For real empaths with a kind heart this one is always difficult... (But I know I would be a fool if I help a ,,snake"). ... (Personally for me very difficult to let people hanging even if they treated me like garbage).
I've never had anyone make me feel less worthy of happiness. He was wrong. He was cruel. He was hateful & calculating. The most deranged human I've ever known. Im so glad to be free of this toxic individual.
I was made to feel that I am so hard to love, althought still I did everything to make her happy but it wasn't. There was this one fight where she left me and blocked me from everywhere else, It almost killed me, 20 days later she comes back and I was begging her, to stay, this one time, took all the blame on me and she was like "I will never let you hear my voice, I'll keep you unblocked read everything you say but I will never let you see me and hear me" This made me beg even more, I don't even know why I did that, then after few days of my begging she said to me that "You love me so much and can do anything for ne right?.... Then lets go on our trip that we planned, I'll judge you Holistically, and then make a decsion if I want to stay or not. These are my conditions, if you don't agree to it, you can leave right now" Ofcouse I wasted a lot on that trip to make it the most memorable it was ever for her, I wasnt happy in that trip, I was just so scared.... what If I didnt do enough. Turns out she, she already started seeing somone when she took that "20 days break" After three months of the trip she just vanished out of nowhere and is now living with that new person. Its been 7 months. I am lost but watching these videos, I know I can live at least. I have attempted to k*ll myself twice because I wanted to end my pain... But that was a mistake, this pain will never end.
@@cherylgregory6027 I am trying my best to move on. I recently recieved a missed call from her out of nowhere last sunday, it was really short and I think that she was expecting me to call back. The fact that still has my number saved is so disturbing. But I am not gonna entertain her anymore. She left me when I needed her the most. :( I wish no one ever has to go through what I went through.
Well done and well spoken. As you said in a no contact aftermath and being inquisitive as to the why, them, me, you in all full discernment, learn that someone could have everything material convenience and as soon as human supply dries up, they are left with themselves. Their mind eating vast quantities of doubt. No punching bag for transference. No ones mind available for malevolence absorption. They certainly miss watching targets squirm....literally. Targets on their own afterward suffer no loneliness once you experience the alone....sitting right next to someone, just waiting for the next mindfuck. Suffer no more.
But they do seem extremely happy after the discard, and go on with their life with no remorse and guilt as if i never existed... How can someone be happy after destroying someone's life ?
@@shubham_21093 Continue your education in this disorder. Sadism is a trait of NPD with multimorbidity. No empathy, zero introspection, no remorse whatsoever produces a mindset i couldn't understand either. Know that is a good thing for you. Makes you normal that encountered a anomaly, albeit a growing issue. Know the only happiness you see in them is fake. Maybe an demand or new supply temporarily placate a mens rea of insatiability. There is never any sense of abundance, except when they are controlling, manipulating others. The elixir to mental health is zero contact. Let trauma bonds fade to indifference. When you realize you feel better alone than with them tells you everything about that relationshit. It usually never was. In hindsight, as for me, i wondered what vulnerability produced this attraction to a person having zero in morality common. I wont get into that as everyone has a different reasons. Just give no contact some time. Soon the whole shit show will be a vaccination to it ever happening again. All the best and believe or not you got this !
Thank you 🙏 Joe! And that is the crux and the lesson, The experience ventured unknowingly with the Cluster B was weaved for you to believe that it was about you. Not 100%, but from the healthy perspective of 50/50% split. When in reality it had 0% to do with you and 100% to do with them. That is the ultimate illusion both the bait and the switch. It is you that had the conscious and takes a sense of accountability and responsibility, but you can’t put your finger on the problem, the moment, what you said, what you did, what you did not say, what you did not do…. It’s a trap, there was never any cheese, no reward…only deafening silence and it is the deafening silence that you come to accept, reverse engineer, close the door, and bid farewell to the ghost of a shadow in a shell. It was not about you, but you did give to it and it has left you…dead, cold, silent. Until you lock and secure that door and choose the next door to open and move forward in life…whatever that brings, whatever May come. “Of all roads you could ever travel on, the road back to finding yourself is the most incredible and stunning one.” - unknown Stay alert! Stay alive! Stay strong! Peace ✌️
ALSO"WHEN SOMEONE SHOWS YOU WHO THEY ARE,BELIEVE THEM THE FIRST TIME"....A VERY DIFFICULT LESSON I LEARNED THE VERY DIFFICULT WAY😢...3.5 YEARS&200,000$.....DOWN THE DRAIN😢
I am leaning towards spirituality. At first it didn't resonate. Then I met who I was supposed to meet, a fellow survivor who now is a licensed therapist who embraces shamanistic principals. This has involved me attending healing ceremonies. This involves me opening up my wounds while on a cocktail of 'medicines'. I grew up with an extremely toxic mother, a codependent father. I endured more than I allowed myself to fully enbrace until fleeing from a toxic partner, one that I married twice. I put up with her toxic behavior until I couldn't. As pay back she isilated me from iur two children. Despite this I am still here. During ceremonies I have experienced my higher self. I remarried to a good person and am now a grandfather figure to her grandchildren. I am 64. I practice mindfulness. I am off all substance. I am grateful for many things and acknowledge it regularly. If I can both survive these life experiences, heal myself or at least continue to work on it, if I can appreciate the good things in life, so can any of you.
