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  • Опубліковано 24 лис 2024
  • Everybody feels lonely sometimes. But only few of us are aware how important this feeling was for our ancestors - and that our modern world can turn it into something that really hurts us. Why do we feel this way and what can we do about it?
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 74 тис.

  • @kurzgesagt
    @kurzgesagt  5 років тому +17601

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  • @dudecool7915
    @dudecool7915 5 років тому +9191

    The worst thing is going from feeling extremely lonely, to extremely fulfilled, then lonely again

  • @فریدحیدری-غ3ل
    @فریدحیدری-غ3ل 5 років тому +44959

    The worst part of loneliness is when you watch a movie and want to share your opinion with someone but you have nobody
    and you end up talking to yourself

    • @XiyuYang
      @XiyuYang 5 років тому +4334

      Why are you doing this to me.

    • @Zancibar
      @Zancibar 5 років тому +430

      I saw it as the good part of loneliness but ok. . . ​ Toby_ Belle has a point.

    • @baah5443s
      @baah5443s 5 років тому +100

      Záncibar well the OGC did say that it was the worst part for them....

    • @Meme-o-Taur
      @Meme-o-Taur 5 років тому +473

      Same with video games I can’t find anyone that play bf1 or bf4 because everyone is playing fortnite and I can’t have so I can’t reach out to anyone

    • @MrScorpioreaper
      @MrScorpioreaper 5 років тому +89

      Damn :(

  • @tlvdatsi12
    @tlvdatsi12 5 років тому +34124

    The worst thing is being around people and feeling like you are invisible

    • @toast1605
      @toast1605 5 років тому +818

      ZENO I feel called out

    • @fatcat1250
      @fatcat1250 5 років тому +953

      To those with social anxiety, that is the BEST thing.

    • @tlvdatsi12
      @tlvdatsi12 5 років тому +265

      @@fatcat1250 Feeling invisible?? I guess.

    • @florale1065
      @florale1065 5 років тому +300

      feeling invisible is what i want to be actually

    • @coolkiyo8727
      @coolkiyo8727 4 роки тому +28

      Agreed

  • @___slowrider___
    @___slowrider___ 7 місяців тому +465

    The worst thing is being alone in a crowd. I go out to try to make friends and meet people but i end up feeling more isolated than ever.

    • @apillow7237
      @apillow7237 7 місяців тому +31

      thats why i dont go out with friends no more.. at this point every word i want to say makes me think that im weird.

    • @iokjdbsi
      @iokjdbsi 3 місяці тому +1

      @@apillow7237 you are?

    • @chaching2136
      @chaching2136 2 місяці тому +1

      boy you think that hurts try going to your own home and realizing that sixty percent of the time you have no family members around you or any friends at home to hug you or to ask you "how's your day been?"

    • @iokjdbsi
      @iokjdbsi 2 місяці тому

      @@chaching2136 lmao what a loser

    • @joyfulnoise349
      @joyfulnoise349 2 місяці тому

      @@chaching2136😢or having no family at all

  • @axkira7894
    @axkira7894 5 років тому +22087

    Conversations that I have:
    4% with real people
    96% in my mind

    • @AnuragSingh-pn4wz
      @AnuragSingh-pn4wz 5 років тому +456

      same here

    • @Lilflip20128
      @Lilflip20128 5 років тому +1182

      Relatable. Most of my conversations nowadays are smalltalk, which I don't mind but I personally crave to have much deeper conversations and hang out with like minded people.

    • @SilentChaos713
      @SilentChaos713 5 років тому +67

      @@Lilflip20128 I wish for the same thing

    • @1mokay911
      @1mokay911 5 років тому +16

      can you stop with memes?

    • @madamenox2765
      @madamenox2765 5 років тому +10

      Yep

  • @gustxs8924
    @gustxs8924 3 роки тому +4475

    You never realise how lonely you are until it’s the end of the day and you have a bunch of stuff to talk about but no one to tell it to :(

    • @angelapuzzle
      @angelapuzzle 3 роки тому +106

      Yes, that's horrible

    • @ienjoywatchingyousleep9431
      @ienjoywatchingyousleep9431 2 роки тому +107

      A personal journal, then you can go back and relive those experiences as you're reading along :)

    • @MJ_338
      @MJ_338 2 роки тому +72

      This comment is like getting stabbed in the ribcage. Hits right where it hurts

    • @teoooo04
      @teoooo04 2 роки тому

      😔❤️‍🩹

    • @pimcramer2569
      @pimcramer2569 2 роки тому +32

      Now that you know you feel lonely you can start trying to fix it. Try a teamsport or call someone else to ask how've they been. Will be a painfull journey due to the fear of rejection as described in the vid. But remember that by showing interest in someone else is a good deed worth doing even if you don't get anything back.

  • @dragosmicu8567
    @dragosmicu8567 4 роки тому +35682

    "I think my biggest problem is that I love being alone but I hate being lonely."

  • @itsAnnaVictoria
    @itsAnnaVictoria Рік тому +575

    I began tearing up from how well they explained the daily living hell of loneliness I have, and began straight up crying when they explained how I actually can help my self..thank you so much.

  • @poojaach6794
    @poojaach6794 4 роки тому +9218

    The worst is..when u spend time with ur "friends" and feel like u don't belong there anymore. Such a contradicting feeling that is.

  • @t_t__7788
    @t_t__7788 3 роки тому +4874

    The most connected era in the history and yet the most lonely one too.

    • @jimbothegymbro7086
      @jimbothegymbro7086 3 роки тому +196

      It's because everyone feels like they have to put on an act to fit in but that means no one is genuine and we feel that in our gut so we eventually just don't bother with people more than necessary

    • @saldownik
      @saldownik 3 роки тому +18

      Will we ever rewire?

    • @lucidfantasia
      @lucidfantasia 3 роки тому +6

      @@saldownik probably not

    • @litphaniusmcmelloy4275
      @litphaniusmcmelloy4275 3 роки тому +33

      @@saldownik it's hard to tell. But here are my two cents. It really depends on our further evolution. If the humanity will see that doing fine without much interaction and staying individualistic, then we will become more individualistic. If we'll see that it is an irrelevant way, we won't. Right now I think we'll stay the way we are now, social creatures. Even now there are a lot of cultures and societies which encourage collectivism. The western society is a different beast, we're pretty individualistic, but then again, we really we the rising loneliness problem

    • @saldownik
      @saldownik 3 роки тому +5

      @@litphaniusmcmelloy4275 If we will rewire, it will be now much more likely by our design, than by an evolutionary crawl.

  • @Art-ec5cb
    @Art-ec5cb 5 років тому +2257

    The best wombo combo is loneliness and low self esteem; everything else flows from it.

    • @brabbit5220
      @brabbit5220 5 років тому +195

      + social anxiety + depression

    • @adamassaad1958
      @adamassaad1958 5 років тому +47

      I have low self esteem and loneliness so I know how it feels

    • @juanorihuela4128
      @juanorihuela4128 5 років тому +4

      Same

    • @jayluis189
      @jayluis189 5 років тому +90

      No Religion/spirituality + No friends + no family + low self esteem + procrastinator = Shitty times

    • @tdmm
      @tdmm 5 років тому +6

      @@jayluis189 literally me

  • @berkefeil5646
    @berkefeil5646 7 місяців тому +20

    This is such serious issue, since we’re indeed built for good connections with others and quality time with friends. Scrolling through social media and texting don’t fulfill one’s social needs, unfortunately. That’s why we feel so lonely; we have unlearned to have qualitative real-life conversations and pay genuine attention to each other. Loneliness has taken a huge toll on my mental health and I hope it will get better in the future

  • @AdityaRaj-qu6tq
    @AdityaRaj-qu6tq 3 роки тому +2677

    "Loneliness makes you decline invitations till invitations stops"
    TOTALLY AGREE..

    • @endovelyco1906
      @endovelyco1906 3 роки тому +53

      specially when those invitations werent about you but what you have, egoistic invitations, then i prefer to be lonely thanks.

    • @generichomosapien4666
      @generichomosapien4666 3 роки тому +1

      E

    • @goroland6904
      @goroland6904 3 роки тому +78

      you guys were getting invitations in the first place ?

    • @TooSickToDressVictorian
      @TooSickToDressVictorian 3 роки тому +28

      @@goroland6904 I have the same problem. How am I supposed to have a social life when nobody cares about me enough to invite me to anything? My ex-”friends“ were like parasites, taking and never giving. I‘ve cut them off and now I‘m alone, but it‘s still better than pretending that people care about you.

    • @uranium54321
      @uranium54321 3 роки тому +3

      From my experience, this seems to work. I had friends before 2020 but none of them were very close, and even tho I barely have any friends now, I feel less lonely than before because I’m better at occupying myself. Not having friends but keeping myself happy is probably not a permanent solution but it’s definitely a good first step toward not being lonely, I guess it’s like fully figuring myself out before rejoining society and trying to make friends again

  • @nibornaan6634
    @nibornaan6634 5 років тому +3303

    "Decline invitations untill the invitations stop"
    Bold of you to assume I ever got any.

    • @dovahgwyn_
      @dovahgwyn_ 5 років тому +7

      Nu ești singur, nici nu vei fi vreodată, atâta timp cât nu vrei. 🇷🇴

    • @Nierez
      @Nierez 5 років тому +11

      I used to get a few, to places that caused me anxiety. Now the have stopped coming, I'm fine with that :)

    • @minatonamikazi8818
      @minatonamikazi8818 5 років тому +3

      This is what I said too

    • @oui6794
      @oui6794 5 років тому +37

      I was once in class, and i stood behind a curtain to see og anyone would remember i Was there. And yes it was after a break so the teacher knew i was at school that day, and we had the same teacher Before, and after the break. No one, not even my best friend remembered me. So when i came out from hiding, i asked why they didnt say anything. They all didnt know i was at school that day. Yes this is a true story, and they actually didnt know i was at school. If you have any questions, i would gladly reply.

