How Do We Manage Loneliness?
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- Опубліковано 20 вер 2024
- Some people seem unable to function without daily social interaction, while others can go weeks without seeing a human being, and are perfectly fine. How do we manage loneliness?
Still, we cannot ignore that many studies show us that people with lots of social connections are, in general, happier. And looking at human behavior, on the whole, we could say that, from a default position, we always tend to look for a connection with fellow humans.
Thus, it seems that the desire for social interaction, in one form or another, is ingrained in human nature through all stages of life. However, there’s more to loneliness than an inborn need for connection (or the lack thereof). The intellectual side of loneliness is often overlooked: meaning that we hardly realize that loneliness stems, for a great part, from how we think.
This video explores different views on how to manage loneliness and proposes possible antidotes based on ancient philosophy. These philosophies are mainly geared towards acceptance and transcendence.
NOTE: The 'antidotes' in this video are probably more suitable for people who experience loneliness from time to time, but not in ways that severely affect their mental health. If you're really in a dark place, please contact a mental health professional.
How to be happy alone?
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- Excellent video about Epictetus' 'forlornness' by Dr. Sadler (who was my source in this case): • Epictetus, Discourses ...
- Buddhist lecture by Ajahn Brahm about loneliness and solitude: • How to Be Happy in Sol...
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The worst part to me is just wanting to share things with people. Experiences. Knowledge. Love. Art. Beauty. Ideas. I understand the concept of self mastery and appreciating solitude and all that jazz and I know that expectations and desire for things can make you miserable. I know all of this and see it constantly repeated in all these videos but it doesn't change anything. I get tired of participating in this world by myself always. No one to be there when my parent's died. No one to celebrate the good times when they come along. Just me. Always. I meet people and talk and their faces move and they say meaningless things and we make meaningless gestures that turn to nothing over time and always I'm here. Alone. Not sure if I'm depressed cause I'm lonely or lonely because I'm depressed. I think the depression came first but the loneliness was it's partner in crime. I do think there's a reason behind everything so obviously I've still got some progress to make but man. Sometimes it just gets to be too much. The worst part is this message will probably not be seen as I've been censored on here for quite some time. Oh well. Another note in the bottle tossed. peace.
This is almost exactly how I’ve been feeling. Good luck out there.
I would interact with you. I spend a lot of time alone by choice and some not by choice. When I go out I talk to people and I often come home with phone numbers but then I can’t follow through for some reason. I used to have close friends and was usually in a relationship but there’s been a lot of loss and now…
I can relate to this
You're not alone. The worst part of being alone is thinking you're alone. There are plenty of us out there. You don't see us cause we don't post selfies or what we had for lunch or how awesome our lives are
@@lr8786 because doing that constantly is stupid af and ridiculous. lol.
The antidote to loneliness is to feel seen, heard and understood.
If you just have one person in your life who makes you feel understood, you are a lucky man.
This is the best description of the nature of loneliness that I've seen so far. Thank you
Dead on
Yeah but how
Should be the other way around. Give VALUE/ATTENTION more to others than one's self.
Yeah even though there are genuine people out there
People are temporary they might leave because they have responsibilities and dreams too
Hence, it's better not rely to the presence of others be by yourself
You have your cells inside you
I would be pretty lonely if I didn't have myself.
The best person to find🤘🔥
Me too✔️😂 -💙✝️🇺🇸
Wherever I go I have to take me along.
We three, we're not alone:
Me, myself, and I are perfect company.
Me myself as well
Loneliness and isolation is a gift. Everything else is a test of your endurance.
He was fucking wasted when he said that. Pure cope
Loneliness is not a gift, solitude is
I stopped following Bukowski long ago.
I always feel so lonely but when people come into my life I push them away, becoming more lonely in the process. It’s an endless cycle
Try to identify your limiting beliefs and swap them out with affirmations. You deserve friends, believe in yourself 😊🌟💪🏼
Wow Bill l am the opposite. I CLING. Not good.
Is it maybe because youd rather have a close friend and those people werent like that?
People are the one who push me away.
@Bill Cosby. I'm the same. Basically I just don't want to surround myself with dumbfounded dipshits.
Wayne Dyer has beautifully said, "Your only lonely if you dont like the person your alone with! " Make peace with yourself, love yourself and enjoy YOU. 🌷
He was my favorite, read all his books!
