The Real Price of a Brutal Divorce (And How To Move On)
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- Man marries a borderline woman, and is going through a brutal divorce.
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Please make a video about sperm donor, I have been sleeping with one lady she was older than me I make a donor but my she is suing/harassing me. It happening among immigrants too.
How do you possibly miss the warnings.
As harsh as it sounds I can honestly say this dude deserved the hell he went and will continue to go through.
Pain is the only currency acceptable to pay for stupidity.
Good morning Coop!
In your last video you posted "The real price you pay for a brutal divorce" you stated in the video, you didn't know about a G.E.D. Here in the states, a High School drop out can go back and take some classes and major test to get their G.E.D. General Education Diploma And it is viewed and accepted by most employers as a standard high school diploma. Just a little piece of useless knowledge for ya!
Hey man, love your content, I remember one video you did about minimalism. Well there's this celebrity named Marie Kondo who has a popular reality show called Tidying Up, it relates to minimalism. The show have gain more attention to the point that people have started to minimize their stuff. I haven't watched the show, however if you can, I would like to know what your thoughts are on the show.
Hey man, I am from the uk. This is best channel. Thank you for your content.
The ex-wife once told an employee of hers that ‘she married her first husband to get an education, her second husband (me) to get children, and she’ll marry her third husband for money’. She’s still looking for number three, 14 years after I divorced her.
Good what she gets lol
Lmao
A lady once told me, first marriage is for love, second for family and third for sex. I guess some people (the lucky few) manage to find partners who fulfils all needs.
Crazy women
she wont find # 3. her only # 3's gonna be a dozen cats
Not only did he ignore the Red Flags, but he ignored the flashing Red Lights and Fire Alarm too.
he probably watched captain America before his wedding and figured he could save the world. 😂😭🤦🏾♀️
And his dog barkin, and the ghost yelling "dont do it!!"
And the fuiin buzzard
He ignored getting run over by the firetruck flashing it's lights and sirens.
And the girl´s uncle warned him, twice!!! before getting married... Are you sure you want to do this? She is a Royal Bitch!!! Uoahhh!
As a divorcee, NEVER EVER get in a relationship with a woman with mental (health) issues. Never ever. My marriage collapsed due to a decline in a wife's decline in mental health. Don't ignore psychological red flags. EVER. It will be a horror story.
Same with me, 28 years of misery… :(
Yeah, my wife of 9 years was bipolar. She hid it from me until after our marriage.
We've been divorced for 19 years. Thank God.
My ex was borderline and she assaulted me many times. Then she went to court, claimed she was the victim of DV, and the court gave her all she wanted. It took me 3+ years and 28 hours of testimony to force the court to pay attention to reality. Then I got custody of our son. Stay away from borderlines...and from family court.
After 10 days, a woman who I just started dating lost interest in me. I failed 3 shit tests on Wednesday arvo. I am single again. Thank God!
Test 1) She wanted me to buy a horse race ticket of a specific horse and race. She stated that WE could use the winnings for a hotel room in Auckland. We argued 3 times about this. I do not bet.
Test 2) Her car is impounded at the panel beater. She asked how could WE solve that. I said nope!
Test 3) She wanted me to drive to Auckland on Sunday and Monday which is a long weekend and be her taxi. Auckland is a four hour drive each way from home. I said nope!
I cried in my beer for 2 seconds and finally got over her.
Short term loss, long term you have gained my friend.
I think you passed the shit tests from your own point of view. She clearly is trash and doesn't want a strong / firm man. If you "failed" you would've helped her with all that crap, she would've lost respect for you, and your relationship would only get worse and worse until she dumped you.
I have been red pilled approx 12 years now. I can see through these games. It is funny to watch these women search for men with very low self-esteem who will spend their resources on them. I would rather exchange 30 minutes for 200 dollars these days.
If a woman says she wants to spend time with you then you should focus on the word spend in that sentence. I guarantee you it will not be you at her house eating a home cooked meal banging her all night. It will drive me her to buy this, drive her because I want to experience this, let's get drinks here and will order some 30 dollar fruit fucking foundation bullshit drink. See how many tabs she picks up before spending a dime.
Those weren't shit tests. It was a just woman trying to use you.
I love hearing stories like this is it good reminder to stop getting married
Agreed. I'm getting the itch to date again...but these stories always make me take a step back. Fools rush in where angles fear to tread.
