.
I’ve heard this one before and was instantly reminded of when someone puked on my heels at a party and I had them sitting in a bag to clean them but never got to it and wound up just having to toss them. They were $40 (which to me was a lot of money, I bought them in hs for homecoming and I distinctly remember being upset bc I didn’t even rly like them and felt bad that my grandma had to spend that much money on shoes I didn’t even really like, lol). So I’ve definitely lived this advice before, really drives the point home 😂
I had a pair of boots that were really worn out and no good, but I couldn't bring myself to throw them away until my cat peed on them. It was easy after that. She was just helping me out. Lol
People may or may not agree with this. I used to work in high-end retail where my employee discount still wasn't good enough... I would try on whatever I wanted, Then if I saw it on ebay months later and it was affordable for me I could reconsider getting it and know what size fit. One benefit of trying on everything you're interested in helps you know what actually looks good and what doesn't so you can stop daydreaming about an item and take it off your list of things. There have been plenty of times where I was so in love with something and then I tried it on and it did not work for me at all and I was so glad that I didn't waste time or money on it.
I had a similar experience working in a shoe store. I'd fall in love with the look of boots that just didn't work for my feet or ankles or calves. But if they did work, and my size was still there when they went to clearance and I still loved them, I knew it was meant to be!
@@JM-rb3wy not only do I completely agree, I have done this for years! And I buy all my clothes on ebay (except underwear🥰). To me it’s a really good way to stay out of the fast fashion trap (which is rampant in retail now) and a great way to reuse clothing so it won’t end up in a landfill somewhere. I know what brands i like and what size I wear in them, so I keep an eye out. Love it.♥️♥️
Has anyone noticed that nowadays sellers on ebay, etc. want to flip everything *including* used clothing, to the point where they expect to even make a profit on top of what they have payed for that dress or coat, etc. And I don't mean vintage (although that is getting out of hand too), but last season's clothes at H&M, etc... This annoys me so much.
Number 9 reminds me of the William Morris quote: "Have nothing in your house that you do not know to be useful or believe to be beautiful." I like this philosophy because some sentimental or decor items are not necessarily useful, but they are special and beautiful to me. And that means they are worth having. 💕
Your channel has literally changed my life. This February, I came to terms with the fact that I was not only a shopping addict, but a full blown hoarder. I have worked tirelessly since then selling, rehoming, and donating to my local shelter. (And even throwing things away because honestly a lot of it was literal trash.) I just bought a house and I'll be starting fresh in a new space with only things that I love and need, and it truly feels like I'm walking on air. Never again will I allow "stuff" to control me. I own it, it doesn't own me. Thank you for your vids :)
I think it also depends what you are buying. My mom bought me a cheap t-shirt for what amounts to a little more than a dollar, closer to about one euro when I was a teenager. I wore that t-shirt regularly (think about 2 times a week regular) for about 8 years before it tore badly enough that I can't wear it as a t-shirt (I plan to turn it into a tank 'cause I love it). You should judge the quality of what you're buying rather than judge by the cost.
I remember coming across a saying that was attributed to a Rockefeller. "Buy the best you can afford and use it up". That always stuck with me, even if I don't always follow it.
I always have Vivienne Westwoods "Buy Less, Choose Well, Make it Last" in my head whenever I find myself wanting anything. It definitely helps control any impulse I have for things that I may not necessarily need, but also, which I might not want for very long! I can't have clutter in my closet or really anywhere in my house because it really distracts me from my work (i'm a poet), and it just helps me a lot to know what i truly WILL wear, and will love for a long time. So happy you have a membership level for your channel now. Hope you get lots!!!!
I think that at times the urge to shop comes from a general disatisfaction with yourself or with your life. Going shopping was a quick pick-me -up for me but it usually only lasted till I got home and realised I didn't need what I bought and could have saved the money. I've slowly learnt that I actually get more of a buzz being out in nature so I'm now more likely to head for a forest or park etc than to the noisy shops. Even if you're living inner-city you can go for a walk and take time to notice leaves on trees, the sun behind clouds... I come home feeling refreshed rather than exhausted :-)
I loved shopping, but I find when you spend more time with your hobbies, you’ll get a better release. Your hobby is being with nature, mine is growing it. I love growing my plants, cutting them, growing roots on the cuttings and watching that cutting grow. It always amazes me how you can take a cutting with 1 leaf, put it in water and have an entire plant a year later!
A rule I lived by this week was Before you buy, use what you have. I needed a notebook for a project, but went through my stationery basket and found a new, pretty good one. My eco bag broke. Instead of buying a cute one I saw in a shop, I looked in my gift pile (fun, small gifts I keep on hand) and found one. And now, I think I want a sleek, small knapsack with a water bottle holder. I might buy one, but for now, I’m using a knapsack that for some reason I never used. So far, it’s working well. Even though there’s no dedicated bottle pocket.
I've been living by this for a while now, especially when it comes to notebooks, stationery, and bags. I haven't stuck to it perfectly, but what has helped me the most is keeping in mind that I have an entire closet full of notebooks, journals, planners, and bags. I also have drawers and boxes full of pens, markers, highlighters, sticky notes, tapes, stickers...oh, and a whole shelf in my notebook closet is dedicated to scrapbook paper! And there are more stashes in another room in my house! So, I *literally do not need* any more stationery items or handbags. Anytime I'm out shopping, I try to picture all the things I already have or at least tell myself "I already have this at home!" It works about 85% of the time, so I call it a win!
I do this and if I don't have what I need, I'll ask around. Often friends or family have a brand new or gently used thing that will work for me + they're happy to re-home. My work backpack was finally starting to fall apart after 10 years of heavy use. After not being able to find a replacement I loved, I asked around and was able to find a gently used backpack that works perfectly for my purposes. It's not a color or style I would've picked but I love it because it was an intentional acquisition that was also free :)
I'm a firm believer in functionalism. Everything in my life should serve a function of some sort. That way people have room to be themselves and identify their needs without being too restrictive.
I still have my wedding dress 😁 I do not wear it, but I like to look at it from time to time, it arises sweet memories when I was ten years younger and ten kilos slimmer 😂 Is it still functional to keep it? No, it is not, but it is still there and it is priceless for me
I have this - to a point. Knickknacks are OK. They're not meant to be anything but ornamental (though, most of mine were gifts or a souvinier). But I do not buy things I don't intend to use. And I'm far more likely to buy something ugly that's more useful to me than the pretty option (this comment brought to you by my vacuum in the living rokm).
I adhere to the 1 in 1 out rule. When shopping if I see something I like, I ask which of my current items will have to go. Makes me pause and reflect on how much I like it.
The buy nice or buy twice is a great rule. I think it works best for items that you know you like or use frequently. If it's an item for a new hobby though, I like to buy the most affordable option first just to see if the habit or hobby sticks. Then when the behavioral change I'm trying to make is more permanent, then I start looking at more high end models/brands.
Ooh yes, that’s what I did for fountain pens. I bought an affordable one first, one that I wouldn’t be afraid to damage or lose, plus one bottle of ink. When I became regular in writing in my journal with the fountain pen, that’s when I bought more pens and ink colours.
It's worth noting that it's buy nice, not buy expensive. Sometimes a quality offbrand object or one bought on clearance at the end of the year will be just as nice as it was at full price. I got so much stuff like that, it's a shame my wife just makes that stuff disappear when I'm at work because it's not the latest fashion. Doubly so because she's been voluntarily unemployed for years and she regularly throws out stuff that costs more than her income for multiple years. I'm looking forward to decluttering her.
I have adhd, so practicing with delaying gratification is always difficult for more, but so good for my mental health when I get better at it! Thank you for the great tips! It also helps me to replace the impulse buy with something else that gives me gratification, like talking to a friend, listening to music I love or playing a silly game that is easy to win :).
I think it also really helps in reducing waste and forced labor. Fast fashion, hauls, and consumerism directly affects humans in the Congo, Palestine, and Kenya. The more intentionality we bring into life, the more intention we give to others too! Love it.
Lol not in Palestine (btw you meant gaza or the other part controlled by Mahmoud Abbas ?) there are no clothes factories there so... There are no factories btw. But maybe you never been there so...