Hi Joe. I would like to thank you for your channel (and your second channel too). It’s so informative and I have learnt so much over the last few months. I listen to you nearly every day and sometimes through the night, as your voice is so calming. I would love to hear your take in a future video of when the narcissist blocks people on WhatsApp/social media. Thank you for everything. Emma
They usually do it so they can flaunt a new supply without you seeing, keep you guessing and stuck wondering what they are up to, want to be free of scrutiny, and of course to rub salt in the wound as you have reduced ways to communicate and seek explanations etc. It's all games and manipulation. Leave them to it.
@@itshappeningagain thanks... Alas, none of it actually makes true sense to fair minded folks, but understanding the motives for the madness can help one detach from and not engage with it!
Absolutely. Plot twist- The minions they use to try to take you down eventually turn on them too. In many cases the minions are going along with the narcs game, giving them fake adulation and admiration, and gaining ammunition and power against the narc. The minion takes the narc down after confidently helping the narcissist destroy and lose everything.
Like a poem crafted from images - this video is an artistic journey through thoughts and emotions. The visual language captivates, unfolding a world where each frame tells a story. 🌌 Creativity at its finest! Thank you for this inspiring masterpiece! 🎬✨ #Art #Depth
I should have asked why she came back after leaving our relationship? I took her back but was in a lesser physical form and dragged under by drink. We’d argue but no real conversation. Then she bailed AGAIN and said, I tried to talk to you but you said “stop, stop.” Man, when upset hard to talk during an argument. Needed an arranged peaceful time to sit down and talk. That’s just me I guess. She’s gone, I’m blocked , blamed for the break up, and well, on my own again after 7 years on and off. I’m the fool. Heard my story friends. If she’s not there when things are hard, she’s not someone you want in your life. Be well!
We had a wonderful time for 6 years, then the mask slipped. It was horrible. I left and he hovered me for 15 years. I never took him back. He tried very hard but when the mask slipped 15 years ago ... that's what was seared in my brain and it was horrible and I didn't want that in my life. He became very sick with the second round of prostate cancer and renal failure. He really wanted me back to take care of him. He settled for a new supply and she became his caregiver, servant, taxi driver and mommy. She started spending less time with him and he eventually fell asleep in death by himself in his own home. Very sad.😢😢😢
Truthfully? Nothing. My family didn’t give a shit when I (the scapegoat)walked away and continue bitching about me and naming me as the problem. The beauty is that I am no longer exposed to it and that’s really all that matters.
When I went no contact with narcissist as the scapegoat there was tension prior to, then suddenly they seemed to care when they couldn’t contact me…They tried contacting me over and over then this specific situation made me talk to them and they were back to the basics…I say it seemed that they cared about control and couldn’t supply themselves scapegoating me…Typically there any chance another individual acts as the scapegoat since the original one isn’t around to accept the treatment…Im deciding to do no contact with my narcissist mom again and she said “if it come to the circumstances I’m ok I only want peace” when she was the problematic when I wanted peace too so that spoke to me that it’s time to cut contact completely
Im in no contact with narcissistic past person and a protection order placed…Im anxious about the possibility of publicly encountering them especially thinking it’ll instantly trigger me
Has anyone noticed that when you need directions you don't just go to anyone but to someone you feel can help. That's cuz consciously or unconsciously you're reading their mind/energy from their body. It applies to the narc and their deceitful nature. All that cunningness builds in their auric field and others can pick up on that too.