    • @lfamvs5520
      @lfamvs5520 5 років тому +2

      High five! 🖐

  • @pokerface-_-5118
    @pokerface-_-5118 5 років тому +1742

    "The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.
    -Mark Twain

    • @roccoscott7161
      @roccoscott7161 5 років тому +10

      Amen.

    • @Xperim
      @Xperim 5 років тому +11

      And being lonely is what makes you uncomfortable with yourself.

    • @technoraver99
      @technoraver99 5 років тому +6

      video gaming = waste of time. housework is much better (karma)
      bored? anyone??
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      smoke detectors? carbon monoxide detectors? fire blanket, structural fire prevention? fire protection coating? (on building walls?) or anti corrosion? (on bridges, tools etc?) fire suppression systems? + installation? instructions?
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      infrared sight 4 lifeguards, firefighters or first responders?
      4 amazing tools: portable hydraulic strongarm 4 firefighters etc, hands free thermal vision (in mask imaging system), in mask heat vision (temperature display etc) or c-thru technology!
      there are more amazing tools!
      fire extinguishers 4 everyone? every home? companies? + every car !? (highway safety and more!) (+ child safety device!) + fireproof clothing? + cap, gloves, safety glasses etc !
      (note: there are different types of fire extinguishers and application fields! powder, foam, water etc)
      become a paramedic instructor in future? firefighter? + pump operator (+ driver) ? (volunteer?) high angle rescuer? ambulance driver or nurse?
      give it a try! externship? externships?
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      support air ambulances? or retirement homes !? (see list below)
      become a
      midwife? or dental assistant ?
      shuttle service? (disabled people, seniors, wheelchair user)
      towing service or animal protection ?
      at least
      support animal welfare organizations? sponsorships??
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      animal shelters in your area need money 4 food, maintenance work, expansion, staff, new vehicles, security staff, etc.
      trips? beach trips? parks? poor dogs :(
      (create new jobs? build new sanctuaries? new parks? zoological gardens? more veterinarians + animal hospitals + hospitality)
      volunteer work? go walkies?
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      maybe... plant a tree? many trees? a walnut tree?? in a park, garden or backyard? crows and other birds would appreciate that.
      or a japanese maple tree?
      or go vegan ?
      potato, zucchini, paprika, cucumber, tomato, rice, fries, ketchup, baked bread etc?
      hey its animal friendly :)
      vegan cookbooks? give it a try! its tasty
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      think about the environment. in your city. seriously
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      or buy solar panels? learn from the solar experts?
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      stop abortions? change laws? strict restrictions?
      increasing homelessness and pollution = serious problems.
      time 4 serious solutions!
      time 2 build new quarters? apartments? + assisted living ? (board and care homes)
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      NEW projects? (new jobs?) new hotel projects?? (with doctors, carers, nurses, security staff etc, seminar rooms, briefing rooms, a big pool? (+ diving schools?), + sport areas? spa?) + new motels?
      serious + fast help? thousands need fast help!
      yes, giving money 2 very poor people will make their lives better. they are everywhere. railway stations? 10, 20, 50, 100 ?
      or sleeping pads, bags !? tents !? blankets? money 4 drugstore etc? mouth rinse? (caries ! etc.) maybe dog food? or veterinarian? eyes open!
      (+ toothbrushes !? (sensitive!), multi-purpose toothpaste? good for those with no specific dental issues! or a specific category of toothpaste !? (caries, parodontitis ! ), mineral water without carbonates (in bottles? 6 x 1,5 L ?), a pocket mirror?, meds ? (toothache ! ), safety scissors?, nail clippers?, warm clothes + accessories?, plastic hand brush?, tissues?, trash bags?, a radio !? + batteries?, flashlight?, first aid kit? (+ wound care cream?, wound disinfection?), a backpack?)
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      + lockers !? (2 protect property! ) many lockers + big ones! free? (+ hygienics, sanitation etc)
      search these people? help these people? inform these people. provide information? a shuttle service? 2 new quarters?
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      more facilities + better facilities + more employees + upskilling employees etc ?!
      (in hospitals, retirement homes, homes for the disabled, homeless etc)
      better treatment + more comfort 4 residents, patients etc??
      better retirement homes? (better medical equipment? + AEDs, one way keyring r. masks, lifters, CPR simulators, pulse oximeters, seminars, training courses, training!, + regular checks!, trips, furniture (+ all weather outdoor furniture?), therapeutic massage armchairs, automat? drinks?, more wheelchairs (+ replacement) (+ silk or polyester pillows? more comfort? cushioning? (+ shoes? cushioning gel?) padding? less decubitus ! (+ anti decubitus mattress? positive negative pressure mattress?), less contractures ! (+ hand therapy balls?), rollator, protector pads? (elbows, hips ! etc? = less fractures, pain ! etc. safety first! think about your grandparents or older friends 2 ?), medical alert systems? (+ wearable medical alert buttons?), better documentation? (+ better systems?), more bathtubs? (+ more bathing? more assistance?), shampoo + eye shield? (demented patients!), better nail care? + more often? nail clippers 4 every resident?, therapeutics + dental therapeutics? (+ better oral, dental care? less oral thrush !, less periodontitis ! etc), better food? (+ bigger choice?) (+ additional: (4 residents + employees) instant mashed potatoes? (in a cup), vegan soups etc. + a microwave?), paintings + art, coast or beach atmosphere? gardens? botanical gardens? allergy? (plastic plants?), better alert systems (+ internal communication via phones? phones 4 all employees?), animals? pets or birds? allergy? bonsai maple trees? etc. + small jobs 4 residents? a workshop? textile processing? knitting? small kitchen jobs? or board game party? old people = bored 2 ?
      balcony or terrace sunset evenings? (all weather outdoor furniture? sunshade? plastic palm tree? beach chair? lighting + lamps? adjustable pedestal fans? (hot days?) all disability friendly?
      less isolation? (growing loneliness!) more community oriented activities? + small group trips? (gardens, theatre, museum, dance ball, coasts or beaches? ports?
      sometimes? more often?)
      higher wages 4 staff? ..much higher :)
      (home care patients? they are lonely 2.. most of them!)
      time 4 changes. time 4 more happyness. everybody wants 2 be happy! trips? visits? (with pets? no allergy?)
      donate clothing?
      support 4 daycare centers? (money 4 new furniture, medic courses, + training, equipment? (+ child and baby CPR simulators? etc)
      indoor playground or waterpark employees? upskilling? + many more first aid kits (+ better signposts? + fire extinguishers, AEDs, emergency escape, plan, exit, staircase, ladder etc? everywhere? LARGE SIGNS? (+ corridors? on the ceiling? + arrows?) poor eyesight ! + health and safety stickers !? handicap signs or stickers? ), training, equipment, AEDs etc.
      easy jobs?
      clean-up operations?
      bushes, parks, streets, lakes?, harbors?, seas?, coasts?, oceans?
      clean up some plastic, broken glass or other trash?
      trash = serious danger 4 animals. (pain in the stomach, injuries, die offs etc ):
      its time 4 serious cleaning up operations!
      (you can use hand nets, nitrile gloves. self protection!)
      or use a boat? recycling bins?
      (maybe... leave a slice of toast bread? in the shrubs? or on a grass area? for birds. they love it :)
      (or walnuts? small pieces. on cold days. winter, autumn etc)
      work at night?
      (or new school projects? monthly?) volunteers? maybe ask your school teachers?
      or maybe visit a diving school? become a diver? 4 mother nature ...
      (the plastic trash that floats in the world's oceans actually decompose and release potentially toxic substances into the water)
      ,,,
      lets save marine life :) lets remove some plastic and trash.
      many turtles are in trouble struggling with plastic :(
      + better recycling systems all around the world? (+ africa, india, etc?)
      + sanitation? new wells and fresh water 4 animals ? (there are aid agencies)
      create new ones? or new jobs?
      + new farms? (fruits, vegetables) + greenhouses? bakery? drug stores + pharmacies? new schools? diving or swimming schools? boat hire !? + life vests?, hand nets (plastic waste = global problem) + international help, assistance?
      we need jobs. NO replacement of workers or employees!
      we dont need robots etc. stop robot technology + developement. all kinds of it

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      @tessalew 5 років тому

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      Poker Face-_- Why does it bother me that he forgot to close the quotation?

  • @soykanilhan8349
    @soykanilhan8349 7 місяців тому +12

    Çok faydalı bir kanalsınız. Sayenizde hayal gücümde çektiğim acılarla ve fantezilerle yüzleşiyorum.

  • @alexdyk9177
    @alexdyk9177 5 років тому +3545

    Loneliness is when you’re surrounded by people, but don’t feel connected with them. You have hours of conversation, but still feel empty and unsatisfied. You try to speak up, but they don’t understand.

    • @hendywijaya3213
      @hendywijaya3213 5 років тому +100

      yeah, and how to overcome this problem? we open up and accepting invitations from friends but now what?

    • @rosethenoble
      @rosethenoble 5 років тому +9

      @@hendywijaya3213 this is also my question

    • @sumdude4
      @sumdude4 5 років тому +39

      Sounds like every family reunion I went to.

    • @mertboy94
      @mertboy94 5 років тому +122

      A little late but here i go:
      So i had this problem back in school too.
      My "friends" were nice and all.
      I talked a lot with them but it never felt right.
      Sometimes i didnt say what i meant other times i just couldnt speak up.
      The thing is (and thats the hard part) theyre not real friends.
      Trust me if they hurt you (in anyway) or you dont feel comfortable around them -> get fucking rid of them.
      Real friendship is so different from that i still cant believe it.
      I dont have to think what im saying. It just clicks and i just feel happy now.
      Youve to try again and again and thats the hardest part of the problem.
      Every relationship is like that.
      Youve to sort out the troublemakers/idiots/etc. and to do that youve to just try (again and again...).
      Its not going to be easy but hang in there and believe in yourself.
      Your future self will thank you.
      Youll think back and it will be crazy how it changed.
      Hope this somehow helps.
      Feeling lonely is probably one of the worst things out there but its cureable.
      Meeting new people makes you vulnerable and consumes a lot of time/energy but in
      the end its the only way.

