@@victoriahale5254 Not only that but you become his slave sort cuz you are the one loving more and you know when people are in love, they would do just about anything to please the other person. - leaving you vulnerable and easy to hurt
@@victoriahale5254 But that will usually be the way it works. As Patrice said, the men put in all the work upfront so he can get intimate so its easy for the man to be loveable but the woman doesn't really do much so how can he love her? at best he can like her and generally he may confuse his lust for love but he won't really love her.
its super well argumented and for the discussions ive seen/heard he always stood his ground and even conviced some woman of his point of view. Just by his logical construction of the place of the man in a relationschip and being able to articulate these viewpoints to oposse the social standard way of interactions as a couple. Its like calling bullshit on woman and succeding in exposing it, and to take some kind of control over the matter with Patrice Logic ... great to watch !
He's in hell for serving as Satan's messenger. The entire test of life for a man is to LOVE God, his wife, his children, and his neighbors. Patrice's work justifies why a man does not have to love anyone but himself. Everyone who agrees with him will go where he is. St. Mark 12:28-31 One of the teachers of religious law was standing there listening to the discussion. He realized that Jesus had answered well, so he asked, "Of all the commandments, which is the most important?" Jesus replied, "The most important commandment is this: 'Hear, O Israel! The Lord our God is the one and only Lord. And you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, and all your strength.' The second is equally important: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' No other commandment is greater than these." Ephesians 5:20-33 And you will always give thanks for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. And further, you will submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. You wives will submit to your husbands as you do to the Lord. For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of his body, the church; he gave his life to be her Savior. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives must submit to your husbands in everything. And you husbands must love your wives with the same love Christ showed the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by baptism and God's word. He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man is actually loving himself when he loves his wife. No one hates his own body but lovingly cares for it, just as Christ cares for his body, which is the church. And we are his body. As the Scriptures say, "A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one." This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. 2 Timothy 3:1-4 You should also know this, Timothy, that in the last days there will be very difficult times. For people will love only themselves and their money. They will be boastful and proud, scoffing at God, disobedient to their parents, and ungrateful. They will consider nothing sacred. They will be unloving and unforgiving; they will slander others and have no self-control; they will be cruel and have no interest in what is good. They will betray their friends, be reckless, be puffed up with pride, and love pleasure rather than God.
Patrice wanted cake more than staying alive. He said so himself. He got the diagnosis for type 2 diabetes in his early 20s. Crazy food cravings as that may be, he chose to do nothing for quite some time and then too little too late. Imagine if he had his own podcast to this day. With the money he had he could have a personal chef, the right meds going towards 70 easily.
For 20 years I've been telling people I know that the best compliment a man can give a woman is: "I like being with you." That means he'll stick around even if the relationship is sexless.
Yes! And from a purely biological POV; Men have seed and Women have eggs. So Women are more vulnerable in short-term commitment, like sex where if they pick the wrong Man to sleep with than she is risking her eggs. Men are more vulnerable in long-term commitment, devoting all there seed to one Woman's set of eggs where if he picks the wrong woman than he is risking his seed over a long period of time; like a long-term relationship or having children
Dave Chappelle would be the second funniest comic today if this guy didn’t die. He was comin for the throne at warp speed and never watered his content down or sold out. Intelligent humor at its finest.
Patrice was a genius. So well-put. When I see guys dating attractive women, most of the time the guy looks totally disinterested. Men are lovable because they invest so much to even get a shot in the first place. We had to fight tooth and nail. They just stood there with a clipboard judging our every action
Women are conditioned from birth to believe they need a man. Men are conditioned to be more self sufficient. It has little to do with what each partner does for each other.
@@kokolatte825 Both males are females are "conditioned" (it's really just biology) to believe they need each other. Marriage and family is taught as the ultimate pursuit to both. The difference is that males pick down in social structure whereas females don't (also biology). If a female doesn't need the male she's with she won't be satisfied because she'll always have something to hold over him and she WILL hold it over him and attack his manhood based on it most of the time.
Watching this makes me remember my ex getting cross with me for not being in love with her...after about 5 months of dating. She didn't know it, but from that point on I felt a pressure that put in motion the split. You gotta let things happen organically. Too many women feel like when they love you, you are obligated to love them back. They almost demand it, and because they get a sense of security from that assurance of love, they need it. The absence of it bothers them (no matter what you are doing for a woman in love, not hearing you say "I love you" frequently almost nullifies it). While I wouldn't go as far as to brand the woman's idea of love as selfish, it is intrinsically and subconsciously self-centered. Funny thing, I did in love with her. She's an excellent human being. But that pressure she put on me to feel that or express that feeling caused cracks that eventually became a fracture. Just relax. Love who you want. If they love you back, fair. If they don't, you didn't lose anything. You don't get to own people, the best you can do is experience them.
Can u offer me some advice per say...ummm does the same apply if a guys says that they love u first? He said it first and I was a little taken a back but I said it back to him I never made it awkward or anything like that since I know that probably took alot on his part. I do love him but it's a weird kinda like you can never know if they truly love you back although I have no reason to think otherwise. I know some people would say if you feel the need to ask then somethings wrong but it's my first like serious relationship we've known each other for 3 years and it's kind of nerve racking trusting someone so much...like personally have u always meant it when you told a girl first?
