How To Deal With Loneliness
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Kingwell, M. (2005). Catch and release: trout fishing and the meaning of life. New York, NY: Penguin Books.
Manheim, W. (1974). Martin Buber. New York: Twayne Publishers.
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Young and Lonely: New Global Study on 'Loneliness'. (2020, May 28). Retrieved from [www.latestresearchnews.com/20...] - Розваги
"How to deal with loneliness"
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no shit. shit.
I guess we all aren’t so alone if there is so many of us.
@@bigkarl6367 yes we are. Divided into small beton boxes and unaware of each other. Not to talk about fb or google...
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I’m alone most of the time, I don’t have any real friends, only acquaintances. Most of the time I’m not bothered by loneliness, but when it hits me it’s awful. I question if there is something deeply wrong with me,
Well maybe there isn’t; you know, being alone isn’t a direct cause of there being something deeply wrong about someone, and in any case, if there really were something deeply wrong about you, there still exists the possibility of fixing it
I've been there before, it sucks, you start to question your mental health, perhaps you're more introverted than others around you and that isn't bad in any sense, however I should recommend that you develop a hobbies and invite others to do play with you, I can assure you that there are a million people out there who also feel lonely, waiting for a friend, someone to share their lives with so be there for them and you'll have plenty of friends
@@lliw4934 I agree. My few close friends were made from sharing a hobby with an acquaintance.
SAMEE i had this question all day running through my head, but sooner or later we will find someone, don't you worry stranger :) we will get through this awful feeling together!
Remember theirs a diffrence between lonelyness and neglect. Why are you lonley. is it becuse you chose? or are you being neglected. Really think about and i hope you well.
I like this video. But i have no one to share it with
ironic
Underrated comment
your 160k subscribers would disagree
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My channel is dead
I don't think they care anymore
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hey person browsing comments have a good day (:
Thanks man
Thanks dude. Hope y'all have a great day :)
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No.
thank you, you too
I’m lonely and I’m alone, I like being alone but I hate being lonely. When you’re lonely your entire life you learn to enjoy an empty room, but being locked in it is as traumatizing as leaving the room. Depression is like that, first you fall into it, then you fall in love with it.
its so tough when the comfort of being alone is what makes you stay in that room despite that the feeling of being alone is what is breaking you from the inside. sometimes i'm scared that this loneliness will last forever since its all i've ever known. its been three years since you've posted this comment but i hope you found a way to escape that room just like how i hope i will one day escape
Hope things are looking up for ya. Good luck man
I’m going to tell people from now on that based on Aristotle’s writings I’m a god
Or an animal
@@user-gy4we5rt4y no
@@hexcrotentanum407 yes
ain't it man...
People treat me like a god as well, they ignore my existence until they need something.
WHY TF YALL RECOMMENDIN THIS U TRYNA TELL ME SOMETHIN???
lol
Loneliness can make you vulnerable. In fact, it could cause you to settle for anyone who would accept you as a friend. “When you’re lonely, you may be desperate for attention,” “You could begin to think that any attention is better than no attention. And that can lead to trouble.”
Aw/15/4
Woke up and watched this in bed, that last quote was so powerful I started sobbing on my way to the shower...
me too
Same lol
Dear fellow humans! I'm sorry you feel this way! I wish I could help. Know that a perfect stranger somewhere far away feels empathy for you, hopes you're okay, and hopes you all find peace!
@@johnmanno2052 you made it seem like you are an alien. Bro?
I'm not an alien. But I do feel sad that so many people are alienated.
My God how strongly things exist today
True words.
What?
dear mikel, english is not my mother tounge ... can you (or sby else here) explain to me the meaning of the word "strongly" in connection with "existing" and "things" ... or is it a famous quote ... just curious and mostly always eager to learn something new.
@@guzz1965 To me it expresses really nicely the existentialist position towards life.
I'm pretty sure the protagonist of Sartre's "La Nausée" uses it at some point and it struck me as a perfect way to express being born from no fault of yours yet having to make sense (or not) of your immediate present.
@@fenn1729 awesome ... thank you!
Everyone who clicked on this really needed this 😔✊
And yet instead of giving advice on how to deal with lonlyness I got a physiology lecture
My teens were filled with loneliness due to my high expectations of what it means to be “cool” or a “good person” but my increasing understanding of humans, the earth, and universe tends to soothe those feelings and allows me to enjoy life even if alone
Well me and you
And probably many other's
I feel the same
But it stinks real hard when i learn something new and want to tell it to would and discuss how I feel about it no one is there
Same
Same
Same
Same
Can’t stop watching these🙌🏼
Thanks man! I love your stuff too!