@@Last_one_before_I_go You can date and not get married.
@@Alan_Wigz - aye...but I am a romantic, and if there's one that catches me...then I'm in danger. But so far its been 7 years since the blg D and I've avoided a few trappers, shall I say...
If you found right one you can
Romanticism perpetuates Gynocentrism which is devouring us ...
Thank you for playing your part in destroying western civilization instead of promoting true equality and equal expectations in the relationships you pursue
Yeh fokin scotsmen will doom us all, i recommend watching An Ear For Men
When you forget about women, they'll never forget about you.
Sicilian12345 So True.
Excellent and so true!
Facts
Only in the relationship phase; in the pickup/courtship phase, no!
yah they pretty much forget about you soon as the next d*ck slides in there.
*Boy-oh-boy, hope no one here will ever experience that. Take care of yourselves and don’t let your guard down. Stress cuts down on our life span. Be proactive to avoid it at any cost.*
"He is the best captain who steers clear of the rocks and shoals"- a wiser man than me
Well known Pennsylvania divorce and family law attorney here. This story is not unusual. (Frankly, sometimes the mother is the sane one and the father has serious mental health issues. Same-sex couples can and do also face similar issues).
While this is NOT legal advice, here are a few key takeaways from this informative video that you may wish to consider:
a) There is an old saying: "The smart man learns from his mistakes, the wiser man learns from the mistakes of others". In this day and age with all of the marriage, relationship and intersexual dynamic information available, there is almost no reason to find yourself in this situation, especially if there are red flags in the beginning. Every case is different. However, having "oneitis" often comes into play in these risky scenarios. Do not ignore red flags. Do not act against your better judgment.
b) Courts, divorce, and child custody laws can and do vary widely from jurisdiction to jurisdiction. Speak to an experienced family law attorney in your jurisdiction BEFORE you live together, BEFORE you propose, BEFORE you order wedding invitations, and BEFORE anyone pays any non-refundable deposits for a wedding. Know your rights and responsibilities BEFOREHAND, in the unfortunate (but common) event that your marriage becomes non-functioning.
c) People can and do change over time. Even if you could not see any red flags going into a marriage, talk to an experienced family law attorney in your jurisdiction about a prenup (well before the wedding invitations are ordered). Properly done, and depending upon the jurisdiction, a valid prenup may be able to save a ton of time and money in the divorce process.
These comments are NOT legal advice and I am NOT your attorney. Only an attorney licensed in your jurisdiction with whom you have established an attorney-client relationship can give you legal advice.
Jonathan, You probably have the most knowledge of why marriages fail. Continue to comment on your experience. I went through 20 years of marriage, 3 teenage kids and paid enough to by a new Porsche which got me 50/50 custody, NO ALIMONY and division of assets 50/50. She worked in a solid field and I had put a significant amount in savings, etc. There was no debt and kids were on competitive teams, straight A's and church going. I got the best and baddest attorney I could find and it was well worth it. I saved me over $1.9 million yes due to potential 20 years of alimony! Guys get the fact that the woman I fell in love turned into the biggest nightmare. Never again will i enter into a state relationship, have kids (I'm snipped) or co-habitate.
Thank you Sir for the comment.
Regarding point (a) I didn't start looking into this stuff until I already had problems. I was fed the fairy tale lies and was duped into marrying a narcissist. I'm in the process of my divorce and she is amping up, but knowing this information definitely helps keep me grounded.
Same things happen in Europe, even in Eastern Europe. Major difference is they/we have no cohabition rules ... yet.
Do not think for a second that only USA and Canada are FUBAR recked.
Russians can beat their wifes a little if they want to, but that's another story. I guess no one of this community here wants to live in Saudi Arabia or Russia.
eclipseNF no you’re not. Find a woman that will have your children but doesn’t want to get married. At least the damage in most cases is limited to child support vs having all of your assets at risk. Be careful though in some jurisdictions if they live with you they can go after alimony, even though common law marriage has gone by the wayside.
Even if all the communist countries in the history of the world got together...they could not have created these many red flags !
😂 good one and probably true
😆 😆 😆
😂 spot on!
My divorce lasted longer than the US involvement in WWII. As it got closer to the end, her brutality escalated just as the War in the Pacific did.