@@beautifulleaves8616 I know you asked someone else this question but I felt compelled to answer. In a few words...If a man tells a woman he loves her before sex, there is a 50/50 % chance that he means it (He may be saying it to get some sex or he may really mean it, depending on his background, lifestlye and beliefs). If he says it after sex, there is a 100% chance that he means it (At this point he either distances himself if it was meant to be a one night stand or casual encounter or he develops deeper feelings after gaining a sense of entitlement from sex). Its almost like a catch 22 situation but ultimately depends on your chemistry. Good luck. 😎
@@beautifulleaves8616 I feel the same applies both ways. When I tell a woman I'm in love with those words, I'm careful to not let it linger, or I say something else after it, so it doesn't seem like I'm waiting for her to reciprocate because I'm not. And most importantly, I try to never say it if I don't really mean or feel it. I feel him telling you unprompted that he loves you means he does, but trust how you feel. However, don't try to be 100% about how he feels. Love demands trust, and at some point, you have to let go and trust.
@@beautifulleaves8616 If you were taken a back by it then you didn't expect him to feel that way about you or to say those type of words to you. Just make him prove it a bit.. if your father or a Male figure is around, have then confirm his authenticity.. because usually a guy doesn't come out first so its 50/50
This was NOT a bit. Patrice was being very serious on this shit. Women do very little to EARN a mans love. men are the ones who have to spin the plates. Men need to come up with some witty lines to break the ice when he wants to meet a woman. Then he needs to keep her entertained for a few minutes while she is warming up to him enough to let her guard down so he can ask her out for a date and she will say yes. Then he needs to plan the date, pick her up, and ensure she is entertained and impressed with him the whole time (of course this means him paying for everything while tap dancing verbally to keep her impressed). Then he needs to do this a few times in a row before she provides ONE thing he wants (which of course is sex). Then once they are an item for a while, he has had months of tap dancing to keep her impressed while she has done little more than lye on her back here and there. So when she is in love with him is about the same time that he is starting to resent her because he is carrying all the weight in the relationship. Hell, if the roles were reversed and a woman had to tap dance to keep me entertained and she paid for everything and all I had to do is enjoy sex with her, I'D BE IN LOVE TOO!!!
"The way she loves me is just too much... it's not necessary!" That is beyond true. Ladies, you better believe a man will break up with you for loving him too much
@@diamondnova7598 it's the same situation! No human is worth obsessing over, it adds a weird dynamic to the relationship that's not healthy for either person
@@diamondnova7598 sometime it's coming off as creepy I mean in both ways, when lovee too much it just become creepy/annoying, like iwant to spend all eternity with you, go everywhere together, cant go more than 1 meter apart lf each other, always clinging, nagging, suspicious, jealous of smallest thing, overprotective, downright abusive behaviour of a typical posesif behavior, trust me nothing fun being with posesif people, you can't sit easy, you need to explain everything to them, it's a hell
I’ve listened and learned from this. It is not fair to the man and makes you miserable as a woman. I’ve learned here recently to just let go. This explains why I’m single…I still have a lot to learn and a lot to work on.
Yeah fragile, we bare the deepest part of our soul but still remain mysterious, attractive and strong!! Let her know the deepest of love but keep her guessing, keep her interested and keen!
“Just cause I’m lovable, doesn’t mean that YOU’RE lovable too” He really did speak fluent “Dude”. So funny 😂 my stomach is aching from the laughter. He was one of the very best. Timeless material. He lives forever in our memory. ❤️👏👏👏👏I know he is up there making God laugh. ❤️
‘Like’ is a better sign from a man because he actually wants to be around you but ‘love’ has so much obligation attached that it can be difficult to tell
@@EmperorsNewWardrobe nahh y’all just don’t know how to be happy in love. Love requires work on both sides and not everyone is cut out for it but the people who are know that it’s beautiful on the other side
@@pump1180 fair enough comment. I’m not meaning love can be genuine deep feeling for someone, only that the word can oftentimes have a demand of loyalty and exclusivity underneath. A bit like a contractual key word where if you say you love someone, cheating on them feels extra painful for them and is considered extra wrong. Of course love can be a pure thing. My point is that ‘like’ has fewer contractual connotations to it
@@EmperorsNewWardrobe like I said y’all just dont know how to be in love or are afraid of commitment a person who says they love someone won’t see it as some sort of contract but will see it as a blessing to actually find someone you love even when things get hard. Because out of the percentage of people who are married only a few of them are actually in love or still in love. So to associate the word love with such negativity is just because there’s not enough examples of what good love looks like for people to educate themselves on and aspire to. People think love is perfect but it’s not. It’s not suppose to be easy if it was there would be no issue but the rewards you get from it are unimaginable and can complete transform you’re heart, soul and mind and give you a type of peace that others search for their whole lives. But the sad thing is most probably won’t find it
I'm so glad that there are various segments on UA-cam of this show so I can see one when I have just a short time to play one. Unfortunately, I end up binge watching several, so I might as well have watched the whole Elephant in the Room show after all
This came out when I was 22 years old. While I was with a nightmare of a girlfriend. I'm almost 33 and been single for about 10 years now. And he tells nothing but the truth about females. Even the best of them do the things he s talking about.
@@Ray-pp5qb you saying he was dating a groomer? The dude was 22 with a monster GF, not 12 with a touchy baby sitter, you brainlet. Good on him for finding out women arent worth his happiness. Oh your confused, sorry, "happiness", look that up in the dictionary for yourself.
I've listened to a lot of Patrice and he's not only ridiculously funny, but the dude has some flat-out awesome insights into a lot of things, especially relationships and the differences between men and women. He was so freaking good
Bingo!! I was never happier than when I was dating my girl. But when I fell in love and married her, I have never felt that feeling of being in "like" with her. And the main reason why is because back then, she was still auditioning to be my wife, now she is the shitty teacher with tenure who knows that I'd have to move mountains to fire her from her job (wife) and I'd have to pay her for the rest of my life. If you knew that it would cost more than it was worth for your boss to fire you, and you would still get money if you were fired, wouldn't you phone it in too? that is how women view marriage, a job that they get paid for but don't have to do. they just have to show up and act cunty.
