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@happytune717on’t enter into ANY financial relationships with your brother. Speaking from experience. Also, beware of a sibling poisoning relationships within or without the family behind your back.
it's OK darling I give of give off off a bioelectric. ..they block you and unlock you because basically that people doesn't know themselves and they lack self confidence my narc systematic contacted any other woman I talked to online and when she had turned everyone against me I laugh at her and take the piss don't sniff arse I am an alpha male. ..I don't need validation off the crowd to know who I am. ..you have lovely date I will take you dancing next week. ..keep smiling darling 😊 love is 54 and that's birthday the 5th of the 4th. ....I am a heyoka. ..and Aries nothing gets me down long. ..💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
Watching your videos on UA-cam helped me tremendously… I won my fight against my ex narc bd… I was able to get full sole primary custody of our child and granted relocation…. Through the process I gave him hell in court with facts and proof… his ego was so damaged he left me and our child completely alone….and honestly that is for the better
This is exactly the case. You win your best new life when you get rid of the narcisists surrounding you. Life without narcisists feels 100 times better. It is meaningful and full of real life. Narcisists are zombies.
Yes, you Rebecca Zug, you made a veryt valid point. But what is the solution to, ehan they attempted / an they actually did try to put me, out of my rightful home. How on earth am I supposed to handel them? I hope, you wil answer soon. - Thank you.
I believe that happened to me. I was devastated after I realized he thought of me as just an option. When I figured out he was a soul snatching parasite , I put myself back together and put up my boundaries. Once he noticed he was blocked, he turned on the Hoover maneuvers, which no longer worked. Now he is big mad cause I think his relationship is falling apart, but he doesn’t have me around to stroke his ego anymore
I am an empath. It was a trauma bond. I finally😂 got free of this mess, and was healing. He tried to come back but I confronted him with all of his deceptions. He, of course deflected and walked away. I knew in my heart he was bad but I kept freaking thinking…oh my empathic skills will heal him. My eyes are open now to the real darkness within this soul. I have blocked him, deleted every text and photo that kept hurting me. I am healing and loving myself back to my healthy self. This went on for 5 years and I am aware it will take time. I love who I am and my soul was always screaming at me that he was evil. I have looked back at my childhood to see what may have affected me. I had a really messed up childhood. I had no mom, pretty much a dad either. We were just dropped off here and there for anyone to care for us. I think that’s how he got me. He made me believe he loved me and as that’s something I craved as a child…it worked for awhile. You’re right..the games are unreal..the in and out, the hot and cold..the flirting with other people in front of you. It sickens me to know I shared my heart with a monster. Thank you again. I will continue on my healing journey and wake those parts of me up that I allowed him to crush. ❤️❤️
You have my same story except I’m a guy .no mother alcoholic father .my ex used my fear of abandonment against me over n over ..and the silent treatment.not u til it ended did I figure it out .she pre planned her escape and got a restraining order on me drained bank account same day .by the time it was over I lost 50 pounds had no place to live and lost most of my money .I’ve made a comeback .sick thing is I keep thinking of her
Yes!! My brother and sister in law treated me horribly in 2021 to the point where I really had to get counseling. I was advised to disengage and study narcissism, and I'm forever grateful. I'm so much stronger. This year, they finally had enough of me ignoring them and said just wanted to move forward with me in a healthy way. All they really wanted was to get me to be their scapegoat again. There were a lot of things said, but here was the main point of my response. "I’m actually glad you kept pushing though because it inspired me to put together those timelines and screenshots that contradict your accusations. I can say with all certainty that after this e-mail I’m done responding to any false and/or shaming accusations. If you try doing that again with me in 6 months, 1 year, 5 years, or 20 years you will either not get a response, or the response will be “I’m not responding to this.” I’m a much more secure and stronger person. Ironically, it’s because of you both. Had your behavior towards me in 2021 not been so hurtful I may not have decided to get the counseling I needed to figure out how to handle all the hypocrisies and blame games."
My 40 year old son is my narcissist. I've helped him over and over, and he burns me every time. I stood by him thru addiction, failed marriage, prison, halfway houses. He just left my house, yelling and blaming me because I told him he had to pay back money he had borrowed. He's my son, but I am emotionally done. I wished him well, and then I told him not to call me again.
I have walked in your shoes for many years, exactly the same story. I have educated myself on addiction and have had numerous counseling sessions. It has taken me a long time to heal, I enjoy life now. I have had to detach from his drama and chaos, this is his road to travel. Take care of yourself ❤
My mother was an extremely malignant narcissist who set me up for further abuse later on. I recently was diagnosed with late adhd, and unfortunately ptsd as well. A former roommate was also a narcissist, and had been abusing me financially, gaslighting to get away with it and caused me to have a pretty bad mental health episode. They’ve been out of my life for a decade now, and I am getting help for my ptsd now that I know I have it. Life has been good for me and getting better. Ironically, the ex mother and ex friend / roommate, aren’t doing so well in life, and I’m happy about that.
I think most people don't realize how good they have until it's gone. What separates narcissists from "normies" is that they have zero concept that other people are important, outside of a potential resource. I'm convinced that a narcissist experiences throwing away a used up partner, like a normal person experiences throwing a candy wrapper into the garbage; he's finished the part that is consumable so the undigestable goes in the garbage. If they are called out on this, they are extremely bothered; not because they realize that broken human beings are not the equivalent to empty chocolate bar wrappers, but because they know if their void of empathy is fully understood, their survival will be at stake. Humans need one another for survival (ie. get dropped in a forest and see how long you last), and narcissists see extracting resources from people, by emotional manipulation, as logically superior to extracting resources from people via laborious work (ie. getting a job). Thus narcissists have the gluttony of wolves, without the patience, courage, or majesty.
I watched another person on UA-cam talk about this topic and they said narcissist aren't even capable of regret they just pissed off the supply has gone thank you for the video ❤️
Narcissists can feel regret if the consequences of their actions affects them (matters to them) negatively. They cannot feel remorse, which is feeling bad and acknowledging the harm they have done to others. Regret is about personal loss, remorse focuses more on the person they have harmed
The narc's I have to deal with usually demand silence and others to shut up so they can control the "room". I found that by having a multiple source of noise such as a radio and / or multiple TV programs on at the same time at a low volume around them seems to annoy them and they avoid the area. Also, they seem to expect everyone in an area to shut up so they can be in control. They get frustrated and confused if there are multiple conversations and / or radio or TV's on while they are trying to " run the room" and may just leave to find a "quieter" place to run their game where everyone will shut up and listen. I started doing this just so I didn't have to listen to their BS but found out it is like putting on "bug repellant".
You nailed it again I’m getting ready to start my final chapter without her the hardest thing I had to do is figure out I just couldn’t fix it she just didn’t know what boundaries are and I got tired of having the life sucked out of me She just wanted to go down the road of destruction and I was trying to better us if you keep doing the same thing over and over and it’s wrong that’s being stupid.
@@matilda4406Yes buddy exactly mI dated a malignant narcissist for two and a half years I tried to reason with her to straighten up.A total of eleven months she was in jail in the two and a half years.I was exhausting from doing most everything.She never learned lessons of how not to break the law How to treat me.Its a lost cause trying to help them learn to be a responsible decent adult🤔👶👎🙂You really can only love yourself be strong and heal yourself.She blew it with me.There was nothing else I could do.Gosh we could've grew together I would have took care of her she could've done the same for me but she didn't want to or even understand what she really had with me.Its a little sad
This is a great thing to do!! I just found u n ur u believable really an eye opener !! I’ve been married to one for many many yrs , plus my daughters the same n then I find after many many yrs ( most of my life) my sister is also the worst covert Narc ever !!! Recovering from her sadistic revenge after I found her out !! Talk about shock … Omg the flying monkeys. The whole nine yards, it’s just disgusting !! However I’m still healing n moving on n dropping just about every friend that really wasn’t on their heads n got rid of them all!! Can’t believe that I can c who they really r!! God bless n take care TU for all u do it’s amazing !!