    • @rosethenoble
      @rosethenoble 5 років тому +2

      @@mertboy94 thanks for the answer :')

  • @boneshrimp6486
    @boneshrimp6486 5 років тому +3310

    Man, You know that feeling when someone you consider a friend ignores you and makes you feel like you've been dumped

    • @boneshrimp6486
      @boneshrimp6486 5 років тому +48

      gloriousholy I know, This happens to me a lot but gosh it's a sore when it happens

    • @cglmt4152
      @cglmt4152 5 років тому +131

      @@boneshrimp6486 I've been forced to dump some friends because they drain my happiness and I have been trying to find a new crowd that makes me happy rather than miserable. Maybe it's time for you to look for better friends that bring you up.

    • @SadeMetsavirta
      @SadeMetsavirta 5 років тому +23

      feel this so much, but it's not just one friend for me, it's my whole friend group :,o

    • @kirimaruisao4094
      @kirimaruisao4094 5 років тому +13

      It's me who ignore my friends. Now none of them talk about me anymore

    • @nutanddash8552
      @nutanddash8552 5 років тому +18

      @@kirimaruisao4094 I feel you, I regret it so much. I wish I didn't ignore my only friend that I atleast feel comfortable to talk to. It all start when my old friend finally came to my class, shes always absence and I thought it was because I wasn't a good enough friend for her, but I want to spent more time with her(I was an idiot), so I left my other friend behind, I got carried away and didn't talk to my other friend for 2 days, now she think I hate her. I apologize to her and she won't even talk to me anymore, and my old friend keeps skipping class. I have no friends at all right now. I don't know what have my life turn into. I keep abandon my online friends (which I also feel very guilty about) to the point where I abandon my friends that I can talk always to. I just thought I wasn't good enough so I push people away, but I regret it for hurting their feelings. Although they may have forgotten about me now. I don't want friends or lover. I just want comfort. I'm so stupid, I miss everyone and I wish I'm not in this stupid phase.

  • @averygoodlookingwhale9449
    @averygoodlookingwhale9449 5 років тому +4179

    “Let’s reach out to someone today”
    *Left on read*

    • @housecat1674
      @housecat1674 5 років тому +221

      A very good looking whale bruh I tried to talk to someone new in irl, ten minutes they just got up and walked away I WAS LEFT ON READ IRL

    • @saftschinken2353
      @saftschinken2353 5 років тому +10

      Same...

    • @wanderingintime
      @wanderingintime 5 років тому +139

      @@housecat1674 damn. that sucks. I know it dont feel like it... but that was not you. that was them. I had 2 experiences where I tried. one was great. one was not, and I let it ruin me.
      *1 - in hs in florida we had a nice outdoors campus (art school). during lunch, I saw an obviously (facial/body expression) lonely boy sitting against a pillar looking down at the grass. I said "Hey man what's up? you new? want to go for a walk?" and he did. we had fun that one time. we never hung out with each other after that day, but he had made friends and always smiled and said hello to me in the halls. (I was art, he was music - no shared classes)
      *2 - another time in hs, after school by the bus loading area, there was a nervous looking, very quiet kid with glasses. I thought the other time was good.. I made someone happy and I felt good. so I stood right in front of him, waved and said "hello!" and he just stared at me. I repeated my word... and he blinked. I felt so sad. like I was bothering him. I said sorry and slunk away. I never fucking did that again. it was stupid of ME. in hindsight, i shouldn't have ever let myself feel shame for reaching out.
      * years later, I saw the boy from story 1. he was so happy to see me, and told me and the friends he was with, that I'd never know how much I changed his hs experience just from that one day. he made a lot of friends. I wish I could have been his friend, but it didn't happen - we were really different and lived far from each other.
      what I'm trying to say, is we'll never be able to reach someone who isn't ready or willing to be reached. but this reaching out and trying again is a real thing that can have such an impact...
      well I lied. I did reach out again. i met my last significant other inside of an abandoned building.. and I saw him a few weeks later walking in the streets where I lived. I pulled over and said "hey. wanna go for a drive?" he did. then i killed him... not. but we did joke about how i could have... we've been together 8 years. o.o

    • @housecat1674
      @housecat1674 5 років тому +31

      wanderingintime bro thank you so much wtf out of all the people I talked to about it your UA-cam comment was the wisest and made me feel the most better, what a great start to my day! Also for a second I believed the killing joke lolll

    • @wanderingintime
      @wanderingintime 5 років тому +15

      @@housecat1674 hey that makes me happy to know. keep having a good day!

  • @Derfiser
    @Derfiser Рік тому +83

    The feeling that you have everybody around you, but not with you

  • @zipperman1063
    @zipperman1063 5 років тому +5476

    “If you feel lonely you are lonely”
    Quote of the year

    • @ima13yroldpplessfortnutboi79
      @ima13yroldpplessfortnutboi79 5 років тому +40

      I saw this comment while watching that part

    • @shinjilovrrr
      @shinjilovrrr 5 років тому +120

      Hmm, yes. The floor here is made out of floor.

    • @ima13yroldpplessfortnutboi79
      @ima13yroldpplessfortnutboi79 5 років тому +9

      @@shinjilovrrr the chhair is made out of chair

    • @shinjilovrrr
      @shinjilovrrr 5 років тому +13

      @@ima13yroldpplessfortnutboi79 yeah, this is big brain time. Also, your name in chat

    • @justafranz
      @justafranz 5 років тому +15

      Every minute 60 seconds pass in Africa

  • @broskydoodle6697
    @broskydoodle6697 5 років тому +81178

    "Loneliness"
    *Recommended for you*

  • @amerhaddad4229
    @amerhaddad4229 3 роки тому +2004

    You know you are extremely lonely when you want to share this video with someone but you can't send it to anyone who would be interested.

    • @DarthBiomech
      @DarthBiomech 3 роки тому +98

      ...And then there's a situation where there's just nobody to send it to.

    • @h_k_hellion7268
      @h_k_hellion7268 3 роки тому +48

      you shared this video with everyone who watched it, so in a way, you aren't alone! :)

    • @sleverlight
      @sleverlight 3 роки тому +6

      I think this problem affects a lot of people so u can share it with ur friends Im sure one or two will like it

    • @projectdelta2777
      @projectdelta2777 3 роки тому +4

      *-P A I N-*

    • @jhae927
      @jhae927 3 роки тому +4

      that’s exactly what i was gonna do-

  • @MrRrrr698
    @MrRrrr698 7 місяців тому +92

    For the last 10 yrs I'm a complete social outcast(used to be an outcast in my childhood too but not completely), I'm so lonely I talk to myself for hours very loudly like I'm talking to someone because I got no one to talk to literally no one. 😢☹️

    • @kendallbr9166
      @kendallbr9166 7 місяців тому +2

      Jesús 😭

    • @MrRrrr698
      @MrRrrr698 7 місяців тому

      @@kendallbr9166 yeah 🥺🥺

    • @ernstthalmann4306
      @ernstthalmann4306 6 місяців тому +1

      Can relate

    • @deimosok2003
      @deimosok2003 6 місяців тому +1

      Yeah ik the feeling

    • @janellegiromus5972
      @janellegiromus5972 5 місяців тому +4

      You know, sometimes talking to yourself isn't a bad thing, sure you'd like to talk to another person but at least when you talk to yourself, there isn't any fear of a negative response :)

  • @wisammikhael8624
    @wisammikhael8624 5 років тому +3080

    You know the world is dying when a video called "Loneliness" is #1 on trending

    • @hugedoofus
      @hugedoofus 5 років тому +120

      Just the ones who spend their time on the internet.

    • @JoshuaJadeMcCoskrie
      @JoshuaJadeMcCoskrie 5 років тому +151

      It's not dying. It's just going through some spiritual growing pains.

    • @ikopelli
      @ikopelli 5 років тому +13

      Right now it's number 9 trending

    • @oceirosrex371
      @oceirosrex371 5 років тому +27

      Good, this place sucks

    • @phylippezimmermannpaquin2062
      @phylippezimmermannpaquin2062 5 років тому +26

      or you could say people are taking responsibility for a wide spread problem? seeking help is after all courageous

  • @ilovegrass
    @ilovegrass 4 роки тому +2363

    I'm the type of person who likes to cheer everybody up, but when I'm not feeling good nobody seems to care about me and that's what makes me lonely

    • @dominicpalmisano
      @dominicpalmisano 4 роки тому +88

      it’s called codependency, it’s a boundary issue, i suffer from it too

    • @phoebebrooks8569
      @phoebebrooks8569 4 роки тому +9

      ya boi same
      :/

    • @dumbleking5172
      @dumbleking5172 4 роки тому +168

      I'm the one who connects everyone while im just a broken connection line.
      It's pretty painful when you see everyone around you care for each other and not you while you're the main connector, as if you're the power cable that connects cities but no one cares for your maintenance.
      Being a loyal person, this is a bullet to the gut.

    • @namesarefortheweak
      @namesarefortheweak 4 роки тому +21

      Dumble King I’m the same way, now I spend most of my free periods thinking about what could have been if I didn’t make so many mistakes while everyone else is having fun and joking around

    • @thegodkiller8388
      @thegodkiller8388 4 роки тому +2

      same

  • @amv2772
    @amv2772 5 років тому +5358

    Let's just appreciate that UA-cam gathered us all lonely ppl here in this video's comment section so we don't feel lonely.

