What People Pleasing Is Costing You! It's Time To Set Boundaries (Your Mental Health Depends On It!)

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  • @OwenCookSelfHelp
    @OwenCookSelfHelp  2 роки тому +2

    Transform Your Life with www.blueprintreloaded.com/

  • @wry7767
    @wry7767 4 роки тому +91

    Thanks Tyler for your years of generous and precious service

    • @OwenCookSelfHelp
      @OwenCookSelfHelp  4 роки тому +27

      Thank you! -Tyler

    • @ShoaibKhan-bz5qm
      @ShoaibKhan-bz5qm 4 роки тому

      Thanks Tyler appreciate the awakening that you have given me and many others!

  • @JulienHimself
    @JulienHimself 4 роки тому +44

    Amazing vid, man!!! Such a CRUCIAL topic! 👊

  • @PatDaley
    @PatDaley 4 роки тому +5

    As a natural co-dependant this hits home.
    "you have so many good intentions toward other people and the world that you cant project into a possible reality where other people don't have that toward you."
    This used to describe me perfectly. Until it bit me in the ass with a partner in business. Cost me tens of thousands of dollars. But I considered that the price toward a valuable lesson.
    Thanks for this video Tyler.

  • @OwenCookSelfHelp
    @OwenCookSelfHelp  4 роки тому +93

    Super personal video. I want you to know the place I'm coming. Excited for Los Angeles FREE EVENT January 23rd! And Chicago FREE event February 5th! www.rsdfreetour.com - and TONS more videos coming your way this month. Created this one to set a strong foundation for what is to come with this year's content. We are also doing FREE CALLS to see how we can help you, if you fill out this form www.bestsociallife.com - take advantage while this is available, it's pretty awesome. Let me know your thoughts on the video and talk soon! -Tyler

    • @cregmuray4812
      @cregmuray4812 4 роки тому

      Sup dad. You put me on hella game. Wish I was as comfortable at work (imma barback) as I am behind this key board. Stay up gangsta. You a real one 💯

    • @ethanconrad4488
      @ethanconrad4488 4 роки тому

      Tyler yea touch that tree boy 👦 love the content Tyler 🤙🏻 swig it

    • @onlinebiz5906
      @onlinebiz5906 4 роки тому

      tyler sold out to the illuminati he does to many okay 666 with his hands in his program vidoes

    • @BrainBurnStudios
      @BrainBurnStudios 4 роки тому

      Lmao nice thumbnail :D

    • @noahzempel
      @noahzempel 4 роки тому +1

      I'd love to hear more on this topic. I've recently came to understand that this is my issue, and its causes tons of problems in my life. So now I'm working to dig myself out of it by trying to rewire myself first and foremost.

  • @fastingforhealth253
    @fastingforhealth253 4 роки тому +33

    Your vulnerability is beaufitul and inspiring. Thank you Tyler.

  • @CharismaMastery
    @CharismaMastery 4 роки тому +37

    Important to strike a balance... I think most people (non-sociopaths lol) want to help others as a natural inclination, however, as with anything there has to be a limit. On one hand SELFISH, on the other OVERLY SOLICITOUS. With any duality spectrum, the greatest vitality lies in the synthesis of the opposites forming that spectrum. Either polarity saps the strength of the potential choices along the spectrum.

  • @goldernie
    @goldernie 4 роки тому +8

    I'm crying. What an incredible video. The rain theme is so on point for such a dark topic.

  • @TheFliegevogel
    @TheFliegevogel 4 роки тому +13

    "Let it mess you up,
    follow that problem to the trauma,
    and then fix it."
    Beautiful.
    I totally love what you're doing Owen!

  • @robotpolice2042
    @robotpolice2042 4 роки тому +8

    Tyler is that guy that reminds me how really fortunate to come across his UA-cam channel by an accident, some true gospel this dude speaking..

  • @thezonic27
    @thezonic27 4 роки тому +6

    The imperfections of the rain really create a nice atmosphere for the video

  • @chadadvice3707
    @chadadvice3707 4 роки тому +1

    It just baffles me how many incredible gifts this man has bestowed upon us over the years. Owen. I feel secure knowing that I will be able to resolve any life problem by watching a few of Tyler’s videos. A sincere thank you for all that you’ve given to your fans.

  • @markchristie4138
    @markchristie4138 4 роки тому +13

    Could be in a cushy restaurant networking with high status people but he's out in the rain making a video for us scrubs. Love it, salute!