They done see it that way. I was told by a narcissist that I didn't play the game right. The game. It's just a game. Savor this. Some of us don't appreciate games. Life has deeper meaning to us. Not them. They are cold hearted conniving manipulating con artists. It's not about you. It's all about them.
I have learned so much from these videos. I used to get Gaslit and lovebombed and projected and smeared the whole thing. I joined a group to volunteer and they are the nastiest group of women. At first they love bomb me and treated me like I was a queen and then I found out they were gossiping about me and the one that pretended to be my friend she would take days to respond to my text messages if at all and it would really hurt my feelings because in the beginning she wasn’t like that love bombed me and said how great it was to “have a new friend” she had already told me that she and her husband almost divorced, because she treated him so bad and put him through so much and in the back of my mind, I kept that there, for whatever reason I never forgot she said that. She said it in such a bragging way almost like she was proud of her horrible treatment. He’s a really good guy and I’m surprised he didn’t divorce her or hasn’t and then I realized that she’s one of them and was beginning to try and treat me the way she had treated him so poof. I disappeared. Now she’s back calling and texting and sending happy birthday and this and that well she gets nothing from me. I will be pleasant because I want to do volunteer but it’s done but it is kind of fun to be able to give her a taste of her own medicine and watch her spin. These people make me sick really they are evil and they enjoy what they do but when you pull the rug out from under them and give them no room to even get their digs in it’s a really good feeling and I know it has nothing to do with me that makes her treat me this way because she’s already admitted to doing it before. My God just get some help and figure things out instead of trying to hurt people, but I would never say that because like all of them, I think she would have the potential to be dangerous.
Broke up with a narcissist five months ago after 9 months , she started to cheat one day I left for work , my issuer called and said she looking at a wedding on instagram it was her soon as I left for work had no idea she had plans to marry another guy while we still together, she took stole all my money everything I work for , next thing the guy she married to started to beat her she got battered and thne he stole all her money and left turns out he was cheating , justice was served
I feel for you buddy.I'm sorry you went through that My ex narcissist girlfriend stole my SUV.When the police found it.I only had liability and towing on my insurance so I didn't have the money at the time to get it back and I lost it.I had well over three thousand dollars invested in it I also lost about four hundred dollars worth of tools,,a ladderand some valuables in it.The betrayal by these horrible individuals is the worse thing That's okay.Her karma and her self destructive behaviors got her good too She stole someone else's way more expensive vehicle now she's in jail for a couple of years 🙂👍.They reap what they sow
This is me. 25 years and found him started to look up women through facebook and online. Took the step to leave. Was absent for 6 months and devastated as I was morning it like a death. Of course, it didn't work out with his next chick. She only lasted 4 months. He comes back begging me. I'm lost at this point. Tell him no but got all the empty promises. I was so confused. It's so sad that it took this situation for me to realize something isn't right with him. His love was messed up and twisted. Literally had to lose him for a couple of months to educate myself and learn all about narcissistic behaviors. It was like an awakeing. It explained so many years of my life. Sad because I wasn't educated enough and got back in it. I'm healing myself even more and trying to reset a future to leave again....6 years later continued. It has gotten worse since I have awakened to his tactics. Now I deal with the pain of him being in another relationship, and he always says, "You left me. "... yeah, and I never asked you back either. You forced yourself, and now you're on my borrowed time. I was weak but getting stronger daily.
Thank you for this story and how it can be all "survivors" story when we do the psyche and heart healing. This is the big picture we need to focus on after we've spent some time understanding the train wreck we just got out off. I think understanding the harm and getting some things straight in our head about what happened and also taking some time to grieve is important. But then slowly beginning to keep the future in mind so that we don't get stuck in the past pain. It's only been 3 weeks since our break up and 5 days since I last had to see him and I'm already feeling this slow turn from past to future focus. Or even just being present in the moment is bliss when it doesn't entail thoughts of him.
I wish I would've had you for an attorney. He used everyone in my life as flying monkeys especially our son. He made so many false allegations to dcf. I have been accused of everything never once did one investigator find anything wrong on my part. One case wasn't closed out before another was started. I was so intimidated!!! He was law enforcement. His friends assisted him in harassing me. It is so scary having law enforcement against you. I thought he or his new wife, a narcissist also, his friends were going to plant something. I was never so scared. I have ptsd. I have gotten so much therapy and done the self work. Ten years later, my son has nothing to do with me. He cares so much about his dad and made so many false accusations. I still don't get it. Otherwise, by the grace of God, I have met a great man who loves and respects me. We are moving to a new home in a new state. Time to start a new adventure!! God help all the people who are being manipulated by a narcissist. You are in my prayers. I truly understand.
I ended my online relationship with this girl by trash talking her into the dirt. All this was done by texting by the way. She made an unreasonable request which I declined. She then started name calling, insulting, challenging my manhood, called me a liar. I nuked her by absolutely trashing her ego and told her what a piece of s*** she was and meeting her was the worst thing that ever happened to me, that I have kicked girls out of my bed much better than her, etc. I must admit it was a great emotional release for me to destroy her and am so glad it was in text form, because I get a rush every time I pull up the chat and read all the s*** talk I dropped on her sorry a**.
Thanks giving my wife literally physically attacked my daughter after berating me in front of her, her boyfriend, and his grandmother because of a Canadian that showed interest in my FB post. ( political). My daughter tried derail my wife's tirade because of boyfriends 75 year old grandmother. I'm 63. She is 50. We have been married 3 years and together 5. This is one issue of so many I can't count them anymore. FB was a major trigger. My account was mostly family and close friends both male and female exs and extended. Almost everyone on this account is out of state. She has left me and come back time and time again. I don't put up with her shit. I was abused by a narcissistic mother and have had at least two other narcissist in my life. The stress of this relationship has caused extreme health issues for me physically, emotionally, and spiritually . She started trying to isolate me about 3 years ago. Anyway I had a lung cancer biopsy about 4 weeks ago. Although we had been fighting a couple of days before hand she was there for the biopsy. After we got home the very next day the fire works started again because I indicated that I wanted to take a trip out of state to see my daughter while my health would permit. This fighting almost caused me to have a pulmonary embolism. I was spitting up blood for almost 6 days. 3 days longer than I should have. She was adamant about going. The issue with my daughter and her at Thanksgiving was swept under the rug. There was never any accountability from her even after facing an assault charge which my daughter dropped at my behest. There was also a restraining order that was granted that I filed the same week from another incident. I dropped that too.My daughter was willing to parlay to resolve the issue but that fell on deaf ears. So then I didn't want the two of them in the same state. This situation is so complicated and has so many more variables in it that I don't have time or space. It's suffice to say she left the day after the biopsy without having the results and to this day she can't be bothered with it. Absolutely no empathy or remorse, just cold dead eyes.I had, had divorce papers written up shortly after thanks giving. I was pretty nieve before I started trying figure out why she acts the way she does. Videos like these have given me the strength to finally put an end to this insanity. She told me she had been diagnosed with BPD. All of the research, and the hours of online information says other wise. She fits perfectly into the covert narcissist category. Long story short I do in fact have non small cell stage one lung cancer. I can't help but believe that these 5 years of crazy are mostly responsible for my declining health. Although I still feel like I'm being ground up from the inside out, my atmosphere is no longer being polluted by this creature and I can breath again. I am getting ready to go see my lawyer this morning with signed divorce papers in hand. That is another story all together as many here have already lived through. A word of advice, even a super empath can be fooled and roped in. If you think you can outsmart or out maneuver a creature like this you'd be wrong and you will taken for a ride. Leave if you can there is no fixing these creatures. Thank you for letting me vent and giving me a foundation so I can begin to heal. Peace out to all.
