Life Changing Advice For When You're At a Low Point In Your Life. Jocko.

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  • @michaladkins5790
    @michaladkins5790 10 місяців тому +2378

    Thanks Jocko. I lost my wife at the end of 2019. We were married over 38 years. My head went straight up my ass and stayed there. I really needed this video. Disability prevents me from working, but it doesn't prevent me from living. I Think it's time to stop existing and it's time to start living again. Thanks again.

    • @TheB1nary
      @TheB1nary 10 місяців тому +62

      Go get it!

    • @luisagraolaya9343
      @luisagraolaya9343 10 місяців тому +57

      You got this mate 👍

    • @dallassukerkin6878
      @dallassukerkin6878 10 місяців тому +59

      This is a road I have walked, Michal, and it sounds as if you are at that point in the evolution of grief when the fog starts to clear a little. When you begin to be able to tell yourself that it is time to stop just existing and to try and start living again, that is a definite turning point. There will still be times when that grief comes hammering back in and knocks you off your feet for a while but the best advice I ever got after I lost my wife was, when you are able, to expand your life so that your grief is not the only thing in it.

    • @sammystones
      @sammystones 10 місяців тому +26

      U got this man, one day at a time

    • @MrLJT1
      @MrLJT1 10 місяців тому +23

      I am on this road myself. The best I think I can do most days is just keep living and hope at some point I will get to the point where I want to keep living. Not there yet, but somehow the days are getting a bit easier.

  • @86Yaro360
    @86Yaro360 9 місяців тому +528

    I am 37, married with 2 kids, run my own company, train almost every day at home and go to bjj 2 times a week. Yesterday I got the news that I have a tumor in my testicle. I said, ok that's the next problem I have to solve, but damn the thought of possibly not seeing my kids again scares the shit out of me. I will beat this.

    • @edwardmoore8865
      @edwardmoore8865 7 місяців тому +15

      Jocko says, "Home depot...Good."

    • @arielmauriciosantander9910
      @arielmauriciosantander9910 7 місяців тому +27

      We are praying for you...God is with you..trust Him

    • @raks1111
      @raks1111 7 місяців тому +16

      I had testical tumor in 1998 ... hang in there bro ❤

    • @krwnik8419
      @krwnik8419 7 місяців тому +2

      Similar story to Peter Czerwinski

    • @86Yaro360
      @86Yaro360 7 місяців тому +60

      Thank you guys!
      I got operated shortly after my first message and things are looking good. I need to do a check-up every 3 months, no chemo.

  • @rishabhgupta8876
    @rishabhgupta8876 Місяць тому +73

    Broke, jobless and in debt but still somehow going through. Somedays even waking up is the hardest thing. Going through the toughest phase of my life and somehow hanging in. To anyone reading this, we will get through this and the sun will shine on us. 😊

    • @TheXenetiX
      @TheXenetiX Місяць тому +4

      I wish your situasion will be better soon buddy! I really feel with you, the couple of last days specialy. Today ended well and i looked up and thanked god for making me go on a path that makes me feel better. i prayed for it earlier and now i harvest the power of the prayer. God bless you from Norway!

    • @lynnmelo
      @lynnmelo 25 днів тому +2

      Grew up everything. Been hiding frkm life and not doing anything. Im 37 and still act like child that havent taken responsibility of my life. Homeless, jobless and broke.

    • @benbridwell9991
      @benbridwell9991 20 днів тому +1

      ❤Prayer works

    • @rishabhgupta8876
      @rishabhgupta8876 20 днів тому +1

      @@lynnmelo now is the time brother. It's never too late.

    • @rishabhgupta8876
      @rishabhgupta8876 20 днів тому +1

      @@TheXenetiX thanks a lot. Much love from India.

  • @zenthegeneral
    @zenthegeneral 10 місяців тому +128

    "When going through Hell, keep going." -Winston Churchill

  • @user-md9hp5mi4e
    @user-md9hp5mi4e 4 місяці тому +39

    If you're watching this, I hope your dreams come true. May everyone here finds out their purpose and get what they prayed for

  • @TeKnoVKNG23
    @TeKnoVKNG23 10 місяців тому +908

    Good advice for the gym as well, the days you don't feel like doing anything, just go. No plan, just go. When you get there just lift something, get on a bench and do what you can do. Jump on the treadmill for a few minutes, etc. After about 10-15 minutes you'll usually find that groove and get into a full on workout and feel 100% better. All about staying in motion and focusing on something.

    • @devonbrown4894
      @devonbrown4894 10 місяців тому +36

      Today was one of those days for me bro but I’m here right now at the gym

    • @gischalav
      @gischalav 10 місяців тому +14

      what works for me is not worry about performance as in weight lifted in dogshit days... rather focus on text book form and sensation, control.. works super for get in the grove as you mention

    • @burt7104
      @burt7104 10 місяців тому +22

      They say just showing up to the gym is the hardest part.

    • @tohian
      @tohian 10 місяців тому +14

      100% true. I’ve had hundreds of workouts that started like absolute dog shit but ended awesome.

    • @derekcarruthers2197
      @derekcarruthers2197 10 місяців тому +5

      Exactly and that's why I always remind myself how happy and good I feel after a few minutes of lifting.

  • @KevinsEvil1
    @KevinsEvil1 10 місяців тому +204

    I have 2 diseases and got really sick last year. I was hospitalized over 30 times. I haven’t been able to work since October. My wife of 14 years lost all respect for me. We have two kids together. I helped her get to where she’s at in life and now that she’s successful she has turned her back on me. Talking to other men behind my back, going out getting drunk at a bar every other night. She wants a divorce. This past month has been my best month yet and I’m starting to feel better physically. I go back to work in two days. Gotta dig myself out of this hole. Thanks for the advice I’m going to try to keep moving forward and focus on getting better.

    • @Metaphoria_Music
      @Metaphoria_Music 10 місяців тому +2

      Glad to hear you're doing better brother, take it step by step and remember to listen to your body so you don't go overboard - You got this!!

    • @e-rod1596
      @e-rod1596 10 місяців тому +9

      God bless you, brother. Stay strong. I hope your health will improve.

    • @jeffrodeback8390
      @jeffrodeback8390 10 місяців тому +1

      Wishing you strength brother.

    • @iamchrisknott
      @iamchrisknott 10 місяців тому +2

      Just wanted to comment and say keeping “walking” brother. Take your time but work hard. All things great, comes to those who wait…faith without work is dead!

