Should I Divorce My Controlling Wife?

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  • @EntrepreneursInCars
    @EntrepreneursInCars  5 років тому +24

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    • @marquestanderson1388
      @marquestanderson1388 5 років тому +2

      Entrepreneurs in Cars you should get a teaching credential and publish a book. Find a way to teach these things in a accredited college class. This info is as essential as sex education. No one is telling men about these things. We desperately need a department to counter women's studies maybe call it male studies.

    • @SidneyXda
      @SidneyXda 5 років тому

      My wife has these episodes where she thinks I’m cheating and it just ruins all the great time we have . Really pissing me off.

    • @marquestanderson1388
      @marquestanderson1388 5 років тому

      SidneyXda thats her issue if she thinks that. If she isn't having sex with you , she shouldn't complain . You should never cheat. I find it strange that women have this sense of entitlement for the man to be monogamous, but only have sex with him less than 10x a year or not at all.

    • @Oh9Shelby
      @Oh9Shelby 5 років тому

      Sounds a lot like my life. Married 15 years. Didnt really want to get married but was given an ultimatum. Got married and was for 15 years. She was/is a narrsisist sociopath. Controlled every ounce of my life from money to who I hung out with. She systematically separated me from every relationship in my life including my family. Long story longer we have one kid. Been divorced for about 2.5 years. Even though I live in the U.S. where the divorce machine hates males (although I came out ok because she was in a hurry to monkey branch onto the next guy). Its all worth it. I feel bad for my kiddo dealing with a separated family. But like Rich says, kids are smart and he could see we weren't happy. Anyway. I agree. Dont live with her. Move on. Enjoy your life. Swallow some pride and stay friends with her, it makes it easier on everyone. But control your frame. Have your boundaries and start enjoying your life

    • @mrincodi
      @mrincodi 5 років тому +2

      Are you sure this guy who makes soap is not called Tyler?

  • @darkoz1692
    @darkoz1692 5 років тому +127

    By "lost her job" you mean she quit so she could live off your income.

    • @travelseatsyellowlab
      @travelseatsyellowlab 5 років тому +24

      My ex had this in mind, she just didn't know that I knew. So when I told her we'd have to sign a prenup before proceeding with the wedding, she was stunned and almost immediately called things off. Thank goodness that blood sucking leech is gone.

    • @ThePsychicFish
      @ThePsychicFish 5 років тому +9

      @@travelseatsyellowlab smart man, don't fall for emotional manipulation.

    • @ellar6491
      @ellar6491 3 роки тому +5

      @@travelseatsyellowlab that happens to women too. I have double if not triple the assets than most men I date...guess what? If they have less than me they are against the prenup every single time. If they have more than me, they are all for it...and so am I. My mom's friend accumulated wealth her whole life, got married at 50 and her husband divorced her after 6 months and took half of her house and everything else. A prenup is a must!

    • @munterboy1744
      @munterboy1744 Рік тому +1

      That's what my wife did, I moved to a new country for her got a job and within weeks she quit her job and said now she can focus on her photography career while I work full time and pay all the bills.

    • @Scorcher-ii1ty
      @Scorcher-ii1ty Рік тому

      Lol😂

  • @CertifiedTyrone
    @CertifiedTyrone 5 років тому +186

    She’s definitely a great con-artist. Says she wants divorce, then starts crying when she realizes he is okay with it. Oh the manipulation..

    • @Bagheera2
      @Bagheera2 5 років тому +13

      No that was just a shit test. He was supposed to back down and go NOOOOO BABY IM SORRY LETS WORK IT OUT!! and he noped her ass.

    • @Bagheera2
      @Bagheera2 5 років тому +7

      So was moving out. He was supposed to miss her and come crawling back. Me I'd have a house full of naked fat bitches after she left. Lol

    • @nightelfuser
      @nightelfuser 5 років тому +18

      She realized that he doesn't care; that destroyed her self-worth because women base their life around validation. In simple terms, in her mind she saw herself as worthless.

    • @tonunknown1
      @tonunknown1 5 років тому +6

      Lmao, this sounds so familiar.

    • @salemdunning5954
      @salemdunning5954 5 років тому +3

      There is another option men and women can play. Imagine you're so invisible and unimportant in a relationship that these drastic matters become the only moment you feel any validation. Now I'm not saying that's healthy, but it happens.

  • @CesarAugusto-wf2ef
    @CesarAugusto-wf2ef 5 років тому +223

    They usually don't love the man, they love what comes with him.
    They want a stallion and turn us into sheeps, then complain we're not stallions

  • @RickbladeX
    @RickbladeX 5 років тому +97

    Biggest mistake that people make is thinking marriage will magically make a relationship better. Relationship issues won't go away by just marrying the woman.

    • @veritasvincit2745
      @veritasvincit2745 5 років тому +3

      Yes, I agree, quite correct in my experience.
      It often is the catalyst that sets latent things off as well.

    • @vrabo3026
      @vrabo3026 5 років тому +4

      Another mistake they make is they think a good relationship will stay good once they are married.

    • @williamgill_esq.6487
      @williamgill_esq.6487 5 років тому +4

      RickbladeX
      And even getting formally engaged to be married does not change behavior.
      Beware the woman who says her bad or irresponsible behavior is because of "insecurity" over not being formally engaged or married.
      That is complete bs so DON'T fall for that.

