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Covid lockdown is the perfect time to make good on all those times people said, if I had a few days off I could get such & so done. Did you do it yet? 🤣 Or were you just lying?
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Hey at least you're realizing early enough that life's confusing and you need to explore to gain grip on it. I only truly realized this in the past few years, being 27 now, and it's much harder to explore when society expects you to be fully mature by now. So take this as a win and start discovering what you want in life.
@@KarlSnarks no one expects 20yo to be fully mature :) That is not true at all. Most of people over 35 understand how confused 20yo are. Everyone is just pushing you to pick a path that you can mature on. Then once you do somewhat. You are in for another suprise. Follow this channel I have a feeling video like that may pop up here some day.
There is too much pressure on young people to decide who they want to be. It’s ok to change your mind over and over again until you’re satisfied with who you are. we need allow people the freedom to express themselves authentically.
My is of the opposite. I picked my way due to peer pressure from the family. But when I set out on the way and see it's not working, I don't even dare to change it. It's like you borrow some thing expensive from a friend and now you are afraid that you will break it
It’s not always possible to change your mind. Eventually you understand that at one point you’ll have to stick to wherever you landed, like a game of musical chairs.
I had that as well, to some point I see it as constructive, I myself didn't go off to college, wasn't motivated for a while now I'm almost 21 and still at the start line. By maybe I am at the start line of my life story idk.
I do things for no reason. I live for no reason, I experience for no reason, and Ill die with a smile on my face knowing there was no point to any of this. The only thing keeping me from roping is the fact that there is no point in doing that either.
I've been in your spot for a long time. I came to a realisation that I was going to die sooner or later anyway, but some things make me feel full and give me a sense of satisfaction (like going to the sea), why *shouldn't* I try to see as many things as the world has to offer in my limited time? Death will catch up anyway but I'd rather have some (or any) experiences before that. I think you need to come to some kind of a realisation of your own, so keep wondering.
@@tigerbunny6328 that’s exactly the thought process that keeps me going. That I’ll get to die eventually so may as well chill out in the meantime. I can’t say life is completely unbearable, it’s just very exhausting.
I disagree. If anything has a point, it is offing yourself. It’s the difference between how long you wish to suffer. I think that if it all gets to much, then it’s better to end it all then to continue going in misery if none of it matters anyways. Lol
Also remember, this isn't a thing that just happens in your 20's. I didn't really grasp my wrestling of identity until I was 30. Through my 20's I lived it up with travel, relationships, parties and new experiences. When I hit 30 I had the hard realization that I need to find actual meaning and a path, something I didn't think too much about before. Now I'm in school pursuing something I really want.
@@jamesmccomb9525 so im sure he will answer on his exp but for me im 27 just now persuing more and learning more of what i want to do and thats music i work a 9 to 5 and have for a while and one day i woke up months ago and siad what the hell am i doing and now im fighting all these emotions second guessing but how you find what you want to do is all up to you it takes time like i tell people figure out what your dreams are what makes you alive and learn those things and learn amd learn and keep going if its something you love itll stick. Ive been trialing and erroring for the past 6 months on music and up to a 3 months ago or less i was like and with the help of my bro encouraging to i was like shit i need to learn some music theory take some steps back and really learn the craft to create my craft training my patience doing this and that. Sometimes youll have to tale steps back and thats okay its hard sometimes not to stress on it but everyone has something they love. Theres something for everyone even if you have to work and work to get there like i siad 9 to 5 for the last 7 years now im like okay what can i do to get away from this and benifit not just my well being but also help everyone else out enjoy things with family and everyone else. When theres a will theres a way and that all ill say before i get to wordy lol
CHIGGA • 5 years the sperm that reaches the egg is never the fastest or strongest or smartest. The ones that get there first are unable to break through the wall of the egg, so the sperm that reaches the egg is always somewhere in the middle.
Remind me in 10 years to come back to this video so I can see where I am in life. I’m 18 now on my first semester of university. Edit: Thanks for all the encouragement! I'm majoring in biology btw
Unfortunately I think I have found love... It's an interesting feeling. Not lust like many seem to see it as. But a much more comforting, uplifting feeling. The unfortunate part is that it's an almost hopeless love. I fear I'll never be with that person in a real relationship, or that I'll find someone else that gives me such a feeling. Don't mean to depress anyone. But felt like sharing.
@Daddly Lou Gerera @Daddly Lou Gerera your experience isn't far off from mine in relation to mental health and family issues. but first off, you need to realize that you expressing how you felt, or how youre feeling isnt a bad thing and it does not make you an attention seeker. sometimes, family won't understand you, I couldn't tell you why but it happens. I've been in a place of worrying about money because of all the bills and shit but trust me, after worrying so much about it I realize now that money will always come and go. it sounds silly but it's true. i wish I knew what to say to help you stop feeling this way, i still don't know how to stop feeling this way either tbh sometimes it gets better though, sometimes you'll forget about wanting to die and its gonna be really nice but until that moment comes please hold on. idk you but ik you. also, I think itll do you good to open up to your friends, maybe some of them will understand.
I'm going through an identity crisis :( stuck in the dilemma of what career to pick. I don't know my strengths and weaknesses. Wrong. I _do_ know my strengths and weaknesses. I just want to believe that I'll get over my weaknesses when probably I'm just in denial. I wish I knew what the right thing to do is. :(
When a person gets stuck, life will do its utmost to dislodge you. Pick something that appeals to your strengths and would only get stronger if you overcome your weaknesses even a bit. Remember the old saying that courage is just overcoming fear. When backed into a corner, break out.
I feel the same way. I’m a sophomore in college and the only thing I’m sure of is that I don’t know what to pursue in life after being told by my parents that college is the only option.
I'm kinda in the same situation here, i'm 19 and i'm in my second year and probably going for a third without going to university because i don't wanna regret the career i choose, i want it to feel natural while at the same time have enough time for my hobbies (Playing videogames, watching anime and reading manga) and explore new things. The only career that makes sense to me was english-spanish translator (I'm form Chile, spanish being my first language) since it's something i'm kind off familiar with, but i fear that sooner than later the job may become obsolete due to technology advancements and generations being more and more familiar with the english language because of globalization :/.
Oh man, this hits so hard. I have been struggling with an identity crisis (the moratorium stage) lately and this was exactly what I wanted to hear. I never had much trouble with the first two stages that you've explained but the moratorium stage is just the worst. The depression and anxiety on top of the existential crisis are altogether too much to handle. The desire to find the ideal path, the key to happiness, the one thing that can keep me content all my life just makes it all the more stressful. The worst part of it all is it's happening, and YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW IT. Recognizing what is causing this dread (or any other in any part of your life) is one of the hardest things. Knowing what is wrong genuinely helps people tackle it better. Also, negative identity is something that I genuinely think is the problem with everyone these days. The absolute will to rebel against anything you're being told without rationally thinking about it is just too strong with our generation. Thanks, Sisyphus for another great video.
Every generation struggles with the rebel spirit. Thank god. Your right about them not useing common sense to reason things out. But that has also been happening forever. Thats why the worlds a mess. Its hard to think for yourself. Most take the path of least resistance and let others think for them.
@@ianmurdoch6247 Camus had a great essay on The Rebel, and shows why rebellion is fruitful. However, if one creates events or circumstances one might regret during this phase, it will become harder to form an independent identity. One needs to learn how to detach and find confidence that it is possible to move on by their own strength. Trying to be perfect isn't gonna solve anything. Believing in yourself, knowing oneself, does. Don't reach for the top, just see the stones you need to climb right before you, and suddenly the view will change without you even having noticed because you were so busy with the tasks that lie ahead.
I had the same problem just until a few months ago (and maybe it hasn't even stopped yet, but right now I think I'm fine) and what helped me is the realisation that it doesn't have to be just one thing you fully and completely commit to, you can do loads of stuff on the side... Picking a career path shouldn't be looked at as picking a prison, if you're an active and interested person, you'll find stuff to do and be interested about outside your career/job. I hope this makes sense and maybe helps you a bit
@@DarkAngelEUIm a 40 year old man with a mohawk and a bull nose ring. I tattoed myself from head to toe. Thats the shit I dont regret. Ive rebeled myself into alienation. In my mind, and heart Ive become so detatched from the average that Im extremely difficult to live with. People love me. They love to be around me.. but for to long and I burn them out, and they have to leave. Im cursed to never have a home never own anything like a home or car. BUT would I trade the life Ive led.?..no.
@@ianmurdoch6247 If you can bear living like that, who am I to tell you otherwise? I'm just a 28 year old who starts to feel more mature as his 29th birthday is coming up because I had to break up with what I thought would be the one. I used the time after to deal with myself, my indecisiveness, my resort to the past, my willingness to stay stuck in the ocean. The whole hysteria round the pandemic was an easy way to recluse myself and focus on myself, to cut clear from the things I mentioned, and atm I'm just trying to harvest whatever came out of that small year of introspection. I'm definitely more able to see myself truthfully and less as if the world should simply come my way. Maybe I will too care not how others think of me, how long they want to stay with me, and be myself like you are one day. Thanks for sharing, brother.
i’m watching this during my first semester of uni and it’s like 4 in the morning and i’ve been going through the worst identity crisis and i can’t shake off this awful feeling that something is wrong. i feel as though i’ve just woken up suddenly in a desert in the middle of nowhere. there’s no water or civilisation in sight and i don’t know how i got here and i don’t know how to leave and i keep pinching myself to wake up from this dream but now my arm is just covered in bruises and i’m stuck. i’m stuck. i hardly remember i exist.
Oh I was terrified of ending up exactly as I have. All my dreams were delusions. But even the guys who have made it. Is anyone actually happy? Maybe only by comparison. When I had much more than I have now I was still miserable. Always looking at what I didn't have. Contentment is the key, but reality sucks so much. And the more one knows about it the suckiness comes into clearer and clearer view.
David Kinsella Thanks for the comment. I am having a similar life experience. I am 31 and used to make 3 figures. Everyday sucked. So I quit my job. Now I have no money and everyday sucks lol. Kinda feel like capitalism has nothing worthwhile to offer me
@Marin Zver Capitalism does definitely play a part, though, insofar as the pressure to make money and pursue a career and define oneself in relation to their socioeconomic class has disconnected many from the family and friendships which often scaffold people's lives and give them meaning.
