My Dead Dad's Porno Tapes (Narrated by David Wain)
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- Опубліковано 27 сер 2024
- A filmmaker seeks to better understand his emotionally distant late father through the belongings he left behind-including a stack of dirty movies. Read more: www.theatlanti...
"My Dead Dad's Porno Tapes" was directed by Charlie Tyrell and narrated by David Wain. It is part of The Atlantic Selects, an online showcase of short documentaries from independent creators, curated by The Atlantic.
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Came for porn
Stayed for existential story of the human spirit
*edit* :thank you for the 3k likes
Justin Y., you no ninja any more!
Soul porn.
Too true my dude.
do you know what existential means? stories of human spirit tend to be more transcendental
Matt Green Do YOU know what existential or transcendental means? Stories of the human spirit tend to be more extraterrestrial
Came here for all the wrong reasons, stayed for the right ones
Click baited
You and me both buddy.
Thank you Son... love you
I thought this was going to be a comedy
oof
"dad, dad, what are you saying?"
"come closer son"
"What dad? "
"... Delete... my... history"
@Boi Open your mouth
*H A H A HA HA HA*
"Directed by Charlie Tyrell" wow that one killed me
same😓
I dont think im ever going to be the same person after watching this
Who did u think directed it? Lmfao
What killed me was “It ends here.” Those words represented the end of a lifelong cycle of abuse and also the end of his life. When the mom said it again it made my heart hurt :(
That’s how you use a clickbait. 10 out of 10 would click again..
Came for the clickbait, stayed for the story.. That definitely was a good one!
Came for the clickbait, skipped through the video for 10 seconds, left this comment and left.
Yes, definitely ... came for a laugh ... left moved! Thx
Ayye the return of superman
agreed, this clickbait lead me to a more deep, heartfelt story, all clickbait should be like this lol you thought you're going to waste your time but actually not
Charlie turned out to be a very good filmmaker. And he's lucky to have had as much insight into his father as he has.
People into porn cannot be really genuinely intimate. And they are looking for it.
Your sweeping generalization about "people into porn" says more truth about you than the untrue stereotype with which you're trying to besmirch them.
My Dad to a tee. He was in an emotionally abusive household as a kid. Now he is...hard to reach out to, and distant. I never thought about it in this way, but this video made me cry because I think my Dad and Mom made the same commitment: It ends here.
And I have to say, I don't feel they were abusive. They were kind and loving, at least in their own way. I never thought about how hard it must have been for my Dad to break that cycle.
Goddamn, this makes me appreciate all he did that much more. Thank you, Dad.
I'm glad I fell for the clickbait
I didn't even realize it was clickbait.... I thought it was a guy talking about his dad's old stuff like the guy who found his dad's Sony Nintendo
Lured in by old porn, I learned so much more about the human spirit.
same...
Lured in by (fill in psychopathic manipulation here). This is clickbait, thus a lie. Video has nothing to do with porn tapes and is an unethical shell game which manipulates the viewer. Perhaps the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
hehe the more you know
I still kind of want to learn about the tapes though.
Now that I’m done crying.
This is the best clickbait I have ever seen
....yet
I came looking for copper and found gold.
My father was "damaged" (PTSD) by combat in WWII. He was gone the first 2 years of my life so we never bonded. We never healed the damage or could talk to each other about it. This film would have helped a lot, 50 years ago.
Wow, extremely powerful. Best 14 minutes I have spent on UA-cam.
Stephanie Manley liar
same
Same!
Stephanie Manley--This is why psychopaths are so effective. They lure you in, lie, deflect your attention, and you walk away thinking you're better off for it. You are sadly and utterly naïve.
Goodbye my son I hope that you do better with your son love your dad.
Did not appreciate my father until he was dead. And then it was too late. I'm sorry dad.
Scott Wilson same here man. Don’t beat yourself up.
Same here. We got into a fist fight the week before he died... it’s very hard to live with.
Me too, my dads name was Scott Wilson also...
❤️❤️
Preach to the choir friend, I lost mine when I was 11 so I never really got to show my gratitude to him.
My dads name was Gregory Alan Davis, he died from a form of lung cancer when I was 2 weeks old. He enjoyed fixing things and also had a troubled childhood. He had dyslexia and he grew up very quiet because of his ways his controlling mother changed him. I haven’t thought about my dad in a long time. But thank you for allowing me to relate in some sort of weird way. I’m 18 this year and although I never met you. I can hold onto your stories. I love you dad
I’m so sorry. I wish you could’ve had a relationship with your father. I like to think that even if he’s gone, he loves you too and is always watching over you.