Love all of these! I need to think before I buy. I've definitely learned my lesson that if you buy a less expensive substitute for what you really want, you never really enjoy it. Just took a huge carload of donations to charity. Applied the "hell yes" test, which was so rewarding!
Absolutely!!! Even if it’s expensive I only buy what I really want and guess what I never regret it! If I have to, I save and even wait but that itch gets scratched and I feel satisfied
The “HELL YES” and “spark joy” are ones I’ve been leaning more and more into. With clothes especially. I’m someone who spent their childhood into mid-twenties overweight and unhappy and obsessive about it. I hated how I looked. Once I lost weight I suddenly liked how I looked in clothes so I started buying any and everything. Over the last few years I’ve realized that just because it fits me, doesn’t mean I need to buy it. Now I only buy clothes that spark joy and it has made all the difference.
I’ve used the “if it’s not a heck yes” rule a lot while clothing shopping. Also, if I have about 2-3 clothing items in my hands, make myself put one back on the rack before going to a check out. I’ll be forced to put back an item that I feel “meh” about.
Hey Christina, I know you've mentioned in previous videos that you don't like wearing gold jewelry against your skin because you feel it blends in too much but I just gotta say how you styled your outfit in this video with the multiple gold necklaces looks so good on you, very chic and I love the color combo!
Asking myself before buying anything “do I need it or I just want it?” or “will I have a place to put the new thing I buy?” was a gamechanger buying less clutter and keeping my apartment organized.
If it’s a “Hell yes!” reasonably priced piece of basic clothing, I buy it in two colours. If the cut and fit and comfort are right then I know I’ll wear it often so I may as well have two good things. I’ve done it with jeans, trousers, T-shirts and knitwear in plain, neutral colours. That way you feel good and so you aren’t constantly looking for something new because you enjoy what you have.
After I decluttered all the synthetics and everything that didn't have a flattering fit, *POOF* I was a minimalist. Buying secondhand pretty much follows all your rules and you can really determine the quality of a piece and its true size.
I like it too. However, I have to watch myself because I have been known to use it as an excuse in the moment: "Oh, I'll get this now, and when I get home I'll go thru and pick something to get rid of." But by the time I get home, I'm too tired and/or I've forgotten my intentions. I do eventually declutter, but it never goes according to my plans.
@@mrandisg I ask myself when I'm deciding to buy, which of my current things am I willing to get rid of. This often makes me realize I don't need the new thing as I like everything I already have.
This summer I decided to declutter my summer shirts, my rules were: I would wear everything at least once before repeat wearing, anything that l took out and didn’t wear for whatever reason, ie: didn’t fit, needed repair, no longer was my style, uncomfortable etc… went straight to the donate bin (or trash). I got rid of a lot and feel so much better. I realized I was hanging on to items because I thought I should like it or I paid good money for it or I’ll wear it in a pinch….it’s so freeing to have that stuff gone!
I just restrict myself to nearly entirely things that have looked good in the '50s as my standard. It means that I mostly just replace clothing due to wear and tear or me changing sizes. It's not even necessarily unfashionable.
My rule: if I didn’t already know I needed it when I walked into the store, I can’t buy it. Once I get home, I can sort out if I need it but consistently I won’t even remember it.
This!!! I think it’s the same with online shopping, and you see a SALE and then you start to add things to your cart. Instead I add to Wishlist. I leave things In there, and the amount of times I go back in and end up removing 90% of them is astounding lol
The one thing about clutter is that it stands in your way to do the things you want or need to do. You can't cook with stuff all over your kitchen counters, so you spend time and energy on cleaning before you can cook. In the end you just look at the mess and order take-out instead, adding to the problem. This is why decluttering and actually thinking about why you need the item or if you use it often enough for it to be worth it is so important. Clutter is mentally exhausting even if we don't think about it. Take one drawer at a time, one shelf at a time, it becomes less overwhealming that way.
I'm shooting for minimal-ish as well. I have decluttered easily 80% of what I once owned, and like having empty spaces, but I also like having nice things around me and my rooms to feel cozy instead of bare. I'm a new empty nester and for the first time in my life have a place to myself. I am enjoying clearing out all of the stuff I have been waiting to let go of. My goal is to have a place that I could easily pack up in a weekend if I were to move and I am very close to getting there. =)
I love to watch your video to stop myself from buying things on an impulse and remind myself to save money. Your logic resonates with me, so I keep coming back :) Thank you for making these videos.
Some of my friends cannot believe my cheap self will buy $70-90 ThirdLove bras...but if I bought $20 Target bras I would not be comfortable or look as good in my (mostly thrifted) wardrobe! Sometimes better quality is so worth the price.
For sure! Also, this might just be bc I’ve pretty much always had big boobs so cheap bras were never an option for me, but I literally didn’t even realize that people spent less than at LEAST $40 on bras until fairly recently. I remember seeing reviews for pepper bras (which is a brand that makes rly well-fitting bras for small boobs/cup sizes) and the only complaint was that they were expensive (I think maybe ~$50), and I was literally boggled, lol. I will always spend money on good bras, there’s literally no point otherwise
I mean, i hear you but the expensive bras are being produced relatively cheaply too. I doubt they are worth anywhere close to 70 dollars, but yeah I get the „cheap bras don’t work“ thing. Same here 😅
Those friends probably have normal or small sized boobs, lol. I buy third love too, very comfortable, but I can’t find my size in store or cheaper if I tried, lol.
when I buy every day shoes I buy very good quality. If I buy cheap they lose too much support then my knees start hurting. I buy running shoes from a locally owned running store. The shoes last me almost a year. Spending about $150 for a year free from hip and knee pain is priceless. I also had bad bursitis in my hips that required injections and a lot of physical therapy. Then I read something and discovered a bad mattress and side sleeping can cause the problem. So I bought a good bed and the problem went away! spending $1200 on a bed saved thousands in medical bills
All great 👍 tips! I try to be aware of the following in order to be more intentional: - My future self: Imagine how I will like or use the item in the future. Will it serve me in different areas or my life? Will I be annoyed by it or forget about it? Do I have something similar already? - What is the cost (beyond financial cost) of the item? Do I have the space at home or will I have to make space? Will this bring peace or annoyance in the future? I try to not get swayed by the merchandising or marketing of item and instead, how it fits in my life (like imaging how my life would be when house hunting and look beyond the home staging). - What is the opportunity cost? Less money for other things? More time, space, and/or money to maintain the item?
#10. #10. #10. Credit card debt becomes financial enslavement for too many people. If you don't have the cash, wait until you do. This whole video is a great compilation of things I've learned the hard way(s) over the years that unfortunately is not taught in school or college. Thanks for posting this Christina!
I remember being in university and chatting with the guys at a credit card sign-up table. I told them about my method for tracking what I spent. I had an account book from my credit union (to record purchases, cheques, etc.), and I kept track in there of stuff I spent from my debit account and also on my credit card, with a way to note whether or not I had paid my credit card bill. I treated my credit card like a debit card and never spent what I didn't already have. I learned this from my parents' example.
I call myself a "middlest". I declutter often and try to be intentional with what comes in my home. I do not like clutter but I do enjoy a nicely decorated home, but keep it simple.
Similar to your wish list, I will put items I want in the (online) cart but then I will leave it. If I’m still thinking about the thing a week later, I will go back and reconsider it. And sometimes the company will email you a coupon to try to get you to come back and check out. So you’ve got to be strong enough to ignore that push until you are ready to buy.
I absolutely love the term minimal-ish. I subscribe to the mindset and the way I try to simplify. I think it helps me attempt to find contentment. Also this video came just in time. Patagonia, Everlane, and Reformation all have 50% sales right now which is tempting even though I don't need anything.
Minimal-ish is balanced in my opinion. I love to feel a sense of control over my belongings. But I also feel like so many times, having stuff in the back of my closet works out well in the long run. The "rule" of getting rid of everything you have not worn in a year sounds pretty good to me but in reality? Some years I might travel to a cold climate and need all those heavy sweaters and snow boots. Some years I may drag out the ankle length velvet gown for a Halloween costume. I have a reputation among my friends for being practical and minimalist but I'm definitely just "minimal-ish"!
