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The worst part of loneliness is when you watch a movie and want to share your opinion with someone but you have nobody and you end up talking to yourself
Relatable. Most of my conversations nowadays are smalltalk, which I don't mind but I personally crave to have much deeper conversations and hang out with like minded people.
This is such serious issue, since we’re indeed built for good connections with others and quality time with friends. Scrolling through social media and texting don’t fulfill one’s social needs, unfortunately. That’s why we feel so lonely; we have unlearned to have qualitative real-life conversations and pay genuine attention to each other. Loneliness has taken a huge toll on my mental health and I hope it will get better in the future
boy you think that hurts try going to your own home and realizing that sixty percent of the time you have no family members around you or any friends at home to hug you or to ask you "how's your day been?"
@@boneshrimp6486 I've been forced to dump some friends because they drain my happiness and I have been trying to find a new crowd that makes me happy rather than miserable. Maybe it's time for you to look for better friends that bring you up.
@@kirimaruisao4094 I feel you, I regret it so much. I wish I didn't ignore my only friend that I atleast feel comfortable to talk to. It all start when my old friend finally came to my class, shes always absence and I thought it was because I wasn't a good enough friend for her, but I want to spent more time with her(I was an idiot), so I left my other friend behind, I got carried away and didn't talk to my other friend for 2 days, now she think I hate her. I apologize to her and she won't even talk to me anymore, and my old friend keeps skipping class. I have no friends at all right now. I don't know what have my life turn into. I keep abandon my online friends (which I also feel very guilty about) to the point where I abandon my friends that I can talk always to. I just thought I wasn't good enough so I push people away, but I regret it for hurting their feelings. Although they may have forgotten about me now. I don't want friends or lover. I just want comfort. I'm so stupid, I miss everyone and I wish I'm not in this stupid phase.
I was once in class, and i stood behind a curtain to see og anyone would remember i Was there. And yes it was after a break so the teacher knew i was at school that day, and we had the same teacher Before, and after the break. No one, not even my best friend remembered me. So when i came out from hiding, i asked why they didnt say anything. They all didnt know i was at school that day. Yes this is a true story, and they actually didnt know i was at school. If you have any questions, i would gladly reply.
I began tearing up from how well they explained the daily living hell of loneliness I have, and began straight up crying when they explained how I actually can help my self..thank you so much.
It's because everyone feels like they have to put on an act to fit in but that means no one is genuine and we feel that in our gut so we eventually just don't bother with people more than necessary
@@saldownik it's hard to tell. But here are my two cents. It really depends on our further evolution. If the humanity will see that doing fine without much interaction and staying individualistic, then we will become more individualistic. If we'll see that it is an irrelevant way, we won't. Right now I think we'll stay the way we are now, social creatures. Even now there are a lot of cultures and societies which encourage collectivism. The western society is a different beast, we're pretty individualistic, but then again, we really we the rising loneliness problem
Loneliness is when you’re surrounded by people, but don’t feel connected with them. You have hours of conversation, but still feel empty and unsatisfied. You try to speak up, but they don’t understand.
A little late but here i go: So i had this problem back in school too. My "friends" were nice and all. I talked a lot with them but it never felt right. Sometimes i didnt say what i meant other times i just couldnt speak up. The thing is (and thats the hard part) theyre not real friends. Trust me if they hurt you (in anyway) or you dont feel comfortable around them -> get fucking rid of them. Real friendship is so different from that i still cant believe it. I dont have to think what im saying. It just clicks and i just feel happy now. Youve to try again and again and thats the hardest part of the problem. Every relationship is like that. Youve to sort out the troublemakers/idiots/etc. and to do that youve to just try (again and again...). Its not going to be easy but hang in there and believe in yourself. Your future self will thank you. Youll think back and it will be crazy how it changed. Hope this somehow helps. Feeling lonely is probably one of the worst things out there but its cureable. Meeting new people makes you vulnerable and consumes a lot of time/energy but in the end its the only way.
Hey, just wanted to come back here to say that this video seriously improved my life last year. It made me realize during one of the worst times in my life that I was significantly isolating myself, making it worse. It encouraged me to reach out to people, and though I didn't make any life changing friendships, it made my senior year of high school a hell of a lot more bareable. So, yeah. Though you'll probably never see this, thank you.
I'm also watching this in senior year right now and I really hope it changes something. Living like this is hell, but your comment gives me hope it might get better
It gave awareness to me. I’m in denial that I’m in a terrible position, probably because I saw it as a sign of vulnerability and weakness if I admit it, but this made me understand that loneliness is normal, not something to be ashame of.
I watched this video 4 years ago and it's just been suggested on my algorithm. I wanted to come back here and say that this video set the ball in motion which massive improved my mental health and my life. I live in a new country now and it's scary and would have been too lonely in my mind 4 years ago but now it excites me to be alone and make new friends again. I bought and read 'Loneliness' by John Cacioppo & William Patrick and then bought it for people in my life i want to support. Thank you Kurzgesagt, i hope your videos continue to help people in a rut as I was. Ry
Now that you know you feel lonely you can start trying to fix it. Try a teamsport or call someone else to ask how've they been. Will be a painfull journey due to the fear of rejection as described in the vid. But remember that by showing interest in someone else is a good deed worth doing even if you don't get anything back.
@@goroland6904 I have the same problem. How am I supposed to have a social life when nobody cares about me enough to invite me to anything? My ex-”friends“ were like parasites, taking and never giving. I‘ve cut them off and now I‘m alone, but it‘s still better than pretending that people care about you.
From my experience, this seems to work. I had friends before 2020 but none of them were very close, and even tho I barely have any friends now, I feel less lonely than before because I’m better at occupying myself. Not having friends but keeping myself happy is probably not a permanent solution but it’s definitely a good first step toward not being lonely, I guess it’s like fully figuring myself out before rejoining society and trying to make friends again
For the last 10 yrs I'm a complete social outcast(used to be an outcast in my childhood too but not completely), I'm so lonely I talk to myself for hours very loudly like I'm talking to someone because I got no one to talk to literally no one. 😢☹️
You know, sometimes talking to yourself isn't a bad thing, sure you'd like to talk to another person but at least when you talk to yourself, there isn't any fear of a negative response :)
Can confirm it by personal experience. For me, therapy was no easy path, but it saved my life and made me grow immensely. Glad I found the courage to start and keep at it despite the difficult moments. There's light and life waiting for those who venture. The most difficult and most important part is doing the first step! It just means making a phone call or sending an e-mail, but we'll be glad we took that small, first step.
@@housecat1674 damn. that sucks. I know it dont feel like it... but that was not you. that was them. I had 2 experiences where I tried. one was great. one was not, and I let it ruin me. *1 - in hs in florida we had a nice outdoors campus (art school). during lunch, I saw an obviously (facial/body expression) lonely boy sitting against a pillar looking down at the grass. I said "Hey man what's up? you new? want to go for a walk?" and he did. we had fun that one time. we never hung out with each other after that day, but he had made friends and always smiled and said hello to me in the halls. (I was art, he was music - no shared classes) *2 - another time in hs, after school by the bus loading area, there was a nervous looking, very quiet kid with glasses. I thought the other time was good.. I made someone happy and I felt good. so I stood right in front of him, waved and said "hello!" and he just stared at me. I repeated my word... and he blinked. I felt so sad. like I was bothering him. I said sorry and slunk away. I never fucking did that again. it was stupid of ME. in hindsight, i shouldn't have ever let myself feel shame for reaching out. * years later, I saw the boy from story 1. he was so happy to see me, and told me and the friends he was with, that I'd never know how much I changed his hs experience just from that one day. he made a lot of friends. I wish I could have been his friend, but it didn't happen - we were really different and lived far from each other. what I'm trying to say, is we'll never be able to reach someone who isn't ready or willing to be reached. but this reaching out and trying again is a real thing that can have such an impact... well I lied. I did reach out again. i met my last significant other inside of an abandoned building.. and I saw him a few weeks later walking in the streets where I lived. I pulled over and said "hey. wanna go for a drive?" he did. then i killed him... not. but we did joke about how i could have... we've been together 8 years. o.o
wanderingintime bro thank you so much wtf out of all the people I talked to about it your UA-cam comment was the wisest and made me feel the most better, what a great start to my day! Also for a second I believed the killing joke lolll
That's why I'm always nice and helpful to strangers. You never know if you're their match to light up their inner fire (again). You might be giving them hope in their darkest hours. Or even just a smile on a bad day. We all need these moments.
I did the same thing. I learned around 7 years old that life is hell so I just became the nice kid. Although as I got older people saw that as a weakness. Everyone new I never curse the most I said In 6 grade was hell while everyone else cursed like no tomorrow. Then one kid got on nerves and basically everyone from 6th grade was at the outside tables and I yelled to one guy who just wouldn’t shut up. “Hey! Shut the fu*k up.” Everyone went silent, and honestly that was the first time anyone saw my true colors. But it ended as soon as it began.
Thank you for this. I felt lonely for most of my life, and thought that people hated me, therefore I should not be around anybody. My husband gave me confidence, but my loneliness still come back every now and then.
Go find them! Don't sink into the hole. There's nothing good in the hole. There are lots of people who relate to you and who could potentially be your friends. Just keep trying.
I'm the one who connects everyone while im just a broken connection line. It's pretty painful when you see everyone around you care for each other and not you while you're the main connector, as if you're the power cable that connects cities but no one cares for your maintenance. Being a loyal person, this is a bullet to the gut.
Dumble King I’m the same way, now I spend most of my free periods thinking about what could have been if I didn’t make so many mistakes while everyone else is having fun and joking around
This video has really opened my eyes, I always want to talk to people in public but I'm always too scared of what they'll think of me. This is just a reminder for my future self, talk to more people when you get the chance. For all I know, people might want to talk to me too and they're afraid as well. I have to take the first step, I'll try my best to hold myself accountable. I hope anyone who reads this goes out of their way to talk to people as well, it'll be worth it in the long run even if we get rejected. Life is all about learning
Marceline Morales okay, so as the video itself recommends, I’m trying to lift somebody’s mood up although it’s not what I would normally do. But I can tell you that feeling left behind the group is a very familiar feeling. In fact, now that I think about it it’s been a long time since I actually cared about it because it happened so many times that it kinda became a normality for me to feel left out. Or maybe I just got used to it or I’m not trying anymore or whatever the video says. Anyways, in my case, I know that people would have accepted me if I tried a bit harder therefore I think you can choose not to be alone and maybe if you give yourself a chance( or multiple chances) you can get yourself out of that isolation bubble. And also you’re probably cool and funny and if you haven’t found the right people around you yet then just keep being yourself. I hope it didn’t make you feel sadder, lol
That’s what happened to me for a field trip. The field trip is tomorrow and I was put in a group full of guys who I barely know. I’m afraid of being humiliated if I go cause of the boys and other girls in a group together. So I can stay home or take my chances of humiliation. What should I do?