Robert from daytradingwiththelight
You’re
"You're only lonely, if you don't like the person you're alone with."
Think you hit the nail on the head in saying that loneliness comes from an expectation about how things should be, that and being around people who make you feel alone.
I prefer Yui over Yuki.
@@eaglenebula2172 :/
The fear of missing out.
I know lots of married folks who feel lonely!
Often we marry for the wrong reasons...
@@drjthornley
That is often why men and women marry! It’s usually a disaster...
To everyone who reads this. I’ve been lonely for most of my life but when I started to control my mind, beliefs and thoughts and finally accepted myself. Friends entered my life. Try to love yourself because you deserve friends and love 🍀❤️🌟
Nice. Explain more please
Beautifully said 🌟
lee ❤️❤️❤️
Ok, how did you that? Tell us your secret. :P
Vatroslav Morbidović it was not one single tool, I need many videos for that. But changing how you talk to yourself helped extremely well. Wish you the best! 🌟💪🏼
I live alone in a small cabin in the bush. I do have occasional social contact but spend large slabs of time in isolation. I manage it by keeping my sense of humour, laughing at myself sometimes, even talking with myself if I'm feeling low and need to express my feelings. It sounds crazy but it helps believe it or not. I try and keep a routine that includes exercise and meditation and I also try to eat well. These forms of self-care help me a great deal, especially daily meditation.
What do you do for a living?
@@errebusaether I'm a retired teacher turned writer
Uploaded at the right time, as always
I agree.
It's always the right time.
"My alone feels so good, I'll only have you if you're sweeter than my solitude" - Warson Shire. Others can only add to your contentment, not create it. Thanks for good vid at the right time
Moving to London from the Netherlands gave me the intense experience of loneliness and social isolation. Yet when I look back to my life in Holland I also felt that over there. For me the quickest way to feel more connected and engaged to life is to do something creative. Get into a flow state that makes you feel present. Or maybe extreme sports. Also makes you feel very present.
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Id like to visit Holland, wooden shoe?
@@mattp4079 haha yes that's a old Dutch tradition but you will be disappointed if you expect that everyone walks on those
Yes, I agree lol
Good one. That’s exactly what happens - I will say at my age I should be married with a house full of kids but here I am on my own and it only increases that feeling of loneliness. I want to learn to enjoy my solitude and not fear it.
In general: Dopamine, Serotonin, Oxytocin, and Endorphins make everyone happy, happiness is basically biochemistry! It depends however on individuals what makes your body to create and release those chemical substances! sports? music? time with family? travel? do whatever works for you! I liked this video, Mister Einzelg. sounds smart:3
I was single for over a decade. During that period I learned to be content and did things for myself and didn’t feel lonely. In 2021, I met a really wonderful person and the year that we were together we did so much. Not only was he my lover, but he was my best friend and confidant. We are not together right now and I miss him so much. For the first time in my life I feel so lonely and the loneliness is hard to deal with.
Same, it's so weird when in the past you were so used to being alone. Then someone comes into your life and leave and you finally had some sort of companionship. Then they leave and it's back to how it was before. Which the loneliness of what you were used to becomes a new sense of fear that maybe codependency breeds.
Now that I'm comfortable with being by myself and truly enjoy being alone, I've noticed a new problem arise within me; I've grown to feel irritated with those around me 😧
Omg same and I hate it
From my experiences with people, being alone isn’t bad at all, actually being with some people in my life made me want to be alone
Being alone is a blessing in disguise🙏🏾
indeed
Wish I could always feel like that. Even the very introverted need a support system.
Not for me.
I needed this. I have a huge problem with feeling alone constantly and I want all the help I can get
Yes, listen just to small part like one quote and turn it into meditation. Don't think about anything else, just let it sink. Another time listen to the next quote. You will be amazed how this change you 💖
@@jenetgreenfield3667 I will. Thank you :)
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And once again it's lonely week, with dread and emptiness on every corner. And once again I ask myself - is it really worth going on? To have nothing no girl The worst part is that I know the answer.
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My beliefs:
Happiness (not pleasure) : Strive to reach goals that involve self improvement (ex. Personal skills), even if those goals are not guaranteed to be achieved within the span of your lifetime because no one is destined to be as fortunate in life as another. Improving the lives of others will come as a byproduct of improving one's self.
Entropy: Universal law that if anything does not change in state, it will gradually become "worse" over time. Constantly striving to improve one's self will counter entropy, and help lead to a better life.