Instead of minimalism, I leaned into a curated kind of life where only the things I love are what I keep. And it works. It kinda borderline minimalism removing the suppression part. Example: I saw a cute bag. If I really like it so much, I buy it. Then, look at my other bags that I think doesnt make me feel wanting anymore and I replace that with the new cute bag. Either, put the bag on sale, gift to someone or donate. In the end, I get all things cute and fun for myself. Fulfilled of what my items look. Have practiced making smart choices as the buying process was tedious (lots of thinking if its already the best I can get and my unwated items thinking, if they really is worth it to be replaced) Key is not to be attached with things. Not be too sentimental. Challenge is there's always cute items they sell in the market (but again since the buying part of your items needs a lot of consideration, overtime, you'll be practiced to argue whenever you see cute stuff, that what you have already is the cutest) Urrrgggh. Buy what you love, thats the key!! Delay if needed. Or buy with option for returns in case after using it a bit of time you realize you dont like them. Curate. Dont keep what you dont love. You can apply this to people as well 😂
I love "if it's not a hell yes, then it's a no". I have so many things on my wishlist and they sit there for a while before I make a purchase, but actually trying things on and thinking about how it makes you feel wearing it can help with deciding if it's a hell yes. I also learned recently that instead of shopping for your fantasy future self, you reflect on the past season and what you felt you actually needed, what it was that you didn't have that you wished you did.
Very good points. I do think that when talking about "buy nice or buy twice"rule it's good to remember that "it's very expensive being poor". So for a lot of people that would love to save money, there's no opportunity to buy that better quality item because they simply don't have that money and cannot save for it either (e.g. if your child needs new shoes NOW, there's no option to wait). But for people who have a bit more or who have the time/ease of mind to wait to buy, it's absolutely true that buying something better is the best option.
I hear my late father's voice in my ear every time I think of buying something -"If you can't afford it, you can't have it " .Wise words I've always lived by even through tough times. Sandi UK
My dad used to tell me when I was a kid: "you can only spend your dollar once". Making me think if this one cheap children's toy was really worth my one dollar. I still use this way of thinking to this day.
I've been decluttering for years - there's always more! I found a game changer for me was when we needed to clear out our loft space to have work done. There was so much up there which was water damaged and that wasn't worth the effort of saving. In the end I discovered I only wanted a few keepsakes and the Christmas decorations (heavily pared back!) I bought some decent storage containers (a keep sake box for each of us, and x3 for Christmas decorations) which stack nicely. The items were lovingly cleaned up and now live within the house, are easily accessible and the loft is completely empty! My point is, starting with an area which isn't as meaningful to you can help build those decluttering muscles. After all, we often chuck stuff we're not too bothered about up in unseen areas.
TBH, the big trick is to stop as much of it from coming in as possible and to try to make as little use as possible of hidden storage areas. The more of the mess is front and center, the less likely it is to grow bigger.
As always, your insights are brilliant! I would just add the idea of making sure I'm not buying something for my "fantasy self". This concept has helped me to keep focused & grounded ,,, and out of trouble.
Great video, Christina! I’m going to declutter more right now. 😊 The thing I do is have a separate bank account labeled “your name” or “Shopping/Gifts” and out of every paycheque put in an amount, 50 bucks, 100 bucks…whatever, and when you accumulate enough you can buy something like a Lily Silk blouse that you always wanted. Anyways, it works for me. Thanks for all the tips! 😊
100% yes to everything! I've just tried a "spark joy" on my 5 yo daughter, and it works so pure! She hates to get rid of things. So I turned out full 4 baskets of toys on the floor, and I said to pick up only those toys she likes now and wants to play with now, and she barely picked up a third of ONE basket. Good luck! Glory to Ukraine!
Im 37 years and im glad im already living by all the 10 rules that you mentioned in this video. My dad adviced me the first rule to buy one quality product than 10 cheap products.
Journaling about your purchase is absolutely genius. I try to be as intentional as possible when making a purchase. I actually use most of these techniques already so thank you for showing me new techniques.
Thank you for this Christina! 10 great tips to live by not only for how I manage stuff but how I choose to spend my time. I am recently retired and find I get pulled into doing things I don't really want to do, because in theory I have the time. You have given me a new mantra to solve this - If it isn't a Hell Yes it is a definite No!! Thank you!!
6:09 this was the first minimalist rule i unconsciously adopted. Often times my wishlists arent even things i want to buy: theyre more of aesthetic mood boards or concepts i want to remember.
Well said, Chris! Especially the buy-now-pay-later, or IPP method (installments via credit card) from small to big non-capital spending. This is usually how the merchants boost their sales too. Too many temptations nowaday, too much cluttering nowadays.
I am a warm minimalist now 3 years. I moved out of state and sold everything. When I started 😅 shopping I heard ( buy high…) and purchased a few nice and expensive pieces and my home looks & feels amazing. I purchase nothing unless it is absolutely necessary and have saved a lot. I’ve never felt better mentally/ physically
I love your videos and it makes me laugh because my style is the EXACT opposite where I love flowy, frilly, earthy, soft but your advice is so universal and easy to apply to any style it helps me so much!
Yes love an organised wardrobe. I tried the putting everything I'd worn to the left, to see what i didn't wear often. But the absolute chaos of not finding the exact piece of clothing where i thought it was became waaaay too frustrating
Sometimes I remind myself to "place, take and replace". First, try to give every item a home ( place it ), then use it ( take ) and put it back ( replace )... It's nice because it flows as a mantra, and it helps me remember to clean as I go, because picking up and using the thing is now part of a process that ends with "replace". Seems elementary but it's very useful to me in my garage, fixing my motorcycle ( the problem I bought lol ).
I don't buy things that need tailoring/dry cleaning because knowing myself I will never get around to take the item to the tailor/dry cleaner... with a very few exceptions like really fancy dresses for special events
Used the buy nice or buy twice concept this past month when getting a new bath mat. I splurged and got an Anthropologie bath mat, hoping it would let because I invested. However when I received it, it was extremely damaged. I returned it in store, and the associates told me there was honestly a good chance I’d receive another damaged one. So I saved my money and stress and bought one at target for 1/4 the orice
Not quite the same but i recently test drove a vintage truck, it was nice and a lot of fun and I almost bought it. But driving i got that "buying a problem" feeling. That feeling that the price im about to pay is only the beginning... Not that the truck was in bad shape but I just knew this was going to turn into repairs I couldn't make, accessories I could afford, upgrades I couldn't afford. Buying a problem is a very real thing
Girl, how did I not find your channel all these years?!! 7 minutes into my first video from your channel and it was feeling like someone had hacked into my brain and laying out all my principles, in a much better articulated way!! I have been always intentional and even passionate about organising my living space, and these are all the rules I had come up with myself after years of observing myself and refining! Now I have a video to go back to neatly lay out the principles of organised living… Wow, Love it!!! Can’t wait to dig more into your channel!!!
The soles of unused shoes and boots can disintegrate. This is especially true for rubber soles (often used for quality shoes). The material is very good for the purpose but it has a shelf life. The shoe is meant to be worn, and the act of using it (compressing the sole) prevents the disintigration (or delays it). So if you have bought the good hiking boots and use them after years, they may fall apart (during the hike no less). There is no solution for that. If you have quality shoes that you do not wear for a long time it would be better to sell them off for a good price, at least they will serve another person. Another tip: if the shoes soles CAN be completely replaced that is great. However, that is not often the case. I know a family member with a pair of sturdy leather winter boots. I think he has worn them for ? 15 years. Both soles and one zipper had to be replaced. But cost per wear are very, very good, beats every cheap pair. At current purchasing prices that pair would maybe cost around 300 USD / Euro. It was not a fancy brand, so he paid for quality and for a more labour intense construction (that allows to replace the sole).
Great tips! One rule I have is to remove at least one item from my cart when I'm ready to make a purchase, especially in the store. Now it's a fun habit.
I wish I understood the principle of buying the highest quality I could afford when I was first purchasing furniture. I now have a bunch of inexpensive furniture that not only looks cheap, but is substandard quality.
Absolutely, investing in quality furniture really pays off in the long run! It not only elevates your space but also adds durability. I often share tips on making smart furniture choices on my channel, focusing on lasting value and aesthetics. It's all about finding that perfect balance!