@@marioandreano1236 Thanks. The worst part is that women know this is how they view it but they will deny it and pretend they are "different". But you will see that your woman acts on her best behavior still around relationships she could lose (such as friendships with other women, or employment) but around you they act as cunty as they want because they know they can. They will give their best to casual friendships, but treat you like shit. My wife tried to "become the boss" in our relationship and started to nag me about going out to lunch a couple times a month. I nipped that in the bud by going over every unnecessary purchase she made that month and totaled it out against my lunch expenditures. Then I calmly said, "but hey, the second you start making the money, by all means i'll let you start telling me how it should be spent"
I tell ya what man I sit everyday thinking of when I’m gonna pull the trigger but throwing Patrice on just let’s me step away from those thoughts even if it’s just for 7 minutes he really is the best
Yooooo! I been married to my wife for 12 years- she is over her heels in love with me and I have only ever liked her lol explains my level of deep contentment...RIP Patrice #TheGOAT
women don't love you. they love what you can do for them. period. how many times have you had an ex get married 6 months after you broke up? think about it
general mayhem --- Yep. Men love women for who/what they are, nothing beyond that. Women love men for what the man can do/give. That's why a poor woman can end up with a rich dude, but a poor man is shit outta luck. Social status, money, house, kids, protection---women want men like they want accessories or appliances, and they will trade men in the second a newer model comes along. They used to say that men did that with women, but nowadays women are ruthless, and can stab a man in the back a dozen times, and their friends and family will still support them: "OMG, you are so brave to seek _new experiences_ like that, I love how you just _listened to your heart_ and did _you_ ; *You. Are. **_AMAZING!_* "
How many times were you laid in your life? Not many times, that's for sure. Think about it Lol. Sweety, if you are the kind of person that presents himself here in the comment section, it's no wonder. The kind of guy who is a helpless loser, so that he blames women for not wanting him, because he can't offer anything to them. And you can't honey. I don't even mean materialistic stuff. You just can't in general, or you wouldn't be that bitter. Have a nice life, and try to not be a victim, like a fucking feminsts sjw. Oh I just KNOW that you are that kind of a guy, who whines over feminists victim mentality. But you are one of those guys who are hyppsritical as fuck and victimise themself constantly while demonising women. Can't be more of a loser. Man up, and try to improve yourself maybe? Just a tip
Alissa Dem --- Good point about the girl needing to be pretty. But you're splitting hairs by pretending that potential is different than materialistic provisions. Potential, yes---potential to provide in the future. And yes, it makes sense as an instinct, just like men focusing on looks makes sense as an instinct---but at some point we have to use our higher brains and move beyond knee-jerk instincts---and comment sections like this are where people are pointing out each other's hypocrisies and noticing more about how humanity actually operates. Notice how you asked the commenter how many times he's been laid, as if a man's worth comes from how many women have spread their legs for him. Men are bitter because socio-economic forces have been eliminating jobs and reducing standard of living since the '70s, thus reducing men's value in the eyes of women, but current society elevates women as amazing heroes and denigrates men as disgusting pigs---even though women LIKE piggish, slutty men, which is why you think the more a guy has been laid means the cooler he is. Modern women protest Trump and then go home and fantasize to _50 Shades of Grey_ ---now there's some hypocrisy and cognitive dissonance for you. Many men don't expect super-models, but women have been trained to feel like they're missing out if their BF isn't a GQ model with a medical degree and a pilot's license (or the "POTENTIAL" to get those things), even if she's not that gorgeous or smart. You expect more from men than we expect from you, and in an era of diminishing economic returns for the majority of citizens, that means that women are going to end up even more disappointed & bitter than men when this materialistic Princess fantasy that our media have brainwashed you with evaporates for good.
ModernPlague yes we have to use our brain and go against instincts, I agree, but it just isn't true that women want GQ models with a degree and so on. It just isnt. And nobody wants a Christian grey. 50 shades of grey is a fantasy, just like characters from movies should be. I feel like you take your picture of women from youtube comment sections. I do honestly think that a men without any goals in life is just not worth wasting your time. A women without goals is also not attractive in my eyes. But you really are wrong for generalising women like that. And me pointing out that the guy has not laid any women, is due to how this guys sees women. He pictures them in a disgusting way , wich does implies that he does not use his brain and just demonise women as the bad guys, instead of maybe thinking that there is more to attraction than what he thinks should matter. His worth is NOT determined by how many girls he fucked, but if he discribed women so one dimensional and really think that men are somehow less superficial and that HE is a victim, he deserves to be valued by how many women he could charm with his attitude. Gosh, if what he said was true, no guys would be dating. But somehow they are. I know so many gamer guys who are really not that successful in life yet and do NOT look like models yet date for 5-7 years the same girl now. Just look around you. How can you picture a women based on youtube videos of anti sjw channels and comment sections? Isn't it just jumping on a band wagon? dating life IS harsch. I know girls who just stopped dating, because it just is tiring and harsh, but blaming the other gender is just...bleh. I also don't like when women do that. I am not on the "men are at fault for bla bla bla" wagon. I hate it when people refuse to grow a backbone. I have had terrible male role models my whole life, just really awful. I would never blame men for me not beeing able to date properly, I know it's me who has the issues. That why I really can't excuse his whining. He should look at what he is doing wrong first.
Thank you Mr O'Neal...your wisdom saved me from wasting valuable years and resources on ungrateful women...Now I also spread your knowledge with my Son and Friends.
True for both men and women (whether women want to admit it or not) when a man loves a woman she becomes repulsed by how into her he is, it makes him look weak in her eyes. When a woman loves a man who just likes her, she gets to be the emotionally "weak" one which puts him above her in her eyes.