The case you described sounds like me lol. My soon to be ex cheated on me while my mom had cancer and I am going through a divorce and I am under cancer treatments. Disgusting human being.
Thank you. It took me 8 years to leave my partner. So toxic, when I disconnected emotionally I left him and got my power back. He was left devastated and begged for months. I’m now happier than ever with my new partner that is an empath like me. We are so happy❤️
I’m dealing with my husband who has just left me for his ex babY mama 3 times in 3 years. Now I have moved on no more of that BS!! I feel great and. Happy
I just learned about covert narcissists. The guy I was dating was a liar, manipulator, and egotistical moody type guy. He was drama. He put up a caring, religious personality to cover all of this up. Always tried to blame someone for his mistakes and used other co workers to try and get me jealous. I cut him loose so fast 💨 lol
Tj the ex a covert narcissist is going to get his lessons taught to him very soon. Should have never lied about me and to me in any way as well as all his crimes against me!
I see that in the therapy world for rehab. Now in my 60’s, I do 3 month stints contracting across the country. There are 3 types of therapists in the rehab world. PT, OT, Sp. or physical, Occupational and speech therapy. I can walk into a dept. and know which is which within 5 minutes. PT’s rule and it’s only understood within the dept. (and not in the hospital, facility, etc) because it’s an unspoken rule even though we all have 4 to 6 years education. The result is these PT’s walk around with egos constantly needing to be massaged. In the last stint I did, the sole PT just lost custody of his 5 y/o daughter. He got all his fuel from the facility and more importantly from the dept. It was exhausting as a traveling OT. I could not wait til my contract ended. I was absolutely befuddled to the degree he needed my acknowledgment probably because I attempted to remain objective during all encounters. The things I saw him do, that he called therapy were bizarre, yet the entire dept looked at him like he was the golden child. Needless to say it still took me 2-3 weeks to “shed” his b.s.
I don’t think they have realized this yet. But I tried to the very end with every betrayal to protect them by keeping their horrendous behavior quiet but they just couldn’t stop and now all the evidence will be in court and I don’t think they comprehend how BAD they have behaved and how clearly abusive they are. I wish I didn’t feel bad for them but I do and I wish I didn’t have to do it.
Very solid information! If anyone cannot relate to this video. You yourself should seek help. I'm a great person good looking and couldn't figure out why she left.. your not the problem. Have pride stay on course, always no contact if possible. Trust me it worked for me after 3 months she wants to work things out after having a boyfriend while I was giving the love of my life space like she asked.. funny how things changed.. I filed for divorce today. Hope it was worth it! God bless you but sorry I value myself for once !
This is exactly 💯 what my husband did. He groomed a co worker. He's now shacked up with her, abandoned me,my daughter, our home, totally blindsided me. His discard was so brutally 😈 Evil
Yes I wish the uncaring narcissist could get a big dose of their own medicine.I had a female narcissist do this to me four times 1 love bombing 2 insult idealization stage,3 devalue stage with abuse 4 discard ,throw you away and just disappeared no note just vanished when you least expect it.How hurtful..It would be so nice to buy a expensive meal buy them nice expensive clothes tell them you were going to make love to them show them all the things you just bought them like gifts all their supply.Then wait for them to take a shower or go to the bathroom.Then take everything pack it in a car drive away and leave.There a dose of their own evil medicine.That would probably enrage them and crumble their fragile childish EGO and life.
My mother-in-law is a narcissist. I was finally able to get some real evidence of the things that she was doing in order to take my son away from me. I also have 2 younger daughters. They are what is referred to as "collateral damage" she was going to take them as well in order to get to my now 13 year old son..... After she was FINALLY CAUGHT, before she and her husband could be questioned by DCFS and the police they ran away to another state. But they still haven't stopped trying to get ahold of us even after a year of them being in another state. I was informed that they were calling DCFS every single day for over 2 years and that was why the horrible things happened to my family. And NEVER EVER to speak to any of them over the phone or see them in person or even in zoom because it would give them the opportunity to say that they heard me slurring my words and sounding drunk or high. They even tried as hard as they could to get my son that we later found out they were going to kidnap him and take him with them when they moved. But even now, last week she tried to contact me again twice. We have learned that ANY response is all she needs to start doing her thing and trying to get us into an argument. So we haven't even texted her once in a year. Yet she continues to try to contact us constantly. Especially when we are getting ready for some other of my husband's family to come over and visit when they come to California..... Why does she keep trying?? We haven't sent even one response in over a year....... Why won't she give up? And how much longer will we be attacked by this horrible person??
My ex hoovered me back in AGAIN. Told all my friends I was "The One" told me he couldn't be without me. "Love Bombed" me. Was everything I wanted him to be. Then out of nowhere ghosted me. Stopped responding to texts even though they were read. I blocked him from EVERYTHING. He messaged MY FRIEND to tell her he "just wasnt feeling it anymore" and "Guess that's that cause she blocked me" when the night prior he was sending me 😘😘 throughout the day. I was and still am so confused. But now BLOCKED. I know in my heart he will come back. But I won't be here anymore.
My husband and I saw our therapist twice and - therapist concluded we had to split up. I’d already shut down, was expecting it anyway. What’s cool is that we were referred to a mediator/therapist, and his website had lots of info re: narcissists, guess my therapist knew EXACTLY what I was up against!
Girl, let me tell you a long story, so I was dating a guy for seven months right and this man. Kept arguing with me then he never called me or text me like that for real. And then I don’t know where he said he wants to break up. I did the whole begging and crying and shit. Then he reactivate Instagram. And his following and followers went up. So I’m like oh that’s the girl you’ve been cheating on me with. I literally just realize that. He never bought me flowers he didn’t have a car he didn’t have a job I was so delusional🤣🤣🤣 I bought this man so much stuff. Somebody slap me now.
Rebecca Zung, very well explained that's exactly what's up! and it's a female Covert Narcissist thanks for the Educational podcast on getting played I Represented myself in court in my divorce it would have been incredibly derfdernt if were Educated on Narcissism. GOD-BLESS.
I have a narcissistic wife since 15 years. I found out even before we where married that she is only having sex with me, because she thought I will not love her otherwise. I said to her she should never have sex with a man she does not love. As a consequence we never had sex during marriage, only a few times before. In this way I survived, although broken as well. At least I know now the best trick to find out if a new woman is a narcissist or not. 1. sleep with her, even if you do not like. Alkohol might help. 2. prove that you have no money, even if it is not true. Learn it or you have a horrible life and might not find out for quite some time her real evil.
My ex said "I don't have to do anything with you", now that i got you. I thought he was joking but he wasn't, But i met my mr right not long after that and its been 26 yrs.
18 years of marriage but the last 2 he started to push me away saying go to Turkey you love it right ? I said yes I’ll go buy something . He tried but never did. Last year he was dating a woman over the phone and pushing me to go live in his country. The abuse got worse then ever and literally saying with patience I get the best And is all about intentions and you gonna have the best life over there … 👿👿👿👿👿👿 But our creator show me the signs what he was doing. Now I can’t see his face because I get angry 😡 when you know is over for good. No Hoover shit no fake sorry, nothing ….they can’t brake your heart twice .
Some never realize it or if they do, they hide it well. Blame shifting & doing the smear campaign to family & friends - making it appear "you" were and are the problem.
I wish I had your courage. The smear campaign seems to have messed me up pretty bad. The new supply is 12years our junior and is said to be saying how much better she is than me.