    • @realtalk3653
      @realtalk3653 10 місяців тому

      Stay strong. I’m sorry to say this but your wife is a sellout, she has no integrity and is showing her true colors that are ugly! Get rid of her and start a new life without her. You will find a much better woman that will accept you for who you are today 👍

  • @WhatMakestheDifference
    @WhatMakestheDifference 4 місяці тому +62

    When surrounded by darkeness look for the light, even if it is a glimmer. Find it reignite and hold on. Repeat as necessary.

    • @nieczerwony
      @nieczerwony 2 місяці тому

      You have to be your very best at the darkest moment.
      if you can't see the light, you must be the light.
      It's like the ocean.
      Everyone love colorful reef with warm water, plenty of life and amazing creatures. You can dive and there is still plenty of sunlight, so you can admire everything.
      But if you are thrown in the middle of deep ocean, under the water, where there is no light, pressure is so high that you can't breathe, and you can't see shit, that is scary. But still this is the place which is most unknow to mankind. Has so many amazing creatures and things to be found.
      It's clod, dark, wet, and scary but what you find there will stay with you for the rest of your life and only few will understand what you mean.
      With coral reef, yeah it's warm, colorful, bright and amazing, but many people have videos to remind themself how it was back then.

  • @slaucInDaHouse
    @slaucInDaHouse 10 місяців тому +230

    Im at the lifetime low. Wife of 15 years blindsided me for a year and filed for divorce. When she finally said those words "I want a divorce" whole world imploded on me. I was like zombie for two months reflecring on how good my life was but then i realised that life is gone and I literally had nothing else but bag of worn out clothes, phone, car and wallet. Then i started to think really hard with what i ended up with after 15 years of hard work and what are my options. Thank god i have decent job. By american standards i have low 6 figure income. I fought for shared custody and won. I bought 3 room condo and now starting to shape things arround me to reflect what/who i want to be in next 2 years. Its hard and still feel my loss but i cannot stay in the middle of woods figuring out in what direction the town is...

    • @acehood9953
      @acehood9953 10 місяців тому +12

      Low 6 figure income? I haven't got a penny to my name, or a job and chronic illness left me disabled about 7 years ago. I'm working on my illness and improving very slowly but what do you recommend I do when I'm better? I genuinely have no idea where to start. Relationships can wait till much later I'm talking getting my feet back on the ground.

    • @RockyTop85
      @RockyTop85 10 місяців тому +19

      In my experience, a woman doesn’t up and file to divorce. We, as men, have a ton of blindspots

    • @Michael.S.Ryan.
      @Michael.S.Ryan. 10 місяців тому

      Insane that our culture motivates and incentivizes women to leave their men. Absolute bullshit. Obviously there were probably things you could have done different but this is what it is now and all you can do is make the best of it. This system though or literally incentivizing women to leave good hardworking men they committed to with all the vows they say is absolutely insane and asinine. Absolute Trash 🤡 world.

    • @bushpig6837
      @bushpig6837 10 місяців тому +5

      Good for you man. I guarantee when you get to a better place where you're over her, she will come crawling back.

    • @kronikakuma8
      @kronikakuma8 10 місяців тому +4

      Sounds like you're on the right track back . You have a job and your sanity. Good luck in your future ventures.

  • @alpinewolf7751
    @alpinewolf7751 10 місяців тому +552

    Me about a year ago. Not a divorce but I had just broken up with my fiancée after she cheated and lied. Jocko's advice, amongst other's helped me find my way out of the woods.
    Thank you!

    • @NT50481
      @NT50481 10 місяців тому +15

      Great to hear you’re doing well, brother! Keep working on yourself, and God will work his magic 🙌

    • @markeberle3984
      @markeberle3984 10 місяців тому +54

      Congratulations my friend. You were blessed. Evil exposed BEFORE the marriage, kids, house, 401k, & the life blood of money. Spoiler Alert: AWALT.
      Divinity favored you, don't f*ck up. ;)

    • @deuceseis
      @deuceseis 10 місяців тому +1

      Sabotage a country by making its women child and responsibility hating consumerist, narcissistic freaks chasing 80-90 iq criminals or millionaires at a 1:100 female:millionaire ratio. Pretty great plan. TV and phones to beam it constantly, fantastic!

    • @spark556
      @spark556 10 місяців тому +15

      Money/success > women
      Focus on yourself and your growth

    • @deuceseis
      @deuceseis 10 місяців тому +4

      @@spark556 I'm not asking for your opinion. Commenting on what happens to a society with these characteristics and sigma grindsetters.

  • @gruberjens4354
    @gruberjens4354 10 місяців тому +134

    My advice to anyone who feels lost... Frist, don't panic. Ask, what problem is the critical one? All other problems just can wait. Work around that problem and the solution for many other problems will just show up. Akways keep moving, one problem at a time and suddently you realize things all worked out.
    Got my self out of a living hell by that way...

    • @garbojaxmcbruce9626
      @garbojaxmcbruce9626 10 місяців тому +1

      Good job man!

    • @fishlestat
      @fishlestat 10 місяців тому +3

      And when the whole life is a critical problem...

    • @garbojaxmcbruce9626
      @garbojaxmcbruce9626 10 місяців тому +6

      @@fishlestat prioritize and execute

    • @KolyaNickD
      @KolyaNickD 10 місяців тому +4

      Exactly what I've told people - identity the root causes of the situation then sort them out one problem at a time - not all at once!

    • @abrambarco5799
      @abrambarco5799 7 місяців тому

      I love that for you

  • @JaketheJust
    @JaketheJust 10 місяців тому +158

    My birthday this year, I took a moment and compared and contrast where I was and where I am today. A year ago I was suddenly fired from my job, I was still living with my parents, and all I did for my last birthday was go to McDonalds and then took a walk. Jocko is right about taking a walk. This year, I’m so competent in my new job they are giving me more responsibilities, I bought my first house, I’ve gotten stronger and leaner, took up a passion for boxing, and this year I had steak and twice-baked potatoes for my birthday and I was surrounded by my family that love me so much. Stay strong and keep getting stronger!

    • @user-mq5po1vv1e
      @user-mq5po1vv1e 10 місяців тому +1

      Happy for you G .. keep it going!

    • @JaketheJust
      @JaketheJust 10 місяців тому

      @@user-mq5po1vv1e Thanks brother.