She started it & increasingly hated the fact that her control would end at the completion of it.
The tragic thing is that our daughters took the biggest strategic hits.
@Youb Cbr it is crazy how fast cheap and how helpfull the government is......after you pay the small fee they will even file it for you. i think getting married should be very very difficult and extremley expensive.......like thousands of dollars in fees......so difficult and expensive in fact that it would make you stop and think is this woman really worth all of this effort?
I'm going through the blender of family court now for custody of my daughter. I'm 36 and I have decided on getting a vasectomy. No second marriage or live in relationship for me.
Its astonishing isnt it? Hang in there. I am a huge advocate of fairness and you will find none in family court. I lost custody of my children, knew it would happen. The upside is my ex wife is so tired having them full time I get them way more than on paper. Divorce is cancer.
@@salemdunning5954 and in most cases, so is marriage
Red flag bigger than the ones the Soviets hung over the Reichstag
🤣🤣🤣
This letter was ridiculous. The guy is either an aspiring fiction writer or the biggest simp that ever lived.
If the dude that wrote this is reading this comment....keep studying Richard's stuff...this guy literally saved me when I was in a pile of misery.....combine Richards stuff with AMS (Alpha Male Strategies).....watch all of the episodes....work on yourself for 3 months before you even think about dating again....learn their systems chapter and verse, and trust them....they have fixed tens of thousands of men....but remember the fixing starts with yourself....try keto diet for 3 months, learn to eat again, and hit the gym....everything will fall into place if you put yourself and your 'purpose' (AMS) before anything! Good luck!
this guys is right. AMS is the real shit man. You will realise a lot of mistakes u made. Scenes will pop back in ur mind
That’s exactly what I did. Found both channels randomly while leading up to initiation of my divorce and helped me get my head straight before going into it all.
After 24 years of marriage I got divorced. The ex got 3.2 mil. Please your eyes wide open guys. I missed so many warning signs.
Holy moly man...
After 18 years marriage and divorce I I went monk mode and managed to get my confidence and finances back took nearly 5 years to gain control of my life.better to be on your own then to be married to a train wreck
Keep up great work Richard
Same story.. 18 years married.. 5 to build back. It's worth it not to be saddled by a nagging rule maker.
Met 1993.
Married 2000.
Separated 2010.
Divorced 2015/16.
Lost everything financially by 2019.
Apart from my kids, the whole sh!tshow has taken a massive chunk out of my life.
Now rebuilding. Got my own house 2022.
I look around now and figure the whole system is completely stacked against men.
My response: Monk Mode! NEVER going back to the plantation. 🙂
Spot on!!! Thanks! I survived a train wreck with a bipolar alcoholic.
Divorced 5 years now and she is on her 3rd live in boyfriend. Glad my kids are adults now and see the real mom she is....
Never stop helping men Richard, thank you!!
One of the workers on a project my company managed told me you never know how evil a woman can be until you divorce them. And that was after 20 years of marriage.
She's got more baggage than an airport
Presentations like this are incredibly valuable to men. We can learn so much so quickly. Don't get married, ever. You do not need to buy a woman, she wants you or she does not, marriage is a ridiculous wealth destroyer. Ignore tradcons.
This guy KNEW what he was getting, and CHOSE it - he needs therapy or he will repeat the process.
You can see it...."is there any hope to getting married again"? wtf? To err is human to keep making the same error again and again and expecting a different result is insanity.
I had a very similar experience. Ex kept trying to tell my kids the new guy was "daddy". Its a test of your own inner strength.
What a witch
Makes me think of how my last relationship could have panned out had I not walked away. Shudder.
I have a borderline ex, but this woman makes her look like a total amateur.
I have a borderline wife, she seems more lovable now.
The best part of my marriage was the divorce. I had to trick her into signing it.
How did you do that ?
How?
MORE ISSUES THAN A FASHION MAGAZINE !!! please start using this one Rich !!! hahaha!!!
My opinion for this guy.
Work on your self first.
Don't worry about things that you can not change.
Be in control, at the end only you can help your self.
Great vid, Richard. As I go on more, the more I see/hear bad horror stories. Beta males practice "alchemy". Betas try to turn non-precious metals into precious ones, its like trying to turn lead in gold. Alphas practice "chemistry"!!! Alphas search for the right elements, the right compounds to better the environment around them, the 'frame" they're constructing. They chase results. Betas chase hope. I've learned from my mistakes. Keep posting, man! THANKS!!