    • @Kyle-fc8jv
      @Kyle-fc8jv 4 роки тому

      Mark Christie no one told him to go out in the rain though

  • @George4815162342
    @George4815162342 4 роки тому +16

    I'm amazed by the fact that when I ran onto your videos for the first time - it wasn't about this stuff at all. It was all about humor and girls. I related to you then and here I am, many years later, watching you explaining exactly what's happening to me my entire life, but on a whole different level. It's like when you hear some song for the first time and you like the music very much, but don't understand the lyrics and as soon as you read through them - you realize that they represent the exact internal state you are in. Great stuff Owen, thank you so much.

  • @RayDalziel
    @RayDalziel 3 роки тому

    I love you too Owen. You are a great man. Shine on brother.

  • @chandlereavers5962
    @chandlereavers5962 4 роки тому +3

    You guys have no idea the impact you have had on my life. Thank you so much. Much love, I'll be coming to a live event as soon as I can

  • @AdamsAwake11
    @AdamsAwake11 4 роки тому

    Ive never commented before but ive followed your content for 5 years and purchased some products. You truly an amazing man who will go down in history for the value you provide. Its changed my life several times for the better. Thank you Owen.

  • @rhinowhitino4382
    @rhinowhitino4382 4 роки тому +6

    Studying yourself is a good suggestion. Still it is necessary to move forward, outward, not only looking in.
    Build healthy relationships from a place of purpose.

  • @tatewinters5565
    @tatewinters5565 Місяць тому +1

    Crappy weather? No problem, Owen says. Going to finish the video anyway

    • @SteveWiIIDolt
      @SteveWiIIDolt 13 днів тому

      Nothing compared to the Hurricane they just had 😢

  • @thokozaniradebe4668
    @thokozaniradebe4668 4 роки тому +1

    To be honest i have been watching Tyler`s videos for over a year but in this video i felt like he was talking to my inner self and the most important thing about this video is that it shows that Tyler also come from somewhere to be who he is today and that changed my perception of him the reason being is that when we see his videos on youtube we tend to think he is perfect and he did not put effort to become who he is today of which it`s not the case .Otherwise thank you Tyler for sharing such a personal story and we really appreciate your help , I also want to thank everyone in your team who help you to make your videos to be available and the important content you share with us ."Big ups #2020 visions" ,I believe a lot more is still to come.

  • @jacquesnicolas4442
    @jacquesnicolas4442 2 роки тому

    Thank you for your time.

  • @13sprintuser
    @13sprintuser 8 місяців тому

    As someone who got broken up with recently by my ex gf over being a people-pleaser and with weak boundaries… I needed this video. Thanks Owen!!

  • @AndyPoons
    @AndyPoons 4 роки тому +3

    I struggled with CPTSD myself for almost my whole 22 years. I have completely reprogrammed and recreated my mind and my life... Love your stuff Tyler I relate to you very much 🤙🏼 will meet you one day!

  • @SoowDeJu
    @SoowDeJu 4 роки тому +6

    Can really relate to this one. Listening to you immediatly puts me into a higher energy state, thanks Tyler!

  • @xecvtive
    @xecvtive 4 роки тому

    Thanks for taking one for the team and filming this out in the rain

  • @SteveWiIIDolt
    @SteveWiIIDolt 13 днів тому +1

    Crazy to watch this in 2024, Asheville is ruined now because of the Hurricane.

  • @dusantomic4898
    @dusantomic4898 4 роки тому

    It's crazy how much Tyler's video influence ones life if a person tries to understand the deeper meaning of the context. Absolutely crazy how many people seem lost nowadays due to tons of garbage content and information that never grows into knowledge. So many layers and depth are coming from this guys mouth it's insane and you can literally watch the videos multiple times without getting bored and always getting new stuff out of it. Layers within layers within layers, it's like Tayler's own Inception. It's something that changes life and make you appreciate both yourself and others as well. Thanks for all the videos T, it's really huge and hopefully it reaches the right people who are willing to make themselves and this world a better place.

  • @lamus4e
    @lamus4e 4 роки тому

    The more i watch and the more i listen and apply the better my life gets.

  • @anibalmoraga1172
    @anibalmoraga1172 2 роки тому

    My whole life until this year at 22 i was a total codependent, people pleaser!, thank you so much Owen! Im on my journey of fixing this and im seing the bright future ahead, thank you! Love you so much haha!