    • @garbojaxmcbruce9626
      @garbojaxmcbruce9626 10 місяців тому

      Get it!

    • @jksolution
      @jksolution 10 місяців тому

      So it is like just surrender to job ignoring what that job do wrong in nature or humans and just do it for your success? I am now stuck

    • @Aloysious0013
      @Aloysious0013 8 місяців тому

      Right on brother

  • @carloduran2961
    @carloduran2961 7 місяців тому +25

    Jocko is a humble genius. “In the twilight of my life I awoke in a dark wood, wholly lost.” -Dante

  • @benjamins7229
    @benjamins7229 9 місяців тому +123

    I’m 31 and having a tough time coming to terms with the fact that I am finally aging. My 20s are done. Ten years used to seem like forever, I know it’s not. I can say I appreciate time much more than I did, but with that appreciation comes sadness, because I also realize we don’t have much of it.

    • @ChillPill365
      @ChillPill365 9 місяців тому +18

      Right there with you brother. 32 here. I get it.

    • @chrisgriffith9252
      @chrisgriffith9252 8 місяців тому +14

      Your forties are coming sooner than you realize

    • @Petrovich2049
      @Petrovich2049 8 місяців тому +18

      30 is still young for a guy

    • @andrewmaher8409
      @andrewmaher8409 8 місяців тому +34

      I just wish 53 year old you could tell 31 year young you to realise the world is your oyster, anything was possible and you are young. Look after yourself and love every minute my friend.

    • @CB-nz7be
      @CB-nz7be 8 місяців тому +3

      @@andrewmaher8409 how old are you yourself? just curious. I'm 27 and feel like i lost a few years there to trauma, depression and weakness. Being 27 and getting closer to 30, knowing that your 20s are best for skill building...the sting of not using those years as effectively as i should have is pretty painful, and the fear that i'm already over the hill, so behind. I'm trying to be intelligent in my perspective, because I know i thought similar things at 24, at least a little bit, which now seems madness to me, but then my brain betrays me and wants to tell me "yeah but THIS time you really are an adult, youre late 20s, this time it's true". And in my brains defense, It definitely feels stronger than ever. Idk

  • @graham6883
    @graham6883 9 місяців тому +151

    I did exactly this. I started at Lowes as a seasonal associate with no skills other than work ethic and customer service. I outworked everyone around me, got promoted several times and became a successful salesman. In just a couple years I went from making $10/hr to $20/hr. It wasnt easy but it was simple. All I had was my mindset, my mentors, and my perseverance.

    • @HxThomison
      @HxThomison 9 місяців тому +8

      This is absolutely key. Young men and women need to learn this. The key is to make it where people feel it when you're NOT at work. When others sit you find something to do or someone to help. Even if it isn't your "department". Be the guy who's happy to be there and positive. 99 percent of it is being bearable or even pleasant 😅😅

    • @nolangoldenberg8843
      @nolangoldenberg8843 8 місяців тому +1

      Congrats man! Very inspiring

    • @Cannisseur119
      @Cannisseur119 8 місяців тому +9

      The construction industry desperately needs people with that attitude... You'd be making $40 per hour in the trades at this point....

    • @Wild1KY
      @Wild1KY 8 місяців тому +2

      The best ability is AVAILABILITY. Doesn’t matter how good u are, if ur not there, ur of no service. The key word is to “Endure”

    • @brianpalmer4643
      @brianpalmer4643 8 місяців тому

      Lol...congratulations....you get to be the idiot that misses the whole point.@@w_ulf

  • @LuckInklusiv
    @LuckInklusiv 10 місяців тому +295

    The sentence "Discipline Equals Freedom" helped me alot when I was in dark place.
    Thanks for all the great lessons.

    • @cheyennealvis8284
      @cheyennealvis8284 10 місяців тому +3

      You weren't very disciplined from 1yrs old to 5. And you were the freest kid in the world. Remember that.

    • @nunoflorido582
      @nunoflorido582 10 місяців тому +33

      @@cheyennealvis8284 yeah but then again, someone had to be discilplined in order for you to maintain that freedom and inocence... Also, remember that.

    • @angelocarantino4803
      @angelocarantino4803 10 місяців тому +3

      @@cheyennealvis8284 yes you were, you just didnt realize

    • @angelocarantino4803
      @angelocarantino4803 10 місяців тому +2

      @@nunoflorido582 that too lol

    • @Jay-lo8bt
      @Jay-lo8bt 9 місяців тому +6

      ​@@cheyennealvis8284 behave like a 1-5yo at age 30 and see how far you make it in life

  • @Cristian_M_
    @Cristian_M_ 6 місяців тому +46

    Building wealth involves developing good habits like regularly putting money away in intervals for solid investments. Financial management is a crucial topic that most tend to shy away from, and ends up haunting them in the near future… I pray that anyone who is reading this will be successful in his or her life!!!

    • @zoeyswaniawski7306
      @zoeyswaniawski7306 6 місяців тому +1

      I’m celebrating a $30k stock portfolio today. I started this journey with 6k. I have invested on time and also with the right terms now I have time for my family and the life ahead of me

    • @thylda7877
      @thylda7877 6 місяців тому

      Wow, really. I was able to make my $25k on investment

    • @kiyotofujita2178
      @kiyotofujita2178 6 місяців тому

      ​@@zoeyswaniawski7306I’m looking for something I can venture into on a short term basis, I have $15k sitting in my savings

    • @alinamikelle8688
      @alinamikelle8688 6 місяців тому

      You’re right but a lot of people remain poor due to ignorance

    • @hamidu_-
      @hamidu_- 6 місяців тому

      Not because of ignorance, it’s because of the high rate of unprofessionalism in the cypto market

  • @tomfury7767
    @tomfury7767 8 місяців тому +31

    A warrior never loses his purpose, no matter what happens!

    • @Noillintents
      @Noillintents 2 місяці тому +1

      What happens when he does?

    • @gerdgrubel902
      @gerdgrubel902 2 місяці тому

      @@Noillintents God will give him Purpose then, because as he says: "for he himself has said, I will never leave you or abandon you."
      EVEN if you yourself (think of) abandon God, he won´t abandon you. That is the true unconditional love.
      Read the Story of Job in the Bible. You are NOT alone.

  • @jessewallace12able
    @jessewallace12able 10 місяців тому +44

    Literally start walking. In 2020, covid ended my business. The gyms also closed down so I had no where to even go. I found a trail on a map and started walking on it every day. Then at night I started walking all over the city I live in. I did this for a couple years. I would walk and talk (to God I think) and it helped me sort things out.