Love the analogy!!
A great analogy.. Alphas pan for gold.. by approaching and using selection/filtering techniques.
@@johnshore3095 exactly!! Alphas pan for gold. Betas fall for the Fool's Gold.
My divorce was bad enough, but stories like this reinforce the lesson that marriage is to be approached with the greatest caution.
No. Just say no. Under no circumstances should you entertain marriage under present law. Period.
When and if due process returns... Only then can it be considered.
@@marcgrundfest1495 Then we disagree.
My divorce wasn't hard because of money or any other typical issue, but instead because it happened during the recovery process of an organ transplant. The financial aspect was a bargain price of 1,652 $ because I had insisted on a prenup to protect us both due to my chronic condition. Mostly the process was frustrating and stressful due to her trying to get me to agree to ticky tacky little shit: my being at the DMV with her to remove my name from her car title, my paying for lost wages so she can go to the SS office for a name change, and the hilarious attempt to get me to pay for her counseling post divorce, etc. As soon as she floated the "I think I want a divorce" balloon without a hint of a problem or a willingness to go to marriage counseling, I cut off all access to my financial information, called the lawyer, and told her that the lawyer was working on an order of separate maintenance (due to the recovery period of the transplant). My divorce was financially cheap and a pro forma process precisely because I thought ahead and sold the prenup as a means to protect both of us. That she brought up meaningless stuff was simply a distraction to a far important process, but the actual divorce consisted of my exchange e-mails with the associate handling my case (the partner said the prenup made my case easy so he would only work on it if the associate needed his assistance).
In my experience, blanket statement like yours are of little use in the real world because there are always ways to protect oneself. The attorney below provides a solid roadmap to anyone who is considering marriage, but also is not naïve to the realities of the divorce machine.
@@mattweisner8922
I assume no kids? Because very few states will enforce a prenuptial agreement, if it is seen as less than optimal for the children.
In anycase not all states even enforce prenuptial agreements.
Carry on.
@@marcgrundfest1495 Correct no kids.
Admittedly, my situation is uncommon because I also wasn't worried about a false charge of domestic violence at the time because for a few months even a sneeze was painful as hell. That and I walked around slower than my grandfather so during that period I was pretty helpless. As you said, kids tends to result in prenups being moved to the side if not outright ignored. The deck is certainly stacked against men ; sad state of affairs
Aka not at all
More red flags than a Soviet and Chinese unification parade
Could probably even throw north Korea in there too.
@@holycats8 ;) I know, even thought of adding Vietnam. Wanted to keep it short and sweet
@@Spart344 Lol.
I approve this message. Big hello from Russia 👋
Too many of us men believe in the 'Pretty Woman' fallacy, that you can find lead in the street and turn it into gold. That only works in Gary Marshall movies. . . . . not in real time.
Exactly, every guy can find a prostitute and magically turn her into a great wife with no issues at all from her past profession. Yeah Right.
@@erichendrickson8319 lol exactly. We would never expect a war vet to come back home from war action the same, intact, but its a 'beta male' tendency to think differently for "daddy issue" females.
He thought he was captain save a hoe... and lost the challenge
How broken was he from his own childhood, and how hot was she?
Million dollar questions right there! Men have daddy issues too! This was like buying a ticket to the Titanic. . . . AFTER seeing the movie!!
👍👍👍👍
Coming from a single mother and having to deal with my old lady’s anger fits towards me and my older brother when she would get intoxicated, the usual "you are acting just like your father" line, became a routine growing up....
20 years later I came across this young woman with daddy issues, we've met at church, funny thing is, the pastor even came to me to warned me about her and her difficult childhood growing up
Guys, the way I perceived her at the time, and this is important, to me she was your typical damsel in distress and I had to save her. Looking back, it had a lot to do with my other head doing all the talking.
I now have identical twins, recently diagnosed with spectrum autism. I haven't been able to see them in 10 months because she won't let me see them, per divorce decree, she created these lies about me not being able to spend time with them, I had to work two jobs to make sure they had their medical and a roof to come home to, because of said complaints, this feminine, hippie judge gave her 75% custody.
These videos helped a ton.
