Don't Make These 3 Older Guy Dating Mistakes That Make The Filipinas Run Away...

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    ‪@FlyMeToThePhilippines‬
    Avoid these Older Guy Dating Mistakes that make the Filipinas and Thai Girls run away from you. Chrissy tells all about how Filipinas in the Philippines perceive your mistakes. Avoid these dating mistakes when in the Philippines if you don't want the Filipina to run away.
    Too Fast, Too much Flash and to Yummy!
    Chrissy discusses all the mistakes older men make in dating. Status, Confidence, Money, Transparency, Health.... Find out what are the 3 biggest mistakes to avoid for older men.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 428

  • @mf6207
    @mf6207 3 місяці тому +14

    Deep words and substance filled with sincerity. Thank you.

  • @artvandelay409
    @artvandelay409 3 місяці тому +17

    My Filipina wife and I just started watching your videos recently. It is very rare to find vloggers like yourself that speak so well and intelligently. I met my wife in the Philippines in 2007 and we have been happily married and living in Canada for the past decade. There is a 24-year age difference between us. All the best to you!

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому +3

      A George Costanza fan😄. Thanks for watching our videos and taking the time to comment hearing about your success makes me very happy.

    • @artvandelay409
      @artvandelay409 3 місяці тому

      @@TheWatcher111 Clearly, reading was not your strong point in school. I never said he was discussing topics that have never been dealt with before on UA-cam. I said he and his wife speak very well and intelligently. Perhaps a refresher course in reading might do you some good.

    • @Mrbfgray
      @Mrbfgray Місяць тому

      Always great to hear success stories like yours.
      The vid was mostly common sense but with a few cultural emphasis. Useful reminders at the very least and explanations important.

    • @trainrecked
      @trainrecked Місяць тому

      @@FlyMeToThePhilippines George's coach..(the atomic wedgie episode) .Cant-Standjza! CantS-tandjza'..that was hilarious!

  • @rogerhessell9137
    @rogerhessell9137 3 місяці тому +21

    Wen I first started dating my finpno girlfriend I was not very comfortable person but she said you are very comfortable person she put me on top of the world and she is my whole world and we are still madly in love with each other and we been 2gether now for 10 years

  • @davidhancock91
    @davidhancock91 3 місяці тому +12

    I first dated an Australian Philippina who was a widow. She was really just looking for me to provide financial help, and let me down.
    However I met some nice Philippino friends who introduced me to my now wife. So it worked out beautifully for me.
    We became Facebook friends for a year during Covid, and when restrictions were lifted I went to Cebu and met my darling.
    That was 2 and a half years ago. We have been married for a year now, and live happily in Australia.
    She now has a great,well paid job here. We have improved each other’s lives immeasurably.

  • @GBU61
    @GBU61 3 місяці тому +9

    When a man has lived in the West and been forced to deal with the toxicity of women there, the first thing he has to do is mentally leave all the old ways of relationships at the airport. Take at least six months, or even a year, and date as many women as possible for a while. This is the time to try a 20, 25, 30 year old and use these experiences as the learning curve we all need. Learn what tricks she will try and recognize what reasonable expectations are. One of the most powerful words is No! Once he knows what to avoid, he can begin recognizing who the quality women are. It is a process that requires patience. Women will always be around and if she does not meet all the priorities he expects, move on.

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому +1

      Thanks for watching our channel and taking the time to share that interesting comment

  • @samuelaragon3465
    @samuelaragon3465 3 місяці тому +8

    I was married for 32 years I'm retired and widower one thing we had was she was my best friend we had the most important thing in relationship and beening honest with each other and communicating give and take

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому

      Sam, I’m sorry for your loss but it sounds like you had a fantastic relationship and I hope you can find something that can make you happy going forward

  • @joeford4587
    @joeford4587 3 місяці тому +12

    I have a gold medal in mistake making, having travelled to Asia many times i have found the new and old mistakes i make are less costly financially and emotionally, my main advice would be to take your time slow down and enjoy

  • @andrehenriques2
    @andrehenriques2 3 місяці тому +10

    Love the background scenery, a pleasure spending time with you and Chrissy

  • @sandman6988
    @sandman6988 3 місяці тому +26

    my Dad always tole me growing up that if you want to keep friends do not discuss politics, money or religion.....

    • @user-qc3mg3pp2s
      @user-qc3mg3pp2s 3 місяці тому +7

      Your dad then, taught you to allow others to control your rhetoric to accommodate others.