  • @ramiatthemoment5314
    @ramiatthemoment5314 4 роки тому

    Low-key whoever has been following Tyler (Owen) for years now can notice how much his words, voice and looks has transcended to this self made muscular man, thanks for providing that spark that fired my actions brother, Salute.

  • @hustlervibrations231
    @hustlervibrations231 3 роки тому

    Thank you Owen!

  • @Katchauuu_
    @Katchauuu_ 7 місяців тому

    Thank you Owen 🙏🏽

  • @makamatin9257
    @makamatin9257 4 роки тому

    Thank you so much Tyler

  • @z0rak
    @z0rak 4 роки тому

    Owen Tyler Cook. You and your messages mean something to me, and the world is a better place with you in it. Thank you.

  • @grayhound5863
    @grayhound5863 4 роки тому

    ALL THIS HAPPENED(has been happening) TO ME!
    Thanks for sharing this man. So grateful to recieve this wisdom at 20.

  • @jerryng2997
    @jerryng2997 2 роки тому

    Thanks Tyler for doing this 🙏

  • @edmoney4244
    @edmoney4244 4 роки тому +1

    Wow thanks for being vulnerable, I resonate with the pain you endured in your past. Sharing this helped me thankyou

  • @blackpillaudrius3015
    @blackpillaudrius3015 4 роки тому

    Tyler you a brother speak truth ,I spend most of time alone because people close minded and living with anger

  • @Jameszlin
    @Jameszlin 4 роки тому +3

    Dope video! Love the rawness. It's a beautiful thing to see the direction you've taken and the result of that. Thank you!

  • @SindreEide93
    @SindreEide93 3 роки тому

    This one is GOLD.

  • @methodtraining
    @methodtraining 4 роки тому

    I like how he continues the shoot through the rain without missing a beat. We deal with circumstances as we find them. We don’t wait until things are perfect.

  • @mgibbons2233
    @mgibbons2233 4 роки тому

    Great value here. I hope this goes viral. Human Magnet Syndrome is so pervasive.
    I have Owen to thank (personally someday) for finding Ross Rosenberg, attending one of Ross' live seminars, and beginning to get my life sorted.

  • @truthabouttheworld3186
    @truthabouttheworld3186 4 роки тому +2

    Rather than constantly recycling and rehashing and dwelling on, I take more of the Buddhist approach of freeing, releasing and just letting go of the emotional content and mental constructs you have built around it.
    So I don't necessarily agree with his approach and methods but his openness and vulnerability is refreshing.
    As long as it takes you to inner freedom, emotional maturity and ultimately enlightenment.
    People ain't shit btw.

    • @jonathonharbeck7287
      @jonathonharbeck7287 4 роки тому

      That last part threw me off lol. He actually advocates letting go as well, different tools for different situations.

  • @user-fx3ou2jh9k
    @user-fx3ou2jh9k 2 роки тому

    I feel you're really trying to help people. We can be successful, healthy, fit, attractive, but if we don't fix our personal issues we'll struggle forever. I did blueprint, rsd, and I thought I handled my "social issues". Long story short, nope. Appreciate you, brother. That's all.

  • @SHTennis89
    @SHTennis89 4 роки тому

    I don’t know any other content creator that is able to talk on levels like Owen does. I resonate and understand what he says, while still learning a ton, so much that it feels like he knows me.

  • @enhancedlifestyle963
    @enhancedlifestyle963 4 роки тому +30

    6:11 Tyler sees a smoking hot girl and thinks about cutting the video to approach her... “takes a breathe of presence”...continues doing the video. That’s a world class Eckhart example

    • @JMW_JMW_JMW
      @JMW_JMW_JMW 4 роки тому

      @@mr12aT 3 second rule bro

  • @divyanshsh
    @divyanshsh 4 роки тому

    Thank you Tyler

  • @royaltygaming2
    @royaltygaming2 4 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much for these videos

  • @GlutesEnjoyer
    @GlutesEnjoyer 4 роки тому +6

    Great video - just remember there is no problem with taking medication if you're depressed as long as you practice improving your life in all facets.
    I tried the self-help-only path for the last 10 years (started with RSD, long time fan!) And after fixing all my issues I realized I just had an issue with my brain. Antidepressants aren't a cure-all but they are not to be stigmatized.

