Wow lots of great points without too many deal breakers. For my lady one thing that we tackled early on was the low self-esteem issue that so many Filipinas have about their looks. She would start with her ice cream cone shaped face, then it was her eyebrows, and then it went onto the nose being short compared to western features, soon it was breasts , or maybe a little belly fat. The one thing I stressed to her was I was and I love her just the way she is. Although I did ask her to stop using any type of whitening deodorant, soaps, or creams, I absolutely love the natural morena look. So for us it’s not so much of a yellow flag, I think it’s just more about building up self-esteem and her knowing she is loved and appreciated for how she truly is.
She is gorgeous!! I love my filipina and the Philippines. We just spent 3 weeks in Thailand and I have to be honest, I like Philippines better (friendlier and language). Although, I love Thailand too and the people are also extremely friendly. It's a great country to have 4 hours away!
your PDF is spot on. Every person has their own background and preferences. Not everyone is looking for a everlasting partner. All dating does is determine the compatibility. If you want a partner, make sure you have left your baggage behind for a fresh start. Far too often, people feel they need to act quickly and that is where red flags are overlooked or not recognized. I came to the Philippines in June 2005 to help a friend expand his business. I was a year out of my second marriage and not excited to find someone. I dated in and out of the USA. I love the Philippines for the nature, culture, people and determined in 2006 that this may be a primary place for my future. I flew back and forth over 20 times for business and pleasure and each trip was a month or more. I had established dates sometime before my arrival and sometime just to explore different regions. I had a few relationships with Filipinas within the dating/relationship perspective. For me the biggest red flag is being in a rush. What I learned is just be yourself, be careful like any other dating situations and do not be confused between lust and love.
I don't share your urgency to escalate a relationship. My main goal to to retire in peace with my goals and needs taking priority. As an American man I've lived most of my life for my ex wife and children. I did what was expected of me and managed to save enough to retire early, why would I rush to process of dating because that's what fits the Philipina's agenda?
Yes. Don’t look for a challenge. That’s a game. Look for someone who brings out the confidence of being a man. She wants to trust and follow him. “I feel good with me.” She is secure and she makes you feel good as a man; you want to take care of her forever.
@@MichaelPrudhomme-u7x I agree, I don't want to talk a woman into liking me or treating me right. I look for good character rather than looking for flaws. When a woman is into a guy she will pursue him until he catches her. lol
Here are a few I read in the Times today. - You’re asking all the questions. - Your inner circle doesn’t approve. - All their exes are ‘crazy’ or ‘nightmares.’
I am definitely a sigma male (lone wolf) but do have some friends that i have always kept in touch with. If covid lockdowns taught me anything its that I was fine on my own and if i'm quite frank, I actually enjoyed it. I can take care of anything in front of me on my own but I realize a good partner will bring out other qualities in me and hopefully i do the same for her.
I haven't "met" her (the Filipina) but I know I want to meet her, if I ever make it to the Philippines. She was on the Filipina Pea's channel, and she seems to be exactly what I'm looking for (if she hasn't already found someone else).
I don’t like the term failed. I’ve been in short relationships and long relationships and I’m currently single. I don’t feel like any of them failed. I was in love with them all, unfortunately Everything has a lifespan. Some things live only a short brief time and some things live a very long time. Live for today and try to be kind, loving and the best you can be 😊 That will attract the best in others. When the best is no longer available and there are too many flags then it’s time to start over and do it again 😊
Thank you for sharing as always!! Yellow Flag: (More for the Filipinas already in the US) If her first Marriage ended because she had an affair, do not marry her and think she won't do it again. :)
Hi Rob & Chrissy, new subscribers here. Speaking about red flags, buti nalang hinde pa uso ang socmed 24 years ago, malamang hinde ako pipiliin ng asawa ko. Dami kasing red flags, hinde ako marunong mag English, kaya brother-in-law ang minsan ang pumupunta sa internet at mag reply ng message, (slow kasi akong mag type, per hour pa ang bayad) ang hinde ko alam behind my back ang dami na palang hiningi na material na bagay. Habang penpal pa kami, ang asawa ng coworker nya may pinakilalang Pinay na kakahiway ng asawang F. ( maganda kasi nasa U.S. na) marunong ng mag-ayos, at hinde na nya kailangan na gumastos..Siguro para talaga kami sa isat-isa, but we never know sa future dahil dami naming hinaharap na pagsubok sa buhay.