@@sanchez5863 If the field trip is something worth going to, then sure! Be yourself, and don't be scared. We all say things at the wrong time when we're nervous and feel out of place, so just take some breaths, and reassess where you are. I was the "lone wolf" in middle school, and a bit through high school as well. I've done TONS of really awkward things, and my heart races when just being spoken to. If people are speaking to you, listen, and I mean REALLY listen. Ask good questions, and be polite! Be calm, and when people talk to you, respond. Boys or girls, in the end, they're only your peers!
Who else imagines (Im)possible conversations with strangers, teachers, hypothetical girlfriend. But then you realize that they are not gonna happen. They stay in your mind, get forgotten. You deceive yourself, end that is the loneliest feeling in the world
I remember trying to strike up a conversation with strangers a couple times and every time I get a dirty look. I just be like damn. Only trying to say where'd you get that ice cream cone.
Can we for a moment appreciate how kurzgesagt always adds the footnotes that connect pretty much everything they say to a peer reviewed research data? This is where the spirit of research and science, and a safeguard to conspiracy theories lie.
Yeah!! I love the footnotes, it takes a little more time and effort but it adds so much credibility and gives people who are interested places to read further.
Thank you very much for this video. I know exactly what you're talking about. I'm 48 now and have been alone, so to speak, for 20 years. There are no friends or family, my day consists of getting up to go to work and then I just hope the day goes by quickly so I can lie down so I can go back to work. With the Corona pandemic, I stopped participating in social life in general. And yes, I have developed the attitude that all people are shit. Even if I look at the world, it doesn't help me much to get out of this depression. I've come to terms with the fact that at some point I'll just be dead and no one knows who I was. So to everybody else, look after yourselfs and keep being social. Bye
"Being depressed and lonely is like living your days with a knife stuck in your heart. The worst part about it, is that no one notices, no one cares to notice... making you slowly bleed to death."
I forgot how to interact with people, my universe is made of my bed, youtube and books. I have so much to share but nobody to share it with, probably like all of you here.
Try to have a look around: in almost every big city there are "centers" talking about some topics in particular, Facebook and other networks have pages / channels focused on some topic, Telegram too has channels like that (for example, there's a Telegram's channel called Link4Universe, same name of a UA-cam channel, talking about Cosmo and Astrophysics). Nowadays, "Internet" turned tons of people into zombies who throw there their mind as trash (for a huge amount of reasons like culture, mental habit, force of will, laziness, etc), but it's not like there everywhere! This UA-cam channel is an example, where contents are high-quality ones :D
I watched this video for the First time a couple of years ago, and i can safely Say that these 10 minutes changed my life, now I cried watching It again after solving most of my social problems, thank you from the bottom of my heart
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I got hit with a lethal triple combo: loneliness, social anxiety, and crippling depression. So I’m watching this video and I’m like fuck, I should hit up my old friend and try to get back in it. Then depression is right behind me like that meme from icarly where Gibby beats Spencer with a stop sign. God, I guess I’ll just have to commit myself to one more day, and keep doing that.
This video kind of made me realize that loneliness is part of the reason I overshare so much. I lack social interaction so much that when I finally get it I overshare like crazy and scare off new people.
You!!!! I relate so much and then i am scared that they dont care. But i wanna share so badly that i still tell them even if they dont care. I just want somebody to listen to me
Preach brother preach! Is what i would say if i used reddit like you. But because i'm a human being with an iq above room temperature i cringed at this.
Really the UA-cam trending tab just nominates videos that the algorithm thinks is good rather then what people watch, but I do agree that in this day and more people are feeling more lonely than ever
Depression is mental illness and it's not something that should make you feel worse. I am depressed too and I don't hide it. If people think it's "icky", then fuck them.
I'm at the point of loneliness where I talk to myself constantly and I sometimes come up with my ideal " best friend " and imagine the amount of fun I'd have if i had real friends. I feel more comfortable talking to myself more than anyone now, I realise now that I have crushing anxiety.
Yeah I have the same problem as well and at places like school it's like I can't connect with people I don't know and I can just barely connect to my friends.
You can have loneliness even with friends and family, because loneliness is having nobody you feel safe with, comfortable with to tell them anything you want.
Very true. I work in the construction industry. God help you if you admit loneliness or any psychological or emotional problems. You'd become the target of merciless ridicule. I work in an office. A homeless person took cigarette butts from the Smoker's Station ashtray . Our company offers counselling by a professional company for those who need it. My coworker pinned a copy of the offer of counselling to the ashtray. "Why did you do that?" I asked. "Because it's for losers" he replied.
Worst apart of loneliness is having no one to share your thoughts with so they just sit inside your head Like seeing a movie or show or playing a game and wanting to tell someone how cool it was but not having anyone to tell it to
I just speak to myself and dont realize it. Then when i do realize it i just feel lonely. I like talking to myself but I also feel like i shouldnt be doing it.
I've been forced into loneliness my entire life. A childhood of relentless bullying and neglect and an adult life of isolation and being a workaholic just to survive. I've never had any friends and I'm about to hit 30. It hurts so, so much. I just break down and cry sometimes because I don't know how to deal with it. If someone has family that cares, or friends that go out of their way to spend time with them, they need to hang onto that bond, that love and never let go. It's easy to be alone. But when it's all you know, the loneliness they comes with it is the worst kind of torture you can ever go through. Because until you make those connections, you have to pretend you're okay, and just hope someday it'll go away.
Honestly same. The girl I'm trying to date is no longer really replying. I don't know if I did something wrong or if she's just busy, but i do know that i feel lonely because i don't have many friends available to talk.
This is one of my favorite videos. I’ve shared it as a teaching tool, reviewed it before discussions, read the books and one of the articles (skimmed the others), and, over time, I can see the changes it’s made in me. 🦆
That is quite a claim, as well as the obesity one, I thought. I would have liked to see a source for this. Till then I just take it as a filler statement more for effect.
I don't see how this should make anyone feel less lonely. They're in the exact same spot as before, equally lonely and pathetic. But perhaps I'm just too pessimist.
To all my lonely dudes watching this: we're in this together. And we'll overcome it. It shouldn't end like that. You're all amazing and I believe in you. Love from Russia.
@@duffy6542 I got a worse kind of loneliness. It's the one where you're the one who don't care about anyone. It can be even worse than not having anyone in the first place. I have to pretend in order to keep my social bonds but, really, if 90% of people I know disappeared, I wouldn't miss them. And it's not because they're bad, in fact most are very awesome people. I just can't bring myself to care, idk why.
@@GabrielFerCav Maybe you just dont feel like you actually relate to any of them on a deeper level or you dont really care about the things that you do with them. your friends arent catering to your emotional needs in the way you desire or doing the kind of activities that bring you joy, fullfillment, or actually have real value to you. im kind of having a bit of that issue too. It's not that my friends arent great people and I do genuiney care about their well being, but if im honest with myself for alot of them if our friendship was to end or we stopped talking it wouldnt really bother me.
I’m so grateful to have one really close friend, it feels like a privilege . Even though I still feel lonely at times, I remind myself that I always will have her.
Well yeah, it's weird to see this video with a group of people. It's better to see this by yourself because everyone is different and everyone feels lonely at different times
“Loneliness is twice as deadly as obesity, and as dangerous as smoking a pack of cigarettes a day” That one hit me hard bro... I have never and will never smoke, and I’m healthy and in shape, but maybe I need to spend more time keeping myself *emotionally* healthy... Edit: Holy crap this got a lot of likes! I’ve never gotten this many! Thx!
This one got me aswell, unfortunately I'm smoking a pack cigarettes a day and this made me feel really scared. By pure luck this video popped up when I'm trying to quit.
@@volkantaskin9620 Two birds in a shot, hope you finally feel less lonelier (maybe you aren't lonely and I just assumed it) and end with the cigarette problem
@@αγρ-κ6λ thank you brother, actually there are even more birds, I'm made myself a little bit lonely by smoking too much weed, after a while I got disconnected with my friends, and the only thing I wanted was just to smoke on my own all day. but I'm fighting now to make everything fine again, it is really hard for me right now, but I feel better each day. Thanks for your support!
This describes exactly everything about me. Been all alone for many years, recently I realized something and this video confirmed all of it. This video may save my life. So thank you for this.
@@akashmlal Been alive thirty years this month. Can't say it's ever gotten better for me, and I'm getting too old to hope it'll ever change. Platitudes don't fix anything, I'm afraid.
yes, and that's why u should accept that, it's not special nor uncommon.. you shouldn't feel too bad for the situation, but be calm and find a way to overcome it instead
@@Varsocona the only thing i can recommend is: try zome sort of sport/game/hobby not alone but instead in some sort of learning group. football/self defense school/basketball or maybe a hobby biking/DnD/paintball or maybe a new skill cooking classes/language/a new degree the thing is learning something or working as a team will not only bring you in contact with others but also help you reinstall your socialskills.
Wow, I wanted to say "thank you." This is one of the most insightful, practical, and intuitive documentaries I've watched. I've sent this to my family members and friends.
@@IllMatic97 bro did you watch the video? That's exactly what we should prevent. I don't know you nor do I think I can know you though one small online exchange in hundreds we will both have by the end of the week probably. But. From me to you I do send you a hug. Not because you're sad, angry, depressed, or necessarily lonely. Just because I don't feel we should see rejection and social discardment as normal. Maybe you'll laugh this off, be creeped out, or ignore me. But it took me about 2 minutes to write this the way I wanted lol 😅. So consider those 2 minutes sent to you as well with the hug since they were dedicated.
Watching this, alone, on my bed, whilst I’m supposed to be revising, having had a sleepless night, a tightening chest, a sick feeling in my stomach, no one to talk to, nowhere to go outside and all my friends are away. I understand this more than I wish I did.
The worst thing that comes about of loneliness is when you feel the overwhelming desire to just talk, talk to someone about nothing and everything, about yourself, about ideas, memories, dreams and fears... And realize there's no one. Edit: this comment getting so many likes means there's so many people feeling this way. I'm praying for you to connect with other people soon guys. And always remember to be kind to yourselves 💕
I been suffering for loneliness and depression since summer of 2019 and I really don't know what to do with myself currently. I do have friends and family's like most people out there do, but something special is really missing for me and I really don't know what it is for me. That last special puzzle piece is really missing for me out their and its important. Trying to figure out what it means. it feels like something is truly missing for me that I have not yet experience. I really haven't found that special something for me yet out there and Its really hard to find that special piece for me. Its really hard to find that last puzzle piece. I been thinking about that too much. It feels like I'm about to lose to my depression and my loneliness who can't find that last piece to the puzzle. I wasn't feeling like myself for a few months now. It feels like I'm being defeated who can't win. I'm worthless.😞
@sonicgalaxy27 Islam is that missing piece. It'll solve all your problems just like it did to me; because Allah subhanh understands us as humans more than anyone.