    • @TC-xb3jv
      @TC-xb3jv 5 років тому +14

      Yessd

    • @SLVARO
      @SLVARO 5 років тому +13

      Thanks ❤️

    • @letwen
      @letwen 5 років тому +31

      UA-cam is the only one who thinks us

    • @JKAZ_M
      @JKAZ_M 5 років тому +39

      I don't see how this should make anyone feel less lonely. They're in the exact same spot as before, equally lonely and pathetic.
      But perhaps I'm just too pessimist.

    • @julienfriedland2773
      @julienfriedland2773 5 років тому +1

      Yeah

  • @apinkchameleon
    @apinkchameleon 11 місяців тому +166

    Hey, just wanted to come back here to say that this video seriously improved my life last year. It made me realize during one of the worst times in my life that I was significantly isolating myself, making it worse. It encouraged me to reach out to people, and though I didn't make any life changing friendships, it made my senior year of high school a hell of a lot more bareable. So, yeah. Though you'll probably never see this, thank you.

    • @viandka
      @viandka 9 місяців тому +7

      i don't know you but i proud of you. i hope you feel better ^^

    • @TheLethargicWeirdo985
      @TheLethargicWeirdo985 8 місяців тому +5

      Well done! You're doing better than me, that's for sure

    • @iokjdbsi
      @iokjdbsi 3 місяці тому

      too bad you didn't kill yourself

    • @luaqi
      @luaqi 16 днів тому +2

      I'm also watching this in senior year right now and I really hope it changes something. Living like this is hell, but your comment gives me hope it might get better

  • @Nitroh-
    @Nitroh- 5 років тому +1696

    the worst combination is beinh lonely and having social anxiety.. i cry a lot

    • @pavan9558
      @pavan9558 5 років тому +10

      Hi

    • @cristophersedoriosa6587
      @cristophersedoriosa6587 5 років тому +2

      Lol same

    • @RunningUphill
      @RunningUphill 5 років тому +9

      Nitroh
      Your not alone

    • @bariumselenided5152
      @bariumselenided5152 5 років тому +111

      I got hit with a lethal triple combo: loneliness, social anxiety, and crippling depression. So I’m watching this video and I’m like fuck, I should hit up my old friend and try to get back in it. Then depression is right behind me like that meme from icarly where Gibby beats Spencer with a stop sign. God, I guess I’ll just have to commit myself to one more day, and keep doing that.

    • @fafablablabla
      @fafablablabla 5 років тому +19

      @@bariumselenided5152 I got it triple combo that you said because I have existential crisis. Hell, this feeling is kill me mentally.

  • @BarryBruh
    @BarryBruh 5 років тому +11838

    Anyone wanna hold hands

    • @fruitcake7789
      @fruitcake7789 5 років тому +109

      alone. o o

    • @CrimzonGhostz
      @CrimzonGhostz 5 років тому +70

      What are you doing here and why havnt you made another vid yet?

    • @rubaiyattasnim1297
      @rubaiyattasnim1297 5 років тому +138

      Let's hold hands then ~~

    • @somedudett5880
      @somedudett5880 5 років тому +41

      No

    • @notcute-qh8og
      @notcute-qh8og 5 років тому +260

      I'd rather hug, thanks. My hands get sweaty when someone else holds them.

  • @MrTattooASMR
    @MrTattooASMR 5 років тому +804

    Number 1 trending.
    Shows how many people get lonely.

    • @Mm.2804-v7j
      @Mm.2804-v7j 5 років тому +3

      Preach brother preach! Is what i would say if i used reddit like you. But because i'm a human being with an iq above room temperature i cringed at this.

    • @westonwheeler2311
      @westonwheeler2311 5 років тому +20

      @@Mm.2804-v7j the dude just said shows how many people are lonely. How does that show he uses reddit?

    • @yep9620
      @yep9620 5 років тому +25

      Mehdi Cane I cringed at this comment

    • @yellow_jacket3260
      @yellow_jacket3260 5 років тому +5

      Really the UA-cam trending tab just nominates videos that the algorithm thinks is good rather then what people watch, but I do agree that in this day and more people are feeling more lonely than ever

    • @user255
      @user255 5 років тому +4

      Not really. It just shows this channel has many viewers and/or people find the topic interesting.

  • @FlyingNoScope
    @FlyingNoScope 11 місяців тому +43

    I watched this video 4 years ago and it's just been suggested on my algorithm. I wanted to come back here and say that this video set the ball in motion which massive improved my mental health and my life. I live in a new country now and it's scary and would have been too lonely in my mind 4 years ago but now it excites me to be alone and make new friends again.
    I bought and read 'Loneliness' by John Cacioppo & William Patrick and then bought it for people in my life i want to support.
    Thank you Kurzgesagt, i hope your videos continue to help people in a rut as I was.
    Ry

  • @raifwinn2475
    @raifwinn2475 5 років тому +7541

    The sad part is most of the people watching this are lonley

    • @terribrown5989
      @terribrown5989 5 років тому +25

      I am

    • @toastydoggo2313
      @toastydoggo2313 5 років тому +67

      Well yeah, it's weird to see this video with a group of people. It's better to see this by yourself because everyone is different and everyone feels lonely at different times

    • @terribrown5989
      @terribrown5989 5 років тому +17

      @@toastydoggo2313 I feel lonely most OF THE TIME

    • @Besomar_Surahat
      @Besomar_Surahat 5 років тому +18

      I'm not, but i was curious about the subject and how help People

    • @yumenatomi1898
      @yumenatomi1898 5 років тому +15

      Sad reality

  • @ThomerTD
    @ThomerTD 4 роки тому +2120

    That's why I love the comment section, I feel like I'm watching this accompanied

    • @passenger6619
      @passenger6619 4 роки тому +17

      True

    • @loik1loik1
      @loik1loik1 4 роки тому +19

      And ur not lonely anymore

    • @notsureiL
      @notsureiL 4 роки тому +3

      Feels like everyone is just bots and I'm the only human here 😨

    • @aitipsea3909
      @aitipsea3909 4 роки тому +17

      Awwwww, this comment made me a lil bit happier
      Good for you Buddy

    • @endermeap6488
      @endermeap6488 4 роки тому +7

      This made me so much more conscious of how much I read and respond to comments

  • @mishcamorales4266
    @mishcamorales4266 5 років тому +6720

    I feel lonely if the teacher ask us to pick a group and i get left behind

    • @AM-fb3it
      @AM-fb3it 5 років тому +355

      Marceline Morales okay, so as the video itself recommends, I’m trying to lift somebody’s mood up although it’s not what I would normally do. But I can tell you that feeling left behind the group is a very familiar feeling. In fact, now that I think about it it’s been a long time since I actually cared about it because it happened so many times that it kinda became a normality for me to feel left out. Or maybe I just got used to it or I’m not trying anymore or whatever the video says. Anyways, in my case, I know that people would have accepted me if I tried a bit harder therefore I think you can choose not to be alone and maybe if you give yourself a chance( or multiple chances) you can get yourself out of that isolation bubble. And also you’re probably cool and funny and if you haven’t found the right people around you yet then just keep being yourself.
      I hope it didn’t make you feel sadder, lol

    • @sangjunlee8200
      @sangjunlee8200 5 років тому +16

      Dayum

    • @lorenebonsu7266
      @lorenebonsu7266 5 років тому +29

      Marceline Morales LoL me always 👅

    • @sanchez5863
      @sanchez5863 5 років тому +107

      That’s what happened to me for a field trip. The field trip is tomorrow and I was put in a group full of guys who I barely know. I’m afraid of being humiliated if I go cause of the boys and other girls in a group together. So I can stay home or take my chances of humiliation. What should I do?

    • @kororokiw.6687
      @kororokiw.6687 5 років тому +106

      @@sanchez5863 If the field trip is something worth going to, then sure! Be yourself, and don't be scared. We all say things at the wrong time when we're nervous and feel out of place, so just take some breaths, and reassess where you are. I was the "lone wolf" in middle school, and a bit through high school as well. I've done TONS of really awkward things, and my heart races when just being spoken to. If people are speaking to you, listen, and I mean REALLY listen. Ask good questions, and be polite! Be calm, and when people talk to you, respond. Boys or girls, in the end, they're only your peers!

  • @emma5326
    @emma5326 Рік тому +92

    Every time I feel so lonely to the point I can't endure it, I watch this video and cry at the thought of someone understands me. although I cry while watching it, I feel like being helped out

    • @night2exclusive
      @night2exclusive Рік тому +5

      No one understand me irl but its nice seeing people that also dont have many friends and are usually lonely

    • @Noonelalala
      @Noonelalala Рік тому +1

      you know? I wanted to comment: did anyone else cryed while watching this? Then i see your comment

    • @canopus_reborn
      @canopus_reborn Рік тому

      But where ru from?
      *_Emma🦋_*

    • @DuMaster447
      @DuMaster447 10 місяців тому

      I’m following you ;)

    • @jonlabruna
      @jonlabruna 5 місяців тому

      Hey I feel the same way

  • @AmithV96
    @AmithV96 3 роки тому +2656

    "It's not a sign of weakness, but of courage" - best phrase ever

    • @gianz73
      @gianz73 3 роки тому +43

      Can confirm it by personal experience. For me, therapy was no easy path, but it saved my life and made me grow immensely. Glad I found the courage to start and keep at it despite the difficult moments. There's light and life waiting for those who venture. The most difficult and most important part is doing the first step! It just means making a phone call or sending an e-mail, but we'll be glad we took that small, first step.

    • @jesolo_edits
      @jesolo_edits 3 роки тому +2

      Love the Enrique iglesias pfp :)

    • @sarebagc9009
      @sarebagc9009 3 роки тому +2

      Yeah

    • @ayubpinjari7527
      @ayubpinjari7527 3 роки тому +2

      It's is also a sign of you denying your desire for connection lol.