Many yellow flags were very close to being red flags. A few weren't even close to being red flags, they were closer to green. I for one just don't like being online every day, it drives me crazy. Plus iff I'm baby sitting my grandsons, my grandsons will not allow me to text. They'll be jumping on me or hanging from my arms. My grandsons are half Filipino, by the way.
I’m a subscriber, you guys are great! I just can’t afford Christian Philippine dating site, what site did you use ? I’m coming there beginning of October.
Have to heartily agree with Rob; take a pass on a Filipina who has dated more than one foreigner before you. If your love interest has multiple tatoos, move on unless your looking for short-time.
Consistent debt is a red flag for me personally. There is a definition of wealth that is: how many days can you survive with no additional income and that definition takes into account the part of the budget we all have the most direct control over, our spending. Some people will spend whatever they make and more regardless of how much they have access too. To me, living pay check to paycheck and owing money is poor, causes avoidable anxiety and severely limits one's options in life. An ex wife spent every penny, remarried and defaulted on their house. . . I have no desire to live like that and as I get older, and may at some point be dependent on my partner to make wise decisions, someone that is a big spender is a very scary thought. No other friends is a red flag (for me) too. And I'm saying that as an introvert.
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines Right, there is not much safety other than seat belts. Mostly, but not always, I'm driving in residential areas at lower speeds.
A yellow flag is unwarranted jealousy, especially early in the relationship. I love listening to you guys, you come over like two news anchors who have worked together for years and are very comfortable with each other.
“I probably talk to much about my ex” “Yea. A lot” 😂 Little Pea did a chat on the Sigma mentality. They are deep thinkers. You are both, perhaps, quite analytical. But you see that your purpose can’t be derailed. You may have “if only” moments of deep thought but these can only frustrate the mind, they cannot frustrate your purpose. How can you have the power to derail your destiny from God? All these flags remind me of what Rabbi Friedman said. If you are happy being a husband or wife then nothing feels like a sacrifice or compromise. You are there to make them happy. That is exactly what you want. If it feels like a sacrifice you are doing something wrong
Rob & Chrissy, you guys are a match made in Heaven❤. Love your Videos and sharing the sparks in your relationship. 🎉 Best,Marv (Making plans to come next summer for the first time).😊
What color flag is it if when you 1st met, you discussed that you do not want children and now 1 yr in the relationship the philpina occasionally hints she wants a baby.
Would it have been any easier to get the fiancé visa, get married in the U.S., visit family and go back? It just seems like all the hoops and 18 copies of useless paperwork just becomes so annoying.
RED FLAG: I need $$ for medicine. Have you ever heard that before? The best way to meet a significant other is through your Philippines friends. Thats how I met my wife of 18 years. I came to the Philippines to visit an old Army buddy and I had NO intentions of seeking a relationship. #1 for a successful relationship ANYWHERE in the world is to THINK with your BRAIN and not your manhood.
Hi 👋! I’m Andrew. I’m one of your subscribers. I also liked this video. In my opinion lack of trust is a red flag. With the exception of doing something that merits it (cheating, etc.) … there’s absolutely no reason why either party would need to look through the other’s devices. I agree about money. I haven’t been to The Philippines yet. But my thing is no money until we meet in person. I also agree about Filipina insecurities. As an aside … I like morena skin. I definitely agree about the ex and compromise. Tampo is a red flag for me. But ladies here in the Washington, DC area have attitudes. I’d rather deal with tampo. I agree with the need to be consistent. Though I have debt too. So … I can’t judge there. As it relates to my family … I wait to talk about them. But I agree with the part about her relationship with her family. I actually say all of her family. As a born again Christian … I see all lying is wrong. I’m also a virgin. And I’m saving that to give my future wife on our wedding day (after the wedding). I get the short term job thing. But I think a few short term things are ok. I also assume that any romantic relationships she’s had involved sex. And I have a firm body count limit for my future wife of five or less. For me … airfare is a factor. I live in Reston, Virginia. My nearest airport is IAD. $2k to $3k and up round trip to either Cebu or Manila is costly for me. But I do agree that I’d rather meet sooner rather than later. I’d say being possessive isn’t bad depending on how early in the game it is. After a few weeks or a month … yeah … I’d run like Forest Gump. But after meeting in person … I agree that it depends. I agree about having space and each other’s own interests. What if when the topic of meeting in person comes up and she suggests that she visit you?