As someone who turned 20 this year and is definitely pretty lost right now in life the thing i've resulted to doing is just going with my gut feeling. There has been multiple times in life where I didn't go with my gut feeling and it ended up burning me in the end. Also if I go with my gut feeling and it doesn't end up working out I can atleast say I genuinely thought I was making the right decision and not have to live with much regret because of this.
is it dude? Im 19 n Im in college too and this is really needlessly reductionist! This whole theory seems to ignore the value that you as a person place on things in life. Like love is meaningless because we "drift" through relationships? come ON! Our moments can have meaning for us whether Mr. Sisyphus here tells us it we dont have "achieved" personalities, its about what we go through along the way. Funny he picked Sisyphus for his name when he has such a hopeless take on things. Camus once wrote a story about how every time Sisyphus watches his boulder roll down the hill, he smiles, because its his burden to bare and he takes satisfaction in its undertaking even though its useless. Life is useless so give it a smile! Idk this is just my hot take I hope ur doin ok this kind of thinking really just gonna make u sad
I just lost out on the biggest business opportunity. That would have changed my life forever. This was supposed to be a turning point. And now. Back to the sea. How much longer......
You are now all the smarter, so that when the next, perhaps better opportunity comes along, you can recognise it as such and act in a manner that will make it more likely that the opportunity will become reality.
"would have changed my life" how'd you know though? Maybe it wouldn't. Maybe it was a dead end to begin with. In any case, a past opportunity is in the past, and you're living now, so regretting it won't do you no good
I had a phase when I would smoke every single day after college classes just to hang with my ex-friends. Now that I left Instagram, Twitter, changed my number, and moved an hour away I want to see how this shapes me. I’m in a completely different county with no friends just working to be an accountant but not really sure if I’m into that. Being in your 20s is a really confusing age to live in.
@@wouttroubleyn5699 Boring at times but you really get to appreciate your family more. Also, for some reason I started my own morning and night routine because it just puts me at ease which is something that's consider healthy. The real test though is once quarantine ends because this time I have to pick who I want to surround my self.
@@rahulsrivastava3234 thanks man, but I'm still not where I want to be. Although, I have good news. I finally transferred to a University and so far I have 1 good friend. It will be a journey seeing this comments in a couple of years.
Tonegawa from Nobuyuki Fukumoto’s “Kaiji” said it well, “these people are trash, they are waiting around for their real lives to begin, but they don’t realize their real lives began long ago”
i feel reading alot of books gives us insight into lives of different people and that seems to help me in my own identity crisis. its a very easy way to explore other alternatives
I’m 22 next month. I was just having a week of breakdowns but watching this and finding that I’m just having an identity crisis, am in my moratorium, has really helped me. Sure my entire world view has been shaken to the core, but finally putting a label to it is a huge load off my chest. And now I know why I feel like I’m falling apart and what I need to do. This came at the perfect time. Thank you
I turn 20 in two days. I think the best way to describe the way I feel is out of touch. Every morning I wake up with a pit in my stomach and all I want to do is go back to bed. I run away from my problems and mostly spend my time alone trying to distract from the way I feel. I feel so confused about what to believe and I feel like there is nothing to look forward to. The hardest part is that I am the only person that can do anything about it. I know I will get out of this rut somehow because I definitely don't want to hurt myself or anything, it's just gonna take some time.
You should talk about Nietzsche's organizing idea, I found it very enlightening and is also an idea from N that very few people talk about even though is very practical
@@gavinedit8722 I think he's referring to Nietzsche's Übermensch. It's pretty much a way for you to live your life with some sort of fulfillment to escape the sentiment of dread and pointlessness. You become a "Superman" with values that are important to you, you live "deeper" than regular folk and therefore you achieve that fulfillment.
@@Andre39814 this idea is great on the plan : society is the enemy so we just have to fight society, right ? Problem : if everyone try it at the same time...
@@arturonavarropovedano2396 this idea is great on the plan : society is the enemy so we just have to escape society, right ? Problem : if everyone try it at the same time...
This came out at a freakishly relevant time to me. I am extremely anxious about choosing my career rn. It's reassuring to think that this might be a healthy transitional stage in my life. Thank you for making this
I feel like these stages happen more than once, kind of a seasonal depression type thing. And each time we're slightly filtering out the uncertainty, and it's a good reminder of what we can be and how we can achieve it. Kinda like that "you dont know happiness until you've been sad," saying. Maybe the stages get easier, I don't know. But either way I think it's something we just have to accept will happen, a cycle of despair ending in achievement, and be thankful it teaches us something new and valuable everytime. Or maybe I'm completely wrong, I think it's different for everyone. There's no true right or true wrong.
Feeling lost rn. I don’t know where and how to fit in. Sailing in this lonely ocean. Trying to shout and wishing to be heard by a boat that’ll rescue me. Always crying from these struggles. The thought of putting an end to myself always come and go inside my head. But scared to do it, because there’s no take 2 in real life. I miss my family and my friends. Hoping and making an effort to overcome all of these. Rooting to see myself happy and still alive 10 years from now:)
I feel like these type of videos are helping a lot of people shape the path they want to go in life. Thank you for this.
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Thank you for your dedication towards explaining such intriguing and noteworthy remarks. The stuck in the sea example reminded me a thing i read. The saying was along the lines of "When no one is there to save you, you become the one who will save you". When one becomes exhausted from their mental health problems, and no one around can help you, if you have a small amount of hope, you start the long search for your own salvation. Many paths are tried and the solution is searched for. Even though it hurts ,you continue.
It’s always good seeing you post more often I love all your videos and they have encouraged me to read more books and write my thoughts down. Thank you very much sir your an inspiration to me.
I just saw this video at the most absolute perfect time. Thank you, you had no idea how much I needed this. It's like you went inside the mess in my brain and came back with full sentences.
Honestly, I'm 18 but I feel like I've lived life before and there is no point in doing it again. I just started university but I want to quit, not because it's hard, I've never really had to try hard at anything to be good at it but just because why. I don't want a job, I don't care about money, I don't care about being with friends and family, I sometimes even wish that I had no friends and family because I feel that they anchor me to one spot while all I want to do is go out to open sea and drift aimlessly or get in a car, pick a random direction and drive to wherever. Being lost and aimlessness and not having a plan for the future does not make me feel lost. Waking up in the same house, seeing the same people, working with and studying with the same people makes me feel so restless and depressed I can't even explain it.
@@rach8619 hi, I'm actually ok. A lot of things have happened over the past 2 years. I still feel restless and I still feel like disappearing from my life but that feeling is not as strong as it use to be. I have a lot of responsibility and expectations from the people in my life and it gets overwhelming and back then the only solution I could think of was to run away but I found a different one. Not giving a shit. I've stopped caring about what everybody else wants from me and I've focused more on what I want to do. This has really shocked my family and they keep trying to sit me down and tell me that I'm screwing up my life but for the first time in god knows when I feel like I can actually breath and that's the best feeling in the world. I didn't desire anything in life because I put everybody else's opinion about what my life should look like before mine and I completely neglected myself. It's absolutely maddening to life that way. I constantly felt like screaming. I still don't want to be anchored to one place and I still want to drift but now I don't feel hopeless about it. It feels like it's suppose to be a journey. I don't know if I'm making much sense, but thanks for asking and I hope you're alright as well.
@@ollynolly4592 no matter how perfunctory it sounds, i do understand and honestly your reply gives me hope that things do get better, you also somehow managed to describe your experience in very concise sentences and i can relate to some of it at least one-thirds of it, i don't know where i'm going with that, maybe i'm just projecting (probably am, really). i also wanted to ask, (as you are a fellow human being and perhaps have aome advice to dish out) when did you figure out what you wanted out of life? since you mentioned you've focused more on what you want to do and i wish i too, could know what i want. it's like, have you ever felt like you don't know what you want, so you just do what you think you have to, as in you pick whichever seems to make others happier or makes the most 'sense' because you don't know what would make you happy? if it's a common experience, i'd like to know if my strategy for making decisions depending on other people will lead me along the right path, or astray? (p.s: i'm glad you're okay, I hope you keep following your heart and doing what gives you joy, you may never see this comment but know that somewhere in the world there's a stranger proud of you and hoping you're well).
@@rach8619 thanks for your comment, it's very kind and I appreciate it. As for your question, I still don't know what I want out of life for the most part. A huge part of our lives is routine and for all of us those routines are things we must do to live or must do to prepare for a future where we can't rely on our parents/guardians to support us and must stand on our own. Furthermore, there are not a limitless amount of opportunities in the world. Despite the rhetoric that we can do anything we put our minds to, there are absolutely things that limit us and it is important not to ignore those things especially if it is something that could deteriorate you financially/something to do with your personality and emotional well being. The way I make decisions now is I evaluate if it will lead to short-term or long-term satisfaction and I also list what I want out of the decisions that I make. Education, for example, is for the long-term because it is in preparation for the future. And while you can study whatever you want I personally just want to be in a career that is expanding in demand, one with good advancement opportunities as well as travel opportunities. That's what I want out of my career and I can take 3 years of studying to get to that, which will give me long-term satisfaction. I am passionate about writing, but I don't regret not picking that field because I know I am not competitive enough and what I want more than anything is to be comfortable in my life so I let that go. Things we do spontaneously are often not for the long-term. It gives you immediate happiness, immediate satisfaction but most of the time when we made decisions like that we aren't thinking of what comes next and I don't think we should have to. Big decisions that can impact you long-term are not to be made without considering the consequences or if you're ok with the repercussions. I can for example, buy myself a concert ticket in my city, catch a train to London and go to the museum for the day, wake up and decide to not do anything but watch Netflix. None of these things are going to hurt me long-term but indulging in them makes me feel better. These are the things I would previously not do in order to meet the needs of my family and friends and I felt stuck because I didn't think they mattered but it's like trying to not scratch an itch. It will drive you insane. I hope I have answered your question, even just a little.
I was an abused child and spent my whole life taking care of people and searching for why I am here and what everything iv ever done and happened to me was for and I feel like this man is telling me exactly what I need to hear and is subtly giving me the answer to my questions on why everything happened
It’s my first year in university and I have absolutely no idea what to do with my life. I deeply relate to this video because the mundanity of schoolwork is making me reconsider the choices I’ve made and what I want to do with my life. This video might not solve my identity crisis but it sure is pointing me in the right direction. Thanks for making this video.