Thank you for making this short, Charlie. I’m 21 and my dad died 6 months ago. Our relationship was distant and it’s been hard trying to understand who he was.
Bravo. I took the bait and got something much better than I hoped for. I was thinking cheap entertainment and ended up with a thought provoking look at difficult family dynamics. Not just the challenges of parenting, but the challenges of being an understanding child as well. My dad was raised in an abusive and very dysfunctional family, my mom in a cold/distant family and my older brother and I in a somewhat abusive and dysfunctional family. Both my brother and I have struggled with the idea of trying to raise our own children. I've decided to forego the whole idea of having children, and he's never come out and said it but I'm pretty sure after over ten years of marriage he's come to the same conclusion. Sometimes it's better just to break the cycle of dysfunction.
E Blizzard Liv Ocampo
so what is your guy's porno tapes ?? whats your coping thing?
serious question.
Call it cliche, but I have a cat that I love to death lol. She's my best friend and whenever I feel down I find her and show her how much I love her. Other than that, I work alot (2 days off every 2 weeks and 4 12 hour shifts), I watch baseball and football, I read, I play video games. I've always been something of a loner/introvert so I don't really spend time with friends as much as I did when I was younger. I'm a simple person with simple desires, relationships don't really mean much to me outside of responsibility for other poeples' problems. As long as my bills are paid, and my pantry is full I'm a happy person. Coming home after a long day at work and being greeted by my feline besty is the cherry on top.
Okay, I didn't expect to have my heart ripped out today. From now on I won't be so harsh on quiet, hard to talk to, people.
No I'm not crying, you're crying
right? ha
Hold me
Roger yes I Am!! Damn
skadaddy
You're far too soft, Roger. It is a sweet story, but not tear-jerking in the slightest.
That was an amazing short film. The narration was great and conveyed emotion. The imagery was well planned, and meticulously executed. I love the style of mixing Stop Motion, Old imagery on film, and New imagery on Digital. The story is beautiful and told in an amazing fashion. I will 100% watch this many times over. Score out of 10: [8.5/10]
this film is a gift to all who were raised in families with dysfunctional histories which caused us to miss out on getting to know one or both parents before it was too late, and the quiet regret that becomes a background to life.
S Tabarnak well said
The "broken picker" as referred to by Dr. Drew. People keep recreating trauma for themselves. Stop doing that, ya scrubs.
**Trust me on this...you would NOT want to know my 'parents!'** (I DO NOT WANT TO 'KNOW THEM' OR MYSELF) At 64, the more I know, the less acceptance I have for them...even both my sisters and I have complete'emotional disconnects' from one another. I have not seen or spoken nor received any correspondence from either of them for thirty years or so now.( **I began 'creating' my own life from books and media since I was a little boy...they became my friends and my refuge from the 'real' World where I have never felt 'part of'...actual living people are something I avoid as much as I am able because I have so little to offer them of 'me'...there is so little of me to know, I cannot imagine anyone having an interest in actually 'knowing me' on a personal basis** ) I am neither 'hermit' nor a 'pathological loner'...it was simply how life went for me as far as 'personal relationships' are concerned ( the overwhelming percentage of people I've encountered in life in my 'social demographic' have never fostered any need on my part to be 'friends' with them) **There seems, at least in my observations, there are far more 'people like me' than I suspected...as evidenced by social-media formats...which then begs the question of 'why?' and for that I have no viable answer**
Gerry Nightingale maybe because it just is? Appreciated your story though :-)
Or just had a completely fucked childhood
Just got click baited but I'm not disappointed
Dammit. This broke me. My dads parents were unsupportive of him. None of his family went to college until him and he payed his own way. His father told him it was a waste of money, but my dad would come home on break and compare paychecks and let’s just say my grandfather no longer nags him about it. My father is kinda cold and distant but only wants the best for me and love me. It must have been hard for him to break that cycle. I love you dad.
I have 3 siblings and we are at Charlie's father's level of the abuse cycle. 2 of us decided in our early 20s to not have kids to stop the cycle. The other 2 struggle to not be like mom with their kids. The best I can say is my nephews might have a chance at stopping the madness. I do not mourn Charlie's father's death. I mourn the helpless child I heard on the tape recorder confronting his mother and trying to be loved or understand why he wasn't. It sounds like Charlie wasn't searching find out who is father was, he was searching for a way to forgive him. Trust me, the best place to find forgiveness is the mirror. You find a way to forgive yourself for your broken nature and you can forgive your parents for their broken nature. At least that's my hope. I'm 45 and still waiting.