02:29 "you didn't do for me what I did for u" - I think Patrice is talking about all the effort men have to put during the initial phases of dating and carrying the girl metaphorically to be her bf.
I've known a lot of married women. Just about every one I've met has bitched to my wife about their husband, saying things that I'm sure would piss off the men. That isn't pure. That's just sad. But smart of him to butter up the women in the audience by virtue signalling. Lol.
I don’t want to be that guy... but a white women’s love is the love you people are talking about. Women of colour love a little differently. Not sure about Asian women
He truly was a genius when it came to men and women. Especially men. Something genius he said, that explains it all to a women... "You didnt do for me, what I had to do for you, to love me" Women expect men to do it all, while they sit back and enjoy the ride. We are expected to approach you, ask you out, set up the date, pay for everything, text/call you, take you out again, pay again. We are 1 month in and what Ive done for you is 20x what youve dont for me in that span. Then they want to wonder why theyre single, and why your love isnt on the same level.... the things you did for me are no where near all the things I did for you, for you to feel that way.
Patrice wasn’t preaching mgtow. He was telling you stop being soft and get your bitch in line. Flip her on her head as he said. Anytime a guy said his girl wasn’t listening he blamed the guy.
It's funny but he's not joking.
It's like school except you laugh
For real, he was up there preaching truth to the fullest. RIP 🐐
I'm glad people are still watching this after all these years.
It's funny BECAUSE it's true
Comedy in red pills)))
“The perfect relationship is when the woman is in love with the man but the man just likes her” - patrice oneal. So much truth in this.
A man in love simply loses focus & control over his life.
L S naw don’t ever be with a guy who loves you less . You will never be happy ladies. Guys don’t appreciate love lol
@@victoriahale5254 Not only that but you become his slave sort cuz you are the one loving more and you know when people are in love, they would do just about anything to please the other person. - leaving you vulnerable and easy to hurt
@@Connect_with_Yourself Guy's don't hurt the things they like.
@@victoriahale5254 But that will usually be the way it works. As Patrice said, the men put in all the work upfront so he can get intimate so its easy for the man to be loveable but the woman doesn't really do much so how can he love her? at best he can like her and generally he may confuse his lust for love but he won't really love her.
A philosopher in his purest state.
lol.
trompetayritmo stfu
never saw him never met him but I miss him..rip
Yes indeed!
Me too...feels like I know him.,,,I listen to all the old O & A shows,,,he was the best
damn, i was binge watching his stand up here on UA-cam having no idea he passed away...your comment broke me
jezer patrick same here man
Same for me
So many men have been saved by this man's philosophy and comedy. May you rest in peace big man. You were taken too soon.
Amen ...am one of them Brother
Indeed,,, God bless his soul.
@CoonVolumejz lol I'llpplp
He speaks fluent " Dude"!!
He does
Robin Summers get out
@@Selcouth831 pahahahahahhaha
Let me put it in Vaginal terms for you.. he understands men
He was the black doctor Phil, I need this guy to tell us what we're thinking
Patrice Oneal's comedy on women is so accurate and true, it's like a really funny TED talk.
Jesse Brennan ted talk has nothing on Patrice
It would be great if some nerd would add a TED talks background to the best of Patrice.
This was comedy on men
WORDZ 😎
its super well argumented and for the discussions ive seen/heard he always stood his ground and even conviced some woman of his point of view.
Just by his logical construction of the place of the man in a relationschip and being able to articulate these viewpoints to oposse the social standard way of interactions as a couple.
Its like calling bullshit on woman and succeding in exposing it, and to take some kind of control over the matter with Patrice Logic ... great to watch !
God must have wanted Patrice's Jokes all to himself this man was a treasure
He's in hell for serving as Satan's messenger. The entire test of life for a man is to LOVE God, his wife, his children, and his neighbors. Patrice's work justifies why a man does not have to love anyone but himself. Everyone who agrees with him will go where he is.
St. Mark 12:28-31
One of the teachers of religious law was standing there listening to the discussion. He realized that Jesus had answered well, so he asked, "Of all the commandments, which is the most important?"
Jesus replied, "The most important commandment is this: 'Hear, O Israel! The Lord our God is the one and only Lord. And you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, and all your strength.'
The second is equally important: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' No other commandment is greater than these."
Ephesians 5:20-33
And you will always give thanks for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.
And further, you will submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
You wives will submit to your husbands as you do to the Lord. For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of his body, the church; he gave his life to be her Savior. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives must submit to your husbands in everything.
And you husbands must love your wives with the same love Christ showed the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by baptism and God's word. He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault.
In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man is actually loving himself when he loves his wife. No one hates his own body but lovingly cares for it, just as Christ cares for his body, which is the church. And we are his body.
As the Scriptures say, "A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one." This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one.
So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
2 Timothy 3:1-4
You should also know this, Timothy, that in the last days there will be very difficult times. For people will love only themselves and their money. They will be boastful and proud, scoffing at God, disobedient to their parents, and ungrateful. They will consider nothing sacred.
They will be unloving and unforgiving; they will slander others and have no self-control; they will be cruel and have no interest in what is good. They will betray their friends, be reckless, be puffed up with pride, and love pleasure rather than God.
EPIC A LEGEND .. IT'S LIFE
@@jdfodio Get a life mate. Judge not so you don't be judged. Stop cherry picking your Bible.
@@jdfodio Bible thumper alert
Patrice wanted cake more than staying alive. He said so himself. He got the diagnosis for type 2 diabetes in his early 20s. Crazy food cravings as that may be, he chose to do nothing for quite some time and then too little too late. Imagine if he had his own podcast to this day. With the money he had he could have a personal chef, the right meds going towards 70 easily.