    • @JesseSprague-cc3sy
      @JesseSprague-cc3sy Місяць тому

      Really does work, walking is my form of meditation.

    • @jayflunker7118
      @jayflunker7118 Місяць тому +2

      Luke 17:14 says “as they walked (went), they were healed.
      I basically terrorize my body for the first 40 years of my life. Encounter Christ in 2007 reading the Word every day.
      I started brisk walking in 2009 every day for five years I believe it completely healed my body. Eventually I started running and triathlon, since have done 5 or so marathons and a bunch of Ironmans as well.
      I hated walking when I first started but after about 2 months I wouldn’t miss for nothing! God bless you, thanks for sharing 😊

  • @briangates4577
    @briangates4577 10 місяців тому +87

    I feel it. About 10 months ago lost my car. And was forced to walk everywhere. At least 8 miles a day to and from work and other places. The snow the rain the heat. However what I wasnt expecting from this daily trudge is now having a ton more stamina and standing out from other people as a much better put together individual. At first I said it's gonna suck and it did for sure but personal growth and grit from it. Has made me a vastly better individual

    • @user-xb9qm9gx6x
      @user-xb9qm9gx6x 10 місяців тому +4

      Just happened to me in May. Really rough at first but i can go all day now. Feet stopped blistering and body fat dropped. Just got a bicycle this week and hit an emotional high, such a fun timesaver

    • @djnone8137
      @djnone8137 9 місяців тому +4

      it's been 5 years since I lost my car. it sucked and there are days it still does ... but it's worth it.
      good exercise

    • @joshpatterson4973
      @joshpatterson4973 9 місяців тому

      How did you lose it?

    • @Jumpingjackflash123
      @Jumpingjackflash123 8 місяців тому

      I work 8 miles a day AT WORK. Drains ya don’t it. 1/3 marathons daily

    • @mikeb3539
      @mikeb3539 5 місяців тому

      Yup. Hardship taken in stride with the right attitude molds you into a stronger person.

  • @nathaneley6486
    @nathaneley6486 10 місяців тому +47

    Needed this, just found out the plant I’ve worked at for 18 years is closing next month. Not a great feeling but you either lie down and quit dust off and drive on.

    • @rankoutsider2363
      @rankoutsider2363 10 місяців тому +9

      Mate, that’s a long time to be with the same firm. And that shows loyalty when you land your next role Nate, you’ll be good 🤜🏽💥🤛🏽

    • @user-ph4mg1mh9c
      @user-ph4mg1mh9c 10 місяців тому +1

      That’s rough, almost like the breakdown of a long term relationship. Keep your chin up, the next will be something better 👍🏼

    • @deeznuts9196
      @deeznuts9196 10 місяців тому +3

      my dad lost his job at the local paper mill after 25 years of loyalty. this was the bread and butter of our family and so many other families like us. just came in to work one day and the news had hit. lots of families moved. our once booming town saw a substantial decline in jobs and revenue and a significant increase in crime. i can’t imagine what was going through his mind at this time. i was a young child so i didnt quite understand what an impact this would have on our family at the time. our life was built upon his low six figure forklift driving salary, chock full of shift work and overtime. the vehicles, the house, the boats, everything depended on that paper mill pay check. my mother was a self employed hair dresser who only worked 3 days per week so she could raise the kids and keep the house on her days off. long story short, i probably only knew of him getting upset one time, if that, and it definitely was not in front of us. he got up, dusted himself off and thankfully got a job at a shipyard about an hour and 15 minutes from our house. he slaved away at that job for 10 years, having taken a substantial pay decrease. i can honestly say he took it to the chin and kept on going. i, and my siblings, never had to feel the impact of what had truly happened because of his willingness to keep walking. to not sit and wonder what direction to walk in. today he works at the same shipyard, in a much higher position than where he started, and gets to work from home 2-3 days per week, saving him the hour + drive + traffic everyday.
      i know what you’re experiencing has to be a lot. it has to weigh heavily on you mentally. but trust there’s a greater plan and you will see it through. just keep on keeping on, can’t allow yourself to get stuck or start feeling sorry for yourself! be blessed, brother.

  • @leandroramirez6879
    @leandroramirez6879 8 місяців тому +11

    Thank you, God bless you gentlemen. This was exactly what I needed.
    53 yo, have hit bottom (again).
    Kids grown, living with/taking care of mom. Started working at Kroger a year and a half ago. Am backup lead in produce. Try to keep positive outlook, do my best (mostly).
    Sometimes feel depressed. Just recently started working out again.
    This video was confirmation that I'm not completely off track.

    • @lopetonceba1059
      @lopetonceba1059 7 місяців тому +1

      Keep going man your story motivates me

  • @Auslife007
    @Auslife007 10 місяців тому +6

    Easy to be positive about “starting over” and giving advice on such when your not in that situation yourself

  • @user-uc7dv9vn5n
    @user-uc7dv9vn5n 8 місяців тому +7

    Damn man! I've been separated from my wife of 10 years with 4 kids for the last 18 months, stuck in limbo of not knowing if we're getting a divorce or working it out. I've been stuck for the last 18 months in your friends mindset. Out of all of the times I've executed a plan I alway remember to just move after a certain point - not to get stuck in planning but this time, personal life got stuck. I forgot to just move. This helped me pull my head out. Thanks guys

  • @salohcin1013
    @salohcin1013 10 місяців тому +27

    Can’t even imagine how dope Jocko’s Home Depot aisle would be

  • @MrHDProd
    @MrHDProd 10 місяців тому +14

    I’m up my lowest point right now but I’m still focused on my purpose which is making beats 💯🙏

  • @seller559
    @seller559 10 місяців тому +33

    When I was young I would take a long walk when I had tough decisions. I got answers. Always worked out for the best. Now, I’m walking every day. 👍

  • @pete4682
    @pete4682 10 місяців тому +45

    Live in CA and Covid has destroyed 50% of my business to this day. Crazy to lose something you worked so hard for. Had to carry the pressure the last 3 plus years, but I am just going to start walking!!! Thank you. Semper Fi

    • @Which-Way-Out
      @Which-Way-Out 3 місяці тому

      Convid didn't do anything Pete. You can thank your Gov't for all the devastation to the lower and middle class, and the real virus is called communism. Best wishes bro.