* hugs * :'(
Damn 😢 powerful right here
My parents were both raised in dysfunctional families, however my mum’s childhood was far worse than my fathers. You could say that they were dysfunctional in different ways.
When they had my brother and I, they showered us with love and praise. They provided us with everything we needed, and a lot of what we wanted too. I have a really close relationship with them, and I know a lot about their history and what happened before we came on the scene.
They were married in 1978 and are still together to this day.
Still Ill Wow that is pretty much the same for me. My mom grew up in a very dysfunctional family, and her childhood was also worse than my fathers. She always tries to give me things she couldn’t have in her childhood, and showers me with praise and affection along with my younger brother.
Same here! She wanted to give us everything she never had, and I could never pay her back for all that’s she’s done for me.
When I tell her that, she is casual about it saying that she’s just doing what a mother does; taking care of her babies. I couldn’t have wished for better parents.
A quote from Jordan Peterson’s book 12 Rules of life, the 5th rule: “Many, perhaps even most, of the adults who abuse children were abused themselves as children. However, the majority of people who were abused as children do not abuse their own children. This is a well-established fact, which can be demonstrated, simply, arithmetically, in this way: if one parent abused three children, and each of those children had three children, and so on, then there would be three abusers the first generation, nine the second, twenty-seven the third, eighty-one the fourth-and so on exponentially. After twenty generations, more than ten billion would have suffered childhood abuse: more people than currently inhabit the planet. But instead, abuse disappears across generations. People constrain its spread. That’s a testament to the genuine dominance of good over evil in the human heart.” So people don’t want their children to be treated like how their parents treated them.
@@DingXiaoke
Peterson deliberately misleads people and makes a lot of money doing it.
As he says, he learned how to monetise anti SJW feeling.
He found a disease and weaponisd it.
@@DingXiaoke
Also, unless those parents understand that they are abusive, then understand how and why, those cycles of abuse continue.
I had terrible parents, but didn't know that it was they that were wrong, not me, until I was in my late 20's. I have been fighting for myself my whole life.
Look at the Turpin children. 13 kids were abused, parents were abused. Jordan's word salads don't always make it truthful.
Seeing this video I see the story of my own father: so similar, almost like a mirror. The only difference is that my father's story is in Spanish.
A tortured man who doesnt really know how to emotionally deal with his family, who doesnt know how to let go his emotional baggage or how to solve it.
Change planes with boats, and you got the exact same picture.
Yo wassup
Change boats to horses and im you
@@davebryan1890 that is a damn good question
david bryan, I suppose after a lifetime carrying the scars I'm ready to forgive and to see his deep depression and unhappiness. Poor Dad. I could have loved him but he was unreachable. RIP.
change whiskey for bicycles
Wow...this is my family. My parents have made mistakes, but they love me. Both of them come from abusive, tragic households. They did not want me to grow up the way that they did, and I'm starting to realize just how crappy their lives were. They made mistakes, but they were never malicious or malignant, and they apologize whenever something bad comes to light that they never saw before. I had to reach adulthood in order to realize just how broken my extended family is. I love my parents a lot. That's all that needs to be said.
My dad died 5/15/19 just 3 weeks ago. He was abused as a child and lived a rough life. I was able to reconcile with him and was able to tell him I was proud of him for not passing on more than he did. I'm not telling you this to make you feel a certain way about me or him, just that it was a good memory and this short really touched me in an important place right now. Thank you, Charlie. I miss my dad too.
Nice documentary but ouch that hit a bit to close to home
V he has the exact same dynamic I do with my dad
Same, this is exactly my dad
Very thought provoking. It's so hard to actually "end things here" as your mother stated. The one thing in lifestyle I have tried to do is finish projects I have started. My father usually didnt. I have tools that he gave me from the early 1970s that are like new. He thought they were too dangerous for me to use as a kid. I use them every day now. Obviously my relationship is much more complicated than that, but it is one small thing that is similar to your story, which is so close to home it actually brought me to tears. Thank you and your dad for helping me not feel alone.
Wade Guidry : Good to know that I’m not alone either.
Very Good! Love this movie. Now I know I don't have to feel alone either 🙂
Different problems here...still...alone.......but still looking for the youtube vid that will ease the pain.