For 20 years I've been telling people I know that the best compliment a man can give a woman is: "I like being with you."
That means he'll stick around even if the relationship is sexless.
sexless* (for a short period of time)
A s1mp will obviously.
too many people stay in a sexless relationship -- to hell with that
@@OsirisNin i'm scaren of that too, I can't give up on pussy, shit's too good.
You had me until sexless...
That sexable/lovable analogy was fucking golden. Patrice was ahead of his time.
Yes!
And from a purely biological POV; Men have seed and Women have eggs. So Women are more vulnerable in short-term commitment, like sex where if they pick the wrong Man to sleep with than she is risking her eggs.
Men are more vulnerable in long-term commitment, devoting all there seed to one Woman's set of eggs where if he picks the wrong woman than he is risking his seed over a long period of time; like a long-term relationship or having children
Dave Chappelle would be the second funniest comic today if this guy didn’t die. He was comin for the throne at warp speed and never watered his content down or sold out. Intelligent humor at its finest.
Absolutely man I agree!
A whole ass WORD…
I don't find Chappelle as funny after he came back.
Patrice was a genius. So well-put. When I see guys dating attractive women, most of the time the guy looks totally disinterested. Men are lovable because they invest so much to even get a shot in the first place. We had to fight tooth and nail. They just stood there with a clipboard judging our every action
Nothing prepares you for being with a chic. Not even a dad's advice lol
Truth!!!
You got something here my brother !!
You dropped 💎 💎 ‘s
Erik is correct, of course, however women don't control which men "apply for an interview," as it were.
Is that a bad thing?
2:06 - "Just because I'm lovable..."
The inflection in his voice sells it.
The crowd, thought they were in a comedy show,
Black Phillip generals know this is a sermon.
This isn't comedy, this is a life lesson everyone should learn.
Patrice just happened to be master at making life lessons funny.
"You didnt do for me what i did for you to feel that way .." Damn
And somehow its still our fault lol
Women are conditioned from birth to believe they need a man. Men are conditioned to be more self sufficient. It has little to do with what each partner does for each other.
ThatOneDude so true its always the guys fault just like Patrice said women are goofy they are driven by emotion and they cant help it.
I mean lets be honest you were lying about liking her back.
Andy A what the hell are you saying?
@@kokolatte825 Both males are females are "conditioned" (it's really just biology) to believe they need each other. Marriage and family is taught as the ultimate pursuit to both. The difference is that males pick down in social structure whereas females don't (also biology). If a female doesn't need the male she's with she won't be satisfied because she'll always have something to hold over him and she WILL hold it over him and attack his manhood based on it most of the time.
" I wanna call out sick from love " that's some fluent dude poetry
Watching this makes me remember my ex getting cross with me for not being in love with her...after about 5 months of dating. She didn't know it, but from that point on I felt a pressure that put in motion the split. You gotta let things happen organically. Too many women feel like when they love you, you are obligated to love them back. They almost demand it, and because they get a sense of security from that assurance of love, they need it. The absence of it bothers them (no matter what you are doing for a woman in love, not hearing you say "I love you" frequently almost nullifies it). While I wouldn't go as far as to brand the woman's idea of love as selfish, it is intrinsically and subconsciously self-centered.
Funny thing, I did in love with her. She's an excellent human being. But that pressure she put on me to feel that or express that feeling caused cracks that eventually became a fracture. Just relax. Love who you want. If they love you back, fair. If they don't, you didn't lose anything. You don't get to own people, the best you can do is experience them.
Can u offer me some advice per say...ummm does the same apply if a guys says that they love u first? He said it first and I was a little taken a back but I said it back to him I never made it awkward or anything like that since I know that probably took alot on his part. I do love him but it's a weird kinda like you can never know if they truly love you back although I have no reason to think otherwise. I know some people would say if you feel the need to ask then somethings wrong but it's my first like serious relationship we've known each other for 3 years and it's kind of nerve racking trusting someone so much...like personally have u always meant it when you told a girl first?
@@beautifulleaves8616 I know you asked someone else this question but I felt compelled to answer.
In a few words...If a man tells a woman he loves her before sex, there is a 50/50 % chance that he means it (He may be saying it to get some sex or he may really mean it, depending on his background, lifestlye and beliefs).
If he says it after sex, there is a 100% chance that he means it (At this point he either distances himself if it was meant to be a one night stand or casual encounter or he develops deeper feelings after gaining a sense of entitlement from sex).
Its almost like a catch 22 situation but ultimately depends on your chemistry.
Good luck. 😎
@@beautifulleaves8616 I feel the same applies both ways. When I tell a woman I'm in love with those words, I'm careful to not let it linger, or I say something else after it, so it doesn't seem like I'm waiting for her to reciprocate because I'm not. And most importantly, I try to never say it if I don't really mean or feel it. I feel him telling you unprompted that he loves you means he does, but trust how you feel. However, don't try to be 100% about how he feels. Love demands trust, and at some point, you have to let go and trust.
@@beautifulleaves8616 If you were taken a back by it then you didn't expect him to feel that way about you or to say those type of words to you. Just make him prove it a bit.. if your father or a Male figure is around, have then confirm his authenticity.. because usually a guy doesn't come out first so its 50/50
That last sentence....golden :)
This was NOT a bit. Patrice was being very serious on this shit. Women do very little to EARN a mans love. men are the ones who have to spin the plates. Men need to come up with some witty lines to break the ice when he wants to meet a woman. Then he needs to keep her entertained for a few minutes while she is warming up to him enough to let her guard down so he can ask her out for a date and she will say yes. Then he needs to plan the date, pick her up, and ensure she is entertained and impressed with him the whole time (of course this means him paying for everything while tap dancing verbally to keep her impressed). Then he needs to do this a few times in a row before she provides ONE thing he wants (which of course is sex). Then once they are an item for a while, he has had months of tap dancing to keep her impressed while she has done little more than lye on her back here and there. So when she is in love with him is about the same time that he is starting to resent her because he is carrying all the weight in the relationship.