I don't have to get revenge for the multiple times she cheated on me.Her criminal behaviors put her right back in jail again this time for a couple of years.😊
I supported my wife to residency to fellowships took care of our daughter while she focused on her career when she start making really good money she started having affairs treat me like crap I found out about the an affair. File for divorce 1 1/2 weeks later cut her off all social media I'm not playing this game. And I met a really good woman I think she's a good woman still working it out. I'm way happier
I'm a bus driver. I got an "Outstanding Driver Award" for the year. It triggered a narcissist in operation. The narcissist took the award and claimed I had committed 8 Class A violations, two of which in a one-year period could get me fired. New rules were laid down for my bus. 1. Drunks may sleep on my carriage for as long as they want. 2. Anyone may ride my bus for as long as they want. 3. I am no longer supposed to collect fares. 4. I should not speak to my customers at all. 5. I should not be the driver to enforce the rules. Now, I have never seen or signed a write-up for a single one of these Class A violations. But this is the effect: Whenever someone is drunk and sleeping on the bus, I'm driving thinking about the "Narcissistic Ass" that threw the rules out the window. This idiot knows he's completely destroying driver morale in the company, and he just keeps going. I bet he has cost the company millions in fired drivers by now. And let's not talk about the entitled passengers who have become outright monsters by now. I just keep telling myself: there more years and I retire, three more years and I retire. You can't report these jerks or anything without being targeted and wiped out. The funny thing is that someone over the bully reinstated the award, and I ended up receiving it. But how do I tell this company I don't want it. I just want to be left alone and that ain't gonna happen. I'm a source of negative supply because I'm honest, nice, and work hard. That's all it took. Jealousy from the peanut gallery came later. Don't do well in a company with these kinds of haters. You only lose.
OMG, I am so very sorry, I completely understand they get away with murder, literally.....mine drugged someone who had a heart attack and he laughs about it still today and that was 44 years ago....he kicked me out four months ago and trashing me still today on social media, he killed my chickens and my cat and moved in another family and destroyed them, after they stole my stuff and he blamed me for not taking what I valued...I valued my life and Soul more and he couldn't stand it🎉🎉🎉I am so grateful to be away, I hope Ur safe and doing well. Quit the bitch job & mañafest a better 1❤❤❤U R WORTHY 🎉
I was so afraid that the story you told was going to end with that lady taking her ex-husband back. I’m glad I was wrong 😂 Honestly though, I feel like most narcissists don’t have the insight or self-awareness to realize they’ve made a mistake when they leave their long term spouse and the new source of supply ends up not working out. If a narcissist tries to get back with their ex (like in the example you gave- and this is a good thing to remember for all people who are in the position of the ex-wife in your story), it’s not because they’ve had some sort of awakening or realization that they’ve screwed up and want to make things right. It’s because the narcissist is desperate for a source of supply, and they’re running back to the ex because that’s who provided their supply for years. Meanwhile, they’ll still be secretly looking around for their next new source of supply, and it won’t be long before they put the ex through the same thing all over again. So if a narc has left you but then tries to get back with you after it doesn’t work out with the side piece, don’t fall for it. They have not changed and likely never will. They aren’t suddenly appreciative of everything you provided them for years, because if they were, they wouldn’t have left you in the first place.
Yes isn't the Narcissist's a lost sad person They don't usually reflect on their own destructive behaviors.I have heard of one person straightening their life out and learning to Change from a parisite monster👿into a normal caring person so it's possible.Alot of them won't do that though and learn to connect and love their partners,friends,and or children if they have them.They will most likely put their partner through abusive hell and some will cheat and use you for their supply and treat you like a enemy instead of a appreciative mate.👎🙁👺it's actually sick😢
@@Darren-su2gm amen to that!! “Parasite” is the perfect description! And I do agree it’s not impossible for a narcissist to change; I’ve known many narcissists in my life and have seen 2 of them change permanently and become genuinely empathic and compassionate individuals. But in both cases, that only happened after they were hit with some pretty extreme, drastic occurrences in their lives that forced them to rethink and change their behavior. So it’s definitely possible like you said, but it’s rare (and I definitely wouldn’t count on it lol).
The predatory narcissist is like a shark that just keeps moving forward eating things up without any care for them at all, then one day he becomes old or some orcas just rip into him and, in his final moments, he feels the sheer horror and misery of being without control or the ability to manipulate his way out of this one. Suck it up!
Hi my name is Stephanie and I am listing to u and everything you r saying is real he came over out of nowhere and I really did just what u said and I was very cool and calm and I told him what happened with his other friends and he was talking about the things that did not make sense and he said he was going to the store and I told him really calm and cool DON'T COME BACK BACK and I close my door
I think it's cause and effect. Not karma. Karma is more the long game, my opinion. Karma is meeting someone just like them. That person treats them the way they treated you. It's the collapse when nobody will deal with them.
Oh ...he realized this a long time ago. The failure to provide the most basic of needs, for starters. You shouldn't feel like a man if you'd allow someone you supposedly care about to languish in disrepair. That is sad af.
USE the power to propel you right over the top of their FAILURES. IF you find yourself under the bus? Learn how to Drive it. Don't fret. They'll have their back to you, and will never see you comin' till you lay on the big girl horn, he hee hee. 👍
I was wondering about this question....or if my ex husband would regret the wrong he did to me and destroying our marriage and playing on my emotions....
My physician covert narc ex wife threw me away for a new source, a co worker doctor. It's been 1 1/2 years and the divorce is still playing out. Her male co worker only wanted sex, got what he wanted and left. I had done all of her licensing accrediting credentialing correspondences and CME in 16 states and over 30 hospitals over 22 years. she just contacted me to get my help to get her a Florida License. She has no idea how any of that works. I wished her well, provide no help and now she is threatening me. No contact works, I'm getting better, she is falling apart.
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@happytune717on’t enter into ANY financial relationships with your brother. Speaking from experience. Also, beware of a sibling poisoning relationships within or without the family behind your back.
it's OK darling I give of give off off a bioelectric. ..they block you and unlock you because basically that people doesn't know themselves and they lack self confidence my narc systematic contacted any other woman I talked to online and when she had turned everyone against me I laugh at her and take the piss don't sniff arse I am an alpha male. ..I don't need validation off the crowd to know who I am. ..you have lovely date I will take you dancing next week. ..keep smiling darling 😊 love is 54 and that's birthday the 5th of the 4th. ....I am a heyoka. ..and Aries nothing gets me down long. ..💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
Straight up
Watching your videos on UA-cam helped me tremendously… I won my fight against my ex narc bd… I was able to get full sole primary custody of our child and granted relocation…. Through the process I gave him hell in court with facts and proof… his ego was so damaged he left me and our child completely alone….and honestly that is for the better
This is exactly the case. You win your best new life when you get rid of the narcisists surrounding you. Life without narcisists feels 100 times better. It is meaningful and full of real life. Narcisists are zombies.
Yes, you Rebecca Zug, you made a veryt valid point. But what is the solution to, ehan they attempted / an they actually did try to put me, out of my rightful home. How on earth am I supposed to handel them? I hope, you wil answer soon. - Thank you.
I've had a month and a half away from her and life has become so peaceful. No more gaslighting or useless drama. So much better.
“When the rain washes you clean, you’ll know”
You will knoooow…
Yeah.