My dad is exactly like this, he started battling prostate cancer last year. This video has opened my eyes and I appreciate the message. I will try to apply it to my relationship with my father, god forbid should he perish before it's too late.
Holy shiy, I'm not much of one for crying...
But this is some powerful stuff, I'm going to spend more time with my dad, while he's still around.
Damn if this movie just didn't hit me right in the feels. I think too often we can forget as children that our parents are just someone else's children, having gone through all their own trials and tribulations. This film is a great reminder.
Well put.
Hey y'all. The porn reference is a metaphor. It's artistic license. The "clickbait" complaints say more about the clickers that the movie maker. Great film. I'm glad I was baited.
Sad how youtube can't show all content.
It is an excellent metaphor, If you THINK about it.
Yeah, but this is bullshit. Why use a term like Porno if it's not literal. This is bullshit. Down vote into oblivion!
Daveed.....how did you come up with that one, did you just yank it out???
I clicked this video TO BE Baited............Master-baited
HIYOOOOOOOOO!
A good film showing self examination. The first step to progress. All families are not perfect. Each has it's own crazy theme that it follows directed by a strong mother or father. Some families are loving, some strict, some critical, some drink heavy, some religious, some crazy, some believe education is the answer. A few families are a combination of these or other problems. They say "Love conquers all." Maybe they are right. Greg seemed like a nice guy and I like his hobby of small planes. I would guess his porn collection was very vanilla, Maybe include a film like "Swinging Stewardesses fly to Vegas." That would be my guess. Nice family all said and done !
You had me agreeing with you up until 'most families are a combination of all these things. Most families don't drink heavily and for the ones that do, there is something clearly, deeply wrong with the heavy drinker. Nobody drinks loads of alcohol unless they are trying to escape from a memory.
@@KyrstOak alcoholism along with really any addiction increases the likelihood for offspring to have a similar addiction. So it does create a cycle as well. It might not be drinking but it could be gambling, smoking, or caffeine.
@@josiep1547 Yeah, no shit, Sherlock. Why bother stating the obvious?
I must have worded my idea incorrectly. I meant some families, not all families. Yes, the majority of families don't drink otherwise we would have car accidents constantly everyday. Some families don't drink at all but have other issues. If you know of a "perfect family" with no problems please tell me who they are. I would like to meet them. My list of problems were mainly suggestive and examples. Don't take them as mandatory examples. English and writing can be a tricky language, Face to face is better communication. The best of life to you friend. !
This one hits close to home, like you, my dad has always been this way, his dad abandoned him when he was young, and his mother never treated him very well, he tries his best to relate to me, but like yours, he doesn't really know how, I try my best, knowing there will always be a small barrier between us two, but I know he tries... Thank you for the sad tears you've made me drop, and thank you for sharing.
There was a great line from the TV series Dexter, said by Jimmy Smits’ character:
“I don’t what’s more difficult- being a father or having one.”
My father died 32 years ago when I was 13. Like the filmmaker, I am still trying to figure out the enigma who was my father.
Great short film.
FJGaming 80 ...affirmative
you made a damn good short film here.
dont stop.
I relate to this story in a way. My dad died in 2009 when I was only 8. I like to think I’ve moved on because it happened so long ago and I was so young but I battle it everyday when I don’t even know it. My dad was abusive towards my mom. Not like in a physical way but an emotional and mental way. I never knew how his mother had treated him but I know they had a way of dealing with things. My dad had the worst temper and I guess I get that from him. I didn’t even get to see my dad much because he traveled a lot. I like to think I only loved him because he brought home gifts but I never loved him in a dad way. I was always filled with love with the thought of him after he passed but finding out the way he treated my mom really filled me with almost hatred with the thought of him. But all I know is that he’s proud of me. No matter what path in life I take he’ll always think of me as his little girl (or peanut, which was my nickname)
Wow, nice vid. You got me sucked into an emotional black hole, holy cow. I thought i was about to cry there, ;-;
Nice narratives, directed perfectly, and amazing editing skills. Here's a sub from me, make more like this pls.
They'll find my porn stash when I'm gone, but instead of trying to understand me as the enigma that I am, they'll be like "Wow, this guy really loved his porn."
@belinda hawkins so is other stuff like alcohol, unhealthy food , vaccines , msm, hollywood, religion ....
Mika Nieminen Vaccines? Really?