Moderation and Chaos: Not too much, not too little. Strive to achieve balance. Remember, a prolonged state of balance will deteriorate due to entropy (that's why perpetual world peace cannot be), so mix it up. Stray from balance every so often. However, even repeating a pattern of straying from balance can worsen over time (entropy). Change it up somehow. Order is like a still stone, while chaos is like a star, active but for a limited time. As long as we are alive, we should strive to be more like order, but never expect to be order as living beings are not dead.
In short, change and the progress of life is key to living a fulfilling, happy life. Even if life has it's struggles and can cause displeasure, at least you can die happy (fulfilled, not necessarily pleased).
Knowledge is key.
Thank you 💐
Dragston VR wow. I really like everything you said. Great concept to understand. Thank you for sharing 🙏
Beautiful initiative!
That was such a terrible and inhuman social experiment in the 40s. Just a horrible thing to do with babies of any species.
Yes, I agree.
The 1900’s were, for a large part, a ruff time to be a subject of science, but the first 30-40 were REALLY bad. Eugenics was a really big thing, I think that says it all.
Horrific, thank common sense that ethics committee’s now exist to prevent these kind of abominations happening again.
Was searching for this comment. Srsly I feel sad for those babies. I wonder how they are faring now.
Cha Cha. Probably not vey well. They would be close to or into their 80s now.
I like how he says “Thank you for watching.”
This came frighteningly on time for me
I love being alone. Spending time with my thoughts. Making myself happy. I go for hikes alone and enjoy connecting with nature while in isolation
Exactly like me
Whenever I hear that loneliness shortens your life or is equal to smoking, I think of Richard Proenneke who lived alone in the Alaska wilderness for 30 years. Humans have evolved to adapt and overcome. If you're lonely, without a life partner or close friends, you'll be fine.
As always a great value. Lately, your videos changed from purely informing, and sharing knowledge to more of a tutorial where you not only share your knowledge but also show how to use it. Love this change
This video was updated roughly when me and my ex separated from each other after 9 years. I am 25, I am used to be lonely, thankfully, but mostly so willingly. It is a challenging time despite having a great foundation and the ability to work solo for longer periods of time. Whenever she visited a friend, traveled with her sister, worked different shifts and so on, I'd sleep alone and do things by myself, just the way I did as a child growing up. It is different however, living in a world with little people to trust and rely on; anyone at all, as you lose someone who filled your void of emptiness and loneliness, for the most part. I take credit for that too, to fill the void, much how you explained it in the video, our internal resources, our thoughts, the acceptance of ourselves and our situation and so forth. I needed this video, great work as always Einzelgänger.
You doing better now bro?
An affirming video. Thank you. I have always enjoyed solitude but over the past year started to feel lonely. I realized it was because the story I was telling myself about my solitude had changed. Previously the story title was 'Independent Free Spirit' but it had changed to 'Rejected Single Man'. By developing my awareness, I recognised how this change of story had affected the way I felt about the same situation. I have now reverted back to the original story. Joe UK.
I personally don't feel lonely, it's been years since I've been understanding and loving myself. Although I've met amazing people these past years, I felt like what I really want is connection.. You know that feeling of meeting someone and it just clicks, everything you say makes sense to them and vice versa? It now feels like an impossible dream. Lol
So yeah.. I just dont sit there and wait until they come into my life but yeah I really do miss that, I also miss having tea with someone, a pat on the shoulder or a hug (I'm not even a hugger) 🤣
Here’s a hug for you xxx i totally understand. Human touch is something that I had no idea I would miss so much
Hang in there!!
Stay Safe and STAY BLESSED
*Sometimes loneliness can be a good thing...depending on a situation and circumstances* 🙏
To be alone for me is nessesary to stay balanced. Since very young age, I have been able to feel others emotions. I saw that as a curse then. Today I see this as a blessing.
Balancing between the positive and negative is not always easy, but with lots of practice is very doable.
Nature is my refuge. I escape from the confusion and get as far in the woods as possible. There everything makes perfect sense to me.
Much Love from the Mountain.🙏💜⛰️
“ You better start liking yourself - you are gonna spend your whole life with this person” - Adam Kuc, 2022
With awareness loneliness fades away.. Lonliness, is a story we hold onto. I remember feeling lonely before I started grade school and the feeling stuck all the way into adulthood, but when i developed a habit of putting awareness on the feeling it felt less like an obstacle and more like a choice.