Flying to the Philippines is expensive, man you are very very cheap. Try business class it's over $8,000 for that layflats THE ONLY WAY to fly to the Philippines.
I feel kinda bad after watching this vid. I'm that guy with no real interests or passion, so maybe it's true that I have nothing going on between my ears and I am just boring.😯
Maybe just a steady ship at sea. Maybe a lighthouse for storms. Analyze your 5 F’s Finances Fitness Faith Friends and Family If you are feeding those then you have all the passion you need to travel your purpose
If the Filipina introduces you to their family, that's a HUGE RED flag. I don't want your family expecting me to meery them. I ran away from two relationships because of this.
I’ve never known a Filipina that doesn’t ask for money, even if it takes her 6 month it always come to money and this is the downer for the Phillipines as a hole because foreign wil tire off it and move on to other Asian countries
Number 1 red flag ..and one person is not going to like it ..single mothers/married or unmarried without a doubt. As Filipino have in general have huge advantage in law and a bad faith Filipina could make up spurious accusations regarding say children in house and also so could the ex as by way of manipulation. When I buy a car ..I find the best car I can afford… if I buying a second handcar I buy the best cleanest history.
I am definitely a sigma male (lone wolf) but do have some friends that i have always kept in touch with. If covid lockdowns taught me anything its that I was fine on my own and if i'm quite frank, I actually enjoyed it. I can take care of anything in front of me on my own but I realize a good partner will bring out other qualities in me and hopefully i do the same for her.
Rob and Chrissy.
You have a best channel. Wisdom conversation and no foolish talk.
I hope more viewers could hear your advices
❤️🙏👍
Wow lots of great points without too many deal breakers. For my lady one thing that we tackled early on was the low self-esteem issue that so many Filipinas have about their looks. She would start with her ice cream cone shaped face, then it was her eyebrows, and then it went onto the nose being short compared to western features, soon it was breasts , or maybe a little belly fat. The one thing I stressed to her was I was and I love her just the way she is. Although I did ask her to stop using any type of whitening deodorant, soaps, or creams, I absolutely love the natural morena look. So for us it’s not so much of a yellow flag, I think it’s just more about building up self-esteem and her knowing she is loved and appreciated for how she truly is.
Such a great well written post with fantastic sentiment thanks
Great information 🙏🙏🙏
Thanks for liking
Well Done!. Excellent Advice!
Glad it was helpful!
She is gorgeous!! I love my filipina and the Philippines. We just spent 3 weeks in Thailand and I have to be honest, I like Philippines better (friendlier and language). Although, I love Thailand too and the people are also extremely friendly. It's a great country to have 4 hours away!
Well said!
Thanks for the consult, I will be arriving to Cebu on August 8. Hopefully we can meet at your convenience. Thank you for such informative information.
I hope so too!
Rob takes some solid angles. See, for example, NO TAMPO POLICY! 😂😂😂
Rule number one at my house
Take care and God bless you 🙏
❤️🙏👍
Very elegent outfit Chrissy
🙏❤️👍
This is a priceless video.
Thank you for the positive feedback Toby
Another great video guys.