This is superb. Excellent work. Thank you for sharing. It made me think about my own (now dead) father, who also surrounded himself with stuff and tools and projects that piled up, much of it unfinished, a lifetime's worth of distraction from...what? We're still wondering, even twelve years after he's gone. Verbal abuse from his father, probably, and grandpa's alcoholism, and all that came with it.
My Dad died about 6 years ago and dealt with a lot of the same kind of stuff. I'm still learning bits and pieces about him to this day.
@no privacy I'm guessing we are about the same age (50's). I remember my dad telling me a bit about growing up in England (1932 till 1952 when he moved to Canada), the horribly abusive teachers and parents who hated each other, but the one thing that had to have affected him and the rest of the country the most was never mentioned... Being bombed by the Germans and all the horrible shit that came with it, which I don't think needs to be explained in detail (I couldn't do it justice explaining it myself anyway).
@@aberamagold7509 made me remember a story my grandfather told me. Back in the war (WW2) he was on leave in Bristol with a mate, the air raid sirens rang so they rushed to find a shelter. As they heard the drone of the planes and distant explosions they took 'cover' in the curb of the road. My grandfather dove into the curb and his friend on top of him.
With the raid over, my grandfather taken by his friends gesture of protecting him thanked him for his selflessness. His mate told him not to be an idiot, he'd just bought a new suit and didn't want to dirty it...
I would have normally skipped over a video with this title, but seeing that it was The Atlantic that published it, I decided to take a chance. Glad I did. My father also died when I was still in college, of cancer, and I have regretted the lost opportunities to get to know and connect with him as an adult. Watching this video reminded me of Orson Scott Card’s *Speaker For The Dead* and how incredibly difficult it is to summarize a life. Good video, and good job.
Not gonna lie i thought it was a funny video of him finding porn tape.of his dead daddy somewhere in their parents house but it exceeded my expectarions and this is amazing
My father is going through brain cancer at this time. Eighteen months ago the doctors gave him a year to live. So he says the last six months have just been free time. I grew up in the eighties and remember finding my dad's VHS pornos horribly hidden in the den. After a weekend of watching memorials to John McCain, a man revered by a whole country, I find I am touched by this story of a man that I never knew of and the struggle of family that I am very familiar with that touched me so much. Thank you for sharing the story of your father with me, and with all of us.
This is great. I especially loved the intercutting between old happy VHS footage and bleak modern video
Really beautiful
@🌼Aesthetic Nostalgia🌻 a bootiful pupper
Your Dad was very young when he passed. Glad you got to make a movie about your Dad. You miss him and love him very much.
I love that they used each persons handwriting (or what I assume to be their handwriting).
It is hard to tell people what is like to be in an abusive household. You discover it is passed through generations. Finally one generation says enough. I never had children so even if I continued with my anger and hate, It would be the end. It was a stroke of luck that I saw what I had become. I wasn't exploring anything or questioning myself. It was like a light was turned on and I could see everything clearly, and it was ugly. It's taken effort and years, but it isn't anywhere near as ugly as it was that night I first saw myself. Opportunities just happen and you ride them like a surfer rides the waves and find yourself in a better place. I was fortunate. Good friends, how I deserved them, I will never know. They were there for me. My sister who is going through her own growth alongside me. Except for the lack of alcohol, this could be my story. Thanks for sharing.
I was just a boy when I vowed to never have kids, to break the cycle.
I was a very, very angry boy.
I hear you.
Joel Hassig did you have kids
JVB - Nope. Never did.
Doesn’t mean you won’t
During the video, the last 2 lines of this poem kept ringing in my head. "What did I know"...(see below)
Those Winter Sundays
BY ROBERT HAYDEN
Sundays too my father got up early
and put his clothes on in the blueblack cold,
then with cracked hands that ached
from labor in the weekday weather made
banked fires blaze. No one ever thanked him.
I’d wake and hear the cold splintering, breaking.
When the rooms were warm, he’d call,
and slowly I would rise and dress,
fearing the chronic angers of that house,
Speaking indifferently to him,
who had driven out the cold
and polished my good shoes as well.
What did I know, what did I know
of love’s austere and lonely offices?
+1
Thanks for sharing this.
Jeffrey Cohen d
Wow this hit home for me growing up in new England in a blue collar family.
Just beautiful
i watched this short film around the time it came out and have just now come back after my father has passed. it hits so much harder but it brings so much comfort. each word resonates with me deeply. thank you for this artwork.
