Stage 5…. Been stuck trying to figure it all out. Trying to understand what is real and not and who is to blame, if anyone is. If i am insane and unseasonable. What was real vs lies. I definitely did go crazy. Crazymaking.. He broke up to get together with our roommate. He denied all connection to her before and still denies it had anything to do with us. all my fears were not paranoia but instead very much reality. Life fell apart. Thank you for this video. It break it all down really well. The confusion and stress is still high, trying to find all information and understanding i can.
Confused breakup. My girlfriend broke up with me 3 months ago. The relationship was good. No fights no issues. None whatsoever. Then 1.5 months she came in relationship with a friend zoned guy she has been rejecting since 1 year. (That guy came first i came later). After 3 months of the breakup. She called our relationship as “whatever we had” and said “I (she) was not herself when I was with you(me)”. Completely denying the connection we had. And completely resentful of me. Returned all the dried flower that i gave her over the course of relationship. Even though I didn’t hurt in any way whatsoever. What we had was strong. First month after breakup she was fine and normal when she messaged me (amiable) but her tone changed completely soon she got with this other guy. Fantasizing her new relationship with quotes like “i always belonged to you and now i am back.. blah blah”. What’s going on I am confused? Feels like she is on rebound or something ? But what’s with the resentment. I treated her with care, love and respect.
I know this video is about narcissist but I have a question regarding my breakup..My ex left because she thought I was lying to her, after countless times of reassuring her I was telling the truth she still left. There were times where I lost my temper pretty bad in arguments but we always made up and I thought we moved past it.Then after making the mistake of begging and pleading for a while she started bringing up old problems from a year ago about me losing my temper which she forgave me for after they happened, Any idea on what this means? We were also planning on having a kid and moving into an apartment a few weeks before she left.
@@colezesiger I think two of us have an anxious attachment style seeing how we both acted in the relationship. I’m just scared that she won’t take me back because I told her that it took her leaving to make me realize how bad my behaviour can be sometimes and I heard a lot of exes won’t come back if you tell them that
@@colezesiger I was not , I think she was. After I suffered enough tried to make her happy , I still care for her. She has blocked and gone NC without even giving a reason.
So let me tell you this story about me Male(25 yrs). I met a girl, had instant click with her. She was with her ex for 5-6 years but when I met her she wasn't in any relationship since last 1-1.5 year and wasn't even in contact with her ex. She told me he mistreated her, demeaned her she really hated him and not in any type of contact with him. I really loved her, it took me 2-3 months to ask her on date. She agreed. Date were super good. It went for almost a year. We went to many places, due to her past I respected her very much. I just loved her from bottom of my heart. Whatever past bad things she used to say what she had expected in past and what had happened with her, I used to wrote it down in my list so I may never to do it again and used to do opposite of it so she became very surprised and happy. I sought of was so much connected with her that seeing her happy made me happy. In almost a year we never had physical. Then there was time when she herself wanted it so I agreed but then when we were supposed to she bailed out last minute, she did this 2-3 times more and then suddenly she started being all weird out then blocked me from everywhere. I always loved her and showed her outmost respect never even forced anything on her she used to love me for this and said you understand me so much. Later, I came to know from her pg mates that 1 month before she planned it out all she met with her ex went out to stay with him for few days. But, later they again fight and it was over between her and ex completely. This shocked me as she lied about me that day as she said she was out with her cousin's friend who had come to give her something that her mother had send. Later, i came to know more that after going out with me on dates she used to go out with other boys out too in night wearing all short clubbing thing I never came to know about this. I am still so much attached to her still it almost been 1.3 years since she blocked me. I never got any closure or any such thing from her explaining what and why she did this to me. Oh ghosh i did so much for her, atleast as a friend she should have been real with me. I never wanted to post this here but, I am just not getting what to do I read other people question on this what they did but nothing is helping. I did gym, therapy, blocked just everything and I still love her, looking for answer and she still comes in my dream all hot and moments we shared.
Just from reading your message it sounds like you’ve tied your worth to her approval. You talk a lot about how much you’ve done for her, like it’s an equation in which if you do a lot people will owe you loyalty. She didn’t give that so you keep asking yourself what else you could’ve done. This is a common world view in anxious attachment style. Sometimes though, you can give a lot and people still betray you. It doesn’t have to mean that you didn’t give enough or that you weren’t enough. Sometimes people are just bad partners. Sounds like she was.
@@colezesiger I did not deserve that😢. She is happy now, I am not. She definitely must be with someone else probably fkng up and here I am still missing , caring for her. 1.5 yrs almost passed and everyday still think of her. Whats wrong with me!
Stage 5…. Been stuck trying to figure it all out. Trying to understand what is real and not and who is to blame, if anyone is. If i am insane and unseasonable. What was real vs lies.
I definitely did go crazy. Crazymaking..
