Got discarded a year and a half ago. Dating her saved my life, for it showed me gaping holes in myself that needed awareness and action. Have been no contact since. Blocked her after several of her hoovers echoed with silence. In the since, I have become an absolute wolf. She will never get to experience me. In this pain is wisdom. Let yourself go through it. What you need to allow yourself to internalize is that the person that has done this to you has done it on purpose. Yes, they are your enemy.
Thankfully, when i got involved with the narc, i had my own home & he moved in with ME rather than vice versa! Unfortunately, i got myself into a financial bind trying to please him. And he NEVER ONCE offered to help! It's been 4 yrs now since he moved out (at my insistence) & I've never regretted it! I'm back to having peace, calm & contentment again!! Thank God he's gone, bye bye, never again!!
All narcs have one thing in common - You feel in your guts that something isn't right, with them. And that is the feeling i learned NEVER to ignore again. Thank you narcs.
When narcissists underestimate others, they inadvertently reveal their own insecurity, believing their perceived superiority shields them from recognizing the strengths and capabilities of those around them. It's a self-limiting mistake that blinds them to the richness of diverse perspectives and the potential for meaningful connections beyond their narrow self-centered view.
We were in this mess because we overestimated those clowns , it took time to figure them out , but sooner or later they will show their real face. Great video ! Thank you Joe ! 🤗❤ 16.9K 👍👍👍
My friends thought I was crazy when I isolated for a year to soak in the pain that followed the infidelity that led to her premature discard. I stand before you a year later, a stronger more complete man. I’ve reached the point of indifference. She in my opinion is hitting a wall now. She chose immediate gratification through social media, dating apps, and delusion that was multiplied by her echo chamber of yes men. And now that the pink cloud of single life has come and gone she’s left with the reality of the situation. I now get drunk text parroting the same rhetoric which at times is difficult to stomach(we have a 6yr old son together). I owe a great deal to both the algorithms and these videos as they were a big part of my journey. So for that I thank you sir from the bottom of my heart
Yup. He overestimated my dependence his stingy little financial breadcrumbs. I let him help me to feel relevant and boost his self esteem; he thought they made me unable to leave while he downgraded me to the sidelines for a minute. Nope.
I believe I regulated the narcissist as the games went on for 3 years until I left. He’d already targetted and groomed me for 12 months prior to that until I fell into the supply matrix. So it was 4 years in total and I’m now just over one year no contact and he’s hoovering. I know my worth and I know I’m the rare diamond he lost whilst playing with the stones. But I woke up and I’m not going back to sleeping. It’s true what they say - once you see behind the mask you can’t unsee it.
Unfortunately my abuser has my 5 year old boy in residence so complete no contact ain't an option. I only message her regarding contract with my son and minimise any communication as best I can.
Thank you Joe, you explain it so well. When I weren't no contact, my narc said that he thought to give me space to be, that I will come back to him, instead I applied for divorce. He was shocked as he thought that I could never do such a thing.
They are their own worst enemies. I just didn’t know how far that actually went when I first thought that. People need to look into ASPD to get a better grasp and understanding of what might be even more hidden underneath.🤯👈🏻
I told him before I left, " your biggest mistake was under-estimating me." He said , "what I didn't do was overestimate you." I have replayed this a gazillion times, and still do not get wtf he meant. Crazy.
Believe me joe when i say my narc initials are the same as yours. He thought he could break me but he couldnt. I loved that man. But i did warn him beforehand about my boundaries and he sill chose to cross that line. I didnt argue. Hes lucky that i at least said goodbye. He didnt deserve that but i wanted him to feel that cold chill of my back walking away
I wasn’t able to have friends because all friends were hers!!! If I left… No friends for you… well, I got friends and she has been discard to recycle people she hasn’t talk to in years!