This is almost exactly what my family is going through right now, my stepdad who was a Sheriff, died of colon cancer last year. Now my mother and brother are going through all hes left behind, he has tons of tools from fixing things too. And he loved to take apart and rebuild computers, we found 12 computers hidden in the attic recently, he had also gotten really Into buying as seen on TV products. I also spent a lot of time at airstrips. My grandfather is a pilot and I would go with him on the weekends to his airplane hangar, but I didn't get bored because I had my own cart to drive around. This was a great video and I'm glad you've shared your story, the parallels with my own are amazing
I have become my father..........I can't say I'm happy or angered about it, I just was living my life and it happened. The more I try not to be, the more I become him with time. I'm sad and regret the time I would avoid to go see him because it was inconvenit.....you never get time back, and it will haunt you. I fondly remember the good times and the bad but in the end it is awesome to be walking down the hallway, squeeze a fart out and it sounds just like your Dad.......makes my heart smile.
My father was the best.....I miss him
I fought with my father most of life, now when I walk by the mirror sometimes I jump back in surprise because I only see my father in the reflection
What an interesting angle to tell this story. The making of this film is an amazing accomplishment. Amazing work
watching this I realised that the type and cause of the relationship you had with your dad mirrored my situation with my mum, who is still alive but had a horrible time dealing with my grandmas sudden death at 50. This has made me realise I have to appreciate her before it’s too late and try and bridge that gap between us.
Thank you so, so much for making this
I struggled with my father for years, trying to get the weight off my shoulders and burn him out of my personality. I had a daughter, and found that in doing something that "had to be done" was actually just what my father would've done. I found myself reliving my childhood, a loud angry voice chastising innocence, but this time I was on the other end; and a sudden revelation that this moment scarred into my daughters childhood was just a snapshot of a moment scarred into mine, and most likely scarred into my father's. It took me being my father to realize that he was working through his own, and maybe even improving upon it, which lead to my forgiveness of him. We are still distant, and I feel as though I can never truly open up to him, but I feel a better sense of peace and ease with him.
I can relate to this a lot. The baby boomers get a lot of shit these days because they weren't war heroes and got the chance to earn a decent living working normal hours at normal jobs. But they were the ones who broke a long streak of dark pedagogy and values based on cooptation and misplaced shame. They provided us with the foundations that at least gave us a chance to reflect upon how to treat our children in a caring and loving way. I'm glad I can say "I love you" to my children whenever I feel like it. My dad was not able to do this despite caring a lot about me and giving me every support he could. It's just tragic.
Also, I went through a few of his cheesy porn tapes after his death but learned nothing about him by doing so.
This is the exact reason I never had kids. I was always terrified I would treat them the same way I was treated...
tmdpc It is only natural.
This resonated with me a lot. My dad came from a very abusive household too and he is the same way, he managed to break the cycle of abuse too and give me a beautiful childhood filled with good memories of him. This video hit a string in every right way and needless to say, im in tears right now, thankful for the youth my father managed to give me.
This is so neatly written and directed, it makes me appreciate my dad a lot more and I’m so glad this exists
This is incredible and 1st class piece of story telling.
Beautiful and moving. I just lost my mom and dad within the last 4 months and I think every family has a similar story. Thank you.
you're dads gonna haunt the doo-doo outta ya for revealing his spank bank lol 😂
ANONYMOUS GhostSector I suggest you watch the whole video instead of just reading the title ^_^
Dude that was some funny shit after a sad video
As a child my folks were divorced. I was born in 71. I saw dad maybe once a year. Lived with him in 86. He made great effort to visit me the last 7 or 8 years for months at a time. Very nice times. Yesterday he told me about heart troubles. Life is interesting.
This is so well done. I'm honestly speechless. I usually have a lot to say when I critique things but all I can say is how thought provoking it is. I need a minute to contemplate my own shit
Well, it’s a miracle Greg didn’t fall deep into drug and alcohol issues.
My dad died in pretty similar circumstances and I spent 3 years almost dying from heroin abuse. You’re not wrong at all. It’s a horrible time to lose a father, just as you’re becoming an adult.
CARDINALS NATION First of all, *you're. Second of all, drugs and alcohol is not justified. It isn't an answer. What the person is saying is that most people would have done drugs and alcohol, therefore Greg is an exception.
@@Unknown-nv4pn yikes
One of the most beautiful videos I've ever found on youtube. Thank you for sharing it, Charlie....
I shed some tears at the credits.
Holly shit that was a powerfull movie.