Thank you Rich. Your thoughts are always welcome. I wished I had someone like you giving man said advise back then
I'm a bit late to the party, but your comment was very much, my story. My pastor refused to marry us. She could make you feel so loved(when it suited her), I came to realise, many years later, that I was in love with a facade she'd created, in the first 6mths of our relationship and continually made excuses for her increasingly bad behaviours. Mine ended bitterly despite my efforts. I wish I had this mentoring in my teens. I hope your finding yourself, increasingly each day and becoming stronger and more comfortable in who you really are. Keep fighting to increase access to your children, don't give up. Prioritise your hobbies and exercise daily. I can't emphasise enough how much exercise improves your happiness, resilience and confidence. Keep your chin up, life gets better (if you don't let her back in your life) and just do you.
Damn society freaking rules
Keep fighting to see your kids
Dont give up
I bet this guy is addicted to the chaos and drama. This will be difficult for him.
Refind yourself man, get addicted to exercise and life.
Great advice Mr. Cooper! Good also to see this brother has joined the forum and hope he gets some inspration and support there and most importantly implements this program. Would like an update in the comments in 6 months if possible...
Entrepreneurs in cars hands down the best Channel my brother!
Had an ex with BPD. Only way I got away from her was moving to an hour and a half away and no one knew where I lived. Then she finally got over me and stopped pursuing me.
You are the best, Richard. Thanks for sharing this video. I am very sorry for the kids, they do not deserve this. Peace
Miss you on RMG. Great video as always.
Great video Rich, thank you.
I'm glad I got in my car and drove away as fast as I cud and never looked back....so many red flags ...Great advice...Peace.
Don't be too hard on him. Men, when young, believes that marriage utopia exists. In the absence of YT channels like yours, or, a very knowledgeable group of males around you, there probably is very little other information that can show a young male the truth.
Experience. It helps also a lot to be around women throughout your young years. Grew up mostly with women. Most of the stuff he is teaching here was obvious.
More red flags than a red flag factory.
Best information :) thanks for having one of the most informative channels out there.
Hey man thanks for your videos.
Whenever I'm depressed about what I went through, it stories like this that give me relief.
That guy has issues. REKT!
I experienced something similar,, married a woman who got into bad drug, gambling addiction and was prosecuting herself on the side ,, shit was crazy on many more levels !
We as men like to fix and repair things. Problem is we truly can do it for our children as in protecting them from damage. We cannot fix broken adults. Your intention was to fix all the wrongs. There was no possible way anyone could handle this much damage. We have to get seriously burned to learn it seems.
I experienced a similar type of divorce from a similar BPD ex-wife. The experience was terrible, the courts were terrible but after 5 years and I was able to turn the tables on her and win sole custody of my only daughter. It did take me over 10 years to recover financially but I did and now I am living life on my own terms. Just know that it does get better. The courts may come around but don't count on it. Read the book from Richard Kent titled, Solomon's Choice: A Guide to Custody for Ex‑husbands, Spurned Partners, and .... My story is in this book as well. Good luck!
Probably top 10 most informative videos Cooper has ever released.
Sorry, this guys got nobody to blame but himself.
I hate that the man always get the blame, but he knew full well be was walking into a dumpster fire. Even had family checking him, no excuses.
Yep, the woman was a timebomb, but even her UNCLE warned him not to marry
We all have that one Achilles heel chick. Badgering this brother does no one any good at this point
4rich: GED is general equivalency degree (to replace a high school diploma) passed the GED exam instead of graduating high school
aka "The Jed" hahaha.....makes me laugh hearing people call it the Jed..
Good enough diploma
By the sounds of the stress from the on-going attacking.... I would recommend looking into / researching CPTSD to help manage that.
Coop...This video is why you are my Hero!! ....This is one of your best to date I.M.O. thanks for sharing this and many prayers and support to this man going through this Hell with this woman, just another Horror story that FREE MEN can learn from and avoid from making this same type of mistake like this. .
that damn Kevin from Marketing
It takes time. That is the key along with staying busy and being as positive as possible.
That Thumbnail on the video is so so epic, I just could not ignore clicking on it also given the topic on video. So man red flags for this guy that it’s way way off the scale and going into his marriage. In the end at least he’s trying to be honest in seeing the mistakes as well learn and recover from it. But that’s all one hell of a mess and wasted years with the situation. Lots of lessons learned here. Wish him all the best. The best learning is learning from other people’s mistakes without you yourself having to go thru the same things and mistakes.