This is awesome. Most of what you’ve said I’ve done and I feel great for a while but then once in a blue moon I feel lonely. The part that was awesome was the ‘not agreeing with reality’ I think that’s what happens to me. Cus I’ll think to myself that I’m a great person why is it that a bunch of other people have thriving relationships and friends when they haven’t done an ounce of the inner work I’ve done. That was my thing. But this really helped. I just have to remember when I feel that way again lol
Stay in the moment....
Accept it... Good or bad... Balance your emotions and remain hopeful...
I am finally figuring this out... 10 months after a painful separation. Solitude, it turns out is really enjoyable. Thank you, nice work on this one!
How to overcome loneliness?
“If you are alone and feel lonely you are in bad company” I love that.
Looking at all the comments I see many people are asking how? You wanna know how?
Its not just one way, or a recipe.
Ive been alone most of my life, however, very rarely do I feel lonely. I love traveling alone, being alone, I dont even have a tv at home, never had.
Here is what I do: I know that loneliness and happiness are states of mind. Everything is!
If you are rich or poor, happy or sad, alone or entertained, all takes place in year thoughts, in your mind.
I appreciate lil things in life; I take my time to appreciate beauty around me, a flower, a tree, a lil bug, the beach.
I think of myself as complete, someone who doesn't need anyone, but also enjoys sharing with others. I enjoy doing things alone, cooking, biking, reading, going to the beach, traveling, shopping, surfing and the list goes on. I set myself short term and long term goals, achieving these goals makes me happy and complete.
I always read books, they are my friends! They take me places I haven’t been and they never say no to me.
Remember, being alone is better than being in bad company. I take the initiative and always get out of my comfort zone.
Because of this channel, I become stronger and better each day. I learned so much from you. I took advantage o the crisis and made myself indulge into self-improvement. But then again, praises are just clocks of tongues, but I just wanna give my appreciation. For it is in line with symphatea. 😉
Everyone is responsible for one’s own feelings...
If you feel “alone” don’t look outside but inside of yourself, otherwise you will feel lonely forever...
Feel full of yourself and the rest will come ...
I do really agree with the Buddhist perspective!
Thanks for this video 🙏🏻
Whenever I am in a public space, I feel detached with what's going around me. I mean I can still have fun and I do, but I don't try to force it. I actually love that feeling, since everything is impermanent except your soul so I don't take things for granted.
"all polka dots and moonbeams" That's poetry.
I watch your videos over and over trying to be a better person, less sad. Thank you.
I can or could function without a lot of social connections I’ve had decades of practice. Now, in isolation and ill, without the support of so called ‘ family’ I find my feelings of loneliness are acute to the point that if I didn’t have my dog I wouldn’t bother and without him,
I most certainly shan’t.
Jay thinking of you from one human being to another. Where ever you are l love you. What the heck.
Your dog is lucky to have you. Maybe he is called Buddy. If l had a dog l would call him buddy. Take care my friend wherever you are. Mary.
I think I understand you. I've been there too. But I came to realisation pretty quickly that it's up to me how I battle my illness. I understood that only I can make the change, so I put much effort in staying positive all the time and being happy for slight improvement in my health condition, keeping believing that I am improving, slowly but improving. Years have passed, I am better and I guess stronger inside than I was before. ✨ Keep fighting, it's your battle. "we are born alone and we die alone..." actually we are alone all life, we just like to believe that there is "us"... Most of the time that doesn't work anyway 😊 your dog is most likely the best friend to have 💖
Jenet Greenfield Thank you Janet, yes you understand very well, it’s a kind of been there, seen it, done it situation I suppose. Regrettably I have a condition that can only get worse but I hear what you are saying and thanks for taking the time to respond.
@@scarletpimpernelagain9124 our minds are powerful. Never underestimate. Believe in miracles, they happen. Listen to what your body needs (how you feel) rest a lot and let go all the bad thoughts. Sending you a miracle and love 💖
You don't know how much I needed this video, thank you ❤
Einzelganger, You are truly the best philosophical teacher out there! Thank You so much for sharing your insights so generously.