@@sonicgalaxy27 uninstall all the social media apps and go on with your routine. Do things that matter to you, that make you feel like yourself, like reading/painting/dancing/hiking. Think about the people around you, those who may need your help..there's so much to do in this beautiful life than keep waiting for the special person and feel depressed in their absence..Social media influences this so much to us that so many people lose themselves in the race of finding someone special and not acknowledgong the beautiful people we already have in our life..
Loneliness has helped me a lot personally. It has taught me how to entertain myself better, which has lead to more interests in things such as learning or meditation. I think it is okay to like being alone. I personally do enjoy my alone time. I get overwhelmed being around people often times and feel drained by social interaction. I am not antisocial by any means though, just more reclusive and introverted. I prefer quality over quantity in all things, especially company. And I try to be grateful for every day, whether it has been a challenging day full of suffering, or an easy day full of pleasure. I like contrast in experience because I feel it necessary to better understand ourselves as individuals, and to better understand our own truths, whatever they may be. I like your videos. They are good entertainment and are very thought provoking, whether I agree or not with everything they say. Thank you :)
escapism is how i deal with it. stories, shows, books. it's like i live in their world for a little. and honestly, if i really had the chance to go to a fantasy world someday; i'd probably take it.
I litterally was sitting in my room and crying while watching this video.. I've been betrayed and left so many times that it seems pointless, and any social interaction is asking to be hurt.
loststar your giving up hope and going into the whole, stay out of the whole, there’s nothing good in it, I’ve been there, and it got better, keep going, no matter what life throws at you
Love and pain come through the same door. You need to be careful who you let in and out of it. You cannot experience love without the risk of pain. But also allow these experiences to build some emotional resilience. There’s some great ted talks on vulnerability you should watch. It sounds like they’re exactly what you need.
Yeah, the video doesn't get the most important part. It is not that we don't try to reach for others, it is simply that most people is just shitty. I literally only have 1 friend i can trust, and the sad part is that some people don't even have that.
Divine Jacob Mathew You might not have propper friends. Not the greatest thing to say here... But I only redescovered the people I truly cared about ( and vice versa) at the age of 22.
I turn 60 in 11 days and I will be sitting alone in an empty home. Up till 4 weeks ago I was a part time carer for my elderly mother which took up my days not leaving much time for myself but 2 weeks ago unfortunately it reached a stage where she required more care that I could give and as such the decision had to be made to move her into a nursing home it just about broke my heart having to do this 💔 but now I sit here alone and I now realise just how lonely I am and how much I have missed in my life especially having that someone special in life too love. 💔
I sit in class alone since the past 3 years. I'm like invisible to everyone, they don't even bully me, I'm like invisible for real. I once tried to miss some classes and go home and the next day no one cared, like what if someone kidnapped me...
I used to have this small group of friends last year. They were the best guys I’ve ever had. They were there when I was this lonely kid who couldn’t relate to the majority of the rest of the student body. So many laughs we made videos together, went to each other’s houses.. it was so fun with these four guys... Until suddenly, they’re gone.. one moved away for economic reasons. Another is always with his girlfriend and doesn’t have time to hang with us anymore. The other became home schooled. One went back to Mexico, and came back here but in a different city. This year, I walk the halls alone. With no other friends, at least “real” friends. I don’t fit in at all.. I don’t relate to the majority of the rest of the students. I found myself just alone with no one else. Don’t say, “just go make new friends.” It’s hard and I don’t RELATE to anyone. For now, it’s just been me.. and I rarely ever or get the chance to call them. I’m not jealous that other people hang out in their friend group. They deserve the happiness found within each other. It’s not their fault, it’s my own. I know this because if I blamed others for my own misery, it’ll make me a worse person. I don’t pity myself, I’m not this anti social weirdo, I’m capable of joking and getting along with others.. but I don’t find them to be true friends, I don’t know anyone. I think, that my deepest desire, is to “escape.” Run away to another place to find my own happiness. Yet I don’t think I’ll ever find that. Even if I did go to another place, will I find what I’m looking for? I haven’t laughed in a long while. I Know I’m Isolated, I know that I’m lonely. But what am I suppose to do? I don’t know anyone in these classrooms I walk into everyday. I can see their laughing or crying faces, stories of what they did over each other’s homes. They remind me of the friends I used to have. The stories we told each other. We all once went to this forest area near a lake and saw a huge snake by a ravine. You know what stupid shit we did? We pushed each other toward it. We went over each other’s houses and role played Batman, we tackled each other on the floor. We once snuck in Homecoming through an open window... it was crazy but we had fun! Until nearly an hour later we were caught without passes so we hid from the security. We also nearly drowned each other during Sping Break when we went to this Water Park, I also accidentally pushed a little boy in the deep end so we had to save him and the boy’s mom got mad. It was funny though. We went together for Christmas and mostly played uno, timber and smash and Cards Against Humanity. I miss the crazy shit we did. I miss them. Because the things we did didn’t make sense to others. But we did them because we wanted to have fun. Because we understood each other deeply, who we were. Imagine all the crazy shit that happened that made you feel alive, made you feel like you were a part of something bigger. I still have their phone numbers, we barely text but it’s just so frustrating. I’m not suicidal or a negative person. I have no clear direction of what I want in life. I have no goals or any motivation. I don’t know what I want. But even so, I’ll cherish them, hold dear to them.. maybe we’ll see each other once again. Maybe not. But I won’t let my loneliness get the best of me. Just because I’m lonely doesn’t mean I have to be negative.
@Curry Rose @smaple the only one you can make that it stop is yourself, you know. You have to get out of that comfort zone and put yourself out there. Maybe the first 50 people you come across won't care, but maybe the 51st person would and then continue doing that. It's a lot of effort, but anything worth having needs effort. I wish you the best. Don't be afraid to put yourself out there, because trust me, you're not ALONE with this feeling.
"#1 ON TRENDING" really says something about our day and age. Things are looking up though because you have youtube channels like this one that's positively influencing the world.
Look in to how your brain works. You’ll discover exactly what you think and feel the way you do. One thing you can start doing right away, is flipping the script. Those thoughts that bring you down, change it to something you’re grateful for. Change your brain, change your reality
KepleroGT unfortunately in most societies there is no control over who can become a parent. Although ideally they should, in reality many don’t know it themselves. Schools should level the playing field so that those who were born to crap parents don’t also become crap parents. Trust me it is better for everyone that we have less of those.
Actually, after having applied this methodology, still thinking to have just fullfilled a natural need, that feeling can get much worse, this time without any form of practicality to solve it. To say that we have a biological urge or convenience to stay with others may be true, but to pretend to capitalize loneliness on it it´s actually a biological reduction. Loneliness is also related to how we interact with the world, if it is hostile or if it allows refuge, it´s sociological/philosohical, existential.
Exactly what I thought when watching this. I've not had any friends for such a long time, that my life span is probably already been completely fucked up by now .
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Hi!
nice
Good theme
The worst part of loneliness is when you watch a movie and want to share your opinion with someone but you have nobody
and you end up talking to yourself
Why are you doing this to me.
I saw it as the good part of loneliness but ok. . . Toby_ Belle has a point.
Záncibar well the OGC did say that it was the worst part for them....
Same with video games I can’t find anyone that play bf1 or bf4 because everyone is playing fortnite and I can’t have so I can’t reach out to anyone
Damn :(
The worst thing is being around people and feeling like you are invisible
ZENO I feel called out
To those with social anxiety, that is the BEST thing.
@@fatcat1250 Feeling invisible?? I guess.
feeling invisible is what i want to be actually
Agreed
Conversations that I have:
4% with real people
96% in my mind
same here
Relatable. Most of my conversations nowadays are smalltalk, which I don't mind but I personally crave to have much deeper conversations and hang out with like minded people.
@@Lilflip20128 I wish for the same thing
can you stop with memes?
Yep
This is such serious issue, since we’re indeed built for good connections with others and quality time with friends. Scrolling through social media and texting don’t fulfill one’s social needs, unfortunately. That’s why we feel so lonely; we have unlearned to have qualitative real-life conversations and pay genuine attention to each other. Loneliness has taken a huge toll on my mental health and I hope it will get better in the future
The worst is..when u spend time with ur "friends" and feel like u don't belong there anymore. Such a contradicting feeling that is.
I have 0 friends
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@@abcdefglol3188 hello?
The worst thing is going from feeling extremely lonely, to extremely fulfilled, then lonely again
That hits deep
Happens to me all the time...
Can relate
dudecool79 you think your getting better but then the thoughts come back.
:/
"I think my biggest problem is that I love being alone but I hate being lonely."
Same
Same here
Facts.
Like everybody
play games and communicate :)
The worst thing is being alone in a crowd. I go out to try to make friends and meet people but i end up feeling more isolated than ever.
thats why i dont go out with friends no more.. at this point every word i want to say makes me think that im weird.
@@apillow7237 you are?
boy you think that hurts try going to your own home and realizing that sixty percent of the time you have no family members around you or any friends at home to hug you or to ask you "how's your day been?"
@@chaching2136 lmao what a loser
@@chaching2136😢or having no family at all
The best wombo combo is loneliness and low self esteem; everything else flows from it.
+ social anxiety + depression
I have low self esteem and loneliness so I know how it feels
Same
No Religion/spirituality + No friends + no family + low self esteem + procrastinator = Shitty times
@@jayluis189 literally me
Man, You know that feeling when someone you consider a friend ignores you and makes you feel like you've been dumped
gloriousholy I know, This happens to me a lot but gosh it's a sore when it happens
@@boneshrimp6486 I've been forced to dump some friends because they drain my happiness and I have been trying to find a new crowd that makes me happy rather than miserable. Maybe it's time for you to look for better friends that bring you up.
feel this so much, but it's not just one friend for me, it's my whole friend group :,o
It's me who ignore my friends. Now none of them talk about me anymore
@@kirimaruisao4094 I feel you, I regret it so much. I wish I didn't ignore my only friend that I atleast feel comfortable to talk to. It all start when my old friend finally came to my class, shes always absence and I thought it was because I wasn't a good enough friend for her, but I want to spent more time with her(I was an idiot), so I left my other friend behind, I got carried away and didn't talk to my other friend for 2 days, now she think I hate her. I apologize to her and she won't even talk to me anymore, and my old friend keeps skipping class. I have no friends at all right now. I don't know what have my life turn into. I keep abandon my online friends (which I also feel very guilty about) to the point where I abandon my friends that I can talk always to. I just thought I wasn't good enough so I push people away, but I regret it for hurting their feelings. Although they may have forgotten about me now. I don't want friends or lover. I just want comfort. I'm so stupid, I miss everyone and I wish I'm not in this stupid phase.
