Generational trauma: history will repeat itself unless we confront who we became.
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- Опубліковано 7 сер 2024
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I've noticed this recently, the tendency to inflict abuse similar to what we've experienced ourselves, especially towards those who appear as the powerless version we once were. I understand a bit of it, how abusers seem to have this compulsion to propagate violence and suffering, like everyone deserves it. It is awful and I hope we survive long enough to surpass this phase and enter the next one, the more healed and truly compassionate version of society/family/existence. I hope we'll manage to keep and cherish the good that remains within usband cultivate it.
The key is to become like your parents, feel them, understand them so to do it with our own selves. That's the right way to heal.
I stumbled upon this video (and channel) on the right time in my life. I have started to become aware of traits I had inherited from my dysfunctional family after I moved away, and I started to resonate with the quote "you either die a hero or live long enough to be the villain" too much in a way that frightened me. It was easy to not exhibit these toxic behaviours or thought patterns when I lived at home, as I was directly hurt by them and could see how wrong they were, so I didn't want to inflict that on another person. But as I moved away, and I started to reflect on the past, I felt a lot of bitterness and rage arise. I had pushed them down for years and years. They were mainly anger of being overly controlled, living in an angry household where I couldn't stand up for myself but also anger at emotionally abusive moments throughout my life where I just stood frozen instead of standing up for myself.
I started to feel self-righteous, as if I had the knowledge or right to bestow my opinion on others, started to become judgemental instead of empathetic, started to withold love and kindness as I felt people were undeserving. I felt angry and prickly because i didn't know how to stand up for myself or be myself normally, so I cut off people at smallest imagined slight. And other behaviours. All things I never thought were in me to be, things my parents displayed that I never thought I would also have. I hate those moments, and I am really going to try to be better. It feels better to go out to the world with kindness in my heart, but right now that is a work in progress. I would love a video on what to do with the anger that arises after a life time of "playing too small as a people pleasing tendency (loved your video on this topic)" and never having been allowed to stand up for yourself or just to be yourself truly and fully. I have a hard time letting go of the past.
Thank you for the knowledge and reflections you share! They are very helpful, and leave a positive impact
I am Muslim and a psychiatrist and am trying to reach out across political divides especially around the war in Israel Palestine with my colleagues as I also work in a university. I feel that connection even if it is painful and conflicted is very important now. Hang on to our common humanity and empathize with everyone's trauma. Make the space to connect with the whole of mankind by connecting with all the parts of ourselves. Thank you for your work.❤❤❤
thank YOU for your work in such a much needed area 💜
I became an addict.
I went to AA
I became a single Mom and victim of domestic violence.
I went to court
I became emotionally disturbed.
I went for counciling and took meds
I became disabled.
I went on the dole.
I confronted my tormenters.
I got a restraining order and was raided by a swat team.
APS,NYPD and family court didn't help me.
I contacted the mayor's office for disabilities and finally was granted a housing voucher to escape
I spent 2 years seeing Drs for a myriad of health issues and I am on many medications for health issues.
I joined a gym.
Fixed my bike
And I'm paying down my credit cards.
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I agree with you about multi-generational trauma seeding the growing divisiveness in our culture.
Hi, Evita. I get you. And, I too’ve diverge from my ‘addiction’ to visual news media since ~2016-2022 (now have faith authoritarianism is waning). Politics and Government are necessary; please participate privately -vote. I forget who recently enlightened me on comparing (self-shaming) our life experiences to say -those in Ukraine, Gaza, etc. No matter their lots, our pain is not diminished living here in war-free nations, comparatively. Keep doing what you do, and thank you. 🕊️🙏💕
Sure, as I said in the beginning, we are definitely not the ones to carry the suffering of others, but, that said, these events need to mobilize humanity toward healing. We aren't free until everyone is free.
I think you have to confront your abusers to break the cycle.
You have to work them out of you to find your authentic self.
It's a loners journey to recover
great topics
Thank you from Croatia❤
Never feel that your work is insignificant, i know the world has some pretty significant craziness going on right now. (22 year old male here) recently started taking my mental health seriously after years of discrediting it's importance in my mind. I'm currently very emotionally disregulated about some events in my life, am seeing a therapist, and it's videos like yours that have taught me how to handle my healing process. You give people the willpower to make change and put in the work to better their lives and that's an incredibly important and valuable thing.
I appreciate this. And proud of you for doing the work, 22 is a headstart, trust me!
Well, It is important to understand that not everyone will wake up. For me it also took 40 years, but only because people didn't want me anyway and this house of cards of fake love / mistreatment became more and more obvious. Because only I had consequences. The only reason I woke up is because at 36 I've never fu%&ed. So I fell down one rabbit hole after another. And I see how many emotional issues I have to let go of every day. I started at the end of 2016 and was only able to get out of the shit through spiritual drugs. But that came at a price: 3 psychoses. Only now can I feel real emotions again. That's why I can say the others are all fu&%ed. I had to learn a lot of spiritual/energetic tools to go through these traumas and also to ground them. And you can't afford to fail again with psychosis because that's it GAME OVER. And you can't trust anyone either. That was what kept me alive. What the hell is this disability I've been labeled with!?
Oh Yeah Revange is always Self-hate because you have to win when you are already lost.
Becasue you have to stay with the abuser because you to young to leave and work have your owen life.
How do you feel?
@@Kareena1988 Good i am free of them and i have real emotions again after 40 Years and it gets easier to release emotional Themes with every day. And what is with you ?
@@ThomasBuchwinkler487 its been 1,5 years that I got away from the chaos but the trauma symptoms are still there. Im working on myself...slowly...but grief and loneliness and wanting to "not be there" are my best friends...
We need to hear this. Thank you ❤
Is there generational healing?????
of course. This is what this video is all about.