Blaming a narcissist you will never learn a damn thing people act like they don't see the red flags of a narcissist you choose to stay with the narcissist then you blame the narcissist I don't feel bad or sorry for people that stay with a narcissist that's your own damn fault because unfortunately there are narcissists everywhere but of course it's always the narcissist fault
What an attitude, some people including myself had no idea what we were and are dealing with, I was discarded horrifically just 6 months ago, it was brutal, confusing and utterly demoralising, I was in a 25 year relationship with a charming, helpful, would do anything for you type of lunatic and it wasn't until 2021 when he showed his true colours and it was truly terrifying I was 15 when I met him and he was all I knew so unless you've lived it, you have no idea what you're talking about.
I’m certain circumstances it’s complicated to cut contact with narcissist and the abnormal behavior they use to bound you to them…Narcissists deliberately try to damage you and your mental acting emotionally abusive
"The people you kick on the way up are the same people you pass on the way back down."
For real empaths with a kind heart this one is always difficult... (But I know I would be a fool if I help a ,,snake"). ... (Personally for me very difficult to let people hanging even if they treated me like garbage).
@@IsabellaPiesch
It's ok to put yourself first for a change.
"Never set yourself on fire to keep other people warm."
So very true 💯❤️🙏🙏
If It would bê like that the world would bê different. It is not.
@@IsabellaPiesch
Not keeping people hanging speaks to your integrity, that's something the narc doesn't have.
I will NEVER forget how they made me feel. Ever. 😢
Never forget!
Forgive... But NEVER forget! 🙏
I've never had anyone make me feel less worthy of happiness. He was wrong. He was cruel. He was hateful & calculating. The most deranged human I've ever known. Im so glad to be free of this toxic individual.
I love the moment I discovered reactive abuse and the ex could no longer affect me. at all.
great video.
I actually do remember what they said…..and did…..and I remember how it made me feel.
I was made to feel that I am so hard to love, althought still I did everything to make her happy but it wasn't. There was this one fight where she left me and blocked me from everywhere else, It almost killed me, 20 days later she comes back and I was begging her, to stay, this one time, took all the blame on me and she was like "I will never let you hear my voice, I'll keep you unblocked read everything you say but I will never let you see me and hear me"
This made me beg even more, I don't even know why I did that, then after few days of my begging she said to me that "You love me so much and can do anything for ne right?.... Then lets go on our trip that we planned, I'll judge you Holistically, and then make a decsion if I want to stay or not. These are my conditions, if you don't agree to it, you can leave right now"
Ofcouse I wasted a lot on that trip to make it the most memorable it was ever for her, I wasnt happy in that trip, I was just so scared.... what If I didnt do enough.
Turns out she, she already started seeing somone when she took that "20 days break"
After three months of the trip she just vanished out of nowhere and is now living with that new person. Its been 7 months.
I am lost but watching these videos, I know I can live at least. I have attempted to k*ll myself twice because I wanted to end my pain... But that was a mistake, this pain will never end.
How are you now? I'm guessing the pain isn't so raw now. It does get better. It is their disorder. Don't try to make sense of crazy. x
@@cherylgregory6027 I am trying my best to move on. I recently recieved a missed call from her out of nowhere last sunday, it was really short and I think that she was expecting me to call back. The fact that still has my number saved is so disturbing.
But I am not gonna entertain her anymore.
She left me when I needed her the most. :(
I wish no one ever has to go through what I went through.
Well done and well spoken. As you said in a no contact aftermath and being inquisitive as to the why, them, me, you in all full discernment, learn that someone could have everything material convenience and as soon as human supply dries up, they are left with themselves. Their mind eating vast quantities of doubt. No punching bag for transference. No ones mind available for malevolence absorption. They certainly miss watching targets squirm....literally. Targets on their own afterward suffer no loneliness once you experience the alone....sitting right next to someone, just waiting for the next mindfuck. Suffer no more.
But they do seem extremely happy after the discard, and go on with their life with no remorse and guilt as if i never existed...
How can someone be happy after destroying someone's life ?
@@shubham_21093 Continue your education in this disorder. Sadism is a trait of NPD with multimorbidity. No empathy, zero introspection, no remorse whatsoever produces a mindset i couldn't understand either. Know that is a good thing for you. Makes you normal that encountered a anomaly, albeit a growing issue. Know the only happiness you see in them is fake. Maybe an demand or new supply temporarily placate a mens rea of insatiability. There is never any sense of abundance, except when they are controlling, manipulating others. The elixir to mental health is zero contact. Let trauma bonds fade to indifference. When you realize you feel better alone than with them tells you everything about that relationshit. It usually never was. In hindsight, as for me, i wondered what vulnerability produced this attraction to a person having zero in morality common. I wont get into that as everyone has a different reasons. Just give no contact some time. Soon the whole shit show will be a vaccination to it ever happening again. All the best and believe or not you got this !