"Decline invitations untill the invitations stop"
Bold of you to assume I ever got any.
Nu ești singur, nici nu vei fi vreodată, atâta timp cât nu vrei. 🇷🇴
I used to get a few, to places that caused me anxiety. Now the have stopped coming, I'm fine with that :)
This is what I said too
I was once in class, and i stood behind a curtain to see og anyone would remember i Was there. And yes it was after a break so the teacher knew i was at school that day, and we had the same teacher Before, and after the break. No one, not even my best friend remembered me. So when i came out from hiding, i asked why they didnt say anything. They all didnt know i was at school that day. Yes this is a true story, and they actually didnt know i was at school. If you have any questions, i would gladly reply.
High five! 🖐
I began tearing up from how well they explained the daily living hell of loneliness I have, and began straight up crying when they explained how I actually can help my self..thank you so much.
I felt the same honestly
Same here
I felt the same too, had to fight them tears lol
lol
Same
The most connected era in the history and yet the most lonely one too.
It's because everyone feels like they have to put on an act to fit in but that means no one is genuine and we feel that in our gut so we eventually just don't bother with people more than necessary
Will we ever rewire?
@@saldownik probably not
@@saldownik it's hard to tell. But here are my two cents. It really depends on our further evolution. If the humanity will see that doing fine without much interaction and staying individualistic, then we will become more individualistic. If we'll see that it is an irrelevant way, we won't. Right now I think we'll stay the way we are now, social creatures. Even now there are a lot of cultures and societies which encourage collectivism. The western society is a different beast, we're pretty individualistic, but then again, we really we the rising loneliness problem
@@litphaniusmcmelloy4275 If we will rewire, it will be now much more likely by our design, than by an evolutionary crawl.
That's why I love the comment section, I feel like I'm watching this accompanied
True
And ur not lonely anymore
Feels like everyone is just bots and I'm the only human here 😨
Awwwww, this comment made me a lil bit happier
Good for you Buddy
This made me so much more conscious of how much I read and respond to comments
Loneliness is when you’re surrounded by people, but don’t feel connected with them. You have hours of conversation, but still feel empty and unsatisfied. You try to speak up, but they don’t understand.
yeah, and how to overcome this problem? we open up and accepting invitations from friends but now what?
@@hendywijaya3213 this is also my question
Sounds like every family reunion I went to.
A little late but here i go:
So i had this problem back in school too.
My "friends" were nice and all.
I talked a lot with them but it never felt right.
Sometimes i didnt say what i meant other times i just couldnt speak up.
The thing is (and thats the hard part) theyre not real friends.
Trust me if they hurt you (in anyway) or you dont feel comfortable around them -> get fucking rid of them.
Real friendship is so different from that i still cant believe it.
I dont have to think what im saying. It just clicks and i just feel happy now.
Youve to try again and again and thats the hardest part of the problem.
Every relationship is like that.
Youve to sort out the troublemakers/idiots/etc. and to do that youve to just try (again and again...).
Its not going to be easy but hang in there and believe in yourself.
Your future self will thank you.
Youll think back and it will be crazy how it changed.
Hope this somehow helps.
Feeling lonely is probably one of the worst things out there but its cureable.
Meeting new people makes you vulnerable and consumes a lot of time/energy but in
the end its the only way.
@@mertboy94 thanks for the answer :')
Hey, just wanted to come back here to say that this video seriously improved my life last year. It made me realize during one of the worst times in my life that I was significantly isolating myself, making it worse. It encouraged me to reach out to people, and though I didn't make any life changing friendships, it made my senior year of high school a hell of a lot more bareable. So, yeah. Though you'll probably never see this, thank you.
i don't know you but i proud of you. i hope you feel better ^^
Well done! You're doing better than me, that's for sure
too bad you didn't kill yourself
I'm also watching this in senior year right now and I really hope it changes something. Living like this is hell, but your comment gives me hope it might get better
This video probably saved a life by making someone finally not feel broken.
This
It gave awareness to me. I’m in denial that I’m in a terrible position, probably because I saw it as a sign of vulnerability and weakness if I admit it, but this made me understand that loneliness is normal, not something to be ashame of.
I know the feeling and I just wanted to say I love you I don't know you but I still love you
Yes my life, I'll think about it in my next loneliness crisis.
It did to me.
You know the world is dying when a video called "Loneliness" is #1 on trending
Just the ones who spend their time on the internet.
It's not dying. It's just going through some spiritual growing pains.
Right now it's number 9 trending
Good, this place sucks
or you could say people are taking responsibility for a wide spread problem? seeking help is after all courageous
*This video was far more than informative... this was beyond relatable.*
HELLO!!!!
I agree sincerely.
same here
Yeet
Ikr
I watched this video 4 years ago and it's just been suggested on my algorithm. I wanted to come back here and say that this video set the ball in motion which massive improved my mental health and my life. I live in a new country now and it's scary and would have been too lonely in my mind 4 years ago but now it excites me to be alone and make new friends again.
I bought and read 'Loneliness' by John Cacioppo & William Patrick and then bought it for people in my life i want to support.
Thank you Kurzgesagt, i hope your videos continue to help people in a rut as I was.
Ry
You never realise how lonely you are until it’s the end of the day and you have a bunch of stuff to talk about but no one to tell it to :(
Yes, that's horrible
A personal journal, then you can go back and relive those experiences as you're reading along :)
This comment is like getting stabbed in the ribcage. Hits right where it hurts
😔❤️🩹
Now that you know you feel lonely you can start trying to fix it. Try a teamsport or call someone else to ask how've they been. Will be a painfull journey due to the fear of rejection as described in the vid. But remember that by showing interest in someone else is a good deed worth doing even if you don't get anything back.
"Loneliness makes you decline invitations till invitations stops"
TOTALLY AGREE..
specially when those invitations werent about you but what you have, egoistic invitations, then i prefer to be lonely thanks.
E
you guys were getting invitations in the first place ?
@@goroland6904 I have the same problem. How am I supposed to have a social life when nobody cares about me enough to invite me to anything? My ex-”friends“ were like parasites, taking and never giving. I‘ve cut them off and now I‘m alone, but it‘s still better than pretending that people care about you.
From my experience, this seems to work. I had friends before 2020 but none of them were very close, and even tho I barely have any friends now, I feel less lonely than before because I’m better at occupying myself. Not having friends but keeping myself happy is probably not a permanent solution but it’s definitely a good first step toward not being lonely, I guess it’s like fully figuring myself out before rejoining society and trying to make friends again
"Loneliness"
*Recommended for you*
lmao same
youtube know me well
For real lol
Ya
Even youtube notice it
For the last 10 yrs I'm a complete social outcast(used to be an outcast in my childhood too but not completely), I'm so lonely I talk to myself for hours very loudly like I'm talking to someone because I got no one to talk to literally no one. 😢☹️
Jesús 😭
@@kendallbr9166 yeah 🥺🥺
Can relate
Yeah ik the feeling
You know, sometimes talking to yourself isn't a bad thing, sure you'd like to talk to another person but at least when you talk to yourself, there isn't any fear of a negative response :)
"It's not a sign of weakness, but of courage" - best phrase ever
Can confirm it by personal experience. For me, therapy was no easy path, but it saved my life and made me grow immensely. Glad I found the courage to start and keep at it despite the difficult moments. There's light and life waiting for those who venture. The most difficult and most important part is doing the first step! It just means making a phone call or sending an e-mail, but we'll be glad we took that small, first step.
Love the Enrique iglesias pfp :)
Yeah
It's is also a sign of you denying your desire for connection lol.
yes
“Let’s reach out to someone today”
*Left on read*
A very good looking whale bruh I tried to talk to someone new in irl, ten minutes they just got up and walked away I WAS LEFT ON READ IRL
Same...
@@housecat1674 damn. that sucks. I know it dont feel like it... but that was not you. that was them. I had 2 experiences where I tried. one was great. one was not, and I let it ruin me.
*1 - in hs in florida we had a nice outdoors campus (art school). during lunch, I saw an obviously (facial/body expression) lonely boy sitting against a pillar looking down at the grass. I said "Hey man what's up? you new? want to go for a walk?" and he did. we had fun that one time. we never hung out with each other after that day, but he had made friends and always smiled and said hello to me in the halls. (I was art, he was music - no shared classes)
*2 - another time in hs, after school by the bus loading area, there was a nervous looking, very quiet kid with glasses. I thought the other time was good.. I made someone happy and I felt good. so I stood right in front of him, waved and said "hello!" and he just stared at me. I repeated my word... and he blinked. I felt so sad. like I was bothering him. I said sorry and slunk away. I never fucking did that again. it was stupid of ME. in hindsight, i shouldn't have ever let myself feel shame for reaching out.
* years later, I saw the boy from story 1. he was so happy to see me, and told me and the friends he was with, that I'd never know how much I changed his hs experience just from that one day. he made a lot of friends. I wish I could have been his friend, but it didn't happen - we were really different and lived far from each other.
what I'm trying to say, is we'll never be able to reach someone who isn't ready or willing to be reached. but this reaching out and trying again is a real thing that can have such an impact...
well I lied. I did reach out again. i met my last significant other inside of an abandoned building.. and I saw him a few weeks later walking in the streets where I lived. I pulled over and said "hey. wanna go for a drive?" he did. then i killed him... not. but we did joke about how i could have... we've been together 8 years. o.o
wanderingintime bro thank you so much wtf out of all the people I talked to about it your UA-cam comment was the wisest and made me feel the most better, what a great start to my day! Also for a second I believed the killing joke lolll
@@housecat1674 hey that makes me happy to know. keep having a good day!
That's why I'm always nice and helpful to strangers. You never know if you're their match to light up their inner fire (again). You might be giving them hope in their darkest hours. Or even just a smile on a bad day. We all need these moments.
I just imagined to helped someone out of there loneliness and didn't realize it. That's heartwarming
I did the same thing. I learned around 7 years old that life is hell so I just became the nice kid. Although as I got older people saw that as a weakness.
Everyone new I never curse the most I said In 6 grade was hell while everyone else cursed like no tomorrow. Then one kid got on nerves and basically everyone from 6th grade was at the outside tables and I yelled to one guy who just wouldn’t shut up. “Hey! Shut the fu*k up.” Everyone went silent, and honestly that was the first time anyone saw my true colors. But it ended as soon as it began.