    • @MMABeijing
      @MMABeijing 5 років тому +2

      that's worst than that for me, giving her what she wanted made her even worse than before we married. She is even nasty to the kid she claimed to want and claims to love, complaining how he ruined our couple.

    • @protoluigi2047
      @protoluigi2047 5 років тому

      MMABeijing Really it reveals how dysfunctional your gf is.

  • @dkeys86
    @dkeys86 5 років тому +146

    Im so happy I broke up with my ex when she gave me an ultimatum to propose to her after only being together for about 7 months.

    • @lovefish74
      @lovefish74 5 років тому +30

      She probably got advised to do that by some friends!

    • @brandon9638
      @brandon9638 5 років тому +15

      @@lovefish74 Or a Cosmopolitan article

    • @clublulu399
      @clublulu399 4 роки тому +12

      7 months? Man these bitches trying to lock down hard lol

    • @MrFIZZYMann
      @MrFIZZYMann 4 роки тому +3

      Some Women ae Trying to Lock Down Men's: Income, Spem, Chores etc within the 1st Contact !

    • @marybell2002
      @marybell2002 3 роки тому +4

      I'm impressed you had the balls to dump her. Lots of emasculated married men looking for affairs out there. They come off miserable but scared to leave.

  • @nicholaselliott4439
    @nicholaselliott4439 4 роки тому +12

    Better to be alone than be with someone that will make your life a living hell.

  • @mikeneill6400
    @mikeneill6400 5 років тому +132

    You are absolutely right. I have been separated from my wife for nearly two years, and we have a five year old son. He knows his mom and dad live separately and we aren't together. I also absolutely agree that kids need their father more than every other weekend crap. I told my ex that if she didn't at least give me at least 40% of the time with my son then we'd be in court. With that said we are likely going to be in court because now she wants me to support her 100% while we're not married. Women in divorce are insane! lol

    • @marquestanderson1388
      @marquestanderson1388 5 років тому +25

      Juan Cabrera You take the " never negotiate with terrorists " line to heart. You got balls

    • @marquestanderson1388
      @marquestanderson1388 5 років тому +4

      Juan Cabrera I don't know about the last part that you leave your kids and tell them that it was the mom's fault. I've seen that fail three times in a row. They hate their father with a passion.

    • @benfrankog6111
      @benfrankog6111 5 років тому +3

      Contact a youtuber named "Turd Flinging Money". You can call into his show and he has a divorce attorney on who may help you legally gain more time with your son.

    • @garythornbury9793
      @garythornbury9793 5 років тому +1

      @Robert Scalchi the difference between a hungryb ear and a women is the women wears lipstick

    • @johnhamilton286
      @johnhamilton286 4 роки тому +1

      @@marquestanderson1388 I've seen quite the opposite since childhood, including I and my siblings. We hate our mother's guts to this day for keeping our dad from us! You misinterpreted the gentleman, he didn't say he would make up lies and falsely accuse mom of keeping the kids from him, he said he would document the truth and show it to the kids someday, that it was mom that kept them apart. And sadly, there are definitely some times where mom is such a good liar that the kids never believe the truth and forever wrongfully hate their dads, it's sad, but it does happen.

  • @chrisealdana
    @chrisealdana 5 років тому +90

    Wow I’m actually going through this now. I’ve been scared to open up about my issues. Thank you to the brave dude who reached out.

    • @TheM.A.
      @TheM.A. 5 років тому +15

      Christian Aldana Don’t wait!! My mistake took 16 years of my life!

    • @chrisealdana
      @chrisealdana 5 років тому +3

      Joe Jones I feel like it’s headed there very fast. I’m already 5 years in with 3 years of marriage. I’m so plugged into the matrix

    • @H1GHD3FF
      @H1GHD3FF 5 років тому +5

      Either she's with your program or not theres no in between

    • @chrisealdana
      @chrisealdana 5 років тому

      H1GHD3FF no lies

    • @megapohmell
      @megapohmell 5 років тому +3

      stay strong bro

  • @huhhahuh
    @huhhahuh 5 років тому +26

    Marriage doesn't change a bad relationship or bad match. All it does is begin the financial chaos you will live with for decades after you divorce.

  • @davideagen8653
    @davideagen8653 5 років тому +30

    ~ 4:00 "If you just get married everything will get better" - and then Rich's grin = priceless

  • @coolbuddydude1
    @coolbuddydude1 5 років тому +11

    "Just be yourself and eventually some women who hit the wall will settle down with you for financial security."

  • @lithiumike
    @lithiumike 5 років тому +21

    Getting married when you don't 'love' your partner is a really bad start. Women tend to change after marriage, add the ensuing shit tests, controling nature, quitting her job without deciding as a couple and finally a child... I don't want to say it was a written out plan but, I doubt any of that was coincidence.
    When women push for an inch and you cave because it's easier than a ridiculous fight, she'll just keep inching away until you realize you're a mile away and you're now pissed because you gave away and have technically lost yourself.
    I'm 34, about a year into red pill and trying not to go full MGTOW. Most women in my life almost have me convinced women are like children, regardless of age, "don't give them their way and watch out". Women need to come into your frame and compliment you, not the opposite.

  • @AltazinMichael
    @AltazinMichael 5 років тому +27

    I REALLY don't see the point of marriage. You can live together and raise children whether you're married or not. All it seems to be is a contract where she gets everything when the relationship ends.