  • @colinwoonsue
    @colinwoonsue 9 місяців тому +60

    I’m getting the help I need from Veterans Affairs, but I’m a mess too. Physical problems. Disorders, mentally. What keeps me going is the fighting spirit of the Navy. Also, it’s not really in my nature to not keep going. My grandfather would always say when life knocks you down; all you can do is pick yourself up by your boot straps and keep on keeping on. He just passed away weeks ago. I live on, in his honor.

    • @ViktoriousDead
      @ViktoriousDead 8 місяців тому +2

      So what exactly happened to you in the navy? I’m curious, because there’s a massive issue with veterans who’ve never seen combat, deployed or anything claiming PTSD, guys who worked desk jobs getting VA disability, and claiming psychiatric disorders.
      It’s bizzare

    • @colinwoonsue
      @colinwoonsue 8 місяців тому +1

      @@ViktoriousDead I found out I had paranoid schizophrenia. They claimed nothing was wrong and even wanted to keep me working with a gun after finding this out. I was threatened by two supervisors and was legitimately a mess until I left.

    • @colinwoonsue
      @colinwoonsue 8 місяців тому +1

      @@ViktoriousDead I’m not keen on being considered wrong about this or even ashamed. I did my best work considering everything

    • @TissueBox271
      @TissueBox271 6 місяців тому

      @@ViktoriousDeadI understand your mindset and had the same view point, but there indeed situations where someone may not experience combat but one example might be leadership and the way they treat you. There are a handful of sailors I’ve talked to where their situation is a very legitimate reason to have PTSD even though they were not in combat. There are also those who do play the system….like someone in my previous leadership….. which is BS

  • @lookupthereupinthetrees9860
    @lookupthereupinthetrees9860 10 місяців тому +22

    This is insanely good advice.
    Punishments vs rewards mindset.
    "The quality of your life will be determined by the quality of your thoughts."

  • @hitch-tf5rh
    @hitch-tf5rh 2 місяці тому +5

    I am divorced with two kids single dad. I am glad I found this video! Life gets tough and there is a lot of people who have had tougher road. That being said, he is right, you prepare yourself for your road ahead. Nothing more and definitely nothing less.

  • @jackrogers5712
    @jackrogers5712 10 місяців тому +30

    Thanks for this. I'm in a slump right now. A business idea I had didn't work out, I hate my job, been feeling sick lately and I've been letting my surroundings fall apart around me. I spent two days sitting around feeling bad. Today I got up, cleaned the house, did some errands and immediately feel better.
    There's something to be said for just moving around and staying active. Don't surrender to the urge to stay still and feel bad. Keep moving.

    • @DavidRussellM
      @DavidRussellM 10 місяців тому

      Are you exercising?

    • @Technofastfingers
      @Technofastfingers 9 місяців тому +2

      The fact you accomplished at least one duty in a day shows progress. Never give up! Life's curveballs are what makes us stronger. We need to stop the negativity and look at everything from a positive POV. Proud of you never give up brother

    • @lopetonceba1059
      @lopetonceba1059 7 місяців тому

      You know I never thought I'd find comment section on UA-cam were so many men are going through a lot. Its heartbreaking, but I found comfort and inspiration in your words and seeing other men trying to get up from their slump and failures is amazing its also been tough on my side and sometimes I feel you can't really share it with anyone else

  • @Logan24855
    @Logan24855 5 місяців тому +10

    I’m going through a personal crisis, right now and I so needed to hear this. I will watch later, thank you Jocko & Echo🙏🙏

  • @danmadefurniture
    @danmadefurniture 10 місяців тому +39

    Great advice Jocko, every winner is a loser who didn’t give up

    • @ferramirez4570
      @ferramirez4570 10 місяців тому +2

      I know that is Fact but I'm getting tired of being the loser that hasn't give up yet.

  • @SidewaysEightSix
    @SidewaysEightSix 10 місяців тому +65

    In racing we call that target fixation. If there’s a crash developing in front of you, you look for a path through. If you’re looking at the crash you’re going to end up inside that crash. If you look at the wall, you’re gonna hit that wall. You gotta find the open lane. It’s a moving target, sometime it closes on you and you crash. But other times it opens up and you fly right through

    • @bobbyknoth6985
      @bobbyknoth6985 10 місяців тому

      Yes.I am a Professional Polo player. Same exact thing.

  • @RyanTait-vk9sc
    @RyanTait-vk9sc 7 місяців тому +4

    I SOLD MYSELF OUT MAN THANK YOU. FOR THIS.

  • @jonny_apocalypseii1051
    @jonny_apocalypseii1051 10 місяців тому +125

    Needed this today, thanks, Jocko. I'm working a terrible job that I hate because I've got a baby on the way and don't have another choice right now. It's tough , not physically, but mentally, I needed to hear this.

    • @thatbusinesstrainer1414
      @thatbusinesstrainer1414 10 місяців тому +7

      You ALWAYS have a choice. Once you understand that, the rest falls into place.

    • @ionbusman2086
      @ionbusman2086 10 місяців тому +1

      Always a choice! Goodluck :)

    • @locophoto6881
      @locophoto6881 8 місяців тому +2

      You are not what you do, don't forge that. Your character defines you, not your job, but definitely build your skillsets so you have a better job that makes it easier later to live and invest and build wealth and provide for family.

    • @abrambarco5799
      @abrambarco5799 7 місяців тому

      @@locophoto6881I like how you put that together. Very good mindset.

  • @Clayton_White
    @Clayton_White 10 місяців тому +98

    6 years ago I was in the middle of a break up from a toxic relationship that ended in betrayal. Emotionally devastating doesn't do it justice. I would wake up in the middle of the night with tears. I didn't even know that was possible. Suicide was contemplated regularly. Jockos video "Good" which I believe may have been produced by Echo, saved my life. It gave me the motivation/awareness to move and to crawl my way out of the whole I fell in. The extreme ownership mentality helped me realize that I was in fact the one responsible for my circumstances not the victim. Had I not ignored the flags that were hitting me in the face, I would have avoided it all. Taking responsibility is a release valve. Being that you are the only thing you can control it allows you make sense of things and to accept the situation and eventually forgive yourself. But only if you do the work. Do not avoid the pain. Allow yourself to feel it and process it... Create your own pain by pushing yourself mentally and physically... 3 years later I found a better relationship. And after 3 years together I'm back in a similar situation without the toxicity. It sucks almost as bad as what I remember, but this time I have a head start. I know what to do. Get up, accept responsibility, embrace the suffering, recalibrate, reengage and go out on the attack.

