LIMERENCE: Should you go no contact with your LO?
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I had (have) a disconnected mother AND a now deceased alcoholic father. I learned of my limerence just about a month ago. Having a word for it, and expert advice for it, are great help now. 🙏
Thank you for these videos. I tried to get my LO to meet in person for 15 yrs. He never did. In retrospect this is what fueled everything. He kept me going with those crumbs and compliments but never wanted me to see who he actually was. Now im in heavy withdrawal but ive maintained NC about 2 months now. I can only pray someday to be free of this.
I usually go no contact and work on my issues that led me to limerence. I don't see it as helpful being in contact and it prolongs the feelings for them.
I am actually friends with my LO. I played a sport with him for two seasons. We grew up in the same neighborhood and would run into each other throughout the years. We also have lots of family connections and mutual friends. I got to know him better And liked him more. And I told him and he didn't answer my text. I keep wondering what I did wrong and have been having a hard time shaking it even after that.
My Limerence started when my handyman asked me to an event (where all his friends were gonna be there.) I thought he was just being friendly but What was weird was he kinda persisted at the time even though I declined a few times. That said, he kinda made it clear that he wasn’t trying to hit on me. It was mixed signals for sure. I was so confused. I didn’t end up going to the event but After a few days I started thinking about him. It feels like coming down on something.
Limerence is result of serious wounding in your childhood or upbringing (rejection / abandonment) - and so sounds like a nearly impossible thing to overcome. But I like how you said that sometimes stone cold turkey is not going to be the way. I just had a nice evening out with my LO (first time in a couple of years) so that I could tell myself it could be done. And I did not call or text the next day to say it was nice to get out and do something again, I simply decided it was better to not call and confirm anything, and treat it like nothing special at all. Just take it for what it in reality was, just regular friends going out and nothing more. And expect nothing more going forward. Maybe we will go out again in 6 months and maybe never again. I'm going to stay busy with other things that make me happy and try not to think about the LO at all even if we just had a good night out. I'm not going to ever get them to be romantic or sexual with me unless they decide to. Not my main concern.
I went no contact about a year ago. There was no other way. Blocked him everywhere.
That's true, every time I obsessed about someone ( not really knowing them) once I got to know them and they showed me interest I was no longer obsessed. "NOT KNOWING " them was exciting, not the reality 😢
Thank you! In addition to No contact, you also mentioned “reality” is the antidote, it really is. Especially when my LO is my co worker, sometimes the competition at work is just too keen for me to have Limerence, the competition will bring me back to reality.
I fell into dark limerence in january but due to childhood trauma i am quickly discovering i have my own ‘quiet’ cluster b problems…i of course broke up with a hissy fit, with immediate regret coming on as to maybe hurting someone with similar traumas 😢
Your videos on limerence are the best description of how I'm feeling, thank you for sharing your wisdom.
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i thought I just have a special way of falling in love, this video came for my soul...
I have now listened to 3 of your videos and am truly impressed with your wisdom, maturity and the way in which you see and think. Thank you for coming ijnto my energy field.
I had a disconnected mother in my childhood, which led to those feelings of insecurity and limerence (good to finally have a word for it). For me, it's a bit more tricky as my LO is my housemate. As there's no option to move out for a while, I prefer the option to be realistic, put them off the pedestal, and get to know them better and see their real personality, character, traits, etc. Thanks for the thorough explanation and the tips.
I've only just discovered your channel, and I'd like to express many thanks for sharing about this topic. I'm on a healing journey, and your channel is by far the best that I've found on this. I look forward to watching and learning more.
The best session I have heard about Limerence. Thank you so much for your very structured way of presenting this huge problem. Discovering your chanel today and looking forward to listening to you again on your next themes.
Ive just recently learned of this subject of limerence & i think this is a Brilliant study & acknowledgment.
you are godsent
Thanks for this. I really need this now