    • @1clkvideos140
      @1clkvideos140 3 місяці тому +5

      Politics, money and religion are polarizing subjects that often lead to conflict with those around you that do not share your opinions and vice-versa. Why ruin family relations and/or friendships over (often inconsequential) subjects that don’t usually have any more direct bearing on casual relationships than you allow them to have.
      I have a friend who has excommunicated his entire family simply because they share different political beliefs - then he acts like Mr. Lonely around every holiday that they used to get together as a family. It’s so ridiculous - especially since it’s all due to himself (his family doesn’t care that he thinks differently from them - but he says he can’t respect them anymore! He is essentially a hermit at this point; a waste of life. It so happens that my political and religious beliefs align with his - but not with my family either, but I simply choose not to discuss religion/politics with them and I enjoy having relationships with my family.

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому +2

      I totally agree with you however, I find that sometimes family members will ambush you and put a stain on family, get together by violating the rule of talking politics

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому +9

      I came to the Philippines to get away from people, talking politics

    • @sandman6988
      @sandman6988 3 місяці тому

      I agree I hate politics and am apolitical...I was in the US Navy on an aircraft carrier USS Midway CV=41 for the first half of my career and then stationed in Exmouth Australia my send half....so I was in the Phillipines several times during the course of my career....Subic Bay, Olongapo during the 70's back when the country was under martial law and Marcos was in power.....yes I know his son is in power now....=magsaysay drive iin Olongapo was not even paved back then....lol

  • @marcprobin1659
    @marcprobin1659 3 місяці тому +3

    Thank you for the information. Always great to hear you guys!

  • @lordstephen7813
    @lordstephen7813 3 місяці тому +3

    Thank you, you two. Another great video with some very useful information. Thank you for your hard work and sharing this with us. 🙏

  • @davidvaughan9347
    @davidvaughan9347 3 місяці тому +9

    Leading with money is so tempting, it is easy to do and generally gets a positive reaction. I've made that mistake and will never do it again. Your site is a treasure trove of sound advice.

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому +1

      David, wow that’s making us blush. Thanks for the positive feedback.

  • @canadianguy37
    @canadianguy37 3 місяці тому +7

    I just found your channel, insightful conversation. You both seem to talk effortlessly with each other and it shows you guys have a good foundation.

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому +1

      Canadian guy so glad you found us and thanks for watching and taking the time to comment welcome aboard

  • @johngalt6708
    @johngalt6708 3 місяці тому +2

    Wow, great advice. You guys have figured it out. Great content.

  • @benwillys5503
    @benwillys5503 3 місяці тому +2

    Excellent topic guys… Thanks!!

  • @cetilly
    @cetilly 3 місяці тому +6

    This was a good topic because most guys tend to lose their mojo as they age. It wasn’t until I moved to Italy and made friends with guys my age with so much rizz and game that I started to regain my mojo. Swagger matters, not money.

  • @guardianmiketv1586
    @guardianmiketv1586 3 місяці тому +2

    Guys - "Like a fine bottle of wine you get better with time". Nice orientation for us all. TY for upload - good work !

  • @kevinhunter3412
    @kevinhunter3412 3 місяці тому +1

    Great Chat U 2 !!

  • @ianmacpherson2106
    @ianmacpherson2106 2 місяці тому +1

    Fillipinos and other Asians seem to love kareoke. I personally dont want to hear this at an everyday dinner. It never seems to end.

  • @denismoreau3646
    @denismoreau3646 3 місяці тому +3

    Love the good advise it helps to keep it mind focused 😊

  • @davidb371
    @davidb371 3 місяці тому +2

    Insightful simple good advice for men like myself who is looking to find the one
    In the Philippines... Keep up the good work and thank you

  • @rorybellamy2533
    @rorybellamy2533 3 місяці тому +1

    most informative content on this subject, thanks Chrissy

  • @BeerBikes
    @BeerBikes 3 місяці тому +4

    daaaaaymn! she's smart, she's good, and she's legit! great vid! keep up the great content, you guys killing it! peace!

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому +2

      We’re blushing. Thanks so much for the great feedback. Thanks for joining us.

  • @robertclaus1102
    @robertclaus1102 3 місяці тому +4

    Very important topic and discussion guys. Your presentation and honesty really helps one see this issue in the proper perspective. Thanks!

  • @BearInThePhillipines
    @BearInThePhillipines 2 місяці тому +1

    Great TWO WAY conversation. Well done. She is wise He is kind

  • @Kuya_Tom67
    @Kuya_Tom67 2 місяці тому +1

    I am retired US military. I cant wait to engulf my self in the Philippine culture and family dynamic when I move there in 9 months. Thank you for the great video.