Exactly. I have a white metal bed, it looks like I sleep in an institution or hospital, which is exactly where I will be going if I keep sleeping on it.
I just wanted to say a big thank you for this video! It was so lovely to see the trident on your neck💙💛. There are so many great rules and advice in here - I'm really grateful to you for sharing it!
Great tips I try to follow most of them. Another one is putting money into the things I actually enjoy and not feel guilty about it. So I don’t waste money in clothes or shoes-which for me makes sense my job is primarily wfh. One thing that helped me slow down shopping is to focus on brands or styles that I really enjoy-helps to reduce guess work on something I may not like.
Very insightful and helpful! I'm currently trying to transition into organizing/decluttering my home and this is definitely a helpful video! Sidenote: LOVE the coat of arms you're wearing (I have one too 🥰💖)
I’ve really gone through some downsizing (literally I lost 90 pds due to a health issue). Had to replace my wardrobe. Now I only buy quality, no fast fashion and something that can be used through multiple seasons with no or minimal alterations. I get old favourites altered, rather than donating, selling or trashing. I also search wide and low for deals on a specific item and don’t buy if it’s not on sale or discounted. I think about it for awhile before buying. It has to fit into my wardrobe somehow and be able to be used with multiple other looks. Makeup is the same. I never buy viral products and always wait at least 30 days until buying, after some real reviews come in and the viral has died. I’m also mindful of landfills and try to pass on or sell unwanted items. I find I not only save $ now, I have a cohesive wardrobe without a lot of multiples or low quality items. Dressing is easier and much less frustrating.
The habit of keeping a wishlist has made it so much easier for me to be more mindful and international about making new purchases. As the initial attraction passes, I often start to realise that many of the items on my list just don't work for me.
I like keeping things that I actually wear. Are they the Basics? No, they're clothing items I love and that I bought precisely thinking of having them around for a long time.
I try to live a kind of minimalistic life but I try not to take it too far and everything you say here resonates with me. Instead of doing the wishlist sometimes I just let the things in the cart and wait, many times I realize after some days that I don't really want or need the thing in question.
I was an overbuyer in my teens and early adult years, then I went abroad for 6 months in college and I had to live off on a very small budget in a more expensive country. That made me realize I don't need the newest thing on the market. I also can't call myself a minimalist, however, I have regular decluttering sessions every month. One month I would declutter my clothes, the other month my desk area, etc. I agree with especially the HELL, YES rule. I don't buy any article that I have a sliver of doubt about. This minimalism thing is usually discussed in terms of clothing but in my experience, books and technology are the ones that have the potential to make me go broke. I have an excel list that has all the books in my bookcase, because I realized a couple of years ago that I forgot the books I bought and didn't read yet. Now, I check my list to see if I have the book before buying. Also keeping the statistics of the books I read and haven't read yet helps me keep my book buying to minimum. Technology is something I spend a lot of money on, because it is expensive. However, I check before buying an expensive gadget if I can afford it that month, and I prefer to buy quality brands that has the hardware that will last me years. My previous phone, I used for 5 years. My laptop, 8 years. Then I sell the old stuff online and get rid of them while earning some money.
“If you don’t say NO then people will start saying YES for you.” That is so true. Of course there are those who will try to say “yes” for you even when you have said “no” and said it clearly. On the hand there are also things you don’t have a right to refuse. Toxic people will ignore your “no”, but will have no problem saying “no” to your needs.
I decluttered a lot during the Covid-stay-at-home period and used the money I earned by selling my 2nd hand stuff to buy my first road bike. A really cool thing, because my budget for the price of the bike depended on how much I was able to earn by selling other stuff!
Wow! I've been like this probably the last 15 years, and no video has to this level of preciseness honed in on this exact mindset. x) I was gonna comment "especially this...", but each point you bring up resonates with me. Buying nice instead of cheap, buying less by wishlisting and letting the time pass instead of buying straight away, being intentional with each space and where things go, I (sometimes to my detriment) shy away from "deals" and sales since I decided a long time ago they should never be the sole reason to purchase something. I've also never bought anything in parts or taken a loan to buy somthing (except my house and my cell phone). Despite this it has happened that I regret a purchase and that sucks, but it definitely keeps it to a minimum. :)
For topic 6 have you ever heard of 5S? It's a manufacturing term that comes from Toyota but applying it to life with a partner/family has helped so much for everything in it's place. I feel like it blends with minimalism so well. Lean manufacturing in general is just a great mindset lol
Buy nice or buy twice has been so valuable to me over the past year. So worth spending more and expect it to last me years or a lifetime, than having to buy the same product multiple times
I’ve focused on being really intentional about shopping secondhand anytime I can, wearing things for as long as I can and mending them when I can. I use credit some, but almost exclusively for travel. I never go over 2k of debt, and I make sure I can at least pay over the minimum amount each month. I regularly pay the balance off as well. The if it’s not yes it’s a no has completely changed how I buy everything, and I’m working on declutterring and downsizing so it’s less of a hassle to maintain my things in the future. Thank you for always having great suggestions for how to live more intentionally and responsibly!
I adopted this rule a few months ago and it changes everything for the better whether you are thinking about a purchase or deciding on decluttering something.
if you cant pay right then, dont buy; buy nice always; if you know 'hell yes' then it will be a nice buy; declutter if you dont use for more than 1 year; repurpose material; learnt how to make quilts from old dresses, they are not great, but not bad either. as always Christina rocks
1. Buy Nice or Buy Twice
2. If its not a "HELL YES" then its a "No"
3. Declutter before Organization
4. If you don't use it, you lose it
5. Wishlist and Wait
6. A place for everything
7. Don't Buy a Problem
8. Have a "Why" before you Buy
9. The "Spark Joy" Rule
10. If you can't buy it with cash, you can't afford it
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This is PERFECT!! I am an "Over Shopper" and this is ideal to declutter and stop buying things that are not right. Thank you!
Love this, and I practice it.
I recently saw a post about decluttering that said, "if it had poop on it, would you throw it out or take the time to wash it off?"
Best tip I've ever seen.
LMAO this is for real 💩
I’ve heard this one before and was instantly reminded of when someone puked on my heels at a party and I had them sitting in a bag to clean them but never got to it and wound up just having to toss them. They were $40 (which to me was a lot of money, I bought them in hs for homecoming and I distinctly remember being upset bc I didn’t even rly like them and felt bad that my grandma had to spend that much money on shoes I didn’t even really like, lol). So I’ve definitely lived this advice before, really drives the point home 😂
That's a great tip!
I had a pair of boots that were really worn out and no good, but I couldn't bring myself to throw them away until my cat peed on them. It was easy after that. She was just helping me out. Lol
Ohhh that's a good one
People may or may not agree with this. I used to work in high-end retail where my employee discount still wasn't good enough... I would try on whatever I wanted, Then if I saw it on ebay months later and it was affordable for me I could reconsider getting it and know what size fit. One benefit of trying on everything you're interested in helps you know what actually looks good and what doesn't so you can stop daydreaming about an item and take it off your list of things. There have been plenty of times where I was so in love with something and then I tried it on and it did not work for me at all and I was so glad that I didn't waste time or money on it.
I had a similar experience working in a shoe store. I'd fall in love with the look of boots that just didn't work for my feet or ankles or calves. But if they did work, and my size was still there when they went to clearance and I still loved them, I knew it was meant to be!
This is BRILLIANT
@@JM-rb3wy not only do I completely agree, I have done this for years! And I buy all my clothes on ebay (except underwear🥰). To me it’s a really good way to stay out of the fast fashion trap (which is rampant in retail now) and a great way to reuse clothing so it won’t end up in a landfill somewhere. I know what brands i like and what size I wear in them, so I keep an eye out. Love it.♥️♥️
I noticed that, it happens a lot, I obsess over certain things and when I try it on, it doesn't work and I move on.
Has anyone noticed that nowadays sellers on ebay, etc. want to flip everything *including* used clothing, to the point where they expect to even make a profit on top of what they have payed for that dress or coat, etc. And I don't mean vintage (although that is getting out of hand too), but last season's clothes at H&M, etc... This annoys me so much.