I'm 30 years old...I also often think about the sea analogy.. I often think I'm in the middle of the ocean and I can see the land far away. If I try to swim towards the land I get exhausted and never manage to make it. The only solution is to let the ocean flow to guide me..
@@thesevenkingswelove9554 there is a chance they will kill you, there is no full safety in that condition. It is more about probabilities..the probabilities of you surviving by trying to swim against the ocean flow has very very low percentage of success, much better if instead you embrace the ocean flow. I don't think this should be seen as a way of "giving up trying". To embrace the ocean flow is an active action, it's an act of strength and of will. As I do believe we have to fight, but if you find yourself in that position you need to give up certain attitudes, preconceived ideas, expectations (often from others around you). And to be honest, the very big waves that can actually kill you will be often so unmanageable and out of your control that it's not worth thinking about them. As much as careful you can be about those waves, there is no way you can predict them and necessarily avoid them. Waves of other nature, (more or less..) I believe can be survived, and that's when strength and will come to play
Your videos are more helpful than any counselling I've received. I'm so glad you decided to make this youtube channel. Thank you for sharing your talents with all of us.
I'm glad i found myself alot earlier than finding this. Finally proves the flow in life truly exists. Quit being afraid of being yourselves and do those social experiments you've always been afraid of. To search experiences is to creating your own lives. Stay positive, Family.
It's hard for me to imagine myself ever finding my "passion" in life; Or ever doing anything accomplishing with my life. I'd like to have a life I can look back on and feel grateful to myself knowing it was worthwhile. Based off my prospective I can't help but feel like everyone else knows what they want to do with their lives besides me. Glad to know their are people that have the same feeling as me. Theirs endless possibilities it's hard not to feel a sense of choice overload. Will I ever find the remedy. Will I ever find the life I'm lost in?
Do you have anything you're good at? Not saying you should limit yourself to things that feel natural, but if passion isn't there then building your skills is sometimes a good next step. (and, maybe you don't need a sweeping "passion" in your life - even having some "hobbies" that make your time worthwhile and are low pressure is good)
@@annabellelin7730 I dont't really have too much self worth so I'd like to think i'm pretty average at everything I do. Nothing really comes to mind when I think of something I can excel at or something that comes natural. There're plenty of different skilles/hobbies I can work on and just get Good at. It's fun to see self progress. Thats the problem thoe theirs too many things to do in this life. Too many paths. I get paralyzed bc of how much their's 2 life and i feel like choosing one thing limits myself to everything else life has to offer. I have this idea that ill eventually find my intrinsic passion that is for me and only me. I use passion in the sentence as if it's something I'm destined to do something I'm born to do. But ik I'm asking for a bit much. Life doesn't work that way. It'd b nice to have some type of hobby I can work on and see myself grow and get better at. Something that is gratifying and challenging enough to keep me motivated and idely something I can make a living off of. Doesn't have to bring in too much money. Something to keep me comfortable, something I can look forward 2. Something where when someone asks me to tell me about yourself I can be confident answering that question. Something to give my life meaning, a reason, a purpose. Just something I can b proud of.
@@yaboyradish3072 That sounds overwhelming.. sorry for the late response - I'm going through a bit of the same thing and I'm not sure what to say... I've had hobbies (I like to draw,and write a bit) but they've never been things I've "thrown" myself into. Also - what do you do to pass the time if there's no hobbies? Or are you busy?
@@annabellelin7730 Relieving to hear I'm not alone. Maybe I need to throw my self at things and wait for one to stick. Not sure. I journal sometimes but I really think that I have no hobbies what so ever. I consume a lot of UA-cam\anime. Pretty sure it's an addiction. Anything to escape ig. It's a constant loop of self hatred and mindless escapism. I probably need something productive to keep me busy to prevent me from consuming. I have too much time on my hands. I should probably try to live a little harder. Get out there. It can just be a bit hard/stressful at times. It's a lot easier to forget and distract yourself from your problems/thoughts. Thanks again for listening. I genuinely hope you can solve your current problems and live your best possible life.
This video hit very close to home... I'm 25 and in the middle of that sea, with absolutely no idea how to swim. So many possibilities, none that I am truly passionate about, some that are worth, but not easy or guaranteed to work out, especially not in this atmosphere. Life shouldn't be as messy as it is, damn it all
My advice... develop a skill that doesn't tie you down to a single path but gives you a shortlist of options. That way you can both procrastinate and learn to swim.
This video depressed me, in like all the good ways. It opened up that void of depression to me in an unusually positive manner. Not sure what path I'm going to end up taking and running with, but ultimately sure that I'll eventually come across one of those paths and, at least hopefully, become a useful member of society in some kind of way. Never seen your videos before man, but I sincerely thank you for allowing this realization to come about
I'm 23 now and I think I've recently entered the moratorium phase when I moved away from home to another country. I'm more connected to my goals and more committed to pursue the path I chose some years ago. I did not want to see this video and keep with focused and doing things but I guess there is good information here. I always think that we need to keep trying stuff and being patient in the processes of learning. Guys, to ackowledge your ressistance and remember or find why do you want to do something and the benefits it will bring. finding purpose is tough. For the moment I think I have learn that we need to talk to people in better situations than you, ask them for ways to face this, and watch out with your environment.
Never in my life have I felt more like I had just experienced exactly what I needed to when I need it. I just received a sign of exactly what I need to do and I feel utter shock and awe. This has been a very important 10 minutes in my life, I think.
My 20s were the best years. When I was so certain of everything. I'd had experiences that convinced me a certain version of a certain religion was true and I busied myself in that nonsense for more than a decade. But during all that I was trying to confirm my experiences with verifiable evidence. I couldn't. I also noticed that other people in other version of my religion and in different religions used the same types of arguments I used. All unverifiable. All to be accepted by faith. So it wasn't until my 30s that I began to despair. Began to see that we are stuck in a bubble. We don't know how we got here, why, or where were going, but the world is full of billions of ignorant fucks who didn't exist a few mere decades ago, but who are absolutely convinced they understand all that is necessary to know about existence. And I see evolution has shaped us this way. Not to see reality as it is, because that is ultimately unknowable and that is scary and depressing, but to be convinced in our own ignorance. It's so fucking depressing. And not only that, but many people are happy and fulfilled in their ignorance and will justify all of their disgusting behaviour. As social animals we adopt a hive mindset and create morals which we then ignorantly declare to be absolute. Killing humans is the greatest sin of all. We claim this is because our tribal deity said so, but obviously it's because we are humans ourselves. Slaughtering other intelligent and peaceful creatures like cows and pigs by the billions to stuff our greedy guts is a-okay. And we also justify this with our bullshit religions. We put ourselves at the top of all creation. Some of us imagine our consciousness is at the foundation of reality itself. Seems like another self-aggrandizing delusion to me. I know this is just a stream of consciousness that won't make sense to many because the sentences are somewhat out of context. There's no way out. No absolute standard. No ultimate truth. No destiny. No afterlife. No hope. If I don't want to kill myself then I'd better just start happily pushing that rock up that mountain until I drop dead from exhaustion. Do I really want to pass my genes on to perpetuate this madness called life? Why? Life literally has to feed on itself to survive. What the fuck is that all about? It used to survive on just water and light, but this "wondrous creation" got the idea somewhere along the way that murdering other lifeforms would give off a huge energy increase. Except for photosynthesizing plants that feed off of light, life pretty much is "evil", killing other lifeforms to survive. But I did not ask to be born into this shitty existence, yet here I am. Wanting to survive and pass on my genes for no apparent purpose.
Humans do beautiful things. Art, music. Humans build things greater than themselves. Cars, planes, spaceships, internet. This is how we distinguish ourselves from other life that just makes more of themself. Look to open your mind to appreciate something that humans do. As long as youre surviving, you're doing your part to contribute , or you're the thing that someone else appreciates. Probably both.
@@Metrionz All species-referential. Do dogs appreciate music and art? But they love smelling shit. Even if we enjoy those things because our bigger more complex brains are better at interpreting abstract sounds and sights. So what? I mean do it, but there's no more sense or beauty to it any any ultimate sense than a dog smelling shit.
@@sibanbgd100 I agree. I'm just pointing out the absurdity of our species' insistence that it is at the centre of anything. You are a centre of infinity, from that you conclude your species is, your planet is. And so on. The more we open our eyes the less we are convinced of such a scenario. If this is all God's doing, this God is playing a joke or doesn't really care about our suffering.
You could be living a meaningful life right now. It all means something. My biggest word of advice is to get into a sport or physical hobby of some kind. Weightlifting or a martial art is best I would say, but it depends on what you're into. Just don't allow yourself to fall into isolation.
I work with a 20 year old. He sees his future is bleak. I recognize it. His family, his education opportunities, his partying lifestyle. He is enjoying the pleasures of youth now, but I know he knows it won't last and he isn't happy thinking about that. What to do, what to do. Having kids is bullshit, many who get degrees are very unhappy, others turn to drugs. And a few rule the rest and they are the one who, if anything, have "made it".
If I had to guess, this seems like an issue more prominent in the West. I don't know a great deal about the philosophy but Taoism might offer alternative solution here. Instead of going through a phase where you browse a catalog of ideologies or careers to identify with, going with your natural intuition may sidestep this issue. If you have to browse all the options before you pick one, you may fall into the trap of choice paralysis. Once here you may regret picking an ideology even if it is a great option for you as a person. Alternatively, you can do what feels right and don't think twice about it.
A lot of people say they were around 18-20 when they felt this but i feel like this right now at age 14, and people always tell me to enjoy it cuz it's not something i should worry about right now, but i always feel like i should be making some kind of structure to where i want to go, except i don't know where i want to go and what my interests are. In high school, i plan to try out many clubs to find out things i like, at least that was the plan. I was nervous about trying new things and i want to open up and finally get out of my shell. It seems like all of the videos you make, even if targeted towards specific audiences who are typically older and have more experience, seem to relate to me and I'm so glad I can understand what you're saying when you explain things because I've thought about similar things again and again and I've never been able to explain it quite well when I want to share how i feel and my experience with others. I really like to talk about these types of things to people but people my age aren't worried about that and are busy with their own lives/not interested about the topic. Thank you for these videos, i really enjoy the 2nd hand knowledge from someone else besides myself! :D so thank you! (Just realized this video was uploaded TWO YEARS AGO... that's crazy)
felt that confusion ever since i could think critically. the only time i ever felt grounded was when i had nothing to worry about other than things like remembering the schedule of my favorite shows on tv or when i could play with my friends next. ever since i've been under the impression that one day i'll just figure out everything. myself, my purpose, etc. i think the sooner i accept that i might not ever come to a satisfying conclusion the sooner i wont feel so lost.
somethingsomething thingy agreed. fluidity and openness are definitely things i've been trying to work on. i think they'll help me cope with the sense of helplessness i get from knowing just how undetermined life is lol.