    • @reoun1654
      @reoun1654 5 років тому +1

      A friend of mine handed his woman total finance control of their lives now his life is a misery and he's trying to take the reins back with total grief ie sex has been turnt off!

    • @pyramidhead138
      @pyramidhead138 3 роки тому

      most marriages dont last anyway

    • @kittykitkat4968
      @kittykitkat4968 2 роки тому

      @@reoun1654 that's the worst giving full finance control

  • @godswordsaves7673
    @godswordsaves7673 5 років тому +64

    Dating =data collection.
    It's not sex.....hanging out......... convenient arrangements.....it's learning if you're compatible and discuss the details of your potential commitment. Establish boundaries before you say "i do".

    • @suspicionofdeceit
      @suspicionofdeceit 5 років тому +2

      GodsWordSaves 7 Never say I do. People are not getting it, its amazing. This just keeps coming up.

    • @RodrigoRamirez-eq6gj
      @RodrigoRamirez-eq6gj 5 років тому +1

      suspicionofdeceit
      Religious folks are still stuck in the childhood of humanity, that's why it's impossible for them to be red pill aware. Being red pill are and religious is actually a contradiction in terms. Their cretinous beliefs tell them that to stick their dick in somebody, their fairy of choice has dictated certain terms and policies that, under pain of hell fire, must be followed. One of them is wedlock. Good luck with that, dummies!

    • @godswordsaves7673
      @godswordsaves7673 5 років тому +9

      You guys are hilarious. You are complaining about women and your dodgy experiences yet you keep picking up random chicks just because the look good. You may be pulling 10s now but everyone is getting older and a fresh batch of legals are coming through so enjoying the p***y parade my be fun now but what about in 20 years. Being wise with your sexual habits doesn't equate to "fearing".

    • @nightelfuser
      @nightelfuser 5 років тому

      *GodsWordSaves 7* You're already doing it wrong if you resort to dating as a means of data collection. Regardless, all women want the same thing from you anyway.

    • @godswordsaves7673
      @godswordsaves7673 5 років тому +3

      John Brown but men want so many different things right? If you want casual relationships, the conversation is different from a person who wants something long term. You can't have it both ways and if you want something serious please explain to me how you vet a potential partner?

  • @richhadfield3836
    @richhadfield3836 5 років тому +21

    "Just be yourself, be a nice guy, and the right one will come around"
    *vomits all over his desk*

    • @johnnykopp7304
      @johnnykopp7304 4 роки тому +4

      So why is it every time I hear this advice, I see more and more women with or chasing after bad boys?

    • @pyramidhead138
      @pyramidhead138 3 роки тому +1

      @@johnnykopp7304 when women are young they chase the bad boys, when they hit the wall, they want nice guys. but then the nice guys dont want them anymore. so all those years of rejecting us will come back and haunt them one day

    • @johnnykopp7304
      @johnnykopp7304 3 роки тому +1

      @@pyramidhead138 true.

  • @parnold90
    @parnold90 5 років тому +18

    My advice DIVORCE ASAP! Typical software developer mistake, it's very common because the livelihood is cheap and a SD earns a lot in Eastern EU.

  • @dannukesem
    @dannukesem 5 років тому +6

    I guess I would really like to see people "think more" when it comes to getting into a relationship, but also "think more" about leaving. It just seems like people create their own problems.

  • @victorashul
    @victorashul 5 років тому +14

    For the writer : listen to Tom Leykis on youtube - the Leykis 101 shows from bak in 2007-2010
    Suggestions of such shows:
    1. Benefits of success
    2. Vasectomy as a weapon
    3. You come first
    4. If you leave I'll kill myself
    and there are many others

    • @marquestanderson1388
      @marquestanderson1388 5 років тому +1

      vkt Tom Leykis has the worst advice for keeping long term relationships.His advice seems only for a guy who wants to get laid .

    • @victorashul
      @victorashul 5 років тому +2

      @@marquestanderson1388 I am suggesting that the guy dumps that bitch and that he does his duties as a father :)

    • @marquestanderson1388
      @marquestanderson1388 5 років тому +1

      vkt it's a grey area. He is trying to do right by staying with his son even though he has to stay with a woman that he doesn't loves. It kinda beats the alternative of paying child support, alimony, parental alienation( if she is a B) , non custodial custody , and worst of all: another man teaching your kid his values.
      I would stay the risks are too high.

  • @iflyg4
    @iflyg4 5 років тому +43

    I’m going MGTOW. Marriage is done and having kids are overrated. The whole marriage institution in the US is broken and until they fix the laws, I’m done with it.

    • @sundemon1156
      @sundemon1156 5 років тому +11

      Good for you. You are absolutely correct. Marriage is a gynocentric prison and kids are a huge disappointment. Welcome to MGTOW.

    • @iflyg4
      @iflyg4 5 років тому +2

      Mr Wonderful. I never really looked at it that way. I agree that the laws will never change. I don’t think I’ll go total MGTOW but a certain level of it. Ever since I read The Rational Male, it’s blown my mind because I see it with my mom, my sister, and certainly my gf. I think that being Red Pill aware has saved my life or definitely made me change the blue pill direction I was destined for. But I’ll admit, it’s hard to be aware and see it all around you in society. Keeping strong. ✊️

    • @MJ-ge6jz
      @MJ-ge6jz 5 років тому +2

      I subconsciously knew about the dangers of a female relationship.... so many traps and obstetrical to over come. It just to much! I am an old fart divorced with with no kids, luckily. I have not remarried for 25 years! I found I am much happier and saving more money avoiding relationships. When I feel the need, I just RENT; and the chics say young forever!