Man... I can't either, but these videos intrigue me.
“Primary form of torture”
This is so true as someone who works from home and knows very few people. I go days and days without talking to anyone or seeing people. Sometimes 9 or 10 days straight. I crave social interaction all day. This covid has only made things worse.
Hope you are ok dude.
It's been a while since you posted this, hope you're doing okay.
I feel you. I was a very introvert person but covid makes me want to see people.
I relate to this so much it’s not funny
"Lonlieness is estimated to cost UK employers 2.5 billions dollars annually."
Eyyy, comrade loneliness.
I just walked over 6 miles today, so I could track down some groceries which my roommate left at the store.
Wanna know what the hardest part of my day was?
...The stares...
Normally no one looks at me, I'm isolated and ignored, but today is the first time I've gone out in over a week, and my experience was so much more horrid.
I think loneliness comes from the fear of rejection. When you pass a person, you interact with a person, you offer them subconscious judgement.
For the entire interaction, you judge yourself against them, and if a person feels like they are failing to meet these judgements, they mentally position themselves as being at risk... They allow in themselves the fear of rejection, and over time this builds into a longing to somehow correct this flaw perceived self flaw.
In each of us is a homounculus, of twisted wants and desires. Yet still, we long to call it perfect.
assuming we are the directors of our lives ... and i am pretty sure we are ... in combination with "fate" ... or how ever "the uncontrollable" ;-) is called i can tell you that e.g. i myself directed countless "walks of shame" in my live. maybe that has a little to do with what you are describing above. self acceptance and even self love saved literally my butt... though i am still pretty bad at the second one ;-)
@@guzz1965 Heh... I can't say for certain if I've ever had such a walk. Shame is more-or-less my default state... But really, I don't think that's what this was.
I told my roommate I would get him back his groceries, and I did. And, that's the whole story, to that particular day...
Now the next day... Oh boy!
Deeply disturbed by what seemed to me, a clear shift in the attitude around my town, I set out on another walk.
I approached people in a few different ways, but eventually I found a good opener - "Hello, I am not trying to collect petitions, and I am not a member of any political group. I am literally a crazy man who has wonderered out on the street, after watching too much television and seeing too much youtube. Now I am simply trying to have a conversation about all the things I've seen."
The faster I could say it, the better. People like a good laugh after all.
During that day, I was able to chat with a few different people, although the conversations tended to go the same. (It seems I dominated every interaction, which I must say I do regret...)
What we discussed, started with the black lives movement, then shifted to argumentation over political domination... Now I'm using the word argument very loosely here... Maybe I'm just THAT intimidating... But for most for much of what I said and asked, I was uncontested in response... I DID get into one argument with an ex-vet over the nature of urban warfare, and although we could not agree, he complemented me for having studied the subject. I have not studied urban warfare.
We are approaching something of a crisis I think. Although, it has since been brought to my attention, that I could have prompted people into giving me this response.
I'm not crazy, I guess. Although maybe people were just being nice to me.
If this crisis is real I will not survive it, as I am an individual who requires an extreme investment of resources to keep alive (and this is constant shame to me).
Before I go out I have a duty to perform. Although, I do not know what this is.
At this point in time, I am attempting to better myself, as I strive to find some way, at providing myself as a resource, for whatever this crisis is to come.
I am not strong enough to provide myself physically, at least not once I start missing a few doses on my medication.
Fortunately, I do seem to have some mental capacity, and I know a person's thoughts can survive the person who first thought them.
However, at this point my thoughts are too tainted. I doubt they will be of much value.
So I am now working to better myself as a person. Or maybe I'm just panicking...
Also, thank you for sharing your experience on this.
Much cool, my man XD!!!
Nikolas Boyd that was pretty entertaining and insightful, im happy to hear that youre taking steps (literally) to better yourself, and i applaud you for interacting with people in an interesting, somewhat out there manner, im sure it worked well as a conversation starter
@@killanzuxxu8675 Thank you for the time, took to respond, as well as your supporting words.
I just hope no one got (too) weirded out. Trying to build up a bit more social awareness before doing it again...
I've been struggling with loneliness and severe depression for my whole life but really bad these past years. I would describe it as my life is a handful of sand and the days just keep falling through my fingers. It feels as if life is passing me by. I have no friends, i have nothing to live for. I dont eat, i dont sleep.
are you ok? n-n
Hello?