Thank you 🙏 Joe!
And that is the crux and the lesson,
The experience ventured unknowingly with the Cluster B was weaved for you to believe that it was about you. Not 100%, but from the healthy perspective of 50/50% split. When in reality it had 0% to do with you and 100% to do with them.
That is the ultimate illusion both the bait and the switch. It is you that had the conscious and takes a sense of accountability and responsibility, but you can’t put your finger on the problem, the moment, what you said, what you did, what you did not say, what you did not do….
It’s a trap, there was never any cheese, no reward…only deafening silence and it is the deafening silence that you come to accept, reverse engineer, close the door, and bid farewell to the ghost of a shadow in a shell.
It was not about you, but you did give to it and it has left you…dead, cold, silent. Until you lock and secure that door and choose the next door to open and move forward in life…whatever that brings, whatever May come.
“Of all roads you could ever travel on, the road back to finding yourself is the most incredible and stunning one.” - unknown
Stay alert!
Stay alive!
Stay strong!
Peace ✌️
Yup. Happened to me, he got hurt, had surgery , was vulnerable so he pushed me away. He thought he could buy me but I still left
Maya Angelou - 'At the end of the day people won't remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel.'
GOLD DIGGER??? ONE IN THE SAME???😂❤❤
mine covert was energy Vampire. She literally sucked the soul out of me 😂 But I'm thankful to this Universe and God whom make me free from her ❤
we sleep with demon's, without knowing. Having narcissist beside you is hell on earth.
@@eunicetheuri5257 absolutely it was nothing less than hell. In fact it is more brutal than Hell 😕
It was Maya Angelou who said it
thank you!!
No problem. You are helping me and others so much. Thank you ❤️
ALSO"WHEN SOMEONE SHOWS YOU WHO THEY ARE,BELIEVE THEM THE FIRST TIME"....A VERY DIFFICULT LESSON I LEARNED THE VERY DIFFICULT WAY😢...3.5 YEARS&200,000$.....DOWN THE DRAIN😢
I am leaning towards spirituality. At first it didn't resonate. Then I met who I was supposed to meet, a fellow survivor who now is a licensed therapist who embraces shamanistic principals. This has involved me attending healing ceremonies. This involves me opening up my wounds while on a cocktail of 'medicines'. I grew up with an extremely toxic mother, a codependent father. I endured more than I allowed myself to fully enbrace until fleeing from a toxic partner, one that I married twice. I put up with her toxic behavior until I couldn't. As pay back she isilated me from iur two children. Despite this I am still here. During ceremonies I have experienced my higher self. I remarried to a good person and am now a grandfather figure to her grandchildren. I am 64. I practice mindfulness. I am off all substance. I am grateful for many things and acknowledge it regularly. If I can both survive these life experiences, heal myself or at least continue to work on it, if I can appreciate the good things in life, so can any of you.
I want to know why we can’t forget them . I’ve had other relationships that didn’t turn just to this crazy mess . I would love to see the reaping
Maya Angelou ❤
Hi Joe. I would like to thank you for your channel (and your second channel too). It’s so informative and I have learnt so much over the last few months. I listen to you nearly every day and sometimes through the night, as your voice is so calming. I would love to hear your take in a future video of when the narcissist blocks people on WhatsApp/social media. Thank you for everything. Emma
Hi Emma, thank you for your kind comments and for your suggestion. I will keep it in mind for a future video :)
They usually do it so they can flaunt a new supply without you seeing, keep you guessing and stuck wondering what they are up to, want to be free of scrutiny, and of course to rub salt in the wound as you have reduced ways to communicate and seek explanations etc. It's all games and manipulation. Leave them to it.
@@killjoyredux8361yes, I know that but I’m asking Joe for his take on it, when he has time in a future video.
@@killjoyredux8361Great explanation, you cover the gamut of the kinds of things they do and why they do it! 😊
@@itshappeningagain thanks... Alas, none of it actually makes true sense to fair minded folks, but understanding the motives for the madness can help one detach from and not engage with it!
i said this to the narcissist before i knew about this and she went mad at me
Absolutely.
Plot twist- The minions they use to try to take you down eventually turn on them too. In many cases the minions are going along with the narcs game, giving them fake adulation and admiration, and gaining ammunition and power against the narc. The minion takes the narc down after confidently helping the narcissist destroy and lose everything.