    • @somechinesedude5466
      @somechinesedude5466 5 років тому +1

      Don't have vasectomy if you don't want to bang
      In case you change your mind on kids in the future

    • @eminozdemir2166
      @eminozdemir2166 3 роки тому

      @@iflyg4 1

  • @ellisjackson3355
    @ellisjackson3355 5 років тому +34

    Should you divorce your controlling wife?
    Or should you control your divorcing wife?

  • @BenJamin-jc4jm
    @BenJamin-jc4jm 2 роки тому +1

    The saying is, “treat ‘em mean, to keep ‘em keen”. Used widely in Australia too.

  • @ivartheboneless8868
    @ivartheboneless8868 5 років тому +6

    Treat them mean keep them keen!

  • @darylmiller8911
    @darylmiller8911 5 років тому

    Best version of you. Working towards self improvement is key. And always keeping in mind what the other person brings to the table. Passion tends to fade. You have to focus on the other qualities if looking for a long term partner.

  • @petelamothe2157
    @petelamothe2157 5 років тому

    Great advice. Lots of changes in my future do to your great content.

  • @fpfp1111
    @fpfp1111 5 років тому +1

    Your channel rocks, I wish known this things 15 years ago!

  • @jimshoe3704
    @jimshoe3704 Рік тому +1

    My wife was very controlling and she stole from me. I'm disabled but divorce was the best thing I ever did. so through the divorce she made out pretty good as I am a software senior programmer

  • @rei12figures4
    @rei12figures4 5 років тому

    That is a tough situation that guy is in. Great comments though. I would recommend he look at some of the RMG videos you and the guys did on Divorce Preparation 👍🏾😎

  • @texashermit1946
    @texashermit1946 5 років тому +2

    I have no idea what the laws are like in eastern Europe, but my advice for any man considering a divorce, is start a online gambling account (don't get addicted) just to establish a "alibi". take money (cash, no transfers) go to another country/state, open a bank account and keep adding money to it.
    if physical property is involved (house(s) , cars, etc can be tricky, it depends on the laws of the country/nation/state and who most likely will get the property in a divorce.
    ideally sell the property to a trusted friend or family member (if possible),put the money in the secret bank account (so you can buy the property back after the divorce).
    DO NOT TELL YOU'RE LEGAL COUNCIL ABOUT THE SECRET BANK ACCOUNT.
    Do tell you're legal council about you're "gambling problem" (this explains why there's little to no money and assets left.
    use the head on you're shoulders, not the one in you're pants and don't marry again, it's not necessary anymore.

  • @youngorion1524
    @youngorion1524 4 роки тому

    "we need to spend more time together" stands out

  • @curtissharris8914
    @curtissharris8914 5 років тому +4

    If you want your child to model a loveless complicated dis functional marriage then stay together.

  • @r.annrousseau170
    @r.annrousseau170 5 років тому

    Great advice

  • @drip369
    @drip369 2 роки тому

    😂😂 these thumbnails 🤣🤣

  • @schallrd1
    @schallrd1 5 років тому +2

    So while watching video with title should I divorce my controlling wife, a commercial pops up about removing disgusting skin tags. There must be some kind of message here.

  • @5klisting606
    @5klisting606 5 років тому

    Hi Rich. Can I ask how you're recording your videos? The way you're transitioning from full screen to a clear cut screenshare with partial cam at e.g. 6:30 made me curious. TIA!

  • @christiansailor2880
    @christiansailor2880 5 років тому +2

    John Somnez is one of my heroes. I've often wondered if you'd consider adding him to the Red Man Group...He'd be a great addition. Check him out!

  • @Ghostrider-71
    @Ghostrider-71 5 років тому +1

    I divorced mine when I found out under less than ideal circumstances that she only loved what I PROVIDED. I have 2 kids with her and post divorce has been tough. However, she can never take away the happiness I now have. I am facing in the right direction and she can not change that. Agreed on NOT doing anything with another woman long term immediately. Get your head on straight again, be a better man for yourself FIRST. Everyone else benefits from you being a better man.

  • @catfart879
    @catfart879 3 роки тому +1

    I'm 50 and single, been with plenty of women and almost got married at 30. Watched almost every cousin,brother, sister go through divorce. Over 80 percent divorce rate in my friend's and family. I will never get married.

  • @jannieschluter9670
    @jannieschluter9670 5 років тому +2

    You should not DIVORCE uour controlling wife. You should tell your wife to not control you like a mommy...

  • @Nastyfinger1444
    @Nastyfinger1444 5 років тому +3

    If you have to ask the question you already have your answer.

  • @davidp.7620
    @davidp.7620 5 років тому +1

    3:20 Nooooooo! Wait for the fourth year, when early passional love disappears in favor of that long-term "partnership"

  • @spiritofalaska
    @spiritofalaska 5 років тому +1

    how do you even let someone inferior as a woman to controll you in the first place?

  • @brillianttorquoise.1680
    @brillianttorquoise.1680 5 років тому

    The saying is "Treat 'em mean, keep em keen".

  • @rodneypauley4077
    @rodneypauley4077 4 роки тому +2

    Never give control of your money to your partner

  • @duffyreed8625
    @duffyreed8625 5 років тому +1

    Never settle.