I believe that happened to me. I was devastated after I realized he thought of me as just an option. When I figured out he was a soul snatching parasite , I put myself back together and put up my boundaries. Once he noticed he was blocked, he turned on the Hoover maneuvers, which no longer worked. Now he is big mad cause I think his relationship is falling apart, but he doesn’t have me around to stroke his ego anymore
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Truth. Only when you are completely done with the narcissist, is when they realize what they had. 💙🕊🕊💙
I am an empath. It was a trauma bond. I finally😂 got free of this mess, and was healing. He tried to come back but I confronted him with all of his deceptions. He, of course deflected and walked away. I knew in my heart he was bad but I kept freaking thinking…oh my empathic skills will heal him. My eyes are open now to the real darkness within this soul. I have blocked him, deleted every text and photo that kept hurting me. I am healing and loving myself back to my healthy self. This went on for 5 years and I am aware it will take time. I love who I am and my soul was always screaming at me that he was evil. I have looked back at my childhood to see what may have affected me. I had a really messed up childhood. I had no mom, pretty much a dad either. We were just dropped off here and there for anyone to care for us. I think that’s how he got me. He made me believe he loved me and as that’s something I craved as a child…it worked for awhile. You’re right..the games are unreal..the in and out, the hot and cold..the flirting with other people in front of you. It sickens me to know I shared my heart with a monster. Thank you again. I will continue on my healing journey and wake those parts of me up that I allowed him to crush. ❤️❤️
You have my same story except I’m a guy .no mother alcoholic father .my ex used my fear of abandonment against me over n over ..and the silent treatment.not u til it ended did I figure it out .she pre planned her escape and got a restraining order on me drained bank account same day .by the time it was over I lost 50 pounds had no place to live and lost most of my money .I’ve made a comeback .sick thing is I keep thinking of her
Yes!! My brother and sister in law treated me horribly in 2021 to the point where I really had to get counseling. I was advised to disengage and study narcissism, and I'm forever grateful. I'm so much stronger. This year, they finally had enough of me ignoring them and said just wanted to move forward with me in a healthy way. All they really wanted was to get me to be their scapegoat again.
There were a lot of things said, but here was the main point of my response.
"I’m actually glad you kept pushing though because it inspired me to put together those timelines and screenshots that contradict your accusations. I can say with all certainty that after this e-mail I’m done responding to any false and/or shaming accusations. If you try doing that again with me in 6 months, 1 year, 5 years, or 20 years you will either not get a response, or the response will be “I’m not responding to this.” I’m a much more secure and stronger person. Ironically, it’s because of you both. Had your behavior towards me in 2021 not been so hurtful I may not have decided to get the counseling I needed to figure out how to handle all the hypocrisies and blame games."
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My 40 year old son is my narcissist. I've helped him over and over, and he burns me every time.
I stood by him thru addiction, failed marriage, prison, halfway houses.
He just left my house, yelling and blaming me because I told him he had to pay back money he had borrowed.
He's my son, but I am emotionally done. I wished him well, and then I told him not to call me again.
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I have walked in your shoes for many years, exactly the same story. I have educated myself on addiction and have had numerous counseling sessions. It has taken me a long time to heal, I enjoy life now. I have had to detach from his drama and chaos, this is his road to travel. Take care of yourself ❤
My mother was an extremely malignant narcissist who set me up for further abuse later on.
I recently was diagnosed with late adhd, and unfortunately ptsd as well.
A former roommate was also a narcissist, and had been abusing me financially, gaslighting to get away with it and caused me to have a pretty bad mental health episode.
They’ve been out of my life for a decade now, and I am getting help for my ptsd now that I know I have it. Life has been good for me and getting better. Ironically, the ex mother and ex friend / roommate, aren’t doing so well in life, and I’m happy about that.
I think most people don't realize how good they have until it's gone. What separates narcissists from "normies" is that they have zero concept that other people are important, outside of a potential resource. I'm convinced that a narcissist experiences throwing away a used up partner, like a normal person experiences throwing a candy wrapper into the garbage; he's finished the part that is consumable so the undigestable goes in the garbage.
If they are called out on this, they are extremely bothered; not because they realize that broken human beings are not the equivalent to empty chocolate bar wrappers, but because they know if their void of empathy is fully understood, their survival will be at stake. Humans need one another for survival (ie. get dropped in a forest and see how long you last), and narcissists see extracting resources from people, by emotional manipulation, as logically superior to extracting resources from people via laborious work (ie. getting a job). Thus narcissists have the gluttony of wolves, without the patience, courage, or majesty.
I watched another person on UA-cam talk about this topic and they said narcissist aren't even capable of regret they just pissed off the supply has gone thank you for the video ❤️
Narcissists can feel regret if the consequences of their actions affects them (matters to them) negatively. They cannot feel remorse, which is feeling bad and acknowledging the harm they have done to others. Regret is about personal loss, remorse focuses more on the person they have harmed
“Too bad, so sad!”
His exact words to me.
I was just told this yesterday.
Too bad so sad HE'S mad....
Uh huh..
The lack of remorse will eventually push everyone away and they die alone
Yessssss Lord. It feels good 😊 to be Narc free.
Yes i agree 100%
Narcs are demons
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The narc's I have to deal with usually demand silence and others to shut up so they can control the "room". I found that by having a multiple source of noise such as a radio and / or multiple TV programs on at the same time at a low volume around them seems to annoy them and they avoid the area. Also, they seem to expect everyone in an area to shut up so they can be in control. They get frustrated and confused if there are multiple conversations and / or radio or TV's on while they are trying to " run the room" and may just leave to find a "quieter" place to run their game where everyone will shut up and listen. I started doing this just so I didn't have to listen to their BS but found out it is like putting on "bug repellant".
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I think he’s realizing he shouldn’t be playing me. I’m over it. Taking my life back. ❤🎉
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I just love how you present this with such a bossed up attitude of "whatever" towards narcissistic behavior 😊
I have literally given up my life for her and she has destroyed me - she says it’s all because I’m crazy.
I subscribe because millions of people need to hear what you says about people who are narcissits thank you got educating us.
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Wonderfully said, Thank You Rebecca🙏🏻♥️
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I’m so happy for the woman you spoke about👏🏼👏🏼It’s astonishing how things turn much better as soon as you leave those psychos!! Thank You for sharing!
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Thank you for all you do, Rebecca! I'm glad you found a way to create a peaceful, balanced life with your family. All the best to you!
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You nailed it again I’m getting ready to start my final chapter without her the hardest thing I had to do is figure out I just couldn’t fix it she just didn’t know what boundaries are and I got tired of having the life sucked out of me She just wanted to go down the road of destruction and I was trying to better us if you keep doing the same thing over and over and it’s wrong that’s being stupid.
"couldn't fix", "trying to better us", "but they just want to go down the road of destruction", "hardest thing".. I couldn't fix it
John?
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@@matilda4406Yes buddy exactly mI dated a malignant narcissist for two and a half years I tried to reason with her to straighten up.A total of eleven months she was in jail in the two and a half years.I was exhausting from doing most everything.She never learned lessons of how not to break the law How to treat me.Its a lost cause trying to help them learn to be a responsible decent adult🤔👶👎🙂You really can only love yourself be strong and heal yourself.She blew it with me.There was nothing else I could do.Gosh we could've grew together I would have took care of her she could've done the same for me but she didn't want to or even understand what she really had with me.Its a little sad
This is a great thing to do!! I just found u n ur u believable really an eye opener !! I’ve been married to one for many many yrs , plus my daughters the same n then I find after many many yrs ( most of my life) my sister is also the worst covert Narc ever !!! Recovering from her sadistic revenge after I found her out !! Talk about shock … Omg the flying monkeys. The whole nine yards, it’s just disgusting !! However I’m still healing n moving on n dropping just about every friend that really wasn’t on their heads n got rid of them all!! Can’t believe that I can c who they really r!! God bless n take care TU for all u do it’s amazing !!
She cheated on me twice and then begged me to come back. I let her back in. I wish I hadn’t.
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They done see it that way. I was told by a narcissist that I didn't play the game right. The game. It's just a game. Savor this. Some of us don't appreciate games. Life has deeper meaning to us. Not them. They are cold hearted conniving manipulating con artists. It's not about you. It's all about them.