    • @Bodyknowledge77
      @Bodyknowledge77 9 місяців тому +1

      Good fortune to you. It ain't easy, but is it really supposed to be? Not necessarily.

    • @elijaholiver5937
      @elijaholiver5937 9 місяців тому

      Savage 🔥🔥🔥

    • @justinjennings141
      @justinjennings141 8 місяців тому +1

      Damn man I feel like I wrote this almost! Same situation after 10 years being together and now it’s been 2 1/2 years and I’m just now excepting everything and embracing the pain and moving on while listening to Jocko !

    • @raphaelwesley9140
      @raphaelwesley9140 8 місяців тому +1

      I just went through a break up man, my fault. Im crying bad

    • @Clayton_White
      @Clayton_White 7 місяців тому

      @@raphaelwesley9140 It slowly gets better. There will be ups and downs through the process.

  • @Yetipfote
    @Yetipfote 10 місяців тому +3

    Everytime I come back to Jocko it feels like taking an essential vitamin.

  • @mathieuconklin3146
    @mathieuconklin3146 10 місяців тому +7

    i am astounded at this man's wisdom. I am convinced there is no situation on earth you could give Jocko and he wouldn't find a solution.

    • @Partoftheratpack
      @Partoftheratpack 10 місяців тому +1

      It’s how he’s been trained. Elite mindset

  • @flying-fijiantv6282
    @flying-fijiantv6282 7 місяців тому +6

    Damn Jocko you’re really helping me out on my healing process.

  • @Shuggapoppa
    @Shuggapoppa 5 місяців тому +3

    25 years old, just got fired from amazon for not being treated right and want ‘what is right’. i’m taking this as an opportunity to grow and no longer have to work my butt off to a company that doesn’t care. if you’re reading this and you are going through the similar situation, don’t give up. God has a better plan for you and i! KEEP WALKING!! look for opportunities, we can get to where we want to be. it’s not the end of the world.

  • @P-A-L-M-A
    @P-A-L-M-A 8 місяців тому +7

    Start walking, look at the direction you’re walking to, keep walking. I was doing cardio at the gym and listening to this in the morning, and it actually made me smile and feel better and more secure about my approach on things. Awesome.

  • @jamajnasoares5702
    @jamajnasoares5702 10 місяців тому +11

    "Look, you're smart;
    but
    You will not be able to do anything, without doing something."
    So much said, in so much little.

  • @noamarpe
    @noamarpe 5 місяців тому +4

    My wife left a month ago and took our 4 year old daughter. The next day I started getting up early to pray, do yoga and exercise. I started taking care of important things I'd been procrastinating on. When she was leaving she told me I had a year to work on myself, so I got after it.
    Yesterday was the first time I went to their new home and I found a condom wrapper under her bed. Now I'm standing around wondering how it all went to shit. I want to hurt the guy she's seeing. I want to hurt myself. I want to give up. But I know I have to be able to show up for my child. I have to start walking again.
    Thanks Jocko and Echo ❤

    • @kanohagito5292
      @kanohagito5292 5 місяців тому +1

      Give up it’s over with your wife focus on yourself try to be the best it’s the best revenge and find a new girlfriend

    • @brentie2604
      @brentie2604 4 місяці тому +1

      Be the best for yourself and your daughter. Your wife is getting her back blown out. Be the best for yourself. Now move on be better. You are focused on your wife she is not focused on you.

    • @Celery459
      @Celery459 29 днів тому

      So sorry that this happened to you. In a similar situation. I guess 1 day at a time.

  • @TiramoanaTaia
    @TiramoanaTaia 2 дні тому

    23, lost my partner of 2 years (although I broke up with him and became too toxic), going through heartbreak with both my parents. Deillusioning from the childhood we decieved by, navigating and coming to terms with I’ve had undiagnosed CPTSD for a majority of my life. Lost my car and my job within the last year, also dealing with substance abuse ❤ this has humbled me to my very core. Beauty in the breaking 🌹

  • @samvojtech1153
    @samvojtech1153 10 місяців тому +15

    I think this just saved my life! People make faces & roll their eyes when I bring up NAVY SEALS & stuff I heard from them. But two former SEALs just rocked my pity party with back to back videos. Thanks Jon M. & Jocko!!!

  • @phonkandchill.mp3
    @phonkandchill.mp3 9 місяців тому +3

    I was a rock bottom 4 years ago. It wasn't until I decided to get help at the VA for things that ate away at me for 20 years. Turned out to be severe PTSD among other things. It wasn't the 2 years in and out of the hospital, but the small journey of that couple years that made the changes inside me. Now I tell myself that I'm flawed maybe more than others, so I work to fix myself daily. I'm not up at 4:00 AM (Jocko), but 5:30 and to the gym. So I can assess each day before it happens. One day at a time now, it's a way of life for me.

  • @FlyFishingPhotographer
    @FlyFishingPhotographer 9 місяців тому +3

    lost my mom recently, I needed this thanks

  • @marianquinlan8707
    @marianquinlan8707 10 місяців тому +1

    You’re so right, Jocko! Have been in that “forest” you described, and it’s so great to get up “off the floor” and
    see the Light! Thank you for sharing your wisdom! God bless you!

  • @readerofbooks5170
    @readerofbooks5170 10 місяців тому +8

    It’s only Tuesday, and this week I am already in the middle of the woods. I didn’t know what to do or where to go but now I am just going to start walking. Thank you for this.

  • @doca8792
    @doca8792 10 місяців тому +6

    Brilliant.
    I was so overwhelmed my first year of grad school that I almost quit.
    An upper classmate told me not to get lost in the forest staring at the trees.
    Amazing advice, almost as good our man here.

  • @Carlos101010101
    @Carlos101010101 10 місяців тому +5

    You're channeling Dante. He begins his epic poems by waking up in the middle of the woods. Once he starts movement, at Virgil's prompting, he first goes through Hell. Literally. After that, it's all uphill, but Paradise waits at the peak.

  • @jasonmorell7182
    @jasonmorell7182 10 місяців тому +3

    Your words have helped me… the way you express yourself is inspiring. Had a rough week 2 weeks ago bouncing back now… thank you!!! ❤

  • @Guitargate
    @Guitargate 7 місяців тому

    TRUTH. It’s all about action. Even if you’re walking in the wrong direction for days & you have to backtrack, you only know that by walking.