I do the same, but in Egypt not so many appreciate it and some keep bullying me and call me an autistic, because I am socially inexperienced.
@@elliot2392 You uhm.. must be really fun at parties, huh? Who broke you so hard that you feel the itch to antagonize this guy?
Thank you for this. I felt lonely for most of my life, and thought that people hated me, therefore I should not be around anybody. My husband gave me confidence, but my loneliness still come back every now and then.
I'm at the point where I'm so lonely that I spend a majority of my days fantasizing about my ideal friendships and romantic partner.
Go find them! Don't sink into the hole. There's nothing good in the hole. There are lots of people who relate to you and who could potentially be your friends. Just keep trying.
Oh thats me. Lol
Shut up dont remind me of myself
@@snowleaf2834 thassa mood.
Viridian Sky I’m in this picture and I don’t like it.
I'm the type of person who likes to cheer everybody up, but when I'm not feeling good nobody seems to care about me and that's what makes me lonely
it’s called codependency, it’s a boundary issue, i suffer from it too
ya boi same
:/
I'm the one who connects everyone while im just a broken connection line.
It's pretty painful when you see everyone around you care for each other and not you while you're the main connector, as if you're the power cable that connects cities but no one cares for your maintenance.
Being a loyal person, this is a bullet to the gut.
Dumble King I’m the same way, now I spend most of my free periods thinking about what could have been if I didn’t make so many mistakes while everyone else is having fun and joking around
same
“If you feel lonely you are lonely”
Quote of the year
I saw this comment while watching that part
Hmm, yes. The floor here is made out of floor.
@@shinjilovrrr the chhair is made out of chair
@@ima13yroldpplessfortnutboi79 yeah, this is big brain time. Also, your name in chat
Every minute 60 seconds pass in Africa
The feeling that you have everybody around you, but not with you
too real
yes this is so true
I cried during his video. It really hurts being called out like this.
Me too.
Same
I also cried
Omg saame! I'm writing this comment as I'm just drying my eyes
I believe u 🙂
"decline invitations, until the invitations stop" hit me like a truck
That's me pretty much..... I suck.
Been there, done that 😢
Eden Nishan ur yoongi pfp🥺
Going through this like right now. Been ignoring friends' "lets catch up..its been long" thing coz my mind says they aren't good for you😶
Right with you there
I feel a little less lonely knowing that everyone else is also lonely.
frrr
@@malxumx9727 :')
well yes, but actually no
@@axule4373 XD
Everyone is feeling lonely, but everyone doesn’t know. People are living facades and that is a worrying thing in this modern world. Social media?
This video has really opened my eyes, I always want to talk to people in public but I'm always too scared of what they'll think of me. This is just a reminder for my future self, talk to more people when you get the chance. For all I know, people might want to talk to me too and they're afraid as well. I have to take the first step, I'll try my best to hold myself accountable. I hope anyone who reads this goes out of their way to talk to people as well, it'll be worth it in the long run even if we get rejected. Life is all about learning
Hello , how are you ?
I want to be your friend, if you don't mind ?
@@JuliaFinance-bz1swme to
I feel lonely if the teacher ask us to pick a group and i get left behind
Marceline Morales okay, so as the video itself recommends, I’m trying to lift somebody’s mood up although it’s not what I would normally do. But I can tell you that feeling left behind the group is a very familiar feeling. In fact, now that I think about it it’s been a long time since I actually cared about it because it happened so many times that it kinda became a normality for me to feel left out. Or maybe I just got used to it or I’m not trying anymore or whatever the video says. Anyways, in my case, I know that people would have accepted me if I tried a bit harder therefore I think you can choose not to be alone and maybe if you give yourself a chance( or multiple chances) you can get yourself out of that isolation bubble. And also you’re probably cool and funny and if you haven’t found the right people around you yet then just keep being yourself.
I hope it didn’t make you feel sadder, lol
Dayum
Marceline Morales LoL me always 👅
That’s what happened to me for a field trip. The field trip is tomorrow and I was put in a group full of guys who I barely know. I’m afraid of being humiliated if I go cause of the boys and other girls in a group together. So I can stay home or take my chances of humiliation. What should I do?
@@sanchez5863 If the field trip is something worth going to, then sure! Be yourself, and don't be scared. We all say things at the wrong time when we're nervous and feel out of place, so just take some breaths, and reassess where you are. I was the "lone wolf" in middle school, and a bit through high school as well. I've done TONS of really awkward things, and my heart races when just being spoken to. If people are speaking to you, listen, and I mean REALLY listen. Ask good questions, and be polite! Be calm, and when people talk to you, respond. Boys or girls, in the end, they're only your peers!
Who else imagines (Im)possible conversations with strangers, teachers, hypothetical girlfriend. But then you realize that they are not gonna happen. They stay in your mind, get forgotten. You deceive yourself, end that is the loneliest feeling in the world
You aren't deceiving when you experience you are experiencing experience itself
I remember trying to strike up a conversation with strangers a couple times and every time I get a dirty look. I just be like damn. Only trying to say where'd you get that ice cream cone.
And we wonder how inordinary people can exist
Hey! I get what u mean...
It’ll happen, waiting is the hard part
Can we for a moment appreciate how kurzgesagt always adds the footnotes that connect pretty much everything they say to a peer reviewed research data?
This is where the spirit of research and science, and a safeguard to conspiracy theories lie.
they used to not do that. and they still give opinion as fact, pretending that the studies cover it
@@UnderscoreZeroLP just like your opinion? What about the two videos on nuclear power with opposing viewpoints?
@@UnderscoreZeroLP thank you mah man, unfortunately they are tilted towards EU
I think that's a brilliant observation!
Yeah!! I love the footnotes, it takes a little more time and effort but it adds so much credibility and gives people who are interested places to read further.
Thank you very much for this video.
I know exactly what you're talking about. I'm 48 now and have been alone, so to speak, for 20 years. There are no friends or family, my day consists of getting up to go to work and then I just hope the day goes by quickly so I can lie down so I can go back to work.
With the Corona pandemic, I stopped participating in social life in general. And yes, I have developed the attitude that all people are shit. Even if I look at the world, it doesn't help me much to get out of this depression.
I've come to terms with the fact that at some point I'll just be dead and no one knows who I was.
So to everybody else, look after yourselfs and keep being social.
Bye
Oh god comment section is so depressing and the worst part is I can relate
S ame
Same
Same
So true
We can relate
"Being depressed and lonely is like living your days with a knife stuck in your heart. The worst part about it, is that no one notices, no one cares to notice... making you slowly bleed to death."
And sometimes that knife is invisible so you don’t notice, but then loneliness hits hard again.
You just said It's invisible. How would anybody notice.
@@sochimauche4747 Shoot didn't realize that 🤔🤔 thanks
100th like
this one hit different
I forgot how to interact with people, my universe is made of my bed, youtube and books. I have so much to share but nobody to share it with, probably like all of you here.
Try to have a look around: in almost every big city there are "centers" talking about some topics in particular, Facebook and other networks have pages / channels focused on some topic, Telegram too has channels like that (for example, there's a Telegram's channel called Link4Universe, same name of a UA-cam channel, talking about Cosmo and Astrophysics).
Nowadays, "Internet" turned tons of people into zombies who throw there their mind as trash (for a huge amount of reasons like culture, mental habit, force of will, laziness, etc), but it's not like there everywhere! This UA-cam channel is an example, where contents are high-quality ones :D
Let's chat!
you could recommend a book to us :D
Yep you are so right
But right now you're sharing what you are experiencing thus we are relating to what you are saying
I watched this video for the First time a couple of years ago, and i can safely Say that these 10 minutes changed my life, now I cried watching It again after solving most of my social problems, thank you from the bottom of my heart
"The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.
-Mark Twain
Amen.
And being lonely is what makes you uncomfortable with yourself.
video gaming = waste of time. housework is much better (karma)
bored? anyone??
you can find on amazon: teaching books (paramedic), emergency cases, bags, all kind of equipment. time 2 learn first aid measures + emergency medical services EMS
good work 4 kids: youth firefighter program. junior firefighter training activities. junior program ems !
giveaways? sponsoring + support? (4 friends, employees, customers etc.) first aid or medic courses, medical literature, + psychological first aid, equipment? (one way keyring resuscitation masks, pocket masks, AED, nitrile gloves (hygienics, diseases, protection! take a pair of gloves with you. you can buy packaged pairs of nitrile gloves. non sterile. for single use only), ambu bags?, CPR simulators ?? stifnecks?, diagnostic lamps, pulse oximeters, stab protection vest, cs gas defense spray, bulletproof vest, seatbelt cutter etc.)
smoke detectors? carbon monoxide detectors? fire blanket, structural fire prevention? fire protection coating? (on building walls?) or anti corrosion? (on bridges, tools etc?) fire suppression systems? + installation? instructions?
emergency escape and smoke ventilation? smoke extraction staircase?
infrared sight 4 lifeguards, firefighters or first responders?
4 amazing tools: portable hydraulic strongarm 4 firefighters etc, hands free thermal vision (in mask imaging system), in mask heat vision (temperature display etc) or c-thru technology!
there are more amazing tools!
fire extinguishers 4 everyone? every home? companies? + every car !? (highway safety and more!) (+ child safety device!) + fireproof clothing? + cap, gloves, safety glasses etc !
(note: there are different types of fire extinguishers and application fields! powder, foam, water etc)
become a paramedic instructor in future? firefighter? + pump operator (+ driver) ? (volunteer?) high angle rescuer? ambulance driver or nurse?
give it a try! externship? externships?
or
surgery nurse? geriatric nurse? ambulatory care? home care?
(+ specializations? in several areas? wound care management, hygienics, instructor, first aid etc)
(a financial supporter? support fire and rescue departments in your area? (money 4 helmet lamps, new equipment etc. new vehicles? a turntable ladder? 2 turntable ladders? mass casualty ambulance bus?
support air ambulances? or retirement homes !? (see list below)
become a
midwife? or dental assistant ?
shuttle service? (disabled people, seniors, wheelchair user)
towing service or animal protection ?
at least
support animal welfare organizations? sponsorships??