Holly shit, it's consumer Christmas time y'all. Time to buy too much holly themed shit then return it the week of. AMERICA !!!
The internet generation: It's funny how some get so stuck on the small bits of a story vs hearing the it in its entirety. Like ants who can't see past the crumb of bread for the apple. Great story.
Dysfunctional because of the FATHER being rotten to the core poisoning all the relationships. "Strange distsnce" I know his wife felt the Same distance.
However, as rotten as he may have been he understood how his disfunction was manifested and made the decision (with his wife), nevertheless, that the cycle that he and his parents endured had to stop. He sucked at being a father but tried to show he cared in the way he knew how.
Mine was after a few drinks but I hope gets the same point across ;-)
@@kathymyers7279 hey at least he succeeds, the vicious cycle stops...albeit with some sacrifices.
Powerful. This represents the lives of tens of thousands of adult survivors to this day. God help us all.
(Start crying.. immediately send video to my father) dad was diagnosed with cancer when I was 15,, every 15 year old kid is a fuck up,,,, 13 years later my father is still around.. I'm not a fuck up anymore... have been a working Joe for a couple years but just stepped into video production for this type of immortality through video... thank you for the creating this video
My heart sank watching this as I live through a similar story :(
Shantel A I’m sorry. I hope it gets better for you.
As someone who’s 19 and watching their dads health decrease due to cancer as we speak. This hits pretty close to home..
ITALIANdomain1 When I was 21, my dad died suddenly in his sleep with no warning. Don’t take him for granted, you’ve only got so much time left. Good luck with everything.
This is a wonderful little film.
as was that stack
Truly and genuinely teared up. Sorry for your loss, Tyrells, but also, glad that you have found what most kids dont get to know: that a dead parent wasnt shitty on purpose but just loved you and honestly tried their hardest in the ways they knew how, even when it did come off as dragging you to a boring airstrip you didnt want to be at. Beautiful docu. You did really well.
One of life's subtleties presented most powerfully. Thanks.
I wasn't ready for the feels...
This is the first time clickbait made me cry ; _ ;
So so so clever from the title to the editing of the video but the story itself is deep emotional and very educating.
Your mother is the hero and your dad would have been so proud of himself to have such a good family
I just realized that I should be spending more time with my parents while they're still here. Thanks a lot for making me realize that more than ever. Really, I deeply appreciate it.
This hit in me in a personal way, I too survived a tough upbringing with an abusive father, 2 dysfunctional (to put it politely) sisters and a loving mother that had a hellish childhood herself hence she is not the most stable or functional person.
Now as an adult I harbor no good feelings towards my father who keeps being one the worst human beings I know, and still cope with the mess of a broken family I was given, my sisters are just multiplying without thought, bringing children (each fathered by a different jerk) into this world as single mothers with no aim towards the future, just dragged by the tide.
My mother is getting bitter by the day and I seem to be the only kind of half normal entity in the bunch....
They are the deep marks of abuse that Never fade away.
But i found something in
My faith, which tells me to be good to the parents even in the most bitter situations.
It's painful to do anything good for them.. it all comes in the mind of what they did.
but it's rewarding.
It's going to be painful but if still be good, my status wil get elevated.
What can be a better than mastering patience and endurance through them.
This touched me deeply. Thank you.
Gigitty.
Donna Stephenson with a woman name you should have never said that on a video like this lol
I didn't even think of it that way. We all can have distant fathers but now I see it is amusing.😊
I lost my mum in 2013 to stomach cancer. It was such a hard thing to go through. I think I emotionally shut it out to cope with it. My mother she was the glue in our family. Now that she's gone I realise all the time I lost and can never get back. I love you mum.
My dad also had a terrible childhood and decided to end it at his generation. I’m forever grateful for what he has taught me despite me also thinking he was lame for so long as he was also... just trying. I’m closer than I ever have been to him now though and I’m so happy he’s done everything he has ever done for me and my brother and mom. 💕
Not all adults have the answers.
My dad loves baseball he took me out every game for the season at our local MLB team during my adolescence. I was bored and unthankful. I need to have a talk with my dad this Holiday season.
We’re all just passing on trauma to one another.
That's a really depressing thought.
only if you choose to breed
No, only if you choose to pass it along.
Yup.
Why most of our families are dysfunctional ...
Because we are very focused on stuff that doesn't matter and very lazy with the stuff that actually does.