Hell, if the roles were reversed and a woman had to tap dance to keep me entertained and she paid for everything and all I had to do is enjoy sex with her, I'D BE IN LOVE TOO!!!
It's fucked up how terrifyingly true this is.
True shit there is more men in history that died in the name of love than females
Nick DipaoloFan It technically is a bit, it’s part of his comedy act. just bc he’s being real doesn’t mean it’s not a bit
Yup and the moment you slip all hell breaks loose
Ugly dudes have to do this lol
Patrice is like a Greek philosopher. Patriceus.
"The way she loves me is just too much... it's not necessary!" That is beyond true. Ladies, you better believe a man will break up with you for loving him too much
But when a woman breaks up with a man for loving him too much….?
@@diamondnova7598 it's the same situation! No human is worth obsessing over, it adds a weird dynamic to the relationship that's not healthy for either person
@@diamondnova7598 sometime it's coming off as creepy
I mean in both ways, when lovee too much it just become creepy/annoying, like iwant to spend all eternity with you, go everywhere together, cant go more than 1 meter apart lf each other, always clinging, nagging, suspicious, jealous of smallest thing, overprotective, downright abusive behaviour of a typical posesif behavior, trust me nothing fun being with posesif people, you can't sit easy, you need to explain everything to them, it's a hell
I’ve listened and learned from this. It is not fair to the man and makes you miserable as a woman. I’ve learned here recently to just let go. This explains why I’m single…I still have a lot to learn and a lot to work on.
as I grow older I realize how much of this comedy is actual day to day truth that is funny in retrospect
One facial expression, the room explodes. This man was more than just a standup comedian
But when a man falls in love it's heavy.
It’s one the most dangerous thing a man can do
@@marklap1224 Abso-bloody-lutely. Avoid it at all costs.
Yes... dumbest thing we can do 😑
Every, and I mean EVERY, 18 year old boy needs to be told this by the man he admires the most
Yeah fragile, we bare the deepest part of our soul but still remain mysterious, attractive and strong!! Let her know the deepest of love but keep her guessing, keep her interested and keen!
“Just cause I’m lovable, doesn’t mean that YOU’RE lovable too” He really did speak fluent “Dude”. So funny 😂 my stomach is aching from the laughter. He was one of the very best. Timeless material. He lives forever in our memory. ❤️👏👏👏👏I know he is up there making God laugh. ❤️
‘Like’ is a better sign from a man because he actually wants to be around you but ‘love’ has so much obligation attached that it can be difficult to tell
That obligation takes all the enjoyment out of it. It's like another kid (if you have children)
K. Truell, yes, especially the spontaneity in expression
@@EmperorsNewWardrobe nahh y’all just don’t know how to be happy in love. Love requires work on both sides and not everyone is cut out for it but the people who are know that it’s beautiful on the other side
@@pump1180 fair enough comment. I’m not meaning love can be genuine deep feeling for someone, only that the word can oftentimes have a demand of loyalty and exclusivity underneath. A bit like a contractual key word where if you say you love someone, cheating on them feels extra painful for them and is considered extra wrong. Of course love can be a pure thing. My point is that ‘like’ has fewer contractual connotations to it
@@EmperorsNewWardrobe like I said y’all just dont know how to be in love or are afraid of commitment a person who says they love someone won’t see it as some sort of contract but will see it as a blessing to actually find someone you love even when things get hard. Because out of the percentage of people who are married only a few of them are actually in love or still in love. So to associate the word love with such negativity is just because there’s not enough examples of what good love looks like for people to educate themselves on and aspire to. People think love is perfect but it’s not. It’s not suppose to be easy if it was there would be no issue but the rewards you get from it are unimaginable and can complete transform you’re heart, soul and mind and give you a type of peace that others search for their whole lives. But the sad thing is most probably won’t find it
Such a shame this guy is no longer with us. He went much too soon. He was brilliant.
words of wisdom.
He’s ABSOLUTELY right!!
RIP to one of the great ones
There’s another saying which goes ‘the perfect marriage is when the man loves the woman more than the woman loves the man’.
Man, there should be a religion for this man. His words should recorded in a damn holy book too. True AF.
There kinda is already. Look up his Black Phillip podcasts on youtube.
@@LordHollow search Weston4020 instead
There is... red pill Meroe philosophy straight up came from this man
sorry but you're a clown, change your name too
@Omar Seyfullah Barekzai .. I was thinking the same thing.....
"She laying there and I wanna call in sick" lmfao
Oh man, this is just brilliant, it's a shame he's no longer with us.
"It's not necessary!"
I miss Patrices voice and his perspective. Always spoke the truth without fear of how it would land. RIP to a real one.
I'm so glad that there are various segments on UA-cam of this show so I can see one when I have just a short time to play one. Unfortunately, I end up binge watching several, so I might as well have watched the whole Elephant in the Room show after all
Never met him, never heard him when he was alive, but he's helped my relationships more than anyone else in my life. RIP king.
This came out when I was 22 years old. While I was with a nightmare of a girlfriend. I'm almost 33 and been single for about 10 years now. And he tells nothing but the truth about females. Even the best of them do the things he
s talking about.
Jeez single for 10 years?
Unpack that childhood trauma buddy and move on with your life.