@sisyphus 55 Hey man just wanted to say that your channel has seriously been a huge reason for why I have enough cash to survive during covid. Deep conversation on life's meaning among a ton of college educated strangers at a Starbucks got me a huge salary. Just need you to know that the information is not only helpful in dealing with our internal conflicts but also for our understanding of other people around us.
This one was eye-opening for me. It showed me I still have time to make my inner world correlate more with my outer world. I can be who I want to be to me, and to the world! My identity is no longer closed.
Phenomenal video, man, thank you. Content like this is really sincerely valuable to people like me, and I really kinda wish I didn't have to go out of my way to find discussion like this.
Thanks man. I'm definitely feeling this one. That "lost at sea" feeling. I've been trying different careers, earning different certifications, etc. But the biggest thing that's been eating at me is that no matter how much I improve, how much I continue to strive forward, certain things keep me down. I've asked out all of two women, both this year when I felt I was at my peak, the best I've ever been mentally and physically. Both rejected me on the grounds that I was, and I quote, "just not attractive". That hurt. I used to be obese, but I spent a lot of time getting into good shape. I considered myself a decent looking human being. Now that I've moved away from people and back to my family for community college, I am overwhelmed by this feeling of loneliness and worthlessness. I'm just not enough. I'm getting my EMT certification, but what if that's not what I really want? It won't make me more wanted. And what good is a career and money if I feel dead inside anyway. I just want to be a regular, happy man. One who loves and is loved. Someone who had someone, or something to work for, fight for. I feel so pointless that I kinda wish I could just get blown away by the next storm, either die, or get blown away to another world and start again. I'm only 21 and I already feel like my life is over, I've struck out, and I need to quit and restart...
Hey man i relate to your post a lot. I had some childhood traumas which in turn made me very anxious and depressed. Sometimes i feel "broken" and that i will never get "fixed". Im currently on a path to self acceptance. I will say therapy and meditation have helped me. Wish u all the best
I think that most people are confused about their identity because they want to know what to do but don’t realize that who they are is already in effect, it’s not so much WHAT you do, but HOW you do it. The things you do have no effect on the universal order, but the way you do them shows your identity. Everyone is unique, but that’s cliché so people write it off, but look at it this way. You and your coworker both do the same job every day, same hours, same place, same task. But the things you say, the attitude you bring, the small insignificant mannerisms you produce that you have no idea that you enforce, those are what give you meaning. Which is why sometimes when you have an identity crisis and people compliment you, you don’t feel like they’re being genuine, because you project yourself outward. They see all the things that you do, you only see what your eyes do, so your personality seems nothing more than autopilot. But the autopilot is what makes you YOU. So next time you wonder who you are, just observe yourself closely, see what you ARE doing, rather than what you WANT to be doing. Because the only path to self actualization is through introspection and observing yourself through the eyes of those closest to you
(Disclaimer: This is exclusively from my perspective and life experiences). I think a lack of adequate parenting is a major contributing factor to many people feeling lost in life. Parents nowadays (at least mine) have no idea how to guide and mentor their children. No longer are mothers and fathers taking their kids under their wings and helping them to develop life skills, but simply relying on less than adequate systems like schools and au pairs and nannies to do that for them, resulting in people who can recite the quadratic formula on command but have no idea what they like, dislike, or want out of their life.
More than a year ago i had a strong, deep feeling inside that everything will work out for me in the near future and i'll find my path, today, i'm planning suicide at my 20th birthday in May, as i've found out there is no real path for me, only distractions and shitty ways to cope with life.
Things don't exactly magically work out for people however through the right mode of being you can work things out over time. If you thinking of suicide because your current life is not worth living but there is a life you can imagine yourself having that would be worth living then stick it out. I think when when thing improve in life you can get to a point where there is enough meaning in your life to make it worth living and the suffering bearable. Personally Jordan Peterson has helped me out with the question of whether life is worth living and helped me get things straight in my life, so I'd recommend his ideas if you looking for that sort of thing. My Dad commited suicide 2 years ago (when I was 18) and I've experienced how something like that can destroy the people around you. Hope you find your way
Hey man, keep on. Life isn't easy and it was never meant to be easy. Be patient and concentrate on the day. If you don't see a real path for you, it's up to you to create one. Personally, people like Jordan Peterson and David Goggins helped me to understand some important things in life. You are only 20, you don't have to have figured life already out. Life your life and figure it out along the way. My Cousin commited suicide last year at 26. It didn't made the world an ounce better. It destroyed the people around. Look out for yourself, greetings from Germany.
im less lost in life as i feel just misplaced. everything seems to be.. fine and normal, but i just switch inbetween euphoria at best and, jut feeling horrid andwanting to die at worst. im not even sure who i am, in terms of name, gender. these classifications have become so meaningless to me. i live the absurd. everyone around me is so noisy, loud, they talk all the time but say nothing. i want to run away but im too young to work and support myself so i just feel like a useless leech waisting my time listening to lectures that i do no give a shit about. im not even 20 but.. i dnt know. somehow you feel important yet at the same time as worthless as an ant to be crushed under the sole of someone elses foot.
I recommend trying new things, and getting out of your comfort zone a little more it’s doesn’t have to be dramatic of a change. Just try 1 or two new things a week weather it be food, working out, locations, or people you meet it makes life more enjoyable.
The music goes along with it so well, I hope whoever is reading this will help them, my personal tip is it a feeling of fulfillment but always strive for better, it's like a mix
I wish I would have seen this video 14 months ago when I had a complete existential crisis and went from devout Christian to nihilist within a week of my faith completely dissolving. But, I digress, because within those 14 months I have had a very gradual reawakening. I've learned many things from many different people and teachers, and although I am not completely happy and I can admit I'm about 1% of the way to where I want to be, I can also say for sure that I am truly happy for once in my life. I have a direction. I found meaning in the things that I love, that being my family (most of my family isn't even blood either) and close friends, and I am pursuing the path of the Buddha. It is not for everyone, but Buddhism is doing wonders for my life.
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The book "the magic of conflict" would be a read I'd reccomended
Covid lockdown is the perfect time to make good on all those times people said, if I had a few days off I could get such & so done. Did you do it yet?
🤣 Or were you just lying?
Well don’t you look at that like ratio 0o0
@@alecluna4921 SAS q1
you prolly dont give a damn but does someone know a way to get back into an Instagram account??
I somehow lost my password. I would love any help you can give me!
Mom! The depressed stick guy is making me have an existential crisis again
Ikr
everyone keep this at 420, please I begging you .
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3rd stage bro you're getting there
Wait until you turn off your computer and enter the real world. You are in for a doozy!
That sea analogy perfectly explained what I felt at age 20. Literally paralyzed by choice and fear of failure.
Yeah. This perfectly stated how I feel at the age of 21! it's a weird time.
What happened after you found out where to go?
So what did you do ?
As a 20 year old at sea, please go on
I'm at age 20... Really feeling that paralysis right now.
I am 20. I wish someone warned me. That's all. Like a small warning, maybe in the mail or something.
About what?
Warn you wtf about, life?
Hey at least you're realizing early enough that life's confusing and you need to explore to gain grip on it. I only truly realized this in the past few years, being 27 now, and it's much harder to explore when society expects you to be fully mature by now. So take this as a win and start discovering what you want in life.
@@KarlSnarks yea thanks for this reply, I'm 17 and starting to think about this now
@@KarlSnarks no one expects 20yo to be fully mature :) That is not true at all. Most of people over 35 understand how confused 20yo are. Everyone is just pushing you to pick a path that you can mature on. Then once you do somewhat. You are in for another suprise. Follow this channel I have a feeling video like that may pop up here some day.
There is too much pressure on young people to decide who they want to be. It’s ok to change your mind over and over again until you’re satisfied with who you are. we need allow people the freedom to express themselves authentically.
My is of the opposite. I picked my way due to peer pressure from the family. But when I set out on the way and see it's not working, I don't even dare to change it. It's like you borrow some thing expensive from a friend and now you are afraid that you will break it
Changing your mind is expensive ( if you’re pursuing studies in university)
It’s not always possible to change your mind. Eventually you understand that at one point you’ll have to stick to wherever you landed, like a game of musical chairs.
I had that as well, to some point I see it as constructive, I myself didn't go off to college, wasn't motivated for a while now I'm almost 21 and still at the start line. By maybe I am at the start line of my life story idk.
Preachhh
Yes, ridge wallet in philosophy. But iam diogenes, and i don't have money
Yet you have electricity and a phone.. Wait no nvm your prob in a Mc donalds with free wifi
@@newriechren2343 wow so brave
@@Gormfork Frig i fell in a trap.
Okay, will wait for barrel ad next time
New Riechren because UA-cam is only accessible on phones
I feel just as lost as I did before I watched this video, but now I don't feel as bad for feeling lost. Thank you
this right here yeah. it just made me more aware that i am not the only person experiencing this
I do things for no reason. I live for no reason, I experience for no reason, and Ill die with a smile on my face knowing there was no point to any of this. The only thing keeping me from roping is the fact that there is no point in doing that either.
Ah, absurdism
@@robotchips6982 always like a breath of fresh air
I've been in your spot for a long time. I came to a realisation that I was going to die sooner or later anyway, but some things make me feel full and give me a sense of satisfaction (like going to the sea), why *shouldn't* I try to see as many things as the world has to offer in my limited time? Death will catch up anyway but I'd rather have some (or any) experiences before that.
I think you need to come to some kind of a realisation of your own, so keep wondering.
@@tigerbunny6328 that’s exactly the thought process that keeps me going. That I’ll get to die eventually so may as well chill out in the meantime. I can’t say life is completely unbearable, it’s just very exhausting.
I disagree. If anything has a point, it is offing yourself. It’s the difference between how long you wish to suffer. I think that if it all gets to much, then it’s better to end it all then to continue going in misery if none of it matters anyways. Lol
"Tired and hopeless at age twenty-five, he said he was treading water to stay alive" Bro why you have to come at me like that?