Number 9 reminds me of the William Morris quote: "Have nothing in your house that you do not know to be useful or believe to be beautiful." I like this philosophy because some sentimental or decor items are not necessarily useful, but they are special and beautiful to me. And that means they are worth having. 💕
Your channel has literally changed my life. This February, I came to terms with the fact that I was not only a shopping addict, but a full blown hoarder. I have worked tirelessly since then selling, rehoming, and donating to my local shelter. (And even throwing things away because honestly a lot of it was literal trash.) I just bought a house and I'll be starting fresh in a new space with only things that I love and need, and it truly feels like I'm walking on air. Never again will I allow "stuff" to control me. I own it, it doesn't own me. Thank you for your vids :)
I’m so happy for you. I sincerely wish you well in your journey to wholeness.. I hope you can hold on to that high for the rest of your life :)
Wow, that's amazing! Keep up the new lifestyle!
To keep me from impulse buying on Amazon I will read the negative reviews. Works like a charm!
Too bad they don’t have a review section in the stores.
YES, then I talk myself out of buying. 😊
I put it in save for later and if I want it a week later then maybe
I once read a comment that said to treat your own wardrobe like a clothing store, and "go shopping" with your own clothes.
I really like how quick you are. You don't take forever and a day to get to the damn point. Bless you, woman.
What is really messing with me is that I noticed that the more expensive clothing I buy recently is often as cheaply made as any H&M stuff I buy.
Yep!
Expensive doesn’t = quality. Look for quality
sometimes it is better to look for vintage. things from a time where the quality was better.
Yes stuff is not made to last now . We are in such a throw away society. You really have to shop around to find good quality items .
Complete agree, analyze before you buy. Upscale resell shops are awesome. A lot of items are practically new.
I love the saying if it’s not a hell yes… my partner says I’m so fussy about buying things but I don’t go to work to buy things I don’t love!
Indeed😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
I think it also depends what you are buying. My mom bought me a cheap t-shirt for what amounts to a little more than a dollar, closer to about one euro when I was a teenager. I wore that t-shirt regularly (think about 2 times a week regular) for about 8 years before it tore badly enough that I can't wear it as a t-shirt (I plan to turn it into a tank 'cause I love it). You should judge the quality of what you're buying rather than judge by the cost.
I think bringing in the ‘hell yea’ has just as much value. You’re right… we can absolutely love something that didn’t cost a lot.
This, all the way. I have some 'cheap' clothing that has lasted me yeaaarrrsss and still going strong.
Cheap can be the quality and not necessarily the cost
I remember coming across a saying that was attributed to a Rockefeller. "Buy the best you can afford and use it up". That always stuck with me, even if I don't always follow it.
I always have Vivienne Westwoods "Buy Less, Choose Well, Make it Last" in my head whenever I find myself wanting anything. It definitely helps control any impulse I have for things that I may not necessarily need, but also, which I might not want for very long! I can't have clutter in my closet or really anywhere in my house because it really distracts me from my work (i'm a poet), and it just helps me a lot to know what i truly WILL wear, and will love for a long time. So happy you have a membership level for your channel now. Hope you get lots!!!!
Thank you so much for being here!! LOVE that quote from Vivienne! It’s such a simple but amazing reminder. And a POET?! Wow! Beautiful!!
@@Christinamychas thank you💕
Taking care of clothes etc is key!
I think that at times the urge to shop comes from a general disatisfaction with yourself or with your life. Going shopping was a quick pick-me -up for me but it usually only lasted till I got home and realised I didn't need what I bought and could have saved the money. I've slowly learnt that I actually get more of a buzz being out in nature so I'm now more likely to head for a forest or park etc than to the noisy shops. Even if you're living inner-city you can go for a walk and take time to notice leaves on trees, the sun behind clouds... I come home feeling refreshed rather than exhausted :-)
Love this! I should start diverting to checking out a garden or trail before going to the store next time.
I loved shopping, but I find when you spend more time with your hobbies, you’ll get a better release. Your hobby is being with nature, mine is growing it. I love growing my plants, cutting them, growing roots on the cuttings and watching that cutting grow. It always amazes me how you can take a cutting with 1 leaf, put it in water and have an entire plant a year later!
A rule I lived by this week was Before you buy, use what you have. I needed a notebook for a project, but went through my stationery basket and found a new, pretty good one. My eco bag broke. Instead of buying a cute one I saw in a shop, I looked in my gift pile (fun, small gifts I keep on hand) and found one. And now, I think I want a sleek, small knapsack with a water bottle holder. I might buy one, but for now, I’m using a knapsack that for some reason I never used. So far, it’s working well. Even though there’s no dedicated bottle pocket.
I've been living by this for a while now, especially when it comes to notebooks, stationery, and bags. I haven't stuck to it perfectly, but what has helped me the most is keeping in mind that I have an entire closet full of notebooks, journals, planners, and bags. I also have drawers and boxes full of pens, markers, highlighters, sticky notes, tapes, stickers...oh, and a whole shelf in my notebook closet is dedicated to scrapbook paper! And there are more stashes in another room in my house! So, I *literally do not need* any more stationery items or handbags. Anytime I'm out shopping, I try to picture all the things I already have or at least tell myself "I already have this at home!" It works about 85% of the time, so I call it a win!
There's that old saying, "Use it up, wear it out, make it do, or do without." I love that and try to do it!
@@carnation_cat I love that!
I do this and if I don't have what I need, I'll ask around. Often friends or family have a brand new or gently used thing that will work for me + they're happy to re-home. My work backpack was finally starting to fall apart after 10 years of heavy use. After not being able to find a replacement I loved, I asked around and was able to find a gently used backpack that works perfectly for my purposes. It's not a color or style I would've picked but I love it because it was an intentional acquisition that was also free :)
Shop in your own home
I'm a firm believer in functionalism. Everything in my life should serve a function of some sort. That way people have room to be themselves and identify their needs without being too restrictive.
Yes to this!!
I still have my wedding dress 😁 I do not wear it, but I like to look at it from time to time, it arises sweet memories when I was ten years younger and ten kilos slimmer 😂 Is it still functional to keep it? No, it is not, but it is still there and it is priceless for me
@@olga.methodologistI kept mine too!
@@olga.methodologist You enjoying looking at it serves a function. It's sentimental to you.
I have this - to a point. Knickknacks are OK. They're not meant to be anything but ornamental (though, most of mine were gifts or a souvinier). But I do not buy things I don't intend to use. And I'm far more likely to buy something ugly that's more useful to me than the pretty option (this comment brought to you by my vacuum in the living rokm).
I adhere to the 1 in 1 out rule. When shopping if I see something I like, I ask which of my current items will have to go. Makes me pause and reflect on how much I like it.
The buy nice or buy twice is a great rule. I think it works best for items that you know you like or use frequently. If it's an item for a new hobby though, I like to buy the most affordable option first just to see if the habit or hobby sticks. Then when the behavioral change I'm trying to make is more permanent, then I start looking at more high end models/brands.
Ooh yes, that’s what I did for fountain pens. I bought an affordable one first, one that I wouldn’t be afraid to damage or lose, plus one bottle of ink. When I became regular in writing in my journal with the fountain pen, that’s when I bought more pens and ink colours.
It's worth noting that it's buy nice, not buy expensive. Sometimes a quality offbrand object or one bought on clearance at the end of the year will be just as nice as it was at full price. I got so much stuff like that, it's a shame my wife just makes that stuff disappear when I'm at work because it's not the latest fashion. Doubly so because she's been voluntarily unemployed for years and she regularly throws out stuff that costs more than her income for multiple years. I'm looking forward to decluttering her.
I have adhd, so practicing with delaying gratification is always difficult for more, but so good for my mental health when I get better at it! Thank you for the great tips! It also helps me to replace the impulse buy with something else that gives me gratification, like talking to a friend, listening to music I love or playing a silly game that is easy to win :).
I think it also really helps in reducing waste and forced labor. Fast fashion, hauls, and consumerism directly affects humans in the Congo, Palestine, and Kenya. The more intentionality we bring into life, the more intention we give to others too! Love it.
Yes. Let us all be aware of our actions and how they impact others.
Lol not in Palestine (btw you meant gaza or the other part controlled by Mahmoud Abbas ?) there are no clothes factories there so... There are no factories btw. But maybe you never been there so...