  • @zekkez
    @zekkez 5 років тому +1

    The UK saying is, "treat them mean. Keep them keen." 😎✌

  • @georgespangler1517
    @georgespangler1517 5 років тому +1

    Every man has to learn for himself, human nature is the more mentioned, the more appealing it becomes, and a not this man's attitude.

  • @lambeefbiryani08
    @lambeefbiryani08 2 роки тому

    Set boundaries brothers

  • @Changtent
    @Changtent 5 років тому +1

    "Should I stay, or should I go?" Perennial, keeps coming up over and over again in the lives of everyone. Usually, once you've asked the question, you already know the answer. Just tough facing it, and no one can really answer it for you. Hundreds of times more difficult when children are involved. Vasectomy was the single very best 'relationship' decision of my life.

  • @le0nida525
    @le0nida525 5 років тому +1

    Richard, how long did it take you to operate with Red Pill condition? I am Red Pill aware now, still on the path for full time Red Pill behavior. My habits draw me back sometimes, but I am fortunate to be able to stop myself and realign to RP strategy

    • @Chrsboling
      @Chrsboling 5 років тому +1

      le0nida525 I’m going through the same struggle. As much as you understand, your default position is blue pilled. I think it is like any other behavior modification; it take practice and repetition. Having someone to talk to and be accountable to will help if you are having trouble staying focused. Good luck!

  • @gotnumpompalarim5123
    @gotnumpompalarim5123 5 років тому +10

    This guy is me in the future i am 22 and i am in a relationship for about a year now and it is all the same things. Had to give social media passwords and cant hangout with my friends when i want it and where i want.
    She is perfect but just when i say no to her she gets upset and answers me short. But if i keep saying yes and we do what she wants then everything is perfect. But my patience is getting empty.

    • @andrewphillips470
      @andrewphillips470 5 років тому +2

      This won't make you happy,put yourself first nobody else will not even close family

    • @neomatrix3612
      @neomatrix3612 5 років тому +5

      "She is perfect" and you had to give your social media passwords? Hahhahaha, sorry but you're a fucking idiot.

    • @louelaine6539
      @louelaine6539 4 роки тому +1

      Yes she's "perfect" as long as she gets her own way. At your expense. Why are you in a relationship at 22. You're giving up years you will never get back for what?

    • @gotnumpompalarim5123
      @gotnumpompalarim5123 4 роки тому +2

      I dumped her 2 weeks ago gona work on myself in these corona times

    • @louelaine6539
      @louelaine6539 4 роки тому +2

      @@gotnumpompalarim5123 Wonderful. I'm so glad to hear

  • @MrWololo90
    @MrWololo90 3 роки тому

    Guys, does he have a video of why the RSD guys are bad? He mentioned it mid email.
    Would be very enlightening to hear his point of view

  • @duzirealz9469
    @duzirealz9469 5 років тому +3

    imo i think most men can not change their wives opinion of them after displaying years of beta-ness. most of us are going to have to leave, take some time to rebuild and then spin plates to develop a abundance mindset. I was a beta for 7years with my wife. Been working on becoming better for a year now but she still does not desire me, only talks about how she is scared of getting divorced cause she has no job. It always about what she is not getting and can loose, never about saying "gee honey, im not fucking you so I can see why you have lost interest in me. your either it for a woman or not. its all about what you can offer her. women will never love you, they love what you bring them. Im not mad about that, just that its NOT want I was taught growing up.

  • @thomasedmonds6658
    @thomasedmonds6658 5 років тому +14

    The word marriage should be spelled m-i-r-a-g-e, because that's all it is. An illusion. It is the surrender of the rationality, to the sentimentality. And sentimentality, like chewing gum, always wears off over time. Thus I believe Nietzsche said it best when he wrote "When it comes to seriously contemplating marriage, ask yourself just one, simple, question and that is.... Can I talk to this person, openly, honestly, and intelligently well into my old age? If that answer is no, (as it should be the overwhelming majority of the time) then you don't need to ask yourself anymore questions. For everything else, their looks, their status, their money, their sexuality, et cetera, is transitory. It is as evanescent as a snowstorm is in January"

    • @erichk1674
      @erichk1674 5 років тому +1

      Thomas Edmonds I like the way you think

    • @kriszellers9718
      @kriszellers9718 5 років тому

      I agree

    • @npkrn6764
      @npkrn6764 2 роки тому

      That's all great but in Nietzche's time, people didn't live much past what we now consider midlife (so 50 might be "old age" to him). Interesting that around this age (give or take) nowadays, we really question our choices, adjust our thinking and views (if smart), and change if need be accordingly. I like your "m-i-r-a-g-e" statement and I may use that if you don't mind! 👍

  • @ShirleyAnnPetrillo-oj7sc
    @ShirleyAnnPetrillo-oj7sc Рік тому +1

    Edgington, author of “The Abusive Wife”

  • @Lachiondo
    @Lachiondo 5 років тому

    oh and to add to that she is a mental health counselor, chem dependency counselor, and ex head of the DV program where she works

  • @juddyyoutube
    @juddyyoutube 3 роки тому +1

    She wants to keep living with him so he keeps paying for her expenses. That's the real reason. Hopefully this guy bailed.

  • @bigal8974
    @bigal8974 3 місяці тому

    I remember in a James Bond movie, the woman talking to James told him "you treat women as disposable pleasures." Well women treat men like tools in a tool box or some type of disposable asset. When it breaks, dies, or she is done using it, she goes out and gets another.