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  2 місяці тому

      Let me know if I can help. I have a PDF with 70 points to use for planning one year ahead of time. You can email me at flymetothephilippines@gmail.com

  • @kevicanweld
    @kevicanweld 2 місяці тому +1

    Awesome report ❤

  • @frederickwalker740
    @frederickwalker740 3 місяці тому +1

    very educational. thank you.

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому

      Frederick thanks for watching our channel and for the positive feedback

  • @robertvail573
    @robertvail573 2 місяці тому +1

    Thank you for another great video. I am learning more each day about the Philippians culture so I can be prepared. I also am watching all of your video that help me get perpared as well. I thank you for your hard work with these great videos. I agree with one of the comments does Chrissy have a twin. I know that will make you smile Rob with everyone so impressed with her. Wishing both of you the best of luck.

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  2 місяці тому

      Yes, that makes me smile. Robert thanks for watching our channel and taking time to come.

  • @bentnielsen3731
    @bentnielsen3731 3 місяці тому +3

    Dear Chrissy and Rob - another interesting topic and open and honest analysis. I'm sorry if I now become the candle-extinguisher, but your analysis applies to most of the world, both around the women and the men. Nice to see Chrissy back in front of the camera.-) Best regards from Denmark.😎

  • @Connor_Dempsey
    @Connor_Dempsey 3 місяці тому +2

    Great show. Not just gd for a Filipina, but good for life.

  • @wesandlanie
    @wesandlanie 3 місяці тому +3

    I met online a philpina over 3 years ago and looked for a woman intentionally not young. I wanted a mature woman 40+ and met my now wife as of March who is 50 me being 61. She is my life and so so sweet and caring

  • @whatever7639
    @whatever7639 2 місяці тому +1

    Great Show!!

  • @dennisgonya4500
    @dennisgonya4500 3 місяці тому +3

    I will pass this info along to men wanting hear that way.

  • @geo525252
    @geo525252 3 місяці тому +15

    Too many guys not bringing much to the table in the first place and expecting top quality women. Looks like you brought something more than the average expat and has received in kind.

    • @Learning.Naturally
      @Learning.Naturally 3 місяці тому +5

      That is so true. While age, and maybe even the size of your waist isn't important to the same degree as in the West, Filipinas are still looking for men who tell the truth, have integrity, have family values, and won't be abusive, physically or otherwise. Just as most Western guys find many women in our home countries to be somewhat to very bitter by middle age a Filipina probably isn't going to find you attractive if you are constantly complaining about your ex, your home country, or how unorganized things are in the Philippines. Be worthy of her!

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому +1

      Well, said Paul

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому +2

      Thanks for watching and for that feedback

    • @Eric-qm5xw
      @Eric-qm5xw 3 місяці тому +2

      @@Learning.NaturallyA modern Filipina with value know their worth, that’s no different than the west..the difference is the values the Filipina brings to the table. Generally conservative and family oriented.

    • @ukadventures5660
      @ukadventures5660 3 місяці тому

      @@Eric-qm5xwWomen in the west are generally conservative and family oriented too 😂 mostly

  • @AndreAndre-yd5gw
    @AndreAndre-yd5gw Місяць тому +1

    That home is too flashy, but I get it. Need it for the arm candy. I started at the bottom, but at 53 I find myself in the seat of power and enjoying every moment of it.

  • @user-hi4ue4qc8u
    @user-hi4ue4qc8u 3 місяці тому +3

    Couples should talk more about spirituality in order to offset their imperfections that will eventually impact the challenges they will face.

  • @sandman6988
    @sandman6988 3 місяці тому +3

    good video!!!

  • @SuccessiveApproximations-Intl
    @SuccessiveApproximations-Intl 3 місяці тому +2

    Another great video, thanks, Rob and Chrissy! Oh man, I'm making a LOT of the mistakes concerning LDRs, that you're talking about, I trust too much, and am generous to a fault, but, I'm learning. I think the best plan is to just go there, check out the place, find out where I want to land, THEN start looking for a woman. With the temps right now being around 100 degrees, places like Baguio look really attractive.

  • @alcourtines4707
    @alcourtines4707 3 місяці тому +1

    Outstanding channel!