I feel loneliness even in the presence of people so I want to happy with myself
I've seen many philosophical videos. The school of life, kurkergatz, pursuit of wonder..but your channel is my favorite. Thx
Thank you for that :)
Loneliness is a good feeling when created by ourselves but it's the worst when its gifted by others
Between social isolation and working from home I have been going mental.. Thank you for your learned guidance in these trying times
With loneliness comes intense boredom and self deprecation. I am tired of it why would i feel the need to be alone that's all i have, i hate the word attachment, i hate that i need a hug right now, i detest neediness yet still have needs. What is the point in anything? I am frustrated,in pain and i am weak for having those emotions. I would love nothing more than to forget my stupid wants and needs that plague my every waking moment.
I feel that too, I feel terrible for feeling this way, it's hard to explain...
I want to feel free yet I don't know how I can achieve that, we are so connected on everything nowadays (family, friends, internet friends and such) it becomes part of ourselves and we forget to live for ourselves... and then we become lost...
Though I can recognize this and still feel depressed af because I don't know where these feelings come from, I don't know why I don't feel strong enough to wake up with energy and happiness more often...
I wish I could just forget my wants and needs too and become infinitely happy with what I have now... but we crave for more... and then we start to compare... but it's so hard not to compare when you have follower counts on every front page, when you see likes on posts of how many people are interacting with others and not you... and that is the trap we fall into and yet is hard to not think of it...
I need to work on that too... but it's just too painful and depressing... I wish there was an easier way to do this and end this suffering forever... but it wouldn't be fun if it wasn't hard I suppose.
@@GuuMonster
I can relate.
You are human and wanting human interaction is normal and natural ❤️
I feel you
you re just alowing yourself to be weak because of these needs and emotions. you can control your mind block needs and delete emotions if you try
Seems like waiting patiently has been a theme in my life and I'm tired of waiting and time to move on but I'm doing it a healthy way thanks to these videos
I feel bad for people out there especially on this quarantine time.. i considered myself pretty good on handling the loneliness.. it gives me a lot of peace ... being alone doesn’t mean that you are lonely.. in this quarantine time i think this is the moment where people could find new skills or hobby, etc.. do something that could fulfill your soul, your dream and brings you in peace.. for me, i do really enjoy to pampering myself.. i used to be bullied when i was a kid because of my appearance..every time I pampered myself brings me up to the peace because it’s a form of self loving and healing.. and it doesn’t have to be expensive.. just simply having a nice shower and some music .. thinking about yourself.. lost in your thoughts and that’s amazing.. i fell in love with myself every single day .. i guess when you found peace and happiness in yourself, you’ll never need anyone to give it to you.. forgive yourself and have control on yourself.. when you happy you’ll attract better😉
i’ve been alone since the day i could start remembering and i’ve taken that 16 years to get stronger mentally and physically and i’m probably in the best state i’ve ever been in and i’m trying to slowly work my way into figuring out how to not be alone it’s a difficult journey but i’m trying
When you are alone, you get a chance to look inward.
There is a 10 day Buddhist meditation course in India where the participants don’t talk to each other for all 10 days. Everyone meditates for about 10 hours a day during the 10 day period. Normally, all participants experience a inner churn from the 7th day. On the 11th day, the participants introduce themselves and chat for a few hours before dispersing.
I actually feel more lonely in most groups than all alone by myself
For me, not being surrounded by people is a good time. I feel safe and content with my own thoughts. I find lonliness when there are people around me who ignore my emotional/conversational needs. I don't know how to deal with this and hence, I just avoid making conversation. I want to be better at this, though.
I absolutely love your content, thank you xx
Thanks, Cilla!
depression always precedes growth....and it is always 'lonely on the growing edge'....loneliness is not 'bad'...it passes...always
Silence is my best friend who never betray me. What I take into solitude grows there, including the beast within.
This video makes the assumption that there are periods of aloneness.
What it should have tackled, was a persistent life of loneliness and solitude as a result of failed relationships and rejection.
And the default position of learning to embrace aloneness as a way of life because there is no choice.
There are always choices, but often the cure is worse than the affliction
These videos have helped me to deal with depression and my current life situation. I think you are a great teacher.
Loneliness is the leaking of self discovery and creation.
Without creation there is no adventure or new discoveries.
I've been a great friend to others but others have not been a good towards me. That has been the story of my life. I've grown bitter, angry, hurt, traumatized, and disappointed. Plain and simply I've grown to really not think much of people.
I am an autistic schizophrenic.
Isolation has always been my reality, even when I was a child amongst my family I felt detached and distant from them.