Love all of these! I need to think before I buy. I've definitely learned my lesson that if you buy a less expensive substitute for what you really want, you never really enjoy it. Just took a huge carload of donations to charity. Applied the "hell yes" test, which was so rewarding!
Love it Lisa!
Absolutely!!! Even if it’s expensive I only buy what I really want and guess what I never regret it! If I have to, I save and even wait but that itch gets scratched and I feel satisfied
The “HELL YES” and “spark joy” are ones I’ve been leaning more and more into. With clothes especially. I’m someone who spent their childhood into mid-twenties overweight and unhappy and obsessive about it. I hated how I looked. Once I lost weight I suddenly liked how I looked in clothes so I started buying any and everything. Over the last few years I’ve realized that just because it fits me, doesn’t mean I need to buy it. Now I only buy clothes that spark joy and it has made all the difference.
I’ve used the “if it’s not a heck yes” rule a lot while clothing shopping. Also, if I have about 2-3 clothing items in my hands, make myself put one back on the rack before going to a check out. I’ll be forced to put back an item that I feel “meh” about.
Hey Christina, I know you've mentioned in previous videos that you don't like wearing gold jewelry against your skin because you feel it blends in too much but I just gotta say how you styled your outfit in this video with the multiple gold necklaces looks so good on you, very chic and I love the color combo!
Asking myself before buying anything “do I need it or I just want it?” or “will I have a place to put the new thing I buy?” was a gamechanger buying less clutter and keeping my apartment organized.
If it’s a “Hell yes!” reasonably priced piece of basic clothing, I buy it in two colours. If the cut and fit and comfort are right then I know I’ll wear it often so I may as well have two good things. I’ve done it with jeans, trousers, T-shirts and knitwear in plain, neutral colours. That way you feel good and so you aren’t constantly looking for something new because you enjoy what you have.
After I decluttered all the synthetics and everything that didn't have a flattering fit, *POOF* I was a minimalist. Buying secondhand pretty much follows all your rules and you can really determine the quality of a piece and its true size.
I like the One in,One out to maintain a decluttered home.
I like it too. However, I have to watch myself because I have been known to use it as an excuse in the moment: "Oh, I'll get this now, and when I get home I'll go thru and pick something to get rid of." But by the time I get home, I'm too tired and/or I've forgotten my intentions. I do eventually declutter, but it never goes according to my plans.
@@mrandisg I ask myself when I'm deciding to buy, which of my current things am I willing to get rid of. This often makes me realize I don't need the new thing as I like everything I already have.
I've done one in one out for many years. I just love it!
This summer I decided to declutter my summer shirts, my rules were: I would wear everything at least once before repeat wearing, anything that l took out and didn’t wear for whatever reason, ie: didn’t fit, needed repair, no longer was my style, uncomfortable etc… went straight to the donate bin (or trash). I got rid of a lot and feel so much better. I realized I was hanging on to items because I thought I should like it or I paid good money for it or I’ll wear it in a pinch….it’s so freeing to have that stuff gone!
I just restrict myself to nearly entirely things that have looked good in the '50s as my standard. It means that I mostly just replace clothing due to wear and tear or me changing sizes. It's not even necessarily unfashionable.
My rule: if I didn’t already know I needed it when I walked into the store, I can’t buy it. Once I get home, I can sort out if I need it but consistently I won’t even remember it.
This is brilliant
This!!! I think it’s the same with online shopping, and you see a SALE and then you start to add things to your cart. Instead I add to Wishlist. I leave things In there, and the amount of times I go back in and end up removing 90% of them is astounding lol
The one thing about clutter is that it stands in your way to do the things you want or need to do. You can't cook with stuff all over your kitchen counters, so you spend time and energy on cleaning before you can cook. In the end you just look at the mess and order take-out instead, adding to the problem. This is why decluttering and actually thinking about why you need the item or if you use it often enough for it to be worth it is so important. Clutter is mentally exhausting even if we don't think about it. Take one drawer at a time, one shelf at a time, it becomes less overwhealming that way.
That’s not really clutter. You just need to do those dishes and put them away😊
I'm shooting for minimal-ish as well. I have decluttered easily 80% of what I once owned, and like having empty spaces, but I also like having nice things around me and my rooms to feel cozy instead of bare. I'm a new empty nester and for the first time in my life have a place to myself. I am enjoying clearing out all of the stuff I have been waiting to let go of. My goal is to have a place that I could easily pack up in a weekend if I were to move and I am very close to getting there. =)
that sounds lovely! it's my goal as well :)
I love to watch your video to stop myself from buying things on an impulse and remind myself to save money. Your logic resonates with me, so I keep coming back :) Thank you for making these videos.
Some of my friends cannot believe my cheap self will buy $70-90 ThirdLove bras...but if I bought $20 Target bras I would not be comfortable or look as good in my (mostly thrifted) wardrobe! Sometimes better quality is so worth the price.
For sure! Also, this might just be bc I’ve pretty much always had big boobs so cheap bras were never an option for me, but I literally didn’t even realize that people spent less than at LEAST $40 on bras until fairly recently. I remember seeing reviews for pepper bras (which is a brand that makes rly well-fitting bras for small boobs/cup sizes) and the only complaint was that they were expensive (I think maybe ~$50), and I was literally boggled, lol. I will always spend money on good bras, there’s literally no point otherwise
I mean, i hear you but the expensive bras are being produced relatively cheaply too. I doubt they are worth anywhere close to 70 dollars, but yeah I get the „cheap bras don’t work“ thing. Same here 😅
Those friends probably have normal or small sized boobs, lol. I buy third love too, very comfortable, but I can’t find my size in store or cheaper if I tried, lol.
@@Carina_Rose nah they just get a 44D with spillage instead of the like, 38J they may need. No judgment just sayin.
I have a pink and a black good quality bra, $50 each. They make me look great, I love them, and they are worth every penny.
when I buy every day shoes I buy very good quality. If I buy cheap they lose too much support then my knees start hurting. I buy running shoes from a locally owned running store. The shoes last me almost a year. Spending about $150 for a year free from hip and knee pain is priceless. I also had bad bursitis in my hips that required injections and a lot of physical therapy. Then I read something and discovered a bad mattress and side sleeping can cause the problem. So I bought a good bed and the problem went away! spending $1200 on a bed saved thousands in medical bills
May I ask what bed brand/model you went with? I’ve been on a search for quality myself!
@@margotk5955 your best bet is to go to a running store! What works for my feet may be the wrong shoe for you
A good quote I heard one time is "Don't skimp on things that come between you and the ground." So, shoes, mattresses and tires :).
@@marximus4 I have not heard that rule until now. But it is good.
All great 👍 tips!
I try to be aware of the following in order to be more intentional:
- My future self: Imagine how I will like or use the item in the future. Will it serve me in different areas or my life? Will I be annoyed by it or forget about it? Do I have something similar already?
- What is the cost (beyond financial cost) of the item?
Do I have the space at home or will I have to make space? Will this bring peace or annoyance in the future? I try to not get swayed by the merchandising or marketing of item and instead, how it fits in my life (like imaging how my life would be when house hunting and look beyond the home staging).
- What is the opportunity cost? Less money for other things? More time, space, and/or money to maintain the item?
#10. #10. #10. Credit card debt becomes financial enslavement for too many people. If you don't have the cash, wait until you do. This whole video is a great compilation of things I've learned the hard way(s) over the years that unfortunately is not taught in school or college. Thanks for posting this Christina!
I remember being in university and chatting with the guys at a credit card sign-up table. I told them about my method for tracking what I spent. I had an account book from my credit union (to record purchases, cheques, etc.), and I kept track in there of stuff I spent from my debit account and also on my credit card, with a way to note whether or not I had paid my credit card bill. I treated my credit card like a debit card and never spent what I didn't already have. I learned this from my parents' example.
Minimalism never died, it just stopped being trendy, so the people who never understood or cared for its philosophy stopped pretending to.
I call myself a "middlest". I declutter often and try to be intentional with what comes in my home. I do not like clutter but I do enjoy a nicely decorated home, but keep it simple.
Love this!