  • @deantucker1464
    @deantucker1464 3 місяці тому +8

    Very good advice...as one who is in an age gap relationship and who was married to a Filipina for almost nine years I can truly say pretty much all your advice is sound. Confidence yes...my buddy...more like a brother got back from the Philippines just before Christmas...my advice when be was there..."remember...you are the prize"...Filipinas aren't generally shallow...your looks aren't really that important. Past that, understanding Filipino culture and clearly setting expectations with your Filipina and her family will save you a whole host of headaches and either bring the two of you closer or end the relationship...either way, you win! It's nice that you have the interactions of a mentor relationship yet Chrissie has the maturity to bring great Filipina insight to the mix. I'd love to meet you two when I get down to CDO...with my Filipina, of course and just sit down and share stories...I think I have a bit to share since I was married so long to a Filipina I brought to the U.S. on a K-1 Visa and the struggles that ensued by not having a clear understanding of her culture.😮

    • @kevinacker9843
      @kevinacker9843 3 місяці тому

      I do not think 9 years is a long time.
      My OFW marriage in the states is 31 years and counting,, is my marriage a long time by your definition?

    • @deantucker1464
      @deantucker1464 3 місяці тому +1

      @@kevinacker9843 Yes, of course! Congratulations...some friends...Filipina and American are at 49.

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому +1

      Thanks for the comment Dean. I really enjoyed hearing your story.

    • @deantucker1464
      @deantucker1464 3 місяці тому

      @@kevinacker9843 Just curious...how is she an OFW? For me, nine years of being at the very bottom of her priority list was all I could deal with. Still care about her but enough is enough!

    • @deantucker1464
      @deantucker1464 3 місяці тому +1

      @@FlyMeToThePhilippines Thank you...the feeling is mutual!

  • @VloggingLife.
    @VloggingLife. 2 місяці тому +1

    Very Good Video!!

  • @waynelesperance5604
    @waynelesperance5604 Місяць тому +1

    Beautiful home,Beautiful view!

  • @danhunt3652
    @danhunt3652 3 місяці тому +2

    👍 excellent advice

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому

      Dan, I’m glad you think so thanks for watching and for commenting

  • @homebasebelgium359
    @homebasebelgium359 3 місяці тому +4

    Always downplay your financial situation! Even if you have loads of money in the bank, just tell her that you are on a pension. Let her manage part of the budget (like for buying food), but make it very clear from the beginning that you are the CFO in the family!

  • @M.G-sq8cc
    @M.G-sq8cc 3 місяці тому +1

    Great video and good advice Chrissie and Rob. You two are so great to listen to 😊 .

  • @StanHasselback
    @StanHasselback 3 місяці тому +6

    Excellent conversation. Chrissy gives very good insight into how most women think. Men are lead by attraction and when we are attracted to something we rush in to fast. I know this and I have to always fight that urge. Attractive women are approached all the time so they are wary of most men. Women do still value security so presenting yourself as a stable individual both mentally, physically and financially will be a plus although leading with your wallet will be a mistake. A women will be able to figure out quickly if you are financially stable in the Philippines. Most think you are just by being a foreigner and having the ability to travel to the Philippines. Maybe the best discussion I've seen on this topic.

  • @JeffjeffJeffjeff-y4y
    @JeffjeffJeffjeff-y4y 21 день тому

    Be real and truthful. Love her character

  • @altonarm
    @altonarm Місяць тому +1

    This was good wholesome talk I enjoyed this one a lot. Touching on more of a human side and not about the transactional side that so many talk about. Guys in Dumaguete brag about their money... and most of them don't really have much. It's so stupid.

  • @sidgrover8628
    @sidgrover8628 2 місяці тому +1

    It’s hard to trust a lady that might very well try to play games all the time

  • @peteyates9639
    @peteyates9639 3 місяці тому +1

    I love your channel it's so true

  • @dermadawg
    @dermadawg 3 місяці тому +16

    Please tell me that Chrissy has a twin❤️

    • @deantucker1464
      @deantucker1464 3 місяці тому +1

      Lol...she is quite attractive isn't she? 😊

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому +2

      The world would be a better place

    • @kevink3975
      @kevink3975 3 місяці тому

      I would be happy if she had a single sister :)

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому

      @@kevink3975 Yes but she is only 6 years old 😱

    • @deantucker1464
      @deantucker1464 3 місяці тому

      @@kevink3975 Yeah...she's a beauty and smart and sweet!

  • @docwillis3750
    @docwillis3750 3 місяці тому +1

    Thanks for the great video! I'm ol school and don't talk money until we are in a long term relationship. Do y'all agree?