    • @OwenCookSelfHelp
      @OwenCookSelfHelp  4 роки тому +2

      Yes agreed! And try Ultramind Solution by Mark Hyman as well. -Tyler

  • @JackdawLifts
    @JackdawLifts 4 роки тому

    Owen, I love you. Thankyou tyler for everything. I felt unbelievably lucky to find your channel all those years ago. As much as you confuse me, and I wish i didnt know all of this, because i almost dont trust people anymmore etc. Its like unconscious competence now... i FORGET how much i kNOW SOCIALLY... and like yeah, im no pick up artist, I cant randomly go up to an attractive gitl on the street, so you could argue i know nothing lol, but ive had my moments, and im still learning. im 28. just moved back home with parents after being fired because i was miserable in my job, and had enough of my town. onwards upwards, more clarity. just recentering myself, and stufying myself again, and getting ready to be ready. time for the gym, im a beast. lol.

  • @deanflet
    @deanflet 4 роки тому

    Tyler these videos about and personal boundaries and people pleasing are so critical and helpful. You being so raw and fourth coming given your success comes across as immensely relatable and inspiring to us who follow you. Thank you for digging deep man

  • @KarismaKing
    @KarismaKing 4 роки тому

    that across the street walking part was fire. nailed it.

  • @lejune5083
    @lejune5083 2 роки тому

    Thanks Owen!

  • @taylorb6374
    @taylorb6374 3 роки тому

    Thank you for this video!!

  • @redmangoose182
    @redmangoose182 4 роки тому +41

    16:10 naruto spotted in background

  • @francisgaudu1131
    @francisgaudu1131 4 роки тому

    Thank you Owen for this. Beautiful and powerful.

  • @andrw265
    @andrw265 2 роки тому

    Thank you Owen

  • @ErvinMitchell
    @ErvinMitchell 2 роки тому

    This video is blowing my mind in a different way

  • @johnlee2540
    @johnlee2540 4 роки тому

    Thank you Tyler for field testing so many theories and techniques for so many years .

  • @Fer-De-Lance
    @Fer-De-Lance 4 роки тому

    Thank you!

  • @anasghaleb3859
    @anasghaleb3859 3 роки тому

    thank you owen

  • @dylanpulvermacher9970
    @dylanpulvermacher9970 4 роки тому

    Glad to know I was not the only one who fought with this. 39 going to be 40 in August, and with all you have shared for free just on you tube has helped alot!!! Thank you!!

  • @braaap56
    @braaap56 4 роки тому +4

    Great video Tyler! Keep them coming 🙌🏼👊🏼One of the biggest lessons I’ve got from your videos was the poison drip lesson. It was such a 🤯 moment! Especially when your in a relationship for a long time.

    • @OwenCookSelfHelp
      @OwenCookSelfHelp  4 роки тому +5

      Thanks! I re-recorded that concept in Yosemite in this HUGE two hour marathon video, coming within a month or two -Tyler

  • @realalpha2833
    @realalpha2833 4 роки тому +1

    Tyler Rock's.✌.Thanks Brother.🤝

  • @tradingvault2491
    @tradingvault2491 2 роки тому

    amazing stuff. thanks so much as always my friend!!

  • @siegcollect8626
    @siegcollect8626 4 роки тому

    Wat you said, is so real. I sufferd from this my whole life and wat you said is so true. I was always engaging the uneasiness and was trying to connect with people including all the negative sides that comes with it.
    But all of it is so worthy... 👍🏻 and you where one of the little helps that helpt me during this journey. Thanx..

  • @Nopal432
    @Nopal432 4 роки тому

    Respect to you bro.

  • @josephpweaver
    @josephpweaver 4 роки тому

    Just was in Asheville. Beautiful town, message and song for the video.

  • @kennymurray3005
    @kennymurray3005 Рік тому

    Love Asheville! Great video!

  • @hustlecrow3164
    @hustlecrow3164 3 роки тому

    That Video was fu**ing helpful ! Thanks

  • @benedekvincze2953
    @benedekvincze2953 4 роки тому

    Thank you. Tears in my eyes

  • @MassoudAdamAbdel
    @MassoudAdamAbdel 4 роки тому

    Hi Tyler, I am the guy that used to work at the Pita Pit. JK, I love you man been a supporter of yours for years!

  • @VietNguyen-oo9gu
    @VietNguyen-oo9gu 4 роки тому

    Thank you Tyler for what you do

  • @MithunPenheiro
    @MithunPenheiro 4 роки тому

    Wooooowww! The art in this video is fucking amazing! Creative genius at work! Doing this video in the rain is a superb metaphor to capture the issue of people pleasing! That made my year already!