Like a poem crafted from images - this video is an artistic journey through thoughts and emotions. The visual language captivates, unfolding a world where each frame tells a story. 🌌 Creativity at its finest! Thank you for this inspiring masterpiece! 🎬✨ #Art #Depth
I should have asked why she came back after leaving our relationship? I took her back but was in a lesser physical form and dragged under by drink. We’d argue but no real conversation. Then she bailed AGAIN and said, I tried to talk to you but you said “stop, stop.” Man, when upset hard to talk during an argument. Needed an arranged peaceful time to sit down and talk. That’s just me I guess. She’s gone, I’m blocked , blamed for the break up, and well, on my own again after 7 years on and off. I’m the fool. Heard my story friends. If she’s not there when things are hard, she’s not someone you want in your life. Be well!
Thank you!! Your videos help me to remain no contact. NO contact 💪🏻🙏🏻
We had a wonderful time for 6 years, then the mask slipped. It was horrible. I left and he hovered me for 15 years. I never took him back. He tried very hard but when the mask slipped 15 years ago ... that's what was seared in my brain and it was horrible and I didn't want that in my life. He became very sick with the second round of prostate cancer and renal failure. He really wanted me back to take care of him. He settled for a new supply and she became his caregiver, servant, taxi driver and mommy. She started spending less time with him and he eventually fell asleep in death by himself in his own home. Very sad.😢😢😢
I have had all this happen. Because of Narcissistic Abuse.
Good evening Joe ! 🍷🍷 Thank you for treating us with a new video, we all are very grateful ! 🤗❤ Maybe 15K by Christmas ?? 😉
Thank you!! ❤️ Glad u enjoyed! 😀
And yes 15k by Christmas, seems like it should happen 🌲💫
@@joebhouse Would be great !!!
What happens when the narcissist loses there scapegoat?
Truthfully? Nothing. My family didn’t give a shit when I (the scapegoat)walked away and continue bitching about me and naming me as the problem. The beauty is that I am no longer exposed to it and that’s really all that matters.
They turn on each other. They have to pick a new pinata.
@@rubbernecker13absolutely lmao it always happens
When I went no contact with narcissist as the scapegoat there was tension prior to, then suddenly they seemed to care when they couldn’t contact me…They tried contacting me over and over then this specific situation made me talk to them and they were back to the basics…I say it seemed that they cared about control and couldn’t supply themselves scapegoating me…Typically there any chance another individual acts as the scapegoat since the original one isn’t around to accept the treatment…Im deciding to do no contact with my narcissist mom again and she said “if it come to the circumstances I’m ok I only want peace” when she was the problematic when I wanted peace too so that spoke to me that it’s time to cut contact completely
Joe.b house....RULES......keep the good you tube videos.
Thank you!
The way u look is so important to the script 😂🎉❤😂
Im in no contact with narcissistic past person and a protection order placed…Im anxious about the possibility of publicly encountering them especially thinking it’ll instantly trigger me
Perfect
Has anyone noticed that when you need directions you don't just go to anyone but to someone you feel can help. That's cuz consciously or unconsciously you're reading their mind/energy from their body. It applies to the narc and their deceitful nature. All that cunningness builds in their auric field and others can pick up on that too.
Maya angelo
Said that quote
it was maya angelou who said that
I m proud I look young, 😂 🤣
Blaming a narcissist you will never learn a damn thing people act like they don't see the red flags of a narcissist you choose to stay with the narcissist then you blame the narcissist I don't feel bad or sorry for people that stay with a narcissist that's your own damn fault because unfortunately there are narcissists everywhere but of course it's always the narcissist fault
What an attitude, some people including myself had no idea what we were and are dealing with, I was discarded horrifically just 6 months ago, it was brutal, confusing and utterly demoralising, I was in a 25 year relationship with a charming, helpful, would do anything for you type of lunatic and it wasn't until 2021 when he showed his true colours and it was truly terrifying I was 15 when I met him and he was all I knew so unless you've lived it, you have no idea what you're talking about.
@@maryuk07 nobody made you stay
@@charlest7184 you obviously didn't experience. Soul Ties. Trauma Bonding. Even if you leave.....You make no sense...
@@scottoz7891 because everybody wants to be a victim instead of victorious stay being a victim it won't get you anywhere
I’m certain circumstances it’s complicated to cut contact with narcissist and the abnormal behavior they use to bound you to them…Narcissists deliberately try to damage you and your mental acting emotionally abusive