"Waiting for someone or something to show you the way "
That's a nice pink Floyd quote. You have a good taste in Music I guess :)
Only you can save you.
@@ianmurdoch6247 is a quote from a Pink Floyd song "Time"
@@MYwinters1945 I know Im old enough that my Father made me listen to every pink floyd album evy time he got drunk
Da wae
Also remember, this isn't a thing that just happens in your 20's. I didn't really grasp my wrestling of identity until I was 30. Through my 20's I lived it up with travel, relationships, parties and new experiences. When I hit 30 I had the hard realization that I need to find actual meaning and a path, something I didn't think too much about before. Now I'm in school pursuing something I really want.
What are you studying now?
How did you find out what you wanted to do?
Yea what these nice people asked
Thats so good im really really happy for ya i seriously am theres to many people in there 30s that dont get that
@@jamesmccomb9525 so im sure he will answer on his exp but for me im 27 just now persuing more and learning more of what i want to do and thats music i work a 9 to 5 and have for a while and one day i woke up months ago and siad what the hell am i doing and now im fighting all these emotions second guessing but how you find what you want to do is all up to you it takes time like i tell people figure out what your dreams are what makes you alive and learn those things and learn amd learn and keep going if its something you love itll stick. Ive been trialing and erroring for the past 6 months on music and up to a 3 months ago or less i was like and with the help of my bro encouraging to i was like shit i need to learn some music theory take some steps back and really learn the craft to create my craft training my patience doing this and that. Sometimes youll have to tale steps back and thats okay its hard sometimes not to stress on it but everyone has something they love. Theres something for everyone even if you have to work and work to get there like i siad 9 to 5 for the last 7 years now im like okay what can i do to get away from this and benifit not just my well being but also help everyone else out enjoy things with family and everyone else. When theres a will theres a way and that all ill say before i get to wordy lol
Should of posted this when i was born
Should have told me before i won the sperm race.
CHIGGA • 5 years the sperm that reaches the egg is never the fastest or strongest or smartest. The ones that get there first are unable to break through the wall of the egg, so the sperm that reaches the egg is always somewhere in the middle.
@@chigga5years173 you weren’t the first, just lucky
This got me hyped up for a day of school for some reason I'm on the bus rn so thanks
hey hope you have a cool day dude
this is awesome have a good day at school
How was your day?
Hey dude I hope you (and everyone here) have a great school year. No bullies and less stress. Just good vibes
@@TheChromeChameleon it was ok but kinda bad
Remind me in 10 years to come back to this video so I can see where I am in life. I’m 18 now on my first semester of university.
Edit: Thanks for all the encouragement! I'm majoring in biology btw
Good luck in uni, mate
Same here
Same, let's remind eachother.
Same
Same, except I'm 19.
"Do you wanna fall in love?"
Maaaaaaaan, I wish someone would ask me that.
You don't. Alot more painful in the long term
@@husgrnd2429 it is painful. love is painful, but it can be worth it. i think in the end, most of us just wanna feel loved. start with yourself:)
Unfortunately I think I have found love... It's an interesting feeling. Not lust like many seem to see it as. But a much more comforting, uplifting feeling.
The unfortunate part is that it's an almost hopeless love. I fear I'll never be with that person in a real relationship, or that I'll find someone else that gives me such a feeling.
Don't mean to depress anyone. But felt like sharing.
@Daddly Lou Gerera im not completely sure what you mean, but maybe I can help? what's self love to you? and what do you hate about yourself?
@Daddly Lou Gerera @Daddly Lou Gerera your experience isn't far off from mine in relation to mental health and family issues. but first off, you need to realize that you expressing how you felt, or how youre feeling isnt a bad thing and it does not make you an attention seeker. sometimes, family won't understand you, I couldn't tell you why but it happens. I've been in a place of worrying about money because of all the bills and shit but trust me, after worrying so much about it I realize now that money will always come and go. it sounds silly but it's true.
i wish I knew what to say to help you stop feeling this way, i still don't know how to stop feeling this way either tbh
sometimes it gets better though, sometimes you'll forget about wanting to die and its gonna be really nice but until that moment comes please hold on. idk you but ik you. also, I think itll do you good to open up to your friends, maybe some of them will understand.
"Your life is your life know it while you have it" Charles Bukowski
♡
I'm going through an identity crisis :( stuck in the dilemma of what career to pick. I don't know my strengths and weaknesses. Wrong. I _do_ know my strengths and weaknesses. I just want to believe that I'll get over my weaknesses when probably I'm just in denial. I wish I knew what the right thing to do is. :(
When a person gets stuck, life will do its utmost to dislodge you. Pick something that appeals to your strengths and would only get stronger if you overcome your weaknesses even a bit. Remember the old saying that courage is just overcoming fear. When backed into a corner, break out.
I feel the same way. I’m a sophomore in college and the only thing I’m sure of is that I don’t know what to pursue in life after being told by my parents that college is the only option.
@@declanruane5588 the only absolute is that there are no absolutes. Obey yourself, or you obey others. Do what feels natural, what feels right.
Declan Ruane i’d advise taking a gap semester
I'm kinda in the same situation here, i'm 19 and i'm in my second year and probably going for a third without going to university because i don't wanna regret the career i choose, i want it to feel natural while at the same time have enough time for my hobbies (Playing videogames, watching anime and reading manga) and explore new things. The only career that makes sense to me was english-spanish translator (I'm form Chile, spanish being my first language) since it's something i'm kind off familiar with, but i fear that sooner than later the job may become obsolete due to technology advancements and generations being more and more familiar with the english language because of globalization :/.
Oh man, this hits so hard. I have been struggling with an identity crisis (the moratorium stage) lately and this was exactly what I wanted to hear. I never had much trouble with the first two stages that you've explained but the moratorium stage is just the worst. The depression and anxiety on top of the existential crisis are altogether too much to handle. The desire to find the ideal path, the key to happiness, the one thing that can keep me content all my life just makes it all the more stressful.
The worst part of it all is it's happening, and YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW IT. Recognizing what is causing this dread (or any other in any part of your life) is one of the hardest things. Knowing what is wrong genuinely helps people tackle it better.
Also, negative identity is something that I genuinely think is the problem with everyone these days. The absolute will to rebel against anything you're being told without rationally thinking about it is just too strong with our generation.
Thanks, Sisyphus for another great video.
Every generation struggles with the rebel spirit. Thank god. Your right about them not useing common sense to reason things out. But that has also been happening forever. Thats why the worlds a mess. Its hard to think for yourself. Most take the path of least resistance and let others think for them.
@@ianmurdoch6247 Camus had a great essay on The Rebel, and shows why rebellion is fruitful. However, if one creates events or circumstances one might regret during this phase, it will become harder to form an independent identity. One needs to learn how to detach and find confidence that it is possible to move on by their own strength. Trying to be perfect isn't gonna solve anything. Believing in yourself, knowing oneself, does. Don't reach for the top, just see the stones you need to climb right before you, and suddenly the view will change without you even having noticed because you were so busy with the tasks that lie ahead.
I had the same problem just until a few months ago (and maybe it hasn't even stopped yet, but right now I think I'm fine) and what helped me is the realisation that it doesn't have to be just one thing you fully and completely commit to, you can do loads of stuff on the side... Picking a career path shouldn't be looked at as picking a prison, if you're an active and interested person, you'll find stuff to do and be interested about outside your career/job.
I hope this makes sense and maybe helps you a bit
@@DarkAngelEUIm a 40 year old man with a mohawk and a bull nose ring. I tattoed myself from head to toe. Thats the shit I dont regret. Ive rebeled myself into alienation. In my mind, and heart Ive become so detatched from the average that Im extremely difficult to live with. People love me. They love to be around me.. but for to long and I burn them out, and they have to leave. Im cursed to never have a home never own anything like a home or car. BUT would I trade the life Ive led.?..no.
@@ianmurdoch6247 If you can bear living like that, who am I to tell you otherwise? I'm just a 28 year old who starts to feel more mature as his 29th birthday is coming up because I had to break up with what I thought would be the one. I used the time after to deal with myself, my indecisiveness, my resort to the past, my willingness to stay stuck in the ocean. The whole hysteria round the pandemic was an easy way to recluse myself and focus on myself, to cut clear from the things I mentioned, and atm I'm just trying to harvest whatever came out of that small year of introspection. I'm definitely more able to see myself truthfully and less as if the world should simply come my way. Maybe I will too care not how others think of me, how long they want to stay with me, and be myself like you are one day.
Thanks for sharing, brother.
i’m watching this during my first semester of uni and it’s like 4 in the morning and i’ve been going through the worst identity crisis and i can’t shake off this awful feeling that something is wrong. i feel as though i’ve just woken up suddenly in a desert in the middle of nowhere. there’s no water or civilisation in sight and i don’t know how i got here and i don’t know how to leave and i keep pinching myself to wake up from this dream but now my arm is just covered in bruises and i’m stuck. i’m stuck. i hardly remember i exist.
if you're going through hell, keep going.
How are you now?
this is a beautiful description. I feel the same way, but hopefully time will bring clarity
Keep pushing ma boi
I read the defining decade in my early 20s hoping to never feel like those guys. At 27, i am hopelessly drowning.
Do you know why the book didn't help??
Oh I was terrified of ending up exactly as I have. All my dreams were delusions. But even the guys who have made it. Is anyone actually happy? Maybe only by comparison. When I had much more than I have now I was still miserable. Always looking at what I didn't have. Contentment is the key, but reality sucks so much. And the more one knows about it the suckiness comes into clearer and clearer view.
David Kinsella Thanks for the comment. I am having a similar life experience. I am 31 and used to make 3 figures. Everyday sucked. So I quit my job. Now I have no money and everyday sucks lol. Kinda feel like capitalism has nothing worthwhile to offer me
@Marin Zver Capitalism does definitely play a part, though, insofar as the pressure to make money and pursue a career and define oneself in relation to their socioeconomic class has disconnected many from the family and friendships which often scaffold people's lives and give them meaning.
I don't see the problem in letting life pass me by. Anyone else?
As someone who turned 20 this year and is definitely pretty lost right now in life the thing i've resulted to doing is just going with my gut feeling. There has been multiple times in life where I didn't go with my gut feeling and it ended up burning me in the end. Also if I go with my gut feeling and it doesn't end up working out I can atleast say I genuinely thought I was making the right decision and not have to live with much regret because of this.