(animal aid unlimited org, hsi org, sea shepherd org)
animal shelters in your area need money 4 food, maintenance work, expansion, staff, new vehicles, security staff, etc.
trips? beach trips? parks? poor dogs :(
(create new jobs? build new sanctuaries? new parks? zoological gardens? more veterinarians + animal hospitals + hospitality)
volunteer work? go walkies?
become an animal caretaker?
maybe... plant a tree? many trees? a walnut tree?? in a park, garden or backyard? crows and other birds would appreciate that.
or a japanese maple tree?
or go vegan ?
potato, zucchini, paprika, cucumber, tomato, rice, fries, ketchup, baked bread etc?
hey its animal friendly :)
vegan cookbooks? give it a try! its tasty
support a protectory? orphanage ? (money 4 disneyland trips or playstation 4?
charity work? palatoschisis or cataract aid organization support? (smiletrain org or operation restore hope e.v.?)
or kids cancer care? educate a child?
parking problems? ( smart parking solution com )
think about the environment. in your city. seriously
more railways + trams !? less cars? more bicycles? more gardens? etc.
or buy solar panels? learn from the solar experts?
emergency exit in a skyscraper? high rise rescue solution? SPARS parachute rescue system? ( cosmic-rs com )
stop abortions? change laws? strict restrictions?
increasing homelessness and pollution = serious problems.
time 4 serious solutions!
time 2 build new quarters? apartments? + assisted living ? (board and care homes)
+ medical examinations, checkups etc (+ dentist) ? care + support + coaching + social integration + employment etc? + small group wellness programs or trips?
NEW projects? (new jobs?) new hotel projects?? (with doctors, carers, nurses, security staff etc, seminar rooms, briefing rooms, a big pool? (+ diving schools?), + sport areas? spa?) + new motels?
serious + fast help? thousands need fast help!
yes, giving money 2 very poor people will make their lives better. they are everywhere. railway stations? 10, 20, 50, 100 ?
or sleeping pads, bags !? tents !? blankets? money 4 drugstore etc? mouth rinse? (caries ! etc.) maybe dog food? or veterinarian? eyes open!
(+ toothbrushes !? (sensitive!), multi-purpose toothpaste? good for those with no specific dental issues! or a specific category of toothpaste !? (caries, parodontitis ! ), mineral water without carbonates (in bottles? 6 x 1,5 L ?), a pocket mirror?, meds ? (toothache ! ), safety scissors?, nail clippers?, warm clothes + accessories?, plastic hand brush?, tissues?, trash bags?, a radio !? + batteries?, flashlight?, first aid kit? (+ wound care cream?, wound disinfection?), a backpack?)
+ cool deodorant spray? after shave? (a little bit better feeling..)
+ lockers !? (2 protect property! ) many lockers + big ones! free? (+ hygienics, sanitation etc)
search these people? help these people? inform these people. provide information? a shuttle service? 2 new quarters?
new jobs? new missions?
more proper facilities? + sanitation? more humanity? not less.
more facilities + better facilities + more employees + upskilling employees etc ?!
(in hospitals, retirement homes, homes for the disabled, homeless etc)
better treatment + more comfort 4 residents, patients etc??
better retirement homes? (better medical equipment? + AEDs, one way keyring r. masks, lifters, CPR simulators, pulse oximeters, seminars, training courses, training!, + regular checks!, trips, furniture (+ all weather outdoor furniture?), therapeutic massage armchairs, automat? drinks?, more wheelchairs (+ replacement) (+ silk or polyester pillows? more comfort? cushioning? (+ shoes? cushioning gel?) padding? less decubitus ! (+ anti decubitus mattress? positive negative pressure mattress?), less contractures ! (+ hand therapy balls?), rollator, protector pads? (elbows, hips ! etc? = less fractures, pain ! etc. safety first! think about your grandparents or older friends 2 ?), medical alert systems? (+ wearable medical alert buttons?), better documentation? (+ better systems?), more bathtubs? (+ more bathing? more assistance?), shampoo + eye shield? (demented patients!), better nail care? + more often? nail clippers 4 every resident?, therapeutics + dental therapeutics? (+ better oral, dental care? less oral thrush !, less periodontitis ! etc), better food? (+ bigger choice?) (+ additional: (4 residents + employees) instant mashed potatoes? (in a cup), vegan soups etc. + a microwave?), paintings + art, coast or beach atmosphere? gardens? botanical gardens? allergy? (plastic plants?), better alert systems (+ internal communication via phones? phones 4 all employees?), animals? pets or birds? allergy? bonsai maple trees? etc. + small jobs 4 residents? a workshop? textile processing? knitting? small kitchen jobs? or board game party? old people = bored 2 ?
balcony or terrace sunset evenings? (all weather outdoor furniture? sunshade? plastic palm tree? beach chair? lighting + lamps? adjustable pedestal fans? (hot days?) all disability friendly?
less isolation? (growing loneliness!) more community oriented activities? + small group trips? (gardens, theatre, museum, dance ball, coasts or beaches? ports?
sometimes? more often?)
higher wages 4 staff? ..much higher :)
(home care patients? they are lonely 2.. most of them!)
time 4 changes. time 4 more happyness. everybody wants 2 be happy! trips? visits? (with pets? no allergy?)
donate clothing?
support 4 daycare centers? (money 4 new furniture, medic courses, + training, equipment? (+ child and baby CPR simulators? etc)
indoor playground or waterpark employees? upskilling? + many more first aid kits (+ better signposts? + fire extinguishers, AEDs, emergency escape, plan, exit, staircase, ladder etc? everywhere? LARGE SIGNS? (+ corridors? on the ceiling? + arrows?) poor eyesight ! + health and safety stickers !? handicap signs or stickers? ), training, equipment, AEDs etc.
easy jobs?
clean-up operations?
bushes, parks, streets, lakes?, harbors?, seas?, coasts?, oceans?
clean up some plastic, broken glass or other trash?
trash = serious danger 4 animals. (pain in the stomach, injuries, die offs etc ):
its time 4 serious cleaning up operations!
(you can use hand nets, nitrile gloves. self protection!)
or use a boat? recycling bins?
(maybe... leave a slice of toast bread? in the shrubs? or on a grass area? for birds. they love it :)
(or walnuts? small pieces. on cold days. winter, autumn etc)
work at night?
(or new school projects? monthly?) volunteers? maybe ask your school teachers?
or maybe visit a diving school? become a diver? 4 mother nature ...
(the plastic trash that floats in the world's oceans actually decompose and release potentially toxic substances into the water)
,,,
lets save marine life :) lets remove some plastic and trash.
many turtles are in trouble struggling with plastic :(
+ better recycling systems all around the world? (+ africa, india, etc?)
+ sanitation? new wells and fresh water 4 animals ? (there are aid agencies)
create new ones? or new jobs?
+ new farms? (fruits, vegetables) + greenhouses? bakery? drug stores + pharmacies? new schools? diving or swimming schools? boat hire !? + life vests?, hand nets (plastic waste = global problem) + international help, assistance?
we need jobs. NO replacement of workers or employees!
we dont need robots etc. stop robot technology + developement. all kinds of it
Poker Face-_- Hey i am a new youtuber it would mean so much if you subscribed thank you i am a fan of you
Poker Face-_- Why does it bother me that he forgot to close the quotation?
Free virtual hugs for my lonely people.
Thank u love
Thanks, "hugs back"
I thank you....
*hugs emotionally
Thank You
the worst combination is beinh lonely and having social anxiety.. i cry a lot
Hi
Lol same
Nitroh
Your not alone
I got hit with a lethal triple combo: loneliness, social anxiety, and crippling depression. So I’m watching this video and I’m like fuck, I should hit up my old friend and try to get back in it. Then depression is right behind me like that meme from icarly where Gibby beats Spencer with a stop sign. God, I guess I’ll just have to commit myself to one more day, and keep doing that.
@@bariumselenided5152 I got it triple combo that you said because I have existential crisis. Hell, this feeling is kill me mentally.
Çok faydalı bir kanalsınız. Sayenizde hayal gücümde çektiğim acılarla ve fantezilerle yüzleşiyorum.
This video kind of made me realize that loneliness is part of the reason I overshare so much.
I lack social interaction so much that when I finally get it I overshare like crazy and scare off new people.
God, same
Guilty as charged
You!!!! I relate so much and then i am scared that they dont care. But i wanna share so badly that i still tell them even if they dont care.
I just want somebody to listen to me
Holy crap that's definitely me
....
Number 1 trending.
Shows how many people get lonely.
Preach brother preach! Is what i would say if i used reddit like you. But because i'm a human being with an iq above room temperature i cringed at this.
@@Mm.2804-v7j the dude just said shows how many people are lonely. How does that show he uses reddit?
Mehdi Cane I cringed at this comment
Really the UA-cam trending tab just nominates videos that the algorithm thinks is good rather then what people watch, but I do agree that in this day and more people are feeling more lonely than ever
Not really. It just shows this channel has many viewers and/or people find the topic interesting.
I've been lonely for so long that it feels normal.
Yeah. And it’s like it would be weird if you *didn’t* feel lonely.
@@Jacobi.G Exactly.
Hang in there!
Same here. I lost all my friends in 2016 and haven’t had any since.
Reki Jorve it starts to feel normal but it’s not good
learning that loneliness is an evolutionary trait of human kind rather than a mental illness makes me feel so much better
xD "evolutionary trait" if that were true losers wouldn't exist like you
Depression is mental illness and it's not something that should make you feel worse. I am depressed too and I don't hide it. If people think it's "icky", then fuck them.
@@hihtitmamnan depression isn't real, you're just a fucking loser
I'm at the point of loneliness where I talk to myself constantly and I sometimes come up with my ideal " best friend " and imagine the amount of fun I'd have if i had real friends. I feel more comfortable talking to myself more than anyone now, I realise now that I have crushing anxiety.
Yeah I have the same problem as well and at places like school it's like I can't connect with people I don't know and I can just barely connect to my friends.
lmao same, and it sucks not even having acquaintances or anything
You guys want someone to talk to? Im all ears
Same! Throw me some stories and vents.
wow thats a bit scary but I understand
You can have loneliness even with friends and family, because loneliness is having nobody you feel safe with, comfortable with to tell them anything you want.
True
Very true. I work in the construction industry. God help you if you admit loneliness or any psychological or emotional problems. You'd become the target of merciless ridicule. I work in an office. A homeless person took cigarette butts from the Smoker's Station ashtray . Our company offers counselling by a professional company for those who need it. My coworker pinned a copy of the offer of counselling to the ashtray.
"Why did you do that?" I asked.
"Because it's for losers" he replied.
but when you have bts . you not feel lonely🎶🎶🎶
@@craftyshallz7658 literally wtf
@@craftyshallz7658 didn't really understand what u just said but i'm sorry if i offended u 😅
Worst apart of loneliness is having no one to share your thoughts with so they just sit inside your head
Like seeing a movie or show or playing a game and wanting to tell someone how cool it was but not having anyone to tell it to
Ikr
I just speak to myself and dont realize it. Then when i do realize it i just feel lonely. I like talking to myself but I also feel like i shouldnt be doing it.
true Zach same here....