Or do you know of a school class that teaches "Unconditional love" or "Trusting others" or "Respect". Did anyone ever talk with you what it means when you get angry and how you can deal with that feeling and how you can learn to not get angry any more?
We just have to start to learn the right stuff then we will learn how to raise children (and a lot of other things as well).
Because we’re all people who don’t know what we’re doing
Perhaps, stupid people are more likely to procreate offspring? Okay, better answer? They're human, and they have flaws. A lot of things need to be overlooked if the behavior is harmless. However, this son's dad's mother seems extremely cold, distant, and harsh. She sounds like a sociopath. Her voice lacks empathy. Sometimes, bad people become bad parents. I feel so bad for those that grow up dealing with what I presume are pathologically narcissistic parents. The movie aims to claim that his mom learned this behavior from previous abuse. Research shows that can be true. It's a way of modeling learned behavior. But, it's no excuse, if you ask me. Many people come from possibly dysfunctional families, yet they don't in turn exhibit the same toxic behavior that they experienced. Anyways, as I said before, she sounds like a sociopath. That's what his mom sounds like on that audio recording. This movie is aiming to be all emotionally melodramatic, but hopefully the dad had a very nice life with his own family while he was here.
Wow this was incredible the editing the story progression the intercut shots of old and new footage thank you for this
David Wain should narrate more stuff. Great story.
Tried to connect with my distant father my whole life but finally gave up. I used to stress out buying fathers day cards because they all said things I never felt for him ....... ever. He finally died alone at the age of 77 by himself in a hospital in Fla. i lived in Ohio. I didnt even know he was sick. He didnt want us to know that he died but his best friend called us anyway. All I could feel was relief that we didnt have to go through the death bed vigil. It sounds mean or crewel but I am relieved he is gone. I feel like myself more. He was a stranger to me. I had more of a connection to co workers than I ever did with him. I am 55 and eventually you realize you dont always get the answers and are ok with that! Everybody has something.
That's just...sad man
Jip Fluffy...I feel your pain, don't beat yourself up, because you were relieved, when he died. There's a lot more in that club, who are afraid to admit it. Thank you.
Sadly, you kinda lucked out. My dad dying absolutely ruined my life for a few years. And it’s undoubtedly made me a colder, less “naive” person. I wonder how much better it feels though? Probably still something inherently frustrating about never understanding your father.
The content of the video deserves better than a clickbait title.
The best edited video I have ever seen on UA-cam, and an amazing story to go along with it. Truly a masterpiece.
Just like others have said here, I was expecting something completely different. I don't know why this was in my recommended. I thought it looked like it would be hilarious. I was thinking MST3K but with adult movies (which would be an awesome thing for someone to actually do, btw). Instead, I get this. It was really hard to watch without tearing up. It makes me miss my mom so much and also kick myself in the a$$ for not trying to be closer to my father because he's now in his early 70s and ...well ...time just keeps on ticking. You don't like to think about it but ...you do. I expected tears of laughter but instead I ended up with tears of regret. Tears of sorrow. Tears of sadness for both Charlie ...and myself. But ...there is one thing I take away from all of this. The one thing I truly realize is ...I have way too much ...like maybe 3 big cardboard boxes and 5 or 6 plastic containers of porn that I need to get rid of before I die and someone like my wife has to go through. Seriously. I'm talking old 70s/80s/90s vhs, weird parodies ...some real freaky sh!t. 😂
🥀 Well Charlie for what it's worth, your parents were an Adorable couple❗Like Greg I too was born in 1956. I'm 62.
This was really Interesting to watch. Of course it left me feeling not just sad, but MELANCHOLIC as well. Continue the Filmmaking. You've got a certain Style. ✔
(S.F.)
My dad is sixty next month september
My dad is the same way... terrible alcoholic mother (even though she sobered up and they are great friends now) it was later in his life that she changed. I haven't even met my grandfather because of stuff he did to my dad. But my dad swore to raise his kids better.
This is probably one of the best and most powerful things I have ever seen on youtube.
Well done.
I actually just cried
Me too
Me three
what a fantastic video. such a powerful message. My only complaint is the title. I get it, and personally dont see an issue with it, but i guarantee it has prevented a lot of people from clicking on the video, which is unfortunate.
Absolutely brilliant. Some of the best camera work and quality I’ve ever seen
Damn, I can't imagine the amount of effort made into this video. The time taken for the stop motion, the editing, the music and even the narrative speech. Never thought that someone's life can make me cry. Good job Charlie!