Take drugs.
as a 19 year old starting college, i really needed to watch this
is it dude? Im 19 n Im in college too and this is really needlessly reductionist! This whole theory seems to ignore the value that you as a person place on things in life. Like love is meaningless because we "drift" through relationships? come ON! Our moments can have meaning for us whether Mr. Sisyphus here tells us it we dont have "achieved" personalities, its about what we go through along the way. Funny he picked Sisyphus for his name when he has such a hopeless take on things. Camus once wrote a story about how every time Sisyphus watches his boulder roll down the hill, he smiles, because its his burden to bare and he takes satisfaction in its undertaking even though its useless. Life is useless so give it a smile! Idk this is just my hot take I hope ur doin ok this kind of thinking really just gonna make u sad
No. You need to turn off your computer.
@@kungfupandaluver6919 wat?
I just lost out on the biggest business opportunity. That would have changed my life forever.
This was supposed to be a turning point. And now. Back to the sea. How much longer......
What was it?
Don't sink, keep afloat waiting for another boat to come save you or keep swimming hoping to reach land.
Hang on there bro. Something will surely turn up. Just keep putting in all your efforts and other opportunities will eventually arise.
You are now all the smarter, so that when the next, perhaps better opportunity comes along, you can recognise it as such and act in a manner that will make it more likely that the opportunity will become reality.
"would have changed my life" how'd you know though? Maybe it wouldn't. Maybe it was a dead end to begin with.
In any case, a past opportunity is in the past, and you're living now, so regretting it won't do you no good
I had a phase when I would smoke every single day after college classes just to hang with my ex-friends. Now that I left Instagram, Twitter, changed my number, and moved an hour away I want to see how this shapes me. I’m in a completely different county with no friends just working to be an accountant but not really sure if I’m into that. Being in your 20s is a really confusing age to live in.
Refreshing your stimulus can be a spiritual revelation. Good luck.
How did that work out? what was it like to leave your social life and start a brand new one?
@@wouttroubleyn5699 Boring at times but you really get to appreciate your family more. Also, for some reason I started my own morning and night routine because it just puts me at ease which is something that's consider healthy. The real test though is once quarantine ends because this time I have to pick who I want to surround my self.
@@Naeldays you sound like very well sorted person
@@rahulsrivastava3234 thanks man, but I'm still not where I want to be. Although, I have good news. I finally transferred to a University and so far I have 1 good friend. It will be a journey seeing this comments in a couple of years.
Just turned 24 and I'm dying at the idea that I haven't really done anything and feel worse off than when I was starting out.
Tonegawa from Nobuyuki Fukumoto’s “Kaiji” said it well, “these people are trash, they are waiting around for their real lives to begin, but they don’t realize their real lives began long ago”
*For those who feel lost in life*
Just remember that Roronoa Zoro is more lost than you
omg this comment
Freaking weebs, I love you guys
Huh? What? Wait, where am i again..
i feel reading alot of books gives us insight into lives of different people and that seems to help me in my own identity crisis. its a very easy way to explore other alternatives
For those who feel lost in their life... Buy ridge wallet...
"Life happens whether we choose to live it or not" broo when you realized that, it's life changing
It's almost like none of us where taught about managing expectations
I’m 22 next month. I was just having a week of breakdowns but watching this and finding that I’m just having an identity crisis, am in my moratorium, has really helped me. Sure my entire world view has been shaken to the core, but finally putting a label to it is a huge load off my chest. And now I know why I feel like I’m falling apart and what I need to do.
This came at the perfect time. Thank you
I turn 20 in two days. I think the best way to describe the way I feel is out of touch. Every morning I wake up with a pit in my stomach and all I want to do is go back to bed. I run away from my problems and mostly spend my time alone trying to distract from the way I feel. I feel so confused about what to believe and I feel like there is nothing to look forward to. The hardest part is that I am the only person that can do anything about it. I know I will get out of this rut somehow because I definitely don't want to hurt myself or anything, it's just gonna take some time.
You should talk about Nietzsche's organizing idea, I found it very enlightening and is also an idea from N that very few people talk about even though is very practical
Havent come across this idea, what is it ?
@@gavinedit8722 I think he's referring to Nietzsche's Übermensch. It's pretty much a way for you to live your life with some sort of fulfillment to escape the sentiment of dread and pointlessness. You become a "Superman" with values that are important to you, you live "deeper" than regular folk and therefore you achieve that fulfillment.
@@Andre39814 this idea is great on the plan : society is the enemy so we just have to fight society, right ? Problem : if everyone try it at the same time...
@@omniscientomnipresent5500 detachment from society is not anger against the society
@@arturonavarropovedano2396 this idea is great on the plan : society is the enemy so we just have to escape society, right ? Problem : if everyone try it at the same time...
damn it just turned 20 and i already hate it here
Try 23 ;-;
Same. Infinite possibilities and yet limited time = constant worrying about what to do
I am 100% convinced that conflict is the answer to all of it.
You will definitly not feel lost if you join some kind of proxy war as a mercenary
This came out at a freakishly relevant time to me. I am extremely anxious about choosing my career rn. It's reassuring to think that this might be a healthy transitional stage in my life. Thank you for making this
I feel like these stages happen more than once, kind of a seasonal depression type thing. And each time we're slightly filtering out the uncertainty, and it's a good reminder of what we can be and how we can achieve it. Kinda like that "you dont know happiness until you've been sad," saying. Maybe the stages get easier, I don't know. But either way I think it's something we just have to accept will happen, a cycle of despair ending in achievement, and be thankful it teaches us something new and valuable everytime. Or maybe I'm completely wrong, I think it's different for everyone. There's no true right or true wrong.
Feeling lost rn. I don’t know where and how to fit in. Sailing in this lonely ocean. Trying to shout and wishing to be heard by a boat that’ll rescue me. Always crying from these struggles. The thought of putting an end to myself always come and go inside my head. But scared to do it, because there’s no take 2 in real life. I miss my family and my friends. Hoping and making an effort to overcome all of these. Rooting to see myself happy and still alive 10 years from now:)
Hoping you are doing okay, from a fellow sailor lost at sea - it will be alright … even without the sight of land we can look up at the stars :)
I'm in my senior year of college and I needed this video.
I am a senior in high school and I needed this video
I feel like these type of videos are helping a lot of people shape the path they want to go in life.
Thank you for this.
Thank you for your dedication towards explaining such intriguing and noteworthy remarks. The stuck in the sea example reminded me a thing i read. The saying was along the lines of "When no one is there to save you, you become the one who will save you". When one becomes exhausted from their mental health problems, and no one around can help you, if you have a small amount of hope, you start the long search for your own salvation. Many paths are tried and the solution is searched for. Even though it hurts ,you continue.
I'm 22 and just graduated into an endless environment of existential crises. Thank you for your videos
I have no words for the timing of this video in my life.
I think that whole reason bein that these philosophies are timeless
It’s always good seeing you post more often I love all your videos and they have encouraged me to read more books and write my thoughts down. Thank you very much sir your an inspiration to me.
I just saw this video at the most absolute perfect time. Thank you, you had no idea how much I needed this. It's like you went inside the mess in my brain and came back with full sentences.
Honestly, I'm 18 but I feel like I've lived life before and there is no point in doing it again. I just started university but I want to quit, not because it's hard, I've never really had to try hard at anything to be good at it but just because why. I don't want a job, I don't care about money, I don't care about being with friends and family, I sometimes even wish that I had no friends and family because I feel that they anchor me to one spot while all I want to do is go out to open sea and drift aimlessly or get in a car, pick a random direction and drive to wherever. Being lost and aimlessness and not having a plan for the future does not make me feel lost. Waking up in the same house, seeing the same people, working with and studying with the same people makes me feel so restless and depressed I can't even explain it.
It's been years, how have you been? How are you now? I hope you're doing well, and if not, that's okay too
@@rach8619 hi, I'm actually ok. A lot of things have happened over the past 2 years. I still feel restless and I still feel like disappearing from my life but that feeling is not as strong as it use to be. I have a lot of responsibility and expectations from the people in my life and it gets overwhelming and back then the only solution I could think of was to run away but I found a different one. Not giving a shit. I've stopped caring about what everybody else wants from me and I've focused more on what I want to do. This has really shocked my family and they keep trying to sit me down and tell me that I'm screwing up my life but for the first time in god knows when I feel like I can actually breath and that's the best feeling in the world. I didn't desire anything in life because I put everybody else's opinion about what my life should look like before mine and I completely neglected myself. It's absolutely maddening to life that way. I constantly felt like screaming. I still don't want to be anchored to one place and I still want to drift but now I don't feel hopeless about it. It feels like it's suppose to be a journey. I don't know if I'm making much sense, but thanks for asking and I hope you're alright as well.
@@ollynolly4592 no matter how perfunctory it sounds, i do understand and honestly your reply gives me hope that things do get better, you also somehow managed to describe your experience in very concise sentences and i can relate to some of it at least one-thirds of it, i don't know where i'm going with that, maybe i'm just projecting (probably am, really).
i also wanted to ask, (as you are a fellow human being and perhaps have aome advice to dish out) when did you figure out what you wanted out of life? since you mentioned you've focused more on what you want to do and i wish i too, could know what i want. it's like, have you ever felt like you don't know what you want, so you just do what you think you have to, as in you pick whichever seems to make others happier or makes the most 'sense' because you don't know what would make you happy? if it's a common experience, i'd like to know if my strategy for making decisions depending on other people will lead me along the right path, or astray?
(p.s: i'm glad you're okay, I hope you keep following your heart and doing what gives you joy, you may never see this comment but know that somewhere in the world there's a stranger proud of you and hoping you're well).
@@rach8619 thanks for your comment, it's very kind and I appreciate it. As for your question, I still don't know what I want out of life for the most part. A huge part of our lives is routine and for all of us those routines are things we must do to live or must do to prepare for a future where we can't rely on our parents/guardians to support us and must stand on our own. Furthermore, there are not a limitless amount of opportunities in the world. Despite the rhetoric that we can do anything we put our minds to, there are absolutely things that limit us and it is important not to ignore those things especially if it is something that could deteriorate you financially/something to do with your personality and emotional well being. The way I make decisions now is I evaluate if it will lead to short-term or long-term satisfaction and I also list what I want out of the decisions that I make. Education, for example, is for the long-term because it is in preparation for the future. And while you can study whatever you want I personally just want to be in a career that is expanding in demand, one with good advancement opportunities as well as travel opportunities. That's what I want out of my career and I can take 3 years of studying to get to that, which will give me long-term satisfaction. I am passionate about writing, but I don't regret not picking that field because I know I am not competitive enough and what I want more than anything is to be comfortable in my life so I let that go.