❤️🙏👍
your PDF is spot on. Every person has their own background and preferences. Not everyone is looking for a everlasting partner. All dating does is determine the compatibility. If you want a partner, make sure you have left your baggage behind for a fresh start. Far too often, people feel they need to act quickly and that is where red flags are overlooked or not recognized. I came to the Philippines in June 2005 to help a friend expand his business. I was a year out of my second marriage and not excited to find someone. I dated in and out of the USA. I love the Philippines for the nature, culture, people and determined in 2006 that this may be a primary place for my future. I flew back and forth over 20 times for business and pleasure and each trip was a month or more. I had established dates sometime before my arrival and sometime just to explore different regions. I had a few relationships with Filipinas within the dating/relationship perspective. For me the biggest red flag is being in a rush. What I learned is just be yourself, be careful like any other dating situations and do not be confused between lust and love.
❤️👍
I don't share your urgency to escalate a relationship. My main goal to to retire in peace with my goals and needs taking priority. As an American man I've lived most of my life for my ex wife and children. I did what was expected of me and managed to save enough to retire early, why would I rush to process of dating because that's what fits the Philipina's agenda?
Tim I appreciate your watching our video and sharing your perspective
Yes. Don’t look for a challenge. That’s a game.
Look for someone who brings out the confidence of being a man.
She wants to trust and follow him. “I feel good with me.” She is secure and she makes you feel good as a man; you want to take care of her forever.
@@MichaelPrudhomme-u7x I agree, I don't want to talk a woman into liking me or treating me right. I look for good character rather than looking for flaws. When a woman is into a guy she will pursue him until he catches her. lol
💯 brother
Wow! This was great please keep it coming!
Thank you! Will do!
Here are a few I read in the Times today.
- You’re asking all the questions.
- Your inner circle doesn’t approve.
- All their exes are ‘crazy’ or ‘nightmares.’
Good list
Good evening guys
👋
Hello, I contacted you about the PDF in the very day you announced it. I also liked the video etc. etc. but I did not get the document.
Maybe check Spam. 😊 or email us again
I am definitely a sigma male (lone wolf) but do have some friends that i have always kept in touch with. If covid lockdowns taught me anything its that I was fine on my own and if i'm quite frank, I actually enjoyed it. I can take care of anything in front of me on my own but I realize a good partner will bring out other qualities in me and hopefully i do the same for her.
I also experienced some of those realizations when I was alone during Covid, but I am much happier now
I haven't "met" her (the Filipina) but I know I want to meet her, if I ever make it to the Philippines. She was on the Filipina Pea's channel, and she seems to be exactly what I'm looking for (if she hasn't already found someone else).
I wish you the best luck stan
I don’t like the term failed. I’ve been in short relationships and long relationships and I’m currently single. I don’t feel like any of them failed. I was in love with them all, unfortunately Everything has a lifespan. Some things live only a short brief time and some things live a very long time. Live for today and try to be kind, loving and the best you can be 😊
That will attract the best in others. When the best is no longer available and there are too many flags then it’s time to start over and do it again 😊
Thanks for sharing that Tom
Thank you for sharing as always!! Yellow Flag: (More for the Filipinas already in the US) If her first Marriage ended because she had an affair, do not marry her and think she won't do it again. :)
Yes, be very careful of that
Go out to a discotheque at 2:00! A.m.? That sounds radical to me. Is that a thing? 😂
Maybe come home at 2am
Hi Rob & Chrissy, new subscribers here. Speaking about red flags, buti nalang hinde pa uso ang socmed 24 years ago, malamang hinde ako pipiliin ng asawa ko. Dami kasing red flags, hinde ako marunong mag English, kaya brother-in-law ang minsan ang pumupunta sa internet at mag reply ng message, (slow kasi akong mag type, per hour pa ang bayad) ang hinde ko alam behind my back ang dami na palang hiningi na material na bagay. Habang penpal pa kami, ang asawa ng coworker nya may pinakilalang Pinay na kakahiway ng asawang F. ( maganda kasi nasa U.S. na) marunong ng mag-ayos, at hinde na nya kailangan na gumastos..Siguro para talaga kami sa isat-isa, but we never know sa future dahil dami naming hinaharap na pagsubok sa buhay.
Great story thanks for sharing
Many yellow flags were very close to being red flags. A few weren't even close to being red flags, they were closer to green. I for one just don't like being online every day, it drives me crazy. Plus iff I'm baby sitting my grandsons, my grandsons will not allow me to text. They'll be jumping on me or hanging from my arms. My grandsons are half Filipino, by the way.