I thought about things which were way ahead of the way others in school thought, such as how radio waves worked and what made the tides go in and out.
I would escape the chaos of high school by sitting on the top floor of a tower block just thinking to myself.
I fell in love frequently and ached a silent longing for a perfect love affair which never came. Eventually I accepted that love was not for me and now I live alone, sleep alone and I will die alone. I'm fine with that.
Other people want relationships but think they need them, this is why they suffer so much.
I don't want or need anyone and I feel happy by myself.
Be your own best friend and you’ll never be disappointed or feel lonely!
Your videos change the way I used to think before and which makes me sad. Thank you soo much man. 😊
I think this philosophy, of changing how you react to things, can prevent taking action and actually changing your reality.
Honestly, I recently lost most friends I had.. now I am afraid to let someone in because that person will leave me, too..
I'm happy to see my favorite philosopher, Epictetus, getting so much focus here.
Thanks Man! You are definitely helping my existence.
I can spend my entire life even without going outside once, on condition that I have a stable financial income to sustain myself.
Same.
Is it possible ? How ?
People who always want to go inside or who travel into inner mind and who are fed up of superficial worldly things ... can stay like that ... Quite weird for me ....but appreciate your idea ...👌👌👌👍👍👍👍👌👌👍👍
@@DrHridoyWhatilearnToday Not only possible but I would do it without thinking twice if I could. I can live in a complete isolation; no problem. As it seems, my brain is wired differently. People get on my nervous. As George Carlin would say - "I'm all right with them for a little while, but once you get up past around... a minute, minute and a half, I gotta get the fuck out of there". Solitude isn`t punishment for me.
@LagiNaLangAko23 Well, to be honest with you, a 3 room apartment is quite sufficient for me. I don`t need a gym, theater or swimming pool.
I’m in frustration often, but I try to tell myself that all of the painful loneliness I’ve endured since birth (I’m 22) will make my eventual true love feel that much more magical. Until then I’ll hang out with my demon friend who’s pure at heart💜
I really identify with what Robin Williams said about being alone. It describes how I feel much of the time. Such good stuff in your videos..thank you 🙂
The fact that this video has reached me is already a gift
Being alone isn't all that bad and doesn't equivalate to loneliness. I have often been lonely since childhood despite having relatives and "friends" around. I will say that having someone in my age group to speak with does help from time to time (mom) but I have noticed that I am becoming closer to God and finding myself along with standing in my truth. Sometimes having "friends" will stunt you especially if they aren't God sent (higher vibrational individuals with good intentions). Quarantine has me thinking about a lot and going more into my purpose despite everything else. God bless us all. ❤️
Wow... This video blew my mind. I am quite of an extraverted person who does struggle with feeling of "loneliness". Although I have friends who care about me, and spend time with quite frequently, I still feel alone.
With this video I understood that the reason for that is because I have a bad view on loneliness, and that I haven't learnt how to appreciate it. I have always relied on others' entertainment that was provided by their presence in life, which made me appear clingy and ended up pushing them away thus worsening my feelings of loneliness.
It all came full circle. It all makes sense now. Lovely video!
Thanks for it, Einzelganger (I had a stroke spelling it).
The problem is when we are with our friends or loved ones we feel more happy and content , and we wish we could be in this state forever , which makes that strong desire and feeling of lack , makes it harder to be happy alone , every time you remember this feeling you will feel sad and we can't forget it .. its really hard to find a better source of happiness alone , all we can do is to ignore it and be happy with what we have.
Whoa! You learn so much more if you watch this when you're actually feeling lonely! Because you're able to practice it immediately! That was fantastic! Thanks for the video!
Being alone is better than keeping bad company or bad thinking...learn the lesson of being alone and progress!! Big love from another youtuber 🔥🤘🔥🤘
I love my own company. There's nothing so blissful in life as solitude.
We are all alone, born alone, die alone, and-in spite of True Romance magazines-we shall all someday look back on our lives and see that, in spite of our company, we were alone the whole way. I do not say lonely-at least, not all the time-but essentially, and finally, alone. This is what makes your self-respect so important, and I don't see how you can respect yourself if you must look in the hearts and minds of others for your happiness.-Hunter S. Thompson
I swear dude wtf my utube AI algorithm officially is smarter than me like everytime I need anything it’s there... trippy stuff hahaha
They know it all. They know everything.