  • @peteyates9639
    @peteyates9639 3 місяці тому +1

    I've read stories of the guy who meet the first one he meet and lost her because he wasn't sure if she was the one

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому

      Pete, it’s a challenge initially when dating we all play musical chairs occasionally you can be left without a chair

  • @Vaderbill
    @Vaderbill 3 місяці тому +1

    Great Video! And Chrissy looks so classy and has such wonderful insite!!

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому

      Thanks for watching our video and taking the time to offer such nice feedback

  • @theholisticguy
    @theholisticguy 3 місяці тому +1

    This was such an informative and helpful video interview….i truly appreciate the honesty and openness from you both. I live in Texas and I’m tired of the feminist mindset in the USA 🇺🇸 so I really feel like a Filipina would be a much better choice of partner for me. I have a lot to offer and I would treat my Filipina with love and respect so I believe we would have a beautiful relationship! Thank you 🙏 I’m going to watch all your videos! 😂❤

  • @user-hi4ue4qc8u
    @user-hi4ue4qc8u 3 місяці тому +1

    Respect has always been relationship destroyer from both

  • @leelaramdass4999
    @leelaramdass4999 2 місяці тому +1

    Chrissy is a very smart and intelligent woman

  • @greggwoodcox2167
    @greggwoodcox2167 3 місяці тому +1

    Which vlog was about the marriage test ? Or the one you did on asking some good questions? Thanks

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому

      All 36 questions are listed in the description box of this video
      How To Choose Between Two Filipinas
      ua-cam.com/video/k4bB6qhg4Ww/v-deo.html

  • @cedricnash7735
    @cedricnash7735 3 місяці тому +2

    Fly me to the Philippines Your content is excellent I really enjoyed the conversation that you had today.
    I was talking to this Filipino girl. Of course, online we will talking about 8 months and then she started talking about money and it just ruined the whole relationship. I told all my. On my profile, I put it in the screamer up there did not talk about money.I don't talk about money on my profile.And if somebody says anything about money I just erase Them As we know, our relationship should be built on trust. Should be built on trust get to know somebody and trying to get the note. In very well, a lot of communication, especially if you're living in the United States and she's living in the Philippines. A lot of communications, very important building at trust.
    Just talking about basic stuff. And I don't know any other culture. Respecting each other's culture. Just asking about just normal stuff. Shouldn't be about money not really on. Thank you so much for all your and I will see you guys next time. On the next video, My name is Cedric Nash. I'm gonna number one fan

  • @janyrose12
    @janyrose12 3 місяці тому +1

    Hi mam and sir nice to meet you lately😊

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому

      Hi Jane thanks for watching and saying hello

    • @janyrose12
      @janyrose12 3 місяці тому

      @@FlyMeToThePhilippineshopefully to meet you again🥰

  • @dirtyharry8629
    @dirtyharry8629 3 місяці тому +4

    Hey Rob, has anyone ever told you, you look like Pete Townsend of the Rock Group "The Who"?

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому +1

      🤔 You’re the first.

    • @j.p.1694
      @j.p.1694 2 місяці тому

      I didn‘t have the idea but Reading this I agree.

  • @Ozzybob-ts7yj
    @Ozzybob-ts7yj 3 місяці тому

    Men, prepare yourself before you go and have good wealth before u go. Don't lead with money but at least have it.

  • @peteyates9639
    @peteyates9639 3 місяці тому +1

    That maybe true about the first Filipina you meet. However she could be the first one you meet.

  • @theadaptivefitnesschannel4308
    @theadaptivefitnesschannel4308 3 місяці тому +2

    You two are great together on video! One of your best videos, I think! And it really doesn’t matter about how many views you get. That was a good video.
    I think as a westerner we automatically lead with money. Not intentionally. But just by nature of flying to the Philippines, taking a Filipina and island, hopping and visiting resorts. especially if it’s with a province girl. They typically don’t have the means to do that. So simple things that we take for granted like going out to eat regularly going to the cinema. Maybe even just going to Jollibee twice a week. That’s leading with money even if we’re not aware of it.

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому

      Thanks for that positive feedback and sharing your thoughts

    • @napoleonmdusa8877
      @napoleonmdusa8877 3 місяці тому

      No, that's not leading with money. It's simply a retired guy doing what he wants to do during his retirement, whether he does that solo or with a partner who matches his desires. To do any less would be sacrificing his desires in retirement and those desires are things he's planned for all his life & now gets to enjoy them.