@@Ray-pp5qb you saying he was dating a groomer? The dude was 22 with a monster GF, not 12 with a touchy baby sitter, you brainlet. Good on him for finding out women arent worth his happiness. Oh your confused, sorry, "happiness", look that up in the dictionary for yourself.
I've listened to a lot of Patrice and he's not only ridiculously funny, but the dude has some flat-out awesome insights into a lot of things, especially relationships and the differences between men and women. He was so freaking good
His look in the beginning was true! A man in love is not a happy man!
I like, It's not the same as love!
Bingo!! I was never happier than when I was dating my girl. But when I fell in love and married her, I have never felt that feeling of being in "like" with her. And the main reason why is because back then, she was still auditioning to be my wife, now she is the shitty teacher with tenure who knows that I'd have to move mountains to fire her from her job (wife) and I'd have to pay her for the rest of my life.
If you knew that it would cost more than it was worth for your boss to fire you, and you would still get money if you were fired, wouldn't you phone it in too? that is how women view marriage, a job that they get paid for but don't have to do. they just have to show up and act cunty.
@@nickdipaolofan5948 damn bro you're stating FACTS.
Nick DiPaolo Fan . Thats a perfectct description. Couldn't have said it better myself.
@@marioandreano1236 Thanks. The worst part is that women know this is how they view it but they will deny it and pretend they are "different". But you will see that your woman acts on her best behavior still around relationships she could lose (such as friendships with other women, or employment) but around you they act as cunty as they want because they know they can.
They will give their best to casual friendships, but treat you like shit.
My wife tried to "become the boss" in our relationship and started to nag me about going out to lunch a couple times a month. I nipped that in the bud by going over every unnecessary purchase she made that month and totaled it out against my lunch expenditures. Then I calmly said, "but hey, the second you start making the money, by all means i'll let you start telling me how it should be spent"
It is true for a man love is work
He laid the groundwork for all of us guys today
Real comedy is people facing truth
I tell ya what man I sit everyday thinking of when I’m gonna pull the trigger but throwing Patrice on just let’s me step away from those thoughts even if it’s just for 7 minutes he really is the best
You good?
Yooooo! I been married to my wife for 12 years- she is over her heels in love with me and I have only ever liked her lol explains my level of deep contentment...RIP Patrice #TheGOAT
1:16 is one of the best crowd reactions I've ever seen. The man nods his head while the woman shakes hers.
RIP Patrice he gave jokes plus wisdom
Omg now that I'm in a very serious relationship all this makes so much sense and it's very true. I want to watch the entire special.
It may be fucked up sounding, but I swear it’s 💯 percent accurate
this is not comedy this is relationship counceling. pure genius
Guys I real life just shedded a tear. We need this man now more than ever
This guy is the truth...
Met him on UWS NYC, he said he thought my J’s were dope. Made my day. RIP P.
Women Will Never Understand, That When A Man Falls, He Falls HARD!!!
Women Use This As Ammunition Against Men, ALL THE TIME!!!
What a genius. 100% TRUE!
He was 15 years ahead of the curve 🥂💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾…genius.
MAN!!! He Has a way of Walking you into that Verbal Beat Down !!! R.I.P Patrice✌🏾
women don't love you. they love what you can do for them. period. how many times have you had an ex get married 6 months after you broke up? think about it
general mayhem --- Yep. Men love women for who/what they are, nothing beyond that. Women love men for what the man can do/give. That's why a poor woman can end up with a rich dude, but a poor man is shit outta luck.
Social status, money, house, kids, protection---women want men like they want accessories or appliances, and they will trade men in the second a newer model comes along.
They used to say that men did that with women, but nowadays women are ruthless, and can stab a man in the back a dozen times, and their friends and family will still support them: "OMG, you are so brave to seek _new experiences_ like that, I love how you just _listened to your heart_ and did _you_ ; *You. Are. **_AMAZING!_* "
How many times were you laid in your life? Not many times, that's for sure. Think about it
Lol. Sweety, if you are the kind of person that presents himself here in the comment section, it's no wonder. The kind of guy who is a helpless loser, so that he blames women for not wanting him, because he can't offer anything to them. And you can't honey. I don't even mean materialistic stuff. You just can't in general, or you wouldn't be that bitter.
Have a nice life, and try to not be a victim, like a fucking feminsts sjw.
Oh I just KNOW that you are that kind of a guy, who whines over feminists victim mentality. But you are one of those guys who are hyppsritical as fuck and victimise themself constantly while demonising women. Can't be more of a loser. Man up, and try to improve yourself maybe? Just a tip
Alissa Dem --- Good point about the girl needing to be pretty. But you're splitting hairs by pretending that potential is different than materialistic provisions. Potential, yes---potential to provide in the future. And yes, it makes sense as an instinct, just like men focusing on looks makes sense as an instinct---but at some point we have to use our higher brains and move beyond knee-jerk instincts---and comment sections like this are where people are pointing out each other's hypocrisies and noticing more about how humanity actually operates.
Notice how you asked the commenter how many times he's been laid, as if a man's worth comes from how many women have spread their legs for him. Men are bitter because socio-economic forces have been eliminating jobs and reducing standard of living since the '70s, thus reducing men's value in the eyes of women, but current society elevates women as amazing heroes and denigrates men as disgusting pigs---even though women LIKE piggish, slutty men, which is why you think the more a guy has been laid means the cooler he is.
Modern women protest Trump and then go home and fantasize to _50 Shades of Grey_ ---now there's some hypocrisy and cognitive dissonance for you. Many men don't expect super-models, but women have been trained to feel like they're missing out if their BF isn't a GQ model with a medical degree and a pilot's license (or the "POTENTIAL" to get those things), even if she's not that gorgeous or smart.