  • @ronirwin6421
    @ronirwin6421 9 місяців тому +3

    Jocko, you thoughtfully and powerfully words delivered me from the depth of the ruin of my life. I am rebuilding, reshaping, and carry myself differently, I am better than I was. No matter the low, your words always played a MAJOR point in getting me out. I wanted to offer my most sincere thanks to you.

  • @matthewtgp8213
    @matthewtgp8213 10 місяців тому +5

    Thanks Joko
    Going through hard times right now in my life. But the message I got is can’t stay still and dwell over my sadness. I’ll acknowledge it, but have to keep moving forward w my goals/ aspirations. Thanks

  • @sweetfightsboxing4380
    @sweetfightsboxing4380 10 місяців тому +2

    In my suffering, I listen to this and say "Bravo!"

  • @harrymills2770
    @harrymills2770 10 місяців тому +7

    Best thing that happened to my career was finding out my annual contract wasn't going to be renewed at the end of the year. Last thing I wanted to do was hustle up a new gig, but the new gig paid better, had more security, and an upward path. The previous gig didn't, but I couldn't see past it until I HAD to.

  • @yourdiytechlife
    @yourdiytechlife 10 місяців тому +4

    Love this!! I’ve been sitting on a log for too long. Time to start walking.

  • @timmothyburke
    @timmothyburke 10 місяців тому +5

    I think the reality is that the people who make it are usually the ones that don’t have as much bad luck, and are the ones that get a helping hand from other people. Luck is the biggest factor that’s why sometimes people need a little bit of help, but rarely get it

  • @paulstringer4099
    @paulstringer4099 10 місяців тому +1

    This is such a great word, Jocko! I needed to hear this today, I'm sure others do too!

  • @ariz5247
    @ariz5247 10 місяців тому +10

    I didn’t know that I needed this message on this day. Turns out I did.
    Well done gentleman. And thank you.

  • @primalexperiment3332
    @primalexperiment3332 10 місяців тому +4

    This is good timing. Got complacent with life and things got away…..this will give me something to study on. Thanks men for always finding a way to help a refocus

  • @stayawakenhealthy2539
    @stayawakenhealthy2539 10 місяців тому +3

    Great advice Jocko to your friend. 💯👌👍 "Always a Positive to a Negative"

  • @cardcollector1299
    @cardcollector1299 7 днів тому +1

    It happened to me 2 years ago. 2 kids and divorce after 11 years. Blindsided. Literally walking helps heal. Everything passes in time. Joined a BJJ gym and started training to just learn with no past knowledge. Make mini goals for yourself and work to achieve them

  • @EfrainA75
    @EfrainA75 10 місяців тому

    Very well said Mr. Jocko. Thank you! 💪🏽🤙🏽

  • @anthonykenyatta11
    @anthonykenyatta11 10 місяців тому +3

    ❤I’m a SASM at Home Depot in Scottsdale. And I’ve been standing in the woods about a mile away from an intersection. I know this further puts things in my control to overcome. thank you for talking on this.

  • @michaelmoore7777
    @michaelmoore7777 10 місяців тому +4

    4.5 years at Home Depot - great place to work with a lot of Vets. Loved every minute.

    • @UncleDave74
      @UncleDave74 2 місяці тому

      Amen brother I’m on MET

  • @peanutartt
    @peanutartt 10 місяців тому +4

    Great advice, I made this realisation a few years back, after making some terrible life changing mistakes, instead of pity myself and feel sorry, I looked at it as an opportunity to do things differently, I looked at what sort of positive outcome came my way too. Anything bad that happens, you can use it as an opportunity to learn and grow. 3

  • @noorrazzaq6820
    @noorrazzaq6820 10 місяців тому +3

    Wow, word-for-word, that driving course advice is exactly what I regularly tell people. If you stare at the obstacle, that's what you're going to hit

  • @Rambo29
    @Rambo29 10 місяців тому +3

    He hit the nail on the head - Jocko the philosopher

  • @victorgr54
    @victorgr54 10 місяців тому +1

    Monday motivation, bright and early. Thank you and have a great day!

  • @rayforddean6293
    @rayforddean6293 9 місяців тому +2

    I came across this by accident but needed to hear this, at low point but I'm walking forward to a new destiny ✌🏾

  • @josephgish2573
    @josephgish2573 10 місяців тому +33

    This was one of the hardest, and most important lessons of my life. Soon as I embraced this mindset and seeing opportunity in the hardship my entire life changed, and continues to change.

  • @mwsroe
    @mwsroe 10 місяців тому +4

    Pick a direction & walk!
    Fantastic advice & just what I needed to hear, Thank you man🙏

  • @weezyrunner
    @weezyrunner 3 місяці тому +1

    I needed to hear this, especially today. I've been going through a rough patch, and today, I broke. I cried over all of it, and I am not a cryer. But hearing this opened up my eyes and gave me the kick in the ass I needed. Thank you. ❤

  • @aws168
    @aws168 10 місяців тому +2

    needed to hear this Jocko. I've been a reader/listener for a little while & I felt this one!

  • @stephenfannin6482
    @stephenfannin6482 10 місяців тому +16

    currently just turned 22 and am a Pharmacy Technician working on Associates degree in criminal justice, wanted to law enforcement but now pivoting towards my state's board of pharmacy for employment, great video and I feel like I am doing something wrong everyday and am unsure of where I'll end up but the fact of visualizing where I want to go has helped ease some of the anxiety of not knowing

    • @tommydee1981
      @tommydee1981 10 місяців тому +2

      Hey man. So I’m 42 and have been where you’re at. What I will say is that you are in the right place. You’re taking action. You will figure it out. It’s the people that don’t move and stay still that lose. If you’re feeling lost it’s because you’re growing. Don’t give up man. Ever. One day you’ll have a wife and then a family. Build discipline now so you can take them through those times. You got this.

  • @onelifelived
    @onelifelived 10 місяців тому +9

    I needed this. I knew it was the way but I needed someone to verbalise it. Thank you Jocko.

    • @mikehuff9793
      @mikehuff9793 10 місяців тому +1

      Many of us already have the tools. We’ve just never been told certain things in a particular context. It’s what all recovery is about ❤

  • @mariojorge9529
    @mariojorge9529 10 місяців тому +1

    Thank you very much! God bless you all!