Things we do spontaneously are often not for the long-term. It gives you immediate happiness, immediate satisfaction but most of the time when we made decisions like that we aren't thinking of what comes next and I don't think we should have to. Big decisions that can impact you long-term are not to be made without considering the consequences or if you're ok with the repercussions. I can for example, buy myself a concert ticket in my city, catch a train to London and go to the museum for the day, wake up and decide to not do anything but watch Netflix. None of these things are going to hurt me long-term but indulging in them makes me feel better. These are the things I would previously not do in order to meet the needs of my family and friends and I felt stuck because I didn't think they mattered but it's like trying to not scratch an itch. It will drive you insane. I hope I have answered your question, even just a little.
You’re not the space turtle yet this pain is so familiar D:
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You have a great habit of posting exactly when needed. Thank you.
This was a wonderful video. Your presentation is so clear and your delivery is as comforting as the music behind it.
19 turning 20 in two months not being in college and just working ok jobs that sea feels and sense of worthlessness hits heavy every day and night
Thanks. On behalf of every person who watched this and felt validated and heard, thank you.
I was an abused child and spent my whole life taking care of people and searching for why I am here and what everything iv ever done and happened to me was for and I feel like this man is telling me exactly what I need to hear and is subtly giving me the answer to my questions on why everything happened
I always leave these videos feeling better and motivated. Especially "on depression" and "on anxiety" i love your content ♥
It’s my first year in university and I have absolutely no idea what to do with my life. I deeply relate to this video because the mundanity of schoolwork is making me reconsider the choices I’ve made and what I want to do with my life. This video might not solve my identity crisis but it sure is pointing me in the right direction. Thanks for making this video.
If I may ask, what are you up to now? How's life going?
I'm 30 years old...I also often think about the sea analogy.. I often think I'm in the middle of the ocean and I can see the land far away. If I try to swim towards the land I get exhausted and never manage to make it. The only solution is to let the ocean flow to guide me..
But what if you drown if the waves come too fast? What do you do then? How do you manage the huge waves and might eventually kill you?
@@thesevenkingswelove9554 there is a chance they will kill you, there is no full safety in that condition. It is more about probabilities..the probabilities of you surviving by trying to swim against the ocean flow has very very low percentage of success, much better if instead you embrace the ocean flow. I don't think this should be seen as a way of "giving up trying". To embrace the ocean flow is an active action, it's an act of strength and of will. As I do believe we have to fight, but if you find yourself in that position you need to give up certain attitudes, preconceived ideas, expectations (often from others around you). And to be honest, the very big waves that can actually kill you will be often so unmanageable and out of your control that it's not worth thinking about them. As much as careful you can be about those waves, there is no way you can predict them and necessarily avoid them. Waves of other nature, (more or less..) I believe can be survived, and that's when strength and will come to play
Your videos are more helpful than any counselling I've received. I'm so glad you decided to make this youtube channel. Thank you for sharing your talents with all of us.
I'm glad i found myself alot earlier than finding this. Finally proves the flow in life truly exists.
Quit being afraid of being yourselves and do those social experiments you've always been afraid of.
To search experiences is to creating your own lives.
Stay positive, Family.
It's hard for me to imagine myself ever finding my "passion" in life; Or ever doing anything accomplishing with my life. I'd like to have a life I can look back on and feel grateful to myself knowing it was worthwhile. Based off my prospective I can't help but feel like everyone else knows what they want to do with their lives besides me. Glad to know their are people that have the same feeling as me. Theirs endless possibilities it's hard not to feel a sense of choice overload. Will I ever find the remedy. Will I ever find the life I'm lost in?
Do you have anything you're good at? Not saying you should limit yourself to things that feel natural, but if passion isn't there then building your skills is sometimes a good next step. (and, maybe you don't need a sweeping "passion" in your life - even having some "hobbies" that make your time worthwhile and are low pressure is good)
@@annabellelin7730 I dont't really have too much self worth so I'd like to think i'm pretty average at everything I do. Nothing really comes to mind when I think of something I can excel at or something that comes natural. There're plenty of different skilles/hobbies I can work on and just get Good at. It's fun to see self progress. Thats the problem thoe theirs too many things to do in this life. Too many paths. I get paralyzed bc of how much their's 2 life and i feel like choosing one thing limits myself to everything else life has to offer. I have this idea that ill eventually find my intrinsic passion that is for me and only me. I use passion in the sentence as if it's something I'm destined to do something I'm born to do. But ik I'm asking for a bit much. Life doesn't work that way. It'd b nice to have some type of hobby I can work on and see myself grow and get better at. Something that is gratifying and challenging enough to keep me motivated and idely something I can make a living off of. Doesn't have to bring in too much money. Something to keep me comfortable, something I can look forward 2. Something where when someone asks me to tell me about yourself I can be confident answering that question. Something to give my life meaning, a reason, a purpose. Just something I can b proud of.
I kinda splurged hu... thanks for listenin'.
@@yaboyradish3072 That sounds overwhelming.. sorry for the late response - I'm going through a bit of the same thing and I'm not sure what to say... I've had hobbies (I like to draw,and write a bit) but they've never been things I've "thrown" myself into. Also - what do you do to pass the time if there's no hobbies? Or are you busy?
@@annabellelin7730 Relieving to hear I'm not alone. Maybe I need to throw my self at things and wait for one to stick. Not sure. I journal sometimes but I really think that I have no hobbies what so ever. I consume a lot of UA-cam\anime. Pretty sure it's an addiction. Anything to escape ig. It's a constant loop of self hatred and mindless escapism. I probably need something productive to keep me busy to prevent me from consuming. I have too much time on my hands. I should probably try to live a little harder. Get out there. It can just be a bit hard/stressful at times. It's a lot easier to forget and distract yourself from your problems/thoughts. Thanks again for listening. I genuinely hope you can solve your current problems and live your best possible life.
This video hit very close to home... I'm 25 and in the middle of that sea, with absolutely no idea how to swim. So many possibilities, none that I am truly passionate about, some that are worth, but not easy or guaranteed to work out, especially not in this atmosphere. Life shouldn't be as messy as it is, damn it all
My advice... develop a skill that doesn't tie you down to a single path but gives you a shortlist of options. That way you can both procrastinate and learn to swim.
This video depressed me, in like all the good ways. It opened up that void of depression to me in an unusually positive manner. Not sure what path I'm going to end up taking and running with, but ultimately sure that I'll eventually come across one of those paths and, at least hopefully, become a useful member of society in some kind of way. Never seen your videos before man, but I sincerely thank you for allowing this realization to come about
I'm 23 now and I think I've recently entered the moratorium phase when I moved away from home to another country. I'm more connected to my goals and more committed to pursue the path I chose some years ago. I did not want to see this video and keep with focused and doing things but I guess there is good information here. I always think that we need to keep trying stuff and being patient in the processes of learning. Guys, to ackowledge your ressistance and remember or find why do you want to do something and the benefits it will bring.
finding purpose is tough. For the moment I think I have learn that we need to talk to people in better situations than you, ask them for ways to face this, and watch out with your environment.
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Never in my life have I felt more like I had just experienced exactly what I needed to when I need it. I just received a sign of exactly what I need to do and I feel utter shock and awe. This has been a very important 10 minutes in my life, I think.
basically try new things without expectation, even if you think you might hate it. you'll be surprised
My 20s were the best years. When I was so certain of everything. I'd had experiences that convinced me a certain version of a certain religion was true and I busied myself in that nonsense for more than a decade. But during all that I was trying to confirm my experiences with verifiable evidence. I couldn't. I also noticed that other people in other version of my religion and in different religions used the same types of arguments I used. All unverifiable. All to be accepted by faith. So it wasn't until my 30s that I began to despair. Began to see that we are stuck in a bubble. We don't know how we got here, why, or where were going, but the world is full of billions of ignorant fucks who didn't exist a few mere decades ago, but who are absolutely convinced they understand all that is necessary to know about existence. And I see evolution has shaped us this way. Not to see reality as it is, because that is ultimately unknowable and that is scary and depressing, but to be convinced in our own ignorance. It's so fucking depressing. And not only that, but many people are happy and fulfilled in their ignorance and will justify all of their disgusting behaviour. As social animals we adopt a hive mindset and create morals which we then ignorantly declare to be absolute. Killing humans is the greatest sin of all. We claim this is because our tribal deity said so, but obviously it's because we are humans ourselves. Slaughtering other intelligent and peaceful creatures like cows and pigs by the billions to stuff our greedy guts is a-okay. And we also justify this with our bullshit religions. We put ourselves at the top of all creation. Some of us imagine our consciousness is at the foundation of reality itself. Seems like another self-aggrandizing delusion to me. I know this is just a stream of consciousness that won't make sense to many because the sentences are somewhat out of context.
There's no way out. No absolute standard. No ultimate truth. No destiny. No afterlife. No hope. If I don't want to kill myself then I'd better just start happily pushing that rock up that mountain until I drop dead from exhaustion. Do I really want to pass my genes on to perpetuate this madness called life? Why? Life literally has to feed on itself to survive. What the fuck is that all about? It used to survive on just water and light, but this "wondrous creation" got the idea somewhere along the way that murdering other lifeforms would give off a huge energy increase. Except for photosynthesizing plants that feed off of light, life pretty much is "evil", killing other lifeforms to survive. But I did not ask to be born into this shitty existence, yet here I am. Wanting to survive and pass on my genes for no apparent purpose.
Instead of turning murdering humans is bad into murdering anything is bad, it's better to accept death as a natural occurance no matter the cause
Humans do beautiful things. Art, music. Humans build things greater than themselves. Cars, planes, spaceships, internet. This is how we distinguish ourselves from other life that just makes more of themself. Look to open your mind to appreciate something that humans do. As long as youre surviving, you're doing your part to contribute , or you're the thing that someone else appreciates. Probably both.
@@Metrionz All species-referential. Do dogs appreciate music and art? But they love smelling shit. Even if we enjoy those things because our bigger more complex brains are better at interpreting abstract sounds and sights. So what? I mean do it, but there's no more sense or beauty to it any any ultimate sense than a dog smelling shit.