I have learned so much from these videos. I used to get Gaslit and lovebombed and projected and smeared the whole thing. I joined a group to volunteer and they are the nastiest group of women. At first they love bomb me and treated me like I was a queen and then I found out they were gossiping about me and the one that pretended to be my friend she would take days to respond to my text messages if at all and it would really hurt my feelings because in the beginning she wasn’t like that love bombed me and said how great it was to “have a new friend” she had already told me that she and her husband almost divorced, because she treated him so bad and put him through so much and in the back of my mind, I kept that there, for whatever reason I never forgot she said that. She said it in such a bragging way almost like she was proud of her horrible treatment. He’s a really good guy and I’m surprised he didn’t divorce her or hasn’t and then I realized that she’s one of them and was beginning to try and treat me the way she had treated him so poof. I disappeared. Now she’s back calling and texting and sending happy birthday and this and that well she gets nothing from me. I will be pleasant because I want to do volunteer but it’s done but it is kind of fun to be able to give her a taste of her own medicine and watch her spin. These people make me sick really they are evil and they enjoy what they do but when you pull the rug out from under them and give them no room to even get their digs in it’s a really good feeling and I know it has nothing to do with me that makes her treat me this way because she’s already admitted to doing it before. My God just get some help and figure things out instead of trying to hurt people, but I would never say that because like all of them, I think she would have the potential to be dangerous.
Yep. That’s me. Best thing that ever happened. Thank God and Greyhound he’s gone.
Broke up with a narcissist five months ago after 9 months , she started to cheat one day I left for work , my issuer called and said she looking at a wedding on instagram it was her soon as I left for work had no idea she had plans to marry another guy while we still together, she took stole all my money everything I work for , next thing the guy she married to started to beat her she got battered and thne he stole all her money and left turns out he was cheating , justice was served
Wowww❤ excellent karma storyyy! Did u hear that from grapevine?
I feel for you buddy.I'm sorry you went through that My ex narcissist girlfriend stole my SUV.When the police found it.I only had liability and towing on my insurance so I didn't have the money at the time to get it back and I lost it.I had well over three thousand dollars invested in it I also lost about four hundred dollars worth of tools,,a ladderand some valuables in it.The betrayal by these horrible individuals is the worse thing That's okay.Her karma and her self destructive behaviors got her good too She stole someone else's way more expensive vehicle now she's in jail for a couple of years 🙂👍.They reap what they sow
This is me. 25 years and found him started to look up women through facebook and online. Took the step to leave. Was absent for 6 months and devastated as I was morning it like a death. Of course, it didn't work out with his next chick. She only lasted 4 months.
He comes back begging me. I'm lost at this point. Tell him no but got all the empty promises.
I was so confused.
It's so sad that it took this situation for me to realize something isn't right with him. His love was messed up and twisted.
Literally had to lose him for a couple of months to educate myself and learn all about narcissistic behaviors. It was like an awakeing. It explained so many years of my life.
Sad because I wasn't educated enough and got back in it.
I'm healing myself even more and trying to reset a future to leave again....6 years later continued.
It has gotten worse since I have awakened to his tactics.
Now I deal with the pain of him being in another relationship, and he always says, "You left me. "... yeah, and I never asked you back either. You forced yourself, and now you're on my borrowed time.
I was weak but getting stronger daily.
Thank you for this story and how it can be all "survivors" story when we do the psyche and heart healing. This is the big picture we need to focus on after we've spent some time understanding the train wreck we just got out off. I think understanding the harm and getting some things straight in our head about what happened and also taking some time to grieve is important. But then slowly beginning to keep the future in mind so that we don't get stuck in the past pain. It's only been 3 weeks since our break up and 5 days since I last had to see him and I'm already feeling this slow turn from past to future focus. Or even just being present in the moment is bliss when it doesn't entail thoughts of him.
I wish I would've had you for an attorney. He used everyone in my life as flying monkeys especially our son. He made so many false allegations to dcf. I have been accused of everything never once did one investigator find anything wrong on my part. One case wasn't closed out before another was started. I was so intimidated!!! He was law enforcement. His friends assisted him in harassing me. It is so scary having law enforcement against you. I thought he or his new wife, a narcissist also, his friends were going to plant something. I was never so scared. I have ptsd. I have gotten so much therapy and done the self work. Ten years later, my son has nothing to do with me. He cares so much about his dad and made so many false accusations. I still don't get it. Otherwise, by the grace of God, I have met a great man who loves and respects me. We are moving to a new home in a new state. Time to start a new adventure!! God help all the people who are being manipulated by a narcissist. You are in my prayers. I truly understand.
I have got to get away from him! ASAP!
I ended my online relationship with this girl by trash talking her into the dirt. All this was done by texting by the way. She made an unreasonable request which I declined. She then started name calling, insulting, challenging my manhood, called me a liar. I nuked her by absolutely trashing her ego and told her what a piece of s*** she was and meeting her was the worst thing that ever happened to me, that I have kicked girls out of my bed much better than her, etc. I must admit it was a great emotional release for me to destroy her and am so glad it was in text form, because I get a rush every time I pull up the chat and read all the s*** talk I dropped on her sorry a**.
You nailed it! It’s like you’ve lived with us! God help.
That is the stage when they the narc pulls the plug and becomes violent and loses control. They play their worst games and do really stupid things.
Are all narcissists angry and grouchy, unhappy. Living with it 54 yrs. Now
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Wow 27 here 2 kids think it's me lol , I'm good I love them , but I'm nuts , I'm the problem , we all know I can't connect with cut-off people ,
Thanks giving my wife literally physically attacked my daughter after berating me in front of her, her boyfriend, and his grandmother because of a Canadian that showed interest in my FB post. ( political). My daughter tried derail my wife's tirade because of boyfriends 75 year old grandmother.
I'm 63. She is 50. We have been married 3 years and together 5. This is one issue of so many I can't count them anymore. FB was a major trigger. My account was mostly family and close friends both male and female exs and extended. Almost everyone on this account is out of state. She has left me and come back time and time again. I don't put up with her shit. I was abused by a narcissistic mother and have had at least two other narcissist in my life. The stress of this relationship has caused extreme health issues for me physically, emotionally, and spiritually . She started trying to isolate me about 3 years ago. Anyway I had a lung cancer biopsy about 4 weeks ago. Although we had been fighting a couple of days before hand she was there for the biopsy. After we got home the very next day the fire works started again because I indicated that I wanted to take a trip out of state to see my daughter while my health would permit. This fighting almost caused me to have a pulmonary embolism. I was spitting up blood for almost 6 days. 3 days longer than I should have. She was adamant about going. The issue with my daughter and her at Thanksgiving was swept under the rug. There was never any accountability from her even after facing an assault charge which my daughter dropped at my behest. There was also a restraining order that was granted that I filed the same week from another incident. I dropped that too.My daughter was willing to parlay to resolve the issue but that fell on deaf ears. So then I didn't want the two of them in the same state. This situation is so complicated and has so many more variables in it that I don't have time or space. It's suffice to say she left the day after the biopsy without having the results and to this day she can't be bothered with it. Absolutely no empathy or remorse, just cold dead eyes.I had, had divorce papers written up shortly after thanks giving. I was pretty nieve before I started trying figure out why she acts the way she does. Videos like these have given me the strength to finally put an end to this insanity. She told me she had been diagnosed with BPD. All of the research, and the hours of online information says other wise. She fits perfectly into the covert narcissist category. Long story short I do in fact have non small cell stage one lung cancer. I can't help but believe that these 5 years of crazy are mostly responsible for my declining health. Although I still feel like I'm being ground up from the inside out, my atmosphere is no longer being polluted by this creature and I can breath again. I am getting ready to go see my lawyer this morning with signed divorce papers in hand. That is another story all together as many here have already lived through. A word of advice, even a super empath can be fooled and roped in. If you think you can outsmart or out maneuver a creature like this you'd be wrong and you will taken for a ride. Leave if you can there is no fixing these creatures. Thank you for letting me vent and giving me a foundation so I can begin to heal. Peace out to all.
The case you described sounds like me lol. My soon to be ex cheated on me while my mom had cancer and I am going through a divorce and I am under cancer treatments. Disgusting human being.