Thanks for sharing that George
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines Thank you
I’m a subscriber, you guys are great! I just can’t afford Christian Philippine dating site, what site did you use ? I’m coming there beginning of October.
Filipina Cupid
How can I contact you Rob for your consultation?
Send me an Email at flymetothephilippines@gmail.com
Or you can check my availability here in this link
https//flymetothephilippinesconsultation.as.me/
Them refusing to video chat for several reasons like my camera doesn’t work or I’m shy or just refusing that’s a big red flag for me
He normally giant red flag
Have to heartily agree with Rob; take a pass on a Filipina who has dated more than one foreigner before you.
If your love interest has multiple tatoos, move on unless your looking for short-time.
Possibly good advice
Consistent debt is a red flag for me personally. There is a definition of wealth that is: how many days can you survive with no additional income and that definition takes into account the part of the budget we all have the most direct control over, our spending. Some people will spend whatever they make and more regardless of how much they have access too. To me, living pay check to paycheck and owing money is poor, causes avoidable anxiety and severely limits one's options in life. An ex wife spent every penny, remarried and defaulted on their house. . . I have no desire to live like that and as I get older, and may at some point be dependent on my partner to make wise decisions, someone that is a big spender is a very scary thought. No other friends is a red flag (for me) too. And I'm saying that as an introvert.
By the way, I just bought a new to me used truck. A 93 Honda Acty. I think you convert them to left-hand drive and call them multicabs there.
That solid thinking I saw your multi cab on FB. Yes, here we called them multi cab. Be careful not much crash protection.
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines Right, there is not much safety other than seat belts. Mostly, but not always, I'm driving in residential areas at lower speeds.
A yellow flag is unwarranted jealousy, especially early in the relationship. I love listening to you guys, you come over like two news anchors who have worked together for years and are very comfortable with each other.
Thanks for the positive feedback, Jon
“I probably talk to much about my ex”
“Yea. A lot” 😂
Little Pea did a chat on the Sigma mentality. They are deep thinkers. You are both, perhaps, quite analytical.
But you see that your purpose can’t be derailed. You may have “if only” moments of deep thought but these can only frustrate the mind, they cannot frustrate your purpose. How can you have the power to derail your destiny from God?
All these flags remind me of what Rabbi Friedman said. If you are happy being a husband or wife then nothing feels like a sacrifice or compromise.
You are there to make them happy. That is exactly what you want. If it feels like a sacrifice you are doing something wrong
Thanks for sharing the philosophy
👍another good vid . How about if she has a long time male gay friend. Is that a yellow flag or just a rainbow flag.
Love it rainbow flag
Unfortunately I had no choice for my ld5
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I just can’t afford Christian Philippine date site, What site did you guys meet on ?
We met on Filipina Cupid
Rob & Chrissy, you guys are a match made in Heaven❤. Love your Videos and sharing the sparks in your relationship. 🎉 Best,Marv
(Making plans to come next summer for the first time).😊
Hi Marve, thanks so much for your comment. We really appreciate it.
What color flag is it if when you 1st met, you discussed that you do not want children and now 1 yr in the relationship the philpina occasionally hints she wants a baby.
Yellow
Chrissy why you don’t learn us some bysaya words.. oh make a extra clip than you don’t need to repeat all your yellow and red flags evry month😊😊💕
Thanks for the suggestions
Would it have been any easier to get the fiancé visa, get married in the U.S., visit family and go back? It just seems like all the hoops and 18 copies of useless paperwork just becomes so annoying.
Perhaps, it’s a difficult call.
RED FLAG: I need $$ for medicine. Have you ever heard that before?
The best way to meet a significant other is through your Philippines friends. Thats how I met my wife of 18 years. I came to the Philippines to visit an old Army buddy and I had NO intentions of seeking a relationship. #1 for a successful relationship ANYWHERE in the world is to THINK with your BRAIN and not your manhood.