  • @scottlopez9822
    @scottlopez9822 3 роки тому

    Great work ...mad respect

  • @tty159
    @tty159 4 роки тому

    Thank you

  • @georgekastro7312
    @georgekastro7312 4 роки тому

    Your videos are simple and rare. Thers so much value RSD has than only teaching seduction. Keep up the great work 👍

  • @onthearth1
    @onthearth1 4 роки тому

    Hey Tyler, the problem with all that is that it's hard to identify in which ways being nice is a bad thing. So if you don't know what the monster is, it is hard to fight it. Defining first. And dealing with it.

  • @ChessMasteryOfficial
    @ChessMasteryOfficial 4 роки тому

    Very important topic for many people and for me personally too. Thank you Tyler.

  • @ZachBratland
    @ZachBratland 4 роки тому

    Love you Owen!

  • @karelryckeboer
    @karelryckeboer 4 роки тому

    Great help, thanks!

  • @justcvuse
    @justcvuse 4 роки тому

    hollyyyyyyy shiettttt quantum ripples on this one -> deep ass key at the end so simple eloquent and clear thank you brogod ill probably watch this at least 7 times this next month

  • @alejandromartinez9959
    @alejandromartinez9959 4 роки тому +1

    Have been willing to hear your personal take on codependency and boundaries for quite a while now, and gotta say, I feel very satisfied with the end result. As someone who has been going out for quite some time now and got into your friend Julien's Transformation Mastery program, I can say I relate to this profoundly and am in the journey of healing and going to where I want to be, just as anyone else reading this can.

  • @flyer2757
    @flyer2757 4 роки тому

    Thank you owen thank you so much

  • @jeffs2518
    @jeffs2518 4 роки тому

    Hell yes with QRION !!
    Dude such a vulnerable and real video. Thank you so much. I realize how this issue has effected my entire life.
    I’ll see ya in Chicago for the free tour!

  • @sonaresgratis7924
    @sonaresgratis7924 4 роки тому

    Tyler! I love you man. Thank you so much for sharing your heart with us.

  • @geekaleek
    @geekaleek 4 роки тому

    *I HATE YOU FOR MAKING THESE VIDEOS THAT SPEAK TO ME ON A DEEP PERSONAL LEVEL AND MAKE ME HAVE TO TAKE ACTION TO CHANGE MY LIFE !!!*

  • @ryanmotivates
    @ryanmotivates 4 роки тому

    Its Crazy that i created a Video covering the same Topic today too !! I have nothing but Respect for you Tyler !

  • @user-wi5py4lv1e
    @user-wi5py4lv1e 4 роки тому

    Awesome vid. Thank you so much

  • @starttofinishmediaco.2520
    @starttofinishmediaco.2520 3 роки тому

    This video HITS. thx for teaching ussssssssss

  • @HAMIDK007
    @HAMIDK007 2 роки тому +3

    Human magnet syndrome is a great book about codependency

    • @SteveWiIIDolt
      @SteveWiIIDolt 13 днів тому

      I think he mentioned it in this video

  • @patricioaguirre9388
    @patricioaguirre9388 2 роки тому

    thanks owen

  • @Antonio_NF
    @Antonio_NF Рік тому

    My selfimprovement path resumated, you are right 100%, listen this dude people

  • @MUSEisTheOneForMe
    @MUSEisTheOneForMe 4 роки тому

    This is so good.

  • @uosmanMD
    @uosmanMD 4 роки тому

    Thank you again Tyler for the great video, powerful closing.

  • @MrDubstep09
    @MrDubstep09 4 роки тому

    Thanks so much for your consistent and outstanding content! I've been following your organisation for the last 7 years since I was 18, and it's been like having a group of personal mentors to help understand those tricky nuances of social life. Thanks for dedicating yourself to this and sharing your vision with us into the ever more complex maze of human experience

    • @shane9525
      @shane9525 4 роки тому

      Has your life changed dramatically

  • @ErvinMitchell
    @ErvinMitchell 4 роки тому

    Love you too Tyler!

  • @masterfelrod
    @masterfelrod 4 роки тому

    Thank! Great video!

  • @0thatdudewill0
    @0thatdudewill0 4 роки тому

    love you too. thank you!

  • @vaggs75
    @vaggs75 4 роки тому +4

    12:01 love how he tries to fix his glasses. I ALWAYS knew people did that intentionally. Great work Tyler!

    • @JackdawLifts
      @JackdawLifts 4 роки тому

      ahahah yes. probably a rain drop feeling like his glasses