    • @fartknob7288
      @fartknob7288 3 роки тому

      yes

  • @quatreunhuit
    @quatreunhuit 5 років тому +5737

    So people who are lonelier die faster, how convenient.

    • @sudsy9011
      @sudsy9011 5 років тому +789

      Now to start smoking daily to double the speed

    • @Lethe666
      @Lethe666 5 років тому +494

      On a positive side:
      Less loneliness to face in your life, if you die sooner. You can’t feel lonely when you’re dead.

    • @wanderingintime
      @wanderingintime 5 років тому +7

      LOL

    • @ryandeschanel6925
      @ryandeschanel6925 5 років тому +6

      🖕

    • @Slime-pt6jp
      @Slime-pt6jp 5 років тому +94

      Not bad,Just breathing is exhausting

  • @jollivadojjolivad699
    @jollivadojjolivad699 5 років тому +1902

    This video probably saved a life by making someone finally not feel broken.

    • @archlich4489
      @archlich4489 5 років тому +11

      This

    • @mikhaela1438
      @mikhaela1438 5 років тому +57

      It gave awareness to me. I’m in denial that I’m in a terrible position, probably because I saw it as a sign of vulnerability and weakness if I admit it, but this made me understand that loneliness is normal, not something to be ashame of.

    • @derick115_1
      @derick115_1 5 років тому +12

      I know the feeling and I just wanted to say I love you I don't know you but I still love you

    • @nassiri1355
      @nassiri1355 5 років тому +1

      Yes my life, I'll think about it in my next loneliness crisis.

    • @goeatsomeshiet11q
      @goeatsomeshiet11q 5 років тому

      It did to me.

  • @VanNguyen-ct9ez
    @VanNguyen-ct9ez Місяць тому +4

    Thank you for this. I felt lonely for most of my life, and thought that people hated me, therefore I should not be around anybody. My husband gave me confidence, but my loneliness still come back every now and then.

  • @genericusername8494
    @genericusername8494 5 років тому +30535

    Free virtual hugs for my lonely people.

  • @cuac5869
    @cuac5869 2 роки тому +4438

    You know you are lonely when something good happens in your life but you have no one to tell.

    • @aryastarkofwinterfell6480
      @aryastarkofwinterfell6480 2 роки тому +47

      💔

    • @cracy0
      @cracy0 Рік тому +40

      Yup we can't share our emotions

    • @David-yq4rz
      @David-yq4rz Рік тому +20

      My last friend is moving to Spain for soccer.

    • @chickenman1012
      @chickenman1012 Рік тому +2

      ​@@David-yq4rz I like soccer NOT FOUTBALL

    • @phlopi6
      @phlopi6 Рік тому +43

      i glady have the opportunity to tell my friends about it. but unfortunately i often keep it to myself because i believe that nobody cares about it...

  • @bmurraybmurray8505
    @bmurraybmurray8505 5 років тому +2883

    I forgot how to interact with people, my universe is made of my bed, youtube and books. I have so much to share but nobody to share it with, probably like all of you here.

    • @marcoottina654
      @marcoottina654 5 років тому +107

      Try to have a look around: in almost every big city there are "centers" talking about some topics in particular, Facebook and other networks have pages / channels focused on some topic, Telegram too has channels like that (for example, there's a Telegram's channel called Link4Universe, same name of a UA-cam channel, talking about Cosmo and Astrophysics).
      Nowadays, "Internet" turned tons of people into zombies who throw there their mind as trash (for a huge amount of reasons like culture, mental habit, force of will, laziness, etc), but it's not like there everywhere! This UA-cam channel is an example, where contents are high-quality ones :D

    • @aeciosxtnr
      @aeciosxtnr 5 років тому +24

      Let's chat!

    • @andersondealmeida8362
      @andersondealmeida8362 5 років тому +44

      you could recommend a book to us :D

    • @lifeofachristiannursingstu9498
      @lifeofachristiannursingstu9498 5 років тому +2

      Yep you are so right

    • @srphm_
      @srphm_ 5 років тому +35

      But right now you're sharing what you are experiencing thus we are relating to what you are saying

  • @skinnystick9336
    @skinnystick9336 7 місяців тому +52

    learning that loneliness is an evolutionary trait of human kind rather than a mental illness makes me feel so much better

    • @iokjdbsi
      @iokjdbsi 3 місяці тому

      xD "evolutionary trait" if that were true losers wouldn't exist like you

    • @hihtitmamnan
      @hihtitmamnan 2 місяці тому +3

      Depression is mental illness and it's not something that should make you feel worse. I am depressed too and I don't hide it. If people think it's "icky", then fuck them.

    • @iokjdbsi
      @iokjdbsi 2 місяці тому +1

      @@hihtitmamnan depression isn't real, you're just a fucking loser

  • @ХамазаевРуслан
    @ХамазаевРуслан 4 роки тому +2456

    Who else imagines (Im)possible conversations with strangers, teachers, hypothetical girlfriend. But then you realize that they are not gonna happen. They stay in your mind, get forgotten. You deceive yourself, end that is the loneliest feeling in the world

    • @chronitized
      @chronitized 4 роки тому +9

      You aren't deceiving when you experience you are experiencing experience itself

    • @wolfchrt
      @wolfchrt 4 роки тому +49

      I remember trying to strike up a conversation with strangers a couple times and every time I get a dirty look. I just be like damn. Only trying to say where'd you get that ice cream cone.

    • @chronitized
      @chronitized 4 роки тому +1

      And we wonder how inordinary people can exist

    • @iftae9374
      @iftae9374 4 роки тому +1

      Hey! I get what u mean...

    • @ethancabral7596
      @ethancabral7596 4 роки тому +5

      It’ll happen, waiting is the hard part

  • @10seconds0
    @10seconds0 4 роки тому +2209

    Oh god comment section is so depressing and the worst part is I can relate

  • @alihasanabdullah7586
    @alihasanabdullah7586 5 років тому +528

    Can we for a moment appreciate how kurzgesagt always adds the footnotes that connect pretty much everything they say to a peer reviewed research data?
    This is where the spirit of research and science, and a safeguard to conspiracy theories lie.

    • @UnderscoreZeroLP
      @UnderscoreZeroLP 5 років тому +3

      they used to not do that. and they still give opinion as fact, pretending that the studies cover it

    • @hazard7732
      @hazard7732 5 років тому +5

      @@UnderscoreZeroLP just like your opinion? What about the two videos on nuclear power with opposing viewpoints?

    • @RiKaSNHAUA
      @RiKaSNHAUA 5 років тому

      @@UnderscoreZeroLP thank you mah man, unfortunately they are tilted towards EU

    • @hazard7732
      @hazard7732 5 років тому

      I think that's a brilliant observation!

    • @seanp4644
      @seanp4644 5 років тому

      Yeah!! I love the footnotes, it takes a little more time and effort but it adds so much credibility and gives people who are interested places to read further.

  • @that_kai_person
    @that_kai_person Рік тому +12

    This video was the first thing to make me truly cry in a while. Thanks.

  • @Wolfe420
    @Wolfe420 5 років тому +17951

    I'm at the point where I'm so lonely that I spend a majority of my days fantasizing about my ideal friendships and romantic partner.

    • @riderbull5178
      @riderbull5178 5 років тому +1572

      Go find them! Don't sink into the hole. There's nothing good in the hole. There are lots of people who relate to you and who could potentially be your friends. Just keep trying.

    • @stargirl7963
      @stargirl7963 5 років тому +569

      Oh thats me. Lol

    • @snowleaf2834
      @snowleaf2834 5 років тому +759

      Shut up dont remind me of myself

    • @Wolfe420
      @Wolfe420 5 років тому +257

      @@snowleaf2834 thassa mood.

    • @xblasx
      @xblasx 5 років тому +216

      Viridian Sky I’m in this picture and I don’t like it.

  • @moonmochix7648
    @moonmochix7648 4 роки тому +4247

    *The worst loneliness isn't being alone, it's being alone surrounded by the people who don't care.*

    • @duffy6542
      @duffy6542 4 роки тому +74

      Damn, sounds like what I got going for me.

    • @GabrielFerCav
      @GabrielFerCav 4 роки тому +113

      @@duffy6542 I got a worse kind of loneliness. It's the one where you're the one who don't care about anyone. It can be even worse than not having anyone in the first place. I have to pretend in order to keep my social bonds but, really, if 90% of people I know disappeared, I wouldn't miss them. And it's not because they're bad, in fact most are very awesome people. I just can't bring myself to care, idk why.

    • @FootPaulerBTS
      @FootPaulerBTS 4 роки тому +58

      @@GabrielFerCav Maybe you just dont feel like you actually relate to any of them on a deeper level or you dont really care about the things that you do with them. your friends arent catering to your emotional needs in the way you desire or doing the kind of activities that bring you joy, fullfillment, or actually have real value to you. im kind of having a bit of that issue too.
      It's not that my friends arent great people and I do genuiney care about their well being, but if im honest with myself for alot of them if our friendship was to end or we stopped talking it wouldnt really bother me.

    • @johnmichaelechaluce171
      @johnmichaelechaluce171 4 роки тому +2

      ouch

    • @novavanguard1313
      @novavanguard1313 4 роки тому +3

      It shall pass

  • @Prksoonie
    @Prksoonie 2 роки тому +5366

    You can have loneliness even with friends and family, because loneliness is having nobody you feel safe with, comfortable with to tell them anything you want.

    • @haru64377
      @haru64377 2 роки тому +32

      True

    • @livinginvancouverbc2247
      @livinginvancouverbc2247 2 роки тому +92

      Very true. I work in the construction industry. God help you if you admit loneliness or any psychological or emotional problems. You'd become the target of merciless ridicule. I work in an office. A homeless person took cigarette butts from the Smoker's Station ashtray . Our company offers counselling by a professional company for those who need it. My coworker pinned a copy of the offer of counselling to the ashtray.
      "Why did you do that?" I asked.
      "Because it's for losers" he replied.