Same
Yes :(
I've been forced into loneliness my entire life. A childhood of relentless bullying and neglect and an adult life of isolation and being a workaholic just to survive. I've never had any friends and I'm about to hit 30. It hurts so, so much. I just break down and cry sometimes because I don't know how to deal with it. If someone has family that cares, or friends that go out of their way to spend time with them, they need to hang onto that bond, that love and never let go. It's easy to be alone. But when it's all you know, the loneliness they comes with it is the worst kind of torture you can ever go through. Because until you make those connections, you have to pretend you're okay, and just hope someday it'll go away.
Anyone wanna hold hands
alone. o o
What are you doing here and why havnt you made another vid yet?
Let's hold hands then ~~
No
I'd rather hug, thanks. My hands get sweaty when someone else holds them.
Thank you, Kurzgesagt. For everything. 💝✨
AAH GET OUT OF HERE FURRY!
@@damondisepio8259 real mature
Agreed!
What's wrong with being a furry?
@@damondisepio8259 get out of here dumbass..
This came at such a coincidental time... Really needed this
the same for me .. super strange
Honestly same. The girl I'm trying to date is no longer really replying. I don't know if I did something wrong or if she's just busy, but i do know that i feel lonely because i don't have many friends available to talk.
Me too! Guess there's just always a few people in need of such videos
A bit after valentine's, good timing
I feel extremely excluded from my group of friends and I feel like no one really wants to jang out with me, but this video did help
This is one of my favorite videos. I’ve shared it as a teaching tool, reviewed it before discussions, read the books and one of the articles (skimmed the others), and, over time, I can see the changes it’s made in me. 🦆
therapist: expensive
kurzgesagt: free and entertaining
Also kurzgesagt: here's your daily existential crisis video
Therapist: social interaction
Kurzgesagt: on your smartphone.
Don't use kurzgesagt as a therapist lol. it is interesting sure, but see a doctor.
Kurzgesagt knows me better than my parents it seems
@@Azakadune I would love too, but I cant stand the look of "I dont care" on their faces anymore
*"Loneliness is twice as deadly as obesity and as deadly as smoking a pack of cigarettes a day"*
I have the complete package then
me too!
Congratulations!
Just add alcohol
That is quite a claim, as well as the obesity one, I thought. I would have liked to see a source for this. Till then I just take it as a filler statement more for effect.
Agreed. If loneliness were a disease, I'd been dead a long time ago.
Let's just appreciate that UA-cam gathered us all lonely ppl here in this video's comment section so we don't feel lonely.
Yessd
Thanks ❤️
UA-cam is the only one who thinks us
I don't see how this should make anyone feel less lonely. They're in the exact same spot as before, equally lonely and pathetic.
But perhaps I'm just too pessimist.
Yeah
Came back after 4 years still lonely me watching this video about loneliness
To all my lonely dudes watching this: we're in this together. And we'll overcome it. It shouldn't end like that. You're all amazing and I believe in you. Love from Russia.
Also if you want to talk - contact me anytime you want. I will even give you my telegram @LaanJ
@@DynamicalCannon Thanks dude. We are in this together and it will not last forever.
thanks russia
Большое спасибо! Кстати, я учу русский язык.
Thanks my dude you too!
symtoms:
-mad for no reason
-trust issues
-always say NO
-making excuses
thats from my experience
That exactly what i've experienced too
Me in a nutshell
I didn’t even know I was lonely
Same here
@@alexs6746 same 😂
*The worst loneliness isn't being alone, it's being alone surrounded by the people who don't care.*
Damn, sounds like what I got going for me.
@@duffy6542 I got a worse kind of loneliness. It's the one where you're the one who don't care about anyone. It can be even worse than not having anyone in the first place. I have to pretend in order to keep my social bonds but, really, if 90% of people I know disappeared, I wouldn't miss them. And it's not because they're bad, in fact most are very awesome people. I just can't bring myself to care, idk why.
@@GabrielFerCav Maybe you just dont feel like you actually relate to any of them on a deeper level or you dont really care about the things that you do with them. your friends arent catering to your emotional needs in the way you desire or doing the kind of activities that bring you joy, fullfillment, or actually have real value to you. im kind of having a bit of that issue too.
It's not that my friends arent great people and I do genuiney care about their well being, but if im honest with myself for alot of them if our friendship was to end or we stopped talking it wouldnt really bother me.
ouch
It shall pass
I’m so grateful to have one really close friend, it feels like a privilege . Even though I still feel lonely at times, I remind myself that I always will have her.
Funny this was recommended to me on Valentine's day
Mine too lol....
Oof, I felt that
bruh
Self burn ..those are rare
Oh wow, what an absolute Middle Finger
*If you are lonely...*
You know you are lonely when something good happens in your life but you have no one to tell.
💔
Yup we can't share our emotions
My last friend is moving to Spain for soccer.
@@David-yq4rz I like soccer NOT FOUTBALL
i glady have the opportunity to tell my friends about it. but unfortunately i often keep it to myself because i believe that nobody cares about it...
This is one of the most kind, necessary videos on the modern human condition. Thank you for producing it.
Amen!!
So ... uhm... i got teary eyes all throughout the video... been on that side of life... definitely a good video to watch, share and apply
Amen
Even being surrounded by others people have become very alone lonely sad depressed anxious weak scared frustrated and angry
Shoit u rite
I’m still in school and this has made me want to hold onto my friends forever, they are literally the best people I know
Please do. It's easy to stay in touch, even one call a semester goes a long way over time
The sad part is most of the people watching this are lonley
I am
Well yeah, it's weird to see this video with a group of people. It's better to see this by yourself because everyone is different and everyone feels lonely at different times
@@toastydoggo2313 I feel lonely most OF THE TIME
I'm not, but i was curious about the subject and how help People
Sad reality
To anyone reading this:
- this video did save a life, you guys are the best
Thank God
you aren’t alone, just know there are people who love you 💕
@@tasuu_ no, there aren't
@@fartsyfart yea
@@benhinton4613 no, thank me
“Loneliness is twice as deadly as obesity, and as dangerous as smoking a pack of cigarettes a day”
That one hit me hard bro...
I have never and will never smoke, and I’m healthy and in shape, but maybe I need to spend more time keeping myself *emotionally* healthy...
Edit: Holy crap this got a lot of likes! I’ve never gotten this many! Thx!
This one got me aswell, unfortunately I'm smoking a pack cigarettes a day and this made me feel really scared.
By pure luck this video popped up when I'm trying to quit.
Volkan Taskin good for you for taking the first step by trying to quit. I’m rooting for you, and I know you can stay strong. Good luck!
@@volkantaskin9620 Two birds in a shot, hope you finally feel less lonelier (maybe you aren't lonely and I just assumed it) and end with the cigarette problem
@@αγρ-κ6λ thank you brother, actually there are even more birds, I'm made myself a little bit lonely by smoking too much weed, after a while I got disconnected with my friends, and the only thing I wanted was just to smoke on my own all day. but I'm fighting now to make everything fine again, it is really hard for me right now, but I feel better each day.
Thanks for your support!
@@carolinenix6659 thank you my dear. I appreciate it really really much!
This describes exactly everything about me. Been all alone for many years, recently I realized something and this video confirmed all of it. This video may save my life. So thank you for this.
Being introverted, having social anxiety and feeling lonely. Good job me.
we're in the same boat
What ur lying
Tbh social anxiety sucks. It drains all of my self esteem
@@kimnotloona I too suffer from it
Злой Хлебушек X_X sigh
Same
This is _literally_ the most down to earth subject Kurzgesagt ever made a video about
What about Addiction?
i see what you did there >: )
No its your own fault
Literally
Exactly!! Congratulations!!! Fantastic!!
I couldn't concentrate on the video when I started reading the comments.
Unhappy souls everywhere.
It hurts me.
@İlker Kesal Most people gets lonely at some point or another.
Just hold on, nothing is permanent neither sadness nor loneliness.
@@akashmlal Been alive thirty years this month. Can't say it's ever gotten better for me, and I'm getting too old to hope it'll ever change. Platitudes don't fix anything, I'm afraid.
yes, and that's why u should accept that, it's not special nor uncommon.. you shouldn't feel too bad for the situation, but be calm and find a way to overcome it instead
@@akashmlal Yeah, because death is a thing. Sometimes, loneliness can last until someone dies. It's probably happened before.
@@Varsocona the only thing i can recommend is:
try zome sort of sport/game/hobby
not alone but instead in some sort of learning group.
football/self defense school/basketball
or maybe a hobby
biking/DnD/paintball
or maybe a new skill
cooking classes/language/a new degree
the thing is learning something or working as a team will not only bring you in contact with others but also help you reinstall your socialskills.
Wow, I wanted to say "thank you." This is one of the most insightful, practical, and intuitive documentaries I've watched. I've sent this to my family members and friends.
One of the worst things is how discardable humans are to eachother.
Shrug. That's life.
I feel the same way. It’s awful.
@@IllMatic97 bro did you watch the video? That's exactly what we should prevent. I don't know you nor do I think I can know you though one small online exchange in hundreds we will both have by the end of the week probably.
But. From me to you I do send you a hug. Not because you're sad, angry, depressed, or necessarily lonely. Just because I don't feel we should see rejection and social discardment as normal. Maybe you'll laugh this off, be creeped out, or ignore me. But it took me about 2 minutes to write this the way I wanted lol 😅. So consider those 2 minutes sent to you as well with the hug since they were dedicated.
@@MrAstrothousand98 now this is what i call a good person we need more people like you
@@TinCancantanimate thanks. I don't think I'm that good, but just seeing if I can help anywhere. Hug for you too
Watching this, alone, on my bed, whilst I’m supposed to be revising, having had a sleepless night, a tightening chest, a sick feeling in my stomach, no one to talk to, nowhere to go outside and all my friends are away. I understand this more than I wish I did.
Did I give you permission to tell my life story. We are the ssme lmao
I feel a constant pain inside of me when I think about how lonely I am and how disconnected and different I am from others
this pain is so awful I wish I was never born into this world
Text them, call them. Talk to SOMEONE, family, friend, hell even a co-worker. Reaching out is the most important step.
Friends? What language are you speaking kind sir?
The worst thing that comes about of loneliness is when you feel the overwhelming desire to just talk, talk to someone about nothing and everything, about yourself, about ideas, memories, dreams and fears... And realize there's no one.