Very imformative
Agree... Unplug, recharge, work on yourself, and then things will fall into place!
Thanks for sharing this. Bro I feel bad for you! Take the advice. It will get better.
Richard, GED stands for general education development. In the United states it is an equivalent to a high school diploma.
Please do a video on how to navigate the ending and the part with the kids and Co-Parenting advice with examples
Man oh man, you NEED TO GET THIS BOOK brother. "Say Goodbye to Crazy" and then follow the advice to the T man. It hepled me so much during my divorce (with child)
Great advice Rich. This is scary stuff. I was married to a narcissist for too many years.There is no way out except divorce and the quicker the better. I have read much on the subject and most psychologist agree that there is no treatment available for narcissists, as they just cannot change.
However there was help for me. I went to counselling for a few years and life is good now. I'm enjoying the single life and have reached a solid level of solitude. I date women on my terms and that's working well for me.
P.S. I really like Tactical Soap.
Rich needs to pit tactical soap against Dr. Squatch in a duel to the death
I can't even finish this it's so painful to listen to...BEFORE THE DIVORCE! My God, man!
I’ve showed my friends video like this and they no longer want to get married
Excellent. Marriage will hopefully end before long.
douglas williams by my informing all my friends about how dangerous marriage is, I’m contributing to the decline of marriage and the decline of divorce. You should also show all ur friends as well
You know how they say there are just some stories you just can't make up.... well this is one for sure.....This one is just plain CRAZY but also unfortunate!
I don't understand why someone would dislike this video. There's literally nothing that could trigger anyone in it. It's just the story of a terrible divorce serving as cautionary tale for every one.
It's male oriented channel but it would be cool if a sister or mother watch this channel and talked about it to a brother or son or friend to open their eyes about their situation.
I'm past all the dates, relationships etc myself but I would have appreciate to know more about how to navigate the relationship scenarios. I personally ignored many red flags in my life mainly by lack of knowledge
Really hope you help this fella. Feel for him, what a rough situation
GUYS, the family court system does not serve you!! Get it in your heads! It is there to provide for the automatic victims- women! This is not her fault, it’s yours for banging crazy. Same as my crazy ex. I did not vet properly and my lack of vigilance cost me. I was simply just fortunate as hell when I was granted custody of the kids. She could no longer expose them to her damage.
You were fortunate. Last year I got non custodial, but that quickly turned into babysitter as well as parenting time.
that book saves lives bros! get it if you think youre dealing with a bpd partner! even if you already split read it, it will help you to understand the complex process of dealing with an bpd person, for all men who survived a divorce with a bpd woman, my respect to you gentlemen! youre strong and powerful and your life will get better every single day, enjoy your hard earned freedom!!!
i don't
Cheer up dude My ex poisoned me and while I was at the hospital she used that time to rob me (totally emptied our apartment). She's with her boss now (he was a married man but left her wife and children for my ex) I'm ok now (although I wasted 10 years of my life and a lot of money)
She poisoned you so she could rob you?? Total borderline move...
God bless you brother ! So much to learn , a bit late in my case but hey I can build up from here , regard , India
Watch out for Co-habitation agreements! I live in Vancouver and was in a relationship with a borderline! Red flags! So had a Co Hab drawn up because she wanted to live with me for 6 months until getting a new place. We broke up! She found a woman lawyer who took the case pro-bono and challenged the co-hab. B.C. ( no surprise ) changed the marriage laws in 2013 to extremely benefit women. You no longer need to live together here to be considered living in a “marriage-like” relationship giving the woman full claim to marriage status. Long story short, I was extorted by the legal process and had to pay her. After smoke cleared I paid out about $150000. And we DID NOT LIVE TOGETHER. B.C. - fucked Up!! My Cohab was well written and done proper with family lawyer - still worthless. Beware in BC. Maybe elsewhere as well
Hearing nightmares like the one presented causes me to self-congratulate for not only noting the most recent red flags, but cutting her lose before damage was done.
I've never commented on a video twice, but get the book SAY GOODBYE TO CRAZY... Right now
Did you built a book shelf out of plumbing parts? I wonder of anyone else noticed that.
Yup! A lot of Crazy out there!!!! Thanks Rich!!!!