  • @billslaven28
    @billslaven28 3 місяці тому +4

    That's wise advice! The only problem is that when someone repeatedly tells you how much they love you, you lose your sense of caution. That's my struggle. I'm still trying to verify everything, but at the same time, I have sincere affection for my Filipina. She is so poor, and I want to make her life better. So far, if she is conning me, she is the best con artist in the world. I'm still trying to figure that out!

    • @mcluvin65
      @mcluvin65 3 місяці тому +2

      The fact you are expressing your doubts about her or feel the need to "verify" already tells me you are lost, mentioning her economic status means that you doubt her character. Bill, please give her what she wants now, it will save you a lot of suffering in the future. She is with you because you represent a better life for her, stop trying to believe the idea that she loves you, she is saying that only to lessen your guilt.

    • @Learning.Naturally
      @Learning.Naturally 3 місяці тому +3

      Stop focusing on her words. She may be very sincere in saying that. More important to you I think should be her actions. Is this someone who brings out your best? Can you have long and interesting conversations? Do you have some common interests (hiking, walking, beach, cooking, church, etc)? Would you be proud to introduce her to close friends and family (Forget their reactions, would you be proud?)? Is she kind to children and animals? Does she have a big heart? Is she a hard worker? Are you both in Agreement about kids?
      Wishing you the best in whatever you choose.

    • @mcluvin65
      @mcluvin65 3 місяці тому

      @@Learning.Naturally Agree

    • @tootellustraight
      @tootellustraight 3 місяці тому +3

      So many of them saying that they love you the instant they start communicating with you. I’m sure there’s lots of good ones. But mine was telling me she loved me right up until the minute that she run from me in the middle of the night to the arms of another that told her he had plenty money and retiring in Philippines. Then he dumped her like used rubbish a week later when he finished his vacation. Now she says sorry and I miss you and can you forgive. I’m so sorry she says. Hope you have better luck than me. But I was amazed by her acting ability when telling lies 😮

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому

      Hi bill thanks for watching the video and for taking the time to provide this comment. Very interesting.

  • @dennisgonya4500
    @dennisgonya4500 3 місяці тому

    When I first met my now wife she did not tell me she was an actress and I did not tell her I owned a paid for 40 acre ranch in San Diego. She was supper conservative and I dressed down. She spoke better English than I and I was a scientist. It was fun going down our road. After I had met here for about 6 months she said she was coming to Hollywood. I said WHAT. And the story got even far more interesting. When I went to see her in Asia she said we are going to a Sultans Golf Course and I said I do not play golf. She said you will see. What and more what's. It is so much fun getting to know people. I met the NPA in the Philippines on two occasions. Life is fun and your mention of confidence is spot on.

  • @rabidfarmer9765
    @rabidfarmer9765 16 днів тому

    I recommend visiting the family soonest to see how much headache you are about to get yourself into. Hahaha!! Too slow in the passing lane will get you in trouble. Just best to travel the proper speed - and you will be fine.

  • @NunyaBidness-zr5mn
    @NunyaBidness-zr5mn 3 місяці тому +8

    "Don't make yourself worth more dead than alive."

  • @Dragondrew1970
    @Dragondrew1970 2 місяці тому

    My balance is wheelie level as well as my relationships. Be honest and dependable
    and you won't have to listen these folks.

  • @clint7-1
    @clint7-1 3 місяці тому +4

    Chrissy is still the most admirable of all the UA-cam women. Beautiful, intelligent, interesting.

    • @TheTrevelyansway
      @TheTrevelyansway 3 місяці тому

      PT Barnum had a quote that describes you well.

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому

      Absolutely agree with that

    • @clint7-1
      @clint7-1 3 місяці тому

      @@TheTrevelyanswayI’m not sure what you mean?

  • @fastwheels195
    @fastwheels195 3 місяці тому +1

    Sounds a lot like money is a big topic here. I do make what in the Philippines would be a large sun but how would I deflect a question about my income?

  • @marchoman1776
    @marchoman1776 3 місяці тому +1

    If you leed with money you will always be in a transactional relationship.

  • @tray5377
    @tray5377 3 місяці тому +1

    Slightly conflicted here. On one hand you say be honest with intentions and answering questions, then the flip side in regards to income and "trap" questions...basically be careful and don't show all your cards. Sounds like a no win situation. As far as "verification", that sounds pretty much impossible.

  • @Bluponi
    @Bluponi 3 місяці тому +1

    Looks like you have a BEAUTFUL property... A view like that would command a $ 1 million price tag in the United States...