Similar to your wish list, I will put items I want in the (online) cart but then I will leave it. If I’m still thinking about the thing a week later, I will go back and reconsider it. And sometimes the company will email you a coupon to try to get you to come back and check out. So you’ve got to be strong enough to ignore that push until you are ready to buy.
I absolutely love the term minimal-ish. I subscribe to the mindset and the way I try to simplify. I think it helps me attempt to find contentment. Also this video came just in time. Patagonia, Everlane, and Reformation all have 50% sales right now which is tempting even though I don't need anything.
Me too! It just feels more balanced!
Minimal-ish is balanced in my opinion. I love to feel a sense of control over my belongings. But I also feel like so many times, having stuff in the back of my closet works out well in the long run. The "rule" of getting rid of everything you have not worn in a year sounds pretty good to me but in reality? Some years I might travel to a cold climate and need all those heavy sweaters and snow boots. Some years I may drag out the ankle length velvet gown for a Halloween costume. I have a reputation among my friends for being practical and minimalist but I'm definitely just "minimal-ish"!
Instead of minimalism, I leaned into a curated kind of life where only the things I love are what I keep. And it works. It kinda borderline minimalism removing the suppression part.
Example: I saw a cute bag. If I really like it so much, I buy it. Then, look at my other bags that I think doesnt make me feel wanting anymore and I replace that with the new cute bag. Either, put the bag on sale, gift to someone or donate.
In the end, I get all things cute and fun for myself. Fulfilled of what my items look. Have practiced making smart choices as the buying process was tedious (lots of thinking if its already the best I can get and my unwated items thinking, if they really is worth it to be replaced)
Key is not to be attached with things. Not be too sentimental.
Challenge is there's always cute items they sell in the market (but again since the buying part of your items needs a lot of consideration, overtime, you'll be practiced to argue whenever you see cute stuff, that what you have already is the cutest)
Urrrgggh. Buy what you love, thats the key!! Delay if needed. Or buy with option for returns in case after using it a bit of time you realize you dont like them.
Curate. Dont keep what you dont love. You can apply this to people as well 😂
Yes! This! Being intention is more comfortable for me too. I’m never going to be a minimalist but I can be intentional
I love "if it's not a hell yes, then it's a no". I have so many things on my wishlist and they sit there for a while before I make a purchase, but actually trying things on and thinking about how it makes you feel wearing it can help with deciding if it's a hell yes. I also learned recently that instead of shopping for your fantasy future self, you reflect on the past season and what you felt you actually needed, what it was that you didn't have that you wished you did.
Very good points. I do think that when talking about "buy nice or buy twice"rule it's good to remember that "it's very expensive being poor". So for a lot of people that would love to save money, there's no opportunity to buy that better quality item because they simply don't have that money and cannot save for it either (e.g. if your child needs new shoes NOW, there's no option to wait). But for people who have a bit more or who have the time/ease of mind to wait to buy, it's absolutely true that buying something better is the best option.
Super practical and useful, and straight to the point with no waffling to keep us watching. Thank you.
I hear my late father's voice in my ear every time I think of buying something -"If you can't afford it, you can't have it " .Wise words I've always lived by even through tough times. Sandi UK
My dad used to tell me when I was a kid: "you can only spend your dollar once". Making me think if this one cheap children's toy was really worth my one dollar. I still use this way of thinking to this day.
I've been decluttering for years - there's always more!
I found a game changer for me was when we needed to clear out our loft space to have work done. There was so much up there which was water damaged and that wasn't worth the effort of saving.
In the end I discovered I only wanted a few keepsakes and the Christmas decorations (heavily pared back!)
I bought some decent storage containers (a keep sake box for each of us, and x3 for Christmas decorations) which stack nicely. The items were lovingly cleaned up and now live within the house, are easily accessible and the loft is completely empty!
My point is, starting with an area which isn't as meaningful to you can help build those decluttering muscles. After all, we often chuck stuff we're not too bothered about up in unseen areas.
TBH, the big trick is to stop as much of it from coming in as possible and to try to make as little use as possible of hidden storage areas. The more of the mess is front and center, the less likely it is to grow bigger.
As always, your insights are brilliant! I would just add the idea of making sure I'm not buying something for my "fantasy self". This concept has helped me to keep focused & grounded ,,, and out of trouble.
Absolutely love your “fern/sage/moss” blazer! You look great in it!
Great video, Christina! I’m going to declutter more right now. 😊 The thing I do is have a separate bank account labeled “your name” or “Shopping/Gifts” and out of every paycheque put in an amount, 50 bucks, 100 bucks…whatever, and when you accumulate enough you can buy something like a Lily Silk blouse that you always wanted. Anyways, it works for me. Thanks for all the tips! 😊
100% yes to everything! I've just tried a "spark joy" on my 5 yo daughter, and it works so pure! She hates to get rid of things. So I turned out full 4 baskets of toys on the floor, and I said to pick up only those toys she likes now and wants to play with now, and she barely picked up a third of ONE basket. Good luck! Glory to Ukraine!
Героям слава! Казахи за Украину
Im 37 years and im glad im already living by all the 10 rules that you mentioned in this video.
My dad adviced me the first rule to buy one quality product than 10 cheap products.
Journaling about your purchase is absolutely genius. I try to be as intentional as possible when making a purchase. I actually use most of these techniques already so thank you for showing me new techniques.
I really love the rule ‘if you don’t truly love it, don’t buy it’! It’s helped me keep my space tidier and my mind so much clearer!
Thank you for this Christina! 10 great tips to live by not only for how I manage stuff but how I choose to spend my time. I am recently retired and find I get pulled into doing things I don't really want to do, because in theory I have the time. You have given me a new mantra to solve this - If it isn't a Hell Yes it is a definite No!! Thank you!!
If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no! Saving this to my phone so I can remind myself. So simple yet so effective!
6:09 this was the first minimalist rule i unconsciously adopted. Often times my wishlists arent even things i want to buy: theyre more of aesthetic mood boards or concepts i want to remember.
Well said, Chris! Especially the buy-now-pay-later, or IPP method (installments via credit card) from small to big non-capital spending. This is usually how the merchants boost their sales too. Too many temptations nowaday, too much cluttering nowadays.
Yesssss love this! I also go by: if its on sale and you dont need it, it's expensive.
I am a warm minimalist now 3 years. I moved out of state and sold everything. When I started 😅 shopping I heard ( buy high…) and purchased a few nice and expensive pieces and my home looks & feels amazing. I purchase nothing unless it is absolutely necessary and have saved a lot. I’ve never felt better mentally/ physically
I love your videos and it makes me laugh because my style is the EXACT opposite where I love flowy, frilly, earthy, soft but your advice is so universal and easy to apply to any style it helps me so much!
I started doing the wish list thing and it really feels satisfying without actually buying something!
Yes love an organised wardrobe. I tried the putting everything I'd worn to the left, to see what i didn't wear often. But the absolute chaos of not finding the exact piece of clothing where i thought it was became waaaay too frustrating
Love this. I avoid haul vlogs, so tired of overconsumption and these tips are great.
Sometimes I remind myself to "place, take and replace". First, try to give every item a home ( place it ), then use it ( take ) and put it back ( replace )... It's nice because it flows as a mantra, and it helps me remember to clean as I go, because picking up and using the thing is now part of a process that ends with "replace". Seems elementary but it's very useful to me in my garage, fixing my motorcycle ( the problem I bought lol ).
I don't buy things that need tailoring/dry cleaning because knowing myself I will never get around to take the item to the tailor/dry cleaner... with a very few exceptions like really fancy dresses for special events
Used the buy nice or buy twice concept this past month when getting a new bath mat. I splurged and got an Anthropologie bath mat, hoping it would let because I invested. However when I received it, it was extremely damaged. I returned it in store, and the associates told me there was honestly a good chance I’d receive another damaged one. So I saved my money and stress and bought one at target for 1/4 the orice
Good on them for letting you know lol
This helped define that boundary for the items that seem difficult to determine what the heck to do with! Thank you!
Not quite the same but i recently test drove a vintage truck, it was nice and a lot of fun and I almost bought it. But driving i got that "buying a problem" feeling. That feeling that the price im about to pay is only the beginning... Not that the truck was in bad shape but I just knew this was going to turn into repairs I couldn't make, accessories I could afford, upgrades I couldn't afford. Buying a problem is a very real thing
Thank you for your wise words. I am becoming more intentional in my spending, but still working on it!