  • @yoelkanchelov1898
    @yoelkanchelov1898 5 років тому +3

    Hey Richard. Great stuff as usual. I find a lot of value from you channel. Can you do a video on Christian relationship dynamics? It's hard to find redpilled Christians men and it'd be interesting to hear about how to navigate that whole thing.

    • @nikkih2241
      @nikkih2241 5 років тому

      Red pill and Christian don't really go hand in hand because red pill is all about putting yourself first and never sacrificing so you'll "never get taken advantage of." In reality, there's always risks when it comes to love but make sure you're led by the Holy Spirit. Christianity is all about loving and serving....just as Christ did. Go to the Apply God's Word channel here on youtube. It's dating/relationships from a biblical perspective

    • @accept_everything_
      @accept_everything_ 5 років тому

      To be red pilled means to automatically exclude any stupid believe systems from your mind. You can't be fully rational while believing in a fictional higher beeing.
      Get a way from this bs first...

  • @Lachiondo
    @Lachiondo 5 років тому

    man this reminds me of my earlier post. she wanted me to stay at her house cause if i got my own place it would be back peddling. the next 14 months a nightmare. and she literally told me she threw me out so many times cause it was all she could do to hurt me. i got, and lost prolly 7 good jobs in that time period. I think she was just a control freak(well i know she was) and she threw me out so i wouldn't have anywhere to stay, so i would lose the job and have to depend on her....ehhhhhh what a nightmare

    • @louelaine6539
      @louelaine6539 4 роки тому

      Probably should have learned after losing the first good job. Hopefully you did learn

  • @kirbyaugustine761
    @kirbyaugustine761 3 роки тому

    Sounds like a narcissist based off of her behaviors. He needs to lawyer up, get with a good therapist and move (quietly) but run, run, run!

  • @silviocastell8889
    @silviocastell8889 4 роки тому

    Any ways of how not to be a nice guy? I'm a polite guy, does Being polite &kind to everyone you meet really make you unattractive?

  • @MMACHMP
    @MMACHMP 2 роки тому

    Yes, next question.

  • @donatelalarosa2947
    @donatelalarosa2947 5 років тому +2

    It's amazing that adults think children don't know what is happening, kids feel energies better than any adult they are very perceptive and eventuality it's not healthy, my parents divorce when I was 3 and my father was present my mom was there, no presence, , my relationship with my father was grate terrible with my mom , what I mean it's not about being physically being together it's presence there is where the magic is, sport for my bad grammar but I but I wanted to share this, children are no fools may parents are.

  • @88Rickster88
    @88Rickster88 5 років тому +5

    Am 30 now and at the age of 15, I develop a belief system that is now defined as red pill 💊. My disdain for marriage developed from what I saw in my parent’s marriage, and also at that time my friend’s parents and significant other’s parents marriages. At that time I questioned with a logical, rational mind, what marriage is for if everything that can be done with marriage can also be done without, and that the notion of marriage is a belief system that our society has instilled on us and that girls, being girls, like to believe life is a fairytale with rainbows and butterflies. This thinking led me to believe that marriage is purely symbolic and contractual and there’s nothing gained in this “social contract”.
    When my ex left me at the tender age of 16, I had oneitis and fell into a social recluse hole for a good part of 4 years. I literally had nothing left, and no desire to continue life, at the point of suicide, and feeling like I lost everything in life that I had spent my energy, time and effort to build towards. My saving grace was my parents who forced me into college and university and that’s where I spent a great deal of time focusing on what was left of me, my knowledge gained, which I can never lose. I focused on my studies (input) and started to feel good about myself attaining the grades (output). University also helped with connecting with people that I lost. I thought I would stay single after that debacle.
    Fast forward to the age of 24, and I met a woman who I thought would bring out a different and better quality of my life that I didn’t have. She was religious (Christian), had a great connection with her parents and cousins, and liked interacting with people.
    For a long time, her parents and herself wanted me to become Christian, wanted me to beta-tise and become a man that would provide, marry and have kids. I put my foot down and told this woman that I’m not her wallet, that I wasn’t here to be her chauffeur, and that all relationships including ours requires balance and planning to succeed.
    Of the many things, I would make her be my equal, that was, for me to provide, she’d have to provide and equal amount as I did, and that if I did something now, she’d have to return a equal favour - relationship equity.
    Oh boy, she didn’t like this. We would tabulate spending when we went for holidays and when I had to pay up for my fair share, I did, but when the records showed she had to pay up for her fair share, she threw up a hissy fit and said that I don’t appreciate her, her guy friends treat her better than I do, that her guy friends pick her up etc.
    When marriage was brought up and I told her my thoughts of it, and why to me, it is a stupid idealism, she got upset and argue. When I brought up the idea of a pre-nuptial agreement, she blew up and wanted to break up with me.
    When she started working with me, she would complain that she had to take a pay cut and that she could earn better elsewhere, this was after telling her I’d make her a business partner but she’d have to work to attain that and nothing comes as easy as that.
    She would eventually find a job elsewhere and leave me with distasteful remarks on how to money is so bad and that she had bills to pay and she couldn’t support her parents and her mortgage with this wage. In equivalent terms she was on a 72k annual gross wage. Her new job would take her to another country with a high percentage of her time spent travelling. I couldn’t see a future and life beyond that. Communications beyond that were uneasy. When I questioned what changed in terms of the financials and I wanted to see the financial standing of her family expenses and gave her suggestions to balance the books of her family, she declined. Her mother was a home-keeper for a good 20 years and her father was retired. I refused to accept that they couldn’t get a simple retirement job to pass their time and make a small income that would sustain their living needs. They were almost the same age as my parents and my parents are still working.
    I have come to a conclusion that you can never please a woman. You give something, and she pulls her socks up further a.k.a moves the goal posts a.k.a beta-tisation by a thousand concessions. Women are emotionally unstable and let these emotions affect their rational, logical decisions. They want a man to provide everything, and not be accountable or responsible for anything. They don’t like it when you challenge their emotional thought process.
    Seeing what these guys ask Richard and all of you guys commenting, my conclusions are validated further. I rest my case.