@@neastfrank1774 nope life is still bad
@@cryptogf :( I hope things get better for you
nothing is permanent, ever. find an outlet to release those emotions and then go back into the world, in small steps. maybe online with people you don’t know, then in person. i feel your pain, sorry man. you’ll get better soon.
I love the yellow tint to make it easier on the eyes. Very thoughtful, wish more creators did this.
I lost a lot of important people in my life two years ago. I don’t have many real friends, and I’ve been single since those two years. I hate it. All of it. I crave platonic, emotional, romantic, and sexual connection pretty much all the time.
For the past few months I’ve been leaving the faith of Christianity and church was my entire social network growing up. I don’t really know how to go and make friends and find relationship with people outside of that. Plus the pandemic doesn’t help either. I want relationships with people so bad and basically need it, but I don’t know how to find it anymore.
Loneliness sucks. I’m with you. But you’re not alone, even if you feel like you are.
month later...u doin any better bro?
Ricky Good Yeah. I’m getting better mate. I appreciate it. I started seeing a therapist through Better Help, am able to see friends a bit more now that the world’s started to open back up, and am learning to understand the importance of self talk and thought. Gotten into law of attraction (from a scientific, psychological viewpoint) and positive affirmations.
Over-all I’m doing better. Things are still rough at times and the loneliness gets to me every now and then but mostly getting better. Learning to love myself as well. Perhaps for the first time ever.
Thanks for checking in ✌🏻🖤
@@CAVFIFTEEN I'm also hopeing to improve my self talk and stop being my worst enemy..im glad i " connected" w someone goin thru the same things..best wishes..ur bro in Alabama..
Ricky Good thanks man. Same to you. Your bro in Florida
Christian Verstappen ah wholesome
“Somehow, you grow lonelier / than the world that contains you. / That is why you so / want to be touched.” -C.X Hua
Ever tried getting along with other people, I tried and it sucks!
Wanna get along?
Theres a lot to sift through until you get a good deal, if not all interactions are the lowest common denominator/opportunistic/climbinng or flexing socially approved ladder
Me too but I think usually I was the problem. Too much focus on my feelings and not enuff on other ppl's interests. I was immature and lonely then.
Birds of a feather.
I'm definitely at a time in my life when I need things like this. Thank you for all the good work ❤️
This hit hard, but I'm glad I've had at least one opportunity to have a connection with someone. Taking risks is worth it. Will do it again.
Personally I think there's something to be said about the things we focus on. As a species, we've identified the concept of loneliness, and now we can't stop thinking about it. As you said, we go through most of the life alone anyway when you think about it. I think maybe its more something we have to come to terms with, rather than try and avoid it. Learn to enjoy your own company!
Loneliness is different than being alone. You don’t have a choice when you’re lonely, otherwise you’d just be alone for a while.
I have struggled with dissociative disorders, Bipolar, and Autism for the greater half of my feeling and thinking existence. I lived in a home with 6 other people, forced to go through church and school, forced into social situations at every turn. I became incredibly skilled in making close relationships with others and appearing sociable. I’ve spent my life connected to the web of people and connections, yet I can’t help but want and strive for objective loneliness. I wish to live alone within myself, away from others, away from the noise and mental clouding that dealing with the emotions of others causes me. I find the times when I’m alone are the times I’m happiest. This doesn’t mean I shove others away and cut off the people who consider me their friend, I understand that the social webbing I sit upon is the foundation for human living. I sometimes just wish we could exist in a plane of isolation, one where we can easily disconnect from the web, disconnect from those connections without hurting people. I want to be able to connect with people episodically, then disconnect whenever need be. Despite my aspirations for isolation, your videos continue to connect with me. Thank you, please never stop creating and sharing. You truly are brilliant
Last quote reminds me of a quote by Bukowski-
"buying a bargain can of tuna
in a supermarket
is their greatest moment
their greatest victory"
lol so truu, this cracked me up.
Such high quality videos and I love the background music!
This is the one I was looking forward to the most. Great work man. Nothing too crazy and gets the point straight across. Keep it up my guy
I honestly needed this today, thank you.
God damn, I'm extremely appreciative of your channel. The subjects, music, and tone of voice are perfect for walks. I need your string of research/thoughts in podcast form
I just found this channel weeks ago, what a great way to use some of the greatest things in history music, art, history, and philosophy. Hats off to you sr.
Once again I find that what thoughts I thought were mine alone have been thought by some long before me. That is solace itself.
Somehow I have found this channel at the moment when I needed it. Thank you for making this.