He broke up to get together with our roommate. He denied all connection to her before and still denies it had anything to do with us.
all my fears were not paranoia but instead very much reality. Life fell apart.
Thank you for this video. It break it all down really well.
The confusion and stress is still high, trying to find all information and understanding i can.
Omg since soo many times i was in guilt trip that m i a narcissistic!!!? But this sign made me confirm for sure that my ex is narcissistic fr😭💔
Confused breakup.
My girlfriend broke up with me 3 months ago. The relationship was good. No fights no issues. None whatsoever. Then 1.5 months she came in relationship with a friend zoned guy she has been rejecting since 1 year. (That guy came first i came later).
After 3 months of the breakup. She called our relationship as “whatever we had” and said “I (she) was not herself when I was with you(me)”. Completely denying the connection we had. And completely resentful of me. Returned all the dried flower that i gave her over the course of relationship. Even though I didn’t hurt in any way whatsoever.
What we had was strong.
First month after breakup she was fine and normal when she messaged me (amiable) but her tone changed completely soon she got with this other guy. Fantasizing her new relationship with quotes like “i always belonged to you and now i am back.. blah blah”.
What’s going on I am confused? Feels like she is on rebound or something ? But what’s with the resentment. I treated her with care, love and respect.
What about when they tell you that they don't think they feel normal human emotions like guilt... 😅
I know this video is about narcissist but I have a question regarding my breakup..My ex left because she thought I was lying to her, after countless times of reassuring her I was telling the truth she still left. There were times where I lost my temper pretty bad in arguments but we always made up and I thought we moved past it.Then after making the mistake of begging and pleading for a while she started bringing up old problems from a year ago about me losing my temper which she forgave me for after they happened, Any idea on what this means? We were also planning on having a kid and moving into an apartment a few weeks before she left.
I’m sorry man. To find out what it means I think the first place I’d explore is anxious attachment style
@@colezesiger I think two of us have an anxious attachment style seeing how we both acted in the relationship. I’m just scared that she won’t take me back because I told her that it took her leaving to make me realize how bad my behaviour can be sometimes and I heard a lot of exes won’t come back if you tell them that
What happens with this narcissist people in end I am so broken man.
You think you were the narcissist?
@@colezesiger I was not , I think she was. After I suffered enough tried to make her happy , I still care for her. She has blocked and gone NC without even giving a reason.
So let me tell you this story about me Male(25 yrs). I met a girl, had instant click with her.
She was with her ex for 5-6 years but when I met her she wasn't in any relationship since last 1-1.5 year and wasn't even in contact with her ex. She told me he mistreated her, demeaned her she really hated him and not in any type of contact with him. I really loved her, it took me 2-3 months to ask her on date. She agreed. Date were super good. It went for almost a year. We went to many places, due to her past I respected her very much. I just loved her from bottom of my heart. Whatever past bad things she used to say what she had expected in past and what had happened with her, I used to wrote it down in my list so I may never to do it again and used to do opposite of it so she became very surprised and happy. I sought of was so much connected with her that seeing her happy made me happy. In almost a year we never had physical. Then there was time when she herself wanted it so I agreed but then when we were supposed to she bailed out last minute, she did this 2-3 times more and then suddenly she started being all weird out then blocked me from everywhere. I always loved her and showed her outmost respect never even forced anything on her she used to love me for this and said you understand me so much. Later, I came to know from her pg mates that 1 month before she planned it out all she met with her ex went out to stay with him for few days. But, later they again fight and it was over between her and ex completely. This shocked me as she lied about me that day as she said she was out with her cousin's friend who had come to give her something that her mother had send. Later, i came to know more that after going out with me on dates she used to go out with other boys out too in night wearing all short clubbing thing I never came to know about this. I am still so much attached to her still it almost been 1.3 years since she blocked me. I never got any closure or any such thing from her explaining what and why she did this to me. Oh ghosh i did so much for her, atleast as a friend she should have been real with me. I never wanted to post this here but, I am just not getting what to do I read other people question on this what they did but nothing is helping. I did gym, therapy, blocked just everything and I still love her, looking for answer and she still comes in my dream all hot and moments we shared.
Oh man. Cole please help him . I have similar story as him. Where do these people end up?
Just from reading your message it sounds like you’ve tied your worth to her approval. You talk a lot about how much you’ve done for her, like it’s an equation in which if you do a lot people will owe you loyalty. She didn’t give that so you keep asking yourself what else you could’ve done. This is a common world view in anxious attachment style. Sometimes though, you can give a lot and people still betray you. It doesn’t have to mean that you didn’t give enough or that you weren’t enough. Sometimes people are just bad partners. Sounds like she was.
@@colezesiger I did not deserve that😢. She is happy now, I am not. She definitely must be with someone else probably fkng up and here I am still missing , caring for her. 1.5 yrs almost passed and everyday still think of her. Whats wrong with me!