Thank you. It took me 8 years to leave my partner. So toxic, when I disconnected emotionally I left him and got my power back. He was left devastated and begged for months. I’m now happier than ever with my new partner that is an empath like me. We are so happy❤️
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I’m dealing with my husband who has just left me for his ex babY mama 3 times in 3 years. Now I have moved on no more of that BS!! I feel great and. Happy
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I just learned about covert narcissists. The guy I was dating was a liar, manipulator, and egotistical moody type guy. He was drama. He put up a caring, religious personality to cover all of this up. Always tried to blame someone for his mistakes and used other co workers to try and get me jealous. I cut him loose so fast 💨 lol
I've learned to cut the cord pretty quickly now. They try and gaslight me, but I'm an Aries and made of fire, so it blows up on them.
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It was a GREAT DAY!
Right on, Rebecca!
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So on point in all your presentations!
Thanks Rebecca, i sooooo needed to hear this right now 🤗
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As allwas thank you it's painful to deal with this and the anguish is devastating how ever your positive out look is very much apereated thanks
Tj the ex a covert narcissist is going to get his lessons taught to him very soon. Should have never lied about me and to me in any way as well as all his crimes against me!
@chanapanarello1798 both!
@@CLHS1944 It's a scammer.
I see that in the therapy world for rehab. Now in my 60’s, I do 3 month stints contracting across the country. There are 3 types of therapists in the rehab world. PT, OT, Sp. or physical, Occupational and speech therapy. I can walk into a dept. and know which is which within 5 minutes. PT’s rule and it’s only understood within the dept. (and not in the hospital, facility, etc) because it’s an unspoken rule even though we all have 4 to 6 years education. The result is these PT’s walk around with egos constantly needing to be massaged. In the last stint I did, the sole PT just lost custody of his 5 y/o daughter. He got all his fuel from the facility and more importantly from the dept. It was exhausting as a traveling OT. I could not wait til my contract ended. I was absolutely befuddled to the degree he needed my acknowledgment probably because I attempted to remain objective during all encounters. The things I saw him do, that he called therapy were bizarre, yet the entire dept looked at him like he was the golden child. Needless to say it still took me 2-3 weeks to “shed” his b.s.
Hi Rebecca. God Bless You.I saying this from the heart ❤️ .Steve
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I don’t think they have realized this yet. But I tried to the very end with every betrayal to protect them by keeping their horrendous behavior quiet but they just couldn’t stop and now all the evidence will be in court and I don’t think they comprehend how BAD they have behaved and how clearly abusive they are. I wish I didn’t feel bad for them but I do and I wish I didn’t have to do it.
Very solid information! If anyone cannot relate to this video. You yourself should seek help. I'm a great person good looking and couldn't figure out why she left.. your not the problem. Have pride stay on course, always no contact if possible. Trust me it worked for me after 3 months she wants to work things out after having a boyfriend while I was giving the love of my life space like she asked.. funny how things changed.. I filed for divorce today. Hope it was worth it! God bless you but sorry I value myself for once !
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This is exactly 💯 what my husband did. He groomed a co worker. He's now shacked up with her, abandoned me,my daughter, our home, totally blindsided me. His discard was so brutally 😈 Evil
But predictable. It’s what they do. It doesn’t get better.
@@robertaturk now I know
My fiance just did the same shit to me....😡
Yes I wish the uncaring narcissist could get a big dose of their own medicine.I had a female narcissist do this to me four times 1 love bombing 2 insult idealization stage,3 devalue stage with abuse 4 discard ,throw you away and just disappeared no note just vanished when you least expect it.How hurtful..It would be so nice to buy a expensive meal buy them nice expensive clothes tell them you were going to make love to them show them all the things you just bought them like gifts all their supply.Then wait for them to take a shower or go to the bathroom.Then take everything pack it in a car drive away and leave.There a dose of their own evil medicine.That would probably enrage them and crumble their fragile childish EGO and life.
I'm really sorry. It happened to me too.
My mother-in-law is a narcissist. I was finally able to get some real evidence of the things that she was doing in order to take my son away from me. I also have 2 younger daughters. They are what is referred to as "collateral damage" she was going to take them as well in order to get to my now 13 year old son..... After she was FINALLY CAUGHT, before she and her husband could be questioned by DCFS and the police they ran away to another state. But they still haven't stopped trying to get ahold of us even after a year of them being in another state. I was informed that they were calling DCFS every single day for over 2 years and that was why the horrible things happened to my family. And NEVER EVER to speak to any of them over the phone or see them in person or even in zoom because it would give them the opportunity to say that they heard me slurring my words and sounding drunk or high. They even tried as hard as they could to get my son that we later found out they were going to kidnap him and take him with them when they moved. But even now, last week she tried to contact me again twice. We have learned that ANY response is all she needs to start doing her thing and trying to get us into an argument. So we haven't even texted her once in a year. Yet she continues to try to contact us constantly. Especially when we are getting ready for some other of my husband's family to come over and visit when they come to California..... Why does she keep trying?? We haven't sent even one response in over a year....... Why won't she give up? And how much longer will we be attacked by this horrible person??
Stop giving them supply, cut all contact and listen to H. G. Tudor
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It doesn't matter why she don't give up. Don't you give up either!
My ex hoovered me back in AGAIN. Told all my friends I was "The One" told me he couldn't be without me. "Love Bombed" me. Was everything I wanted him to be. Then out of nowhere ghosted me. Stopped responding to texts even though they were read. I blocked him from EVERYTHING. He messaged MY FRIEND to tell her he "just wasnt feeling it anymore" and "Guess that's that cause she blocked me" when the night prior he was sending me 😘😘 throughout the day. I was and still am so confused. But now BLOCKED. I know in my heart he will come back. But I won't be here anymore.
Bingo, but it ain't an easy ride 😞, be true to yourself and you'll make it through!!!
My husband and I saw our therapist twice and - therapist concluded we had to split up. I’d already shut down, was expecting it anyway. What’s cool is that we were referred to a mediator/therapist, and his website had lots of info re: narcissists, guess my therapist knew EXACTLY what I was up against!
She constantly calls me at work even when I ask her not to. She is so needy.
Girl, let me tell you a long story, so I was dating a guy for seven months right and this man. Kept arguing with me then he never called me or text me like that for real. And then I don’t know where he said he wants to break up. I did the whole begging and crying and shit. Then he reactivate Instagram. And his following and followers went up. So I’m like oh that’s the girl you’ve been cheating on me with. I literally just realize that. He never bought me flowers he didn’t have a car he didn’t have a job I was so delusional🤣🤣🤣 I bought this man so much stuff. Somebody slap me now.
The narcissist did me a favor!
Rebecca Zung, very well explained that's exactly what's up! and it's a female Covert Narcissist thanks for the Educational podcast on getting played I Represented myself in court in my divorce it would have been incredibly derfdernt if were Educated on Narcissism. GOD-BLESS.
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Ur amazing. Thank you for sharing the knowledge
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I have a narcissistic wife since 15 years. I found out even before we where married that she is only having sex with me, because she thought I will not love her otherwise. I said to her she should never have sex with a man she does not love. As a consequence we never had sex during marriage, only a few times before. In this way I survived, although broken as well. At least I know now the best trick to find out if a new woman is a narcissist or not. 1. sleep with her, even if you do not like. Alkohol might help. 2. prove that you have no money, even if it is not true. Learn it or you have a horrible life and might not find out for quite some time her real evil.
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Thank you 👍🙏 you are an ANGEL of light thank you so much - for they are damaged as heck - sick in fact
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Not fair that you are so smart, insightful, and beautiful; hubba, hubba!
He learned the hard way. Mr Rich just messed up big time. I don’t do domestic violence(from a friend)
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My ex said "I don't have to do anything with you", now that i got you. I thought he was joking but he wasn't, But i met my mr right not long after that and its been 26 yrs.