My friends Chip, Penny and Used Napkin have been my only friends for the past 10 years
(Ugly crying in the corner)
In moment likes these, I hope life would have been much simpler and that people will understand you better. Thank you for the video, always on point.
I truly hope you never stop making videos
I absolutely loved this video, simple but effective message, simple but effective drawings to accompany 🙂
I just want to say one thing:
Thank you, this gave me strength again!
Why is this kinda wholesome
This Chanel is so under-rated, very well construction and a nice simplistic art style that still portrays a nice little story.
Just listened to the whole housecat album "time in thought". Love it. Thanks for the great content:)
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Oh, what a great thing to have a family and friends, really appreciate this years of my life after this video
I really needed this. Thank you syphilis man.
Needed to hear this right now. Thanks.
Yo damn. Thank you for this ....... The last line lit a fire in my heart that I really needed.
i watch your videos when i need help ,thanks for posting these your my favorite youtuber
your channel is so good
I have never seen this video or heard anyone say it before but the last phrase; “This is the hardest thing I will do today” is literally what I say to myself all of the time. Weird.
somehow did feel calm and sad at the same time from that last quote.
these videos man.. I love them
Love the vids man! You do a great job.
By Luck yesterday i found your channel... man I love the youtube algoritm!
after seeing the video I got up and got a shower...this was really a great video. keep it up :)
Sisyphus the subjects you choose and the point of views you provide always hit me deep. Can you give me a few book recommendations where I can also find such? Bear in mind, I'm not really good at understanding the philosophical jargon
I love you dude!!!
This channel is so useful.
"It's within that brings that lonely feeling"
I don’t wanna hear ANYONE complain about the mic quality unless you’re going to buy him a new one
No complaining here! His videos are so excellent, I just think they deserve to be heard in the highest quality audio! Somebody start a GoFundMe or something 😂
thanks for doing the reading for me 😊
why this video didn't go viral? damn all the people aroud the world needs to hear this specially us the young ones!!! I love this content of yours man, I just don't describe myself an introvert anymore, I'm more of a human being..
Loneliness is curable. You there, don't feel despair. I was there. The thing is you need to make the change. Do not, I repeat, Do not wait for others. I grabbed my courge, and some months ago I talked with a girl who has filled me with emotions eversince. Little did I know she is going to be a dear friend of mine, but then, toss me back to a state of loneliness after saying I am contacting with her too little.
You see, the thing is, I got complacent, after talking with her, I did not make the same move again with others, even though I wanted. And thats why I'm "lonely" again. But another will come. I will make another one to come. And By force I will conquer my loneliness.
The main thing I realized through the recent years, that knowing 1000 people won't fade your loneliness, but knwoing the right few.
Great video!
Faith in humanity lowers as the intro measures the effect of depression by monetary means. Just shows how effed up our society has become treating the masses as a resource to be maintained and constantly checked for maximum efficiency and maximum profits.
"Everything ends, including you. Love is not eternal, it is not even hardy. Accepting this takes a form and amount of courage that nobody but you will see or appreciate. You can't change any of this; you have to live with it. Is that funny or sad? You know that it is both, and neither, once again-and as always-that is the point."
appreciate this
Love this
From the Bed to the Shower 🚿 off I go!!
I love your videos thank u
thanks
"As loneliness appears to actually decrease with age."
So there's hope for me yet.
i feel u lmao
your videos make me feel less alone :')
Thanks
You are my fav youtuber
I literally searched 'you get so alone at times..' on google and this came up at youtube recommendations
we trying our best out here 🙏🏽
Nice vid buddy
This is guy just amazing. Thanks to reddit for getting me here
That last line hit hard
I was just watching your addiction video when you uploaded this
Good timing! 😅
It's sad how behavioral problems have to be translated to loss of money in economy to be taken seriously.
but in a comforting twist, i feel there is companionship to be felt in everyone ultimately being alone. if you were truly alone, it would just be you feeling this, but its everyone. everyone is alone together.
Bittersweet reading these comments. I'm glad I'm not alone in feeling lonely, but sad that so very many of my fellow human beings are suffering! Hello everyone! Hope you all find peace!! Sincerely.
From a more I-Thou person, I began to lean more to the I-It person, due to disappointment (not necessarily other's fault, probably mine, not sure, any form of relationship just doesn't work well for me). I tend to fail to keep a relationship last after separation (e.g., graduation, job change, etc.). Most of the time, I feel like someone is special to me but that feeling isn't reciprocating, and I realized it later when certain events happened. I began to see people from a professional perspective. Every time I met a person, the first thing came to my mind is "what values can this person bring to me?". If there is nothing, I can still be kind, but professionally kind, not genuinely empathetic. That's why it's hard for me to make a connection right now.