    • @craftyshallz7658
      @craftyshallz7658 2 роки тому +16

      but when you have bts . you not feel lonely🎶🎶🎶

    • @m4n4
      @m4n4 2 роки тому +60

      @@craftyshallz7658 literally wtf

    • @m4n4
      @m4n4 2 роки тому +8

      @@craftyshallz7658 didn't really understand what u just said but i'm sorry if i offended u 😅

  • @jayseaandfriends
    @jayseaandfriends Рік тому +43

    The hardest part is moving on from the perfect person you met, most of you has already moved on but a part of you can’t let go

  • @caidenh04
    @caidenh04 4 роки тому +2233

    "Being depressed and lonely is like living your days with a knife stuck in your heart. The worst part about it, is that no one notices, no one cares to notice... making you slowly bleed to death."

    • @fluffylemon8665
      @fluffylemon8665 4 роки тому +78

      And sometimes that knife is invisible so you don’t notice, but then loneliness hits hard again.

    • @sochimauche4747
      @sochimauche4747 4 роки тому +12

      You just said It's invisible. How would anybody notice.

    • @caidenh04
      @caidenh04 4 роки тому +5

      @@sochimauche4747 Shoot didn't realize that 🤔🤔 thanks

    • @baconninja4481
      @baconninja4481 4 роки тому +2

      100th like

    • @en3rgycitizen626
      @en3rgycitizen626 4 роки тому +8

      this one hit different

  • @hudiohizari6738
    @hudiohizari6738 5 років тому +2402

    *"Loneliness is twice as deadly as obesity and as deadly as smoking a pack of cigarettes a day"*
    I have the complete package then

    • @deborah3250
      @deborah3250 5 років тому +7

      me too!

    • @reprogrammingmind
      @reprogrammingmind 4 роки тому +6

      Congratulations!

    • @sheilahollley7129
      @sheilahollley7129 4 роки тому +72

      Just add alcohol

    • @alundrachile7557
      @alundrachile7557 4 роки тому +24

      That is quite a claim, as well as the obesity one, I thought. I would have liked to see a source for this. Till then I just take it as a filler statement more for effect.

    • @theoneandonly6431
      @theoneandonly6431 4 роки тому +9

      Agreed. If loneliness were a disease, I'd been dead a long time ago.

  • @zach346
    @zach346 3 роки тому +2815

    Worst apart of loneliness is having no one to share your thoughts with so they just sit inside your head
    Like seeing a movie or show or playing a game and wanting to tell someone how cool it was but not having anyone to tell it to

    • @suravibalaji2301
      @suravibalaji2301 3 роки тому +27

      Ikr

    • @haqzo_
      @haqzo_ 3 роки тому +160

      I just speak to myself and dont realize it. Then when i do realize it i just feel lonely. I like talking to myself but I also feel like i shouldnt be doing it.

    • @early00syassine85
      @early00syassine85 3 роки тому +3

      true Zach same here....

    • @unluckyy-w8f
      @unluckyy-w8f 3 роки тому

      Same

    • @lllllRenanlllll
      @lllllRenanlllll 3 роки тому +1

      Yes :(

  • @MovieFreak37
    @MovieFreak37 5 місяців тому +11

    Came back after 4 years still lonely me watching this video about loneliness

  • @mico4464
    @mico4464 4 роки тому +2325

    therapist: expensive
    kurzgesagt: free and entertaining

    • @Seiyusung22
      @Seiyusung22 4 роки тому +51

      Also kurzgesagt: here's your daily existential crisis video

    • @halloooo1duuuuu
      @halloooo1duuuuu 4 роки тому +32

      Therapist: social interaction
      Kurzgesagt: on your smartphone.

    • @Azakadune
      @Azakadune 4 роки тому +24

      Don't use kurzgesagt as a therapist lol. it is interesting sure, but see a doctor.

    • @sebastiancramer1609
      @sebastiancramer1609 4 роки тому +6

      Kurzgesagt knows me better than my parents it seems

    • @dantesabertooth3929
      @dantesabertooth3929 4 роки тому +5

      @@Azakadune I would love too, but I cant stand the look of "I dont care" on their faces anymore

  • @Books-and-coffee0
    @Books-and-coffee0 2 роки тому +2728

    The worst thing that comes about of loneliness is when you feel the overwhelming desire to just talk, talk to someone about nothing and everything, about yourself, about ideas, memories, dreams and fears... And realize there's no one.
    Edit: this comment getting so many likes means there's so many people feeling this way. I'm praying for you to connect with other people soon guys. And always remember to be kind to yourselves 💕

    • @sonicgalaxy27
      @sonicgalaxy27 2 роки тому +57

      I been suffering for loneliness and depression since summer of 2019 and I really don't know what to do with myself currently. I do have friends and family's like most people out there do, but something special is really missing for me and I really don't know what it is for me. That last special puzzle piece is really missing for me out their and its important. Trying to figure out what it means.
      it feels like something is truly missing for me that I have not yet experience. I really haven't found that special something for me yet out there and Its really hard to find that special piece for me. Its really hard to find that last puzzle piece. I been thinking about that too much. It feels like I'm about to lose to my depression and my loneliness who can't find that last piece to the puzzle. I wasn't feeling like myself for a few months now. It feels like I'm being defeated who can't win. I'm worthless.😞

    • @saldownik
      @saldownik 2 роки тому +3

      It's not good at all.

    • @maryamabdal-jalil
      @maryamabdal-jalil 2 роки тому +4

      @sonicgalaxy27 Islam is that missing piece. It'll solve all your problems just like it did to me; because Allah subhanh understands us as humans more than anyone.

    • @thedarkcloakartist
      @thedarkcloakartist 2 роки тому +4

      Ouch... this one ached, ngl

    • @shrutipandya2959
      @shrutipandya2959 2 роки тому +15

      @@sonicgalaxy27 uninstall all the social media apps and go on with your routine. Do things that matter to you, that make you feel like yourself, like reading/painting/dancing/hiking. Think about the people around you, those who may need your help..there's so much to do in this beautiful life than keep waiting for the special person and feel depressed in their absence..Social media influences this so much to us that so many people lose themselves in the race of finding someone special and not acknowledgong the beautiful people we already have in our life..

  • @hop7278
    @hop7278 4 роки тому +1580

    symtoms:
    -mad for no reason
    -trust issues
    -always say NO
    -making excuses
    thats from my experience

  • @xdsquirrel5056
    @xdsquirrel5056 Рік тому +14

    This video has really opened my eyes, I always want to talk to people in public but I'm always too scared of what they'll think of me. This is just a reminder for my future self, talk to more people when you get the chance. For all I know, people might want to talk to me too and they're afraid as well. I have to take the first step, I'll try my best to hold myself accountable. I hope anyone who reads this goes out of their way to talk to people as well, it'll be worth it in the long run even if we get rejected. Life is all about learning

    • @JuliaFinance-bz1sw
      @JuliaFinance-bz1sw 10 місяців тому +1

      Hello , how are you ?
      I want to be your friend, if you don't mind ?

    • @iansutari1455
      @iansutari1455 7 місяців тому

      ​@@JuliaFinance-bz1swme to

  • @chonk442
    @chonk442 5 років тому +1077

    Being introverted, having social anxiety and feeling lonely. Good job me.

    • @aubbrew6130
      @aubbrew6130 5 років тому +48

      we're in the same boat

    • @josh7379
      @josh7379 5 років тому +1

      What ur lying

    • @kimnotloona
      @kimnotloona 5 років тому +58

      Tbh social anxiety sucks. It drains all of my self esteem

    • @vanibandodkar31415
      @vanibandodkar31415 5 років тому +8

      @@kimnotloona I too suffer from it

    • @pandeochas4719
      @pandeochas4719 5 років тому +3

      Злой Хлебушек X_X sigh
      Same

  • @TJToons
    @TJToons 5 років тому +10814

    *This video was far more than informative... this was beyond relatable.*

  • @shenko9946
    @shenko9946 3 роки тому +393

    Worst part about loneliness is how powerless and imprisoned it makes you feel in your own mind when trying to fix it.

  • @domkeeify
    @domkeeify Рік тому +22

    "If you are lonely when you're alone, you are in bad company" - Jean-Paul Sartre
    This quote helped me A LOT, because it's you that makes you think you're alone, it's all in your head. Stay strong and keep going, there's so much to see in this world, so much to do in life, there's no time to waste on such fruitless thoughts!

  • @thecaptain4630
    @thecaptain4630 5 років тому +426

    Right after Valentine's day best timing

    • @dasha796
      @dasha796 5 років тому +1

      uhhh GOD that's so true

    • @manutavano
      @manutavano 5 років тому +1

      I'm kinda sad I have to agree with you

  • @rekijorve791
    @rekijorve791 5 років тому +6974

    I've been lonely for so long that it feels normal.

    • @Jacobi.G
      @Jacobi.G 5 років тому +552

      Yeah. And it’s like it would be weird if you *didn’t* feel lonely.

    • @rekijorve791
      @rekijorve791 5 років тому +145

      @@Jacobi.G Exactly.

    • @SNESfan8
      @SNESfan8 5 років тому +38

      Hang in there!

    • @isamic8068
      @isamic8068 5 років тому +227

      Same here. I lost all my friends in 2016 and haven’t had any since.

    • @Dom.Plutonian
      @Dom.Plutonian 5 років тому +34

      Reki Jorve it starts to feel normal but it’s not good

  • @android584
    @android584 5 років тому +1554

    One of the worst things is how discardable humans are to eachother.

    • @IllMatic97
      @IllMatic97 5 років тому +37

      Shrug. That's life.

    • @ejwis1
      @ejwis1 5 років тому +21

      I feel the same way. It’s awful.