Oh no, they are here
Nooooooooooooo, please
@@DaFeanor20 Damn, I'm so dumb why didnt I start
They save everything you do on UA-cam and feed you exactly what you want to, its kinda scary. The future of humanity doesn't look bright when we always get what we want on so many ways, politically and intellectually but also for entertainment.
Its all je-i mean youtube's algorithms
Maybe the UA-cam AI algorithm showed you stuff that made you feel lonely, then it solved the problem it helped create.
Please do a video on obsessing over a person. And how to let it go by focusing the energy on yourself
Wow, there is an answer in your comment. I needed this. Thanks!
I'm 23 and I just need a hug. The past year has been my most lonliest phase of my life. Broke up, lost all my friends, living alone, blah blah blah. Initially I self distanced hoping my close people would notice and come give me like a hug or sum shit but no one gave a fuck. so i got into drugs hoping someone would come by and see why I'm doing drugs and help me but I got to meet more people who couldn't give 2 fucks if u were sad or not. Yes you Vishal. My last hope was my family but they've always been emotionally abusive and didn't give two flying fucks about me and was the main reason I'm so insecure. I tried therapy for a couple of months but tbh, even they felt fake. I thought I have seen my all time low but smh, everyday I manage to wake up and dig myself a deeper hole. I HAVE NO IDEA HOW TO GET OUT OF THIS. I'm amazed by people who have gotten out of tougher situations like this. They say god helps but I've had my peace with the whole concept of this magic dude so i really have no one to talk to. yesterday i was at this small gathering and i got an anxiety attack that turned into uncontrollable bouts of crying . So I left for some air hoping someone would notice that I was gone and come search for me. like in the movies. is it weird? having these sort of expectations? anyways so no one came and i was like, fuck this and knelt on the ground, folded my hands, and fucking prayed with all my might for just a hug. THAT'S ALL BRO, A HUG. and then i realised no one gave 2 fucks about men so what's the point even trying and went back in. No one even noticed I went out for 3 whole hours and so I did more drugs. u see where im going w this? me nither. I just need a hug. Honestly if someone looked at me and asked for the second time "How are you really doing?", I'd just start bawling and fall to the floor and curl into a ball. As for the first time, I'm doing well, wbu?
Hey Einzelgänger! I just found your channel and I just wanted to say I enjoy your channel. You're doing something meaningful dude. Have a good life, live it as you wish and enjoy it!
I feel lonely while in public or in the crowd or around people. But when I'm alone? I feel very great and perfectly fine! Wonderful solitude
One point mentioned on belief system. Like few of my friends feel something lacking and looser if they don't have partner to go out on weekends party. As per them it was something needs to be done else you are wasting you young age time. But now on COVID-19 time. It must be tough for them as first thing got changed as of this is their belief system.
Thank you very much for the video! I keep insisting in being more like everybody else when I'm actually fine with myself, is this stupid notion that I need to adequate to their ways. I can just be myself and live my way, whenever it's supposed to happen it will.
when im lonely and in emotional despair, i turn to my tru online fren ....einzelgänger. thank you, my dude.
Feeling Sorry for the kids to be raised in such a way ....
I find society, government etc (well meaning I believe) can sometimes inadvertently make people feel even more isolated when looking in concerned from the mental health perspective.
"being alone is neither good or bad, it's just the way it is. Our happiness does not rely on external circumstances, but how we position ourselves towards them" .... Gold!
The music he puts at the ends of his videos is always so cool.
They say that money doesnt buy happiness. Have you ever seen a sad person on a jet ski? -Marcus Aurelius Tosh
This is one of your most powerful videos. I'm currently considering how appropriate my long-held career goals are, and the flexibility of self this video seems to advocate hit just right for me.
I am alone a lot. I live with 2 people who don’t care to socialize with me. And I work with people I don’t fit in with. Am I lonely? No not really. Loneliness is a state of mind. Someone can only hurt you if you allow them too.
That's so true.
Loved the moment when the buddhas seemed to be traveling garden gnomes! Then I felt my loneliness was gone. Making and sipping tea after an illustration in an earlier video helped too and went well with the buddhas. Zen is not two and not one, not-alone. Thank you 🙏♥️
Thank you. This video has helped me tremendously-truly appreciating your work.
Introducing the antidotes section of the video was a brilliant idea chief!
Solitude is my unshakable fortress and my unfailing friend!