Have you made a video on the mind-body problem yet (or do you plan to)? It seems like that and loneliness could have a lot of crossover philosophically, especially concerning Buber's "I-thou."
Wonderful video by the way; I just discovered your channel a week or so ago and I'm already a big fan!
Beautiful
One of the weirdest questions I used to discuss with a professor was the weird distinction between evolutionary social desires and the mere fact of independent and isolated consciousness (disregarding the Buber standpoint). It's weird, cause you're pretty much trying to find an answer between two different fields, evolutionary psychology and ontology, but it still seems like such an odd case. The basic premise is that we are solipsistic beings that naturally want to associate and interact with other people, paradoxical. The closest answer we could sort of manage was a sort of collective singular conscious, where we interact with other people because they are just the same consciusness in a different form, in essence us as individuals still being in an isolated state. Although I've abandoned that idea by now sort of, I have found a better alternative in Schopenhauer's Will. It by no means is meant to answer this question, but it does a great job on connecting the world to noumena, and shows the nature of the singular essence of Will with that of the continuously dividing world. The paradox between tribalism and solipsism is still present, but at least now there is less distinction between the two.
I think this is the premise of Neon Genesis Evangelion
The most under rated channel on UA-cam.
i miss her so much.
i’m always by myself. every day is the same, i got to school i go home, take a nap, stay at home then go sleep again, wake up and go to school. that’s literally what every day of my life looks like and it’s been like that for YEARS almost every single day. i talk to people on the internet because i don’t have anyone to talk to irl. i havent gotten to know a girl since 2019 and it’s just tiring. i don’t even wanna have friends and this point i just wanna build a strong connection with a girl. i don’t wanna spend every day alone anymore it’s so boring i don’t even wanna live anymore because it just isn’t worth it
Do the things I will mention now, or stay in this tiring cycle: Toss of your internet friends, say to them you have decided to stop with all of this, at the school/your work/the street, it do not mattrer where, you will talk with a girl you found interesting, you will do it with 3 girls.
One after another.
You will laugh and and joy with each, leaving the moment and only the present.
@@animevoice17 thanks bra but i can’t cut off my internet friends cuz i need some cuz i make music lmaooo, there is no girl i find interesting tho cuz i know literally NO girl zero girls 😭😭 this crazy
Thank you
np
It really hurts when you realise that you are just a backup friend when other friends are not there and how people will get mad at you for doing something. I really tried to fit in for four years but no
The music on this channel is almost the best part
How comforting to hear that aristotle and I are on the same page with regard to this most vexing subject.
I personally find myself rarely erring on the side loneliness being godlines but I won't deny it has happened!
Though if we were to tally it up I'd say it's 99% thinking you're an animal.
I am 3 hours away from home. I don't have many friends, nor people I can call. I'm stuck here because of a job. It's been 3 weeks and I can't help but feel lonely. Alone in my apartment, looking out as the busy streets go on while I remain still. True, the feeling of independency is amazing. But at night it hits me. It hits me hard. I am single for all my life. I've always been too scared to commit, because of my many insecurities about myself. I've never felt good enough although I'm trying everyday. I often ask if there's anything wrong with me. Or am I truly fine in my head.
You're okay friend, I too don't have many friends or a partner, but you have independence. I'm unemployed and very unmotivated to move in life, but you have a job and a house of your own. I think you should be proud and maybe don't worry about it too much, it would be a natural thing to happen. My best friend only happened because i said hi to him when no one in the class did. We're still friends to this day, and i portray him as one of my only true friends. I hope you find someone and take care of yourself.
I’m bleeding, it’s not under control anymore...
When I was 14 all I wanted was to find a boy to settle down with. I think it's called melancholy? I believe if I had friends as a teen I could've had an easier time. I found fun and happiness within other female frienships as can adult. Ppl need to be loved and to love someone. I never get lonely now bc I have kids.
@xLucky Sinz thanks hope you are doing well too 😊❤👊✌
You wanted to settle down since you were 14? That's something. It's feels so good to know you have got great kids now. I hope they doing okay?
I didn’t learn how to handle loneliness like your title said
i came her searching for answers and now im just lying on the floor crying accepting my fate
me too
That's because you expect too much out of yourself. Make peace with loneliness, not became an enemy with it.