    • @darylallen2485
      @darylallen2485 5 років тому

      TL;DR

    • @pyramidhead138
      @pyramidhead138 3 роки тому

      gotta friend who was married and divorced 3 times and all the women were "Christians" or so they claimed. Christians get divorced at the same rate as nonbelievers. your supposed "Christian GF" seems more like a spoiled little girl who never grew up.

  • @user-kh8uj9tb8s
    @user-kh8uj9tb8s 5 років тому +3

    Should I have New England Clam Chowdah for dinner tonight ?

  • @Rubycella
    @Rubycella 4 роки тому

    Love your videos

  • @Crisita84
    @Crisita84 5 років тому

    I have questions I beam married for 4 year I have 1 baby two year I help my husband to fix this Inmigration status here USA , and now he got the greencard, he is bean saving money and now that we have together and now he came he take the money out of our joint account and put the money in separate account only with his name .
    What should I think?

    • @bguy86
      @bguy86 5 років тому

      Criss O so you don’t spend the money on something stupid ! 🤷‍♂️

  • @j.w.matney8390
    @j.w.matney8390 4 роки тому

    I did, 20 years ago and it saved my life.

  • @JasonJayJJ1
    @JasonJayJJ1 5 років тому

    Love makes the world go round. All you need is love. Love is a wonderful thing. LMAO!!!!!!!!!!

    • @Surgicaldamage
      @Surgicaldamage 5 років тому

      Love turns women on and stops them wandering else where LMFAO

  • @BboyDaquack
    @BboyDaquack 5 років тому

    half way through this vid. got an audible account and used my first token on the rational male

    • @BboyDaquack
      @BboyDaquack 4 роки тому

      *update. 7 months later. Best decision I've ever made. never been so aware and free of drama ever.

  • @ENIGMAXII2112
    @ENIGMAXII2112 5 років тому

    OH God how true ( 1;37 ) just be your self and "some nice girl comes along". I don't believe that anymore..
    Got burned....

  • @rosst8919
    @rosst8919 5 років тому

    If he brings his son up in an environment where he stays with his wife and he does not love or get on with her it will be toxic in itself. It will also teach his son that this is a normal kind of relationship between men and women and perhaps fuck him up for his future relationships. Splitting up may actually teach his son in a roundabout way that it's not a normal relationship and he will know when to pull the trigger himself in future if necessary.

  • @joeblow4888
    @joeblow4888 4 роки тому +1

    I've got a better idea, don't marry her in the first place.

  • @brillianttorquoise.1680
    @brillianttorquoise.1680 5 років тому

    Yes. Next question?

  • @ehr1188
    @ehr1188 5 років тому

    You should definitely do a podcast with John Sonmez

  • @d.l4055
    @d.l4055 5 років тому

    Owning "Real" "property, the management of same and fighting about the underlying power and "Potential" of same in terms of what everyone WANTS and expects this vehicle while trying to get what each wants from same (desires their future to look like and hopefully accomplish by way of maximizing a healthy combination of all the above...Face it the PRINCIPALS function the same yet based on what type of 'Approach"? A business "Model" that has very little room or (finances) built into the budget for mistakes? As though the one who OWNS controls leverage of the kids in every sense of the matter rules the roost. Much like being 51% controlling interest
    Couples with kids fight over Finances & Religion in terms of finding a way to STEER this investment portfolio in terms of somehow shaping and forming the potential of said 'Portfolio" and not always in that order. Couples without kids fight over Money Religion or just about anything else that's also NOT the REAL problem. The corporate sense of "Potential" once the addition of Kids gets factored into the direction of this elusive corporate CHARTER also fuels the FEAR of an Unknown future that simply can't be forecast with any REAL degree or guarantee of success.
    The REALIZATION of these facts is simply the DANCE around the poor choice of words (Fire) that leads to the fact the parties (partners) to the previous agreement/understanding no longer enjoy each others "Company". Nor does this Companies rate of growth and/or the facts its bleeding to death (in terms of its Net worth) seem feasible under present circumstances no matter how many times the numbers get "Crunched".
    Let's be real, yet REAL together. Do corporation fail due to lack of Love, Money and/or Sex? Or do marriages fail because True Love that conquers ALL THINGS have little to DO with it since its inception ~

  • @AaronJZY
    @AaronJZY 5 років тому

    The answer is yes.

  • @jamesboston8805
    @jamesboston8805 5 років тому

    Primary custody is the difference between a yellow alert. And I'll take the kids anywhere I want want I'm the big kahuna. Split,shared,joint custody makes lawyers money. The state gives you that just for showing up.