@@sibanbgd100 I agree. I'm just pointing out the absurdity of our species' insistence that it is at the centre of anything. You are a centre of infinity, from that you conclude your species is, your planet is. And so on. The more we open our eyes the less we are convinced of such a scenario. If this is all God's doing, this God is playing a joke or doesn't really care about our suffering.
I felt this. The universe is a cold a cruel mother.
Just 15 and i know and also hope that by the time i reach 20 i will be leaving a meaningful life so thanks Sisyphus your videos are great
You could be living a meaningful life right now. It all means something. My biggest word of advice is to get into a sport or physical hobby of some kind. Weightlifting or a martial art is best I would say, but it depends on what you're into. Just don't allow yourself to fall into isolation.
I work with a 20 year old. He sees his future is bleak. I recognize it. His family, his education opportunities, his partying lifestyle. He is enjoying the pleasures of youth now, but I know he knows it won't last and he isn't happy thinking about that. What to do, what to do. Having kids is bullshit, many who get degrees are very unhappy, others turn to drugs. And a few rule the rest and they are the one who, if anything, have "made it".
Thanks, these videos always inspire me to get off my ass and really try to change myself
Video gave me a crippling sense of depression for I am absolutely lost since the first time I thought for myself. Great work, youtube channel.
somehow i need all of your videos and i come across them at a good time... thanks
If I had to guess, this seems like an issue more prominent in the West. I don't know a great deal about the philosophy but Taoism might offer alternative solution here.
Instead of going through a phase where you browse a catalog of ideologies or careers to identify with, going with your natural intuition may sidestep this issue. If you have to browse all the options before you pick one, you may fall into the trap of choice paralysis. Once here you may regret picking an ideology even if it is a great option for you as a person.
Alternatively, you can do what feels right and don't think twice about it.
I just started the moratorium stage of my life a week ago, and have been struggling greatly. This video has helped me understand more thanks
A lot of people say they were around 18-20 when they felt this but i feel like this right now at age 14, and people always tell me to enjoy it cuz it's not something i should worry about right now, but i always feel like i should be making some kind of structure to where i want to go, except i don't know where i want to go and what my interests are. In high school, i plan to try out many clubs to find out things i like, at least that was the plan. I was nervous about trying new things and i want to open up and finally get out of my shell.
It seems like all of the videos you make, even if targeted towards specific audiences who are typically older and have more experience, seem to relate to me and I'm so glad I can understand what you're saying when you explain things because I've thought about similar things again and again and I've never been able to explain it quite well when I want to share how i feel and my experience with others. I really like to talk about these types of things to people but people my age aren't worried about that and are busy with their own lives/not interested about the topic. Thank you for these videos, i really enjoy the 2nd hand knowledge from someone else besides myself!
:D so thank you!
(Just realized this video was uploaded TWO YEARS AGO... that's crazy)
felt that confusion ever since i could think critically. the only time i ever felt grounded was when i had nothing to worry about other than things like remembering the schedule of my favorite shows on tv or when i could play with my friends next. ever since i've been under the impression that one day i'll just figure out everything. myself, my purpose, etc. i think the sooner i accept that i might not ever come to a satisfying conclusion the sooner i wont feel so lost.
I feel the same way. Thank you for putting it into words
True, accepting it, but also exploring different options and ideas despite of it, making your identity an ever changing concept.
somethingsomething thingy agreed. fluidity and openness are definitely things i've been trying to work on. i think they'll help me cope with the sense of helplessness i get from knowing just how undetermined life is lol.
@sisyphus 55 Hey man just wanted to say that your channel has seriously been a huge reason for why I have enough cash to survive during covid. Deep conversation on life's meaning among a ton of college educated strangers at a Starbucks got me a huge salary. Just need you to know that the information is not only helpful in dealing with our internal conflicts but also for our understanding of other people around us.
Thank you. Really opened my eyes to my reality.
This one was eye-opening for me. It showed me I still have time to make my inner world correlate more with my outer world. I can be who I want to be to me, and to the world! My identity is no longer closed.
Teared up a little at the cold wind of time analogy, damn
Sisyphus and ridge been goin strong for a few years now 😂
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Phenomenal video, man, thank you. Content like this is really sincerely valuable to people like me, and I really kinda wish I didn't have to go out of my way to find discussion like this.
Thank you, really needed this rn.
Thanks man. I'm definitely feeling this one. That "lost at sea" feeling. I've been trying different careers, earning different certifications, etc.
But the biggest thing that's been eating at me is that no matter how much I improve, how much I continue to strive forward, certain things keep me down. I've asked out all of two women, both this year when I felt I was at my peak, the best I've ever been mentally and physically. Both rejected me on the grounds that I was, and I quote, "just not attractive".
That hurt. I used to be obese, but I spent a lot of time getting into good shape. I considered myself a decent looking human being. Now that I've moved away from people and back to my family for community college, I am overwhelmed by this feeling of loneliness and worthlessness. I'm just not enough.
I'm getting my EMT certification, but what if that's not what I really want? It won't make me more wanted. And what good is a career and money if I feel dead inside anyway.
I just want to be a regular, happy man. One who loves and is loved. Someone who had someone, or something to work for, fight for.
I feel so pointless that I kinda wish I could just get blown away by the next storm, either die, or get blown away to another world and start again.
I'm only 21 and I already feel like my life is over, I've struck out, and I need to quit and restart...
Hey man i relate to your post a lot. I had some childhood traumas which in turn made me very anxious and depressed. Sometimes i feel "broken" and that i will never get "fixed". Im currently on a path to self acceptance. I will say therapy and meditation have helped me. Wish u all the best
CarlsGuy I in turn relate to that too
I think that most people are confused about their identity because they want to know what to do but don’t realize that who they are is already in effect, it’s not so much WHAT you do, but HOW you do it. The things you do have no effect on the universal order, but the way you do them shows your identity. Everyone is unique, but that’s cliché so people write it off, but look at it this way. You and your coworker both do the same job every day, same hours, same place, same task. But the things you say, the attitude you bring, the small insignificant mannerisms you produce that you have no idea that you enforce, those are what give you meaning. Which is why sometimes when you have an identity crisis and people compliment you, you don’t feel like they’re being genuine, because you project yourself outward. They see all the things that you do, you only see what your eyes do, so your personality seems nothing more than autopilot. But the autopilot is what makes you YOU. So next time you wonder who you are, just observe yourself closely, see what you ARE doing, rather than what you WANT to be doing. Because the only path to self actualization is through introspection and observing yourself through the eyes of those closest to you
It's good to see your channel grow to the point where you're able to get sponsorships in your videos. Can't wait to see you keep growing.
Wow, you made me feel more comfortable about myself. Thank you.
(Disclaimer: This is exclusively from my perspective and life experiences). I think a lack of adequate parenting is a major contributing factor to many people feeling lost in life. Parents nowadays (at least mine) have no idea how to guide and mentor their children. No longer are mothers and fathers taking their kids under their wings and helping them to develop life skills, but simply relying on less than adequate systems like schools and au pairs and nannies to do that for them, resulting in people who can recite the quadratic formula on command but have no idea what they like, dislike, or want out of their life.
I love these videos with a mix of major philosophies
bless you, all my thoughts in a video. I feel so out of body in this experience but I know I am not alone. Thanks
More than a year ago i had a strong, deep feeling inside that everything will work out for me in the near future and i'll find my path, today, i'm planning suicide at my 20th birthday in May, as i've found out there is no real path for me, only distractions and shitty ways to cope with life.
Things don't exactly magically work out for people however through the right mode of being you can work things out over time. If you thinking of suicide because your current life is not worth living but there is a life you can imagine yourself having that would be worth living then stick it out. I think when when thing improve in life you can get to a point where there is enough meaning in your life to make it worth living and the suffering bearable. Personally Jordan Peterson has helped me out with the question of whether life is worth living and helped me get things straight in my life, so I'd recommend his ideas if you looking for that sort of thing. My Dad commited suicide 2 years ago (when I was 18) and I've experienced how something like that can destroy the people around you. Hope you find your way
Hey man, keep on. Life isn't easy and it was never meant to be easy. Be patient and concentrate on the day. If you don't see a real path for you, it's up to you to create one. Personally, people like Jordan Peterson and David Goggins helped me to understand some important things in life. You are only 20, you don't have to have figured life already out. Life your life and figure it out along the way. My Cousin commited suicide last year at 26. It didn't made the world an ounce better. It destroyed the people around.
Look out for yourself, greetings from Germany.
Aye man, what do you mean by no path for you?
@Stop my ego. i enjoy alan watts lectures as well
g8Q0wHY 19th but same
im less lost in life as i feel just misplaced. everything seems to be.. fine and normal, but i just switch inbetween euphoria at best and, jut feeling horrid andwanting to die at worst. im not even sure who i am, in terms of name, gender. these classifications have become so meaningless to me. i live the absurd. everyone around me is so noisy, loud, they talk all the time but say nothing.
i want to run away but im too young to work and support myself so i just feel like a useless leech waisting my time listening to lectures that i do no give a shit about. im not even 20 but.. i dnt know. somehow you feel important yet at the same time as worthless as an ant to be crushed under the sole of someone elses foot.
I recommend trying new things, and getting out of your comfort zone a little more it’s doesn’t have to be dramatic of a change. Just try 1 or two new things a week weather it be food, working out, locations, or people you meet
it makes life more enjoyable.
I'm in this exact state in life rn I really enjoy this thank you
Most important video i watched in a while! Thanks Sisyphus 55
Do you know any philosophers which talk about the idea of "the feeling of missing out"?.
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This made me feel a lot more reassured emotionally and not with all the supporting information. Thank you!
The music goes along with it so well, I hope whoever is reading this will help them, my personal tip is it a feeling of fulfillment but always strive for better, it's like a mix
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Free will is an illusion!!
We are all puppets getting pulled by the strings
the ambience in these videos are what make them so great !!
I wish I would have seen this video 14 months ago when I had a complete existential crisis and went from devout Christian to nihilist within a week of my faith completely dissolving. But, I digress, because within those 14 months I have had a very gradual reawakening. I've learned many things from many different people and teachers, and although I am not completely happy and I can admit I'm about 1% of the way to where I want to be, I can also say for sure that I am truly happy for once in my life. I have a direction. I found meaning in the things that I love, that being my family (most of my family isn't even blood either) and close friends, and I am pursuing the path of the Buddha. It is not for everyone, but Buddhism is doing wonders for my life.