Got discarded a year and a half ago. Dating her saved my life, for it showed me gaping holes in myself that needed awareness and action. Have been no contact since. Blocked her after several of her hoovers echoed with silence. In the since, I have become an absolute wolf. She will never get to experience me. In this pain is wisdom. Let yourself go through it. What you need to allow yourself to internalize is that the person that has done this to you has done it on purpose. Yes, they are your enemy.
Pain now, or suffer despair later. Facts, reality. Bounderious saved me. I got away. For life.
Thankfully, when i got involved with the narc, i had my own home & he moved in with ME rather than vice versa! Unfortunately, i got myself into a financial bind trying to please him. And he NEVER ONCE offered to help! It's been 4 yrs now since he moved out (at my insistence) & I've never regretted it! I'm back to having peace, calm & contentment again!! Thank God he's gone, bye bye, never again!!
All narcs have one thing in common - You feel in your guts that something isn't right, with them. And that is the feeling i learned NEVER to ignore again. Thank you narcs.
I pulled all the hooks out and walked in the other direction. Leaving the trail of blood behind me.
When narcissists underestimate others, they inadvertently reveal their own insecurity, believing their perceived superiority shields them from recognizing the strengths and capabilities of those around them. It's a self-limiting mistake that blinds them to the richness of diverse perspectives and the potential for meaningful connections beyond their narrow self-centered view.
We were in this mess because we overestimated those clowns , it took time to figure them out , but sooner or later they will show their real face. Great video ! Thank you Joe ! 🤗❤ 16.9K 👍👍👍
My friends thought I was crazy when I isolated for a year to soak in the pain that followed the infidelity that led to her premature discard. I stand before you a year later, a stronger more complete man. I’ve reached the point of indifference. She in my opinion is hitting a wall now. She chose immediate gratification through social media, dating apps, and delusion that was multiplied by her echo chamber of yes men. And now that the pink cloud of single life has come and gone she’s left with the reality of the situation. I now get drunk text parroting the same rhetoric which at times is difficult to stomach(we have a 6yr old son together). I owe a great deal to both the algorithms and these videos as they were a big part of my journey. So for that I thank you sir from the bottom of my heart
Yup. He overestimated my dependence his stingy little financial breadcrumbs. I let him help me to feel relevant and boost his self esteem; he thought they made me unable to leave while he downgraded me to the sidelines for a minute. Nope.
I believe I regulated the narcissist as the games went on for 3 years until I left. He’d already targetted and groomed me for 12 months prior to that until I fell into the supply matrix. So it was 4 years in total and I’m now just over one year no contact and he’s hoovering. I know my worth and I know I’m the rare diamond he lost whilst playing with the stones. But I woke up and I’m not going back to sleeping. It’s true what they say - once you see behind the mask you can’t unsee it.
Unfortunately my abuser has my 5 year old boy in residence so complete no contact ain't an option. I only message her regarding contract with my son and minimise any communication as best I can.
You explain it all so perfectly. Thank you for that!
Thank you Joe, you explain it so well. When I weren't no contact, my narc said that he thought to give me space to be, that I will come back to him, instead I applied for divorce. He was shocked as he thought that I could never do such a thing.
Spot on , that is lockstep with what happened to me . Now only the paperwork is left .
They are their own worst enemies. I just didn’t know how far that actually went when I first thought that. People need to look into ASPD to get a better grasp and understanding of what might be even more hidden underneath.🤯👈🏻
You've helped me so much.
I told him before I left, " your biggest mistake was under-estimating me." He said , "what I didn't do was overestimate you." I have replayed this a gazillion times, and still do not get wtf he meant. Crazy.
Believe me joe when i say my narc initials are the same as yours. He thought he could break me but he couldnt. I loved that man. But i did warn him beforehand about my boundaries and he sill chose to cross that line. I didnt argue. Hes lucky that i at least said goodbye. He didnt deserve that but i wanted him to feel that cold chill of my back walking away
This summary is spot on. Explains it perfectly.
I wasn’t able to have friends because all friends were hers!!! If I left… No friends for you… well, I got friends and she has been discard to recycle people she hasn’t talk to in years!