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Rob, weren't you "unemployed" when you met Chrissy? Is that a yellow flag for a Filipina?
Eric, I was retired difference
Hi 👋! I’m Andrew. I’m one of your subscribers. I also liked this video.
In my opinion lack of trust is a red flag. With the exception of doing something that merits it (cheating, etc.) … there’s absolutely no reason why either party would need to look through the other’s devices.
I agree about money. I haven’t been to The Philippines yet. But my thing is no money until we meet in person.
I also agree about Filipina insecurities. As an aside … I like morena skin.
I definitely agree about the ex and compromise.
Tampo is a red flag for me. But ladies here in the Washington, DC area have attitudes. I’d rather deal with tampo.
I agree with the need to be consistent. Though I have debt too. So … I can’t judge there.
As it relates to my family … I wait to talk about them. But I agree with the part about her relationship with her family. I actually say all of her family.
As a born again Christian … I see all lying is wrong. I’m also a virgin. And I’m saving that to give my future wife on our wedding day (after the wedding).
I get the short term job thing. But I think a few short term things are ok. I also assume that any romantic relationships she’s had involved sex. And I have a firm body count limit for my future wife of five or less.
For me … airfare is a factor. I live in Reston, Virginia. My nearest airport is IAD. $2k to $3k and up round trip to either Cebu or Manila is costly for me. But I do agree that I’d rather meet sooner rather than later.
I’d say being possessive isn’t bad depending on how early in the game it is. After a few weeks or a month … yeah … I’d run like Forest Gump. But after meeting in person … I agree that it depends.
I agree about having space and each other’s own interests.
What if when the topic of meeting in person comes up and she suggests that she visit you?
Hi Andrew, welcome to the channel. Thanks for sharing. Appreciate you here.
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines Thanks 🙏. I think you missed my question.
Flying to the Philippines is expensive, man you are very very cheap.
Try business class it's over $8,000 for that layflats
THE ONLY WAY to fly to the Philippines.
@@kevinacker9843We see things differently.
@@abkeener81 usually trouble as rare she has ability, often a scam tactic to get money
I feel kinda bad after watching this vid. I'm that guy with no real interests or passion, so maybe it's true that I have nothing going on between my ears and I am just boring.😯
Maybe just a steady ship at sea. Maybe a lighthouse for storms.
Analyze your 5 F’s
Finances
Fitness
Faith
Friends and
Family
If you are feeding those then you have all the passion you need to travel your purpose
Well, you show that you’re interested in the Philippines
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines Yes, so much , I am living here now. lol
If the Filipina introduces you to their family, that's a HUGE RED flag. I don't want your family expecting me to meery them. I ran away from two relationships because of this.
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Red flag if they are Torqueing online? lol. that was funny.
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I’ve never known a Filipina that doesn’t ask for money, even if it takes her 6 month it always come to money and this is the downer for the Phillipines as a hole because foreign wil tire off it and move on to other Asian countries
Perry, do you think it’s really different and other Asian countries?
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines I’d like to think so
So she puts on a dress and says honey does this dress make me look fat? Would that be a white lie? 😁
😃😮
Red flag or yellow flag or green flag.... her body count over 10 to 15+
Thanks for sharing
Number 1 red flag ..and one person is not going to like it ..single mothers/married or unmarried without a doubt. As Filipino have in general have huge advantage in law and a bad faith Filipina could make up spurious accusations regarding say children in house and also so
could the ex as by way of manipulation. When I buy a car ..I find the best car I can afford… if I buying a second handcar I buy the best cleanest history.
Your opinion is welcome here
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines That’s not say your cannot find a diamond 💎 all the best.
That’s a preference not a yellow flag. If you don’t want children that’s ok. Just proceed with caution.
chrissy is the most intelligent filipina who is with a philippines vlogger!,,,,,,,
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I am definitely a sigma male (lone wolf) but do have some friends that i have always kept in touch with. If covid lockdowns taught me anything its that I was fine on my own and if i'm quite frank, I actually enjoyed it. I can take care of anything in front of me on my own but I realize a good partner will bring out other qualities in me and hopefully i do the same for her.