18 years of marriage but the last 2 he started to push me away saying go to Turkey you love it right ?
I said yes I’ll go buy something .
He tried but never did.
Last year he was dating a woman over the phone and pushing me to go live in his country. The abuse got worse then ever and literally saying with patience I get the best
And is all about intentions and you gonna have the best life over there …
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But our creator show me the signs what he was doing.
Now I can’t see his face because I get angry 😡 when you know is over for good. No Hoover shit no fake sorry, nothing ….they can’t brake your heart twice .
Your words are encouraging
You will thrive.
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BEST SHARE EVER!!! Thank's girly... ;]
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Yup 20 years!!!
Some never realize it or if they do, they hide it well. Blame shifting & doing the smear campaign to family & friends - making it appear "you" were and are the problem.
Do they ever? It gets to be very aggravating.
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F**k that! I'm getting revenge!!! He won't be able to show his face in public! Hahahah
I’m going to do the same
I wish I had your courage. The smear campaign seems to have messed me up pretty bad. The new supply is 12years our junior and is said to be saying how much better she is than me.
@@nicoleswe Do you know what your name means? Sending you hugs and beast energy!
@@infjlion No I don't. Thank you!
I don't have to get revenge for the multiple times she cheated on me.Her criminal behaviors put her right back in jail again this time for a couple of years.😊
So true Rebecca!!
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You are SOOOO RIGHT-ON👍👍❣❣
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I supported my wife to residency to fellowships took care of our daughter while she focused on her career when she start making really good money she started having affairs treat me like crap I found out about the an affair.
File for divorce 1 1/2 weeks later cut her off all social media I'm not playing this game. And I met a really good woman I think she's a good woman still working it out. I'm way happier
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I'm a bus driver. I got an "Outstanding Driver Award" for the year. It triggered a narcissist in operation. The narcissist took the award and claimed I had committed 8 Class A violations, two of which in a one-year period could get me fired. New rules were laid down for my bus. 1. Drunks may sleep on my carriage for as long as they want. 2. Anyone may ride my bus for as long as they want. 3. I am no longer supposed to collect fares. 4. I should not speak to my customers at all. 5. I should not be the driver to enforce the rules. Now, I have never seen or signed a write-up for a single one of these Class A violations. But this is the effect: Whenever someone is drunk and sleeping on the bus, I'm driving thinking about the "Narcissistic Ass" that threw the rules out the window. This idiot knows he's completely destroying driver morale in the company, and he just keeps going. I bet he has cost the company millions in fired drivers by now. And let's not talk about the entitled passengers who have become outright monsters by now. I just keep telling myself: there more years and I retire, three more years and I retire. You can't report these jerks or anything without being targeted and wiped out. The funny thing is that someone over the bully reinstated the award, and I ended up receiving it. But how do I tell this company I don't want it. I just want to be left alone and that ain't gonna happen. I'm a source of negative supply because I'm honest, nice, and work hard. That's all it took. Jealousy from the peanut gallery came later. Don't do well in a company with these kinds of haters. You only lose.
OMG, I am so very sorry, I completely understand they get away with murder, literally.....mine drugged someone who had a heart attack and he laughs about it still today and that was 44 years ago....he kicked me out four months ago and trashing me still today on social media, he killed my chickens and my cat and moved in another family and destroyed them, after they stole my stuff and he blamed me for not taking what I valued...I valued my life and Soul more and he couldn't stand it🎉🎉🎉I am so grateful to be away, I hope Ur safe and doing well. Quit the bitch job & mañafest a better 1❤❤❤U R WORTHY 🎉
I was so afraid that the story you told was going to end with that lady taking her ex-husband back. I’m glad I was wrong 😂
Honestly though, I feel like most narcissists don’t have the insight or self-awareness to realize they’ve made a mistake when they leave their long term spouse and the new source of supply ends up not working out. If a narcissist tries to get back with their ex (like in the example you gave- and this is a good thing to remember for all people who are in the position of the ex-wife in your story), it’s not because they’ve had some sort of awakening or realization that they’ve screwed up and want to make things right. It’s because the narcissist is desperate for a source of supply, and they’re running back to the ex because that’s who provided their supply for years. Meanwhile, they’ll still be secretly looking around for their next new source of supply, and it won’t be long before they put the ex through the same thing all over again. So if a narc has left you but then tries to get back with you after it doesn’t work out with the side piece, don’t fall for it. They have not changed and likely never will. They aren’t suddenly appreciative of everything you provided them for years, because if they were, they wouldn’t have left you in the first place.
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Yes isn't the Narcissist's a lost sad person They don't usually reflect on their own destructive behaviors.I have heard of one person straightening their life out and learning to Change from a parisite monster👿into a normal caring person so it's possible.Alot of them won't do that though and learn to connect and love their partners,friends,and or children if they have them.They will most likely put their partner through abusive hell and some will cheat and use you for their supply and treat you like a enemy instead of a appreciative mate.👎🙁👺it's actually sick😢
@@Darren-su2gm amen to that!! “Parasite” is the perfect description! And I do agree it’s not impossible for a narcissist to change; I’ve known many narcissists in my life and have seen 2 of them change permanently and become genuinely empathic and compassionate individuals. But in both cases, that only happened after they were hit with some pretty extreme, drastic occurrences in their lives that forced them to rethink and change their behavior. So it’s definitely possible like you said, but it’s rare (and I definitely wouldn’t count on it lol).
Thank you I just had a friend do this to me and I couldn’t understand it.
The predatory narcissist is like a shark that just keeps moving forward eating things up without any care for them at all, then one day he becomes old or some orcas just rip into him and, in his final moments, he feels the sheer horror and misery of being without control or the ability to manipulate his way out of this one. Suck it up!
There death prior to me BEING "$pecial Need$" in the Famdamnly inheritance sounds good
Hi my name is Stephanie and I am listing to u and everything you r saying is real he came over out of nowhere and I really did just what u said and I was very cool and calm and I told him what happened with his other friends and he was talking about the things that did not make sense and he said he was going to the store and I told him really calm and cool DON'T COME BACK BACK and I close my door
If you’ve done a million things for them, you’ve done nothing.
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I think it's cause and effect. Not karma. Karma is more the long game, my opinion. Karma is meeting someone just like them. That person treats them the way they treated you. It's the collapse when nobody will deal with them.
Great video. I just wonder why Narcissist people don't get treatment?
I can't afford to have any interference in doing business looking at other responses. They don't seem abuse is involved.
This is exactly almost to the T what I’m going through!! He was flying girls in and making porn for 10 years in a secret double life.
Yuck. I'm sorry you are dealing with this
Spot on
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Is it wrong that I tune in sometimes just for the cuteness??
Oh ...he realized this a long time ago. The failure to provide the most basic of needs, for starters. You shouldn't feel like a man if you'd allow someone you supposedly care about to languish in disrepair. That is sad af.
USE the power to propel you right over the top of their FAILURES.
IF you find yourself under the bus?
Learn how to Drive it. Don't fret. They'll have their back to you, and will never see you comin' till you lay on the big girl horn, he hee hee. 👍
I was wondering about this question....or if my ex husband would regret the wrong he did to me and destroying our marriage and playing on my emotions....
Don’t hold your breath…
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Thank you.
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My physician covert narc ex wife threw me away for a new source, a co worker doctor.
It's been 1 1/2 years and the divorce is still playing out.
Her male co worker only wanted sex, got what he wanted and left.
I had done all of her licensing accrediting credentialing correspondences and CME in 16 states and over 30 hospitals over 22 years.
she just contacted me to get my help to get her a Florida License. She has no idea how any of that works.
I wished her well, provide no help and now she is threatening me.
No contact works, I'm getting better, she is falling apart.