You expect more from men than we expect from you, and in an era of diminishing economic returns for the majority of citizens, that means that women are going to end up even more disappointed & bitter than men when this materialistic Princess fantasy that our media have brainwashed you with evaporates for good.
ModernPlague yes we have to use our brain and go against instincts, I agree, but it just isn't true that women want GQ models with a degree and so on. It just isnt. And nobody wants a Christian grey. 50 shades of grey is a fantasy, just like characters from movies should be. I feel like you take your picture of women from youtube comment sections. I do honestly think that a men without any goals in life is just not worth wasting your time. A women without goals is also not attractive in my eyes. But you really are wrong for generalising women like that. And me pointing out that the guy has not laid any women, is due to how this guys sees women. He pictures them in a disgusting way , wich does implies that he does not use his brain and just demonise women as the bad guys, instead of maybe thinking that there is more to attraction than what he thinks should matter. His worth is NOT determined by how many girls he fucked, but if he discribed women so one dimensional and really think that men are somehow less superficial and that HE is a victim, he deserves to be valued by how many women he could charm with his attitude. Gosh, if what he said was true, no guys would be dating. But somehow they are. I know so many gamer guys who are really not that successful in life yet and do NOT look like models yet date for 5-7 years the same girl now. Just look around you. How can you picture a women based on youtube videos of anti sjw channels and comment sections? Isn't it just jumping on a band wagon? dating life IS harsch. I know girls who just stopped dating, because it just is tiring and harsh, but blaming the other gender is just...bleh. I also don't like when women do that. I am not on the "men are at fault for bla bla bla" wagon. I hate it when people refuse to grow a backbone. I have had terrible male role models my whole life, just really awful. I would never blame men for me not beeing able to date properly, I know it's me who has the issues. That why I really can't excuse his whining. He should look at what he is doing wrong first.
These hos for everybody
Thank you Mr O'Neal...your wisdom saved me from wasting valuable years and resources on ungrateful women...Now I also spread your knowledge with my Son and Friends.
I wasn't even laughing bro.. this is so true.
This is Education more than Comedy.
Elephant in the Room is one of the funniest goddamn stand up specials EVER
This man was an American treasure, rest in power
True for both men and women (whether women want to admit it or not) when a man loves a woman she becomes repulsed by how into her he is, it makes him look weak in her eyes.
When a woman loves a man who just likes her, she gets to be the emotionally "weak" one which puts him above her in her eyes.
You are just likeable. Boom 💣.
My life is solved. 💣
R.I.P You were and are a great man.
Patrice was classic. He was amazingly talented. Sad that he left us too soon.
Man the older i get, the realer this shit is. Its just some shit u cant explain to ur girl
Genius. Broke it down more than any PhD therapists or psychologist.
02:29 "you didn't do for me what I did for u" - I think Patrice is talking about all the effort men have to put during the initial phases of dating and carrying the girl metaphorically to be her bf.
There is nothing less pure than a woman's love.
women cant love
It'll turn on a dime. (Money reference on purpose).
That must be the
Joke of the day...
Learn what HYPERGAMY is and say what you said again!
I've known a lot of married women. Just about every one I've met has bitched to my wife about their husband, saying things that I'm sure would piss off the men. That isn't pure. That's just sad. But smart of him to butter up the women in the audience by virtue signalling. Lol.
I don’t want to be that guy... but a white women’s love is the love you people are talking about.
Women of colour love a little differently.
Not sure about Asian women
“I speak fluent dude.”
This analogy of sex and love is godly material. Holy cow 🐄
R.I.P The perfect description of relationships.
We NEED him back
Literally a GENIUS
What a fricking legend. RIP.
"Being good to a women is a commitment to our (men) self". This is so true.. at least for me
Always heard about Patrice but for some reason had never seen one of his bits before today.
Truly one of the greats.
Don't miss the "series of holes" joke from him either, absolute gold
Still the king like Joe Rogan said
He's completely right :0)
He truly was a genius when it came to men and women. Especially men. Something genius he said, that explains it all to a women...
"You didnt do for me, what I had to do for you, to love me" Women expect men to do it all, while they sit back and enjoy the ride. We are expected to approach you, ask you out, set up the date, pay for everything, text/call you, take you out again, pay again. We are 1 month in and what Ive done for you is 20x what youve dont for me in that span. Then they want to wonder why theyre single, and why your love isnt on the same level.... the things you did for me are no where near all the things I did for you, for you to feel that way.
Write my words, after thousand years people will honor Patrice like a philosopher
This is gold
I like the guy shaking his head yes and smiling sitting next to the lady shaking her head no and frowning. @1:17
Patrice is a modern philosopher.
God I miss Patrice so much. And he speaks the truth about men!
One of the greatest stand ups I ever seen. We lost him too soon. Would of loved to see a follow up to this.
Oscar wilde once said: " A man can be happy with any woman as long as he doesn't love her"
The man was a genius!
Preach brother preach! Miss him.
Patrice is brilliant. RIP, Brother
i've been saying the things patrice says for over 25 years. i'm just not famous. good to see the word is getting around
This guy is a truth sayer
One facial expression, the room fucking dies. LEGEND.
Brilliant! This guy was a genius!
Bro I learned my game from Patrice and mgtow/red pill. It saved my life
Renard Blackstone 💯💯💯
Same here
Patrice wasn’t preaching mgtow. He was telling you stop being soft and get your bitch in line. Flip her on her head as he said. Anytime a guy said his girl wasn’t listening he blamed the guy.
Real Real
Man I wish I lived in some different timeline where Patrice never passed ❤ rip my idol
No matter how shitty I feel I can always turn to this guy
RIP one of the funniest cats of my era
he's one of a kind...genius!
You might not know it but this is what peak performance looks like.
We will never see another one like him ever again.