  • @zaccorpseman7366
    @zaccorpseman7366 3 роки тому

    Yup

  • @a.f.s.3004
    @a.f.s.3004 5 років тому +1

    Women,,,,the one entity I would say RENT or LEASE,,,,,but NEVER BUY!

    • @GFRzeszutek
      @GFRzeszutek 5 років тому

      Remember the three F's. If it Floats, Flies, or Fucks, Rent IT!!!!!

  • @mikebussy3334
    @mikebussy3334 5 років тому +1

    Unless you like strap-ons🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @DisabilityExams
    @DisabilityExams 5 років тому +2

    Why not stay married, and take control?

    • @Chrsboling
      @Chrsboling 5 років тому

      Zack Romero Patrice O’Neal was a Prophet. Listening to his videos is like going to Church. The Red Pill community thinks they invented all this understanding of female nature. Pimps have known this stuff from the dawn of time.

  • @janisvinters8797
    @janisvinters8797 3 роки тому

    In Eastern Europe countries family law not so hostile for men. If you pay your alimony what could be starting from 100$/month - but usually not very high amounts (never heart about amounts like 1k Eur month or higher). Usually if father have good job and he are the men - hi will help with the needs for children (I mean clothes, interest education, sports lessons and other spending)...

  • @johnmaddern3519
    @johnmaddern3519 4 роки тому +1

    So many benefits to living the single and free life

  • @areafortyone
    @areafortyone 5 років тому +2

    Is there any other way other than extream emotional pain to purge the blue pill brainwashing from my system? I'm like 90% free of it, but some traces still affect me.

    • @robzombie5928
      @robzombie5928 5 років тому +1

      You dont always see a bad situation while up to your neck in it. Once your out it gives you chance to realise how shitty that situation was. Probably why a painful incident is often what it takes.

  • @1hard2findbro
    @1hard2findbro 5 років тому +4

    I wish you guys would crash some fem male bashing conferences

  • @BulldogMindsetArchive
    @BulldogMindsetArchive 5 років тому

    Hey Richard, just saw this, John Sonmez here. Would like to get you on my channel at some point to talk about some of these things.

  • @mrbas5150
    @mrbas5150 2 роки тому

    Never tell them you love them.
    You can like your girl but it's a mistake to love them.
    Let them know they are replaceable and you can be happy without any women in your life.
    As soon as you start to love them they have control and they will never respect you.

  • @marcusp905
    @marcusp905 4 роки тому

    Feck me this is painful!!

  • @fortiorestis1707
    @fortiorestis1707 4 роки тому

    As many books as you read the experience is irreplaceable. The BIG truth is that each man has to strive for excellence. Make your life better. Be financial secure, well rounded, balanced and travelled. If you don't feel good with yourself, you won't feel good in a relationship either. Women will come. An old saying says "never run after a train and a woman" and this is true. The ONE does not exists ( unless you live in the matrix, and even there, there were 6 "ONE"s ) but there is a specific group of women that fit your preferences.
    Regarding the books, yes Rational male makes good points but those points you can figure out from your first relationships. Peterson's book is not about relationships with woman but provide good points to build your self to the better. Both books give good insights for their own purposes BUT if you haven't be with a perfect 10 ( or 8 and above , to what you think 8 or 10 ) most possibly you will act like a beta (despite what you think you say or do ) when that moment comes

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  • @shotty2tones952
    @shotty2tones952 5 років тому

    short answer: yes

  • @DeviantDeveloper
    @DeviantDeveloper 5 років тому

    Why move from clarity to reach?

  • @nightelfuser
    @nightelfuser 5 років тому +2

    That writer appears to want a relationship where he loves and is loved back, that's blue-pill mindset. IMO his current condition is as good as it gets in this modern era; his wife lets him sleep around, while at the same time he has his child at arm's reach.

    • @Chrsboling
      @Chrsboling 5 років тому +1

      John Brown I agree 100%. If he gets divorced, I give him 3 years before he is right back in the same position. If his wife is going to let him do his thing and have his family in-tact, that is a win-win.
      Besides, when did living up to your oaths, vows, and promises become passee? It used to be the mark of a good man. Shouldn’t being your best self include keeping your word?

  • @brigitb4850
    @brigitb4850 5 років тому

    I think this couple is on the same level. Otherwise, he would make this decision based on his situation without asking the Internet.

  • @dougmasters681
    @dougmasters681 3 роки тому

    No wife should control you! If yours does, end it. You either work as a team or it’s no good.

  • @kellyfontes7757
    @kellyfontes7757 5 років тому

    16:03 there is nothing to argue. It is a fact.

  • @mistersixtynine7399
    @mistersixtynine7399 4 роки тому

    Don't allow the mind games. I'd get out of there based purely on the fact she think's you're stupid and can be manipulated.

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  • @stevejakab
    @stevejakab 2 роки тому

    Oh God, I’ve been blue pill for most of my 40+ years. Don’t think I’ll be in a position to get the most out of my red pill experience at 80+ 😅

  • @sherrilynschwebelcompton9256
    @sherrilynschwebelcompton9256 5 років тому

    Do not date someone seriously your not fully interested in or marry them .That is redickulious and a bad idea and can end up years and years of misery for everyone involved.Never ever get desperate or lonely enough to settle for anything less than what you truly love because the love can grow thing I doubt seriously happens very often. Its so much better to be single then with the wrong person who doesn't fit or completely compliment your life.