I mean... dude walked up to a burning building, it had red flashing lights all over it, dude opened the door ... walked into the burning house... and got burned.
GED is a general education degree. Highschool equivalence. Or the good enough degree.
Title IV should have been amended when Affermative Action was placed.
Let me relate to a female interaction I witnessed: Ladies in an IT call center, one collects paper "flowers" and displays them on her desk, from an inmate at a local(i'm guessing) prison. One AF woman says to her, "Girl, aren't there enough losers on the outside you could date?" Lol, we (men) were all cracking up. Sho 'nuf, the AF lady nailed it. Fer Chrissakes, if a marginally (or un) educated woman sees this shit, so should you. See how hypergamy slices through the bs in an instant? Sometimes women are more rational in their choices in a mate than we are.
My ex is BPD, and virtually identically to this story. Wow.
Unfortunately, I find the term visitation to be very descriptive of the situation. I'm sorry to say that with that little contact with the kids, there isn't a lot you can do for them. Watch carefully, document any problems you see. If the situation is bad enough you might be able to do something, but emotional abuse of the children is hard to prove.
Divorce is a long game. Try to be the best Dad you can, and when the kids are old enough (12 or older) they may come to you to get away from her. Kids are smart, and they will usually be able to figure out if she's spouting BS about you.
Three years on it would be great interesting to get an update on this guy. One thing I’d add reality lean into your mates … if you have a good support group of family and friends it will help a lot.
It's expensive/and tough/when in doubt get out/you will be a better man.
Where did you get that awesome shelf?
Funny (and sad) truth: In my last relationship (10 years) I never locked the door of the house or the car, never got anything stolen or vandalized, living in a major city: Montreal. And did 5 years in the army with the most dangerous guys you can dream off without ever feeling I had to look any door. (baracks, truck, glovebox, locker, etc....) But, INSIDE THE HOUSE I had tree locks between my room INSIDE the house and my spouse 120 pounds ex. This shit happens way more often then people want to be aware of. Men really don't wanna talk about these things. And refusing to talk about this shit is men shooting themselves in the foot. Where where you Rich when I needed you? (well not sure anyway I would have listened when in I was in my blue pill phase)
GED - General Equivalency Diploma. Its what people that drop out of high school in the states can get later on that counts as graduating from high school.
It gets better brother take the red pill you will be unstoppable
In the US GED is General Educational Development, but basically when people drop out of high school many times they will go back to an adult school and they will obtain a high school equivalent degree, the GED.....
Sometimes when a person is stuck in a very terrible situation, they need an outlet, and the eating was the outlet. Also, anti-depressants shrink brain tissue.
Lawyers deal with way more "high conflict" people than most, they should have a higher tolerance for it. She must have been pretty dreadful.
Hey Richard, recently found this channel and think the content is brilliant and you're providing an invaluable and much needed service to men in need of this fantastic advice. I'm single by choice but not against a relationship with a women so find your content very insightful and beneficial to absorb whilst single in case I do choose to engage in a relationship. With all that positive feedback in mind, just wanted to respectfully suggest you don't advise men to stop taking anti-depressants that a Doctor has obviously prescribed to them. You mentioned in a video that you had thoughts of suicide at one point so assuming you may have possibly been on anti-depressants and also assuming based on your advice that they were not beneficial for you. If that's the case then I just think it's risky to suggest other men not use because of your isolated experience. It can sometimes take trialling of several anti-depressants to land on one that is effective for the user because the first/second/third drug may have been ineffective and even worse may have made him feel worse. And then if you've not been on antidepressant ants I don't see how you can advise men against them without a medical background/training. Just thought I'd mention as for some men, the effective use of anti-depressants could be what's keeping them from self harm so even litigiously it would be dangerous advice to be giving. Hope you didn't mind this comment and look forward to consuming the awesome future content I hope you keep producing
I like this video 2 times. This is the truth
I think Steve from accounting should be a guest on a future video.
Men who want to heal people like this should go to graduate school and become a psychotherapist. This might satisfy their need to help people out of their trauma, and they wouldn't have to marry them. Plus, he would get paid for his professional duties.
My mom has her beat. Borderline married 8 times. I vowed never to be like her. Been happily married for 30 yrs with 3 kids. Been no contact with my mom for 9 yrs now. These women are sick beyond help. My mom bankrupted 2 hubs........that i know of.