  • @xavierkoolat6926
    @xavierkoolat6926 3 місяці тому +1

    More good guidance.
    Something brought up a question:
    Re: Bringing a friend to lunch or dinner -
    I would be comfortable with a mom or sister, but a cousin or ?
    Could you expand on this situation?

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому

      In the Philippines, a cousin is often just a friend or acquaintance

  • @rogerhessell9137
    @rogerhessell9137 2 місяці тому +1

    I told my finpno girlfriend I was poor and she said. Money not important all we need is love

  • @petergrundy8081
    @petergrundy8081 3 місяці тому +2

    Love to go for holidays to the Philipines but I am not going near any woman that is for sure

  • @kenbaustin4533
    @kenbaustin4533 3 місяці тому +2

    Ah, yes! The old show interest ......but not too much interest! Some things are the same everywhere! It seems that humans will be humans.

  • @rowlandgray5029
    @rowlandgray5029 3 місяці тому +1

    ? Spent some time in PI and Thailand and was very cautious. Love to find an honest person I believe there. there but I was there In Air Force. I want to know the person first and never did I go to questionable places. Well, guess I understand more than you are talking about.

  • @davidmorrow6409
    @davidmorrow6409 3 місяці тому +2

    Where can I find younger women? These sites try to match me up with 50 or 60 year old women. I’m not interested in old women

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому

      David try PA love or Filipino Cupid don’t focus on the matches search using filters whatever age you’re interested in and write them including details that they provided send out 50 a week minimum

  • @lorinkundert
    @lorinkundert 3 місяці тому +1

    SS payments are 90,000 Pesos, more than modest

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому

      Yes, the average Social Security is is US$1800 a person could make a nice retirement here with that I agree

  • @lesliewood4069
    @lesliewood4069 3 місяці тому +1

    She is so beautiful ❤️👍🙏🙏🙏

  • @rickconn5293
    @rickconn5293 3 місяці тому +1

    Never live near the family, never buy property from the family and build a house to save some money, 2 very big mistakes, also check out how much money your gal wants to send to her family, and if its more, then 5.000 peso, walk away

  • @johnnyg7899
    @johnnyg7899 3 місяці тому +1

    I am a little worried that after living in the Philippines for over 6 months, that the social security administration can stop my monthly payments. I also heard that the way to avoid that is by keeping a U.S. address and bank account active. How do expats that remain in Asia during retirement avoid this kind of hassle?

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому

      Either keep US address and bank account- or file a form annually as required.

  • @mwj5368
    @mwj5368 10 днів тому +1

    To be at the level where the lady wants you to meet the whole family is a real serious phase where I come from. Is that not so in the Philippines? Also what I indirectly learned and believe is true is you do not kiss on the first date. I also believe in being friends first and all comes in time. I don't have a lot of money to spend. Also a lot of diseases but I suppose I'm suppose to have vaccinations before I get there because Rabies is $1,200 here and Japanese encephalitis vax is also $1,200 here how much is it there? Will they let me in the country if I tell them I'll get the vaccinations there? Thanks for another first hand experience and cogent and lucid presentation, magnanimous deed!

  • @user-nm7yl4ew6q
    @user-nm7yl4ew6q 3 місяці тому +2

    HI it is all good advice, my view is don't take her out of the Philippines too.

  • @roccohagedorn3110
    @roccohagedorn3110 3 місяці тому +5

    People who talk about money usually don’t have any. The real question is, how do you hide the fact that you’re financially stable ? I travelled the world, pretending to be poor, dressing and behaving accordingly, yet most people didn’t believe me anyway.

    • @puppyupper4565
      @puppyupper4565 3 місяці тому

      I too have traveled the world. I too am a gray man. Here in the USA, no one thinks I have money. I don't drive fancy cars or wear fancy clothes. No jewelry. But when I am in the Philippines nearly all of them think I am rich by nature of being an American. The Philppines via the USA is one of the highest plane fairs in the world. You need to have some money just to go there. But, I never talk about money when asked.

    • @roccohagedorn3110
      @roccohagedorn3110 3 місяці тому

      @@puppyupper4565 I usually tell everyone I won a contest that provided me the ticket as well as a minimum allowance per day.

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому

      Rocco - how do I enter that contest?😄

    • @roccohagedorn3110
      @roccohagedorn3110 3 місяці тому +1

      @@FlyMeToThePhilippines Don’t ask me. As I said, so far I have lost every battle. But if you find a way, please let me know.