Edit: this comment getting so many likes means there's so many people feeling this way. I'm praying for you to connect with other people soon guys. And always remember to be kind to yourselves 💕
I been suffering for loneliness and depression since summer of 2019 and I really don't know what to do with myself currently. I do have friends and family's like most people out there do, but something special is really missing for me and I really don't know what it is for me. That last special puzzle piece is really missing for me out their and its important. Trying to figure out what it means.
it feels like something is truly missing for me that I have not yet experience. I really haven't found that special something for me yet out there and Its really hard to find that special piece for me. Its really hard to find that last puzzle piece. I been thinking about that too much. It feels like I'm about to lose to my depression and my loneliness who can't find that last piece to the puzzle. I wasn't feeling like myself for a few months now. It feels like I'm being defeated who can't win. I'm worthless.😞
It's not good at all.
@sonicgalaxy27 Islam is that missing piece. It'll solve all your problems just like it did to me; because Allah subhanh understands us as humans more than anyone.
Ouch... this one ached, ngl
@@sonicgalaxy27 uninstall all the social media apps and go on with your routine. Do things that matter to you, that make you feel like yourself, like reading/painting/dancing/hiking. Think about the people around you, those who may need your help..there's so much to do in this beautiful life than keep waiting for the special person and feel depressed in their absence..Social media influences this so much to us that so many people lose themselves in the race of finding someone special and not acknowledgong the beautiful people we already have in our life..
Loneliness has helped me a lot personally. It has taught me how to entertain myself better, which has lead to more interests in things such as learning or meditation. I think it is okay to like being alone. I personally do enjoy my alone time. I get overwhelmed being around people often times and feel drained by social interaction. I am not antisocial by any means though, just more reclusive and introverted. I prefer quality over quantity in all things, especially company. And I try to be grateful for every day, whether it has been a challenging day full of suffering, or an easy day full of pleasure. I like contrast in experience because I feel it necessary to better understand ourselves as individuals, and to better understand our own truths, whatever they may be. I like your videos. They are good entertainment and are very thought provoking, whether I agree or not with everything they say. Thank you :)
escapism is how i deal with it. stories, shows, books. it's like i live in their world for a little. and honestly, if i really had the chance to go to a fantasy world someday; i'd probably take it.
Same, I daydream way too much about this
Reason I play FFXIV.
@@popcorn782 I always find my dreams way better than those games, they feel so corny
@@giovani7262 yeah, I've honestly started trying to come up with some sort of possibility of it happening lol
@@k-onenthusiast5234 hope you are not thinking of suicide, I doubt it will work brother
I litterally was sitting in my room and crying while watching this video.. I've been betrayed and left so many times that it seems pointless, and any social interaction is asking to be hurt.
loststar your giving up hope and going into the whole, stay out of the whole, there’s nothing good in it, I’ve been there, and it got better, keep going, no matter what life throws at you
Wow. Me too.
Love and pain come through the same door. You need to be careful who you let in and out of it. You cannot experience love without the risk of pain. But also allow these experiences to build some emotional resilience. There’s some great ted talks on vulnerability you should watch. It sounds like they’re exactly what you need.
Give up lol
Yeah, the video doesn't get the most important part. It is not that we don't try to reach for others, it is simply that most people is just shitty. I literally only have 1 friend i can trust, and the sad part is that some people don't even have that.
The Friendship Paradox: I have friends yet I feel I don't have friends at the same time.
Divine Jacob Mathew You might not have propper friends. Not the greatest thing to say here...
But I only redescovered the people I truly cared about ( and vice versa) at the age of 22.
Fuck that is relatable
Exactly
It feels like you're their strange neighbor
Exactly how I’m feeling
I turn 60 in 11 days and I will be sitting alone in an empty home.
Up till 4 weeks ago I was a part time carer for my elderly mother which took up my days not leaving much time for myself but 2 weeks ago unfortunately it reached a stage where she required more care that I could give and as such the decision had to be made to move her into a nursing home it just about broke my heart having to do this 💔 but now I sit here alone and I now realise just how lonely I am and how much I have missed in my life especially having that someone special in life too love. 💔
Every day I walk into class rooms and pubs full of people, and I am crushed by the sense of isolation
Me too Me too it felt like I don't belong anywhere
Minds wired differently😂😂 It's a crappy feeling
I sit in class alone since the past 3 years. I'm like invisible to everyone, they don't even bully me, I'm like invisible for real. I once tried to miss some classes and go home and the next day no one cared, like what if someone kidnapped me...
@@sebastianskii7512 have you tried to stir up a conversation? Just say hey.
I used to have this small group of friends last year. They were the best guys I’ve ever had. They were there when I was this lonely kid who couldn’t relate to the majority of the rest of the student body. So many laughs we made videos together, went to each other’s houses.. it was so fun with these four guys...
Until suddenly, they’re gone.. one moved away for economic reasons. Another is always with his girlfriend and doesn’t have time to hang with us anymore. The other became home schooled. One went back to Mexico, and came back here but in a different city.
This year, I walk the halls alone. With no other friends, at least “real” friends. I don’t fit in at all.. I don’t relate to the majority of the rest of the students. I found myself just alone with no one else.
Don’t say, “just go make new friends.” It’s hard and I don’t RELATE to anyone. For now, it’s just been me.. and I rarely ever or get the chance to call them.
I’m not jealous that other people hang out in their friend group. They deserve the happiness found within each other. It’s not their fault, it’s my own. I know this because if I blamed others for my own misery, it’ll make me a worse person.
I don’t pity myself, I’m not this anti social weirdo, I’m capable of joking and getting along with others.. but I don’t find them to be true friends, I don’t know anyone.
I think, that my deepest desire, is to “escape.” Run away to another place to find my own happiness. Yet I don’t think I’ll ever find that. Even if I did go to another place, will I find what I’m looking for?
I haven’t laughed in a long while. I Know I’m Isolated, I know that I’m lonely. But what am I suppose to do?
I don’t know anyone in these classrooms I walk into everyday. I can see their laughing or crying faces, stories of what they did over each other’s homes.
They remind me of the friends I used to have. The stories we told each other. We all once went to this forest area near a lake and saw a huge snake by a ravine. You know what stupid shit we did? We pushed each other toward it. We went over each other’s houses and role played Batman, we tackled each other on the floor. We once snuck in Homecoming through an open window... it was crazy but we had fun! Until nearly an hour later we were caught without passes so we hid from the security. We also nearly drowned each other during Sping Break when we went to this Water Park, I also accidentally pushed a little boy in the deep end so we had to save him and the boy’s mom got mad. It was funny though. We went together for Christmas and mostly played uno, timber and smash and Cards Against Humanity.
I miss the crazy shit we did. I miss them. Because the things we did didn’t make sense to others. But we did them because we wanted to have fun. Because we understood each other deeply, who we were.
Imagine all the crazy shit that happened that made you feel alive, made you feel like you were a part of something bigger. I still have their phone numbers, we barely text but it’s just so frustrating.
I’m not suicidal or a negative person. I have no clear direction of what I want in life. I have no goals or any motivation. I don’t know what I want.
But even so, I’ll cherish them, hold dear to them.. maybe we’ll see each other once again. Maybe not.
But I won’t let my loneliness get the best of me. Just because I’m lonely doesn’t mean I have to be negative.
they not lying about the pain, shit really feel like it’s killing me at this point...
I feel like that too
Brittany R we’ll get better
For real it's to the point to where my heart randomly hurts and I've been getting headaches more often, should I be concerned-
@Curry Rose @smaple the only one you can make that it stop is yourself, you know. You have to get out of that comfort zone and put yourself out there. Maybe the first 50 people you come across won't care, but maybe the 51st person would and then continue doing that. It's a lot of effort, but anything worth having needs effort. I wish you the best. Don't be afraid to put yourself out there, because trust me, you're not ALONE with this feeling.
@@anishkasharan9952 thank you very much :)
"#1 ON TRENDING" really says something about our day and age. Things are looking up though because you have youtube channels like this one that's positively influencing the world.
no it's because it's kurzgesagt
This was going to be my comment too.
1# trending in your country, its not #1 in mine. This could be a indicator of ones country. Not meant to offend ofc :)
#50 trending here
Peppa. Pik
Oh this hurts, I’m 23 now, soon to be 24, my loneliness started at 16 and I’m so sick and tired of crying and feeling pathetic.
I want to change!
Look in to how your brain works. You’ll discover exactly what you think and feel the way you do.
One thing you can start doing right away, is flipping the script. Those thoughts that bring you down, change it to something you’re grateful for. Change your brain, change your reality
Please don't let loneliness eat you up, it will ruin you. Loyal friends are amazing, yes they are, but no one is ever as loyal as yourself
Right after Valentine's day best timing
uhhh GOD that's so true
I'm kinda sad I have to agree with you
You know you are extremely lonely when you want to share this video with someone but you can't send it to anyone who would be interested.
...And then there's a situation where there's just nobody to send it to.
you shared this video with everyone who watched it, so in a way, you aren't alone! :)
I think this problem affects a lot of people so u can share it with ur friends Im sure one or two will like it
*-P A I N-*
that’s exactly what i was gonna do-
i wish school could teach us how to handle these things
Exactly. But more importantly, more parent should realize the importance of this sort of things and help their kids learn these.
KepleroGT unfortunately in most societies there is no control over who can become a parent. Although ideally they should, in reality many don’t know it themselves. Schools should level the playing field so that those who were born to crap parents don’t also become crap parents. Trust me it is better for everyone that we have less of those.
That’s not school’s job. It’s parents’ job
KepleroGT well i don't have my parents and i don't like talking to my guardians about my personal feelings life
Being in high school, I do too.
I am Sharofat and today I watched it twice to improve my listening skill. I'm planning to watch at least 2 videos in a day from this channel .
Are u preparing any eaxm?
@@DostonBosimqulov yeap
@@My1honour_ good luck Sharofat
I love that this video is practical, not theoretical. It's a video with a purpose: to make a positive difference.
Most of them are
Actually, after having applied this methodology, still thinking to have just fullfilled a natural need, that feeling can get much worse, this time without any form of practicality to solve it. To say that we have a biological urge or convenience to stay with others may be true, but to pretend to capitalize loneliness on it it´s actually a biological reduction. Loneliness is also related to how we interact with the world, if it is hostile or if it allows refuge, it´s sociological/philosohical, existential.
Loneliness: *More deadly than Cancer and Smoking*
Me: Guess I'll die.
Don't give up. Stay strong mate 💪🏻💪🏻
@@imperiomaximus9583 And remember: dying is gay
Heyy, let's try not to die together
Exactly what I thought when watching this. I've not had any friends for such a long time, that my life span is probably already been completely fucked up by now .
So say we all
Worst part about loneliness is how powerless and imprisoned it makes you feel in your own mind when trying to fix it.
Eyep
True
Very well said.