It’s about living intentionally and mindfully with less, so you can create more space for the things that bring you joy and fulfillment
Girl, how did I not find your channel all these years?!! 7 minutes into my first video from your channel and it was feeling like someone had hacked into my brain and laying out all my principles, in a much better articulated way!! I have been always intentional and even passionate about organising my living space, and these are all the rules I had come up with myself after years of observing myself and refining! Now I have a video to go back to neatly lay out the principles of organised living… Wow, Love it!!! Can’t wait to dig more into your channel!!!
Buy nice or buy twice - I always say buy once cry once! Love both
i've been loving wishlists lately as well ! it's so rewarding and leaves you time to think about a purchase, especially as an impulse buyer
The soles of unused shoes and boots can disintegrate. This is especially true for rubber soles (often used for quality shoes). The material is very good for the purpose but it has a shelf life. The shoe is meant to be worn, and the act of using it (compressing the sole) prevents the disintigration (or delays it). So if you have bought the good hiking boots and use them after years, they may fall apart (during the hike no less).
There is no solution for that. If you have quality shoes that you do not wear for a long time it would be better to sell them off for a good price, at least they will serve another person. Another tip: if the shoes soles CAN be completely replaced that is great. However, that is not often the case. I know a family member with a pair of sturdy leather winter boots. I think he has worn them for ? 15 years. Both soles and one zipper had to be replaced. But cost per wear are very, very good, beats every cheap pair.
At current purchasing prices that pair would maybe cost around 300 USD / Euro. It was not a fancy brand, so he paid for quality and for a more labour intense construction (that allows to replace the sole).
Great tips! One rule I have is to remove at least one item from my cart when I'm ready to make a purchase, especially in the store. Now it's a fun habit.
I wish I understood the principle of buying the highest quality I could afford when I was first purchasing furniture. I now have a bunch of inexpensive furniture that not only looks cheap, but is substandard quality.
Absolutely, investing in quality furniture really pays off in the long run! It not only elevates your space but also adds durability. I often share tips on making smart furniture choices on my channel, focusing on lasting value and aesthetics. It's all about finding that perfect balance!
Exactly. I have a white metal bed, it looks like I sleep in an institution or hospital, which is exactly where I will be going if I keep sleeping on it.
Thanks Christina. I like the moderation in your ideas. Understanding the why we buy goes a long way to financial freedom.
I love the blazer that you are wearing in this video. It looks so nice on you!
I haven’t finished watching your video but just wanted to mention finally, someone that makes sense to me. Thank you!
I just wanted to say a big thank you for this video! It was so lovely to see the trident on your neck💙💛. There are so many great rules and advice in here - I'm really grateful to you for sharing it!
To the point - Excellent points. Makes sense whether you are a minimalist or not.
Great tips I try to follow most of them. Another one is putting money into the things I actually enjoy and not feel guilty about it. So I don’t waste money in clothes or shoes-which for me makes sense my job is primarily wfh. One thing that helped me slow down shopping is to focus on brands or styles that I really enjoy-helps to reduce guess work on something I may not like.
Very insightful and helpful! I'm currently trying to transition into organizing/decluttering my home and this is definitely a helpful video!
Sidenote: LOVE the coat of arms you're wearing (I have one too 🥰💖)
I’ve really gone through some downsizing (literally I lost 90 pds due to a health issue). Had to replace my wardrobe. Now I only buy quality, no fast fashion and something that can be used through multiple seasons with no or minimal alterations. I get old favourites altered, rather than donating, selling or trashing. I also search wide and low for deals on a specific item and don’t buy if it’s not on sale or discounted. I think about it for awhile before buying. It has to fit into my wardrobe somehow and be able to be used with multiple other looks. Makeup is the same. I never buy viral products and always wait at least 30 days until buying, after some real reviews come in and the viral has died. I’m also mindful of landfills and try to pass on or sell unwanted items. I find I not only save $ now, I have a cohesive wardrobe without a lot of multiples or low quality items. Dressing is easier and much less frustrating.
The habit of keeping a wishlist has made it so much easier for me to be more mindful and international about making new purchases. As the initial attraction passes, I often start to realise that many of the items on my list just don't work for me.
Love the if it’s not a hell yes, walk away, it is as simple as that, great video
I like keeping things that I actually wear. Are they the Basics? No, they're clothing items I love and that I bought precisely thinking of having them around for a long time.
I try to live a kind of minimalistic life but I try not to take it too far and everything you say here resonates with me. Instead of doing the wishlist sometimes I just let the things in the cart and wait, many times I realize after some days that I don't really want or need the thing in question.
I was an overbuyer in my teens and early adult years, then I went abroad for 6 months in college and I had to live off on a very small budget in a more expensive country. That made me realize I don't need the newest thing on the market. I also can't call myself a minimalist, however, I have regular decluttering sessions every month. One month I would declutter my clothes, the other month my desk area, etc. I agree with especially the HELL, YES rule. I don't buy any article that I have a sliver of doubt about. This minimalism thing is usually discussed in terms of clothing but in my experience, books and technology are the ones that have the potential to make me go broke. I have an excel list that has all the books in my bookcase, because I realized a couple of years ago that I forgot the books I bought and didn't read yet. Now, I check my list to see if I have the book before buying. Also keeping the statistics of the books I read and haven't read yet helps me keep my book buying to minimum. Technology is something I spend a lot of money on, because it is expensive. However, I check before buying an expensive gadget if I can afford it that month, and I prefer to buy quality brands that has the hardware that will last me years. My previous phone, I used for 5 years. My laptop, 8 years. Then I sell the old stuff online and get rid of them while earning some money.
“If you don’t say NO then people will start saying YES for you.”
That is so true.
Of course there are those who will try to say “yes” for you even when you have said “no” and said it clearly. On the hand there are also things you don’t have a right to refuse. Toxic people will ignore your “no”, but will have no problem saying “no” to your needs.
I decluttered a lot during the Covid-stay-at-home period and used the money I earned by selling my 2nd hand stuff to buy my first road bike. A really cool thing, because my budget for the price of the bike depended on how much I was able to earn by selling other stuff!
Place for everything and everything in its place.
I think this is one of the core principles of minimalism beside just having less stuff.
Wow! I've been like this probably the last 15 years, and no video has to this level of preciseness honed in on this exact mindset. x) I was gonna comment "especially this...", but each point you bring up resonates with me. Buying nice instead of cheap, buying less by wishlisting and letting the time pass instead of buying straight away, being intentional with each space and where things go, I (sometimes to my detriment) shy away from "deals" and sales since I decided a long time ago they should never be the sole reason to purchase something. I've also never bought anything in parts or taken a loan to buy somthing (except my house and my cell phone).
Despite this it has happened that I regret a purchase and that sucks, but it definitely keeps it to a minimum. :)
For topic 6 have you ever heard of 5S?
It's a manufacturing term that comes from Toyota but applying it to life with a partner/family has helped so much for everything in it's place. I feel like it blends with minimalism so well. Lean manufacturing in general is just a great mindset lol
great analogy!
Buy nice or buy twice has been so valuable to me over the past year. So worth spending more and expect it to last me years or a lifetime, than having to buy the same product multiple times
I’ve focused on being really intentional about shopping secondhand anytime I can, wearing things for as long as I can and mending them when I can. I use credit some, but almost exclusively for travel. I never go over 2k of debt, and I make sure I can at least pay over the minimum amount each month. I regularly pay the balance off as well. The if it’s not yes it’s a no has completely changed how I buy everything, and I’m working on declutterring and downsizing so it’s less of a hassle to maintain my things in the future. Thank you for always having great suggestions for how to live more intentionally and responsibly!
Totally adopting the HELL YES rule!
I adopted this rule a few months ago and it changes everything for the better whether you are thinking about a purchase or deciding on decluttering something.
All of this is brilliant. Thank you for an insightful and concise post! Love your show!
if you cant pay right then, dont buy; buy nice always; if you know 'hell yes' then it will be a nice buy; declutter if you dont use for more than 1 year; repurpose material; learnt how to make quilts from old dresses, they are not great, but not bad either. as always Christina rocks