    • @MrAstrothousand98
      @MrAstrothousand98 5 років тому +115

      @@IllMatic97 bro did you watch the video? That's exactly what we should prevent. I don't know you nor do I think I can know you though one small online exchange in hundreds we will both have by the end of the week probably.
      But. From me to you I do send you a hug. Not because you're sad, angry, depressed, or necessarily lonely. Just because I don't feel we should see rejection and social discardment as normal. Maybe you'll laugh this off, be creeped out, or ignore me. But it took me about 2 minutes to write this the way I wanted lol 😅. So consider those 2 minutes sent to you as well with the hug since they were dedicated.

    • @TinCancantanimate
      @TinCancantanimate 5 років тому +49

      @@MrAstrothousand98 now this is what i call a good person we need more people like you

    • @MrAstrothousand98
      @MrAstrothousand98 5 років тому +31

      @@TinCancantanimate thanks. I don't think I'm that good, but just seeing if I can help anywhere. Hug for you too

  • @lock1785
    @lock1785 11 місяців тому +7

    One of the most saddest thing is, it's when you have people around you, but you don't have anyone to share your emotions and thoughts to.

    • @Zoha54
      @Zoha54 10 місяців тому

      Yes ,you are right friend

  • @sujayanimneth
    @sujayanimneth 5 років тому +618

    #1 in trending
    Quality > Quantity

    • @theghoulishsword2406
      @theghoulishsword2406 5 років тому +1

      @@examplenote1413 I mean kind of. Would you say that this doesn't deserve its spot?

    • @theghoulishsword2406
      @theghoulishsword2406 5 років тому +1

      @@examplenote1413 Alright good. Just checking. That was about to be an "Alright. Listen here you little shit..." moment if you said it didn't.

    • @IchhabezuvielYoutubegegucktO_o
      @IchhabezuvielYoutubegegucktO_o 5 років тому +4

      TECHNOLOGY EVERYTHING #27 in german trending... The German UA-cam community is 90% crap

    • @breannatolocka4347
      @breannatolocka4347 5 років тому +3

      When being lonely is top on trending

    • @theghoulishsword2406
      @theghoulishsword2406 5 років тому

      @@examplenote1413 Good joke. And it's really hard to find a video of theirs that i don't like.

  • @allelon8284
    @allelon8284 5 років тому +1309

    I cried during his video. It really hurts being called out like this.

  • @adipandhare4061
    @adipandhare4061 4 роки тому +2676

    Funny this was recommended to me on Valentine's day

  • @AlbertoDaminato
    @AlbertoDaminato 3 місяці тому +3

    I watched this video for the First time a couple of years ago, and i can safely Say that these 10 minutes changed my life, now I cried watching It again after solving most of my social problems, thank you from the bottom of my heart

  • @carsonowens7651
    @carsonowens7651 3 роки тому +1242

    This video kind of made me realize that loneliness is part of the reason I overshare so much.
    I lack social interaction so much that when I finally get it I overshare like crazy and scare off new people.

    • @Pumpkin_3890
      @Pumpkin_3890 3 роки тому +43

      God, same

    • @brandimcgee9781
      @brandimcgee9781 3 роки тому +52

      Guilty as charged

    • @billusandda5845
      @billusandda5845 3 роки тому +87

      You!!!! I relate so much and then i am scared that they dont care. But i wanna share so badly that i still tell them even if they dont care.
      I just want somebody to listen to me

    • @cookqie8822
      @cookqie8822 3 роки тому +5

      Holy crap that's definitely me

    • @valideno9592
      @valideno9592 3 роки тому +1

      ....

  • @DynamicalCannon
    @DynamicalCannon 4 роки тому +1259

    To all my lonely dudes watching this: we're in this together. And we'll overcome it. It shouldn't end like that. You're all amazing and I believe in you. Love from Russia.

    • @DynamicalCannon
      @DynamicalCannon 4 роки тому +12

      Also if you want to talk - contact me anytime you want. I will even give you my telegram @LaanJ

    • @isaiahortwein6819
      @isaiahortwein6819 4 роки тому +15

      @@DynamicalCannon Thanks dude. We are in this together and it will not last forever.

    • @mrsqwizzy7960
      @mrsqwizzy7960 4 роки тому +9

      thanks russia

    • @pronosticosdeportivos9517
      @pronosticosdeportivos9517 4 роки тому +4

      Большое спасибо! Кстати, я учу русский язык.

    • @zarekjones8263
      @zarekjones8263 4 роки тому +2

      Thanks my dude you too!

  • @LyricWulf
    @LyricWulf 5 років тому +957

    Thank you, Kurzgesagt. For everything. 💝✨

  • @علا-ط1ض5ر
    @علا-ط1ض5ر Рік тому +36

    The worst part of loneliness is when you watch a movie and you want to share your opinion with someone but you have nobody and you end up talking to yourself.
    The most heartbreaking words💔🔪

    • @bronz3y
      @bronz3y 7 місяців тому +1

      real

    • @jonlabruna
      @jonlabruna 5 місяців тому

      I get it. Sometimes I’ll say it out loud pretending

  • @samsmusichub
    @samsmusichub 4 роки тому +2103

    I feel a little less lonely knowing that everyone else is also lonely.

    • @malxumx9727
      @malxumx9727 4 роки тому +8

      frrr

    • @samsmusichub
      @samsmusichub 4 роки тому +2

      @@malxumx9727 :')

    • @axule4373
      @axule4373 4 роки тому +17

      well yes, but actually no

    • @samsmusichub
      @samsmusichub 4 роки тому

      @@axule4373 XD

    • @banditmc12
      @banditmc12 4 роки тому +18

      Everyone is feeling lonely, but everyone doesn’t know. People are living facades and that is a worrying thing in this modern world. Social media?

  • @lollikabosso.w.n7153
    @lollikabosso.w.n7153 5 років тому +2382

    We joke about recomendation, but sometimes its not so bad.
    EDIT: got one thousand likes for a comment about recomendation.

    • @db1416
      @db1416 5 років тому +6

      maybe i dont want to be the bad guy anymore 😢

    • @someonehere8922
      @someonehere8922 5 років тому

      @No wow I have positivity I’m so EdGy

    • @sharvaliladekar5857
      @sharvaliladekar5857 5 років тому +2

      why does this have 666 likes

    • @wanderingintime
      @wanderingintime 5 років тому

      @@sharvaliladekar5857 it doesn't anymore.. that was a sign FOR YEEWWW

    • @reizer05
      @reizer05 5 років тому +3

      this one of the best recommendation i have watched, seriously.

  • @pauline999
    @pauline999 5 років тому +794

    « Loneliness »
    10M people have watched this so i guess we’re all together in our loneliness

  • @Invader_Era
    @Invader_Era 9 місяців тому +14

    Oh this hurts, I’m 23 now, soon to be 24, my loneliness started at 16 and I’m so sick and tired of crying and feeling pathetic.
    I want to change!

    • @backpackbattles4176
      @backpackbattles4176 9 місяців тому

      Look in to how your brain works. You’ll discover exactly what you think and feel the way you do.
      One thing you can start doing right away, is flipping the script. Those thoughts that bring you down, change it to something you’re grateful for. Change your brain, change your reality

    • @Evyy_draws
      @Evyy_draws Місяць тому

      Please don't let loneliness eat you up, it will ruin you. Loyal friends are amazing, yes they are, but no one is ever as loyal as yourself

  • @jeffreystith9456
    @jeffreystith9456 5 років тому +449

    The UA-cam comment section makes me feel less alone.

    • @ahmedsomaliofficial4425
      @ahmedsomaliofficial4425 5 років тому +1

      Jeffrey Stith subcribe me now please

    • @auerbacher69
      @auerbacher69 5 років тому +9

      loading virtual hug ... ▓▓░░░░░░░░░░░░░ 12%

    • @clear2b416
      @clear2b416 5 років тому

      You are loved happiness is a choice make it

    • @ian2081
      @ian2081 5 років тому +4

      The UA-cam comment section makes me almost happy to be alone.

    • @ammaraldabi2488
      @ammaraldabi2488 5 років тому

      @@ahmedsomaliofficial4425 fuck you

  • @rainyflowwunevilable
    @rainyflowwunevilable 5 років тому +1663

    i wish school could teach us how to handle these things

    • @KingLich451
      @KingLich451 5 років тому +99

      Exactly. But more importantly, more parent should realize the importance of this sort of things and help their kids learn these.

    • @ho-mw6qp
      @ho-mw6qp 5 років тому +38

      KepleroGT unfortunately in most societies there is no control over who can become a parent. Although ideally they should, in reality many don’t know it themselves. Schools should level the playing field so that those who were born to crap parents don’t also become crap parents. Trust me it is better for everyone that we have less of those.

    • @moonsoulk1196
      @moonsoulk1196 5 років тому +7

      That’s not school’s job. It’s parents’ job

    • @rainyflowwunevilable
      @rainyflowwunevilable 5 років тому +7

      KepleroGT well i don't have my parents and i don't like talking to my guardians about my personal feelings life

    • @roshanivijayan
      @roshanivijayan 5 років тому +8

      Being in high school, I do too.

  • @edwardv7991
    @edwardv7991 3 роки тому +1000

    Being with the wrong group of people can make you feel even lonelier

  • @Sahil-v1v
    @Sahil-v1v 7 місяців тому +4

    Being alone is soo peaceful

    • @kadentrig8178
      @kadentrig8178 7 місяців тому +2

      Peaceful indeed, but still alone

  • @meat1703
    @meat1703 4 роки тому +3349

    "decline invitations, until the invitations stop" hit me like a truck

    • @malenyluna5275
      @malenyluna5275 4 роки тому +76

      That's me pretty much..... I suck.