    • @katemiller7874
      @katemiller7874 3 місяці тому

      You shouldn’t hide it. If she finds out your lying your toast. These are women they still want security

  • @NunyaBidness-zr5mn
    @NunyaBidness-zr5mn 3 місяці тому

    NEVER be a simp... and if you don't know what that is, it's probably because you already ARE one.

  • @bonditltd5346
    @bonditltd5346 3 місяці тому

    I’m trying to persuade my son to consider dating an East Asian woman, as in the west the situation is awful. I look at vloggers and it looks like there are way too many scammers to try and avoid. It’ll be my resources that will be used so that’s the dilemma

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому

      Yes, there are many hurdles that have to be overcome, but if you have a vision and stay focused, you can reach your goals

  • @countvonaltibar236
    @countvonaltibar236 3 місяці тому +1

    You got married in Borocay, it's in Bigg World Cinema video you looked decidedly uncomfortable 😂

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому

      I think you have the wrong guy we are getting married in September and while I’ve been in Barkai, I definitely was not getting married at that time

  • @TobyBloom
    @TobyBloom 3 місяці тому +5

    Not all Filipinas are out to rip men off. If you have no trust then you should stay alone .

  • @user-bg2uk7qq5b
    @user-bg2uk7qq5b 3 місяці тому +3

    different countriesdiferent problems if you are a single guy with no family at all what then and no family not a mistake. your pension is much more than you need so the bank account gets bigger and bigger but the day you die the state takes all unless you have a will your choice is the girl or the state we are not all in USA some of us live in Denmark

  • @timlee5260
    @timlee5260 3 місяці тому +4

    Maybe you could discuss the pros and cons of marriage to a Filipina. It seems like a trap imho.

    • @puppyupper4565
      @puppyupper4565 3 місяці тому

      A big con is that divorce will come to the Philippines. A lot of expats are going to be in for a rude surprise. No reason to legally marry. Marry before God, not the state. Fortunately, the Philippines has a domestic partnership law that provides legal protection for the guy (adultery, r ape). It requires a Domestic Partnership Agreement that must be hashed out between her attorney and yours. It's basically a prenup without the marriage

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому +1

      Tim, thanks for watching and making a suggestion in your comment

  • @ronfesta771
    @ronfesta771 3 місяці тому +1

    Me thinketh interesting however it feels a little like walking on eggshells., in other words I'm so insecure that I want to learn everything about what I'm suppose to do and I'm........not suppose to do!@!?😝🤪

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому

      Ron, opposite of eggshells- just be an Alpha male Filipinas will respond- if you lack confidence they will take advantage

  • @rabidfarmer9765
    @rabidfarmer9765 16 днів тому

    Rob can easily have 3-4 girlfriends there easily - slick, well-spoken and humurous. Lady killer - LOL. I am kidding - nice vlog. And do not kill him Chrissy.

  • @gvs1173
    @gvs1173 3 місяці тому +3

    Why sugarcoat things? Let's face it, in order to survive, you need money. The more you have the better you survive. The way the video describes it, as long as your honest she will appreciate your honesty. Isn't that just another way of saying that the local women are hypergamous?

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому +1

      I have three wonderful kids, and when I married, I dated up my ex came from a very successful well to do family and the jeans that my children share with my jeans included contribution from a very wonderful family

    • @napoleonmdusa8877
      @napoleonmdusa8877 3 місяці тому +1

      @@FlyMeToThePhilippines Are those jeans that you share Levi's or Wrangler's? 🤠 sorry, but I just couldn't resist making this comment.

    • @gvs1173
      @gvs1173 3 місяці тому

      @@napoleonmdusa8877 That's actually a great analogy. I am happy for you as I am happy for everyone who has found what they're looking for. I am commenting on comments made by your wife, so I posted as to how they struck me

    • @katemiller7874
      @katemiller7874 3 місяці тому

      Every woman wants stability.

    • @gvs1173
      @gvs1173 3 місяці тому

      @@katemiller7874 Is that why women wait until men cross the finish line before choosing him instead of helping him to that finish line?

  • @bradprice3924
    @bradprice3924 3 місяці тому +1

    I like your house. Is there a vid on your property?

    • @FlyMeToThePhilippines
      @FlyMeToThePhilippines  3 місяці тому

      Housing Hell or Paradise Found #philippines
      ua-cam.com/video/Dx0tgSkF1OY/v-deo.html

  • @user-hi4ue4qc8u
    @user-hi4ue4qc8u 3 місяці тому

    The lack of.

  • @lesliewood4069
    @lesliewood4069 3 місяці тому +1

    We can’t get this here,