  • @richardchambers6361
    @richardchambers6361 10 місяців тому +1

    Good advice Jocko. I needed to hear this today. I have alot on my mind and plate.

  • @chrispressnell1150
    @chrispressnell1150 8 місяців тому +3

    I just wanna say to the world to get feedback that My blood pressure has been over 200 to 170 on top and over 120 to 90 on the bottom for over 10 years..I've been on meds for the first time via ER with no insurance for anxiety and blood pressure and I'm 38, I'm 6 ft and weigh 275 with a long line of cancer amd heart failure in my family..I've never met my mother and was raised by my roughneck dad and I tried so hard to be him my whole life, I've had 10 years of cocaine use which I'm 1 month clean and 20 years of alcoholism which I still do and I've been depressed my whole life even as a child spending much of my time alone and I've thought about ending it all many times..But I can't because I don't wanna hurt others specially my dad and gf..I'm sitting in my barn rn listening to this and paused it at 7:48 to say that I'm gonna fight harder and tomorrow is gonna be better..I was the man at one point..And I will be the man again soon..I will not give up and I will fight harder..I pray that God gives me the strength to get through this and be a better man..I needed this..Thank you Jocko

  • @Ufos4dahoes
    @Ufos4dahoes 10 місяців тому +5

    I agree that it's 100% about Perspective.. I also believe that sometimes life is messed up and it's nothing but despair until death. Reality is not a Disney movie..

  • @guntherhofer1424
    @guntherhofer1424 9 місяців тому +1

    What you said Jocko really moved me a lot. Thank you for your service to your fellow humans, to your brothers and sisters. I appreciate it big time.
    The help you provide through books and podcasts is gigantic. Thank you.

  • @javilara5829
    @javilara5829 9 місяців тому

    Thank you for this. I stumbled across this specific video. I listen to you from time to time when I get a chance. Very grateful I came across this. This one hits home and it’s letting a fire under my ass. Thank you.

  • @DB-Barrelmaker
    @DB-Barrelmaker 10 місяців тому +3

    Bro, I'm going through a nearly identical situation. Being aware of your own intelligence sometimes leads to paralysis, you are avoiding to seeing what others can't but that means you also assume there's always an immediate answer from your current situation. Move first and reappraise, loud and clear. Thank you!

  • @dkiefersu
    @dkiefersu 10 місяців тому +3

    I love this! I'll be honest, I'm a new Jocko fan and I was aware that there's some (ALOT) of videos of Jocko online. But I have been listening for a month now and only now can see Echo. He is swole! The reason why I thought he looked different is because he sounds like a friend of mine, so I pictured him different

  • @dominoereyes8477
    @dominoereyes8477 10 місяців тому +1

    Your thought process is my husband and mine. It's refreshing to hear it from someone else when right now who we are surrounded by scoff and laugh at it.

  • @SamuelMcCunemusic
    @SamuelMcCunemusic 9 місяців тому +2

    Thanks for sharing, I need to hear this for sure. Changes are difficult sometimes but how you frame it is the whole solution. 👍🤘

  • @garbojaxmcbruce9626
    @garbojaxmcbruce9626 10 місяців тому +5

    Awesome. And focusing on short term objectives makes life more meaningful too - you can't be worried about the Home Depot aisle not mattering in a million years because it matters to you now.

  • @Farticus731
    @Farticus731 10 місяців тому +8

    Damn I needed to hear this. Lost my job in Feb, and have realized I’ve key-holed myself with my degree and experience. I am now about to take my CDL test and start driving for work.

    • @johnran6015
      @johnran6015 10 місяців тому +1

      Just a heads up, me getting a CDL led me to a point to where I felt like a failure and left me morbidly depressed, I don't know why people equate chasing money with having your shit together.

    • @Farticus731
      @Farticus731 10 місяців тому

      @@johnran6015 I get your point and appreciate the advice. At the moment it's more about what I'm able to do physically, buy money isn't a problem since I'm a disabled vet.

    • @Farticus731
      @Farticus731 10 місяців тому

      @@johnran6015 I sincerely hope things are better for you now. May I ask what you do now?

  • @adamcoleman5522
    @adamcoleman5522 10 місяців тому +2

    Jesus christ Jocko, i needed to hear EXACTLY this today. Like...this was moving. thank you for sharing your insight

  • @Stefi999
    @Stefi999 2 місяці тому

    Amen ! Pure wisdom. God bless Jocko

  • @jairogri
    @jairogri 10 місяців тому +5

    Great advice, thank you.
    Im recently divorced. Since we have small kids, the whole experience has been overwhelming and difficult. For a while I was down and feeling depressed. But i kept moving and working hard. Im not saying that everything is in order, but I know that i just need to keep walking. I am fortunate to be an American and being able to take advantage of all the privileges and resources that we have here. As difficult as divorce, losing your job or business might be, we can always bounce back and find an even better life.

  • @Sai-jw8og
    @Sai-jw8og 10 місяців тому +5

    I chose to remain in the woods for all these years and like Jocko said no clues popped up.
    Now I'm gonna start walking and find the road.

    • @skelley164
      @skelley164 10 місяців тому +1

      Me too brother. The last couple years I’ve been just floating around depressed and no direction. I’m tired of this feeble existence. Time to get moving and start living again. Good or bad it’s gonna happen.

  • @wirenoises
    @wirenoises 10 місяців тому

    Excellent advice arriving right on time. Thank you. ✌️

  • @carlh-thehermitwithwi-fi679
    @carlh-thehermitwithwi-fi679 10 місяців тому +1

    it's all about decision points, effort and outlook.

  • @donowen5889
    @donowen5889 10 місяців тому +490

    Wake up ladies and gentlemen.

  • @davidellis5312
    @davidellis5312 9 місяців тому +3

    When you're at a very low point the last thing you feel like doing exercise or work and your body aches straight out of bed. But it's true - walking or a bit of physical work frees your head. I always found that cycling has been my best rehabilitation mentally and physically. I also find that doing a simple task on your property like a simple repair which produces a result gives you something to build on. I was very low in the late 90's living alone, and I started going out for a walk not knowing where I was heading or why, no food or drink in my coat. On several occasions I saw an Argentinian soccer player who was at Manchester United walking the other way and we'd nod to each other. Later I read that he was also in a low place at the time. You can recover and be stronger & resilient if you just convince yourself to start.