    • @edennishan717
      @edennishan717 4 роки тому +23

      Been there, done that 😢

    • @ibaezzzz
      @ibaezzzz 4 роки тому +2

      Eden Nishan ur yoongi pfp🥺

    • @rhythm2238
      @rhythm2238 4 роки тому +19

      Going through this like right now. Been ignoring friends' "lets catch up..its been long" thing coz my mind says they aren't good for you😶

    • @ironanomaly
      @ironanomaly 4 роки тому +3

      Right with you there

  • @Askhatkun
    @Askhatkun 4 роки тому +858

    *People think being alone makes you lonely.*
    *Being surrounded by the wrong people is the loneliest thing in the world!*

    • @irfanalici7499
      @irfanalici7499 4 роки тому +4

      there are u right .

    • @Alex-vf8uv
      @Alex-vf8uv 4 роки тому +10

      Nah. you just never experienced what's it like not to be surrounded by anyone at all

    • @icyfendi7903
      @icyfendi7903 4 роки тому +11

      @@Alex-vf8uv facts these people feel alone when they are around people? but do they really know the feeling where your literally alone and nobody bothers to make eye contact or any social interaction? I mean at least they are slightly acknowledged

    • @r.jordan7156
      @r.jordan7156 4 роки тому +7

      @@icyfendi7903 To know one is to know both. Being in a bad marriage and/or growing up within an abusive toxic family can feel very lonely. Needing someone at the lowest point in your life and it being the obvious yet noone bothers to reach out to you can be lonely as well. I've experienced both sides of the spectrum and trust me being surrounded by people who could care less about you is ultimately much more lonely. The negativity of it consumes the entirety of you until you're left feeling like every bit of nothing. I'd rather be left alone in my loneliness than have people smother it in my face day in and day out.

    • @alextint5987
      @alextint5987 4 роки тому +1

      That describes me perfectly, but already know how to deal with this. I'm doing my best to get out of this dark hole of Loneliness, crisis, depression and anxiety.

  • @majasteinchen
    @majasteinchen 3 роки тому +3243

    That's why I'm always nice and helpful to strangers. You never know if you're their match to light up their inner fire (again). You might be giving them hope in their darkest hours. Or even just a smile on a bad day. We all need these moments.

    • @umamii936
      @umamii936 3 роки тому +60

      I just imagined to helped someone out of there loneliness and didn't realize it. That's heartwarming

    • @PotatoWithALaptop
      @PotatoWithALaptop 3 роки тому +46

      I did the same thing. I learned around 7 years old that life is hell so I just became the nice kid. Although as I got older people saw that as a weakness.
      Everyone new I never curse the most I said In 6 grade was hell while everyone else cursed like no tomorrow. Then one kid got on nerves and basically everyone from 6th grade was at the outside tables and I yelled to one guy who just wouldn’t shut up. “Hey! Shut the fu*k up.” Everyone went silent, and honestly that was the first time anyone saw my true colors. But it ended as soon as it began.

    • @zabrizzL
      @zabrizzL 3 роки тому +2

    • @shadow99861
      @shadow99861 3 роки тому +9

      I do the same, but in Egypt not so many appreciate it and some keep bullying me and call me an autistic, because I am socially inexperienced.

    • @keno502
      @keno502 3 роки тому +23

      @@elliot2392 You uhm.. must be really fun at parties, huh? Who broke you so hard that you feel the itch to antagonize this guy?

  • @av7501
    @av7501 9 місяців тому +4

    This is one of my favorite videos. I’ve shared it as a teaching tool, reviewed it before discussions, read the books and one of the articles (skimmed the others), and, over time, I can see the changes it’s made in me. 🦆

  • @sweetbr3add126
    @sweetbr3add126 5 років тому +486

    #1 on trending , guess a lot of ppl feel lonely

  • @barrett8637
    @barrett8637 5 років тому +1393

    This is one of the most kind, necessary videos on the modern human condition. Thank you for producing it.

    • @ashleyjustice3008
      @ashleyjustice3008 5 років тому +5

      Amen!!

    • @BloodwolfTico
      @BloodwolfTico 5 років тому +7

      So ... uhm... i got teary eyes all throughout the video... been on that side of life... definitely a good video to watch, share and apply

    • @kinthirdchannel3341
      @kinthirdchannel3341 5 років тому +3

      Amen

    • @YTworld-69
      @YTworld-69 5 років тому +3

      Even being surrounded by others people have become very alone lonely sad depressed anxious weak scared frustrated and angry

    • @be4ns06
      @be4ns06 5 років тому

      Shoit u rite

  • @bahaeddinebenamieur9404
    @bahaeddinebenamieur9404 3 роки тому +609

    To anyone reading this:
    - this video did save a life, you guys are the best

  • @mikerivers8595
    @mikerivers8595 Рік тому +28

    Loneliness has helped me a lot personally. It has taught me how to entertain myself better, which has lead to more interests in things such as learning or meditation. I think it is okay to like being alone. I personally do enjoy my alone time. I get overwhelmed being around people often times and feel drained by social interaction. I am not antisocial by any means though, just more reclusive and introverted. I prefer quality over quantity in all things, especially company. And I try to be grateful for every day, whether it has been a challenging day full of suffering, or an easy day full of pleasure. I like contrast in experience because I feel it necessary to better understand ourselves as individuals, and to better understand our own truths, whatever they may be. I like your videos. They are good entertainment and are very thought provoking, whether I agree or not with everything they say. Thank you :)

  • @jasminej.5489
    @jasminej.5489 5 років тому +627

    The worst thing about this is that everything this video stated about the symptoms of loneliness directly applied to me.

    • @aileenpuga8420
      @aileenpuga8420 5 років тому +2

      Same

    • @Absenteeee
      @Absenteeee 5 років тому +22

      That's not the worst part at all. You and me are both lonely as described in the video, but we would be whether the video read the symptoms out or not. Now we can find an awareness of our problems and work to solve them

    • @Ganymede1001
      @Ganymede1001 5 років тому +5

      You're not alone

    • @serafinaobi
      @serafinaobi 5 років тому +1

      Me too buddy me too

    • @WitchyWagonReal
      @WitchyWagonReal 5 років тому +1

      Sounds like a party 🎉 🤣

  • @akashmlal
    @akashmlal 5 років тому +565

    I couldn't concentrate on the video when I started reading the comments.
    Unhappy souls everywhere.
    It hurts me.

    • @akashmlal
      @akashmlal 5 років тому +11

      @İlker Kesal Most people gets lonely at some point or another.
      Just hold on, nothing is permanent neither sadness nor loneliness.

    • @Varsocona
      @Varsocona 5 років тому +4

      @@akashmlal Been alive thirty years this month. Can't say it's ever gotten better for me, and I'm getting too old to hope it'll ever change. Platitudes don't fix anything, I'm afraid.

    • @hendywijaya3213
      @hendywijaya3213 5 років тому

      yes, and that's why u should accept that, it's not special nor uncommon.. you shouldn't feel too bad for the situation, but be calm and find a way to overcome it instead

    • @Traveler-VII
      @Traveler-VII 5 років тому

      @@akashmlal Yeah, because death is a thing. Sometimes, loneliness can last until someone dies. It's probably happened before.

    • @mertboy94
      @mertboy94 5 років тому +1

      @@Varsocona the only thing i can recommend is:
      try zome sort of sport/game/hobby
      not alone but instead in some sort of learning group.
      football/self defense school/basketball
      or maybe a hobby
      biking/DnD/paintball
      or maybe a new skill
      cooking classes/language/a new degree
      the thing is learning something or working as a team will not only bring you in contact with others but also help you reinstall your socialskills.

  • @divinejacobmathew1503
    @divinejacobmathew1503 5 років тому +2265

    The Friendship Paradox: I have friends yet I feel I don't have friends at the same time.

    • @fryingraijin
      @fryingraijin 5 років тому +61

      Divine Jacob Mathew You might not have propper friends. Not the greatest thing to say here...
      But I only redescovered the people I truly cared about ( and vice versa) at the age of 22.

    • @okaden1015
      @okaden1015 5 років тому +57

      Fuck that is relatable

    • @maverich217
      @maverich217 5 років тому +5

      Exactly

    • @mohammedsy1590
      @mohammedsy1590 5 років тому +38

      It feels like you're their strange neighbor

    • @isabellajean9310
      @isabellajean9310 5 років тому +5

      Exactly how I’m feeling

  • @apo180
    @apo180 4 місяці тому +3

    5 years later and still hurts

  • @mu2thehotness
    @mu2thehotness 5 років тому +280

    #1 on trending...as it should be.

    • @imnegan4262
      @imnegan4262 5 років тому

      mu2thehotness or shouldn't depends on how you look at it

    • @epicsamar3609
      @epicsamar3609 5 років тому +2

      No, PewDiePie's new video should be #1 // it has more views in a shorter amount of time.

    • @ianrenfrow5125
      @ianrenfrow5125 5 років тому +1

      We all need to get off our devices, social media, etc. I really hope one day our society will grow out of these unhealthy habits

    • @leosabat4636
      @leosabat4636 5 років тому

      That fact scare me deeply

  • @michaelwongngaichi
    @michaelwongngaichi Рік тому +2031

    "If you feel lonely, you are lonely." Love this line!

    • @kintsugi2262
      @kintsugi2262 Рік тому +9

      😂😂😂😂😂

    • @konyvnyelv.
      @konyvnyelv. Рік тому +10

      😮 high iq time

    • @Tmalter
      @Tmalter Рік тому +6

      No shit Sherlock

    • @justanothermortal1373
      @justanothermortal1373 10 місяців тому +7

      I have people around me who keep asking me if I'm okay. But I'm afraid of speaking to them because I'm afraid they'll judge me and then I'll judge myself. So, I have created my own loneliness.

    • @EdyYT66
      @EdyYT66 9 місяців тому +5

      water is wet type beat

  • @papernecklace
    @papernecklace 5 років тому +462

    This is _literally_ the most down to earth subject Kurzgesagt ever made a video about